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TLDR: My fiancé (26m) has had questionable messages/conversations with female friends and a wife friend has made comments that make me paranoid. How do I find out if he is truly cheating or not without being too overbearing?
So, I’ll start by saying I’m really naïve. I (23f) have been in a serious relationship for going on 5 years, engaged for two, with my fiancé (26m). We have been together long enough that we even have a child together. Our relationship is great in my opinion. We can be playful and serious, laugh and cry, and love unconditionally together. But, a little over 6 months ago, we moved to a smaller city and made friends with a couple who worked with him. Well, long story short, the wife came to me about how my fiancé was on Bumble Friends and how her sister, who admits is a bit a of “mover” when it comes to men, found him and added him. The wife said she knows that Bumble Friends makes a Bumble Dating account as well and told me to check his phone. Now, I’ve never felt the need to go through my fiancé’s phone, not once and suddenly doing it bothers me to my core. He’s never given me a reason to not trust him. A bit of backstory to him: when he was a university student, he was a bit of a man whore, and has an extensive body count. But again, he’s never given me any indication of a need to check his phone. Well, this wife friend began sending me links to different ways to hide things on your phone (like hidden apps that look like others and whatnot). Even when I asked her not to worry about my relationship, so continued. (She caught her husband cheating on her with several women and now checks his phone every night, even without his knowledge). Well, after maybe a month, I did check my fiancé’s phone and he wasn’t cheating BUT there were questionable messages that were played off as jokes between some of his female friends. Of course, I talked to him about it and he broke down and told me he didn’t even think about how it would look for someone outside the friendship and immediately told me and his friends that they need to change the way they joke, because it was inappropriate for them to make jokes about showering together and such. The most concerning was his female friends sending him pictures and asking him if, as a man, they were appealing enough to send to their significant other(s), which prompted with me telling him to change his ways or he’d be single and I’d raise our child alone. Since then, there hasn’t been an issue. But the wife has come back into my texts and is telling me to do research about “cheater apps”. I’m so insecure in general and truly love my soon to be husband. I don’t know what to do. Should I look through his phone and explain to him why? Should I ignore everything? I’m so confused.

My mom was a stay at home mom so I’ve always wanted to do that. Thankfully, I’ve been able to do that for a few years now; ever since being pregnant with my first. I will be a stahm until my youngest goes to school, which is still 3ish years away. My husband obviously is the sole provider, and we are tigghtttt on money pretty much all the time. So, once the kiddos are all in school, I need a job to help out. I only did college one year before having babies, so i could always go back. However, I’m passionate about like nothing lol. Before kids, I also had 0 idea what I would end up doing, even while in college. My only passions include motherhood, parenting styles, breastfeeding, baking, helping out new mom friends find information (best deal stores, best programs to get involved in, best doctors, etc… it brings me joy bc I struggled so much), being creative/crafting with my kids. Even when my kids are older and not so dependent on me, I think my same passions will continue. I’m consumed with motherhood, but in the best way.
I don’t need a fancy pants job, so maybe school isn’t the best for me. I still have quite a ways to go until then, but I’m just trying to think about it and get offered ideas. I thought about maybe becoming a teacher- I could have the same hours/breaks as my kids and there’s always job openings, but I’m not sure Im fit to handle 20 kids then go home and be the best mom to my own😩😂

Hi Reddit,
My Husband (28 M) and I (24 F) have been together for 4 years. Since the start, he has been insecure about cheating. He was viciously cheated on in his previous relationship and blames it on that. I have never cheated on him nor has he ever found anything to even assume I was cheating. I use to be empathetic towards his insecurities as I have been cheated on too. However, for the past 2 years, I have been loosing said empathy.
After pulling my phone records and going through all my contacts last summer, he went to therapy for a month or two and his episodes of accusing me have decreased, but not stopped. I have been in therapy since January and he is the one who brought up going to individual therapy for both of us. However, he has yet to get back into therapy and he continues to accuse me of cheating. We are also in couples counseling, which hasn't necessarily been overly helpful. He keeps saying that he has gotten better with accusations so I should just be more patient with his since he is my Husband.
Our last fight was a few nights ago. We were being intimate (which is a struggle too since I have low libido) and he said my breast tasted like wintergreen Copenhagen and then he found/tasted a piece on me and accused me of cheating. This obviously ruined our intimacy and he kept asking for an explanation. I told him I did not have one besides I was hiking in the forest earlier that day and maybe had a pine needle on me. He didn't accept this answer and went to bed upset. However, he didn't bring it back up.
When we discussed this in couples therapy, I acknowledge that he didn't escalate this fight and didn't bring it back up, which was an improvement form his past episodes. He still accused me in therapy and said I could've been with another man in the forest. Our therapist pointed out that this was kinda silly and suggested that if I was cheating, I probably would've showered. My husband said true, but said he has learned not to trust people.
I am so tired of being accused. It hurts so bad and he doesn't acknowledge the pain it causes. He also doesn't get help for the issues and has excuses as to why he hasn't done therapy yet. He is upset at me because I told him I no longer have empathy for him and this issue. AITAH?

Hunter Smokey Bidens sister-in-law turned girlfriend will take the stand for his gun charge trial. Ex-girlfriend Zoe Kestan will also take the stand. Kestan told prosecutors Hunter smoked crack every 20 minutes except when he slept. Buhle told prosecutors she found drugs or paraphernalia at least a dozen times which explains why cocaine has been found twice in the white house since Hunter moved in. One day, this will make for a great movie.
Story from the New York Post gave details.
Hunter, in an interview with the Daily Beast published Monday, indicated that some photos of drug use found on his laptop were misleading.
A notorious photo shows the Biden scion fast asleep with what appears to be a crack pipe in his mouth, but it is not, in fact, a crack pipe, he told the outlet.
“That’s actually a meth pipe,” Hunter said of the photo, which he now claims was staged.
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Thats not crack, its meth! Hunter shouted in defense.
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https://nypost.com/2024/05/21/us-news/hunter-bidens-ex-wife-and-sister-in-law-turned-lover-to-take-witness-stand-in-his-gun-trial/

We are staying in an Airbnb for a week while we prepare to move across country. It’s our first time ever using this type of thing. It’s a 3 bedroom 2 bath home. Upon arriving everything seemed to be good. The house is clean and kept. We arrived 05/17. Yesterday while washing some dishes the kitchen sink began leaking a lot and quickly created a puddle on the floor in front of the cabinet under the sink. I turned the water off and put a towel down. I then texted my husband to ask what I should do. (Coincidentally my husband is a plumber)He said to keep everything off and he will check it when he gets home from work. When he checked it, turns out the disposal was leaking and needed to be replaced before the sink could be used again. The broken disposal was put in 2016. We immediately contacted the host and asked if they would like to have my husband fix it or if they would wanted to call a plumbing company themselves. We gave our contact number and asked them to contact us. They did. After calling my husband they decided to have my husband fix it. They also asked for a couple photos. My husband had to put in a new disposal. He took before and after pics and a pic of the new disposal box. He then contacted the host again and gave them the pics and update. The hosts response was thanks and we’ll leave you a good review. That was the end of the exchange. Am I wrong to be upset that they mentioned nothing of payment/reimbursement. Are we as guests of the Airbnb obligated to pay for this repair and the new part out of our pockets? My husband says he doesn’t want to cause any issues and to just let it go. Please give me your opinions.

Happened a long time ago.
I have a wayward eldest sister. She was an honor student with a prestigious degree in a renowned university, but lack of employment drove her desperate. She married a Korean man and had a son...
My sister's ex-husband... He sacrificed his life supporting his wife and son. But that ass wipe betrayed him and left him, taking all of his assets. All for WHAT? She argued with her husband all the time, screaming about how much she hated her kid and his incompetence. She hated them and wanted to live a good life. And hell, she left him and her newborn child permanently one day. She lived a lavish life drifting from man to man, just toying them around. While him and his son lived in poverty, bankrupt. I was there when they were evicted, trying to survive. They couldn't afford live in a run-down flat and they were homeless. I took them to US and supported them in my household. I gave them good food, good schooling, and good care. Sadly, their permanent residence in US was denied, andwe returned to Korea, and I continued my efforts to support them, going to Korea with them. When my sister knew this, she came to my house and screamed about supporting the wrong family member. Koreans are loyal to their families, but I was more into justice.
I told her ex-husband, how much he sacrificed for himself, supporting his child while living in a run-down basement flat, working for hours on end, and coming home to spend time with his child, rarely sleeping. He rededicated himself to be a better parent, while she was spending frivolously on her luxury products and living a lavish life. I had to take them to US to have a better opportunity, which led to failure. "Don't you fucking know that your ex had to sacrifice for you and your child, while you putz around with your luxury toys? If he didn't do that, you'll be nothing! Pay your fucking child support."
My sister chuckled in disgust. "He wasted his effort, then."
"Then mind your damn business. Don't mind with what I'm doing. Piss the hell off!"
"We'll see about that. Say goodbye to your job."
Afterwards, I lost my job in Korea, because of her connections. I was a product of a power harassment. I mean, how could she do this? She wasted her money lobbying her corporate cronies, rather then supporting her kid... I was pissed.
I had some properties back in US that was profitable, and I continued to help my nephew and her ex... until they died of cancer.
Her ex and I were best of friends, and my nephew was like my son. Heart-wrenching.
I live in US with my parents, due to exhaustion.

Those are the first words na sinabi ni hubby when he came home from working abroad. This is in relation to me giving birth to our baby boy 5 days earlier.
Idk, I just felt so happy when he said those words kase grabe din napagdaanan ko prior to giving birth. Was in labor for 2 days tapos bloody show pa. Had to be induced. 2 hours sa labor room only to be decided na mag emergency c section. Had to wait for another 2 hours sa anesthesiologist kase it was early in the morning. And now, I have a 7-layer cut on my lower abdomen. It was a failure to descent.
I blamed myself heavily kase na c section. I wanted so much to deliver normally but my body couldn’t. I blamed myself so hard kase I felt like I failed my baby. Nadagdagan pa nung nalaman na namin ang hospital bill. As someone na independent and is too ashamed to ask for help, I felt like I was giving my hubby a burden kase na c section. I would cry days after giving birth kase nga I felt like a failure, as a mother, and as a wife. Thankfully, my husband has been nothing but understanding and loving g. He didn’t care about the bills, he cared about me and our baby.
And having to hear him say na he’s proud of me just lifted a huge weight on my shoulders. I still feel bad about myself but my husband is giving me the care I needed. It may sound bad, but I also appreciated na he came first to me and was making lambing to me before he came to our baby who was sleeping at that moment.
And now, he’s doing his best to learn to be a father and he’s doing great. I am proud of him, too.

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My brother married an actual psychopath. My brother (40) married the scummiest scum of the earth. Who can only be described as a whore, a psycho, sociopath and an all around terrible human being. It was against the wishes of EVERYONE. For back story…She had a child by another man… and only had him (in november) to live off the government. he met the stray hoe took care of her and her unborn child. they started dating in september and by christmas she had drained his bank account. He moved in with her days after christmas. Proposed. And got married sometime between march and june i honestly can not be bothered to know exactly when. The night before brother was admitted to the er for staph infection in his berries. After the “wedding” that was in the back yard of some pastor . they had a “reception”. Where i photographed/observed the following. A used tampon on washing machine. Shit filled diapers littering the nursery. A surreal amount of clothing on the bed. I said nah im good. And went home. The wedding was in may and she got my brother to legally adopt her child. Im forever convinced if not for my brother she would casey anthony her child. She Munchausened her kid and my brother. Self diagnosing the kid with autism. Pushed or made my brother fall and get multiple concussions. Drugged him with date rape drugs to keep control of him. She was a frequent flier to the ER going to the emergency room for unnecessary reasons. She refused to parent her child insisting that its the worlds job to teach him the bare minimum. She refused to clean as well. Her cockroaches had cockroaches. Cleanliness was mental illness for her. She kicked my brother out asking for divorce. But realized she had to leave bc he paid the bills. She stayed with whoever the hell would take her. Was forced to walk wherever she needed to go. And uttered the words “well i had to walk in the rain so theres my bath for the week” after growing tired of not having his card and money she came crawling back. She avoided parenting like the plague. Every excuse. Uti. Migraine. Yeast infection. Its a tuesday. When her son was 2 she left to go to another state and go to school for being a truck driver. Had no qualms of leaving her kid behind for weeks. Then she dropped out of 18 wheeler school. It seems the wheels on her bus fell off. For someone who doesnt believe proper hygiene was important she didnt believe bathing him and basic care was important. Feet encrusted in dirt and dirt under overgrown nails. It was so noticeable that when i cut his nails his teacher made comment about it. Her family was just as absent as you would expect. Her mother only went to the first birthday party when the child was 6. And didnt even know her own grandchild. Asked another child at the party if he had the best birthday! My mom looked at her and said “yeaaa thats the wrong kid…” Fast forward when the first born was 6 and she birthed her second. This had no change and her parenting never improved. Another child encrusted in dirt. After the youngest turned a year and a half my brother had knee surgery and stayed with us (me mom dad) to recover because she would have made him cook clean and parent. While he was healing for the week he was there she moved in her boyfriend AND girlfriend. By the way she not only a hoe she is a promiscuous hoe with no moral compass. I promised my mom id never call CPS however when the second was 2 i had a friend call cps. Like a special ops team cops went in at 2 am and gathered the children and brought them to me and my parents. We had the 2 year old and a friend of the hoe had the 8 year old. For 2 weeks my brother agonized over his kids being taken. And she had a vacation. She treated it as if having your kids repo’ed as a right of passage. Told the world. Told the teacher. And had the time of her stupid life. In the 2 weeks i had them i had minions collecting screenshots of statuses of her being a bad mother. Which was super easy bc every thought made it to facebook. Such as. “My dentist suggested i brush my teeth at least once a day” “i guess i was doing (brother) with the wrong meds and made him sick” “why dont grandparents raise our children” i gathered these gems and photographic evidence of the state of the house and cleanliness of children to cps, police and eventually divorce lawyer. During their time together the hoe broke my brother mentally spiritually emotionally physically financially. The food stamps ran out in the first week of every month spent on junk soda and unnecessary nonsense. They had to ask my mother for money that accumulated to the tune of $10,000 over 10 years. She is also a gofundme whore. She would start a gofundme 10-12 times a year for any and everything. She decided at one point to go back to school and did an amazon wishlist for school supplies and a gofundme for “gas food and other expenses”. Being the trash human she is she is friends with people of unsavory character. An actual crack head bought her entire amazon wishlist. Which she put on facebook. Yikes. At one point she found a dog and instead of finding the owner she finders keepers that poor pup. Making yet another gofundme for dog expenses. I told my friends i would paaaay them to claim the dog as theirs so my mother didnt pay for yet another mouth to feed. If youre curious about the gofundmes and if they were ever fruitful… when a bull milks a calf will her gofundme work. The final year of their marriage was no less chaotic. The christmas of 2019 she posted on facebook that its so wonderful that her husband is out working and her boyfriend is sleeping next to her and her girlfriend is cooking. Tagging the aforementioned on facebook. My brother was humiliated because infront of church members family and friends his marriage and all the stupidity that came with it was out in the open for all to judge. My brother was at the time a corrections officers and let his kind nature and naivety get him in trouble. A person asked him to take some taco bell to an inmate and in what could only be called a moment of stupidity (sorry mom) he did so. what he didnt know is they put drugs in it and when it was scanned he was arrested. My mom and dad had to bail him out too him home and around 3 am he called me “they voted me out” beyond confused i asked what the hell does that mean? As it turned out. Hoe boyfriend and girlfriend unanimously voted him out of the house. Mind you. Single wide trailer housing 4 adults 2 kids a dog and cats. June of 2020 he moved back in a month later if the children followed. after the actual breadwinner left the house the unemployed baboons could not pay the rent and were kicked out. The three went down to two with the girlfriend being let go. Hoe and boyfriend moved in with her mother. And boyfriend wrecked the car in my brothers name. Dui and head on collision. Car gone! The children stayed with us. The youngest was 2 at the time and began calling my mom “mommy” which pissed off the hoe. And she never contacted them. At the hearing for the divorce she stated all she wanted out of the relationship was not money or visitation. But her maiden name back. TAKE IT. AND LEAVE US THE HELL ALONE. She also used a photo of her kids on a gofundme to get sympathy and posted that to a fetish website. Seeing as the photo was them shirtless i believe that was on purpose. She dumped boyfriend and found a new love in new hampshire. She was in NH for 8 months with her new boyfriend and he lost his job so they moved back down. After a summer of no contact she called and told the children “when i get home we are going to….” And listed about 10 events places and activities to look forward to. None of which she delivered on. After not spending time with them again and choosing to give up her weekend with them to play video games for 30 HOURS STRAIGHT. She eventually in 2024 decided that her and her boyfriend were moving to Massachusetts. Seeing how she is a practicing witch my only hope is the salem witch trials reconvene. She married the dude she abandoned her kids for. On mothers day the children who no longer give a damn she exists were forced to call and tell her happy mothers day. Where the 6 year old proceeded to tell her the older brother got a phone and didnt wanna give her his number. She assured him that as his mother its quite alright to give mommy dearest the number to which the youngest said yea no he doesnt want to. The mouths of babes. She cried and posted on facebook not only do her children hate her but she had to give up her cats too. And wished the “real mom’s of the world a happy mothers day” shes a shit cat mom too! A week after we had spaghetti for dinner and the 6 year old said “i never used to like spaghetti. I only tried it at… whats her names house? Jordan? Yea her house” With their father engaged to a good Godly woman with morals and standards the worst mother to ever mother has been replaced and so far we are all living happily ever after. The moral of the story is if you lay down with dogs you get up with fleas what if you lay down with whores end up with bedbugs and that was a very costly moral

Budget Review - New job, new kid
Hey! I had a kid about a year ago and that ended up leading to me taking a new, lower paying job in order to spend more time at home with the family (missed 3-4 months of her first year because of travel). With the new lower income, we re-did our budget and I’m curious for feedback or to see if there are any opportunities to make improvements. Not sure if I’m missing/forgetting something or if there’s a category that feels too high/too low to someone. Thanks in advance!
This budget excludes retirement savings, taxes, and workplace insurance.
Monthly Total: 4,613.16 - $1,365.80: Mortgage, Escrow, Home Insurance - $500: Home Improvement/Maintenance - $475: Groceries - $463.12: Charity - $353.31: Car Payment - $330: Counseling - $208.50: Car Insurance - $130.13: City Utilities - $100.62: Gas (House) - $100: Entertainment - $75: Gas (Car) - $75: Discretionary (Husband) - $75: Discretionary (Wife) - $61.68: Electric - $55: Internet - $50.73: Life Insurance - $50: Eating Out - $50: Car Maintenance - $50: Clothing - $44.27: Phone Bill

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My husband has a Google phone so I photoshare on WhatsApp. When I click on an image in my camera roll to share a bunch of contacts show up; my family, some random people on WhatsApp, etc. how do I add my husband so I can quickly tap and share with him. Right now, I click, share>Whatsapp>click my husbands name. Vs share>click husbands name.

TLDR: my daughter’s band instructor is sexist and racist but he keeps it to micro aggressions, so it’s super hard to prove.
This is a rant about my daughter’s (12f ) band instructor . I want to start out by saying I know these types of sexist and racist micro aggressions are not things that can really be brought up with the school, but nevertheless I don’t feel comfortable with an adult man saying them in front of a room full of preteens and young teens. I’m also very sad for the kids who live with sexist and racist stereotypes at home and then come to school and have them normalized by people like my daughter’s teacher.
So, on to the story. Yesterday my daughter came home from school and stood me that her band teacher’s wife was out of town and had been for several weeks, because her mother is on hospice care and she wants to be with her.
We had a discussion about how sad that is and related it to her great grandmother who is also currently in hospice. But then my daughter told me that the only reason her teacher mentioned this was because he looked a bit disheveled and felt the need to apologize. ( he’s the type of man who wears a 3 piece suit and meticulously styles his mustache with wax daily, to teach public school band)
He apologized that his wife was out of town, and he didn’t know how to work the laundry machine and he didn’t know where the dry cleaner is. He added to this very sad account, by stating that he doesn’t cook and the only food left in his house is granola bars. Bet he’s happy because his wife will be home soon to handle his laundry, go shopping and cook real food.
Later in the same class period, he told a white boy, who had decided to yell the N-Word across the band room, that the N- word isn’t really a bad word but we shouldn’t say it because it offends some people.
Obviously this is incorrect, there is a deep history of uses of the n-word to dehumanize , devalue, harass and other people of color. Allowing any child to think that it’s just a little offensive to some people , but not a big deal is beyond disgusting to me.
First: this is deeply disrespectful to his wife. Imagine coming home from spending weeks at your mother’s death bed, only to discover that your husband is apparently a toddler who can’t preform basic adult functions. And then having to mother him.
Second : This is infantilizing boys at a very impressionable age, it teaches them that they don’t have to be responsible for themselves.
Third: it devalues women and girls, implying t hey are only here to serve boys and men.
I’ve you’ve gotten this far, thank you. I’m just upset with society today.

My town finally got hit with Smallpox. It came from an Empire ship. Saw one lady with it and was like "Uh oh" luckily I've had my char innoculated since the Spring after winning the fishing contest. Then my daughter got sick, saw tons of people in the town portrait frowning. My husband(Jack Watt) and son also got sick.
It took a week for people to start dying from it. Luckily my family was safe but Jacks sweet brother William and his fisherwoman wife died days apart. They had kids before they died. Also said news is that Jame Hutton died, he was married to the blacksmiths apprentice.
The first batch of funerals came in the mail the day after Halloween and now I have funerals through Winter day 5.

I forgot if I posted about this already.
Last summer, I broke up with someone after a serious relationship (wasn’t sad it was mutual).
I decided that for once, I NEED for once in my life to be single and enjoy it. My plan was 1 full year of being single before I find someone (my ideal person) for marriage.
I was super serious and super committed to worshipping myself. I wanted to fall in love with who I am and the god within. I wanted unshakable confidence and self confidence. I wanted a Christ-like aura.
So I got to work.
I became obsessed with myself (inside and out).
Here’s what I did basically:
I took care of my looks to look like someone I considered breathtaking in my personal opinion. I didn’t go to the gym, just makeup and skincare and dressing the part. I did it for ME, I was the main character now and I wanted to dress the part.
I started walking slowly as if I’m a holy being (again Christ-like aura) while doing my self love affirmations confidently (in my head obviously). Whenever I wasn’t talking or thinking, I was affirming (not like a robot, but more with ease, conviction and enjoyment).
I would meditate on self love and self concept morning and night.
Here’s what happened:
Men started obsessing over me, asking me on dates over and over, they would show up out of the woodworks as they say lol, texting me a little too much. I got so annoyed, but also a bit intrigued by the results lol,that I HAD TO DELETE MY SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS AND ARCHIVE ALL MY PICTURES to try and minimize the effects lol. I ghosted a ton of people.
It worked for social media but I still got a lot of attention in real life. I was a rockstar for a while.🤪
This experiment REALLY helped me understand what everyone is YOU pushed out meant.
EIYPO is about YOU not EVERYONE. That’s why owner of this sub always tells you to focus on YOU, to Generate LOVE WITHIN YOU, to be your own SP…
Now something else happened that summer. Even though I was so serious about staying single for a year (lasted 4 months only lol). I was like FINE IF ALL THESE MEN ARE SHOWING UP MAYBE I SHOULD WRITE A LIST OF ALL THE QUALITIES I WANT IN MY FUTURE HUSBAND.
Well guess who I met the very next day ☺️. You guessed it. I met the guy from my list. At first I didn’t care at all because he was just another guy that I didn’t want to date. But after a few conversations he convinced me to go on a date and I fell IN LOVE ON OUR VERY FIRST DATE (him too, we became inseparable instantly)
Now so you guys don’t think I’m a liar or anything, we did break up recently:/ I’m not sad but I have to admit to all of you that I was so in love that I went back to my old habits of focusing on the other person. I made him my whole world and stopped prioritizing myself 🫡. It’s a human thing we all do I guess. When you find someone to love you, it’s like you give them this huge task suddenly, a task that should be your own.
I didn’t become needy in 3d but I definitely was needy energetically and he started prioritizing his work to the point where we would see each other once every week or so …
This post is 100% real guys no scams here I promise .
I’m writing this post to tell you please please please listen to u/ALLISMIND he’s got it figured out and he’s telling you all the truth. I am living proof of this.
Losing my man is also a big lesson to all of us. Do not forget about your self love and self concept once you’re with someone… of you course you need to love them too, but you MUST keep loving and caring about your inner world. It should be a habit like brushing your teeth or better BREATHING.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to be back on my routine of self love and self concept. You can find me reading all is mind’s posts from the very beginning (again lol).
As my boyfriend, I’m not worried about him to be honest. If he comes back that would be great, if not I know something wonderful is waiting for me.
Feel free to ask me anything.
Additions/edits: -I forgot to mention that I would turn heads whenever I went with my aura and beauty. I was kind of like Monica belucci in Malena (I would walk very innocently and silently and yet I was always under the spot light even though I wasn’t trying to (again my goal was extreme self love and confidence/not people’s attention and yet it happened)).
-I don’t dress provocatively (meaning no short shorts or boobs out of clothes that are too tight just for context)
-A funny thing that also started happening is my male colleagues also started developing a crush on me 😅 even though they’ve seen me every day for a year lol (especially Joe who still refers to me as “my wife” lol)
-I Re-started focusing my self love and self concept again a few days ago and I’m already seeing results… men started showing interest and asking me out again as well as getting some attention in public (nothing too extreme yet).

He was a wonderful husband, he just fell out of love with me. I could have been a better wife I guess. How do I ever move on? He was my best friend.

Firstly, why am I even writing this post? I am unsure myself. It may be a way of trying to get attention and feel validated, or it may be dipping a toe in the water, or putting muddled thoughts on paper in order to try to make sense of them, or see what insight and feedback others give me.
Recently I have very strong suicidal thoughts. I've never had them this strong. I've been reading about various methods and found one which is, apparently, painless and quick. Those thoughts have become a fantasy.
My mindset has also changed. I have started to think life is simply not worth living. Suicide seems like a rational, logical, effective solution to the problem of being alive, rather than an unfortunate but necessary action.
I wanted to try and lay out why I seem to be feeling like this. Here is the list:

1. Perhaps most importantly, I feel suicidal thoughts are the most rational response to being a bad husband and father. I strongly believe my wife and daughter will be better off without me. I know my death will cause them pain, but once this subsides, they will eventually be happier.

When I am having a depressive low, usually with a migraine and inability to leave bed, I see the confusion and hurt on my 3 year old daughter's face. It is unbearable, but also feels like a rational reason to go.

1. I have developed a dislike of people and feel they're rude, destructive, cruel. I consider myself kind, and cannot bare to be around others and society. I cannot stand that we accept a world where street children starve, or families are victims of war. I cannot ever make sense of it and I cannot bare to continue to have to accept it.
   
2. Linked to the above, I am left wing. I see the world as divided into haves and have nots. I cannot stand that some have to starve whilst others live in opulence.
   

On a personal level, this means I see my every day existence working in professional services/ business consulting as a life of a slave. I literally work with the firm's Partner regularly. He takes home millions, which as a lefty, I do not see that should be his. He enslaves me, and the surplus of my labour goes to him. I wish to escape this life, but I am scared to do so as I think running my own business may fail and I'll live in destituton. Suicide feels like the only option to avoid slavery.

1. I am overwhelmed by thoughts of the future for which I only conclude it is right that I die first. These include:

• The thought of being stuck in my job
  
• The thought that my health will deteriorate
  
• The idea I will be destitute and starve
  
• The fear of being a victim of war
  
• The fear of being a victim of violence
  

1. I have been seeing a therapist and taking antidepressants for several months. I have learnt a lot about why I may be depressed, but I do not see that knowing why translates to feeling any better.
   
2. Finally, in a contradictory manner, I also fear the extent to which I have aged and I feel that time has sped up. I am 36, but the past 15 years have gone as quickly as 2-3 years did when I was 16-21. This really depresses me, making me feel I have wasted my life.
   

Thank you for reading this.

Hi everyone, I’ve tried to find people on this subreddit with similar experiences, but I’ve had no luck so I figured I would create my own post and see if anyone had any advice. So I (24F) have been dating my boyfriend (24F) for the past 7 years. It’s been a good and healthy relationship, except the fact that I feel extremely uncomfortable around his family. His mom and brother are quiet and we don’t talk much, however his dad has been an issue throughout our relationship. I guess to give some context, my boyfriends dad is not a good person. According to my boyfriend, his dad has admitted to being a delinquent all his life. He’s stolen from friends and family, has done a ridiculous amount of drugs, driven drunk and nearly killed himself in a car crash and more. In recent years, he’s been verbally abusive towards his wife and kids, has a bad temper and is aggressive and offensive to anyone who doesn’t agree with his opinions.
All of this hasn’t really affected me other than seeings bits and pieces of his behaviour when I’m at their home but I can’t do anything aside from ignoring it. However, in the last 3 years or so, I’ve started to feel uncomfortable with the ‘jokes’ or comments he makes towards myself or in general about women. Just to name a few instances, he was pissed off at his wife about something insignificant and when it was just me and him alone in the living room he said ‘if only I were younger I’d get with someone like you’. Or the many times I’ve caught him looking at me up and down for too long and calling me pretty. Recently, he’s started taking pictures of family members, which sounds innocent enough. Except that he always finds a way to take photos of me alone or his younger sons girlfriends which he chose to print and frame for himself. Then he picks up the photo every once in awhile and says ‘ I don’t want to sound like a creepy old man but these girls are gorgeous’. I don’t want to sound crazy or dramatic but there have been several instances where I felt extremely uncomfortable by how he looks at me, I can’t even explain it properly. This extends to my boyfriends’ brothers girlfriend as well as other younger women who are considered family friends. He makes constant remarks about their bodies and how they look and then goes on to compare his wife to us and says she doesn’t look as good as we do. Recently there was a conversation that took place about a new movie with an attractive female celebrity and he interrupted by saying that ‘she has a fat ass, she’s sexy and that she’s all over his Facebook feed and he loves looking at her’ in front of his wife and kids. Anytime anyone calls him out on his language or behaviour he jumps to the ‘I’m joking’ excuse when we know he isn’t.
Just to add, he also makes it a point to embarrass both his sons on their appearance and says that we as their girlfriends are out of their leagues. My boyfriends can’t do anything about it because if he does, his dad explodes and gets angry which causes the household atmosphere to shift into chaos for a long time afterwards. All I feel I can do is to avoid him as much as possible but I still feel uncomfortable in their home when he’s around. Any advice? Thank you all in advance
TLDR; my boyfriend’s dad is creepy, how do I handle it?
Edit to add: the reason I still go to their house is because we are allowed to have privacy in his room. My parents are strict and don’t allow me to be anywhere in my home with my boyfriend unless the doors are open. He also can’t step foot in my room under any circumstance. As a young couple we want to maintain a physical relationship which is why I still go over

Hi, I’m reposting a shortened version of a really big issue I (34f) am having with my husband (32m). My original post didn’t get any comments I think because it’s super long.
My husband and I are in the middle of a big argument (it’s day 3) because he says since he works and I’m a stay at home mom, the financial burden is on him and I don’t have any right to “b***h” at him for help with cleaning, the baby etc.
I brought up how I’ve been feeling overwhelmed with everything, and noticing he’s stopped doing things he used to do to help. For example- washing bottles before he goes to sleep so I’m not left doing it after putting our baby to sleep, getting up with baby early mornings on his days off, offering to hang out with baby so I can shower etc. He leaves his dishes all around the house, if he uses the last of the ice in the ice mold, he just leaves it in the counter for me to fill up. They are small things but when he used to do them, it showed me that he at least wanted to help me out a little bit.
He is the most mad at me I have ever seen him. He isn’t telling me he loves me- we are big “I love you” people, usually saying it to each other multiple times a day.
He’s called me dramatic, crazy, and that I’ve lost my mind over this. He is so cold towards me.
I want to mention that I do what I can to earn my own money to help with groceries and small things like formula or diapers. Sometimes the timing of side gigs overlap with his work schedule so I’m not able to earn any money that day, but I do try.
I would normally ask my brother for advice since his wife is an AMAZING sahm, but my brother is my husband’s boss so it might make things awkward.
I feel so lost and lonely. Does he have a point? Do I have no right to ask for help with housework or our baby since he is the money earner?

I was talking with my friend and he said that his wife wants another child and basically described himself as having no choice… when I pointed out that speaking like that he doesn’t make it look good and if my husband said something like that about me it would hurt me (because he makes it sound like despite being in a couple he has no say in something as important as a child). He replied that his wife instead would be proud of knowing that he (my friend) knows his place. He was kind of serious, and I accept that different setups work for different people, but am I the only one who would be offended at her husband talking like that about her?
Tldr: male friend talks about his wife in a way I find demeaning but he instead says she would be proud of him?

I brought my wife to the USA back in 2018. We met in Asia. I am a tall California born German-American, and she is Burmese. We both look "baby making age" even though we are both 58.
She has had had various part time jobs because her degree in bio-chemistry from Burma (Myanmar) does not count here in the USA.
I recently got downsized (thanks to Elon Musk). I am waiting on the right job, so she took a full time job as a pharmacy technician.
At every job she got asked the same gambit of questions that people seldom or never ask in Burma, Singapore, or Thailand. She was shocked that so many Americans openly speak of such things with strangers.
How long have you been married?
What is your religion?
How many kids?
When will you have a baby?
Did your husband have children before you met?
How did you come to be in the USA?
Is your husband a liberal or conservative?
Company policy prohibits asking questions about lifestyle, politics, religion, marital status, ethnics, and so on during work hours. Yayyyy!