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2024.05.19 11:11 AdhesivenessFront545 Got these feelings and idk what to feel
My sch had like 4 day camp span across the 4 weeks to join SU, this being the last week. There was this guy who i met on day 2 cuz i skipped day 1. we started getting close on day 3. then the night i think? he started texting me. he invited me out to like to eat, then we hanged out at some of the places at sch.
we talked abt what we talked abt relationships with another friend just yest and idk what is tripping with me.but i started imagining these delulu things of us together. right now, I'm inviting him out in a roundabout way to a place. yadayada.
he exercises and like goes to the gym and im like abit chubby not like very fat or obese but like seeing the post will u date a fat girl has like demoralised me to even try. im planning to exercise and work on my body but thats like a plan i had already before but i keep putting it off. i guess the motivation is there.
this is very messy but he reminds me of a guy who was previously very nice to me and we got very close. then he had found out abt my feelings before i found it out myself, then ghosted me without any warning. right now i know now so its easier to hide, but like i dont want to get hurt.
bro whats funny is that im failed a test and i have another test on mon. i should be focusing on studying to get a good gpa but ugh...
never thought that i would be falling in love again aft that bro.omg what should i do..
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we talked abt what we talked abt relationships with another friend just yest and idk what is tripping with me.but i started imagining these delulu things of us together. right now, I'm inviting him out in a roundabout way to a place. yadayada.
he exercises and like goes to the gym and im like abit chubby not like very fat or obese but like seeing the post will u date a fat girl has like demoralised me to even try. im planning to exercise and work on my body but thats like a plan i had already before but i keep putting it off. i guess the motivation is there.
this is very messy but he reminds me of a guy who was previously very nice to me and we got very close. then he had found out abt my feelings before i found it out myself, then ghosted me without any warning. right now i know now so its easier to hide, but like i dont want to get hurt.
bro whats funny is that im failed a test and i have another test on mon. i should be focusing on studying to get a good gpa but ugh...
never thought that i would be falling in love again aft that bro.omg what should i do..
2024.05.19 11:11 KitchenTasty8929 Mil overstepped/ emeshmemt
My husband and I started dating during Covid. We are both gamers, and had met through my brother who is a long time friend of his. They met once before.
My attraction was his voice, his personality and eventually finding out he was very handsome didn’t hurt either. We connected right away and fell in love. A year and a bit of disappointment, the border finally opened and we met in person.
The chemistry has been undeniably strong. He fell hard and so did I. I began to get excited at the idea of marrying him. Starting a life together. The works!
I visited him afterwards and met his family. He lives at home as he’s saving money and helps his mom a lot around the house and overall. She’s older (65+) and needs help a lot. She’s energetic and light hearted but also has a wicked streak.
I never anticipated this. When I met she was super sweet. It was his sister that gave me a hard time at first, which was difficult but I persevered regardless. His mother started as supportive, but as soon as I started discussing future plans, everything began to change.
Suddenly I was rushing things, my husband, life , etc. I was 25 when we dated and he was 23. We were younger but not THAT young. We both eagerly discussed marriage since week 2 of dating. We dated a year and a bit when I first met his family.
Every conversation with his sister or mom during the first year or two of dating revolved around my lack of education. They’re a degree family (teachers at a elementary school and pre-K) and looked down on me because I didn’t have one, so I decided to open up about my trauma and childhood to help them understand why I’m where I’m at in life, and that it’s actually way better than I could ever imagine.
I have my own place. I make good money at a corporate job I’ve been at for several years, and I travel frequently. I have a full life of friends and family of my own. I don’t talk to my mom because she was physically abusive until I was 17 and worse. His mom knows this.
I explained that we need a marriage based visa approval before I can legally move to his country (USA) from mine (Canada). Student visa is pricey and not ideal for future plans. I went through the process and it all over 20 times in length. Trying to get everyone to understand it was the best option to get married. They fought it HARD. I cried so much, so many times.
I had no idea why they were soiling on our goals and on me. My husband was so excited to get married, he knew what we needed to do. They actively tried to convince him not to do it but then helped him plan my engagement decorations and cake. His sister was annoyed by this, since it was hard to watch her younger brother grow up and as her own marriage was rocky at the time.
After we got married his mom started making comments only to me about how we have to “wait and see how it all goes after a year” implying we wouldn’t last that long. She constantly says stuff like this. Especially when we’re alone in the kitchen having what I thought was an open conversation.
She’s accused me of marrying him for a green card, of trying to rush our marriage to have babies, and trap him.
I have explained countless times my plan and our plan to wait for kids. Yes I’m older than him but we have goals before kids come that we want to achieve. Pair her general comments with her mean remarks whenever we mention future kids, and I just see someone trying to tear me down.
The worst thing she said is that she thinks if I got pregnant and my relationship with him fails, that I’ll “take the baby to Canada”. And that if things don’t work out before kids, I’ll be alone out here. Yeah.
Despite all this, I have always helped her and been nice. Even too nice.
Today was the straw that broke my camels proverbial back. I had helped her while she was really sick with what we found out to be COVID, for 2 weeks while I am visiting my husband before we fly away for our 1 year Anniversary trip. I made her home made soup, I cleaned her house, I checked on her. I made a custom recipe book for my Mother’s Day gift to her. I got her whole family to sign it after.
We haven’t celebrated due to her being sick. We were supposed today. My husband and I came back from a day out and she starts ranting about our sex life to him, and I am overhearing this from his room. She was talking about it in the open dining room randomly.
I had a private talk with her when she was at the end of her sickness, as my husband and I had some tense talks and I wanted to get insight. I had mentioned in passing that my iud strings were cut during a precancer cell removal surgery. That I was being careful but still worry for us sometimes, but that I’m taking precautions.
She didn’t say much besides “ oh that’s good! I’m glad to hear that”. Then she brings it up today, 4 days later. In front of my husband who in already discussed this with. She’s lying and saying I sounded unsure and scared, that we’re being careless and that she’s praying we don’t get pregnant. She tells him he should take mint pills, get a temporary vasectomy, and that I should get checked / scanned. That she doesn’t know if we’re compatible if we have tense talks lately and we may find out after living together FT. She said she wishes she could twist his balls, that she had a nightmare I got pregnant and “someone got hurt” but didn’t elaborate so as not to “call it into existence “ We’re just standing there stunned. She plays it off like she cares, but she’s just being so negative.
I levelled with her, assuring her I would take precautions once again. That her concern is real. Well shortly after we went to his room feeling good about hearing her out while talking. But then I hear his mom gossiping to his older sister. She barely looked at me after when I walked in. She was noticeably cold to me.
His mom was syrupy sweet to me. Saying we (her son and i) should go on a walk to enjoy the sunnny day! I cried the whole time asking him why she’s so mean, why she can’t trust us to be adults.
I cried so hard I skipped lunch and dinner, I had an anxiety attack. I couldn’t breathe, I’m disbelief at what I saw and heard today. It’s like nothing I did in the past 4 years and 1 year of marriage almost, mattered to her or made any impact.
My husband went up and talked to her, for a long time. He came down and spoke on her behalf, detailing how concerned she was for me and my health “stuff” and that it holds heavy on her heart. She doesn’t want us to go through worse (baby is worse?) and wanted to get her point across. That she loves me and accepts me as her own.
Well after I stopped sobbing, I texted her saying I was sorry for today and why stress I caused her with my words.
She texts back giving me shit for not “coming to her directly” as she felt it was important i hear what she said to her son too. That if she didn’t care she wouldn’t bring it up to us. That we will figure it out as we’re adults. Night night with heart emoji.
I texted back a big paragraph (like this post) reminding her that she wasn’t direct with me as she was talking to my husband about making sure I was on birth control, insinuating I’m lying about my IUD being effective. If I didn’t walk in the chat never would have happened. That she can’t expect me to come upstairs and hash it out if I’m so upset I can’t stop crying. That it’s unfair to put that on me after i was the bigger person and apologized to her tonight. She never said sorry to me directly.
My poor husband is in the middle, especially as he’s the youngest (27). I told him it’s time to move out and detach from the emotionally toxic relationship with his mom. He agrees.
He’s tried to leave a few times but she guilts him into staying. Today was the first day he saw her true colours towards me, he hated it!
Any support is appreciated and advice is valued!
TLDR; MIL chastised us about our private issues like sex
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My attraction was his voice, his personality and eventually finding out he was very handsome didn’t hurt either. We connected right away and fell in love. A year and a bit of disappointment, the border finally opened and we met in person.
The chemistry has been undeniably strong. He fell hard and so did I. I began to get excited at the idea of marrying him. Starting a life together. The works!
I visited him afterwards and met his family. He lives at home as he’s saving money and helps his mom a lot around the house and overall. She’s older (65+) and needs help a lot. She’s energetic and light hearted but also has a wicked streak.
I never anticipated this. When I met she was super sweet. It was his sister that gave me a hard time at first, which was difficult but I persevered regardless. His mother started as supportive, but as soon as I started discussing future plans, everything began to change.
Suddenly I was rushing things, my husband, life , etc. I was 25 when we dated and he was 23. We were younger but not THAT young. We both eagerly discussed marriage since week 2 of dating. We dated a year and a bit when I first met his family.
Every conversation with his sister or mom during the first year or two of dating revolved around my lack of education. They’re a degree family (teachers at a elementary school and pre-K) and looked down on me because I didn’t have one, so I decided to open up about my trauma and childhood to help them understand why I’m where I’m at in life, and that it’s actually way better than I could ever imagine.
I have my own place. I make good money at a corporate job I’ve been at for several years, and I travel frequently. I have a full life of friends and family of my own. I don’t talk to my mom because she was physically abusive until I was 17 and worse. His mom knows this.
I explained that we need a marriage based visa approval before I can legally move to his country (USA) from mine (Canada). Student visa is pricey and not ideal for future plans. I went through the process and it all over 20 times in length. Trying to get everyone to understand it was the best option to get married. They fought it HARD. I cried so much, so many times.
I had no idea why they were soiling on our goals and on me. My husband was so excited to get married, he knew what we needed to do. They actively tried to convince him not to do it but then helped him plan my engagement decorations and cake. His sister was annoyed by this, since it was hard to watch her younger brother grow up and as her own marriage was rocky at the time.
After we got married his mom started making comments only to me about how we have to “wait and see how it all goes after a year” implying we wouldn’t last that long. She constantly says stuff like this. Especially when we’re alone in the kitchen having what I thought was an open conversation.
She’s accused me of marrying him for a green card, of trying to rush our marriage to have babies, and trap him.
I have explained countless times my plan and our plan to wait for kids. Yes I’m older than him but we have goals before kids come that we want to achieve. Pair her general comments with her mean remarks whenever we mention future kids, and I just see someone trying to tear me down.
The worst thing she said is that she thinks if I got pregnant and my relationship with him fails, that I’ll “take the baby to Canada”. And that if things don’t work out before kids, I’ll be alone out here. Yeah.
Despite all this, I have always helped her and been nice. Even too nice.
Today was the straw that broke my camels proverbial back. I had helped her while she was really sick with what we found out to be COVID, for 2 weeks while I am visiting my husband before we fly away for our 1 year Anniversary trip. I made her home made soup, I cleaned her house, I checked on her. I made a custom recipe book for my Mother’s Day gift to her. I got her whole family to sign it after.
We haven’t celebrated due to her being sick. We were supposed today. My husband and I came back from a day out and she starts ranting about our sex life to him, and I am overhearing this from his room. She was talking about it in the open dining room randomly.
I had a private talk with her when she was at the end of her sickness, as my husband and I had some tense talks and I wanted to get insight. I had mentioned in passing that my iud strings were cut during a precancer cell removal surgery. That I was being careful but still worry for us sometimes, but that I’m taking precautions.
She didn’t say much besides “ oh that’s good! I’m glad to hear that”. Then she brings it up today, 4 days later. In front of my husband who in already discussed this with. She’s lying and saying I sounded unsure and scared, that we’re being careless and that she’s praying we don’t get pregnant. She tells him he should take mint pills, get a temporary vasectomy, and that I should get checked / scanned. That she doesn’t know if we’re compatible if we have tense talks lately and we may find out after living together FT. She said she wishes she could twist his balls, that she had a nightmare I got pregnant and “someone got hurt” but didn’t elaborate so as not to “call it into existence “ We’re just standing there stunned. She plays it off like she cares, but she’s just being so negative.
I levelled with her, assuring her I would take precautions once again. That her concern is real. Well shortly after we went to his room feeling good about hearing her out while talking. But then I hear his mom gossiping to his older sister. She barely looked at me after when I walked in. She was noticeably cold to me.
His mom was syrupy sweet to me. Saying we (her son and i) should go on a walk to enjoy the sunnny day! I cried the whole time asking him why she’s so mean, why she can’t trust us to be adults.
I cried so hard I skipped lunch and dinner, I had an anxiety attack. I couldn’t breathe, I’m disbelief at what I saw and heard today. It’s like nothing I did in the past 4 years and 1 year of marriage almost, mattered to her or made any impact.
My husband went up and talked to her, for a long time. He came down and spoke on her behalf, detailing how concerned she was for me and my health “stuff” and that it holds heavy on her heart. She doesn’t want us to go through worse (baby is worse?) and wanted to get her point across. That she loves me and accepts me as her own.
Well after I stopped sobbing, I texted her saying I was sorry for today and why stress I caused her with my words.
She texts back giving me shit for not “coming to her directly” as she felt it was important i hear what she said to her son too. That if she didn’t care she wouldn’t bring it up to us. That we will figure it out as we’re adults. Night night with heart emoji.
I texted back a big paragraph (like this post) reminding her that she wasn’t direct with me as she was talking to my husband about making sure I was on birth control, insinuating I’m lying about my IUD being effective. If I didn’t walk in the chat never would have happened. That she can’t expect me to come upstairs and hash it out if I’m so upset I can’t stop crying. That it’s unfair to put that on me after i was the bigger person and apologized to her tonight. She never said sorry to me directly.
My poor husband is in the middle, especially as he’s the youngest (27). I told him it’s time to move out and detach from the emotionally toxic relationship with his mom. He agrees.
He’s tried to leave a few times but she guilts him into staying. Today was the first day he saw her true colours towards me, he hated it!
Any support is appreciated and advice is valued!
TLDR; MIL chastised us about our private issues like sex
2024.05.19 11:11 Master-Confidence985 How do I stop being this way ?
I feel like i’m the dominant one in the relationship. He 19M never texts me any “miss you” “thinking about you” texts throughout the day , i always initiate us seeing eachother but he loves spending time with me , I always call and text first. It’s just like I know he loves me & he’s only romantic in person. It’s like why do i have to always be the romantic one when we are away from each other ???? I want to be the girl in the relationship and let him pursue me but i feel like if i stop our relationship is gonna be boring and Ill lose feelings. Am i just freaking out ?
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2024.05.19 11:10 NPCmillionaire Looking at next steps beyond dead internet, prison planet, matrix, synchronicities, and simulation theories. Bonus points if you're connected to the operators of reality.
Yes, I’m being serious with this post. Yes, I’m going to post this in more than once place.
Please note, I am trying something different and posting outside of the general conspiracy/woo subs. Rather than deleting this post, why not leave it, if only for your own amusement at the sort of responses it will generate? 😉
Upfront, in case someone actually real reads this post and doesn’t like my “NPCmillionaire” handle: I agree it may seem bot-like (especially with the profile image) and I debated on using this account again, but at least this one is aged and has some karma. Like you, I understand how usernames on Reddit a lot of the time mirror the content of the poster. It’s just another useless synchronicity in this subtle hell of a reality where we are trapped.
I am not going to make this too long. There is no point. Either someone real reads this or they do not. I won’t reply publicly unless it is a super compelling post. You are welcome to send me DMs and messages, but you really need to say something different to grab my attention. I am very numb to most conspiracy/woo since it goes absolutely no where, or at least that has been my experience so far.
That being said, I don’t have a problem learning new material if there is an eventual payoff. I would be happy to be corrected on my current belief system, which if you are interested in it, you are welcome to look at some of my older posts and see my mindset developing to where it is now. If the topics in my title are new to you, or you are just starting on this path, I wish you luck, but I’m not interested in discussing basics with anyone. I want to go to the next level.
I could say more, but why bother? Whoever is in control of reality knows exactly what it has been doing to me. Maybe reality has been doing the same to you? Endless, pointless synchronicities both online and in real life that go absolutely nowhere? I see them. So what’s next?
I have this part to maybe avoid the automods that I know I will run into: 075
submitted by NPCmillionaire to atheism [link] [comments]
Please note, I am trying something different and posting outside of the general conspiracy/woo subs. Rather than deleting this post, why not leave it, if only for your own amusement at the sort of responses it will generate? 😉
Upfront, in case someone actually real reads this post and doesn’t like my “NPCmillionaire” handle: I agree it may seem bot-like (especially with the profile image) and I debated on using this account again, but at least this one is aged and has some karma. Like you, I understand how usernames on Reddit a lot of the time mirror the content of the poster. It’s just another useless synchronicity in this subtle hell of a reality where we are trapped.
I am not going to make this too long. There is no point. Either someone real reads this or they do not. I won’t reply publicly unless it is a super compelling post. You are welcome to send me DMs and messages, but you really need to say something different to grab my attention. I am very numb to most conspiracy/woo since it goes absolutely no where, or at least that has been my experience so far.
That being said, I don’t have a problem learning new material if there is an eventual payoff. I would be happy to be corrected on my current belief system, which if you are interested in it, you are welcome to look at some of my older posts and see my mindset developing to where it is now. If the topics in my title are new to you, or you are just starting on this path, I wish you luck, but I’m not interested in discussing basics with anyone. I want to go to the next level.
I could say more, but why bother? Whoever is in control of reality knows exactly what it has been doing to me. Maybe reality has been doing the same to you? Endless, pointless synchronicities both online and in real life that go absolutely nowhere? I see them. So what’s next?
I have this part to maybe avoid the automods that I know I will run into: 075
2024.05.19 11:10 DravenDravenDraven22 [23/M] Europe - Looking for my someone 😊
Hey there! I am a 23 year old guy, and im looking for my special someone.
I am 190cm(6'3) tall, I have short black hair, hazel eyes. My hobbies are driving, working on my car, going to the gym, play video games, listen to music and watch YouTube videos, and also play with my dog too :D I go to university to be an IT Engineer and also work part time aswell.
I am a very cuddly person, very loyal, honest, and I like giving all of my attention to the person who's important for me. If we'd get closer, I'd love to spend all my freetime with you and chat/voice call a lot, and hopefully develop a long lasting relationship, and hopefully it'll turn to irl in the future.
I'm looking for a girl who's also cuddly, clingy, kind, sweet, and who'd also be a good Passenger Princess 😋
If you'd be interested in chatting and getting to know each other, send me a message :)
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I am 190cm(6'3) tall, I have short black hair, hazel eyes. My hobbies are driving, working on my car, going to the gym, play video games, listen to music and watch YouTube videos, and also play with my dog too :D I go to university to be an IT Engineer and also work part time aswell.
I am a very cuddly person, very loyal, honest, and I like giving all of my attention to the person who's important for me. If we'd get closer, I'd love to spend all my freetime with you and chat/voice call a lot, and hopefully develop a long lasting relationship, and hopefully it'll turn to irl in the future.
I'm looking for a girl who's also cuddly, clingy, kind, sweet, and who'd also be a good Passenger Princess 😋
If you'd be interested in chatting and getting to know each other, send me a message :)
2024.05.19 11:10 NPCmillionaire Looking at next steps beyond dead internet, prison planet, matrix, synchronicities, and simulation theories. Bonus points if you're connected to the operators of reality.
Yes, I’m being serious with this post. Yes, I’m going to post this in more than once place.
Please note, I am trying something different and posting outside of the general conspiracy/woo subs. Rather than deleting this post, why not leave it, if only for your own amusement at the sort of responses it will generate? 😉
Upfront, in case someone actually real reads this post and doesn’t like my “NPCmillionaire” handle: I agree it may seem bot-like (especially with the profile image) and I debated on using this account again, but at least this one is aged and has some karma. Like you, I understand how usernames on Reddit a lot of the time mirror the content of the poster. It’s just another useless synchronicity in this subtle hell of a reality where we are trapped.
I am not going to make this too long. There is no point. Either someone real reads this or they do not. I won’t reply publicly unless it is a super compelling post. You are welcome to send me DMs and messages, but you really need to say something different to grab my attention. I am very numb to most conspiracy/woo since it goes absolutely no where, or at least that has been my experience so far.
That being said, I don’t have a problem learning new material if there is an eventual payoff. I would be happy to be corrected on my current belief system, which if you are interested in it, you are welcome to look at some of my older posts and see my mindset developing to where it is now. If the topics in my title are new to you, or you are just starting on this path, I wish you luck, but I’m not interested in discussing basics with anyone. I want to go to the next level.
I could say more, but why bother? Whoever is in control of reality knows exactly what it has been doing to me. Maybe reality has been doing the same to you? Endless, pointless synchronicities both online and in real life that go absolutely nowhere? I see them. So what’s next?
I have this part to maybe avoid the automods that I know I will run into: 074
submitted by NPCmillionaire to horror [link] [comments]
Please note, I am trying something different and posting outside of the general conspiracy/woo subs. Rather than deleting this post, why not leave it, if only for your own amusement at the sort of responses it will generate? 😉
Upfront, in case someone actually real reads this post and doesn’t like my “NPCmillionaire” handle: I agree it may seem bot-like (especially with the profile image) and I debated on using this account again, but at least this one is aged and has some karma. Like you, I understand how usernames on Reddit a lot of the time mirror the content of the poster. It’s just another useless synchronicity in this subtle hell of a reality where we are trapped.
I am not going to make this too long. There is no point. Either someone real reads this or they do not. I won’t reply publicly unless it is a super compelling post. You are welcome to send me DMs and messages, but you really need to say something different to grab my attention. I am very numb to most conspiracy/woo since it goes absolutely no where, or at least that has been my experience so far.
That being said, I don’t have a problem learning new material if there is an eventual payoff. I would be happy to be corrected on my current belief system, which if you are interested in it, you are welcome to look at some of my older posts and see my mindset developing to where it is now. If the topics in my title are new to you, or you are just starting on this path, I wish you luck, but I’m not interested in discussing basics with anyone. I want to go to the next level.
I could say more, but why bother? Whoever is in control of reality knows exactly what it has been doing to me. Maybe reality has been doing the same to you? Endless, pointless synchronicities both online and in real life that go absolutely nowhere? I see them. So what’s next?
I have this part to maybe avoid the automods that I know I will run into: 074
2024.05.19 11:09 OpinionSpecific9529 Returning my ESR Geo Wallet (Halolock)
 | Based on suggestions, I got the ESR wallet and the first thing I noticed when I held the box was Man, it’s heavy. submitted by OpinionSpecific9529 to MagSafe [link] [comments] I thought maybe it’s because of the box and other components, but when I opened it and held it in my hand, it still felt heavy. I thought, okay, let’s use it and maybe I’ll get used to it. Look-wise, it looked good. I added it to my Find My and snapped it onto the back of my 15 Pro Max and boy, it made my iPhone heavy that I could really feel it. The Find My feature and alert sound to locate it are a joke, in my opinion. The alert sound is so low that I have to bring it near my ear to actually hear it. And the Find My feature is a whole other issue... According to the manual, the wallet turns off after 10 minutes if it’s not connected to the device and Find My won’t work when it’s off. So how the hell am I supposed to find it? I had a conversation with their customer care, and they politely said, This is how it is. If you’re not satisfied, you can return it for a full refund! Below is their response (they were responsive and polite) “If you lose your Geo Wallet, you can choose one of the following methods to find it according to different situations:
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2024.05.19 11:09 theoversensitvebitch WIBTA if I break contacts with my online bestie who lied to me?
This will be long. I (17F) recently gotta know that Joe (20F), my online bsf, lied to me. No names I mention are their real names. We have known each other for roughly 2 months. Joe has drunk texted me 2 times. The 1st time, Joe had gone out with her school friends and came back being heavily drunk. We texted and Joe told me some things about her school friends. The 2nd time, Joe told me beforehand that she may get drunk because her school friends will force her to drink again. Joe texted me again, and she wasn't very drunk that time. Now, just 2 days ago, Joe confessed that she lied and that she is only in contact with one female bestie (Katie) from her school. The first time, Joe and Katie went for a walk and asked to buy Katie a can of beer which Joe drank after returning home because no one was there. The 2nd time too, Joe had bought a can of beer and just had 4-5 sips. Even in her drunken state, Joe lied so skillfully. Now, these drunken talks of us (especially the 1st drunk talk) were so special to me, she opened herself to me (it must be a deceive too). Joe even sent me pics of a food plate with a glass of beer kept proving that she went out with her friends, but now I gotta know, that pics were from a party she attended long back with her parents, and that alcohol glass was of her Dad's. I feel betrayed so much. And I can't talk with her normally now. I feel like she must be laughing at me. She made a big fool out of me. Joe said that she isn't in contact with her school friends anymore 'cause she had once accidentally heard them that they were just using Joe for her money (Joe used to spend a lot of money on her school friends that time). Currently, Joe acts like we are normal, I have a gut feeling that if I try to tell her how much this affected me, she will end up saying things like 'Why are you taking this seriously?' or something like that. I have depression, and am also 10 days clean (ykwim). I have huge trust issues and hate when someone lies to me, especially Joe's reason for lying was 'I just like to imagine myself with my school friends'. I am thinking of just stopping everything here because now I can't even believe any of her words. Even her caring words make me think that she must be mocking me. She doesn't like it if I get jealous of her friends, so I stopped mentioning it. I am quite possessive for my closed ones, and she hates it so I control that too. But after this confession, I can't believe her, and once someone breaks my trust, I don't believe that person anymore. So, I think I should just finish it off or should I just be friends for now? I am afraid she will start blaming herself (she does this) and then say some things which make me weak. (P.S.: Before this confession of Joe's, something happened, and we weren't in a good term.)
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2024.05.19 11:09 pine13 Thoughts on TAC Ending
So I just finished the book and wanted to offer my thoughts on the somewhat confusing ending that occurred. I’m not stating these as fact, just how I interpreted the events.
Spoilers ahead (I don’t know how to block spoilers on mobile so forgive me!)
>! saw some people questioning why the Atlas Six didn’t just kill Dalton to appease the archives, especially after he “snapped.” I was thinking that killing Dalton would be the solution too, but I realized that he technically isn’t one of the six in their cohort, so it might not count.!<
I also think to solve the issue of owing the archives a body, Nico died bc he was objectively the only person in the cohort that everyone liked to a certain degree (Reina just wouldn’t admit it until too late) and Libby knew the archives would want a BIG sacrifice (something something about the arrow striking most true). Parisa almost offered herself up to be slaughtered, and it probably could’ve worked, but it wouldn’t have been as heavy to the characters so the archives wouldn’t have gotten as much out of it. I do feel like if Nico was the one to be sacrificed, then it could’ve been done in a vastly different way. I still can’t decide if Libby went into the experiment knowing she would probably kill him, or if she was so confident it would work until it didnt that she had to make a snap judgement. I don’t think she truly hated him, every character suffers from unreliable narrating and we have to draw a lot of their true feelings from their interactions with other characters.
Libby is a nuke gaining speed and heading for destruction, and after killing Ezra and Atlas, Parisa can see that Libby is filled with the sure fire determination of a despot, someone who thinks they’re so right they’ll betray whoever is in their way because they assume their way is the best way. She goes a little mad and paranoid, and it’s a tragedy because it takes killing her soulmate to make her stop. If she hadn’t, she would just become another Ezra, or Atlas, or Nothazai, which is why Parisa wanted to kill her.
And I think the reason we see Nico in Gideon’s dream realm is that the archives preserved some of Nico’s magic and “essence” (Dalton alluded to the archives making copies of them) and that is who Gideon sees. Gideon compares this version of Nico to previous times he’s s hung out with Nico in dreams and sees that this is something different. So in a way, I think Nico is living on.
The appearance of Callum’s hair in the security cameras has me a little stumped: I think that could be read several ways. I initially thought that it was Callum walking into Wessex building bc of the exaggerated swagger and confidence (and sunglasses) the character possessed. And the way Tristan was speaking to James, I then assumed it was Callum disguised as Tristan via a charm. I now think Callum’s personality has just rubbed off on him.
I thought that perhaps Tristan had chosen a timeline where Callum lived, and we see Callum backing him up in the building by cutting the cameras, but that doesn’t seem like Callum’s style. I feel like he would make himself more apparent. That whole multiverse part during Tristan’s chapter honestly just told me that worlds exist where in some capacity these characters are happy(happier) so even if Callum is truly dead in this timeline then…at least there’s that small comfort. But yeah I still don’t know. Ghost?
Parish’s relationship with her husband confused me. I’m unsure of the dynamic- I thought he abused her, but he also really loved her and Parisa regretted that she couldn’t return those feelings? I could be very wrong on that observation, from the first books I thought Parisa greatly disliked him but to me, this book says she still harbors feelings for him. I might’ve missed some nuance there, or such complexity might not exist…if anyone has any further clarification, plz lemme know.
I also think, after reading the afterword, that the “point” of these characters’ arcs is largely about dealing with the corruption that comes with the pursuit of power, and realizing that chasing that power doesn’t make you any bigger than anyone else. All of them hold lofty ideals and expectations of themselves (even past the depression and self loathing) that have only grown and grown as the books progress, but this last act basically sees all of them fail where it matters most. They are brought low by their own hubris and lack of communication, and the relationships they cherish most suffer because of it. There are a lot of themes regarding the futility of doing so much to change the world, and these guys have sacrificed so much to do that and reach their potential. But in the end, they’re just small, lonely creatures who need eachother. Reina’s arc expressed this most clearly, by her depending on Callum to influence people, and anguish at losing Nico before they could reconcile. But also, her whole story fell flat in this book to me…she was very underutilized. Tristan is similar as he laments always standing by to witness tragedy unfolding and doing nothing to stop it (ie he witnessed Ezra and Atlas dying, Nico, and finally Callum.)
Some people definitely could’ve been more fleshed out (namely Dalton imo) but I enjoyed the interludes where we got to see more of Atlas’ past. Ilegit hadn’t clocked that he was dead until it was explicitly stated near the end. I thought he would appear to yell at everyone to work together…but he’s lowkey the most tragic one of all.
. Out of the three in the series, this is my least favorite book, but there were still moments I thoroughly enjoyed (honestly anytime Tristan and Callum interacted). I wish there was more to tighten up some of the big loose ends. I think the first two acts can be saved, but the last portion got sloppy.
But what do you think? And what other big questions are you left with?
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Spoilers ahead (I don’t know how to block spoilers on mobile so forgive me!)
>! saw some people questioning why the Atlas Six didn’t just kill Dalton to appease the archives, especially after he “snapped.” I was thinking that killing Dalton would be the solution too, but I realized that he technically isn’t one of the six in their cohort, so it might not count.!<
I also think to solve the issue of owing the archives a body, Nico died bc he was objectively the only person in the cohort that everyone liked to a certain degree (Reina just wouldn’t admit it until too late) and Libby knew the archives would want a BIG sacrifice (something something about the arrow striking most true). Parisa almost offered herself up to be slaughtered, and it probably could’ve worked, but it wouldn’t have been as heavy to the characters so the archives wouldn’t have gotten as much out of it. I do feel like if Nico was the one to be sacrificed, then it could’ve been done in a vastly different way. I still can’t decide if Libby went into the experiment knowing she would probably kill him, or if she was so confident it would work until it didnt that she had to make a snap judgement. I don’t think she truly hated him, every character suffers from unreliable narrating and we have to draw a lot of their true feelings from their interactions with other characters.
Libby is a nuke gaining speed and heading for destruction, and after killing Ezra and Atlas, Parisa can see that Libby is filled with the sure fire determination of a despot, someone who thinks they’re so right they’ll betray whoever is in their way because they assume their way is the best way. She goes a little mad and paranoid, and it’s a tragedy because it takes killing her soulmate to make her stop. If she hadn’t, she would just become another Ezra, or Atlas, or Nothazai, which is why Parisa wanted to kill her.
And I think the reason we see Nico in Gideon’s dream realm is that the archives preserved some of Nico’s magic and “essence” (Dalton alluded to the archives making copies of them) and that is who Gideon sees. Gideon compares this version of Nico to previous times he’s s hung out with Nico in dreams and sees that this is something different. So in a way, I think Nico is living on.
The appearance of Callum’s hair in the security cameras has me a little stumped: I think that could be read several ways. I initially thought that it was Callum walking into Wessex building bc of the exaggerated swagger and confidence (and sunglasses) the character possessed. And the way Tristan was speaking to James, I then assumed it was Callum disguised as Tristan via a charm. I now think Callum’s personality has just rubbed off on him.
I thought that perhaps Tristan had chosen a timeline where Callum lived, and we see Callum backing him up in the building by cutting the cameras, but that doesn’t seem like Callum’s style. I feel like he would make himself more apparent. That whole multiverse part during Tristan’s chapter honestly just told me that worlds exist where in some capacity these characters are happy(happier) so even if Callum is truly dead in this timeline then…at least there’s that small comfort. But yeah I still don’t know. Ghost?
Parish’s relationship with her husband confused me. I’m unsure of the dynamic- I thought he abused her, but he also really loved her and Parisa regretted that she couldn’t return those feelings? I could be very wrong on that observation, from the first books I thought Parisa greatly disliked him but to me, this book says she still harbors feelings for him. I might’ve missed some nuance there, or such complexity might not exist…if anyone has any further clarification, plz lemme know.
I also think, after reading the afterword, that the “point” of these characters’ arcs is largely about dealing with the corruption that comes with the pursuit of power, and realizing that chasing that power doesn’t make you any bigger than anyone else. All of them hold lofty ideals and expectations of themselves (even past the depression and self loathing) that have only grown and grown as the books progress, but this last act basically sees all of them fail where it matters most. They are brought low by their own hubris and lack of communication, and the relationships they cherish most suffer because of it. There are a lot of themes regarding the futility of doing so much to change the world, and these guys have sacrificed so much to do that and reach their potential. But in the end, they’re just small, lonely creatures who need eachother. Reina’s arc expressed this most clearly, by her depending on Callum to influence people, and anguish at losing Nico before they could reconcile. But also, her whole story fell flat in this book to me…she was very underutilized. Tristan is similar as he laments always standing by to witness tragedy unfolding and doing nothing to stop it (ie he witnessed Ezra and Atlas dying, Nico, and finally Callum.)
Some people definitely could’ve been more fleshed out (namely Dalton imo) but I enjoyed the interludes where we got to see more of Atlas’ past. Ilegit hadn’t clocked that he was dead until it was explicitly stated near the end. I thought he would appear to yell at everyone to work together…but he’s lowkey the most tragic one of all.
. Out of the three in the series, this is my least favorite book, but there were still moments I thoroughly enjoyed (honestly anytime Tristan and Callum interacted). I wish there was more to tighten up some of the big loose ends. I think the first two acts can be saved, but the last portion got sloppy.
But what do you think? And what other big questions are you left with?
2024.05.19 11:09 tsfasma How to stop being late if it is ruining your marriage
I've been late my whole life, I know some people with adhd somehow manage to be super early, but that has never been me. I just really underestimate how much time everything takes, loose track of time and just forget about appointments even if I checked my calendar in the morning or have it right in front of me on a postit. The only possible way so far is being in a complete freeze mode the whole day before the appointment and just repeat it in my head again and again, but then Im in this horrible self-hatred state the whole day.
My husband is extremely affected by things not going to plan, and he told me again and again how much it hurts him. Not even the part of being there on time but even leaving home at a certain time really matters to him. He never asks me things and I think I never realised how much it affected him, so I really want to be better.
The other day we had a workshop planned and I really wanted to be there on time, set reminders, put it on postit notes, but again, lost track of time and was late. My husband didn't mind much this time, because he also lost track of time, but I still can't forgive myself for this. Today I saw this reel on Instagram saying "If you keep saying them to stop doing it because it's hurting you, and they keep doing it - they don't love you", which sent me down a complete self-hate spiral. Like I know this hurts my husband and I still can't be to places on time. I don't think I can love him the way he deserves to be loved. And I bloody love him so much!!
Crying while typing this, but can't talk to my husband about this because what if my extreme reaction makes him stop bringing up things that hurt him (and he does have a tendency to shut down and not share emotional side of things), and really he's the victim here and not me. It's not like he's divorcing me either, he's trying to manage it from his side by calling me and sending me reminders before an event (I love him for this, but if Im hyperfixated I won't look at my phone until it's too late). If I was him I would divorce myself because why would you be married to a person that keeps hurting you, and I really have no way of being on time to things.
Sorry for a long post, but do you have any tips for being on time to things and not have it derail your life or having to go to a self-hate spiral? Also does it trigger you immensely when people say being late is a sign of disrespect? Like if they knew what's going on in my head while I'm running late they'd realise that I really value them and their time and would be on time if I could..
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My husband is extremely affected by things not going to plan, and he told me again and again how much it hurts him. Not even the part of being there on time but even leaving home at a certain time really matters to him. He never asks me things and I think I never realised how much it affected him, so I really want to be better.
The other day we had a workshop planned and I really wanted to be there on time, set reminders, put it on postit notes, but again, lost track of time and was late. My husband didn't mind much this time, because he also lost track of time, but I still can't forgive myself for this. Today I saw this reel on Instagram saying "If you keep saying them to stop doing it because it's hurting you, and they keep doing it - they don't love you", which sent me down a complete self-hate spiral. Like I know this hurts my husband and I still can't be to places on time. I don't think I can love him the way he deserves to be loved. And I bloody love him so much!!
Crying while typing this, but can't talk to my husband about this because what if my extreme reaction makes him stop bringing up things that hurt him (and he does have a tendency to shut down and not share emotional side of things), and really he's the victim here and not me. It's not like he's divorcing me either, he's trying to manage it from his side by calling me and sending me reminders before an event (I love him for this, but if Im hyperfixated I won't look at my phone until it's too late). If I was him I would divorce myself because why would you be married to a person that keeps hurting you, and I really have no way of being on time to things.
Sorry for a long post, but do you have any tips for being on time to things and not have it derail your life or having to go to a self-hate spiral? Also does it trigger you immensely when people say being late is a sign of disrespect? Like if they knew what's going on in my head while I'm running late they'd realise that I really value them and their time and would be on time if I could..
2024.05.19 11:08 Ropo040107 grenade vaulting game any one?
 | If you can, please send a video of you vaulting over the counter in training room, sort of like gymnastics(idk if it’s possible but it’s funny) and who ever has the best clip, was able to actually do it or the the had the highest likely chance of vaulting over it, wins!!! submitted by Ropo040107 to ArenaBreakoutGlobal [link] [comments] |
2024.05.19 11:08 Either_Instance9869 the date from hell
Ok so I (f28) went on this date with a guy (m30) i met on a dating app. Everything seemed pretty normal when we were chatting online, and he seemed like a decent guy. We decided to meet up at this cozy little cafe for coffee. i was a bit nervous but excited too, you know?
so, we meet up, he looks a bit different from his pics but nothing too shocking. we start talking and things are going okay, not amazing chemistry but hey, it's just the first date. then he excuses himself to go to the bathroom. Fine, no big deal.
he comes back and sits down, and i notice he’s holding his hands really weird. Like, he's keeping them under the table and being super awkward. I try to ignore it and keep the convo going, but it’s just strange. Eventually, he lifts his hands up and puts them on the table and I KID YOU NOT, there is literal shit on his hands. I froze, completely horrified.
I asked him what happened, trying to stay calm but my voice was definitely shaking. He looks at me, completely nonchalant, and says he had an "accident" in the bathroom and couldn't clean it off properly. Like, dude, why would you even come back to the table like that???
I was so freaked out, I just grabbed my stuff and walked out without saying another word. He started calling after me but there was no way I was sticking around to hear any more of his excuses. I got home and blocked him immediately on everything.
My friends think this is the craziest thing they’ve ever heard and honestly, I’m still in shock. Like, what would you guys have done in this situation? Was I overreacting by just walking out?
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so, we meet up, he looks a bit different from his pics but nothing too shocking. we start talking and things are going okay, not amazing chemistry but hey, it's just the first date. then he excuses himself to go to the bathroom. Fine, no big deal.
he comes back and sits down, and i notice he’s holding his hands really weird. Like, he's keeping them under the table and being super awkward. I try to ignore it and keep the convo going, but it’s just strange. Eventually, he lifts his hands up and puts them on the table and I KID YOU NOT, there is literal shit on his hands. I froze, completely horrified.
I asked him what happened, trying to stay calm but my voice was definitely shaking. He looks at me, completely nonchalant, and says he had an "accident" in the bathroom and couldn't clean it off properly. Like, dude, why would you even come back to the table like that???
I was so freaked out, I just grabbed my stuff and walked out without saying another word. He started calling after me but there was no way I was sticking around to hear any more of his excuses. I got home and blocked him immediately on everything.
My friends think this is the craziest thing they’ve ever heard and honestly, I’m still in shock. Like, what would you guys have done in this situation? Was I overreacting by just walking out?
2024.05.19 11:08 NPCmillionaire Looking at next steps beyond dead internet, prison planet, matrix, synchronicities, and simulation theories. Bonus points if you're connected to the operators of reality.
Yes, I’m being serious with this post. Yes, I’m going to post this in more than once place.
Please note, I am trying something different and posting outside of the general conspiracy/woo subs. Rather than deleting this post, why not leave it, if only for your own amusement at the sort of responses it will generate? 😉
Upfront, in case someone actually real reads this post and doesn’t like my “NPCmillionaire” handle: I agree it may seem bot-like (especially with the profile image) and I debated on using this account again, but at least this one is aged and has some karma. Like you, I understand how usernames on Reddit a lot of the time mirror the content of the poster. It’s just another useless synchronicity in this subtle hell of a reality where we are trapped.
I am not going to make this too long. There is no point. Either someone real reads this or they do not. I won’t reply publicly unless it is a super compelling post. You are welcome to send me DMs and messages, but you really need to say something different to grab my attention. I am very numb to most conspiracy/woo since it goes absolutely no where, or at least that has been my experience so far.
That being said, I don’t have a problem learning new material if there is an eventual payoff. I would be happy to be corrected on my current belief system, which if you are interested in it, you are welcome to look at some of my older posts and see my mindset developing to where it is now. If the topics in my title are new to you, or you are just starting on this path, I wish you luck, but I’m not interested in discussing basics with anyone. I want to go to the next level.
I could say more, but why bother? Whoever is in control of reality knows exactly what it has been doing to me. Maybe reality has been doing the same to you? Endless, pointless synchronicities both online and in real life that go absolutely nowhere? I see them. So what’s next?
I have this part to maybe avoid the automods that I know I will run into: 071
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Please note, I am trying something different and posting outside of the general conspiracy/woo subs. Rather than deleting this post, why not leave it, if only for your own amusement at the sort of responses it will generate? 😉
Upfront, in case someone actually real reads this post and doesn’t like my “NPCmillionaire” handle: I agree it may seem bot-like (especially with the profile image) and I debated on using this account again, but at least this one is aged and has some karma. Like you, I understand how usernames on Reddit a lot of the time mirror the content of the poster. It’s just another useless synchronicity in this subtle hell of a reality where we are trapped.
I am not going to make this too long. There is no point. Either someone real reads this or they do not. I won’t reply publicly unless it is a super compelling post. You are welcome to send me DMs and messages, but you really need to say something different to grab my attention. I am very numb to most conspiracy/woo since it goes absolutely no where, or at least that has been my experience so far.
That being said, I don’t have a problem learning new material if there is an eventual payoff. I would be happy to be corrected on my current belief system, which if you are interested in it, you are welcome to look at some of my older posts and see my mindset developing to where it is now. If the topics in my title are new to you, or you are just starting on this path, I wish you luck, but I’m not interested in discussing basics with anyone. I want to go to the next level.
I could say more, but why bother? Whoever is in control of reality knows exactly what it has been doing to me. Maybe reality has been doing the same to you? Endless, pointless synchronicities both online and in real life that go absolutely nowhere? I see them. So what’s next?
I have this part to maybe avoid the automods that I know I will run into: 071
2024.05.19 11:06 Tough_Nose2206 Some Thoughts on Knife of Dreams after finishing it (WoT book 11)
I finished this book in around 5/6 days.
RJ went out with a high!
Wow. So many great moments and storylines in this book, storylines being resolved even! All great except a few chapters of Elayne in the middle of the book. RJ is back to his old form, with great characterisation and stuff happens for once!?! Unbelievable.
You can really feel the story torpedoing to Tarmon Gai’don, I can’t wait.
Here are some thoughts on this book:
Nynaeve
Nynaeve loves, trusts, and feels for Lan so much; I can’t help but tear when she rallies for Malkier. Favourite scene of the whole series personally, involving my favourite characters.
“My husband rides from World’s End to Tarwin’s Gap, toward Tarmon Gai’don. Will he ride alone?
CHILLS!!!
Also, give me more Nynaeve, she needs more page time.
Perrin
Great ending to a sometimes lacking storyline (just Faile’s PoV), and it has ended with Perrin ready for the time ahead with his beloved and the shaido finally disappeared, forever hopefully.
Perrin was so blind to everything but Faile this book. Ignoring the signs of Tarmon Gai’don for the one he loves. This obviously isn’t healthy, but I understand him; his whole family died and she is the one who filled the gaps in his heart, if she died I doubt Perrin would ever recover from it.
I guess Aram isn’t a darkfriend as I previously speculated, just a man who is very susceptible to being manipulated. An abrupt ending to someone who got introduced in the first book, and later become a reoccurring character. His descent was quite tragic though; died trying to kill the man who helped him get back on his feet many times over just because of one man’s manipulation. Fuck Masema.
Rolan and the other two brotherless’ death was unjustified but I can’t blame Perrin for killing him. Adrenaline pumping through his veins and he sees 3 men standing between him and his wife. It was bound to end in blood. However, while Rolan was a bit of a creep at times he didn’t deserve to die like that after helping Faile. Now that I think about it though, he was sort of trying to steal her from Perrin, Rolan’s death was inevitable.
Tam finally learned that Rand is the dragon reborn, after I think around 3 years. I would have expected he would know by now, but I guess the two rivers is notorious for being secluded and only getting information from peddlers.
Perrin and seanchan captain has a quite nice mutual respect for each other, another bridge to seanchan relations has been built.
After all these deaths, failures, and triumphs, Perrin and Faile are finally reunited! I am interested to see where the story goes with them, maybe they will go after Masema?
Mat
Mat is always an enjoyable read, and now he has accepted that he can’t escape his luck and the battlefield, Mat now just tries to work out a way to make as little people die as possible.
I have to talk about Moiraine first of course. She is confirmed to be alive, which I hoped for and expected. However, didn’t expect it to take this many books. I have been waiting to long for this, I missed her so much and I am excited for her to be back hopefully soon.
Mat and Tuon are my second favourite couple so far, after Nynaeve and Lan, they have a great dynamic!
From the start Mat knew that he would marry Tuon, but she was slowly deciphering whether this man was truly who she would marry. She did ask many seemingly random questions which was a big giveaway. The build up was worth it though, she completely confuses Mat by doing it out of the blue and revealing her prophecies from her damane. Hilarious moment!
I feel Tuon growing on me but then I remember that she agrees with slavery and leashing those who can channel. I am conflicted on her, but maybe she will change. We have a love-hate relationship.
Mat, please just go free Moiraine already. Please.
Rand
While he hasn’t had the spotlight for a few books, his chapters are always full of major plot points and revelations which are always great.
Lews Therin is creeping in like a parasite, taking control of the power and Rand even confuses his thoughts with Lews Therin. One lack of control and that could be it for Min or others around him. Disturbing thoughts.
One minute I was watching a lovely wedding between Loial and Erith, the next there is thousands of trollocs outside the window. The juxtaposition is crazy.
The new weaves are really powerful, it can’t be nice for random dead trollocs to appear outside your house though.
Did Semirhage expect to defeat Rand? I think there is some other plot she has. Semirhage went down too easy for that to be her only plan. Potentially trying she is trying manipulate his allies to go to the shadow. Or like many of the forsaken are just arrogant.
Hoping that Rand gets his hand back, I loved Rands swordplay and It will absolutely cause issues. Surely he can use the power to create a fake hand.
Breaks my heart, to see Rand so calm after all he goes through. Poor guy. Cadsuane needs to teach Rand to feel again and quickly!
Seanchan truce incoming. Rand will now see what Mat has been up to while he has been battling the forsaken.
Egwene
Thoroughly enjoyed her political manoeuvrings around the white tower, slowly planting seeds of dissent between the different layers of aes sedai. Egwene is great at scheming and manipulation; she is a genius. Not the best person though.
I have a lot of respect for Egwene. Multiple strappings a day, and she carries on twisting the aes sedai, what a powerhouse!
Egwene is consistently interesting to me, I think she will play a big part over the next few books.
Elayne
Elayne was great late in the book, while lacking a bit at the start.
She was overconfident this book, just because she won’t die any time soon (min’s viewing) doesn’t mean she can’t be captured. It was very reckless to just burst into the BA’s house and expect to live.
I loved Vandene getting her revenge on Careane, what a way to go, her short storyline was amazing. Amazing but tragic.
I found it weird how an aes sedai sent by Elaida just stormed in, said Elayne would regret sending her away and ran off. There had to be something larger going on with her.
Problem after problem kept pilling up, but she dealt with them with resilience and it somewhat worked out. A true queen if I ever saw one.
Other
Rand has caused a whole civilisation to kill themselves. Let’s hope he never finds that out. This was a really horrifying moment, left my mouth open for a while.
Taim is not a forsaken, but just a very high ranking dark friend it seems. He must be very high ranking to know about the lord of chaos. What if he is a newly raised forsaken? Only the forsaken know about the lord of chaos, not regular dark friends. I don’t know how one would raise a darkfriend though, does it come with new abilities or just being closer to the dark one?
RJ is great at the small details however he doesn’t touch upon the slavery stuff, which I find weird. Could just be me though.
Overall
This book ends so many dragging storylines, I can’t wait for the next!
I’m sad this is the last Robert Jordan book, but I’ve heard that Brandon ended it well, I watched a few videos on him and read his eulogy on RJ and he seems very kind and admires RJ a lot. I don’t know how his writing style is though, maybe someone can give me an idea of how it compares to RJ?
It is tragic RJ couldn’t finish his series by himself though, but glad someone was found to finish it.
just don’t mess up Nynaeve Brandon!
I probably missed a lot of plot points but I didn’t want this to be too long, and I want to read the next book already.
Book ranking so far - very susceptible to changing:
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RJ went out with a high!
Wow. So many great moments and storylines in this book, storylines being resolved even! All great except a few chapters of Elayne in the middle of the book. RJ is back to his old form, with great characterisation and stuff happens for once!?! Unbelievable.
You can really feel the story torpedoing to Tarmon Gai’don, I can’t wait.
Here are some thoughts on this book:
Nynaeve
Nynaeve loves, trusts, and feels for Lan so much; I can’t help but tear when she rallies for Malkier. Favourite scene of the whole series personally, involving my favourite characters.
“My husband rides from World’s End to Tarwin’s Gap, toward Tarmon Gai’don. Will he ride alone?
CHILLS!!!
Also, give me more Nynaeve, she needs more page time.
Perrin
Great ending to a sometimes lacking storyline (just Faile’s PoV), and it has ended with Perrin ready for the time ahead with his beloved and the shaido finally disappeared, forever hopefully.
Perrin was so blind to everything but Faile this book. Ignoring the signs of Tarmon Gai’don for the one he loves. This obviously isn’t healthy, but I understand him; his whole family died and she is the one who filled the gaps in his heart, if she died I doubt Perrin would ever recover from it.
I guess Aram isn’t a darkfriend as I previously speculated, just a man who is very susceptible to being manipulated. An abrupt ending to someone who got introduced in the first book, and later become a reoccurring character. His descent was quite tragic though; died trying to kill the man who helped him get back on his feet many times over just because of one man’s manipulation. Fuck Masema.
Rolan and the other two brotherless’ death was unjustified but I can’t blame Perrin for killing him. Adrenaline pumping through his veins and he sees 3 men standing between him and his wife. It was bound to end in blood. However, while Rolan was a bit of a creep at times he didn’t deserve to die like that after helping Faile. Now that I think about it though, he was sort of trying to steal her from Perrin, Rolan’s death was inevitable.
Tam finally learned that Rand is the dragon reborn, after I think around 3 years. I would have expected he would know by now, but I guess the two rivers is notorious for being secluded and only getting information from peddlers.
Perrin and seanchan captain has a quite nice mutual respect for each other, another bridge to seanchan relations has been built.
After all these deaths, failures, and triumphs, Perrin and Faile are finally reunited! I am interested to see where the story goes with them, maybe they will go after Masema?
Mat
Mat is always an enjoyable read, and now he has accepted that he can’t escape his luck and the battlefield, Mat now just tries to work out a way to make as little people die as possible.
I have to talk about Moiraine first of course. She is confirmed to be alive, which I hoped for and expected. However, didn’t expect it to take this many books. I have been waiting to long for this, I missed her so much and I am excited for her to be back hopefully soon.
Mat and Tuon are my second favourite couple so far, after Nynaeve and Lan, they have a great dynamic!
From the start Mat knew that he would marry Tuon, but she was slowly deciphering whether this man was truly who she would marry. She did ask many seemingly random questions which was a big giveaway. The build up was worth it though, she completely confuses Mat by doing it out of the blue and revealing her prophecies from her damane. Hilarious moment!
I feel Tuon growing on me but then I remember that she agrees with slavery and leashing those who can channel. I am conflicted on her, but maybe she will change. We have a love-hate relationship.
Mat, please just go free Moiraine already. Please.
Rand
While he hasn’t had the spotlight for a few books, his chapters are always full of major plot points and revelations which are always great.
Lews Therin is creeping in like a parasite, taking control of the power and Rand even confuses his thoughts with Lews Therin. One lack of control and that could be it for Min or others around him. Disturbing thoughts.
One minute I was watching a lovely wedding between Loial and Erith, the next there is thousands of trollocs outside the window. The juxtaposition is crazy.
The new weaves are really powerful, it can’t be nice for random dead trollocs to appear outside your house though.
Did Semirhage expect to defeat Rand? I think there is some other plot she has. Semirhage went down too easy for that to be her only plan. Potentially trying she is trying manipulate his allies to go to the shadow. Or like many of the forsaken are just arrogant.
Hoping that Rand gets his hand back, I loved Rands swordplay and It will absolutely cause issues. Surely he can use the power to create a fake hand.
Breaks my heart, to see Rand so calm after all he goes through. Poor guy. Cadsuane needs to teach Rand to feel again and quickly!
Seanchan truce incoming. Rand will now see what Mat has been up to while he has been battling the forsaken.
Egwene
Thoroughly enjoyed her political manoeuvrings around the white tower, slowly planting seeds of dissent between the different layers of aes sedai. Egwene is great at scheming and manipulation; she is a genius. Not the best person though.
I have a lot of respect for Egwene. Multiple strappings a day, and she carries on twisting the aes sedai, what a powerhouse!
Egwene is consistently interesting to me, I think she will play a big part over the next few books.
Elayne
Elayne was great late in the book, while lacking a bit at the start.
She was overconfident this book, just because she won’t die any time soon (min’s viewing) doesn’t mean she can’t be captured. It was very reckless to just burst into the BA’s house and expect to live.
I loved Vandene getting her revenge on Careane, what a way to go, her short storyline was amazing. Amazing but tragic.
I found it weird how an aes sedai sent by Elaida just stormed in, said Elayne would regret sending her away and ran off. There had to be something larger going on with her.
Problem after problem kept pilling up, but she dealt with them with resilience and it somewhat worked out. A true queen if I ever saw one.
Other
Rand has caused a whole civilisation to kill themselves. Let’s hope he never finds that out. This was a really horrifying moment, left my mouth open for a while.
Taim is not a forsaken, but just a very high ranking dark friend it seems. He must be very high ranking to know about the lord of chaos. What if he is a newly raised forsaken? Only the forsaken know about the lord of chaos, not regular dark friends. I don’t know how one would raise a darkfriend though, does it come with new abilities or just being closer to the dark one?
RJ is great at the small details however he doesn’t touch upon the slavery stuff, which I find weird. Could just be me though.
Overall
This book ends so many dragging storylines, I can’t wait for the next!
I’m sad this is the last Robert Jordan book, but I’ve heard that Brandon ended it well, I watched a few videos on him and read his eulogy on RJ and he seems very kind and admires RJ a lot. I don’t know how his writing style is though, maybe someone can give me an idea of how it compares to RJ?
It is tragic RJ couldn’t finish his series by himself though, but glad someone was found to finish it.
just don’t mess up Nynaeve Brandon!
I probably missed a lot of plot points but I didn’t want this to be too long, and I want to read the next book already.
Book ranking so far - very susceptible to changing:
- The Shadow Rising
- The Fires of Heaven
- The Lord of Chaos
- The Dragon Reborn
- Knife of Dreams
- The Great Hunt
- The Eye of the World
- New Spring
- A Crown of Swords
- Winter’s Heart
- The Path of Daggers
- Crossroads of Twilight
2024.05.19 11:06 NPCmillionaire Looking at next steps beyond dead internet, prison planet, matrix, synchronicities, and simulation theories. Bonus points if you're connected to the operators of reality.
Yes, I’m being serious with this post. Yes, I’m going to post this in more than once place.
Please note, I am trying something different and posting outside of the general conspiracy/woo subs. Rather than deleting this post, why not leave it, if only for your own amusement at the sort of responses it will generate? 😉
Upfront, in case someone actually real reads this post and doesn’t like my “NPCmillionaire” handle: I agree it may seem bot-like (especially with the profile image) and I debated on using this account again, but at least this one is aged and has some karma. Like you, I understand how usernames on Reddit a lot of the time mirror the content of the poster. It’s just another useless synchronicity in this subtle hell of a reality where we are trapped.
I am not going to make this too long. There is no point. Either someone real reads this or they do not. I won’t reply publicly unless it is a super compelling post. You are welcome to send me DMs and messages, but you really need to say something different to grab my attention. I am very numb to most conspiracy/woo since it goes absolutely no where, or at least that has been my experience so far.
That being said, I don’t have a problem learning new material if there is an eventual payoff. I would be happy to be corrected on my current belief system, which if you are interested in it, you are welcome to look at some of my older posts and see my mindset developing to where it is now. If the topics in my title are new to you, or you are just starting on this path, I wish you luck, but I’m not interested in discussing basics with anyone. I want to go to the next level.
I could say more, but why bother? Whoever is in control of reality knows exactly what it has been doing to me. Maybe reality has been doing the same to you? Endless, pointless synchronicities both online and in real life that go absolutely nowhere? I see them. So what’s next?
I have this part to maybe avoid the automods that I know I will run into: 068
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Please note, I am trying something different and posting outside of the general conspiracy/woo subs. Rather than deleting this post, why not leave it, if only for your own amusement at the sort of responses it will generate? 😉
Upfront, in case someone actually real reads this post and doesn’t like my “NPCmillionaire” handle: I agree it may seem bot-like (especially with the profile image) and I debated on using this account again, but at least this one is aged and has some karma. Like you, I understand how usernames on Reddit a lot of the time mirror the content of the poster. It’s just another useless synchronicity in this subtle hell of a reality where we are trapped.
I am not going to make this too long. There is no point. Either someone real reads this or they do not. I won’t reply publicly unless it is a super compelling post. You are welcome to send me DMs and messages, but you really need to say something different to grab my attention. I am very numb to most conspiracy/woo since it goes absolutely no where, or at least that has been my experience so far.
That being said, I don’t have a problem learning new material if there is an eventual payoff. I would be happy to be corrected on my current belief system, which if you are interested in it, you are welcome to look at some of my older posts and see my mindset developing to where it is now. If the topics in my title are new to you, or you are just starting on this path, I wish you luck, but I’m not interested in discussing basics with anyone. I want to go to the next level.
I could say more, but why bother? Whoever is in control of reality knows exactly what it has been doing to me. Maybe reality has been doing the same to you? Endless, pointless synchronicities both online and in real life that go absolutely nowhere? I see them. So what’s next?
I have this part to maybe avoid the automods that I know I will run into: 068
2024.05.19 11:06 ThrowRA11084 Ever since I (23F) have started teaching, it's put me off sleeping with my boyfriend (24M) but he doesn't understand why, even when I explain it. How can I get him to understand it so it stops putting strain on our relationship?
My boyfriend and I have been together for five years, and this is my first year teaching. I work with another teacher, and we teach students in their first year of primary school. So most of them are six years old. They’re all lovely children. I feel very lucky that I can help teach such young children with such bright minds. I love it a lot, I like the difference between the days and I love the children. But because they’re so young, they’re very touchy. They love hugs, holding onto my hands and my legs, sitting on my lap. And I don’t mind, they’re very adorable and I think it’s very sweet.
But it means by the time I get home, I almost can’t stomach the idea of being touched. I just want to finish my work, eat, have a shower, and go to sleep most days. I don’t mind cuddling, but most days the idea of being touched sexually, I can’t tolerate. I love him, and I can understand why he would find that tiring, but I just can’t do it. I’ve tried to explain it to him, but it’s a bit of an odd concept, which makes it tricky. The amount we sleep together has dropped drastically in the last year, and I do feel bad about it. It’s a bit of a mental block as well, being around children so much, it just makes me feel a bit gross doing that sometimes and really puts me off it. It’s irrational, but it’s just the way it is.
But this is making him a bit sick of my work. It also really doesn’t help that the teacher that I work with is a man. He’s great, excellent with the children, and a really good teacher. He’s a lot of help, especially since this is my first time teaching a classroom. But my boyfriend is a bit sensitive about it. But I don’t really choose who I teach with, and just because he’s a man, it’s not like I can’t work with him. In any workplace, you will be working with men. Although it doesn’t help the children sometimes ask if we’re married, but they’re little, they don’t understand. So the fact I don't really want to sleep with my boyfriend often bothers him more than I think it normally would.
I feel like all of this is making our relationship a bit strained sometimes. I don't know if all of it will make sense, because I don't have English as my first language, but I think it should. I'm just a bit stuck on how to deal with this. Because obviously this is my job, I love it a lot, but it just results in all of this as well. He doesn't seem to understand how much it affects whether I want to sleep with him or not, and I've tried explaining it, but I think it's one of those things that's really difficult to understand and I don't really know what to do.
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But it means by the time I get home, I almost can’t stomach the idea of being touched. I just want to finish my work, eat, have a shower, and go to sleep most days. I don’t mind cuddling, but most days the idea of being touched sexually, I can’t tolerate. I love him, and I can understand why he would find that tiring, but I just can’t do it. I’ve tried to explain it to him, but it’s a bit of an odd concept, which makes it tricky. The amount we sleep together has dropped drastically in the last year, and I do feel bad about it. It’s a bit of a mental block as well, being around children so much, it just makes me feel a bit gross doing that sometimes and really puts me off it. It’s irrational, but it’s just the way it is.
But this is making him a bit sick of my work. It also really doesn’t help that the teacher that I work with is a man. He’s great, excellent with the children, and a really good teacher. He’s a lot of help, especially since this is my first time teaching a classroom. But my boyfriend is a bit sensitive about it. But I don’t really choose who I teach with, and just because he’s a man, it’s not like I can’t work with him. In any workplace, you will be working with men. Although it doesn’t help the children sometimes ask if we’re married, but they’re little, they don’t understand. So the fact I don't really want to sleep with my boyfriend often bothers him more than I think it normally would.
I feel like all of this is making our relationship a bit strained sometimes. I don't know if all of it will make sense, because I don't have English as my first language, but I think it should. I'm just a bit stuck on how to deal with this. Because obviously this is my job, I love it a lot, but it just results in all of this as well. He doesn't seem to understand how much it affects whether I want to sleep with him or not, and I've tried explaining it, but I think it's one of those things that's really difficult to understand and I don't really know what to do.
2024.05.19 11:05 NPCmillionaire Looking at next steps beyond dead internet, prison planet, matrix, synchronicities, and simulation theories. Bonus points if you're connected to the operators of reality.
Yes, I’m being serious with this post. Yes, I’m going to post this in more than once place.
Please note, I am trying something different and posting outside of the general conspiracy/woo subs. Rather than deleting this post, why not leave it, if only for your own amusement at the sort of responses it will generate? 😉
Upfront, in case someone actually real reads this post and doesn’t like my “NPCmillionaire” handle: I agree it may seem bot-like (especially with the profile image) and I debated on using this account again, but at least this one is aged and has some karma. Like you, I understand how usernames on Reddit a lot of the time mirror the content of the poster. It’s just another useless synchronicity in this subtle hell of a reality where we are trapped.
I am not going to make this too long. There is no point. Either someone real reads this or they do not. I won’t reply publicly unless it is a super compelling post. You are welcome to send me DMs and messages, but you really need to say something different to grab my attention. I am very numb to most conspiracy/woo since it goes absolutely no where, or at least that has been my experience so far.
That being said, I don’t have a problem learning new material if there is an eventual payoff. I would be happy to be corrected on my current belief system, which if you are interested in it, you are welcome to look at some of my older posts and see my mindset developing to where it is now. If the topics in my title are new to you, or you are just starting on this path, I wish you luck, but I’m not interested in discussing basics with anyone. I want to go to the next level.
I could say more, but why bother? Whoever is in control of reality knows exactly what it has been doing to me. Maybe reality has been doing the same to you? Endless, pointless synchronicities both online and in real life that go absolutely nowhere? I see them. So what’s next?
I have this part to maybe avoid the automods that I know I will run into: 067
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Please note, I am trying something different and posting outside of the general conspiracy/woo subs. Rather than deleting this post, why not leave it, if only for your own amusement at the sort of responses it will generate? 😉
Upfront, in case someone actually real reads this post and doesn’t like my “NPCmillionaire” handle: I agree it may seem bot-like (especially with the profile image) and I debated on using this account again, but at least this one is aged and has some karma. Like you, I understand how usernames on Reddit a lot of the time mirror the content of the poster. It’s just another useless synchronicity in this subtle hell of a reality where we are trapped.
I am not going to make this too long. There is no point. Either someone real reads this or they do not. I won’t reply publicly unless it is a super compelling post. You are welcome to send me DMs and messages, but you really need to say something different to grab my attention. I am very numb to most conspiracy/woo since it goes absolutely no where, or at least that has been my experience so far.
That being said, I don’t have a problem learning new material if there is an eventual payoff. I would be happy to be corrected on my current belief system, which if you are interested in it, you are welcome to look at some of my older posts and see my mindset developing to where it is now. If the topics in my title are new to you, or you are just starting on this path, I wish you luck, but I’m not interested in discussing basics with anyone. I want to go to the next level.
I could say more, but why bother? Whoever is in control of reality knows exactly what it has been doing to me. Maybe reality has been doing the same to you? Endless, pointless synchronicities both online and in real life that go absolutely nowhere? I see them. So what’s next?
I have this part to maybe avoid the automods that I know I will run into: 067
2024.05.19 11:05 greenmuddy Ladies, would you marry a freelancer?
I'm a 33 year old guy, working as a freelancer making 30 LPA.
After being in a few relationships up until my late twenties, I've been single for a while now. Ever since I started to freelance and work from home, my social circles dried up and I don't meet single women anymore.
I'm trying my luck on dating apps and matrimony sites, but it has been brutal out there. I get a rare match or two on dating apps and none at all on matrimony sites.
The girls I met on dating apps didn't want the same things as I do (like I want children and I don't smoke). I'm assuming girls on matrimony sites might have the same wavelength as me.
But, I get zero interest. I can't ascertain why I'm having such a hard time with arranged marriage. I can think of two reasons
I want to hear from the women here. Do you view freelancing as an unconventional and unreliable income source? If you see a chunky guy's profile, do you immediately skip over it or do you consider it? Be brutally honest.
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After being in a few relationships up until my late twenties, I've been single for a while now. Ever since I started to freelance and work from home, my social circles dried up and I don't meet single women anymore.
I'm trying my luck on dating apps and matrimony sites, but it has been brutal out there. I get a rare match or two on dating apps and none at all on matrimony sites.
The girls I met on dating apps didn't want the same things as I do (like I want children and I don't smoke). I'm assuming girls on matrimony sites might have the same wavelength as me.
But, I get zero interest. I can't ascertain why I'm having such a hard time with arranged marriage. I can think of two reasons
- Some girl parents have straight up told me they are not interested in a freelancer and are looking for a software professional. I have a hard time convincing people that my income is stable and I'm in fact "well settled". I understand where they are coming from, but I am hopeful girls won't be as risk-averse as their parents.
- I'm 5'8 with a dad bod. But, I have always been this way. I haven't changed much physically from my mid and late twenties, and it didn't stop me from getting into relationships back then. I did meet my exes in-person and not online.
I want to hear from the women here. Do you view freelancing as an unconventional and unreliable income source? If you see a chunky guy's profile, do you immediately skip over it or do you consider it? Be brutally honest.
2024.05.19 11:05 Asleep_Magazine_5528 I (25M) made a mistake with (24F) after second date. Was it the mistake or was she just not interested before this?
I (25M) matched with a girl (24F) on hinge. We were texting each other once every day or so for just over a week then organised to go on a date. The date went great - she did mention that she has accounting exams coming up soon with her job so she was going to be busy the next couple of months. But we both had a great time and I had no doubts we wanted to see eachother again after the date - she even gave me her umbrella to take home as it was raining and she got a taxi home.
We continued texting once a day - finding out more in common and I mentioned that I’m a fan of Mexican food and she said she is too and she said that could be our next date idea. She then asked when I was free and I booked a restaurant (2 weeks after the first date as she was busy due to a family wedding the weekend after the first date). She also mentioned that as it’s September now, it’s go time in terms of revision.
We met up at the restaurant and the date went fine, again no doubts and lots in common. She mentioned that due to a health condition she doesn’t like to drink alcohol when it’s super hot so she ordered a mocktail instead with her food.
We then went to a rooftop bar afterwards which I’d booked as the weather was really warm. When we got to the rooftop, the girl said it feels hotter up here than it does downstairs (which it did) and she asked me to push a button on my side of the table (I think she assumed it may have been connected to a fan). But when I pushed the button the outdoor heaters turned on which was quite embarrassing and the people in the bar started laughing. I laughed too but it did throw me off and make me feel awkward. The girl did apologise to me and them and was laughing too.
But we sat down and continued chatting - I felt the conversation wasn’t flowing as well due to the awkwardness but there were no awkward silences. I ordered a cocktail but the menu was a little limited for mocktails - I did ask her if she wanted to go somewhere else but she said don’t worry it’s ok. She ended up just having water.
Once i finished my drink, she said she’s going to head off so we walked to the train station together - we didn’t stay at the rooftop for very long. I was still feeling awkward as the last part of the date didn’t go how I’d hoped but I asked if she wanted to go out again and she said yeah definitely so I gave her a quick kiss and said bye.
I messaged her on instagram while I was on my way home and just gave her my phone number and said let me know when you’re home.
She texted me that evening and said ‘hey thanks for dinner tonight - honestly next time you have to let me get the bill! It was v good to see you again. Hope you got home okay x’.
I replied that Thursday evening and said ‘hey no worries it’s all good, but you’re organising the next one’. She then reacted to that message with a little heart on Saturday and said ‘how’s your Saturday been, sorry for the late reply been super busy my sister is visiting😂’ - she did mention that her sister was visiting before we went on the second date. I replied on the Sunday with general convo. She replied on the Monday as usual, being communicative, telling me about her weekend and all the things she did and also asking me more about what I was doing. She also said ‘so not a productive weekend in terms of revision😭’
I replied on the Tuesday, making general conversation again. I didn’t hear back from her on Wednesday, Thursday (which was when I started to get anxious) or Friday. I assumed she had a busy week with work and revision so I’d hear back Friday evening. I also noticed that at some point after the second date she changed one of her prompts on her hinge dating profile - a small change from ‘give me travel tips to Thailand’ to ‘give me travel tips to Miami’. She didn’t update any pictures or anything else and as we’d only been out twice I’m guessing this is normal? She also mentioned on the second date that she’d booked her Miami holiday.
I still didn’t hear back from her and then made a massive mistake Saturday morning and sent her another message which said ‘if you weren’t interested why not just say. You’re a bit of an arsehole to say you wanna go out again, pay and all that then just ignore me’. She responded an hour and a half later and said ‘I wasn’t trying to ignore you - I was genuinely busy this week. But you calling me an arsehole is so uncalled for and tbh I don’t want to see someone who’s going to call me names so I’d rather just call it a day’. I called to try and apologise but she didn’t pick up so I messaged ‘I get you’re busy with exams. Like I fully understand that but it takes 2 seconds to say hey I’m busy right now I’ll get back to you. Tbh it comes across like you’re not interested and a bit rude. So I’m sorry I called you an arsehole but I called you as I wanted to chat to you quickly’. She replied and said ‘sorry missed your call - I’m out. Yeah fairs I get that but the exams are my priority. I feel like I’ve said what I need to say and think it’s just best if we leave it here’. I messaged again trying to sort it out but she didn’t reply. I gave it three weeks and apologised more sincerely and she said it’s all good no hard feelings but she’s got a lot on right now so she doesn’t think it would be best to give it a second chance. I said if it’s the exams I don’t mind if you wanna speak again after they’re all done, but she didn’t reply to that message.
I reached out again after a couple months as I saw her on the same dating app and her profile was updated with new pictures and she said she just doesn’t see this going anywhere and good luck with everything - she then blocked me. I’m assuming she was finished with her exams by this point.
I fully understand that I was completely in the wrong with the way I reacted and I’ve learnt the lesson and won’t ever speak to anyone like that again - I regret it so much because I could see myself liking her and she honestly seemed like the most perfect girl, although we only went on 2 dates and spoke for a month. But do you think it was me calling her an arsehole that caused her to end it (completely valid if so) or if she just wasn’t feeling it before this and I gave her an easy way out?
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We continued texting once a day - finding out more in common and I mentioned that I’m a fan of Mexican food and she said she is too and she said that could be our next date idea. She then asked when I was free and I booked a restaurant (2 weeks after the first date as she was busy due to a family wedding the weekend after the first date). She also mentioned that as it’s September now, it’s go time in terms of revision.
We met up at the restaurant and the date went fine, again no doubts and lots in common. She mentioned that due to a health condition she doesn’t like to drink alcohol when it’s super hot so she ordered a mocktail instead with her food.
We then went to a rooftop bar afterwards which I’d booked as the weather was really warm. When we got to the rooftop, the girl said it feels hotter up here than it does downstairs (which it did) and she asked me to push a button on my side of the table (I think she assumed it may have been connected to a fan). But when I pushed the button the outdoor heaters turned on which was quite embarrassing and the people in the bar started laughing. I laughed too but it did throw me off and make me feel awkward. The girl did apologise to me and them and was laughing too.
But we sat down and continued chatting - I felt the conversation wasn’t flowing as well due to the awkwardness but there were no awkward silences. I ordered a cocktail but the menu was a little limited for mocktails - I did ask her if she wanted to go somewhere else but she said don’t worry it’s ok. She ended up just having water.
Once i finished my drink, she said she’s going to head off so we walked to the train station together - we didn’t stay at the rooftop for very long. I was still feeling awkward as the last part of the date didn’t go how I’d hoped but I asked if she wanted to go out again and she said yeah definitely so I gave her a quick kiss and said bye.
I messaged her on instagram while I was on my way home and just gave her my phone number and said let me know when you’re home.
She texted me that evening and said ‘hey thanks for dinner tonight - honestly next time you have to let me get the bill! It was v good to see you again. Hope you got home okay x’.
I replied that Thursday evening and said ‘hey no worries it’s all good, but you’re organising the next one’. She then reacted to that message with a little heart on Saturday and said ‘how’s your Saturday been, sorry for the late reply been super busy my sister is visiting😂’ - she did mention that her sister was visiting before we went on the second date. I replied on the Sunday with general convo. She replied on the Monday as usual, being communicative, telling me about her weekend and all the things she did and also asking me more about what I was doing. She also said ‘so not a productive weekend in terms of revision😭’
I replied on the Tuesday, making general conversation again. I didn’t hear back from her on Wednesday, Thursday (which was when I started to get anxious) or Friday. I assumed she had a busy week with work and revision so I’d hear back Friday evening. I also noticed that at some point after the second date she changed one of her prompts on her hinge dating profile - a small change from ‘give me travel tips to Thailand’ to ‘give me travel tips to Miami’. She didn’t update any pictures or anything else and as we’d only been out twice I’m guessing this is normal? She also mentioned on the second date that she’d booked her Miami holiday.
I still didn’t hear back from her and then made a massive mistake Saturday morning and sent her another message which said ‘if you weren’t interested why not just say. You’re a bit of an arsehole to say you wanna go out again, pay and all that then just ignore me’. She responded an hour and a half later and said ‘I wasn’t trying to ignore you - I was genuinely busy this week. But you calling me an arsehole is so uncalled for and tbh I don’t want to see someone who’s going to call me names so I’d rather just call it a day’. I called to try and apologise but she didn’t pick up so I messaged ‘I get you’re busy with exams. Like I fully understand that but it takes 2 seconds to say hey I’m busy right now I’ll get back to you. Tbh it comes across like you’re not interested and a bit rude. So I’m sorry I called you an arsehole but I called you as I wanted to chat to you quickly’. She replied and said ‘sorry missed your call - I’m out. Yeah fairs I get that but the exams are my priority. I feel like I’ve said what I need to say and think it’s just best if we leave it here’. I messaged again trying to sort it out but she didn’t reply. I gave it three weeks and apologised more sincerely and she said it’s all good no hard feelings but she’s got a lot on right now so she doesn’t think it would be best to give it a second chance. I said if it’s the exams I don’t mind if you wanna speak again after they’re all done, but she didn’t reply to that message.
I reached out again after a couple months as I saw her on the same dating app and her profile was updated with new pictures and she said she just doesn’t see this going anywhere and good luck with everything - she then blocked me. I’m assuming she was finished with her exams by this point.
I fully understand that I was completely in the wrong with the way I reacted and I’ve learnt the lesson and won’t ever speak to anyone like that again - I regret it so much because I could see myself liking her and she honestly seemed like the most perfect girl, although we only went on 2 dates and spoke for a month. But do you think it was me calling her an arsehole that caused her to end it (completely valid if so) or if she just wasn’t feeling it before this and I gave her an easy way out?
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2024.05.19 11:05 why_doiexsist2 Weird supervisor and co workers
Ive been working a seasonal job as a landscaper at a cemetery and iguess i knew what i was getting myself into because i was warned that i would be the only female on the team.. i didn’t think it’d be that much of a deal but i have one guy who constantly follows me everywhere i mean every where i go and it’s extremely annoying, i have a really hard time speaking up especially because he’s not doing anything wrong really and he just wants friends. The actual issue though is that my supervisor has a thing for me, he’s 40 and I’m 22. The first week i was working there he asked for my number because when we work he isn’t around and if i need something it’d be a lot easier to text or call him. But now he’s texting me outside of work, getting jealous of my co workers, he keeps calling me attractive and telling me he wishes he could hug me. I try not to be in a situation where I’m alone because i actually wouldn’t feel very safe. I like this job it’s super convenient for the situation I’m in right now. I’m not really sure how to go forward because i feel like some of it’s my fault I’m super smiley and laugh a lot and i probably shouldn’t have responded when he texted me outside of work but i just want to be able to finish the few months i have left and get out.
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2024.05.19 11:04 jonaskoelker Rewatcher's diary: Season 2, episodes 19 to 22
Previous diary entry here: https://www.reddit.com/buffy/comments/1cuyf6k/rewatchers_diary_season_2_episodes_15_to_18/
The last sprint to the finish line: I Only Have Eyes for You (2x19), Go Fish (2x20), Becoming (2x21-2x22).
Man, I Only Have Eyes for You is such a beautiful gem of a composition. Go Fish is less bad than I remembered it (but still bottom-tier), Becoming FUCK YEAH!
I Only Have Eyes for You
It's the Sadie Hawkins dance and the gender roles are reversed—on BTVS, of all places ;-)
Xander suggests it's the brain child of a hairy-legged feminist and Cordelia is upset not only at losing her privilege of having her date pay for the date but also at having the tables turned all the way around and having to be the one who has to pay. Man I love the anti-chemistry of Xandelia.
But all is not well: Sunnydale high is haunted by the ghost of a student (James), whose romance with a teacher (Grace) was broken off by her. He responded with a murder-suicide which he is now reenacting. This is the mystery of the week.
The emotional significance is that Buffy identifies with James: she feels she betrayed and murdered Angel, unleashing Angelus. Her inability to kill Angelus in Innocence led to Jenny's death in Passion, which Buffy feels guilt about.
The punchline is Buffy and Angel(us) reenacting the ghost story, with Buffy in James' shoes, Angel surviving Buffy's murder attempt and preventing Buffy-as-James' suicide. Grace forgives James and says she never stopped loving him, the ghosts depart, Angel is back in his Angelus form who runs off.
Also, the final reveal: Spike, driven more crazy by Angelus, has been overstating his incapacitation.
I frigging love this episode.
I think Buffy's big change is her acceptance that Angel is dead, and that a demon (Angelus) has taken up shop in his body. It walks and it talks like Angel but it's no longer him. This has to be it, because the ghostly reenactment basically says that the Bangel love is forever and is still there even if Angel isn't—and yet, Buffy is more resolved and determined to kill Angelus than ever. This only makes sense if she's distinguishing between the two, i.e. if she's accepting that the man she used to love is gone.
The ghost story is beautifully tragic. The resolution, Grace's forgiveness and the departure of the ghosts, is such a heart-warming relief. And Buffy sorting out her feelings is wonderfully bittersweet.
Giles being distraught by the loss of Jenny, to the point of him not thinking straight, is heartbreaking. Metaphorically Giles is Buffy's mind, making it very fitting that Buffy's resolution is about sorting out her understanding of the Angel/Angelus distinction.
I noticed a thing: during the triangular binding spell we have Buffy at the center of the action, with Willow, Xander andGiles Cordelia supporting her, a motif replayed in Primeval (4x21).
If we understood the metaphor in Teacher's Pet (1x4) we learned that student-teacher romance means the teacher is preying on the student. Here it was... well preying is the wrong word, but here it was the student harming the teacher. I feel this might dilute the message of Teacher's Pet; this episode could've been a bit more on-brand with a line or two with the message that it's not uncommon or shameful for teens to have feelings for 20-somethings—but, if reciprocated, it's inappropriate for the older person to act on those feelings. The tie-in between James/Grace and Buffy/Angel would be perfect, the social commentary would be more to my liking, and I think the social commentary I want is on-point for BTVS. Heck, if you peel of the big S2 metaphor, I see a 16yo girl crushing on a ~26yo red flag, with disastrous consequences. The social commentary I'm calling for is the whole bloody point of S2, so why not reinforce it here? Maybe it would dilute the "awww" when Grace forgives James, like, we're meant to feel it's a sweet couple and they should get each other and that has to be an undiluted high note.
Nitpicking aside, what a gem!
Go Fish
I asked the writers for a good episode, but they said "go fish". Oh well, I guess there's plenty of fish in the sea. Let's plunge in and take a deep dive.
I remembered this as "that one really awfully disappointing episode of Buffy". This time, I found it to be merely "meh". There were a few decent comedy bits: "undercover" // "not under much" and "I'm dating a guy on the Sunnydale High swim team" // "you can die happy" #OohBurn look at the shallowSpordelia Cordelia.
There was a gender role reversal—on BTVS of all places—when Buffy walks Swimmer #2 home from The Bronze (for his protection) after he was attacked.
But on the whole... see, I kinda' enjoyed the early S2 MotW episodes, back when MotW was pretty much all that BTVS was. But now that I have tasted the Bangelus arc (again, this being a rewatch), I have lost my taste for MotWs—at least if they have no tie-in to the bigger picture. This is an episode I simply have no taste for, it doesn't excite me.
[I consider Phases (2x15) and BBB (2x16) MotW episodes with strong thematic tie-ins to the Bangelus arc: all the scoobies are dating monsters. And arguably, Passion (2x17) is about Jenny making risky dating choices, a follow-up on The Dark Age (2x8), making 2x14-2x17 a thematically cohesive run of episodes.]
Becoming
Fuck. Yeah.
Joss is such a scumbag. First he gives Buffy this great resolve and determination (perhaps after some feelings of resignation) in I Only Have Eyes for You, then he makes her waver a bit when she discovers Jenny's re-ensoulment spell. And then she gets Angel back, but it's too late since Angelus already pulled the pin on the doomsday vortex grenade, so she has to let go of him AGAIN! :(
Spike is chaotic and funny. You can always count on his loyalty, at least if you're the highest bidder, and Buffy effectively offered him hisbig ho girlfriend back. He's such a fool for love, wink-wink nudge-nudge.
I noticed a parallel between the trio of vampires and the trio of nerds: Angelus/Warren is the evil sociopathic leader of the group, Drusilla/Andrew has a crush on the leader and Spike/Jonathan betrays the group and sides with Buffy and the scoobies. [But also differences, of course: SpikeSilla are not as weak-willed as Andrew/Jonathan, for one. And the trio of vampires is charming.]
... and Xander brings Willow back by talking about their friendship and telling her he loves her!
Angelus talked about ascending—retro-echoing the mayor's plot in Graduation Day 2 (3x22).
Also: Angelus tried to pull a sword out of a stone (Acathla). We just went from gothic horror to Arthurian legend? Spike's reaction, "someone wasn't worthy", indicates that Angelus is a false king, not worthy of the throne of Sunnydale. He's not the real mayor so he won't ascend: while he eventually manages to pull the sword out of the stone, his ultimate fate is a downfall—he descends into a hell dimension.
The scoobies have a disagreement in the library about how to deal with Angel(us). I find it notable that it's Xander, Buffy's metaphorical heart, who responds to "I'll stop him" with "like you did last time, with Ms. Calendar"—Buffy is still feeling guilty about not having theheart guts to kill Angelus in Innocence. It's Xander who knows the location of Angelus' mansion, i.e. it's her heart which leads her to lost lover, and it's her heart which says "kick his ass". When he rescues Buffy's metaphorical mind, he (Giles) says "why would they make me see you", i.e. Buffy's mind doesn't want what's in her heart, they are conflicted. Buffy is driven by her feelings and passions now just as much as she was in Surprise when she unleashed Angelus. Once her metaphorical mind has been rescued it saves the day: she gives her regained love one last kiss and one last goodbye, then, letting cooler heads prevail, kicks his ass stabs him in the heart, breaking it, to save the day.
And some greatest hits: "nobody asks for their life to change, not really" ;; "what's left?" // "me" ;; "you hit me one time with an axe" ;; "have you tried not being the slayer?" ;; "you're expelled".
Becoming is peak Buffy.
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The last sprint to the finish line: I Only Have Eyes for You (2x19), Go Fish (2x20), Becoming (2x21-2x22).
Man, I Only Have Eyes for You is such a beautiful gem of a composition. Go Fish is less bad than I remembered it (but still bottom-tier), Becoming FUCK YEAH!
I Only Have Eyes for You
It's the Sadie Hawkins dance and the gender roles are reversed—on BTVS, of all places ;-)
Xander suggests it's the brain child of a hairy-legged feminist and Cordelia is upset not only at losing her privilege of having her date pay for the date but also at having the tables turned all the way around and having to be the one who has to pay. Man I love the anti-chemistry of Xandelia.
But all is not well: Sunnydale high is haunted by the ghost of a student (James), whose romance with a teacher (Grace) was broken off by her. He responded with a murder-suicide which he is now reenacting. This is the mystery of the week.
The emotional significance is that Buffy identifies with James: she feels she betrayed and murdered Angel, unleashing Angelus. Her inability to kill Angelus in Innocence led to Jenny's death in Passion, which Buffy feels guilt about.
The punchline is Buffy and Angel(us) reenacting the ghost story, with Buffy in James' shoes, Angel surviving Buffy's murder attempt and preventing Buffy-as-James' suicide. Grace forgives James and says she never stopped loving him, the ghosts depart, Angel is back in his Angelus form who runs off.
Also, the final reveal: Spike, driven more crazy by Angelus, has been overstating his incapacitation.
I frigging love this episode.
I think Buffy's big change is her acceptance that Angel is dead, and that a demon (Angelus) has taken up shop in his body. It walks and it talks like Angel but it's no longer him. This has to be it, because the ghostly reenactment basically says that the Bangel love is forever and is still there even if Angel isn't—and yet, Buffy is more resolved and determined to kill Angelus than ever. This only makes sense if she's distinguishing between the two, i.e. if she's accepting that the man she used to love is gone.
The ghost story is beautifully tragic. The resolution, Grace's forgiveness and the departure of the ghosts, is such a heart-warming relief. And Buffy sorting out her feelings is wonderfully bittersweet.
Giles being distraught by the loss of Jenny, to the point of him not thinking straight, is heartbreaking. Metaphorically Giles is Buffy's mind, making it very fitting that Buffy's resolution is about sorting out her understanding of the Angel/Angelus distinction.
I noticed a thing: during the triangular binding spell we have Buffy at the center of the action, with Willow, Xander and
If we understood the metaphor in Teacher's Pet (1x4) we learned that student-teacher romance means the teacher is preying on the student. Here it was... well preying is the wrong word, but here it was the student harming the teacher. I feel this might dilute the message of Teacher's Pet; this episode could've been a bit more on-brand with a line or two with the message that it's not uncommon or shameful for teens to have feelings for 20-somethings—but, if reciprocated, it's inappropriate for the older person to act on those feelings. The tie-in between James/Grace and Buffy/Angel would be perfect, the social commentary would be more to my liking, and I think the social commentary I want is on-point for BTVS. Heck, if you peel of the big S2 metaphor, I see a 16yo girl crushing on a ~26yo red flag, with disastrous consequences. The social commentary I'm calling for is the whole bloody point of S2, so why not reinforce it here? Maybe it would dilute the "awww" when Grace forgives James, like, we're meant to feel it's a sweet couple and they should get each other and that has to be an undiluted high note.
Nitpicking aside, what a gem!
Go Fish
I asked the writers for a good episode, but they said "go fish". Oh well, I guess there's plenty of fish in the sea. Let's plunge in and take a deep dive.
I remembered this as "that one really awfully disappointing episode of Buffy". This time, I found it to be merely "meh". There were a few decent comedy bits: "undercover" // "not under much" and "I'm dating a guy on the Sunnydale High swim team" // "you can die happy" #OohBurn look at the shallow
There was a gender role reversal—on BTVS of all places—when Buffy walks Swimmer #2 home from The Bronze (for his protection) after he was attacked.
But on the whole... see, I kinda' enjoyed the early S2 MotW episodes, back when MotW was pretty much all that BTVS was. But now that I have tasted the Bangelus arc (again, this being a rewatch), I have lost my taste for MotWs—at least if they have no tie-in to the bigger picture. This is an episode I simply have no taste for, it doesn't excite me.
[I consider Phases (2x15) and BBB (2x16) MotW episodes with strong thematic tie-ins to the Bangelus arc: all the scoobies are dating monsters. And arguably, Passion (2x17) is about Jenny making risky dating choices, a follow-up on The Dark Age (2x8), making 2x14-2x17 a thematically cohesive run of episodes.]
Becoming
Fuck. Yeah.
Joss is such a scumbag. First he gives Buffy this great resolve and determination (perhaps after some feelings of resignation) in I Only Have Eyes for You, then he makes her waver a bit when she discovers Jenny's re-ensoulment spell. And then she gets Angel back, but it's too late since Angelus already pulled the pin on the doomsday vortex grenade, so she has to let go of him AGAIN! :(
Spike is chaotic and funny. You can always count on his loyalty, at least if you're the highest bidder, and Buffy effectively offered him his
I noticed a parallel between the trio of vampires and the trio of nerds: Angelus/Warren is the evil sociopathic leader of the group, Drusilla/Andrew has a crush on the leader and Spike/Jonathan betrays the group and sides with Buffy and the scoobies. [But also differences, of course: SpikeSilla are not as weak-willed as Andrew/Jonathan, for one. And the trio of vampires is charming.]
... and Xander brings Willow back by talking about their friendship and telling her he loves her!
Angelus talked about ascending—retro-echoing the mayor's plot in Graduation Day 2 (3x22).
Also: Angelus tried to pull a sword out of a stone (Acathla). We just went from gothic horror to Arthurian legend? Spike's reaction, "someone wasn't worthy", indicates that Angelus is a false king, not worthy of the throne of Sunnydale. He's not the real mayor so he won't ascend: while he eventually manages to pull the sword out of the stone, his ultimate fate is a downfall—he descends into a hell dimension.
The scoobies have a disagreement in the library about how to deal with Angel(us). I find it notable that it's Xander, Buffy's metaphorical heart, who responds to "I'll stop him" with "like you did last time, with Ms. Calendar"—Buffy is still feeling guilty about not having the
And some greatest hits: "nobody asks for their life to change, not really" ;; "what's left?" // "me" ;; "you hit me one time with an axe" ;; "have you tried not being the slayer?" ;; "you're expelled".
Becoming is peak Buffy.