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2024.05.19 18:11 KaleidoscopeOk3232 How to I un-cut out people from my life?
I am currently in therapy and just got on ADHD medication and my life is slowly kind of coming back together. My partner recently brought up that there are friends that did nothing to me I don't talk to, and he's mad that I've "abandoned" them - and I was so shocked. I didn't forget about these people, but the guilt of not talking to them became so normal in the background, I felt there was nothing I could do.
There are several people in question who try to contact me regularly that I am admitting now that I ghost often. I have never admitted that before. I don't have a lot of energy to spend, and that was always my excuse, but I found a common trend with these friends: they're TOO good. The closer I keep people, the more unstable we are together, affirming to each other we're still in an emotional abuse loop, even my partner before we started therapy respectively... It was a horrible revelation. These people were wonderful, drama-free, loving souls - and I've pushed them away.
I am not going to say I don't still have a low social battery, but I would like to try bridging these connections again. Once again several of them do message me regularly still. But, even if they take me back into their lives, which is totally their choice - are they going to resent me? How do I ever forgive myself for what I've done, even if some of them are probably going to forgive me?
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There are several people in question who try to contact me regularly that I am admitting now that I ghost often. I have never admitted that before. I don't have a lot of energy to spend, and that was always my excuse, but I found a common trend with these friends: they're TOO good. The closer I keep people, the more unstable we are together, affirming to each other we're still in an emotional abuse loop, even my partner before we started therapy respectively... It was a horrible revelation. These people were wonderful, drama-free, loving souls - and I've pushed them away.
I am not going to say I don't still have a low social battery, but I would like to try bridging these connections again. Once again several of them do message me regularly still. But, even if they take me back into their lives, which is totally their choice - are they going to resent me? How do I ever forgive myself for what I've done, even if some of them are probably going to forgive me?
2024.05.19 17:56 P4ULUS How important are majors?
When comparing career accomplishments, how many regular PGA tournament wins equals one major win? How do you think about players with relatively more majors and fewer total wins?
Observing the low scoring at the PGA, it’s tough to argue this tournament should be worth that much more than a Players or Playoff event.
Koepka recently opined he’s not thought of as “the guy” despite his majors, suggesting he’s overlooked as an all-timer. However, Koepka has won just 9 times on the tour, relatively few for a guy with that many majors, and 3 of the 5 are PGAs.
For example, doesn’t DJ with 24 PGA wins and just 2 majors have a more impressive resume than Brooks? A handful of those events had fields as good as Brooks PGAs. Even a guy like JT with 15 tour wins and a Fed ex Cup (plus two majors) would seem close in terms of resume.
What do you think? Do we overrate majors?
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Observing the low scoring at the PGA, it’s tough to argue this tournament should be worth that much more than a Players or Playoff event.
Koepka recently opined he’s not thought of as “the guy” despite his majors, suggesting he’s overlooked as an all-timer. However, Koepka has won just 9 times on the tour, relatively few for a guy with that many majors, and 3 of the 5 are PGAs.
For example, doesn’t DJ with 24 PGA wins and just 2 majors have a more impressive resume than Brooks? A handful of those events had fields as good as Brooks PGAs. Even a guy like JT with 15 tour wins and a Fed ex Cup (plus two majors) would seem close in terms of resume.
What do you think? Do we overrate majors?
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2024.05.19 17:43 FlareTheDemon AITAH in the relationship with my ex?
I am F16, my ex is M18. loved my ex. I want to get that out of the way. He wasn't conventionally attractive, but I thought he looked nice and was a wonderful person. He was autistic and had adhd, which made some stuff challenging, but I loved him and was willing to deal with it, since I myself had BPD and he was willing to deal with it (or so he said). Do note this relationship was long distance.
I knew him for four years before we dated. We didn't talk much for a year or so, before dating. I had gotten out of a relationship, a little after we had reconnected. I didn't want to date again for at least a year, but he was kind to me and we talked quite often. I started to fall for him, but he told me he was aromantic so I never pursued.
We jokingly would flirt though, and spend a lot of time talking together. One day he told me he might be demiromantic, not aromantic, because he felt something for me. I talked more with him after that, about relationship type things. Eventually I confessed, and then a while later, he confessed back to me. When we started dating, we agreed on certain things. He didn't know if he loved me romantically, but he was happy to engage in romantic behaviors and he felt some type of love for me. I was okay with this. I made him aware of what my BPD looked like, he said he was okay with that too.
For the beginning of the relationship, the first few months, it was lovely and we enjoyed each other's company (at least I thought we did). Rough patches were smoothed over pretty easily. Eventually, behaviors I have from BPD, specifically being easily triggered to react emotionally, became more prevalent. There was a point where he wanted to break up with me, then after a conversation, decided to let me try and resolve the behavior. I did try, I tried very hard.
I think I probably should have let it go, though. After this event, he began to tell his friends and family about all our dramas. Probably a red flag, since I only spoke to one person (my best friend) and never painted him negatively, though his family hates me now so he must have. We met a month after this, and it was the best five days I ever had. I felt loved, we got along well (I thought, Ill touch on this later). A month later, he begins online college. Okay, cool. Great. I was happy for him.
He told me it wouldn't affect our relationship, and at first it didn't, but eventually he stopped doing it in a timely manner and would fail to achieve commitments he had said he would do. Every day I would ask if we planned to call, I would've been fine with a yes or no. He always said yes, but often wouldn't keep the commitment. At first I handled it just fine, but eventually it became upsetting.
I'm a busy person, and I'm not free during my day until evening. He's free most of his days, almost constantly. I would do my best to be available at our designated time, and would feel hurt (and eventually react as such) when he wouldn't. Especially when he started to put off his schoolwork to hang out with his friends, often after having said we would talk later that day too. I brought this up to him, I want to say. I told him if he wanted time to himself, he could tell me how long he wanted and I would give it to him. He never did tell me, but he often would tell me that when I was awake he never felt free. He would stay up very late because that was the only time he felt free. He said he was always worried I would need him, so I guess there was a red flag in that too.
Touching back on the meeting him in person thing. He has a large family, and his family has a small farm with livestock dogs on it. His younger siblings were very interested in me, since I was a new person, and they wanted to hang out with me. I also love dogs, and have always wanted one, so I spent some time with the dogs out on the farm. I would invite him to play with his siblings with me, or go see the dog. I slept six hours a night for those five days, and would be with him for 16-17 hours a day. We would go out places and talk, and I would spend maybe two or three of those hours at the most around his siblings/the dog.
Later on, after we went on our break (I'll talk about this too, later) he said to me that he felt I wanted to make an impression on his siblings more than I did with him, and that we were at different points in our lives because I still wanted to have fun and play around (I want to reiterate that his siblings would seek me out). He told me he wanted us to have spent more time just laying around and cuddling, rather than going out to so many places, but never said this to me while we were together in person. I invited his oldest sister to come with us to a place (before asking him), though I told her I would need him to agree before we finalized anything, and then asked him after. He didn't like that.
Now, before I get into the last section of this, I want to establish that he was very kind to me (usually). We bought each other gifts, spent time together, made plans, and all of that stuff. He made me happy, I thought I made him happy too.
In our relationship, we both failed to communicate, and I would fail to discuss things calmly, letting my emotions get the best of me. I wouldn't leave him alone very often, wouldn't let him do stuff away from me very often. I loved being around him, but he wanted time apart and I tended not to give that to him. I should have. This was his first relationship that he wanted to last, but his second relationship in total. I've had many more before this, but this was the only one I really felt commitment to. We talked about marrying, about buying a house, about pets and family. I feel as if we did everything right, or at least he did. I was the emotional one, who wanted too much. I know it was mainly my fault.
When we went on break, it was because I couldn't take it anymore and lost my cool. He'd promised we could talk that night, I was extremely vulnerable emotionally because of something with my family. He failed to finish his work on time, told me he needed another two hours. I snapped. I went down the list of "everything I hate about you (him)". I told him most of the stuff I'm saying here, and some others.
I started therapy after that, I started trying to find ways to work around all my issues while he continued his typical daily routine. I didn't mind. He initiated flirting with me, and other stuff, that I reciprocated and went along with because I loved him and I still love him even now, and it was all my fault even if I know it wasn't all my fault it feels like it was all my fault. He said he never wants to speak to me again, blocked me, all of it.
During our break, I tried confronting our problems and finding solutions. He dropped several bombs on me, that make me feel rather insecure even now about whether he ever liked me for me or just because of other physical (you know what I mean) attributes, bring that that was all he would really comment on positively.
He told me he never loved me, and never likes me.
Now, what led to the final actual break up, was that I have been planning with another friend to move to Salt Lake City for actual years. He wanted to be part of it, and so did another friend. My household situation isn't great, won't go into too many details but I have been having stress reactions since many years ago, that have been getting steadily worse. I wanted to move out at 18, I'm almost 17. I've been kind of panicking about all of this, and yesterday I snapped (sort of). The conversation with him went sort of like this:
Tl;Dr, had a relationship with someone I really liked, I feel like I'm to blame for the collapse of it. He had autism/adhd, I had BPD, we went on break so I could try to fix my problems (he said he would too but it didn't really feel much like he was), and then broke up because I confronted him (albeit poorly) about how I felt he and another person treated the future they wanted to be involved in. There were a lot of things that hurt me really badly in the relationship, but I think I hurt him worse. AITAH?
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I knew him for four years before we dated. We didn't talk much for a year or so, before dating. I had gotten out of a relationship, a little after we had reconnected. I didn't want to date again for at least a year, but he was kind to me and we talked quite often. I started to fall for him, but he told me he was aromantic so I never pursued.
We jokingly would flirt though, and spend a lot of time talking together. One day he told me he might be demiromantic, not aromantic, because he felt something for me. I talked more with him after that, about relationship type things. Eventually I confessed, and then a while later, he confessed back to me. When we started dating, we agreed on certain things. He didn't know if he loved me romantically, but he was happy to engage in romantic behaviors and he felt some type of love for me. I was okay with this. I made him aware of what my BPD looked like, he said he was okay with that too.
For the beginning of the relationship, the first few months, it was lovely and we enjoyed each other's company (at least I thought we did). Rough patches were smoothed over pretty easily. Eventually, behaviors I have from BPD, specifically being easily triggered to react emotionally, became more prevalent. There was a point where he wanted to break up with me, then after a conversation, decided to let me try and resolve the behavior. I did try, I tried very hard.
I think I probably should have let it go, though. After this event, he began to tell his friends and family about all our dramas. Probably a red flag, since I only spoke to one person (my best friend) and never painted him negatively, though his family hates me now so he must have. We met a month after this, and it was the best five days I ever had. I felt loved, we got along well (I thought, Ill touch on this later). A month later, he begins online college. Okay, cool. Great. I was happy for him.
He told me it wouldn't affect our relationship, and at first it didn't, but eventually he stopped doing it in a timely manner and would fail to achieve commitments he had said he would do. Every day I would ask if we planned to call, I would've been fine with a yes or no. He always said yes, but often wouldn't keep the commitment. At first I handled it just fine, but eventually it became upsetting.
I'm a busy person, and I'm not free during my day until evening. He's free most of his days, almost constantly. I would do my best to be available at our designated time, and would feel hurt (and eventually react as such) when he wouldn't. Especially when he started to put off his schoolwork to hang out with his friends, often after having said we would talk later that day too. I brought this up to him, I want to say. I told him if he wanted time to himself, he could tell me how long he wanted and I would give it to him. He never did tell me, but he often would tell me that when I was awake he never felt free. He would stay up very late because that was the only time he felt free. He said he was always worried I would need him, so I guess there was a red flag in that too.
Touching back on the meeting him in person thing. He has a large family, and his family has a small farm with livestock dogs on it. His younger siblings were very interested in me, since I was a new person, and they wanted to hang out with me. I also love dogs, and have always wanted one, so I spent some time with the dogs out on the farm. I would invite him to play with his siblings with me, or go see the dog. I slept six hours a night for those five days, and would be with him for 16-17 hours a day. We would go out places and talk, and I would spend maybe two or three of those hours at the most around his siblings/the dog.
Later on, after we went on our break (I'll talk about this too, later) he said to me that he felt I wanted to make an impression on his siblings more than I did with him, and that we were at different points in our lives because I still wanted to have fun and play around (I want to reiterate that his siblings would seek me out). He told me he wanted us to have spent more time just laying around and cuddling, rather than going out to so many places, but never said this to me while we were together in person. I invited his oldest sister to come with us to a place (before asking him), though I told her I would need him to agree before we finalized anything, and then asked him after. He didn't like that.
Now, before I get into the last section of this, I want to establish that he was very kind to me (usually). We bought each other gifts, spent time together, made plans, and all of that stuff. He made me happy, I thought I made him happy too.
In our relationship, we both failed to communicate, and I would fail to discuss things calmly, letting my emotions get the best of me. I wouldn't leave him alone very often, wouldn't let him do stuff away from me very often. I loved being around him, but he wanted time apart and I tended not to give that to him. I should have. This was his first relationship that he wanted to last, but his second relationship in total. I've had many more before this, but this was the only one I really felt commitment to. We talked about marrying, about buying a house, about pets and family. I feel as if we did everything right, or at least he did. I was the emotional one, who wanted too much. I know it was mainly my fault.
When we went on break, it was because I couldn't take it anymore and lost my cool. He'd promised we could talk that night, I was extremely vulnerable emotionally because of something with my family. He failed to finish his work on time, told me he needed another two hours. I snapped. I went down the list of "everything I hate about you (him)". I told him most of the stuff I'm saying here, and some others.
- I hate how you never take my advice
- I hate how you ask me to help you stay on track but never listen to me
- I hate how you get upset with me easily, but never do with any of your friends Etc.
I started therapy after that, I started trying to find ways to work around all my issues while he continued his typical daily routine. I didn't mind. He initiated flirting with me, and other stuff, that I reciprocated and went along with because I loved him and I still love him even now, and it was all my fault even if I know it wasn't all my fault it feels like it was all my fault. He said he never wants to speak to me again, blocked me, all of it.
During our break, I tried confronting our problems and finding solutions. He dropped several bombs on me, that make me feel rather insecure even now about whether he ever liked me for me or just because of other physical (you know what I mean) attributes, bring that that was all he would really comment on positively.
He told me he never loved me, and never likes me.
Now, what led to the final actual break up, was that I have been planning with another friend to move to Salt Lake City for actual years. He wanted to be part of it, and so did another friend. My household situation isn't great, won't go into too many details but I have been having stress reactions since many years ago, that have been getting steadily worse. I wanted to move out at 18, I'm almost 17. I've been kind of panicking about all of this, and yesterday I snapped (sort of). The conversation with him went sort of like this:
- I tell him he and the other two won't enjoy the talk we'll have Monday
- He asks why
- I said "you guys probably just wont"
- He tells me I'm being defeatist
- I tell him I'm not, then give more details on the conversation. He and the other two are 18, 18, and 20. Two of them come from well-off families. I felt frustrated that neither of them, especially him, work yet or have been trying to even get their driver's license. I intend to skip two years of high-school to take my GED and start working because I don't have another choice. They have choices, and I don't. I wanted to get this point across.
Tl;Dr, had a relationship with someone I really liked, I feel like I'm to blame for the collapse of it. He had autism/adhd, I had BPD, we went on break so I could try to fix my problems (he said he would too but it didn't really feel much like he was), and then broke up because I confronted him (albeit poorly) about how I felt he and another person treated the future they wanted to be involved in. There were a lot of things that hurt me really badly in the relationship, but I think I hurt him worse. AITAH?
2024.05.19 17:35 IOrocketscience Why does Let It Be (film) have the reputation of showing the Beatles breaking up?
I've been waiting my whole life - 42 years - to see Let It Be and I finally had the opportunity with the Disney+ re-release.
I had always heard that Let It Be is a hard watch because it basically shows the Beatles breakup in real time. But that's totally not the case. There is almost no drama in it. They didn't show George quitting the group, they don't show them arguing about anything, they didn't Even show the discussions and disagreements about where/how to do the concert. Basically the entire movie is the Beatles, jamming, rehearsing, recording, or performing. How did the movie get the reputation it has?
Compared to Get Back, it could have been very dramatic, but it's really just a concert film.
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I had always heard that Let It Be is a hard watch because it basically shows the Beatles breakup in real time. But that's totally not the case. There is almost no drama in it. They didn't show George quitting the group, they don't show them arguing about anything, they didn't Even show the discussions and disagreements about where/how to do the concert. Basically the entire movie is the Beatles, jamming, rehearsing, recording, or performing. How did the movie get the reputation it has?
Compared to Get Back, it could have been very dramatic, but it's really just a concert film.
2024.05.19 17:19 NilesForMiles Funny meme
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2024.05.19 17:16 DaenerysMadQueen S8 events according to the consensus
 | "In the space of a single, terrible day and night, all your fighting men were swallowed up by the earth, and the island of Atlantis likewise was swallowed up by the sea and disappeared." -Plato submitted by DaenerysMadQueen to naath [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/yrf5bahjcd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=bb50bb535a8f7aacc2a6fd5aa289f18540e2de3d Winterfell The first episode of the final season begins, echoing the atmosphere of Robert Baratheon's arrival at Winterfell in the series' premiere. What a lazy screenwriting move for fan service. Jon discovers the secret about his mother and his heritage, in front of his father's crypt. Ned Stark's promise was fulfilled, a stroke of luck for D&D. "You gave up your crown to save your people. Would she do the same ?" https://preview.redd.it/ty7em5xhfd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=0805b98f56f68dd0afc88b28bf3bc3b4cb639eac A Knight of the Seven Kingdoms Then comes episode 2, where the heroes discuss future stakes, preparing for the Long Night, and what comes after the battle if it happens. Jon reveals the secret to Daenerys, who doesn't seem pleased to hear it. In short, nothing happens in this episode, it's boring. "All my life, I've known one goal: the Iron Throne. Taking it back from the people who destroyed my family, and almost destroyed yours. My war was against them. Until I met Jon. Now I'm here, half a world away, fighting Jon's war alongside him. Tell me, who manipulated whom ?" https://preview.redd.it/2z99qqywgd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=a6b9c1889e4dbb53b15c9a27c81c83c4edfdf3c7 The Long Night Finally, the famous battle of the Long Night. We just see the Dothraki charging with flaming swords into the darkness, and then nothing. Everything is dark. We can't see anything. Maybe Daenerys at some point tries to roast the Night King, but it's unclear. Everything is black, everything is darkness and gloom. "- I'm going now. - Go where ?" https://preview.redd.it/3t64jmj1gd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=652abdf4a4074091b91976ace33da8b1a4d911bb "Nymeria, it's me, Arya. I'm heading north, girl. Back to Winterfell, I'm finally going home." The Last of the Starks After the credits, Jon Snow is giving a heartfelt speech for the fallen in the battle. Since we didn't see anything I suppose they won, probably because Jon finally killed the Night King and they are celebrating, but Daenerys is visibly disappointed that Arya is the hero of Winterfell, and she's upset that Jon refuses to cuddle with her because of the secret. She doesn't want Jon to talk about the secret because she doesn't want people to know they're engaging in incestuous cuddles. I think. "Even if the truth destroys us ?" https://preview.redd.it/6qvracdcjd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=f50da19f55d66cf2c388752d71df673152780fc2 Anyway, it's very disappointing that the war against the zombies is already over; we should have had a whole season of the Long Night, in darkness and gloom, with an episode solely focused on strategy and the use of trebuchets. And then, when the heroes finally set out to take down Cersei, Daenerys falls into a lame, obvious, and avoidable ambush. Rhaegal dies stupidly, and Missandei is captured, then executed. Tyrion fails to save her, Cersei wins the final Lannister duel, and she angers the Dragon Queen enough to push her over the edge. In short, all of this was rushed and poorly written, nothing makes sense, I am shocked and angry. It's unfair. It's not right. "If you want justice, you've come to the wrong place." https://preview.redd.it/ua493n4cgd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=6d4937e7b8a327f11fc7fa094a84d227623b72a3 The Bells https://preview.redd.it/3w4ate9tyd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=be32819c3eda6b9a7026bb2b300cf8abe22da9af The penultimate episode of the series begins with a letter. Varys wants to inform that Jon is the heir to the throne; he betrays the queen. In mourning, with Tyrion, Daenerys only talks about the secret about Jon. It's the end, Act V of the play, the young tragic princess is lost, and the comedic archetype can't help her, it's too late, it doesn't matter now. "- Yes, she trusts you. She trusted you to spread secrets that could destroy your own queen. And you did not let her down. - If I have failed you, my queen, forgive me. Our intentions were good. We wanted what you want. A better world, all of us. Varys as much as anyone. But it doesn’t matter now. - No. It doesn’t matter now." An extremely poorly written dialogue, obviously, probably one of the worst-written dialogues in the history of theater, cinema, and television. In my opinion, far too convoluted and boring, far too tragic for a TV series. https://preview.redd.it/uo5f4s43jd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=4757e00b2c3f01680bca09125dc998be02af7196 Then the Unsullied come to arrest Varys, and he is sentenced to death. "The Supreme Lord said: I am mighty Time, the source of destruction that comes forth to annihilate the worlds. Even without your participation, the warriors arrayed in the opposing army shall cease to exist." -11.32 Bhagavad Gita https://preview.redd.it/s11lnvojjd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=2d3c760dc6f0f263f6c2004855c67eb8f3819032
https://preview.redd.it/zmehvnu0md1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=d1fe51dec443496ded16e9ac3e15c7a812be39f0 "The things I do for love."
https://preview.redd.it/v9z7c47ekd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=5b1234cd9bab5380176c292c380ab375b83ee9c0 "When you play the game of thrones, you win, or you die. There is no middle ground."
https://preview.redd.it/wjp0lq1pkd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=a4cceb3ac14c2ee57f0b30ab2c5cbf623f2758de "You know what’s wrong with honor ?"
https://preview.redd.it/lrs1bxftkd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=b310d8131ca0607b5e54c47d90ed8ce580f4afe3 "Fire !"
https://preview.redd.it/i7c44r95ld1d1.jpg?width=3733&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4e8e7bb5d1dc502a5bdbe44f7d5bca5b1946c78c "Go home, girl."
https://preview.redd.it/fx5t65gpld1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=71f173f409f518e1cf211c9c85c62725c0bbe8b1 "There's plenty of pious sons of bitches who think they know the word of god or gods. I don’t. I don’t even know their real names. Maybe it is the Seven. Or maybe it’s the old gods. Or maybe it’s the Lord of Light. Or maybe they’re all the same fucking thing. I don’t know. What matters, I believe, is that there’s something greater than us." The Iron Throne https://preview.redd.it/q937d04dvd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=3853c2cf88e2ef52f55128bf61bb0f6d23a5bba3 The last episode, after the bells. So this is how it ends. Daenerys has triumphed, Tyrion has realized his mistake, is imprisoned again, and makes Jon understand in one final conversation that he must choose, between his sisters and Dany, between the Starks and the Targaryens, between love and duty. It's all so tragic. Daenerys finally came home, the legend has triumphed, the dream has become reality. And then the prince steps forward, still plagued by doubt, imploring the young princess to cease her quest for power, to forgive. And Dany's words have meaning, echoing those Tyrion spoke to Jon. The fallen hero then understands that he cannot save both the world and the princess. The long tirades echo high in the halls of the kings who are gone, and the fallen hero murders his lover, not out of ambition for the throne, not out of anger or vengeance, but out of love for his sisters and the people. The tyrant is dead, sadly concluding the dramatic journey of a young innocent orphan that no hero could manage to save. "When I was a girl, my brother told me it was made with one thousand swords from Aegon's fallen enemies. What do one thousand look like in the mind of a little girl who can't count to twenty ? I imagined a mountain of swords too high to climb. So many fallen enemies, you could only see the soles of Aegon's feet." https://preview.redd.it/vi818cdw0e1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=f4732894d0f9b43b9bae3629cc102fb25abfda69 Jon left the throne empty, accepting his judgment and the punishment of the dragon. Thus were extinguished the last Targaryens, in front of the object of all conflicts, high under the sky, above mortals, together. But Jon has a hero's shield too, so I imagine there's a chip scratching Drogon behind a wing, and thus he misses his shot and destroys the walls. And then the chip jumps onto the throne, so Drogon destroys the throne and the chip but he was too tired for Jon afterwards. Such lazy writing, utterly senseless, just for the symbolism of the dragon destroying the throne, the object of all the passions and dramas of this world, a satire of power and conclusion of the story. "I told you it's difficult to explain." Obvious fanservice, nothing complex or mysterious. But we don't know where Drogon is taking Daenerys, she has no mortal tomb. The mystery completes the legend, this girl was a shooting star until the end. "I have been sold like a broodmare. I’ve been chained and betrayed, raped and defiled. Do you know what kept me standing through all those years in exile ? Faith. Not in any gods, not in myths and legends, in myself. In Daenerys Targaryen." https://preview.redd.it/s3jmmuohzd1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=4007c56afdc01347bcc0770f9e7618b07eee3073 And to conclude, the council scene, a calm yet very rushed and poorly written moment, as everyone knows. It's certainly officially announced by professionals somewhere. Once again, the creators understood nothing about the story and the audience's expectations. Nothing funny, nothing complicated, nothing secretive, but the worst part is Bran's choice, it's not good, it's illegal, he cheated. Then the beautiful visuals, the surviving Starks, and Ramin Djawadi's magnificent music for the last five minutes and the final credits, pure happy ending, pure fanservice, it's an absolute failure, the worst series finale in history, it's obviously a dox..., sorry, a well-known consensus. It's all a mix of fan service, bad writing, and being rushed, extremely well-balanced. GRRM would certainly have wanted at least three more seasons to properly tell the final scene between Jon and Daenerys. So much wasted potential, D&D sacrificed the ending of the greatest series in history for Star Wars contracts they didn't even get. It's a scandal. Thankfully, no one talks about GoT anymore since that ending, except to reminisce about the golden age of season 4 and the seasons before. Everyone agrees, it's a fact. It is known. GoT's ending is a beautiful disaster. ... "- It's a long story. - If only we were trapped in a castle in the middle of winter with nowhere to go..." https://preview.redd.it/qifnbl7w6e1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=11319c6b58f55cd52f14bd161c25ef8d633b4c8e ... "Be with me. Build the new world with me. This is our reason. It has been from the beginning since you were a little boy with a bastard's name and I was a little girl who couldn't count to twenty. We do it together. We break the wheel together." https://preview.redd.it/b5i39z5s2e1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=f1704cefcfd8876db60ddc018306883e99760062 "You are my queen, now and always." |
2024.05.19 17:03 CrimsonFoxyboy [H] Bundle leftovers [W]Double Dragon Gaiden, Astrea: Six-Sided Oracles, Dicey Dungeons, offers
Humble Bundle: (Region: EUROPE!)
Will do multiple keys for Astrea and Double Dragon Gaiden
2Dark
Aarklash: Legacy
Among the Sleep - Enhanced Edition
Almost There: The Platformer
AUTONAUTS VS PIRATEBOTS
BATTLESTAR GALACTICA DEADLOCK
BASEMENT
Brothers: A Tale of Two Sons
Burly Men at Sea
Cities in Motion 2
Crazy Machines 3
CRYOFALL
Dungeon of the Endless
DON'T ESCAPE: 4 DAYS TO SURVIVE
ECHO
ENDLESS SPACE 2 - DELUXE EDITION
Evergarden
Forged Battalion
FANTASY BLACKSMITH
Fae Tactics
FOBIA - ST. DINFNA HOTEL
FIVE DATES
GAS STATION SIMULATOR
GRID 2
GOAT OF DUTY
HackyZack
Homeworld Remastered Collection
HIVESWAP: Act 1
Insurgency
IRIS AND THE GIANT
INDIVISIBLE
Kona
Kathy Rain
Laser League
Leap of Fate
Late Shift
LIGHTMATTER
Magicka
MAID OF SKER
Meadow
Majesty 2 Collection
MIND SCANNERS
Mysterium: A Psychic Clue Game
MORBID: THE SEVEN ACOLYTES
OMNO
One Way Heroics
One Way Heroics
Orwell: Keeping an Eye On You
Orcs Must Die! 2 + DLC
Red Faction®: Armageddon™
RAILWAY EMPIRE
RAILROAD CORPORATION
Revolver 360 Re:Actor
Rusty Lake: Roots
Sentinels of the Multiverse
Swords and Soldiers 2 Shawarmageddon
She Remembered Caterpillars
Shadowrun Returns
Shady Part of Me
Sonic the Hedgehog 4 - Episode I
Sonic the Hedgehog 4 - Episode II
Sonic Adventure DX
Sonic Adventure 2+Battle DLC
Steel Rats
Sid Meier's Civilization VI
SIGMA THEORY: GLOBAL COLD WAR
Shadowrun Returns
Sentinels of the Multiverse
Swords and Soldiers 2
STRANGE BRIGADE
Subterrain
Talisman: Digital Edition
Tannenberg
Tennis World Tour
The Town of Light
THE DARK PICTURES ANTHOLOGY: LITTLE HOPE
Tesla Effect: A Tex Murphy Adventure
THE UNCERTAIN: LAST QUIET DAY
The Forgotten City
Tower of Guns
Tacoma
TRAIN STATION RENOVATION
The Golf Club™ 2019 featuring PGA TOUR
THE WILD EIGHT
Toto Temple Deluxe
Tumblestone
Tokyo 42
THE OCCUPATION
THE SHAPESHIFTING DETECTIVE
Unholy Heights
VAMPIRE: THE MASQUERADE - COTERIES OF NEW YORK
VOID BASTARDS
VERLET SWING
WARSTONE TD
WEREWOLF: THE APOCALYPSE — HEART OF THE FOREST
WHO PRESSED MUTE ON UNCLE MARCUS
YUPPIE PSYCHO
YES, YOUR GRACE
Fanatical:
Grand Ages: Medieval
Jalopy
Mysterium: A Psychic Clue Game
Holy Potatoes! A Weapon Shop?!
GALAK-Z
Subterrain
SPACECOM
Songbringer
The Sexy Brutale
Streets of Fury EX
OUT OF THE BOX
Yoku's Island Express
Wants:
Astrea: Six-Sided Oracles
Clash: Artifacts of Chaos
Dicey Dungeons
Astalon: Tears of the Earth
Wanted: Dead
Rep page: https://www.reddit.com/IGSRep/comments/femr35/crimsonfoxyboys_igs_rep_page_number_5/
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Will do multiple keys for Astrea and Double Dragon Gaiden
2Dark
Aarklash: Legacy
Among the Sleep - Enhanced Edition
Almost There: The Platformer
AUTONAUTS VS PIRATEBOTS
BATTLESTAR GALACTICA DEADLOCK
BASEMENT
Brothers: A Tale of Two Sons
Burly Men at Sea
Cities in Motion 2
Crazy Machines 3
CRYOFALL
Dungeon of the Endless
DON'T ESCAPE: 4 DAYS TO SURVIVE
ECHO
ENDLESS SPACE 2 - DELUXE EDITION
Evergarden
Forged Battalion
FANTASY BLACKSMITH
Fae Tactics
FOBIA - ST. DINFNA HOTEL
FIVE DATES
GAS STATION SIMULATOR
GRID 2
GOAT OF DUTY
HackyZack
Homeworld Remastered Collection
HIVESWAP: Act 1
Insurgency
IRIS AND THE GIANT
INDIVISIBLE
Kona
Kathy Rain
Laser League
Leap of Fate
Late Shift
LIGHTMATTER
Magicka
MAID OF SKER
Meadow
Majesty 2 Collection
MIND SCANNERS
Mysterium: A Psychic Clue Game
MORBID: THE SEVEN ACOLYTES
OMNO
One Way Heroics
One Way Heroics
Orwell: Keeping an Eye On You
Orcs Must Die! 2 + DLC
Red Faction®: Armageddon™
RAILWAY EMPIRE
RAILROAD CORPORATION
Revolver 360 Re:Actor
Rusty Lake: Roots
Sentinels of the Multiverse
Swords and Soldiers 2 Shawarmageddon
She Remembered Caterpillars
Shadowrun Returns
Shady Part of Me
Sonic the Hedgehog 4 - Episode I
Sonic the Hedgehog 4 - Episode II
Sonic Adventure DX
Sonic Adventure 2+Battle DLC
Steel Rats
Sid Meier's Civilization VI
SIGMA THEORY: GLOBAL COLD WAR
Shadowrun Returns
Sentinels of the Multiverse
Swords and Soldiers 2
STRANGE BRIGADE
Subterrain
Talisman: Digital Edition
Tannenberg
Tennis World Tour
The Town of Light
THE DARK PICTURES ANTHOLOGY: LITTLE HOPE
Tesla Effect: A Tex Murphy Adventure
THE UNCERTAIN: LAST QUIET DAY
The Forgotten City
Tower of Guns
Tacoma
TRAIN STATION RENOVATION
The Golf Club™ 2019 featuring PGA TOUR
THE WILD EIGHT
Toto Temple Deluxe
Tumblestone
Tokyo 42
THE OCCUPATION
THE SHAPESHIFTING DETECTIVE
Unholy Heights
VAMPIRE: THE MASQUERADE - COTERIES OF NEW YORK
VOID BASTARDS
VERLET SWING
WARSTONE TD
WEREWOLF: THE APOCALYPSE — HEART OF THE FOREST
WHO PRESSED MUTE ON UNCLE MARCUS
YUPPIE PSYCHO
YES, YOUR GRACE
Fanatical:
Grand Ages: Medieval
Jalopy
Mysterium: A Psychic Clue Game
Holy Potatoes! A Weapon Shop?!
GALAK-Z
Subterrain
SPACECOM
Songbringer
The Sexy Brutale
Streets of Fury EX
OUT OF THE BOX
Yoku's Island Express
Wants:
Astrea: Six-Sided Oracles
Clash: Artifacts of Chaos
Dicey Dungeons
Astalon: Tears of the Earth
Wanted: Dead
Rep page: https://www.reddit.com/IGSRep/comments/femr35/crimsonfoxyboys_igs_rep_page_number_5/
2024.05.19 17:01 ironbundleicebeam The difference between Magikarp in Island and Magikarp in World Tour is insane.
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2024.05.19 17:00 paper-mo0n I have so much respect for aespa for their growth as performers
Seriously so impressed with them these days! Ever since Spicy they've started to noticeably grow as performers. They became more relaxed on stage and seem more comfortable showing facial expressions. With Drama, I could see even more growth.
Now watching their Supernova stages, I'm blown away by their energy, synchronization, and ownership of the stage.
It must've been difficult to debut during COVID with no audience. Since then they've done a world tour and some festival performances and I think that's greatly boosted their confidence and strengthened their onstage chemistry as a group.
Good on them for overcoming the initial criticisms of their performances. All their hard work has really paid off and it's been satisfying to watch.
Just wanted to share my admiration and give space for appreciation if anyone else wants to chime in :)
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Now watching their Supernova stages, I'm blown away by their energy, synchronization, and ownership of the stage.
It must've been difficult to debut during COVID with no audience. Since then they've done a world tour and some festival performances and I think that's greatly boosted their confidence and strengthened their onstage chemistry as a group.
Good on them for overcoming the initial criticisms of their performances. All their hard work has really paid off and it's been satisfying to watch.
Just wanted to share my admiration and give space for appreciation if anyone else wants to chime in :)
2024.05.19 16:59 Jlynneknight Can you help me get clarity? I need to see him for the next 12 years.....
I I guess I'm looking for validation that this is textbook, and I am looking at this correctly. I guess that is the effect of being gaslit - you don’t know your reality is really your reality. But I am here, and asking for help, because I will need to see him for the next 12 years (our kids go to the same school). This will be in passing and at events, but I am traumatized, still recovering, and just scared. I am looking for some insights because I spent about 2 months trying to fit my story into a box of emotional and narcissistic abuse…. But it's not that....I see that now. If you are able to share tidbits of knowledge, or point me in the direction of more clarity, I would appreciate it so much. Thank you so so much.
I am going to write out the cliff notes. I imagine a lot of you can fill in the parts I leave out as from what I read on here, it’s typical.
I met him walking my kid to school. He walked the same way every day. Over time, we became friends, and I learned he was trying to leave his marriage. Once he did, the relationship happened fast – too fast. He seemed so 100 percent sure of me and it was odd. I often looked disheveled walking to school and tired….I am not sure what he saw in me. But, I felt sure of him too, but wanted to go slower. I tried to slow it down, but at the same time, didn't. I am responsible for that. I felt like a hamster on a wheel after a few weeks and was able to tell him that I need the weekdays for myself, for my work, and for my kid. He seemed to respect that.
But he often romanticized the first few weeks together....even in the last days.
Quickly, I started to notice the emotional dysregulation. There was a lot going on for him: moving out, going through the divorce, parenting, work….so I understood it. I was also still getting to know him. Then severe trauma responses and triggers started happening. They would lead to these large child-like reactions with a lot of tears and anger. I didn't understand it but knew enough to know he had trauma to work through, and perhaps was feeling it for the first time. Each time this happened, there was nothing I could say to help or get him out of it, he would blame me a lot and say I was the cause, and he expected me (without saying it) to be there for him 110% even though I couldn’t. And truthfully, I didn’t want to….I wanted him to be able to handle that for himself or realize it was an issue. I didn't have the tools to deal with it and suggested he try deeper therapy. He agreed.
When he first met with the therapist, she told him it is like a virus takes over his brain and he is convinced in those moments. That was music to my ears at the time. But that is the last time I felt that way.
After a few months of this cycle continuing, I started detoriating. First my mental health, and then my physical health. I couldn’t breathe. I felt like we couldn’t go a few days without him reacting to something small. I wrote in my journal many times “there's no amount of validation I can give this person.”
I didn't point it to excessive adoration and validation, I could not see that really, but if he texted me 5 things and I responded to all 4 logistical ones and ended with "love you too" I was chastised. If I was driving and did not respond to an “i love you,” I was called out for it. At the end of October, I told him I needed the weekend to clean my apartment. It happened to be 60 degrees that day and of course, I would have preferred to be outside, but I am an adult and could not blow off my commitment to myself to clean. That day he messaged me 18 times that me missed me. He kept inviting me out. I kept asking him to stop, because clearly I would prefer to do something else than clean, but needed to. The missing was excessive. I didn’t even know what he meant. We lived next door to eachother. That night, I had to work, and he was upset with me because to him, it was optional and I should have chose to see him.
There were so many moments when he wanted so much comfort I couldn't provide. We were both single parents. That kind of affection goes to my kid....and I couldn't give it to him in that way. He would even want the affection when he hurt me.
He would see my daughter freak out at me and then say that I don’t love her enough, and he would joke they are the same….
It wasn’t a joke?
As time went on, and his therapy went on, and he felt validated by the therapist, the blame came on more and never left. It started in August, and even when I'd get an apology, it would be for the impact (what I'm responsible for) and not his intent. He'd argue with me over seeing his intent clearly. I'd say I don't care about your intent, you're killing me. It didn’t matter, nothing did.
I never felt like we could repair any incidents. As the blame went on, I really questioned myself. I wondered if he was right. What if I don't love enough? What if I don't receive love well? I've been in therapy for 20 years and know I have limitations but I'm not an asshole…
I felt coerced a lot of the time.
I felt he wanted me to change a lot....he wanted me to be less blunt, more loving, more balanced, work less even though he was awful with money, have sex when sick, injured or mentally dead from the day, always be happy to see him, don't be affected by the trauma responses and don't try to talk to him about it, don't take space and if I do, prepare for some kind of punishment, love him and miss him endlessly, do everything together, if I am dysregulated, he wanted me to regulate with him….
I noticed I started taking precautions to keep myself dafe. I didn’t realize I was setting boundaries to prevent the abuse but I was. I’d say I was busy when I wasn’t. I wouldn’t accept or ask him to get me from the airport, knowing I would not be 100% happy after a flight and that would cause a fight (as it did). I didn’t ask for help, and when I did ask for help, I would expect the help to not happen. I did not communicate anything he did “wrong” (like, you said you would drop off quarters for laundry on monday….do you have them?)
There were a lot of moments we would have deep conversations and I felt like we were getting somewhere, that he heard me.
I'll fast forward to the end because this is already way longer than I wanted….and it’s sad that I know it could be so much longer.
In the last month, he reacted and blamed me for everything. There were at least 5 major incidents. After the last one, I told him I was done. It was really bad and left me spending $50 to uber home in the snow, when I could barley walk as is (I had a herniated disc in my back and could barley walk). That month, I lost health insurance, and after begging for time to just take care of the injury, he told me we need intensive couples counseling. I had asked to just continue our therapist until we could change. That wasn't enough. The next weekend he asked me to go to a Gottman weekend. I said I couldn't leave my kid to do that right now and needed to take care of my help.
After that snow episode, that was really bad, laced with blame in the unpacking, I said I'm done, I can't do it. I was crying uncontrollably. I was scared. I really did not know who I was speaking to. After an hour, right when I needed to leave, he snapped out of whatever mindset he was in and told me he'd do anything, that he would work on anything, to please stay. I had to go, I could not think anymore. So in desperation, the only thing I asked for was to go alone on a trip with my daughter. He was scheduled to come with us. I said I needed time just with her. He agreed.
And honestly, he held up his end of the bargain....until he didn't.
3 days before the trip everything fell apart. I worked 12 hours that day and at the end of the day, went to pour water in a cup at home. It was the only time we had together before I left for the week. He hugged me from behind while I was pouring the water (....remember herniated disc in my back). I asked him to please stop and just let me have a second to pour the water.
He said "there's no turning back from this" and got his stuff to leave. I was floored. I was so upset because I knew where this was going - the blame game. He left, wouldn't come back, and then continued to blame me for the next 2 days about how I was an asshole the days before, only spent time with him out of obligation (not true), and rewrote history. I had a stomach bug all weekend and could not eat, but still tried to hang out as much as I reasonably could, and that was not enough.
The water incident was Wednesday, Thursday he had therapy and reinforced the blame, and I ended up leaving without saying goodbye. It was a week. I wanted to believe this relationship could survive a week. But I was clear with him days before: I am working up until I need to leave Friday so I can have real time off with my kid. He was upset I did not find him to say goodbye, even though he made no attempt to make peace earlier. But of course, my fault.
That night, he claimed down. Was nice. But it was a trap. After 12 hours of him being nice in text he said he was only doing it hoping I felt remorse and realized how wrong I was. He told me over and over he wouldn't see it differently. He said he read the transcript of our texts to 2 therapists and his friends and it’s clear: I am wrong. May be important to name here that we are both in our late 30’s.
I said that I want to work this out and I'll talk when we can actually discuss it and I'm willing to hear his side but not willing to blindly take all responsibility. He nailed me on every response, telling me how wrong my response was and what I should have done differently.
I was with my kid and could not talk. When I said "why are you doing this now, you know I can’t really respond" he told me to stop avoiding.
That night, he ghosted me for the first time in the relationship and I panicked. I called him a few times. No answer.
The next day, despite him never doing that to me before, he called me controlling for calling.
At 7am the next morning he told me our relationship was over in a text. This man, who 7 days before was professing his love and understanding of me ended the engagement in a text. This of course continued with a back and forth. I asked him to please stop. To please pause and talk to me when i'm back in 5 days. He told me to fight for the relationship or it was over. I said “I am just waking up with my 7 year old, in a hotel, please stop.” I asked him to attend couples therapy in 3 days to talk this out. He said “you accept all responsibility and change your behavior or we are done.” I asked if he was willing to talk and he said the problem was my perception and that it's wrong, so unless I change we are done. I knew this wasn't ok but I was so blindsided I did not know what to do. He agreed to go to couples therapy Thursday. We barley talked. There were a few more messages of him telling me he needs to know I can live a drama free life and celebrate his love and see it all as beautiful (almost verbatim). At this point, all I wanted to do is keep the dial down. I pushed back saying, “I cannot teach my daughter that someone can just tell her that her emotions and feelings are wrong, I hope you will be willing to talk and we can get on the same page.”
He agreed to go to couples therapy, and then didn't show up. He texted me 10 minutes before saying he was not going. I begged and pleaded. But he had the couples therapist to tell me he wasn't going to go. He had her tell me. I lost it. I lost my mind. I had been reeling for days. Not sleeping. Putting on a fake smile all day with my kid while I was dying inside. Staying up late to cry, process, read, figure out wtf was going on…
I called him about 10 times and of course, he told me it was inappropriate. He then picked up and gave me 10 minutes. He again wanted me to take all responsibility for everything. I was so shaken, I just fawned. I said ok. When I'm back I hope we can talk but if you want me to accept blame for now, fine.
Everything was calmer for 2 days until we were heading back and he texted me something along the lines of "don't fool me" I was like wtf? He said "there's no turning back. There's no other chances." I was like wait what? And then it was "don't make me look like a fool" I had no idea what was going on. I was like "um what is this?" He essentially was reinforcing his stance: I am to blame for everything in the present and past. If I try to talk to him about his side I'm wrong. I need to repent and one wrong move (defined by him) is a misstep and there's no room for error (his words). I was like....I will be in a relationship based in reality, and I will own my part and parts, but i will not be in something that i'm to blame for everything. That is not healthy. I have also been in abusive relationships before.
He then stopped messaging me. Didn't care that we got into flight issues. Didn't care we made the flight back. That night he came over and was a victim. Claimed in the 5 days I was gone he found himself. That he wasn't focused at work because of me and now he is. He wanted to try to be together. I had no idea what reality I was in. We slept together. He left. And told me we'd talk the next day. All of this felt so weird but I was just hoping he would snap out of this and back to reality and we would be able to talk. But I also knew this had to end at this point.
The next day, he didn't answer me all day. This was the opposite of behavior I ever experienced from him. Did not respond to texts or pick up the phone. We had a training appointment and he had the trainer tell me he wasn't coming. I broke down in tears. I begged him to just answer a text. He didn't. He drove by me while walking the dog and did not stop. I emailed him, expressing my confusion, telling him this is not what we agreed to. He blocked me. That night I got an email from him letting me know he was moving 10 min away. He lived next door in another apt building. He actually assured me the day before he “was not going anywhere.” In that email, he listed out the calls and texts I sent and how inappropriate it was. He never said we were done. He said taking space, needing space…so in my head I was confused but see it now.
I was inconsolable. I didn’t respond.
But here is the issue I am still in: I needed to see him dropping his kid at school the next day. I will need to see him for the next 12 years unless I move.
The following Friday he stood next to me at a school event. I purposely stood in the back to have space and be able to leave if I needed to. He went next to me. When I told him he should sit, he said he didn't want to make it obvious to his ex wife. I asked him to speak that Friday. He said ok but he was moving. I cried instantly. Already? I said ok.
On Saturday am, I saw the truck pull up and left the house. I called him that Saturday. I was blocked.
The next wednesday he asked me for a series of logistics in a text. None of which I handled yet. Wanting me to cancel flights and settle up money spent together. No mention or responsibility for all the money wasted on tickets we will never use. But then…in the text, asked for my engagement ring back.
I responded to logistics. Not the ring
He then called me 3 hours later because something went really wrong in his legal case. He wanted me to understand and validate him. I did....I just turned off my feelings for a moment. At the end he said, so about the flights. Can you handle it? "If i cancel it for you and your son i also have to do it for me and my kid. It's all on the same reservation" "well if you can go and not make sexual advances on me then we can try to go together.” I was like wtf? I could not have sex for months due to my injury. But he wanted to. Was this way of setting up blame that if we DID sleep together I would be to blame? I was like “I will cancel it for all of us.”
He then ran down more logistics and I said honestly you didn't seem done. I don't understand what you're doing. He said "im done" i hung up the phone.
He asked me for the ring again that night in a text. I said no, I need time to process this.
Everything since then has been a transaction. If i have a genuine emotion, he gets upset that i have it at all. He continues to sit next to me at school events because he claims he does not want his ex-wife to think we are done (this is insane to me….). I realize now that if it is a “good” interaction he is happy. If I am sad, then it is a “bad” one.
He never told his son we broke up, and shamed me for telling my daughter.
Recently he asked me a question and I was annoyed, and he said "can you not be mad at me?" I said “no, I can't not be mad at you…”
In the last 3 months, he’s said "I don't want to confuse things" has come up a lot. I don’t know if he is saying that to me or himself.
I have been so stuck trying to understand how I could not take space at all from him, to being totally discarded. I know he went back to spending, and drinking, but I don’t think he is seeing anyone.
He only responds when he wants to. He ignores other things. I never was able to get an MRI for my back because the claim went through a DR he set up for me and he never sent me the info when I asked.
I got the money back he owed me, but still lost so much money.
He told me he missed me one time.
I don’t know who this person is.
I will have to see him for the next 12 years while the kids are in school unless I move. I am not going to move just to avoid him, but I need to heal so I can be strong enough. I don’t know if he is going to try to come back. I have been in therapy and am getting clearer about what brought me into this in the first place.
Any clarity you can help me with, on this, and what may come from here, would be really helpful. It will help me direct some of my searches and begin to piece things together to process in therapy. I have severe anxiety when I run into him at school.
I have never had to heal from something like this before. At first, I thought it was healing from a narcissistic discard….this feels like so much more.
Does it sound like he will want to come back?
Is there ever closure?
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I am going to write out the cliff notes. I imagine a lot of you can fill in the parts I leave out as from what I read on here, it’s typical.
I met him walking my kid to school. He walked the same way every day. Over time, we became friends, and I learned he was trying to leave his marriage. Once he did, the relationship happened fast – too fast. He seemed so 100 percent sure of me and it was odd. I often looked disheveled walking to school and tired….I am not sure what he saw in me. But, I felt sure of him too, but wanted to go slower. I tried to slow it down, but at the same time, didn't. I am responsible for that. I felt like a hamster on a wheel after a few weeks and was able to tell him that I need the weekdays for myself, for my work, and for my kid. He seemed to respect that.
But he often romanticized the first few weeks together....even in the last days.
Quickly, I started to notice the emotional dysregulation. There was a lot going on for him: moving out, going through the divorce, parenting, work….so I understood it. I was also still getting to know him. Then severe trauma responses and triggers started happening. They would lead to these large child-like reactions with a lot of tears and anger. I didn't understand it but knew enough to know he had trauma to work through, and perhaps was feeling it for the first time. Each time this happened, there was nothing I could say to help or get him out of it, he would blame me a lot and say I was the cause, and he expected me (without saying it) to be there for him 110% even though I couldn’t. And truthfully, I didn’t want to….I wanted him to be able to handle that for himself or realize it was an issue. I didn't have the tools to deal with it and suggested he try deeper therapy. He agreed.
When he first met with the therapist, she told him it is like a virus takes over his brain and he is convinced in those moments. That was music to my ears at the time. But that is the last time I felt that way.
After a few months of this cycle continuing, I started detoriating. First my mental health, and then my physical health. I couldn’t breathe. I felt like we couldn’t go a few days without him reacting to something small. I wrote in my journal many times “there's no amount of validation I can give this person.”
I didn't point it to excessive adoration and validation, I could not see that really, but if he texted me 5 things and I responded to all 4 logistical ones and ended with "love you too" I was chastised. If I was driving and did not respond to an “i love you,” I was called out for it. At the end of October, I told him I needed the weekend to clean my apartment. It happened to be 60 degrees that day and of course, I would have preferred to be outside, but I am an adult and could not blow off my commitment to myself to clean. That day he messaged me 18 times that me missed me. He kept inviting me out. I kept asking him to stop, because clearly I would prefer to do something else than clean, but needed to. The missing was excessive. I didn’t even know what he meant. We lived next door to eachother. That night, I had to work, and he was upset with me because to him, it was optional and I should have chose to see him.
There were so many moments when he wanted so much comfort I couldn't provide. We were both single parents. That kind of affection goes to my kid....and I couldn't give it to him in that way. He would even want the affection when he hurt me.
He would see my daughter freak out at me and then say that I don’t love her enough, and he would joke they are the same….
It wasn’t a joke?
As time went on, and his therapy went on, and he felt validated by the therapist, the blame came on more and never left. It started in August, and even when I'd get an apology, it would be for the impact (what I'm responsible for) and not his intent. He'd argue with me over seeing his intent clearly. I'd say I don't care about your intent, you're killing me. It didn’t matter, nothing did.
I never felt like we could repair any incidents. As the blame went on, I really questioned myself. I wondered if he was right. What if I don't love enough? What if I don't receive love well? I've been in therapy for 20 years and know I have limitations but I'm not an asshole…
I felt coerced a lot of the time.
I felt he wanted me to change a lot....he wanted me to be less blunt, more loving, more balanced, work less even though he was awful with money, have sex when sick, injured or mentally dead from the day, always be happy to see him, don't be affected by the trauma responses and don't try to talk to him about it, don't take space and if I do, prepare for some kind of punishment, love him and miss him endlessly, do everything together, if I am dysregulated, he wanted me to regulate with him….
I noticed I started taking precautions to keep myself dafe. I didn’t realize I was setting boundaries to prevent the abuse but I was. I’d say I was busy when I wasn’t. I wouldn’t accept or ask him to get me from the airport, knowing I would not be 100% happy after a flight and that would cause a fight (as it did). I didn’t ask for help, and when I did ask for help, I would expect the help to not happen. I did not communicate anything he did “wrong” (like, you said you would drop off quarters for laundry on monday….do you have them?)
There were a lot of moments we would have deep conversations and I felt like we were getting somewhere, that he heard me.
I'll fast forward to the end because this is already way longer than I wanted….and it’s sad that I know it could be so much longer.
In the last month, he reacted and blamed me for everything. There were at least 5 major incidents. After the last one, I told him I was done. It was really bad and left me spending $50 to uber home in the snow, when I could barley walk as is (I had a herniated disc in my back and could barley walk). That month, I lost health insurance, and after begging for time to just take care of the injury, he told me we need intensive couples counseling. I had asked to just continue our therapist until we could change. That wasn't enough. The next weekend he asked me to go to a Gottman weekend. I said I couldn't leave my kid to do that right now and needed to take care of my help.
After that snow episode, that was really bad, laced with blame in the unpacking, I said I'm done, I can't do it. I was crying uncontrollably. I was scared. I really did not know who I was speaking to. After an hour, right when I needed to leave, he snapped out of whatever mindset he was in and told me he'd do anything, that he would work on anything, to please stay. I had to go, I could not think anymore. So in desperation, the only thing I asked for was to go alone on a trip with my daughter. He was scheduled to come with us. I said I needed time just with her. He agreed.
And honestly, he held up his end of the bargain....until he didn't.
3 days before the trip everything fell apart. I worked 12 hours that day and at the end of the day, went to pour water in a cup at home. It was the only time we had together before I left for the week. He hugged me from behind while I was pouring the water (....remember herniated disc in my back). I asked him to please stop and just let me have a second to pour the water.
He said "there's no turning back from this" and got his stuff to leave. I was floored. I was so upset because I knew where this was going - the blame game. He left, wouldn't come back, and then continued to blame me for the next 2 days about how I was an asshole the days before, only spent time with him out of obligation (not true), and rewrote history. I had a stomach bug all weekend and could not eat, but still tried to hang out as much as I reasonably could, and that was not enough.
The water incident was Wednesday, Thursday he had therapy and reinforced the blame, and I ended up leaving without saying goodbye. It was a week. I wanted to believe this relationship could survive a week. But I was clear with him days before: I am working up until I need to leave Friday so I can have real time off with my kid. He was upset I did not find him to say goodbye, even though he made no attempt to make peace earlier. But of course, my fault.
That night, he claimed down. Was nice. But it was a trap. After 12 hours of him being nice in text he said he was only doing it hoping I felt remorse and realized how wrong I was. He told me over and over he wouldn't see it differently. He said he read the transcript of our texts to 2 therapists and his friends and it’s clear: I am wrong. May be important to name here that we are both in our late 30’s.
I said that I want to work this out and I'll talk when we can actually discuss it and I'm willing to hear his side but not willing to blindly take all responsibility. He nailed me on every response, telling me how wrong my response was and what I should have done differently.
I was with my kid and could not talk. When I said "why are you doing this now, you know I can’t really respond" he told me to stop avoiding.
That night, he ghosted me for the first time in the relationship and I panicked. I called him a few times. No answer.
The next day, despite him never doing that to me before, he called me controlling for calling.
At 7am the next morning he told me our relationship was over in a text. This man, who 7 days before was professing his love and understanding of me ended the engagement in a text. This of course continued with a back and forth. I asked him to please stop. To please pause and talk to me when i'm back in 5 days. He told me to fight for the relationship or it was over. I said “I am just waking up with my 7 year old, in a hotel, please stop.” I asked him to attend couples therapy in 3 days to talk this out. He said “you accept all responsibility and change your behavior or we are done.” I asked if he was willing to talk and he said the problem was my perception and that it's wrong, so unless I change we are done. I knew this wasn't ok but I was so blindsided I did not know what to do. He agreed to go to couples therapy Thursday. We barley talked. There were a few more messages of him telling me he needs to know I can live a drama free life and celebrate his love and see it all as beautiful (almost verbatim). At this point, all I wanted to do is keep the dial down. I pushed back saying, “I cannot teach my daughter that someone can just tell her that her emotions and feelings are wrong, I hope you will be willing to talk and we can get on the same page.”
He agreed to go to couples therapy, and then didn't show up. He texted me 10 minutes before saying he was not going. I begged and pleaded. But he had the couples therapist to tell me he wasn't going to go. He had her tell me. I lost it. I lost my mind. I had been reeling for days. Not sleeping. Putting on a fake smile all day with my kid while I was dying inside. Staying up late to cry, process, read, figure out wtf was going on…
I called him about 10 times and of course, he told me it was inappropriate. He then picked up and gave me 10 minutes. He again wanted me to take all responsibility for everything. I was so shaken, I just fawned. I said ok. When I'm back I hope we can talk but if you want me to accept blame for now, fine.
Everything was calmer for 2 days until we were heading back and he texted me something along the lines of "don't fool me" I was like wtf? He said "there's no turning back. There's no other chances." I was like wait what? And then it was "don't make me look like a fool" I had no idea what was going on. I was like "um what is this?" He essentially was reinforcing his stance: I am to blame for everything in the present and past. If I try to talk to him about his side I'm wrong. I need to repent and one wrong move (defined by him) is a misstep and there's no room for error (his words). I was like....I will be in a relationship based in reality, and I will own my part and parts, but i will not be in something that i'm to blame for everything. That is not healthy. I have also been in abusive relationships before.
He then stopped messaging me. Didn't care that we got into flight issues. Didn't care we made the flight back. That night he came over and was a victim. Claimed in the 5 days I was gone he found himself. That he wasn't focused at work because of me and now he is. He wanted to try to be together. I had no idea what reality I was in. We slept together. He left. And told me we'd talk the next day. All of this felt so weird but I was just hoping he would snap out of this and back to reality and we would be able to talk. But I also knew this had to end at this point.
The next day, he didn't answer me all day. This was the opposite of behavior I ever experienced from him. Did not respond to texts or pick up the phone. We had a training appointment and he had the trainer tell me he wasn't coming. I broke down in tears. I begged him to just answer a text. He didn't. He drove by me while walking the dog and did not stop. I emailed him, expressing my confusion, telling him this is not what we agreed to. He blocked me. That night I got an email from him letting me know he was moving 10 min away. He lived next door in another apt building. He actually assured me the day before he “was not going anywhere.” In that email, he listed out the calls and texts I sent and how inappropriate it was. He never said we were done. He said taking space, needing space…so in my head I was confused but see it now.
I was inconsolable. I didn’t respond.
But here is the issue I am still in: I needed to see him dropping his kid at school the next day. I will need to see him for the next 12 years unless I move.
The following Friday he stood next to me at a school event. I purposely stood in the back to have space and be able to leave if I needed to. He went next to me. When I told him he should sit, he said he didn't want to make it obvious to his ex wife. I asked him to speak that Friday. He said ok but he was moving. I cried instantly. Already? I said ok.
On Saturday am, I saw the truck pull up and left the house. I called him that Saturday. I was blocked.
The next wednesday he asked me for a series of logistics in a text. None of which I handled yet. Wanting me to cancel flights and settle up money spent together. No mention or responsibility for all the money wasted on tickets we will never use. But then…in the text, asked for my engagement ring back.
I responded to logistics. Not the ring
He then called me 3 hours later because something went really wrong in his legal case. He wanted me to understand and validate him. I did....I just turned off my feelings for a moment. At the end he said, so about the flights. Can you handle it? "If i cancel it for you and your son i also have to do it for me and my kid. It's all on the same reservation" "well if you can go and not make sexual advances on me then we can try to go together.” I was like wtf? I could not have sex for months due to my injury. But he wanted to. Was this way of setting up blame that if we DID sleep together I would be to blame? I was like “I will cancel it for all of us.”
He then ran down more logistics and I said honestly you didn't seem done. I don't understand what you're doing. He said "im done" i hung up the phone.
He asked me for the ring again that night in a text. I said no, I need time to process this.
Everything since then has been a transaction. If i have a genuine emotion, he gets upset that i have it at all. He continues to sit next to me at school events because he claims he does not want his ex-wife to think we are done (this is insane to me….). I realize now that if it is a “good” interaction he is happy. If I am sad, then it is a “bad” one.
He never told his son we broke up, and shamed me for telling my daughter.
Recently he asked me a question and I was annoyed, and he said "can you not be mad at me?" I said “no, I can't not be mad at you…”
In the last 3 months, he’s said "I don't want to confuse things" has come up a lot. I don’t know if he is saying that to me or himself.
I have been so stuck trying to understand how I could not take space at all from him, to being totally discarded. I know he went back to spending, and drinking, but I don’t think he is seeing anyone.
He only responds when he wants to. He ignores other things. I never was able to get an MRI for my back because the claim went through a DR he set up for me and he never sent me the info when I asked.
I got the money back he owed me, but still lost so much money.
He told me he missed me one time.
I don’t know who this person is.
I will have to see him for the next 12 years while the kids are in school unless I move. I am not going to move just to avoid him, but I need to heal so I can be strong enough. I don’t know if he is going to try to come back. I have been in therapy and am getting clearer about what brought me into this in the first place.
Any clarity you can help me with, on this, and what may come from here, would be really helpful. It will help me direct some of my searches and begin to piece things together to process in therapy. I have severe anxiety when I run into him at school.
I have never had to heal from something like this before. At first, I thought it was healing from a narcissistic discard….this feels like so much more.
Does it sound like he will want to come back?
Is there ever closure?
2024.05.19 16:55 YorkieCheese My ex-employer (McMaster-Carr) is recruiting for consultants while fluffing job descriptions and manipulating Glassdoor Reviews. Be vigilante. Chicago, Cleveland, New Jersey, Los Angeles, Atlanta.
I'm sure most of Chicago/Booth/Kellogg have heard of this company by now, but they also started recruiting consultants/MBA for their other branches (T25) so I made a post.
TLDR: If you're toxic, there's more worthy places to climb. If you aren't toxic, you will either be disgusted or turn toxic. This place will tank your resume/career progression if you stay for more than 2-3 years.
Quick Intro: McMaster-Carr is the Amazon of Industrial Supplies. They ship to the US Miltary, manufacturers, engineers, technicians, etc... Their customers are the engineers but the bills are paid by the Finance Dept hence as long as McM do a consistent good job delivering to the engineers, they can charge exorbitant amount (e.g $30 screw and $50 shipping; real example.) Their margins on most items are between 50% to 250% and revenue is $5B+. This is how they can pay entry managements with 0yoe $170k (bonus included, deferred saving excluded; see more below) and middle managers (3-10YOE) up to $300k.
Path/Exit: You will get a random rotation every 6-18 months. The rotation can be literally anything from Warehouse Operations Management Role to HR to Finance/Fraud. Management Trainee (0-18m depending on your background/initial performance). Supervisor (no pay raise as MT are expected to become Sup eventually; can be skipped if you have pre-MBA exp and did well in your initial performance.) ManageSeniorM (3-5yoe/5-8yoe; most people languished here until they decided to go all in or all out with McMaster.) After this come Regional ManageDirectoVP. You can leave at M/SM and might still be able to transition to a new careeindustry afterward. Otherwise, it's a tough sale. Even before the mid-2023 general market downturn, I knew Regional/Directors who took 1+ year just to switch to another manufacturing/industrial/supplychain job. Not even an industry switch.
Their Targets: In the past, 95%+ of management came from straight out of Ivy/Top Liberal Arts undergrad. This breeds an incredibly toxic environment since many of them are not mature/don't have leadership experience (the cream of the crop don't consider McMaster) and it's a case of the blinds leading the blinds. McM had a purge of toxic leaders back in mid-2010s but this problem returned. Since then, they have tried to recruit a few more consultants rather than depending solely on fresh grads. This recruiting effort has and continued to go miserably. Despite mass reach-out effort every single year, they only got some ex-B4 (1 Parthenon but the rest is regular B4), but they couldn't get anyone from T2 or MBB.
Nature of the work: (Micro)managing individual contributors and troubleshooting outdated issues (that are only found in 40yo+ warehouses) if you get a warehouse rotation. McM tries to sell you on these, but from my post-McM interviews as well as McM managers' outcomes, these skills are worthless. For once, the ICs get paid quite well so they work very hard. Management, in an attempt to justify their outrageous salary, tries to micromanage all the time even when outclassed by 20+ years of knowledge. IC vs Management issue will be further discussed in the Cons section. Another issue is that managing blue-collar is no way the same as managing white-collar so most hiring managers don't really care for this exp. The company doesn't really do marketing, M&A, or new market (it took them 30+ years to just now opening a new branch in Texas because McM's tech couldn't handle having 6 warehouses instead of 5.) I'm not kidding. They passed on growth opportunity for 30+ years because they didn't want to change... Also because the company doesn't do marketing, they are not good at customer behavior analytics, resulting in their website redesign that took 2+ years to get scraped ater 1 week due to customer complaints.)
Pro:
• Their pay. McM has a 2.9 Glassdoor rating despite having a 4.6 rating in Compensation and Benefits. Pay include:
Cons: Glassdoor Reviews:
• There’s another purge/headcount reduction going on right now. A tidbit is that management above your level can see the performance review of everyone below them. This contributes to how much drama, backstabbing, and rumors float internally. Recently, an ex-Trainee even wrote a long post calling out his spineless manager and backstabbing coworkers in a GroupMe with 100+ members of management. The manager left soon after. The ex-Trainee even told McMaster to blacklist his undergrad for recruiting. Absolute legend.
• The operations and tech stack are very constrained and not replicable. The company uses 80s IBM Tech for CRM/ERP so unless you’re working on a Website-related project (which you can sometimes use Python/SQL), you will be writing outdated queries to pull data. McM also doesn’t use Powerpoint so you will have to learn Adobe Indesign. The company’s warehouses themselves have a ton of makeshifts and outdated stuff. If you get a warehouse assignment, you will be putting out fires arose from issues not addressed by the original warehouse design. If you think you will be value-add to a company like Amazon after your McMaster’s experience, you are wrong. Amazon warehouses are built in the early/mid 2010s and have about 30 years of new automation/technology integrated to them. McM is still tinkering with their first automated warehouse. Experience putting out fixed/nonexistent issues is worthless.
• This company hire fake review writers. You will notice the positive reviews are all generic and one line whereas the negative reviews (from both Managements and ICs) are all super long and super informative. You will also notice that there’s no longer a “Most Helpful” sort on Glassdoor. This is because all the negative reviews get liked so much. Now it’s just “Most Popular” which is just fake reviews with 0 like/dislike.
• Relationships between Management and Individual Contributors are more fraught than ever. The situation has always been incredibly tense because ICs were viewed with incredible disdain by Management (most of whom are rich Ivy/Top School graduates) but has only gotten worse with automation and market uncertainty.
• Management’s official policy is to never promote Individual Contributors. A fresh grad (0YOE) can instantly become a supervisor but somehow an IC needed 8+ years of consistent excellent performance to be considered. Management can become Manager in as little as 2yoe out of Undergrad, whereas IC -> Manager is so rare I can count the Chicago Branch on two hands. And no, it’s not because ICs are not qualified/hardworking. Just imagine how hard it is to work at Amazon-pace for EIGHT YEARS just to be equal to a college brown-nose.
• Management’s unofficial policy is to avoid eye contact or saying hello to ICs unless the ICs initiated it. ICs were afraid to take more than one food/souvenir item during an open house event even though we had so much leftover. A manager even complained that other managers were making fun of ICs for work-place injuries (think Amazon warehouse-like injuries such as overexertion, nerve damage, wrist/knees/back issues.) Absolutely devoid of humanity.
• The company had been automating part of the Atlanta and Chicago warehouses. Managements assigned to be tour guides of these automated warehouses were told to lie say that no IC headcount reduction will occur. Obviously, there were a rise in suspicious performance evaluation after these were built. Also, I was one of the tour guides and were asked by multiple ICs where the observation cameras will be in the ceiling. The fact that multiple raised this seemingly-joking-yet-alarming question tells you just how much Management has trained ICs to become paranoid over time. If you’re a new-hire consultant at McM and feels related to this meme, just know you will be holding the mop to clean up and not the lightsaber.
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TLDR: If you're toxic, there's more worthy places to climb. If you aren't toxic, you will either be disgusted or turn toxic. This place will tank your resume/career progression if you stay for more than 2-3 years.
Quick Intro: McMaster-Carr is the Amazon of Industrial Supplies. They ship to the US Miltary, manufacturers, engineers, technicians, etc... Their customers are the engineers but the bills are paid by the Finance Dept hence as long as McM do a consistent good job delivering to the engineers, they can charge exorbitant amount (e.g $30 screw and $50 shipping; real example.) Their margins on most items are between 50% to 250% and revenue is $5B+. This is how they can pay entry managements with 0yoe $170k (bonus included, deferred saving excluded; see more below) and middle managers (3-10YOE) up to $300k.
Path/Exit: You will get a random rotation every 6-18 months. The rotation can be literally anything from Warehouse Operations Management Role to HR to Finance/Fraud. Management Trainee (0-18m depending on your background/initial performance). Supervisor (no pay raise as MT are expected to become Sup eventually; can be skipped if you have pre-MBA exp and did well in your initial performance.) ManageSeniorM (3-5yoe/5-8yoe; most people languished here until they decided to go all in or all out with McMaster.) After this come Regional ManageDirectoVP. You can leave at M/SM and might still be able to transition to a new careeindustry afterward. Otherwise, it's a tough sale. Even before the mid-2023 general market downturn, I knew Regional/Directors who took 1+ year just to switch to another manufacturing/industrial/supplychain job. Not even an industry switch.
Their Targets: In the past, 95%+ of management came from straight out of Ivy/Top Liberal Arts undergrad. This breeds an incredibly toxic environment since many of them are not mature/don't have leadership experience (the cream of the crop don't consider McMaster) and it's a case of the blinds leading the blinds. McM had a purge of toxic leaders back in mid-2010s but this problem returned. Since then, they have tried to recruit a few more consultants rather than depending solely on fresh grads. This recruiting effort has and continued to go miserably. Despite mass reach-out effort every single year, they only got some ex-B4 (1 Parthenon but the rest is regular B4), but they couldn't get anyone from T2 or MBB.
Nature of the work: (Micro)managing individual contributors and troubleshooting outdated issues (that are only found in 40yo+ warehouses) if you get a warehouse rotation. McM tries to sell you on these, but from my post-McM interviews as well as McM managers' outcomes, these skills are worthless. For once, the ICs get paid quite well so they work very hard. Management, in an attempt to justify their outrageous salary, tries to micromanage all the time even when outclassed by 20+ years of knowledge. IC vs Management issue will be further discussed in the Cons section. Another issue is that managing blue-collar is no way the same as managing white-collar so most hiring managers don't really care for this exp. The company doesn't really do marketing, M&A, or new market (it took them 30+ years to just now opening a new branch in Texas because McM's tech couldn't handle having 6 warehouses instead of 5.) I'm not kidding. They passed on growth opportunity for 30+ years because they didn't want to change... Also because the company doesn't do marketing, they are not good at customer behavior analytics, resulting in their website redesign that took 2+ years to get scraped ater 1 week due to customer complaints.)
Pro:
• Their pay. McM has a 2.9 Glassdoor rating despite having a 4.6 rating in Compensation and Benefits. Pay include:
•Base (0yoe: ~115k; ~$10k for each add year; ~$160k for Manager) •Profit Sharing (average 50%+ of base; lowest was ~33% in 2008 & 45% in 2020; 2022 was ~50%+ and 2023 was ~60%) •Deferred Saving (25% of Base&PS. Vest schedule 0%/20%/40%/60%/80%/100% over 6 years.)• Their Education tuition policy: After the first 3 months, You can take any part-time program (e.g PT-MBA, PT-MS, PT-MA) or Certificate completely free, doesn’t have to be work-related, and no string attached. You can literally leave after they paid for your tuition and can still finish your course.
Cons: Glassdoor Reviews:
• There’s another purge/headcount reduction going on right now. A tidbit is that management above your level can see the performance review of everyone below them. This contributes to how much drama, backstabbing, and rumors float internally. Recently, an ex-Trainee even wrote a long post calling out his spineless manager and backstabbing coworkers in a GroupMe with 100+ members of management. The manager left soon after. The ex-Trainee even told McMaster to blacklist his undergrad for recruiting. Absolute legend.
• The operations and tech stack are very constrained and not replicable. The company uses 80s IBM Tech for CRM/ERP so unless you’re working on a Website-related project (which you can sometimes use Python/SQL), you will be writing outdated queries to pull data. McM also doesn’t use Powerpoint so you will have to learn Adobe Indesign. The company’s warehouses themselves have a ton of makeshifts and outdated stuff. If you get a warehouse assignment, you will be putting out fires arose from issues not addressed by the original warehouse design. If you think you will be value-add to a company like Amazon after your McMaster’s experience, you are wrong. Amazon warehouses are built in the early/mid 2010s and have about 30 years of new automation/technology integrated to them. McM is still tinkering with their first automated warehouse. Experience putting out fixed/nonexistent issues is worthless.
• This company hire fake review writers. You will notice the positive reviews are all generic and one line whereas the negative reviews (from both Managements and ICs) are all super long and super informative. You will also notice that there’s no longer a “Most Helpful” sort on Glassdoor. This is because all the negative reviews get liked so much. Now it’s just “Most Popular” which is just fake reviews with 0 like/dislike.
• Relationships between Management and Individual Contributors are more fraught than ever. The situation has always been incredibly tense because ICs were viewed with incredible disdain by Management (most of whom are rich Ivy/Top School graduates) but has only gotten worse with automation and market uncertainty.
• Management’s official policy is to never promote Individual Contributors. A fresh grad (0YOE) can instantly become a supervisor but somehow an IC needed 8+ years of consistent excellent performance to be considered. Management can become Manager in as little as 2yoe out of Undergrad, whereas IC -> Manager is so rare I can count the Chicago Branch on two hands. And no, it’s not because ICs are not qualified/hardworking. Just imagine how hard it is to work at Amazon-pace for EIGHT YEARS just to be equal to a college brown-nose.
• Management’s unofficial policy is to avoid eye contact or saying hello to ICs unless the ICs initiated it. ICs were afraid to take more than one food/souvenir item during an open house event even though we had so much leftover. A manager even complained that other managers were making fun of ICs for work-place injuries (think Amazon warehouse-like injuries such as overexertion, nerve damage, wrist/knees/back issues.) Absolutely devoid of humanity.
• The company had been automating part of the Atlanta and Chicago warehouses. Managements assigned to be tour guides of these automated warehouses were told to lie say that no IC headcount reduction will occur. Obviously, there were a rise in suspicious performance evaluation after these were built. Also, I was one of the tour guides and were asked by multiple ICs where the observation cameras will be in the ceiling. The fact that multiple raised this seemingly-joking-yet-alarming question tells you just how much Management has trained ICs to become paranoid over time. If you’re a new-hire consultant at McM and feels related to this meme, just know you will be holding the mop to clean up and not the lightsaber.
2024.05.19 16:55 bean5z Help, I’m stuck!
My 2018 Honda C-RV was totaled…I need a bigger SUV anyways I have in mind a: 2019 Audi q7 45 SE Premium Plus 2018 or 2021 Volvo XC90 T6 Momentum 2021 Subaru Ascent Touring 2021 VW Atlas And last but not least a 2021 Hyundai Palisade.
Tell me the good, the bad and the ugly….or any other suggestions
Edit to add: also a 2022 Honda Pilot TrailSport
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Tell me the good, the bad and the ugly….or any other suggestions
Edit to add: also a 2022 Honda Pilot TrailSport
2024.05.19 16:51 BumblingBetty Lisbon 25May VIP 1
 | Selling ONE VIP 1 ticket w/ “It’s Been a Long Tome Coming Package” for 808€ (see receipt attached). I can assist with VIP package pickup as I will be at the concert. Ticket available for immediate transfer through Sees app. submitted by BumblingBetty to erastourtickets [link] [comments] |
2024.05.19 16:44 thots_n_prayers Cross-posted: Did you see me get assaulted at the LCD Soundsystem set at Kilby Block Party??
I never thought that I would have to do this. I noticed on this subreddit that there is a slew of women who are asking for help with obtaining video footage (or even comments) of their physical assault during Kilby Block Party.
I was ESPECIALLY surprised when I came across someone who saw what happened to me but unfortunately doesn't have video footage. When they expressed their dismay in how incredibly abusive my (now) ex-boyfriend was being toward me over the span of the show, something finally clicked. I am done with the relationship. I deserve better than this. They are asking around on my behalf which I appreciate (there are apparently a LOT of us which is really sad because I had a (MOSTLY) incredible time at the festival otherwise).
A few details: This was during LCD Soundsystem show was standing toward the front left (if you were looking AT the stage). My ex is tall, blonde-ish, about 6'2" and he was wearing a lime green/yellow Arsenal jersey (soccer). He has an anger issue and was, I BELIEVE, upset that I had gone to see Interpol while he decided to get close to the LCD stage; also someone was hitting on me RIGHT when I found him up front (even though I politely fended him off and told him that I was there with my boyfriend who was sitting right there) and my ex did NOT seem very happy about it (we had been fighting on and off the entire trip out there).
I was wearing a silver mesh top with "Bad Witch" on it and a real flower crown (that was made from the flowers from our 15-year anniversary dinner, sadly, if you can believe it!)
He started to get agitated, started to grab at my backpack (I found out later, just to put his merch in there, but it was in a manhandle-y way for sure since he had been yelling at me even before the show started). Everyone around us was very aware something was not right. Later, as I was dancing and minding my own business, he grabbed me HARD by my shoulders/upper arms and forced me to switch spots with him (probably because I had a better vantage point than he had, and he was jealous that I was still trying to have a good time). People by that time were WELL aware that something was up with him-- they asked if I knew him and I assured them that yes, I did know him and that he was my boyfriend and was acting strange AF. I should have left at that point, but I really thought it was over-- even though this behavior is totally on-brand for him, he has never been THIS angry with me before.
The last straw was when he turned around and PUSHED ME HARD into the people standing next to me, toppling me into people (I'm not the smallest girl in the world, I'm pretty tall myself). He yelled at me to "Stop touching" him which is ridiculous!! We are literally so close to LCD Soundsystem at KBP; EVERYONE UP FRONT IS TOUCHING EACH OTHER! We're dancing, people are being jostled, etc. It was too much. I ended up leaving after that. I ran back to the TRAX and went back to the hotel alone. I notified the front desk that I was fighting with my boyfriend, and they were really nice and said to call if I needed anything.
Anyway. He had been aggressive ever since we got home (we live together). He has attempted to steal my dog, and he was intimidating toward a girlfriend that I had at the house (I filed a police report following these events). Like I said, we live together, we have a house together, we had a LIFE together. He has been refusing to talk to me since even LAST WEEK with whatever has been bothering him-- I really tried my best to have a good time at the festival since it was such great experience DESPITE all of the drama throughout the week.
PLEASE reach out if you saw/taped anything. It would really help me out immensely. This man has gone from angry to, I believe, potentially dangerous. Like I said. Police ARE aware and on stand-by.
Thank you so much for your help! I am going to try to cross-post in other festival subreddits and on the SLC subreddit.
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I was ESPECIALLY surprised when I came across someone who saw what happened to me but unfortunately doesn't have video footage. When they expressed their dismay in how incredibly abusive my (now) ex-boyfriend was being toward me over the span of the show, something finally clicked. I am done with the relationship. I deserve better than this. They are asking around on my behalf which I appreciate (there are apparently a LOT of us which is really sad because I had a (MOSTLY) incredible time at the festival otherwise).
A few details: This was during LCD Soundsystem show was standing toward the front left (if you were looking AT the stage). My ex is tall, blonde-ish, about 6'2" and he was wearing a lime green/yellow Arsenal jersey (soccer). He has an anger issue and was, I BELIEVE, upset that I had gone to see Interpol while he decided to get close to the LCD stage; also someone was hitting on me RIGHT when I found him up front (even though I politely fended him off and told him that I was there with my boyfriend who was sitting right there) and my ex did NOT seem very happy about it (we had been fighting on and off the entire trip out there).
I was wearing a silver mesh top with "Bad Witch" on it and a real flower crown (that was made from the flowers from our 15-year anniversary dinner, sadly, if you can believe it!)
He started to get agitated, started to grab at my backpack (I found out later, just to put his merch in there, but it was in a manhandle-y way for sure since he had been yelling at me even before the show started). Everyone around us was very aware something was not right. Later, as I was dancing and minding my own business, he grabbed me HARD by my shoulders/upper arms and forced me to switch spots with him (probably because I had a better vantage point than he had, and he was jealous that I was still trying to have a good time). People by that time were WELL aware that something was up with him-- they asked if I knew him and I assured them that yes, I did know him and that he was my boyfriend and was acting strange AF. I should have left at that point, but I really thought it was over-- even though this behavior is totally on-brand for him, he has never been THIS angry with me before.
The last straw was when he turned around and PUSHED ME HARD into the people standing next to me, toppling me into people (I'm not the smallest girl in the world, I'm pretty tall myself). He yelled at me to "Stop touching" him which is ridiculous!! We are literally so close to LCD Soundsystem at KBP; EVERYONE UP FRONT IS TOUCHING EACH OTHER! We're dancing, people are being jostled, etc. It was too much. I ended up leaving after that. I ran back to the TRAX and went back to the hotel alone. I notified the front desk that I was fighting with my boyfriend, and they were really nice and said to call if I needed anything.
Anyway. He had been aggressive ever since we got home (we live together). He has attempted to steal my dog, and he was intimidating toward a girlfriend that I had at the house (I filed a police report following these events). Like I said, we live together, we have a house together, we had a LIFE together. He has been refusing to talk to me since even LAST WEEK with whatever has been bothering him-- I really tried my best to have a good time at the festival since it was such great experience DESPITE all of the drama throughout the week.
PLEASE reach out if you saw/taped anything. It would really help me out immensely. This man has gone from angry to, I believe, potentially dangerous. Like I said. Police ARE aware and on stand-by.
Thank you so much for your help! I am going to try to cross-post in other festival subreddits and on the SLC subreddit.
2024.05.19 16:41 thots_n_prayers Did you see me getting assaulted during LCD Soundsystem?! Do you have another story or video of it?
I never thought that I would have to do this. I noticed on this subreddit that there is a slew of women who are asking for help with obtaining video footage (or even comments) of their physical assault during Kilby Block Party.
I was ESPECIALLY surprised when I came across someone who saw what happened to me but unfortunately doesn't have video footage. When they expressed their dismay in how incredibly abusive my (now) ex-boyfriend was being toward me over the span of the show, something finally clicked. I am done with the relationship. I deserve better than this. They are asking around on my behalf which I appreciate (there are apparently a LOT of us which is really sad because I had a (MOSTLY) incredible time at the festival otherwise).
A few details: This was during LCD Soundsystem show was standing toward the front left (if you were looking AT the stage). My ex is tall, blonde-ish, about 6'2" and he was wearing a lime green/yellow Arsenal jersey (soccer). He has an anger issue and was, I BELIEVE, upset that I had gone to see Interpol while he decided to get close to the LCD stage; also someone was hitting on me RIGHT when I found him up front (even though I politely fended him off and told him that I was there with my boyfriend who was sitting right there) and my ex did NOT seem very happy about it (we had been fighting on and off the entire trip out there).
I was wearing a silver mesh top with "Bad Witch" on it and a real flower crown (that was made from the flowers from our 15-year anniversary dinner, sadly, if you can believe it!)
He started to get agitated, started to grab at my backpack (I found out later, just to put his merch in there, but it was in a manhandle-y way for sure since he had been yelling at me even before the show started). Everyone around us was very aware something was not right. Later, as I was dancing and minding my own business, he grabbed me HARD by my shoulders/upper arms and forced me to switch spots with him (probably because I had a better vantage point than he had, and he was jealous that I was still trying to have a good time). People by that time were WELL aware that something was up with him-- they asked if I knew him and I assured them that yes, I did know him and that he was my boyfriend and was acting strange AF. I should have left at that point, but I really thought it was over-- even though this behavior is totally on-brand for him, he has never been THIS angry with me before.
The last straw was when he turned around and PUSHED ME HARD into the people standing next to me, toppling me into people (I'm not the smallest girl in the world, I'm pretty tall myself). He yelled at me to "Stop touching" him which is ridiculous!! We are literally so close to LCD Soundsystem at KBP; EVERYONE UP FRONT IS TOUCHING EACH OTHER! We're dancing, people are being jostled, etc. It was too much. I ended up leaving after that. I ran back to the TRAX and went back to the hotel alone. I notified the front desk that I was fighting with my boyfriend, and they were really nice and said to call if I needed anything.
Anyway. He had been aggressive ever since we got home (we live together). He has attempted to steal my dog, and he was intimidating toward a girlfriend that I had at the house (I filed a police report following these events). Like I said, we live together, we have a house together, we had a LIFE together. He has been refusing to talk to me since even LAST WEEK with whatever has been bothering him-- I really tried my best to have a good time at the festival since it was such great experience DESPITE all of the drama throughout the week.
PLEASE reach out if you saw/taped anything. It would really help me out immensely. This man has gone from angry to, I believe, potentially dangerous. Like I said. Police ARE aware and on stand-by.
Thank you so much for your help! I am going to try to cross-post in other festival subreddits and on the SLC subreddit.
submitted by thots_n_prayers to kilbyblockparty [link] [comments]
I was ESPECIALLY surprised when I came across someone who saw what happened to me but unfortunately doesn't have video footage. When they expressed their dismay in how incredibly abusive my (now) ex-boyfriend was being toward me over the span of the show, something finally clicked. I am done with the relationship. I deserve better than this. They are asking around on my behalf which I appreciate (there are apparently a LOT of us which is really sad because I had a (MOSTLY) incredible time at the festival otherwise).
A few details: This was during LCD Soundsystem show was standing toward the front left (if you were looking AT the stage). My ex is tall, blonde-ish, about 6'2" and he was wearing a lime green/yellow Arsenal jersey (soccer). He has an anger issue and was, I BELIEVE, upset that I had gone to see Interpol while he decided to get close to the LCD stage; also someone was hitting on me RIGHT when I found him up front (even though I politely fended him off and told him that I was there with my boyfriend who was sitting right there) and my ex did NOT seem very happy about it (we had been fighting on and off the entire trip out there).
I was wearing a silver mesh top with "Bad Witch" on it and a real flower crown (that was made from the flowers from our 15-year anniversary dinner, sadly, if you can believe it!)
He started to get agitated, started to grab at my backpack (I found out later, just to put his merch in there, but it was in a manhandle-y way for sure since he had been yelling at me even before the show started). Everyone around us was very aware something was not right. Later, as I was dancing and minding my own business, he grabbed me HARD by my shoulders/upper arms and forced me to switch spots with him (probably because I had a better vantage point than he had, and he was jealous that I was still trying to have a good time). People by that time were WELL aware that something was up with him-- they asked if I knew him and I assured them that yes, I did know him and that he was my boyfriend and was acting strange AF. I should have left at that point, but I really thought it was over-- even though this behavior is totally on-brand for him, he has never been THIS angry with me before.
The last straw was when he turned around and PUSHED ME HARD into the people standing next to me, toppling me into people (I'm not the smallest girl in the world, I'm pretty tall myself). He yelled at me to "Stop touching" him which is ridiculous!! We are literally so close to LCD Soundsystem at KBP; EVERYONE UP FRONT IS TOUCHING EACH OTHER! We're dancing, people are being jostled, etc. It was too much. I ended up leaving after that. I ran back to the TRAX and went back to the hotel alone. I notified the front desk that I was fighting with my boyfriend, and they were really nice and said to call if I needed anything.
Anyway. He had been aggressive ever since we got home (we live together). He has attempted to steal my dog, and he was intimidating toward a girlfriend that I had at the house (I filed a police report following these events). Like I said, we live together, we have a house together, we had a LIFE together. He has been refusing to talk to me since even LAST WEEK with whatever has been bothering him-- I really tried my best to have a good time at the festival since it was such great experience DESPITE all of the drama throughout the week.
PLEASE reach out if you saw/taped anything. It would really help me out immensely. This man has gone from angry to, I believe, potentially dangerous. Like I said. Police ARE aware and on stand-by.
Thank you so much for your help! I am going to try to cross-post in other festival subreddits and on the SLC subreddit.
2024.05.19 16:36 YorkieCheese My ex-employer (McMaster-Carr) is recruiting for consultants while fluffing job descriptions and manipulating Glassdoor Reviews. Be vigilante. Chicago, Cleveland, New Jersey, Los Angeles, Atlanta.
I'm sure most of Chicago/Booth/Kellogg have heard of this company by now, but they recently started recruiting consultants/MBA for their other branches (T25) so I make the post.
Quick Intro: McMaster-Carr is the Amazon of Industrial Supplies. They ship to the US Miltary, manufacturers, engineers, technicians, etc... Their customers are the engineers but the bills are paid by the Finance Dept hence as long as McM do a consistent good job delivering to the engineers, they can charge exorbitant amount (e.g $30 screw and $50 shipping; real example.)This is how they can pay entry managements with 0yoe $170k (bonus included, deferred saving excluded) and middle managers (3-10YOE) up to $300k.
Path/Exit: You will get a random rotation every 6-18 months. The rotation can be literally anything from Warehouse Operations Management Role to HR to Finance/Fraud. Management Trainee (0-18m depending on your background/initial performance). Supervisor (no pay raise as MT are expected to become Sup eventually; can be skipped if you have pre-MBA exp and did well in your initial performance.) ManageSeniorM (3-5yoe/5-8yoe; most people languished here until they decided to go all in or all out with McMaster.) After this come Regional ManageDirectoVP. You can leave at M/SM and might still be able to transition to a new careeindustry afterward. Otherwise, it's a tough sale. Even before the mid-2023 general market downturn, I knew Regional/Directors who took 1+ year just to switch to another industrial/industrial job. Not even an industry switch.
Their Targets: In the past, 95%+ of management came from straight out of Ivy/Top Liberal Arts undergrad. This breeds an incredibly toxic environment since many of them are not mature/don't have leadership experience (the cream of the crop don't consider McMaster) and it's a case of the blinds leading the blinds. McM had a purge of toxic leaders back in mid-2010s but this problem returned. Since then, they have tried to recruit a few more consultants rather than depending solely on fresh grads. This recruiting effort has and continued to go miserably. Despite mass reach-out effort every single year, they only got some ex-B4 (1 Parthenon but the rest is regular B4), but they couldn't get anyone from T2 or MBB.
Nature of the work: (Micro)managing individual contributors and troubleshooting outdated issues (that are only found in 40yo+ warehouses) if you get a warehouse rotation. McM tries to sell you on these, but from my post-McM job interviews as well as McM managers' outcomes, these skills are worthless. For once, the ICs get paid quite well so they work very hard. Management, in an attempt to justify their outrageous salary, tries to micromanage all the time even when outclassed by 20+ years of knowledge. IC vs Management issue will be further discussed in the Cons section. Another issue is that managing blue-collar is no way the same as managing white-collar so most hiring managers don't really care for this exp. The company doesn't really do marketing, M&A, or new market (it took them 30+ years to just now opening a new branch in Texas because McM's tech couldn't handle having 6 warehouses instead of 5.) I'm not kidding. They passed on growth opportunity for 30+ years because they didn't want to change... Also because the company doesn't do marketing, they are not good at customer behavior analytics, resulting in their website redesign that took 2+ years to get scraped ater 1 week due to customer complaints.)
Pro:
• Their pay. McM has a 2.9 Glassdoor rating despite having a 4.6 rating in Compensation and Benefits. Pay include:
Cons: Glassdoor Reviews:
• There’s another purge/headcount reduction going on right now. A tidbit is that management above your level can see the performance review of everyone below them. This contributes to how much drama, backstabbing, and rumors float internally. Recently, an ex-Trainee even wrote a long post calling out his spineless manager and backstabbing coworkers in a GroupMe with 100+ members of management. The manager left soon after. The ex-MT even told McMaster to blacklist his undergrad for recruiting. Absolute legend.
• The operations and tech stack are very constrained and not replicable. The company uses 80s IBM Tech for CRM/ERP so unless you’re working on a Website-related project (which you can sometimes use Python/SQL), you will be writing outdated queries to pull data. McM also doesn’t use Powerpoint so you will have to learn Adobe Indesign. The company’s warehouses themselves have a ton of makeshifts and outdated stuff. If you get a warehouse assignment, you will be putting out fires arose from issues not addressed by the original warehouse design. If you think you will be value-add to a company like Amazon after your McMaster’s experience, you are wrong. Amazon warehouses are built in the early/mid 2010s and have about 30 years of new automation/technology integrated to them. McM is still tinkering with their first automated warehouse. Experience putting out fixed/nonexistent issues is worthless.
• This company hire fake review writers. You will notice the positive reviews are all generic and one line whereas the negative reviews (from both Managements and ICs) are all super long and super informative. You will also notice that there’s no longer a “Most Helpful” sort on Glassdoor. This is because all the negative reviews get liked so much. Now it’s just “Most Popular” which is just fake reviews with 0 like/dislike.
• Relationships between Management and Individual Contributors are more fraught than ever. The situation has always been incredibly tense because ICs were viewed with incredible disdain by Management (most of whom are rich Ivy/Top School graduates) but has only gotten worse with automation and market uncertainty.
• Management’s official policy is to never promote Individual Contributors. A fresh grad (0YOE) can instantly become a supervisor but somehow an IC needed 8+ years of consistent excellent performance to be considered. Management can become Manager in as little as 2yoe out of Undergrad, whereas IC -> Manager is so rare I can count the Chicago Branch on two hands. And no, it’s not because ICs are not qualified/hardworking. Just imagine how hard it is to work at Amazon-pace for EIGHT YEARS just to be equal to a college brown-nose.
• Management’s unofficial policy is to avoid eye contact or saying hello to ICs unless the ICs initiated it. ICs were afraid to take more than one food/souvenir item during an open house event even though we had so much leftover. A manager even complained that other managers were making fun of ICs for work-place injuries (think Amazon warehouse-like injuries such as overexertion, nerve damage, wrist/knees/back issues.) Absolutely devoid of humanity.
• The company had been automating part of the Atlanta and Chicago warehouses. Managements assigned to be tour guides of these automated warehouses were told to lie say that no IC headcount reduction will occur. Obviously, there were a rise in suspicious performance evaluation after these were built. Also, I was one of the tour guides and were asked by multiple ICs where the observation cameras will be in the ceiling. The fact that multiple raised this seemingly-joking-yet-alarming question tells you just how much Management has trained ICs to become paranoid over time. If you’re a new-hire consultant and feels related to this meme, just know you will be holding the mop to clean up and not the lightsaber.
submitted by YorkieCheese to consulting [link] [comments]
Quick Intro: McMaster-Carr is the Amazon of Industrial Supplies. They ship to the US Miltary, manufacturers, engineers, technicians, etc... Their customers are the engineers but the bills are paid by the Finance Dept hence as long as McM do a consistent good job delivering to the engineers, they can charge exorbitant amount (e.g $30 screw and $50 shipping; real example.)This is how they can pay entry managements with 0yoe $170k (bonus included, deferred saving excluded) and middle managers (3-10YOE) up to $300k.
Path/Exit: You will get a random rotation every 6-18 months. The rotation can be literally anything from Warehouse Operations Management Role to HR to Finance/Fraud. Management Trainee (0-18m depending on your background/initial performance). Supervisor (no pay raise as MT are expected to become Sup eventually; can be skipped if you have pre-MBA exp and did well in your initial performance.) ManageSeniorM (3-5yoe/5-8yoe; most people languished here until they decided to go all in or all out with McMaster.) After this come Regional ManageDirectoVP. You can leave at M/SM and might still be able to transition to a new careeindustry afterward. Otherwise, it's a tough sale. Even before the mid-2023 general market downturn, I knew Regional/Directors who took 1+ year just to switch to another industrial/industrial job. Not even an industry switch.
Their Targets: In the past, 95%+ of management came from straight out of Ivy/Top Liberal Arts undergrad. This breeds an incredibly toxic environment since many of them are not mature/don't have leadership experience (the cream of the crop don't consider McMaster) and it's a case of the blinds leading the blinds. McM had a purge of toxic leaders back in mid-2010s but this problem returned. Since then, they have tried to recruit a few more consultants rather than depending solely on fresh grads. This recruiting effort has and continued to go miserably. Despite mass reach-out effort every single year, they only got some ex-B4 (1 Parthenon but the rest is regular B4), but they couldn't get anyone from T2 or MBB.
Nature of the work: (Micro)managing individual contributors and troubleshooting outdated issues (that are only found in 40yo+ warehouses) if you get a warehouse rotation. McM tries to sell you on these, but from my post-McM job interviews as well as McM managers' outcomes, these skills are worthless. For once, the ICs get paid quite well so they work very hard. Management, in an attempt to justify their outrageous salary, tries to micromanage all the time even when outclassed by 20+ years of knowledge. IC vs Management issue will be further discussed in the Cons section. Another issue is that managing blue-collar is no way the same as managing white-collar so most hiring managers don't really care for this exp. The company doesn't really do marketing, M&A, or new market (it took them 30+ years to just now opening a new branch in Texas because McM's tech couldn't handle having 6 warehouses instead of 5.) I'm not kidding. They passed on growth opportunity for 30+ years because they didn't want to change... Also because the company doesn't do marketing, they are not good at customer behavior analytics, resulting in their website redesign that took 2+ years to get scraped ater 1 week due to customer complaints.)
Pro:
• Their pay. McM has a 2.9 Glassdoor rating despite having a 4.6 rating in Compensation and Benefits. Pay include:
•Base (0yoe: ~115k; ~$10k for each add year; ~$160k for Manager) •Profit Sharing (average 50%+ of base; lowest was ~33% in 2008 & 45% in 2020; 2022 was ~50%+ and 2023 was ~60%) •Deferred Saving (25% of Base&PS. Vest schedule 0%/20%/40%/60%/80%/100% over 6 years.)• Their Education tuition policy: After the first 3 months, You can take any part-time program (e.g PT-MBA, PT-MS, PT-MA) or Certificate completely free, doesn’t have to be work-related, and no string attached. You can literally leave after they paid for your tuition and can still finish your course.
Cons: Glassdoor Reviews:
• There’s another purge/headcount reduction going on right now. A tidbit is that management above your level can see the performance review of everyone below them. This contributes to how much drama, backstabbing, and rumors float internally. Recently, an ex-Trainee even wrote a long post calling out his spineless manager and backstabbing coworkers in a GroupMe with 100+ members of management. The manager left soon after. The ex-MT even told McMaster to blacklist his undergrad for recruiting. Absolute legend.
• The operations and tech stack are very constrained and not replicable. The company uses 80s IBM Tech for CRM/ERP so unless you’re working on a Website-related project (which you can sometimes use Python/SQL), you will be writing outdated queries to pull data. McM also doesn’t use Powerpoint so you will have to learn Adobe Indesign. The company’s warehouses themselves have a ton of makeshifts and outdated stuff. If you get a warehouse assignment, you will be putting out fires arose from issues not addressed by the original warehouse design. If you think you will be value-add to a company like Amazon after your McMaster’s experience, you are wrong. Amazon warehouses are built in the early/mid 2010s and have about 30 years of new automation/technology integrated to them. McM is still tinkering with their first automated warehouse. Experience putting out fixed/nonexistent issues is worthless.
• This company hire fake review writers. You will notice the positive reviews are all generic and one line whereas the negative reviews (from both Managements and ICs) are all super long and super informative. You will also notice that there’s no longer a “Most Helpful” sort on Glassdoor. This is because all the negative reviews get liked so much. Now it’s just “Most Popular” which is just fake reviews with 0 like/dislike.
• Relationships between Management and Individual Contributors are more fraught than ever. The situation has always been incredibly tense because ICs were viewed with incredible disdain by Management (most of whom are rich Ivy/Top School graduates) but has only gotten worse with automation and market uncertainty.
• Management’s official policy is to never promote Individual Contributors. A fresh grad (0YOE) can instantly become a supervisor but somehow an IC needed 8+ years of consistent excellent performance to be considered. Management can become Manager in as little as 2yoe out of Undergrad, whereas IC -> Manager is so rare I can count the Chicago Branch on two hands. And no, it’s not because ICs are not qualified/hardworking. Just imagine how hard it is to work at Amazon-pace for EIGHT YEARS just to be equal to a college brown-nose.
• Management’s unofficial policy is to avoid eye contact or saying hello to ICs unless the ICs initiated it. ICs were afraid to take more than one food/souvenir item during an open house event even though we had so much leftover. A manager even complained that other managers were making fun of ICs for work-place injuries (think Amazon warehouse-like injuries such as overexertion, nerve damage, wrist/knees/back issues.) Absolutely devoid of humanity.
• The company had been automating part of the Atlanta and Chicago warehouses. Managements assigned to be tour guides of these automated warehouses were told to lie say that no IC headcount reduction will occur. Obviously, there were a rise in suspicious performance evaluation after these were built. Also, I was one of the tour guides and were asked by multiple ICs where the observation cameras will be in the ceiling. The fact that multiple raised this seemingly-joking-yet-alarming question tells you just how much Management has trained ICs to become paranoid over time. If you’re a new-hire consultant and feels related to this meme, just know you will be holding the mop to clean up and not the lightsaber.
2024.05.19 16:21 daisho87 [MINI] Micro Rocket Launch Pad, 1x s26 Nurse Android w/ Pink Space Baby, 2x Space CMF of your choice - see description for options (40712, 71046) - 82 spots @ $1ea
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Item Name Set Number: Micro Rocket Launch Pad, 3x Space CMF (40712, 71046)
Lego Price: $50.07 + 3x $4.99 + $1.33 tax = $ 63.37
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Raffle Total/Spots: $82 / 82 spots @ $1 each
Price justification: BE 5/17, retail
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Description: Micro Rocket Launchpad has an extra crisp box. Space CMF Nurse Android w/ Pink Space Baby is included. You also get 2x additional s26 space CMFs. Your choice between 1x M-Tron, 2x Spacewalking Astronaut, 2x Flying Saucer Fan, 2x Orion. All figs are sealed and have been identified through Brick Search app.
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Item Name Set Number: Micro Rocket Launch Pad, 3x Space CMF (40712, 71046)
Lego Price: $50.07 + 3x $4.99 + $1.33 tax = $ 63.37
Shipping: 3lb, 9 x 10 x 5, 99016 to 33136 USPS Ground Advantage = $18.60
Raffle Total/Spots: $82 / 82 spots @ $1 each
Price justification: BE 5/17, retail
Call spots: Yes
Spot limit per person: No
Duration of spot limit: N/A
Location(Country): USA
Will ship international: US / Canada only - Canada / HI / AK / APO pay difference
Timestamp pics: https://imgur.com/a/xQZiC2E
Description: Micro Rocket Launchpad has an extra crisp box. Space CMF Nurse Android w/ Pink Space Baby is included. You also get 2x additional s26 space CMFs. Your choice between 1x M-Tron, 2x Spacewalking Astronaut, 2x Flying Saucer Fan, 2x Orion. All figs are sealed and have been identified through Brick Search app.
Payment required w/in 10 minutes of raffle filling, 10 minutes for drama.
DO NOT ADD A COMMENT TO YOUR PAYMENT; IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS, PLEASE MESSAGE ME BEFORE PAYING;
PayPal Info: Provided once raffle is 50% full
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2024.05.19 16:15 Dakorr RNG Carried
 | Pulled crit 7 yesterday, and power 7 just now :) submitted by Dakorr to HypixelSkyblock [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/fbwjqw3c9e1d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=8dab14059e11deebc1f2e210c3c9bba27ddfba66 |
2024.05.19 16:11 AdventurousRevolt My dog tragically and suddenly died last night, landlord refusing to reschedule showings this am despite my multiple requests to reschedule and please be considerate that my dog died. Do I have any rights at all here? [US - Colorado]
I tried calling my lawyers office, he’s out until Monday. I called non emergency police and they said legally he’s in his rights to enter due to the 24h entry notice clause in the lease (but a complete jerk per the dispatcher).
I’m just so distraught, hysterical and a mess. LL is coming with multiple strangers for showings in an hour and a half and I could really use some help and guidance.
The unit is not even available to be rented until July 1 (today is May 19th). So it’s not like it’s urgent to show the unit TODAY. Has 4 total applications on Zillow (one of the 4 has already toured and declined) again none of this seems unreasonable to ask him to reschedule for another day….
Text from my LL to give an idea of who I’m working with here after repeatedly begging him to reschedule as I’m hysterical and not appropriate for visitors.
“Right on, so if that’s how you want to play it: I WILL BE THERE AT 9:30 TOMORROW I have given you notice and will enter the property. I will be there until 10:30. How you choose to conduct yourself at that time is up to you. See you tomorrow morning!!”
Any help or guidance is appreciated, currently I am not in a stable state to drive a vehicle and leave, also I have no family or friends locally to stay with.
I notified him about my dog going into ER surgery yesterday afternoon and needing to reschedule the showing due to the crisis and my dogs prognosis being poor. This LL is horrible and I’ve had multiple issues with him in the past and very happy my lease is finally ending soon.
UPDATE: he’s here, met a guy out front and walked him through the unit. Then LL started doing a Virtual showing and the first guy told me he was LL maintenance worker just walking through with LL not a potential tenant at all.
So to clarify the type of person I’m dealing with here thinks it’s cool to lie to me about who is entering the space and has no problem giving FaceTime VIRTUAL HOUSE TOURS THE MORNING AFTER MY DOG DIED
is this the anger stage of grief?? That was fast.
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I’m just so distraught, hysterical and a mess. LL is coming with multiple strangers for showings in an hour and a half and I could really use some help and guidance.
The unit is not even available to be rented until July 1 (today is May 19th). So it’s not like it’s urgent to show the unit TODAY. Has 4 total applications on Zillow (one of the 4 has already toured and declined) again none of this seems unreasonable to ask him to reschedule for another day….
Text from my LL to give an idea of who I’m working with here after repeatedly begging him to reschedule as I’m hysterical and not appropriate for visitors.
“Right on, so if that’s how you want to play it: I WILL BE THERE AT 9:30 TOMORROW I have given you notice and will enter the property. I will be there until 10:30. How you choose to conduct yourself at that time is up to you. See you tomorrow morning!!”
Any help or guidance is appreciated, currently I am not in a stable state to drive a vehicle and leave, also I have no family or friends locally to stay with.
I notified him about my dog going into ER surgery yesterday afternoon and needing to reschedule the showing due to the crisis and my dogs prognosis being poor. This LL is horrible and I’ve had multiple issues with him in the past and very happy my lease is finally ending soon.
UPDATE: he’s here, met a guy out front and walked him through the unit. Then LL started doing a Virtual showing and the first guy told me he was LL maintenance worker just walking through with LL not a potential tenant at all.
So to clarify the type of person I’m dealing with here thinks it’s cool to lie to me about who is entering the space and has no problem giving FaceTime VIRTUAL HOUSE TOURS THE MORNING AFTER MY DOG DIED
is this the anger stage of grief?? That was fast.
2024.05.19 16:09 TightRazzmatazz7060 Options for disability patients ?
We are coming to Kings island next Sunday. We have never been. We live in cle and frequently go to cedar point. Our daughter has been fighting cancer and sadly has relapsed - it’s a rare and aggressive cancer and the prognosis is not good. We are trying to make as many memories as possible as safely as possible while we still have time left. Her uncle is in Cincinnati so we will be going with him.
Our main questions:
Do they give a disability pass ? We have one when we go to cedar point so that we can go directly onto rides, they usually give us a time that we have to wait after each ride before we can go on another ride.. We explained the situation to them when we went this past weekend and they gave us fast pass plus for our group of 5 as well as the disability pass and a food pass. When we go, it will be our family of four and my brother and his fiancé so six total are there limitations on the disability pass in terms of who can go with you.?
Do they allow you to bring your own wheelchair into the park?
Are we allowed to bring hydration carriers? I see that they don’t allow outside food but do they let you bring your own water backpack?
At Cedar point there are indoor areas and plenty of shade. You can stop and take off. Do they have these options at Kings Island?
Our son will be five years old and 48” tall - are their many rides that he can do?
Thank you for your help during this difficult time.
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Our main questions:
Do they give a disability pass ? We have one when we go to cedar point so that we can go directly onto rides, they usually give us a time that we have to wait after each ride before we can go on another ride.. We explained the situation to them when we went this past weekend and they gave us fast pass plus for our group of 5 as well as the disability pass and a food pass. When we go, it will be our family of four and my brother and his fiancé so six total are there limitations on the disability pass in terms of who can go with you.?
Do they allow you to bring your own wheelchair into the park?
Are we allowed to bring hydration carriers? I see that they don’t allow outside food but do they let you bring your own water backpack?
At Cedar point there are indoor areas and plenty of shade. You can stop and take off. Do they have these options at Kings Island?
Our son will be five years old and 48” tall - are their many rides that he can do?
Thank you for your help during this difficult time.
2024.05.19 16:02 brogflea Boyerstree update 2, year 25
 | Hello everyone, once again welcome to Boyerstree, update 2. 10 years is a long time, even in Banished, yet not that much has changed. Let me give you a quick tour. submitted by brogflea to Banished [link] [comments] Towncentre First up is the towncentre. When I say not much has changed, I mean it, but it's hard to spot under all those trees. Why are there so many trees you wonder? Well, the town is called BoyersTREE after all ;) Jokes aside, since the very beginning I had the idea to fill the space between the two roads up with something. 3 tiles of streets should be enough to stop any potential fire from spreading, but having such huge highways through the village isn't really that nice to look at. In my opinion, at least. So I wanted to fill that empty space with trees because of the random name the village got. That's why I build a forester in the centre, to plant these trees. I still plan to build houses in the (previously) empty spots. Now it might take a bit longer to build them, but that should be allright. Next to the forester I build a Herbalist, because I thought that might be of some use. Also, one comment mentioned to have a Herbalist in the centre prevents the villagers from walking all the way into the forest if they are sick, so there's that benefit as well. What's also new is the cemetery up top. I planned to make one as big as possible, but realized I didn't have the stone to spare. So instead, I split it up into quarters and will build a new quarter if one is necessary. Right now, I have about 20 graves filles out of 40 possible. So while there is still enough space, it showed me that it was about high time I built one. Further up North you can see the newest addition to the village, a Pasteur with 3 whole sheep in it! Trading is starting to pay off, Wool production can officially start soon! I'm looking forward to having warm coats, I think with the conditions on harsh that will be a huge benefit. The final addition is a little harder to spot, just below the cemetery I built additional barns. I've decided to up the production limits of all necessary resources considerably, especially food. As a result, I started to run out of space. These new barns are built just on the edge of the influence area of the Forester as to not reduce it's productivity too much. At the same time, the main culprit why I'm running out of space are these Foresters Hubs, so the barns are quite close to the source, which is nice. The most effort during these 10 years was spent on building up the Traiding-Hub. Trading-Hub Since not that many Traders showed up and they also did not have the resources I required, I decided to improve my chances by adding more Tradingposts. 2 more have been added and I started to add the buildings which actually benefit from the imported goods, mainly the Blacksmith. Fun story here, I wondered why the Traders have not been delivering my custom orders. I later found out that while I have placed custom orders, I had left the slider of when to place custom orders on "Never" instead of "Every visit"... I'm an idiot. Anyway, one of my biggest gripes with the game since Time Immemorial has been that the Blacksmith needs coal for Steel Tools, while the villagers use Coal to heat their homes and there is nothing you can do to give the blacksmith higher priority. And I imagine even if you could, that would not help much because there are many times more houses than Blacksmiths. The only thing you can do is see to it that the Blacksmith gets to the coal first, which is what I'm planig to do here. Ideally that would mean the Trading Hub is far away from the village, but that would not work too since the people need to walk to their working station. And if I place their houses at the Trading Hub, we're back on square one, so I might as well build some houses nearby. As you can see, I plan to expand the village in that area as well, I've even started on a market. While that contradicts my strategy with the Coal delivery, I hope that the impact will not be that severe. Time will tell, as this part of the village won't be settled until I run out of space at the top. All three Tradingposts are stocked with resources, mainly Firewood, Cloth and Herbs, and ready to go. Up until this screenshot I have imported a grand total of 30 iron, but I'm expecting a sharp increase soon. Also I'm impressed how much I was able to build with the provided Stone and Iron alone. And I was afraid of running out of material at the year 15 update... Next up I really want to start the alcohol export going. But for that I need to import the resources first, namely apple. While that might not be the best method mecanically speaking, storywise this is my goal: To establish an export of branded Boyerstree Mountain Cider (it's a valley, but shush). Until I have enough apples, I might substitute in berries. I have plenty of them, but they are a food source and I'd rather not turn food into alcohol. But at small numbers, that might be possible. Also, from just one keg I could by 15 apples, so that is tempting... Eh, we'll see. That might be depending on which Merchant arrives next time. To the South of the Trading Hub I've planned to add a second Pasteur. This is mainly a safety precaution, since herds can get infected with diseases. And if that happens, well you can't do much beside slaughter all livestock and start over. This second Pasteur is my safety measure so I can quickly split the herd and start over right away. Also, yes, I've planed another Forester Hub. Look, you can never have enough, OK? Also as mentioned above, my plan as of now is to expand the village along the river for easy access to trading. More shepp and Foresters because why not? Finally, I'll show you some stats from the Townhall. This is more a detail for those interested, but since I'm posting another long post might as well. The production tab is slightly skewed because I traded some resources away, hence the consumption isn't exactly accurate. https://preview.redd.it/mxtwzijvsd1d1.png?width=1394&format=png&auto=webp&s=9e7f2b2266a6db633695117d7bc073eec2216572 To be honest, I never look to closely at the overview tab. I know some people base their expansion plans on how many kids/students there are or how many homes there are relative to the number of families. I personally tend to just look at the population time range, mostly 5 years, and base my plan on that. As well as if there is a new home built, I have a quick look at who is moving in. If both future parents are in their 30s, I know I have to build more houses. As you can see in the population graph, there was a time when the population actually declined. I realized that, and in a fit of panic, built too many new houses, hence the increase later on. Fun fact, that is also why you saw many paused houses mid construction in the previous screenshots. Right now I want to have a stable population with only a slight increase. There aren't that many new jobs I want to fill and the food/fuel production as of now is just balanced. While I have the tools to increase both productions further, I'd rather not. The reserve is a safety net which should not have to be implemented yet. At the start of graph 3 you can see that we had a rocky start with only a few survivors after a food shortage, and I'm surprised how many years it took (4 to 5) to build back the number of people which you start with. That really was a close call. Graph 4 shows the impact of not having a school at the beginning. I was very surprised to see that in only about 5 to 6 years, the percentage of educated people dropped from 100% to below 25%. I've checked on the internet to see if my gut feeling about the productivity difference was correct and, uh, yeah the impact is definitely noticeable. That school might have saved my village, especially considering how long it took to get back to 90% again. https://preview.redd.it/1mw68xroyd1d1.png?width=1428&format=png&auto=webp&s=4a52035fb3eece686710eae49428218e81c4920a Lastly, an overview over some resources. Nothing special to see here, except maybe you can see the year I decided to massive overproduce food and firewood. Food mainly for reserve, firewood to get trading started. Iron and Stone is only from gathered resourced, except 30 imported Iron. As I said, I'm surprised how long these last. I've still not collected every node I could, but the paths are now very long and the collection is very slow. I think I might have found a trick to speed things up, and that is to place a storage pile in the woods close to the Stone/Iron nodes. The Labours will deposit the resources there, shortening their paths as they now only have to return home to eat and warm up again. That means they can spend more time collecting stuff. Of course, building is a bit slowed down because of the longer paths, but I haven't noticed that big of a difference. Also, once all recourses are gathered up, I destroy the storage pile and let the resources be transported back to the village. Is this efficient? I don't know but it feels as if the gathering goes quicker. Heavy emphasize on FEELS. Well, that's all I got for now. Quick glance into the future, I really need to strengthen my disaster resilience, meaning Hospitals and Wells. That needs stone, which should be arriving shortly. Hopefully. And yeah, Trading needs to be strengthened as well. Maybe I'll add more Trading Posts. As we are entering the 'lategame', something I always do once I feel like the village is turning into a well running town is to build an unnecessary long, yet somehow useful tunnel or bridge. I haven't found a place to do this here yet, so I might go search a spot. The next update will probably be more then 10 years in the future since I feel like not much interesting stuff is going to happen now. Time will tell, if something noteworthy happens I'll be sure to post it here. If you made it this far, thanks for reading :) * edited because of a typo in the first sentence. Dammit. |