About a month ago I had a gut feeling my gf was talking to someone behind my back, she had become distant and seemed to always be annoyed by me. I ended up putting a audio recorder in her room and when I picked it up a few days later I found out she was talking to her ex on the phone after she had hung up with me and told me she was going to bed. Once I heard the recording I let my emotions take over and went to her house and told her I knew she was talking to her ex, she denied it and asked how I knew the things I was saying. I wasn’t thinking and told her I had put a recorder in her room, obviously she got really upset and threatened to tell the cops what I had did, but we ended up talking a few days later and I apologized for doing what I did, she also apologized for talking to him and said she would stop and block him. Her reason for talking to him was that she felt alone and that they used to always talk on the phone for hours, which I replied that what was the point of me then. She has told me he is blocked and hasn’t talked to him since and can check her phone records if I want but they talked on FaceTime so I know that will not show on a phone bill the same as iMessage. Ever since then we have been fine but I am starting to get the gut feeling she is still talking to him. I have the urge to put the recorder back in her room but I’m really hesitant because I did feel like shit that I violated her privacy the first time, and the only reason I want to know is because I’m the short time I’ve been with her (4 months) I’ve spent a considerable amount helping her with her bills and on dates/concerts and trips that I had planned for us. I asked her a week ago and she showed me she doesn’t have any calls to or from him but she has told me she knows his number by heart so it’s easy for her to just erase any calls or txts. I do love her but I’m not sure what I should do at this point. Any advice is appreciated.

My ex gave me a watch for my birthday. I really like it and want to use it. But when my new gf asked me about it, i told her the truth. That made her uncomfortable and I think it's a bad idea if i continue wearing it when I'm with her. What would you do?

It's been over a year now since. Highschool sweethearts, love of my life since I was 16 and he was 18. Even then I knew there were red flags, but he was an 18 year old and I told him exactly what I wanted and he agreed. We were good for the most part, at least I thought so. He always had his inconsiderate moments but Wes work it out - or rather I'd just move by because I wanted to nurture the relationship.
He broke up with me several times before. Once because of health thing I couldn't control. Another because he was supposedly having job and money issues he wanted to figure out alone. Another because I moved in with him and his grandma after a house fire and he got tired of me being in the same room as him when I didn't move out quick enough because my family struggled to find a home. There were a couple other occasions I know I missed. Each time I let him go with love and wished him the best, but told him I was sure he was my person. He always came back. Despite the fact that for years he wanted to sow his oats, explore, see what was out there. I encouraged him to do what he needed but he assured me that he wanted to be with me.
I knew when he was having doubts. He'd get hot and cold, grow distant at odd times. He liked sexy pictures of girls online - and when I saw him doing it I worked up the courage to say that it made me uncomfortable and he was defensive at first before apologizing. He did it again a year later and had no remorse. And used the opportunity to tell me he'd been thinking about breaking up with me around my birthday. He admitted that to me on other occasions too. He pushed me to take a job in another state because he knew it would be an excuse to leave me. And he always discussed doubts about our relationship with other people, one of those people being one of my best friends since I was in middle school.
He broke up with me this last time a month before our 8 year anniversary. He said he didn't want to live together and struggled to see a future. He wanted to get numbers and show up his friends with no game. He said he didn't know who could satisfy him emotionally, mentally, sexually (except maybe a threesome ((his words))). But he wanted to be single. Unlike the last time he announced it to our friend group in a prewritten message, changed his status, removed our pictures, and went out to the bar two days later and asked for a mutual friend's number.
He did a lot to continue to hurt me. Including trying to come back out of jealousy.

• asked for the mutual friends number
• liked my mom's provocative pictures on Instagram
• he didn't remember the year I was born
• he only treated me like a friend in group settings
• he never knew how to comfort me
• didn't defend me to his grandma who called me a gold digger even though I never asked him for a penny
• always used me to gauge his feelings
• got a 21 year old girlfriend
• called me crying to say he could only envision a future with me, but then said he actually wanted to be with the new girlfriend and that he actually didn't feel anything romantic for me despite all he said during our 6 hour in person talk
• hit on his "best friends" ex and got nudes from another one

He wants to come back, and I've been able to tell him no despite him saying everything he knows I want to hear. But I know I dragged out the pain for a year. He finally blocked me after I wasn't responding how he wanted. And I know it's for the best and I should have blocked him myself but I love him so much. I'm grieving all over again. I just want to rant I suppose. Or get reassurance. Or be told I'm stupid and need to get over it.
Sorry this was so long. I left out so many things. Just feeling really anxious today and wanted to get it out.

(This is a repost from 4 weeks ago.)
Hi everyone,
With VoG challenge starting I wanted to post this to hopefully help some people complete Atheon challenge easier. It’s a pretty long guide since it contains pretty much everything I know about this challenge.
The challenge is that every guardian needs to destroy exactly one Oracle every time before Time’s Vengeance starts. (The weird wording is intentional - this is important for one of the items below.) So you do need a full team of six guardians to do the challenge. (FYI, I tried doing it with three guardians destroying two Oracles each, and it didn’t work - the “challenge failed” message came up as soon as the last Oracle was destroyed.)
In this guide, I will use “Venus” for the green/past/right and “Mars” for the brown/future/left timeline. I also use “teleport” to describe the time shift. I know these are not correct, but that’s how most people describe the Atheon fight.

Weapons and Subclasses

Load out wise, the best weapons are (in order):

• Sleeper Simulant (use an exotic chest armor with heavy ammo perk to get 12 shots)
• High impact sniper (Ex Machina, Event Horizon, Devil’s Dawn, Black Spindle archetype)
• Machine gun
• Rockets (only if you don’t have any of the above, and be very careful - jump straight up in the air to shoot them)
• Primaries from this raid (for Oracles)

Do not use supers other than Weapons bubble and Shadowshot tether. Time’s Vengeance will reduce supers’ cool down but their damage will not be buffed like regular weapons. Unless you run out of ammo, even a Celestial Nighthawk Golden Gun is worse than Sleeper - the GG’s dramatic animation is too long. All Titans should switch to Weapons with Bastion and Illuminated. (If you don’t have Illuminated, and there is someone else who does have Illuminated, do not use your bubble unless the other person is not available, or you may cost the team 10% of DPS). All Hunters should switch to Nightstalker with Black Hole. The Titan and Hunter who gets to the middle first should call out “I’ll do the bubble/tether” so others don’t have to worry about it. Also, call out again when the Weapons bubble is activated (near the back edge of the island preferably) so people know when to go back to find it. For the tether, jump straight up and shoot it on the ground at Atheon’s feet (not hitting Atheon directly will make the tether last longer). Only one person needs to tether. Shooting three Sleeper shots then tethering is about the right timing. Warlocks should be on self-res, as staying alive is paramount in case you can’t one-phase Atheon. Do not try to throw grenades, you will have to jump high in the air to do so, which wastes time. I takes about 23 seconds with 5 max light guardians shooting Sleeper with Weapons and tether active the whole time to destroy Atheon.

The Challenge

To make portals opening as smooth as possible, put 3 people on Venus side and 3 on Mars side. Stay inside the circle so you can start building the portal immediately when teleport happens even while you are detained. Do not jump on the monolith before the teleport, as it will aggro Atheon and he’ll start shooting at you and cause a lot of splash damage to you and your teammates.
The ideal situation is that the “inside team” gets #1/#2, the “outside team” gets #3-#5, and Relic holder gets #6. Two people from the outside should go in as soon as the portal opens, and the last person goes in when someone comes out. One notable exception is that if nobody is on the correct portal, then Relic holder needs to get #3 and outside team will get #4-#6. Make sure you watch the kill feed (above your super bar) to confirm you have indeed destroyed an Oracle. After the teleport, avoid unnecessary emoting so you won’t clog up the kill feed.

The Inside Team

The main goal for this team is to have Oracles #1 and #2 destroyed and get the non-Relic guardians out as soon as possible. So if you’re not grabbing the Relic, this is what you need to do:

• Shoot Oracle #1 or #2 (#1 is straight ahead on Venus and slightly left on Mars, #2 is slightly right on both) as soon as they spawn. It may help to call out immediately (“I got #1” “OK then I’ll get #2”) to avoid any confusion.
• Run to the portal as soon as you destroy your Oracle. There will be no cleanse at the bottom. Once you get cleansed at the portal, get out and call out “I’m out, you can go in” to the last person outside.
• Do not ask for cleanse, it will just clog up the comms. If you need a cleanse, quietly stand next to the Relic. The Relic holder will cleanse you every now and then.
• If you are #2 and you are sure your teammate #1 will not need help with his Oracle, you can run immediately to the portal and turn around to shoot Oracle #2. Oracle #2 will spawn around the time you get to the portal.
• If you are #2 and you are shooting your Oracle from the spawn and someone else destroys it instead, don’t try to shoot another Oracle, instead immediately run to the portal. You should have enough time to get there to receive a cleanse before you go completely blind.
• Once you’re out, help clear Supplicants and go to the middle island to be ready for DPS. If you’re the Weapons bubble or tether, tell people that you got that role. There will be three Supplicants that spawn on the other side that should have made it to the portal ring by then, so make sure you shoot them while you’re waiting.
• If you get out and notice you were not cleansed at all, go back in and wait just inside the portal for another cleanse.
• One more thing for the inside team to watch out for is the Relic holder accidentally destroying an Oracle. #1 on Venus is halfway up the stairs, and #2 is on the floor level, both destroyable by a single Relic slam. If the Relic holder destroys Oracle #1 or #2 while trying to kill the adds, you need to notify him (he’s probably too busy dealing with the adds to notice). If this happens, the inside team should take #1-#3, and the outside team takes #4-#6.
• And as always, throw a grenade at the Minotaur at the bottom on Venus, and don’t do anything to the adds on Mars. In any case, do not shoot the adds. The Relic holder needs to kill all three adds to build his super quickly. Even if you don’t kill the adds, it will cause them to wake up early if you shoot them and cause all sorts of havoc (like Hobgoblins throwing up their shields on Mars, or the Minotaur running up the stairs on Venus).

The Relic Holder

If you are the Relic holder, you want 300 Intellect (for Relic super) and 300 Discipline (for cleanse). Do not pick up the Relic if you don’t have 300 INT and DIS. Also don’t pick up the Relic if you’re the only Weapons bubble or tether. As a Relic holder:

• Call out which side you are, and remind people about the grenade/no grenade.
• Run down the right side behind the short pillars, not the middle stairway. Make a mini double-jump at the bottom and smash the adds with the Relic slam. On Venus, if they are not clustered together, you want to make sure you take out at least one of the Goblins (smash the one that’s closer to the Minotaur). One mistake that can cost you is to attack the Minotaur only when they are spread out, and by the time you get rid of it, you’ve had two Goblins shooting at you the whole time and have little to no health left.
• Once you’re done with the adds, run to the portal. If the portal is still not open, that probably means the outside team are all on the wrong side, so use your Relic super to take out Oracle #3. This is the one that is floating pretty high in the air on the right side (looking back from the portal, it will be left if you’re facing the portal). If you take out Oracle #3, call it out (“Relic holder took Oracle #3, last person take #6”).
• Stand near the portal so that the cleanse shield overlaps the portal. This will make sure anyone who runs through the cleanse on the way out will not go blind outside. Face the portal and watch your radar. When you see a green dot or two catch up on you, cleanse them.
• After the first set of guys are out, call in the last person and turn around. Make sure everyone is shooting Oracles in order (they don’t have to be destroyed in order, but each of them will wipe you after a set time, so it is better to shoot them in order). Cleanse occasionally.
• Once Oracles #1-#5 are destroyed, do one last cleanse and tell everyone to get ready for DPS. If possible, do a 3-2-1 countdown before smashing Oracle #6 so everyone knows exactly when Time’s Vengeance starts. Rush to the middle and activate the shield.
• Watch Atheon’s health bar as time progresses. Assuming most people started shooting as soon as Time’s Vengeance started, if Atheon’s health is about half or less at the 15 seconds mark, you should be able to kill him in one phase. If so, tell people to “commit”. If not, when Atheon’s health is about 1/3 left, tell people to get out and start clearing supplicants near portals. Turn around with your shield and leave after everyone is gone.
• If you had to destroy Oracle #3, then cleanse and leave after #5 is destroyed to go to the middle. The last person in doesn’t need any cleanse; he can shoot #6 and turn around to get to the middle in plenty of time before he goes completely blind.

The Outside Team

This team’s job is more complicated because there are many variants. The key is to immediately elect who is going to be the last guardian out. So if you are left outside:

• Watch your radar while the teleport is happening. You will see an extra green triangle on your radar that indicates where the inside team went. If it shows up on top-right, that’s Venus, if it’s bottom-left, it’s Mars. (The little triangle directly left or right is probably outside guardians on the opposite portal.)
• First thing to do is to elect the person to go in last.
  • If you are the only one on the correct portal, tell people you are going in first. Build the portal and go in. Make sure you don’t leave the ring until you see the message about the portal being active.
  • If you are the only one on the wrong portal, tell people you will be the last one to stay out.
  • If everyone is on the wrong portal, tell the Relic holder that he needs to take Oracle #3.
  • In any case, make sure two guardians go in and one stay out.
• Remember that nobody needs to stay inside the portal ring once the portal is activated (and there are no Praetorians to steal the portal from you), but one person needs to be outside at all times. If you’re the last one outside going to the portal from the wrong side ring, you don’t have to go to the ring that builds the portal at all.
• If everyone runs in by mistake and see the “lost in the dark corners of time” message, the last person can immediately run out to avoid a wipe if you are quick enough (although by this time most likely the team has freaked out from the message and is on a way to a wipe anyway).
• Before going in, try to toss an AOE grenade to the Atheon side of the portal to keep Supplicants at bay to help the one guardian that will be defending the portal by himself for a while. You can also shoot a tether there.
• Oracle #3 will be the one that is straight ahead as you go through the portal, and pretty far away.
• On Mars, #3 and #4 are almost overlapping but #4 is much closer. If they are both up, make sure you shoot #3 first.
• On Venus, #4 is below your sight line to your left.
• On both sides, #5 is above your left shoulder and #6 is above your right shoulder.
• If you are the first one in from outside, do not shoot Oracle #2. You destroying #2 will likely confuse the inside team member who was trying to shoot it, and if he didn’t run to the portal first like one other tip above, he may go blind before being able to destroy another Oracle.

A Special Trick

Now, one last tip - if Atheon is almost dead after a DPS phase, but so are any of your teammates, the outside team should go all out to attack Atheon. You can complete the challenge by destroying Atheon this way if you have done the previous Time’s Vengeance correctly.

• Use whatever you have to destroy Atheon. Offensive supers (Nova Bomb etc.) are good again here since weapons are no longer buffed by Time’s Vengeance.
• Oracles will still wipe the team if you do not destroy them all. If you have already destroyed Atheon (and gotten loot) and get wiped this way, you will be waiting in the wipe screen for several minutes while the game searches for a checkpoint to restart. Finally the game will realize there are no usable checkpoints and dump you back at the beginning of the raid. X-D
• In the off chance that the outside team is still trying to kill Atheon, do not destroy the last Oracle (#6). Doing so will start Time’s Vengeance and you will fail the challenge.
• If you have fewer than 4 guardians left while doing DPS, then all Sunsinger Warlocks should jump off and kill himself just before Time’s Vengeance ends. Then resurrect yourself after the teleport and try to destroy Atheon.

That’s all, sorry for the wall of text. Let me know if you have any comments.
Have fun, PSN: Lightfoot (without the “one” at end)

I'm not sure who to talk to about this. The people in my life think I'm overreacting and should ignore it, and it's ruining my relationship by bringing it up to my partner. I'm aware that I need to get therapy, but in the meantime I'm posting on Reddit and asking for advice.
I'm 25 and I've been in a couple relationships before, but I've never experienced RJ until now.
I've been dating my boyfriend for two years. We never argue or fight, except about this situation. Shortly after we started dating, I noticed a random girl would watch my Instagram stories daily. When I clicked on her account, it showed that I was blocked (so she thinks I don't know she's looking at my story, but it still shows up for some reason). Naturally I was suspicious and asked my boyfriend if he knew her. He said no. The stalking continued, so I asked him again. This time, he admitted it was a girl he used to talk to. It bothered me, but I tried to move on. However, she kept stalking me online and blocking me afterward, so I couldn't ever block her back. Then it escalated to her friends and mom checking my profile. I asked my boyfriend again if their relationship was more serious, and he finally admitted they had a serious relationship. His lying upset me, but he said she was unstable, and he wanted to avoid bringing her up.
It's been two years, and she hasn't given up. I've gone private on all my accounts, but I still get about 20 fake profiles consistently trying to access my pages, and the same fake accounts with 0 followers try to follow my boyfriend too. Even after deleting social media, I still have obsessive thoughts. I can't stand that someone from his past is trying to get a reaction out of me, and it's working.
I constantly feel resentment building until I cause yet another fight with my boyfriend about it. Neither of us wants to confront her because we feel that's what she wants. I've never engaged with her, but this situation is constantly on my mind, and I don't know how to move on. Knowing his ex is obsessed with him and our relationship has caused me to spiral into toxic RJ thinking.
I constantly wonder about their relationship and what memories they shared to make her harass his new girlfriend years later. I wonder how great their relationship was for her to never move on. And I’m jealous of that because OUR relationship has been affected because of her. I feel like my boyfriend is sick of me and this topic, and I don't blame him. Who wants to constantly be reminded of their ex?
It sucks that someone from his past is trying to insert herself into our relationship, and I guess my self-esteem is so low that it’s working. I hate her for how she's gotten into my head, and I wonder what our relationship would be like if none of this had ever happened. I know it's super irrational, but I resent him for ever loving someone who could cause me this much pain.

Investors can use SEC 201 rule to their advantage by setting their purchase order limits as high as possible (usually limited by most brokerage platforms to no more than 10% higher than current market price)
What does this accomplish? While under the SEC rule, short sellers can only purchase shorts at, or above, the highest current bid (bid=limit).
Ex.: An investor submits a purchase order for 1 share of a stock. Let’s say the current market price is $1.43/share 😏, and sets the limit to the max of 10% above market, which would be $1.57 in this example. Result: Investor completes purchase of 1 share at $1.43/share.
At the same exact time, after SEC 201 has been triggered, a short seller attempts a short sale of the same stock, of any amount. Result: The only prices available to them would be $1.57 or higher.
So HYPOTHETICALLY, while SEC 201 is triggered, if a large amount of investors continually flood a specific security with purchase orders set 10% above the current market price, even if each PO was for only 1 share each, the only available short options for short sellers to purchase would actually drive the stock price UP if they were to initiate them.

Investors can use SEC 201 rule to their advantage by setting their purchase order limits as high as possible (usually limited by most brokerage platforms to no more than 10% higher than current market price)
What does this accomplish? While under the SEC rule, short sellers can only purchase shorts at, or above, the highest current bid (bid=limit).
Ex.: An investor submits a purchase order for 1 share of a stock. Let’s say the current market price is $1.43/share 😏, and sets the limit to the max of 10% above market, which would be $1.57 in this example. Result: Investor completes purchase of 1 share at $1.43/share.
At the same exact time, after SEC 201 has been triggered, a short seller attempts a short sale of the same stock, of any amount. Result: The only prices available to them would be $1.57 or higher.
So HYPOTHETICALLY, while SEC 201 is triggered, if a large amount of investors continually flood a specific security with purchase orders set 10% above the current market price, even if each PO was for only 1 share each, the only available short options for short sellers to purchase would actually drive the stock price UP if they were to initiate them.

Long story, please bear with me because I want advice. May 19th was my 20th birthday. I wanted to go to Seattle and spend the day up there with my boyfriend (We’ll call him mark) and some friends. Anyway, we only had one set plan for the morning, and then the rest of the day was just exploring and doing whatever looked interesting. Anyways, I sent mark the link to a cafe in Seattle I wanted to go to so we could book reservations. He asked me what time I wanted it to be for and I said 10am, since the only times left were 9am, 10am, and 3pm. I told him 10am worked the best prior to him asking because our friends had to leave around 3pm for work. Anyway, when I replied, he had already made the reservations for 9am. He said “too late, it’s for 9”. Seattle is an hour and a half away from us so I was upset because I didn’t want to wake up that early. But I let it go and told him thanks for making the reservations because I chose to look at it at a positive way. Being there at 9am gave us all more time to be in Seattle.
Anyways, morning comes around, and my friend (We’ll call her Maria) texts me and asks if me and mark would like to meet up with her and her boyfriend zane at 7:45 at a local store. This was a plan made just that morning, but regardless nobody would have to wake up earlier to meet up with anyone. As time goes by I know my boyfriend isn’t awake because he hasn’t texted me, which he usually does. And I was alerted his phone was dead on Life360. I tell Maria we can’t meet them but we’ll see them at the cafe in Seattle. I drive all the way to marks to wake him up. Long story short I had to knock on his window because the back door was locked, which it NEVER is. Anyway i look in the window and his stepbrother wakes up from my knocking. For context marks stepbrother spends some weekends at marks house, they share a room. Mark opens the door and I follow mark to his bedroom door and I just say “Hey I’m sorry I woke you up”. I had no idea his stepbrother was there because his car wasn’t parked outside. He just says “kill yourself” in a super annoyed tone.
I was already kind of emotional that morning, because I took offense that my boyfriend didn’t wake up on my birthday and I had to come wake him up last minute. So the “kys” comment got to me, even though I’m good at taking jokes. Fast forward to the drive there, my boyfriend was buttering me up, which is super rare. He just took my hand in his and wished me a happy birthday and apologized for waking up late and kept telling me he loved me a lot. Anyway, the day kind of went downhill after the cafe. All of us were walking all around Seattle, and 90% of the time my boyfriend was walking ahead of me. Again for some context, my left leg is two inches shorter than my right, so lots of walking hurts my hips and makes me walk slower. My friend Maria noticed and would walk with me but after I would get back with my boyfriend and Maria with hers, I would fall back again. I said “Babe can you walk a little slower? Because my leg?” To which he replied “I’m trying to catch up with Maria and Zane. Also, every time we walk together you always fall behind anyways.” Also, he wouldn’t hold my hand. I saw how Zane held Maria and put his arm around her or his hand on her waist and mark maybe held my hand in 30 second intervals.
Anyway, nearing the end of the story, after we drive home, my friend comes over and drops off the presets she got me. It’s 5pm at this point and I still wanted to go home and spend my birthday with my parents. Birthdays have always made me feel a bit awkward because I’m not a fan of opening gifts while people are watching, I feel guilty for some reason haha, or like I’m spoiled. Anyways, I was looking forward to the gift my boyfriend mark got me the most, because a few days prior he told me he was leaving to buy me stuff. Anyways, I hated to ask mark this, but I was about to go home so I said “Can I have my gift now?”. He said “Seattle was your gift, it was expensive and you’re an expensive person.” He was smiling while saying this, so he was half joking, but I was a little taken aback. I didn’t wanna seem like a spoiled brat so I played off the awkwardness by saying “Oh ok, didn’t you say you went to the store though?” He said “Yeah but they couldn’t do what I wanted that day and I didn’t feel like going back any of the other days.” I said “Oh alright well are you going to get it?” His response was “Probably not.” I played it off really well, I wasn’t showing that I was upset in anyway really, I just got a quieter, because I really didn’t want to seem like a spoiled brat.
Also, on Saturday, the day before my birthday, my boyfriend mark went fishing with his friend and spent over 100 dollars on equipment and a fishing license. Saturday night was a bbq at his friends house and I attended. While all of us (friends and such) were sitting in the living room I told mark that we had two options for dinner, he interrupted me mid sentence and said in front of everyone “I’m not sure how much you’re expecting me to spend but it’s not much.” Again, I played it off, and said “alright well that’s okay I was just letting you know.” My boyfriend is an electrician and makes (I think) either 23 or 24 an hour. I feel like he shouldn’t have said that in front of everyone. It was indecent. Also, I heard from my friend (the one who dropped off the gifts) that when all of the boys were outside my boyfriend was complaining about how much he’s gonna have to spend on me, to which her boyfriend responded “dude it’s her fucking birthday shut the hell up.” Also, I’m sure other Washingtonians know that pikes place has a huge variety of flowers. It was my first time there, and I got excited and said “ooh I want flowers!” My boyfriend sighed and his friend Zane said “dude it’s her birthday you got that”. He in fact did not have that. I didn’t get flowers hahaha
Anyways, I was quiet a few minutes before I left. I asked if he wanted to come over for cake with my family. To which he responded “I mean I could.” I just left. 2 minutes away from my house, he called me and said he’d be over in an hour with gifts. Now this part makes me feel the absolute worst, because I don’t wanna sound ungrateful at all, but I saw on Life360 that he went to goodwill, I think a rite aid and a dollar tree for my gifts. This made me sad because I didn’t want a sympathy gift, especially one that wasn’t thought out at all. But when I got it I smiled and kept saying appreciative things. Like for example, he got me a book that says “100 things to do in Tacoma.” I told him “this helps a lot actually because I never know what to do thank you babe!” . I am grateful , I’m grateful that he still made an effort after I was sad, and I really do like the gifts he got me, because they weren’t bad. Just not thought out at all. Anyway he ate a slice of cake and left after that. I was talking to my friends about how sad I was about the day, especially because I cried on my birthday. Am I the asshole for talking to my friends about how upset I was about the gifts and the day in general?

Investors can use SEC 201 rule to their advantage by setting their purchase order limits as high as possible (usually limited by most brokerage platforms to no more than 10% higher than current market price)
What does this accomplish? While under the SEC rule, short sellers can only purchase shorts at, or above, the highest current bid (bid=limit).
Ex.: An investor submits a purchase order for 1 share of a stock. Let’s say the current market price is $1.43/share 😏, and sets the limit to the max of 10% above market, which would be $1.57 in this example. Result: Investor completes purchase of 1 share at $1.43/share.
At the same exact time, after SEC 201 has been triggered, a short seller attempts a short sale of the same stock, of any amount. Result: The only prices available to them would be $1.57 or higher.
So HYPOTHETICALLY, while SEC 201 is triggered, if a large amount of investors continually flood a specific security with purchase orders set 10% above the current market price, even if each PO was for only 1 share each, the only available short options for short sellers to purchase would actually drive the stock price UP if they were to initiate them.

Hey all,
New to the sub - had a quick question for you.
I have a Canvas picture in my home that I'd like to build a picture frame around.
I've seen a bunch of DIY YouTube videos and stuff online, but it all seems fairly complicated with all sorts of different woodworking tools / shapes and sizes of wood.
All I really care to do is glue 4 pieces of wood together to fit the canvas, stain it to look like walnut and I'm happy.
Long story short, this is a canvas that an ex gf and I painted together, but I'd like to make use of the canvas by turning it into something new - gunna order all sorts of different preserved moss and create my own moss wall art on top.
First and foremost I'll need to build a frame around it though!
Does anyone have online resources they can share or tips and tricks to get this done easily? Again, nothing crazy, just 4 pieces of wood around a canvas to form a frame and probably a stain :)
Thanks so much!

Investors can use SEC 201 rule to their advantage by setting their purchase order limits as high as possible (usually limited by most brokerage platforms to no more than 10% higher than current market price)
What does this accomplish? While under the SEC rule, short sellers can only purchase shorts at, or above, the highest current bid (bid=limit).
Ex.: An investor submits a purchase order for 1 share of a stock. Let’s say the current market price is $1.43/share 😏, and sets the limit to the max of 10% above market, which would be $1.57 in this example. Result: Investor completes purchase of 1 share at $1.43/share.
At the same exact time, after SEC 201 has been triggered, a short seller attempts a short sale of the same stock, of any amount. Result: The only prices available to them would be $1.57 or higher.
So HYPOTHETICALLY, while SEC 201 is triggered, if a large amount of investors continually flood a specific security with purchase orders set 10% above the current market price, even if each PO was for only 1 share each, the only available short options for short sellers to purchase would actually drive the stock price UP if they were to initiate them.

I (27M) and her (24F) have broken up and it's been more than 5 months now and we were in LDR for 3 years. 3 months before the break up, we went for a trip. We were in LDR and this meet was after 3 months and we both were pretty excited. The place we went was pretty touristic, beaches, aesthetics, vibes, chill etc.
My male friend (27M) lives in the same place where we planned our trip. Me and him know each other since 6 years through same college. At the end of the college we grew closer. He has met my girlfriend once when I made her meet my friends once 2 years ago. Since then they both are familiar with each other, follow each other on social media.
When we started planning the trip, we 3 we're involved in it. We thoroughly planned a 4 day trip, though mostly it was me who planned most of it. I was bearing all my girlfriend's expense as she hasn't started earning yet and still a student.
The trip happened. Throughout the trip, I observed that my girlfriend was hanging out more with him than me, talking more with him than me, was wearing short dresses whenever we 3 were there. I didn't really liked her attitude. According to the plan we were supposed to have drinks on beach side and I love that. But these two said they didn't want to go beach side and we ended up having drinks inside which I didn't really liked. Then the next day, i wanted to do water sports but these two were so drunk that they were not willing to wake up early in the morning. They both firmly said no when I told them we'll go for water sports early in the morning and I was so angry about it, I went to bed angrily. My gf, lying beside me on the bed, asked what's wrong and i sulked. She said are you gonna be okay and I just ignored. She fell asleep. Morning she had woken up early and I was asleep and I found them both talking, having fun conversations and i really felt left out.
My male friend asked her to wake me up and I was so angry about her behaviour I ended up throwing tantrums. And then when I confronted them both about how I badly wanted to do water sports, she told me if I wanted so badly you should have stated that at night so that we could have gone in the morning. After some talks, I let it go.
Then again the next day i found her showing more interest whenever he was involved compared to times when only two of us were there. We two were planning to go somewhere and she was so disinterested but then when I said we'll meet him there, she showed excitement.
Later on once the trip was over, when we talked about it, she told she was finding his vibes good and so she was hanging out more with him and didn't wanted him to make him feel left out by us being lovey dovey couple.
Really? Since when she started caring about his feelings more than mine? Later on she ended up cheating on me by showing interest in some guy in her college and we broke up.
Now am I the asshole for reacting the way I did? Boys, how close is your girlfriend with your guy friends? Do you get insecure or feel left out? I wanna talk about it so that I can have reality check on myself and the situation but we don't talk anymore. even though I can contact her on call, i don't trust her anymore and whatever she says, she'll make it look like she was the right person in all the situations.
So please help me. What do I do if any of my future partners do this again? Feel free to analyse the situation and guide me. Thank you in advance
Some things about my ex: 1. She cheated on me with her ex (basically she went for closure sex and made me believe it was him who tried to force on her the entire time) 2. She wanted an open relationship 3. She went out with a guy once but later dropped because I said I didn't like open relationship 4. I found some shady texts with guys on WhatsApp and snap during the same trip

Investors can use SEC 201 rule to their advantage by setting their purchase order limits as high as possible (usually limited by most brokerage platforms to no more than 10% higher than current market price)
What does this accomplish? While under the SEC rule, short sellers can only purchase shorts at, or above, the highest current bid (bid=limit).
Ex.: An investor submits a purchase order for 1 share of a stock. Let’s say the current market price is $1.43/share 😏, and sets the limit to the max of 10% above market, which would be $1.57 in this example. Result: Investor completes purchase of 1 share at $1.43/share.
At the same exact time, after SEC 201 has been triggered, a short seller attempts a short sale of the same stock, of any amount. Result: The only prices available to them would be $1.57 or higher.
So HYPOTHETICALLY, while SEC 201 is triggered, if a large amount of investors continually flood a specific security with purchase orders set 10% above the current market price, even if each PO was for only 1 share each, the only available short options for short sellers to purchase would actually drive the stock price UP if they were to initiate them.

Investors can use SEC 201 rule to their advantage by setting their purchase order limits as high as possible (usually limited by most brokerage platforms to no more than 10% higher than current market price)
What does this accomplish? While under the SEC rule, short sellers can only purchase shorts at, or above, the highest current bid (bid=limit).
Ex.: An investor submits a purchase order for 1 share of a stock. Let’s say the current market price is $1.43/share 😏, and sets the limit to the max of 10% above market, which would be $1.57 in this example. Result: Investor completes purchase of 1 share at $1.43/share.
At the same exact time, after SEC 201 has been triggered, a short seller attempts a short sale of the same stock, of any amount. Result: The only prices available to them would be $1.57 or higher.
So HYPOTHETICALLY, while SEC 201 is triggered, if a large amount of investors continually flood a specific security with purchase orders set 10% above the current market price, even if each PO was for only 1 share each, the only available short options for short sellers to purchase would actually drive the stock price UP if they were to initiate them.

Throwaway account to protect my privacy because I have a few friends who follow my Reddit. As some background, this happened quite a few months ago, but it's still brought up today so wanted some opinions.
This is quite a unique situation which I cannot believe I have got myself into, but there you go. I won't bore everyone with a long background, but my (M47) ex-wife (F44) and I have one daughter, Nicole (F17). We divorced when Nicole was 9. We're effective at co-parenting, and I believe we've brought Nicole up to be a smart, grounded, and mature individual.
I met my current wife, Annabel (F45), five years ago. I was introduced to her through a colleague and we hit it off. Annabel has a daughter, Leah (F17), from a previous relationship. Leah and I got off to a rocky start, which I understood as she was a 12/13-year-old girl adjusting to a new family dynamic, but we now have quite a strong relationship, and I do love her.
Unsurprisingly, Leah and Nicole have always butted heads. I didn't expect them to be "sisters" or anything because this isn't a fairytale but they're very competitive with each other. They're both competitive and driven and as they have a lot in common, there's always been a game of oneupmanship.
A few months back, it was time to apply for colleges for them both. I visited a few colleges with Nicole and one with Leah, and helped them both with writing applications. Of all the colleges they visited, they (annoyingly) both had the same college as their favorite.
Long story short, Leah ended up getting in and Nicole didn't. Nicole was really upset but I tried to tell her how the other colleges she did get a place for were still great. I didn't figure there was any benefit to telling her Leah got in but my wife, Leah, her grandparents, uncle, aunt, and I went for a meal to celebrate the achievement. Of course, my wife put a photo of it up on Facebook saying how "proud she was of Leah getting into X college".
Nicole saw this and went crazy telling me how I'd favored my "bitchy stepdaughter" over her, I didn't care about her, how could I celebrate her achievement when my actual daughter didn't get in. My ex also gave me an earful on the phone saying how inconsiderate it was to Nicole and I should be favoring my own daughter.
The whole thing has caused increased resentment between Nicole and Leah, and Nicole still mentions it and how annoyed she is by the situation. I feel there was nothing wrong by celebrating Leah's achievement because I love her and I was proud, but maybe I shouldn't have when I know Nicole didn't get in?
AITA?

Investors can use this rule to their advantage by setting their purchase order limits as high as possible (usually limited by most brokerage platforms to no more than 10% higher than current market price)
What does this accomplish? While under the SEC rule, short sellers can only purchase shorts at, or above, the highest current bid (bid=limit).
Ex.: An investor submits a purchase order for 1 share of a stock. Let’s say the current market price is $1.43/share 😏, and sets the limit to the max of 10% above market, which would be $1.57 in this example. Result: Investor completes purchase of 1 share at $1.43/share.
At the same exact time, after SEC 201 has been triggered, a short seller attempts a short sale of the same stock, of any amount. Result: The only prices available to them would be $1.57 or higher.
So HYPOTHETICALLY, while SEC 201 is triggered, if a large amount of investors continually flood a specific security with purchase orders set 10% above the current market price, even if each PO was for only 1 share each, the only available short options for short sellers to purchase would actually drive the stock price UP if they were to initiate them.

In university I (F20) became best friends with my roommate Eliza (F20). She was extroverted compared to me and helped me come out of my shell. She also convinced me to visit her home country and hang out with her close friends there. I eventually started dating one of her friends and I learned that she tried sexting one of her best friends' exes in the past and never told her.
This friend Alex and her boyfriend Jean got together again and Alex learned about my friend Eliza’s incident however never confronted her hoping Eliza would come out clean herself, which she didn't. When Eliza accused Alex of being distant however hell broke loose and the truth was revealed subsequently ending the friendship.
This incident scared Eliza to the point of asking me to talk with my boyfriend about their friendship because she thought they might grow distant too. She has also always compared me to his ex at anything and accused his ex (and basically me) of growing herself and him distant. Around this time she also accused him of forcing his girlfriends to take birth control, implying we didn't care about STDs or accidental pregnancies. These were all conversations I held with her while she knew we were dating.
I did put up with these comments, sometimes even felt responsible and paid no mind to the incident she had with Alex and Jean. This all changed however when I was planning a not-so-surprise party for my boyfriend and made the mistake of asking for her help. She took it upon herself to invite people and plan the entire party herself even though she thought he had no friends. I also invited Alex and told Eliza beforehand to make sure she didn't freak out, to which she replied with “if she's fine im fine”. Alex had also asked me if she could bring her boyfriend Jean and I said yes; there were two other couples at the party so it was only fair. Upon learning of this Eliza freaked out and dissociated during the entire birthday which made me feel responsible at the time.
We ended up having a big fight over everything that happened, even addressing some past problems. She did apologize in the end but also said "Im sorry you felt that way" and ultimately I was very offended by her actions. This gave me the opportunity to get to know Alex a bit more and confide in her, but a part of me can’t help but feel guilty about the way things happened with Eliza.
AITA for feeling this way? Are my feelings justified?

Investors can use this rule to their advantage by setting their purchase order limits as high as possible (usually limited by most brokerage platforms to no more than 10% higher than current market price)
What does this accomplish? While under the SEC rule, short sellers can only purchase shorts at, or above, the highest current bid (bid=limit).
Ex.: An investor submits a purchase order for 1 share of a stock. Let’s say the current market price is $1.43/share 😏, and sets the limit to the max of 10% above market, which would be $1.57 in this example. Result: Investor completes purchase of 1 share at $1.43/share.
At the same exact time, after SEC 201 has been triggered, a short seller attempts a short sale of the same stock, of any amount. Result: The only prices available to them would be $1.57 or higher.

I'll start with the questions, and leave the background waffle to the end if anyone's interested.
UK-specific
1. Where to learn, from zero? I checked out https://www.gliding.co.uk/club-finde - and three clubs are all around 45 minutes (1hr with traffic) from me in North London (Finchley).

1. Booker
2. Chilterns
3. Dunstable

Does anyone have any direct experience/feedback on any of those? If I go ahead, ideally I'm looking for something fairly intensive as I have 6 months off work. Dunstable is the home of London Gliding Club, and seems to be the biggest/most established of the three. https://www.londonglidingclub.co.uk/fixed-price-to-solo seemed tempting - but when I called, it seemed to not be particularly organised.
I also read several mentions of https://www.lashamgliding.com/ residential course, and one Redditor from UK said they learnt in Hawaii, for the dependable wind.
2. Related to the above - given my middle-age, I sort of want to kick start things. Would a club be able to help with that, or would a dedicated course be better? I'm totally fine (in fact, like the idea of) going a bit slower after that, and being around to help others the whole day etc. But I don't want to spend two years of sporadic weekends in the initial stages, especially when I have weekdays available.
General
3. In the title I say "pretty sure". I was totally sure until I started watching "Pure Glide" on YouTube, and began to understand some of the risks. Also, two of the top results for "gliding uk reddit" are:

• https://www.reddit.com/Gliding/comments/137vqvu/how_safe_is_gliding_in_the_uk/
• https://www.reddit.com/Gliding/comments/15twbh9/two_gliding_incidents_in_the_uk_today/

It's not a deal breaker - but I guess I'm just looking to hear from (more) people how they rationalise that/deal with it. The Pure Glide guy seemed to be of the opinion some people managed it just by thinking it was never going to be them.
4. Looking for feedback on any folks that learnt in their forties/fifties? Did you find it manageable?
Background Waffle
I went for a glider flight on my 16th birthday, but it's only now, three decades later, I find myself having the time (or at least, the mental space for it). Part of me is worried I'm a bit too old to be starting, but hey ho.
I went for a trial flight out of Alford (Lincs Gliding Club), and even though conditions weren't great (apparently) for a winch launch, the kindly gentleman there happily took me up for two 3 to 4 minute flights. There was (understandably) no time for me to take the controls. Several other people helped prepare the glidewinch. Something about the community aspect appealed. I asked the instructor (who started flying when I was born), what he thought about gliding vs powered - and he said gliding is a sport, powered flight is transport.
Nonetheless I also tried a 1hr training flight from Elstree in a Cesna 172. On the plus side - the difference of just being able to fly for an hour was clear. But, there wasn't that community feel. And there also seemed to be a great deal more radio/taxiing process. Finally, my partner is scared of heights, and I have a dog. I don't imagine myself therefore actually flying anywhere in order to actually get there.
In short - I'm nearly ready to push the button on glider training, and looking, I guess, to hear some further opinions/ideas/suggestions I might have missed in my research thus far.

Hey guys! First of all, I would like to give some context of my arrival here. I spend a lot of my day "daydreaming", so to speak, having internal dialogues and even sounding them so that I can talk to myself when no one is around ( I believe a lot of people do this- I have no idea, haha ), this basically helps me get my thoughts out of my head in a simpler and more organized way.
I was here in the kitchen, sitting at the table, and I caught myself thinking about a kind of "strategy" that I unconsciously adopted a few months ago, and it has helped me value myself more. You know, I'm the type of person who dedicates a good amount of minutes and even an hour or two just to research different types of gifts for people I love, like, or have any kind of interest in getting closer, as long as it is already clear to me that that contact is reciprocal (another super important thing that I thought would be nice to emphasize, look for reciprocal relationships!! whether they are friends, lovers, etc. Men and women, ladies and gentlemen, do not accept less than you know (or will eventually discover) how much you deserve, and i tell you, this isn't some nonsense from a self-help book, it's one of the facts of life that I think we all miss having around us, strong bonds.
Returning to the subject, preparing gifts such as books, mugs, t-shirts, baskets of sweets and things like that are part of my love language, and I am very proud of this affection. However, last year, I realized that it was an exclusive language totally dedicated to other people, and I also realized that these were rarely relationships of simultaneous affection. Finally, I had the idea of ​​giving myself a gift! And look, I'm someone who is very difficult to accept something positive from myself, and I don't just mean material things.
I noticed that during a good portion of my short life so far ( I'm nearly on my 20's ) I dedicated myself entirely to any grains of contact I got to have with people around me. I grew up as an insecure person with a huge lack of confidence in most of my attitudes, and this and much more are things that I have been striving to change since about two years ago. And for those who want to know, I have improved a lot! and I still have a lot more to change :))
Anyway, I'm monologuing excessively, what I want to say is that my schizophrenia has evolved in such a way that, in order to be able to make me feel like i deserve better, I have been talking about myself in the third person ( LOL ), so it ends up being something like this: "Hmm, i wonder what him ( me ) would like to receive as a birthday present"
Maybe this is the most ridiculous thing you'll read today, but believe it or not, it's a decent and functional way I found to start this task of improving my relationship with myself.
I think of it as if it were the same as riding a bicycle with training wheels, you know? At some point I will be able to think about giving myself gifts without having to think of myself as this other person I want to get closer with, ( which would mean removing the training wheels ) I mean, I want to get closer to myself lol, but not thinking of myself as someone else, y'know? ( I hope that wasn't difficult to understand ).
( Just making it clear that I don't go around talking to myself in the third person, capiche? )
Anyway, I think I need to improve my way of narrating, to avoid these unnecessary detours with too much information. As I said earlier, I started thinking about this to myself and then I did a quick research looking for a community here on Reddit that talked about each person's personal issues, because I thought it would fit well here. If my post doesn't relate to others posted here, I apologize! The same if I used the wrong tag for my post.
I'm a anxious person, and while writing the post, I got into thinking that the more mature audience of this sub might think of my advice as something that would only work for people of my age, but I also think that all of us, even adults over 30, are still kind of learning more and more about "adulting", I think there are no useless lessons, we just adapt and remodel those we learned previously in other phases of life, to make more sense with the current lifestyle we may be leading.
In short, value your time! Don't insist on relationships that only your side shows interest in keeping going, and take a deep breath before making decisions that cost a lot of your mental health. I know you all must know all this, but I think words like that are always valid as a way of reminding ourselves not to let nervousness or stress from other people's influence take away our sanity. And remember to give yourself a "gift" at some point, maybe it won't have a physical form, and it won't be bought with money, but it's definitely one of the things in this world that only you can give to yourself with a singular meaning.