Sex datin

Wait Wait, wait, wait, yeah Wake up every day Lord, please guide my way I'm so grateful (yeah)
I can't wait for September 'Cause that means that next month, it's goin' down like timber You're too down with the gangy, you're one of my members She gotta represent for the guys now, they gotta see a part of me in her (yeah) Red flag, blue flag, green flag, and a white flag to surrender (yeah) My ex girl was a head case, I cannot defend her
You're too down with the gangy, you're one of my members They see you comin' 'round in the realest way, now them hoes gettin' friendlier You're too down with the- You're too down with the gangy, with the gangy With the-, what?, with the gangy You're too down with the members You're too down for the O, girl, fuck November, December
Ask them other guys in the city what happened LOL gang, we the last ones laughin' Are you jackin' them or jackin' us? When you ride around the 6ix, girl Are you slappin' them or slappin' us? I know the answer
I'll take you farther than Mexico (yeah, yeah) You still got niggas hard pressed on you though (yeah) I know you, shorty a ten, but not the Messi ho (yeah) You standin' tall like the star-spangled I'll give you my all if you're ready for it Hop off the block if you're Jenny for me (yeah) Hop off the yacht with the Henny for me (gangsta, gangsta, gangsta)
You know the airport is callin' our name You know the Clearport is callin' our name I'll take you farther than Biscayne, my girl (woo, gangsta, gangsta, yeah)
You're too down with the gangy, you're one of my members (yeah) They see you comin' 'round in the realest way, now them hoes gettin' friendlier You're too down with the- You're too down with the gangy, with the gangy With the-, what?, with the gangy You're too down with the members You're too down for the O, girl, fuck November, December
You're too down for the O, girl, the O, girl Going deeper inside, my feelings can't subside These walls are so thin, you gon' wake up the whole Eastside, girl Feel like I'm bi 'cause you're one of the guys, girl All jokes aside, you gon' wake up the whole Eastside Wake up the whole Eastside Comin' from Jahron B side On the road, goin' 80
I live like 40 minutes from you, that sex drive is crazy You used to jack the other side, but that shit doesn't phase me Not at all Those guys were never gangy, those guys are in a strange place Say you started datin' girls now, say it to me with a straight face Oh, now it's girls I wanna know all of your kinks I wanna touch more money than Brinks
I bet I could change how you think I know, I know I could have us both Both comin' at the same time like, "Jinx, " I'm talkin' dirty Time to arch that back and put both hands down like 6:30 N-Y-see me later when I'm right there like New Jersey All your friends keep judgin' us, it's like you're my attorney

Sit next to this girl at work. I was under the inpression she was in a relationship, partly due to a post and vid of her with a guy, though they were ambigious I suppose. She hasn't mentioned anything about a partner to me or anyone else after weeks. I'm taken back by how much she touches me, at work especially. She's thrown a number of signs my way, incuring aboit datin life, touching me, affectionately referring to me, heavy eye contact etc.
I'm aware of how people are about work and dating but she'll be leaving for another job soon anyway.
We have each other on socials and chat a bit. Should I ask her out? In person? Text? Ask if she wants to do something? Drinks? Food? Is that terrrible of me? Should I just leave it? I hate tje fact I feel this way. I do actually like her and it's not about sex, I feel more hesitant than usual out of concern of making a dumb mistake.

Hi TL;DR: Sometimes i catch myself remarking toxic comments at my boyfriend. I don't want to be like that! Does anybody know, how i can stop my self or how i can work on my self?
Dear Reddit community
Sorry for any mistakes, english is not my native language.
I (24F) have been dating my Boyfriend Mike (25F) for one year now. We are in a happy relationship and value each other a lot. We definitely see a future and are planning to move in with each other. We have a good communication and never had big argues. We are understanding, loving and respectful.
My sexdrive in the past was normal. When i was single, i didn't had a lot of sex (because i prefer being intimate with someone i'm datin officially) and when i was with my ex, i would say sex wasn't the most important thing for me. My Libido changed a lot when i started dating Mike. I love being intimate with him and i can easily do it twice a day. Mike in hinsight, doesn't need as much sex as i do. He likes it and has a normal libido but doesn't need sex everyday. I would say, we have sex like 3-4 times a week, which i know is a normal amount.
Mike had occasional issues throughout the past year. For example, he had infectious mononucleosis for two months. During the summer, he was under so much work-related stress for over two months that his libido was practically nonexistent. During this time, he occasionally rejected my advances for being intimate. I completely understood the circumstances, and it's extremely important to me that my partner desires intimacy as much as I do. I would never force Mike into anything. However, I noticed that sometimes I couldn't suppress sarcastic remarks. Don't get me wrong; we regularly tease each other—that's our love language. But sometimes, I said things like "You're getting an old man" or "With my libido, you'd think I'm the man in the relationship," and although we laughed it off at the moment, I later became alarmed at my toxic behavior.
I know that Mike doesn't take these remarks personally. He forgets them right away and doesn't dwell on them. However, I don't want to be mean; it's not really in my nature. We have such a healthy relationship, and it bothers me that I can't seem to hold back.
I've also thought about why I make these comments. Sex has become extremely important to me, and if Mike rejects me, I feel a bit hurt. I don't show it directly; Mike wouldn't notice. Still, I probably make these snippy remarks for this reason. Of course, I don't want sex if Mike hasn't given consent. So, I don't understand my behavior. I know that not everyone is in the mood all the time, and we can just cuddle without any expectations, but sometimes that doesn't satisfy me. I see the issue entirely within myself, and I don't want to let Mike suffer because of it.
How can I stop myself from making these remarks? How can I learn to be a better version of myself?
I love Mike with all my heart and don't want to lose him under any circumstances. I wish him the best, and that's why I want to become the best.

me (19f) and my bf (32m(and my boss)) been datin for two months now. we have a lot of sex, more times than i could count probs but hes only cum like 7 times. idk if like that’s something older giys do or if hes doing that on purpose to keep it goin or what but all other guys i been with, they cun every time we fuck. lmk

Hello, first I wanna adress a few things for context, so Me(23) and my GF(23) have been together for over a year and a half now, we met in uni and then after a few month we started dating, she's not from my state so when she finished she had to go so we kept a LDR.
Well, at first when we began datin we were going at it like we were rabbits, it was days and days when we would spend hours in bed and then come back to reality, then when she had to move back we obviously had to wait to have sex every once or twice a month when we could see each other.
Alright, a few months ago she got a job not that long from where I live in the same state as I'm from, so the frequency of seeing each other went up, but the frequency of having sex started to be lower, I didn't really mind because we all have periods of not wanting to have sex and that didn't bother me,, but then I started thinking and I kid you not, we've had sex 3/4 times since August...
What bothers me is that she tries to initiate, and she turns me on and when I tell her if she's in the mood for going a little bit further she tells me she's not, then sometimes she offers to do me but to not engage with her and I've accepted the offer sometimes but other times I want us both to have our time, me with her and her with me and enjoy ourselves how we used to.
I've tried multiple times discussing this with her and she's not a big coummunicator usually so with this matter she's not gonna be different, so she just shuts down or gives me the generic response like she's not feeling it or whatever.
It's already been two months since we had sex, and we have a lot of intimacy in our relationship, we cuddle, we kiss, we have time for ourselves, I try to always think about what she wants and do things for her, we have fun together and stuff but I cannot comprehend why she doesn't have sex anymore, I feel rejected and my confidence is at an all time low with my self esteem.
Any advice?
TL;DR: my gf from almost 2 years has all of a sudden stopped wanting to have sex with me, I tried to communicate but it's not working, idk what to do and it's causing me to have low self esteem.

Hello, first I wanna adress a few things for context, so Me(23) and my GF(23) have been together for over a year and a half now, we met in uni and then after a few month we started dating, she's not from my state so when she finished she had to go so we kept a LDR. Well, at first when we began datin we were going at it like we were rabbits, it was days and days when we would spend hours in bed and then come back to reality, then when she had to move back we obviously had to wait to have sex every once or twice a month when we could see each other. Alright, a few months ago she got a job not that long from where I live in the same state as I'm from, so the frequency of seeing each other went up, but the frequency of having sex started to be lower, I didn't really mind because we all have periods of not wanting to have sex and that didn't bother me,, but then I started thinking and I kid you not, we've had sex 3/4 times since August... What bothers me is that she tries to initiate, and she turns me on and when I tell her if she's in the mood for going a little bit further she tells me she's not, then sometimes she offers to do me but to not engage with her and I've accepted the offer sometimes but other times I want us both to have our time, me with her and her with me and enjoy ourselves how we used to. I've tried multiple times discussing this with her and she's not a big coummunicator usually so with this matter she's not gonna be different, so she just shuts down or gives me the generic response like she's not feeling it or whatever. It's already been two months since we had sex, and we have a lot of intimacy in our relationship, we cuddle, we kiss, we have time for ourselves, I try to always think about what she wants and do things for her, we have fun together and stuff but I cannot comprehend why she doesn't have sex anymore, I feel rejected and my confidence is at an all time low with my self esteem.
Any advice?

I’ve been dating my bf for a year and 5 months. He’s my first relationship, my first sexual partner. Our meeting-relationship came very easily because a friend of mine was datin his best friend, and they made us meet. I didn’t feel any intense spark in the beginning because I didn’t even know him to be fair but I found him attractive and wanted to spend time with him. And as time went by we grew closer and closer, and even after a year our relationship was still peeking and peeking. I felt amazing, I wanted to be with him every day all day. And then rocd appeared….
In the beginning rocd waa extremely severe. Last 2 months I’m much better but it still exists. Now I’m afraid… what if I’m starting getting bored of the relationship? What if I need to search the spark somewhere else? I know you can’t always search for the spark and dump a great relationship over that but I’m young (23) and inexperienced and everyone would say ‘go fuck around’. I had a dream of an ex crush of mine last night (just a crush, we haven’t kissed or got intimate) and in my dreams he was flirting with me and I liked it. When I woke up next to my bf I still had scenarios about having sex with him and if it would be more exciting because we don’t know each other and that maybe I should break up with my bf one day because I should search for that spark. Maybe my old crush would make me feel different than my bf, more excited maybe. And all these thoughts gave me zero anxiety. It was like I was just accepting the truth. But now that I left my bfs house and im alone the realisation kicks… why didn’t I have anxiety? I know it’s not bad to have thoughts about others, it doesn’t necessarily mean something but maybe it does…
My relationship maybe is heading towards it’s ending. But I don’t want that to happen. I want to be with him. Breaking up with him doesn’t make me calm and peaceful. My sister is about to break up with her 2 years bf because they’re not in love anymore and she’s so accepting about it. I’m not.. sometimes I think I would even marry this man one day. But maybe I have to go and search for the spark, which was there even at one year dating and after the honeymoon phase but then Rocd appeared and fucked up everything. Maybe I’m too inexperienced and don’t know how I should feel about my first relationship. Any advice, insight would be appreciated!

Ok guys. I'm not sure what the right thing to do is.
There's this guy "B" that I been friends with for years. He's always had a crush on me and we've done stuff, but we've jus stayed just friends. Whenever he has a girl he always tries to downplay things to me in case I'll decide to be with him. Some ppl like that, but I don't like it because it makes me think he's kind of a jerk and I shouldn't be friends with him, but we have a lot of history. Well recently we've hooked up a couple times but I found out he has been seein this girl and ususally he tells me his datin drama, but this time he had kept it from me. I think he's embarrassed for dating this chick. I called him out bc he was hookin up w me while datin her. Now he's telling me that shes jus obsessed w him and like pushy so he just goes along with it since he doesnt see her that much and they don't even live in the same town. I've looked at her pics, she's not like hot but not ugly, not that it matters cuz she still doesn't deserve him bein like this. She's this wanna be influencer type who brews beer at like a popular spot so I think he likes that attention or thinks she's "cool" even tho he's not attracted to her. It sounds bad I'm just trying to share his side of things based on what he tells me. He says that the sex is like bad but he says "she makes up for it" and I dont wanna give more details lol. I think it's gross how he talks about it. If I'm being honest my impression is that maybe she doesnt get a lot of attention from men so this seems like a big deal to her not like casual dating, like how hes feeling about it. I've told him he shoudl be honest and not lead her on. Idk what to do, if I should give this girl a heads up that he's talkin about her like this and also gettin w me and maybe other girls cuz idk his business apparently. I'm not hookin up with him anymore obviously and idk if I can even remain friends. I don't wanna be part of the drama so that's why I kind of don't wanna even say anything. I need relationship advice on how to navigate this.
Should I talk to her? Should I end the friendship? What do you think his deal is?

so me (19m) and this guy (19m) have been "together" since december but friends since september. i put quotation marks because we're not dating, i've brought up dating more than once, we had multiple talks and he's not into the idea.
however, recently he's been telling me he loves me and he's told me recently that he thought about marrying me. I haven't told him i loved him back and we've talked about why i haven't. not because i don't feel that way, but because i know the meaning of those words, and what it means for me. and i might've said "ily" before we've had those talks about datin. but him not enjoying the idea of it, along with other things that were said changed it for me.
but, last night felt different, i felt like i was getting to be okay with all that, that i'll just see where this takes me, to not ruin something that could be good if i just let it be. but, after we had sex, this was the second time we've had sex since after those talks about dating a couple weeks prior.
i found out he has been talking to this guy (j) he's had sex with multiple times that he's become friends with. and i understand that could happen, but, the only reason i found out and he told me everything was bc he was showing me a list of the people he's had sex with (we were talking about our past) and before my name was j's name.
i pointed it out cause id seen it in his recent messages when he was on his phone recently, and j called him when i was hanging out with him and his friends and he declined it. he told me he hasn't had sex with him or seen him since weve been together. he apologized and told me i had every right to feel that way. on top of everything i think this might be it for me, pls just comment and tell me if i'm being dramatic or choosing to think this is bad when it's really not that bad and again i'm just wanting to be dramatic and end things.

so me (19m) and this guy (19m) have been "together" since december but friends since september. i put quotation marks because we're not dating, i've brought up dating more than once, we had multiple talks and he's not into the idea.
however, recently he's been telling me he loves me and he's told me recently that he thought about marrying me. I haven't told him i loved him back and we've talked about why i haven't. not because i don't feel that way, but because i know the meaning of those words, and what it means for me. and i might've said "ily" before we've had those talks about datin. but him not enjoying the idea of it, along with other things that were said changed it for me.
but, last night felt different, i felt like i was getting to be okay with all that, that i'll just see where this takes me, to not ruin something that could be good if i just let it be. but, after we had sex, this was the second time we've had sex since after those talks about dating a couple weeks prior.
i found out he has been talking to this guy (j) he's had sex with multiple times that he's become friends with. and i understand that could happen, but, the only reason i found out and he told me everything was bc he was showing me a list of the people he's had sex with (we were talking about our past) and before my name was j's name.
i pointed it out cause id seen it in his recent messages when he was on his phone recently, and j called him when i was hanging out with him and his friends and he declined it. he told me he hasn't had sex with him or seen him since weve been together. he apologized and told me i had every right to feel that way. on top of everything i think this might be it for me, pls just comment and tell me if i'm being dramatic or choosing to think this is bad when it's really not that bad and again i'm just wanting to be dramatic and end things.

I'm really confused on what to do. and would love some random advice from the internet.
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basically in march i(25M) my exgirlfriend (24F) broke up with me after being together for over 5 years (had been best friend for 5 years before datin as well)
I know she is the one and the break up made me wake up to the fact that i've been living my life for my families expectations and not mine and it led me down a really bad path with my mental health.
Since the break up i've made a lot of dramatic changes in my life and i know its cliche but ive found myself. This isn't why I'm posting this but it is important background knowledge because I will always love this person
she has been the most important person in my life for oveer a decade she is the most purest most beauitful person i will ever meet. simply put she is the one in so many ways. We both started dating young and after the break up i understand we need time to grow individually
but its hard to give up the hope of us getting back together one day....
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which leds me to the point of this post. After the break up my roommates and guy friends all said i needed to get out there, so i started a online dating app. (I've only had two relationships in my life both were long term relationship lasting 3 and 5 years respectively and i met both of the girls freshmen year of highschool) So i have no experience dating out side of meeting someone in school plus i was friends with both of my ex's and fell in love with them before dating
so meeting someone random off the internet and seeing if i have feelings for them is very new to me. Plus after getting out of a long term relationship that i was ready to marry and start a family i was mainly just looking to date causally and have fun (not causal sex i need emotions to be there)
I went on a handful of first dates and about two months ago i met this girl(21f) lets call her "kat". We hit it off exremely well, had the best first date of my life (ofc i have small sample size) things really clicked and it was the first person i met online that i actually had feeling for. The main thing that allowed me to be very open and myself
was that she was just looking for something for the summer because she was going back to college for her senior year 4 hours away from my town. also during the summer she lived with her parents who live an hour away from me. Therefore she also said she wasnt looking for anything serious and that one of the guys she dated for a little before me, had plans of them falling in love and doing the whole long distance thing and that turned her off. So i completly was ready for just being in the moment and enjoying what time we had.
Which we really did. We would go on dates 2-3 times a week for a little over a month before she left ( i drove up to see her everytime). I would have to leave work early and then work extra hours the next day to make up for it.
I also paid for every date (which i dont mind since i had a full time job at an enginieer firm and shes a college student).
On our last date the day before she left to college we had a talk and both mentioned how supprised we were that we developed such strong feelings for eachother and she mentioned wanting to maybe make things offcial and try long distance. However she also said that when we're together her feels for me a really intense but when we're apart they kind of fade which defiantly affected me a lot and made me hesitant. other things that ahve made me hesitant are; Her parents are very controlling and protective (her dads an ex cop which i understand) however they treat her like she 16 when shes 21, she's not good at showing her emotions or affection when we text it seems like we're just friends calls me dude a lot, her and i have had a really different upbringing her parents are catholic and controlling and very traditional, my parents divorced when i was young and are both hippies, and give me a lot of freedom. She's still a virgin and I lost my virginity when i was 15. She doesnt smoke weed or anything and only drank when she turned 21, where i started smoking weed when i was 16 and did mushrooms and lsd in highschool (i dont smoke anymore due to my job). We are really similar in a lot of ways and different in others which i like however especially when it comes to sex and relationships we have some differences which we could work thru with communicaton but especially her being a virgin is a lot (not in a bad way) but just i remember the person i lost my virginity with and how attached i got to them and of course the main reason being hesitant due to my last relationship.
so I essentially said that we should take things slow still and have her go to college and have her get settled in and ill come down and we can see how the distance changes things then decide where we're at.
Two weeks pass and I ended up going down to see her on friday after work to spend the weekend there. It was a really stressful week at work, had 10-12 hour days the entire week. Then when i got there she told me her parents were coming down the next day (she was moving dorms) and i already knew i would help her move which i was more than hapyp to do but finding out that i would have to meet her parents (shes mentioned that meeting her dad was going to be really stressful and big test) was a lot and i admit i didnt react the best mind you i had just worked a 12 hour day and drove 4 hours. I said "it wasn't ideal" i mainly really wish she wouldve told me before i got there, so i had some time to process it.
That next morning we went to breakfast and talked about us, i was hoping for us to have the weekend to see how things felt and just enjoy being together after two weeks of not seeing eachother then see how we felt. But with her parents coming she really wanted us to decide then and it felt like a lot and a little rushed, especially meeting her parents. So she said she was ready but i said i needed a little more time.
We then meet her parents, move her into her new dorm and go to dinner. It went well her parents we're super nice and nothing like how she was saying it would go (which had me pretty stressed, she said her dad would show me his gun and shit like that) which he didn't we was just a normal chill guy. But i fursure was on autopilot that day, after meeting her parents she asked me what i thought and i said they were really nice and not what i was expecting but thats all i said.
That night we went to a bar and got drunk then went back to her dorm and started making out (we've talked about her boundiares when it comes to phyiscal stuff and i always ask her if shes comfortable and wants to take things further) We made out and i went down on her she then asked me to take my pants off and we ended up just making out and then stopped. She then asked me if we were boyfriend and girlfriend. i said it didnt really matter becasue we've done everything a boyfriend and girlfriend do, she then said so are me and i said yes.
The next day I was very hungover and just quite because i was still processing meeting her parents and her essentially asking me out while we were drunk. We saw her parents again that day and then i left back home that night.
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I left on sunday and on tuesday she texted me saying we needed to talk about what happened on the weekend. So we facetimed after i got off work.
She said she was very hurt by things i did over the weekend and it changed her mind on how she wants our relationship to go. Bassically said we need to have a break because she doesnt know if she can get over what happened.
What happened; She's super close to her family and didn't like my response to what i thought of her parents, she thought they tried a lot to get to know me and i was just there (me being on autopilot). She felt like i wasnt interested in being in a relationship with her nor putting in effort and shes more traditional than me so her essentially asking me out hurt her because she wanted me to do it. She felt like like im only into her for sex (which is very not true) and that she wanted to have sex with me that night after meeting her parents and shes mad at me because of it because she wants it to be special and wants to be in a commited relationship before. Which i understand and can accept the fact that i did fuck up somewhat over the weekend because i was so in my head and shit was moving super fast for me and i wasnt ready. But i felt like i had communicated that from the start.
Its been a week since we've talked i told her that i'd give her time and to reach out. But is that the wrong move? should i reach out to her and tell her that i truly care about her because i really do. I've never had someone come into my life this fast and become this meaningful to me and it did scare me because i really did fall for her hard and it m ade me close off a little plus of course im not fully over my last relationship so i'm just very confused.
I feel like a really bad person. So should i just leave her alone? Do i spend this time apart and try to reach out to my ex (we havent talked since the break up) and get some actual closure because i feel like im in limbo right now with her and its hard to fully move on.
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Is it possible to fall for someone even when youre in love with your ex?
Also after meeting Kat i deleted my dating app and have not desire to redownload it.
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So basically i see my steps being either, reach out to kat and tell her how i feel. or dont and wait for her to talk to me.
reach out to my ex and deal with that (she said she could see us getting back together in the future or being friends) so i can get out of the limbo i've been in these past months
or lastly dont do anything leave both these girls alone

Dating in today's society isn't easy. Meeting prospective partners is difficult and almost everyone can use some reliable dating tips. The problem with dating tips is that they usually come from family and friends. These are people who already know and love you. They know how smart, funny and attractive you are. But they aren't going to be dating you. The most helpful dating tips can come from people who don't necessarily know you. There are many online dating tip websites. Some are good and offer good advice and some are not so good. Do you really need to be told to just "be yourself" one more time? That is one dating tip everyone has heard way too often. I believe that men can have it a little tougher these days too. Although women certainly can have a hard time finding that special someone, it is usually up to the man to make the first move. That can be intimidating. Approaching someone whom you don't know can be a nerve racking experience. And when you add the lack of dating tips for men that are available and the fact that most of us are pretty clueless when it comes to attracting the opposite sex, it can seem hopeless. Most men don't sit around swapping dating tips either. I'm not sure how many men discuss datin tips at all. It doesn't seem like a topic high on their list. Dating tips for men are hard to come by. Most men would like to know how to attract a woman. Even if they aren't the most handsome man on the block. Most women will tell you that looks are definitely not the most important thing, but most men don't believe that. When you put all the misconceptions together, its not wonder that online dating has become so popular. Womens emotions trigger feeling of attraction. This is why looks are not the most important thing. I f men could learn how to trigger all the emotional attraction switches in womens minds, they would see that looks are not everything. The best dating tip I can give to men would be to target a womans emotions first. How do you do that? Good question. Finding the answer to that question would almost virtually guarantee a man success with women. If men learned how to communicate with women the way they communicate, they could be very successful with women. Dating tips are one way of working on that. Copying what is successful is usually the best way to go.

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Discussions surroundin sex and gender have been really intense, fun, dramatic and the rest these past years, if you take notice.
So had any ideological shifts with respect to sexnd gender discourse and issues?
Share your experiences too if you have

So it has been since November 2021 that we talk , and since day one he flirts with me and we immediately got attracted to one to another. But he and I got some other people in our dms so it wasn’t serious and just for fun, and we were like “” friends””.
We saw each other in parties of our mutual friends twice ( a party’s friend with who he is very tactile but in a siblings way but it was kinda weird at first) and we just got to know each other. And during all this time we talked more and more by text ext. He told multiple times that it was the first time someone has pushed him to be more himself ( he talks a lot about his abusive ex) … a few weeks later, I dumped everyone that I was talking to ( be cause I plan to move to another country next year), and I became “ free” and I was very glad about being single 100%. Then , he asked me to see each other one to one again ( we did it twice) and the third time ( he got invited to my birthday party this April ) we made out.
And it was very kind and sweet , everyone ( at my party) knew but it wasn’t awkward in the morning. Then a few days later , we saw each other again at his place and then we had sex, it was great , we had a pretty good chemistry we stayed in bed all day just talking about things and cuddle. But after sex, he began to talk about our relationship ( what I wanted to us to be). He said that he doesn’t want me to get bored of him and that’s why he doesn’t want him to be my limit( he said if I want to have sex with other people , he isn’t anyone to tell me what I need to do). And he also doesn’t want a routine be cause we datin , that’s why he asked to stay at this undefined position of not friends but not a couple.
He told me then that he has a special relationship with me ( he loves me since the beginning ) and when I’ll move out from our city he said that he won’t be depressed but he will say it was a great experience. He also said that he doesn’t want us to push us to talk and see each other bc we have a relationship. I didn’t have the time to really think about this at that moment , and When I came home I was really sad for no reason and told him that I don’t want a polygamous relationship. That stress me out and it’s ok for me that he is my limit. He told me that he’s not interested to see other people too. And so we agreed to let things happen in a “natural” way.
However, these days, our text became like kinda dry and I feel like I’m going insane over nothing. I don’t want to spam him with some text , I don’t want him to feel like too under pressure. But I don’t want to loose him or find out that he used me. I went through a few chaotic relationship this year, I’m just scared to relapse again into this horrific circle.