Farewell invitation ideas

I have always been a curmudgeon. I have always been horribly depressed and anxious. There are lots of problems in my life currently that I cannot navigate. My teeth are in very poor condition. Getting the treatment for it will be expensive, and there are no dentists near me that accept my insurance. Moreover, I have a horrible fear of the dentist; even calling a dentist to ask if they are in my network makes me want to cry. I am also losing my hair which is causing me distress but there is nothing that I can do about that.
I never liked working. There are no jobs that exist that I could be content to have. I have no skills or interest in gaining any since I have no passions. I am not curious to learn anything new. I am not curious about the world at all. Everything is dull and exasperating. I do not understand how people come to realize what they want to do for work. How could anyone ever aspire to be a dentist or an accountant or a writer? It just does not make sense to me. I have taken many assessments to determine what I could be interested in or adept at, and the results always point to me being interested in and adept at nothing.
Right now, I am working an easy job that is unfulfilling and draining and low paying. I went to college for film and media, and the job that I have is related to photography. None of those things are enjoyable to me. I would even say that my feelings toward them have mutated from apathy to hatred over the years of having been exposed to them. I arbitrarily chose to major in film because I needed to pick something, and that seemed easy enough. I got my degree but I know nothing about the field, so a job in it is unlikely and also undesirable.
My life has always been unpleasant, but lately, things have felt worse. I feel like I am going to explode. I know why I am feeling like this. To preface this, I want to establish that, along with having SPD, I also have antisocial personality disorder and borderline personality disorder. I am very much a misanthrope. However, I do have one friend. He and I have not been friends for very long, only since November of last year. We are very different people. He is auspicious, gregarious, and optimistic. I am not. He has many friends, passions, and prospects. I do not. He can envision a bright future for himself. I cannot.
When we became friends, I was foolish enough to start feeling somewhat optimistic. I had always wanted a friend, and this seemed like a promising beginning. A few weeks ago, he and I had lunch to celebrate his birthday. I paid for his meal and got him a watch. I think he appreciated it. The entire time though, I felt so empty and disconnected from him. The optimism that I felt was not present. Where did it go?
We are not very close but he does know my pathology; I told him about it. I think I like him more than he likes me. He never initiates any conversations or invites me to do anything. I am aware that I am not any easy person to be friends with. However, just the idea of having friend still made me somewhat happy. Whenever I am with him, I feel happy. But that time, he felt so far away. He was as friendly as ever. Nothing about him changed. It was something with me. It just felt so unfulfilling for me this time. I was not upset at the dynamic of our friendship. I can rationalize it as us just not having spent lots of time together to get to know each other better. All relationships need time.
But it just did not make me as happy as it did before. All I can describe it as is that he felt so far away. He had to leave a bit prematurely and said that it was because he was going to see another friend. I was already feeling off, but when he said that, it further pushed my detachment and alienation. Since then I have felt even more lonely and depressed. I have become even irascible and moody. Everything is even more distressing. My problems are even more daunting. I just need a friend to help me feel better and to have a little bit of goodness in my life.
The one person in my life who I actually want around is just so far away. I rarely get to see him but when I do it is the only thing I look forward to. I never look forward to waking up unless I know that I am going to see him. I do not know when the next time I see him will be, and I do not know how I feel seeing him. I hope I will feel happy again. Everyone else in my life irritates me or causes me problems and those people are the ones closest to me, always nearby to derange me. But the one person who I do want in my life- he is just so far away.
I know this is lots of text so if you did read all of this, thank you. I would appreciate to hear what you all think. If anyone is interested in hearing more, I do not mind sharing.

I have a user who is trying to share her calendar that she created( not as a shared calendar) for her department.
She mentioned that the other people could view it before. I asked her to share it with me and I accepted her invite. The calendar appeared with no issues, but when other people go to accept the invite - it’s not there under shared calendars like it does for me.
We readded the users, uninstalled/reinstalled, tried having those users access Outlook through a browser and not the application, and tried new Outlook instead.
I’m out of ideas of why this is happening. I may also be overlooking something.

I need help asap. For the past few days I have been stressing about my current social situation and it has become a big issue.
So I am in high school and my grade is very…complicated to say the least. There are several distinct friends groups. The one I hang out with is the best; they are the only ones that aren’t into drugs and worse or are very unpleasant, exclusive people to be around.
But I still have a lot of trouble with them. I sit with them at lunch but they continually make me feel self-conscious. Occasionally it will all go quiet and they will be staring at my hips, boobs, shoulders, waist etc. I have a very normal body type in case you were wondering.
These girls rarely include me in anything unless it is convenient for them. They will leave me out most of the time, sometimes making plans in front of me without acknowledging my presence and talking about their past birthday parties that I wasn’t invited to. Occasionally however they will be nice.
I try to interact with them, be friendly, and I have been nothing but nice. I have no idea what’s wrong but I feel like I am in a toxic friend group. I feel like I am being manipulated but I have no idea. Thoughts?
EDIT: I want to make it clear that I have hung out with other groups before as I was new to the school two years ago. They were worse to me than this group and excluded me more. Now quite a few are involved in drug partying and that kind of stuff.

So, we've been having issues with my Uncle Jerry's (fake name) wife for years now, when they first got together, she seemed lovely, and we did our best to make her feel welcome and included, she's Korean, we're Australian. They seemed happy, they had a child, Ben (fake name), things seemed good. Fast forward some years (I don't know the exact timeline) and there's issues, she stops coming to events and family gatherings that aren't Christmas, Easter, or grandparents birthdays, citing being busy at church, no matter what day the invitation is for.
At some point, she stopped talking to Jerry altogether, he says she'd only ever make dinner for herself and Ben, and really only talked to him to tell him off for buying Ben too much Maccas. I saw it when they were at my place, he'd have Ben ask/tell her when they were staying the night, either because he'd had a couple too many drinks with my dad (this isn't the norm, we'd see them maybe once a month) or because they had plans our way the next day (we live over an hour from them in the neighbouring city).
She started causing major issues a couple years back, around when my uncle (oldest on my dads side) died. I don't know the specifics, but it became known that she believed he and his family, and my second oldest uncle too, weren't real family because they were adopted after my grandparents were told they couldn't have kids (they then they had 6). She believes that Jerry, as the oldest birth-son, should inheret everything. Apparently this is a common belief in Korea, and apparently when her dad died, her brother took her and her sisters to an attorney to have them sign away all rights to their inheritance, in spite of their parents wishes to break that particular tradition. That is also when she started talking to Jerry again, supposedly realising she'd have nothing if he divorced her (she has 5 uni degrees but refuses to work).
Anyway, this caused a major rift with my Uncle's family and her, especially after he passed away from cancer. Then last year my brother got married, and she wasn't invited, because we wanted the aunt and cousins who we'd known our whole lives to be comfortable enough to come, over the woman we'd known for maybe 14 years, seen only a handful of times in the past 10, who didn't think of them as family. Well, she wrote a big, seemingly heartfelt, apology, but my cousin wasn't having it, and accused her of only apologising to come to the wedding. It was a big mess in the family group chat, things were heated, my parents and another aunt, Wendy, stayed out of it, and that leads to the more recent events.
So over the past year, mum, dad and Wendy have sent messages to her, happy birthdays, events and ideas for her son, invites to dinner, and they've never gotten any replies from her. Saturday night my grandfather passed away, he'd been in hospital for a week, we and many of our family spent those last 3 days in the hospital, talking to Pa, supporting each other, but she never came. Sunday, my parents were leaving Nana's place, when she and Jerry arrived. Dad went to give her a hug, because that's what you do when someone's died and everyone's grieving, but he said she side-stepped him and completely ignored him. My parents then drove to where my sister was having her engagement party, and he couldn't get out of the car because he completely broke down. I arrived with a friend about the same time mum walked up, I asked where dad was and she said 'he's crying in the car because of that bitch'. She almost never swears, but I immediately realised who she was speaking about. Eventually dad joined the party, and he's glad he did because some of his friends and mum's brother were there to talk to.
Today I learned what happened at Nana's place after my parents left, Wendy was there, and she completely ignored her too, soon leaving the room. Jerry eventually opened up to his mum and sister, talking about how hard an inter-racial marriage was with the differing traditions and beliefs, and when he decided to see where she'd gotten to, he found she'd left and gotten an uber home, despite living over an hour and a half away. He told my dad they'd argued the whole way there, and the only reason he'd stayed with her till now was because of Ben. He is understandably upset and angry over her actions, and said he's seriously considering divorce. He said she blames mum, dad and Wendy for not defending her when the various arguments happened, even though she was very in the wrong, and that's why she's completely ignored them for over a year.
So what's been an extremely difficult week, has been made even moreso by a selfish woman who plays the victim when she seriously hurt others with her garbage opinions.
Other things:
She and Jerry got married at my parents house, her mum told her she should have been marrying my dad because he was clearly the richer brother based on the house. My other Korean aunt (mum's side) told us, as she was the translator for her parents.
At every family gathering, the first thing she would ask me, my siblings, and the younger of my cousins, was if we'd said hello to Ben yet, she'd look offended if we hadn't, even if we hadn't even seen him yet.
Ben, who is 11 years old and in grade 7, has had tutors taking up most of his spare time for the past 3 years, because he's not at the top of his class. He is a smart kid, but obviously not smart enough for her liking. This is the kind of behaviour that reinforces those stereotypes.
She 'hired' me for a month when she had 4 girls from Korea, 12 and 13 year olds, staying with her for 'cultural enrichment'. Twice a week I'd teach them 'casual English', and about how things work in Australia, like posting a letter, or ordering at the deli counter, also some crafts, and cooking. I enjoyed working with the girls, but I was definitely getting ripped off, $150-odd a day with lunch, but I had to pay my own travel, bring my own craft supplies, write a lesson plan based on her outlines that she could send back to their parents, write a lesson review at the end of the day, and she'd get upset that I was a slow type. Jerry told my parents she was getting a lot of money from the girls parents to keep them, but he didn't know exactly how much as this was when she wasn't talking to him.
Overall, she and my other Korean aunt (that's not a story I wish to share), have not been good examples of Korean women, and I really hope they are not typical members of their societies :P
But yeah, it's been an extremely tough, heartbreaking week, and I really just needed to vent about this somewhere, because I hate seeing my dad so crushed by something that wouldn't have happened if she'd had even an ounce of empathy.

My daughter has been invited to a sweet 16 party for one of the girls in a fairly large friend group. She not one of the girls my daughter is personally closest to and we don’t have any standout ideas for a gift. Any suggestions for something appropriate, or recommendations if we decide to keep it simple and go cash?

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Hey guys me again.
So after sitting down and remembering what had happened, I think I am ready to give you part 2 of what I consider to be weird and cringe, and trust me the cringe is only beginning. Link to part one found Here
Where we last left off our Dm gave us a single use Wish Spell....Woopy. I took a week pondering on what my character would use this super op magic item as I could quite literally do anything that could solve my backstory problems and it seemed like I was the only one. I honestly do not remember half of what went down, I even tried looking for my old notes I took but couldn't find sadly. What I do remember is us going into a dungeon where I acquired a Magic ring of Djinni Summoning which if you don't know is a magic ring that has a djinn as your servant basically, I got an air Djinni who we basically referred to as the Genie from Aladdin. The Dm liked this idea so much, he gave me 3 Wishes....So I was now sitting at 4 wishes and that number will grow.
We had a few mini sessions when most of the group couldn't arrive where we basically slaughtered everything, as we were basically overpowered at Level 4. Most of us used our Wishes for powerful magic items, some on...gross stuff, and besides the wish spell the dm kept giving us magic items that could do a lot of things. Hell I would have no doubt in my mind that if we did we could have taken on a tarrasque! Meanwhile he is trying to make our characters feel frightful of Orcus even mentioning some of us peed our pants. I will not make any mention of whose trousers were smelly and damp that night.
Starting to think this game was boring? It most certainly was, but look over there in the distance! Legolas what does your elf eyes see! Is it a bird? Nay, Is it a Plane? Nay, is it a interesting campaign? Not even close were all of sudden in a village building campaign.... Yup
So the campaign turned from an adventure game to a town building game where we had a week to figure out what we would add to this random village we for some reason were given control of. Fairy chose a herb shop, Lich a library, Dragon focused on defenses, and I added a Musical Theatre. Everything went back to its bland boring self when all of a sudden I was given a vision of a god of art? I don't remember what he was a god of to be honest but it was something to do with entertainment or some other stuff. Apparently tho he had a fondness for me, and he wanted to become my Patron, so I was now a Bardlock. Apparently some boons were that I was given 3 Flesh Golems.
Now usually when looking at flesh golems they are monsters who has a bunch of different graphs of skin taped together to make an abomination. I was okay with a couple servants who could tend to the Theatre, but the Dm then described that they were naked and Sexy. I had no clue on what the hell I should do, and then he gave them each personalities. 2 of them were well endowed women and the other was a ripped man who all started flirting with me! I used one of my wishes to have a telepathic link to my crush who that whole plot point were straight to the shitter, and started talking to her about the events of the day.
Mind you at this point there was no mention about their build up for a relationship nor any tension that grew, and the next words out of the dm kinda irked me.
"Well I don't mind an open Marriage"
HUH??!?
"Oh yea dont you remember when you proposed to me, oh yea it was back when we were kids growing up and you said you wanted to marry me and I said yes"
Not only did he do this, completely skipping any avenue for romance, but also tried having my character play out the Horny Bard role. Btw he left me in charge of making their character sheets, and I never did since why would I wanna be in charge of 3 npcs?
Sliding past all of that we and after 4 games we finally started adventuring again, into whatever the dm threw at us. Seriously I cannot recall, but I remember getting a plus 3 rapier with 4 Charges of wish on it.........You hear those Crickets?......I don't. So at Level 4 I had 7 WISHES, I had basically given up with this game as we could literally just win rn, and thats what happened.
One wish was used to remove Orcus Army, His girlfriend came to talk with us and we made a peace treaty with, and that its. That was quite literally the whole Campaign, but hey we finally leveled up to level 5.
Epilogue
So during the epilogue I used a wish spell to fix Umberlee, Save my Parents, Bring my apparent wife to me, Replaced the God of Art, and used a wish spell to seal Lich in a pocket dimension after he tried destroying us all, which I frequently visit to give him the latest Pokemon game, all my backstory problems were fixed and I still had 2 more Wishes to use.
The dm did try inviting me to his next campaign, but I politely told him no, and I have not seen or heard Fairy, Dragon or Dm again. Thank the Gods! I hope this can be a cautionary tale to newbie dms to absolutly not do this kinda stuff. it instantly kills your campaign, and if you make your players overpowered then your just recreating One Punch Man.
Being the Strongest is boring.
Tldr; Dm hosts for a mariad of weird people (me included) and gave us all multiple wishes, started playing sims midway, and the adventure ended on diplomacy.

FTM here currently about to give birth in the coming weeks. My partner (M20) and I (F23) decided to get together the very week I conceived our little girl. I have cptsd and have been NC with his parents for a month now. He hasn’t spoken to FFIL since what last happened, and is LC with FMIL. I’ve barely been sleeping the last week or so and have been having anxiety attacks and ptsd episodes. I think I’m starting to not only realize how traumatized I am by the way I’ve been treated since I got together with my partner, just more amped up after we discovered our unexpected miracle. But also knowing this whole thing is still looming ahead and could get worse than it’s already been.
My partner (MP) and I at first were not on the same page, but lately he said he’s done with their crap and I don’t have to worry when our daughter is here. Also, MP and I are two different races with two different religious upbringings. But I feel that with everything all in a list, it doesn’t justify anything I was put through. I don’t know what to do with the list. No one has read it. Do I share it with my family? They know some things but not the entirety. Do I do the test and they get nothing more than that sheet of paper and my compiled list? As much as I never want to see these people again, I want to navigate this in a way that makes it very clear what they did to me and why things will be the way they are now once our daughter is born sometime this month. Especially his mother. Thank you for anyone taking the time to read this: it’s a lot for a 8 month old relationship between two already scared young adults and very soon parents to be. I’m trying not to stress anymore but I feel so hurt by everything. Here it goes:

• [ ] Not even a month into our relationship when I spent a lot of time over my partner’s house and got pregnant, his mother threatened to throw him out because of my presence and threatened us both with “what evil she can do”.
  
• [ ] The second night I went over his house his father decided to go on a drunken rampage bc of my presence and I had to leave.
  
• [ ] Has tried to control my pregnancy and relationship with my partner from the very beginning by inserting herself in our decisions as adults. Even before pregnancy. More so in the beginning but I fear it starting again or becoming worse after the baby is born and I’m in an even more vulnerable state.
  
• [ ] Has openly accused me of “sucking the energy out of him” and “walking all over him” and “having a closed heart” but did not provide any examples or incidents. When I asked my partner what that’s about he replied with “she’s jealous”.
  
• [ ] Multiple times has made comments about MP doing things for her that is very clearly things he does for his partner and not his mother. Examples include snarky comments about buying her things like where is her donut when he has gotten me a donut, knowing she’s a diabetic and I’ve struggled to eat w nausea my entire pregnancy. Or when is he taking her out to dinner when we as a couple have barely gotten to do outside things like that together because we’re preparing for the baby.
  
• [ ] Openly has implied I was promiscuous before dating MP (so did his aunt); that I could’ve had another boyfriend, that I would not only lie but then go ahead and decide to deceive MP that it’s not his child. There is no possibility of anyone else. I’ve never been with someone like MP in so many ways he’s the most patience and understanding person I’ve ever had the privilege to know let alone love. MP was the only person to hang out with me in years since my disabilities came around and I spent 2-3 weeks at his house when we first got together just getting to know him before we got intimate. Which was the week we officially got together and unknowingly at the time pregnant.
  
• [ ] ^going off the last two points has basically become protective over him as if I am a threat to him (and his aunt did this to me initially) and she did not act this way when he actually was a child. Idk if this is because of me or because he is having a child and she cannot fathom that he is not a helpless spineless person let alone a small child who can’t make it on his own. Heavy on the HER son or HER nephew in the beginning even though I’m HIS life partner and we’ve been set and sure on that and each other since our beginning.
  
• [ ] Has “done the math” on my conception, last menstrual cycle, due date, etc and maintains to herself and MP that it “doesn’t add up” even though she hasn’t been to any of my doctors appointments who’ve confirmed all the dates in the very first appointments.
  
• [ ] Has put so much unnecessary stress on me MP and the baby to the point where I contemplated suicide or us separating or abortion when I have no true desire to do anything of the sort. I just wanted the pain to stop and felt like I was losing him no matter what I said or did to her demands and one-up remarks. I was terrified I was going to lose the baby the entire time as I’ve been thru grief like that nearly 4 years ago.
  
• [ ] Has referred to me as “that girl” on several occasions. I.e “is that gyal still here?”
  
• [ ] Demands a DNA test to the point of making threats, ultimatums, and accusations. Has even stated she will take me to courthouse and left the house one day saying she was going to the courthouse to sue me for the test. Pressuring me saying I won’t be “loved or accepted” if I don’t JUST do this one little thing.
  
• [ ] Tells MP already what he should or shouldn’t do with his own child and/or treating him like a child (until she needs him to do something her husband doesn’t do for her). I.e signing babys birth certificate, discussing courts, things that are his own decision to make. Essentially trying to alienate him from his family with me and the baby.
  
• [ ] Has knowingly caused unnecessary suffering and fighting in our relationship over her and then has tried to spin his triggering or reactions out on our relationship not working when we haven’t even had a chance or that I am the cause or at fault for his reactions. Our relationship, our triggers, our conversation, our responsibility and our duty to one another.
  
• [ ] Showing up unannounced to my grandparents house while I was extremely sick (he got me sick and I wanted him to bring me stool softener and get his gaming console), not introducing properly, terrifying my elderly severely handicapped 80 year old grandmother after demanding to see me and trying to barge upstairs to my room that NO ONE goes in (my safe space and privacy) when they KNOW damn well how important she and her care is to me. I only came downstairs because I heard her scream at the top of her lungs. My grandpa wasn’t home either.
  
• [ ] Allowing (his mother) his father into my home drunk and looking for a fight but then lying to me saying at first it was to “talk to me and MP” ??? And then it was “to meet my gRAndpAreNts” (they raised me along with my single mother)
  
• [ ] ^ mocking my grandmother and grandparents after said incident (multiple times both of his parents have to the point that my own sister heard it thru the phone) after she told them to “get the f*ck out of her house” after they openly disrespected her great grandchild and granddaughter saying to my Mama “not our grand baby until paternity is proven”. That is what they’ve told me twice (to “GTFO”.
  
• [ ] Being berated by both of his parents in drunk fits of rage or false courage to try to put me in my place.
  
• [ ] The final straw was being berated again last month after MP’s father kept harassing him while he was doing something for his mother that a HUSBAND is supposed to do (rubbing cream on her legs and some kind of foot issue) and then blaming me for everyone’s reactions.
  
• [ ] Told me to never come back and the get the fuck out thing (more mocking of my grandmother)
  
• [ ] Made me feel like garbage over doing things normal to my culture and religion and upbringing like announcing my pregnancy to my extended family
  
• [ ] I have so much regret for feeling so much shame and hiding most of my pregnancy and isolating from loved ones who actually care.
  
• [ ] Tried to guilt trip MP and I over the baby shower everyone in his family just blew off and or said they aren’t coming but then whined about not being there or “invited” hours after the shower. MP never gave them the invitations I gave to him which I had no idea about until after he hung up with his mother.
  
• [ ] Both parents have berated me while heavily under the influence of alcohol. **To the point where on the occasion of his mother she got in my face several times screaming at me to the point where I was hyperventilating.
  
• [ ] Making MP feel pain or “bad” about things any more than he has already endured. FFIL is a raging alcoholic resident of the US that I’ve been told by my FBIL has beat MP in his childhood to the of almost ending his life multiple times). Knowing that and that said they very well could try to do something to my child given they think what happened to him was acceptable parenting or punishment in any form.
  
• [ ] Telling people in public places that are our friends “it’s not my grand baby without paternity proven” . Regardless of if his mother knew I know said mutual friend (whom I go further back with), she knows that is his friend and that is smearing me and potentially alienating MP’s friends from me.
  

I have a friend who I have been having issues with my entire pregnancy. I’m 34 weeks pregnant. Back in February I had a gender reveal party. I’ll call this friend “T”. Well my friend T attended the gender reveal party with her 3 young children, and her mom has a baking business where she makes things like cakes, cookies, cupcakes, chocolate covered pretzels/strawberries and things of that nature out of her house. Things first got weird when I decided to buy a cake for the gender reveal from T’s mother. I asked for a pink and blue cake and was kind of unsure at first whether or not I wanted the inside of the cake colored to match my baby’s gender. I had a friend who we will call “B” text her mom what the gender of the baby was WEEKS before the cake was ever made. WELL, I ended up changing my mind because B was planning my gender reveal and said hey let’s just get a balloon and you can pop it. So I ended up communicating to T that I no longer needed her mom to color the inside of the cake and that I would be really happy to just have the inside be chocolate and the outside just be pink and blue for aesthetics of a gender reveal party. She said ok and that she would let her mom know. KEEP IN MIND THIS IS A CAKE THAT I PAID FOR TO SUPPORT T’S MOM’S BUSINESS when quite frankly I would have been fine with having a cake made by a local grocery store or bakery. The day of the gender reveal in February rolls around and we hosted it at my aunt’s house. T shows up to the party with her kids and the cake that I bought from her mom. She goes to get the cake from the trunk of her car and I walk outside to help. It was just a round cake in a white box but she asked me to come out. She opened it up and the cake was so sloppily made I could literally see the blue dye from the outside as it appeared that the icing on the outside was extremely melted and sliding off. Although the “blue dye” was not really blue, it was kinda turquoise/greenish, there was my first clue that I was having a BOY before I could even pop my balloon that my friend B had bought for me to do at our party. So when T comes inside the first thing she sees is the balloon and becomes a bit upset and tells me “I thought we were going to cut the cake to reveal the gender? Why is there a balloon??” I reminded her that I had told her on facebook messenger that we were just going to opt for a balloon and that I told her that her mom could’ve just made the inside of the cake chocolate, and that I just wanted to buy a pink and blue cake without the inside being dyed. The cake was only supposed to be a DECORATION and dessert. She didn’t say much after that. Fast forward to all of us eating pulled pork hawaiian rolls and baked mac and cheese along with appetizers, after we already popped my gender reveal balloon and sure enough it was blue and confirmed it’s a boy, my aunt’s house was chaotic with T’s kids running around which is to be expected with young children. My aunt actually has 5 cats and 2 dogs. T walks up to me while I’m sitting at a table with two other friends and goes “Hey can I talk to you really quick?” At this point I’m very annoyed because I’m trying to eat and can’t even do that without T looking very flustered. I walk with her to a hallway in the house and she goes “The animals are giving me a panic attack because they’re jumping on my kids, and my kids keep going into people’s bedrooms.. Are you ready to cut the cake?” I’M NOT EVEN FINISHED EATING MY FOOD. So at this point she’s stressing me out and making me feel like I need to rush things along to alleviate her stress from having to control her kids. My aunt and cousins didn’t mind the kids going in rooms and checking out the house or their pets but apparently this was too much for T to handle. So I’m like screw it guys, I’m going to cut the cake basically to make T happy. And then get back to eating my food. I cut the lopsided pink and blue cake and the inside was turquoise and I let T take photos of me cutting it. After we cut my cake T was pretty much done with the party and got her photos to “promote” her mom’s home baking business and she wrangled up her kids and headed out seeming very stressed.
After the gender reveal party T had badgered me for months about plans for the baby shower. It was very stressful for me because I didn’t want to make it too extravagant and my friend B had taken the initiative since I found out I was pregnant to plan the baby shower since day 1 and I had already agreed to that so I did not want to take that away from B. I’ve been good friends with B for a couple years and she’s been very dedicated to being by my side every step of the way. I only met and became friends with T right before I found out I was pregnant, so I was feeling pretty stressed out by T constantly pressing me about details and wanting to make plans for a baby shower when I had already decided to let B make the baby shower plans if I was even going to have one. When I was about 6 months pregnant I had visited a park with T and her kids and she was pressing me about a baby shower and I was feeling pretty irritated so I just told her “I might not even have a baby shower.” She then decided to say “Oh okay well then maybe we can do like a small dinner. BUT B is not invited because I don’t like her energy.” This really annoyed me badly because who is she to decide who is invited to my baby’s celebrations and who is not? This is my baby and my pregnancy. I told her that would be extremely unfair as B is also my friend and has been for a long time.
A few weeks ago I told T that my baby shower would be on Sunday May 5th on Cinco de mayo and she became very upset about that and actually yelled at me in her car that May 5th was “A lot” for her because it’s on a school night for her kids and she already had plans for Satuday May 4th. I decided to just stop talking to her about it but told her she’s still invited. Also note that T doesn’t have a job, has 3 kids, and lives off of child support and government assistance. When she was still badgering me about baby shower plans, she suggested that I ask my baby father for some money, and that her and I go out and buy decorations for a baby shower with HIS MONEY. I immediately laughed and said NO that I would not have my baby daddy pay for my baby shower and that if I’m going to have one those things can be taken care of by B or my family because they are the ones who have the money to do that. T proceeded to get hostile and said “I’m sorry that I’m not like B and don’t have $500 to spend on a baby shower.” I told her that I don’t even care about the money or even having a damn baby shower, and that all that matters to me is that if I have one that my friends and family attend my shower and have a good time.
The day of my baby shower comes and I send T a message reminding her of the baby shower later in the afternoon and she really tells me “I didn’t even know what time your baby shower was because I’ve been left out of the loop and haven’t been told anything, and B never even asked me if I wanted to help plan anything so I don’t know if I’m going to make it plus it’s a school night.” Then when I told her i’ve been talking about it all week and constantly saying sunday may 5th, on cinco de mayo, she goes “Well I was just tired of hearing about B and tired of hearing about the baby shower so I stopped paying attention.”
She didn’t come and honestly I was relieved because T has had me feeling like I’m walking on eggshells my entire pregnancy and I haven’t figured out a good way to drop her as a friend. I’ve come to the conclusion that she’s extremely manic bipolar and I don’t know how to help her and she is never happy with anything at all.
Yesterday she told me that she has now blocked B on facebook because B was “always watching her facebook story and never communicated about the baby shower plans to her” and that she cried the night of my baby shower and was bothered that B had a cake made by a local bakery because she said that she wanted to PAY her own mom for a strawberry flavored cake and cupcakes and had already discussed ideas with her mom about how they should look as well. I was absolutely mind blown at this because I don't even like strawberry cake and never told her I would need anything made by her mom.
Oh and my baby shower cake from the bakery was chocolate and DELICIOUS by the way! 🙂

I matched with this guy on Hinge at the end of March and we’ve been going on dates ever since the start of April. Started off weekly, lately has been a few times a week and we’ve both stayed over at each other’s apartment before. He invited me to meet some of his friends recently on two separate occasions (one was for an entire day), and I started doing the same, invited him to a movie my friends and I were watching. We have a decent amount of mutual friends as well so he’s somewhat pre-vetted (I’ve asked a few people about him and they all said he’s sweet). I am def finding myself starting to like him and I think there’s compatibility with what we’re looking for, our love languages, etc. We both agreed it’s too early to label/define and be exclusive, but we aren’t seeing other people at the moment. (We’re both in our 30s and seem capable of having direct / open conversations)
My sister is visiting me next week with her bf and we have plans to go to this Michelin restaurant. The guy I’m dating is very into restaurants, has never been to the one we’re going to, and has expressed interest in going at some point (generally, not specifically with us).
I’m fairly close with my sister, but she doesn’t visit that often and I value her opinion and want to include her in my life. I would frame this as something more casual and a chance to go to a restaurant he’s always wanted to go to vs a “meet the family” kind of thing. On the other hand, I also acknowledge that it might be too soon and I don’t want to scare him away.
Should I float the idea to him?

I matched with this guy on Hinge at the end of March and we’ve been going on dates ever since the start of April. Started off weekly, lately has been a few times a week and we’ve both stayed over at each other’s apartment before. He invited me to meet some of his friends recently on two separate occasions (one was for an entire day), and I started doing the same, invited him to a movie my friends and I were watching. We have a decent amount of mutual friends as well so he’s somewhat pre-vetted (I’ve asked a few people about him and they all said he’s sweet). I am def finding myself starting to like him and I think there’s compatibility with what we’re looking for, our love languages, etc. We both agreed it’s too early to label/define and be exclusive, but we aren’t seeing other people at the moment. (We’re both in our 30s and seem capable of having direct / open conversations)
My sister is visiting me next week with her bf and we have plans to go to this Michelin restaurant. The guy I’m dating is very into restaurants, has never been to the one we’re going to, and has expressed interest in going at some point (generally, not specifically with us).
I’m fairly close with my sister, but she doesn’t visit that often and I value her opinion and want to include her in my life. I would frame this as something more casual and a chance to go to a restaurant he’s always wanted to go to vs a “meet the family” kind of thing. On the other hand, I also acknowledge that it might be too soon and I don’t want to scare him away.
Should I float the idea to him?

Friends are all getting together on Friday night. You are recently a widow and not part of a couple anymore. You were invited so the question is, should you stay or should you go now?
If you stay home, it is safe. You can be sad and watch a T.V. show. Start a new binge watching marathon. You could eat and drink and stay in your pajamas and cuddle a pet or a pillow. You could think about your dead spouse and do some crying. Or maybe some screaming.
But what if you go…
I know a lot of newly widowed people feel guilty going out and enjoying themselves. They think they should continue to be mourning all the time. Maybe they are worried about what others will think of them? What if it looks like you are happy and having fun. People will get the wrong idea.

I will start off with a quick overview of why this trip was so important and if I don’t get this off my chest I think I will be angry at any and everybody. I needed this vacation bad I was on the very of depression from working overtime everyday for six months and that trip meant everything to me and my bfs family ruined it! I was surprised with a trip to Disneyland (I don’t like it there but whatever he was happy so that makes me happy) by my bf for our anniversary I was so excited and it was a much needed break from work I so desperately needed I couldn’t be happier and the only mistake we made was informing our family we were going. They not only invited themselves to tag along but they stayed in our room which I was all okay with until it was time to go to Disneyland that’s where everything started to crumble.
Not only was it HOT as hell but I got to do absolutely nothing I wanted, his family wanted his attention their kids wanted his attention and every time I finally got his attention everyone is throwing what they wanted instead in his face, so I was alone majority of the time! I spent over $300 to be alone not do anything I wanted to do and only got on five rides in totally FIVE, I didn’t get to eat anything I wanted to try I got nothing out of this whole trip. When I finally pulled up the courage (we are both non assertive people) to say “hey I’m not having a good time can we try something I want to do first, I get attitude and told to do it alone if I have a problem with how we were doing things, THATS NOT WHY WE CAME! This was supposed to be our trip not yours! (Is what I wanted to yell but I kept it together) until the last day, he finally told them on the last day that it was just going to be the two of us.
I was so relieved but it was it was the last day, everything was full and crowded and I was stressed and not fulfilled at all, and we still ended up with his family at some point after I finally got to try some food, it was at that point while we were walking to the exit that I just broke down and started crying I was so unhappy despite it being the happiest place in the world, after that day I was going to be back at work after wasting time off and money on a trash vacation i didn’t even enjoy, I didn’t get to rest, I was unbearable hot and hungry the whole time and the only thing that could have made it worth the stress was the rides and everything was so full it wasn’t even worth it I hate Disneyland whenever I go there I’m never happy I only like the idea of it at this point. Though after breaking down and saying all that he just sits quietly and doesn’t even say anything, doesn’t even look at me and his family had the gall to yell and shame me for being upset and ruining the trip repeatedly saying how much fun they had and how I was just a downer, so AITA?

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My Mom had a hospitalization in November for heart failure afib, 3 more hospitalizations after that which left her with worsening dementia. Extended family- my aunt is inviting her to her house, 1 hour drive with several relatives for mothers day party. They haven’t seen her since her diagnosis. Some of them never called or sent a card during her hospitalizations, I just worry my mom will be a spectacle. Her sister isn’t sympathetic at all towards her illness. I explained that she’s weak, has trouble walking, her reply is “so what im sick too”. I just feel this is a bad idea. How do you handle extended family get togethers?

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Hello! So my fiance and I just got recently engaged and just started the wedding planning process. We’re making our guest lists at the moment and listing who she’ll be inviting and who I’ll be inviting. We’re at a disagreement and honestly not sure how to proceed on this one or find middle ground. I’m inviting my group of lifetime friends and one of my friends is dating a girl who my fiancé has history with. They used to be friends and for unknown reasons just ghosted my fiance completely. I understand the resentment towards her and the issue she has with her. Who wouldn’t? The thing is that if I invite my friend, he’d bring his date which would be her. I feel like it is rude to tell him not to bring her or limit our guests to no “plus one’s”. I also don’t like the idea of not inviting him because he said himself he’ll do anything to make it to the wedding (he lives on the opposite coast) plus he’ll see that my friends went to the wedding. And I can’t do the inverse which would be just inviting him and not my other friends. I don’t know how I feel about saying “you can’t bring her” either. I don’t know, I’m lost. Any advice would appreciated.

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I started a relationship after several dates. She moved in after four months only for my best friend to meet her and told me he had been having sex with her for the past 2months. I confronted her about it in a nice way, if you want to continue we should have an open relationship, she wanted monogamy but my friend told me 2-3 times per week that she came by for sex. She and I split up after 9 months but stayed in contact and she continued to tell me she lived me. After our two year split we decided to get back together. She moved in immediately. We were happy for the first month but I noticed a specific behavior... She turned off notifications and she hides to text. As we layed in bed she was hiding on the other side of the bed. I saw the dic pic flash on the screen and was able to read plans for a rendezvous. Again I approached her with the idea of an open relationship and was put down quick. I was unable to sleep at night for several nights only to see her get up and leave in the predawn hours. Security cams showed her getting in different vehicles sometimes intimately kissing the driver. And I pretended to be asleep when she returned. We had what I thought was a real conversation. She continued with the only loving me, has not allowed me to reach orgasm in two months, her leaving the house, kissing others ect. She was very empathetic about only wanting me, even owning up to hooking up as sex and for drugs... But still wanted a closed relationship and getting married. We agreed to move forward with forgiveness for anything's she was open about. We celebrated with a hotel night that started with a guy knocking on our door, he was invited inby her and introduced me to an old friend. In casual conversation she told him she always wanted to enjoy his manhood. He was nice to ask me if I cared and I told him that was up to him. He seemed with it, pulled out some drugs and both of them did some. He asked about her preferences and she told him what she liked, but he declined her offer. He then asked me if he could stop by and talk to us in a few hours, I agreed, he left. I flipped when he left and asked her why she would do that and she said he aroused her. I invited her to bed and before anything happens she needed water, then a shower, then hours of her talking to herself (about me)...I kept trying to get her to come to bed. She relented at midnight but when I advanced on her she got up and stood by the window and was talking to herself about why the guy didn't come back. I gave up and went to sleep. I woke up to a bj at around 2am but when I advanced to intercourse, she said she just wanted to be held...I complied. I woke at 3:48 to be in bed alone. She returned with her hair a mess as I pretended to sleep. She went and took a shower the whole time talking to herself about doing who she wanted to and if I didn't like it I could leave. We she came out, I went in. I noticed a needle and syringe on the back of toilet and her panties wet with what appeared to be semen in the crotch in the trash. I went back to bed as if I knew nothing was awry. She said some of the meanest things I have ever heard about being stupid, a loser, fat, ugly (I'm 5'7 140) and more on how she would bed who she wants, when she wants and if I didn't like it I should leave. I fell asleep and woke around 9:45am, I set up an Uber in private, as I planned to avoid a confrontation by leaving quietly. That didn't happen, she ran to the door and held my overnight bag telling me not to leave her. I explained quietly about her drug use and cheating. She denied all. I pulled away and got in my Uber and left. We texted for several hours with me calling out her lies and deceipt and her saying we could work this out and again with the "I love you only". My stance was such that she could pick up her things (suitcase and toiletries) outside my front door. She arrived and begged me to speak to her but I refused to be bullied with empty promises. She called 13times then messaged asking me to talk to her, I refused. She said we could fix it again but I said nothing.A guy came and picked her up and they left. WTF was all this for and or about??