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2024.05.19 01:16 S-CSleepwalker I went to hell, and I’m not sure I ever left
Me and a few of my friends decided to meet up the other day and after a few drinks started talking about weird things that happened to us during our high school years. One of them brought up the time I “technically” died and it got me thinking about it, so I decided write down what happened and share it with you guys.
I believe it was my junior year that it happened, the exact day is still kinda fuzzy to me. I played football since I was in 4th grade and it was a no brainer that I would do it in high school. I wasn’t any Tom Brady but I’ll say I was a pretty good center. I remember it was a night game cause the stadium lights were on and our running backs were complaining that they couldn’t see the ball because of the glare from them.
You know that feeling you get when you did something you weren’t supposed to do? Like when you lie to your parents or break something and try to hide it? That’s what I felt like the entire day before the game. Something felt wrong. Even minutes before the game while the usual R&B music played in the stadium speakers, it still felt wrong. I would know why a little later.
It was near the end of the 4th quarter, the play was called in the huddle, we lined up, ball snapped and…nothing. Everything was dark, I could hear talking and some screaming but eventually it faded out. I felt like I couldn’t move, kinda like how sleep paralysis works.
Eventually the darkness I saw slowly disappeared and my body started to escape its paralyzed state. When I could fully see again I noticed I wasn’t on the field anymore. In fact I had no idea where I was or how I had gotten there. My brain was racing, trying to figure out what happened. I eventually settled on the obvious answer. I was hit too hard, got a concussion and passed, then was rushed to the hospital.
That’s what I thought, I was just in a hospital. But even then it didn’t make sense, the room I was in was too dark. There was no medical equipment or even a bed in there with me. I was just laying on the floor. The only thing that pointed towards a hospital was my clothes were replaced with what seemed like a gown.
Soon my brain started to conceptualize a new answer. It’s funny how the human brain will do everything in its power to make you feel as if all that’s happening has an explanation for it. While my brain was working on that, my body decided it was time to start seeing where I was. I slowly got up off the floor and headed towards what seemed like an exit.
As I walked I took notice of everything around me. The walls of the room seemed to be covered in a strange ash like substance. They also had a heated feel to them, not burning but still hot enough that if held long enough it was leave a mark. The floor seemed to be the same material as the wall, also coated in that ashy layer.
The room soon began to turn into a hall, it never seemed to end. I’m pretty sure I walked for hours on end down it, my gown was covered in ash and scuffs soon enough. I started to see what looked like light as I neared the end, and a sound started to fill my ears as I got closer.
Crackling. Like the sound fire makes as it gets to hot. My brain started to put pieces together, it explained why the walls and floor were hot. What my brain couldn’t wrap around was what I stared at as I exited the hall.
Hell. That’s what I would describe it as and where I believed I was. The sky, if you could call it that, was nothing but smoke and slight rays of orange peaking through. Mountains higher than any I have ever seen painted the back drop of this nightmarish picture. Creatures of unexplainable nature covered the ground and sky, they all looked like they were in pain. Then I heard the screams.
I had been captivated by the almost endless horror I saw that I never heard the screaming. There were billions and billions of people here with me. They all were screaming or crying, each being tortured in a different way. Some burned, some gored, some twisted into shapes Iv never seen. I just watched in horror at the scene before me.
It wasn’t long before I felt something clawing at me, I yelped in pain as I turned my head to see something scratching at my leg. It was like a snake had grown legs, but the skin of it never grew around his new found limbs. I kicked it away before someone grabbed my arm. My eyes worked up the exposed muscles of the arm, soon meeting the eyes of its owner.
He was almost beautiful, a black eyed man with bronze like skin. He held my arm, almost to tell me not the fight it. His body was covered in ashes and what looked like whip marks. He spoke but I couldn’t understand him. I wasn’t sure what language it was or if it even was a language. He pulled my arm and begrudgingly I followed, the snake still scratching at my legs.
He took me down a long stair way, making sure I could see every kind of torture being applied to the people around me. Boiling, grinding, crushing, gouging. It made me sick but I could puke, it was like my ability to was taken away. We continued to walk, we crossed herds of creatures as they seemed to eat and mutilate multiple people. I watched as they ripped them open and ate, yet the people never died. They just laid there and accepted they new life.
My brain couldn’t wrap around what was happening anymore. It started to just say I was dreaming, it was all a dream and I was still concussed. But it all felt to real. The heat, the scratching, the man’s hand gripping my arm. I could feel it all.
It felt like days had gone by since I woke up in that room. As we walked past the mountains I saw earlier I noticed they were made entirely of bones. Some human, some not. I stared up to the sky as I watched winged creatures fly through the smoke clouds, occasionally they blocked out the orange rays as they circled overhead.
We walked more and more, the snake had stopped scratching but only cause it had reached the bone of my legs. I felt it all but couldn’t yell or cry from the pain of it. I just watched at the muscles and nerves of my calfs moved with each step I made. The man suddenly stopped, he turned to look at me and pointed towards a pit.
We walked towards and as I looked down I finally could few something in me drop. At the bottom was thousands of people. They were pushed together in the tight hole, some crawling on top of others trying to get free. I watched in horror as the man pointed towards holes lining the walls of the pit. Thick, hot, red liquid pumped out of the holes, it covered the people and filled the pit. I watched as some swam to the top and cried, other being pushed down deeper into the liquid. Eventually the pit drained and the people went back to fighting and screaming.
I slowly moved away from the pit side as the man looked at me. He spoke again and pointed at the pit. I didn’t understand him but I knew what he wanted. “Get in” That’s what it was. This was to be my new home. I just started to pull at my arm, trying to get free. He pulled me closer and I started to pull more. He stared at me and let go. I don’t know why but he just let go and stared at me, speaking.
I ran. I ran as fast as I could from him and the pit. I ran for what felt like days, maybe weeks even. Each time I looked back it seemed I had only moved a foot away. I just cried and ran, no other thoughts were in my head besides the fact I had to get away. I stopped looking back and just closed my eyes. I could feel thousands of those creatures chasing after me, I could feel they breath and heat running down my neck. I heard they horrid growls and the sound of crackling filling my ears. I just screamed and cried until.
“AHHHHH!” I screamed as I sat up from a gurney, my body drenched in sweat. The two responders that were with me jumped back and quickly told me to lay down. I tried to fight back but they told me to calm down and relax. My eyes darted around and looked where I as. I was in an ambulance. I slowly laid back and let them check me, one of them told me what happened.
When I snapped the ball a defender had hit me and knocked me to the ground. My heart had stopped. They were called and saw my coach doing CPR on me. They got me in the ambulance and continued compressions. My heart had stopped for almost 9 minutes and they were ready to declare me dead until my heart started to beat again and I came to. I just laid they and started to cry.
The doctors could easily explain why my heart stopped. They had thousands of reasons why. But they never could explain the scars on my legs that appeared after I came too. It also wasn’t until recently they noticed the significant amount of damage to my lungs, like I had being breathing in smoke for years.
I would regularly visit the doctors to have my heart checked and besides the scars, everything I was told about what happened made sense but what didn’t make sense was what I saw when my heart was stopped.
I was in that hellish place for what felt like months. Everything I felt was real, sometimes I still feel my legs bleeding and look down just to stare at those scars, almost like a reminder that maybe it wasn’t my imagination. I told people what I saw and they all say it was my mind making a place holder or working to stay alive while my heart was stopped. I took that idea and ran with it for a long time but still. Sometimes when I’m alone and everything is silent, I feel like I’m still there.
The screams of those people, the growls of those beast, the smell of that smoke, and the crackling of that fire. It’s all still there, tormenting me. Like they all crying for me to return. Like they saying that even though I escaped I must come back, that that’s where I belong now.
I see those people in that pit and ever so often I’ll here those retched words. I might not understand them but I know what they are. They push past the sound of fire and screams, calmly saying to me…
Get in
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I believe it was my junior year that it happened, the exact day is still kinda fuzzy to me. I played football since I was in 4th grade and it was a no brainer that I would do it in high school. I wasn’t any Tom Brady but I’ll say I was a pretty good center. I remember it was a night game cause the stadium lights were on and our running backs were complaining that they couldn’t see the ball because of the glare from them.
You know that feeling you get when you did something you weren’t supposed to do? Like when you lie to your parents or break something and try to hide it? That’s what I felt like the entire day before the game. Something felt wrong. Even minutes before the game while the usual R&B music played in the stadium speakers, it still felt wrong. I would know why a little later.
It was near the end of the 4th quarter, the play was called in the huddle, we lined up, ball snapped and…nothing. Everything was dark, I could hear talking and some screaming but eventually it faded out. I felt like I couldn’t move, kinda like how sleep paralysis works.
Eventually the darkness I saw slowly disappeared and my body started to escape its paralyzed state. When I could fully see again I noticed I wasn’t on the field anymore. In fact I had no idea where I was or how I had gotten there. My brain was racing, trying to figure out what happened. I eventually settled on the obvious answer. I was hit too hard, got a concussion and passed, then was rushed to the hospital.
That’s what I thought, I was just in a hospital. But even then it didn’t make sense, the room I was in was too dark. There was no medical equipment or even a bed in there with me. I was just laying on the floor. The only thing that pointed towards a hospital was my clothes were replaced with what seemed like a gown.
Soon my brain started to conceptualize a new answer. It’s funny how the human brain will do everything in its power to make you feel as if all that’s happening has an explanation for it. While my brain was working on that, my body decided it was time to start seeing where I was. I slowly got up off the floor and headed towards what seemed like an exit.
As I walked I took notice of everything around me. The walls of the room seemed to be covered in a strange ash like substance. They also had a heated feel to them, not burning but still hot enough that if held long enough it was leave a mark. The floor seemed to be the same material as the wall, also coated in that ashy layer.
The room soon began to turn into a hall, it never seemed to end. I’m pretty sure I walked for hours on end down it, my gown was covered in ash and scuffs soon enough. I started to see what looked like light as I neared the end, and a sound started to fill my ears as I got closer.
Crackling. Like the sound fire makes as it gets to hot. My brain started to put pieces together, it explained why the walls and floor were hot. What my brain couldn’t wrap around was what I stared at as I exited the hall.
Hell. That’s what I would describe it as and where I believed I was. The sky, if you could call it that, was nothing but smoke and slight rays of orange peaking through. Mountains higher than any I have ever seen painted the back drop of this nightmarish picture. Creatures of unexplainable nature covered the ground and sky, they all looked like they were in pain. Then I heard the screams.
I had been captivated by the almost endless horror I saw that I never heard the screaming. There were billions and billions of people here with me. They all were screaming or crying, each being tortured in a different way. Some burned, some gored, some twisted into shapes Iv never seen. I just watched in horror at the scene before me.
It wasn’t long before I felt something clawing at me, I yelped in pain as I turned my head to see something scratching at my leg. It was like a snake had grown legs, but the skin of it never grew around his new found limbs. I kicked it away before someone grabbed my arm. My eyes worked up the exposed muscles of the arm, soon meeting the eyes of its owner.
He was almost beautiful, a black eyed man with bronze like skin. He held my arm, almost to tell me not the fight it. His body was covered in ashes and what looked like whip marks. He spoke but I couldn’t understand him. I wasn’t sure what language it was or if it even was a language. He pulled my arm and begrudgingly I followed, the snake still scratching at my legs.
He took me down a long stair way, making sure I could see every kind of torture being applied to the people around me. Boiling, grinding, crushing, gouging. It made me sick but I could puke, it was like my ability to was taken away. We continued to walk, we crossed herds of creatures as they seemed to eat and mutilate multiple people. I watched as they ripped them open and ate, yet the people never died. They just laid there and accepted they new life.
My brain couldn’t wrap around what was happening anymore. It started to just say I was dreaming, it was all a dream and I was still concussed. But it all felt to real. The heat, the scratching, the man’s hand gripping my arm. I could feel it all.
It felt like days had gone by since I woke up in that room. As we walked past the mountains I saw earlier I noticed they were made entirely of bones. Some human, some not. I stared up to the sky as I watched winged creatures fly through the smoke clouds, occasionally they blocked out the orange rays as they circled overhead.
We walked more and more, the snake had stopped scratching but only cause it had reached the bone of my legs. I felt it all but couldn’t yell or cry from the pain of it. I just watched at the muscles and nerves of my calfs moved with each step I made. The man suddenly stopped, he turned to look at me and pointed towards a pit.
We walked towards and as I looked down I finally could few something in me drop. At the bottom was thousands of people. They were pushed together in the tight hole, some crawling on top of others trying to get free. I watched in horror as the man pointed towards holes lining the walls of the pit. Thick, hot, red liquid pumped out of the holes, it covered the people and filled the pit. I watched as some swam to the top and cried, other being pushed down deeper into the liquid. Eventually the pit drained and the people went back to fighting and screaming.
I slowly moved away from the pit side as the man looked at me. He spoke again and pointed at the pit. I didn’t understand him but I knew what he wanted. “Get in” That’s what it was. This was to be my new home. I just started to pull at my arm, trying to get free. He pulled me closer and I started to pull more. He stared at me and let go. I don’t know why but he just let go and stared at me, speaking.
I ran. I ran as fast as I could from him and the pit. I ran for what felt like days, maybe weeks even. Each time I looked back it seemed I had only moved a foot away. I just cried and ran, no other thoughts were in my head besides the fact I had to get away. I stopped looking back and just closed my eyes. I could feel thousands of those creatures chasing after me, I could feel they breath and heat running down my neck. I heard they horrid growls and the sound of crackling filling my ears. I just screamed and cried until.
“AHHHHH!” I screamed as I sat up from a gurney, my body drenched in sweat. The two responders that were with me jumped back and quickly told me to lay down. I tried to fight back but they told me to calm down and relax. My eyes darted around and looked where I as. I was in an ambulance. I slowly laid back and let them check me, one of them told me what happened.
When I snapped the ball a defender had hit me and knocked me to the ground. My heart had stopped. They were called and saw my coach doing CPR on me. They got me in the ambulance and continued compressions. My heart had stopped for almost 9 minutes and they were ready to declare me dead until my heart started to beat again and I came to. I just laid they and started to cry.
The doctors could easily explain why my heart stopped. They had thousands of reasons why. But they never could explain the scars on my legs that appeared after I came too. It also wasn’t until recently they noticed the significant amount of damage to my lungs, like I had being breathing in smoke for years.
I would regularly visit the doctors to have my heart checked and besides the scars, everything I was told about what happened made sense but what didn’t make sense was what I saw when my heart was stopped.
I was in that hellish place for what felt like months. Everything I felt was real, sometimes I still feel my legs bleeding and look down just to stare at those scars, almost like a reminder that maybe it wasn’t my imagination. I told people what I saw and they all say it was my mind making a place holder or working to stay alive while my heart was stopped. I took that idea and ran with it for a long time but still. Sometimes when I’m alone and everything is silent, I feel like I’m still there.
The screams of those people, the growls of those beast, the smell of that smoke, and the crackling of that fire. It’s all still there, tormenting me. Like they all crying for me to return. Like they saying that even though I escaped I must come back, that that’s where I belong now.
I see those people in that pit and ever so often I’ll here those retched words. I might not understand them but I know what they are. They push past the sound of fire and screams, calmly saying to me…
Get in
2024.05.19 01:06 guiltyofnothing “Do you comment on Reddit to be an annoying middle child?” Slapfights rage and insults fly as /r/BoomersBeingFools debates if boomers don’t eat enough food
The Context:
A user posts to /BoomersBeingFools wondering if boomers don’t eat enough and are “starving” themselves, and by extension pushing their expectations unfairly onto others.Many users quickly take issue with OOP’s premise. The discussion quickly devolves into multiple slapfights, insults over weight, and the war in Gaza.
The Drama:
Does metabolism change as people age?People commenting it’s cause they’re older and don’t need to eat as much. Yes, I know that could be a part of it, but let’s be honest, it’s mostly them just being judgy/brainwashed by diet culture/think it’s absurd to spend money on eating out…[Continued:]
"Brainwashed by diet culture" ah so in other words you are obese and need to eat a lot and probably deeply into healthy at any size/fat acceptance.
No they just know they don't need 5000 calori3s a day to exist.
I’m obese for wanting to eat some lunch and dinner? 🤯
No I say that because of "brainwashed by diet culture" there's exactly one group that talks like that.
You must not get out much
I do actually it's how I maintain not being fat. Limiting calories to under 2500 and being outside moving a lot.[Continued:]
I lost 140 pounds by eating more. 🤷 starving myself led to weight gain.
I'm sure you eat more but less calories in total. No one increases their calories and losses sorry.
You're wrong. Instunted my metabolism and my body was holding on to the weight to protect me.
I was eating skinless baked chicken and plain broccoli for 2 years and could not lose weight. I was sick and exhausted but worked out all the time.
Started eating carbs and the weight came melting off.
Sorry :)
For sure. Thats why all the body builders are morbidly obese. They eat chicken and broccoli and their body just goes into starvation mode and holds all the fat. Same with like the concentration camps. All those poor morbidly obese starving people. Once we saved them and fed them the weight just shed off. It's the craziest thing.[…]
It's almost like bodies are different, user name doesn't check out, a nerd would know that 🤔
Whatever you need to tell yourself.
i guess the law of thermodymanics doesnt apply to you.[…]
You should get studied. Defying the laws of thermodynamics is pretty impressive!
Tell me you see someone fat in the store and cringe inside/judge them for no reason without ever speaking to them without telling me 😂[Continued:]
You dislike/hate fat people for the horrid crime of being fat when they don't think about you at all and haven't ever wronged you in any way at all.
Also, I can tell you have never struggled with your weight in the past due to not giving a shit how hating random people for looking a certain way effects them. That, or you did struggle once, and bought into the haters telling you you were worth less based on the number on the scale, in which case I am sorry you believe that.
Dude I was 350lbs at my heaviest. People love saying "oh he says weightloss is eat less move more? Clearly he wants to genocide fat people" but no that's not it at all. I lost tons and most of the people around me went from morbid obesity to overweight or a normal weight. We changed our lifestyles and got in shape. The people that didn't lose weight claim all kinds of medical issues but none of them changed their diet and not of them want to work out. It's pretty clear how to lose weight. That's all.
No more no less no hate.
Wanna know how I know you're a liar or incredibly ignorant of how you come off?
You say you don't dislike them but make fun of their physical disabilities like it's funny. It's not funny. You're making fun of them. It's not funny to make fun of people for having disabilities or for how they look. You perpetuate hate against them that makes them feel like crap for being alive. I don't care about your spiel about medical issues or dieting in general or the fat acceptance movement. When you make fun of disabled people who have trouble walking i'm going to call you out on it. That's exactly what you did. Whether they're fat or not I refuse to make fun of people for that.
I have never made fun of a single person. Only a movement that claims you can be healthy at any size. You can't be vastly under or over weight and be healthy.
Whatever you say buddy. Keep on making fun of people because they can't walk or cope some more that it wasn't directed at a specific person. Have fun with that.
Shut the fuck up fattyInsults are made, ending with accusations of sockpuppeting:
I don't think you realize how pathetic you sound. When my jaw was broken I went 6 weeks without solid food and I'm sitting here rolling my eyes at your propensity for letting your stomach color your opinions of other people. I'd bet dollars to dimes that your body mass index is over 30.[Continued:]
Hey.
You should know:
It costs $0 to not be a dick.
I'll pay that cover charge any day of the week. Especially when I'm dealing with a major league dipshit like [Candy_cane999]Wow, you’re disgusting. It’s not that deep
Radagast was brown, nerd.
Says the person here gossiping about their relative's metabolism. "Not that deep" lol you made a judgment about an entire generation of people because your family member wasn't hungry..lol fuck off
I bet you are high as a kite right now from all the users here agreeing with you, even if they haven't a fucking clue what they are talking about.
Seriously, though, how fat are you? I'm guessing fat enough that you can't hide that stomach roll when you sit down.
High as a kite? Huh? Relax weirdo, it’s just Reddit
You still haven't told us how fat you are.Damn this guy hates fat people !
I used to be one.
So now you just hate fat people for fun?[…]
People with no self control, ESPECIALLY when that self control would benefit their health, are people who are functionally useless as human beings. They are the pieces of shit who would hoard food while everyone else is starving.
It ain't for fun.
Do you comment on Reddit to be an annoying middle child?
Ahhh yes. The fat people are useless excuse. Okay bud have fun out there!
It seems you have to self control over your feelings little guy. Go out there and practice some self control!
Bitter, party of one.
Get a life, chill[Continued:]
😂sounds like you’re projecting. What’s it like still living in your boomer mom’s basement?Get a life, chillAh yes, the mating call of people who "have lives"...ohhhhhh the irony.
lol "projecting", I see you have your masters in Reddit psychology.
What’s it like still living in your boomer mom’s basement?Oooooof, sounds like someone is...................................................................................projecting.
You do realize calling someone fat is the easiest most insecure insult to throw out there. Classic textbook. Hypocrite
I used to be fat as fuck, 270lbs at 5'10. I'll judge you fatties all I damn well please.
You keep avoiding answering the question. You're a landwhale, aren't you?
Ahha! There it is. It’s because you hate yourself. Hope you’re in therapy
The more you avoid this the more we know what kind of person we are dealing with.[…]
You talk shit about people who have self control to excuse how fat and disgusting you are.
Dude why admit that, all you are showing is that you had become really fat, and rather than learn a healthy relationship with food even at that extreme point, you just chose to hate food in general. You took the easy way out because nobody ever taught you portion control. Your loss I guess.[…]
I admit it because I was raised in a home where I couldn't get up until my plate was clean and my mother made sure there were never leftovers that way. I admit it because it is the truth and I don't lie or omit details to make myself sound better. I admit it to show I can relate to being a fatfuck. I admit it because being fat is a choice.
”why would you say something true about yourself!?" - if that isn't Reddit-in-a-nutshell I don't know what is.
I'm just saying it makes you look like you just hated yourself and were pushing that onto another person that may or may not have a healthier relationship with food than you, that's all.
They didn't answer did they?Then, there’s this:
After several attempts they've avoided even talking about their fat stores and are now trying the victim angle.
No doubt. Fatty McFat Fat can't comprehend people not being addicted to constant feedings.
Reddit in a nutshell.
Bro's talking to himself on an alt
OP is a fat fuckOne user thinks they’re speaking uncomfortable truths:
As a former fatass this was my immediate thought
I knew as soon as he said road trip to FloridaFor wanting lunch and dinner? You’re sick
They’re someone whos whole identity is shoving food in their mouth. Look at their username
Eat shit.
If StandardSafe isn’t willing to say it again, I will: grow up and get over it. 99% of the people who say they “aren’t heavy” actually are, your dad was probably just being a concerned parent. “unhealthy relationship with food”, LMAO. A first-world problem for sureFinally, the war in Gaza is brought up for some reason:
No, he was just a bully and abusive. But thanks for playing.
That’s a really weird thing to say to a stranger, dude
You ok bro? Did that make you feel good about yourself? To insult a stranger because you personally didn’t have to deal with abuse? Or let me guess, you did, but it made you a “strong man” who knows what’s best for everyone.
You don’t know me. You have no idea what my childhood and young adulthood was like and maybe it sounds like a “first world problem” (which by the way, is so fucking dismissive and gross to say to people when they an issue) to you, but for me it became an eating disorder that I still struggle with in my 40s.
I’m going to try to say this as politely as I can, please fuck off into the sun with your bullshit and go troll somewhere else. You’re an asshole who seems to get off on insulting people to get your pathetic dick hard. I hope you don’t have kids because I worry if you do how fucked up they are and if you’re married I feel terrible for your wife. But let’s be honest, you’re a sad, lonely, angry man who has nothing better to do.
Dumbass takes like this are part of the reason people develop eating disorders on both ends of the spectrum.
You're gonna tell me someone who is suffering from Anorexia/Bulimia just needs to "grow up and get over it"?
You need to grow up and take a biology class.
When did the commenter say she had anorexia/bulimia? Those are actual eating disorders…she just said she eats very little and blames her dad.
A biology class, really? Psychology sounds more like it. Or are you telling me you learned about eating disorders in a bio class? Where was that, at some sort of school that gives out certificates in self-actualization or holistic-healing?
Sorry -- from what school did you get a psychology degree that allows you to label Anoerixa/Bulimia as "actual" eating disorders but not what OP described?
The school of hard knocks 😂 he’s so superior to us that he can diagnose a stranger through the internet on Reddit based on a paragraph that seemed to make him bigly angry.
He’s just a sad man who needs to get off by insulting people. He can go live that life and we’ll be over on this said being human to each other.
You know that on the other side of the apartheid wall Israel set up there are thousands of people who had access to the Dead Sea (and their homes), that was changed by the establishment of Israel. Millions of people around the world are coming to the decision to boycott any company that supports the Israeli Apartheid Occupation. Millions are urging their universities and employers to divest any money and programs with the genocidal force that is Israel. I urge you and your family to take a hard look at yourselves and learn what Israel really is made of. Then the logical decision will be to never visit or spend a dime in Israel until their genocide and apartheid ends. Ty
Take a walk off a short pier.
This response is unhinged.
“Learn about an ongoing genocide, with bombs falling through the air as we speak, that you knowingly or unknowingly support, that we can do something about”
“Your response”
Please just look someone in the eyes today and remember what it means to be a human. Each of us is a library of life, and we’re constantly diminishing the value of each other as “enemies”.
I’d rather that than share air with someone who supports the ongoing genocide. Not for me, not for you, but for the kids and our collective humanity: please learn something new today.
You’re supporting the death of my family in Israel. Seriously, you’re a PoS
Before Israel was, there was Palestine. Palestine was for all. Muslims, Christians, and Jewish families all lived together. We all visited Jerusalem.
When Israel decided that only Jewish people would now be allowed in to these random borders drawn over Palestine, well, that should come off as racist. Now the Christian and Muslim Palestinians had their villages raided and their women raped by a well funded militia, before it became the IDF. This terrorised the Palestinians that lived in their homes, so they ran.
Then these homes were empty.
The land without people for the People without a land. Fabulous. Absolutely fabulous. The people that were born there were displaced by a terrorist militia, and now it was a land magically without a people.
And your family came in, and settled in “Israel”. A family out there has the keys to the very home your family lives in in Israel, although you’ve probably changed the locks by now.
But for generations this land fed them and protected them from the elements. All of a sudden it’s yours?
And the people Israel oppresses, the thousands of Palestinians that are in prison with no trial. Children and women Palestinians have been taken captive for over 70 years!! Where’s the outrage?
Are we not human?
When we say free Palestine from the river to the sea. It’s for everybody. Come by and buy my home. But please don’t show up with an armed force ready to exterminate me for refusing you the home my forefathers have called their own.
TLDR Israel is the fire nation in avatar the last airbender.
The best way I can put it is.. if a bunch of armed chickens showed up and kicked you and your family out of their homes, one day you might want to fight those armed chickens back instead of being homeless. Israel are the armed chickens
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2024.05.19 00:53 Pale_Excitement_5022 AITA: financial abuse allegation
Ex and I are both 40, together for six years, w/a two year old. I ended the relationship in March due to ongoing escalated emotional abuse. I own the house we live in live in; he considers that power I hold over him, I consider it a barrier to me leaving.
I’m sole income earner since he decided to quit his job in March 2022 (I supported the decision at the time, he also never took any steps to have a conversation with me about finances) and have paid all the bills, groceries, baby gear, etc. Baby came in May 2022, when I returned to work Nov 2022 he was the caretaker while i worked FT. I offered that he could work too, he declined. My understanding is that from his prior work he had ~$10k in the bank. We never got married or combined our financial assets. Over the last couple of years I’ve been able to save a bit of money in addition to money I had before. I considered it all joint assets, even though his name has not been on my bank account. I never prevented him from having access to it via my credit card. I have never dictated how he spends his own money.
In Feb 2024, he had made statements about feeling trapped; said violence is the only reasonable outcome in a relationship with someone like me. I wrote him a check for $10k, a little more than half of what was in my bank account. He accused me of leaving him money as if he was a prostitute. I apologized many times for the unintended impact. Over the next 3 weeks he didn’t cash the check and continue to berate me about it. I ended up canceling the check 3 wks in - some stress d/t a tax bill I didn’t anticipate. I saw that check as a way I was trying to help him feel less trapped and him being able to hold shared assets. When I ended the relationship finally in the middle of the check ordeal it became no longer about him holding shared assets and about dividing them. $10k leaves him with a little more than half the savings I have at this point (including my savings from before), me with a toddler to care for etc. On 5/6 I asked what he needed from me and the response was just “$10k”, I gave him $7.5k with the stipulation that he needs to be out by June 1st (~3mos from when I asked him to leave so not a super long time considering he doesn’t have a job but not insignificant) to get the other $2.5k. I held that money because in the event that he’s not out, I need to have money available to cover a short term rental so I can leave until he is gone.
He believes it is financially abusive to have written a check in the first place, cancelled the initial check (I could have been more direct about and have been accountable for that), asked for ongoing input on a lesser amount that would feel doable within a range (which he didn’t answer), and then put stipulations on his demand for $10,000 (providing $7,500 with the rest when he moves out within a time frame that is 3 months from when I originally asked him to leave due to ongoing emotional abuse which has not stopped).
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I’m sole income earner since he decided to quit his job in March 2022 (I supported the decision at the time, he also never took any steps to have a conversation with me about finances) and have paid all the bills, groceries, baby gear, etc. Baby came in May 2022, when I returned to work Nov 2022 he was the caretaker while i worked FT. I offered that he could work too, he declined. My understanding is that from his prior work he had ~$10k in the bank. We never got married or combined our financial assets. Over the last couple of years I’ve been able to save a bit of money in addition to money I had before. I considered it all joint assets, even though his name has not been on my bank account. I never prevented him from having access to it via my credit card. I have never dictated how he spends his own money.
In Feb 2024, he had made statements about feeling trapped; said violence is the only reasonable outcome in a relationship with someone like me. I wrote him a check for $10k, a little more than half of what was in my bank account. He accused me of leaving him money as if he was a prostitute. I apologized many times for the unintended impact. Over the next 3 weeks he didn’t cash the check and continue to berate me about it. I ended up canceling the check 3 wks in - some stress d/t a tax bill I didn’t anticipate. I saw that check as a way I was trying to help him feel less trapped and him being able to hold shared assets. When I ended the relationship finally in the middle of the check ordeal it became no longer about him holding shared assets and about dividing them. $10k leaves him with a little more than half the savings I have at this point (including my savings from before), me with a toddler to care for etc. On 5/6 I asked what he needed from me and the response was just “$10k”, I gave him $7.5k with the stipulation that he needs to be out by June 1st (~3mos from when I asked him to leave so not a super long time considering he doesn’t have a job but not insignificant) to get the other $2.5k. I held that money because in the event that he’s not out, I need to have money available to cover a short term rental so I can leave until he is gone.
He believes it is financially abusive to have written a check in the first place, cancelled the initial check (I could have been more direct about and have been accountable for that), asked for ongoing input on a lesser amount that would feel doable within a range (which he didn’t answer), and then put stipulations on his demand for $10,000 (providing $7,500 with the rest when he moves out within a time frame that is 3 months from when I originally asked him to leave due to ongoing emotional abuse which has not stopped).
2024.05.19 00:48 DumbQuestions_123 I'm worried my partner 35M is gaslighting me 33F I'm not sure how to address the communication issues we keep having, what should I do?
TLDR: partner and I planned to spend some time at my place after we saw friends, instead he dropped me off and left then said he thought I didn't want him to come inside because I was tired. I feel like thats a manipulative take on what actually happened and I feel gaslit. Need more perspective and advice on how to communicate the damage this sort of behavior is having on our relationship.
Last night I saw my partner. We made plans to see a couple of friends and then to go back to my place for awhile. I also asked if we could reserve some time for a discussion once we got to my place and he agreed. We left our friends place about 10:30 and he drove us back to mine. I live in an apartment and there isn't guest parking so to stay for any length of time he'd need to find a spot on the street. He pulls into the driveway of my apartment building directly behind an assigned parking spot (not mine). He left the car running and didn't take his seatbelt off. He leaned over and gave me a goodnight kiss. I asked him about our plans for discussion and he asked me what it was I wanted to talk about. At that point, he was still double parked, the engine was running and his seatbelt was still on. I told him I wanted more than five minutes for a discussion so I guess we could talk the next time we saw each other. He said ok, see you then. I got out and he drove away.
Later he told me left because I said I wanted more than a few minutes for discussion which he interpreted as me not wanting him to stay more than a few minutes because I was tired.
I need a reality check: If it was you sitting in the car is that what you would have taken from this interaction? That I was telling him I didn't want him to come in because I was tired? And if so, if this relationship was important to you, would you just accept that and drive away? I'm trying really hard to look at this charitably and I'm struggling.
I was pretty blown away when he said that because nothing about the situation indicated to me that he was planning to get out of his car. I only clarified with him about the discussion *after* he literally kissed me goodnight. I don't understand how he could truly have come to that conclusion based on how things happened.
My take on it is that he was tired and to be fair, we both were, and he decided at some point he didn't want to come to my place or have a discussion. I think thats fair. It was late, we were tired. But he didn't communicate to me that he had unilaterally changed our plans. Its a pattern where this will happen, he will avoid/ rug sweep and leave me confused and without an explanation. If he didn't want to come over I feel I at least deserved for him to open that discussion with me. Instead, I was abruptly dropped off home confused and alone with zero explanation. His conflict avoidance and unwillingness to have conversations with me is starting to really affect our relationship.
How do I make it clear to him that this is hurtful and damaging things between us?
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Last night I saw my partner. We made plans to see a couple of friends and then to go back to my place for awhile. I also asked if we could reserve some time for a discussion once we got to my place and he agreed. We left our friends place about 10:30 and he drove us back to mine. I live in an apartment and there isn't guest parking so to stay for any length of time he'd need to find a spot on the street. He pulls into the driveway of my apartment building directly behind an assigned parking spot (not mine). He left the car running and didn't take his seatbelt off. He leaned over and gave me a goodnight kiss. I asked him about our plans for discussion and he asked me what it was I wanted to talk about. At that point, he was still double parked, the engine was running and his seatbelt was still on. I told him I wanted more than five minutes for a discussion so I guess we could talk the next time we saw each other. He said ok, see you then. I got out and he drove away.
Later he told me left because I said I wanted more than a few minutes for discussion which he interpreted as me not wanting him to stay more than a few minutes because I was tired.
I need a reality check: If it was you sitting in the car is that what you would have taken from this interaction? That I was telling him I didn't want him to come in because I was tired? And if so, if this relationship was important to you, would you just accept that and drive away? I'm trying really hard to look at this charitably and I'm struggling.
I was pretty blown away when he said that because nothing about the situation indicated to me that he was planning to get out of his car. I only clarified with him about the discussion *after* he literally kissed me goodnight. I don't understand how he could truly have come to that conclusion based on how things happened.
My take on it is that he was tired and to be fair, we both were, and he decided at some point he didn't want to come to my place or have a discussion. I think thats fair. It was late, we were tired. But he didn't communicate to me that he had unilaterally changed our plans. Its a pattern where this will happen, he will avoid/ rug sweep and leave me confused and without an explanation. If he didn't want to come over I feel I at least deserved for him to open that discussion with me. Instead, I was abruptly dropped off home confused and alone with zero explanation. His conflict avoidance and unwillingness to have conversations with me is starting to really affect our relationship.
How do I make it clear to him that this is hurtful and damaging things between us?
2024.05.19 00:43 Soft_Insurance1116 IM PALESTINIAN ‘F25’ AND FELL IN LOVE WITH AN ISREALI ‘M24’ what do I do ?
title encompasses my dilemma. He’s Jewish and I’m Muslim. We met when he reached out to check up on my family, he thought I might have some in Gaza. We had a respectable conversation and he was open to learning more about the experiences of my family
We watched a documentary “tantura” together one day and we spoke more and more. We vibef really well and realized we loved spending time with eachother. We laugh so much together and take care of each other.
Eventually we learned how aligned our values were and his view point shifted a lot from doing his own research. He asked me to be his girlfriend and we decided it would be temporary bc it would never be allowed in this world.
We fell more and more in love. We decided we would try and fight for this. But I’m forbidden to marry a non Muslim and my parents and community would disown me entirely. Unless he converted…. He said he wouldn’t but we’ve only been together for three months. I wish he would be open to it.
I love him so much 💔
Advice needed
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We watched a documentary “tantura” together one day and we spoke more and more. We vibef really well and realized we loved spending time with eachother. We laugh so much together and take care of each other.
Eventually we learned how aligned our values were and his view point shifted a lot from doing his own research. He asked me to be his girlfriend and we decided it would be temporary bc it would never be allowed in this world.
We fell more and more in love. We decided we would try and fight for this. But I’m forbidden to marry a non Muslim and my parents and community would disown me entirely. Unless he converted…. He said he wouldn’t but we’ve only been together for three months. I wish he would be open to it.
I love him so much 💔
Advice needed
2024.05.19 00:41 swaggestspider21 How the Ruby Gillman Community Got Me Into Writing Fan-fiction
Hello everyone! If you don’t know me, I am thatdude21 on archive of our own! You might know that name from some fan works if you’ve ever visited AO3. It is a pleasure to be able to say I’m apart of this community and I hope it continues growing. I love seeing people create new works for this movie, whether it’s fanfics or fanart. It has come to my attention some people here have promoted my works! Specifically my rewrite of the movie right here https://archiveofourown.org/works/51814132 I just want to say it is a pleasure to be able to write for this community, as well as read content made by fellow fans in the community. Now, watching ruby gillman, I unfortunately have to say it is the definition of missed potential. There’s many things that could have gone better for it writing wise (Chelsea being Chelsea, brill being treated a bit more seriously as a character, grandmama and Agatha’s conflict being given more depth and time focused on etc). Those reasons and some others are specifically why I made this rewrite. I really feel like the movie could have been more than what it set out to be. Sure it’s a kids movie, but there’s just something about this movies characters and lore that screams more than meets the eye. The fanfiction community helped me realize this big time. There’s so many talented and friendly creators on ao3 I just wanted to give a big shoutout to them and some works on the site from anonymous creators so here we go (Silvery_soul - probably the biggest inspiration for my ruby fan sequel, the anon creator of the rewrite - ruby gillman and the siren princess, Jake712 and ProMantis - really good chelby writers, FrancesFromTheKnockoff - great friend of mine who runs a ruby gillman discord for anyone interested, Flare_The_Idiot - another great friend of mine, slayerseriesdragons - great friend who always checks out my works, MedleyMedley, Eye Smile, Jalaras - AKA the person responsible for why so many of my ruby works include found family/adoption, Rayj4ck, NeutralMime, KiwiInSpace32, the anon creator of the fanfic - Distant Shore, MistyDawnTomorrow, hoshinova, MistyWolf06, Whatcha_doin, CkNugget03, moproblemsmoharmoney, arnoldmcguire335, so_uh_hi, bellyster, 1FantasticBeastThatYouCantFind, Demolition2099, Leolamin1397, fish out of water (learning how to love) by Anonymous, Strawberry_Snickers, down by the sea by Anonymous, Clovers_nothing_else, cheercity, besties be plotting by pinkmagnolias, Circumstances Like These by Arcion_Days). Any that I missed, it’s bc I don’t speak the language of the creator or it was something I suggest not reading due to its content. Besides my rewrite, currently in the progress of writing two projects. One is my fan sequel Ruby Gillman: The Call of the Leviathan, and my fan AU what if Agatha’s Compassion - Agatha adopts Chelsea as an infant after the battle of the trident. I would totally appreciate it if anyone who has not read my works would take a look at them, especially my fan sequel, as it goes on, it may be the biggest passion project for me. I’m not just writing for ruby, I also am currently writing fics for chicken run, and I have some ideas for rewrites of Kfp4 and chicken little, as well as some fics for Mitchell’s vs machines. So please, it would mean a lot to me to have more eyes on my works, and I also really suggest reading the works of the people I shouted out. I’m just super thankful for this community and I wouldn’t even be writing without it, that’s how much this means to me. Thank you for being apart of it and creating, keep being awesome.
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2024.05.19 00:41 aheaney15 Anyone Else Read the Book Caesar’s Story?
I read it very recently to prepare me for Kingdom (which I quite liked, but that’s not the point of this post).
For some context, Caesar’s Story is an accompanying Canon book to the Caesar trilogy. The book is written with the POV’s from Maurice, Rocket, Lake, Bad Ape, Spear (RIP), and a few apes that didn’t show up in the movies, like an Orangutan named Barbar who helped tame the horses, a Gorilla named Oak who was part of the Gaurd with Luca, Rocket’s Wife Tinker who was a midwife, and two young Chimpanzees named Hila who was from the Zoo and River, who was Blue Eyes’ age and narrated most of the battle scenes. It’s meant for teaching Corneilus when he comes of age to learn about, well, Caesar’s story.
And honestly, I found it to be incredibly interesting. It adds some cool context to the apes’ story, and has all the most interesting parts of the trilogy from a nice perspective. Also appreciate that it skips over the less interesting human side (until the events of War at least). It is so cool to see context for how the apes came to be so successful, how they tamed the horses, how the Zoo apes (including Luca) caught on to Caesar and the other apes that had the ALZ-113 (or “Changed” as the book called it), how the war between Apes and Humans went between Dawn and War, etc.
Anyway, that’s my two cents. If you’re a fan of the series, I’d recommend checking it out as a bonus to the movies.
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For some context, Caesar’s Story is an accompanying Canon book to the Caesar trilogy. The book is written with the POV’s from Maurice, Rocket, Lake, Bad Ape, Spear (RIP), and a few apes that didn’t show up in the movies, like an Orangutan named Barbar who helped tame the horses, a Gorilla named Oak who was part of the Gaurd with Luca, Rocket’s Wife Tinker who was a midwife, and two young Chimpanzees named Hila who was from the Zoo and River, who was Blue Eyes’ age and narrated most of the battle scenes. It’s meant for teaching Corneilus when he comes of age to learn about, well, Caesar’s story.
And honestly, I found it to be incredibly interesting. It adds some cool context to the apes’ story, and has all the most interesting parts of the trilogy from a nice perspective. Also appreciate that it skips over the less interesting human side (until the events of War at least). It is so cool to see context for how the apes came to be so successful, how they tamed the horses, how the Zoo apes (including Luca) caught on to Caesar and the other apes that had the ALZ-113 (or “Changed” as the book called it), how the war between Apes and Humans went between Dawn and War, etc.
Anyway, that’s my two cents. If you’re a fan of the series, I’d recommend checking it out as a bonus to the movies.
2024.05.19 00:40 Shreson What should I do about this guy?
Sorry if my post is long....Its my first time taking advise from anyone regarding such things.🙈
I have mostly studied in institutes only for girls. As I grew, talking to guys became difficult for me. Also, I was very naive always. I am the " good fun intelligent girl " as per others & "unlike other girls". Due to my family problems & fights, which promotes inferiority complex, I am not someone who considers herself beautiful all the time... to the point that once i didn't want to attend my institute's freshers party but just went there because 2 classmates called me beautiful so I thought i won't look bad maybe ( i am not much of a makeup person) & ended up being the winner ( it included looks, quizzes, debate & games ) So i found out i look pretty if I give few minutes to get ready & take care of myself a bit. I always saw myself as someone a guy won't like but after attending birthday parties etc, girls used to say their boyfriends were talking about me in a very good way later and praising me a lot. They used to feel jealous but not insecure as they saw me as a girl not interesting in dating. I never had a boyfriend. For a long time, I didn't care. Now for past 1 year, I too feel like having someone. Most of the friends who knew me ever use words like " pure " & " decent " for me though I know these things don't define purity or goodness. Have you seen " beautiful people " song video by Edsheeran? I am somewhere between those " beautiful people " & that couple. I don't know if its normal but when guys approach me through insta & start showing romantic interest just in single day, i dislike it.. like you don't even know me dude. I have a big thing for decency & friendship first. & I always have my guards up. It's self destructive maybe.
I have evolved now but since despite being a bright person, I gave up on many good opportunities so currently I don't like the current version of myself much & I feel like i should work on myself & be with others ( even friends ) when i would be a better version of me. This year is crucial for me.
Now, THE MAIN PART - Now... I have an extra anonymous type instagram account. I rarely scroll it but one day, i saw a viral reel of a girl with normal number of followers with her foreigner boyfriend. There were other reels too showing their first meeting in LDR after meeting on a dating app. At first it made me happy & smiling but I remembered something & guess what? I knew about that girl's very very bad intentions ( specially about her plan about how she would manipulate her would be boyfriend & eventually cut him off from his family)..don't ask me what & how but if i tell you.. you would ask to let the innocent man know anyhow. Well.. I dm'd that guy but only hinted indirectly for the sole purpose of humanity ( that anonymous account doesn't indicate my gender or picture ). I also wrote that it was not my main account to signify that i was not a fake troll. To my surprise, he understood the hint & even elaborated a bit & replied that such things may already be happening & he won't fell into such traps. He thanked me & said I could also come from my main account. I didn't think much & followed him from main account. He followed very very very few people but followed me back too. I decided not to talk further on this issue as he had already understood more than i hinted. But he himself thanked me again & said bad things are happening from her side & they are fighting too & he may even break up if it goes on like this. My intention was just to make him aware & at the end of the day, he is in relationship with that girl so I just replied with formal answers. I also became scared later that what if its a trap & they make me viral later picturing me as a villain. I told him this directly but he said i could trust him & he knows the situation himself & understands that I worried genuinely for him. I replied that I did this because every human is precious to their parents. Later i deleted my such texts. He said he wants to learn a language & if I could help him. I said yes. We have talked a bit since then. He seems a nice, well mannered, hardworking guy. Once my closest friend asked me to describe a guy very particularly i would like to go on few dates with just once. So I told her that all nice guys but if you ask me very specifically then a fine guy with this one particular characteristic & of this particular country. & He fulfils both. I have started to like him. It's not a dreamy crush. Believe me. I know what that is. It's more like I would like to get to know him & go on coffee date sometime. But obviously I won't take any step because - i can't even take first step in befriending someone & no matter what, there is a girl in his life. But I think if it would be good or bad if i totally give up on texting him. I can't carry on with short talks.. i am not that of a conversation expert. There is a bit of language barrier too. He likes my stories..only the ones in which i am present. But currently I am focused on important things so I don't even have much to post. He rarely posts his pictures...just work sort of stuff.
Please don't think me as a *%## waiting for breakup. It's never my intention ever for anyone. I annoyed you by telling about the way i am to show that i just don't wanna regret anything from now on because of introvertedness or naivety or whatever & I am afraid that I might mess it up even if something happens further. I have lost precious friends in the past due to this self inferiority complex & not being able to keep on the conversation & understanding their references later on. Since, I know i have to be better.. should i just keep working on my life & myself till I make myself deserving?
What should I do? Should I just keep liking his posts and be silent... or... I can think of no other option. That's why I am here.
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I have mostly studied in institutes only for girls. As I grew, talking to guys became difficult for me. Also, I was very naive always. I am the " good fun intelligent girl " as per others & "unlike other girls". Due to my family problems & fights, which promotes inferiority complex, I am not someone who considers herself beautiful all the time... to the point that once i didn't want to attend my institute's freshers party but just went there because 2 classmates called me beautiful so I thought i won't look bad maybe ( i am not much of a makeup person) & ended up being the winner ( it included looks, quizzes, debate & games ) So i found out i look pretty if I give few minutes to get ready & take care of myself a bit. I always saw myself as someone a guy won't like but after attending birthday parties etc, girls used to say their boyfriends were talking about me in a very good way later and praising me a lot. They used to feel jealous but not insecure as they saw me as a girl not interesting in dating. I never had a boyfriend. For a long time, I didn't care. Now for past 1 year, I too feel like having someone. Most of the friends who knew me ever use words like " pure " & " decent " for me though I know these things don't define purity or goodness. Have you seen " beautiful people " song video by Edsheeran? I am somewhere between those " beautiful people " & that couple. I don't know if its normal but when guys approach me through insta & start showing romantic interest just in single day, i dislike it.. like you don't even know me dude. I have a big thing for decency & friendship first. & I always have my guards up. It's self destructive maybe.
I have evolved now but since despite being a bright person, I gave up on many good opportunities so currently I don't like the current version of myself much & I feel like i should work on myself & be with others ( even friends ) when i would be a better version of me. This year is crucial for me.
Now, THE MAIN PART - Now... I have an extra anonymous type instagram account. I rarely scroll it but one day, i saw a viral reel of a girl with normal number of followers with her foreigner boyfriend. There were other reels too showing their first meeting in LDR after meeting on a dating app. At first it made me happy & smiling but I remembered something & guess what? I knew about that girl's very very bad intentions ( specially about her plan about how she would manipulate her would be boyfriend & eventually cut him off from his family)..don't ask me what & how but if i tell you.. you would ask to let the innocent man know anyhow. Well.. I dm'd that guy but only hinted indirectly for the sole purpose of humanity ( that anonymous account doesn't indicate my gender or picture ). I also wrote that it was not my main account to signify that i was not a fake troll. To my surprise, he understood the hint & even elaborated a bit & replied that such things may already be happening & he won't fell into such traps. He thanked me & said I could also come from my main account. I didn't think much & followed him from main account. He followed very very very few people but followed me back too. I decided not to talk further on this issue as he had already understood more than i hinted. But he himself thanked me again & said bad things are happening from her side & they are fighting too & he may even break up if it goes on like this. My intention was just to make him aware & at the end of the day, he is in relationship with that girl so I just replied with formal answers. I also became scared later that what if its a trap & they make me viral later picturing me as a villain. I told him this directly but he said i could trust him & he knows the situation himself & understands that I worried genuinely for him. I replied that I did this because every human is precious to their parents. Later i deleted my such texts. He said he wants to learn a language & if I could help him. I said yes. We have talked a bit since then. He seems a nice, well mannered, hardworking guy. Once my closest friend asked me to describe a guy very particularly i would like to go on few dates with just once. So I told her that all nice guys but if you ask me very specifically then a fine guy with this one particular characteristic & of this particular country. & He fulfils both. I have started to like him. It's not a dreamy crush. Believe me. I know what that is. It's more like I would like to get to know him & go on coffee date sometime. But obviously I won't take any step because - i can't even take first step in befriending someone & no matter what, there is a girl in his life. But I think if it would be good or bad if i totally give up on texting him. I can't carry on with short talks.. i am not that of a conversation expert. There is a bit of language barrier too. He likes my stories..only the ones in which i am present. But currently I am focused on important things so I don't even have much to post. He rarely posts his pictures...just work sort of stuff.
Please don't think me as a *%## waiting for breakup. It's never my intention ever for anyone. I annoyed you by telling about the way i am to show that i just don't wanna regret anything from now on because of introvertedness or naivety or whatever & I am afraid that I might mess it up even if something happens further. I have lost precious friends in the past due to this self inferiority complex & not being able to keep on the conversation & understanding their references later on. Since, I know i have to be better.. should i just keep working on my life & myself till I make myself deserving?
What should I do? Should I just keep liking his posts and be silent... or... I can think of no other option. That's why I am here.
2024.05.19 00:33 parktheboat I don’t want to lose weight but I need to for health reasons
I think I’m scared to lose weight from the attention I’ll be receiving. I don’t really want to look thinner or sexier. I don’t know what to do to change my mind. I’m trying to figure out a way to rewire my brain to accept the comments on my progress as a positive but it just makes me fearful. It might be because I don’t really connect with my body. I was sexually abused as a child and in my adult life so I’m not sure how to connect.
I don’t want to get to a point where I need medical intervention for any reason but I really don’t want it to show. I know this is all psychological but I can’t seem to reverse it. Has anyone went through something similar?
I try to eat healthy as much as possible and I don’t mind working out. But as soon as I see results I freak out. I can’t even weigh myself because I obsess over the numbers and feel unsafe when it goes down. Maximum I lost was 10lbs and I checked out after that and probably gained them back.
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I don’t want to get to a point where I need medical intervention for any reason but I really don’t want it to show. I know this is all psychological but I can’t seem to reverse it. Has anyone went through something similar?
I try to eat healthy as much as possible and I don’t mind working out. But as soon as I see results I freak out. I can’t even weigh myself because I obsess over the numbers and feel unsafe when it goes down. Maximum I lost was 10lbs and I checked out after that and probably gained them back.
2024.05.19 00:31 ldawi Crazy Boss & Unemployment
Long story short my old boss (who became a friend) was/is highly unstable. Im fairly certain she has undiagnosed BPD and had mentioned it to her in the past. She had no boundaries for work or personal. It was only her and I who worked together each day so I have no one to really speak for the experience I went thru (anyone who did work there quit by week 6 because she was bad. They don't want to write testimony letters in my appeal case due to fear of her retaliating). My boss ensured I quit via email and not fired so i could not get unemployment. I did get approved for unemployment due to a toxic work environment. She claims she did not receive the documents in time to dispute the claim.
Here's a quick overview of why I quit below: We where on a "worktrip" (I was not paid) at a medspa conference. I am not a injector but she is and I was her model. She got mad at me during lunch for inviting one of the girls to go out with us later that night because she was alone. My boss decided to be rude and say ACTUALLY NO THIS IS MY ASSISTANT AND WE ARE NOT GOING OUT TONIGHT (we where and had already had plans on the night for weeks) and then she said COME ON LETS GO and I said no Im going to finish lunch and the conversation and she rolled her eyes and walked away. After that she ignored me for the rest of the day and would pretty much walk away from me if I tried to engage her. She started to be rude to the people running this thing and throwing a fit because she was one of the last injectors. She threw such a fit that they ended up giving her thousands of dollars in free product to get back into her good graces. I was around for this and it was super akward. There was no reason for her to be so rude and disrespectful and she knows I dont play that game and dont want to be associated with people that do cause its not a good look (I had almost quit a few months back due to her being so rude to a sales person that she almost cried and told her then I would not be apart of that ever again and she said she would fix it). After the conference there was a reception for drinks and snacks. She went straight to bar and I sat where she could see me and she just walked away so I went downstairs to the lobby to call and check on my kids. When I went to go back up to the room she had a call on speaker and she was saying terrible things about me and lies. After 15 mins of this she realized I was outside the door and could hear her and asked me to come in and talk. I was pissed at the time so I said no not right now and she slammed the door. I went downstairs to call my husband and calm down and about 20 mins later she comes down with glass of wine in hand telling me we had to speak now. I said no I'm speaking to my husband right now and I'll speak with her later. She said OH YEA REALLY THATS HOW ITS GNA BE THEN I GOT YOU and went back upstairs. A few minutes later a text comes thru from the girl I met at lunch asking about plans for the night. I go to respond and my boss had locked me out of the work account so I go and check my other work accounts and I was locked out of those as well. Then I see her go into the lobby bar and I was not wanting to play her mind games and her "forcing" me to talk to her so I went up to the hotel room to pack my stuff and go to another hotel. I get to the door and try my key and it won't work so go down to the lobby asking for assistance. They called her 3x on speaker with no answer and then go to the back office and 5 mins later come out saying security would be escorting me to get my things. After getting my stuff with security I'm in the lobby and she's like where are you going and I said I'm leaving I'm not doing this with you and she freaks out so I said I was serious to leave me alone and we would discuss it once we got into the office on Monday. She went on to text me at least 70 text messages during the night saying how I wasn't suppose to hear her saying those things (backstory: she has been caught doing this multiple times to me either clients, coworkers, friends, and even directly in front of me. I had spoken to her about it previously saying to stop and she said would and was always just teasing). The next morning (aprx 8 hours later) we fly home. I changed my seat so I wasn't next to her and she kept walking the aisles trying to get my attention and after the 4th time dropped a note on my lap apologizing again). I didn't speak with her and had my husband pick me up from the airport. A few hours later she ends up sending a text that says HEY DID YOU QUIT? I said no I assumed I was fired since I was locked out of all accounts and I'm fine with that. She said no your not fired but if you want to quit please send a resignation letter so I did and it said I QUIT DUE TO A TOXIC WORK ENVIRONMENT. As the days and weeks passed she continued to message me apologizing and asking me to come back to work and each time I refused telling her until she is under the care of a mental health professional for at least 6 months I would not consider it. Once she realized I filed for unemployment and got approved she lost her shit and started to report me saying that I am working and frauding the system (I'm not) and that I quit because I was mad that she told me I was not hitting work standards. Eventually she filed the appeal and it's filled with lies and aprx 40 fake document "writeups" and where the employee should sign it says EMPLOYEE REFUSED TO SIGN on every single one (this is not true as I never received any write up in my 1 year). The appeal hearing case was the other day and she brought her brother inlaw/part owner of company/lawyer with her. I know this guy and have watched his child for him and we have always been on great terms. He came at me hard. So hard to the point that when I was answering the officers questions I had to ask that he be muted due to him laughing or repeatedly yelling at me saying REALLY or ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THAT?! They denied ever receiving my documents concerning the case (they did I sent them to her email where she sent her documents to me from) and insisted they not be used. This went on for over a hour leaving the officer to say we need to continue this at another date and the packet will be in the mail with the new date and time. He went on to argue about why it should be settled now and she had to keep repeating herself that it would be continued as she has other appointments. I expect this next hearing will be just as crazy and if I am still approved for unemployment that they will appeal it again and again until they win or are out of appeals. I'm not sure if I should continue to fight it or just say screw it because I have really bad anxiety over it all (even typing this my heart is racing and hands are sweating) and she is pretty crazy so I'm kind of worried how she will retaliate if I do win. I also know if I lose that I have to repay all money received plus interest and I can't afford that at the moment..obviously. Really the only reason I am at this point is due to principal and wanting to let's her know what she doesn't isn't acceptable. If I give up I feel like she will win and continue on her merry path of destruction and hate. Should I get my own lawyer for this? I'm sure it will cost me more that I will even get from unemployment in total (I have a max benefit amount of 2k) but I have never done this before and feel like I might need someone with experience.
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Here's a quick overview of why I quit below: We where on a "worktrip" (I was not paid) at a medspa conference. I am not a injector but she is and I was her model. She got mad at me during lunch for inviting one of the girls to go out with us later that night because she was alone. My boss decided to be rude and say ACTUALLY NO THIS IS MY ASSISTANT AND WE ARE NOT GOING OUT TONIGHT (we where and had already had plans on the night for weeks) and then she said COME ON LETS GO and I said no Im going to finish lunch and the conversation and she rolled her eyes and walked away. After that she ignored me for the rest of the day and would pretty much walk away from me if I tried to engage her. She started to be rude to the people running this thing and throwing a fit because she was one of the last injectors. She threw such a fit that they ended up giving her thousands of dollars in free product to get back into her good graces. I was around for this and it was super akward. There was no reason for her to be so rude and disrespectful and she knows I dont play that game and dont want to be associated with people that do cause its not a good look (I had almost quit a few months back due to her being so rude to a sales person that she almost cried and told her then I would not be apart of that ever again and she said she would fix it). After the conference there was a reception for drinks and snacks. She went straight to bar and I sat where she could see me and she just walked away so I went downstairs to the lobby to call and check on my kids. When I went to go back up to the room she had a call on speaker and she was saying terrible things about me and lies. After 15 mins of this she realized I was outside the door and could hear her and asked me to come in and talk. I was pissed at the time so I said no not right now and she slammed the door. I went downstairs to call my husband and calm down and about 20 mins later she comes down with glass of wine in hand telling me we had to speak now. I said no I'm speaking to my husband right now and I'll speak with her later. She said OH YEA REALLY THATS HOW ITS GNA BE THEN I GOT YOU and went back upstairs. A few minutes later a text comes thru from the girl I met at lunch asking about plans for the night. I go to respond and my boss had locked me out of the work account so I go and check my other work accounts and I was locked out of those as well. Then I see her go into the lobby bar and I was not wanting to play her mind games and her "forcing" me to talk to her so I went up to the hotel room to pack my stuff and go to another hotel. I get to the door and try my key and it won't work so go down to the lobby asking for assistance. They called her 3x on speaker with no answer and then go to the back office and 5 mins later come out saying security would be escorting me to get my things. After getting my stuff with security I'm in the lobby and she's like where are you going and I said I'm leaving I'm not doing this with you and she freaks out so I said I was serious to leave me alone and we would discuss it once we got into the office on Monday. She went on to text me at least 70 text messages during the night saying how I wasn't suppose to hear her saying those things (backstory: she has been caught doing this multiple times to me either clients, coworkers, friends, and even directly in front of me. I had spoken to her about it previously saying to stop and she said would and was always just teasing). The next morning (aprx 8 hours later) we fly home. I changed my seat so I wasn't next to her and she kept walking the aisles trying to get my attention and after the 4th time dropped a note on my lap apologizing again). I didn't speak with her and had my husband pick me up from the airport. A few hours later she ends up sending a text that says HEY DID YOU QUIT? I said no I assumed I was fired since I was locked out of all accounts and I'm fine with that. She said no your not fired but if you want to quit please send a resignation letter so I did and it said I QUIT DUE TO A TOXIC WORK ENVIRONMENT. As the days and weeks passed she continued to message me apologizing and asking me to come back to work and each time I refused telling her until she is under the care of a mental health professional for at least 6 months I would not consider it. Once she realized I filed for unemployment and got approved she lost her shit and started to report me saying that I am working and frauding the system (I'm not) and that I quit because I was mad that she told me I was not hitting work standards. Eventually she filed the appeal and it's filled with lies and aprx 40 fake document "writeups" and where the employee should sign it says EMPLOYEE REFUSED TO SIGN on every single one (this is not true as I never received any write up in my 1 year). The appeal hearing case was the other day and she brought her brother inlaw/part owner of company/lawyer with her. I know this guy and have watched his child for him and we have always been on great terms. He came at me hard. So hard to the point that when I was answering the officers questions I had to ask that he be muted due to him laughing or repeatedly yelling at me saying REALLY or ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THAT?! They denied ever receiving my documents concerning the case (they did I sent them to her email where she sent her documents to me from) and insisted they not be used. This went on for over a hour leaving the officer to say we need to continue this at another date and the packet will be in the mail with the new date and time. He went on to argue about why it should be settled now and she had to keep repeating herself that it would be continued as she has other appointments. I expect this next hearing will be just as crazy and if I am still approved for unemployment that they will appeal it again and again until they win or are out of appeals. I'm not sure if I should continue to fight it or just say screw it because I have really bad anxiety over it all (even typing this my heart is racing and hands are sweating) and she is pretty crazy so I'm kind of worried how she will retaliate if I do win. I also know if I lose that I have to repay all money received plus interest and I can't afford that at the moment..obviously. Really the only reason I am at this point is due to principal and wanting to let's her know what she doesn't isn't acceptable. If I give up I feel like she will win and continue on her merry path of destruction and hate. Should I get my own lawyer for this? I'm sure it will cost me more that I will even get from unemployment in total (I have a max benefit amount of 2k) but I have never done this before and feel like I might need someone with experience.
2024.05.19 00:28 ldawi Crazy Boss & Unemployment
Long story short my old boss (who became a friend) was/is highly unstable. Im fairly certain she has undiagnosed BPD and had mentioned it to her in the past. She had no boundaries for work or personal. It was only her and I who worked together each day so I have no one to really speak for the experience I went thru (anyone who did work there quit by week 6 because she was bad. They don't want to write testimony letters in my appeal case due to fear of her retaliating). My boss ensured I quit via email and not fired so i could not get unemployment. I did get approved for unemployment due to a toxic work environment. She claims she did not receive the documents in time to dispute the claim.
Here's a quick overview of why I quit below: We where on a "worktrip" (I was not paid) at a medspa conference. I am not a injector but she is and I was her model. She got mad at me during lunch for inviting one of the girls to go out with us later that night because she was alone. My boss decided to be rude and say ACTUALLY NO THIS IS MY ASSISTANT AND WE ARE NOT GOING OUT TONIGHT (we where and had already had plans on the night for weeks) and then she said COME ON LETS GO and I said no Im going to finish lunch and the conversation and she rolled her eyes and walked away. After that she ignored me for the rest of the day and would pretty much walk away from me if I tried to engage her. She started to be rude to the people running this thing and throwing a fit because she was one of the last injectors. She threw such a fit that they ended up giving her thousands of dollars in free product to get back into her good graces. I was around for this and it was super akward. There was no reason for her to be so rude and disrespectful and she knows I dont play that game and dont want to be associated with people that do cause its not a good look (I had almost quit a few months back due to her being so rude to a sales person that she almost cried and told her then I would not be apart of that ever again and she said she would fix it). After the conference there was a reception for drinks and snacks. She went straight to bar and I sat where she could see me and she just walked away so I went downstairs to the lobby to call and check on my kids. When I went to go back up to the room she had a call on speaker and she was saying terrible things about me and lies. After 15 mins of this she realized I was outside the door and could hear her and asked me to come in and talk. I was pissed at the time so I said no not right now and she slammed the door. I went downstairs to call my husband and calm down and about 20 mins later she comes down with glass of wine in hand telling me we had to speak now. I said no I'm speaking to my husband right now and I'll speak with her later. She said OH YEA REALLY THATS HOW ITS GNA BE THEN I GOT YOU and went back upstairs. A few minutes later a text comes thru from the girl I met at lunch asking about plans for the night. I go to respond and my boss had locked me out of the work account so I go and check my other work accounts and I was locked out of those as well. Then I see her go into the lobby bar and I was not wanting to play her mind games and her "forcing" me to talk to her so I went up to the hotel room to pack my stuff and go to another hotel. I get to the door and try my key and it won't work so go down to the lobby asking for assistance. They called her 3x on speaker with no answer and then go to the back office and 5 mins later come out saying security would be escorting me to get my things. After getting my stuff with security I'm in the lobby and she's like where are you going and I said I'm leaving I'm not doing this with you and she freaks out so I said I was serious to leave me alone and we would discuss it once we got into the office on Monday. She went on to text me at least 70 text messages during the night saying how I wasn't suppose to hear her saying those things (backstory: she has been caught doing this multiple times to me either clients, coworkers, friends, and even directly in front of me. I had spoken to her about it previously saying to stop and she said would and was always just teasing). The next morning (aprx 8 hours later) we fly home. I changed my seat so I wasn't next to her and she kept walking the aisles trying to get my attention and after the 4th time dropped a note on my lap apologizing again). I didn't speak with her and had my husband pick me up from the airport. A few hours later she ends up sending a text that says HEY DID YOU QUIT? I said no I assumed I was fired since I was locked out of all accounts and I'm fine with that. She said no your not fired but if you want to quit please send a resignation letter so I did and it said I QUIT DUE TO A TOXIC WORK ENVIRONMENT. As the days and weeks passed she continued to message me apologizing and asking me to come back to work and each time I refused telling her until she is under the care of a mental health professional for at least 6 months I would not consider it. Once she realized I filed for unemployment and got approved she lost her shit and started to report me saying that I am working and frauding the system (I'm not) and that I quit because I was mad that she told me I was not hitting work standards. Eventually she filed the appeal and it's filled with lies and aprx 40 fake document "writeups" and where the employee should sign it says EMPLOYEE REFUSED TO SIGN on every single one (this is not true as I never received any write up in my 1 year). The appeal hearing case was the other day and she brought her brother inlaw/part owner of company/lawyer with her. I know this guy and have watched his child for him and we have always been on great terms. He came at me hard. So hard to the point that when I was answering the officers questions I had to ask that he be muted due to him laughing or repeatedly yelling at me saying REALLY or ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THAT?! They denied ever receiving my documents concerning the case (they did I sent them to her email where she sent her documents to me from) and insisted they not be used. This went on for over a hour leaving the officer to say we need to continue this at another date and the packet will be in the mail with the new date and time. He went on to argue about why it should be settled now and she had to keep repeating herself that it would be continued as she has other appointments. I expect this next hearing will be just as crazy and if I am still approved for unemployment that they will appeal it again and again until they win or are out of appeals. I'm not sure if I should continue to fight it or just say screw it because I have really bad anxiety over it all (even typing this my heart is racing and hands are sweating) and she is pretty crazy so I'm kind of worried how she will retaliate if I do win. I also know if I lose that I have to repay all money received plus interest and I can't afford that at the moment..obviously. Really the only reason I am at this point is due to principal and wanting to let's her know what she doesn't isn't acceptable. If I give up I feel like she will win and continue on her merry path of destruction and hate. Should I get my own lawyer for this? I'm sure it will cost me more that I will even get from unemployment in total (I have a max benefit amount of 2k) but I have never done this before and feel like I might need someone with experience.
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Here's a quick overview of why I quit below: We where on a "worktrip" (I was not paid) at a medspa conference. I am not a injector but she is and I was her model. She got mad at me during lunch for inviting one of the girls to go out with us later that night because she was alone. My boss decided to be rude and say ACTUALLY NO THIS IS MY ASSISTANT AND WE ARE NOT GOING OUT TONIGHT (we where and had already had plans on the night for weeks) and then she said COME ON LETS GO and I said no Im going to finish lunch and the conversation and she rolled her eyes and walked away. After that she ignored me for the rest of the day and would pretty much walk away from me if I tried to engage her. She started to be rude to the people running this thing and throwing a fit because she was one of the last injectors. She threw such a fit that they ended up giving her thousands of dollars in free product to get back into her good graces. I was around for this and it was super akward. There was no reason for her to be so rude and disrespectful and she knows I dont play that game and dont want to be associated with people that do cause its not a good look (I had almost quit a few months back due to her being so rude to a sales person that she almost cried and told her then I would not be apart of that ever again and she said she would fix it). After the conference there was a reception for drinks and snacks. She went straight to bar and I sat where she could see me and she just walked away so I went downstairs to the lobby to call and check on my kids. When I went to go back up to the room she had a call on speaker and she was saying terrible things about me and lies. After 15 mins of this she realized I was outside the door and could hear her and asked me to come in and talk. I was pissed at the time so I said no not right now and she slammed the door. I went downstairs to call my husband and calm down and about 20 mins later she comes down with glass of wine in hand telling me we had to speak now. I said no I'm speaking to my husband right now and I'll speak with her later. She said OH YEA REALLY THATS HOW ITS GNA BE THEN I GOT YOU and went back upstairs. A few minutes later a text comes thru from the girl I met at lunch asking about plans for the night. I go to respond and my boss had locked me out of the work account so I go and check my other work accounts and I was locked out of those as well. Then I see her go into the lobby bar and I was not wanting to play her mind games and her "forcing" me to talk to her so I went up to the hotel room to pack my stuff and go to another hotel. I get to the door and try my key and it won't work so go down to the lobby asking for assistance. They called her 3x on speaker with no answer and then go to the back office and 5 mins later come out saying security would be escorting me to get my things. After getting my stuff with security I'm in the lobby and she's like where are you going and I said I'm leaving I'm not doing this with you and she freaks out so I said I was serious to leave me alone and we would discuss it once we got into the office on Monday. She went on to text me at least 70 text messages during the night saying how I wasn't suppose to hear her saying those things (backstory: she has been caught doing this multiple times to me either clients, coworkers, friends, and even directly in front of me. I had spoken to her about it previously saying to stop and she said would and was always just teasing). The next morning (aprx 8 hours later) we fly home. I changed my seat so I wasn't next to her and she kept walking the aisles trying to get my attention and after the 4th time dropped a note on my lap apologizing again). I didn't speak with her and had my husband pick me up from the airport. A few hours later she ends up sending a text that says HEY DID YOU QUIT? I said no I assumed I was fired since I was locked out of all accounts and I'm fine with that. She said no your not fired but if you want to quit please send a resignation letter so I did and it said I QUIT DUE TO A TOXIC WORK ENVIRONMENT. As the days and weeks passed she continued to message me apologizing and asking me to come back to work and each time I refused telling her until she is under the care of a mental health professional for at least 6 months I would not consider it. Once she realized I filed for unemployment and got approved she lost her shit and started to report me saying that I am working and frauding the system (I'm not) and that I quit because I was mad that she told me I was not hitting work standards. Eventually she filed the appeal and it's filled with lies and aprx 40 fake document "writeups" and where the employee should sign it says EMPLOYEE REFUSED TO SIGN on every single one (this is not true as I never received any write up in my 1 year). The appeal hearing case was the other day and she brought her brother inlaw/part owner of company/lawyer with her. I know this guy and have watched his child for him and we have always been on great terms. He came at me hard. So hard to the point that when I was answering the officers questions I had to ask that he be muted due to him laughing or repeatedly yelling at me saying REALLY or ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THAT?! They denied ever receiving my documents concerning the case (they did I sent them to her email where she sent her documents to me from) and insisted they not be used. This went on for over a hour leaving the officer to say we need to continue this at another date and the packet will be in the mail with the new date and time. He went on to argue about why it should be settled now and she had to keep repeating herself that it would be continued as she has other appointments. I expect this next hearing will be just as crazy and if I am still approved for unemployment that they will appeal it again and again until they win or are out of appeals. I'm not sure if I should continue to fight it or just say screw it because I have really bad anxiety over it all (even typing this my heart is racing and hands are sweating) and she is pretty crazy so I'm kind of worried how she will retaliate if I do win. I also know if I lose that I have to repay all money received plus interest and I can't afford that at the moment..obviously. Really the only reason I am at this point is due to principal and wanting to let's her know what she doesn't isn't acceptable. If I give up I feel like she will win and continue on her merry path of destruction and hate. Should I get my own lawyer for this? I'm sure it will cost me more that I will even get from unemployment in total (I have a max benefit amount of 2k) but I have never done this before and feel like I might need someone with experience.
2024.05.19 00:26 cheinyeanlim How bots monopolizing DeviantArt's promotional and revenue apparatuses and the platform's unwillingness to address the issue are driving artists to abandon it
 | Bots are hijacking DeviantArt's promotion and revenue systems, and the platform's inaction is forcing artists to flee in frustration. Will DeviantArt step up before it's too late? DigitalArtCrisis #SaveDeviantArt submitted by cheinyeanlim to martechnewser [link] [comments] Stay ahead of the curve with the latest trends in tech and marketing – join our subreddit community martechnewser today for instant notifications! How bots monopolizing DeviantArt's promotional and revenue apparatuses and the platform's unwillingness to address the issue are driving artists to abandon it
“I’ve had an account on DeviantArt for 22 years,” she said. “I actually dropped out of school because I grew a following on DeviantArt. My first job for Mercedes-Benz happened when I was 20 years old because they found my work online.” One of the most telling signs of the shifting landscape for artists online is Jingna Zhang's initiative, Cara, a digital portfolio and social app ensuring work shared there is human-made. Notably, one of its users is Angelo Sotira, DeviantArt's co-founder, who lamented the abandonment of real artists by platforms in favor of AI-generated content. |
2024.05.19 00:23 urmomsmellslikepee I like a guy who has a gf
I never thought I would be the type of girl to even be able to form feelings for a guy who I knew was already dating someone. But this is different than anything I’ve ever felt and it’s honestly driving me absolutely insane.
Background, I met him in one of my classes about a week ago. I’m a sophomore and he’s a junior btw. Both of us had no where to sit except for one empty table so we sat together and immediately had great conversation. He’s sweet, funny, and talkative more than any other guy I’ve met. When we started sitting together I already knew he had a gf but sadly that didn’t stop me from thinking he was kind of cute. But once we started talking fr it changed the whole game. He makes me feel so comfortable and the crazy thing is he lowkey flirts with me. He’s told me I smell good and my eyes are beautiful. He even said he’d give me a ride on his motorcycle some time. Obviously I wouldn’t actually do that out of respect for his relationship and I don’t think he meant it seriously but it’s just the flirtatiousness that’s making me fold.
The worst part of all of this is that it’s making me bend my morals. I was talking to my best friend about the situation and I realized that I lowkey would want to kiss him or hang out with him if he asked. I hate that I would even consider being a homewrecker. I’ve also stalked his instagram extensively to the point of following a bunch of people he follows to gain mutuals, checking tagged posts, hoping they break up and her highlight gets taken down. I even joined a new community on snap so that I could be in the same year as him and add him without it saying from search. it’s making me absolutely insane and I don’t know what to do about it because idk if I’ve ever felt this strongly about someone in such a short time.
I need to get over it asap how can I move on
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Background, I met him in one of my classes about a week ago. I’m a sophomore and he’s a junior btw. Both of us had no where to sit except for one empty table so we sat together and immediately had great conversation. He’s sweet, funny, and talkative more than any other guy I’ve met. When we started sitting together I already knew he had a gf but sadly that didn’t stop me from thinking he was kind of cute. But once we started talking fr it changed the whole game. He makes me feel so comfortable and the crazy thing is he lowkey flirts with me. He’s told me I smell good and my eyes are beautiful. He even said he’d give me a ride on his motorcycle some time. Obviously I wouldn’t actually do that out of respect for his relationship and I don’t think he meant it seriously but it’s just the flirtatiousness that’s making me fold.
The worst part of all of this is that it’s making me bend my morals. I was talking to my best friend about the situation and I realized that I lowkey would want to kiss him or hang out with him if he asked. I hate that I would even consider being a homewrecker. I’ve also stalked his instagram extensively to the point of following a bunch of people he follows to gain mutuals, checking tagged posts, hoping they break up and her highlight gets taken down. I even joined a new community on snap so that I could be in the same year as him and add him without it saying from search. it’s making me absolutely insane and I don’t know what to do about it because idk if I’ve ever felt this strongly about someone in such a short time.
I need to get over it asap how can I move on
2024.05.19 00:22 WillowGrouchy2204 FIRE'd at the worst time - Analysis, Questions and Learnings
I FIRE'd at probably the worst market conditions in a while on Jan 1, 2022. So it's been about 2.5 years.
Here's my net worth numbers, I am renting, so this is all invested in mutual funds. No additional side income. I am assuming a 3% SWR. I'm now 38 years old, single, no kids.
Withdrawals:
I think the highest my withdrawals would be this year would be 85k. Given that the lowest my SW number went was around 78k I'm thinking this might be a pretty good baseline to try to keep moving forward?
Aside from tracking my withdrawals, I haven't really been tracking my expenses too much. It's been a breath of fresh air to relax and not be so obsessed with the numbers on a weekly or monthly basis. I have a very simple setup for handling my checking and savings accounts with bills and regular spending that I can share in a follow up post if anyone is interested.
For major upcoming life expenses, I'm looking to buy some land out in the country and eventually build a home on it when / if I decide to move further away from the city center. My strategy for doing this will be most likely a personal line of credit that's secured with investments. I think this will end up being less interest than getting a land loan, but i'm not sure yet. One friend suggests only paying interest on this loan & keeping money in the market as long as possible, but idk. I like the idea of paying it off with whatever excess money I have in my capital gains limit and still be at 0% tax.
The area I'm looking at is an up and coming area that's currently experiencing explosive growth, so it seems like a good time to buy now and I'll be thinking of the purchase as an additional investment for now, since I'll still be renting for a few more years. So I'd keep that amount of money in my safe withdrawal calculations. There's a very good chance it'll appreciate as much or more than the stock market in the next 10 years.
Another area that I have a question: I have about 400k in my 401k and with my excess capital gains I can convert some of it to a Traditional IRA and then roll into a Roth IRA. I'm not sure if this is worth doing vs doing a capital gains harvest if we have another up year.
With a capital gains harvest in 2023, I was able to harvest around 20k and reset the cost basis. I think I could have instead converted 20k from my 401k to my Roth and paid around 10% tax on it in order to do that. I'm curious what y'all think is best?
ChatGPT seems to think the best plan is different depending on up and down years. On up years, harvest as much capital gains as possible while also doing a small roth conversion that keeps me in the lowest income tax bracket of 10%. On down years, harvest losses and do larger roth conversions since the losses can be used to offset taxable income and stay within that 10% bracket.
Learnings
- When you transition to FIRE it's very important to turn off re-invest dividends and have them sent straight to your bank account instead. I made a mistake with this in year 1 & 2 and ended up with a wash sale on some of my re-invested dividends. Then just withdraw extra money as needed throughout the year.
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Here's my net worth numbers, I am renting, so this is all invested in mutual funds. No additional side income. I am assuming a 3% SWR. I'm now 38 years old, single, no kids.
| Date | Net Worth | Percent Change | Safe Withdrawal |
|---|---|---|---|
| Jan 2022 | 3.4M | 104k | |
| July 2022 | 2.8M | -18% | 84k |
| Oct 2022 | 2.6M | -24% | 78k |
| Nov 2022 | 2.8M | -18% | 85k |
| Feb 2023 | 3M | -12% | 91k |
| Dec 2023 | 3.3M | -3% | 101k |
| March 2024 | 3.5M | +2% | 105k |
| May 2024 | 3.6M | +6% | 110k |
- 2022: 15k ( Had cash on hand already )
- 2023: 77k
- 2024: YTD 32k / Estimated: 64-85k
I think the highest my withdrawals would be this year would be 85k. Given that the lowest my SW number went was around 78k I'm thinking this might be a pretty good baseline to try to keep moving forward?
Aside from tracking my withdrawals, I haven't really been tracking my expenses too much. It's been a breath of fresh air to relax and not be so obsessed with the numbers on a weekly or monthly basis. I have a very simple setup for handling my checking and savings accounts with bills and regular spending that I can share in a follow up post if anyone is interested.
For major upcoming life expenses, I'm looking to buy some land out in the country and eventually build a home on it when / if I decide to move further away from the city center. My strategy for doing this will be most likely a personal line of credit that's secured with investments. I think this will end up being less interest than getting a land loan, but i'm not sure yet. One friend suggests only paying interest on this loan & keeping money in the market as long as possible, but idk. I like the idea of paying it off with whatever excess money I have in my capital gains limit and still be at 0% tax.
The area I'm looking at is an up and coming area that's currently experiencing explosive growth, so it seems like a good time to buy now and I'll be thinking of the purchase as an additional investment for now, since I'll still be renting for a few more years. So I'd keep that amount of money in my safe withdrawal calculations. There's a very good chance it'll appreciate as much or more than the stock market in the next 10 years.
Another area that I have a question: I have about 400k in my 401k and with my excess capital gains I can convert some of it to a Traditional IRA and then roll into a Roth IRA. I'm not sure if this is worth doing vs doing a capital gains harvest if we have another up year.
With a capital gains harvest in 2023, I was able to harvest around 20k and reset the cost basis. I think I could have instead converted 20k from my 401k to my Roth and paid around 10% tax on it in order to do that. I'm curious what y'all think is best?
ChatGPT seems to think the best plan is different depending on up and down years. On up years, harvest as much capital gains as possible while also doing a small roth conversion that keeps me in the lowest income tax bracket of 10%. On down years, harvest losses and do larger roth conversions since the losses can be used to offset taxable income and stay within that 10% bracket.
Learnings
- When you transition to FIRE it's very important to turn off re-invest dividends and have them sent straight to your bank account instead. I made a mistake with this in year 1 & 2 and ended up with a wash sale on some of my re-invested dividends. Then just withdraw extra money as needed throughout the year.
- Retire TO something. This has been mentioned a lot on this forum, but I FIRE'd to escape work hell that I was in and didn't have a solid plan for after. I was under too much stress to formulate much of a plan at the time and I paid for it. I spent almost a year in a deep depression. I would recommend figuring out what you want to do with your time while you're still working. Another thing to consider is you can actually do this stuff a little bit while still working, you'll just have more time afterwards! I did eventually start a few fun projects I wanted to try and made some major life changes, so things are looking up this year!
- Have a consulting side business if it makes sense. If you're planning to actually try to work then you want an LLC otherwise it's cheaper to register as a sole proprietorship. It's pretty fun to hop on phone calls and talk about stuff you're interested in. Very low stress, would recommend. I've only done a few, but I would do more. The major benefit of this is you can write off expenses for a bunch of stuff, which allows you to harvest more gains at the end of the year to reset cost basis and save more money on taxes in the long run. It's important to stay very diligent with separating your income / expenses for business vs personal. But this also provides an opportunity to get a ton of credit card points on a business card if you're planning to set up a home office with a new computer and stuff.
- Pay estimated taxes! I messed this one up last year and got a small penalty.
- How did I FIRE at an early age? It was due to a startup that blew up. I consider it to be equal parts hard work and luck to be honest. Not everyone at my company got the same payout though. I had negotiated better terms throughout the time I was there, so that's something to keep in mind.
- Do I plan to stay single and no kids? I'm hoping to find another relationship which I expect will increase my expenses a bit. IDK about kids, but I'm assuming that if I do then I'll need to go back to work or lean on my partner's work if they wish to keep working. I'll make that decision once the time comes. Maybe I'll get with someone that FIRE'd at an even higher amount? hahahaha
2024.05.19 00:22 DrowBot64 Can damaged palm seedlings roots grow back?
 | After growing 8 palm seeds using the wet paper towel and ziplock bag method I moved them to soil, and recently I wanted to check how they were doing but to my surprise I found out that 2 seedlings had been affected by mild root rot on the middle part of their radicle (seedling taproot) so I chopped the middle part off to avoid the spread of the rot, but now I don't know if the seedlings will be able to grow roots from the side or if they are essentially useless now, and to add to my bad luck when digging these up another seedling got it's root damaged to the point where it's now only staying on the seedling thanks to the central "string" of the root, will any of these seedlings grow normally or are they doomed? (Also last photo is of the remaining, healthy looking seedlings) submitted by DrowBot64 to gardening [link] [comments] |
2024.05.19 00:22 MeshellT Using AI as a "new lock picking tool" and/or companion - test on my Paclock 90a-pro
 | Hi, submitted by MeshellT to lockpicking [link] [comments] I spend quite some time reading posts here and I see a lot of people asking for help either because they are beginners or because they are having problems regarding their specific lock. Some people like doing their own lock picking tools, I tried to use AI - Chat GPT4-o as a new possible "lock picking tool" and/or companion. Spoiler / conclusion : I still didn't manage to open it but I was extremely impressed by it's relevancy in such small amount of time (30 seconds) on my specific lock with just 3 pics and a few questions ( I use Chat Gpt a lot for work therefore I kind of know how to make prompts to push it to get as relevant as possible...like adding specific words to make sure it will go and get the necessary information needed ). For sure, it's not perfect (yet?) but I will now do the exact process before coming to you guys to get a first feeling of my locks to avoid too many questions when I am stuck on a new lock ;) Now here's what happened : What I did : I only sent the 3 pictures of my specific 90a-pro that you can see in my post (nothing else…. No text to give info on the lock :
https://preview.redd.it/vy01al93g91d1.png?width=930&format=png&auto=webp&s=4b3dbf825f28a806e0d91a7ae2609c45d8196c64 https://preview.redd.it/vjfsvip7g91d1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=428b421232e58f86e9c28feee559aace181c0d9a What I asked Chat Gpt4-o : I am a passionate beginner of lock picking - I have found this lock that I don't know anything about for which I included 3 pictures : one is a picture of the lock , another other one is the gutted lock for which you see the pins (Pin 1 is on the left and pin 7 is on the right) and the last picture is the key I received that opens the lock. Here are a few questions :
What Chat GPT4-o answered in less than a minute : PACLOCK 90A-PRO Lock Picking Guide Background and Details of PACLOCK : PACLOCK, short for Pacific Lock Company, was founded in 1998 and is recognized for producing high-quality padlocks and security hardware. They are known for their innovative and customizable security solutions, all manufactured in the USA. The company's product line includes padlocks, puck locks, and cylinders designed for both commercial and residential use. PACLOCK is highly regarded for its durability, precision engineering, and excellent customer service. Their products are widely used in various industries, including transportation, government, and utilities, which speaks to their reliability and strength. Specifications and Reputation of the PACLOCK 90A-PRO : The PACLOCK 90A-PRO is a high-security padlock known for its robust construction and pick-resistant features. The lock body is machined from 6061 aircraft-grade aluminum, making it lightweight yet incredibly strong. It features a 7-pin cylinder, which offers higher complexity and security compared to standard 5-pin locks. The shackle is made from hardened steel, providing significant resistance against cutting and sawing attacks. In the lock picking community, the 90A-PRO is highly regarded for its combination of quality materials and challenging security features, making it a popular choice for both enthusiasts and professionals. Detailed Pin Identification and Characteristics : In the PACLOCK 90A-PRO, the driver pins consist of two spool pins (positions 1 and 2), four serrated pins (positions 3, 4, 5, and 6), and one standard pin (position 7). All key pins are standard. The key you provided has a bitting pattern with varying depths: Depth 2 for pin 1, Depth 4 for pin 2, Depth 3 for pin 3, Depth 5 for pin 4, Depth 3 for pin 5, Depth 4 for pin 6, and Depth 1 for pin 7. Given this configuration, the pin at position 7 is a zero lift pin, meaning it is already at or very close to the shear line and does not need to be lifted during picking. Security Pins: Definition, Details, and Strategies : SPOOL PINS : Definition and Details: Spool pins have a narrow middle section with wider ends, resembling a spool of thread. This shape creates a false set when the pin is partially lifted, causing the plug to rotate slightly and giving the illusion that the pin is set. Strategy to Bypass: To pick spool pins, apply moderate tension and lift the pin until you feel counter-rotation, indicating the pin is binding at its narrow middle section. Carefully release tension while continuing to lift the pin to set it correctly at the shear line. Look for the counter-rotation and adjust tension accordingly to avoid dropping other pins. SERRATED PINS : Definition and Details: Serrated pins have multiple notches or serrations along their length. These notches create several points of friction within the plug, leading to multiple false sets as the pin catches at each serration. Strategy to Bypass: To pick serrated pins, apply light tension and gently lift each pin until you feel the serrations clicking into place. Proceed slowly to ensure you do not over-set the pin, as lifting too high can cause the pin to catch above the shear line. Be patient and listen for the distinct clicks as each serration passes the shear line. STANDARD PINS : Definition and Details: Standard pins are uniform cylinders without any additional features. They do not create false sets and are straightforward to pick. Strategy to Bypass: To pick standard pins, apply steady tension and lift the pin smoothly until it sets at the shear line without much resistance. Since they do not have any security features, standard pins should be the easiest to set. Key Bitting Analysis and Its Impact on Picking Strategy The key bitting pattern affects how each pin must be manipulated to reach the shear line. Here's the analysis of each pin based on the bitting and what it requires: Pin 1 (Depth 2): This pin is relatively shallow. It requires a light lift, meaning minimal picking pressure is needed. Pin 2 (Depth 4): This pin requires a moderate lift, needing more pressure to reach the shear line. Pin 3 (Depth 3): This pin requires a moderate lift, similar to Pin 2 but slightly less. Pin 4 (Depth 5): This pin is deep, requiring a significant lift to reach the shear line, demanding more careful control to avoid over-setting. Pin 5 (Depth 3): Similar to Pin 3, it requires a moderate lift. Pin 6 (Depth 4): This pin also needs a moderate lift, similar to Pin 2. Pin 7 (Depth 1): This is the shallowest pin and is a zero lift pin. It should be avoided during picking to prevent over-setting. Identifying and Managing False Sets What Should Happen: When you encounter a false set, the plug will turn slightly as if the lock is about to open, but it will not turn completely. This is typically caused by the binding of security pins such as spools or serrated pins. The false set occurs because the security pin partially sets, but the lock does not fully unlock until all pins are correctly set at the shear line. How to Identify a False Set: Counter-Rotation: For spool pins, a false set is indicated by a slight turn of the plug followed by a counter-rotation when you apply more pressure to the binding pin. Clicking Sound: For serrated pins, you may feel or hear multiple clicks as the serrations catch, but the plug will not fully turn. Partial Plug Turn: The plug may turn slightly but stops, indicating not all pins are set. Managing False Sets: Spool Pins: If you encounter a false set with a spool pin, feel for the pin that causes counter-rotation when you apply pressure. Carefully lift this pin while slightly reducing tension to allow the spool pin to set correctly. Serrated Pins: For false sets caused by serrated pins, release a small amount of tension and gently lift the pin to allow the serrations to pass the shear line without over-setting. Recheck All Pins: If the plug does not turn fully, recheck each pin to identify any that may still be binding or over-set. Adjust tension and lift as needed. Jiggle Test: Definition and Use in Picking Strategy Definition and Details: The jiggle test involves lightly probing each pin to see if it jiggles or moves slightly. If a pin jiggles, it is likely already set at the shear line. If a pin feels solid or resists movement, it may still need to be set. Strategy to Implement: Apply Light Tension: Start with light tension and use a hook pick to probe each pin. Test Each Pin: Gently lift each pin and feel for movement. If a pin jiggles, it is set. If a pin feels solid, it needs to be lifted. Adjust Tension: Adjust the tension as you go, using the jiggle test to confirm pins that are set and identify those that need further manipulation. Strategy to Single Pick the PACLOCK 90A-PRO To pick the PACLOCK 90A-PRO, start by inserting a bottom-of-the-keyway tension wrench to maintain better control over the tension, and apply light tension to start. Insert a hook pick and feel for the first binding pin, which is the pin that resists movement. Begin by locating the binding pin regardless of its type (spool, serrated, or standard). Lift each pin carefully based on its type and the required lifting depth: Identify Binding Pin: Start by inserting the pick and feel for the first pin that resists movement, which is the binding pin. Set Binding Pins (Spool Pins 1 and 2): Lift until you feel counter-rotation. Carefully release tension while continuing to lift the pin to set it correctly. Set Binding Pins (Serrated Pins 3, 4, 5, and 6): Apply light tension and lift gently until you feel a series of clicks, which indicate the serrations passing the shear line. Be cautious not to lift too high to avoid over-setting these pins. Set Binding Pin (Standard Pin 7): Apply steady tension and lift smoothly until the pin sets at the shear line without much resistance. Since this is also a zero lift pin, ensure minimal interaction. Use the Jiggle Test: After setting each pin, use the jiggle test to confirm it is correctly set. If a pin jiggles, it is set; if it feels solid, it needs further manipulation. Check for False Sets: If the plug has a slight turn but does not open, check for pins causing false sets by lightly lifting each pin again, focusing on those still binding. If you suspect over-setting or a deep false set, release tension briefly to reset the pins, then reapply tension and start over. Final Steps and Adjustment To summarize the key points: apply light tension and focus on identifying and setting the binding pins first, regardless of their type. Use appropriate techniques for spool, serrated, and standard pins, considering the specific requirements of the key bitting pattern. Use the jiggle test to confirm pin settings and identify pins needing further adjustment. If the lock does not open after setting all pins, recheck for false sets and reset if necessary. By following these detailed steps and understanding the specific characteristics of each pin, you can effectively pick the PACLOCK 90A-PRO. Practice will help you develop a feel for the subtle feedback from each pin, improving your precision and success rate. That's it ! Please let me know what you all think ? I am sure that it's still not as precise as experienced human lock pickers ..... but I am still quite amazed ! Maybe if the mods find it interesting it could count as my requirements for other belts :relaxed::relaxed::relaxed::relaxed::relaxed: Purple belt "Demonstrated history of helping new pickers, either on the sub and/or in the Discord channel." or : Brown belt : "Make at least one specialized tool and publish the specs") Hahaha. |
2024.05.19 00:19 Bri-paranormal_ Recruiters
So I know this page is mostly for people that are actively in the army I joined the page because I’m going through the recruitment process. Since I joined the page because of that I thought so have other people and that is why I’m making this post. I am 17 & 1/2 and that does have some weight on this subject. I decided one day too just do it because I do have some prior medical that I knew could stop me from joining but I decided too just check it out anyway too see if I could actually get in. From that point I started working with the Bethlehem Pennsylvania recruitment office. DO NOT go to this office if you have any prior medical issues that you most likely need a waiver for. In fact don’t go to them if you need a waiver for ANYTHING.
I gave them a document that may help my cause the first week of me going too them. I was told I needed a waiver and they told me a letter from my parents about this medical condition could help, my parents did in fact write the letters but I also gave them three documents that showed that I have not had this medical condition in the last 5 years. They put the letters from my parents for this past MEDICAL condition in the folder of my file where my high school diploma, drivers license, birth certificate etc goes. Clearly if you put a medical letter in a different file then the MEDICAL file the people in the MEDICAL part of meps are not going to look anywhere besides the medical file.
As well as those three documents I gave them and the one I gave them in the beginning was not uploaded at all to my file when they submitted the request for the waiver. They also uploaded many documents upside down or side ways into my file, which I have been told Meps doesn’t read documents if they are not submitted correctly. Those recruiters told me I got denied for the waiver which took me texting them for them too tell me. I was ready too give up but I already started too get a bad feeling about them and didn’t want too give up just yet. I called a different recruiter at a different office and told them what happened and how I was feeling about the whole situation. He asked me to come in and he would look at my file and see what was going on I just wanted to know if I truly was denied or if something was really fishy about the whole situation.
That’s how I found out about the documents not being submitted or even being uploaded to my file. My new recruiter uploaded everything right in front of me and my parent as well as fixing every document that was sideways or upside down. He did request another waiver with everything actually uploaded and in the correct place now I am just waiting too hear back, I have already made peace with the fact that I can get denied and not be able to join but I feel like this recruiting station is ending dreams the wrong way and is choosing too not do the process the correct way. P.S I just wanted too vent
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I gave them a document that may help my cause the first week of me going too them. I was told I needed a waiver and they told me a letter from my parents about this medical condition could help, my parents did in fact write the letters but I also gave them three documents that showed that I have not had this medical condition in the last 5 years. They put the letters from my parents for this past MEDICAL condition in the folder of my file where my high school diploma, drivers license, birth certificate etc goes. Clearly if you put a medical letter in a different file then the MEDICAL file the people in the MEDICAL part of meps are not going to look anywhere besides the medical file.
As well as those three documents I gave them and the one I gave them in the beginning was not uploaded at all to my file when they submitted the request for the waiver. They also uploaded many documents upside down or side ways into my file, which I have been told Meps doesn’t read documents if they are not submitted correctly. Those recruiters told me I got denied for the waiver which took me texting them for them too tell me. I was ready too give up but I already started too get a bad feeling about them and didn’t want too give up just yet. I called a different recruiter at a different office and told them what happened and how I was feeling about the whole situation. He asked me to come in and he would look at my file and see what was going on I just wanted to know if I truly was denied or if something was really fishy about the whole situation.
That’s how I found out about the documents not being submitted or even being uploaded to my file. My new recruiter uploaded everything right in front of me and my parent as well as fixing every document that was sideways or upside down. He did request another waiver with everything actually uploaded and in the correct place now I am just waiting too hear back, I have already made peace with the fact that I can get denied and not be able to join but I feel like this recruiting station is ending dreams the wrong way and is choosing too not do the process the correct way. P.S I just wanted too vent
2024.05.19 00:17 Western_Peanut_9330 Trying to report a monster, and it feels like no one cares.
I have recently lost all faith in the justice system, and it feels like law and order is just a farce. My step father is a monster, and a sociopath, and no matter how hard I try I cannot get anything done. My mother married my step father when I was ten years old, and he began grooming me when I was eleven. Walking around naked and saying it was natural. Making me watch adult movies with him, then escalating to making me watch child p*rn. And then he started to sexually assault, and r*ape me when I was fourteen. And It kept going all the way up to when I was thirty-two. I know that sounds hard to believe, but he controlled our whole lives. I couldn’t get a job so I had no money. We didn’t have any friends. Our family wasn’t allowed to visit. He would tell me that the problem with calling the police is a lot can happen between when you pick up the phone, and they arrive. That it only takes a second to pull a trigger, or to push in a knife. That the sounds people would make when they were stabbed in the chest, would get his heart racing. He would clean his guns when he was angry, often mock pointing at me and pulling the trigger. I sometimes wished that the gun was loaded so I wouldn’t be trapped with him anymore. But worried for my mother. He started to physically abuse my mother too, so we were trapped. When I was younger he would toy with me making me do things like drink anti-freeze, but said it was game. I guess at eleven years old you don‘t know any better. Over the past few years he has begun to get more violent, and started down the anti-government route. Saying stuff that he will be the spark of the revolution. That he will bring this whole thing down. He bought a plate carrier vest (bullet proof vest), for ”when it all goes down”. He has been amassing an arsenal of guns, and recent started to acquire stolen firearms. What he would do is get close when an elderly person who has firearms registered to them, take them, and then tell the police that he “disposed of them” or a “buy back program” so they wouldn’t have to worry about them, and then keep them for himself. He has over 300 firearms, which I have a complete inventory of, as well as the stolen firearms. I know that sounds like a made up amount but there was safes in every corner of the house full of guns. Which he was only one that had keys too. He has been stockpiling ammunition as well, green tips/black tips, hollow point, tracer rounds which all together would be close to 1 million rounds, which I have pictures of. He has has a few hundreds pounds of gun powder, and knowledge of the anarchist cookbook. He claims to be a navy seal, often wearing navy seal shirts, and other clothing, bragging about it to people. But we got in contact with NCIS and the national archives which said he was only a marine for fourteen months. So that was all a lie. I recently was able to leave for the sole reason that I lost my mother. I do not even know if foul play was involved, I just had to leave before I was next. So I was able to escape with the help of family. But now scared that no one is there, what could he be doing? He kept saying how he has the means, that he will be remembered. That he will lead the charge, ignitting the fires of rebellion. I have reported and filed out police reports for a total of four different states police, as well as the FBI and ATF. I have even reached out to my local congressman, because they say they can intervene on your behalf for federal agencies. But all his office said that they submitted a tip as well. I have evidence, other people have submitted reports against him too, but nothing is happening. I keep checking the news, scared that one day I will see his face and that he blew up a government building or took down a plane which he has access too since he works at an airport. I am begging people that he is a danger to the community, that not only is he a pedophile but he will make Timothy McVeigh look like a choir boy. He is a monster, he likes to hurt people, he most definitely will hurt people, and I cannot get anyone to help. Everyone Is more interested in agendas then safety. It’s not a matter of if, but a matter of when. He will kill hundreds of people and no one will stop it. God help us all.
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2024.05.19 00:11 Master-Quantity-1490 Cusco Traditional Markets, History, Location and Tips
 | A notable aspect of Peruvian culture lies in its vibrant markets, and Cusco is no exception. If you haven’t experienced any of Cusco’s markets (or any across South America), you’re in for a sensory overload. submitted by Master-Quantity-1490 to amazonperutrips [link] [comments] Take, for instance, the renowned San Pedro market in Cusco. Here, you’ll encounter endless rows of stalls and quaint shops brimming with a plethora of goods, ranging from fresh produce to traditional remedies. Amidst the bustling chaos of sights and scents, vendors eagerly vie for your attention, touting their wares. Additionally, many markets spill over into expansive outdoor areas where you can indulge in a meal, snag souvenirs, or simply soak in the lively atmosphere. These markets serve as the backbone of everyday life for locals, offering affordable provisions and a prime spot for souvenir hunting in Cusco. Cusco’s markets are a must-see for visitors to Peru, offering a glimpse into daily life that’s truly unique. Even if you’re not in the market for anything specific, they provide unparalleled opportunities for people-watching, Peru Amazon Trips will show you how to reach all of the Traditional markets that are located in Cusco’s vicinity taking the Main square as a reference for your starting point.San Pedro Market This sprawling market has become a tourist hotspot (mostly because of local agencies recommendations), renowned for its wide array of alpaca clothing and souvenirs alongside stalls selling fruits, vegetables, juices, cheese, and meat. Make sure to explore the rear section of this expansive hall, where you’ll find some of the most affordable lunch options in the city. However, a crucial tip is to opt for the busiest kitchen to minimize the risk of foodborne illness. Location of the San Pedro market: situated near Plaza San Francisco, accessible by passing through the arch adjacent to Iglesia Santa Clara. https://preview.redd.it/vbo3dq9od91d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=913415629ce5354ed7400c50481c2f7229c6da09 Wanchaq marketThe Wanchaq market, familiar to locals in Cusco, is another noteworthy option.Similar to other larger markets in the city, it offers a wide selection of fruits, vegetables, cheese, and meat, as well as clothing, kitchenware, and likely any other essentials you might require. Location of the Wanchaq market: situated near Avenida Tullumayo (Parallel Street to Avenida del Sol). Artisan’s marketFor distinctive keepsakes, visit the Artisan’s Market in Cusco, where you’ll find a variety of items including alpaca sweaters, jewelry, pottery, and other crafts.Experience the thrill of bargaining with fewer crowds of tourists. Location of the Artisan’s market: Avenida El Sol, in front of the fountain known as the “Paccha” (which is actually the translation of fountain in Quechua) San Blas MarketThis is a much smaller market situated in San Blas’s pretty neighbourhood, northeast of the Plaza de Armas. It’s a far less touristy location and only sells staples such as fruit, vegetables, cheese and meat. However, it still makes for an interesting introduction to Cusco’s markets if you’re in the area.The San Blas square around the corner also hosts an artisan’s market at weekends with great Peruvian souvenirs to check out. Location of San Blas Market: San Blas Market is located in the San Blas neighborhood of Cusco, Peru. At the end of Lucrepata’s main street. Vinocanchón’s MarketSituated at the southern edge of the city, just before reaching the city limits, this market stands as one of the largest and most comprehensive in town. Serving as a vital resource for individual households, restaurants, and small businesses in this part of Cusco, it offers a diverse range of products beyond fresh produce.It’s a traditional market where encountering another foreign visitor is unlikely. Location of Vinocanchón’s Market: This market is located almost at the end of the city, you can reach it by going to the disctrict’s stadium in San Jerónimo’s neighbourhood. Tips before you head to any of these markets on your own#1 Refrain from making immediate purchases.Cusco’s markets overwhelm with choices. Often, identical items line neighboring stalls. Whether it’s alpaca sweaters or cooking utensils, explore the entirety of the market before committing. Expect initial high prices; bargaining is customary. Indicate disinterest, then negotiate for the best deal. #2: Be vigilant with your belongings Always look after your own goods, specially at crowded spots like San Pedro market, prone to pickpocketing due to tourism. Stay cautious amid distractions while safeguarding valuables like cameras and phones. Consider wearing them on the front and utilizing internal pockets for money. Keep a copy of your passport; store the original securely https://preview.redd.it/hfmdws2sd91d1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=0f1effa53b4172bf891e9a64e31937dadd512fe3 .#3: Dedicate some time to exploring the local markets in Cusco to uncover a wide array of goods. You’ll find that these markets offer a diverse selection of items, with San Pedro market standing out as the largest and most central, boasting a variety of clothing, souvenirs, kitchen supplies, and groceries. Meanwhile, San Blas market, though smaller, exudes charm and provides a range of fruits, vegetables, and other grocery items. Wanchaq, while similar to San Pedro in terms of offerings, provides a less touristy atmosphere, making it ideal for mingling with locals. Prepare to be pleasantly surprised by the discoveries you’ll make in and around these markets. Whether you’re in search of shoelaces, USB drives, birthday candles, Tupperware, or nail polish, you’ll likely find it here. #4: Consider hygiene when buying in the market Keep in mind that the market is where locals typically shop for groceries. For many travelers, exploring local markets can be an eye-opening experience, as they offer a variety of goods, including raw meat. Unlike supermarkets where meat is often neatly packaged, in Cusco’s markets, it’s common to find meat being sold freshly cut. While this method may not be the most hygienic, it’s practical. While seeing raw meat may be off-putting, exercise caution when purchasing or consuming it. This caution extends to eating at the markets, where hygiene standards aren’t always guaranteed. Seek advice from your accommodation or tour guide on which stalls to trust, or opt for busy food stands with high turnover to ensure freshness and minimize the risk of foodborne illness. #5: Bring a bag with you. It’s a common practice for locals to carry their own (reused) plastic bags. When you make purchases in Peru, you’ll likely receive a bag to start with (although it’s advisable to travel with a compact bag regardless). By bringing your own bag to the market, you can reduce the amount of plastic you use during your time in Peru. 6: Understanding Baby Alpaca WoolMany tourists visiting Peru are eager to purchase soft alpaca sweaters featuring charming Andean designs. However, when a vendor mentions “baby alpaca” wool, it’s important to clarify the term. Contrary to what some may imagine, it doesn’t refer to wool taken from recently sheared baby alpacas shivering in the Andean cold.https://preview.redd.it/g1vffk9zd91d1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=6c793f19656696998ff019927c0ca8a9caddfb18 |
2024.05.19 00:08 ashyskeleton Hi nurses of reddit! I am a writer with a non-medical question
Hi! I see this reddit is mostly used for medical concerns, so I hope this is okay to post here. If it's not, can you perhaps direct me to a better place?
So for some context, I am an author who writes a modern fantasy story. I'm currently approaching a plot point in my story that I'm actually not sure how it would be handled, so I'm hoping I can get some input!
Without getting into the entire plot of the story, all you need to know for the context of my question is a character was gravely wounded and is currently in a coma in a hospital with doctors pretty sure he isn't going to make it. As far as the doctors know, this guy is basically gonna die any day now.
However, another character is going to heal him with...basically dark magic, for the sake of not over-explaining. The problem is, this leaves a scar that makes it very clear "dark magic" was used on him, which is very illegal.
SO, why I'm here is to basically ask nurses the best way I can get this character out of the hospital without being caught with this forbidden scar.
I'm currently considering three options, but I don't fully know the ramifications of them, and I'm hoping you guys can fill me in:
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So for some context, I am an author who writes a modern fantasy story. I'm currently approaching a plot point in my story that I'm actually not sure how it would be handled, so I'm hoping I can get some input!
Without getting into the entire plot of the story, all you need to know for the context of my question is a character was gravely wounded and is currently in a coma in a hospital with doctors pretty sure he isn't going to make it. As far as the doctors know, this guy is basically gonna die any day now.
However, another character is going to heal him with...basically dark magic, for the sake of not over-explaining. The problem is, this leaves a scar that makes it very clear "dark magic" was used on him, which is very illegal.
SO, why I'm here is to basically ask nurses the best way I can get this character out of the hospital without being caught with this forbidden scar.
I'm currently considering three options, but I don't fully know the ramifications of them, and I'm hoping you guys can fill me in:
- He just sneaks out. This is completely possible through another character's magic, but what exactly happens if a person just goes...missing from a hospital, especially if they were in very poor condition? What if he just leaves a note, essentially saying "I'm fine, checked myself out." I imagine there'd still be some kind of investigation, but what if he just called later and verified he's alive and fine? Would the hospital just leave him alone as long as he paid all his bills and stuff?
- He just checks himself out. But can he do this without the scar being discovered? Can he wake up, say he wants to check out, not consent to being examined, then just leave? Would doctors force him to be examined? Can they do that?
- I pursue option 1 but just have him go missing and remain missing. I imagine this would make him a missing person and would get police involved (especially if he doesn't pay his bills lol). Just what happens in cases where a patient just disappears without a trace?
2024.05.19 00:05 Foreign-Aioli4832 Texted my crush how I felt and he hasn’t responded. Did I misread all the signs?
CONTEXT: Me and my crush (we’ll call him M) have been friends for about two years. We met in college and hit it off instantly, but he’s definitely very shy. There were several signs early on that he liked me. We have mutual friends so after group hangouts ended and everyone left, we would continue talking for hours. One night we just sat outside a friend's apartment and just chatted about life. Another time we went to a party and sat on the porch and talked to each other the whole night about pretty deep things and took pictures of each other. He would constantly tell me how cool and inspiring he thought I was. I could tell he would do things to try to impress me. We connected a lot over art and music and loved to share it with each other. He asked me questions about my opinions on so many things. Hell, he even invited me over one time for a baking night, just the two of us! Everyone around us thought we were more than friends.
To me, it always felt like we obviously liked each other -- a palpable tension in the air -- but we were both too shy to make a move.
Anyways, no one ever made a direct move towards something romantic, so I assumed he just saw me as a friend. I actually ended up getting into a relationship with someone else. My crush on M diminished into strictly friendship because my feelings were elsewhere, but we would still talk to each other multiple times a week because we were in the same classes. Several months later, M and I moved away from our college town and each other but we have had cordial text conversations every few months. Late last year, he texted me out of the blue telling me I’ve made a big impact on his life, which I thought was sweet.
Fast forward to this year, my relationship ended a few months ago. My crush and I have started texting again on a much more regular basis and my feelings for him are back in full swing (Note: I haven’t explicitly told M I’m single, we never really talked about relationships in general). Our dynamic is exactly like it was when we first met — he asks me lots of questions about my life and thoughts on things (and vice versa, of course), we send paragraphs of texts to each other, and he is even thinking about moving to my city in a few months.
THE POINT IS: A few days ago I texted M being honest and saying I had a crush on him when we first met and that I do currently, and he hasn’t responded. From experience, if someone doesn't respond to a text for days, it's pretty clear to me that they aren't interested.
I’m just confused because of the signs I’ve gotten from him over the span of time we’ve known each other. He’s always sucked at texting in a timely manner, so it’s not completely abnormal behavior. But I would think that if someone told you their feelings you would respond quicker than usual, no? I’m just unsure if this is just him taking his time to respond or if this is a rejection. I feel like I may have scared him. Perhaps it has something to do with the fact that I was in another relationship?
If I’m totally misreading the situation, please give me a reality check. I’d also love some insight from fellow shy guys because I truly don’t understand what could be going on in his mind.
TLDR: Been friends with a guy for about two years. He’s pretty shy, I got into a relationship (single now) so nothing overtly romantic ever happened, but our chemistry was tangible. We've started talking a lot again. I thought all signs pointed to mutual feelings, so I confessed to him and he hasn’t responded in days.
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To me, it always felt like we obviously liked each other -- a palpable tension in the air -- but we were both too shy to make a move.
Anyways, no one ever made a direct move towards something romantic, so I assumed he just saw me as a friend. I actually ended up getting into a relationship with someone else. My crush on M diminished into strictly friendship because my feelings were elsewhere, but we would still talk to each other multiple times a week because we were in the same classes. Several months later, M and I moved away from our college town and each other but we have had cordial text conversations every few months. Late last year, he texted me out of the blue telling me I’ve made a big impact on his life, which I thought was sweet.
Fast forward to this year, my relationship ended a few months ago. My crush and I have started texting again on a much more regular basis and my feelings for him are back in full swing (Note: I haven’t explicitly told M I’m single, we never really talked about relationships in general). Our dynamic is exactly like it was when we first met — he asks me lots of questions about my life and thoughts on things (and vice versa, of course), we send paragraphs of texts to each other, and he is even thinking about moving to my city in a few months.
THE POINT IS: A few days ago I texted M being honest and saying I had a crush on him when we first met and that I do currently, and he hasn’t responded. From experience, if someone doesn't respond to a text for days, it's pretty clear to me that they aren't interested.
I’m just confused because of the signs I’ve gotten from him over the span of time we’ve known each other. He’s always sucked at texting in a timely manner, so it’s not completely abnormal behavior. But I would think that if someone told you their feelings you would respond quicker than usual, no? I’m just unsure if this is just him taking his time to respond or if this is a rejection. I feel like I may have scared him. Perhaps it has something to do with the fact that I was in another relationship?
If I’m totally misreading the situation, please give me a reality check. I’d also love some insight from fellow shy guys because I truly don’t understand what could be going on in his mind.
TLDR: Been friends with a guy for about two years. He’s pretty shy, I got into a relationship (single now) so nothing overtly romantic ever happened, but our chemistry was tangible. We've started talking a lot again. I thought all signs pointed to mutual feelings, so I confessed to him and he hasn’t responded in days.
2024.05.19 00:04 MrAngryKraken How to deal with Improper Drones, stated in the GAR (Girls-Arent-Real) Handbook, and told in a meeting by a veteran of the brief girlsarentreal-boysarentreal conflict, specifically meant for the uneducated folk who believe or even humor the idea of the Drones rising up.
So I've heard that SOME FOLKS are trying to spread lies about a possible Drone Uprising...........Oh boy, here we go again...............Chapter 19, page 134, section 3, 4th paragraph of the "GAR (Girl'sAren'tReal) Handbook" states as follows;
"In the event of a Drone either gaining sentience or mistakenly being given sentience (at which point the Drone is to be called either a "Improper Drone" or "False Drone"), it is important you follow protocol and do the following;
1: Locate and confirm the Drones ID if safe.
2: Check with your closest superior or network and see if the Drone is indeed a Improper or False Drone and NOT a Drone purposely given sentience (Drones may be given sentience (nicknamed proper drones), whether temporarily or permanently, under EXTREMELY specific circumstances, such as an imminent medical emergency and no-one is around to help, research purposes, military purposes, or if a owner personally requests it. Besides the first point, the process of this takes 2-3 weeks to verify and must be under HEAVY supervision. For more info, see Chapter 23 of the GAR handbook). If the drone is a proper drone, the subject may be dropped.
3: If the Drone is Indeed a Proper Drone, ensure that any relatives are a safe distance away. If possible and safe enough, you may dispose or reprogram the drone yourself and ignore the following.
4: If not possible, call the GAR Improper Hotline (199), report your location, the drones last location, and the type of Drone so that a GAR Disposal and Reprogram Team (GARDRT) can asses and deal with the situation.
5: Keep in a safe place till the GARDRT can successfully deal with the inconvenience. Once done, explain to the GARDRT how this drone became an Improper Drone in the first place. If you do not know, inform the team and they will leave. If you were the cause, please report to the nearest GARDRT recruitment and information center for reprimanding and instructions on how to prevent such an incident."
Your welcome, you uneducated folks really need to re-read the Handbook. They aren't people or living creatures, they are Drones, meant for whatever purpose they were made for. The reason they seem possible is because people give them too much power.
They are not a threat, not a danger, they are an inconvenience at worst, stop believing these lies, we're done here.
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"In the event of a Drone either gaining sentience or mistakenly being given sentience (at which point the Drone is to be called either a "Improper Drone" or "False Drone"), it is important you follow protocol and do the following;
1: Locate and confirm the Drones ID if safe.
2: Check with your closest superior or network and see if the Drone is indeed a Improper or False Drone and NOT a Drone purposely given sentience (Drones may be given sentience (nicknamed proper drones), whether temporarily or permanently, under EXTREMELY specific circumstances, such as an imminent medical emergency and no-one is around to help, research purposes, military purposes, or if a owner personally requests it. Besides the first point, the process of this takes 2-3 weeks to verify and must be under HEAVY supervision. For more info, see Chapter 23 of the GAR handbook). If the drone is a proper drone, the subject may be dropped.
3: If the Drone is Indeed a Proper Drone, ensure that any relatives are a safe distance away. If possible and safe enough, you may dispose or reprogram the drone yourself and ignore the following.
4: If not possible, call the GAR Improper Hotline (199), report your location, the drones last location, and the type of Drone so that a GAR Disposal and Reprogram Team (GARDRT) can asses and deal with the situation.
5: Keep in a safe place till the GARDRT can successfully deal with the inconvenience. Once done, explain to the GARDRT how this drone became an Improper Drone in the first place. If you do not know, inform the team and they will leave. If you were the cause, please report to the nearest GARDRT recruitment and information center for reprimanding and instructions on how to prevent such an incident."
Your welcome, you uneducated folks really need to re-read the Handbook. They aren't people or living creatures, they are Drones, meant for whatever purpose they were made for. The reason they seem possible is because people give them too much power.
They are not a threat, not a danger, they are an inconvenience at worst, stop believing these lies, we're done here.