Adjectives starting with the letter y
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2010.01.22 06:21 AAjax Films and shorts, Drug PSA's, random music video's, odd cartoons, Media of all sorts ETC.
A relaxed place to share and discuss lesser known media: silent films, vintage exploitation flicks, finely aged TV, PSAs and other oddities.
2024.05.19 06:37 OkiChampuru Company hiring remote from "anywhere in the U.S." backpedals after extending interview invite because of my State
 | So, I recently applied for an internship that seemed perfect for my career transition. The company was equally enthusiastic, despite overlooking one important detail featured across the top of my resume, cover letter, and portfolio: my location. submitted by OkiChampuru to recruitinghell [link] [comments] I did my due diligence to research the company and tailored my application to highlight my experience/achievements accordingly. The effort seemed to pay off. They quickly reached out with an interview invite and glowing feedback. They even visited my digital portfolio multiple times where my location and community involvement is prominently featured (Yes, I set up campaign tracking links for each of my applications—I’m data-driven, whaddya expect?!). I was excited and immediately replied with my availability right away. I kicked into interview prep mode, but they never confirmed an interview slot. Instead, they called me randomly while I was at work, completely ignoring my provided times. After my immediate callback during my lunch break was ignored, I did some internet sleuthing to track down the email of the HR recruiter who’d called and sent a polite inquiry. Their response when they finally got back to me? "Oh, even though we wanted to interview you, we can't hire you because your location doesn't meet our requirements." 🤦♂️ They admitted they weren’t registered to operate in my state. This, despite their job post saying "anywhere in the United States," my location being on the top of every document submitted, and my address entered into their ATS form! Would've been nice to know from the start! I live in Hawaiʻi. While Hawaiʻi may be geographically distant and is indeed an illegally overthrown kingdom, it’s still considered part of the U.S.! I figured they either messed up the job description or didn’t want to admit their failure to confirm my interview time was the reason I got knocked out of the running. I laughed at the absurdity and sent them quick, friendly feedback about updating their location requirements on job listings to respect everyone’s time. Then I just as quickly moved on. Tried not to let it bug me that this isn't the first time this has happened and stay positive that at least it was addressed before jumping through more hoops. Funny enough, the next day, I got an email from a company I hadn’t even applied to, asking for an interview. Turns out they were impressed by my resume, specifically noting volunteer work and leadership in my community—acknowledging my location! As for how I got an offer when I hadn't officially applied...I’d uploaded my resume and cover letter on their ATS portal but had hit "save" instead of "submit" because I wanted to verify a reference more applicable to this position was cool with me listing them. Anyway, ironically, this time my location worked in my favor! What a rollercoaster this week has been. |
2024.05.19 06:35 Unknown_rep_of_nomad CRA/RSSP/Life long learner plan question...
As per the subject heading above,
In 2021, I applied and withdrew around $6000 from my RRSP to finance my education in the United States. I started this program on January 2022 and completed my education in December 2022. In early March 2024, I received a letter from The Canada Revenue Agency informing me:
"We are updating our records for your participation in the Lifelong Learning Plan (LLP) in 2021.
We need to determine if the RRSP withdrawal you made in 2021 is an eligible LLP withdrawal. We need confirmation that you or your spouse or common-law partner attended a qualifying educational full-time program for at least three consecutive months, starting in 2021 or before March 2022."
I simply sent them:
Form TL11A, Tuition, and Enrolment Certificate - University Outside Canada, (if the student attended a university outside Canada)
before the the 30 day deadline.
The CRA send me another notification:
"The educational institution you attended was not a university, college, or other designated educational institution certified by Employment and Social Development Canada (ESDC) as a private educational institution. As a result, you are ineligible to participate in the LLP. Therefore, the RRSP withdrawal(s) will be included in your income for 2021."
"If you disagree with our decision, and your tax return has been assessed or reassessed, you have the right to file an objection. To do this, fill out Form T400A, Objection – Income Tax Act, which you can get at canada.ca/get-cra-forms or by calling our individual tax enquiries line at 1-800-959-8281.
Has anyone come across this situation before and how did you handle it
Please and thank you
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In 2021, I applied and withdrew around $6000 from my RRSP to finance my education in the United States. I started this program on January 2022 and completed my education in December 2022. In early March 2024, I received a letter from The Canada Revenue Agency informing me:
"We are updating our records for your participation in the Lifelong Learning Plan (LLP) in 2021.
We need to determine if the RRSP withdrawal you made in 2021 is an eligible LLP withdrawal. We need confirmation that you or your spouse or common-law partner attended a qualifying educational full-time program for at least three consecutive months, starting in 2021 or before March 2022."
I simply sent them:
Form TL11A, Tuition, and Enrolment Certificate - University Outside Canada, (if the student attended a university outside Canada)
before the the 30 day deadline.
The CRA send me another notification:
"The educational institution you attended was not a university, college, or other designated educational institution certified by Employment and Social Development Canada (ESDC) as a private educational institution. As a result, you are ineligible to participate in the LLP. Therefore, the RRSP withdrawal(s) will be included in your income for 2021."
"If you disagree with our decision, and your tax return has been assessed or reassessed, you have the right to file an objection. To do this, fill out Form T400A, Objection – Income Tax Act, which you can get at canada.ca/get-cra-forms or by calling our individual tax enquiries line at 1-800-959-8281.
Has anyone come across this situation before and how did you handle it
Please and thank you
2024.05.19 06:22 IncredibleCanemian Dead Space 2 Timeline Discrepancy
I was playing through Dead Space 2 for the first time in a while and I noticed some details in the school in chapter 6 that narrow down the date that the game takes place.
As you walk in, there's a board where children wrote their favorite things they did over the school year, which suggests we're late in the school year. On the other side, there's a poster for a show called "The Metamorphosis" (dramatic irony moment) set to be put on at 19:00 on May 10th and 19:30 on May 13th. As you get further in, there's a poster for a show called "Galactilot" being put on by the 4th graders on May 3rd, 5th, and 10th. The sign above the door to the auditorium says that the show is happening after lunch (assumedly the day that the game takes place). The set for Galactilot can be seen immediately after this, with the lights and music on (where Isaac Clarke gets jump scared by the sun). This suggests that the outbreak happened during the show, forcing the actors and audience to flee. This would put the events of the game after lunch on May 3rd, 5th, or 10th of 2511. A teacher report found when exiting the school says that kids were having visions which hurt their concentration over the course of the 3rd semester. I assume this is supposed to mean the 3rd marking period (schools typically have 4, with the 3rd ending in mid-April. This would make the report a month old by the events of the game).
We can speculate to narrow down the date. Having the outbreak happen the same day that a show called "The Metamorphosis" is some great dramatic irony. The only day where Galactilot and The Metamorphosis were both supposed to be shown is May 10th. Since the decorations for Galactilot as still up, we can assume that the outbreak reached the school between lunch (probably around 12:00) and 19:00 when the next show was supposed to start. So the best time/date I can give for the start of the game based on chapter 6 is between 12:00-19:00 on May 10, 2511.
Oddly, when you finish this section the intercom says "recess is over" even though the class schedules on the wall CLEARLY state that recess is way before lunch. However, this is not the discrepancy that I'm talking about. The real contradiction is right when you leave the elementary school and enter the transportation hub. On the hologram when talking with Ellie and Stross, there's the one confirmed date and time in the game, it reads "00:21:41:29 2/7/2511" with the timer counting up. It Appears that this part of the game is about 20 minutes after midnight, which is consistent with the departure times listed in the room. While one may assume 2/7/2511 means February 7th because an American company made the game, some screens on the Ishumura do say "Last serviced: 19-09-42", which only makes sense with the day-month-year arrangement. Then again, the class D cargo lifts say that they were last serviced 11-09-2757 (over 2 centuries after the games take place), so make of that what you will.
tl;dr: While we know the game takes place in 2511 (500 years after the real world release date), chapter 6 gives us 2 contradictory dates for when the game takes place. The elementary school points towards May 10th, while the date and time on a hologram communication in the hub points towards the events of the game taking place from February 6th-7th (M-D-Y) or July 1st-2nd (D-M-Y). While this is a minor issue, it would be nice to have things be more consistent in the remake.
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As you walk in, there's a board where children wrote their favorite things they did over the school year, which suggests we're late in the school year. On the other side, there's a poster for a show called "The Metamorphosis" (dramatic irony moment) set to be put on at 19:00 on May 10th and 19:30 on May 13th. As you get further in, there's a poster for a show called "Galactilot" being put on by the 4th graders on May 3rd, 5th, and 10th. The sign above the door to the auditorium says that the show is happening after lunch (assumedly the day that the game takes place). The set for Galactilot can be seen immediately after this, with the lights and music on (where Isaac Clarke gets jump scared by the sun). This suggests that the outbreak happened during the show, forcing the actors and audience to flee. This would put the events of the game after lunch on May 3rd, 5th, or 10th of 2511. A teacher report found when exiting the school says that kids were having visions which hurt their concentration over the course of the 3rd semester. I assume this is supposed to mean the 3rd marking period (schools typically have 4, with the 3rd ending in mid-April. This would make the report a month old by the events of the game).
We can speculate to narrow down the date. Having the outbreak happen the same day that a show called "The Metamorphosis" is some great dramatic irony. The only day where Galactilot and The Metamorphosis were both supposed to be shown is May 10th. Since the decorations for Galactilot as still up, we can assume that the outbreak reached the school between lunch (probably around 12:00) and 19:00 when the next show was supposed to start. So the best time/date I can give for the start of the game based on chapter 6 is between 12:00-19:00 on May 10, 2511.
Oddly, when you finish this section the intercom says "recess is over" even though the class schedules on the wall CLEARLY state that recess is way before lunch. However, this is not the discrepancy that I'm talking about. The real contradiction is right when you leave the elementary school and enter the transportation hub. On the hologram when talking with Ellie and Stross, there's the one confirmed date and time in the game, it reads "00:21:41:29 2/7/2511" with the timer counting up. It Appears that this part of the game is about 20 minutes after midnight, which is consistent with the departure times listed in the room. While one may assume 2/7/2511 means February 7th because an American company made the game, some screens on the Ishumura do say "Last serviced: 19-09-42", which only makes sense with the day-month-year arrangement. Then again, the class D cargo lifts say that they were last serviced 11-09-2757 (over 2 centuries after the games take place), so make of that what you will.
tl;dr: While we know the game takes place in 2511 (500 years after the real world release date), chapter 6 gives us 2 contradictory dates for when the game takes place. The elementary school points towards May 10th, while the date and time on a hologram communication in the hub points towards the events of the game taking place from February 6th-7th (M-D-Y) or July 1st-2nd (D-M-Y). While this is a minor issue, it would be nice to have things be more consistent in the remake.
2024.05.19 06:22 LockTheUniverse [Spoilers] ChronomanSenior Year: Sundown, the Fall of Sol - wild speculation on A future of Fantasy High
Hey y'all! Chronic Rizposter returning for some wild speculation after half of my theories have been completely invalidated, but I was right about Jace Stardiamond being evil-ish
Anyway I'm calling it now, Senior Year is A) The Gang Fights God (Corrupted/Solace-Supremacist Sol), B) The Gang Jumps Through Time, or C) both of those put together.
If the Bobby Dawn thread isn't tied up by the finale of FHJY, it means we've seen a Bastion City Cleric of Sol played as a classic televangelist yeehaw. Along with the militarization of their Paladin sect via Pamela Dawn, it implies a Strong Correlation with modern American Evangelism. We know that Sol was all too happy to let Ankarna fall, presumably gaining her share of the solar domain. Whether that was the beginning, or it had started before, Bobby and Pamela Dawn represent an all-too-familiar extremist sect of Sol-family worshippers that then might have radicalized folks like The Harvestmen. Brennan historically loves a corrupt church AND a real-life political allegory, so I think the crumbs been left in this direction.
Second part is way more vibes-based. We all know Chronomancy is the most powerful form of magic. We haven't seen or heard much from the Agueforts this year beyond Ayda's letters. Unless this is also tied up in the finale, there's no way they don't do a Time Quangle-style jump through the eras in their final year. Maybe it's in the second leg of the season when they need to rev up, they go collect allies or macguffins. Maybe Aguefort is either in danger of closing or being occupied by Church Staff after this season as a result of the Ankarna plot. Maybe Bakarath and Squeem show up, who knows.
TL;DR Sol's worshippers seem mighty extreme so far, wonder how that's affecting the deity
Thanks for reading my friends. Shoutouts to the Balls out there. See ya at Basrar's!
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Anyway I'm calling it now, Senior Year is A) The Gang Fights God (Corrupted/Solace-Supremacist Sol), B) The Gang Jumps Through Time, or C) both of those put together.
If the Bobby Dawn thread isn't tied up by the finale of FHJY, it means we've seen a Bastion City Cleric of Sol played as a classic televangelist yeehaw. Along with the militarization of their Paladin sect via Pamela Dawn, it implies a Strong Correlation with modern American Evangelism. We know that Sol was all too happy to let Ankarna fall, presumably gaining her share of the solar domain. Whether that was the beginning, or it had started before, Bobby and Pamela Dawn represent an all-too-familiar extremist sect of Sol-family worshippers that then might have radicalized folks like The Harvestmen. Brennan historically loves a corrupt church AND a real-life political allegory, so I think the crumbs been left in this direction.
Second part is way more vibes-based. We all know Chronomancy is the most powerful form of magic. We haven't seen or heard much from the Agueforts this year beyond Ayda's letters. Unless this is also tied up in the finale, there's no way they don't do a Time Quangle-style jump through the eras in their final year. Maybe it's in the second leg of the season when they need to rev up, they go collect allies or macguffins. Maybe Aguefort is either in danger of closing or being occupied by Church Staff after this season as a result of the Ankarna plot. Maybe Bakarath and Squeem show up, who knows.
TL;DR Sol's worshippers seem mighty extreme so far, wonder how that's affecting the deity
Thanks for reading my friends. Shoutouts to the Balls out there. See ya at Basrar's!
2024.05.19 06:19 PowerStrongMusic Embracing Growth: Transforming Challenges into Strength
My approach to time is to explore more as others come along. You understand the pursuit of love transforms a person, shaping them with wisdom, allowing them to grow and prosper.
When humans realize they are in a difficult position, they have two choices: continue living in the drama or recognize the impact of their actions on their consumption habits.
Seeking knowledge about yourself brings advantages, although it can disrupt your current reality.
Now you see people filling their lives with love, trying to handle my way of breaking old patterns. Running through this path of self-awareness helps us stay in sync with our world.
This week, my improvements in work and communication have made a significant jump. Tasks that were once difficult are now manageable with effort and organization.
In my tarot practice, after watching some videos, I started listening to music and singing to find comfort. Recently, I've done something amazing for my chakras for the second time.
It's remarkable how aligning with our planet's energies can feel like a wild journey. My process of singing has brought new friends, help, and challenges, but it's improving each time I practice.
As we conclude this letter, remember that searching for understanding and love disrupts reality and prevents us from getting stuck in drama forever.
I no longer question my existence or how I spend my time. Balancing action and relaxation has brought clarity.
My workout routine three times a week has transformed my health. What used to be a strenuous task is now something my friends admire.
I invest a little time in updating my wardrobe. Although I don't spend much money, I now feel the need to visit more stores.
We need to keep pushing the limits of our abilities and grow in our geographical areas. Let's turn the drama of life into a source of strength and growth.
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When humans realize they are in a difficult position, they have two choices: continue living in the drama or recognize the impact of their actions on their consumption habits.
Seeking knowledge about yourself brings advantages, although it can disrupt your current reality.
Now you see people filling their lives with love, trying to handle my way of breaking old patterns. Running through this path of self-awareness helps us stay in sync with our world.
This week, my improvements in work and communication have made a significant jump. Tasks that were once difficult are now manageable with effort and organization.
In my tarot practice, after watching some videos, I started listening to music and singing to find comfort. Recently, I've done something amazing for my chakras for the second time.
It's remarkable how aligning with our planet's energies can feel like a wild journey. My process of singing has brought new friends, help, and challenges, but it's improving each time I practice.
As we conclude this letter, remember that searching for understanding and love disrupts reality and prevents us from getting stuck in drama forever.
I no longer question my existence or how I spend my time. Balancing action and relaxation has brought clarity.
My workout routine three times a week has transformed my health. What used to be a strenuous task is now something my friends admire.
I invest a little time in updating my wardrobe. Although I don't spend much money, I now feel the need to visit more stores.
We need to keep pushing the limits of our abilities and grow in our geographical areas. Let's turn the drama of life into a source of strength and growth.
2024.05.19 06:11 heinous3000 Social Media and Toxicity Towards Bariatric Procedures… opinion?
I find myself getting worked up and angry because of what I see online… And people’s views on not only bariatric surgery, but anything related to weight loss intervention (Ozempic and such).
I think we all want to feel valid, so I understand not listening to what other people think, but what I do see still bothers me. I’m down 70 pounds now since the start of March and every aspect of my life has gotten better. I walk/run 3 miles everyday. I haven’t cheated and have stuck to the instruction of my bariatric team to the letter. I look fantastic and quite frankly… I’m proud of myself. No being humble about it.
However, Instagram and TikTok’s algorithm have been feeding me more health related content lately, and when I look in the comment section for inspiration or stories or anything related… especially on Instagram… it’s overwhelmingly negative. Why is being overweight a demon that people seem to have little to no sympathy for… when other addictions get a pass, we’re treated like trash? There’s legitimate people out there who think we should bully and shame people into being fit. There’s a mindset that if you don’t do it like some influencer who followed some fad trend diet like 75 hard… or if you’re not this Goggins guy… or if you aren’t some super athlete… then you aren’t valid?
People are just… nasty. If you did anything to take control of your life that isn’t ultra traditional, then according to people online in certain spaces, you’re a cheater, fraud, undisciplined, and a quitter. I want to be as proud of myself as I can be, but it’s just depressing to me to see those things. It makes me question everything I’ve been through my entire life when it came to my weight. Other people’s opinions shouldn’t matter to me, but how can I be open about my surgery if this is how people act as soon as they’re veiled by online anonymity? How can I trust anyone isn’t talking behind my back about how I’m a fraud… with how many people act like that online?
It’s just upsetting to me. I don’t know. How do you tone those overwhelmingly negative voices out? For now… I deleted TikTok and Instagram. I don’t need to see that stuff anymore.
TL;DR - People are toxic online when it comes to sleeve or any other weight loss intervention, and that negativity is getting to me. It’s evoking a massive feeling of imposter syndrome.
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I think we all want to feel valid, so I understand not listening to what other people think, but what I do see still bothers me. I’m down 70 pounds now since the start of March and every aspect of my life has gotten better. I walk/run 3 miles everyday. I haven’t cheated and have stuck to the instruction of my bariatric team to the letter. I look fantastic and quite frankly… I’m proud of myself. No being humble about it.
However, Instagram and TikTok’s algorithm have been feeding me more health related content lately, and when I look in the comment section for inspiration or stories or anything related… especially on Instagram… it’s overwhelmingly negative. Why is being overweight a demon that people seem to have little to no sympathy for… when other addictions get a pass, we’re treated like trash? There’s legitimate people out there who think we should bully and shame people into being fit. There’s a mindset that if you don’t do it like some influencer who followed some fad trend diet like 75 hard… or if you’re not this Goggins guy… or if you aren’t some super athlete… then you aren’t valid?
People are just… nasty. If you did anything to take control of your life that isn’t ultra traditional, then according to people online in certain spaces, you’re a cheater, fraud, undisciplined, and a quitter. I want to be as proud of myself as I can be, but it’s just depressing to me to see those things. It makes me question everything I’ve been through my entire life when it came to my weight. Other people’s opinions shouldn’t matter to me, but how can I be open about my surgery if this is how people act as soon as they’re veiled by online anonymity? How can I trust anyone isn’t talking behind my back about how I’m a fraud… with how many people act like that online?
It’s just upsetting to me. I don’t know. How do you tone those overwhelmingly negative voices out? For now… I deleted TikTok and Instagram. I don’t need to see that stuff anymore.
TL;DR - People are toxic online when it comes to sleeve or any other weight loss intervention, and that negativity is getting to me. It’s evoking a massive feeling of imposter syndrome.
2024.05.19 06:06 Distinct_Camera1602 R. Ghani SCAM
Hi
I am very much grateful to you for your swift response and I want to assure you that you will be gratefully rewarded for your concern. Though this mail might come to you as a surprise and the temptation to ignore it seriously could come into your mind. Please consider it a divine wish and accept it with a deep sense of humility as I seek your indulgence to solicit for your assistance concerning the content of my email because I know in my heart that you can be trusted. Please note that I found your contact email on Google email database while doing some search and you seem to be a reasonable person I can work with, because I needed a reliable and experienced person who can handle an investment worth $22 Million US Dollars.
INTRODUCTION: I am Mrs. Rula Ghani, born in 1948 and wife of the former Afghanistan President (Mr. Ashraf Ghani) whose throne/office was taken over by the Taliban on 15th August 2021 for political reasons. I am presently writing to you from the UAE where I and my husband have currently sought Asylum. I have been in emotional devastation after the assassination attempt on me and my husband in Afghanistan and because of the crisis in the Kabul city of Afghanistan. So, I am seeking your assistance in relocating the sum of $22,000,000 USD (Twenty-Two Million United State Dollars) from my foreign bank account in Jakarta, Indonesia to your Country so that the funds can be used for investment there in your Country and the funds can also be invested into your existing business if any.
I am trusting you with the sum of $22,000,000.00 USD (Twenty-Two Million United State Dollars) which will be transferred to you from my foreign Bank account in Jakarta, Indonesia. I am willing to share 60% / 40% of whatever profit that will be made from the investment. The funds can be invested into any profitable business of your choice and the investment has to be in your name since I will not be able to come there in person for now.
All I need is your absolute trust, commitment, honesty and confidentiality. Because you have to do all the transactions and the investment on my behalf since I am very far away. I advised that you kindly keep all our discussion and the transaction secret and confidential to ensure safe and uninterrupted transfer of funds. Be rest assured that the transaction is 100% legal because I and my husband had deposited the money in my foreign Bank account in Jakarta, Indonesia and the funds will be transferred to you legally on your readiness. I will instruct my bank to start the transfer process as soon as you are willing and ready.
Please note that whatever we are facing currently in Afghanistan are political matters and I know it was a plan from our political opponent. You may not understand this if you are not a politician. Anyway, I will enlighten you more on the political matter in future as I do not have much time to discuss politics at the moment.
Please think about the proposal very well and let me know your decision whether you are INTERESTED or NOT to enable me to proceed to the next step. If you are interested and agree to accept 60/40 sharing, kindly reply immediately so that I can provide you with more detail.
I am hoping to hear from you again and may God bless you for taking your time to read my letter.
Regards Mrs. Rula Ghani.
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I am very much grateful to you for your swift response and I want to assure you that you will be gratefully rewarded for your concern. Though this mail might come to you as a surprise and the temptation to ignore it seriously could come into your mind. Please consider it a divine wish and accept it with a deep sense of humility as I seek your indulgence to solicit for your assistance concerning the content of my email because I know in my heart that you can be trusted. Please note that I found your contact email on Google email database while doing some search and you seem to be a reasonable person I can work with, because I needed a reliable and experienced person who can handle an investment worth $22 Million US Dollars.
INTRODUCTION: I am Mrs. Rula Ghani, born in 1948 and wife of the former Afghanistan President (Mr. Ashraf Ghani) whose throne/office was taken over by the Taliban on 15th August 2021 for political reasons. I am presently writing to you from the UAE where I and my husband have currently sought Asylum. I have been in emotional devastation after the assassination attempt on me and my husband in Afghanistan and because of the crisis in the Kabul city of Afghanistan. So, I am seeking your assistance in relocating the sum of $22,000,000 USD (Twenty-Two Million United State Dollars) from my foreign bank account in Jakarta, Indonesia to your Country so that the funds can be used for investment there in your Country and the funds can also be invested into your existing business if any.
I am trusting you with the sum of $22,000,000.00 USD (Twenty-Two Million United State Dollars) which will be transferred to you from my foreign Bank account in Jakarta, Indonesia. I am willing to share 60% / 40% of whatever profit that will be made from the investment. The funds can be invested into any profitable business of your choice and the investment has to be in your name since I will not be able to come there in person for now.
All I need is your absolute trust, commitment, honesty and confidentiality. Because you have to do all the transactions and the investment on my behalf since I am very far away. I advised that you kindly keep all our discussion and the transaction secret and confidential to ensure safe and uninterrupted transfer of funds. Be rest assured that the transaction is 100% legal because I and my husband had deposited the money in my foreign Bank account in Jakarta, Indonesia and the funds will be transferred to you legally on your readiness. I will instruct my bank to start the transfer process as soon as you are willing and ready.
Please note that whatever we are facing currently in Afghanistan are political matters and I know it was a plan from our political opponent. You may not understand this if you are not a politician. Anyway, I will enlighten you more on the political matter in future as I do not have much time to discuss politics at the moment.
Please think about the proposal very well and let me know your decision whether you are INTERESTED or NOT to enable me to proceed to the next step. If you are interested and agree to accept 60/40 sharing, kindly reply immediately so that I can provide you with more detail.
I am hoping to hear from you again and may God bless you for taking your time to read my letter.
Regards Mrs. Rula Ghani.
2024.05.19 06:05 MrsFrampt Help with appeal
So I want to start this off by saying YES I KNOW don’t ever fucking miss appointments when it comes to claims appointments, I’ve spent the last 48hrs googling shit. I had appointments a while ago to figure out disability claims but had a rough mental spiral at the time and kinda became a hobo in my own apartment and missed the appointments and never called them about missing it at the time. Yesterday I get the letter with my final disability rating and it had a couple denied cause I missed the appointment. I know I know that was stupid of me and I suck. Just does anyone have any answers on how to fix this, re apply, fix, or whatever is needed.
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2024.05.19 06:04 bobby_atreides Med Power Pantz Help
 | Ok, so I’m trying to keep this to more of a medium power level to not crush my pod, who are all a lot newer to the game than I am. Honestly a good chunk of the typical adds to the Pantz Precon I opened playing sealed (Gishath, Etali, Vaultborn) but as my coworkers have started to add cards, it’s been too tempting not to add some additional blink, and continue to dial it up. Mainly I have questions about specific cuts/swaps I’ve made/might make, but also as a general question: submitted by bobby_atreides to DinosaursMTG [link] [comments] Is not having an abundance of tutors and fast mana keeping this decks power level low enough? Is there anything that stands out as upping the power level dramatically from other upgraded precons that are using roughly the same guidelines? I’ve definitely got more experience, and have just had more additions ready to add from playing sealed, but I’m trying to gauge if this seems on par with what you guys are playing, or if there’s any immediate “what the fuck, why would you play this in a casual game” type additions. Earthshaker Dreadmaw: I see this card in every Pantz deck list, and I’m wondering does it actually work out for you guys? I wind up drawing enough from other sources that I find this usually just sits in my hand, so I swapped it for Vaultborn Tyrant. Kogla and Yidaro for Scion of Calamity, or keep both? I like Kogla and Yidaro, and it probably should be in here, but not sure if the swap mentioned above makes more sense, or if I should maybe swap something else out. Scion’s cool, and useful, just really want the versatility and ETB from K&Y. Zetalpa: Almost every other deck, I see this as a cut, and I’m not sure why. I get that it lacks an ETB effect if you’re going really hard into a blink strategy, but dude has straight up dominated in games I’ve played him, and the cost usually isn’t an issue with the amount of ramp. Maybe I’m just over valuing him since I play against a dragon deck a lot, but he’s proved too useful in a few games. Roaming Throne: pulled this playing sealed, and I’ve been sitting on it because it just seems like an immediate big upgrade. Want to swap it in with the Dinosaur Egg, but also not sure I should be that big of an asshole, lol. Thanks for taking a look. |
2024.05.19 06:03 ashhhzz how to make friends????
How do y’all make friends or become closer friends with people??(like hanging out with people or something) I realized that since in my home country i was in the same school since 1st grade until 8th grade, I never really learned to make friends. It’s really hard for me to talk to people bc of anxiety, and i did manage to make some friends, but sometimes it feels like I don’t have any😭 most of the friends that I made at the beginning of grade 9 changed schools and graduated. And we were barely friends. i can’t really hang out with my best friends bc of the parents of one of them. They’re the only ones I’ve hanged out in my school but we can barely even do it that :( . I have other friends that are more recent but we just sit together at lunch. We barely even talk bc we don’t have anything in common apart of being from latam. I really suck at conversations so it just makes it worse. I don’t know how to talk with new people bc I feel that it’s gonna be weird if I just start being social bc I am always really awkward(like how do u know that someone wants to talk with u), and idk how to maintain friendships either lol. it doesn’t help that I always feel too tired to do anything but that’s another problem 😭
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2024.05.19 06:02 Choice_Evidence1983 AITA for not having my boyfriend be a plus one at my best friends wedding
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/ImDyingRn123
Originally posted to AITAH
AITA for not having my boyfriend be a plus one at my best friends wedding
Thanks to u/queenlegolas and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for suggesting this BoRU
Trigger Warnings: manipulation
Original Post: May 9, 2024
I (25f) have been seeing my now boyfriend (27m), who will call Joe, for about six months now. We made it official three months into dating so I like to say he’s only officially been my boyfriend for three months.
My best friend, who we’ll call Anne, is getting married next month. I’m one of her bridesmaids. It’s a small destination wedding, only about forty close friends and family. The bridal party is set to arrive about four days before the actual wedding to do bachelobachelorette stuff.
The issue came up yesterday morning when my boyfriend started asking what time my flight was for the wedding week. I didn’t think much of it and told him. He came back about ten minutes later and said he’d have to go on a different flight because he couldn’t find one on the same airline or at the same time.
I didn’t understand why he was looking at flights. I asked him if he was planning on going on a solo or guys trip while I was gone since I wouldn’t be around.
He looked confused and then said he was looking for flights for the wedding.
I then proceeded to tell him, trying to be as gentle as possible, that I wasn’t planning on a plus one and the guest list was already finalized. He has only ever met Anne over face time since she lives in a different state from us.
After telling him, he exploded at me. Honestly it was a total 180 from his usual behavior. He said it was insensitive of me to not ask for a plus one because we’d been together for so long now. That I was purposefully excluding him and trying to keep him a secret. He ranted and talked in a circle and I just sat there in shock. What snapped me out of the daze was when he insinuated that I would likely cheat with one of the groomsmen.
Thats when I got up, got my shit, and started walking out of his place. He freaked out even more and said we needed to talk about this and I couldn’t walk out on him. He tried to grab me twice but I shoved him off.
Since I last night, I haven’t spoken to him. he’s been blowing up my phone with calls and texts that I don’t reply to. Even put him on do not disturb because it was so annoying. I was pretty solid in believing I wasn’t TA but one of his best friends got my number and texted me I was being petty and a female dog about everything. That I lead Joe on for six months.
I haven’t talked to anyone about this since I wanted to cool down before I got a second opinion. But now that his friend is texting men, I feel like I handled it all poorly. I know I need space right now but I don’t want to ghost Joe, which his friend implied I’m now doing.
So I’ve come here to get some unbiased opinions. Fellow redditors, I asked you now if i am TA for not having my boyfriend be a plus one to my best friends wedding.
posting this is the other aita sub too
edit: to clarify. we don’t live together. i just spend the night at his place sometimes
edit 2: in our last conversation last night i texted him that i needed some space to breathe to which he then just kept calling and texting
edit 3 because people keep acting like joe is a secret: he has met my other friends. he hasn’t met anne in person because she lives in a different state. across the country to be exact. they’ve only met through face time. i’ve met his parents and friends. he hasn’t met mine because they moved back to mexico two years ago. he has met them over face time.
edit 4: his friend saying lead him on was “leading him to believe he was invited”
AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA
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Update: May 11, 2024
The general consensus was that I wasn’t TA. Unfortunately the original post got taken down on the main aita sub but is still up on the other. Still posting the update on both though.
Some of y’all had some stuff to say about me saying I need help communicating because I shouldn’t have walked out. Have your opinions, but never let someone scream at you and just sit there and take it. Im realizing thats emotional abuse.
About why I never pushed to have a plus one. When the wedding planning was starting, Joe and I had not met. By the time we met and made things official, the wedding planning was finalized. I never hid the wedding from Joe or the fact it was very small. Someone said “most normal people” plan on bringing their s/o to a wedding. Maybe thats true. But never automatically assume that since your s/o is invited to something, you’ll be going too.
The wedding was heavily pre-planned because again, it’s a destination wedding. Anne is originally from France and primary reason why it’s a destination wedding.
I talked to Anne about this shortly after posting and she agreed that I’m not TA. She said if the roles were reversed, she’d never expect her so of less than a year be invited to an important event.
So, on Friday, I texted Joe asking to meet up Saturday morning to have a discussion about everything.
This morning he tried to get us to meet at my place, but instead, I got him to agree to meet at a local cafe. A lot of you brought up how he tried to grab me and that’s a big sign that he could get more physical in the future. I didn’t want anything to be left to chance.
He got there early and tried to hug me, which I didn’t allow. I got the ick at the thought of him hugging me.
We did a bit of small talk but got pretty much to the point once we sat down.
He did apologize for blowing up but in the same breath said I shouldn’t have left. I countered that he shouldn’t have tried to physically stop me from leaving, twice. He said what else was he supposed to do. That set the tone for the whole conversation.
He went on to say that me just walking away was a “clear indication that I didn’t respect him”. I then pointed out that he was not letting me explain why he wasn’t invited.
This is when we started talking in circles. I told him how the wedding was being planned long before we met. How by the time we mutually agreed to be exclusive, they had everything finalized, especially the guest list. He said I should’ve asked for Anne to change it anyway. I asked him if I ever gave him the impression he’d be attending. He was silent for a while and then admitted he just assumed that since he was now my boyfriend, I would have told Anne to invite me. I told him then wouldn’t I have said something if he was invited in the past three months?
I realized that we weren’t getting anywhere. I told him I wanted to break up. To paraphrase, I said something along the lines of.
“I understand you were hurt that I didn’t invite you. I am sorry that we didn’t have a clearer conversation. I do wish that we could have had a calmer conversation. However, I don’t feel safe in this relationship because of how you reacted. I don’t think this relationship is good for either of us if you feel betrayed and I feel unsafe.”
He didn’t take that well.
Joe’s response was if we broke up, I wasn’t getting my stuff back. I told him I didn’t care. Because honestly? If he wants to keep some of my underwear and used toothbrush, okay.
I then asked him to not have his friends text me too. He then went from pleading to have another chance to accusing me of never wanting him. I just stood up, told him I wished him the best, and left.
Ended up going for a two hour run when I got home because I still felt stressed. Blocked his number, his friends, blocked his instagram, deleted the pictures of us on my feed. Changed my Facebook status to single. Had a cry and have been watching Netflix since.
Something I learned from this your first fight with your partner tells you everything about them. Our first fight told me Joe was explosive. Maybe if he hadn’t blown up, we would still be together. Not gonna dwell on it though. I know it’s good I got out while you can because as a lot of you pointed out, the fact he kept trying to overpower me twice says a lot.
I’m honestly glad I broke it off. As some of you said, it took him six months to show his true colors. Can’t imagine if he did come and then a year later, I find out he’s like this and have to look at wedding photos with a guy who is fine blowing up.
I’m going to stay single for awhile now. I have a wedding to look forward to. My focus is on supporting Anne and making sure she has the best wedding ever. I may update when the wedding happens to let you guys know how it goes and if Joe tried anything else.
Thank you again to everyone for their opinions.
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Originally posted to AITAH
AITA for not having my boyfriend be a plus one at my best friends wedding
Thanks to u/queenlegolas and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for suggesting this BoRU
Trigger Warnings: manipulation
I (25f) have been seeing my now boyfriend (27m), who will call Joe, for about six months now. We made it official three months into dating so I like to say he’s only officially been my boyfriend for three months.
My best friend, who we’ll call Anne, is getting married next month. I’m one of her bridesmaids. It’s a small destination wedding, only about forty close friends and family. The bridal party is set to arrive about four days before the actual wedding to do bachelobachelorette stuff.
The issue came up yesterday morning when my boyfriend started asking what time my flight was for the wedding week. I didn’t think much of it and told him. He came back about ten minutes later and said he’d have to go on a different flight because he couldn’t find one on the same airline or at the same time.
I didn’t understand why he was looking at flights. I asked him if he was planning on going on a solo or guys trip while I was gone since I wouldn’t be around.
He looked confused and then said he was looking for flights for the wedding.
I then proceeded to tell him, trying to be as gentle as possible, that I wasn’t planning on a plus one and the guest list was already finalized. He has only ever met Anne over face time since she lives in a different state from us.
After telling him, he exploded at me. Honestly it was a total 180 from his usual behavior. He said it was insensitive of me to not ask for a plus one because we’d been together for so long now. That I was purposefully excluding him and trying to keep him a secret. He ranted and talked in a circle and I just sat there in shock. What snapped me out of the daze was when he insinuated that I would likely cheat with one of the groomsmen.
Thats when I got up, got my shit, and started walking out of his place. He freaked out even more and said we needed to talk about this and I couldn’t walk out on him. He tried to grab me twice but I shoved him off.
Since I last night, I haven’t spoken to him. he’s been blowing up my phone with calls and texts that I don’t reply to. Even put him on do not disturb because it was so annoying. I was pretty solid in believing I wasn’t TA but one of his best friends got my number and texted me I was being petty and a female dog about everything. That I lead Joe on for six months.
I haven’t talked to anyone about this since I wanted to cool down before I got a second opinion. But now that his friend is texting men, I feel like I handled it all poorly. I know I need space right now but I don’t want to ghost Joe, which his friend implied I’m now doing.
So I’ve come here to get some unbiased opinions. Fellow redditors, I asked you now if i am TA for not having my boyfriend be a plus one to my best friends wedding.
posting this is the other aita sub too
edit: to clarify. we don’t live together. i just spend the night at his place sometimes
edit 2: in our last conversation last night i texted him that i needed some space to breathe to which he then just kept calling and texting
edit 3 because people keep acting like joe is a secret: he has met my other friends. he hasn’t met anne in person because she lives in a different state. across the country to be exact. they’ve only met through face time. i’ve met his parents and friends. he hasn’t met mine because they moved back to mexico two years ago. he has met them over face time.
edit 4: his friend saying lead him on was “leading him to believe he was invited”
AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA
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OOP: i accepted the wedding invite long before we met. this wedding invite didn’t just recently happen. + main reason for why i never asked for a plus one is because joe and i had only just started seeing each other when the wedding was being planned. a lot went into it because it’s a destination wedding in europe + i’m not meaning to dismiss it. i’m pointing out that’s why i’m not having a plus one unlike the other groomsmen and bridesmaids. they have been with their partners for years and personally know anne. joe has only ever met her over face time + also there’s a lot more then just buying a ticket. i said earlier that this wedding was planned months before we met. anne planned a lot of things for this wedding that are catered to the fact there’s a limited guest list. again. i would have been fine to explain all this but again. i never got a chance to + this wedding wasn’t a secret. he was even aware of it when we first started seeing each other because i’d just done dress shopping. again. this wedding was very planned out because it is indeed, very small and private in france. he’s also met anne and her fiance over face time, not in person because she’s in a different state. he’s met my other friends as well. he hasn’t met my parents because they live in a different country.
Update: May 11, 2024
The general consensus was that I wasn’t TA. Unfortunately the original post got taken down on the main aita sub but is still up on the other. Still posting the update on both though.
Some of y’all had some stuff to say about me saying I need help communicating because I shouldn’t have walked out. Have your opinions, but never let someone scream at you and just sit there and take it. Im realizing thats emotional abuse.
About why I never pushed to have a plus one. When the wedding planning was starting, Joe and I had not met. By the time we met and made things official, the wedding planning was finalized. I never hid the wedding from Joe or the fact it was very small. Someone said “most normal people” plan on bringing their s/o to a wedding. Maybe thats true. But never automatically assume that since your s/o is invited to something, you’ll be going too.
The wedding was heavily pre-planned because again, it’s a destination wedding. Anne is originally from France and primary reason why it’s a destination wedding.
I talked to Anne about this shortly after posting and she agreed that I’m not TA. She said if the roles were reversed, she’d never expect her so of less than a year be invited to an important event.
So, on Friday, I texted Joe asking to meet up Saturday morning to have a discussion about everything.
This morning he tried to get us to meet at my place, but instead, I got him to agree to meet at a local cafe. A lot of you brought up how he tried to grab me and that’s a big sign that he could get more physical in the future. I didn’t want anything to be left to chance.
He got there early and tried to hug me, which I didn’t allow. I got the ick at the thought of him hugging me.
We did a bit of small talk but got pretty much to the point once we sat down.
He did apologize for blowing up but in the same breath said I shouldn’t have left. I countered that he shouldn’t have tried to physically stop me from leaving, twice. He said what else was he supposed to do. That set the tone for the whole conversation.
He went on to say that me just walking away was a “clear indication that I didn’t respect him”. I then pointed out that he was not letting me explain why he wasn’t invited.
This is when we started talking in circles. I told him how the wedding was being planned long before we met. How by the time we mutually agreed to be exclusive, they had everything finalized, especially the guest list. He said I should’ve asked for Anne to change it anyway. I asked him if I ever gave him the impression he’d be attending. He was silent for a while and then admitted he just assumed that since he was now my boyfriend, I would have told Anne to invite me. I told him then wouldn’t I have said something if he was invited in the past three months?
I realized that we weren’t getting anywhere. I told him I wanted to break up. To paraphrase, I said something along the lines of.
“I understand you were hurt that I didn’t invite you. I am sorry that we didn’t have a clearer conversation. I do wish that we could have had a calmer conversation. However, I don’t feel safe in this relationship because of how you reacted. I don’t think this relationship is good for either of us if you feel betrayed and I feel unsafe.”
He didn’t take that well.
Joe’s response was if we broke up, I wasn’t getting my stuff back. I told him I didn’t care. Because honestly? If he wants to keep some of my underwear and used toothbrush, okay.
I then asked him to not have his friends text me too. He then went from pleading to have another chance to accusing me of never wanting him. I just stood up, told him I wished him the best, and left.
Ended up going for a two hour run when I got home because I still felt stressed. Blocked his number, his friends, blocked his instagram, deleted the pictures of us on my feed. Changed my Facebook status to single. Had a cry and have been watching Netflix since.
Something I learned from this your first fight with your partner tells you everything about them. Our first fight told me Joe was explosive. Maybe if he hadn’t blown up, we would still be together. Not gonna dwell on it though. I know it’s good I got out while you can because as a lot of you pointed out, the fact he kept trying to overpower me twice says a lot.
I’m honestly glad I broke it off. As some of you said, it took him six months to show his true colors. Can’t imagine if he did come and then a year later, I find out he’s like this and have to look at wedding photos with a guy who is fine blowing up.
I’m going to stay single for awhile now. I have a wedding to look forward to. My focus is on supporting Anne and making sure she has the best wedding ever. I may update when the wedding happens to let you guys know how it goes and if Joe tried anything else.
Thank you again to everyone for their opinions.
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OOP: thank you ❤️ i do have a dog and a roommate so that’s some extra security already. the roommate and i talked before about getting a ring camera but this experience and other comments have solidified us getting one
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2024.05.19 06:01 Choice_Evidence1983 My (16m) mom (40f) confessed that she is my sister and I now feel bad
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Born_Analysis8995
Originally posted to self
My (16m) mom (40f) confessed that she is my sister and I now feel bad
Trigger Warnings: death of a loved one, past sexual assault, teen pregnancy, drugs and alcohol use, mentions of overdose
Original Post (Wayback Machine): May 11, 2024
Idk why I feel so much guilt about this whole situation. This happened 5 days ago, 1 week after my 16th birthday.
So my mom (sister) explained our entire family situation. Her mom (my bio mom) was assaulted as a teenager (15) and was forced to keep the child because of her parents, eventually giving birth to my mom. They struggled a lot during this time and my mom was resented by her mom so she moved away as soon as she was 18 and went NC. Her mom began spiralling with drugs, alcohol, etc once she left and eventually ended up pregnant again with me around the time my mom was 23. However, she was deemed unfit to raise me so they managed to contact my mom and she agreed to take me in. My bio mom never really recovered and ended up overdosing a year later.
This completely surprised me because I genuinely never had clue I wasn't actually my mom's child. We look very much alike and she went to great lengths to become my mom. She said that I don't need to call her mom anymore and that I deserved to know the truth before I turn 18. This upset me and I absolutely disagreed with her and said that no matter what she would always be my mom and I would always call her that because she is in every way my mom. And we both cried over this and hugged and I thanked her for telling me the truth also.
The thing that is eating away at me though is that she sacrificed so much to raise me and I can't repay her in any way. Like she hasn't dated at all even though I know that she wants a partner. She also changed professions to better accommodate me. She has done so much and I can't repay her in any way. And I haven't always been the best to her either. I was definitely difficult as a child and recently I haven't really been listening and respecting her as much as I should be. And I know I've probably said some mean things over the years, mostly around wanting to be with my dad (she initially said that she had a husband that abandoned us when I was born). All of this just made me feel so much guilt and sadness. And I know if I talk to her about it she'll just reassure me that she is happy and I shouldn't worry but I can't get rid of this feeling.
I've decided that I'm going to be the best son ever and do everything she says from now on. But I still can't get rid of this feeling. I don't know what to do.
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YoungeCurmudgeon4: Your sister is an amazing woman and an incredible person and deserves all the love and respect in the world.
As for you, handling this so well takes a lot in a person. Be proud of yourself. And always believe in yourself.
The good thing is that it’s easy to see from your reaction to what she told you that she did an amazing job and you’re well on your way to becoming a great person she will be proud of. Take all of this and let it strengthen those good qualities. Do your best for her and yourself but don’t beat yourself up for past mistakes you can’t change. You don’t need to repay her for the choices she made, you just need to live a life that makes you both happy.
Mini Update: May 12, 2024
I've literally been tearing up from all the comments and messages from everyone. I am honestly so grateful for all the kind words and reassurance. Genuinely thanks so much ❤️
Not much of an update really but I thought I would still share. I took a few pieces of advice and have done them randomly during day. Firstly Happy Mother's Day everyone. Hope you had a great time. Me and my mom had a few things planned for today and I got back just over an hour ago now. We went to the cinema then a restaurant and ended the day with bowling. Honestly had an absolute blast and she was happy throughout. I got her a gift too, it was a photo engraved bracelet which I gave her at the end of bowling.
One advice I got was saying things that show her I care about her so I said "Your the best" and hugged her after the cinema. I also said "I love you" when giving her the bracelet which made her cry 😭
I still do feel the guilt but I'm not gonna let it get me down. Don't want more stress especially with exams coming up 😅 I saw a lot of comments mentioning that I shouldn't keep my feelings bottled up so I am planning on conveying all my feelings to her soon. I'll probably write a letter because I know I'll probably start crying before I even start speaking 😂 I think that will definitely give me some peace of mind. Thanks all again for taking the time to read this ❤️
(Also I completely forgot how biology works in my last post 😅 She would be my half-sister not sister since I doubt our father's were the same. But regardless I'm still going to call her mom 😁)
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Originally posted to self
My (16m) mom (40f) confessed that she is my sister and I now feel bad
Trigger Warnings: death of a loved one, past sexual assault, teen pregnancy, drugs and alcohol use, mentions of overdose
Idk why I feel so much guilt about this whole situation. This happened 5 days ago, 1 week after my 16th birthday.
So my mom (sister) explained our entire family situation. Her mom (my bio mom) was assaulted as a teenager (15) and was forced to keep the child because of her parents, eventually giving birth to my mom. They struggled a lot during this time and my mom was resented by her mom so she moved away as soon as she was 18 and went NC. Her mom began spiralling with drugs, alcohol, etc once she left and eventually ended up pregnant again with me around the time my mom was 23. However, she was deemed unfit to raise me so they managed to contact my mom and she agreed to take me in. My bio mom never really recovered and ended up overdosing a year later.
This completely surprised me because I genuinely never had clue I wasn't actually my mom's child. We look very much alike and she went to great lengths to become my mom. She said that I don't need to call her mom anymore and that I deserved to know the truth before I turn 18. This upset me and I absolutely disagreed with her and said that no matter what she would always be my mom and I would always call her that because she is in every way my mom. And we both cried over this and hugged and I thanked her for telling me the truth also.
The thing that is eating away at me though is that she sacrificed so much to raise me and I can't repay her in any way. Like she hasn't dated at all even though I know that she wants a partner. She also changed professions to better accommodate me. She has done so much and I can't repay her in any way. And I haven't always been the best to her either. I was definitely difficult as a child and recently I haven't really been listening and respecting her as much as I should be. And I know I've probably said some mean things over the years, mostly around wanting to be with my dad (she initially said that she had a husband that abandoned us when I was born). All of this just made me feel so much guilt and sadness. And I know if I talk to her about it she'll just reassure me that she is happy and I shouldn't worry but I can't get rid of this feeling.
I've decided that I'm going to be the best son ever and do everything she says from now on. But I still can't get rid of this feeling. I don't know what to do.
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YoungeCurmudgeon4: Your sister is an amazing woman and an incredible person and deserves all the love and respect in the world.
As for you, handling this so well takes a lot in a person. Be proud of yourself. And always believe in yourself.
OOP: Thanks I'll try my best ❤️ My love for her is probably at an all time high. I wish I'd know earlier so that I could have always treated her this way.TraditionalShop6800: Talk to your mom, thank her and tell you are grateful for how she raised you. And now, she should think about herself too. Encourage her to date again and find a partner.
OOP: Okay I will. I think I'll take some time to figure out the right words to say to her 😅Galactus1701: Repay her by being the best person you can be. Help her, be respectful, study and always be grateful.
OOP: Absolutely will be the best son I can 😅BiasCutTweed: You have to also give yourself a little grace here - your mom sounds amazing and deserves all the best, but what she clearly wanted for you was to give you a normal, stable childhood. And it’s very normal for children to act out sometimes, to say things in anger, to be difficult. It’s all a part of growing up.
The good thing is that it’s easy to see from your reaction to what she told you that she did an amazing job and you’re well on your way to becoming a great person she will be proud of. Take all of this and let it strengthen those good qualities. Do your best for her and yourself but don’t beat yourself up for past mistakes you can’t change. You don’t need to repay her for the choices she made, you just need to live a life that makes you both happy.
OOP: Thank you for the advice ❤️ I'll definitely try my best to feel proud of myself and also make her happy
Mini Update: May 12, 2024
I've literally been tearing up from all the comments and messages from everyone. I am honestly so grateful for all the kind words and reassurance. Genuinely thanks so much ❤️
Not much of an update really but I thought I would still share. I took a few pieces of advice and have done them randomly during day. Firstly Happy Mother's Day everyone. Hope you had a great time. Me and my mom had a few things planned for today and I got back just over an hour ago now. We went to the cinema then a restaurant and ended the day with bowling. Honestly had an absolute blast and she was happy throughout. I got her a gift too, it was a photo engraved bracelet which I gave her at the end of bowling.
One advice I got was saying things that show her I care about her so I said "Your the best" and hugged her after the cinema. I also said "I love you" when giving her the bracelet which made her cry 😭
I still do feel the guilt but I'm not gonna let it get me down. Don't want more stress especially with exams coming up 😅 I saw a lot of comments mentioning that I shouldn't keep my feelings bottled up so I am planning on conveying all my feelings to her soon. I'll probably write a letter because I know I'll probably start crying before I even start speaking 😂 I think that will definitely give me some peace of mind. Thanks all again for taking the time to read this ❤️
(Also I completely forgot how biology works in my last post 😅 She would be my half-sister not sister since I doubt our father's were the same. But regardless I'm still going to call her mom 😁)
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2024.05.19 06:00 Direct-Caterpillar77 dealing with a problematic member of a board games group
dealing with a problematic member of a board games group
Originally posted to Ask A Manager
EDITORS NOTE: Changed Q to Quinn for easier reading
Original Post Sept 15, 2022
I wanted to write and say thank you.
I am part of a local board games group, and started to run the group a while ago. It’s a great group of people who all enjoy coming together to play board games and have fun, and it was one of the key factors in making my husband and I feel at home in the city where we live. We have both made friends with people in the group, and it’s now a firm part of our life here. In addition, a regular member who left recently said that the group was the highlight of his week, which was lovely to hear. I love running the group!
However, there is a member of the group, Quinn, who has been in the group since it started (seven years or more) and has been displaying problematic behavior since he joined (rude comments, refusing to play anyone else’s games, losing his temper at times, leaving games in a huff when he’s losing, and generally making the atmosphere unpleasant for others). When we joined, we were told that Quinn bothered everyone but was just something that was being in the group, so we went along with that. At the time, the group was very serious and inclined towards more serious board games, and only three people ever brought games. There has been a real change of culture since then, with a range of games being played (light games, traditional games, and heavy games) and everyone brings games now. The atmosphere is a lot lighter, with more emphasis on having fun and being social, and this is something that Quinn does not enjoy and has not adjusted well to.
When I started to run the group, I noticed Quinn’s behavior was having a terrible effect on the group (people not coming back because of him or doing anything to avoid playing with him, and his preference for playing games in reverential silence making sessions less fun for everyone). I also realized that some people were at breaking point with this and it might contribute to them leaving.
The deputy (Kelly) and I wanted to ensure that we did it fairly and using the right procedure. We gathered feedback on the group, (which was useful in itself!), which confirmed that Quinn’s behavior was an issue, and I spoke to him, named what we were seeing with clear examples, and explained what we needed to see change. Quinn said he would take it on board. Your scripts and language were very helpful, as Quinn takes things very literally and factually.
Quinn’s behavior improved for four weeks, which was great. Some people have put up with it for so long that no amount of change will make them want to play games with Quinn, but some people were willing to give Quinn a chance. Unfortunately, Quinn’s behavior started to slip after four weeks, culminating in a session where they almost put a new member off coming back by lecturing them about group etiquette and insulting their game shelves with what was meant to be a joke, but did not land.
I spoke to Quinn again and explained that since the behavior we discussed had returned, if this did not improve, we would have to ask Quinn to leave as the group is for everyone and I need to do what’s right for the group as a whole.
Quinn took the points on board and was visibly upset at the thought of being asked to leave the group. Since we spoke to them, they haven’t attended of the two sessions since then, but they are still chatting on our Discord channel and seem to be trying to make amends by promoting the group to a students’ group in the city we live in.
We don’t know what will happen, but Kelly and I have agreed what behaviors will mean Quinn will be asked to leave, and your scripts and posts were invaluable in thinking about how to tackle this, and what language to use. Your posts have helped me realize that being the group leader means that the buck stops with me. For example, my husband and I disagreed on how to handle the situation (he was in favor of asking Quinn to leave immediately) but I had the confidence to think it through, follow the process through fairly, and know that if it didn’t work, that responsibility would rest with me.
This isn’t related to work per se, but I wanted to say thank you very much for the invaluable and free advice which has really helped me in navigating this situation!
Update Apr 11, 2024
I am the letter writer who runs a board games group and used Alison’s excellent advice about communication to deal with a problematic member of the games group and the issues their behavior was causing.
We had a twist in the tale recently when Quinn, the member who was asked to leave the group because their behavior was negatively impacting others, asked if they could come back.
For four weeks every year, we use a different venue as another group needs our normal venue. One one of the four weeks, I went for a walk before the session and noticed what looked like Quinn in the park. When the session started, Quinn appeared, just “passing by,” and we had a quick chat about this and that before they asked if they could come back to the group, saying they were in a better place now. They then left without ordering anything, which makes me think they dropped in just to see us.
I said I would send a message, and gave it due consideration. I also asked a friend who knows Quinn and used to be in the group, but has now moved, for their more objective input.
The decision was no: the group is working well as it is, with high numbers and between 11 and 20 people per session, and Quinn coming back would lead to awkwardness and possible animosity from a few people, some of whom would speak their mind. We would also lose a lot of members, and the group would slowly decline. For what it’s worth, one person who had some very negative interactions with Quinn, when they heard why Quinn was there ( they were round the corner), exclaimed “No!” to Quinn coming back, and this person is one of the nicest people you’ll meet. Similar reactions were given from others.
I sent Quinn a message explaining the decision, and I was as fair and kind as possible given the circumstances. Quinn has found another games group, albeit one that only plays light games, (not heavy games, Quinn’s preference), and I mentioned that and said it sounds like a nice group (which it does).
Quinn was perfectly pleasant when we chatted, but that was for about eight minutes, and they knew what was coming. They also said that they weren’t often doing the things I’d mentioned anymore (moving other people’s pieces, and a couple of other examples I gave), and that although their new group likes light games, they are helping some people progress up to heavier games. It wasn’t clear if the people wanted to progress (one of the issues we had was Quinn assuming that everyone wanted to progress).
The games group continues to do well, with enough surplus each year to give everyone free sessions every January, and we receive frequent feedback that the atmosphere is friendly and welcoming and that people feel at home and confident to bring and teach their games there. Our annual Christmas potluck dinner and session with a Secret Santa also continues. We also have a Google sheet with people’s games collections, if they want to add them, thanks to one of our members who likes spreadsheets.
For myself, Ask a Manager continues to help me out at work! I recently applied for a job which would be a step up income wise and I used Alison’s tips, and I use the communication tips in daily life as well as at work. I was actually used as a bargaining chip in recent negotiations at work over a type of meeting that needs minuting (for my minuting skills), so I will take that as a compliment!
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Originally posted to Ask A Manager
EDITORS NOTE: Changed Q to Quinn for easier reading
Original Post Sept 15, 2022
I wanted to write and say thank you.
I am part of a local board games group, and started to run the group a while ago. It’s a great group of people who all enjoy coming together to play board games and have fun, and it was one of the key factors in making my husband and I feel at home in the city where we live. We have both made friends with people in the group, and it’s now a firm part of our life here. In addition, a regular member who left recently said that the group was the highlight of his week, which was lovely to hear. I love running the group!
However, there is a member of the group, Quinn, who has been in the group since it started (seven years or more) and has been displaying problematic behavior since he joined (rude comments, refusing to play anyone else’s games, losing his temper at times, leaving games in a huff when he’s losing, and generally making the atmosphere unpleasant for others). When we joined, we were told that Quinn bothered everyone but was just something that was being in the group, so we went along with that. At the time, the group was very serious and inclined towards more serious board games, and only three people ever brought games. There has been a real change of culture since then, with a range of games being played (light games, traditional games, and heavy games) and everyone brings games now. The atmosphere is a lot lighter, with more emphasis on having fun and being social, and this is something that Quinn does not enjoy and has not adjusted well to.
When I started to run the group, I noticed Quinn’s behavior was having a terrible effect on the group (people not coming back because of him or doing anything to avoid playing with him, and his preference for playing games in reverential silence making sessions less fun for everyone). I also realized that some people were at breaking point with this and it might contribute to them leaving.
The deputy (Kelly) and I wanted to ensure that we did it fairly and using the right procedure. We gathered feedback on the group, (which was useful in itself!), which confirmed that Quinn’s behavior was an issue, and I spoke to him, named what we were seeing with clear examples, and explained what we needed to see change. Quinn said he would take it on board. Your scripts and language were very helpful, as Quinn takes things very literally and factually.
Quinn’s behavior improved for four weeks, which was great. Some people have put up with it for so long that no amount of change will make them want to play games with Quinn, but some people were willing to give Quinn a chance. Unfortunately, Quinn’s behavior started to slip after four weeks, culminating in a session where they almost put a new member off coming back by lecturing them about group etiquette and insulting their game shelves with what was meant to be a joke, but did not land.
I spoke to Quinn again and explained that since the behavior we discussed had returned, if this did not improve, we would have to ask Quinn to leave as the group is for everyone and I need to do what’s right for the group as a whole.
Quinn took the points on board and was visibly upset at the thought of being asked to leave the group. Since we spoke to them, they haven’t attended of the two sessions since then, but they are still chatting on our Discord channel and seem to be trying to make amends by promoting the group to a students’ group in the city we live in.
We don’t know what will happen, but Kelly and I have agreed what behaviors will mean Quinn will be asked to leave, and your scripts and posts were invaluable in thinking about how to tackle this, and what language to use. Your posts have helped me realize that being the group leader means that the buck stops with me. For example, my husband and I disagreed on how to handle the situation (he was in favor of asking Quinn to leave immediately) but I had the confidence to think it through, follow the process through fairly, and know that if it didn’t work, that responsibility would rest with me.
This isn’t related to work per se, but I wanted to say thank you very much for the invaluable and free advice which has really helped me in navigating this situation!
Update Apr 11, 2024
I am the letter writer who runs a board games group and used Alison’s excellent advice about communication to deal with a problematic member of the games group and the issues their behavior was causing.
We had a twist in the tale recently when Quinn, the member who was asked to leave the group because their behavior was negatively impacting others, asked if they could come back.
For four weeks every year, we use a different venue as another group needs our normal venue. One one of the four weeks, I went for a walk before the session and noticed what looked like Quinn in the park. When the session started, Quinn appeared, just “passing by,” and we had a quick chat about this and that before they asked if they could come back to the group, saying they were in a better place now. They then left without ordering anything, which makes me think they dropped in just to see us.
I said I would send a message, and gave it due consideration. I also asked a friend who knows Quinn and used to be in the group, but has now moved, for their more objective input.
The decision was no: the group is working well as it is, with high numbers and between 11 and 20 people per session, and Quinn coming back would lead to awkwardness and possible animosity from a few people, some of whom would speak their mind. We would also lose a lot of members, and the group would slowly decline. For what it’s worth, one person who had some very negative interactions with Quinn, when they heard why Quinn was there ( they were round the corner), exclaimed “No!” to Quinn coming back, and this person is one of the nicest people you’ll meet. Similar reactions were given from others.
I sent Quinn a message explaining the decision, and I was as fair and kind as possible given the circumstances. Quinn has found another games group, albeit one that only plays light games, (not heavy games, Quinn’s preference), and I mentioned that and said it sounds like a nice group (which it does).
Quinn was perfectly pleasant when we chatted, but that was for about eight minutes, and they knew what was coming. They also said that they weren’t often doing the things I’d mentioned anymore (moving other people’s pieces, and a couple of other examples I gave), and that although their new group likes light games, they are helping some people progress up to heavier games. It wasn’t clear if the people wanted to progress (one of the issues we had was Quinn assuming that everyone wanted to progress).
The games group continues to do well, with enough surplus each year to give everyone free sessions every January, and we receive frequent feedback that the atmosphere is friendly and welcoming and that people feel at home and confident to bring and teach their games there. Our annual Christmas potluck dinner and session with a Secret Santa also continues. We also have a Google sheet with people’s games collections, if they want to add them, thanks to one of our members who likes spreadsheets.
For myself, Ask a Manager continues to help me out at work! I recently applied for a job which would be a step up income wise and I used Alison’s tips, and I use the communication tips in daily life as well as at work. I was actually used as a bargaining chip in recent negotiations at work over a type of meeting that needs minuting (for my minuting skills), so I will take that as a compliment!
THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP
DO NOT CONTACT THE OOP's OR COMMENT ON LINKED POSTS, REMEMBER - RULE 7
2024.05.19 05:57 Byssa6 The tragedy of Fred the Magic Rat (Minor LMoP spoilers)
Me and my family were playing LMoP recently when our cleric tried to make a pet. It did not go well.
Let’s introduce the cast first… (yes these are the preset characters we were using)
Wizard: Me
Cleric: My sister, and the focus of our story
Fighter: My brother. He doesn’t play a big role in the story, but he was there.
Rogue: My mom, whose character is nicknamed “The Unlucky Halfling” due to her poor rolls.
DM: My dad.
Our session had two beginnings. The chronological beginning, which the DM decided was a dream sequence due to Cleric downing 3 bottles of poison and dying in the Wizard Workshop, and the actual beginning, where she survived. Both times, Cleric used animal handling to befriend the rat that was in the room (she even got a nat 20 on her second attempt) and named it “Fred”. After the rat was befriended, I noticed the DM constantly rolling dice for some reason. Rogue suspected Fred might be Glass Staff in disguise, but since none of us had Detect Magic we couldn’t check.
Fred started being really suspicious during our fight with the Nothic. It bit Cleric on the shoulder early on in the fight which made her take 1 damage, but I suspected he might have been scared by my presdigitation. When Cleric fainted during the fight, she was more worried about Fred being okay than herself, even after I gave her a healing potion that restored her HP to 5. After the fight, we waited for Cleric to wake up. We then tried to decide whether to fight the nearby Red Brands or get the prisoners we rescued to safety. Cleric tried to ask Fred to go beneath the door the Red Brands were behind, only for Fred to bite her in the face, reducing her to 1 HP. We ultimately decided to go back to town.
When we left the dungeon, we saw a letter from Glass Staff asking if we liked his “pet” and for a moment I thought he was talking about Fred. Rogue thought he was talking about the Nothic. The DM let me use Detect Magic even if it wasn’t in my spell slots, and I used it on Fred to see if he was magical. He was, though I couldn’t tell what magic. We started calling him “Fred the Magic Rat” after that. We decided not to kill him immediately because he could maybe be the Druid we were looking for. Our DM suggested we visit Tymora’s temple on our way to the inn to ask if Garale knew anything about what magic Fred could have.
When we entered the temple, the DM described how Fred, being held in Cleric’s hands, was struck by a bolt of magic, evaporating him instantly. Since he was in Cleric’s hands, she took damage and fainted. Garale asked why we would bring a “familiar of evil” into Tymora’s temple. The DM then read the rat’s stats. The rat was a familiar of Iarno, and was a spy for him. Those rolls I saw the DM doing? Those were to decide if the rat would bite Cleric or not. The rat was a trap placed in the module itself specifically for people like Cleric. Needless to say she was shocked.
TLDR: My sister falls for an in-game trap because she loves animals.
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Let’s introduce the cast first… (yes these are the preset characters we were using)
Wizard: Me
Cleric: My sister, and the focus of our story
Fighter: My brother. He doesn’t play a big role in the story, but he was there.
Rogue: My mom, whose character is nicknamed “The Unlucky Halfling” due to her poor rolls.
DM: My dad.
Our session had two beginnings. The chronological beginning, which the DM decided was a dream sequence due to Cleric downing 3 bottles of poison and dying in the Wizard Workshop, and the actual beginning, where she survived. Both times, Cleric used animal handling to befriend the rat that was in the room (she even got a nat 20 on her second attempt) and named it “Fred”. After the rat was befriended, I noticed the DM constantly rolling dice for some reason. Rogue suspected Fred might be Glass Staff in disguise, but since none of us had Detect Magic we couldn’t check.
Fred started being really suspicious during our fight with the Nothic. It bit Cleric on the shoulder early on in the fight which made her take 1 damage, but I suspected he might have been scared by my presdigitation. When Cleric fainted during the fight, she was more worried about Fred being okay than herself, even after I gave her a healing potion that restored her HP to 5. After the fight, we waited for Cleric to wake up. We then tried to decide whether to fight the nearby Red Brands or get the prisoners we rescued to safety. Cleric tried to ask Fred to go beneath the door the Red Brands were behind, only for Fred to bite her in the face, reducing her to 1 HP. We ultimately decided to go back to town.
When we left the dungeon, we saw a letter from Glass Staff asking if we liked his “pet” and for a moment I thought he was talking about Fred. Rogue thought he was talking about the Nothic. The DM let me use Detect Magic even if it wasn’t in my spell slots, and I used it on Fred to see if he was magical. He was, though I couldn’t tell what magic. We started calling him “Fred the Magic Rat” after that. We decided not to kill him immediately because he could maybe be the Druid we were looking for. Our DM suggested we visit Tymora’s temple on our way to the inn to ask if Garale knew anything about what magic Fred could have.
When we entered the temple, the DM described how Fred, being held in Cleric’s hands, was struck by a bolt of magic, evaporating him instantly. Since he was in Cleric’s hands, she took damage and fainted. Garale asked why we would bring a “familiar of evil” into Tymora’s temple. The DM then read the rat’s stats. The rat was a familiar of Iarno, and was a spy for him. Those rolls I saw the DM doing? Those were to decide if the rat would bite Cleric or not. The rat was a trap placed in the module itself specifically for people like Cleric. Needless to say she was shocked.
TLDR: My sister falls for an in-game trap because she loves animals.
2024.05.19 05:55 Tax_Previous Why did I open my hidden photos today… 😣
 | Hidden Photos are hidden for a reason stupid!! Most people hide nudes, I hide memories that would crush me to see anytime I look through my photos… but now that I’ve gone through that pain again I’ll include a couple with this post so everyone can see how stupid I was to have lost you.. Life’s gotten easier lately I guess. Kinda feels just like when I was on drugs just kind of numb all the time… I wanted to start listening to my old songs again and told myself if a song makes me emotional then I need to sing it recorded clean it up a little bit and by the time that process is over, I should be desensitized put it back in the library… WRONG, instead I found a new one that I listen to on repeat all fucking day.. (“Barely”-Gabe Bondoc) it describes the whole situation to a T of how I feel and it kind of hurts most of the time… I have tried everything to get over her and I just can’t… For someone who can’t remember what they did last week, I know her better than I know anything else. I haven’t forgotten her scent.. I can tell you where every beauty mark is… every scar, how could I ever forget when, every time I close my eyes i see you… I look for you in everything I do. All this driving I do by myself on the rare days that I do turn my music on. I still imagine I’m singing to you. That was the only time I knew how to show myself to you fully.. Me absorbed in my music is the best part of me and it’s so hard to even become close to that now… this is all my fault… ever since she assured me that there was never a chance for us again or even be friends, all of my progress that I was making I stopped immediately, not in an act of rebellion but I have no more motivation, it was always her no matter how bad things got I would have always chose you… i didn’t always show it in the right ways but you were the one… I wish we didn’t have some experiences in the middle of our marriage that play a big part on that downhill decline we had. Honestly, I don’t think that I’ll ever feel the same way about someone else the way that I felt about her in the first two years of our marriage. I wish that when we split and I was packing my stuff that I would’ve taken the marriage certificate and a couple other things.. But more than anything, I regret not keeping the little picture book(images with this post). The night I dropped off her car I struggled so much debating if I wanted to leave it there in her car with her or not and I should’ve known better and I should’ve just kept it.. The last day that I was there, I’ve never told anyone I’ve never showed anyone, but anything from our marriage that I cherished I didn’t want to take those things from her, so instead, I went around and took pictures of those items so I could always have those memories when I want to look back.. and that’s what I did today… I’m already miserable every day as it is it’s like I just want to keep adding to my pain, hoping that looking at the memories will make me feel better but it doesn’t… it just cuts again, a reminder that I let so many stupid things get in the way of love and happiness… all of those bad moments we had could’ve been happy memories or least moments of growth that wouldn’t have tore both of us down… and now memories are all that remains… submitted by Tax_Previous to heartbreak [link] [comments] I hope you’re happy and laughing and smiling every single day. That’s the version of you I always try to think of. I wish I had more videos of you laughing… For months, probably even years I used to be so upset because I always wanted you to apologize for how I felt you were hurting me, And only because of recently getting to understand what’s going on with me I realize that a lot of that was not normal behavior and like now I’m starting to get a grasp that a lot of that was not normal behavior and now I can see and understand why we could never work certain things out or why we both felt like we were super stubborn towards each other. With that said, I forgive myself and I forgive you, regardless of what we did and went through. I never intended to hurt you or your family or friends or anyone and I’m sure you never intended to hurt me either. Being able to start coming to peace with this stuff has definitely helped tremendously like the bitterness and those feelings have dissipated. There’s just the depression left. My mental health and relapsing are the only things that I won’t digress in progress. Everything else that I was doing can go by the wayside. I really don’t care. I can’t live in delusion forever that somehow we’re gonna come back together no matter how much work I do on myself or effort. And I’m definitely staying away from anyone else for a while. You’re the new standard if I meet someone and I don’t feel what you and I felt when we met it’s not for me and I doubt I’ll feel that ever again with anyone else. I wish you the best in life I pray for you every night. Love you always. Last thing, I make the last payment on June 30 for your concert tickets that I told you I’d get you. And I’m not going to reach out to you at all in any way I’m sure you’ve changed all your info by now anyway. On the chance that you do come across this by then. Anytime between July 1-13 message Fabio on Facebook or however you decide and he will either have my login info to transfer your tickets digitally or I’ll send them to him directly and then y’all can figure it out from there. Life without you after having loved you for so long just doesn’t feel like living anymore… I only ever felt alive when I could call you my wife… |
2024.05.19 05:54 The_Hive_Mind101 Combat Engineers (But much better than my draft)
 | https://preview.redd.it/hzrhiu8uza1d1.jpg?width=1002&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=02be4166dbc92e2fdcdbb033da9f53d5692ec2ac submitted by The_Hive_Mind101 to Deathkorpsofkrieg [link] [comments] Alright so a LOT of critique from my previous draft of homebrew engineers, and rightfully deserved. I took minimal time previewing past rules, and didn't look into their legit lore, which ended in a result of rules that assumed a lot of characteristics of Combat Engineers that simply weren't true! Here is my more well-educated result of our beautiful beautiful combat engineers, giving them a (hopefully) well-deserved set of rules. Feel free to look over for yourself and provide feedback! Here is a detailed description of different aspects of their rules and the thought processes behind them: Starting with their statline, it's pretty self explanatory, but I would like to comment on their OC as most none-battline infantry units only have the OC of 1. I figured since they can't have officers attached to them, and their general role as a deep-strike and do something special in the backlines kind of unit, the extra OC will help in their effectiveness in securing objectives as is the name of the game of 10th! Down to their weapons, I'll first go over the Trench Gun. The Trench Gun is another name for a shotgun but intended to use in a trench-ridden battlefield as a close quarters weapon. Now originally, I wanted their guns to go 18" since they are shotguns so shouldn't be able to go far, but I also didn't want it to be too short range to be inneffective--then, I took into consideration of more of the lore with these guns. Typically they are in fact shotguns,, but in the hands of an engineer, they are much more versitile, designed to take all kinds of ammo that fits the trenchgun's gauge, such as slugs, explosives, etc. Which means, loaded with the right ammo, they can fire at a decent range. But, to standardize and "average" out the odds, it still only has the effect of a lasgun at full range. Now, at close range the Strength is increased, the AP is increased, and now our absolutely gorgeous trenchguns have 2 attacks instead of one, which really focuses on getting that close ranged firepower if you can get them up there. And of course, the assault ability is there to be the cherry ontop with setting the trenchgun apart from your typical firearm arsenal. Now, your combat engineers can be more mobile, because again its a shotgun, its much easier to hit a target on the move with birdshot then it is with a pinpoint accurate laser. Next, over gasbombs, their rules are heavily inspired by oldhammer rules for them, as in pretty much their statline is the same as it was the last 2 editions. Gas bombs are anti infantry, very low strength, but high AP. Again, these weapons really strengthen their close-range capabilities, being only at the range of 6". Lastly, we have our absolutely lovely mole launcher. I wanted to make it effective, I wanted to set it apart from using a normal mortar, and so I did. Our epic drill-torpedo thingies hit on a 2+ normally, and a 3+ with indirect fire, meaning even on the move our engineers can score a hit fairly easily, with their little RC Car controllers and Auger Arrays. And for our special ability, planting explosives! A nice little special thing to give our engineers, as explosives seem to be their expertise. This little ability is here for two reasons, first reason is bc 10th edition everyone has something special, the second reason is because I need to give a cool knick nack to make you decide if you wanna take scions, or engineers as your deepstrike troops. Engineers inately being the more expensive option. Points costs will be the most frequently adjusted, so I will not make any posts for that, and I will post minor changes in the comments of this posts--but if needbe I'll have a new post if major changes were necessary. Also no comment on the shovel. Good day to y'all, feedback will be appreciated! |
2024.05.19 05:54 PanIsSuperCool All r/PokeMedia Posts I've Made In Order
My posts on PokeMedia surround the Paniel (MewTuber), his brother LanCon (Trainer), and their Pokémon.
Posts Made While Working on 'The PokeMedia Video' (The Dawn of CenPosting)
7) Why did Arceus make him so fast???
8) Too big for cuddles. Truly the worst timeline.
9) How do you cheer up your Pokémon?
The ending of the event effectively rewound time to before everything went crazy. Some people forgot the incident instantly, for others, it slowly faded away. Paniel instantly forgot. Cen didn't.
(Posts pause while putting in the final weeks of effort to get the video out.)
The Return to Posting (Paniel and Cen learn to battle! Maybe. Probably.)
10) Hey everyone, amateur MewTuber here!
11) The results of another day of training...
12) Cen's First Battle...?
13) [You are being tracked.]
14) Who could have seen this coming?
15) The snack economy is in shambles.
16) I'm Not Crazy, I Swear...
17) Pokémon Enforced Bedtime
18) Nothing like a lemonade after a long day!
Pan "Interviewing" (Things get spicy.)
The original intent with Paniel was to do in character interviews with others on the subreddit. After talking about the idea with some other people and getting too invested into another person's posts, I finally did one with Flare after this post. The interview wasn't intended to turn into something more for Paniel, but it did!
To check out the interview or the following bits to this story arc, check out the -45sp Story Index.
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Posts Made While Working on 'The PokeMedia Video' (The Dawn of CenPosting)
- If Cen could make a plan, he'd be doing it...
- Gonna have to start looking into metal chew toys...
- The perils of going on a walk...
- If a Trapinch wore pants, how would he wear them?
- I'm pretty sure that means he's hungry?
- How do you know what moves your Pokémon know?
7) Why did Arceus make him so fast???
8) Too big for cuddles. Truly the worst timeline.
9) How do you cheer up your Pokémon?
The ending of the event effectively rewound time to before everything went crazy. Some people forgot the incident instantly, for others, it slowly faded away. Paniel instantly forgot. Cen didn't.
(Posts pause while putting in the final weeks of effort to get the video out.)
The Return to Posting (Paniel and Cen learn to battle! Maybe. Probably.)
10) Hey everyone, amateur MewTuber here!
11) The results of another day of training...
12) Cen's First Battle...?
13) [You are being tracked.]
14) Who could have seen this coming?
15) The snack economy is in shambles.
16) I'm Not Crazy, I Swear...
17) Pokémon Enforced Bedtime
18) Nothing like a lemonade after a long day!
Pan "Interviewing" (Things get spicy.)
The original intent with Paniel was to do in character interviews with others on the subreddit. After talking about the idea with some other people and getting too invested into another person's posts, I finally did one with Flare after this post. The interview wasn't intended to turn into something more for Paniel, but it did!
To check out the interview or the following bits to this story arc, check out the -45sp Story Index.
2024.05.19 05:54 JohannGoethe New sub banner?
 | Drafting new banner with the following: submitted by JohannGoethe to LeidenI350 [link] [comments] “It is laid down by letter 🔢-🔠 in the writing of Thoth 𓁟, destined for the city of Amon 𓁩 [100], on which it depends. The (divine) designs are answered in Thebes (Θῆβαι) [30]: “It is decided”, they say, and it is for the Ennead 𓊹𓊹𓊹𓊹𓊹𓊹𓊹𓊹𓊹. Whatever comes out of his mouth 👄, Amun 𓁩, the gods fix it for him, in accordance with orders. The message is for death or life, life and death depend on it for everyone. Except him, gathered in three 3️⃣.”In plain speak, when we see the following 3-30-300 pattern:
https://preview.redd.it/wvscfwsk7b1d1.jpg?width=2160&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a12d885e9176af3cf9c3aa4ae2b093fbad8c1021 namely letter G [3], think: Grammata, meaing: “letters“ in Greek, letter L [30], think: Littera, meaning: “letter of the alphabet" in Latin, or Library 📚, in English, home of the books of Thoth, or T [300], think: Typos (τυπος), meaning: ”the shape of letters” in Greek, found extant some 400-years latter, even someone with a half-awake functing brain 🧠 will note that this cannot be a coincidence All the stanzas give us clues like, thus evidening to us that the Greek alphabet, language, and words are Egyptian based. Stanza 50 N Likewise, when we go to stanza 50, aka the letter N, or 14th letter stanza, we find Hapi the Nile flood god coming out of his cave. This matches with all the flood gods of the latter religions, namely: Noah, Nuh, Vish-Nu, Ma-Nu, etc., either starting with letter N or N-themed names. Notes
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2024.05.19 05:51 Embarrassed-Plum-468 Ear infection + behavior
Hi all
My little girl Phoebe, 8 y/o Maltese, has had an ear infection that I didn’t notice immediately. Didn’t really have symptoms until her poop started looking a little funny, so of course I tried a bland diet for a few days before bringing a stool sample to the vet, they checked her out and said she has an ear infection and gave me some ear drops and ear wash. So it was several weeks before I got her started on treating the ear infection and I feel so bad 😭 her ears looked okay to me, but I guess I couldn’t really tell what I was looking for. They didn’t smell to me either, all the things the internet tells me about ear infections didn’t really come up hence why I didn’t suspect it.
It wasn’t until a few days into treatment that she started showing symptoms. Still not any issues messing with her ears but she seems a bit more lethargic (already kinda a lazy girl but I love her for that), she’s already kinda picky when it comes to food and will eat then for a day or so isn’t interested, back and forth, and so tonight she nibbled on her food a bit but not much and wouldn’t even touch the Kong treat she loves. From what I read ear infections can make licking feel uncomfortable so I suspect maybe that’s why she’s just not in the mood for her treats right now? I’m just anxious about my doggies, they’re my whole world ❤️
so is it possible that treating an ear infection can make behaviors a bit worse in the midst of treating them before they get better? I’m only about halfway through the course of antibiotics. Vet is open on Monday so if I need to schedule her to go back to the vet to check her out again I’m ready to do that, just not sure if I’m overreacting and this is normal for ear infections or not. First ear infection I’ve ever had with a dog before!
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My little girl Phoebe, 8 y/o Maltese, has had an ear infection that I didn’t notice immediately. Didn’t really have symptoms until her poop started looking a little funny, so of course I tried a bland diet for a few days before bringing a stool sample to the vet, they checked her out and said she has an ear infection and gave me some ear drops and ear wash. So it was several weeks before I got her started on treating the ear infection and I feel so bad 😭 her ears looked okay to me, but I guess I couldn’t really tell what I was looking for. They didn’t smell to me either, all the things the internet tells me about ear infections didn’t really come up hence why I didn’t suspect it.
It wasn’t until a few days into treatment that she started showing symptoms. Still not any issues messing with her ears but she seems a bit more lethargic (already kinda a lazy girl but I love her for that), she’s already kinda picky when it comes to food and will eat then for a day or so isn’t interested, back and forth, and so tonight she nibbled on her food a bit but not much and wouldn’t even touch the Kong treat she loves. From what I read ear infections can make licking feel uncomfortable so I suspect maybe that’s why she’s just not in the mood for her treats right now? I’m just anxious about my doggies, they’re my whole world ❤️
so is it possible that treating an ear infection can make behaviors a bit worse in the midst of treating them before they get better? I’m only about halfway through the course of antibiotics. Vet is open on Monday so if I need to schedule her to go back to the vet to check her out again I’m ready to do that, just not sure if I’m overreacting and this is normal for ear infections or not. First ear infection I’ve ever had with a dog before!
2024.05.19 05:50 Significant-War-1108 NEED HELP REGARDING CMSC
I am not from a computer science background. I mean, yes, I have done some coding and some little projects, but not too long ago did I start. I have very little understanding, but I enjoy solving problems. I somehow managed to pass 201 with a B, but 202 got me good. Im probably getting a d or below. I had pretty bad exams, and I plan to retake this course next sem. I am writing here to get suggestions from you ppl on how I should approach this course. I am not taking any classes over the summer, and I plan to devote myself to fixing this issue and getting better at it. I need your help and assistance to do that. Please share any resources you might have and where I can practice problems. I know if i work on it i can get an A next sem. Thank u y'all.!!
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2024.05.19 05:43 CannibalsWontWin Has your job changed your perspective/opinion on people as a whole?
I've had this job for a bit over two years now, but even before that I've been passively, non-confrontationally misanthropic. I just kind of accepted that I don't like people; not in angsty, edgy teenager sense born of some singular act of bullying, or anything so dramatic. I like/love my friends and family, and have the capacity for empathy, and am perfectly capable of functioning in society. But at the same time I don't feel any kind of love or goodwill for people "conceptually", if that makes sense.
The primary reason for this has - over the last few years in this job - been consistently affirmed; my "misanthropy" has deepened. That reason being people just having an inherent desire to avoid accountability, and to just want, and want, and want. Age, race, sex, station, none of it matters. I work in health insurance. Obviously, people aren't going to be at the most rational and reasonable when money and their health are involved. But something everyone across the board has in common is a desire to shirk the consequences of their actions, and while I have no issue performing my job and abiding by the customer service policies therein, my "hate" for people just steadily grows.
About 70% of my calls have me thinking, "You agreed to the terms of your insurance contract. You chose a high-deductible plan. "You chose to seek an out of network provider. You chose to ignore the information provided to you regarding X or Y. Just because you want something doesn't mean you get to have it. You are not above the law, and neither are you above the policy you willfully agreed to." Any number of things which are either their willful choice or a choice made in willful ignorance, they will nonetheless seek to abandon accountability, or weasel their way out of responsibility. Old, young, rich, poor, white, black, you can hear the glee, the "can I get out of this?" simmering elation in their voices when you say, "Sure, I can take a look at the claim" knowing fully that they'll be responsible anyway; that they know they should be but think you're a magician who will wipe away it all and give some courtesy free-pass to the things they agreed to. And the anger, the spite that mounts in their voices when you tell them they can get what they want. The complete shift in personality. The feigned ignorance and subsequent rage when you subtly call them out on their performance. These last few months I've started to get a little schadenfreude out it, when dealing with these kinds of people. Before, I was apathetic; now, now I sometimes wake up thinking, "I hope I get to make someone feel despair for the choices they've made." that's not fucking normal, lmao.
I meet my metrics, I do my job, but at the end of each day I grow firmer in my belief that people are fundamentally not-good, because for me, to be "good" is to accept the consequences of one's actions, and I have yet to interact with a single person who is perfectly, completely fine with that. I'm no hypocrite, I've certainly felt the compulsion to. But working in healthcare and dealing with dozens of people from all manners and walks of life has turned my perspective considerably more sour. And I can confidently say I would not bat an eye if any of these people suffered as a result of their choices.
Sorry for the blogpost, lol.
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The primary reason for this has - over the last few years in this job - been consistently affirmed; my "misanthropy" has deepened. That reason being people just having an inherent desire to avoid accountability, and to just want, and want, and want. Age, race, sex, station, none of it matters. I work in health insurance. Obviously, people aren't going to be at the most rational and reasonable when money and their health are involved. But something everyone across the board has in common is a desire to shirk the consequences of their actions, and while I have no issue performing my job and abiding by the customer service policies therein, my "hate" for people just steadily grows.
About 70% of my calls have me thinking, "You agreed to the terms of your insurance contract. You chose a high-deductible plan. "You chose to seek an out of network provider. You chose to ignore the information provided to you regarding X or Y. Just because you want something doesn't mean you get to have it. You are not above the law, and neither are you above the policy you willfully agreed to." Any number of things which are either their willful choice or a choice made in willful ignorance, they will nonetheless seek to abandon accountability, or weasel their way out of responsibility. Old, young, rich, poor, white, black, you can hear the glee, the "can I get out of this?" simmering elation in their voices when you say, "Sure, I can take a look at the claim" knowing fully that they'll be responsible anyway; that they know they should be but think you're a magician who will wipe away it all and give some courtesy free-pass to the things they agreed to. And the anger, the spite that mounts in their voices when you tell them they can get what they want. The complete shift in personality. The feigned ignorance and subsequent rage when you subtly call them out on their performance. These last few months I've started to get a little schadenfreude out it, when dealing with these kinds of people. Before, I was apathetic; now, now I sometimes wake up thinking, "I hope I get to make someone feel despair for the choices they've made." that's not fucking normal, lmao.
I meet my metrics, I do my job, but at the end of each day I grow firmer in my belief that people are fundamentally not-good, because for me, to be "good" is to accept the consequences of one's actions, and I have yet to interact with a single person who is perfectly, completely fine with that. I'm no hypocrite, I've certainly felt the compulsion to. But working in healthcare and dealing with dozens of people from all manners and walks of life has turned my perspective considerably more sour. And I can confidently say I would not bat an eye if any of these people suffered as a result of their choices.
Sorry for the blogpost, lol.
2024.05.19 05:42 MissDisMAy I won’t. But I want to. Every. Single. Day.
I was evicted by my own parents on Christmas Eve via texting war with my step day during a 10hr shift as a barber. I was informed my youngest daughter (6) wouldn’t be returning from her fathers house for Christmas that same day. My oldest daughter (16) and I were casted out of our family’s traditional Christmas festivities and we spent Christmas Eve and Day alone. The day after she went to “lunch” with my ex mother in law and never came home. I was devastated which caused a pain flare up (fybromiaga/myofacial pain syndrome/stage 4 endometriosis, degenerative disc disease). I couldn’t get out of bed. I had to call off. I was fired on January 3rd. On January 6th I was pulled over and arrested because the passenger of my vehicle had put 3GS of crack in an old prescription bottle of mine she stole from my house earlier that day. January 8th my phone was turned off. On the 10th my car broke down and I just got it back yesterday morning.
While my phone was off I missed every call and message sent to me by Child Services. I missed every opportunity to defend myself against the lies and accusations made by my ex. My mom had started forwarding my mail to the post office without my knowledge. I received not 1 certified letter. I missed my first 2 court dates.
I spent almost a month alone in the house I was abused in as a child/teen. The house I shared with my daughters, no car, no phone, no money, and eventually no food.
In a span of two weeks, I lost my kids, my family, my house, my job, my phone, my car, and was arrested.
I’ve never been in trouble in my life. Always had full custody of all three of my children find the age of 17. and for the most part without any involvement of their fathers outside of the weekends. But I lost all of it. My ex had manipulated my family in believing complete lies about me. Smear campaigns surround me every day. Every morning I wake up and realize where I am, and how far away from my children I am and I lose it. I cry every time I open my eyes. It’s been months. And every day it hurts more. Because I can’t afford a lawyer, there’s a very good chance I won’t get them back.
My son (22) lives in a different state but calls almost daily bc he knows he is the one that is keeping me here. But if I lose custody of my youngest daughter, like I did my oldest, there’s no way I can continue living like this, feeling this much pain, physically and emotionally every single day. My little one. I cry all day every day. She was my sidekick . We went everywhere together. She was right by my side since the day she was born, She is my best buddy and they ripped her away from me. Without a single conversation. Not one. My exes, vindictive, hateful actions can only possibly be fueled by his desire to not go to jail for the $15,000 he owes in back child support. Up until a week before this, he was still trying to come back home. Still making advances on me. Leading me to believe that we were friends. But now I know it was all part of the plan. He had been plotting for months. Because my family operates in such negativity towards me they happily took the bait. I will never speak to any of them again. And the only reason why I haven’t been able to get my children back is because he dismantled my life by ensuring that I couldn’t afford a lawyer. Nothing in the report was true. It was all lies based on hearsay. So I’m here to warn you… no matter how good of a mother you are, if someone is determined to take everything away from you, they will. All I have left to do is pray to whatever God will listen to me. A lawyer shows up at my doorstep, expecting zero payment, and they fight to bring the truth to light. for me. Otherwise this is all going to end soon for me. I just can’t handle the sadness. I haven’t seen my daughter since December 20, 2020 23. I never gone more than two days without her before that. my heart aches more at the thought of her being alone without her mother than it does for myself. My teenager is not trapped with her abusive narcissistic, father. Being treated like dog shit. Unable to speak to me or her brother. All my family invites that monster and his mistress to Easter and breaks bread with them. It’s all so twisted. I just want this nightmare to end.
Thank you for allowing me to vent.
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While my phone was off I missed every call and message sent to me by Child Services. I missed every opportunity to defend myself against the lies and accusations made by my ex. My mom had started forwarding my mail to the post office without my knowledge. I received not 1 certified letter. I missed my first 2 court dates.
I spent almost a month alone in the house I was abused in as a child/teen. The house I shared with my daughters, no car, no phone, no money, and eventually no food.
In a span of two weeks, I lost my kids, my family, my house, my job, my phone, my car, and was arrested.
I’ve never been in trouble in my life. Always had full custody of all three of my children find the age of 17. and for the most part without any involvement of their fathers outside of the weekends. But I lost all of it. My ex had manipulated my family in believing complete lies about me. Smear campaigns surround me every day. Every morning I wake up and realize where I am, and how far away from my children I am and I lose it. I cry every time I open my eyes. It’s been months. And every day it hurts more. Because I can’t afford a lawyer, there’s a very good chance I won’t get them back.
My son (22) lives in a different state but calls almost daily bc he knows he is the one that is keeping me here. But if I lose custody of my youngest daughter, like I did my oldest, there’s no way I can continue living like this, feeling this much pain, physically and emotionally every single day. My little one. I cry all day every day. She was my sidekick . We went everywhere together. She was right by my side since the day she was born, She is my best buddy and they ripped her away from me. Without a single conversation. Not one. My exes, vindictive, hateful actions can only possibly be fueled by his desire to not go to jail for the $15,000 he owes in back child support. Up until a week before this, he was still trying to come back home. Still making advances on me. Leading me to believe that we were friends. But now I know it was all part of the plan. He had been plotting for months. Because my family operates in such negativity towards me they happily took the bait. I will never speak to any of them again. And the only reason why I haven’t been able to get my children back is because he dismantled my life by ensuring that I couldn’t afford a lawyer. Nothing in the report was true. It was all lies based on hearsay. So I’m here to warn you… no matter how good of a mother you are, if someone is determined to take everything away from you, they will. All I have left to do is pray to whatever God will listen to me. A lawyer shows up at my doorstep, expecting zero payment, and they fight to bring the truth to light. for me. Otherwise this is all going to end soon for me. I just can’t handle the sadness. I haven’t seen my daughter since December 20, 2020 23. I never gone more than two days without her before that. my heart aches more at the thought of her being alone without her mother than it does for myself. My teenager is not trapped with her abusive narcissistic, father. Being treated like dog shit. Unable to speak to me or her brother. All my family invites that monster and his mistress to Easter and breaks bread with them. It’s all so twisted. I just want this nightmare to end.
Thank you for allowing me to vent.