Making pictures with points on a graph

I'm in my 30s. For my entire early career I was focused on a specific field and even got a degree in it. Fresh out of college I went into my field and did fairly well, even accomplishing major certifications in it.
About 3 years ago, I joined a major tech company. The pay is great, and benefits are definitely nice (RSUs as well). After about 2 yrs into the job, I applied for a promotion because my current manager at the time saw how well I was doing. I received stellar reviews from my peers/stakeholders and had metrics to back everything up. My manager was in conversation with the director and there were talks about promoting me to the next level up for my role.
Around 2023 when my promotion was supposed to get processed for my role, the company shifted and started conducting "re-orgs". In short, my job title was literally dissolved overnight and the only other option was to leave the company or transfer to a completely different role. I decided to stick it out but this lateral position is a PM role and I have literally zero experience in PM.
It didn't help that my promo got approved at roughly the same time so instead of getting promoted into the senior position for my previous role, I got promoted to a Sr. PM role in my new position all in one full sweep. I know, first world problems. But now I'm royally fucked because I'm expected to act and behave and know everything a Sr. PM does. I'm beholden to those high level of expectations and results. If that didn't make things bad enough, I get a brand new manager who puts massive pressure on me to do well.
After about a year I start to understand what a PM does but the waters are still muddy and each 1:1 with my manager is nothing but him telling me I needa do better and I'm slowly getting more demoralized to the point I wish I was part of the layoffs. I keep trying to do well and learn everything about what PMs do but it is just too much to learn especially since I'm a Sr. PM and most Sr. PMs have like 5-10 years of experience in this field easily where as I have struggling to my 1 year. I wonder how many of you are in same or similar situation and what did you do? I'd prob quit and find a new job but the market SUCKS and the pay is too good.
tl;dr - Spent most of my career in a specific field. Company lays everyone off, and does a re-org shift resulting in me transferring into a completely foreign position (that I have zero experience in). To make things worse, I was in the process of getting promoted (due to my stellar performance in prev role) and it went through right as I switched to this new role, essentially causing me to be in a Sr. position in said new role instantly. And expectations are extremely high. I'm unable to perform well, feeling demoralized and lost, and wondering if I should just quit but the pay is too good, and job market conditions are super bad. IDK if I should just stick it through.

I have had an anxiety for the past couple of years and what’s worse is that last year I developed health anxiety to the point where I thought a lot of things were wrong with me and I ended up in the ER a couple of times thinking that I had a heart attack. At the end of last year my husband and I went to a trip abroad for a couple of weeks and we ended up getting sick and my anxiety kicked up to 1000% I was getting all sorts of symptoms on top of having a cold but I was feeling lightheaded and feeling like I would pass out, but it was just I think my anxiety. It got so bad that I ended up in an Italian ER. I wanted to go to Europe so bad and in the trip I wish that we were going home sooner. It makes me sad even thinking about it now I didn’t really get to enjoy my vacation. Once we returned home, I was treated for possible sinusitis and my doctor told me that it was probably nothing and I think that’s the worst thing to hear. Fast forward to Sunday, I start feeling this lightheadedness/dizziness again and it’s a very familiar feeling to what I felt when we were abroad. And to top it all off, we are going on vacation in a couple of days to Seattle/Alaska. I love traveling, and if this is something new I have to deal with I don’t know what to do. I have made an appointment for myself to go see the doctor to have some peace of mind for the trip tomorrow and I’ll see how it goes. Any tips?

Wrongfully kicked out of Taco Bell
Celebrating my son’s birthday and graduation on Friday night so we decided to bring the family over to Taco Bell which we go to all the time and bring lots of business and overall a family vibe. It was my weekend with the kids and he was graduating 5th grade heading to middle school next year and I’m super proud of him. We were going to grab some food to go, and head over to watch the new Planet Apes movie.
That was all until today they decided to get snippy with my family and speak down to my mother when we made a simple request. We were aware we had a bigger order coming thru, and first we gave them a call on our way over and let them know we would be coming inside to avoid clogging the drive thru line even tho that would be preferred by they screamed at us one time for waiting in the line with a big party so we decieded to play there rules tho even that didn’t seem to be enough. We then came inside and ordered for 17 of us (some of my crew members from BBTGG rolled with) , which I can understand being a lot of people but they weren’t busy at all and had plenty of staff working. Lots of young kids super excited and we were showing them the ropes on how to bring food in to theater. Much more affordable overall than concessions and drinks sodas candy hotdogs slushees nachos all that BS they overcharge for at theaters. We ordered $290 worth of food and sodas (keep in mind we filled the sodas up ourselves) but we let them know we completely understood if it would take some time.
Out of the order, only 40% of it contained special requests. My son and I prefer extra onions while my mom enjoys extra tomatoes and beans on her burritos. A few other modifications with quesadillas and such but again not even half the order. The rest straight from the menu. I asked for an estimate and they said probably 20-25 minutes. That would have been a good estimate for how long it would take for us to finish our sodas, because we waited 47 minutes and received only part of our order. They specifically missed the request for extra tomatoes / beans on half of the burritos , giving us extra onions and beans on all burritos. While I wouldn’t mind keeping the burritos, my mother specially requested the extra tomatoes and beans, and my son was not wanting extra beans.
It was turning into a fiasco and as mentioned a lot of other food had not been finished yet. We asked if we would be receiving the remaining burritos that were done incorrectly and they said it would take another 15 minutes. We had to be at the theater in 25 minutes. We asked if they could expedite and they said they had drive thru orders to complete? When we had ordered again 47 minutes earlier.
Knowing we could Spare 10 minutes , miss the trailers, and have the food hot and ready to go for the movie wasn’t the worse case. We were being team players until my mother kindly asked again how long it would take. The employee threw turned to her and said “how about don’t order the whole menu and change it up next time”. Witihout hesitation I banged on the counter to break up the tension between the 2 and stop the argument. I knew my mom was going to snap. She was fuming at the disrespect. We then logically requested to get a refund on the part of the order that was done incorrectly, which unfortunately for them was a $100 mistake they weren’t willing to rectify.
They gave us the bag of the rest of our food which we didn’t have time to check to make sure it was done write and then I asked them for the contact information and name of the GM as well as every single employee working. They refused to oblige and began pointing at the door to us saying “leave now or the police will be called”. So of course we left. Son and his friends were all bummed out but we surprised them with popcorn candy and sodas in the movie after we all finished the Bell. Amazing movie, terrible experience at Taco Bell. Has anyone else experienced this? I know they’re a corporation but we’re a small enough town here in Jackson to have a community vibe even at fast food restaurants. I go to this location often, I give them my business and refer it to all my colleagues / crew. Love this city with all my heart but this one hurt. Much love to everyone.
Btw - movie was amazing and shout out to my wife for letting us bring the burritos in her purses. Got a lot of funny looks for walking in with a purse but burritos at movies are a family tradition.

For context, my bestfriend,(15F) me(15F) and my boyfriend(15M) are all teenagers . Octoberish 2023, my bestfriend was kicked out by her mother and moved in with me and my family. We spent a lot of time together, and have shared a bedroom since she moved in, (we still do) i believe she has grown attached to me. about 2 - 3 months ago, I got a boyfriend. He is a great boyfriend, and treats me very well, although she has never really liked him.
As of recently, she has become more and more jealous that i spend time with him quite often, she has admitted that she is jealous, and is afraid im going to abandon her. At first, it wasnt too bad, and i got it, but now it has turned into constant fights and disagreements about the issue, the most recent one being last night. the week before, we had a disagreement about it as well, in which she felt we were in the honeymoon phase of our relationship and were spending a lot of time together, making her feel left behind and forgotten. at the end of last weeks disagreement, It ended up being a solution that we have weekly dinners with each other, just us two, no phones or anything. I wasnt really happy with this, but i was willing to come to a compromise because i felt that i had to cater to both her and my boyfriend.
Fast forward, to last nights arguement. Me, my bf and my bsf all go to the same school, but there was no school this week. My bf is only free on friday night, which is when we had originally planned to have dinner, me and her are free everyday besides saturday, so i messaged her "can we swap dinner to sat night?" she said she was busy, so i said "how about sunday?" she said "ill see, why not friday?" I explained to her that my bf is only free that night and i'd like to see him this week as we aren't at school. She responded with "wow ok" in which i said "bru ??" and she said "excuse me" and it went on from there, i said i didnt understand the issue as i was just trying to create a balance between the two and shuffle it around so it worked for everyone, to which she said im blowing her off to see my bf and it went back and fourth like that. I spoke to my mum, my mum went outside and spoke to her, didnt end well, she came back in, we then heard her crying so mum went out to comfort her. After the first time my mum went out and came back in, my bsf proceeded to say that she felt betrayal, i said that i cant deal with it anymore, and it needs to be a boundary that i cannot handle being responsible for jealousy and this stuff when im trying to have balance in the situation it honestly went back and fourth until later that night, when she sent me a massive apology saying how she apologizes for lashing out, how it impacted me, and that she was proud of me for how i handled the situation and standing my ground. she also said she reacted out of fear. I responded in the morning, thanking her for the apology and pointing out that it felt like i was in two relationships having to deal with all this jealousy and find solutions such as weekly dinners to mend our relationship. she responded saying it comes from her jealousy, that shes been holding the standards she holds to herself against me, and how we see spending time with each other as different things. for example, i see that we are with each other majority of the time, but she sees it as if we're not interacting or doing something together its not really spending time with each other. But if there is solutions such as going on dinner dates, it feels like im dating her, which im not interested in doing. there was more in the message but it was mainly about how she lashed out the night before and thanking me for handling it maturely.
Basically, i dont want it to feel like im dating her, and i dont want to have to deal with this jealousy anymore. she says she understands how it must make me feel, and that shes trying to let go of those standards she holds to me, but im not sure i can go again with another of these situations. im honestly sick of it, and frustrated, so, what should i do?
Before you comment saying stuff like "its stupid teenage drama" and whatever else, thats not what I'm looking for, this is seriously affecting me, and making me constantly upset and frustrated. I believe this could ruin my friendship with her.
TL;DR: my bestfriend has been living with me and i think has grown attached, i recently got a boyfriend and she hasnt been taking us spending time well together.

Life is shitty a lot of the time. You can put in so much work, ignore so much bullshit and still end up getting kicked down time and time again. Some people live easy, comfortable lives where they barely have to work or give anything of themselves away, while others are given the worst situations to try and survive through. No matter where you are and what cards you are dealt, life will give you challenges to manage and distractions to alter your path. Sometimes in order to continue, we must put down the societal rules, that we must be a certain way, do certain things, look so called "attractive". When in reality, what's the point of all of those things? Who really cares if you have a fancy car, or a really cool pair of shoes. Life overall, isn't about any of that, it's about what you make of it. Life will only get as good as you allow it to be. Those people I mentioned, who can be given everything on a silver platter, they might have the wealth and the luxury, but that doesn't mean that they are happy or fulfilled. They too might hate themselves and the lives they live. For those people who's lives consist mostly of surviving day to day and prioritizing their time and energy on basic needs, they can still lead happy lives. Life is what you make of it. Find the simple things that bring you joy. It doesn't have to be career related, or identity related, but simple things that light up your soul. I love the spring breeze expecially if I am in a field or on some kind of hill. I love watching dogs run after sticks, either at a park or by a river. I like sitting in public and watching people go about their days. I wonder about their stories and what brought them there, to this exact moment, where I get to have a peek into the world that is who they are. Life can be magical, but it can also be shitty. Life gives you what it gives you, but you have to decide what you are going with it.

First time posting on Reddit, sorry if this isn't the place to go for this, but I am desperate and lost. Forgive me if this is all over the place, my life IS all over the place.
A little background, I'm an 18 year old nonbinary person diagnosed with C-PTSD. I have 3 younger brothers, I will not use their names for privacy but I will call them L (17m), S (15m), and D (11m). D is my half brother and not my dads kid by blood but was later adopted by him. We live with both our mom and dad in an apartment. My dad has been abusing all of us for years and we can't escape.
Long story short, my dad has always been abusive towards my mom, my dad left my mom in 2010 and took the house and car, he came back and begged her to take him back in 2014, they got back together but now my mom wants a permanent separation and told him this in 2022. Since then, it feels like it has become my dad's mission to keep us trapped here forever.
My dad is very abusive. He has been physically abusive with my mom and has permanently dislocated her shoulder, he's financially abusive and constantly locks her out of their joint account or decides how much money she gets a week. He's physically abusive with my brother S and has thrown him against the wall and often threatens to hurt him. The worst part is he doesn't hurt me at all. I have always been his "baby girl" or "princess." When I ask for something, he will make a big fuss and say "anything for my little girl!" In his eyes, I can do no wrong. I have screamed at him and told him how much I hated him but the next day it's like his mind resets. He is the same way with my half brother D, which angers me. He's not even your kid!
I feel guilty for being terrified of him since I don't experience the abuse he dishes out to the rest of my family. This has created a rift in me and my brothers relationships, especially me and S. Even after all the abuse S has endured from our dad, he still chooses dad over me, says "he's the only one that loves him." S has abused me as well and I plan on going no contact with him once I can get out of here. I feel so much pain knowing I have sacrificed so much for my brother and I can't save him, but he has hurt me, and for once I need to choose peace.
Anyway, we've been trying to get out of here for years, but it's felt so impossible. My mom wanted to wait until July 2023 (my 18th birthday) to start filing for divorce so that I would be an adult and therefore not have to visit my dad, but now CPS has been involved several times and won't even acknowledge my existence since I'm "not a child or a parent." We were almost able to get an EPO but we couldnt due to my dads name being the only one on the apartment lease so we couldnt kick him out of his own place and we have nowhere else to go. My moms name isnt on the lease, she asked to have it taken off because that was the only way she was told she could get resources. But there is no help for the homeless here until you're ACTUALLY homeless. My dad is calculated with his abuse and it feels like he knows when to stop just before its enough to get the police involved, so we've never called the cops. My mom is no contact with her family because they are also abusive, so we have no one to turn to. The one friend my mom had that was willing to help us escape turned out to be sexually grooming me for the past 6 years. I am still very shaken from that experience since it happened very recently.
I have never felt more hopeless in my entire life and I struggle so much to keep going. I have developed physical health problems from the amount of stress I am under, such as GERD, chest pain and not being able to fill my lungs, loss of appetite to the point where eating food is nauseating, but eating nothing is worse. I do a lot of forcing food down which makes me feel like shit either way. There are some days where I genuinely feel like the stress is killing me and I will die if I don't get out of this living environment. I am a physically disabled high school drop out with no prior work experience so it feels so impossible to try and find work other than odd jobs I do for my neighbors. I do not have any friends outside of the internet.
On top of myself, I have to care for my mom. She is struggling so much and I am scared she will attempt suicide. I don't remember the last time I just Existed. It always feels like my body is on fire or my life is ending or my family is falling apart. I just wish my dad would disappear already. He's already been exposed for cheating on my mom with multiple women so why doesn't he go pick a girl to fuck off with forever? He likes being in control of us, that's why. I just want the suffering to end. What the hell do I even do? I just feel so sad and need it off my chest.

I am back to square one and im so mad at myself. My brothers wedding is this weekend and I really wanted to lose any weight to feel better about myself. I am 5'3" and 155lbs at the moment and I feel so bloated and chunky. I want to get myself back to my natural weight of 135-140 but it feel so impossible. I am constantly starving, shoving junk in my face at all hours of the day. I have tried to start going on walks and hit 10k steps but I am very inconsistent with it. I am so sad I am going to look like this for my brothers wedding..... like I am going to hate every picture. My weight I snot affecting me to the point that I do not want to see old friends because I fear how I look has changed so much since I saw them last. I have not tried dating or anything bc I fear how I look. It is holding me back and these are some prime years for me. I just want to lose the stupid 15-20 lbs omg. I have another wedding in June and its my best friend's and a lot of people I haven't seen in a long time will be there and I just want to feel good again, not just mentally but physically too. I have noticed so many more issues with my health at my current weight and I am heading down an awful path..... I just feel so lost. Why am I so hungry, why cant I resist, why am I so lazy.

Had a new under sink cabinet and sink installed in my bathroom today. It looks like the workers cut into the bottom molding along the floor to make it fit; in so doing maybe exposed an old junction box? The way it has been installed I can’t tell if it’s a hole in the wall or an old opening for a junction box. Either way there is what looks like an opening to a hollow space behind the wall.
There were also rat feces and acorns left behind, along with saw dust and water on the floor. So I think rodents have had access to whatever this hole is, at some point.
I’ve just written an email to the folks in charge of the project, but I want to try and be armed with some idea of how this could be fixed or how this could have been avoided in the first place.
If it’s an old junction box does it need a cover? How do I know the electric isn’t a live hazard?

there's a content creator that more of less copied everything i've done with a game, same word to word information used, same intro as me, same titles and video ideas a day after which at this point i'm not one to make drama about but what i'm trying to figure out is if i average 12-13k views even with unique thumbnails he will always get 17-20k and i know its not a huge difference but i'm trying to understand the algorithm
on 30 minute videos i have a average view % of 46% (14minute watch duration)
My CTR starts at 13% then drops to 8-9% after a day with 80-110k impressions
even though the game is slightly dying in playerbase until new content his content seems to get pushed out better than mine but i can't figure out why? I guess over the course of 3 months he has posted a bit more than me i would of posted around 70-80 videos and post nearly daily and he posts every single day without missing once. does youtube value someone more who consistently posts? or what key factor should i be looking for in my analytics?
Or is it maybe 50% of his audience is completely different to mine? all of his videos come under my suggested and maybe part of my audience isn't interested in the game anymore, just trying to work it out

You didn’t read the title wrong. Ness is 100% assisting Isagi’s second goal and this theory of mine has been brewing for many months now. I waited to post this theory until Kaiser messed up “one” more time and he just did and in doing so, inadvertently sealed his fate.
We know that Ness is a “glazer” and one might even say that he is “the” glazer, but even he has his limits. The dynamic between Kaiser and Ness has been deteriorating all throughout the NEL, with the exception of the short Barcha match. It’s evident that Kaiser is not a nice person to anyone, not even to Ness his partner in crime. Their dynamic is not even civil and is borderline abusive most of the time it’s on screen. With that being said, let me walk you through this theory of mine that makes me certain Ness will assist Isagi’s second goal.
The first example I would like to shed some light on would be at the end of the Manshine match. Ness while trying to “glaze” Kaiser, even though Kaiser lost fair and square to Isagi, is only met with physical abuse at the hands of Kaiser. You might say that Kaiser did it to shut Ness up, but even that’s irrelevant when you notice that Ness is in physical pain. Kaiser quite literally treats Ness like a dog (this was all foreshadowed), even though Ness’ current “twisted” goal is to allow for Kaiser’s success.
The second example I would like to discuss happens in between the Manshine and Ubers match. Kaiser’s theorizing as to how Isagi’s thought process works, and he asks Ness a completely lose-lose question. No matter what answer Ness responded with, Kaiser was never going to be satisfied with it and was always going to “physically” abuse Ness again by drenching him in the beverage he was drinking. I don’t know about you guys but this is extremely disrespectful no matter who it is.
The third example is in my opinion the strongest in this theory, even though it doesn’t involve physical abuse, go figure. We are introduced to Ness’ backstory through a flashback, and in turn are able to understand the character that is Ness. At the core of Ness’ character is the idea of magic, and more specifically magic that entrances people. This is juxtaposed by Ness’ entire family telling him there’s no such thing as magic and they’re not subtle in telling him this. Ness eventually discovers soccer and the way the players entrance the crowd with their plays (magic), and so, Ness makes it his life mission to entrance the world with “HIS” own magic (I highlight the word his because it will be important later on).
As Ness tryouts for the BM team, he realizes that his “magic” is not working, but eventually Kaiser arrives “in the nick of time” and he allows for Ness’ magic to thrive. This is the beginning of Kaiser’s and Ness’ dynamic, however, from the very beginning this whole dynamic was fake. Kaiser didn’t approach Ness out of the good will in his heart (because it doesn’t exist 💀), but because as Kaiser so eloquently puts it, “he needs a dog”. He saw that Ness was in a vulnerable state and decided that he would corrupt Ness by “eroding his heart”. This was easily achieved because as Ness (7th slide) puts it, there is an “extreme sadness” in his heart because no one believes in magic. Now that we’ve established that Kaiser’s and Ness’ dynamic was fake from the get-go, it makes complete sense why their relationship is deteriorating so rapidly.
Fast forward to midway through the Ubers game, and we finally arrive at the point of no return for their dynamic. Even with all of the abuse at Kaiser’s hands, Ness still believed that Kaiser wanted his imagination, his magic, but Kaiser coldly and definitively tells Ness, “You’re the one who’s trash. Don’t let your stupid emotions get in the way of that tiny sh*t brain of yours. Just move like we practiced, I’m NOT asking for your CREATIVITY”. This is my opinion was the nail in the coffin, and yet there’s still more.
The fourth example happens at the end of the Ubers match. Ness has always been against Isagi, not because Isagi did anything bad to him, but simply because Isagi and Kaiser are enemies. However, Ness can’t help but be “entranced by Yoichi’s magic”. What’s funny about this is, if Kaiser did not open his mouth this never would’ve happened. Ness realizes that Isagi “wants” his teammate’s imagination and truly believes they will succeed. This comes across as a stark contrast from Ness’ perspective since all he’s known is Kaiser and the way he likes to do things.
To pour gasoline on this absolute dumpster fire, Kaiser’s true colors are coming out involuntarily. The fifth example I would like to discuss is brief and very recent. Kaiser inadvertently refers to Ness as a dog, even though he had kept it to himself that those were his intentions with Ness in the beginning. I mean, just look at Ness’ face upon hearing those words.
Finally, I’ve been hearing many people talk about Kaiser awakening his original ego especially with the latest chapter release. That’s all well and good, but what about Ness’ original ego (Kaiser wasn’t the only character who got a flashback 💀)?
We don’t have to speculate as to what Ness’ original ego is, we already know what it is. It is to entrance the world with “his” magic. With the way the current match has been going, it is not simply enough to draw out one’s 100%, but it is necessary to cross your 100% with someone else’s in order to create a top performance. Kaiser very clearly does not want the help of the only person on his side, so I don’t see how he can score this match. Ness on the other hand, is only bound by his imagination. Ness, for the first time in his life potentially has someone in Isagi, who “genuinely” wants his creativity aka his magic. This chemical reaction between Isagi and Ness is bound to be amazing and at the same time prove to be absolutely devastating to Kaiser.

I (15F) am diagnosed with BPD and last night I had a major “down” mood swing and almost killed myself. In the process of getting to that point, while I was readying my gun someone messaged me (for unrelated reasons) threatening me so I started sending photos of myself in tears and absolute emotional shambles with myself holding a gun to my own head. They encouraged me to and I ended up not just because I was so upset, but they saved the photo and it’s now just on their phone. There’s nothing I can do about it but I feel like i’m going to have an anxiety attack just thinking about it and I haven’t been able to focus on anything else since I took my meds this morning.
No, I’m obviously not emotionally mature. It’s among one of the stupidest decisions to make but I was really trying to give up and I didn’t care what I did. The bad part is that I didn’t kill myself and I now have to deal with it. They’re probably sharing it with their friends or something by now. Might’ve been posted here or 4chan.

When I was in the ninth grade I made some choices I now regret. I needed money and a friend of mine would always talk about how much money he was making from dealing drugs and I asked him how I could get into the game. He introduced me to his supplier or boss, honestly I'm not really sure I just shut up and did what I was told. Made bank doing it too. Things ran smoothly until our boss overdosed. We ditched all the drugs, and shut down the whole gig after the cops found out about our boss's operation. The money was good, not worth jail. After a while the heat died down and my friend found another supplier and starting selling again but I decided not to play with fire again and stay out of it.
One day I was in english class and the teacher of the class was easily distracted by the people outside but for some reason he always left his window open and would point it out whenever someone walked by, he would say look someone's walking their dog in the middle of when he was teaching, or something like look at that guy smoking don't want to be like that guy. Well this day he was telling us some story about his childhood as he always did when he paused and pointed to the window “look at that guy staring at us. He must be really invested in my story”
Then he laughed and moved on, and at the time I did too. I thought he must be tweaking on some drugs and found it kind of ironic that not too long ago I could have been the one selling him his stuff. He started to return a lot though. Always during that english class, always staring in our window. I never connected him to me because I never saw him personally. He was never there during lunch or any of my other classes and I didn't see him outside of school until one night. It was late and I hadn't been able to fall asleep that night.
I needed a glass of water and I got up, poured myself a drink, walked over to a window at the front of my house that has a gorgeous view and just looked at the mountains outside of my window while I drank my water. This was a common routine for me and sometimes I would notice something weird, like the neighbours fighting or someone sneaking into someone's home to cheat. Tonight though there was someone i had never seen before parked in front of my house, it was a black jeep and the windows were tinted so i couldn't see inside. I stared for a while until someone got out of the vehicle, looked up at the window I was looking out of and we locked eyes, I'll never forget those eyes. It was the man outside of class. I went to call the cops and the man quickly hopped back in his car and drove off. I was smart enough to take down the licence plate to tell the police and I made a report right away. Sadly it didnt work though as a night a few weeks later i was asleep when i was awoken to a light tapping sound on my window.
I tried to ignore it and stay asleep but it gets too annoying and when I turn around to look at what's making the noise I see the man's blank face staring at me, he's standing straight up one hand by his side the other tapping on his window. The man remains completely only moving his head and eyes to follow me when I move for my phone across the room. I loudly shout that I'm calling the police in an attempt to get the man to leave but the man just smiles, the first movement he's made besides moving his eyes and head. I tells the police about what's going on. There's a man outside my window that has been stalking me at school, but as soon as I say my address the line goes dead. The police hung up on me. The man starts to laugh slightly and for the first time takes his eyes off me to enjoy his laugh. I run out of the house and made the mistake of turning my head back toward my window. The man was still standing there not staring into the window anymore. He had turned to continue staring at me. Now back to not moving, just standing completely still, I take off and decide to stay at a friend's place. I made a police report the next day and never saw the man again. The police never found the guy. I have no idea if they even looked but to this day he hasn't bothered me again.

I have had good and bad experiences off this forum but I won’t give up! So here’s me : Hiya! I’m just ust A femboy looking for a serious ltr , so I’ll get to the point 🤗. I’m not here for the games , or ghosting . I’m here for something long term. Dating apps don’t work for me sadly.
Located: Texas.
Willing to move to another state or have my future partner live with me .
Appearance :
A thick black femboy who loves dressing up sometimes . Height : 5’3. I wear glasses to read manga . My style is mostly goth/casual clothes from mostly anime shirts and chokers.
💙My hobbies:

• Anime : Some of my favorites animes are Tokyo ghoul , Sword Art Online , Yuri on ice , Future Diary, JJK, MHA, Yaoi(Love stage , Sasaki and Miyano)
• Manga : I’ve completed so many mangas from yaoi , Ouran high school host club , berserk , ect .
• Cosplay : I’ve done Pokémon & a Tokyo Ghoul cosplay before .
• Anime cons: I’ve been to at least 11 anime/Comic cons.
• Dueling (Yu-Gi-Oh!)
• Pokémon
• Yaoi
• Pc gaming
• Overwatch. I love this game have over 500 hrs .
• Marvel/DC
• Tv drama : The Vampire Diaries , Supernatural, Buffy The Vampire Slayer, The 100.
• Horror- big fan of tv shows , movies like AHS
• Consoles I have are : Ps5, Nintendo switch , psp, ps vita, Nintendo 3ds , wii, gameboy , ect .

🩷What im looking for in a Relationship🩷

• [ ] Monogamous
• [ ] Single
• [ ] Loyalty
• [ ] Communication
• [ ] No kids
• [ ] Open-minded
• [ ] Common interest : Nerdy (Anime, Games, Star Wars or anything nerdy)
• [ ] Sure on what you want
• [ ] Mature
• [ ] 21+ in age : no exceptions .

▶️MY TYPE:
TALL (taller than my own height) , very communicative, masculine(mostly beards and body hair) gamers/anime nerds. These are just preferences not a deal breaker .
✅Ps: for compatibility reasons I’m a 100% bottom.
IMPORTANT : If you made it this far, please message me an introduction about yourself. This is extremely important as it tells me alot about you. I won’t respond to a simple message. If you can’t make the effort , I won’t waste my time honestly .

I (26M) have been dating my partner (25F) for a few months now, but we're closing in on a year of knowing each other after we began as FWB. I like spending time with her, I care for her, I enjoy her company.
But I don't know if I can continue this relationship for multiple reasons. The two foremost are that 1: At this point I'm pretty sure I'm aromantic. I love my GF, but I don't think I can honestly say I'm IN LOVE with her. I don't know what being in love feels like, but it definitely shouldn't feel like this. I never get the stereotypical butterflies or a warm feeling around her. I don't feel bad when I don't get to see her for a long time, which brings me to the other point.
We are semi-long distance. We live an hour away from each other, and our schedules only align for us to be able to see each other once a week. This, for me, is fine. For her, it's NOT FINE. She wants to call me every night for hours, see me as often as she can. What's the issue you ask? The issue is it never allows me time for myself. I need lots of time for myself, I am a loner by nature and like spending time alone, just working on my various projects I have going on. I know I hurt her feelings just today by saying it was fine with me that I saw her Sunday and I wouldn't see her again until next Monday (8 days). I could tell she was bothered, but I just... I couldn't get into that emotional argument.
That's the other thing is I constantly feel like I have to tiptoe around my own feelings so as to validate hers and keep her happy. I don't want her to be upset, I hate making people upset, but it's making ME upset and I feel like I just don't have space to do my own thing all the time. And I worry if I tell her I need some space and that I don't want to talk her to her for one night she'll take it the wrong way and have an anxiety attack.
These are all signs to break up I know, but I'm scared for her if I do. She's not the most mentally healthy person out there, and she has told me to my face that this is the healthiest, best relationship she's been in. She's also head over heels for me, which is why she insists on calling all the time and spending so much time together. Like, I cannot explain in words just how much she loves me. I'm worried that I'll be shooting myself in the food in the long-term if I try to cut her off now, and I'm also worried FOR her if I choose to end things. She gets upset when I have to say goodnight and go to bed, and it worries me what kind of tailspin I might send her into if I decided to end things. I don't think she'd end her life, not a chance. That's not my concern, but I worry it'd lead her into a depressive spiral which could negatively affect her in a lot of ways. I won't do that to her, I still care for her far too much to put her through that, but what other options do I have?
But I'm just not happy right now. It's a series of things, but this relationship isn't contributing positively for me right now, yet I don't want to end it because of what it might hold for the future.
TLDR: GF won't let me have enough time to myself for me to be happy, but I worry what might happen if I blow her off or ask to end it.

I tried to post here before but my account was too new. Scroll bellow for previous post, as I ended up going back with my husband.
UPDATE: I ended up coming back. I knew right away it was a terrible decision, but I did it anyways. I ended up losing my father and my grandparents because of it. I contacted my mom this time to try and help me.
I haven’t seen my mom since the day I left, and not seeing her has been such a traumatic experience for me. He tells me I need to move on from my family, that they don’t love me, that everyone’s moved on from me, that I’m living in the past and in a fantasy world, that I’m obsessed with my family (despite me never seeing them), and that I STILL need to choose between them or us.
I planned this for multiple months. I saved up money on the side, got a plan made for when he left, even went as far as finding an apartment. I did everything I needed to do. I paid for my mom to rent a car and she drove 700 miles in 10 hours to come and get me, but right at the last second I got too afraid. I will never forget the image of seeing my mom outside the window and waving to her crying because I couldn’t go outside. There are security cameras all over the house. I unplugged the Wi-Fi and said to myself I at least want to hug my mom, but even with no cameras on I was too afraid to go outside.
I’m not allowed to go out on my own, anywhere, not even to walk on the sidewalk. My husband has told me I can leave if that’s what I want, but no matter how much I try, I can’t. I feel like a bird trapped with the door open. I keep contemplating between stay and go. I even told my husband my brother passed away and I wanted to go to his funeral, he was so emotionless and barely responded to me, telling me it was unfortunate but he sees no good in me going to his funeral. I tried to ask him for help in convincing his parents I was going to travel for work or something, since they’d never be happy about me going and traveling on my own. He didn’t agree to it, said he can’t do anything for me and ultimately told me to do what I want and I’m already making decisions on my own anyways, which I clearly haven’t..
I feel like I’m crazy and losing my mind, he tells me there’s something wrong with me and that I’m a terrible wife, that after marriage my priority is my new family and I need to move on from my own family, even though I’ve been here for so many years taking care and supporting his. In the end my mom had to turn back, bawling and screaming she won’t leave without me, looking at her daughter through a window trying everything to get me to come out, but I begged her to leave and said I don’t need help.
So many attempts to leave but ultimately failing, it’s as if he can do anything to me and I’d stay, my mom was saying she won’t be living long and she hasn’t gotten to see her daughter in so long, and I couldn’t go out of the house. His parents were gone to pickup his sister from school and he’s out of the state until Thursday. Someone please help me because I feel like I’m going insane
PREVIOUS POST: My situation is too complex for anyone to get all of the details, but to summarize some main points:

1. My husband and I have been married for 10+ years, I’m 29.
2. We have lived with his family this entire time. Two parents, and his little sister who was 1 when I married him.
3. We have had very very rough times over the years with his arguing and verbal abuse.
4. I have not been allowed to see my family this entire time. His parents don’t approve of women traveling alone and on top of that, don’t agree with it because they’re afraid of culture mixing (I am white American my husband is of another eastern culture).

Which is the main thing that led to the decision of me leaving. A few months back, I tried to put my foot down and say I want to see my family. It turned into a huge argument in the house and in the end he gave me an ultimatum that I either accept never seeing my family again or I can leave them.
It was such a traumatic experience, 10 years of your life given to a husband and family and all those years of sacrifice only to be told an ultimatum such as this. When I informed my family of my situation they were shocked and told me to leave immediately.
After a week of watching me cry and panic and him still not changing his mind, I pulled out a suitcase, changed my direct deposit and said “I guess I need to leave then.” My husband was shocked and started to guilt trip me saying he can’t believe I’d choose my family over them, and how it’s so messed up.
He even tried to convince me that my family doesn’t actually love or care about me. Saying that him and his family had always taken such good care of me (which they did), and that I’d be making a huuuge mistake.
Finally, he decided he would bend a bit and allow me to to visit my family. First, he wanted to come, until I told him my family will not even allow me to visit unless I was visiting alone. They didn’t want to see him or have anything to do with him.
So then he said I can go on my own, but, the only reason I’m even able to go is because he has a work trip scheduled for the same day and my flight and his flight would come back on the same day and time so his family would have no idea I went to see my family, they think I’m going with him.
All of this is a huge mess. In the last few weeks since he booked my flight, he has been saying all the right things, being sweet and kind and caring, but I feel like he’s just doing all this so that I don’t leave, as the entire situation in itself is so controlling.
We have bought a house and have been in the process as a family of fixing it up, decorating it, and literally planning an entire move and our whole future these last few months. Except in my head I’m wanting to just end things. When I visit my family this week, they do not want me to come back.
This will traumatize his family, especially his little sister who grew up with me around, and they also had two other sons leave home, and have been traumatized for years because of it. I feel so guilty that I will be adding to their trauma by leaving.
But no one cares about the trauma I have gone through over the years, and not being able to have any freedom to have friends or see my family, or even go out on my own, I’m completely isolated at home and have not known the real world in so long.
I have my families support to do this, but I am just so afraid that I’m going to feel guilt the rest of my life for ruining their entire plans and livelihood. Please, I need advice.

Today my son has a ceremony at his school. For various reasons, I have been unable to attend many of his games and functions this year, but he has explicitly stated that this one is very important and he really wants me there.
I have to move mountains to make it, but I arrive with his two siblings, and even manage to get there early enough to be beside the main doors when they are opened to allow visitors in.
My ex-husband is already there, and he and I strike up a conversation while heading for the first row of chairs on the side where my son will be seated.
There are two front rows, separated by an aisle. Each row has eleven chairs in it. When we get to the chairs, one lady and her child are seated on the aisle end, with a plastic sack on the third seat, clearly holding the place for someone else.
So that leaves eight chairs, and there are four of us attempting to sit down — me and my kids, and then my ex-husband. No problem.
Except that, as we are turning around to sit down, a large woman comes running out of nowhere and throws herself into a seat, simultaneously slinging her purse and jacket into the other two beside it (the seats we are actively lowering ourselves into when she starts chucking her stuff on us) while loudly yelling at her kid to sit down too, and “don’t forget about Granny and Pop-pop and Sharon and Mike!” while waving her hand toward the chairs, to indicate the entire row she intends to reserve.
I just shrug and move over two seats, inconveniencing myself and my crew as well as my ex-husband, who is forced way down into the end seat. At least we are still in the front row, even if it is way off to the side.
I’ve let her have the two seats since she’s already slung her shit into them but I have no intention of leaving my place (the other rows are quickly filling up at this point) to accommodate Granny, Pop-pop, and the rest of the people who haven’t bothered to show up yet.
So the lady’s kid stands there looking helpless while her mom comes unhinged and turns to me. ”I’m sorry. We actually have more people in our party that aren’t here yet, and I’m saving those seats too.” She motions toward me and everyone seated to the left of me.
She gives me a challenging look and raises her eyebrows while I just stare back blankly.
Then I put down my purse and reach for a program and go about my business. Now she’s coming unglued. ”SO…YOU’RE NOT GOING TO MOVE?!?”
“No.” (While hitting her with the ol blank look again.) This time I hold her gaze for a few seconds because she’s furious and I’m not about to turn my back on her. Her face contorts into rage like she’s ready to stomp my head.
All I can think is, “Who even asks somebody that? And why is she genuinely shocked that I said no? Are there actually people who wouldn’t?”
Anyway. She makes a huge scene. Yelling, hands flailing, the whole nine yards. Grabs her belongings from the seats beside me, snatches her kid by the arm, and marches off to the second row of seats on the other aisle, where she proceeds to flag down an administrator while angrily gesticulating and pointing at me.
I get up and move over into the seat she’s just vacated, and everyone beside me moves down a few seats too. Now we have great seats.
I have no idea how she can possibly spin this incident into any narrative that doesn’t end in her looking like a total bitch, but I assume she has come up with one, gauging from the vehemence of her tirade.
Meanwhile, my ex-husband (they literally make movie villains inspired by this guy’s personality type, so I know for a fact he wouldn’t have moved for that broad, either) is stifling laughter at me and the other lady on our row is biting her lip and trying not to smile too.
I turn around and the people behind me are amused, too. What did they expect?
It boggles my mind. I’m out of line, or my response surprising? For saying “no”?
Where do these people get off?

I (M) am an astrophysicist (ph.D) and study planets and stars for a living at a major science university in southern california. This past weekend, I brought one of my high functioning professional model telescopes to my friends house. I set it up on their roof so that we could all look at space. I set up the telescope, pointed it at the sky, then told one of my good friends(F - pharmaceutical sales) to look into the telescope. When she looked into it, she thought she saw something. I thought it was probably an eyelash since she said it was blurry, but since she kept insisting, i told her to take a picture so we can look at it.
After taking it to work, it turns out that the blurry object was a previously undiscovered comet! Please remember that I positioned the telescope, set it up, and told my friend to take the picture! Plus I am actually an astrophysicist that does this for a living and discovering a comet is a pretty big deal. So, I put my name on the registration as discoverer... because thats what I did.
That same day I went back to my friends place to eat dinner with her and her husband. And I told her that what was seen was a comet. The conversation went like this:
She says: "Look at that, I discovered a comet."
I said, "What do you mean YOU discovered it?"
"Well, I'm the one who saw it."
I replied, "In my telescope, which I positioned."
Her husband suggested that we put both our names on the registration form, but I already told them it was too late and I put my name since I did all the work.
Her: "Are you kidding me?"
Her Husband: "Well, he is the one who knew it was a comet."
Her: "No he didn't. He thought it was an eyelash!"
Me: "And you thought it was a fuzzy streak, I mean do you even know what a comet is?"
Her: "Yah, the first thing I saw first."
Me: "I don't think that qualifies as a discovery."
Her: "but I took the picture."
Me: "Because I told you to! If a monkey took the picture, did it discover the comet."
Her: "EXCUSE ME.???"
And then she kicked me out of her house. Technically, she is right that usually when someone sees it and/or takes the picture it is their discovery. But I am the one who positioned everything, told her to take the picture, and reviewed the findings. This actually impacts my job; this is a great discovery for work! I don't want to lose my friendship over this (this couple gave me a place to stay when I was down on my luck and homeless for a bit) but this discovery can put me back on the map and keep me from being homeless again.
TLDR: Am I the AH for not putting my friends name down as a discoverer of a comet even though she technically is?

I am a 29 y.o female, my height is 5"4, and I currently weigh 219 pounds.
Some short backstory.... I've been fat most of my life. Overweight as a kid and then obese as a teen/adult. For a long time I didn't eat healthy, only in recent years due to having emergency gallbladder removal surgery did I actually start giving a shit/wanting to change my diet and become healthier. I also was diagnosed with PCOS as a teen and have been on birth control to regulate my hormone levels. I am aware via my gyne and primary doctor that PCOS poses difficulties with weight. The fat is mostly in my tummy and thigh areas. I see my doctor twice a year for bloodwork and general stuff (1 visit for a physical, the other as a check-in) in order to monitor my cholesterol levels since they have always been an issue for me and there is family history of cholesterol issues (leading into high bp or heart issues). Other than my PCOS, cholesterol levels and weight, I am a healthy adult/have no other health issues. Exercise wise I have a sedentary lifestyle since I sit and work on a computer for 8 hours M-F. Now that the weather is going to be warmer, I am going to incorporate more daily exercise via walking and/or swimming. For walking my goal is 3k steps per day, hopefully increasing it little by little as time goes on. But in the colder months of the year I pretty much do no exercise.
Around 6 months ago I started to calorie track and in recent months I made more changes to my diet. I measure everything by serving size and here is a calorie breakdown day-by -day for me:
Monday - 800 calories total, Tuesday - 920 calories total, Wednesday - 970 calories total, Thursday - 955 calories total, Friday - 765 calories total, Saturday - 460 calories total, Sunday - 410 calories total
Note: YES, every week is like this because I eat the same foods every day (of course with special exceptions but still).
I used the TDEE calculator and the Mifflin-St Jeor equation to figure out how many calories I should be eating for weight loss and got 1044 to 1544 kcal/day, but as you can see from my daily calorie breakdown I am under that amount and am seeing no difference in my weight.
After consulting with my gyne last month (I weighed 217 at that appointment) and my primary care doctor today (I weighted 219 at this appointment) they have both agreed I should look into weight loss medication, with my primary care doctor even saying it could be very beneficial for me.
At this point for me, the weight loss medication is the only thing I haven't tried, everything else isn't working and I don't know what else to do. I still have to check and see if my insurance will cover any of the weight loss drugs, but I know even then they are still very costly.
I just want to be at a healthy weight for once in my life. So I can finally overcome all of the teasing and bullying about my weight I've endured almost my whole life.
So again, I'm looking for any kind of advice or guidance on what I'm either doing wrong or any other improvements I could make. I am getting bloodwork done later this week to hopefully see if my cholesterol has improved (fingers crossed). Bonus if you happen to also be a female with PCOS.
Thank you all for your time reading all of this and responding (if you choose to do so).

I have seen a lot of people complain about the nerf raze stating that she will quote "become a trash character", or that she will not longer be played as much, however as Thinking Man's Valorant (well known pro analyzer) pointed out in this video at 2:12 minute mark: https://youtu.be/nVB9WlJIGLc?si=JnMhCPNlUO9XtSDL&t=132
There are a lot of ways that one could nerf raze making the game healthier and not making her a bad character, I am also expecting people to use the same argument that has been popular this months "Why not buff poor agents instead of nerfing good ones?" that can be easily dismissed with the latest valorant video that I doubt you haven't watched (3:19 mark): https://youtu.be/KHREYcS3RqU?si=UxpboprAxBurr3oq&t=189
The least thing the valorant team wants is a power creep problem, for example we all know reyna is a ranked demon, but a pretty lackluster agent in pro scene, an agent that can't be nerfed nor buffed (Despite the fact that we are geting a buff), however comparing it to raze, we see that she has a pretty consistent pick rate in almost all maps, only losing some pick rate because of ixebox, breeze and maps where she isn't as viable as jett: https://www.vlr.gg/event/agents/1921/champions-tour-2024-masters-madrid
As "Thinking Man's Valorant" suggested, there are 2 main changes that he suggests:

• Ult going to 9 orbs because of the orb farm that can snowball pretty easily
• Nerfing her satchels: This is suggesting that its a multi task ability that does everything, from helping you peek and prevent peeking, to entering a site, dealing chip damage, stopping people from defusing, etc. His main suggestion is to prevent enemies to move from stachels, and only moving her.

This also goes in line with the beforementioned video from valorant there is a quote that states "We will be shipping some nerfs to raze focused on her satchel mobility" which could perfectly align with the suggestion of stopping enemies to move being viable, however a nerf that would be (in my opinion) atrocious, would be to make her satchels not make her leap as far as they do now, this would (as another user in here mentioned) be a whole new re-learn process, not only for pros but for normal people, as the user quoted "It would be like changing the distance sova arrows travel"
The conclusions you can get out of here are:

• A nerf to raze is indeed needed to promote role diversity
• The nerf will not necessarily make her bad (although it is possible)
• There are many ways she can be nerfed that would make her overall healthier for the game
• Buff raze ult because it feels like it never hits

Feel free to correct me on anything if you feel I am wrong, or maybe suggest another nerf that would be viable

Hello all, my girlfriend and I adopted a kitten from her uncle's barn litter last august. He has been a joy for us to care for. He always surprised us in how well behaved he was considering things we had heard or knew about cats before adopting him. He never bit aside from the occasional nibble but nothing hard. He only ever hissed twice in his entire time with us. Once at the vet (understandably) and once at my girlfriend's mom (she was wearing perfume, very in his face, and prying at him for cuddles, so once again understandably). He also has no problem when we have friends or family over. He won't hide, he will act no different than normal and even curl up on their laps sometimes for pets.
However his behavior has shifted rapidly in the past month. He just turned 1 year old at the end of april, and while we knew his personality would change more as he got older, I feel like some of the things he's doing are very much not like him.
For starters, he has been biting significantly more than before. Much harder as well. He doesn't bite my girlfriend though. Only me. When he bites me it will be out of nowhere when I may not even be petting him or be near him. He will run at me for no reason and start biting. Hard. My saving grace was that he never bit my face, only my hands, fingers, or arms. However, my reason for making this post was that he just bit my face extremely hard to the point where I couldn't ignore this behavior anymore. He didn't draw blood, but I worry he will in the future if I can't remedy this bad behavior.
I would appreciate any help or advice given. We love our boy so much but his actions recently have made me weary to be around him which was the one thing we were hoping to not have to worry about in a pet. If you have questions on any of his routines, disciplines, or diet that may help lead to a proper diagnosis of his behavior, I'm happy to supply that info.
Thank you in advance for taking the time to read or respond to this.

I have always had big boobs but in the last few months I’ve gained a lot of weight. I am 25 5’3” female weighing 155lb with a 34 H. Finding any bra is an absolutely miserable process and I always end up sobbing in the dressing room. We are going on vacation this summer and I have been shopping for a bathing suit that is flattering. No shirts ever fit and either make me look like I’m looking for attention or I’m pregnant. Dresses are almost impossible to find. It’s gotten to the point I don’t want to leave my house because nothing looks good on me. If one more person says most women beg for this problem I’m going to scream. I hate everything about my body and I hate my boobs more than anything. I want a reduction but I’m afraid once I have children it’s going to reverse it and make it worse. Looking for advice for finding something that doesn’t make me hate myself in the mirror.