Toilet women pooping

I have discovered the hack for constipation. Invite your mother in law over and spend some time cleaning the bathroom and toilet. The moment the bowl is sparkling clean, you'll need to poop more than anything. You're welcome. 😊

I mean, as a man, my ass is definitely something I’d consider “intimate” to myself. I can’t imagine ever sticking my bare arse anywhere without looking first?

Gay "dating" platforms like Grindr, for instance, are not really about dating, and would probably benefit from being rebranded as pure "hook-up" platforms since that is how they are designed and what the majority of men who are using them are actually looking for.
Is it because men in general are more motivated than women towards sex than love? Or is it a cultural hangover from past eras where the only way for gay men to meet was in the context of having sex in places like public toilets, and the internalized shame and the stigma around romantic homosexual partnerships still persists?
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Every summer the sun comes out and the dudes take off their shirts. And I can't leave my house because I'm reminded that I can't do that in front of anyone. I couldn't even change in front of the other girls in the locker room in gym class, I'd feel obscene.
As a historian, I'm keenly aware men used to only go topless in homo-social situations where it was just men. About 100 years ago men fought for the right to go topless in public beaches, sharing space with women and children. The reason swimsuits were unisex was because 100 some years ago in America obscenity laws were equal for everyone.
Women have spent the past 100 odd years fighting to breast feed in the same spaces men can go shirtless, or anywhere people eat (like restaurants); it was in effort to stop feeding babies in public toilet stalls. Makes sense. Only the so-called female nipple has a practical function to be exposed.
Obscenity laws for our "bottom parts" make sense since they function in private and ought to function in private, whether to evacuate urine/feces or for sexual relations. It is precisely because of these functions the "genitalia" are banned and considered nudity.
Now, if women want to beat the heat, they better work out that booty because swimwear is about showing off the backside cheeks. However, I guess I grew up being told to cover my butt up, so that's not an option I'd do in public. I don't want people staring at my butt.
Meanwhile, even I'm wearing a tight so-called female swimsuit top it shows off the entire shape of my chest leaving nothing to the imagination the dudes walk around topless without the extra layer of spandex-y type material that is really trapping heat and annoying. Sure, should be moisture wicking and stuff, but women's swimwear seems to trap in the heat. Padding is like wearing little miniature winter coats on my chest, on each "boob," which for me draws attention to that area in more ways being topless would not... Does this make sense?
I'm supposed to show off the shape of my breasts while keeping them covered. I'm supposed to wear itty bitty triangles over them and prevent "nip slips"... let alone I'm expected to shave before I go out in public in these skimpy swimsuits which leave nothing to the imagination.
Men, however, get to throw on baggy shorts and they're ready to go. The prep time is nil. Unless he's in speedos no one is seeing the literal shape of his nether regions. I have supposedly no choice unless I put on even more layers. Shorts and shirts, sweltering in the heat, surrounded by topless dudes who I never gave my consent to frolic around me topless.
Used to be I advocated for equal rights and women going topless but now I just think men should cover up. The conservatives are using their children (girls mostly) to protest seeing a topless "boy" (actually trans) in the locker room. Apparently all this time unbeknownst to me girls don't want to see that. But at the pool, beach, playground, park, street, backyard, frontyard, etc, it's unavoidable. It's totally legal. Males can expose themselves outside the locker room all they want.
When do we accept this as... acceptable public behavior? We know it's nudity, but we must pretend not to notice it. Females are not covered up for having breasts, it's for having nipples. Well last time I checked, dudes have nipples. So that's a double standard.
Sure, this comes down to some primal jealousy I have but for all my life I can't enjoy the summer air the same way. I feel defective, not sexy, and why would I want to feel "sexy" in front of the public of all ages? Why should we say it's cool if men go topless because some of them are sexy, this is a family beach. We say we don't want groomers and pedoPh!les around our kids, who are mostly men let's face it, but we allow strangers to walk around our children topless and think it's OK.
If some topless dude sent your young teen a photo of himself topless, he's not being obscene? It's not nudity? I'd say lock that creep out, because if a woman did the same thing she'd be in prison.
It's rude and most dudes I ever met who go topless around kids/women are usually very narcissist and want that power over others. A sort of Look what I can Do but you Can't.... in addition I'm 42 so starting to have those hot flashes. It's impractical for me to wear more clothing but I'm basically indecent all over, from the bottom to the top. It depresses me so much, always has.
Wearing a sundress to air myself out is not helping plus dictating if only I changed what I wore I'd feel less hot in the sunshine. Put the dudes in sundresses too then. See how they like it.
We should all wear wetsuits. This inequitable definition of what is nudity has only resulted in over a century of men feeling superior for the most overlooked reasons --- they can mow the lawn half naked, they can walk down the street half naked, and no one will tell them what to do. The only places practicing good reason are the No shirts No service shopping centers. We should go back to decency laws, that apply to everyone equally. If men want to be topless, go back to the bathhouses where it was acceptable before and usually almost always places for gay men to frequent to "see topless dudes" DUH...
If nobody wants to see me topless, then understand this--- I don't want to see your dads and sons topless around me. Cover up. Show some respect to women/girls. It is at least disrespectful to flaunt and exercise this law around girls/women--- it is at worst abusive and done without remorse. "I don't care about your comfort, only my own".... it teaches misogyny.
But it's "too hot for a shirt!" Stop it. Apparently it's never been hot for me, I must run cold blooded...
End rant.

I'd like to vent a little since this is mainly what this sub is for. I (20F) have been working as a gas station/truck stop clerk for almost 5 years. It was my first job and hopefully not my last. I've seen a lot of shit. A bag of dildos, someone who shat their pants and left their shitty underwear in the toilet for us to fish out, cum shot on the walls, crackheads doing crackhead shit, a trucker who literally had a heart attack in our parking lot, piss jugs, so many piss jugs, but the worst part of my job is by far, men. Now, I know know it's not all of them and most of the man clientel I have is so nice and fun to serve. However, the minority is very loud, annoying and sometimes scary. Here's just a few incidents that have made me genuinely uncomfortable and scared at times.
This is the only one that genuinely made me fear for my safety. I work evening shift form 16h-00h. I was outside taking out the indoor garbage bags when a trucker approached me. He was older, mabe late 40's. It was already dark out and being a women alone at night already makes me shit my pants. He told me he had a problem with his fuel card and asked for help. Thinking I'm just overthinking like always, I go instead of asking the guy i was working with to help him out. The fuel card reader is very far away from our building, who is already in the middle of the woods on the side of the highway. Once there, i put it in and it didn't seem to work as his fuel limit was exceeded. Now, he started on and on about how it just worked and that he wanted to show me the receipt from the day prior at a different gas station of the same branch as mine. We went back forth, him insisting I come close to his truck so I can check the receipt, me telling him that there's nothing I can do and to call his dispatch. He eventually grabbed my arm to lead me closer to his door. I pulled away and told him to leave me alone, throwing his card at him. He didn't seem to like that but my co-worker, who was smoking a cigarette outside, approached us and told him the same thing I did. The trucker didn't say much else and just left in his truck. I have no idea why he couldn't just grab the damn receipt from his truck and show me or why he felt the need to put his hands on me. Thankfully, my male co-worker was there
(sorry truckers I live you thank you for your hard work. My dad is a trucker and I know how hard you work. I have nothing against you)
We have this one trucker who is a semi regular. I don't know if he's missing some braincells but having a conversation with him takes years off my life. His only eye contact is with my tits and he just has that creepy smile stuck on his face. He's asked me about my love life, sex life, he's asked me to marry him, come wash him in the showers, he purposely gets Belmonts cigarettes because I have to bend down to get them, but I know for a fact his cigarettes of choice is Next since that's what he orders from my male co-workers and older workers.
I have much more stories but I'm realizing the post will be long as fuck so I'll get to the one that made me write this post.
I'm currently at work and I just had a man come in. Off the start, he was giving me creepy vibes. I'm sure the ladies know that one stare. I started serving him and something was just off with him. At the end of the transaction he ask me to shake his hand telling me his name, Alex, and told me I had beautiful eyes. I like getting compliments on my eyes, but I almost threw up in my mouth. After some more uncomfortable staring he walked off. He came back a minute later asking me for cash back. Charged him 1 cent so he could take out 30$. I was genuinely sweating at how uncomfortable it was. He then ask me for the bathroom, I told him down the first hall at the right. He asked me to show him. Red flags but it's my job so I took a few steps away from my podium and pointed at the hallway. A fucking 3 year-old could've found it so I knew something was off. He went and came back barely 10 seconds later, telling me he couldn't find it and to show him. As I was walking down the hallway, I realized he probably wanted to get me away from the front window of the store where a group of nice old men I had just served were talking outside. Once there, he took my hand and ask me if I could help him in there. Which meant some sexual or I don't know I'm still so fucking confused. I took my hand away, told him no, laughing. I hate myself for laughing. I wish I had more of a back bone but I was still trying to be nice. I walked off, not looking in his direction as I continued some paperwork I was doing. He left without saying much else.
I'm sure some of you guys have some more unhinged stories. I live in a very safe part of Canada and, outside of my work, I've only rarely encountered people who genuinely made me uncomfortable. I just genuinely can not comprehend how people think this is okay behavior. I'm not a monkey or a robot, i have fucking feelings. I only am nice to you because I get paid to do it, i'm not flirting with you. What passes through some of their minds to think this is something I would be comfortable with. I just don't understand. I hate it here. Also, fuck Alex

I think I’ve given all I can.. I’m a 24 year old guy who was diagnosed with bpd in 2022 and been in group therapy for 10 months and done 1 to 1 therapy years prior to 2022 since I was 18. I feel so uncomfortable with myself and can’t stand every aspect of myself from the physical to the phycological side.
I also suffer from depression, adhd and ocd which makes life feel near impossible. My group therapy is the only place I enjoy going in the week and I’ve met some amazing people who also have bpd but I still can’t get off the floor and get back into proper life.
I was planning to take an overdose of Bupropion last week but decided to flush them down the toilet thankfully. I feel so weak and just want to feel like a real person and not live in this state of purgatory.. I lost all my friends due to alcohol back in 2021 and that broke me, I’ve been sober for 2 years but I don’t do much these days I’ve been living off savings barely since 2022 and will need to go back to work soon and I’m terrified of the work world.
I crave romantic love so much but I know I’m in no state to even entertain dating and couldn’t do that to someone.. I’d either ruin thrm or they’d take advantage of me it usually goes either way since I attract mentally unwell women( I don’t seek them out somehow it just happens) I don’t think a normal person would want someone as damaged as me anyway.
I’m really sorry for my English grammar, I’m pretty awful at it and this post probably doesn’t make sense and is all over the place in general I just wanted to type it out.

my brother (m23) and I (f21) encouraged my mum (f50) to get another dog after recently losing our dad. he was the love of her life and ofc we were all very devastated. she took it the hardest and was depressed for a while before she had an idea of getting another dog because she was scared of losing our current dog which was 9ish years old at the time. hes a border collie and we love him very much though hes definitely more of a handful than most house family dogs. she asked us if we would help with raising another border collie puppy and we ofc said yes (although my mum is full time and my brother is basically full time and im a full time uni student with work too). we were barely home the three of us.
fast forward to now and our second dog is 1 year old and he is the worst dog ever. hes still not toilet trained till now, hes messy (rolls around in pee and poop) and eats everything on the counters, in our rooms (he can open our doors) and pees on our toilet floors. hes eaten my uber eats plenty of times and weve had to start leaving our backyard door open just so he can pee outside and sometimes he still doesnt. this makes all the flies enter our house and its constantly cold or hot depending on the season. its so frustrating coming home to a mess especially when he gets in my room and trashes all the papers and eats all my undies. he even accidentally ate a rock and he had to get surgery of over 3k expense. he did go to puppy school and my mum tried her best to train him as a puppy but again shes barely home. the most me and brother did was watch him as a puppy to make sure he peed outside to toilet train him but clearly it wasnt enough.
but my last straw was today when he ate some dessert off our counter that my bfs mum made. i absolutely hate him now and i have no love left for him. i refuse to help my mum take care of him any longer and im insisting she gives him away or sells him. obviously she doesnt want to because she still loves him or whatever but i am done. i gave her an ultimatum to give him away or ill move out and she said im being unfair. im tired of coming home to a mess everyday and fear of making sure my rooms barricaded or foods not close to the edge of tables. not to mention all the yelling my mum has to do to try and "discipline" him. obviously i dont blame the poor dog and i know we did a bad job raising him but i believe hed be happier in a home who can properly take care of him and give him 100% attention he needs.
TLDR: my mum got a second dog as part of a grieving process but the dog wreaks havoc in our home and i want to give him away.
edit: i didnt ask if i was the asshole for how we treated the dog. i was asking if it was wrong to give him away. ik we werent good owners so save your comment.

I live around in pretty derelict townscape in my city, so there's lot of aged flat with low story buildings with various occupants. Not suprisingly I can find some interesting people walking around in near evening and late night, but this lady in her seemingly 30s gave me one of the most traumatic emet anxiety since my teenage year. So this place inside flat renovated as office, at the end of the corridor there was rickety old restroom for public, I bearly can hear any sound from outside due to cornered position with doorframe.
Around one late evening I saw a women casually walking toward restroom behind me through mirror, as usual I never cared someone using it but after few minuits I heard this low pitched growl of monstrosity from hell, and the sound echoed through entire corridor and connected staircases. It was absolutely scary and panicking to me as my brain sparked full anxiety in specific fuction of human body. I just couldn't able to focus myself in the mirror so I ran away from there, shuddered. The sound continued about 10 mins till the lady walk out clean like nothing ever happened. Thanksfully it seemed no other people around other than me.
She was in average looking, probably suffer from bad disorder but I didn't feel sorry or whatever because I was panicked from the growl from hell she made. It was absolute a trigger to me, still I have no idea to keep my psyche under same situation, even I see the toilet from corridor causing me heartbeat.

I will be staying with a host family for a semester. What should I be doing to make sure things are moving and to avoid gut problems or constipation. Any probiotics or anything of the sort I should be taking daily? Any recs?
Might seem a bit weird to ask but I feel like it’s a problem most face. When you go abroad your gut isn’t used to the food and water content. Also just changing time zones can affect your bowel movements. And it’ll take some getting used to. I don’t want to be destroying my host family’s toilet or have to be poop shy 😓🥲

my 2.5 (technically 31 months) year old boy was potty trained since he turned 28 months old. He was potty trained within a couple days & got the hang of it very quickly. However, for the past week he has been refusing to poop in the toilet. He hides and just poops in his pants until I notice and clean him up. I try to explain to him that he needs to tell me and he says “okay.” but never tells me. He pees just fine on the potty, it’s just pooping. I’m not sure why he’s regressing on this?? If anyone has any idea let me know cause I’m struggling 🙃 He hasn’t pooped in the potty once for a week.

Neighbor is mad at me because of the flood from my toilet.
I am so worried I will get in trouble with my downstairs neighbors because of the toilet overflooding.
What happened was,I had to use the rest room,and I used too much toilet paper,and it over flooded,and this happened before,but I am worried my neighbors will get mad at me.
my neighbor knocked at the door and she was upset that I was making noise,like banging.i have no control of my limbs when I lay down so I bang by accident and she she made my cry.she talked calm to me but i didn’t mean to make any accidents. I didn’t mean to make any noise. She was like,I don’t want to go to court,and she was like call the guy,but i couldn’t because he was busy fixing the toilet.
I had to go use the bathroom because I am on my period and I had to poop.i am thinking of holding it in so that she doesn’t complain.my upstairs neighbor is getting his apartment fixed and she thinks the noise is coming from me.
I hate living in apartment with mean people.

Sometimes this sexuality is so confusing because like…almost all women are attractive and almost all men aren’t but I’ve only ever had crushes on men. But I’ve never done anything to act on those crushes. And when guys ask me out I have anxiety attacks and normally wind up crying on the toilet ✨fun times✨
But then sometimes I have this little bit of hope that maybe something could happen but I’m not that young anymore and isn’t it odd that nothing has happened yet? Wouldn’t something have happened by now?
And then other times I feel so secure in my sexuality and completely fine with being alone.
This should probably just go in my journal but does anyone else feel similarly?

Our cat India is 18 and has early stage IV kidney failure. I couldn’t bring myself to ask our vet what this meant in terms of life expectancy, but from what Google tells me, this probably means she has a few months left. The illness is mostly managed with renal food (she eats and drinks ok) as vet and I agreed other treatment such as IV fluids would be too stressful for her.
She is almost completely blind and is now also starting to pee and poop in random places. She has been treated for UTIs but the last set of antibiotics didn’t seem to have any effect so I’m wondering if it’s behavioural/dementia. She spends a lot of time wandering around crashing into things.
Our vet said to think of her fave three things to do and if she could do 2 of them then she has a decent qualify of life. Those three things would be sleeping with us on our bed, getting cuddles with us while we watch TV or work from home, and spending time in our enclosure soaking up the sun.
But the toilet issues have got to the stage where we’re looking at keeping her in a bathroom for hygiene reasons instead of giving her free range of the house. We’ll try and make it as nice as possible for her with bedding and a heater, and will visit for cuddles, but she’ll still probably hate it as she wants to be with us.
She’s already been banned from our bedrooms due to peeing, so that one is out, plus it’s now winter so too cold for her to enjoy time outdoors on a regular basis. So it’s maybe 1.5 things out of 3 and that’s being generous.
My husband thinks we should make the call to put her down but I feel like we would be doing it for our own convenience and I would hate myself if I did it. Even just thinking about it makes me cry.
I don’t know what to do.

Hi all,
My GRE Test is tomorrow, and while I believe I'm pretty ready with regards to verbal and quant, I don't know how I currently fare with my essays, and wanted to see what someone more experienced with the GRE would rate my essay. Attached below is the prompt, and the essay.
Greatly appreciate the help!
Conditions: Timed. Completed in 29m27s.
Time distribution:
Planning - 5min
Intro - 6min
Body - 4min each
Conclusion - 3.5min
Check - 3min
Prompt:
To understand the most important characteristics of a society, one must study its major cities. Write a response in which you discuss the extent to which you agree or disagree with the statement and explain your reasoning for the position you take. In developing and supporting your position, you should consider ways in which the statement might or might not hold true and explain how these considerations shape your position.
Essay:
While we may often state that society is filled with varying cultures and idiosyncrasies, as the number of people we account for increases, these idiosyncrasies get lost in the hubbub of major cities as statistical noise, in favor for a set of united defining traits. It is hence apt to state that the most important characteristics of a society – the fundamental pith of what makes a society unique from other such groups - would be concentrated in major cities. To that end, I believe it is important to study major cities of a society to understand its most important characteristics, especially with their impacts in the fields of cultural shifts, technological development, and economics and manufacturing.
It can be said that major cities are in essence a hodge podge of the cultures of not only those native to such major cities, but also of outlying towns – migratory flows, for a pithier term. As such, it is important to take note of such migratory flows and how these affect the characteristics of a society – especially in the socio-psychological aspect of human interaction. The city of Madison, Wisconsin, for example, often accentuates the rather special mix of modern liberal values with conservative hospitality, and this is conferred to the metropolitan, major city of Chicago. In this respect, the effects of the city of Madison has had a pronounced effect on the characteristics of its surrounding cities, which in turn leads to ripple effects to society as more people migrate from such outlying cities onto more metropolitan areas.
However, we can certainly say that these effects can also be seen in the major cities as well. In fact, the concentration of cultural flows and the incidence of cultural Zeitgeists in major cities are often much more frequent, rapid, and integral to understanding society as a whole. Significant changes in lifestyle in major cities such as Seoul and Tokyo have strong ripple effects to the cultural mindset of young people even in cities outside of Tokyo and Seoul, and are hence significantly more reflective of society as a whole. For a more specific example, dating culture in Tokyo has recently worsened, with increasing ubiquity of egregious cases of compensated dating, and this has had ripple effects on young people dating less in say, Kanagawa Prefecture. In Seoul, an increased focus for feminism has resulted in a greater career thrust in young women throughout Korea. Changes we see in major cities often permeate into outlying cities, and are hence reflective of a society.
Additionally, advancements in science and technology are often developed in major cities, especially with the availability of infrastructure, the pool of talented people migrating to such major cities, and the general culture for science and technology. A local example of this would be California – the posthumous Silicon Valley – and Hsinchu, Taiwan – a semiconductor fabrication hub. These major cities pool talent and infrastructure, allowing for major developments in science and technology ranging from Lithium-ion battery and its applications in advanced consumer goods such as electric cars, to developments in Artificial Intelligence technology, to even the coveted membrane technology used for environmentally friendly separations and hyper-selective energy-conservative manufacturing. As major cities are often major science and technology hubs which significantly drive progress in society, it would be remiss to ignore the forest for the trees, and it would hence be important to redouble our efforts into better study major cities.
Finally, it is also important to recognize that major cities are often economic and manufacturing hubs. Cities like New York and New Jersey – with its long history of a robust financial district and historic manufacturing hubs alike – are often the backbone by which most of America runs. The stock market is an inextricable part of daily life in America – with the rapid corporatization of America, the stock market presents an opportunity for not only social mobility, but also business ventures one would normally not expect. New Jersey – as a major manufacturing hub – has many integral industries that it supports, ranging from the medical devices industry, to semiconductor metrology, and to even large volume manufacturing of general goods such as toilet paper, bamboo chopsticks, and metal and wood polishing. Noting the importance of such hubs and the societal implications of the fluctuations that affect such hubs, it would, once again, be putting the cart before the horse to focus on outlying cities with less of an impact on society as a whole.
In conclusion, while I understand that it is important to also study flows from outlying cities to understand the characteristics of a society as a whole, it is much more prudent to extract this information in its concentrated form, by examining major cities instead with a fine-toothed comb. With that in mind, I believe it is extremely integral that we study a society’s major cities to better understand what a society stands for.

my apologies i dont even know where to start but this is getting scary! ive had ongoing constipation issues for months now (started in feb from *perscription pain meds bc of a injury followed by very poor advice on how to deal with the constipation from that, basically told me to abuse laxatives and did so for like a month bc they said it was fine!) and, fast forward thru a while of me just doing nothing about it and still not pooping for 5+ days at a time, i did a 7 day cycle of miralax a bit over 2 weeks ago and that seemed to work pretty well, not perfect but whatever, got most of it out. then it immediately went back to me not pooping for about 6 days! so i decided to start taking miralax again about 5 days ago, and holy hell i am so uncomfortable and in pain and its gotten worse day by day. still havent pooped at all (other than basically justenough to leave a mark on toilet paper) but it feels like its building up waste, if you can somewhat understand what i mean? every day i get more bloated and uncomfortable and whereas the first time i got a little bloated after every dose and it went away in the morning, this time it doesnt go down at all and just gets more and more every day, to the point where now i have a limited range of mobility and i can hardly sleep im so uncomfortable and in pain. its so bad that it feels like theres constantly something pushing against my ribs and it is visably pushing them apart (like my ribcage looks wider than it is), i have to constantly have my back as straight as possible otherwise its way worse, but even that hurts too, physically cant bend over, and i find myself unable to sleep because of the immense amount of constant pressure and pain/ache. i genuinely dont know what to do now! the last time i went to the dr because i hadnt pooped in over a week, she wouldnt even listen to me and basically just said it was because im on the skinnier side (i am not underweight...she confirmed that...said she thinks its bc of my weight because i used to be overweight?? idk what she was on about) and just kinda had me sitting there visably upset cause she wont listen to me at all and she was just being a flat out asshole about it, needless to say she gave me zero advice. so im a little hesitant to even go to the doctor about this out of fear im just gonna get ignored again, but i genuinely can't function properly anymore and its only getting worse every day. i dont even know what advice im seeking, but anything helps because im really scared theres seriously something dangerously wrong.

Hey guys! Just wanted to come on here and say this subreddit community really prepped me for my procedure. Thank you all for sharing your experience. Thought it will only be fair to share my experience too. I just carried out a MA , 5 weeks on the dot. I got pregnant by a guy I ended things with because I found out he was a hidden misogynist. 2 weeks after I ended it found out I was pregnant, immediately knew I wasn’t keeping it. I told him but wish I didn’t as he made me feel bad for “murdering a baby” and tried to persuade me to keep it. He couldn’t get it into his head that I didn’t want to be with him. Anyways I immediately called the sexual health clinic in my city and got booked for an appointment 4 days after. During this 4 days the research was heavy (I’m a pharmacist so I was hyper aware) I was given 2 types of medication mifepristone (stops the production of progesterone) I believe and Misoprostol which causes the contractions to expel the cells and tissues of the conception.
I was very anxious on the day as I do not tolerate pain too well and my friend who had done it before had quite a bad experience. I took the 1st tablet 48hrs prior and luckily no side effects. On the day of misoprostol I went to my friend’s apartment, I wasn’t doing this at home with my mum lol. Took some pain killers I was provided 30 min prior and then inserted 4 misoprostol into my vagina, immediately got an hot water bottle and laid down (I also got high which I won’t recommend as I felt it heightened the pain). An hour in , the cramps started, I was hot. I literally stripped away my pjs. I had the urge to poop so I got up but nothing. I sat on the toilet for about 15 min I felt horrible but nothing so I went back to bed. I also had on those incontinence pull up panties! They are amazing! I went back to bed and the cramps got to a level 8/10 pheeewww! It was painful. 1hr30 min in and the bleeding started , lightly first. 2 hours in I felt an urge to push . As I did I felt a massive clot moving down me I got up again and went to the bathroom and plop it came out of me, was that the foetus? I thought to myself as I flushed it down the drain.
We are now 2.5 hours in, the pain has now dropped to a 4/10. I’m starving (first time in 5 weeks) so I make a quick snack. The worst is over I thought to myself. I laid back down and fell asleep. The bleeding was now heavy. 4hours in my alarm went off . I took some more cocodamol and stuck the last two pills in between my gums and cheek. It took about 30 min to dissolve and I rinsed and swallowed the residue with water.
4.5 hours in the cramps heightened again. 6/10 this time. Hot water bottles refilled, another blood clot came out of me , I changed my pull ups. And I genuinely slept for another 4 hours (I guess getting high helped with that) so I didn’t feel the cramps. When I woke up we are about 8/9hours in and cramping has gone down to a 3/10. My appetite is back ( I had lost it during the 5 weeks of pregnancy) I feel like myself first time in forever. I got up, plop another clot “was that the foetus?” I thought again.
I made myself a big fat burger refilled my hot water bottle and decided to make this post on Reddit. I’m currently sitting at the dining table. Hot water bottle on my stomach. Cramping very mildly and bleeding very lightly. I really hope it was a successful procedure. Also I didn’t have any nausea or vomitting which I was shocked about as I was nauseous af for the whole pregnancy. I also hope I don’t bleed for too long now as I’m an active girl (gym and basketball) and I want to get back into them soon after.
Hope this thread helped someone 🩷 I’ll keep you updated in 2 weeks times

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years. We started dating when I left NYC during Covid and returned to my hometown on the west coast for the year. We became serious during Covid and eventually made things official. However, I wasn’t living in my hometown permanently; it was just temporary, and I had to go back to my apartment in NYC eventually.
When we got together, he seemed great. He had his life together - a good job, his own nice apartment, his own car, and he took me out on nice dates. He was more of a "provider". Fast forward to 2021, he decided to move to NYC to live with me and start a new life. However, I should have been more cautious because he left his good-paying job without any plan or job lined up, relying only on his $100k in savings. He convinced me to move out of my apartment in the Bronx that was ridiculously cheap to live, I only paid $850 in rent! he thought it was a dump and wouldn't feel comfortable living there. I didn’t agree with that, I thought my apartment was beautiful and spacious but he wasn’t use to NYC living. Anyways, my roommates and I were kinda over living there so it gave us an excuse to move into a different apartment. We found a place in Brooklyn that was more expensive but with the idea that everybody would be contributing it would be fine.
Fast forward to 2022, during Covid, he was very good at investing and trading, so he wanted to find a job in finance. However, his money eventually ran out. From 2022 until now, he worked horrible finance jobs that paid him nothing, and I ended up having to fully support both of us financially. I paid rent for a $2500 apartment with no help from him. On top of it, it started getting really annoying how everything started falling on me like he has bad credit so everything had to be under my name, or how he never renewed his drivers license bc he felt like he didn’t need it any more so I would have to do all the driving or rent cars or even worse, getting pulled over while he was driving and switching seats so that I was on the driver side bc he thought he would go to jail driving without a license. It’s just like, get your shit together bro. I felt like I was his sponsor while he struggled, switching between three different firms, working for free, and studying every day to get licenses. NYC is a very expensive city so to take care of 2 ppl is hard.
There were many times I had to pay for his phone bill, haircuts, groceries, the car that he got towed for parking irresponsibly, his tests, plane tickets and more. He kept telling me that "this will eventually pay off". he eventually decided he didn't like finance bc it was a waste of time and tried becoming a personal trainer, which also didn't work out. At this point he’s gone through like 5 jobs. I even had to start dancing to help both of us financially.
I feel stupid and unappreciated because I wouldn’t have minded any of this had he made me feel appreciated and made effort. He rarely expressed gratitude or guilt or had any urgency to just get a job on the side while he studied, he wasn’t putting any effort on special occasions like birthdays or holidays,bc he had no money and he wasn’t doing enough chores around the house either while being a messy person. Only when I brought it up, does he claim that it bothers him that he wasn’t able to take care of me on special occasions but then would act so nonchalant about it on a daily basis? I literally paid for everything at one point, yet we STILL split chores equally, despite him not contributing financially or putting in any additional effort to still make me feel special. When I confronted him about how I shouldn’t be going 50/50 on chores he'd dismissed my concerns by saying things like "when women make more money than men, this is how they act". Or he went on to tell me how I only work 3 days a week so I’m not as busy as him. He would also make excuses as to why he couldn’t think of doing anything thoughtful or special for me without having the funds to do so, as if he couldn’t figure out something to do free like IDK writing me a love note, planning surprise picnic dates or a surprise at home movies date. I will say that he’s a great cook and loves to cook, so he would cook for me all the time and he would consider that effort.
It feels like hes taken me for granted. I constantly had to ask him to do things around the house. He would do things like sleep In excessively I found my self constantly being his alarm clock telling him it’s time to get out of bed, it was super unmotivating to be around , he would leave pee on the toilet seat, have his shaved beard hair around the sink, cook and leave a mess with the dishes, not wiping down the counter , clothes piles and more. When I would voice my frustration, it would turn into a screaming match, him trying to make me feel like I’m over reacting or him getting pissed at my lack of patience and warranted bad attitude that I have constantly towards him. He claims he love, cares, or that he his very appreciative but his actions say otherwise.
Fast forward these past few months, we’ve gone to couples therapy, he’s got a really good normal salary paying job and he’s definitely been getting a lot better in many ways but looking back I get so angry bc I felt taken advantage of and unappreciated, and now I resent him so much for it and I regret letting him put me in such a bad financial position while being so ungrateful. He still has yet make things up to me. I feel like I’ve gone all this time and done so much for him that I need him to owe it back to me. Idk if that’s wrong of me.

1: Let the youth respectfully quietly walk out and drink water and go to the bathroom without permission and walk and stretch to get something without getting in trouble, that's exactly what the military is, and getting detention for being 15 minutes late? Detention? Detained? Home Detention sounds very Fascistic police state like, a lot of schools don't allow that.
2: Memorizing words and filling in worksheets with pencils don't help that much and NCEA examines do not get one a job at, skills do like wood work or cooking or IT or sowing, expectation of only university/polytech, at least cooking or woodwork with others are legit skills unlike sitting on a table wasting 40 minutes of your life memorizing how and why the frog crossed the road with a pencil trying to spell ''ELECTR_CA_N TO H_NT FRO_'' "TO G_T TO FR_ANC_''
3: Keeping them silent in the class all the time will destroy their talking and communication skills especially for job interviews!!!
4: Many state schools are treating people who are on the verge of being adults like like micromanaged infants in a prison/military or live stock... the result? Stress, anxiety, anger, depression and conflict and taking out stress on other pupils and those pupils have no respect for anybody and devolving into sociopaths or psychopaths and even by now maybe having record numbers of work place violence due to bullying. By now 10% of NZ Adults by now who are truly scared of the world and live in front of screens 24/7 playing video games or social media or on drugs or alcohol living on the benefits not saying who people who don't work are bad at all ok? Because they never were respected as being a Human / a growing little man / little women in their school AKA ''NEET's'' I'm sorry this happened to you people, read books and go outside and watch the Swans in the park! NEET's! Don't give up! Life is beautiful! Godbless!
5: Back in the olden days most of the all youths when they turned 14 - 15 off to the factories or military you went and it was tough but you got earned cash and you worked and talked to adults a lot! Same thing in 3rd world nations!
6: The top professions that most attracts sex predators? Teachers or principals / jobs in secondary school education, police officers and priests with church clergy and 3rd world country aid workers not saying homeschool is the the solution but remember, sex predators are very, very smart and likable people, always have a theme of being a central figure or leadership in those types of circles not always but yeah...
7: I read Epstein FBI files last of all and Epsteins sex trafficking network was very, very well networked to many of the US School systems and admin staff and school boards always well linked in the Florida US area.
8: You cannot be too smart or too slow, what's the point taking the youngsters their making them stay 7 hours a day without any backing or funding or support? Useless. If they're too smart then get them to teach the class and help other students.
9: The lack of knowledge and uselessness of school counselors that don't understand Trauma or PTSD in children since a majority of mental health issues come from trauma
10: And if you had a good school that did allow all that was right then please thank those teachers or your parents, that's all I will say, please be happy and grateful!
11: No, no matter what Hollywood says high school prison system will never the best time of a lot of people lives, for most people it's at least their late teens to early 20's getting stupidly blacked out smashed on booze. swearing at bouncers, spewing all over the concrete and kicking over bins and bar fights, dancing to ugly remixed pop music you hate, chasing girls and gouging down junk food at 2pm and getting thrown in the cells or having dirty flats full of booze bottles and someone puked all over the couch sleeping on it as well at 10am and destroyed toilet of even more puke and urine with your xbox controllers being sticky and gross and where's the halo disc at?? And for me that was an expensive hobby and I regret not saving up for overseas or doing more hiking or outdoors.