One bad deed

I (28M) have been married to my wife (27F) for just over a year. We recently moved to a new location for my work. We have been having problems for about six months, constant miscommuncations, she doesnt feel supported by me or that I am capable of empathising with her. I work full time, she does work occassionally but its very sporadic and only on her own terms. We base our finances off my income, she stays home with the pets.
We are currently in counselling for our communication issues, im at a point where I cant even tell if I think I am the bad guy or not. When ever we have an arguement its usually very one sided, with me taking most of the blame. I dont feel like im respected or appreciated, I work full time and I still do a large percentage of the cooking, cleaning, house upkeep. I can cook a meal and the first response will still be a critique of the meal rather than a thank you. Everything feels like an opportunity for me to fail or be criticized. We havent been physically intimate in years. Everyday around 3pm I start feeling nauseous and stressed, just because I dont know if im going to come home to everything being ok, or if there is going to be some fault or chore I didnt address thats going to lead to some comment about me not doing things correctly. I honestly dont know what to do with this anymore, or if I even want to try.
Tl:DR: I feel anxious just coming home after work, how can I fix this or make the decision that it isnt healthy?

I swear these things are just a black hole for money. The return rate is comically low. Right now my one oil company has a capitalization of over $600 billion, with an hourly output of just over $800 million. I could’ve made more using literally anything else. My stock portfolio nets me 5 times that amount at half the cost ($300 billion cost and $4.5 billion in payouts).
It’s so bad that it honestly feels like there was a mistake somewhere. The oil wells in particular are just so expensive compared to their production.

First time played kenshi and feel like sharing its story.
Decided to play mainly solo character RPG style. When I learned about fractions i was scared to make any of them enemy. As they are all very cool. Then I discovered holy nation and wow fuck these guys.
I started my endless solo cruciate aganist them with satisfying progress during it. (being on level of holy sentinel up to being stronger than inquisitor ahhh so good). First goal was military base next to Stack. It was going good and then they hurt my leg badly, couldnt run away and took me prisoner and steal my eq.
Easy peasy prison break time. My eq was in box next to my cell(idiots!) but without weapon. Resteal it but couldnt make it fist fighting, back to cell. Break again but they moved my eq(Smart!) and i had no idea where it was. I tried steal eq from sleeping soldiers but my stealing level was to low(and didnt know then how to cheese it) and i get only free toughness training.
Next day i was mining stones as obidient slave should. Outside the base. This is my chance, i tried to run away but learned the hard way shackles movement penalty. Guy throw me to the ground but he was crazy, for some reason he didnt stop beating me while yelling "work harder! , arbait macht frei! " or something. I lost my arm and was barelly alive. Lost my hope for escaping.
Solo escaping that is. Took one of my "characters" that is cooper miners and decided to make it ultimate assasin, thief, lord of the night. After extensive training went to base during night for rescue mission. And it was going great. Stealth killing is op. But I failed at some point and landed in cell next to my hero. That night there was a lot of other prisoners. We opened them all as much at the same time as possible and run away when soldiers were dealing with them. That is my hero run away, assasin sacrificed himself and will be forever remembered for this.
Getting myself robo arm and went on exploring and training. When I come back i relatively easly destroyed Stack with Seta. I was feeling confident with blister hill but oh boy I was wrong. Infinite army respawning(?) faster than i was killing them. After hours city was full of crawling people and it seriously became depressing. Like im on the real war but im the bad guy. I have seen holy phoenix, even managed to lure him to 1v1 but he beat my ass without taking any damage.
Went exploring again, got meitou weapon from fishman boss and discovered crossbows. Gave the crossbow to random copper miner nad he was kicking ass from the start. Now with team of 2 blister hill got obliterated and received princess as reward. I havent seen half of map but called it a day with this run.
I started few other short Self restricted runs and boy, this game have much potential for roleplaying. So much is happening between fractions, especially on United cities territory. Its a mess there. You really have read it all? Thanks.

For context we met online and have been friends for 6 months and dating for 5. I don't have a great family, I recently lost my dad as well before we met, when he asked me to date him, I upright told him that I am not a position to do so but he somehow convinced me and even after few days into it I kept telling him that I would get connected alot if I shared about my life with him. I don't know if people can fall in love online and I was not desperate, I was clear with what kind of situation I was in. As of now, he gave his exams for entrance and yesterday morning we called after a long time and he told me how he wanted nothing to do with me and ofcourse it was a shock to me. With all the trauma I was carrying, fear of being abandoned by the people was the worst. He cut the call and then I had a mental breakdown and in panic I texted him. He was having his Lunch at that time and he said he is glad to leave me because of this, that he can't have food in peace. After sometime, I said proper sorry and asked him to stay in touch maybe friends, he agreed. At night as I was really scared about the way he's been acting, I asked him to call me and he was anxious about his career and about having to deal with me. I tried my best to calm him down. He said he doesn't love me anymore and he ranted why couldn't I leave him, if I was normal I would've left but according to him I was a weirdo now. He asked me to leave him for fuck's sake because he wants to make his life. He said I have nothing in my life to be busy with and that's messed up and I won't leave him. He was really angry while I tried my best to understand him and his pov. But it was over when he said ye sab chutiyapa hei ye vo. Again one of my fears that everything we had was a lie, nothing real, nothing actual. He said alot of things as well but I can't say bad things to him on call. Thing about grief is It fucks you up. His voice was very similar to that of my dad which made me connect with him even more. I trusted him more than anyone. He said don't have any expectations from me now. What breaks my heart was that he was too good all this time and I wanted to really meet him and thank him for everything, I wanted to give him my best. He hates when I say I love you to him now. I don't really know what to do. It's like I'd stay with him in whatever way he likes, I just need to have him. I honestly don't have anyone rn. More context, my mother has a whole family out there which I got to know about after my father's passing. I am continuously in so much stress now and yesterday night I felt as though I won't feel things now. I am at the verge of everything. I don't see a way out now.
I have tried ending my life in the past twice and it feels as though it's the end of it.
Why live when I am so unloved and so hard to love? I really don't have anyone at the moment, I have one good friend and atm I can't meet her. It's getting to my head. I feel like a lifeless body already. I feel like human trash. I really want to somehow die in my sleep and never wake up. I was never loved by any of my parents, they never gave me that love and there's no possible way a guy could love me like that. I am just a faulty piece. All I wanted was his love. Now I am just a broken human and I can see my faults that maybe I am too emotional, too immature, too fragile but it hasn't even been a year since my dad has passed away. He passed away in my arms, right there and then, I couldn't save him. I am of no use and I really am at the darkest moment of my life and I can't get out.

I (28F) am conflicted because I don’t know if my best friend (29F) is a bad friend or if this is just a me problem. My family’s restaurant of 25 years recently got shut down and I’m afraid I may just be going through a rough time. But also, so much of what she does triggers me. Please be honest. ——-
I met my friend Sarah in martial arts class when we were both 20 and we connected immediately. We were the type of friends that didn’t really hang out much outside of class, but whenever we did get together it awesome! She was like the first and only irl friend I made in my 20s and we both call each other “best friend” since we met.
Recently, I’ve felt like I no longer want to see her. I first felt this about 2 years ago when her other friends and I were helping her move. Sarah got pregnant when she was 23 and I didn’t find out until she was 8 months in and planning a baby shower. She said she didn’t tell me about it because she didn’t want anyone in our martial arts group to know and wanted to keep it secret. Understood. During the move though, I witnessed her other girl friends reminiscing with her about how excited they felt when she told them about her pregnancy. They were showing off the ultrasound photos and everything. This stung a bit.
I had a falling out with another girl friend of mine back in 2019. I was the one that introduced Sarah to her. I unfortunately learned that my past friend was talking about me and my family behind my back. Sarah still hangs out with her to this day despite that and they travel/post Instagram pics together. I’ve explained to Sarah how that friend basically ghosted me and is out here talking about me. I just recently found out that friend is the SAME person that was there when Sarah gave birth. I don’t see their friendship changing anytime soon.
My family’s restaurant is vegetarian. We were struggling to stay open this past year, and I’d see Sarah posting pics of herself eating at other vegetarian restaurants in the area. People are free to eat where they choose, but I must admit I was upset since she could’ve supported my family’s restaurant instead. My family even offered her a place in our restaurant to put up her crochet designs when she first got started with her business. Sarah has text me about going to eat at other vegetarian restaurants and in the back of my mind I’m thinking, “Are you dense… first off my family and I are struggling for money here! I can’t even afford to go out and secondly why would I want to support competition?” This pissed me off.
Fast forward 2024. When Sarah and I hang out these days, it’s mostly because she needs my advice on a guy/needs to vent. I don’t mind this as I love giving advice to those in need, but I just want the same support system for myself, especially during this rough time. She allows me space to vent, but I just don’t feel fulfilled after our convos, more drained. When we text there are so many misunderstandings. All these little things I wrote about above are getting to me and I just want to stop connecting with her. Do you think I’m being dramatic? Would I be an a*hole if I distanced myself from her over this stuff?

Starting this off by saying this may be a long read.
Recently bought from a seller a gameboy advance game and as soon as i got it I knew it was a counterfeit, could not tell since the photos were taken from a distance. I did the return stating all the facts on how it's a fake and using photos from another game I own on how to know it's counterfeit. Seller then spamed me with messages about how they put in the information that it's '2nd gen' and they sell it cheap for poor kids.. Then saying I can keep it and they will refund me but after 2 to 3 days since the money is on hold and that if I can leave them positive feedback and then they will leave me the same. I had ebay support call me since it sounded odd, they told me that they have the option to refund me on the spot. I asked if me leaving negative feedback would allow them to do the same and they told me they can not. I also asked if i can report their other listings since they are fake also and they said I can because counterfeits are against their policy. I went ahead reported most of their games and then left the negative feedback since I did not want any other buyers to do the same. Seller did not like that and messaged me NONSTOP saying god is up there and may he be rightous and i promise he is up there.. They said they are leaving me a review also but they were only able to leave it as a positive. They then went on to say that they see I'm a seller also and how would i feel if i got bad feedback. I did not reply to a single message they sent me other then replying to the return message area. I told them I got off the phone with a rep and you guys have the option to refund me and that it was extremely disrespectful to use god in this.
Cut to a few minutes later since the seller is messaging every 2 seconds, i get a offer on a toy I am selling 'stupid me accepted it'. As soon as I did their payment did not go through and they asked to cancel and I did. Then they left me negative feedback immediately saying its a fake item don't buy from me. The seller of the counterfeit gameboy game logged into another account to buy from me to leave me this feedback. I had ebay call me again telling them this user is threating me with god and bad feedback and how they logged into another account to buy from me and then leave me the bad feedback. They told me to submit a repeal on it to get it removed and told me to ship the item back since the seller provided me with a label. Told ebay rep that I was also worried that the address used goes to a mall with no information on what store it is to take a return. She told me that's fine as long as I make the attempt to ship it out I'll get my refund. After the call I noticed these two accounts are leaving multiple positive feedback on each others accounts so they are using feedback extortion and then noticed there were another account's doing the same so they have about 4 to 5 different accounts.
Woke up today and ebay denied my feedback removal and also didn’t find the counterfeit games to be in violation of their policy. I then messaged ebay for business on fb but did not hear anything back. Not sure if there is useful information some one could help me with or if I should just leave this alone? Thank you.

Jokes apart I think Deadlock is one of my most anticipated games right now. I was a very active Overwatch player, but man, the game now is not even the shadow of what it used to be. Its soooo bad, so incredibly unbalanced and the matchmaking is atrocious. If someone can make "Overwatch but good" is Valve imo. Yeah yeah, Team Fortress exists yadda yadda, i know.

I've noticed that under some "what do my favourite games say about me" posts where the games in question are modern, people make assumptions such as that the OP "doesn't appreciate the classics", or that the OP is very young.
Just because someone's favourite Mario games are modern doesn't mean that they're dismissive of older games. It's not impossible for older Mario fans to favour newer games, either.
I find those ways of thinking to be weird since they can foster the reductive mindset of "old good, new bad". Of course, it's perfectly fine to prefer the older games over the newer ones, and it's perfectly fine to dislike the direction the franchise is currently going in. I just think it comes across as condescending and petty to look down on people for favouring newer games simply because said games are new.

Started talking to this SD and we hit it off well. We had our first intimate date and I could honestly say it was one of the best sex I’ve had. When I got home the next morning, I texted him I was home and thanked him for the date. He responded he had a great time and then said he had a bad hangover, so I told him to get better soon. I haven’t heard from him since. However, I saw him online on Seeking throughout the evening so my pride isn’t taking it very well. What would you do?

This happened a few years and it took me just as long to see the funny side of it so thought I'd share!
So, a few years ago I worked in a call center (I was one of those annoying people who would call you at the worst time possible to see if you'd switch broadband providers) and I had a colleague let's call him... Steve.
Steve had recently moved to area to be closer to his long distance girlfriend who promptly broke up with him a month after they moved in together. So Steve had no where to live.
I felt bad for Steve so I spoke my partner and asked what he thought about offering our basement as a place for him to live until he got himself back on track and my partner agreed.
By the weekend Steve moved in and at first everything was fine. That was until... the night. Steve had gone out drinking with a few of the guys from the office. My partner and I had gone to bed before he'd arrived back.
Fast forward to 4 am. I wake up and I REALLY need to pee. I get up, go to open the door yo the bathroom and find it locked. I knock and from inside I hear a groan and then a lot of rustling. I'm about to knock again when Steve runs past me faster than the flash down the stairs and out of site. I shrugged and made my way into the bathroom where suddenly I'm hit by a wall of stench.
I cough, I sputter, I run across the room, frantically open the window and take a breath fresh air. What was that awful smell I thought... and that's when to my horror I saw it.
A poo... a huge poo at the bottom of my bath tub. My only installed a month before bath tub.
I didn't know what to do. I grabbed bleach spray sprayed it blindly. It did nothing to the massive poo at the bottom of the bathtub. I realise I couldn't deal with this alone. I needed reinforcements.
Making my way back into the bedroom I sat next my partner and gently woke him. He groaned and asked "what the hell are you doing its 4 in the morning" and I replied "there's a shit in the bath". He was silent for a moment before he asked "what?" I repeated "there's a shit in the bath. After grumbling for a few minutes he got up to investigate.
He charged back in "THERE IS A SHIT IN THE BATH" and not only this but he noticed that the bathroom mats have suspiciously disappeared. I still don't know how my partner found the strength but he removed the poo from the bath.
So skipping to a little later Steve finally surfaced from his hung over state at around 3pm. My partner and I decided the poo in the bath could not stand. We wanted an apology and we wanted to know what he'd done with the bathroom mats.
We sat him down and told him we knew what he done. If he apologised, cleaned the bath and either gave back or replaced the bathroom mats we would forgive but Steve... oh Steve... he refused to take responsibility.
The next morning I was back at work and I was talking with my manger who always loved a bit of gossip so I told him about Steve's incident with the bath. He laughed and I returned back to my desk. Two minutes later an email popped up to the entire office titled "Steve, the shit and bathtub".
Sadly for Steve he was kind of seeing a new girl in our office but that email stopped that romance dead. I'd say I feel sorry for him... but he shit in my bath.
And I never did find out what happened to the bathroom mats.

Hi everyone!
I've been playing MSFS a lot recently via the xbox gamepass cloud gamingz and barring a few bugs here and there it has been a very decent experience from someone who previously was playing on PC on the past (I had to switch to a very inferior laptop and getting a new PC is only very long-term rn).
I've been eyeing some aircraft from the marketplace and want to know if they're worth it or not.
They are the CaptainSim 777s, specifically, the 777-200PW and the 777-300ER, as they're the ones inside what I can spend right now. Are they worth it or nah? I've heard that they're were very bad in the past.
Just to be more precise, I'm not looking for study-level aircraft, but something that has some complexity to it, but isn't super simplified either. I just want some good long-haul aircraft that I can simulate out of my region's international airport, as the only one I have rn is the 747 that has a Lufthansa flight to Frankfurt, because I don't have the 787 due to only having the standard version of the game. Either 777s would allow me to have a currently operated plane in long-distance routes.
I've been enjoying the level of detail available in the default A320neo, even though I was used to the FBW A320 when I was playing on PC, if that serves as a reference for what level of detail I'm looking at.
In the future I'm hoping to buy the LVFR A330 and A340, and the PMDG 737-700 and/or -800 as well, so if anyone can offer a specific review of those aircraft as well, thanks as well.

It’s been a month since I lost my loved one to suicide. I feel like my body has lost the initial shock and I am now processing it and understanding that this really happened. It hurts so bad and so many things trigger me. All I want to do is find some sort of comfort but I can’t. Nothing brings me comfort and I just feel so sad :(

Pitchfork's review of TOOL's Lateralus is arguably their most infamous review. A few do stand on its level- Kid A, Frances the Mute, The Fragile- but nothing still gets the same kind of ire that Lateralus' does. At most, the Kid A review is joked about in indie circles, but it gets more weird stares than actual anger like this review does. Clearly an album as layered, as brilliant and as special as Lateralus deserves more than a measly 1.9 out of 10, right? Surely, this review is crap.. right?
Well, it would be if this was actually a serious review of the album.
It starts with some talk on TOOL and their previous efforts, but quickly diverges into a teenager's report based around the album. Contrary to the poor score, this report raves about the record in a way that is intentionally made to sound as silly and as grandiloquent as possibly. There's lines like "The first song is called "The Grudge," and it's about astrology and how people control stuff" and "The bass playing is just really creepy and slow and sometimes it has this watery effect.", as well as a point where the author just lists Danny Carey's equipment as if that substitutes for actual music criticism. It's full of purple prose and poor descriptions, written to appear mindless and lazy, by a kid who doesn't know any better.
This is not a review of Lateralus. This is an article that serves to make fun of TOOL's fans.
Now, why does this work? Yeah, TOOL fans can be really pretentious (I'm one of them, for god's sake), but are they really a fanbase that deserves something like this?... well, to me we absolutely do, but that's besides the point. The reason why this review works, to me, is how effective it is; even nowadays, over 20 years after its publication, I still see people get angry at this thing, pulling up the 1.9 as if the rest of the review doesn't exist. Occasionally people do bring up the review itself, but every time it feels like a total misread of it, beginning and ending at "they didn't even talk about the music!". It's one of the best trolls I've ever seen, a bait review that's so easy to understand its true intent, and yet people almost never do.
I feel there's also two things to bring up:

Turning a music review into a take-that to the fans of the band is immature and pointless, and decreases the critical value of your publication.

Well, Pitchfork wasn't trying to be serious in 2001. Back then, they were still the juvenile hipster jokesters of the music world, and they didn't want to be any different. Their appeal back then was that they were the people's publication, as fun-loving as the indie dorks they appealed to. A review like this wasn't really out of the ordinary, and wasn't exactly something that'd make them look any worse. At the time they didn't even care about TOOL fans (if the review didn't make that clear), so they weren't really afraid of losing their interest.

Brent DiCrescenzo wrote the article, and he's particularly known for writing bad reviews that don't have the jokey edge of Lateralus'. Both The Fragile and Kid A reviews were written by him, for example.

This one's interesting, because this article feels like DiCrescenzo making fun of himself. Those reviews, as well as numerous others, came out prior to Lateralus'; this part might be a reach, but it felt like DiCrescenzo was using his own shitty writing as a weapon. I don't enjoy his other reviews and I think he was overall a bad writer back then, but Lateralus? It's probably his greatest work, using his weaknesses to his advantage.
So yeah, P4K's Lateralus review is great. It's an art piece disguised as shit; if it didn't still work, I'd probably think nothing of it. But as the years go on, the anger and befuddlement this piece receives still gets is ever-strong.

I don't know what to do with myself anymore I just want to be able to be with you and be with you I don't know what to do anymore but you have a good 😌 I just want to know what you think 🧐 I am and I want it to be with you too and that you are the one ☝️ I love that you are so beautiful I want you to be happy with me too I want you too so bad to have me in a happy place

Ok maybe this is a silly question, but I figured this would be the best place to ask it. Deadpool and Wolverine comes out in a couple months and I’m (probably unnecessarily) getting a little bit stressed about all the catching up I have to do for it. I’ve seen close to zero X-Men anything- I’ve seen the first two Deadpool movies, like maybe two episodes of the animated series, and I saw The New Mutants in theaters with my friend as a joke. That’s it (aside from the few nods to mutants we’ve gotten in the MCU so far).
Here’s where my problem comes in: I’m not sure if I should watch the movies yet. I kind of had my heart set on experiencing the X-Men saga for the first time with the animated series, if only because it appeals to me significantly more than the movies. I love the MCU, but I’ve stayed away from the X-Men movies (aside from Deadpool, which I love) because they never seemed that appealing to me. Aside from a select few of the movies, I generally haven’t heard great things- what probably turns me off the most is continuity problems and (just my personal taste) simply the ugly color palette. I’ve also heard bad things about the way certain characters are represented in the films, and I would kind of like to see them portrayed faithfully first. I am a bit of a completionist though, and I know that it’s gonna kill me if everyone in the Deadpool and Wolverine audience is clapping at all the X-Men cameos while I don’t understand why I should be excited.
I have had a few things spoiled for me for both the show and movies, such as a character that dies at the end of the X-Men show, what Jean Gray turns into, what happens in Logan, and a couple other things, but I think I should be able to experience either medium untainted for the most part. My question is: will watching the films first somewhat hinder my experience watching the animated series? I assume I would probably have a lot of the storylines spoiled for me, so I want the opinion of diehard X-Men fans on whether or not it’s worth it to not fully resonate with Deadpool and Wolverine in order for the animated series to be my first time experiencing the X-Men saga. There’s not a whole lot of time before the new movie comes out, so I won’t have time to watch both- it’s really one or the other.
TL;DR: I want to get caught up on the X-Men movies before Deadpool and Wolverine- will watching the films spoil my enjoyment of the animated series?
Please no spoilers lol

My brain gets a bit scrambled thinking thata and i haven't found a healthy way to continue not being a girl or pretty so is there one? Everytime i think of one i just go into the same two "Well you'l have to accept you are boy too bad" or "Live in misery until you go crazy or become a boy again both HORRIBLE options" is there a healthy one? Cause i don't think so

I am writing this anonymously and have been frustrated around my current situation in marriage.
I’ve been married about 9 years and I feel like I have done what I can to make my wife happy. It seems to me that she is never happy ever regardless of the circumstances.
I am no saint in this situation. I have lashed out at her, yelled at her, swore at her, said the nastiest things. I have been violent and broken things in front of her. So I do not discount my problems and issues as a man. I have also on more than at least over 10 – 20 occassions told her I want a “f*&*^&% divorce”.
We started really badly. I was unemployed mid – 20s and sports was my only thing that was holding me up. It was the only thing that I had confidence and life in. I would inspire people in the sport and others would be inspired by my work ethic and ability to teach and help others in the space. I was potentially going into the professional realm of that particular sport until my then girlfriend (now wife) gave me an ultimatum to stop the sport completely as she thought she was going to die. And she told me that she could not believe I would choose the sport over her. I also cheated on her during the time I was in the sport (we would have been about 1-2 months into our relationship). Yep this is all a bit confusing but to summarise:
- We met and got together when I was at the peak of my sports career
- I cheated after about 1-2 months of the relationship
- She found out about 1 year into the relationship
- I was still doing the sport and then once she found out, she gave me an ultimatum to stop doing it
- I stopped because of her
- I was potentially going to go into the professional realm of that sport
After many years I still remember that and still think about it and I still am really f&^%$# off about that. I have let a large part of it go and I have also made her really suffer for making me quit the one thing that I felt gave me self-esteem and confidence in. I’m learning to get over it now as I am too old to re enter that sport and I just don’t have the motivation and drive to go into that sport again.
Through all the years, I’ve found what I want to do now and now I feel that she is not wanting me to pursue this thing because I have got an extremely high level of work ethic, I basically do not give a f&^* about meeting people, partying, going out to a beach or any of that s&^*, I am basically, if I have not accomplished the goal then I am in the “lab” / home or wherever continuing to improve on that everyday for many hours everyday. She always wants me to go with her to the beach and do other s&*^ I don’t really want to do.
And she also has changed her career as well from a more corporate field to artistic field. Something that she sees as her passion. I am so happy that she has been able to find this. And I want to not get in the way of any of this. I give her all the space she needs to do her thing.
What I find the most f&*^$%# frustrating and annoying is that I have had some mental outbreaks with her, and I have attempted to provide her with therapy in the form of body work (massage), energy healing and any other form of spiritual healing work. And she complains how her body doesn’t feel 100% ever. It’s like everyday is a landmine asking her “how are you feeling today?”. The last outbreak I had was I yelled at her about something about 2 weeks ago. For 2 weeks I have been working on developing myself so that I can be better for her, I have also been supportive of everything that she does, I have also given her therapy for when she needs it.
I am just so f^&%$(# tired of this s%^$, I have tried to help her get better in every respect. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I just want to find the success I am seeking in my path so that I can provide everything for her so she doesn’t need to touch a finger on anything. She hates cleaning, cooking, doing anything for anyone other than herself.

The biggest things in our relationships have been:
- Her giving me an ultimatum for my sports career
- Me cheating on her early on in the relationship
- She’s forgiven me
- I’ve more or less forgiven her for the ultimatum
- We have moved countries and set up in a new country because she wanted to
- We both are following the career paths that we want to
- She wants me to make all the money (I have no issue with this)
- But, I need to be at work everyday working on my craft and things I need to do for the business, she constantly interrupts me
- She now sees herself as a princess that needs everything handed to her
- She works hard on the career she is carving out
- I am so f^%&$*# tired of her constant interruptions, I am stressed and anxious about money, I am working on the business I want to create for my life, I have no attraction to my wife at all anymore
- We barely have sex, I think we have sex once every f&^%$*# 2 months because she is never ready (I get this but I have needs as well), I am considering going to massage parlours to get my fix
Keen to get some input and advice. Should I stay or should I can this s^&%. I am so sick of it all. I want to create great things for the world but feel like she is holding me back and ultimately us back.

Hi all! My little old lady Shelly is on prednisone cream which goes in her ear pinna, and I recently was unable to get her refill for about a week. She’s on it because when she’s not, she itches or chews her fur off in one area or another and makes sores sores (she once had a bald tummy). This time, she’s really gone after her ears and has the worst dermatitis yet; they’re hot and inflamed, and clearly extremely itchy and sensitive. She’s been back on her meds for a few days, but until it kicks in she continues to itch. I made a vet appointment for Monday, but in the meantime I was wondering if anyone has advice for something soothing to put on her ears/eyebrow she scratched off. We think she does this because of allergies, but haven’t been able to figure out to what in her 18 years. I feel bad looking at her all droopy-eared!

I got a Vw CC 2010 2.0t earlier this year which was sat for 6months with 165k km on the clock. I asked why owner said he got a truck and barely drove it. Spent 7k buying the car. Then 8k fixing it. The owner failed to mention the engine was in such a bad state it was oil starved even though first thing i did was get an oil change and do fluids. The engine was already destroyed and timing chain was about to go but you can’t tell in a 2.0t until its bad bad. Got a new engine for 5k new aluminium water pump, new timing chain and driving belt, new intake manifold gasket, new exhaust manifold gasket, new crankshaft and balance shaft, new oil pump chain, new battery and bulbs throughout. Engines even from a 2016 tiguan with a 1 year warranty.
My issue is i have 0 messages on the car that i put on marketplace for 15k, i’ve messaged people for trades but no one’s enthusiastic. I don’t know if i should take it to a dealership and if i will get a fair deal. Question is should i lower the price and see what happens, trade down, or take it in to a dealer?

When we look at good and bad people holistically the good ones tend to look good but the bad ones always look like crap and smell bad.