What do the naruto guys think of you quiz
Boruto: Naruto Next Generations
2009.03.13 03:55 FunnyBoyz Boruto: Naruto Next Generations
Everything related to the Naruto and Boruto series goes here. Although you could also talk about the topping too.
2011.06.03 22:55 Howlinghound What's The Word: For when you can't think of the word you need
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2012.07.31 09:36 Jfhowell12345 نكات شريرة
What the fuck do you think this is? Read the name, dumbass
2024.05.19 06:32 bdictjames Thunder fans, cheer up
With continued steadfastness, you guys will own the league in years to come.
Shai's late-game foul reminds me of Manu Ginobili's foul on Dirk in the 2006 Western Conference semifinals. That was a tough moment for the team, but the team gathered together and bounced back to win the championship the next year.
For what it's worth, Chet reminds me a lot like Tim Duncan. Quiet, methodical, levelheaded (also a low-key pot smoker it seems hahah). But the way Chet analyzes plays after they happen, i.e. after a block, it's almost Tim Duncan-esque. It's kind of weird saying, from a Spurs fan, but Chet does remind me more of Tim than Wemby does. Wemby, for what it's worth, I think when it's all said and done can surpass Tim Duncan for what he'll do in the franchise, but it's been fun to see this well-coached, young Thunder team just break their way into the Western Conference and the NBA this season. From a Spurs fan, the best of luck and a good journey ahead.
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Shai's late-game foul reminds me of Manu Ginobili's foul on Dirk in the 2006 Western Conference semifinals. That was a tough moment for the team, but the team gathered together and bounced back to win the championship the next year.
For what it's worth, Chet reminds me a lot like Tim Duncan. Quiet, methodical, levelheaded (also a low-key pot smoker it seems hahah). But the way Chet analyzes plays after they happen, i.e. after a block, it's almost Tim Duncan-esque. It's kind of weird saying, from a Spurs fan, but Chet does remind me more of Tim than Wemby does. Wemby, for what it's worth, I think when it's all said and done can surpass Tim Duncan for what he'll do in the franchise, but it's been fun to see this well-coached, young Thunder team just break their way into the Western Conference and the NBA this season. From a Spurs fan, the best of luck and a good journey ahead.
2024.05.19 06:32 Babygemini94 I feel I am an unpaid therapist but I desire to support her
Hey guys. I (29F) am attempting to be my best at assisting my partner (27F) work through some situations that I already personally feel would be better addressed with a therapist. We are both growing into the womenthat we are, learning about ourselves and trying to navigate the world with the toolbox that we have.
I often find myself at the receiving end of hour(s) long vent sessions about experiences she's having at work were she feels she's not well received by her coworkers. Since being together, we have worked at different jobs (COVID def changed things up in the work world) yet, I always note that this is her biggest issue with every job.
I tend to be analytical - so naturally I found a pattern. I'm thinking "4 different jobs and people don't 'like' you at every one. There's a common denominator". I try to bring up the fact that she can only control what she puts out there. That the ball is in her court. Trying to encourage her while highlighting the variables that are in place (she's in QA at this job so her position means she's someone in the background pointing out flaws). I try to explain perception to her and how that can be a factor. People may perceive her as this faceless element to management and they may dislike her for it. She obviously takes the way people don't include her or speak with her personally but I am doing my best to highlight that the dislike could be towards anyone at her position. It's just the unfortunate part of the invisible hierarchy. At the same time, I am letting her know how her greatest feature is her choice in being authentic and herself. Reminding her that this can sometimes come at a cost as many folks play the social game to get ahead. She has a fork in the road. One is at a cost to her freedom while the other is at a cost to her reputation. That's life.
When she goes through these lengthy conversations, they are often filled with unneeded details which can get dizzying or she will quite frankly lose focus. I will redirect her as many times I don't know what it is she is looking for. But I will asking open ended questions to allow her to find the finish line. Today, that didn't happen as she was trapt in an emotional cycle. I eventually asked her what it is she wants out of this situation.
Admittedly, she talks the majority of the time. The only time I can say anything is by sliding in between a breath. Today, I felt as if I was being spoken at for almost 2hrs of the same exhausting conversation. I feel she should see a therapist to work through her confidence as I am clearly not reaching her with my tactics.
We got in a small argument because she stated I wasn't offering a hug or coming off sympathetic. But damn....we have been together for 5 years and every job experience is the same. I can't hold her every single time as I can get tapped out. Especially when I clearly wish for her to challenge herself to see what the issue may b ewithin her. I can't always give her what she wants. Sometimes, she needs her to know that she's in control.
It's hard to reach her when she's feeling defensive which happens often. She isn't exactly open to advice which she has noticed within herself but says she's 'working on it'. But Ive also been expressing lately that I am not always open to being talked at and vented to. She doesn't exactly have the awareness to know that being vented to...about the same thing for years, can be tiring. I also highlighted that I'm not a therapist and I may approach things untrained but damn it I'm doing my best.
I feel as if I am failing her sometimes. But at the same time, I have to stand up for myself. I expressed that when she tells me her troubles, the way I process it is by taking on her pain - as if I am her. So in turn, I am carrying her boulder. Before I could finish my sentence, she was set off and said it was a rude thing to say. I found myself scrambling trying to explain what I meant. I experience others by putting myself in their shoes. It's how I understand. So I navigate the way I would based off my experiences.
In these moments, I am back peddling often. Mainly because she dominantes the conversation. Her lack of self awareness frustrates me as it's clear she only wants a listening ear but not open to learning from a situation.
I guess I am looking for someone to coach me on how to be better at being supportive. I'm not doing it and I don't want to hurt her. I also do not feel sorry for being so serious when I am tapped out. I'm not a therapist. I never was! How do I even navigate?
We have great compatibility. But communication gets tough when one person isn't receptive. I goto therapy and she doesn't. I feel like I'm on the receiving end of her communication issues and I'm getting frustrated..
Thank you for reading all this. Any help?
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I often find myself at the receiving end of hour(s) long vent sessions about experiences she's having at work were she feels she's not well received by her coworkers. Since being together, we have worked at different jobs (COVID def changed things up in the work world) yet, I always note that this is her biggest issue with every job.
I tend to be analytical - so naturally I found a pattern. I'm thinking "4 different jobs and people don't 'like' you at every one. There's a common denominator". I try to bring up the fact that she can only control what she puts out there. That the ball is in her court. Trying to encourage her while highlighting the variables that are in place (she's in QA at this job so her position means she's someone in the background pointing out flaws). I try to explain perception to her and how that can be a factor. People may perceive her as this faceless element to management and they may dislike her for it. She obviously takes the way people don't include her or speak with her personally but I am doing my best to highlight that the dislike could be towards anyone at her position. It's just the unfortunate part of the invisible hierarchy. At the same time, I am letting her know how her greatest feature is her choice in being authentic and herself. Reminding her that this can sometimes come at a cost as many folks play the social game to get ahead. She has a fork in the road. One is at a cost to her freedom while the other is at a cost to her reputation. That's life.
When she goes through these lengthy conversations, they are often filled with unneeded details which can get dizzying or she will quite frankly lose focus. I will redirect her as many times I don't know what it is she is looking for. But I will asking open ended questions to allow her to find the finish line. Today, that didn't happen as she was trapt in an emotional cycle. I eventually asked her what it is she wants out of this situation.
Admittedly, she talks the majority of the time. The only time I can say anything is by sliding in between a breath. Today, I felt as if I was being spoken at for almost 2hrs of the same exhausting conversation. I feel she should see a therapist to work through her confidence as I am clearly not reaching her with my tactics.
We got in a small argument because she stated I wasn't offering a hug or coming off sympathetic. But damn....we have been together for 5 years and every job experience is the same. I can't hold her every single time as I can get tapped out. Especially when I clearly wish for her to challenge herself to see what the issue may b ewithin her. I can't always give her what she wants. Sometimes, she needs her to know that she's in control.
It's hard to reach her when she's feeling defensive which happens often. She isn't exactly open to advice which she has noticed within herself but says she's 'working on it'. But Ive also been expressing lately that I am not always open to being talked at and vented to. She doesn't exactly have the awareness to know that being vented to...about the same thing for years, can be tiring. I also highlighted that I'm not a therapist and I may approach things untrained but damn it I'm doing my best.
I feel as if I am failing her sometimes. But at the same time, I have to stand up for myself. I expressed that when she tells me her troubles, the way I process it is by taking on her pain - as if I am her. So in turn, I am carrying her boulder. Before I could finish my sentence, she was set off and said it was a rude thing to say. I found myself scrambling trying to explain what I meant. I experience others by putting myself in their shoes. It's how I understand. So I navigate the way I would based off my experiences.
In these moments, I am back peddling often. Mainly because she dominantes the conversation. Her lack of self awareness frustrates me as it's clear she only wants a listening ear but not open to learning from a situation.
I guess I am looking for someone to coach me on how to be better at being supportive. I'm not doing it and I don't want to hurt her. I also do not feel sorry for being so serious when I am tapped out. I'm not a therapist. I never was! How do I even navigate?
We have great compatibility. But communication gets tough when one person isn't receptive. I goto therapy and she doesn't. I feel like I'm on the receiving end of her communication issues and I'm getting frustrated..
Thank you for reading all this. Any help?
2024.05.19 06:32 swooping-bad Having a Good Month
Ey, dudes. Hope you’re having a good one! Don’t have anywhere else to celebrate, but I want to share the awesome time I’ve been having, so here I am. :)
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- Just got my associate degree. Took me several years, mostly because of mental health struggles, but I didn’t even think I’d go to college. I’m transferring to an acclaimed, trans-inclusive university in the fall. So, that’s cool.
- Next week, I’m meeting will with my endocrinologist to discuss T options. This lady’s great. She asked me if I was comfortable outing myself to another doctor, because she was worried about a condition that he specialized in, but she didn’t push me. She knew about broken arm syndrome. When I asked her to use my dead name around my father (long story), who had driven me, she did. No bigoted interrogation or doubts, just warmth and respect for where I’m at. I’ve heard some horror stories about cis doctors, so this was a welcome experience.
- Got these shoes from the men’s section that not only fit with heel grips, but also support my tiny flat feet. These shoes look great. On top of that, my parents got me this watch that complements the shoes. It’s amazing what two accessories can do for a guy’s confidence.
- My mom, who’s conservative and openly hated my being trans for years, is defaulting to the men’s section when we go shopping. She respects me starting T, even if she’s anxious about it. She uses male pronouns for me, here and there, despite me not explicitly asking her to. She’s come a long way.
- I pass more often now, to the point that most strangers—including the barber—gender me correctly. My voice, thighs, baby hands, and height (5’2”) are the only major giveaways, and even then, they don’t always mess things up for me.
- I’ve been getting extremely masculine haircuts. I’m pre-T and was anxious about not passing, so I’m stoked about the implication. Used to hate my hair and throw it back into a ponytail, too, so it feels great to like my hair for a change.
- I’ve got a teen-boy, dollar-store ripoff of the Gomez Addams stache. I’m also as hairy as my dad and brother. Apparently, this is because my DHEA level is 487 ug/dL (PCOS) on its own, so I’m stoked.
- My friends have been great with my name and pronouns. They use them perfectly, quickly adjusted their language to address the change, and affirm often in casual ways. One friend even joked that I was a “classic guy” because I said I preferred what’s convenient to what looks good.
2024.05.19 06:31 Luluwuowo So The Viz Sub Is Adorable
So recently, I've started rewataching the first season of sailor moon. And I have to say, the sub is way better than dub imo. For one, Usagi's Japanese voice is so adorable! Her high pitched voice is a little annoying sometimes but the little things like "Tuxshido Kane!" And "Oshiokyo!" Are my favorite lines. Obviously iconic in both sub and dub, but what do you guys think? Do you perfer sub or dub?
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2024.05.19 06:29 Zestyclose_Bet_6883 This might come off as a dumb question, but how would you guys rank the main starter Pokémon from the anime (per generation) in order of prominence/importance? (merch and promos also being a contributor)
 | To Elaborate a little more in case anybody is confused: submitted by Zestyclose_Bet_6883 to pokemonanime [link] [comments] I believe Ash’s Charizard is the most prominent starter, due to how promoted Charizard. not sure if Squirtle or Bulbasaur comes after in which order Greninja is 100 percent the main starter of Kalos with Delphox and Chespin respectively in that order to match with the prominence of their trainers. Dawn’s Piplup is definitely the main starter for Sinnoh. and I’m leaning towards Infernape over Torterra. Floragato, Fuecoco, and Quaxly in that order to match with their trainer’s order of prominence/importance With Alola, I’m not 100 percent sure, most likely either Rowlet or Incineroar because Ash has both of them. Goh caught Cinderace, Inteleon, and Grookey in that order so I’m positive that’s the order of that’s their order of importance. But what do you guys think are the proper orders? because I’m genuinely a bit unsure on like half of them. |
2024.05.19 06:27 Initial_Designer4117 Can you guys check my resume please!
Hey Guys,
I am a current freshman going to be come a sophomore. I am going to use this resume to apply for some summer internships for 2025 that are still open. Can you guys also add some things that I will need when applying to big firms at the end of this year for summer 2026 application. Also, like what internships should I apply for this year to have a good impact on my summer 2026 application cycle. Also, I wanted to know where do you guys think I can apply right now with my current application? Be harsh everyone, Thank you!
PS. Additionally to this I currently work in a part time job in a Medical Lab at my school because I am also pre-med, and work as a pharmacy tech, and volunteer in numerous places(head of the volunteer training program and er department). I have also started on my own personal research project which is funded by the Department of VA. This is medical related stuff, so I didn't put it on my finance resume. Let me know if I should put any of this on my resume
https://preview.redd.it/u8h8wgzx8b1d1.png?width=1594&format=png&auto=webp&s=bbc18210fe227b4311ce59d9f90dc85deb634643
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I am a current freshman going to be come a sophomore. I am going to use this resume to apply for some summer internships for 2025 that are still open. Can you guys also add some things that I will need when applying to big firms at the end of this year for summer 2026 application. Also, like what internships should I apply for this year to have a good impact on my summer 2026 application cycle. Also, I wanted to know where do you guys think I can apply right now with my current application? Be harsh everyone, Thank you!
PS. Additionally to this I currently work in a part time job in a Medical Lab at my school because I am also pre-med, and work as a pharmacy tech, and volunteer in numerous places(head of the volunteer training program and er department). I have also started on my own personal research project which is funded by the Department of VA. This is medical related stuff, so I didn't put it on my finance resume. Let me know if I should put any of this on my resume
https://preview.redd.it/u8h8wgzx8b1d1.png?width=1594&format=png&auto=webp&s=bbc18210fe227b4311ce59d9f90dc85deb634643
2024.05.19 06:24 cinnacatt From Prof to HighSchool
Hello there friends! I’ve been STRUGGLING with my adjunct job (I’m in adjunct hell) especially since they have me holed away online. Being a professor is fine, there are some things I don’t care for but that comes with the territory.
I’m seriously considering High School as my next career move. I have a lot of experience with dual enrollment and I love the faster pace. My subject is pretty easy going and I’m very passionate about it. I also love working with teenagers too. I have an easier time connecting with them rather than college kids, who are sleepy and tired most of the time and can be just as stubborn about reading directions. I feed off high energy. I totally think I can do it and it’ll give me the freedom to pick where I want to live.
I also realized that the lack of deadlines, structure, schedule (for online), and communication that college provides actually send me into a deep deep depression. I’m not officially diagnosed as autistic (with adhd) but I have been told by a few therapists that I should seek out an official diagnosis. With all that… it’s making more and more sense why being a professor sends me spiraling. I thrive under structure. I need someone to tell me what to do!
The ISOLATION is bad. So so bad. My department is ran by a clique of tenure professors and they’re awful with the micro aggressions. The community colleges aren’t as bad but they’re really pushing online and I can’t continue teaching 5-8 college courses online just to get by.
Oh and I know High School is challenging, the parents can be a lot, but my subject is pretty chill and any conflict with parents were very few. In retrospect, I might making the same amount as I do now as adjunct either way. With benefits! And if I ever need a bit more money I can continue adjuncting on the side.
But yes! What do you guys think? Will High School give me the structure and deadlines I crave for? Has anybody ever transitioned from college professors to High School?
Please let me know.
Thank you all and send me positive vibes because I’m going through it right now.
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I’m seriously considering High School as my next career move. I have a lot of experience with dual enrollment and I love the faster pace. My subject is pretty easy going and I’m very passionate about it. I also love working with teenagers too. I have an easier time connecting with them rather than college kids, who are sleepy and tired most of the time and can be just as stubborn about reading directions. I feed off high energy. I totally think I can do it and it’ll give me the freedom to pick where I want to live.
I also realized that the lack of deadlines, structure, schedule (for online), and communication that college provides actually send me into a deep deep depression. I’m not officially diagnosed as autistic (with adhd) but I have been told by a few therapists that I should seek out an official diagnosis. With all that… it’s making more and more sense why being a professor sends me spiraling. I thrive under structure. I need someone to tell me what to do!
The ISOLATION is bad. So so bad. My department is ran by a clique of tenure professors and they’re awful with the micro aggressions. The community colleges aren’t as bad but they’re really pushing online and I can’t continue teaching 5-8 college courses online just to get by.
Oh and I know High School is challenging, the parents can be a lot, but my subject is pretty chill and any conflict with parents were very few. In retrospect, I might making the same amount as I do now as adjunct either way. With benefits! And if I ever need a bit more money I can continue adjuncting on the side.
But yes! What do you guys think? Will High School give me the structure and deadlines I crave for? Has anybody ever transitioned from college professors to High School?
Please let me know.
Thank you all and send me positive vibes because I’m going through it right now.
2024.05.19 06:23 SceneStrange7004 AITA for not responding after my ex-best friend called me to be in her wedding party?
WARNING: Long post/ sx situation.
To understand the situation you need to know our history.
My ex-best friend (now 22F) and I (now 21F) haven't spoken in 2 years.
We met in school and did not like eachother, but we soon became good friends. I would spend weeks sleeping over at her ( I will call her Grace) house and she introduced me to grass and nic.
I grew up very modest and I was still a virgin when we met. One day we were talking with another one of her friends (I will call her Amanda) abt this fact and I jokingly told them that sometimes I just wished I could get it over with but that I was sure it would happen eventually. Let me be clear I was laughing and I think I even rolled my eyes, Grace responds with "I know a guy around the corner, let me call him" I told her no, and reiterated that I was joking. She said no, no, you should just get it over with and was still typing on her phone, I found out she sent a photo of me to him.
10 minutes later we were sitting in her room, Grace, Amanda, myself, and this dude ive never seen before (I will call him Ron). Amanda bent over and told me that if i didnt do it she would. The two girls then left the room and he just started kissing me.
I wont get too personal but it happened and i felt disgusting, dirty and used. During, I found out that he didnt know I was a virgin and felt guilty, but kept going anyway..
I went home and kept talking to Grace (I struggle to get friends and was nieve). Ron ended up adding me on snapchat and again, my nieve self thought i should try to stay with him because he was my first.
Grace never brought it up again, but she would always come to me with her issues but never wanted to hear about mine. Now having more life experience I realise that she wasn't a good friend but I still loved her nonetheless.
A couple months later I was packing to move (again) and told Ron that I wasnt going to do long distance and he carved my name into his arm and I found out that he is nutssss.
After I moved I would text Grace often and then she ghosted me for 9 months and came back into my life when her and her bf (that she was living with) were splitting up. (AGAIN when she needed me)
This happened to be right before my highschool graduation (I believe it was on the Saturday before, I was graduating the next Friday). She asked me if she could come stay with me for a couple of days (at this point i lived over 3hrs away) and I told her "well I am graduating on Friday so you could probably come until Wednesday" and she agreed and left that day. She ended up asking to stay through my graduation and I responded with a hesitant sure.
Throughout that week we went everyday to find a graduation dress for me and a swimsuit for her because we were doing a graduation swim and party the day after my graduation.
The day of my graduation she wanted to go look for a swimsuit for her and I said sure and we ended up staying way to long and by the time we were headed home I needed to be at the school in an hour and a half and she needed to be there in two and a half hours.
As soon as we got back to my place she gathered her stuff to shower and I said I was hoping to shower first bc i need to be there soon and she said ill be fast and just went to shower so I was trying to get everything laid out to put on and my makeup laid out so I could be fast. After she got out I raced to shower as fast as I could so I wouldnt be late and I come back in my towel, when i opened the door she was wearing a dress so short if she bent over everyone could see all the goods and the front of the dress was so low her boob could pop out at any second (she is heavy chested). Come to find out my two younger male cousins, and my grandmother saw her nipple that day. I will tell you the dress I wore was very modest catholic (high-neckline, knee-length).
I felt like she was trying to pull the attention to her. I asked her to leave after my graduation and she threw a fit and left. I didnt talk to her after that and didnt respond to her text asking me to ship some items she left.
After over two years of no contact she contacted me and left me this voice mail "Hey sweetie, it's Grace. I just wanted to give you a call and check on you, its been a minute. I just wanted to talk about what happened a while back and I wanted to clear the air with you because oh stupid there's been a lot going on. Theres a lot of stupid, stupid, stupid things. I kinda regret a lot of stupid things one of them being our friendship thats for sure, so give me a call back okay? or at least listen to this voicemail and text me if you dont want to talk to me but i love you I hope to hear from you soon.
I found out that she is now getting married and has no friends to be in her wedding party, I feel bad and I think I might be an asshole for not responding or calling back, AITA?
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To understand the situation you need to know our history.
My ex-best friend (now 22F) and I (now 21F) haven't spoken in 2 years.
We met in school and did not like eachother, but we soon became good friends. I would spend weeks sleeping over at her ( I will call her Grace) house and she introduced me to grass and nic.
I grew up very modest and I was still a virgin when we met. One day we were talking with another one of her friends (I will call her Amanda) abt this fact and I jokingly told them that sometimes I just wished I could get it over with but that I was sure it would happen eventually. Let me be clear I was laughing and I think I even rolled my eyes, Grace responds with "I know a guy around the corner, let me call him" I told her no, and reiterated that I was joking. She said no, no, you should just get it over with and was still typing on her phone, I found out she sent a photo of me to him.
10 minutes later we were sitting in her room, Grace, Amanda, myself, and this dude ive never seen before (I will call him Ron). Amanda bent over and told me that if i didnt do it she would. The two girls then left the room and he just started kissing me.
I wont get too personal but it happened and i felt disgusting, dirty and used. During, I found out that he didnt know I was a virgin and felt guilty, but kept going anyway..
I went home and kept talking to Grace (I struggle to get friends and was nieve). Ron ended up adding me on snapchat and again, my nieve self thought i should try to stay with him because he was my first.
Grace never brought it up again, but she would always come to me with her issues but never wanted to hear about mine. Now having more life experience I realise that she wasn't a good friend but I still loved her nonetheless.
A couple months later I was packing to move (again) and told Ron that I wasnt going to do long distance and he carved my name into his arm and I found out that he is nutssss.
After I moved I would text Grace often and then she ghosted me for 9 months and came back into my life when her and her bf (that she was living with) were splitting up. (AGAIN when she needed me)
This happened to be right before my highschool graduation (I believe it was on the Saturday before, I was graduating the next Friday). She asked me if she could come stay with me for a couple of days (at this point i lived over 3hrs away) and I told her "well I am graduating on Friday so you could probably come until Wednesday" and she agreed and left that day. She ended up asking to stay through my graduation and I responded with a hesitant sure.
Throughout that week we went everyday to find a graduation dress for me and a swimsuit for her because we were doing a graduation swim and party the day after my graduation.
The day of my graduation she wanted to go look for a swimsuit for her and I said sure and we ended up staying way to long and by the time we were headed home I needed to be at the school in an hour and a half and she needed to be there in two and a half hours.
As soon as we got back to my place she gathered her stuff to shower and I said I was hoping to shower first bc i need to be there soon and she said ill be fast and just went to shower so I was trying to get everything laid out to put on and my makeup laid out so I could be fast. After she got out I raced to shower as fast as I could so I wouldnt be late and I come back in my towel, when i opened the door she was wearing a dress so short if she bent over everyone could see all the goods and the front of the dress was so low her boob could pop out at any second (she is heavy chested). Come to find out my two younger male cousins, and my grandmother saw her nipple that day. I will tell you the dress I wore was very modest catholic (high-neckline, knee-length).
I felt like she was trying to pull the attention to her. I asked her to leave after my graduation and she threw a fit and left. I didnt talk to her after that and didnt respond to her text asking me to ship some items she left.
After over two years of no contact she contacted me and left me this voice mail "Hey sweetie, it's Grace. I just wanted to give you a call and check on you, its been a minute. I just wanted to talk about what happened a while back and I wanted to clear the air with you because oh stupid there's been a lot going on. Theres a lot of stupid, stupid, stupid things. I kinda regret a lot of stupid things one of them being our friendship thats for sure, so give me a call back okay? or at least listen to this voicemail and text me if you dont want to talk to me but i love you I hope to hear from you soon.
I found out that she is now getting married and has no friends to be in her wedding party, I feel bad and I think I might be an asshole for not responding or calling back, AITA?
2024.05.19 06:22 Fine-Eye4953 [OoT3d] First Time playing Ocarina of Time / A Zelda game - Is it supposed to be this frustrating???
- (Short story time)
So far, I'm loving the game. It's fun and charming, the atmosphere is so nice and immersive, and I finally discovered all the iconic music and sound effects I've heard for YEARS in other stuff LOL. Currently I'm still early on in the game, just landed into the Royal Family's Tomb in Kakariko Village.
- (Main Topic - Me getting stuck)
In the beginning of the game at Kokiri village, I got stuck immediately. I was told to go find a "Sword and Shield" before I could see the great deku tree. So I went to the shop and bought a shield, and then thought "Well they got a stick for sale in here, so maybe that's the make shift sword for now?" but obviously that wasn't it. After running around the village more, I found the entrance to the The Lost woods. Being such a grand opening of an entrance I thought I was supposed to go in there to find a sword. After running around for 15 more minutes and getting lost over and over I realized this wasn't it either. So after running around the village more I found the crawlspace to learn how to dodge the moving boulder and found nothing again? But I figured that couldn't be it so I keep running around in circles and missed the chest THREE times because of the game's camera controls (maybe this is just a 3ds version issue?). Was I supposed to have a hard time finding the first sword? No one told me it would be at the back of town, behind a small crawlspace, past a moving boulder. The only clue I got was "You need a sword and shield to pass through here". I thought it honestly seemed more like a place to find a secret item, rather than an important story piece?
When I progressed to Hyrule Castle to try and see the princess, I got stuck again. During the portion where you have to sneak past the guards, I found the vines growing on the side of the wall. And after sneaking past to the side of the castle, I found an old guy sleeping? He wouldn't wake up no matter how many times I talked to him and I couldn't figure out what to do. So I thought I missed something and went back to town. When I couldn't find anything different in town I went back to the castle and noticed there was a girl named Malon standing next to the vines now. I talked to her and she said her dad fell asleep on his way to the castle during a delivery and asked if I could "wake him up". I thought "ah, now that I've talked to this girl I can wake up that guy". I did think it was really weird how she wasn't there before hand though, shouldn't she have been there the first time I tried to sneak in? Anyway I snuck to the side of the castle again and the guy WOULDN'T WAKE UP. I was super confused why he wouldn't wake up after I talked to Malon. After running around for 10 minutes and finding nothing, I decided to look up a guide. It turns out Malon gives you an egg, but only after you talk to her TWICE. She only gives you the important item you need if you speak to her again, after she finishes talking the first time?? Wouldn't it make more sense for her to say "hey can you wake up my dad if you find him? Also here is an egg" all in one? Why would I need to talk to her two times in a row for the progression item I need? Anyway, I got the egg and snuck past the guards again and when I made it to her dad it hatched into a chicken. I'm going to be real here, I got stuck again lol. I thought I would just talk to Malon's sleeping dad and he would finally wake up and I would give him a chicken as a gift? I knew chickens were animals in Zelda (and that you're never supposed to attack one) but it didn't even occur to me that the chicken in my inventory was an item to be equipped and used to wake up Malon's dad. I had to look at another guide for that one.
My third time getting stuck was after I talked to Zelda for the first time. After I talked to Zelda for the first time, I got to see the cool cutscene and spy on Ganon in the window. Afterwards, I get the Princess note thing and Zelda stops talking to me (I'm free to move around). At this point, I had been playing for over 2 hours so I saved and closed the game. When I came back to it later in the day, I was SUPER CONFUSED why I was back in Kokiri village. After looking it up, I get sent back there every time I save and close the game unless it's a dungeon?? Shouldn't that be a warning when you save?? "Warning, closing your game will have you awake in your bed in Kokiri village the next time you continue". I was really frustrated that I had to run back to Hyrule on foot, sneak past all the guards AGAIN, and then when I talked to Zelda I had to watch the cutscene AGAIN. It only took like 17 minutes, so it wasn't a huge deal but it was really frustrating how saving and closing the game made me lose progress.
The most recent time I got stuck was at the graveyard in Kakariko Village. After entering Kakariko village, I couldn't find anything to do since I couldn't progress into the mountain without the King's permission. I kept hearing about the graveyard though, so I figured that's where I should go next. I found the graveyard at the edge of town and read the gravestones one by one. When I got to the royal family's tomb some ghost popped out and I defeated them. The ghost told me some things and then disappeared afterwards. After that, I thought I was done in the graveyard, no chests, no branching paths, just the graveyard tour which I assumed was a minigame to get some rupees?. My train of thought was, okay so now maybe the king will be in town and I need to find him so he will give me permission to enter the mountain, I'll probably need to play my ocarina for him since Impa said the song will give me credibility for knowing the royal family. Guess who was wrong lol. I spent 30 minutes running around town checking every nook and cranny for something that would progress me forward. I gave up and looked at a guide again. Turns out I needed to play my ocarina at the royal family tomb to progress forward. Was I supposed to know to do that??? Did I miss some dialog at some point that tells me if I see a triforce symbol to play my ocarina on it? No one told me to do that. It seemed obvious when I thought about it, but there wasn't any tutorial or hints from Navi about it.
- (Conclusion)
2024.05.19 06:18 Personal-Cover2922 Why do we stalk exes? My story
I broke up with an ex due to big age gap (18 years) and also I somehow had trust issues because he was a cheater in the past. We lived together in a foreign country and after the break up both went to our country. Immediately after our break up he was in a new relationship. He still tried to stay in touch with me but my ego was kind of too proud so I tried to not be in touch with him. He told me when we broke up that if I wanted him back in a few months he would dump the other woman. I know, sounds horrible. I was so naive back than I laughed it off - after i saw them together on instagram a month after our break up I understood what he meant with "dump the other woman".
Fast forward 4 years. They are married now. I have been single since and tried to date many guys but just never felt that connection with someone again. I think I didnt understand back then what "special" connection we had. However, rationally I dont regret the decision to break up because how fast he "replaced" me. I know that is not the kind of character or person I want to be with. Yes, I broke up with him but the way he went on afterwards showing off his new relationship on social media etc kind of disgusted me.
However, once in a while I stalk him. There is a tool you can check someones insta stories secretly without them seeing. I know this is bad but I kind of check up on them once in a while and I wouldnt say I get very sad but kind of disregulated. When I heard about their engagement 3 years into the relationship through a friend I was soso overwhelmed i couldnt breath. I feel like some part of me is still not over the relationship. We traveled the world together and had a deep bond but I just always doubted the age gap and trust. Sometimes i wonder what life would look like if i hadnt broken up and we had built a life together. Would i be happier? It is easy to doubt your path when you arent happy where you are.
I dont know why i check on him still. If he came back tomorrow I wouldnt want him back because of the way he treated me after break up. I know i also messed up and had to grow as a person in the meantime. He was also taking care of me alot so the past years i had to rebuild myself which i did well but it has also been exhausting.
I just wish i didnt have the urge or neeed to know what he is upto. Does anyone have ideas on what to do? I did go to therapy and i think what keeps me in the past is the life we had together I miss. Someone to be there for me.. i have traveled myself alot since the break up and often miss having someone to share it with. I do meet men but i think somehow i am bitter or regretful of the past....
Any advice?
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Fast forward 4 years. They are married now. I have been single since and tried to date many guys but just never felt that connection with someone again. I think I didnt understand back then what "special" connection we had. However, rationally I dont regret the decision to break up because how fast he "replaced" me. I know that is not the kind of character or person I want to be with. Yes, I broke up with him but the way he went on afterwards showing off his new relationship on social media etc kind of disgusted me.
However, once in a while I stalk him. There is a tool you can check someones insta stories secretly without them seeing. I know this is bad but I kind of check up on them once in a while and I wouldnt say I get very sad but kind of disregulated. When I heard about their engagement 3 years into the relationship through a friend I was soso overwhelmed i couldnt breath. I feel like some part of me is still not over the relationship. We traveled the world together and had a deep bond but I just always doubted the age gap and trust. Sometimes i wonder what life would look like if i hadnt broken up and we had built a life together. Would i be happier? It is easy to doubt your path when you arent happy where you are.
I dont know why i check on him still. If he came back tomorrow I wouldnt want him back because of the way he treated me after break up. I know i also messed up and had to grow as a person in the meantime. He was also taking care of me alot so the past years i had to rebuild myself which i did well but it has also been exhausting.
I just wish i didnt have the urge or neeed to know what he is upto. Does anyone have ideas on what to do? I did go to therapy and i think what keeps me in the past is the life we had together I miss. Someone to be there for me.. i have traveled myself alot since the break up and often miss having someone to share it with. I do meet men but i think somehow i am bitter or regretful of the past....
Any advice?
2024.05.19 06:18 drsafetydance iZotope's RX Audio Editing Upgrades
I've found myself quite tempted to upgrade iZotope's RX 7, but I must know, is it actually worth it?
I use it exclusively for dialogue editing, so if the quality of those particular modules has only been nominally improved, I don't think the expense is justified. But if they have, and the whole operation of the software has a pretty substantial improvement, I could probably be swayed.
What do you guys think?
Thanks for your insight, guys!
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I use it exclusively for dialogue editing, so if the quality of those particular modules has only been nominally improved, I don't think the expense is justified. But if they have, and the whole operation of the software has a pretty substantial improvement, I could probably be swayed.
What do you guys think?
Thanks for your insight, guys!
2024.05.19 06:17 SceneStrange7004 AITA for not responding after my ex-best friend called me to be in her wedding party?
WARNING: Long post/ sx situation.
To understand the situation you need to know our history.
My ex-best friend (now 22F) and I (now 21F) haven't spoken in 2 years.
We met in school and did not like eachother, but we soon became good friends. I would spend weeks sleeping over at her ( I will call her Grace) house and she introduced me to grass and nic.
I grew up very modest and I was still a virgin when we met. One day we were talking with another one of her friends (I will call her Amanda) abt this fact and I jokingly told them that sometimes I just wished I could get it over with but that I was sure it would happen eventually. Let me be clear I was laughing and I think I even rolled my eyes, Grace responds with "I know a guy around the corner, let me call him" I told her no, and reiterated that I was joking. She said no, no, you should just get it over with and was still typing on her phone, I found out she sent a photo of me to him.
10 minutes later we were sitting in her room, Grace, Amanda, myself, and this dude ive never seen before (I will call him Ron). Amanda bent over and told me that if i didnt do it she would. The two girls then left the room and he just started kissing me.
I wont get too personal but it happened and i felt disgusting, dirty and used. During, I found out that he didnt know I was a virgin and felt guilty, but kept going anyway..
I went home and kept talking to Grace (I struggle to get friends and was nieve). Ron ended up adding me on snapchat and again, my nieve self thought i should try to stay with him because he was my first.
Grace never brought it up again, but she would always come to me with her issues but never wanted to hear about mine. Now having more life experience I realise that she wasn't a good friend but I still loved her nonetheless.
A couple months later I was packing to move (again) and told Ron that I wasnt going to do long distance and he carved my name into his arm and I found out that he is nutssss.
After I moved I would text Grace often and then she ghosted me for 9 months and came back into my life when her and her bf (that she was living with) were splitting up. (AGAIN when she needed me)
This happened to be right before my highschool graduation (I believe it was on the Saturday before, I was graduating the next Friday). She asked me if she could come stay with me for a couple of days (at this point i lived over 3hrs away) and I told her "well I am graduating on Friday so you could probably come until Wednesday" and she agreed and left that day. She ended up asking to stay through my graduation and I responded with a hesitant sure.
Throughout that week we went everyday to find a graduation dress for me and a swimsuit for her because we were doing a graduation swim and party the day after my graduation.
The day of my graduation she wanted to go look for a swimsuit for her and I said sure and we ended up staying way to long and by the time we were headed home I needed to be at the school in an hour and a half and she needed to be there in two and a half hours.
As soon as we got back to my place she gathered her stuff to shower and I said I was hoping to shower first bc i need to be there soon and she said ill be fast and just went to shower so I was trying to get everything laid out to put on and my makeup laid out so I could be fast. After she got out I raced to shower as fast as I could so I wouldnt be late and I come back in my towel, when i opened the door she was wearing a dress so short if she bent over everyone could see all the goods and the front of the dress was so low her boob could pop out at any second (she is heavy chested). Come to find out my two younger male cousins, and my grandmother saw her nipple that day. I will tell you the dress I wore was very modest catholic (high-neckline, knee-length).
I felt like she was trying to pull the attention to her. I asked her to leave after my graduation and she threw a fit and left. I didnt talk to her after that and didnt respond to her text asking me to ship some items she left.
After over two years of no contact she contacted me and left me this voice mail "Hey sweetie, it's Grace. I just wanted to give you a call and check on you, its been a minute. I just wanted to talk about what happened a while back and I wanted to clear the air with you because oh stupid there's been a lot going on. Theres a lot of stupid, stupid, stupid things. I kinda regret a lot of stupid things one of them being our friendship thats for sure, so give me a call back okay? or at least listen to this voicemail and text me if you dont want to talk to me but i love you I hope to hear from you soon.
I found out that she is now getting married and has no friends to be in her wedding party, I feel bad and I think I might be an asshole for not responding or calling back, AITA?
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To understand the situation you need to know our history.
My ex-best friend (now 22F) and I (now 21F) haven't spoken in 2 years.
We met in school and did not like eachother, but we soon became good friends. I would spend weeks sleeping over at her ( I will call her Grace) house and she introduced me to grass and nic.
I grew up very modest and I was still a virgin when we met. One day we were talking with another one of her friends (I will call her Amanda) abt this fact and I jokingly told them that sometimes I just wished I could get it over with but that I was sure it would happen eventually. Let me be clear I was laughing and I think I even rolled my eyes, Grace responds with "I know a guy around the corner, let me call him" I told her no, and reiterated that I was joking. She said no, no, you should just get it over with and was still typing on her phone, I found out she sent a photo of me to him.
10 minutes later we were sitting in her room, Grace, Amanda, myself, and this dude ive never seen before (I will call him Ron). Amanda bent over and told me that if i didnt do it she would. The two girls then left the room and he just started kissing me.
I wont get too personal but it happened and i felt disgusting, dirty and used. During, I found out that he didnt know I was a virgin and felt guilty, but kept going anyway..
I went home and kept talking to Grace (I struggle to get friends and was nieve). Ron ended up adding me on snapchat and again, my nieve self thought i should try to stay with him because he was my first.
Grace never brought it up again, but she would always come to me with her issues but never wanted to hear about mine. Now having more life experience I realise that she wasn't a good friend but I still loved her nonetheless.
A couple months later I was packing to move (again) and told Ron that I wasnt going to do long distance and he carved my name into his arm and I found out that he is nutssss.
After I moved I would text Grace often and then she ghosted me for 9 months and came back into my life when her and her bf (that she was living with) were splitting up. (AGAIN when she needed me)
This happened to be right before my highschool graduation (I believe it was on the Saturday before, I was graduating the next Friday). She asked me if she could come stay with me for a couple of days (at this point i lived over 3hrs away) and I told her "well I am graduating on Friday so you could probably come until Wednesday" and she agreed and left that day. She ended up asking to stay through my graduation and I responded with a hesitant sure.
Throughout that week we went everyday to find a graduation dress for me and a swimsuit for her because we were doing a graduation swim and party the day after my graduation.
The day of my graduation she wanted to go look for a swimsuit for her and I said sure and we ended up staying way to long and by the time we were headed home I needed to be at the school in an hour and a half and she needed to be there in two and a half hours.
As soon as we got back to my place she gathered her stuff to shower and I said I was hoping to shower first bc i need to be there soon and she said ill be fast and just went to shower so I was trying to get everything laid out to put on and my makeup laid out so I could be fast. After she got out I raced to shower as fast as I could so I wouldnt be late and I come back in my towel, when i opened the door she was wearing a dress so short if she bent over everyone could see all the goods and the front of the dress was so low her boob could pop out at any second (she is heavy chested). Come to find out my two younger male cousins, and my grandmother saw her nipple that day. I will tell you the dress I wore was very modest catholic (high-neckline, knee-length).
I felt like she was trying to pull the attention to her. I asked her to leave after my graduation and she threw a fit and left. I didnt talk to her after that and didnt respond to her text asking me to ship some items she left.
After over two years of no contact she contacted me and left me this voice mail "Hey sweetie, it's Grace. I just wanted to give you a call and check on you, its been a minute. I just wanted to talk about what happened a while back and I wanted to clear the air with you because oh stupid there's been a lot going on. Theres a lot of stupid, stupid, stupid things. I kinda regret a lot of stupid things one of them being our friendship thats for sure, so give me a call back okay? or at least listen to this voicemail and text me if you dont want to talk to me but i love you I hope to hear from you soon.
I found out that she is now getting married and has no friends to be in her wedding party, I feel bad and I think I might be an asshole for not responding or calling back, AITA?
2024.05.19 06:13 Senior-Bug19 yearning and ranting! (thoughts of a lover girl) #relatable 😀
its the worst feeling because i wish i could be the type that wants to make you jealous and show you that im better off without you and with other guys. but i dont want to do that. i dont want to think about you feeling hurt. i still never would want to hurt you, ever, even after how much you hurt me. i would have kept trying and never gave up on us. i care about you so much sometimes it scares me into thinking i accidentally formed a soul tie with you bc idk how the FUCK are you so heavily saturated in my thoughts even though i havent seen you in 9 months. 9 fucking months. barely even spoken to you since. i hate having to look at your stupid social media to try and figure out what you’re up to and who you’re with. it feels so weird being back in your city and not telling you. i feel like im keeping a secret from you. i wonder if you think about me as much as i think about you. i wonder if you care about me as much as i care for you, still, and always. if you called me and needed help with anything i would always be there for you, no questions asked. but no i will never reach out to you, even if i think about u till the day i die. i don’t know why but i feel like i need to be there for you and i want to be. sometimes i get upset thinking about how ill never love someone the same way i loved you, so naively with so much hope and innocence. sometimes i wonder if that’s what im missing so strongly, the feeling of being in love for the first time. the intense feelings in our relationship. the highs and lows. i think i miss how much i loved being so helplessly in love. i love how much i loved you and how you were a catalyst which i was able to fully pour love into without restraint. i miss texting you my every thought and telling you i love you 6472838 times a day. im grieving the love i had for you and your presence. grieving you while you’re still alive, ironic. it makes me sad that now i keep my guard up because im too scared of getting hurt again. i keep telling myself nobody compares to you but maybe im not even giving them the chance to compare. maybe i dont want them to compare. maybe im not ready to let go of the idea of you. the idea of you, the you i wanted you to be, not the you your actions showed you were. i hope one day i will let someone back in. everything will work out, and i know that, but until then, i yearn 🫠
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2024.05.19 06:12 masonistrying An Outside Perspective On Dogs
Hey guys! I'm 22 and I just moved into my first apartment a few weeks ago. The last time I lived in an apartment I was pretty young, so I don't really remember what it's like to have such close neighbors. My current issue is that my dog, who is as sweet as can be, is also quite loud given the acoustics of the space (like 16 ft ceilings). She barks at door slamming (something she's slowly improving with but it's nowhere near perfect), is very excited to go outside in evenings and tries to bark in the halls, and howls on and off for about 30 minutes whenever I leave to go somewhere (I work from home). This gives me a lot of anxiety because I don't want to be a nuisance to my neighbors. I'm on the top third floor and can hear her howling when I'm on the first, but I have no idea how it sounds in other units. The walls, ceiling, and floors are all thick concrete so maybe it isn't as loud as I fear, but if it is, what do you think the general feelings would be about it? She doesn't carry on with her barking too long, and I haven't heard howling past 30 minutes. I'm of course actively working to train her and get her comfortable with her new environment, but in the meantime is there anything more I should be doing to make it clear that I'm not a careless entitled tenant who doesn't care about the noise? Or am I overthinking it?
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2024.05.19 06:11 heinous3000 Social Media and Toxicity Towards Bariatric Procedures… opinion?
I find myself getting worked up and angry because of what I see online… And people’s views on not only bariatric surgery, but anything related to weight loss intervention (Ozempic and such).
I think we all want to feel valid, so I understand not listening to what other people think, but what I do see still bothers me. I’m down 70 pounds now since the start of March and every aspect of my life has gotten better. I walk/run 3 miles everyday. I haven’t cheated and have stuck to the instruction of my bariatric team to the letter. I look fantastic and quite frankly… I’m proud of myself. No being humble about it.
However, Instagram and TikTok’s algorithm have been feeding me more health related content lately, and when I look in the comment section for inspiration or stories or anything related… especially on Instagram… it’s overwhelmingly negative. Why is being overweight a demon that people seem to have little to no sympathy for… when other addictions get a pass, we’re treated like trash? There’s legitimate people out there who think we should bully and shame people into being fit. There’s a mindset that if you don’t do it like some influencer who followed some fad trend diet like 75 hard… or if you’re not this Goggins guy… or if you aren’t some super athlete… then you aren’t valid?
People are just… nasty. If you did anything to take control of your life that isn’t ultra traditional, then according to people online in certain spaces, you’re a cheater, fraud, undisciplined, and a quitter. I want to be as proud of myself as I can be, but it’s just depressing to me to see those things. It makes me question everything I’ve been through my entire life when it came to my weight. Other people’s opinions shouldn’t matter to me, but how can I be open about my surgery if this is how people act as soon as they’re veiled by online anonymity? How can I trust anyone isn’t talking behind my back about how I’m a fraud… with how many people act like that online?
It’s just upsetting to me. I don’t know. How do you tone those overwhelmingly negative voices out? For now… I deleted TikTok and Instagram. I don’t need to see that stuff anymore.
TL;DR - People are toxic online when it comes to sleeve or any other weight loss intervention, and that negativity is getting to me. It’s evoking a massive feeling of imposter syndrome.
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I think we all want to feel valid, so I understand not listening to what other people think, but what I do see still bothers me. I’m down 70 pounds now since the start of March and every aspect of my life has gotten better. I walk/run 3 miles everyday. I haven’t cheated and have stuck to the instruction of my bariatric team to the letter. I look fantastic and quite frankly… I’m proud of myself. No being humble about it.
However, Instagram and TikTok’s algorithm have been feeding me more health related content lately, and when I look in the comment section for inspiration or stories or anything related… especially on Instagram… it’s overwhelmingly negative. Why is being overweight a demon that people seem to have little to no sympathy for… when other addictions get a pass, we’re treated like trash? There’s legitimate people out there who think we should bully and shame people into being fit. There’s a mindset that if you don’t do it like some influencer who followed some fad trend diet like 75 hard… or if you’re not this Goggins guy… or if you aren’t some super athlete… then you aren’t valid?
People are just… nasty. If you did anything to take control of your life that isn’t ultra traditional, then according to people online in certain spaces, you’re a cheater, fraud, undisciplined, and a quitter. I want to be as proud of myself as I can be, but it’s just depressing to me to see those things. It makes me question everything I’ve been through my entire life when it came to my weight. Other people’s opinions shouldn’t matter to me, but how can I be open about my surgery if this is how people act as soon as they’re veiled by online anonymity? How can I trust anyone isn’t talking behind my back about how I’m a fraud… with how many people act like that online?
It’s just upsetting to me. I don’t know. How do you tone those overwhelmingly negative voices out? For now… I deleted TikTok and Instagram. I don’t need to see that stuff anymore.
TL;DR - People are toxic online when it comes to sleeve or any other weight loss intervention, and that negativity is getting to me. It’s evoking a massive feeling of imposter syndrome.
2024.05.19 06:10 Fluid_Juggernaut_281 Can’t get decent/good matches
Hey, M 22 here. So I’ve been on tinder on and off in the past couple years in Delhi, but due to college, I keep travelling abroad so I’m not very active on it most of the year, except when I’m home for holidays. One thing I’ve noticed is that I rarely get even descent matches on this app. I got curious and got tinder gold for a week just to see what likes I’m exactly getting (which are few in number). Most of these profiles don’t even seem genuine as they don’t even show face; which is a red flag for me, or I’m just not really into them like that.
Now I’m a pretty good looking guy (which many people have told me other than my mom lol), 5’11, and work out pretty often, which anyone can tell by taking one look at me. I have, what I genuinely think, pretty good pictures of me on my profile, a descent bio and other important stuff to put on one’s profile. I’m extremely fluent in both English and Hindi and study in a reputed college in the US and can’t possibly be coming off as some barely educated creep/incel. I can’t speak much about my conversations cause holy f I need at least a decent or good match to even start one. I want to clarify that I’m not holding my standards too high which might come across from the previous sentence, just looking for an acceptable match, especially when there’s so many tinder scams in the area.
Overall, I think I’m a pretty put together, fairly attractive, intelligent and a decent person. So my question is, wtf am I exactly doing wrong? What do you guys think makes a better profile than others? I don’t really wanna show my profile here, especially the pictures, for the sake of anonymity so I just need some general advice.
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Now I’m a pretty good looking guy (which many people have told me other than my mom lol), 5’11, and work out pretty often, which anyone can tell by taking one look at me. I have, what I genuinely think, pretty good pictures of me on my profile, a descent bio and other important stuff to put on one’s profile. I’m extremely fluent in both English and Hindi and study in a reputed college in the US and can’t possibly be coming off as some barely educated creep/incel. I can’t speak much about my conversations cause holy f I need at least a decent or good match to even start one. I want to clarify that I’m not holding my standards too high which might come across from the previous sentence, just looking for an acceptable match, especially when there’s so many tinder scams in the area.
Overall, I think I’m a pretty put together, fairly attractive, intelligent and a decent person. So my question is, wtf am I exactly doing wrong? What do you guys think makes a better profile than others? I don’t really wanna show my profile here, especially the pictures, for the sake of anonymity so I just need some general advice.
2024.05.19 06:04 Top-Calligrapher314 Being vilified
Hey guys,
As of around an hour ago I ran into a tough situation. Back in high school ( currently M20) I was groomed multiple times and I ended up in a relationship with a guy who was 33 while me being 17. I didn’t realize I was potentially being groomed as you know all people in that time think they’re so mature and adult when they’re validated by an adult like that. Long story short regarding the relationship. We ended up actually being together for 2 years after that. A lot of fighting, I got cheated on, and the worst- being beat up badly on a street near where I was living in NYC.
That trauma alone and that doesn’t crack the surface of everything that’s happened and the trauma he put me through that resurfaced tonight. My two best friends F20 and 19 have been so excited about living together in a new apartment when my lease ends at the end of the summer and we’ve been planning housewarming, parties, etc and integrating our friend groups. Sounds like every young persons dream right? Well that dream completely was destroyed tonight.
These friends have been my best 2 friends for years ( we were friends for years throughout high school and ended up being our chosen family in a way) and I get a text tonight that neither of their parents will allow me to live with them. I am a good person, provided infinite support for both and we see each other every week. I even spent 1700 dollars to go see my friend who was doing a semester abroad and meet her and her new friends. I thought I could completely trust my friends but apparently a conversation in passing that one of the friends had with her mom regarding my age at the time and my ex who groomed me (this conversation happened with her mother was back in highschool) yet at the time her mother didn’t say anything about it. Once my friend made it official we were all living together her mom has been fighting for 2 weeks now, which I only learned about coming home from work tonight, and says she doesn’t want her to live with someone like me. Her mother called my best friends mom and told her about what I’ve gone through and how she can’t fathom her living with someone like me and said she doesn’t want her to be around me when me and ex have completely cut ties and will never see each other and it’s been that way for over a year now. My best best friends mom and dad who received a call from her mom and was spoken to and although they love me quickly took a turn with how they perceive me. Apparently one of the dads said “f*ck no” regarding the living situation just because of the trauma I endured during that time.
I know this sounds like a hasty choice but they came over and we talked for a little about everything but I truly don’t think I can be friends with people who’s parents feel some way about me which I’m still not understanding? I know people go through friends when they’re young but these people were my everything. Can someone explain what I did wrong? Without them my life feels empty and I don’t want to do this anymore as they are the only people I’ve ever loved this deeply and now their families don’t think I’m safe or something and it’s kind of hypocritical her dad can say such a thing as “f*ck no” when he was arrested for trading drugs for sex and divorced.
I don’t know what type of advice I’m seeking tbh but if anyone can just let me know their thoughts on this I’d appreciate it and why I’m being vilified for being a victim. I’ve opened up to my parents when I cut ties with ex about everything I’ve been through and had no judgment. Help please because I’ve lost any meaning for living a life without them. They still want to be my best friends but idk if i can do it being reminded every day that their immediate families feel weird towards me or feel me being around is safety issue when I literally have finally made a breakthrough in the past year and a half.
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As of around an hour ago I ran into a tough situation. Back in high school ( currently M20) I was groomed multiple times and I ended up in a relationship with a guy who was 33 while me being 17. I didn’t realize I was potentially being groomed as you know all people in that time think they’re so mature and adult when they’re validated by an adult like that. Long story short regarding the relationship. We ended up actually being together for 2 years after that. A lot of fighting, I got cheated on, and the worst- being beat up badly on a street near where I was living in NYC.
That trauma alone and that doesn’t crack the surface of everything that’s happened and the trauma he put me through that resurfaced tonight. My two best friends F20 and 19 have been so excited about living together in a new apartment when my lease ends at the end of the summer and we’ve been planning housewarming, parties, etc and integrating our friend groups. Sounds like every young persons dream right? Well that dream completely was destroyed tonight.
These friends have been my best 2 friends for years ( we were friends for years throughout high school and ended up being our chosen family in a way) and I get a text tonight that neither of their parents will allow me to live with them. I am a good person, provided infinite support for both and we see each other every week. I even spent 1700 dollars to go see my friend who was doing a semester abroad and meet her and her new friends. I thought I could completely trust my friends but apparently a conversation in passing that one of the friends had with her mom regarding my age at the time and my ex who groomed me (this conversation happened with her mother was back in highschool) yet at the time her mother didn’t say anything about it. Once my friend made it official we were all living together her mom has been fighting for 2 weeks now, which I only learned about coming home from work tonight, and says she doesn’t want her to live with someone like me. Her mother called my best friends mom and told her about what I’ve gone through and how she can’t fathom her living with someone like me and said she doesn’t want her to be around me when me and ex have completely cut ties and will never see each other and it’s been that way for over a year now. My best best friends mom and dad who received a call from her mom and was spoken to and although they love me quickly took a turn with how they perceive me. Apparently one of the dads said “f*ck no” regarding the living situation just because of the trauma I endured during that time.
I know this sounds like a hasty choice but they came over and we talked for a little about everything but I truly don’t think I can be friends with people who’s parents feel some way about me which I’m still not understanding? I know people go through friends when they’re young but these people were my everything. Can someone explain what I did wrong? Without them my life feels empty and I don’t want to do this anymore as they are the only people I’ve ever loved this deeply and now their families don’t think I’m safe or something and it’s kind of hypocritical her dad can say such a thing as “f*ck no” when he was arrested for trading drugs for sex and divorced.
I don’t know what type of advice I’m seeking tbh but if anyone can just let me know their thoughts on this I’d appreciate it and why I’m being vilified for being a victim. I’ve opened up to my parents when I cut ties with ex about everything I’ve been through and had no judgment. Help please because I’ve lost any meaning for living a life without them. They still want to be my best friends but idk if i can do it being reminded every day that their immediate families feel weird towards me or feel me being around is safety issue when I literally have finally made a breakthrough in the past year and a half.
2024.05.19 06:04 Evaluationyt Dana Brooke’s WWE2k20 Model showing up in WWE2k22??
 | Okay so a little about me I’m a huge divas fan and Stan ! I missed playing wwe2k22 cause of superstars like The IIconics, Mandy, Sasha, Naomi, Lana etc. I was putting Dana Brooke into a rivalry with Eva Marie (don’t judge me 🌚) for the Smackdown Women’s Championship. I pressed Dana Brooke and her wwe2k20 Showcase Model popped up in full gear, face scan and gear. I was confused but what do you guys think? Also does anyone have a explanation of theroy? submitted by Evaluationyt to WWEGames [link] [comments] |
2024.05.19 06:03 Hungry_Tradition3762 I made a plan to torment my dad until I cut him and his wife off completely.
My(16) dad, (44) has had 3 kids. With all three of them having different mothers. I was the second child he had, with the first being my older brother who I will call Jack (22), and my younger sister was the third child, we'll call her Lu (6). My dad was 21 when he met Jack's mother. About a year later, Jack was born. About 4 years later, however, they split up, and Jack's mother took him to Hawaii where her new boyfriend was stationed. Jack's mom went on to have a kid with her new boyfriend, then had kids with 3 more men. My dad was 30 when he met my mother. He was living in a disgusting home with a college friend, and my mom helped him on his feet. The relationship went well , until I was born. This was due to 'lost love' and my father was putting no effort into my life or his relationship with my mother so she kicked him out and met my stepfather, forcing my dad to live in someones attic until he my current stepmother, we'll call her Erica (41). shortly after they met, my dad moved in with Erica. About 3 years into the relationship, my sister, Lu, was born. This was an instant downhill when instantly, all attention was diverted to Lu. It got to the point where we had no living room due to her toys and I was forced to keep her entertained. I hated it because I wouldn't get 2 seconds to rest and was forced to be in the room while Erica breast fed. Any of my old toys, personal or not, went to Lu, even though we were well off. About 3 years later, we moved. This new house had 3 upstairs bedrooms, and one bathroom. I called the bedroom I wanted because it had a great view and looked nice. After I came back from my mothers house I realized I got put in another room because the room I claimed was going to be Lu's play room. This is when I realized I had nothing to my name. I spent 1 hour unpacking and was completely done, with crap-tons of space left over. I continued to be tormented with the 'shes only 6' excuse, and having no privacy for a while, going to therapy, asking my dad to do something and he never did. This is the part where it gets good, because I think my dad is a coward. He keeps getting himself stuck with women who he ends off cutting off from. It's ridiculous that he married Erica, when there are a million women better than her. I also find it weird that he doesn't think. He doesn't get to know people before he gets intimate, and doesn't realize that Erica pushed Jack out of his life and is about to push me out of my life. Every year, I spend about 95 days at my dads house, so I just have to stick it out for those 190 days. Then, I decided, to make a plan. In the last 10 days of that 190 days, I plan to start blocking my dads families numbers. First I will start out by blocking Erica, and going no contact unless necessary. Then, I will start blaring 'explicit' music up in my room, at about Lu's bed time. I also plan to print out the house deed, which shows my Grandmother owns the house, and on the very last day, I plan to plaster those deeds all over the house. I also plan to make a QR code to the deed and plaster those everywhere. To put the Cherry on top, I plan to take back everything I gave to Lu. Not that I care about them, I just want to see the rage fuming through them that they cannot punish me for, because, after 190 days over there, I will be a legal adult, meaning I am not obligated to visit. I also am considering sending this redit post to them, but I will consider it while I let you guys know what happens.
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2024.05.19 06:03 friedwateronastick What's the best way to teach someone how to play League of Legends?
For context, my girlfriend has told me a couple of times before that she's wanted to try out the game so that we could play together. She only brought it up again recently cause we were both playing Valorant one night and hovered over League in the client.
I've verbally expressed to her a couple times as well that it'd take some time to get used to the "feel" of the game since she has no prior knowledge nor experience to MOBA's/RTS games so to speak.
For additional context, I've only reached Emerald this split, maybe low Diamond if I'll really push it. I don't know about you but there's only so much I could do, not that I'm saying I don't have any confidence in my abilities as a player.
My girlfriend on the other hand did tell me how she wanted to be a support player since she's always taken a liking to heal/tank/peel playstyles, I guess you could say she's a good observer haha. But (and this is a big but) I personally don't think support is a great place to learn the game especially if you wanna get good at it. You're free to correct me if you hold a different opinion of course.
I'm not opposed to the idea of us playing together and I'd really love if we did. I think it'd bring us closer since we always spend our free time together, what better than playing video games?
What do you guys think? I don't particularly have any experience having to teach or even mentor someone in the game. I've only ever thought about having to teach her movement controls, switching up her keybinds, getting her used to unlocked cam.
Any and all help is appreciated, perhaps there are coaches here on this subreddit that could give me some advice? Thank you!!
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I've verbally expressed to her a couple times as well that it'd take some time to get used to the "feel" of the game since she has no prior knowledge nor experience to MOBA's/RTS games so to speak.
For additional context, I've only reached Emerald this split, maybe low Diamond if I'll really push it. I don't know about you but there's only so much I could do, not that I'm saying I don't have any confidence in my abilities as a player.
My girlfriend on the other hand did tell me how she wanted to be a support player since she's always taken a liking to heal/tank/peel playstyles, I guess you could say she's a good observer haha. But (and this is a big but) I personally don't think support is a great place to learn the game especially if you wanna get good at it. You're free to correct me if you hold a different opinion of course.
I'm not opposed to the idea of us playing together and I'd really love if we did. I think it'd bring us closer since we always spend our free time together, what better than playing video games?
What do you guys think? I don't particularly have any experience having to teach or even mentor someone in the game. I've only ever thought about having to teach her movement controls, switching up her keybinds, getting her used to unlocked cam.
Any and all help is appreciated, perhaps there are coaches here on this subreddit that could give me some advice? Thank you!!
2024.05.19 06:03 mood_indig0 Neighbor is looking through my windows with binoculars. What can I do?? [PA] [Condo]
I live in a high rise condo building with a courtyard in the center. The rooms in my condo that face the courtyard are my living room and kitchen, so I never really worried about privacy, I don’t really walk around nude anywhere outside of my bedroom and bathroom, which face the exterior of the building where nobody can see me. I do work from home, so on hot summer days, I often walk around in gym shorts and a sports bra. Athleisure, basically.
This evening, my brother (we’ll call him Dan) went to a housewarming party at his coworker’s new condo (we’ll call him Mike) who happened to move into my building recently. Dan came over to see me afterwards and said “I don’t want to freak you out, but you should keep your blinds closed. Mike lives across the way one floor up and can see you.” I told him not to worry so much, it’s not a big deal if I’m visible from his apartment, sometimes when I’m looking out my window I’ll catch a glimpse of a family eating breakfast or watching tv, and it’s not that I’m looking in, I’m just looking down into the courtyard and that happens to be happening at the same time.
He then told me that it’s not like that. Apparently while he was at Mike’s party, Mike (not knowing that Dan and I are siblings) showed Dan that one of the “cool things” about his new place is that he can watch me from across the way with his binoculars, and that sometimes I work from home in a “skimpy little outfit” (my gym clothes???). Mike even told him he could tell from watching me which videogame I’d been playing recently, which made my skin crawl. Dan told him to stop being a creep and that I was his sister, and Mike told him that if I didn’t want him looking in, I should close my blinds.
I feel really uncomfortable because I love where I live, all my other neighbors are great, and I love my view of the courtyard. I never had a problem until this guy moved in, but now I’m freaked out about keeping my blinds closed. I can’t afford to sell my place and move, but I also can’t live with the blinds closed all the time-that’s nuts.
My brother told me to alert the HOA and the police, but I’m nervous because I don’t have anything in writing to give them, just my brother’s verbal exchange with Mike. I don’t even think they would do anything, but there has to be some kind of law against looking directly into peoples’ windows?? That seems like it shouldn’t be allowed. Does anybody have any suggestions?? I feel completely grossed out that this guy has been watching me when I’m in my kitchen and living room.
Thanks in advance!
TL;DR - creepy neighbor across way in condo building watching me through my windows with binoculars. What do??
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This evening, my brother (we’ll call him Dan) went to a housewarming party at his coworker’s new condo (we’ll call him Mike) who happened to move into my building recently. Dan came over to see me afterwards and said “I don’t want to freak you out, but you should keep your blinds closed. Mike lives across the way one floor up and can see you.” I told him not to worry so much, it’s not a big deal if I’m visible from his apartment, sometimes when I’m looking out my window I’ll catch a glimpse of a family eating breakfast or watching tv, and it’s not that I’m looking in, I’m just looking down into the courtyard and that happens to be happening at the same time.
He then told me that it’s not like that. Apparently while he was at Mike’s party, Mike (not knowing that Dan and I are siblings) showed Dan that one of the “cool things” about his new place is that he can watch me from across the way with his binoculars, and that sometimes I work from home in a “skimpy little outfit” (my gym clothes???). Mike even told him he could tell from watching me which videogame I’d been playing recently, which made my skin crawl. Dan told him to stop being a creep and that I was his sister, and Mike told him that if I didn’t want him looking in, I should close my blinds.
I feel really uncomfortable because I love where I live, all my other neighbors are great, and I love my view of the courtyard. I never had a problem until this guy moved in, but now I’m freaked out about keeping my blinds closed. I can’t afford to sell my place and move, but I also can’t live with the blinds closed all the time-that’s nuts.
My brother told me to alert the HOA and the police, but I’m nervous because I don’t have anything in writing to give them, just my brother’s verbal exchange with Mike. I don’t even think they would do anything, but there has to be some kind of law against looking directly into peoples’ windows?? That seems like it shouldn’t be allowed. Does anybody have any suggestions?? I feel completely grossed out that this guy has been watching me when I’m in my kitchen and living room.
Thanks in advance!
TL;DR - creepy neighbor across way in condo building watching me through my windows with binoculars. What do??
2024.05.19 06:02 Direct-Caterpillar77 His mistress made him a better husband. I feel nauseous. (New Update)
I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Wide-Area-6779
His mistress made him a better husband. I feel nauseous.
Ongoing
Originally posted to TrueOffMyChest
Thanks to u/queenlegolas for suggesting this BoRU
TRIGGER WARNING: emotional infidelity, physical assault, verbal abuse, manipulation
Original Post Nov 22, 2023
This is a throwaway. I’m just nauseous and want to vent please let me do it here?
Everything changed about 3 years ago and my husband became my dream man. Before that, we suffered a lot in our marriage. After 2 hard pregnancies and PPD my libido was diminished and we fought all the time. After 4 years of dead bedroom we started therapy. I thought that was where the improvement came from.
My husband started paying attention to me. In the beginning I was panicking because whenever he paid me attention before he expected sex but now it felt like he was seeing me as a human being for the first time. He was attentive and caring. Emphatic. He touched and cuddled and kissed me out of the blue, without wanting sex in return. He started helping around the house, bringing me flowers, take out dinners when I work late, planning date nights. Anniversaries, birthdays and holidays are planned perfectly and I started getting the most beautiful and thoughtful gifts. When we fought, he would come the next day and admitted his wrongs and very accurately (if he was the one in the wrong) something he never did before. He would apologize too when back in the days him apologizing would be a blow to his ego. He said he was happy all the time and lucky to have us as his family. Everything was better and I even got my libido back if not as high as I hoped.
I found their conversation about 5 days ago and I have probably spent over 50 hours reading them. 3 years worth of conversation. He would tell her his woes and she would listen. 99 out of 100 times she sided with me. She taught him about intimacy and how important it is in marriages. The tragically funny part is that he never got angry or offended by her telling him off. Calling him silly, stubborn or at times man baby. Her honesty was brutal and yet he agreed with her. She was the one suggesting all the changes and he would ask her for advice about gifts, traveling and all the beautiful things he did for our family.
He thanks her all the time for helping him turn his miserable home life around, making it tolerable. With all these texts there were the texts between them that are about them like nobody else existed around them. The flirting, sextalk and pictures. The longing to see each other.
He says she is the love of his life every day and that he wishes their circumstances were different. She says the same. They both agree that divorce would ruin their families and that they couldn’t be that selfish. how admirable!
I feel nauseous. My happiness for the past three years was fake. I don’t know what to do. I want to hurt them. I want to expose them and I want to ruin whatever they think is perfect happiness
Hi!
I’m getting chat requests about my comments not being visible. Is this normal? I’m trying to answer you guys. Sorry
Hi again
Since I can’t comment and I can’t answer all the chats I will answer here
I am 35. My husband is 39 we have two children 9&7
She is 40 and she has one child 14. She is in a dead bedroom with her husband too and for 14 years.
The affair is physical too yes but they meet maybe once every month or every other month. She tells my husband that what they feel is probably limerence but that they don’t know it yet because they meet so little. She lives in another city
Update - My husband left me after I told his mistress’s husband about their affair. March 19, 2024
I was here some weeks ago, with my original post. I finally decided that I really should reach out to the husband of my husband’s mistress. I found him easily and I contacted him. He didn’t believe me at first and was rude about it and told me to go f myself. I hesitated to contact him again to be honest but after a few days I realized that I would too not believe a stranger just popping in my dms accusing my SO of cheating so I recorded my husband’s phone with my phone. Especially the messages where she’s sent explicit photos and stuff. I also went to the contact to show the number. He didn’t answer me the first day then he called me the c-word and blocked me. I thought well then, I have done my part and it’s on him if he believed me or not. Then after a week my husband came home angry and he yelled at me for exposing them. He asked me why I didn’t confront him instead, my problem was with him. I have never seen him yell like this then he packed a bag and left for about a week. I think he’s traveled to her.
When he got home he said that it was over. He said that he has been trying to make me happy for years and he’s done everything a good husband would do but still, nothing was good enough for me. I’ve made him miserable for years and instead of taking it out on him, I chose to hurt a woman and her child. He moved to his parents house and now he’s renting an apartment I have heard that he travels the weeks he doesn’t have the children to be with her and that she’s moving here soon when she gets full custody of her child.
I have not been feeling well at all. He has never spoken to me directly since he left and I haven’t seen him. He adamantly refuses to talk to me. Like I never existed in his life. I don’t know what I have done to deserve this treatment. I hate that they won.
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List-and-dumbfound
This morning I got a call from my mother in law that my husband has been in jail for the past couple of days and only got out this morning but the charges weren’t dropped. Apparently his mistress and her husband had another altercation last weekend and she ended up hurt again.
Now I want full custody of my children. He is out but charges are not dropped so it will probably lead to some punishment. I don’t know if family court would count this in case I want full custody and supervised visits. My mother in law was hostile when I told her this and she’s one of the people who have supported me so I am expecting some push back. I don’t care.
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Thank you so much for staying in touch and I am so sorry that I cannot answer your dms. I haven’t been active on Reddit and I have received tens of dms every day since my posts. I have been trying to adjust to life as a single mother. It is hard and especially the weeks I don’t have my children. Unfortunately, I could not convince court to give me sole custody even with my husband’s pending legal issues due to him not having any priors. He however succeeded to limit my family’s access citing parental alienation. I am not allowed my children around my family without supervision (MIL). All of this actions are temporary however until we get a court date. He is refusing to meet or talk to me for any reason besides texting about the children.
He is not in jail (for those who are asking) he has no priors so he is out. He will probably not be getting any jail time either but rather parole. Anyway, his mistress has secretly recorded some of the abuse she was getting from her husband and she has sole custody of their child now. She has moved to our city and she and her child are living with my MIL. Yes, MIL and from what I have gathered, she lives with my husband on the days I have the children.
Today I was out with my children and my friend and her children to have mother’s day brunch. I was the happiest I been for months because I got a bouquet of flowers and chocolate that is signed from my children (worlds best mom) and I knew that it was from my husband. Anyway when we arrived to the restaurant, there he was with his mistress and her child. They were celebrating mother’s day too. Her son was sitting between them and she had gift papers and flowers all around her on the table. I froze and wanted to leave but he came and apologized and said that he didn’t mean for this. She was crying and hugging her son. I wanted to faint because my children were so excited to see him and wanted to go inside and eat brunch with their dad. He told our children that it was mommy’s day then he asked me if I wanted her to leave so the children can have lunch with both of us. I just left with the children and took them to McDonald’s instead. He sent me a long text saying how sorry he was and how he wished that he loved me as much as I deserved and that he wished me to find love soon. He doesn’t regret our marriage and hope I don’t either because we got our beautiful children out of it that we need to raise and to not punish them because of what he did. Please let us not let our resentment of each other to spill out on our children. Let us promise to keep them happy and loved. Let us not use them as pawns. I asked him what I lacked that she has. A question that have been living rent free inside my head He said to stop this. This is futile. I insisted and I called him and he answered for the first time in months. I told him I wanted to know. No matter how harsh the truth was I can’t live without knowing. He said Mothing. I lacked nothing and she is not better in any way. He just loves her and loves himself when he is with her. He feels real and genuine happiness with her that he never felt in his entire life. I hang up and he texted I am sorry. This is the truth you asked for. You are not less than. You lack nothing. Please let us give our children the good life they deserve. Don’t hurt them to hurt me
I don’t know what I have done in my previous life to deserve this. The way he was with her. He never looked at me that way not even when we first met. I don’t know how to stop thinking about them. It is in my brain all day. I want full custody of my children and I will fight for it as much as I can. She will never be their step mother. Her custody is not finalized either and hopefully she will have to move back to her city so her husband can have visitation rights and she is out of my life. If my husband wants to move to be with her. My children stay with me.
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OOP told to be careful around the husband, and asked what his mother thinks
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His mistress made him a better husband. I feel nauseous.
Ongoing
Originally posted to TrueOffMyChest
Thanks to u/queenlegolas for suggesting this BoRU
TRIGGER WARNING: emotional infidelity, physical assault, verbal abuse, manipulation
Original Post Nov 22, 2023
This is a throwaway. I’m just nauseous and want to vent please let me do it here?
Everything changed about 3 years ago and my husband became my dream man. Before that, we suffered a lot in our marriage. After 2 hard pregnancies and PPD my libido was diminished and we fought all the time. After 4 years of dead bedroom we started therapy. I thought that was where the improvement came from.
My husband started paying attention to me. In the beginning I was panicking because whenever he paid me attention before he expected sex but now it felt like he was seeing me as a human being for the first time. He was attentive and caring. Emphatic. He touched and cuddled and kissed me out of the blue, without wanting sex in return. He started helping around the house, bringing me flowers, take out dinners when I work late, planning date nights. Anniversaries, birthdays and holidays are planned perfectly and I started getting the most beautiful and thoughtful gifts. When we fought, he would come the next day and admitted his wrongs and very accurately (if he was the one in the wrong) something he never did before. He would apologize too when back in the days him apologizing would be a blow to his ego. He said he was happy all the time and lucky to have us as his family. Everything was better and I even got my libido back if not as high as I hoped.
I found their conversation about 5 days ago and I have probably spent over 50 hours reading them. 3 years worth of conversation. He would tell her his woes and she would listen. 99 out of 100 times she sided with me. She taught him about intimacy and how important it is in marriages. The tragically funny part is that he never got angry or offended by her telling him off. Calling him silly, stubborn or at times man baby. Her honesty was brutal and yet he agreed with her. She was the one suggesting all the changes and he would ask her for advice about gifts, traveling and all the beautiful things he did for our family.
He thanks her all the time for helping him turn his miserable home life around, making it tolerable. With all these texts there were the texts between them that are about them like nobody else existed around them. The flirting, sextalk and pictures. The longing to see each other.
He says she is the love of his life every day and that he wishes their circumstances were different. She says the same. They both agree that divorce would ruin their families and that they couldn’t be that selfish. how admirable!
I feel nauseous. My happiness for the past three years was fake. I don’t know what to do. I want to hurt them. I want to expose them and I want to ruin whatever they think is perfect happiness
Hi!
I’m getting chat requests about my comments not being visible. Is this normal? I’m trying to answer you guys. Sorry
Hi again
Since I can’t comment and I can’t answer all the chats I will answer here
I am 35. My husband is 39 we have two children 9&7
She is 40 and she has one child 14. She is in a dead bedroom with her husband too and for 14 years.
The affair is physical too yes but they meet maybe once every month or every other month. She tells my husband that what they feel is probably limerence but that they don’t know it yet because they meet so little. She lives in another city
Update - My husband left me after I told his mistress’s husband about their affair. March 19, 2024
I was here some weeks ago, with my original post. I finally decided that I really should reach out to the husband of my husband’s mistress. I found him easily and I contacted him. He didn’t believe me at first and was rude about it and told me to go f myself. I hesitated to contact him again to be honest but after a few days I realized that I would too not believe a stranger just popping in my dms accusing my SO of cheating so I recorded my husband’s phone with my phone. Especially the messages where she’s sent explicit photos and stuff. I also went to the contact to show the number. He didn’t answer me the first day then he called me the c-word and blocked me. I thought well then, I have done my part and it’s on him if he believed me or not. Then after a week my husband came home angry and he yelled at me for exposing them. He asked me why I didn’t confront him instead, my problem was with him. I have never seen him yell like this then he packed a bag and left for about a week. I think he’s traveled to her.
When he got home he said that it was over. He said that he has been trying to make me happy for years and he’s done everything a good husband would do but still, nothing was good enough for me. I’ve made him miserable for years and instead of taking it out on him, I chose to hurt a woman and her child. He moved to his parents house and now he’s renting an apartment I have heard that he travels the weeks he doesn’t have the children to be with her and that she’s moving here soon when she gets full custody of her child.
I have not been feeling well at all. He has never spoken to me directly since he left and I haven’t seen him. He adamantly refuses to talk to me. Like I never existed in his life. I don’t know what I have done to deserve this treatment. I hate that they won.
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So basically your cheating ex is trying to blame you for him cheating. The delusion of cheaters.OOP
You only informed the mistress's husband that she couldn't keep her legs closed to a cold breeze.
He had a right to know. Onwards and upwards.
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~He didn’t blame me for anything. He doesn’t care that he cheated. He was only angry that her husband hurt her and her child.
Maybe my post was this convoluted that everyone here is thinking he is trying to put the blame in me? He doesn’t care at all. He just thought that I should have confronted him instead because he was the one who cheated on me.
I told everyone around us what he done and he doesn’t even care
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The last 3 years of your marriage were a lie. You know that now. Who he is the person he treated you before his affair partner had to convince him to be good to you. He is not a good person.OOP
Do they even really know each other? Like how it is to be around each other on a daily basis. They are genuinely dumb to think the list will stay with 3 kids around plus handling chores and day to day things of life. They have 2 custody battles ahead of them and divorced on top of it.
If he’s angry with you the next time you have to see him, ask him why? He got what he wanted. He wanted to be with her and now he is. So why is he angry that you gave him what you wanted.
It’s probably shame that he’s painted to be a cheater. Not he can’t manipulate the narrative and paint you as the bad person.
If what they won is each other? Let them have each other. They are both awful people so they deserve each other
DrNefariousMcFariousHe is not angry about the divorce. He is angry I told the husband instead of him because the husband hurt her and her kid
OOPHe’s not angry bc of that, he always assumed that if you found out he could gaslight you into thinking that it was somehow your fault or not happening, but by you telling the other husband, there was no getting around it.
I want full custody of my children after he went and beat up his mistress’s husband within an inch of his life and ended up in jail. Mar 22, 2024No he is angry about me putting his AP in danger.. he gives zero fucks about staying in our marriage or not. He only was with me to help raise the children and probably wait for her to get rid of her husband. I am not trying to he dramatic here but the soon I realize the truth the better is is for me to move on I think
This morning I got a call from my mother in law that my husband has been in jail for the past couple of days and only got out this morning but the charges weren’t dropped. Apparently his mistress and her husband had another altercation last weekend and she ended up hurt again.
Now I want full custody of my children. He is out but charges are not dropped so it will probably lead to some punishment. I don’t know if family court would count this in case I want full custody and supervised visits. My mother in law was hostile when I told her this and she’s one of the people who have supported me so I am expecting some push back. I don’t care.
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You probably should not have let your MIL in on this idea. Her first reaction is going to be that it will threaten her ability to see the grand kids and her son’s ability to be a father. Even if you think she is on your team have to assume she isn’t.OOP
Yeah it was a big mistake
NEW UPDATE
Thank you so much for staying in touch and I am so sorry that I cannot answer your dms. I haven’t been active on Reddit and I have received tens of dms every day since my posts. I have been trying to adjust to life as a single mother. It is hard and especially the weeks I don’t have my children. Unfortunately, I could not convince court to give me sole custody even with my husband’s pending legal issues due to him not having any priors. He however succeeded to limit my family’s access citing parental alienation. I am not allowed my children around my family without supervision (MIL). All of this actions are temporary however until we get a court date. He is refusing to meet or talk to me for any reason besides texting about the children.
He is not in jail (for those who are asking) he has no priors so he is out. He will probably not be getting any jail time either but rather parole. Anyway, his mistress has secretly recorded some of the abuse she was getting from her husband and she has sole custody of their child now. She has moved to our city and she and her child are living with my MIL. Yes, MIL and from what I have gathered, she lives with my husband on the days I have the children.
Today I was out with my children and my friend and her children to have mother’s day brunch. I was the happiest I been for months because I got a bouquet of flowers and chocolate that is signed from my children (worlds best mom) and I knew that it was from my husband. Anyway when we arrived to the restaurant, there he was with his mistress and her child. They were celebrating mother’s day too. Her son was sitting between them and she had gift papers and flowers all around her on the table. I froze and wanted to leave but he came and apologized and said that he didn’t mean for this. She was crying and hugging her son. I wanted to faint because my children were so excited to see him and wanted to go inside and eat brunch with their dad. He told our children that it was mommy’s day then he asked me if I wanted her to leave so the children can have lunch with both of us. I just left with the children and took them to McDonald’s instead. He sent me a long text saying how sorry he was and how he wished that he loved me as much as I deserved and that he wished me to find love soon. He doesn’t regret our marriage and hope I don’t either because we got our beautiful children out of it that we need to raise and to not punish them because of what he did. Please let us not let our resentment of each other to spill out on our children. Let us promise to keep them happy and loved. Let us not use them as pawns. I asked him what I lacked that she has. A question that have been living rent free inside my head He said to stop this. This is futile. I insisted and I called him and he answered for the first time in months. I told him I wanted to know. No matter how harsh the truth was I can’t live without knowing. He said Mothing. I lacked nothing and she is not better in any way. He just loves her and loves himself when he is with her. He feels real and genuine happiness with her that he never felt in his entire life. I hang up and he texted I am sorry. This is the truth you asked for. You are not less than. You lack nothing. Please let us give our children the good life they deserve. Don’t hurt them to hurt me
I don’t know what I have done in my previous life to deserve this. The way he was with her. He never looked at me that way not even when we first met. I don’t know how to stop thinking about them. It is in my brain all day. I want full custody of my children and I will fight for it as much as I can. She will never be their step mother. Her custody is not finalized either and hopefully she will have to move back to her city so her husband can have visitation rights and she is out of my life. If my husband wants to move to be with her. My children stay with me.
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OOP told to be careful around the husband, and asked what his mother thinks
Well I am not stupid and he can record me all he wants because I was very calm and I genuinely agree that the children come first. Even her child tbh. But I know that she only had emergency custody of hers because of the assault but I know the rules here and she will probably need to move back soon because her husband has right to meet his son. In that case my husband can move away but he can’t have custody because I want a stable home for them. I don’t know why I am getting hate in my dms calling me vindictive.OOP When told to be careful what she puts in text messages and once again be weary of the mistress
I am very grateful to you and others who are mentioning that she is coaching him to say things. Of course! How stupid was I not to figure this out. From not talking to me for a second to being all nice and begging me to forgive him and to keep it amicable? Of course it is her. Even mother’s day flowers was probably from her.
MIL is very devastated about what happened and she visits me every day even when the children aren’t home. She said that she had to take her in until she gets her own place. No she is not allowed to meet the children and it is already decided and MIL is making sure this is not the case. I understand that MIL chooses her son but she hasn’t given up on me.
I have talked a lot with mom about what happened and no she doesn’t feel guilty. She said that it was different (of course it is🙄) hers was real love and dad’s ex was very abusive. I don’t know, I don’t believe in karma or anything but she said that she at least understands now how dad’s ex felt. I feel anger because some people win and some lose and I still love him very much. I regret exposing what happened. At least I could have had 4 more years together. And the children would have been a bit older. I regret so much things that I have done in a moment of grief and anger
Thanks. I have been very careful about texting because as I am keeping all the evidence, I am counting on him doing that too. About his mistress, it is less “evil” than that because I was wrong about her recording the abuse. She stole the surveillance her husband had installed around their house to spy on her. MIL told me this today. She is probably hoping for full custody but I know the rules here and he will have right to see his son no matter so the c-word will have to move back sooner or later.THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT THE OOP
Only them I will be asking for full custody if my husband moves with her to her city because I don’t want a part time father to my children who shows up whenever he pleases. I want stability. He is either a father or not
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