Ok, let me start off by saying; I literally just finished college so I'm broke and can't get a proper pc, but I am (obviously) looking for a job and opportunities so I can sustain myself and move out. Until then I only have a laptop and a couple bucks to spare which i was thinking i could use to upgrade my laptop's performance.
here are my specs: 8 gb RAM - 2 slots of 4 gb's 512 gb hdd of internal storage - I got a 256 gb ssd m.2 hard drive about a year ago and i use that to boot applications and the 512 hdd for storage. intel core i5 10th gen intel(R) UHU Graphics card
for basic tasks, it performs well. but if i tried running something like android studio for example with a live emulator (for mobile app development) it turns into an actual vegetable. Also, i was hoping to at least get a couple games i can run fairly smooth even with the worst graphics just for some casual entertainment - surely you can't fault a man for wanting to game on occasion, right?
I know some peeps locally who buy old computer stuff and take out the parts to resell at a much much cheaper price (they're the ones who sole me the 256 ssd) so I was thinking of replacing my hard drives with a 1TB ssd nvme and increasing the ram for sure. But i'm not sure if that'll do anything for performance as much as i'm expecting. What do you think? Do you have any suggestions?

I was only there for four days and this review can be very subjective. But I am writing because someone who plans for short-term might see this helpful.
. . DC trip as short summary - one or two museums per day recommended. - good and interesting but be ready for walk a lot.(I'm sure you are) . .
Please dont be upset even if you feel my reviews and impressions are totally wrong or different from yours. .
I dont usually spend lots of time for every pieces but just scan all of them quickly and pick what Im interested in the most and spend good chunk of time there. .
I might have skipped good stuff because of that but I was there only for short amount of time and it worked the best for me this time. . .
What I learned
. Public transportation
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Metro

• Metro is great and straightforward. Once you get a smartgrip card at a metro station you are good to go. It was $2.00 each trip (for metro and bus). .
  
• I charged $20.00 and it was just right amount for my trip. .
  
• Some metro stations have different lines on different levels such as first one was only for RTD line and downstairs was for SilveOrange/Blue lines that you are looking for. .
  
• Dont panic if you only see RTD line and there is nobody to ask when you are there. You can just enter there and you will find stairs/escalator to go downstairs. . .
  

Bus

• Bus is good but schedule can be tricky and not always accurate as App or google says. .

But I used 'Citymapper' app, WMATA website, and Google map for direction. And check out bus stop# (e.g 1001314) and look it up on the app or website. Those helped me figure things out a lot.
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Scooter - If you stay at the mall a lot, I would recommend to use scooter from time to time. .

• I didnt know how to ride a scooter at all,
• but if I remember correctly left handle was front wheel brake
  
• right side handle was rear wheel brake
  
• there is a push button for an accelerator in the middle.
  
• I always make sure which one was rear wheel brake because i think its safer to use it first.
  
• or check out Youtube .
  

You dont need to go fast. Slow down and you will still be much faster than just walking.
*Museums .

• I would recommend one or two museums a day maximum if you are actually there to learn the history and read what those are about. .
  
• Smithsonian museums are massive especially famous ones. .
  
• Be prepared that there will be lots of people. And you might need to wait to see next one because people are still there.
  

. - I would recommend to go to the main ones that you think the most important for opening time. .
There will be still people in the line if they are famous and popular but much less and you wont feel hurry to move on to next one.
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*Art galleries/museums .

• Definitely check out what they are on currently before you go there. .
  
• I realized that I am not really into portraits. .
  
• If you are like me, I would recommend American Art museum(in the same building with National portrait museum, The Phillips collection, and Hirshhorn.
  

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• American art/National portrait museum its massive. I wish I had at least 3-4 hours.
  

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• The Phillips collection
• you gotta buy a ticket. Totally worth it.
• They have lots of cool stuff.
• I could easily enjoy there for 3 hours.

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• Hirshhorn Small museum but they have pretty unique and cool stuff - I could spend 2-3 hours.

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• National gallery of art museum There were tons of portraits. Its massive but I spent no longer than three hours. But its still definitely worth to go. . . . *Other attractions

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The library of congress - Make sure you have a ticket - I was there for opening time. - There was a super long line even though I was there before opening time but it went quickly once they opened. - Honestly I spent about less than an hour. Beautiful inside but that was enough time for me as a person who had lots of plans. .
United States Capitol - If you are going back to the mall from the library of congress, you can easily walk there. - Cool to take photos .
Washington Monument - I didnt go inside but definitely worth to be there and look .
Lincoln memorial - I didnt go and look there closely. it looks like somewhat under construction around there. .
Korean War memorial - I wouldnt miss it if you are already around there. .
Bond in motion at International spy museum - You gotta buy a ticket. - if you are a big fan of James bond then maybe. - I was just there for cars and photos but I guess I was expecting a bit more. - It took 20 mins.
. International Spy museum - I wanted to go there but I couldnt because I messed up with my schedule and couldnt get the ticket. - It looked interesting, but I would go there opening time if you plan for it. There were many kids. I might be wrong but I think they enjoyed a lot from what I heard from them. .
Udvar Hazy at Dulles (Not in DC but if you are close to IAD airport, definitely worth to check out) .

• Massive and lots of cool stuff
• Recommend to get a ticket for IMAX movie as well and I saw 'Deep sky' which was 40 mins movie and great. (the theater is inside of the same building, takes 30 seconds to find it. You will see it on your right as soon as you enter the Udvar Hazy building.
  
• Three hours were enough for me including the movie. .
  
• I planned to get there before opening time.
  
• So I took a silver line metro and got off at Innovation center station to take a 983 bus. The bus schedule said I would get a bus there at 9:30 am but the schedule changed to 10:30 am all the sudden, so I ended up getting an Uber. .
  

So be prepared to get an Uber just in case. It costs about $10.00. .

• And I got the Uber again to go to the IAD airport. Uber will come pick you up in front of the Udvar Hazy building. It costs about $25.00. .

George town/Waterfront park - Lots of restaurants and bars - Great atmosphere and chance to feel the local vibe - Definitely worth to check out
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I have been with my husband (m 35) since I was 17 I am 33 f .We have a 1.5 yr old son and I recently found out I was pregnant. Early into our relationship up until I’d say five years ago, he’d give me the silent treatment whenever we fought, once he went a whole month not talking to me or even giving me eye contact. I would try to fight fair use We sentences, or I feel like ….. but he would get defensive and angry everytime. I also would make sure to add two good things about him but address the thing he was doing that was hurting me to try and soften the fights. It just seems like fights always get turned around on me. The last 2 years he says what he has to say and when I start to talk or defend myself he cuts the arguments/conversation short and angrily says enough, I’m done listening to you. The last two fights he got into my face (his nose being one or two inches from my face) and told me to “stop talking right now or I’m going to lose it.” We got into a very bad spat a few days ago and we haven’t talked to each other since. I’d like to mention my child has never witness our fights as I always wait until he’s in bed to try and talk to my husband. I honestly feel so defeated, I want out. I’m considering getting an abortion because he already uses our son as a tool to hurt me by taking him away and not allowing me to interact with him when we have disagreements. Which pains me because it took so long for me to get pregnant with my son, and I always wanted him to have a sibling. Ive told him in the past we need marriage counselling and he’s refused to go, eventually he went to one with me and never made an additional appointment saying he’s too busy. I’ve tried talking to his mother about our conflicts and she normalizes the behaviour stating men are not accustomed to supporting their wives emotionally, don’t expect him to hold your hand and counsel you after a fight . I feel like I’ve wasted my life and I brought my son into a horrible home. Maybe I’m too emotional and bring it on to myself…I don’t know. Just needed to rant somewhere and ask how does your husband handle conflict?
TDLR: husband and I have an unhealthy conflict dynamic. I’m thinking of divorcing. We have a 1.5year old and I just recently found out I was pregnant, I’m thinking of terminating the pregnancy as well

First off al English is not my first language I'll try my best to write correctly.
So what I'm about to tell you happend years ago in 2011. I remember that because my uncle died the month prior due to a heart attack. Unfortunately heart attacks runs in the family. We knew 100% for sure as soon as my uncle died from it. He was one of to many. This detail will come back later. the ages called are the ages we were in 2011. Yea yea i know my ex was a bit older. But in my defense we grew up together from when i was 3. And he was 7. And due to my difficult youth because both of my parents were addicted and my dad died when i was six. I grew up really fast to say the least.
So my ex (male 21 ). Me (female 17) were on a night out. We both had something to drink (not to much) and later on went to my mother's house. Were i lived at the time. He basically lived there as well. For a late night snack we wanted to make grilled cheese sandwich. Each of us had 4 slices of bread to make 2 for each. The bag with bread layed on the counter next to him (litterly). He had one out of 4 slices that was half the size of the other 3. He asked me if he could have one of my slices to make it even. I said "no" with my eye falling on de bag with bread next to his arm. I figured; he didn't saw the bag at first and he'll look for it. I saw him looking at it and he went straight to me and asked again. I said: no, i saw you looking at the bag why don't just put the small one back and grab one that is the same size? He stood there for a bit, looked at his plate with the slices. Then looked at me and called me a whore. Back then he was my first and only of course. He went straight upstairs. Left everything. I was so hurt by that. My apatite went straight out of the window. I Cleaned everything up. Put everything back in to place. Ather that i also went up stairs. Layed my self to bed. While he was behind the computer i think starting up a game or something. So after a while of silence and my thoughts "we need to talk about this" I said: so we're not gonna tall about you calling me a whore". He kept quit for a bit. Until i said: you think it's normal to call me that over a slice of bread. He cut me in my sentence and yelled at me saying: i hope you'll die just like your uncle.
After that i cried myself to sleep. When i tried talking about it the next day. He told me, i shouldn't drag old mud out of the pond. (If i say that correct.) Don't talk about the past is what i mean. We had a little discussion about what i wanted to talk about isn't something of years back or something we cleared between us before. He always would end it by hitting me.

I wanna preface this with I'm definitely not a WuWa fanboy. In fact, I have A LOT of criticisms about the game and am doubtful they'll be able to tackle them while maintaining good player retention. I also think there are reasonable complaints going around regarding the echo system (e.g. redundant tuners, inability to have a flex echo, obtaining them taking longer during a play session, pain of farming 3 costs, etc). That being said, I see a lot of discussion about how the ability to farm echoes infinitely masks how it's actually more of a grind than Genshin's, and many people not bringing up the benefits when actually playing.
First thing I think many people overlook is the ease of getting a very important good mainstat in the right set (minus maybe for 3 costs). For DPS characters, getting that 20+% crit boost is extremely important and you can probably get this easily within an hour. Even if you get really unlucky and it takes longer than usual to get the substats you want, having that immediate main stat boost available feels good as a player to feel the immediate jump in power level while you're farming for the substats.
Another thing I like about acquiring echoes is that I have the possibility to acquire main stat/optimal set echoes for other characters while I'm focusing on hunting for a specific echo. Hunting for 1 cost atk% echoes for my Jiyan? Oh nice, a 3 cost electro damage echo for my Calchoro I can tune later. Doing so also allows me to build up a large collection of gold echoes that may have useful main stats for future obtained characters. This will allow me to focus time in the future in just getting the echo exp to level those echoes when I need them.
Yes, farming that exp takes a long time. Yes, I still have to pray the substats are good. But I still prefer this over running a domain, hoping to get the right main stat, hoping to get crit rate/crit damage, then having to hope those substats actually get boosted upon level up. It's true this takes only a few minutes, but it feels much more discouraging when you're gated by resin and login daily hoping you're artifact rng is better than the day before.
Another thing, because I'm hunting in the open world in random spots the tracker sends me, I can pop my lootmapper and see if there are any chests I've missed which incentivizes more map exploration. After finshing the story, I didn't feel super motivated to finish the map when I could be focusing more on building my team. With this system, it's like I'm getting a 2-for-1 deal.
People have also complained that because there are more substat lines (5 vs 4), it's much harder to get optimal echoes. Most people are realistically focusing their resources on optimizing their main DPS characters to beat Tower of Adversity and Calamity. The two stats everyone is looking for are crit rate and crit damage. There are other useful stats sure, but if you don't get at least one of these, it's probably a bust. Having 5 lines of substats increases your odds of getting stats you want. Now, I haven't done the math to determine how having more lines but with more existing stats affects obtaining what you want. But even just having more lines on its own allows you to have more stats in general (and many of these new substats such as heavy attack damage for Jiyan are actually useful).
One last thing is that with the echo exp and tuners given before reaching UL 30, I can have my main DPS built very close to near optimal within a day (using the 3 cost echoes given from illusive depths). Farming the 3 costs to have both main stat and substats is probably a massive pain, but for the content people are doing, I think just having the main stat on the 3 costs is such a big power boost that getting better substats on those last two echoes feels more incremental when you can still get them relatively easily on your other three echoes. Assuming the illusive depths shop resets, getting free three cost echoes with guaranteed good mainstats for future characters is also a godsend.
So yeah, definitely a controversial opinion but I'm really enjoying not having my actual acquiring of the echoes being time gated. I'm probably missing more both pros and cons of the echo system. It's also very plausible I grow to resent the echo system over time. I also would not be surprised if people calculated the average length of time to obtain optimal artifacts vs optimal echoes and echoes ended up taking longer. I also think Genshin's artifacts have cool aspects that are better than WuWa (eg. possibility of getting a crazy boosted crit dmg substat). Despite all this, I still think I much more enjoy the system of obtaining echoes in WuWa due to how discouraging it is having Genshin's RNG stat elements being gated by resin, and how it can make the daily login grind very diacouraging.

Let me start by saying he's great and doesn't push me to change the way I do things. We just have a disagreement on how to approach this, he tends to let me do things my way when feeding but sometimes gets frustrated with me when I step in during feedings if I disagree with what he's doing.
So, our baby is almost 4 months... I won't boar you with the details of our extended NICU stay, surgery, server resputory issues less than 2 weeks after leaving the NICU that took us back to the ER. After all that, we have a very happy and healthy baby now, the only issue is weight gain.
She's been in the less than 1% since she was born. Doctors want her to move up in her percentile, but she's going down. Just to clarify, she is gaining weight, she's just not gaining at the rate they want.
We have seen our pediatrician, a ENT, a second ENT that specializes in feeding, a gastroenterologiest, and a pulmanoligist. No one has found an issue.........but the pediatrician feels the need to remind us every time we see her that we need to work on feeding.
This is where we have a split......my attitude is we need to make her gain weight like the pediatrician says. I religiously feed her every 4 hours and try to make her take 3-4 ounces every feeding (that's what we've worked up to, starting it was closer to 1-2). The way or feedings go are usually, she downs 1.5-2 Oz, then just stops. She's not angry or fussy, she usually goes to sleep or wants to play/talk after that. I'll give her 5-10 minutes to relax then try to force her to take another Oz or two. It's usually a battle, she fights it I have to keep changing positions with her until she finally takes it (if at all).
Husbands attitude is more, the doctors haven't found a single issue with her, she eats well when she's hungry, she'll even finish a full bottle once or twice a day no problem. She's also hitting every milestone as expected....developmentally there are no issues.....ignore the pediatrician and do what works for us. He feeds her until she stops eating, then just stops. He'll bring the bottle to her mouth a few more times over the two hour window. If she takes it he'll feed her more, but if she turns away or shows any sign of disinterest he stops. More often than not she's not interested in having anything more. This is when he gets frustrated, because if I'm there when he feeds her I'll insist on taking her and trying harder.
He is also is loose about the schedule..... now he hasn't always been. When she was first born he would religiously feed her every 3 hours (2 when she was sick). Since she's hit 3 months and started really letting us know when she's hungry he refuses to wake her at the 4 hour mark. He'll let it slide up to six hours before feeding her. Now, to be fair, when we do this she's more likely to down a full 4 Oz bottle.
He feels like the pediatrician is overreacting a little bit, and I should weigh her advise against how our baby is doing overall. I don't disagree, but it's hard when a professional keeps telling us she needs to gain weight. He's made a few good points as well.....despite slipping on the curve, she's on track to double her birth weight by 4 months, so overall I guess she's on track.
He's also thinks she has developed a aversion to her bottle in general..... he shared some articles he read with me and I kind of agree.......she gets angry anytime the bottle is near her if she's not hungry. She'll loose her temper, but instantly settle once the bottle is out of sight (so she's not in pain from drinking), and she seems conflicted sometimes when eating. Like she wants the food but also fights it.... He isn't saying the way I feed her caused it, he thinks more likely her time in the NICU likely did something, but he does feel like the way I feed her is possibly making it worse. I've eased up slightly, but it's hard to tell myself 'it's OK she only drank 1 Oz the last 2-3 feedings'.
Oh, I guess I should add we get PLENTY of very wet diapers so no issue with dehydration.
Not really sure what I'm looking for here.....maybe some advise.....general thoughts on what method is better......k Maybe just to rant for a minute

we have been together 3 years in a long distance online relationship. we never met before. he is not catfish, im sure he is real. he is not a sexual man, he never ask my nudes. he is a good man. we live in different countries and only talk with message because of my family situation (they are strict and religious so they dont allow me to talk with a man so i hide him from them) but in future hopefully we will make video chats and phone calls once i leave home. he left me at the end of december, he said he won't come back to me even if i waited him till i get old. i didn't do any mistake. i behave him very good like a king. god knows im innocent. but a month ot 2 months i begged him to stay so he stayed. he said we are friends at february. he always said "we brokeup you remember?" but i guess since march he doesn't say we are friends anymore. so i have some hope now. but i afraid to ask "am i your girlfriend?" or "do you see me as your girlfriend?" i afraid that he will say "no" and if he says no then i don't know what to do because i love him truely madly deeply. if he says no then what should i do? but i also don't know how to ask if he see me as his girlfriend again or not. i don't know if he accept what between us as a relationship. so please help me now. he is the first man i truely love, i don't know much about men. so please tell me what to do. he still says he loves me. but we live in different countries so i afraid he will not want to be in a relationship with me again. he still talks me everyday, we chat 1 hour before he sleeps, he says good morning/night my love i love you. what should i do now? and please tell me what should i say to him? i didn't ask him to learn if he still seems me as his girlfriend or not to not make pressure to him because he doesn't like pressure. i also don't want to beg him or chase him anymore but i really want him to save our relationship and say "you are my girlfriend and we continue our relationship" but how can i make this happen? i love him even more than anything. he is the man i want to marry. its been 4 years we talk now. he knows me more than my mom knows. we send each other many videos of us and pictures

we have been together 3 years in a long distance online relationship. we never met before. he is not catfish, im sure he is real. he is not a sexual man, he never ask my nudes. he is a good man. we live in different countries and only talk with message because of my family situation (they are strict and religious so they dont allow me to talk with a man so i hide him from them) but in future hopefully we will make video chats and phone calls once i leave home. he left me at the end of december, he said he won't come back to me even if i waited him till i get old. i didn't do any mistake. i behave him very good like a king. god knows im innocent. but a month ot 2 months i begged him to stay so he stayed. he said we are friends at february. he always said "we brokeup you remember?" but i guess since march he doesn't say we are friends anymore. so i have some hope now. but i afraid to ask "am i your girlfriend?" or "do you see me as your girlfriend?" i afraid that he will say "no" and if he says no then i don't know what to do because i love him truely madly deeply. if he says no then what should i do? but i also don't know how to ask if he see me as his girlfriend again or not. i don't know if he accept what between us as a relationship. so please help me now. he is the first man i truely love, i don't know much about men. so please tell me what to do. he still says he loves me. but we live in different countries so i afraid he will not want to be in a relationship with me again. he still talks me everyday, we chat 1 hour before he sleeps, he says good morning/night my love i love you. what should i do now? and please tell me what should i say to him? i didn't ask him to learn if he still seems me as his girlfriend or not to not make pressure to him because he doesn't like pressure. i also don't want to beg him or chase him anymore but i really want him to save our relationship and say "you are my girlfriend and we continue our relationship" but how can i make this happen? i love him even more than anything. he is the man i want to marry. its been 4 years we talk now. he knows me more than my mom knows. we send each other many videos of us and pictures

这是一个中国古代的传说，又名玉女骑虎，是一个佛乘案例。
This is an ancient Chinese legend, also known as “Jade Girl Ridding Tiger”, is a Buddha level juristic case.
桃花劫目录 Catalog of Peach Flower Catastrophe:
✔️1 死不瞑目 Death with Eyes Open
✔️2 桃花运 Peach Flower Fortune
✔️3 无字墓碑 Wordless Tombstone
✔️4 心病的治疗 Mental Illness Treatment
5 宿命通 Fate Through
6 欢喜佛 Consummation Buddha

4 心病的治疗 Mental Illness Treatment

常公觉得身上舒服多了，胸口还是很堵，在坟前放声大哭，一边哭一边想：什么是刘员外一辈子做的事？他连想了两天两夜，没想出来。
Constant Fair felt more comfortable, but chest is still congested, in front of the grave to cry loudly, while crying while thinking: what is Publican Liu’s life doing? He thought about it for two days and two nights but could not figure it out.
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第三天黎明，常公听见有人叫他的名字，像是他的父亲。这时那个人又说：“常公，你真的连我都认不出来了？” 那个人一边摆下饭菜，一边说：“你看我拿来的，都是你小时候最喜欢吃的。” 常公这才注意到这个送饭人是小时候照顾他，对他最好的粮伯。
At dawn on the third day, Constant Fair heard someone call his name, like his father. At that moment, the man said again, “Constant Fair! Do you not even recognize me!?” As the man set down the meal, he said, “Look at what I brought, all your favorite foods when you were a child.” Only then did Constant Fair notice that this meal delivery man was Uncle Grain, who had taken care of him as a child and treated him the best.
粮伯说：“老东家在世的时候，后院儿做啥好吃的；他总想着让我给你送去一些。每次他都告诉我， ‘你就说是谁谁送的，别说我送的。’这不，都是你喜欢的，快趁热吃吧，暖暖身子。”
Uncle Grain said, “When the old master was alive, he would always ask me to bring you some of the delicious food made in the backyard kitchen. Every time, he told me, ‘Just say whoever sent it, do not say I sent it.’ These are all your favorites, eat them while they're hot to warm your body.”
粮伯又说：“前天，小姐说，你没病。我来给你送饭，我看你全身都是病。昨晚，我去我九舅家，他是这一带有名的郎中。我把你的情况跟他说了，苦苦地求他。我舅舅被逼无奈，就跟我说：‘这可性命攸关，不可以跟外人说。昨天，我们几个老郎中议论了常公的事。你们刘老东家是个有名的大善人，这方圆几百里的人都知道。可是，他对常公极不公平，致使他有性命之忧。刘老东家是个罕见的高人，由他来下死不瞑目这个诅咒，那肯定是作得天衣无缝。’”
Uncle Grain continued, “The day before yesterday, Lady said that you were not sick. I came to bring you food, saw that you were sick all over. Last night, I went to my Ninth Uncle's house, who is a famous medical doctor in this area. I told him about your condition and begged him bitterly. My uncle was cornered, so he told me, ‘This is a matter of life and death, you must not tell outsiders. Yesterday, a few of us old doctors discussed Constant Fair’s case. Your old Master Liu is a famous benefactor, who all know for hundreds of kilometers around. But he was so unfair to Mr. Fair that he put his life in danger. Publican Liu was a rare man of the world, and if he were to cast the curse of ‘Death with Eyes Open’, it would certainly be done seamlessly.’”
粮伯又说：“我就奉承我舅舅：舅舅见多识广。我到底也没听明白常公的病因是什么？我们老东家让常公猜总结他一生所学所作而成的八个字，就常公那点儿文墨，怎么猜得着！你能不能给我说得简单点儿！我得听明白了，若不然，不是白来求您了！”
Uncle Grain said: "I then flattered my uncle: Uncle you very knowledgeable! But in the end, I don’t understand what the cause of Constant Fair's illness is. Our old master asked Constant Fair to guess the eight words that summarized his life's learning and doing, but how could Constant Fair guess out with his little literal inks? Can you make it simple for me? I need to understand, otherwise I came begging you for nothing!”
“我舅舅说，常公不也是个读书人么！他在刘公身边长大，他的学识怎么会差呢！”
“我说，常公是我看着长大的，他从小儿就笨，上学怕挨老师打，常逃学。老员外信任我，让我照顾他。我是偷懒，两头瞒着。我们老员外每次问我，我都说常公聪明，又勤奋好学，可是常公他从小就笨，也不好学。后来，刘员外让我把他喜欢的书借给常公看。常公看没看的，我都告诉他说， ‘常公非常喜欢，看了两三遍，都快会背诵了’。”
“My uncle said, Constant Fair is also a scholar! He grew up with Publican Liu, how could he be less educated?”
“I said, I watched Constant Fair grow up, he was stupid since he was a child! He was afraid of being beaten by the teacher at school, often skipped school. Old Master Liu trusted me and asked me to take care of him. I was lazy and concealed on either end. Every time our old Master Liu asked me, I told him that Constant Fair was smart and diligent, but he was always stupid and didn't learn well. Later, Master Liu asked me to lend Constant Fair his favorite books. Whether Constant Fair read it or not, I told old Master Liu that, ‘Constant Fair liked it so much that he read it two or three times, could almost recite it'.”
“我舅舅骂我， ‘你怎么这么办事呢！刘公的大事都坏在你身上了！’。”
“我说，九舅！你骂我，你打我也没有用。如果常公病死了，我不是枉为一世人么！那我也活不长了。常公他从小就心地善良，又孝顺，他怎么会得这种怪病呢！这不是有人陷害他吗！”
“My uncle scolded me, ‘Why do you work like this! Publican Liu's godly business is ruined by you!’.”
“I say, Uncle Ninth! It's useless for you to scold me, even to beat me. If Constant Fair sickly died, haven’t I been a man in vain! Then I won't live long. Constant Fair has been kind and filial since he was a child, how could he get this strange disease! Isn't this someone setting him up!”
“我九舅立刻说， ‘这就对了！刘公死不瞑目；他和常公有父子之实。常公，他是大逆不道，自作孽，不可活呀！可是他又是被人陷害的。这就是病的所在。这事儿要是传出去，你们家刘老员外将是身败名裂！难道连这你都不懂！那现在刘家监视咱们村子所有的人干什么！”
注4，崔凤龙姨父说说，桃花劫原故事中，这里，原著作者用道教，佛教，中庸，神说，鬼说等二十几种中国的古代哲学来论述常公的病因和治疗方法。本书中，参见10.6 《治疗心病的原则》。
“My Ninth Uncle immediately said, ‘That's right! Publica Liu died with eyes open; and he and Constant Fair had a factual father-son relationship. Constant Fair, he is a great rebel, self-inflicted sin, could not live! But he was framed also. That's what's illness with him. If word of this gets out, your Publican Liu will be disgraced! Don't you understand? Then what's the Liu family spying on everyone in our village now!”
Note 4: Uncle Dragon said that in the original story of Peach Flower Catastrophe, the original author used Taoism, Buddhism, Confucianism, God Theory, Ghost Theory, and other twenty more ancient Chinese philosophies to discuss the cause and treatment of Constant Fair's illness. In this book, see 10.6 Principles of Curing Mental Illness.
粮伯对常公说：“我就给我九舅跪下了，求他给想个办法。”
“我九舅说， ‘没想到，这事儿还把你给圈进去了。也是，这事儿出在咱桃花村，我们几个老郎中都感到沮丧窝火。这药就是昨天我们几个老郎中商量的结果。但是心病不除，常公身体上的病是不会痊愈的’。”
Uncle Grain said to Constant Fair, “I then knelt down to my Ninth Uncle and begged him to come up with a solution.”
“Ninth Uncle said, ‘I didn't realize that this matter had brought you into the circle. Yes, this happened in our Peach Flower Village, several of us old doctors feel frustrated and irritated. This medicine is the result of our discussion yesterday. But if the mental illness is not removed, Constant Fair's physical illness will not be cured.'”
粮伯又说：“我对我九舅说，‘我们老东家是个饱学之士，他让常公猜八个字，就常公那点儿学问，他猜不着啊！依舅舅你看，那几个字是什么？”
“我舅舅立刻就生气了！大叫， ‘梁子伯！论辈分，我是你舅舅；论年龄，你还比我大两岁呢！这话你也说得出口！”
Uncle Grain continued to say, “I said to my Ninth Uncle, ‘Our old Master is a learned man, and he asked Constant Fair to guess eight hieroglyphics, but with Constant Fair's little learning, he couldn't guess them! What, according to you, Uncle, are those words?”
“My uncle immediately became angry! He shouted, ‘Good Son’s Uncle (that is real name for Uncle Grain)! In terms of seniority, I'm your uncle; in terms of age, you're still two years older than me.' How can you say that?”
“后来，我舅舅解释, ‘老东家早年从师于太虚真人（注，亦作无位真人，即真如，自然法）学道，是太虚真人的关门弟子，独得真传。论师从辈分，他是我的师叔。我师叔布下的局，我来解，那我不是欺师灭祖么！不过从刘员外的为人来说，他不是个咬文嚼字，卖弄玄虚的人；对于一个读书人来说，那应该是几个常见的字。’”
“Later, my uncle explained: ‘Publican Liu learned Taoism from Extremely-Vague Real-Human (Annotation, also being called Non-Position Real-Human that is True Suchness, is nature law) in his early years and was the closing door (i.e., the last) disciple, who had received real teachings. In terms of seniority, he is my teacher uncle. My teacher uncle set up a trap and I'm here to break it, that is I am cheating on teacher, terminating ancestors! But in terms of Publican Liu's personality, he's not a man who bites off more than he can chew and shows off his metaphysics; for a scholar, those should be a few common hieroglyphics.’”
“我问我九舅，那我能为常公做些什么？”
“他说， ‘把你们刘员外让你背着常公，对他所做的事，全都如实告诉他！让他顺了刘员外的心愿，才是唯一的出路，否则，必死无疑。’”
“I asked my Ninth Uncle what I can do for Constant Fair then?”
“He said, ‘Tell Constant Fair truthfully all that Publican Liu had asked you to do to him behind! Let him comply with Publican Liu's wish, that's the only way out, otherwise, he surely dies.'"
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梁伯又四周看了看，把参苓白术散（如图2.3-3；注，这是个古代治疗胃肠溃疡的药方）等内服外用的药交给了常公，小声说：“我得走了，若不然他们可能就再也不让我给你送饭了” 。
Uncle Grain looked around again, handed Constant Fair the medicines for internal and external use, such as Shenling Baizhu San (see figure 2.3-3, Note, this is an ancient remedy for gastrointestinal ulcers), and whispered, “I have to go, if not they may never let me bring you food again.”
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Inspired by the recent thread about CDPR wanting to make more games, I saw several comments saying they would accept worse graphics if it meant shorter development times.
For those who agree, how "good" would these graphics have to be for you to play? I expect most people would happily accept stylised art that is technically low fidelity, so I am really focused on games that are going for realism.
For instance, I would happily play new games even if they had 2008 graphics: GTA 4, Far Cry 2, Dead Space. I would play games with even older graphics, like Half Life or Mafia, but I almost feel like those have become stylised now that they're so old.

(Also posted on Duskwood)
Let's discuss Moonvale! (This is just my personal opinion and I'm glad to hear yours)
Things i disliked: 1) As i have seen some people say, the new game feels... cheap? We can't buy a premium subscription, so we have to constantly buy diamond deals (and given that the choices are about 25 diamonds each you have to spend a lot of money.) I dont want to spend a CENT more, and yet i want to have an enjoyable gameplay. 2) Moonvale (or Ep. 1 at least) feels rushed. Much happens, yes, but at the same time, we don't get to actually meet any of the characters other than Eric. Everyone seems to trust us way too quickly (maybe Brian won't when he joins?) but i like that Ash's reason was that she knows us from Duskwood. We literally don't know what any of them look like, they dont feel real. Violet so far has zero personality, while the other characters feel like a mix from the Duskwood characters. 3) I don't like the AI stuff. The profile pictures seem so fake and everything about it takes away from the game experience. I even heard that Everbyte used AI to write some of the dialogues? If that's true, that's upsetting on so many levels. 4) Where did MC's trauma go?? I saw someone else making a post about this on here as well and i couldn't agree more! Everything that happened in Duskwood WRECKED us. Jake is missing, Richy is dead and the gang doesn't even talk to us anymore. And now in Moonvale the same shit starts to happen (The victim sends a text containing only our number) and MC just... goes along with it? Doesn't even question it? And HOW do we not question that fact that Adam wanted to meet us at the Greenside BUT WE WERENT EVEN INFORMED?? Like was he waiting to reach the Greenside to contact us? Personally i wouldnt be able to fly across the earth in 10 minutes so i could reach Adam. 5) In Duskwood, we had an explanation for pretty much everything. Jake was the one hacking the Secret Chats for us, Jake was the one who gave us the minigames as a way to access Hannah's cloud. Now we just... have these too.
Things i liked: 1) Eric's acting. The Duskwood cast was great, but during some calls you could tell that they were just acting. When Eric called us i could feel his panic, his sense of urgency. When he yelled out for Adam I literally had chills. 2) JAKEKICKEJSJEJSIWJJDIWIDIWJ. JAKE IS ALIVE AND WELL AND HE IS COMING FOR US. Gosh i love him and i missed him so muchhh. I hope he is safe.
Not gonna lie, overall i was a bit disappointed with Moonvale, mostly because everyone had pretty big expectations. I think i would like it more if it was the exact same set up as Duskwood, just with the new storyline. I will play Moonvale tho, in hopes of it improving and of speaking to jake once again.

Let's discuss Moonvale! (This is just my personal opinion and I'm glad to hear yours)
Things i disliked: 1) As i have seen some people say, the new game feels... cheap? We can't buy a premium subscription, so we have to constantly buy diamond deals (and given that the choices are about 25 diamonds each you have to spend a lot of money.) I dont want to spend a CENT more, and yet i want to have an enjoyable gameplay. 2) Moonvale (or Ep. 1 at least) feels rushed. Much happens, yes, but at the same time, we don't get to actually meet any of the characters other than Eric. Everyone seems to trust us way too quickly (maybe Brian won't when he joins?) but i like that Ash's reason was that she knows us from Duskwood. We literally don't know what any of them look like, they dont feel real. Violet so far has zero personality, while the other characters feel like a mix from the Duskwood characters. 3) I don't like the AI stuff. The profile pictures seem so fake and everything about it takes away from the game experience. I even heard that Everbyte used AI to write some of the dialogues? If that's true, that's upsetting on so many levels. 4) Where did MC's trauma go?? I saw someone else making a post about this on here as well and i couldn't agree more! Everything that happened in Duskwood WRECKED us. Jake is missing, Richy is dead and the gang doesn't even talk to us anymore. And now in Moonvale the same shit starts to happen (The victim sends a text containing only our number) and MC just... goes along with it? Doesn't even question it? And HOW do we not question that fact that Adam wanted to meet us at the Greenside BUT WE WERENT EVEN INFORMED?? Like was he waiting to reach the Greenside to contact us? Personally i wouldnt be able to fly across the earth in 10 minutes so i could reach Adam. 5) In Duskwood, we had an explanation for pretty much everything. Jake was the one hacking the Secret Chats for us, Jake was the one who gave us the minigames as a way to access Hannah's cloud. Now we just... have these too.
Things i liked: 1) Eric's acting. The Duskwood cast was great, but during some calls you could tell that they were just acting. When Eric called us i could feel his panic, his sense of urgency. When he yelled out for Adam I literally had chills. 2) JAKEKICKEJSJEJSIWJJDIWIDIWJ. JAKE IS ALIVE AND WELL AND HE IS COMING FOR US. Gosh i love him and i missed him so muchhh. I hope he is safe.
Not gonna lie, overall i was a bit disappointed with Moonvale, mostly because everyone had pretty big expectations. I think i would like it more if it was the exact same set up as Duskwood, just with the new storyline. I will play Moonvale tho, in hopes of it improving and of speaking to jake once again.

Okay, so since The Fallen Order, the submod with shattered Crystal Empire, Changelingia, Olenia, and to a lesser extent Equestria, has finally released on Steam, I've played a game with it.
I decided to play as the Free Crystal Army (Shining Armor's faction). You start with 11 small divisions, around 750k core population (which is absolutely tiny). Next door you have the Solar protectorate in the Crystal Empire, the Crystal Duchy, which does control the Crystal city... and with it half of the population of the Empire, of course; add to that communists in the mountains, and Changelings on the other side, and you get the starting situation of the Crystal Empire.
The dynamic of "everyone against the Crystal Duchy" followed by a three-way fight is in my opinion an excellent one. Supply is key, and I basically just thickened my divisions with the manpower I got from the tree and conscription, which allowed me to triumph over my neighbors, and unite the Crystal Empire. After which I got roughly five years to inflate my army from eleven to eighty divisions, to face the final boss, the Solar Empire.
The fight against the Solar Empire is a tricky one. Not as tricky as fighting the Karthinian Pact as Talouse, but I had to play it in two speed, so I'll rate it around "1v1 the Empire as Skyfall" in terms of difficulty. The Solar Empire largely started by throwing at me divisions of infantry with engineers only, but then they brought in the tanks. And having resorted to my classical army build, the tanks needed careful handling to not ruin my day.
In terms of design, I find the setup of the Solar Empire which you see grow in the background as final boss an excellent approach. You won't be alone against Daybreaker, but at the very least, as the Crystal Empire, you'll be the one who's most likely to take the brunt of the hits.
The mod still feels pretty crude, though. While the narrative design so far is great, there do remain outstanding issues. Like, uh, "sucure". "Sucure" everywhere. The foci all look identical, which is understandable for an incomplete mod without an artist, but is also quite confusing. The war against the Crystal Duchy could have been settled with a scripted peace, but I'll assume that it's because the mod creator didn't know how to make it. And finally, when I took down the Solar Empire and puppetted it, resulting in yellow Equestria... the harmonist leader had a picture of Celestia but was called Luna.
Finally, I'm afraid that I probably didn't play Shining Armor very RP. I went with a fairly aggressive build based on infantry/artillery and aggressive positional bite-and-hold fighting. I'm fairly sure that as Shining Armor, it would have been more in character if I'd played him as "the best offense is an impenetrable defense". But then again, I probably would've lost the race to Canterlot to either Solarist Velvet or to Trimmel.
For a few suggestions, if the mod creator ever reads this : 1) I would have enjoyed a cosmetic rename after reunifying the Empire, either through a formable, a simple decision, or an effect of the event with the Crystal Heart. Similarly, if I beat the Solar Empire as the FCA, getting to re-form Equestria (either by liberating them or by becoming them) would be nice. 2) On a story point, what happens to Sunrise Sparkle after the defeat of the Crystal Duchy ? That's a plot point you may want to address. 3) Please please fix all the misspellings. 4) Velvet was forced into fighting the Empire in my playthrough despite having gone Solarist. From a narrative point of view, that makes little sense. Maybe having the Solar Empire demand submission to factions that started off Solarist might be appropriate, especially if said factions are still Solarist ? That would allow them to join the Pax Solaris faction if they accept, or face the endgame war.
Still, overall, while it's nowhere as polished as Ghosts of Yore, it's a very fun experience, and I will have another go at it with another faction next :)

Heyo ! I'm Shyndoni (Shyndonisbaguett in game), I started ER in january 2021, and I'm your ER nerd since then ! I am NOT a pro player, I'mm that random normal player who play for fun, no try hard, just fun. Recently, we have a wave of new players, and it became a REAL issue that people don't know how to start ER. BUT FEAR NOT I'm here to explain everything to you !So here is all you need to know about ER to get that gold rank and a cadet skin to flex to your friends !
*disclaimer, I'm not perfect in english, neither in ER, I'm here for fun, and I'm just writing this because I want to help, my DM's are open for that reason, and the comments are here in case I forgot something or if you want to ask something that could be interesting for the others*
1 : the purple items
It's a general statement : END YOUR BUILD, unlike lol, you can't fight without all your items. And the quicker, the better. Try to get your items done before the night. How to end your build quickly ? You have what we call "cluster" of boxes, where all the item of the area are. It's a group of box where you can find that pesky piano wire you missed for 3 minutes now. The quicker you get out of the 1st area, the easier it'll be to end your build. Here's a link for the map of Lumia with all spots, clusters, and objectives : https://www.erbsmap.com/en
DO NOT FEAR THE COMMAND, sometimes, you can't find that piano wire... Go to the top right of your screen, right click on it, and you'll have it for 30 credits."But I need credits for my vf blood sample to get strong weapon !" We'll get to that. But just remember : you'll loose more credits by dying than commanding that piano wire you miss for your arm piece.
2 : foodje
Food is important, and easy. Make it when you finished your purple items. You have 2 way to get food, crafting it, picking it up in a box or someone who crafted it. What I do, I keep the bread, and try to pick up a second. Once I finished my build, I go to a campfire, cook them, pick up 4 meat, and poof ! 8 breakfast sandwich !
3 : gold build
Here we are ! You can now play the funny game ! Having fun ? "No I'm getting stomped by pro player full gold and I can't do anything !"1st advice : don't rush the blood sample. I don't know WHY but so much begginers do that... The blood sample give you a really good weapon, but if you do the math, you only gain 20 adaptivity, 7% armor pene, and a passive. If you build a gold weapon for 300/250 credits LESS, you gain 10 adaptivity and a passive. The blood is NOT worth 500. Get a blood ONLY if you are already full gold, or you know what to do (like Katja, who can use heavy shell, but it's not even THAT good for 500).2nd advice : passive items are busted. If you can use then, go for it. Building radar (force core) instead of fallen pegasus (meteorite) will always be worth more. Keep your credits for those items. And if you pick up an objective, use it as quickly as possible. So you won't loose it when you die. Or give it to your teamates !3rd advice : stop farming until your death. That's why you fall behind, go fight for the tree, the meteorite, the battle zone, the mythrile, the force core ! Farming and ignoring objective is only good for Nadine, if you are behind, or if all the objectives are already done.
4 : stats and build
To all lol players : I will speak in ER, so AP isn't the spell damage.
In ER, 4 type of builds exist :
skill based build, crit build, AP/PENE build, tank build.
The skill based build : they turn around "skill amplification", your AA (Auto Attack) will deal as much damage a child without arms will punch you. But your skill (QWER and D) will deal a lot, BE CAREFUL, this stat is useless on some characters (like Jackie, Isaac etc... check in the collection>select the character>view stat, if you see skill amp, it's a skill based characteweapon.
The crit based build : your AA will have *percentage*% chance to deal more damage. Your spell will deal as much damage as a angry baby can deal to you. The crit is useless on some characters (like Emma, Johann, Haze etc... check in the collection>select the character>view stat, if you see "basic attack amplification" then you can play crit, but it son't be always usefull (Isaac isn't good with crit, but have "basic attack amplification" in his scaling)
AP/pene build : attack power will boost your spells and your AA, pene is a short for "armor penetration", you will ignore x defense (x is the number of pene you have), it's different of the "% armor penetration", who will ignore a % of defense. Same as crit, if skill amp is in the scaling, useless on the character.
Tank build : It depend of the character, but some have HP and/or defense as a damage multiplicator on their spells (like Alonso), you can't really see that with the same way as previously mentionned, but you can see it in the practice tool, because NN refuse to let us see that when we aren't in game... Dunno why... Just check the recommanded build if you want to see how the character is normally played.
Keep that in mind when you make your build, too : a good build, is a quick build. The quicker you are ready, the quicker you are usefull.
The TAC (tactical skill), blink isn't the only one tac in the world. It is strong, but you don't NEED IT on every characters. Only those who lack mobility, or can't use the others.
Augments is a pretty hard part, because it entierly depend on you... Just... Read... I know you can do it ! You do it just now ! But as a summary : red = damage, blue = tank, green = support, purple = damage for skill character but work also on non skill characters sometimes...
5 : solo tag
Worst experience you can have, but also one of the best. Hear me out. You can meet awesome people. But you also meet aweful people. Or just mute people. When it come to toxicity, I only have one advice : mute them. You don't need their opinion on anything let them rage in their corner, they aren't worth it. We all start somewhere, and norms are not for tryharder. For the behavior in game, try to meet up with one of your teamate after day 1, for the objectives. Ping (don't spam, it's useless and people will mute you), emote... You don't need to be perfect, just communicate, it'll be a lot, and help for the ambiance in the team. That's also how you make friends sometimes. A little "hi" at the start, a "gg" in the end isn't a lot, but it's always nice to have someone polite.
My next monologue will be about cobalt, and I will make a guide for all characters. And now I hope this is readable because I know that reddit love stacking the text like a brick...

I’m in contract for a FL home purchase (~1700 sq ft), but within the inspection period they were having clothes washing machine drainage issues. The plumbers removed about 80 feet or about 90% of the old cast iron plumbing that was corroded and replaced it with pvc plumbing (everything except for the ~5 feet encased in concrete x 3 sections). They mentioned these 3 sections are okay, however the plumber I hired to inspect says 100% of the plumbing should be replaced within his report.
They tunneled from the outside of the home, digging down about 4-5 feet. They cut about 3x3 of concrete and pulled up a 5-6 foot tall pile of dirt. They did this without permits due to the urgency of the back-flow and extent of corrosion in the plumbing. They intend on replacing the dirt back in place when the job is complete.
The plumber mentioned they “worked in small sections, staying away from the corners of the house, and used shoring inside the hole. They’re reusing original fill and compacting with water and tamping.” They’re also providing a 2 year transferable warranty.
There are 2 main concerns which I’d love to get your expert advice or recommendations on:

1. Are the 3 cast iron pipe sections that are encased in concrete less likely to be corroded? Someone recommended a middle ground of “pipelining” those concrete encased sections to avoid breaking tiles from inside the home to do the work. Is that a viable option?
   
2. How concerned should we be with the plumber just replacing the fill under the home? Should we hire a structural engineer to inspect the foundation? Keeping in mind that the work is being done without permits.
   

Thank you so much.

This past weekend my wife and 4 kids(11,9,4,2) needed to get soccer cleats for 3of4 of our kids. Before going to canadian tire we decided to go to a local hotdog place for lunch. When we get inside my wife went to the counter to order and I took my 4 kids to a table. After waiting a fee minutes the younger two children were being a little silly, but nothing wild, just laughing and typical kid stuff. This seemed to be completely unacceptable because this boomer woman while walking past me mutters "can you tell your kids to shut up". I was absolutely awestruck. Meanwhile at this point my wife had ordered our food and was grabbing ketchup and straws and what not and I watch boomer lady walk up to my wife and start talking. My wife walks away. Wife comes to our table and I immediately ask her what was that about and she says the old woman was complaining about the bearded man and the loud children, and my wife smiled at her and told her 'those are my children' and walked away. So we decided then and there to go out to the patio instead...
Now this place works on a number system, there's a number on your receipt and when they call your number your foods ready, like mcdonald's. Well I decided I was going back in for the food. Walked in, looked at this old bag and said "I hope we were accommodating enough for you by moving our loud children outside to eat". Apparently my tone wasn't sarcastic enough because she began to thank me, which was abruptly cut off with a " go fuck yourself, where do you get off telling a 2 year old to shut up?!". Her husband then chimed in telling me to drop it, so I did for a brief second. "Hey do you two have grandkids" "No" "Probably for the best!" They called my number, the guy behind the counter was dying and I walked out of there.

i had a medical abortion on 05-26-24 at 12:00AM. for background, im from philippines so abortion is illegal. i got my meds from a group of women who sell it online. they gave me 6 mifepristone & 6 diclofenac-misoprostol.
i did not follow their instructions but i did follow safe2choose guidelines.
i drank the first three on 05-25-24 at 12:00 and waited for 30 minutes until i started my second batch of mifepristone. i waited for 24 hrs. before i drank the first 4 misoprostol, i did not swallow the remains, rather i spit it out after 30 mins, and i waited for over 3 hrs. before i drank the last 2 misoprostol.
the symptoms i experienced were cramps, but it didn't hurt that much. i experienced much worse cramps. then, i waited till 6 AM and my first pee was accompanied with bleeding and clots, which also was not to my expectation as it is light to moderate bleeding, and the clots were few. aside from that, the bleeding and clots only goes out every time i pee (this also happens sometimes during my periods before)
days has passed already but my breasts were still sore & tender and my stomach still feels bloated, these are the only pregnancy symptoms i had aside from fatigue. also, i am still bleeding but not much, almost like a spot but more. it looks dark brown with small clot of tissue.
i am worried whether the abortion worked or not. can somebody assure me or tell me if i should worry or not. thank you.
p.s. i am 6 weeks and 1 day gestation when i did the MA. but when i tested on the pregnancy test it says that i am 5 weeks pregnant (if i read that correctly).

TL;DR: I need to learn how to better control the way I communicate my feelings as well as how to provide a better listening experience for my GF.
Me and my GF have been together for quite some time now, coming up on around three and a half years. I've always done my best to be there for her as much as I could. I've tried to be the man and gentlemen my parents raised me to be. However, it wasn't until very recently that I've had a real retrospective look at my behavior and I realized that I absolutely suck at communicating. I'll list a few instances that stick out in my mind. The last sentence of each will be what I'm really getting at in terms of what I want to improve on, but please if anyone sees anything I need to improve on in these quick little anecdotes please call me out on it.

1. One day my GF got off from work and called me on her drive back home. She started to talk about a coworker who was getting on her nerves. She would give examples of things her coworker did/said. The whole time I sat there and was excusing the coworkers behavior saying things like "Seems to me like she was trying to help." This all comes despite me hearing the saying about how women don't want input on their problems they just want to be heard. This is actually a very common issue I face when talking to my GF. I immediately try to solve the issue that she presents. How do I stop doing this and start focusing more on making sure she feels heard, understood, and cared for?
2. During a pretty big argument between the two of us over what we expected from the other I was unable to properly form a readable text about my thoughts. I sat there for about 20 minutes writing and deleting the same sentence over and over. One time it didn't get my point across, the next it sounded to mean, the time after that it was too vague, etc., etc. She grew increasingly frustrated with me for taking forever to respond (This is unusual for me as during conversations like this I tend to send more, shorter texts rather than a single, large one). Eventually I spat something onto the keyboard and hit send. She was very confused and my attempts to clarify my thoughts were getting nowhere, I subsequently gave up which I could tell made her very upset. How would I go about fixing my inability to properly vocalize (or I guess textualize?) my thoughts in a way that's efficient but doesn't come across in a assholish way.
3. I love my GF with all my heart. But I am atrocious at picking out individual things that make me feel that way. She'll often ask me things along the lines "What specifically do you like about my outfit?" or "What's something about my personality that you love?" I love her personality so much but I feel like she doesn't realize this because no matter how many times she asks me this question I can never come up with an answer. My go to is "You're outlook on life" which really is something that I truly do admire about her and was one of the things that made me fall for her in the first place, but I can tell it's getting stale. What different ways can I approach these types of questions which will lead to me being able to actually provide a proper answer?
4. There's been a few times where I've felt a little "neglected" (for the lack of a better term) throughout our relationship. This has lead to some amount of resentment building up inside me. At times it comes out and I say somethings that are hurtful. What can I do to get better at dealing with these feelings both in not letting them come out in negative manners and in not letting them appear in the first place?

I'd like to cap this off by saying that my GF and I have a very strong relationship and aren't in any danger of breaking up. We both love each other and have plans for our future together. I just feel like these are thoughts she secretly harbors and I want to be better for her. So how do I become a better all-around communicator?
I know my title is a little vague but I can't think of a better way to word it that would make sense as a title, sorry.