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How to do distance, with constant fear of partner dying.

2024.05.22 00:30 Disastrous_Yam_5218 How to do distance, with constant fear of partner dying.

Like the title says. I have diagnosed OCD and anxiety, no medications. I constantly fear that my partner has had a freak health crisis, choking, car accident, trip and hit to the head, literally anything and everything. I only fear this when they don’t respond for like an hour or two. I get panicked and stressed sometimes causing an attack. I only feel better when ik they’re ok. It’s hard to enjoy the little things in life bc if I haven’t heard from them I think something is wrong and I fall into a mini depression. i wake up every morning with an anxiety stomach ache bc I feel like they might not wake up. And I can’t fall asleep until ik they’re in bed. It is extremely bad and I have seen a therapist who thought I was getting better. I did too. But now distance is in the question when it wasn’t before. I have talked to them about trying to respond better but they do not think they have to. Which is correct they don’t. I just wish they did. Now that we’re new to distance, I feel like if they don’t respond, something is wrong but when they do respond I get angry bc I’m confused why they didn’t wanna respond before. I have brought this up bc I feel like if they don’t wanna respond it’s an issue. Like how do you not respond when you’re at your house in arms reach if your phone. Ik ppl get busy and I don’t wanna make them not busy and spend all their time on me I just wish they communicated what is going to make them busy. I need advice on how to talk to a defensive person about my concerns AND advice on how to get over the anxiety that something terrible has always happened.
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2024.05.22 00:29 copterco Partner 29F takes car, I feel like I 29M need to be chaperoned to leave the house, should I buy second car?

Hi everyone, I'm running into an issue that I think I'm being sane but my partner does not think so - so I am questioning myself and wanted a sanity check.
I'm a guy, in a relationship that's been 2 and a half years or so now. About two years ago I bought a new car so that we could move and live in another city together since the prior studio we were in was too small. At that time we both worked remotely so it was easy to split the car. Now she has gotten an in person job and uses the car to get to work.
this now means that I feel stuck in the house from 7 am to 6 pm most days and sometimes in the evenings if she is out and I get this feeling that I now need to be chaperoned like a kid to go outside the house. It feels a bit like reverting to childhood when I lived on a remote farm and the only way from that farm was via my parents, which I really hated growing up.
In this case she has the car now all the time and I need to ask for her help to get me from place to place. I really want to go to a coworking spot to meet some people or be around people more since I don't meet too many people with my remote job and she is okay with that as long as she drives me to the coworking space in the morning and picks me up after work. She is willing to do the opposite as well she said, if I drive her to work and back. That could work I guess but it does feel like one has to be constantly synced up on when work ends.
I feel like now would be a good time for us to have a second car so that she could go to work for her in person job and I could feel less trapped at home. The public transport isn't great where we live, otherwise that could have been an option. She thinks I'm being ridiculous and that it would be a poor financial decision to have two cars when we have one that works fine. I paid for the current car and cover all the expenses related to it. We both make good money.
Should I just go ahead and buy another car for her so I can feel less trapped at home? This runs the risk of her getting mad at me spending money. We have talked about it and it's not going very far with her convinced that I am being ridiculous.
Any advice?
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2024.05.22 00:28 SecretVVeapon PLEASE Help Me Cool My Room

Hello! I saw in the rules to use this subreddit for questions as a last resort. Hopefully this is okay because Google hasn't help entirely since this is more of a broader question with separate parts.
After a lot of life struggles, I ended up moving in with some gracious friends that were kind enough to give me a place to stay. I'm in the attic, however. It is a finished attic with proper walls, a ceiling, and carpeting, but I know there's no insulation in the walls because there's a crawlspace back there. For whatever ridiculous reason, the landlord took out almost all interior doors when my roommates moved in. My room (the attic) doesn't have a door at the bottom of the stairs.
Another friend was nice enough to help me get set up with an AC unit before summer hits. It's already bad. Awful. I'm a professional voice actor and I can't have the AC running while I'm recording. It's just too loud. But I want to know if having a door will make enough difference to keep the cool air in my room. My AC is on full blast right now with my fan oscillating as well and it will NOT go below 90° in my room. It hit 95 while I was recording and I had to take a break because I got nauseas and dizzy. It's way hotter in the booth of course.
So, will a door help? Or is it not going to do a thing since it's the attic and there's no insulation in the walls? If a door would make a sizable difference, would a hollow one make the cut, or would it have to be solid? Thanks for any help. I'm really dying here. This is miserable and I'm basically restarting my life from scratch, so I really need help to make an informed decision. I want a door anyway for mild noise dampening and just for privacy in general, but I am struggling with money right now. And the way I earn my money is being messed with by this heat. I can't record when my booth gets over 100°. I need to know a door will help before I drop that money that I hardly have. Thanks.
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2024.05.22 00:28 Objective_Set_6753 AITAH for being upset my husband went to his mom before me?

So we been having some rough patches not gonna lie but today he went to a job interview that I was very excited for him he said when he gets back he wants to rub me down and you know. So he goes I text him ima make lunch just heat some leftovers. He says okay and he has so much to tell me. Soon as he gets out he says he's gonna go to his mom real quick I'm like uhhhh what I'm hungry and can't wait to talk to you he said he wants to tell his mom. I said okay come home change eat tell me then go for however long you want. Btw context is I hate my in-laws and he knows why so he stood up to them for me but I wouldn't ban them ofc their his family him standing up for me everytime since I told him is enough for me. But anyways I'm like uh nah like I'm letting him know it bothers me especially cause for a few months I feel his family and friends have been coming first before me his fucking wife. So I was hurt but he clearly didn't care went to his mom calls me that he's on the way back. So I'm obviously upset which he sucks at understanding and talking about feelings so he said he was gonna sit in the car for a sec then come in that's it's bullshit I'm mad that just cause I don't have parents doesn't mean he can't see his like....excuse me who has ever stopped him. Anyways am I the asshole that I'm upset he went to his mom first? I just need some outside perspective if I was wrong for being upset. I'm also really bad at social cues btw I definitely think I'm on the spectrum and plans not going the way they are suppose to really throw me off and make me a little I guess what people around me call childish.
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2024.05.22 00:28 dradrado Is zero inhibiting cosmological understanding?

Is zero inhibiting cosmological understanding?
When theorising in astrophysics, and more specifically the beginning and expansion of the universe (the big bang), the phenomenon of black holes and the mysteries behind dark matter and dark energy, we mistakenly use the two concepts interchangeably, they being 1. The philosophical zero, ie nothingness, and 2. The mathematics concept of zero, ie summarily attaching the philosophical concept of zero, with a numerical designation because it greatly assists the functionality of mathematic in the paradigm of our observable reality. Also please bearing mind the the math concept of zero allows negative values, unlike the philosophy, and when discussing space time, there is no place for negative numbers. Now that said and made clear, I believe it impossible for us to attempt to explain the unimaginable, without separation and distinction of the two concepts when infinity is brought into the conversation. Infinity, like zero, is a philosophical concept not all that dissimilar to zero, it has a mathematical conceptual basis also, but unlike the philosophical zero ie nothingness, it is given a numerical designation that more accurately relates to it philosophically, even though it is not strictly a number and cannot he used in any tangible calculation, mathematics certainly allows for its philosophical manifestation into mathematical equations.
I see this as a huge conflict, especially as it the very essence of big bang theory ie from nothing came infinity at the moment of the big bang. We surely cannot hope to solve this puzzle if the universe if we are conceptually flawed at he very starting point. 0 and infinity therefore cannot be used together in any calculation because we haven't yet reconciled the two conceptually. How can we look at this differently? How can we navigate passed mathematical dogma a concepts our brains are not capable of truly understanding on a practical level?
These are very tough existential and philosophical problems. So rather than just critise the current order and point out what I see as conflicts, but offer no alternative, may I suggest at least a starting point for discussion and exploration which may be found in the area of fractal science/mathematics. And a good place to focus the beginning of any theoretical discourse, in my opinion would be the work of, amoung others, Mandelbrot and the set named after him, the Mandelbrot Set. I suggest this because it mathematically the most relevant area of a field and is largely avoided by the popular culture's interest in fractals which is largely forcused on aesthetical beauty, particularly popular with the psychedelic subculture which I believe has a place and time to be investigated as a part of the whole discussion, but maybe for now should not be a point of focus in fear of contaminating a sterile discussion with with larger philosophically arguments about what is reality, due to the psychedelic substance insights of those schools. To incorporate any talk of altered states of consciousness, may be counter productive at this time. Hence my Mandelbrot suggestion achieves the mathematical parameters I believe are the best for theoretical mathematical support and cancels out the annoying noise that the fractal science field makes due to its attractiveness to non mainstream pop culture.
The Mandelbrot set is intriguing, not only because of the almost mindblowing graphical capability of AI, for as the Mandelbrot set seen by AI and then visualised for us to see, is nothing short of unbelievably beautiful. It also has an ability to provoke inner hought and discourse without one knowing the subject, topic or reason for the quiet peaceful internal discourse it inspires. I mention this, not because it can directly be incorporated in the radical discussion, but experiencing the astonishlng complexity if its beauty and the way it continues infinitely (or rather as long as it continues to be observed) because if the very self contained nature of the Mandelbrot set. After all, the mandelbrit set is simply a set of numbers, that when placed in the equation, do not spiral out into infinity. The equation value is always >0 or <2. So what as I see as irony, as the set was designed to avoid infinity in a sense, what it actually does is provide us with the best possible conceptualisation, in practice and theory, of a model demonstrating infinity. Even more bizarre is that the technology had only recently become available to show us visually by AI graphing. I'm not sure without the visual stimulus, could we have seen how beautifully fractal science demonstrates its potential unravelling existential and theoretical mysteries. I believe it lends itself perfectly to my proposed theory.
I think so because infinity is difficult for the human mind to grasp, some may say impossible. What is even more difficult for our minds to grasp is infinity of reducted values. Basically, if infinity can exist in an expanding sense, then it is not a stretch of conceptualisation to think it can infinitely get smaller. This breaks no rules of science. Searching for the building block of the universe has been crusade of quantum physicists dating back to the creation of the scientific theory. Much money and effort has been spent in search for smaller and smaller still subatomic particles. What they do is fractal science in its purest form, yet like with the study of Theoretical Astrophysics, quantum science theory is its self hampered by the concept if zero as a number, in my opinion. Even doing the work of factually reducing matter, they are blinded to its possible futility, should fractal reduction does forever decend in to fractal infinity or -ve infinity. For if that is the case, maybe quantum theory is in fact mankind's first exploration, albeit unknowingly, into what may well be a black hole. That is for a later discussion but certainly worth bringing to the attention for the purposes of this discussion.
So if we can accept that -ve infinity is as equally viable and logical as +ve infinity, what room in this discussion is left for the inclusion of zero?
I believe this leaves no room for zero in the same conversation as infinity. I am not suggesting zero should be stricken from mathematics. However I am suggesting that mathematics use of zero may, invalidate is ongoing use as an effective tool for measurement and communication, when the subject is beyond our ability to comprehend. Few people will argue that our 6 senses are significantly lacking the capacity to comprehend cosmological dynamics. Mathematics nothing more than an application of our 6 senses, to make sense of the chaos occurring all around us. Over hundreds and thousands of years, this is the best we have been able to do in terms of calculation and accurate prediction of future occurances. Even the concept of zero is less than 1000 years old. The Romans saw no use in incorporating it into their model, and to this day we wonder at their and other ancient civilisations ability for astonishing accuracy in measurement and prediction. Look at all they, the Egyptians and others managed without using zero in a single calculation. We can also break this down out of our conscious paradigm into nature. Numbers do not exist in nature (that includes the universe). It begs the question of do numbers really exist? Are numbers no more than part of our delusional reality? Who knows, but one thing is for sure, zero certainly doesn't exist anywhere outside of our consciousness. Not even in our own very bodies. How bodies clearly hold a knowledge that hasn't seemed to be passed over to our conscious, aware selves. Even on the smallest scale, without any intervention or guidance from any sort of intelligence, within our cellular membranes. Complex calculations are constantly being carried out. Consider cellular replication for example. In order for a cell to divide successfully, there must be a correct allocation of resources, let's just say primarily energy distribution for the sake of brevity. To split a cell but calculate the energy necessary to simply cary put the force of splitting. It must also calculate how much energy needs to be transfered to the new cell. This calculation must include how much energy for it take to replicate all cellular matter, how much energy is required for both cells to recover from the trauma, and how much energy on top of that, the new cell will require to become mature and begin its own replication. There are multiple complex calculations to be made there, and they then must be combined in to an overall and more complicated calculation again. All of this is done without intelligence and without using numbers ie mathematics. This same process can be observed all the way back to the very first beginning of not just life, but biochemistry in general. So I hope this demonstrates that the universe doesn't exist numerically. There are no rules in the universe. We created rules for our sciences, because if we didn't follow them the sciences would fail at unacceptable percentage of predictions
So we make rules to overcome the shortcomings while waiting for future technologies or fixes. Mathematics and sciences are little more than a carefully ordered tapestry of rules, with too many exeptions for too many rules. We create rules and ideas to assist the conteived & malfunctioning intangible thing to not have to go to all the trouble of finding something that works better. We are just littered with examples through every field. Like 'zero', or Pi, or "bimdas" (brackets, indicies, multiply, division, addition and subtraction. I find this a good example, for not following this exact order of calculations, a correct answer to equation will nev a result) and thousands of others.
No rules exist in nature, it appears to be that it just is, always will be and always has been.
So in summary, given our restrictions on trying to understand the universe, namely intelligence, our 6 limited senses, our arrogance and our mortality, should we narrow the pursuits our restrictions can make us comfortable with? Thisbwilk lead us nowhere.
By abandoning zero as the only accepted scientific approach to the universe, and allowing science to have multiple validating throeries for what is the same problem. The scientific community abhors divergence from dogma and academics are held to ransom with funding or being published, if their ideas are not with acceptable parameters.
But for the sake of this conversation, can we discuss the merits of looking at the big bang without reference to nothing ie zero, but instead +ve and -ve infinity."
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2024.05.22 00:27 FiliaSecunda It seems like I wasn't made for friendship.

I grew up homeschooled, with four siblings in the house but I still spent every minute alone that I could get. Psychologically I might as well be an only child. My mom recently told me she used to think I didn't like her because I never wanted to spend time with her, or anyone. Now that I have a job I keep being surprised at what a drive my coworkers have to talk to each other while they work. But I was an obsessive reader, writer, and daydreamer as a kid - I felt like I got to know authors through their writing, I cried over friendships between fictional characters - and in hindsight I think I did have the same social urge other people have, but for some reason I tried to fulfill it in a distant and imaginary way through stories, while rejecting the real people all around me.
I've always thought people were made for love, but I'm getting so tired of leaving the house and interacting with them. I can see so much in them that would be incredibly lovable if I could just be invisible and observe them, like a reader observing characters in a book. But they talk to me and I have to figure out a response in real time, and with all the noise and my hearing problems and stress and tiredness (but I'm only 25 and single with no kids, so I don't know what real stress and tiredness are), I'm two steps away from shutting down. I wish I could just look at my basic job with tunnel-vision and get through the work day asleep. But it eats away at me when I know someone is working with me who wants to talk, when I know I'm not being receptive enough as a listener, when I know my silence is contagious and silence is miserable for most of the people at my workplace. I'm terrible to be around and once I thought so hard about this that I cried in front of people at work, thus making myself even more terrible to be around.
I recently started working with someone who's not a good worker, but was actually fun for me to talk to. She was goofy, smart, upfront about her life and had some things in common with me. I thought this was a potential friend and I came on too strong. Now I'm embarrassed, think maybe she doesn't actually want someone as lame and awkward as me to keep taking the initiative to talk to her, so I've stopped taking the initiative. I even failed completely to acknowledge her several times today (we're working in different areas now but passed each other by several times). But she's mentioned having no friends, she invited me to friend her on Facebook, maybe she will be perceiving this as a potential cool friendship ruined and wonder why I'm doing it, maybe I'm making her hate herself.
I don't want to have to go to work again and either face her or not face her tomorrow. There are several other coworker relationships that make me want to quit when I think about them. There are perfectly good people that I actually like and yet, without wanting to, I keep acting as though I dislike them.
If I hadn't been homeschooled I would have been through all this in middle school and might have a better idea how to handle it. But I spent too much time alone in a house doing nothing, and I want to go back to that. I want to be forgotten by everyone. I hate showing up at work and in society again and having to be forgiven for whatever fuckup I'll make today. I hate hurting people by being there. I hate the selfish worrying about what they think of me, but I can't stop. I really, really badly want people to like me, but they are so exhausting it makes me want to go live in a hut in the woods.
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2024.05.22 00:27 PrisonerNoP01135809 How to find your partners second phone, or if they even have one.

Poor Sophie, if I knew her IRL I would have given her some advice. I work in tech as a SMS specialist type of software engineer and I have a deep passion for information security when it comes to phones in particular.
We will go through options by cheapest and easiest to the more pricy and invasive.
Step one download a Bluetooth scanner app on your phone. I use these for home security. If someone breaks into my home I’ll know the make, model, age, etc of the phone if Bluetooth is on. These days with the car connect speakerphone, AirPods, etc there’s a huge chance your partners Bluetooth is on. Bing bong gotem.
No Bluetooth dang, that’s ok you can use a background check service like been verified. Now I haven’t done this for Rob, their relationship is none of my business and I never renewed my subscription. All you need is fullname, age, location. There’s a high chance he kept his LA number and got an Austin number. If you know he kept his LA number and an Austin number shows up, super suspicious.
Dang, no luck there, that’s ok you can hire a Private Investigator. I’m of the belief of if it’s gone this far you should just leave the guy. Let’s say you want to do this, a PI has access to software and databases that the average person does not. Usually they are ex cops or ex military personnel. Sometimes they have access to the good ones like LexisNexis. These are pretty in depth down to the Social Security number and all the places you’ve been that are of interest.
I hope she just leaves his ass before she takes these steps.
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2024.05.22 00:27 mollockmatters The National Popular Vote Interstate Compact and Protest Voting in Deep Blue States

Greetings, Protestors! I’m making this post not to discuss any of the topics yall would like to protest. Nope. I’m here to talk about the National Popular Vote Interstate Compact, which is an agreement between 15 BLUE states that awards their electoral college votes to the winner of the NATIONAL popular vote.
209 of the 270 EC votes needed to win are a part of this compact. Aka that’s 209 blue state EC votes. Meaning, if someone besides a Democrat wins the NATIONAL popular vote, any Democrat will lose in a landslide. It’s got fuck all to do with the swing states.
Kennedy is currently polling 15%, Trump 42% and Biden 39%. Without even looking into the nitty gritty of an election if it were to take place today, the democrats will lose and we will have an Orange fascist dictator for president.
Can you imagine how insufferable the MAGAs are going to be when Trump wins California over this bullshit?
Don’t protest vote in the general. You’ll be learning a whole new meaning to “moral responsibility” when Project 2025 is being implemented and you’re being shuttled into your designated cattle car.
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2024.05.22 00:26 btosa I wish I could stop talking for the rest of my life

Pretty much the title. I remember when I was 10yrs old being on a roadtrip with my best friend’s family. I was telling a story (my stories are known to be quite long) and her dad turned up the music. I started to talk louder. He responded to part of my story by saying “no way, really? tell me more!” but proceeded to turn the volume higher. Everyone in the car laughed, but I hadn’t realized they were making fun of me, so I took him literally and continued to talk even louder till the whole car was dying with laughter. I thought maybe they found my story funny. I still hadn’t realized they were laughing at me until my friend explained that he was trying to get me to shut up.
This was ages ago, but I think about it often as an adult. I find myself telling a story or explaining a book or podcast or something I’ve recently learned about and wanted to share, but then I realize no one is listening and no one cares. Friends and family make jokes that they can put the phone down for 30 minutes and I’ll still be talking. They make jokes about how detailed I am or how I can’t take a hint when people don’t care. I feel like I’m constantly wasting breath on sharing parts of my life with people when no one actually means it when they ask about those things. Or maybe they do and I just don’t know how to give concise answers. Either way, it’s just exhausting and I often find myself going mute because of it. But the moment I’m surrounded by people and I don’t have anything to say or contribute to their conversations, everyone asks what’s wrong or says the world must be ending if I’m not talking. It’s just embarrassing and depressing and I wish I wasn’t this way. It’s killing my spirit.
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2024.05.22 00:25 KhaoticKooper AITAH for being in my feelings because my BF is catering to others and cutting our time together short because of it.

My BF and I are in a LDR, and yes I'm on my throwaway. When we are able to see each other it is only for a few days. I have 3 elementary school aged kids and he has 1 infant, we both share 50/50 with our ex's, and have our kids opposite weekends, so that is how we work it. I also have pets and a small business so driving to him is sometimes much harder. He usually comes here. We live 8 hours apart from each other. Anyway, this weekend is our anniversary weekend. He was suppose to be here from Thurs-Mon morning because he has to get his son from the babysitter at 4pm on Monday. He tells me today that the babysitter has asked for Monday off. Whenever the babysitter is sick, needs a day off, or something happens - like car troubles, it's always left up to him to pick up his son and figure the day out, his schedule is more flexible, but sometimes he feels like he is being taken advantage of because he always picks up the extra slack without any concern for his time or schedule - which is true. Anyway, that is beside the point. So, babysitter says she wants Monday off, and of course it is up to him to figure something out for that day. He says fine. He tells me he'll have to leave Sunday now instead of Monday morning. This hurts and upsets me because 1 - we don't have much time together as it is, 3 days every 2-3 months. This is my first LDR and lately I've been struggling a bit with how lonesome it can sometimes get. Anway, I personally think he should tell the babysitter who is suppose to watch the child M-F 7-4pm and is paid for those days....sorry, I can't, I have plans, you'll need to watch him as scheduled. But he tries "to keep the peace" with his BM and to do this he just says yes to whatever is needed of him. I tell him that I'm hurt by this because I feel as if though our time is being put off because he is making sure everyone else is not inconvenienced in any way and the babysitter gets this day off that she now wants. But what about our time? I just feel like my feelings are not taken into consideration at all when stuff like this happens because he is too busy "keeping the peace" and catering to others so that others do not get upset with him (his BM and family). He tells me I'm just focusing on the negative, I'm not even taking into consideration that he is driving 8 hours here so we can spend time together and since I am just focusing on the negative that makes him feel defeated and hurt. I tell him I'm not trying to focus on the negative, but this kind of stuff hurts. It feels as if though he always tip toes around others feelings and forgetting about mine while doing that. It's like a few months ago when I told him it's kind of hurtful that we are not connected on social media at all - and for the record we were "friends" on FB for a short period but I deleted him because I didn't want to feel like I couldn't post anything or had to be careful with anything I did on social media in order not to hurt anyones feelings. He says he doesn't want to shove our relationship in anyone's face and once again - trying to keep the peace with his BM. But here my feelings are once again just kind of left out there hanging. So, AITAH here??? Am I being too damn sensitive about him having to now leave early so babysitter can have day off and it is left up to him to figure that whole thing out? Like I get the whole working with the other parent and kids...but I would 100% in this case tell my babysitter that they cannot have the day off, and I would also make sure if things were happening like this, that my BD was also making sacrafices in his schedule and life, and it wasn't just me all of the time. But who knows maybe I'm just an AH.
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2024.05.22 00:25 bulbasauric Was anyone else wildly frustrated by this movie?

Just out of The Strangers: Chapter 1, and I either need validation/vindication, or to be convinced that I'm wrong (and I'm open to that, by all means).

I'd avoided delving too deep into any backstory of this film. Initially I'd thought this was going to be a prequel-series of films, given how Prey at Night ended (two killers dead, one almost certainly dead). So I went in with my back up, as you always should with a horror prequel, or indeed series - what's the actual risk to the villains if they'll allegedly appear in the future (be that the in-universe future, or a future film)?
Within the first few minutes, our lead lady is using a smartphone/Google Maps, and shortly thereafter an AirBNB is mentioned. So we're in present-day, and it's not a prequel - that's fine.
Once we meet The Strangers, The Man in the Mask showed no burns or signs of injury from the previous film, and is wearing significantly different clothing than he usually would. Pin Up Girl and Dollface were hella dead by the end of that film. With all of this said, I'm to believe we have a new trio of killers donning the masks, right? Great.
And yet, it all felt wasted. Nothing new, nothing interesting happened.
Our lead characters were not especially likeable. The dialogue in the car was pretty forced and expository, and they just felt very generic. They looked great and I've no problem with the actors, but feel they weren't given much to do.
In fact, nobody is very likeable in this film. The okayest-character was the girl in the diner who gave them a lift to the house, and even that was probably part of the killers' setup.
Everyone in town... was just downright awful, for no apparent reason. Sneering because the central couple come from the city. Literally making multiple "Huh, she's a VEGETARIAN?" jokes - seriously, was this film written in 2002 and mildly modernized, or something? What the hell are we doing here?!
Our lead characters were also just not smart. Examples:
As I watched, I thought "Okay, chill - it's not as if they know they're in a horror movie. People get jittery and make mistakes when under duress". But I think nowadays, horror movies in general have just surpassed this kinda stuff. They don't - shouldn't - get a free pass for characters being outright stupid, just to make plot happen. Especially when they're the ONLY characters we're following for the whole film. If you wanna introduce a dopey hyuck friend for some death fodder, go right ahead. But it's asking a bit too much nowadays to root for a character who makes stupid choices for just no good reason.
I'm no expert, but I do love my horror movies, and after the direction Prey at Night took, I just expected... more. This was very much a paint-by-numbers horror movie, and it really did come off as a weak copy of the first film. The fact that Maya survives was.. something different. But now it means we'll be following her through the next film. I find this more worrying than interesting, because it may mean there's going to be some contrived revenge plot, when really I want to see more of the killers, and I want to see them get killed.
There are just few things more frustrating than a film series providing more questions and no answers, all in the name of cranking out more of them. All we know - all we can suppose - is that there are three new people wearing these masks. That's all. And for the third film in a franchise - whether it's starting its own story arc or not - that's not good enough for me.
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2024.05.22 00:24 GlitteringEvening713 Advise for New Managers

Here is what I have learned the hard way. I went through the MIT program got bounced from one shit show to another with out going and incoming managers. Piece of advice, if you can hire your own ASM make sure they are loyal to you and not the outgoing manager. R.N I am dealing with an ASM that is personal friends with the outgoing manager and is reporting every little thing I do or make a mistake on to the manager who left. It is hard for outgoing managers to give up control. Also the backstabbing when ASMs/MITs are competing for a store is real. I am the first ASM to go through the MIT program in my market and it has been eye opening. Another thing an outgoing managers crew will tell on you to HR, their old manager etc. Be prepared to keep your mouth shut, follow all policy’s to the letter and do not trust anyone until they have proven themselves to you even then be very careful. Any change you make coming into a new store that is different from what they are use to will cause a lot of bellyaching, whining, telling, etc. To my fellow colleagues out there, for gods sake support the new incoming manager and redirect your old employees to their new manager and don’t undermine the new manager and if their new employees (your old crew) is talking shit let the new manager know and show them how to fix it! Being a new manager in a different store or being new at all is tough. Don’t join the gossip and cause more heartache than necessary and also offer to help. New managers need time and patience from their colleagues. It’s supposed to be a team. I do not wish my market and sadly my colleagues on anyone. I intend to never treat a new manager the way I have been and at times continue to be treated.
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2024.05.22 00:24 Strawbabyc Don't even know anymore

I have absolutely no idea what to do. I have nobody to rely on. I don't know what to do. I am 19f. My life is a complete shit show. I was bullied not only emotionally but physically throughout my childhood, primarily due to being neurodivergent, though I didn't know that at the time, just thought I was "weird" and nobody liked me despite being a kind kid. I was obsesssed with early childhood education, reading books by Maria Montessori and writing teaching philosophy statements at the age of 8. I was paralyzed for about a year at the age of 11 and suffered severe medical trauma in the hospital as well. I felt my autonomy was stripped away from me and various professionals there, looking back, were abusive and negligent. There in the hospital I remember wanting to die for the first time. When I got out, the bullying just got worse because now I had the whole being-in-a-wheelchair-thing going against me too. I ended up doing stupid shit to impress my peers and try to make friends, which just meant that I was constantly getting into trouble as a younger teen, which didn't help my mental health. I tried to kill myself at 13. My mom slapped me in the face while I was bleeding from my wrists and told me I was going to ruin her reputation and that I couldn't go to the hospital. I really needed stitches, I still have very visible scars from that day. She sewed holes in some long sleeved shirts for me to put my thumbs through to hide my arms at school and told me not to tell anyone. Things were never the same between me and my parents. I began at 14 seeking validation from adult men online. It was stupid and reckless, but it helped in the moment. I was kidnapped a week before I was supposed to start high school by a 33 year old man. He drove me to a different state 500 miles away, raped me, and tried to strangle me to death before police came. They treated me like a suspect and handcuffed me and made me sit in a cold car for 3 hours in the middle of the night. There was an amber alert sent out all over. I was put in a psych ward for about a week and then began 9th grade at a new school as "the girl from the amber alert" to everyone around me. Everyone was talking about it and asking for specifics and making jokes about what happened to me. It also made me a target for older boys who thought it was evidence that I was easy to manipulate. One of them ended up being the reason I had to leave school a month later. I did online school with my now emotionally abusive parents for several months before starting at a new school. But then, covid shut everything down again, and it was all taken away from me. My mental health was terrible and my parents opted for an unhelpful tough love approach. I became very hypersexual due to my trauma, which ended in me being assaulted more times than one. My parents blamed me and began to resent me, their words not mine. I entered a long term relationship at 16 with a boy I truly loved, we will call him K. K got me pregnant and I wanted to keep it, but my parents forced me to get an abortion with illegal drugs. It was traumatizing and I spiraled. A mentor figure who was a family friend betrayed me horribly. K got me pregnant again. I was on birth control, though everyone believes it was intentional, it was not. My parents said I could either get an abortion or leave home, so I moved out at 17. I got my shit together. For a while, things were good. I got an associates degree incredibly quickly and began a successful career in early childhood education as I had always dreamed. I worked my way up to a lead teacher at 18 and loved it. K and I were so happy. He proposed. The kind of true love most people never get to experience. Most of my peers drifted away during my pregnancy. I didn't care, I had K, my unborn baby, and my job. Then, while in labor, I found out K was cheating on me the entire time. I forgave him and we tried again, though I was postpartum and heartbroken. I stayed home with my newborn son while he worked, or so I thought. Really, he got fired or never went to every job I thought he had. He would drive there and turn his data off so his location was set there all day. He would stage pictures and talk about work. Really he was cheating, doing drugs, and playing video games while I was at home with our baby. His anger issues got worse and he'd get violent but not to the extent that I couldn't justify it to myself. His whole family knew. The cycle of him being caught and apologizing profusely and then doing it again went on for a while before he said that he needed to get out of his house where his cheater DV father was impeding his progress in getting better. I love him. It made sense, his dad was clearly where the behavior stemmed from. I left my housing program to get him out and we all 3 lived in hotels for a few months. I had to sell my body to afford a place for us to live. I was working full time as a lead teacher it just wasn't enough. He still couldn't keep a job but he wasn't lying or cheating. I got us a nice apartment all on my own. Things were good for a while. His anger issues would flair up at times but not as bad, and no lying or infidelity. We had so many heart to hearts. We got married. I did great at my job. He started doordashing for income. Things were going well. Then 6 months into our marriage, about 9 months after we moved out/7 months after we got our apartment, he sprung on me that he wanted a divorce. That was about 7 months ago now. We have been living together and I have been hoping to rebuild. In his vows, he swore so sincerely and in such great heartfelt detail to do better and be better and stand by me. And then he just through it all away. He has been so mean lately. Sometimes things are okay and it's like everything is the same. But he thinks I don't clean enough even though I try and he says I don't support him emotionally even though I really feel like I do. I also pay for everything, I even bought him an 800 dollar PC a couple months ago. I got really sick a month ago. Like vomiting 10+ times a day. I thought I had a stomach bug and didn't have money to go to the doctor over something so trivial that would clear up on its own. I made too much for medicaid but still not a lot. After only 4 days of being gone and feeling like shit, my work fired me. After another week or so of feeling sick and getting so weak I thought I was dying, I went to the hospital. They said all the vomiting had made me very dehydrated and I was lacking in a lot of vitamins. They gave me medicine and an IV. Turns out I'm pregnant and have HG. I'm pretty far along. At first K was supportive but now he acts like I'm trying to "trap" him with a baby, which doesn't even make sense. We were having unprotected sex and the only birth control was that I am breastfeeding, which he knew, so it isn't that crazy of an outcome. He has been so cruel and angry, saying terrible things. He threatens to leave when he gets mad so I beg him to stay because he knows I'd be all alone and I love him a lot. He has said some terribly cruel things and it's like every tiny thing I do wrong makes me the villain. Yesterday he blew up on me and it was scary and terrible. Today, I found out the few friends I thought I had hate me. One of them sent me the most cruel message I have ever received completely unprompted. I have no family support, no friends, my husband hates me, and everyone I've ever cared about except my son (who is different because he's too young to understand and he loves everyone and he is also a responsibility) wants nothing to do with me unless they are using me. I am so suicidal. I know a lot of people are suicidal but I am genuinely at a point where I am close to doing something I can't take back. But I can't because of my kids, both the 1 year old and the unborn one. And as much as I know I should be grateful for that, it feels so unfair. I've been having to do things I don't want to for money again. I have another great teaching job lined up but I don't start for at least a month. I feel like I should go to a hospital but I live in a state with a very high child removal rate even in cases of just mental health. I am a great mom, even though my husband and ex friends do not seem to agree. I can't risk having my fitness as a parent called into question over an unrelated mental health issue, especially since K's family and lots of people in my life would love the chance to lie about me to cps, and since I'm not employed right now, it doesn't look great. I don't know what to do. I feel so alone. I'm so so hurt. It feels like everything is falling apart. Not that long ago, I was a lead teacher, a wife, I felt like a respected and respectable person. Now I just feel like my train wreck of a life full of trauma has taunted me with this perfect picket fence life that I worked so hard for just to rip it away from me and leave me a useless unemployed incubator that everyone hates and is only holding on for her kids sake. The only people who talk to me or "care" just want to fuck me. Even the people interested in a relationship with me and seem like "good Christian men" are still driven by lust even if they disguise it to themselves. I have never felt so hopeless. I feel like I don't deserve this but everyone from my partner to my parents to my ex friends seem to think I do so maybe I'm just fooling myself.
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2024.05.22 00:24 BatGroundbreaking660 TIFU by nearly framing myself for hitting another car

I was driving back home with my mother after getting groceries from the local Walmart. We live in an apartment complex so we normally park our car inside of the multi story parking garage provided. On this particular day I decided to go for a parking which had a car on either side.
I tried to enter the parking space forward but both cars were really close to the white line so I ended up being really close to hitting the car on the right on the way in. Personally, I thought I was in the clear but my mom thought I was going to hit the car.
This argument caused me to offer to go outside of the car and check because I was pretty certain that I was safe. I opened the door and walked around the car to the right side and along the way I saw a guy in a car watching me. I didn’t think anything of it and continue to make my way to the other side. Once I get there, I see that I would have in fact hit the other car if I went along the path I would’ve taken originally.
Before I return back to correct my mistake I notice something. The car on my right already has an injury and coincidentally, right where I would have hit it. I go back to the driving seat and proceed to properly park the car while I think about the chances of that happening.
Once we get out of the car and head to the connecting door to the apartment, I notice the man in the car has a shocked look and that he also started to take photos. That’s when I realized how suspicious that all looked. He came out of his car and told me that I can’t just hit a car and walk away. I then explain to him that I actually didn’t hit the car because the front of my car is intact. Luckily, he believes me.
TL;DR: Looking at a car to check if you were going to hit may cause people to believe you actually did.
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2024.05.22 00:23 hunterfuse Car AC making weird noise around blower motor

2020 Chevy Spark 1.4L 4cyl
I’ll try to upload a video of the noise, it’s not letting me right now for some reason. Title sums it up. Weird noise coming from around the blower motor by passenger feet. The noise only shows up after driving for a while. I havent heard it at all after a cold start. Usually towards the end of the day after driving for a while. Only way to describe it is that it sounds like a plastic bag in the wind. No knocking, whirring, or anything like that. Once the noise starts, AC still blows cool but it gets less and less cool as it goes. I usually have the AC on the first speed setting, circulation on.
I’ve changed the cabin filter and looked at the blower to see if anything is stuck but I dont see anything. Added refrigerant and it seemed to go away for a few days but its doing it again. Engine isnt overheating or anything
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2024.05.22 00:23 JustAnAnon87348 My older Sister is NC with our parents and I am trapped in the middle between them.

I 24F have an older sister 27F who has been NC with our parents since April 2023, I have limited communication with her as she is mentally unwell (we are both on antidepressants etc) and regularly have calls with my parents every few days. The final straw for my sister was an argument in April 2023 sparked by my dad misgendering and deadnaming after I came out to them as being a male-to-female trans woman at that shortly before and afterwards my sister went into limited and then no contact with them.
Though this was the final straw for her there were obviously a lot of things before that happened to eitheor both of us and my sister has in length explained this to them. Emotional manipulation such as guilt, shaming, calling her a bad older sister to me and that one day I would stop forgiving her, that my parents would leave her (fear of abandonment was the main way we were controlled and disciplined).
Couple of examples: 1: from 2005 to 2008 we were taken out of school so our parents could travel parts of the world with us and during this time we were homeschooled and had little interaction with other kids our age assuming they even spoke English, one day my sister (age 9) refused to do her schoolwork they’d set so my dad after shouting at her threw her passport at her and told her they’d just send her back home to live with our grandmother till they came back in two years. 2: My sister’s first memory as an infant is refusing to sit still in her booster seat in the car so my dad took her out, put her on the pavement and drove round the corner out of sight for a few minutes to scare her into behaving. (My dad has talked about these with me and how he has asked other parents opinions and they’ve all said this wasn’t anything bad, there are plenty more examples)
3: When I was 6 and misbehaved (I threw a pebble at a dog and I am obviously ashamed) my dad went ballistic and threatened to leave me behind when they leave for their next destination). 4: when I was 13 and talked back at my mum (I was being a moody kid with a bad attitude) he came into my room when I was asleep to tell me if he had to choose between me and my mum he’d “pick her”.
Honestly we were taught to never approach them for anything or to say when there was a problem as we were scared of him getting angry.
It’s difficult for me as I love my sister and see her as the only true family I have in the traditional sense yet she never really talks to me (I understand and accept it’s hard for her but obviously it makes me feel alone) and still have regular conversations and dependant on them financially till I graduate from my degree next year. I still love them because some part of me always will I feel but I can never forgive them and at least till Im Independant can not confront them as I’m reliant on them and also don’t want to see them hurt more than they already do (My mum is likely also going to be starting antidepressants in the next couple weeks).
I guess I just feel kind of stranded in no mans land, I love my parents despite my dad being abusive and manipulative and my mum an enabler and don't want to see them hurting but I also can't forgive them for how much they've damaged me and my sister but I am dependant on them and if I am being honest their massive financial support during my degree. I love my sister and absolutely support her choice of NC with them and acknowledge she needs distance but at times feel resentful that the one person I can call family has seemingly abandoned me to them and I feel guilty for feeling that way.
This ended up being more of a rant and getting to speak these thoughts somewhere rather than keeping them to myself.
If you read this then thanks, and if you didn't then I don't blame you it got pretty longwinded.
tldr: I simulatenously hate/love my parents and support/resent my sister for leaving me alone with them.
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2024.05.22 00:23 when_in_doubt__doubt One of my closest friends and coworkers tried to assault me at her party.

On Saturday, my (F/NB23) very close friend and coworker Hannah (F24) and her boyfriend Chris (M24) threw a late Cinco de Mayo party for a few of our coworkers and some of the girlfriends. There were 10 of us in total.
I was at the party from 7pm to 1am but the party lasted until 2am. Very important detail: I do not drink, and I was the only sober one. We've had plenty of parties before where I was the only sober one and we've never had any problems. Hannah was more trashed than normal this time though. When she's only drunk, Hannah is mostly herself but more goofy and loud. I learned on Saturday that when she is trashed, she's a completely different person. She is pushy, aggressive, and gets angry.
I'll do my best to properly paint the picture. We were all in the kitchen. 4 people were playing pong on the island, everyone else spectating. I was tucked in the corner of the counter, as in my ass was tucked in the L shape the counter makes. I was taking tons of pictures throughout the night, so I can easily recollect a lot of these details. At some point, Hannah turns around to talk to me. She puts her left arm on my right shoulder, pins me in the L-shape crook of the counter and presses herself against me. Immediately, she goes in for a kiss. I lean back, tell her no, and try to nicely get her off of me. Then she gets mad. Hannah says "What the hell!? My best friend and I make out all the time when we're drunk. Gimme a kiss," and immediately goes for it again. At that point, I push her off of me and walk to the other side of the apartment. In the moment, I was just like "that was weird as hell," but the more I thought about it, the worse I felt. All of this was right next to her boyfriend, and he didn't even react. Hannah left me alone after that.
Something I don't open up to a lot of people about is how many times I've been assaulted in my life. This is a bit out of character because I am such an open person about literally anything else. I cried to my mom about this today (the following Tuesday) and then admitted that I had been assaulted a lot previously. I'm very close to my mom and I didn't even tell her about any of these previous assaults. I feel like I have to make this distinction even though I really don't, but I have never been raped. I have been touched, held, groped, pinned, and other very traumatic things. Hannah was aware that I have been assaulted before but nothing more.
What Hannah had done was something my first boyfriend, Andrew, did to me a lot in our very short 2 months together. The first time he tried to kiss me, he grabbed my face and went in for it while we were in the car. I had to grab his face and shove him away. (Don't ask me why I still dated him, I have no idea either.) He tried to fuck me in the car on another occasion by climbing on top of me. He pinned me down onto a fallen tree in the woods and touched me and kissed me. He ...you get the point. Andrew was not the first nor last person to assault me.
What's destroying me the most is that she was the closest and basically only friend I have in this area. We all work in an office together, and I literally couldn't go to work today out of fear of seeing her (she was out yesterday). Hannah has an important interview tomorrow morning, then afterwards I'm going to tell her that I need space and our relationship needs to stay purely professional now. I can almost guarantee you she doesn't remember this occurring because she was so drunk. I asked two other people and they don't remember either.
Tldr; My coworker and close friend tried to assault me while very drunk (and I sober) at a party next to her boyfriend. Now, I have to face her about it and ask for space.
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2024.05.22 00:21 TurdFurguson33 Air handler makes noise when stopping

Air handler makes noise when stopping
What could it be? It occasionally happens at the end of the cycle.
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2024.05.22 00:21 banditsandvagabonds Introducing new cat to current cat, need advice on how to proceed!

My family and I rescued an orphaned kitten a year ago and raised him and bottle fed him his whole life. His name is Blu, and he just turned 1. We decided we wanted to get Blu a friend at this point, so we adopted another cat (around 1.5 years old, named Ivy) who was a stray in a cat colony for her whole life before being brought to the shelter and had her stay with me and my brothers in our apartment during college for the last month so she could get used to us before moving back home (and taking her with us) to introduce her to Blu and her official home.
We have been keeping her in my room, separate from Blu, for two days without them seeing each other. We have been swapping food bowls and blankets and toys, and there has been no signs of them not liking one another's scents. Just yesterday we decided to crack the door open and try to feed them where they could see each other. Overall it went well, but Blu kept getting closer to smell her and Ivy raised her paw up in warning so we decided to shut the door before anything bad could happen. Today we did the same thing and it went well, but I think we pushed it more than we should've. We let Ivy out of the room to explore the rest of the house and didn't put Blu in a separate room. They kept smelling each other and at first everything seemed fine, but after around 10 minutes, Blu got closer to her face to smell her again and Ivy swatted him in the face. So we brought her back to the room alone and pet her and gave her treats (same thing with Blu), and tried letting her out again. Same thing happened, they were fine with each other (though Blu seemed more cautious now), we gave them treats near one another, and then when Blu crossed her path, she hissed at him and he got really scared, so we brought her back to her room and gave her treats and pets again. We think it's best to keep her in the room for the rest of the day, but I am unsure what to do next or if we messed up by going to fast.
Blu is a very sweet, docile, submissive cat. He has never hissed or brought his claws out in anger, he doesn't even meow or make other noises. He just loves to be cuddled and held and is curious about other cats. Ivy is also very sweet, but she was a stray for most of her life and definitely has more "cat instincts" than him, so I'm worried he might unknowingly be encroaching on her space too much without being aware of it. But I'm also worried that being hissed or swatted at could cause him to fear her, and we really don't want that.
What should we do next? How long should Ivy be kept in a separate room, and is there something else we should be doing to introduce them?
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2024.05.22 00:21 Honest_Alps_509 Should I (22F) leave my partner (24M)?

Should I leave my partner? I’ll try to shorten it. I lived with my partner and his mom. I went three hours away to visit my sons for a few weeks. While I was away, his mother accused me of trying to cancel my phone line and her phone line…which didn’t make sense because I actively used my phone number (we all shared a phone plan). She was saying she could prosecute me and such (fraud). She was saying I used her name and such, when in reality I didn’t because the owner of the lines have a code and I truly don’t know it. I had Verizon customer service confirm that I didn’t call in and there was no record of it. She kept insisting that I did when I gave proof. Once she told me she could prosecute me, I immediately started looking for lawyers because she was not about to pin this on me when I truly did nothing and she got upset that I wanted a lawyer and sent me a long message saying she doesn’t care if she never sees me again. I was a bit confused as to why she was being this way toward me. I was waiting for days for my partner to come and get me (they were down to one car since he had an accident in his mom’s car, but they were using his at the time). My partner kept trying to make it seem like he was going to get me but he wasn’t sure at the same time because of how his mom was acting. I struggle with mental health as I tried to take my life earlier in the year. She ridiculed me about that when she got upset at me one day (earlier in the year when I lived with her). She told me my attempts were just ways to try to manipulate her son and said I treat her son badly because of that and said that I couldn’t come back because of that. That sent me into a spiral because then I was already struggling with my mental health so it made my anxiety pretty bad so after being accused of something such as that, then having his mom speak to me in a ruthless manner, and then just finding out I couldn’t come back (which was a wrongful eviction) sent me into a mental spiral to where I had a mental snap and tried to take my life again. I ended up being admitted in May of this heat and come to find out I was misdiagnosed and put on the wrong medication which explained a lot. The thing is, while i was inpatient in the state I was visiting my sons in…him, his mom, and his brother dropped off all my things to my children’s grandparents house. Come to find out my children’s grandmother was texting my partners mom and that’s how my stuff ended up being dropped off. The grandma tried to make it seem like they all of a sudden showed up but I came to find out it was a mutual effort thing. The thing is my partners mom tried to have my children’s grandparents lie and tell me that they went to go get my stuff and that my partner wasn’t there when the stuff was being dropped off. The grandparents didn’t want to lie to me and just told me the truth, so I asked my partner about it and he denied it while I was in the ward and even days after. It took me telling him I have a ring camera footage of him to finally admit that he was there. He said that he tried his hardest to beg his mom to let me stay but she refused. He watched my stuff be packed, helped unloaded my things and such. He tried to tell me that he didn’t tell me because he was scared I’d hurt myself again if I found out he was apart of it all because it wasn’t the image he was trying to give. Fast forward, I’m doing a lot better now. I’m on good medication and am now working as a blue collar woman. He doesn’t work at the moment but he wants to get a place together where I’m at. He said he was going to get a job to help contribute to things. I’ve been sending him money and jumpstarting the process of getting the place. He wants to get married within the next few months but I don’t know. Was he wrong for not telling me? Am I being manipulated? Should I drop him? Should I cut it off because he’s still going to be tied to his mom? What would you do? 🥺
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2024.05.22 00:20 iagonosi Visiting friends and they have Cocomelon on nonstop.

I'm visiting my good friend from highschool who has kids the same age as mine (4, 2). But he's working. His wife is a stay at home mom who just puts on Cocomelon on non stop. Of course I can't keep my kids away. When I try to get my 4 yo to do something else she's a zombie or throws the biggest tantrum. She's been whining all week because I'm not letting her watch TV or because my friends 4 yo gets to watch TV when I make her do anything else. It's driving both my wife and I mad...but they are friends and letting us stay with them...so I guess this is just a rant. I just don't get why they need the TV on non stop.
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2024.05.22 00:20 Such-Wear-3651 What’s wrong with Cash? A Q and mini rant

If they think it’s ill begotten, I have no problem using a check….
I have 25k and its own bank account for a used truck. Looking online, everyone from NerdWallet to consumer reports is telling me not to use cash to buy this car. Why should I take out if my credit score is the best they can offer me is 7% and I will not be able to get the same car because 25 grand is a lot less when you think about 10% interest or around there for however many months. I had thought that if I paid in cash that I would get a better deal then if I was to make payments but that does not seem to be the case as dealerships are now incentivized to Leases or monthly payments as they get a piece of the pie.
I buy a car from a person who is selling their car? If so, it’s not like they have auto trader magazines sitting at every train station auto shop and supermarket anymore. How do I find someone who has the kind of car that I want (Tacoma) with <70k mi on it that has not been in a major accident? When you buy a car from an individual, do they let you take it somewhere to get it looked at to make sure that the body is sound and that no major parts are going to give out soon (i.e. my first car ever, a 1990 Daytona, that needed a new alternator about a month after I spent every cent I had saved up on it and then tended to stall each time i turned left). PA does have great lemon laws, I’m not so much worried about that, I just don’t want to settle or be forced to take out a loan i don’t need.
Here is my rant. money in the US is messed up these days. They need to figure something out at the Treasury Dept, the mint, or wherever. I would say the average person with a college education that I know makes around, after taxes, 45 to 55 grand a year. And I was born in 1981. When you go to ATM, you are allowed to take out $400 at a time. This is the same amount that I was allowed to take out of an ATM when I first started drinking which was 2002. One year before that I was making $5.25 an hour minimum wage in 2001 and now in the same state minimum wage is two dollars more.. in 2001 I had an apartment that is comfortable to the apartment I live in now and I paid for a two bedroom my half which was $375 a month. I now pay my half which is over $1500 a month. The first place included utilities, and the new place does not. A new car around that time if I wanted to say a Camry was about 16 to 18 grand. It’s now over twice that. I don’t know what year I bought my razr phone or my blackberry but I do know that since I was with Verizon every two years I got a free upgrade on that I wanted, so a new phone every two years. Movies were seven bucks and matinees were for I haven’t been to one lately, but I think they’re around 20 something. Concerts 12 bucks, not 150. A pair of jeans was 3 to 4 times less than it is now and lasted maybe 10 times as long. As did every other article of clothing, which you can see from the amount of people who are selling their clothes from the 90s and 00s online these days and throwing away new clothes within 6 months. My first used car was bought in 1998, was 8 years old, 30k miles, and $5k. The average salary of recently graduated (not 20 years later likeI spoke of earlier) college educated people in 2000? $50k. Average price of a used Toyota Tacoma made in the past 10 years with less than 50k miles? $35k.
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