How to unblock something from mcafee

Hi, hope you are good!
I am using Osab’s version of the game, for reference and do not use any mods other than the ones that was included in its download.
I have been doing a rotational play in Pleasantview for the last few days, including today without any issues. However, now whenever I try to load into the Goth family, I get an Error Message saying the game has crashed. It seems to work fine when I enter any other lot. The weird thing is, I noticed that my anti-malware program all of a sudden detected the program as virus and put in quarantine. At this point I wasn’t even able to start the game, suddenly. I restored the main starter .exe file several times from the anti-virus software (McAfee) with a list of other files for the game.
After restoring them I was able to start it again, but not fix the problem of entering the Goth lot. I even tried to move their household out and in again, hoping it would fix it, but no. Every time I try place them back in their home I get the crash (like before when I tried to enter the lot).
I suspect McAfee or Windows Defender, not entirely sure here, but I think McAfee, keeps labeling it as a virus. But now it doesn’t even show up in the quaratine folder. The problem is, I cannot for the love of God figure out how to whitelist the game or any program. I have tried google but can’t even find the category.
Does anyone have any solutions to this and how I can move forward?
Much appreciated and much love
TLDR; game crashes when trying to load a certain lot. Seems to be fine on other lots. Game detected in quarantine. Restored it from there. Still the same issue
UPDATE: I can move the Goths into another house but I cannot enter the Goth Estate in build mode/alone and still not move them in there. So it seems like there is something up with the Goth Estate itself. But I really want them to live there. Lol

this just happened earlier today, for context he’s 18M and i’m 20F and we met through a groupchat of our mutual friends, we were talking and he was nice at first but would very quickly start lovebombing me (saying i’m the perfect girl for him, telling me he loves me so much within the first few days of us talking, never-ending compliments, even bought me a game we’d play together and told me he’s had the “best gaming sessions ever” with me)
i’ve never dated or had someone talk to me this way before so i was very flattered at first and tried reciprocating his words (though deep down it felt off to me, but i thought he was just being really sweet- i convinced myself i had feelings for him as well) - i hope i don’t sound daft saying this but i barely talk to guys in my life in general and so i’ve never had this kind of situation before!
so about 2 weeks would pass, there would be a continuation of lovebombing and although i liked it at first i would eventually get tired of it and i knew i didnt have real feelings for him, though i didnt know how to reject him at first? but earlier today, he blocked me out of the blue (i think i just didn’t respond faster than he’d hoped) and very quickly unblocked me trying to gaslight me and act like nothing happened and that immediately gave me the confidence to confirm i would reject him (because thats a weird thing to do lmao)
so i admitted to him i felt uncomfortable talking to him as i lost interest and that i didn’t have true feelings for him,and id also now prefer being by myself than to talk to other guys including him
and then he immediately began charging at me with insults! he was talking about how “bad i am for him” and called me sexist slurs which came out of nowhere 😭
i called him immature after that and i said im not sure why i even bothered to keep talking to him given his immaturity and i told him to grow up
i blocked him after that, then one of our mutual friends soon texted me about how this guy was venting to him about wanting to “kill himself” now… but also that this guy was going on about how horrible i am as a person so this friend wanted to question me about it
i told my friend this only happened after i rejected him, and that i rejected him because i felt uncomfortable talking to him due to losing interest from all the lovebombing, his weird behaviour, as well as being put off by him insulting me after rejection, after he said all these nice things to me
my friend understood and is trying to convince this guy to just move on and get therapy
ngl i was concerned, i asked another one of my friends about wether or not this guy could be serious about ending his life and immediately she was like “hell no” after i told her about the excessive lovebombing which basically made him out to just be a manipulator
so now that im no longer in contact with him, i just feel like i’m free from some chains that held me down, i’m glad i didnt keep talking to him pretending like everything would be fine
TL;DR so i learned this guy is 100% just being manipulative and was manipulating me as soon as the lovebombing started (something i had never experienced before) and that him threatening to end his life was purely guilt tripping as well
i’m so glad i rejected and blocked this guy because i cannot imagine myself in a serious relationship with someone like this!

My bf and his ex broke up around 2020-2021 but were off and off for a little bit. We have been together 1 year, he has been off with her for about a year before that. She’s an alcoholic and was abusive (police reports) and he’s in therapy.
She was reported missing and a family member reached out to see if he had heard from her (as this used to be the cycle). The story he tells me is he got angry and unblocked her and told her to tell her family to leave him alone and stop contacting him about her. He then deleted these conversations. I found out because I noticed her name disappeareappear on some Facebook posts and I asked him if he had been talking to her. I also saw her posted as a missing person so that is true. I asked to see the messages and he told me he deleted them, he felt guilty for texting her and wanted her gone from his life. He didn’t tell me because he didn’t want to upset me. I’m worried that he’s hiding things from me now, or that he’s not really over her. Is it suspicious that he deleted everything?
TLdr; bf secretly reached out to ex in anger when he was contacted by her family after she disappeared in a relapse, deleted messages. I’m worried there’s something more he’s not telling me or that he’s not really over her. How do I approach this?

My bf and his ex broke up around 2020-2021 but were off and off for a little bit. We have been together 1 year, he has been off with her for about a year before that. She’s an alcoholic and was abusive (police reports) and he’s in therapy.
She was reported missing and a family member reached out to see if he had heard from her (as this used to be the cycle). The story he tells me is he got angry and unblocked her and told her to tell her family to leave him alone and stop contacting him about her. He then deleted these conversations. I found out because I noticed her name disappeareappear on some Facebook posts and I asked him if he had been talking to her. I also saw her posted as a missing person so that is true. I asked to see the messages and he told me he deleted them, he felt guilty for texting her and wanted her gone from his life. He didn’t tell me because he didn’t want to upset me. I’m worried that he’s hiding things from me now, or that he’s not really over her. Is it suspicious that he deleted everything?
TLdr; bf secretly reached out to ex in anger when he was contacted by her family after she disappeared in a relapse, deleted messages. I’m worried there’s something more he’s not telling me or that he’s not really over her. How do I approach this?

I don’t really know what flair to add this too, I’m sorry. It’s also kind of heavy so I apologize for that too and I understand if it’s too much. I’m going to give the ages everyone was at the time so: Me (17F), my little sibling A (11NB), and Ex Boyfriend C (14M). I know the age gap is bad but please bear with me to the end
The start of things: my little sibling was playing Minecraft in a public server while I was hanging out with them, and their friend (C) was venting about their recent breakup. Having dated a couple people by then, I offered A some advice to give him since A had never had a partner. A started to get fed up with typing and wanted to play Minecraft- which is fair- so I told them to just give C my Skype (yes this is back when everyone had Skype) and I would talk to him there.
C was a friendly and sensitive kid, and I didn’t mind trying to help him feel better about his self-confidence and the breakup and everything. I was just trying to help him out for A’s sake since they were pretty close. Unfortunately, in giving C relationship advice and talking about what he wanted in a partner and such, he started to see me as a rebound. I didn’t really see much harm in this, and we had a lot in common and I was admittedly having my own issues at the time that made me enjoy the attention he gave me. We lived several states away so it would only be emotional attachment so I thought it would be okay to date him. Huge mistake and kinda gross on my part, I know.
I told some of my friends and they jokingly called me a “cougar” and a “cradle-robber”, but no one condemned me for it. Still, their comments made me really think about what I was doing and how it would be if things were reversed, and it was a guy in his 20s hitting on me. And then it hit me that even though we were both minors now, I would be 18 and a legal adult, and he would be in his second year of high school. I brought this up to him, but by now he was getting a little obsessive. He said he would wait until he was old enough to propose to me, and talking about our future kids. He was 14 and planning his life around me when he should’ve been worrying about which afterschool clubs to join. It made me sick to realize what I had done and set off every red flag, so I told him to forget about me and just focus on enjoying his teenage years. That I hoped he took all the advice I had given him and that it helped him love himself a little more and didn’t forget that just because of the breakup.
He did not want to. Begged me to reconsider, that he loved me, how could I do this to him, was everything I told him a lie, everything he could think of. I blocked him because I really wanted him to be able to get past me and I didn’t know what else to do. A couple days later I get a message from someone claiming to be C’s friend. He told me that C’s cancer had come back aggressively and that he was in the hospital. Over the next few hours he described how C was in and out of life before saying he flatlined. Not only was he telling me all of this, but he was telling it to A as well to make it more believable. My little sibling and I were sitting together thinking this guy we both cared about was gone and crying.
20 minutes later I get another message saying the doctors just revived him. This raised a huge red flag for me because I thought that that shouldn’t really be possible. I got suspicious about everything then. Suddenly C had his phone back and his “friend” told me to unblock him because he had amnesia from everything and needed to talk to me. So I unblocked him and he asked who I was, thinking that I would stay with him so that I would help him regain his memory and take care of him.
Well his plan backfired, because I remember thinking “this is my way out”. If he did have amnesia, he could move on and never even miss me. If he didn’t and it was a lie, then he was awful for doing all of this to me and my little sibling. I told him I was no one special, and I reiterated the most important pieces of advice I had given him, including about something very personal and traumatic to him. He said I must be very important if I knew about that. Red flag again, because if he had amnesia about everything like he claimed, how did he remember that? I told him again I wasn’t special and blocked him again, and also his “friend’s” account. I figured that was that and even though I was shaken, I was glad it was done.
UNTIL 3 or so years later my little sibling looks up from their phone and goes “did you know C was actually still alive?” I was shocked. I hadn’t even thought about him in a while. “Yeah? Did… did you not know?”
HE HADN’T TOLD A HE WAS STILL ALIVE
He went through all the trouble of telling A he was in the hospital and everything else, but only cared about telling me he was alive after. He let my little sibling grieve him for 3 YEARS. That was A’s first real experience with losing someone! I was so unbelievably angry. I hope C got the therapy he really needed at some point, but I also hope we never cross paths again.
That was 11 years ago. I’m married to someone who is a year older than me now, and I’m the crazy one in the relationship, not him.

C,
I hope this letter finds you. And I hope it finds you in good spirits. I’ve keeping this since Valentine’s Day, but my feelings have reached a point where I can no longer keep it to myself.
From the moment we first met, there was something about you that captivated me. Your kindness, your laugh, the way your eyes light up when you smile, how passionate about life you are —all of it drew me in. Over time, my feelings for you have only grown stronger.
I know that life is complicated and that matters of the heart can be even more so. Perhaps you haven't noticed how deeply I care for you, or maybe you have, and it hasn't seemed right.
Please, give me a chance to show you how much I care. I want to be there for you in ways that words alone cannot express. I know there is someone else. Maybe more than someone. I don’t really care because I’m sure the day my hands touch you, everything is going to change.
I understand if you need time to think about this or if your heart is divided. All I ask is that you consider what we could be together. And please unblock me. I believe we could create something beautiful.
With all my heart,
B.

So, I looked up their YouTube views on videos labeled with 'Sports Media' or something of that ilk to try and compare with non-sports media views from the same time frame. Just to see if they do get a bump from those discussions and honestly it kind of surprised me. Obviously this isn't a scientific study it took me like 15 minutes and doesn't include podcast numbers. Also, I'm sure I missed something.
10 hours ago - A look at Sports Media - 2.5k views
18 hours ago - Reacting to Doc Rivers comments on JJ Reddick - 20k
3 weeks ago - How McAfees is changing media - 20k views
2 months - Why Stephen A Smith is climbing in sports media - 5.6k
4 months - Dan tells Stephen A Smith he hates what skip and him have done - 54k
7 months - Reacts to war happening in sports media - 84k (this is a sleezy title right after everything started in the Middle East)
Non-Sports Media
11 hours ago - Which NBA underdog could go all the way - 263 views
15 hours ago - Sam Morrill - 3.3k
3 weeks - Former Warriors Stephen Jackson and Matt Barnes explain - 75k
2 months - Clippers best team in NBA? - 27k
4 months - Mina Kimes MVP race - 21k
7 months - Michelle Beadle - 43k
Top 5 Views All-Time

1. 4 months ago - Jemele reacts to Stephen A Smith on Jason Whitlock - 389k
   
2. 2 years ago - Jemele Hill on Sage Steele - 502k
   
3. 2 years ago - Honest conversation about ESPN - 520k
   
4. 4 months ago - UAP expert Jeremy Corbell - 669k
   
5. 2 years ago - Ariel Helwani goes off about ESPN - 686k
   

Hi, a few months ago I (16f) was in an online relationship with a guy (23m) who I met in an online video game. We were together for 5 months. He was very kind in the first month, but then he started to get really angry and yell at me a lot. He would also accuse me of cheating on him almost daily. After he started to show this behavior, I decided to end the relationship, but then he told me he had bipolar disorder, and that this was the reason he would get so angry. I asked him why he hadn’t told me this sooner, and he told me that he was scared I would break up with him for it. After this, I took him back. When I asked him what bipolar disorder was, he told me that it was a multiple personalities disorder, and that whenever he would get angry, he would blackout and wouldn’t remember anything that happened during the time that he was angry. But I found that every time he would come out of his angry state, he would miraculously remember everything that happened. I think he may have lied about what bipolar disorder was though, or maybe even lied about having it so he could excuse his abusive behaviour because shortly after I broke up with him, I looked up what bipolar disorder was. There was no mention of bipolar having anything to do with multiple personalities.
Anyway, back to the story. After a few months of constant minipulation and blackmail, I eventually got sick of it and tried to look for an escape. I initiated breakup multiple times, but every time, he would either threaten to hire someone to kill my family as he knew where I lived, threaten to post private photos of myself, make me feel bad about something, or he would threaten to kill himself. Now, before you say “Why didn’t you block him on everything?” Trust me, I did. But this wouldn’t stop him. He would just text or call my brothers and manipulate me through them, or he would spam my mums Xbox account with messages when she was online, and I didn’t want her to get involved so I would just unblock him. Every time he would threaten me, I would tell him that I didn’t mean what I said and that I still wanted to be with him. But eventually, being with him started to take a huge toll on my mental health. I started to act in ways that I never did before. I would throw temper tantrums every time he would text in the morning, letting me know that he was awake. I would punch the floor repeatedly as hard as I could whenever he called. I became extremely sensitive and cried over the dumbest reasons. My brother ate all my muffins and I bawled my eyes out. I never cry over things like that. Being with him was litterally driving me crazy.
And so, I planned on breaking up with him as soon as I moved countries, which was only a month away. On the day of my flight, I ghosted him. I was scared that he would post private pictures of myself online, but i ghosted him anyway because I was genuinely going insane being with him. After a few days, I forgot just how much I hated being with him, and out of fear and guilt I apologised for ghosting him and we got back together. I instantly regretted this when I woke up the following morning. He was nice again for about a day, but then he started to go back to his usual behavior. At this point, I hated myself and would have done anything to go back in time and not apologise to him, but of course that’s impossible. All I could do was wait for the right moment. I waited for him to say something. Something so bad that he couldn’t possibly make me feel bad about breaking up with him. And of course, that didn’t take long at all.
We were in the middle of a game, and my dog was hungry so I left to go feed her, he got angry. Later that night, he heard her yelp in pain (I think someone stepped on her paw?) and these were his exact words; “Was that Luna? Oh good. She’s dying. Now you won’t have to feed her anymore.” I asked him to repeat what he had just said, and he did as asked. I calmly left the game that we were in and I hung up the phone. He was very angry and instantly texted me, saying that I would regret it if I didn’t call him back immediately. But I didn’t care. I was way too angry to care. After he realised that I wasn’t going to call him back and that I was breaking up with him, his mood suddenly changed and he instantly started apologising and tried to make me feel guilty like he usually did. It was Wednesday when this happened, and every Wednesday he would spend time with his family and go out somewhere. He used this to try and make me feel guilty. “Wednesday is the only time I get to spend with my family, and you are taking it away from me! I can’t go out when I’m crying this much!” He said something along the lines of this. (Which is ridiculous of him to say, as he would literally make me spend every single minute of every single day day with him, and would get angry if I wanted to spend time with my family. For example; when my dad wanted to take me and my brothers on a 2 day holiday to the beach one last time as a goodbye present, he got very angry and said that he wanted my dad dead. I still went anyway, by the way.) I just laughed when he said this. I was so happy. Maybe the happiest I had been in my whole life. Possibly even the happiest person in the world at that moment. But not because he ‘couldn’t spend time with his family’, but because I knew that this time, we surely wouldn’t get back together. After a few days, he stopped texting me and eventually gave up. Finally, freedom!
But to this day I still wonder; was I wrong? If he really did have bipolar like he said he did and couldn’t control what he said or did when he was angry, would that make me wrong for leaving him?

Long story short i ( 21F) made a bad decision, dated someone (20M) for approximately 9 months, chalked up the manipulative behaviors to trauma and stayed longer than i shouldve
Context that may matter, he lives in another province, has visited, knows my adress
When i left he started blowing up on me and when i didnt respond how he wanted it escalated, he started being aggressive berating me and calling me a narcissit, he has been calling my phone multiple times a day, when I change number he makes new ones, started messaging my loved ones, posting About me non-stop, lies, calling me crazy and delusional, text messages with whatever context he wants, stalking accounts ive blocked him on with other accounts, I have blocked him every where, its been a week of this
i unblocked him asking him to stop messaging my friends/ people i know and to just believe everything bad he believes of me and just let me be, he replied a long text saying he was "speaking to people i know that agreed with him" and that he wanted to show everyone who I "really am" a bunch of the same stuff just scary
He is using a situation that happened between my two best friends in 2018 involving infidelity in between them, im not directly involved apart from me knowing about it and at the time not knowing what to do with the information and feeling hurt over it which is why i told him He messaged one of the friend involved after his initial freakout Full transparency i did back track on that, i felt didnt really have a choice to when he started messaging her about it when he first started freaking out on me after the breakup, at the end of the day i didnt owe him the truth anymore at that point he had alreadycrossed a line about something that doesnt involve him with the intent to hurt me and the people i care about , but that doesn't matter rlly hes sticking to the fact i lied and backtracked on that to prove the things he says about me and now hes saying how hell download his facebook data to expose the situation and what I've said about it previously Its just mental torture, there is no real point to any of this, he wants a response out of me hes trying to hurt me and he is
More info that might matter, his ex has a restraining order against him (that he disregards however he sees fit) because he essentially did the same thing hes doing right now to her but worst, he threatened to kill her and himself, his entire friend group at the time sided with his ex, he told me its because she had abused him and pushed him this far and i believed it at the time but now being in the exact situation she was minus the threats on my life i can see him for what he is
I called a domestic violence hotline, they told me to file a police report for harrasment
Im scared to not be taken seriously and bring more trouble by making him angry, i know harassment is illegal but he genuinely threatened his ex and walked off with a restraining order only, he lives in another province so although hes unpredictable enough to show up here if he wants im not directly accessible for him to hurt me physically and i know that despite the restraining order he still harasses his ex and genuinely believes that she still cares about him and wants to he in his life, he has thoughts like this a lot, he has cyber stalked other girls before bc he belived she was sending him indirect message to keep going even after she blocked him, a friend of hers had to tell him to stop Im just worried that it wont really stop him ? Or might make it worst
Will i be taken seriously considering he has a record of that? Has he been harrasing me long enough for the law to care? I just need all the info i can get
I need advice im really desperate, im scared i feel trapped

I’ve been talking to this guy for more than a month and I met him online on a chatting app. I’m 19 and he’s 34. Our relationship is basically based on a flirtatious nature. We exchanged pics and videos and we called few times. I kinda got attached to him since he is the first guy to see my personal intimate ( not nudes) pics.
He started to get more demanding about me sending him more pics of sexual nature which is draining and sometimes I don’t feel like to send such pics. But he keeps getting mad over it and he feels sort of entitled to my pics. He once blocked me because of this and then unblocked me after a day and told me that he missed me and he’s not used to not talk to me..he told me that has feelings toward me and that he feels something different with me..
so I don’t know what to do. I just kinda feel stuck between ending this and trying to continue the relationship and it’s hard for me to say no. So I don’t know why am I like this? Any advice how to get over this relationship and end it? Am I gonna be able to move on from this after I have gone against my values and morals as he emotionally manipulated me?

Okay, I'm honestly confused to a huge degree so maybe you can tell me where I went wrong and if and maybe why I ATAH.
Since my brother (34) accuses me of treating him badly, here is a caption of the most recent events and most important facts.
GENERAL ASPECTS

• we have a bad relationship since I'm about 12 (he was probably 15)
• we had heavy arguments full of insults and physical fights.
• when I was in my twenties he attacked me which resulted in permanent damage to my nose.
  
• since I moved out we're barely in touch
  
• he stayed mostly in his room when I visited (he still lives there).
  
• every year he blocks and unblockes me, leaves and rejoins the family group. This mostly happens after I text my mother about something I don't think is okay, for example that he took my stuff that were presents or that there were different standards for him and me.
  
• my mother witnessed him insulting and physically hurting me since were young but doesn't do anything and simply states that it hurts her to see our relationship being that bad.
  

THROWBACK SINCE DECEMBER

• two weeks before our grandpas funeral he told me I should not come over after the funeral.
• at the cemetery I told him to speak quieter since what he was saying was something that would cause him huge trouble. He insulted me as a result.
• on my birthday he was there despite me telling our mother several times I didn't want him there. He was surprisingly nice and even had a present for me. My mother pressured me to tell him about my pregnancy. He was nice to me from then on.
  
• my mother told people about my pregnancy and a few weeks later the gender despite me telling her repeatedly how important it was for me to be the one to share the news and experience the reactions. Therefore I let her know how very inappropriate this was and that I wasn't going to share any more information with her.
  
• I texted my brother and told him that I hoped he wouldn't behave as egoistic as she did. He blocked me and left the family chat.
  
• he unblocked me shortly before his bday, so I wished him a happy birthday. He replied "thank you".
  

NOW COMES THE CURRENT WTF MOMENT

• so this morning I see that he texted me last night.
  
• he was telling me there were two options: we'd be a normal family and acted that way or I'd keep on acting the way I do, in which case he'd stop any contact towards me and the child wouldn't have him as an uncle as it would be too stressful for the child. He wouldn't let himself get treated this way.
  

He did not tell me in which way I was treating him badly or in which way my behaviour was wrong. Mind you, I revealed everything that happened up front so I am honestly heavily confused.

• exactly one hour later he texted again, stating that he chose the second option as expected and then he blocked me.

I am honestly heavily confused so please help me out because my first thought was: wtf, is he completely nuts now? My second thought was: wtf are him and my mother talking about me that led to this? My third thought is: I am the one that gets treated badly repeatedly and never saw any apology. I am simply sticking to my boundaries and keeping a distance. So what am I missing here??
So... AITAH for the way I treat my brothefamily?
TLDR: my brother blocked and unblocked me constantly. After telling him to not behave like my mother and spread all the baby news he blocked me. Unblocked me before his bday So I wished him a happy bday. He then send me an ultimatum and decided for himself the answer. AITAH?

I don’t know what to do. My brother just shot himself in front of our mother after battling with depression and some undiagnosed manic-depressive disorder that he wouldn’t get treatment for. He was my best friend for much of our life until he joined the military, then we became distant as his personality seemed to change. He was married to a very sweet young woman who he cheated on multiple times and became hateful and cruel towards her and it made me lose respect for him. They divorced and he left the military (he was never deployed) and had plans to become an occupational therapist but he never followed through on any of the steps necessary to get back into school. He became an alcoholic during his time in the military and would steal pain medication from my mother that she took for her migraines and back pain. He used THC heavily as well. He would have these huge mood swings, going from grandiose plans to change the world to hitting rock bottom and becoming paranoid, thinking everyone was spying on him if we made one comment that triggered something in him. We begged him to get help but he refused, he didn’t have enough self awareness or something to see how bad his paranoia and/or mania was getting. I have very young children and became less willing to spend time listening to him when he was in either extreme phase. I’d had him blocked for a few months because he’d accused me of trying to turn our mother against him after he went through her phone and read texts we’d sent regarding his behavior. I’d only unblocked him a few weeks ago and we just started talking again on Mother’s Day as he’d bought me flowers and had our mom deliver them to me when we got together. I’d thanked him and he’d asked to see me soon, but I work varying shifts at night and had plans to help my mother-in-law this coming weekend so I told him we could shoot for June. My mom called me at work tonight wailing that I needed to leave, he’d asked her to come over to his house and she’d gone and he waited until she got there and shot himself in front of her. She supported him through everything, providing him with money and a place to stay when he didn’t have a job and her love always. She loved him even when he made himself unlovable. Why would he do that to her??? Why would he do something so cruel that will destroy her??? She’ll never unsee her baby boy killing himself in front of her. I’ll never forgive him but I am struggling with forgiving myself too. I should have done more but I always used the excuse of having too little free time or energy after taking care of my kids and working and such. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to feel. I’m breaking apart and I’m not sure what happens next.

So my ex and I (23f, 25f) broke up a little over 3 months ago. It was really brutal, I was blindsided, but at the same time I hurt her quite a bit as well. We were really toxic towards the end and I genuinely think this was for the best.
Like an hour and a half after we have the breakup conversation, Im at home trying to process things and she texts me a picture of her mom’s dog wearing a kansas city chiefs shirt and says “I fear you would have left me over this anyways” (Context for anyone who doesn’t care about sports, I just straight up don’t like the Chiefs and they were playing in the super bowl again that weekend). I didn’t respond at all and just felt really hurt, we broke up under strange circumstances and I was left feeling like she just didn’t like me and I was resigned to the fact that she didn’t respect me anymore, so getting a joke text within 2 hours of breaking up hurt a lot tbh. Like what was I supposed to say?
Fast forward two days, I didn’t respond to her dumb joke and she texts me at like midnight saying “Im sorry, I’ll learn forgiveness, you were my best friend and I hope we can be friends again” and then says a bunch more stuff the next morning like “We should talk soon”, “nobody understands me like you, I just want to speak with you about this and nobody else but we can’t and it sucks”. My sister and my friends told me to block her but I held strong for some reason. I just couldn’t let go.
Then a few MORE days later I decided to respond with no words, I send her the laundry/taxes meme from Everything Everywhere All at Once, partly because it was sentimental and we did have a really special relationship at one point, and also because lowkey the last thing I dropped off for her was her W-2 and her laundry. She responds saying we should talk soon, and says all kinds of stuff like “I miss you lots”, “Maybe we just need time to be our own people”, “Im still wearing the ring you gave me” (context: It wasn’t a promise ring or engagement ring or anything, just was one of the first birthday presents I ever got her and was one of the first gifts I ever bought someone where I spent real real money on, so it at least meant SOMETHING to us), and a whole bunch of other sentimental stuff, concluding with “Im here whenever you’re ready to speak.” These messages all really hurt me and multiple ppl told me to block her but once again, I just couldn’t bring myself to.
Now, a few more days go by and she texts me about a performance one of our mutual friends’ invited us to. She asked if I was gonna go and said if I was then she would back out. This just bothered me SO MUCH, not only had I forgotten all about this performance and had zero intention of going given the state I was in, but it was just a question that NEEDED an answer, I couldn’t just leave her on read again, right? I responded and kinda showed too much of my feelings and how hurt I was, and we spoke a bit over text. She admitted she handled our breakup inappropriately and also said that marriage was still a possibility for us (Mind you, in our final argument as a couple she pointed at me and goes “Does this even look like marriage material?” which I still think about to this day). It was….jarring. I pretty much clung on to that hope. Then at the end she completely switched her stance and said SHE needed time and that she would let ME know when she was ready for a conversation, saying she needed two weeks.
Fast forward a few weeks, we had been in contact only to exchange our belongings, but she blocked me after I told her she could leave one of my hats in the mailbox if she didnt want to see me. So I message her dad a week later in order to get my things back and get that all sorted. However, one of my friends informed me that she was speaking to a boy in one of her psych courses who had been hitting on her. This kinda sent me down the rabbit hole and I message her dad again asking for some of my stuff back. Mind you, Im still blocked at this point so if I wanted it back, I had to go through him. The thing she still had of mine was my nice pillow which i had given to her to take to her dorm, and even a few days after the breakup she had said stuff like “Im still sleeping on the pillow you gave me” so at this rate I just wanted it back. Her dad immediately assumed I had blocked her and he tried to speak to me like I was his kid and I told him “your daughter is the one who blocked me” and he got really embarrassed. I get unblocked and get my pillow back bc I dont know how youre still sleeping on it while speaking to the first dude that hits on you (Mind you this girl swore she was a lesbian and was always worried I would cheat with a boy). I get the pillow back, she compliments my hair bc I had gotten it done, and we go on our separate ways.
Now, I messaged her a couple more times because I kept finding stuff of hers at my place. Id dropped some of it off at her dad’s place bc he lives in town. Fast forward to my birthday exactly 2 months after we breakup, she texts me at 9pm saying “Happy birthday” and nothing else. Wtf. I didn’t reply and I actually was super lonely on my bday so she was the last person I wanted to hear from.
I think I made the mistake of trying to bring one of her things to her a week later because I was visiting a friend who lived by her campus. This is where I feel she thinks I might be the one trying to drop breadcrumbs. It was super awkward, i just handed her her stuff and she said something completely inaudible but sounded like “take care” or something along those lines. And NOW is where I make the ultimate mistake of asking why that was weird once she got back into her building. She was basically like “im still healing, don’t message me unless theres stuff of mine thatyou have. I dont want to speak to you for a very long time if not ever”. So in 2 months I go from “im here whenever youre ready” to “dont speak to me ever”.
I told her that I am still healing too and dont even want to have a conversation yet, and I make the mistake of asking why she bothered telling me happy birthday if thats how she feels. The response i got from her was “I did it because it would have felt bad not saying anything, I wont say it again next year”. I got blocked permanently a few messages later.
So basically, just go no contact and stick to it. I should have taken my friends advice and blocked her a long time ago, and because I didnt I got my hopes up and got hurt again. Apologies for the long post, but seriously sometimes people just say things because they are emotional and not because they mean them. I held out for hope for way too long.
Apologies for the long ass post
Edit for context about our relationship: We dated 4 years and in the end I was the one who fell apart, wasn’t taking care of myself, etc. We were far from perfect for each other long before that, but had been through so much together and loved each other very much. Ultimately I hurt her over and over and held in the times she hurt me and never worked on forgiving her. I was very resentful towards the end and I 100% do not blame her for leaving, we were just wrong for each other plain and simple. Loved each other but became two passing ships in the night who only let our true feelings show when we were arguing. I want whoever she is with to treat her far better than I, and I got the impression that she felt the same about me... even if she clearly has been hurt by the times that I HAVE spoken to her since breaking up. Ultimately when we broke up I was 100% set on going no contact because I had assumed that’s what she wanted, because I knew we were no good for each other. That is why it all hurt so much when she reached out and gave me chances to redeem myself after we broke up. But I was too afraid to squash that hope in fear of hurting her more. I want nothing but the best for this person, and while I tell myself it was a waste of time from time to time when Im feeling upset, I have so many incredible memories with her, even though there were a lot of bad ones too. It was still a massive growing experience and fuck is it sad that we just couldn’t stick it out in the long run. We were each other’s first love, and we both tried so fucking hard to make it work in spite of everything going on around us. God bless her at the end of the day, I’ve forgiven her for the hurt she caused me, and we owe each other nothing. I never expected her to say she would work on forgiveness, I was left feeling like I shouldn’t deserve it. This has been an incredibly long post so if anyone has read this thank you, you can heal from this and you got this. This sub has actually been helpful, a lotta other people are feeling the same way you are. You’re not alone and you can heal.

I’ve been talking to this guy for more than a month and I met him online on a chatting app. I’m 19 and he’s 34. Our relationship is basically based on a flirtatious nature. We exchanged pics and videos and we called few times. I kinda got attached to him since he is the first guy to see my personal intimate ( not nudes) pics.
He started to get more demanding about me sending him more pics of sexual nature which is draining and sometimes I don’t feel like to send such pics. But he keeps getting mad over it and he feels sort of entitled to my pics. He once blocked me because of this and then unblocked me after a day and told me that he missed me and he’s not used to not talk to me..he told me that has feelings toward me and that he feels something different with me..
so I don’t know what to do. I just kinda feel stuck between ending this and trying to continue the relationship and it’s hard for me to say no. So I don’t know why am I like this? Any advice how to get over this relationship and end it? Am I gonna be able to move on from this after I have gone against my values and morals as he emotionally manipulated me?

I’ve been talking to this guy for more than a month and I met him online on a chatting app. I’m 19 and he’s 34. Our relationship is basically based on a flirtatious nature. We exchanged pics and videos and we called few times. I kinda got attached to him since he is the first guy to see my personal intimate ( not nudes) pics.
He started to get more demanding about me sending him more pics of sexual nature which is draining and sometimes I don’t feel like to send such pics. But he keeps getting mad over it and he feels sort of entitled to my pics. He once blocked me because of this and then unblocked me after a day and told me that he missed me and he’s not used to not talk to me..he told me that has feelings toward me and that he feels something different with me..
so I don’t know what to do. I just kinda feel stuck between ending this and trying to continue the relationship and it’s hard for me to say no. So I don’t know why am I like this? Any advice how to get over this relationship and end it? Am I gonna be able to move on from this after I have gone against my values and morals as he emotionally manipulated me?

30M, 32F. The length of the relationship was about 8 months. What should I do?
So I met this girl for 6 months. The first 6 months were wonderful and I was happy. However, at the end of the first 6 months, she told me her parents wanted her to date someone else and so she dumped me. However we kept on talking and then she eventually met up with me unexpectedly in a random place without plans and talked to me and told me she missed me. And So, I got back together with her only to find out the other person that her parents want her to date was doing alot of weird stuff like stalking her, looking into the apartment window when we were intimate, showing up at unexpected placed when we were on our dates, etc. Eventually, she ended up dating us both at the same time and it was an incredibly heart breaking experience for me because I knew her for the first 6 months already so I already had alot of emotional attachment and felt betrayed, but I stuck it through. 1 time during the love triangle, she called me and was like I think we shouldn't see each other and just hung up. I was so sad I went to her place and demanded to talk in person. She left the house and the other guy was there and we talked for a bit. She told me she missed me alot but her parents are forcing her to be with the other guy. Even more, she told me the other guy took her phone and forced her to delete my number and block me. We cried for a bit together and I told her I wanted to visit her parents in vietnam to try to get them to meet me and convince them to accept me. During the 3 months till that trip, the more she saw the other guy or talked to him on the phone, the more it hurted me. To some point, I felt so betrayed it soured our time together. I think that kind of startd to tear us apart. The betrayal was too much for me. Eventually, the other guy found out that I was planning to go to vietnam with her to meet her parents, so he decided to go to. However, she knew about this but didn't tell me. Though, I knew. So I went to vietnam, met her parents. She introduced me to them as 'a friend' and her parents introduced me to the family as 'a friend'. I was really offended by that honestly but didn't say anything. I tried to be on my best behavior and helped out around the house. Also, since I was in another country, at first she took me around on dates or sight seeing. I felt a bit useless and powerless because as a man I wanted to take her on dates. So I learnt to ride the motor bike in vietnam. First weeks were great and I think our relationship was getting better. However, one day, someone jumped out into the road and we were going about 7 mph. I managed to avoid hitting the person but hit the front of their motor bike. We ended up having bruises but nothing major. But I can understand that it was really impactful to her since she isn't the adventurous kind of person. After that, I felt as if her mood changed. I tried to cheer her up and tell her sorry and tried to ask her if she was ok and if there was anything I can do, but she just kept saying she was fine. Then, 2 days later, it felt like her family was trying to get me to go on a trip to another part of vietnam. Initially her and I planned to go on this trip, but at the last minute, her mom told me that she had to bail on the trip. In the end, I left the home to go on this trip, and flew back to vietnam after. I asked her if she wanted to be picked up from the airport, but she said 'no she already arranged something else'. At that point I for sure knew that the other guy was picking her up and shortly after she told me we should stop seeing each other.
Fast forward from alot of emotional pain and crying by myself and seeing how cold she had become, we started talking again and started to be emotional. She was complaining about her relationship to me and how she missed me. She would send me gifts to my house and all. And eventually, she showed up unexpectedly at my door and started crying and asked me for forgiveness. Of course I caved and hugged her, made out, and told her that I forgive her and cried. The day after that, we went on a date with just us two. I told her to park at a parking lot and I would pick her up. At some point we ended up having sex and making out. At the end of the day, I drove her to the parking lot and I saw a white car parked with it's license plate covered in a trash bag. I drove my car in front of it, shined my high beams and there he was, the other guy. I walked out of the car and ripped the trash bag off and remembered the license plate. She wanted me to pull up in front of the car and they started yelling at each other. He said, 'remember you promise your mom to never go back to him (me)'. And she yells back, 'My parents don't care about me'. And, I was in the middle of all of this listening in and keeping quiet. Fearing for what the other person would do out of anger after seeing me with her, I offered to follow her car back home. So I did, followed her home and she went in. After that, it's her decision for what she wants to do after that, I thought and I went home as well.
Two days later, I realized that for the whole afternoon and evening she stopped talking to me. I was wondering what was happening, perhaps something bad happened to her. So that night I drove around looking for her. Eventually, I winged back at her place. Since it felt like an emergency situation I looked into the window to find she was having sex with the other person. Honestly I was heart broken for another time. How can someone come back to me, cry, and beg for my forgiveness only to hurt me like that a second time or perhaps even a third. The next day, I confronted her about it over the phone. I told her how I felt betrayed, how I felt she wasn't being sincere when she came to me, how now I am confused about what's going on. She basically told me that she talked to the other person's mom, and now somehow believes in her relationship with the other guy would work. Somehow they 'connect'. I was a bit tipped off and sad. So I asked her what she meant by that and all and how having sex with one person one day and then going back to have sex with another person was being a bit insincere. Then, she told me over the phone, 'Your voice sounds so sexy and it turns me on.' And honestly, possibly a mistake, but I jumped on it and we planned to meet for lunch and had sex again in the car. Then, on my way back to work, I found out that she had forgotten her phone in the car. She contacted me and told me that she really needed that so I went back to her place. And, we had sex again. At some point, we kept on talking but then when confronting her about how we can make our relationship long term she tells me that perhaps we should stop talking to one another. She tells me that she felt bad because she feels like a liar and a cheater and she didn't want to be that kind of person anymore. From there, we met one last time and went through the whole dance of trying to get her to make things work, but we hugged for a bit and eventually I let my hand hung on hers, and she moved away to let it go. I took that as the end.
I texted her a message after saying this: you're a great human being, I but what we have going on, the amount of stress and confusion you have brought into my life is not conducive and not a healthy life that I deserve. I deserve someone who respects me, loves me unconditionally, and wants to protect my heart. I would appreciate it if you not come in and out of my life as you please. I haven't had the courage to say this to you but you don't respect me and my life and energy, and i think it's long overdue that i've let you continue to cross my boundary over and over. I think it's time you and I go our separate ways and if you respect me at all, you will honor what I ask and move on. Please do not text me, please do not call me or reach out.
I blocked her on everything for about a week. And then I unblocked her on WhatsApp. She saw this and started to message me about everyday telling me how her day was, what she was doing, and hoping that I am ok, and wishing me good night and good morning. However, nothing about getting back together or missing me. So far, I have ignored all of the messages. It is about the 13th day after I have unblocked her and she is still messaging me. I am just not sure about what to do, what to say. In my heart maybe I want her back but I know that she's mistreated me and betrayed me so much. How should I handle the situation in a way that kind of leaves room for her to make up for what she has done in a way that I can forgive her if I even should ever forgive her? I need advice of any kind honestly. Maybe what should I text back or maybe I should ignore her all together?

For context:
Me (F/24) and my boyfriend (M/23) have been together for 2.5 years and are getting engaged this year, so obviously we are very serious about each other. I think our relationship is great. It’s not perfect, we have had problems to work out but of course, I’m not under the impression that anyone’s is. One problem in particular was that I found out that he was not always truthful or forthcoming about things. He had kept things from me in the past, we almost broke up over it, but we decided to stay together and work through it since he didn’t cheat on me and it was more of an actual honesty problem.
In particular though, I found out he was texting another girl (F/23) and deleting the messages. So, obviously, I confronted him about it because why would he hide messages between him and another girl. He said that it was because they were just talking as friends but he knew I wouldn’t like it. Our feelings about having close friends of the opposite sex were pretty well established to me, as he had always agreed but apparently, he didn’t really agree deep down. He swears it wasn’t anything more than friendly. We both had very traumatizing infidelity between our parents where we were the ones who caught them, so I can’t believe he would ever cheat. We both had agreed we would literally rather die than put the other person through that. (His dad actually left their family after he was confronted with his infidelity to my boyfriend’s mom in high school and they do not speak to each other anymore- so really, it’s that serious).
So, knowing that I’m jaded and anxious about the topic already, he just hid it instead of being honest. It really hurt. We’ve talked about it a million times. He knows it hurt. He knows that the issue was that he hid something from me because he knew I wouldn’t like it, not that I thought he was cheating. Although, frankly, I guess I will really never know and it does keep me up some nights.
So, I told him I don’t want him keeping close company with this girl but I found out last weekend that she still texts him. I snooped through his phone and freaked out. I immediately admitted to him that I snooped and asked why he still talks to her (especially because her messages feel clear to me that she likes him, even if she doesn’t say anything that would cross the line. She calls him “loser” and just constantly texts him stuff that I think is flirtacious. It’s not very full conversations, he keeps his responses short and polite. It got to me anyways.
So I came on aggressive about it and told him I hate her and want him to block her. He did and reassured me. I immediately regretted it. I don’t want to be jealous and controlling and I want to trust him. I told him all of this and said he should unblock her because it will only create more unnecessary drama and that it was out of line anyways for me to ask him to do that. He said he didn’t care what she thought and would happily keep her blocked but I told him not to (selfishly, I also felt this would’ve been another excuse for her to talk to him and that it would’ve made me look bad and crazy and insecure ((which was true when I said it)))
So, he unblocked her and said that he would handle it. ”If she keeps texting, I’ll tell her to back off in a nice way”. I told him I will trust him to handle it and apologized profusely for snooping and freaking out and being out of line. He assured me that he doesn’t hold it against me because he is the one who broke trust first and that I am welcome to look through his phone if that’s what I need to feel better.
I told him that I appreciate it but I don’t want to snoop through his phone. That’s how I caught my dad cheating. It comes from an ugly part of me. I just want to trust him freely and snooping through his phone will never let me build real trust.
I’m writing all of this because I need guidance from outsiders. It’s still all upsetting to me. I feel bad about what I did and how I reacted. Those bad feelings are dredging up all the other bad feelings. I’ll never know what was in those deleted messages. I hate that I told him to block her and I hate that he didn’t already do it on his own and that he ever responds to her messages after we literally almost broke up over him texting her. I hate that I feel so jealous and that I looked insecure. I hate that there’s a possibility that he is really talking to this girl and hiding it from me.
I don’t want to be jealous and controlling but he did something that made it weird (and with this same girl no less). Is it weird for another girl to try to get to know my boyfriend? Is that normal? Should I stop or should I be worried? We picked out an engagement ring already and I know that he’s going to propose to me in July because we have something meaningful happening then. I just need to get this all out of me and reflected on before I put his ring on my finger. We have talked about it Many times but i just don’t have peace on this subject and now it’s come up again. Please tell me your thoughts and advice including how I should’ve handled this situation and what I should do moving forward. Appreciate it.

My ex left me 6 months ago and we ended pretty badly. We haven’t talked since January. I would see her around from time to time and every time I see her we’d make eye contact a lot, and she’d look for me too. Anyways fast forward to Monday, I text her, apologizing and just saying sorry for how things ended and how things are right now. And it didn’t send, and i was blocked. Which I didn’t know how to feel about it, but hey, that’s some closure at least. The next day (yesterday) I text her number, just to rant about how I really loved her, I miss her, how much I’ve hurt, and how she didn’t deserve me, etc. And when I woke up today, I saw something new… under the last message I sent, it said, “delivered” So that means she unblocked me randomly just then and saw all of it. She hasn’t said anything, in fact, I’m blocked again. But i feel like such an idiot and i’m so embarrassed. I just started seeing her around again weekly, and I had my hopes up about us being in each others lives again, but this really fucked me up. I don’t know what to do and if there is anything I can do. I just need someone to tell me please?

So, I was blindsided with a breakup by my ex at the start of March. Any issues were solvable but she decided to run and put it down to “losing herself”.
This breakup cut deep, to the point where my family were seriously worried for my health - but I’m not the type of person to hurt myself or do anything like that, especially over something like this.
At first, I begged, I pleaded, I tried to change her mind. All of it to no effect. She also sent lots of mixed signals, like continuing to tell me “I love you”, as well as crying and trying to kiss me on the lips multiple times when we met to exchange things back in March.
I went into no contact, failed twice - but third time I was lucky. I fell silent at the start of April after trying again to fix it - but she did show enough care to ring me on my birthday to wish me well.
I stayed in no contact and disappeared until now. And in the period of silence, she stalked my socials from her main Instagram account and then a burner. In the end, I blocked the burner as it made me feel a bit uncomfortable.
Either way, it shows she cares in some capacity, regardless of whether we get back together.
Then, on Sunday just gone, I get a text close to midnight asking how I am and that she understands if I chose not to respond. I’m not one to ignore, and I know some will say I shouldn’t have given her what she wanted since she broke up with me and shattered my heart - but for me my revenge is forgiveness and kindness (without being taken advantage of).
She wanted to catch up and a swiftly set boundaries that I’m not here to be friends or have text catchups. She respected that, but I did open the door for a face-to-face meeting, which she said “I’d love that”.
Anyway. After two days of silence I reached out and asked to see her today and she did on her lunch break. She immediately noticed the physical changes and genuinely seemed taken back.
I’ve always looked sharp with my hair and beard, but I spiced it up with earrings, which she told me to always get during our relationship, and my tattoos (that aren’t shit thank god).
We caught up about life, smiling, laughing and joking. I even joked to her “do you want me to unblock your burner account now?” To which she got shy and we had a laugh about it as it is funny. It was a good ice breaker - because it broke past the nonchalant approach.
We avoided the breakup and going over old ground and I genuinely projected my positivity which isn’t a facade. It’s genuine. I’m in a much better place.
She did ask be questions like “how long did it take you to get over the sadness?” And I gave her an honest answer. She said she was in a similar headspace but her actions mentioned above to reconnect maybe tell a different story.
She also told me she misses me and made a few suggestive jokes about being friends (with a wink) so super playful - BUT she seems set on her decision and THAT’S FINE!
I made my boundaries clear again that I’ll never be her friend. She said “but what if I need you for something?” And I said “well, you made the decision to lose me, so no”.
I did make it known that she can message but be mindful of her journey that she’s on as well as mine. If she wants to hangout, set a date and time.
There was some touching of the hands, and we did hug a few times and I made it clear that it’s likely for the last time but that’s OKAY!
So the point of this post, people, is my revenge is forgiveness. My ex made a lot of mistakes, some really bad ones that left me cut up - both during and after the relationship. I made mistakes too no doubt.
But my revenge is forgiveness and that’s why I met up with my ex today. To show her I’m fine, I’m happy, I’m evolving, and I don’t hold hate in my heart. I believe if you loved someone, you can never entirely hate them. And that’s my revenge.
I don’t know fully why she was stalking, or her true intentions and keenness to meet after a long period of silence. If I never hear from her again, that’s fine, but she’ll never be forgotten.
I wish her all the best and all the happiness in the world. Am I sad I don’t have a front row seat? Yes. Am I sad I won’t be the man waiting at the end of the wedding isle and someone else will? Absolutely.
I was sad after leaving her today but it’s normal. But I don’t feel like it set me back - I feel stronger and the ball is only in her court.
To those struggling, keep going. It gets better.

Update: marking this as solved. I don't know what caused the lock out - I'm 100% certain I only entered my password once. "Resolution" if it counts: I'm thankful I had the DSfinder app installed on my ipad through which I was able to see "IP Blocking" settings and managed to unblock the IP address of my PC. Had forgotten I had installed it on that device. Don't think it contributed to the issue as again, device is WiFI only and never open the Synology app. Just massively relieved!
Hi All,
Would appreciate some help here. I'm really confused what's going on.
Background
I last logged into my DSM 2 days ago on my PC. Just tried to log in right now and something odd happened, I'm used to signing in by entering my password followed by 2FA code even though it's my personal device. This time on attempting to sign on to my admin account, after entering my username I received a message to validate my log in using the Synology Secure SignIn app instead of entering a password. I do not have the app. I tried another non-admin account, still the same message. Upon attempting to log in with a password, instead I receive a message saying too many failed attempts have been made to log in and the IP address has been blocked. To be clear, I had not made any prior attempts from my personal device (it was sleeping until about 5 minutes before I attempted to log in). Although I couldn't access my DSM account, I was still able to access my mapped network drives. I tried to restart my PC and tried to log in again, but same result, and this time no luck with accessing mapped network drives either.
Edit to add: I never log into my NAS through any other devices besides this PC in my home network.
Existing Security
My NAS is exposed to the internet only via Plex. It is port forwarded so not the standard 32400 and behind a double nat. Plex has a secure password and also has 2FA.
I have firewall rules set up so only can be accessed in my country of origin UK, and after 3 or 5 wrong attempts I believe it blocks the IP. Prior to this I've never had any attempts made on my NAS.
I have my original admin account disabled, and the new one is super obscure. My password is beyond what is reflected here: https://caltechsites-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/imss/images/2023_Password_Table_Square.original.jpg
In addition, I haven't logged into my authenticator app on this device.
Oddities
One of the drives I have is dedicated to media. I'm still able to access this through Plex. I run Plex through docker and I am still able to access this through my NAS IP address.
Edit to add: I have DLNA enabled on my NAS, I'm able to access media through this as well (including through my PC).
I have another laptop that was also sleeping. I've just switched it on, it is still connected to my mapped network drives and I can access the majority of them (different limited access credentials), but none of the content is blocked by any means. I never attempt to log into DSM through this laptop. Only the initial mapping of the drives.
I've not received any emails notifying that I've been hacked/my content has been locked until I pay
Synology assistant isn't having luck finding the Synology NAS on the network at all either.
Maybe related
I've requested a speed upgrade from my internet provider. They've sent me a new router and asked me to plug it in within 5 days. I've not done this yet and was actually logging into my DSM account to double check all my settings prior to switching out.
If you're still reading, thanks so much!
At this point I'm clueless if it's something malicious or not. I'm going to run Malwarebytes overnight on my PC. Is there a chance that a change at my ISP side could result in the above?
I'm thinking worst case scenario I've been hacked, but let's say I have a keylogger on my machine, is it possible for them to break into my NAS based on my passwords alone? My 2FA is always from my personal phone and I don't log into that on my PC. Really not sure how else they could have gotten access, and again, no emails or anything, nothing has been zipped.
Would appreciate your help / suggestions on what I can do here please!
Thanks!

I bought a new gaming pc from my local pc hardware store and I think the McAfee software that came with it is the cause.
Some issues include My games display and audio settings are never saved after closing and coming back to it. Sometimes my save data will revert back to its previous state after im done playing. making me lose progress. Some games I can't even run. I have one game on GoG that gives me errors like "This application failed to start because no Qt platform plugin could be initialized. Reinstalling the application may fix this problem."(It doesn't)
My Problem
Ive since uninstalled the malware, but my issues persist. Does anyone know if it could be more, or I need to restore something that McAfee blocked some how? I've checked my firewall history and I dont see any record of an interruption via firewall.