A goodbye note to an ex boyfriend

My boyfriend (34M) and I (24F) have been together for 6 months now. He has two kids and they are great kids. Two girls age 7 and 10. He is very supportive of his ex which is ok but she can be very manipulative and make him feel like shit then to come to a realization of her intentions. It upsets him and also me. For instance, Mother’s Day, it was his to have them (Friday to Friday) but she called him up Thursday saying how the girls were crying and didn’t want to go to school and the reason for them crying was he locks the door at night. Ex would like to keep the kids Friday and Saturday. Came to the conclusion that they were crying because the little one was sick Wednesday and stayed home so the next day they both thought that playing sick and crying would get them to stay home. Her motives was to have them on Mother’s Day. Bf and I said the kids can be with her until Sunday afternoon since we have dinner plans with my parents for my mom. Her bf decided to text my boyfriend saying she would love to have the kids for Mother’s Day. Which is understandable but she didn’t have to manipulate and beat around the bush to get her way. It is emotionally draining for me. I don’t know if I can deal with knowing she will always be in our lives. It’s fine if it was minimal contacts but manipulation and all of this bs is a no no. I talked to my boyfriend about how I felt about it seems to be going nowhere. I told him I don’t know if I can do it. Knowing that she will always be there. He assured me that he doesn’t talk to her other than about the kids. I recently found out she is an authorized user on his card to buy the kids school stuff, clothes, and whatever they need. He seems to be financially supporting her in someway. Also we went to the kids spring concert and ofc we said hi to his ex and her boyfriend. My boyfriend handed her a check which I later learned it was half of his tax return. She said she will use it for the kids dental but he said no no, use it for yourself, I’ll take care of the kids dental. I don’t know how I feel about any of this. Help?

I know I messed up here
Dated my ex for 2.5 yrs
Fwb with him for an additional 2.5 yrs. He never wanted to make it official.
Finally asked him point blank if we had a future when he was literally talking about asking out a woman from work in front of me and he said no.
I stopped hooking up with him but we stayed friends and hung out a ton as always like 3 or 4 nights a week.
A while after that, started going out with a mutual close friend of ours and didn't tell my ex. At first I just wanted privacy to sort out my feelings; I hadn't been romantic with anyone else for 5 years.
Then I couldn't figure out what to say and felt it needed to come from me
I messed up by not communicating. I get that. I take full responsibility.
My ex ended up finding out and got real mad and stopped speaking to us.
I understand why and all and I try to accept that's how he feels.
It's been 11 months since he told me to lose his number and I'm still so depressed and sad about not having that friendship in my life. I miss him every day.
My therapist said it seems like I am doing things and finding happiness and I guess that's true but like inside every day i feel extremely depressed about it all and miss him.
I'm very happy with my boyfriend (the mutual friend of my ex), he's so kind and sweet and thoughtful and committed. He treats me very well.
I don't want to date my ex again.
It's just like I can't get over this sadness feeling. And I feel like everyone in my life is sick of hearing about how sad I feel about a guy that dumped me and hasn't talked to me for months.
But I feel it so it's like I don't know here I am on reddit I guess.

As the title states, (and despite the existential risk to myself - as I am disabled, impoverished, and my survival is reliant on the room I rent in her attic - given her recent threat to have have me thrown out by the police because she could not handle the feelings she had during the argument that she initiated), I have finally drawn a bright red line in the metaphorical sand regarding her treatment of me. This is the culmination of 8+ years of sustained, one-sided, unreciprocated, and unsuccessful effort on my part to sustain, salvage, repair, or improve our "relationship"
 
I've learned a lot from the stories and people on this subreddit, and I know if anyone can understand the way that I'm feeling about this it's you guys.
 
Any input, commentary, criticism, insight, commiseration, etc, is very welcome, and I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read it.
 
Anyways, enough preamble, here's the letter in all of my ridiculously-verbose inglory (the square-bracketed disclaimers, etc, were part of the letter as delivered to her, since she is selective illiterate whenever there's something she doesn't like):
 
[START]
 
[This document begins with a 382 word AI-generated summary (titled "AI- GENERATED SUMMARY:" below the square-bracketed opening remarks), estimated at 1m23s time required to read. If you are unable or unwilling to make it through even this brief summary, then there is literally nothing else I could possibly do to assist in your comprehension of my positions. The full message following the summary is approximately 2100 words, estimated at approximately 8 minutes to read.]
 
[If you would like assistance in understanding things I've written that you're struggling to interpret or comprehend, you can go to chatgpt.com (no account necessary), or download the ChatGPT app from the Google Play Store on your phone. You can simply interact with the chat in natural language (in other words, type as though you were texting another person) and it will understand what you are saying. If you are struggling to understand how to interact with it effectively, you can simply inform it of that (in any wording you choose) and it will assist you with altering your approach to receive more effective results.]
 
AI-GENERATED SUMMARY:
 
Your son's message is a powerful declaration of his boundaries, grievances, and intentions within your relationship. Here's a breakdown to help you understand:
 
Preface: He advises you to read with an open mind and, if needed, with assistance due to the emotional complexity.
 
Declaration of Disengagement: He firmly states his decision to disengage from any form of interaction or acknowledgment outside of essential landlord-tenant matters.
 
Condemnation of Abuse: He accuses you of perpetuating a cycle of abuse that has deeply impacted his health and stability.
 
Rejection of Coercion: He dismisses the idea that being evicted is a viable solution to the abuse, highlighting the coercive nature of such a choice, and how it leaves him vulnerable to further harm.
 
Criticism of Your Behavior: He unreservedly condemns your actions, particularly your exploitation and manipulation, emphasizing the gravity and effects of your conduct.
 
Challenges to Your Claims: He directly confronts your claims regarding his efforts in the relationship, asserting that he has consistently made extensive attempts to maintain it, despite your accusations to the contrary.
 
Commitment to Compliance: He unequivocally affirms his commitment to compliance with all landlord-related demands, demonstrating his unwavering respect for your authority as the homeowner.
 
Demand for Clarity: He demands clear and unambiguous knowledge of the requisite terms when any changes to living arrangement paradigms are demanded, underscoring his willingness to comply with any directives you may issue.
 
Defense Against Gaslighting: He firmly asserts his unwavering commitment to respecting your property and authority, preemptively refuting any attempts to accuse him otherwise.
 
Insights into Your Behaviour: He offers insights into patterns in your behaviour, linking them to moments of vulnerability or distress in your life.
 
Call for Self-Reflection: He urges you to seek professional help for your narcissism and unresolved childhood traumas.
 
Caution Regarding Gravity: He states that failing to address your responsibilities would be a missed opportunity for both of you to salvage the relationship and resolve underlying issues.
 
Reiteration of Hope: Despite his current stance, he leaves the door open for reconciliation if you undergo necessary personal growth.
 
Closure on Unequal Effort: He firmly states that he can no longer sustain the one-sided effort in the relationship and won't continue to do so.
 
It's evident that he's deeply hurt and demanding acknowledgment, change, and resolution in your relationship.
 
[end of AI-generated summary; my full, non-AI-generated message follows below]
 
[I recommend that you read this in its entirety at a time and capacity level where your literacy and comprehension are at their highest level, and preferably with the interpretational assistance of a knowledgeable and competent support person or technological assistant.]
 
[Presumably, after reading a few sentences or less, your defense mechanisms will be activated and you will eject. However, as with the vast majority of the things I have said to you that have gone unacknowledged, I am completely certain that the contents are cogent and comprehensible, and I believe that with competent support and vulnerable effort you undoubtedly have the raw cognitive capacity necessary for comprehension if you are able to stabilize your emotional reactions and put real effort into the actions necessary for you to understand my words.]
 
I will not talk to you.
I will not look at you.
I will not approach you.
I will not acknowledge you.
 
If you attempt to interact with me on any interpersonal level not related to your role as a landlord, I will reserve the right to express just how fucking despicable it is to treat such a vulnerable person with such utter disregard and abuse for so fucking long.
 
The cycle of abuse you have maintained to destabilize me for your own pathological reasons has caused - and continues to cause - extensive damage to my health, stability, and existence. However, since I know your response to this would likely be some variation of "you're not a victim here [my name], so if I treat you so bad, just leave", I'll preemptively and unequivocally condemn such coercive and abusive tactics, and state again (as I did the other day), that the forced choice between your abuse and life-threatening-homelessness is obviously no choice at all, and leaves me perpetually subject to your coercion and abusive control.
 
Such exploitation by you is absolutely disgusting, and honestly I understand why you run away from yourself at every single instance where you're in danger of having your lifelong house-of-cards ego even slightly threatened. I know if I treated another human being the way you treat me for even a moment, let alone for the literal years you have done so, I would not be able to face myself in the mirror either. You should be fucking ashamed of yourself.
 
You say I "don't want to be your son anymore", as though it has been someone other than me making hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of hours of efforts and attempts in order to try and single-handedly keep our relationship alive, and as though it has been someone other than you who has stonewalled me for years about every single legitimate and valid time I attempted to gain even the slightest foothold as a full human being in the owner-pet relationship you have fought so hard to maintain. You siphon, in fact demand, emotional supply whenever you so choose, and then fucking discard me as soon as it appears that I might do anything that would result in you losing even a fraction of a percent of the 99% to 1% imbalance you believe is an immutable part of our "relationship".
 
I will do my absolute best to be in my room as much as physically possible when you are home, so as to minimize the need to be physically adjacent to you in the course of our respective activities of daily living.
 
I, again, remain unequivocally committed to my position of deference and compliance towards any rules/demands related to my existence, presence, or activities as your tenant.
 
As you refuse to provide any sort of unambiguous guidance or clarification whatsoever regarding your shifting demands affecting my ability to access/perform basic activities of daily living, I will continue to act in good faith with respect to my adherence to all previously-established arrangements and protocols (whether codified or de facto) regarding such activities. To the full extent of my abilities, and to the extent that it is physically possible, I will immediately and unequivocally comply with any alterations, additions, or excisions you choose to impose regarding the nature of our physical coexistence as landlord and tenant, regardless of your disregard or intent for any harm to my stability that will ensue as a result.
 
If you intend to attempt to manipulate or threaten or gaslight me to illegitimately and dishonestly accuse me of failing to comply with your rights and demands as the homeownelandlord, then I can assure you that such efforts will be ineffective and inadvisable. The extensive history of my genuine, documented, and unwavering commitment to absolute respect of your home, property, and landlord-tenant authority is unassailable, and nothing has or will change about the good faith nature of my efforts to simply live peacefully and work on stabilizing my health and continuing to attempt to develop basic protocols that offer me the opportunity to seek the ways and means required to sustainably exist, survive, and seek meaning and fulfilment as a human being.
 
To try and make it a bit more bite-sized (without warranty as to the efficacy of said efforts), since I know when your ego is threatened you conveniently - and dishonestly - become completely unable to read a couple thousand words:
 

• I have never been more disgusted by the actions of anyone or anything more in my entire fucking existence.

 

• I will continue to be an absolute model tenant, despite the harmful effects of your constant abuse, and I will unequivocally comply with any demands you make with your authority as my landlord. I will explicitly and aggressively defend against any attempts to gaslight me, or attempt to dishonestly accuse me of failing to comply with any such demands.

 

• Feel free at anytime in your life to decide that maybe it might be time to face the fact that - though skillful in your delusion - you are the same scared child you were 40 years ago, and if you ever want to truly and meaningfully experience what it's like to be secure with yourself beneath the false veneer of superficial and ego-protecting interactions you surround yourself with at the exclusion of true and honest existential vulnerability, then you need to seek, engage with, and be honest and vulnerable with, professional clinical care for your intractable narcissism and the lifelong effects and deficits associated with same. In other words, to reductively and rhetorically restate what you disgustingly told me the other day as a means of deflecting from the fact that you couldn't go more than two seconds without contradicting yourself, “get your fucking meds adjusted”.

 

• When faced with any sort of challenge to your control or authority, your lifelong fear of abandonment has caused you to push people away before they have the opportunity to leave you, resulting in premature, self-created, and misdirected sabotage of significant relationships at the first sign of disturbance or genuine vulnerability. I know you're terrible at recognizing or interpreting patterns or facts, but think, for example, about when your efforts to remove me from your life and/or house have been at their most intense:

 

• (a) in 2016(ish) when conflicts about my role in helping with the [redacted address][job of cleaning out my grandpa's apartment after Alzheimer's took hold] triggered feelings of grief and fear in you at the decline of your father's health and the inevitability of his then-upcoming death,

 

• (b) in late 2019 through 2020ish, in the leadup to and aftermath of your father's death, where you threatened or demanded my removal from your house during damn-near every single minor conflict about utterly insignificant household disputes. The vulnerability and grief you felt surrounding his death triggered the core-level unresolved sense of abandonment you carry as a result of the lack of parental affection you received because of, inter alia, the level of care required by your [editor's note: dying of CF as a teenager] sister and resultant lack of parental support available to you as a result,

 

• (c) in 2021ish, surrounding your mother's acute medical events and her subsequent death, where your treatment of me followed effectively the same patterns and underlying causes as the item above (sans explicit threats of eviction, opting instead for the more oblique and covert references that have been your MO until the recent regression to explicit threats within the past few days).

 

• (d) in 2024, surrounding the final decline and subsequent death of [dog], where all of the same behaviours described above returned and steadily escalated, culminating in telling me to get the fuck out of your house because I wouldn't stop moving some boxes for 30 minutes, and then telling me that you were going to call the police to have me removed from your house as a result of your inability to force me to stop making accurate statements that damaged your ego and need for unquestioned interpersonal control in your self-appointed role as the sole ruler of the relational hierarchy you fought so hard to maintain.

 

• You need to actively and vulnerably seek and participate in professional clinical treatment for the lifelong effects of the hollow narcissism that has maladaptively protected you from your deepest childhood injuries and vulnerabilities, at the expense of truly genuine connection with, at the very least, your firstborn and only son.

 

• [note that the contents of this bullet point are neither a threat of suicide, nor an indication of any intent whatsoever to harm myself or others. I am including this disclaimer to preemptively remove your ability to selectively manipulate my words in order to further gaslight me]
  If you want me gone from your house, and life (and possibly my own life, given the extreme existential risk posed by homelessness for a vulnerable person with the significant disabilities I am faced with), then you will have to have me physically removed from your house in cold blood, and until the day you (or I, depending on the order) die you will live with that being the last time you ever saw the son that you took for granted and abused for 32 fucking years while he groveled at your feet begging for even scraps of affection or humanity from the person who constantly love-bombed and discarded him at her convenience to serve her own narcissistic desires worth no regard for the whole entire person she was subjugating to the role of, barely, a pet.
  

 

• Be aware that if you choose to remove me from your life as a pathological and assuredly-ineffective avoidance mechanism to try and preemptively shield yourself from the fear of abandonment that is triggered in you as a result of my overwhelmingly valid and necessary actions to demand that you cease your lifelong efforts to subjugate me in your self-created hierarchical position at the top of our unequal relationship, then you will be doing yourself an irreparable disservice by extinguishing whatever sliver of opportunity might remain for you to get the help you need to allow you to finally see me as a real person and begin making real decisions and changes and efforts to participate in efforts to salvage whatever scraps of hope might remain for us to have a relationship before both/either of us die.

 

• Feel free to ignore and/or conceal the tens of thousands of words of documented history in order to share contextless excerpts of this text within your self-serving echo chambers in your efforts to receive false validation of your delusional victimhood. Or, alternatively, feel free to vulnerably share this in its entirety - along with the full corpus of my messaging regarding the severity of the harms caused by your behaviours - with a competent and knowledgeable mental health professional(s) for the purposes of seeking treatment for your underlying pathologies and working towards genuine growth.

 

• In the unlikely (though incomprehensibly-or-perhaps-delusionally-still-hopeful) event that you are still reading, I will conclude by saying that the possibility for any hope of salvaging our relationship lies firmly and solely within your control.

 

• After over 8 years of significant, relentless, documented, often-vilified, and absolutely unreciprocated efforts to single-handedly to put 100% of the effort into a relationship that you reaped the benefits of while remaining unwavering in your abdication of even the slightest of responsibilities, I have run out of ways, means, ideas, and capacity to continue unsuccessfully trying to do both of our parts.

 

• I am not closing the door to the possibility of reconciliation if/once you have undertaken the extensive individual work you need to do if you are ever going to be able and willing to put the necessary effort into repairing our relationship. But neither am I continuing to continue working outside your closed door hoping that one day I might be able to do enough to influence you to treat me like a full, real, EQUAL, human being.

 
I love you, and goodbye for now. I hope to see you on the other side, but I cannot force you to undertake the journey.
 
- [name]
 
[/END]
(any edits are fixing formatting/copy&paste errors)

I’ve (F36) been with my boyfriend (M34) for 2.5 years, long distance. In the beginning, obviously things were great. However, early on, I started to see some red flags.
He would lie about the stupidest things…things that didn’t even make sense to lie about. For example, I had visited him and made up a bunch of breakfast sandwiches for him to take to work. After I had gone home, he called me one morning saying that the sandwiches were great. He verbatim said, “I had one while I was running around the house getting ready and another one while I was driving to work.” Later in the day, I said “so those sandwiches were good, huh?” He said “what? I told you I was rushing today. I didn’t have any time for breakfast.” It honestly really scared me, and we never got to the bottom of it. His final comment on the situation was “it worries me, I don’t remember saying any of that to you.”
For reference…he has had multiple head traumas due to abuse by his mom and her boyfriends, abuse by his stepdad, dirt bike accidents, getting kicked in the head by his horses, and when he was married, he mouthed off and got whacked in the head with a frying pan by his ex…
Anyway, he’s VERY generous due to his high paying job and supports me with $1000/month which I apply to my rent (which is $1750). The other day I texted him saying I was craving a margarita, and he immediately sent me money to go get myself one. I didn’t need the money, but the gesture was thoughtful.
But lately, he’s just been really sketchy, mean, and self centered.
Sketchy: During the day, he is great about letting me know where he’s going and what he’s doing, usually; come evening though, he will sometimes just fall off the face of the planet and I cannot get a hold of him. He claims he doesn’t hear my calls or texts but he has a watch which is connected to his phone, so I know he’s ignoring me. We’ve talked about it a lot but he just says that he doesn’t need to give me an update every 10 min. And it’s like, no, you don’t…but once every 2 hours should be doable.
Mean: Today I was just having a rough day accompanied by a terrible headache. I called him because I knew he was off work and I just wanted to see if talking with him could put me in a better mood. Regarding my headache, he threw in a quick “you’ll be fine” line. When I told him I was feeling depressed and sad that he never asks how I was doing (more about that later in the “self centered” section), he said “you always tell me! I don’t need to ask! You BOMBARD my phone with 20 messages about your day so there’s no need to ask! I’m not gonna text you every hour and be like ‘how are you?’ I haven’t done that since junior high!” First off…I do text him sometimes, sure, but I do not “bombard” him. And the first thing that came to mind when he said that to me, was ‘he’s insecure that I actually DON’T text or call near as much as I used to, so he’s making things up to make himself feel more important and needed’. I said “well do you prefer that I don’t text you during the day and just wait til you’re off work to talk?” He said “umm no. That’s a game. Don’t play games with me.” I thought it was a possible solution…
Self Centered: Today, he knew I had a long commute in very stressful traffic. Instead of asking how my drive was, he texted me that he had broken his truck window, followed by a picture. Honestly, he’s not great at responding to my messages, and since I was driving, I didn’t respond. He eventually called to tell me the WHOLE story in FULL detail, not once, but twice! This is very common. He will tell me a story, and then tell me the same exact story again. And if I say “oh you already told me that”, he gets angry! So I just have to listen and come up with a new reaction, otherwise he will say I’m being rude. It’s like, he just loves the attention from his stories.
Later on, we were talking about my work and I started to tell him a story. He thought he knew what I was going to say so he tried to finish my sentence. I gently said, “oh, no that isn’t what I was going to say.” He said “oh, well that’s what I’M going to say.” I responded with an “ohhhkay…” which caused him to loudly exhale and say “FINE, what were you going to say?! My God!”
He can really be so mean. And we’ve tried talking about it, which just results in him talking over me, and not listening to anything that I say.
It’s been about three months since we have seen each other and I’m actually supposed to head his way next week for his niece’s wedding.
I know that he will be working the whole time I am there with the exception of the day of the wedding, so we won’t have to spend a lot of time together. Pretty sad to say that.
I just feel like he’s such a broken person who has been through so much trauma in his life. He really does have a lot of amazing qualities, but I feel like I just see less and less of them. I pray about the relationship all the time, but is there a point that I need to leave and just let God handle him when he’s not in a relationship?

This is kind of a long one, so get prepared. I (f 19) am planning on dropping my best friend of seven years (f 20)exactly one year from now over an ultimatum that she doesn’t necessarily know about. This is going to take a little backstory. About three years ago, my best friend and I go on a two-man. We meet these two boys we end up dating them and hers ends after 8 months and mine became a 3 year on & off relationship. It was a very unhealthy relationship both myself and my ex boyfriend suffered quite a bit from it. (We were trauma bonded) We were consistently on & off. We would talk to each other until one of us got mad and then would take a break and just continue the cycle. Throughout all of it my best friend was a pusher. The first 8 months she pushed our relationship bc she was dating his bsf and she knew that meant she could hangout with me more (she usually gets a bf and doesn’t know how to split time) after she broke up with his one friend she starts fucking with his other friend (who has a gf) so now she want me to date my ex bc it’s the only place this friend can go without raising suspicion FROM HIS GF. THEN she begins dating ANOTHER one of his friends. I’m not even joking she had dated/ talked to every single one of my ex’s friends. I have asked her many times over the years not to talk about my ex, not to ask me to hangout around him or their friend group and all she does is talk abt them especially now that her bf is bsfs with him. You get the gist. Shes weirdly obsessed with him and I’s relationship and personally I think a friend should be supporting things that are healthy for you and not encouraging you to get back together with your ex boyfriend. I also need you to understand that she is the type of person to act like she’s mature but deep down she’s petty as fuck and hates being told she is in the wrong and will absolutely play the victim and flip the cards right back on you. So there is really no point in addressing the situation with her again. I have asked her numerous times not to involve me in that bs and not to talk to me about what he is doing, the girls he’s talking to, stuff he posts. Because I DONT CARE and she has not once listened. It’s all she talk about when I’m around her and it’s fucking weird. Cherry on top she has decided that because my ex boyfriend and her have such close birthdays and basically all the same friends they are going to have JOINT BORTHDAY PARTY. I wish I was joking my bestfriend and my ex are having a joint birthday party. Literally what did I do to deserve this and how on Earth can anybody think this is okay ????to my point of dropping her. I decide around 6 months ago that I was no longer putting myself in these positions and that I was permanently staying away from my ex. So I have given my best friend 1 year from today to cease all talk and friendship with my ex without telling her. I’m in college rn and I really don’t have many other friends and I don’t want to have a boring college experience so Im keeping her around for at leas occasional one on one friend time. She usually wants her boyfriend and one of his random friends to be around so I don’t feel like Im third wheeling but I have cut off all hangout unless there is a full plan of what we are doing and it’s just her and I, no boys. Do u have a better idea on how to approach this??

It’s been 6 months since I discovered the real truth, and my world came crashing down. It’s been 6 months since I disassociated and my closest friends blocked me, without even a goodbye. A lot has happened since then! I can’t believe how quickly it’s gone.
In this time, I had my first birthday and my first Christmas. It felt strange and sad considering it was just me and my boyfriend & his family, (not my family or loved ones), but it was a good start. I moved halfway across the world 3 months ago and have started a complete new life! I’ve met people who are amazing, kind people who care about others and I have common interests with. I’m starting to make some amazing friendships and unlike before, the only thing we have in common isn’t our religion. We have deep conversations about psychology, sociology, world issues and politics. It’s so different to JW land!
So much of my personality has been suppressed due to growing up in this cult. I had to suppress my interest in feminism, human rights and more. I didn’t have time for “hobbies” so I stopped reading books, stopped exercising and didn’t try new things. Sadly, I stopped thinking for myself. From speaking to others, I’ve realised that this cult has stolen my childhood from me. All those birthdays, Christmases - they took all the fun out of living! I’ll never be able to have a Prom, or a 21st birthday party. I can’t look back on childhood Halloween photos, or think about all the fun times I had trick or treating.
It’s not fair what this cult has done to us. I’ve had some really bad days. It feels like I’m alone in this because none of my friends have left, they’re all completely brainwashed and view me as a confused, misled worldly person. It’s hard when you feel like you’re the only person who sees reality.
But I’m finally able to reinvent myself - do whatever I want to do! I can finally listen to my own personal conscience and do the right thing because I want to, not because I’m scared of God’s wrath. I know that life will only get better, and I’m so grateful that I left and have so many opportunities.
When I meet people, I make sure to tell them about my ex-jw experience and spread the good news - that we can all avoid this cult if we raise awareness about it! People are shocked by my story, and often say they had no idea how bad JWs are.
Recently, my mother told me my old friends have been messaging her, asking about me. They’re hoping I’ll come back. It’s so sad - heartbreaking. They’re victims of this cult and I know how sad they must be because they can’t speak to me. They hope I’ll come back, but I never will. They’re trapped in this cult and I don’t see how they’ll ever wake up.
So I’m grateful that I’m out. I could be miserable right now, trying my best for an imaginary God and setting all my desires and dreams aside for him. Instead, I’ve discovered my passion for Psychology, studying to be a Psychologist, moved to a new country,started to make new friends and truly learn who I am. Waking up has helped me deal with my childhood trauma and learnt how being a JW made it worse. I can’t wait for the next 6 months, and for the day when I look back and being a JW feels like a distant dream!

To start some of this is legal stuff, I am not looking for legal advice it's just part of the story.
About 3 1/2 years ago me (21 at the time and my boyfriend (now ex 23 at that time), adopted a kitten for my cat who I had adopted when I was 16. Instantly they became best friends and after the years are completely bonded.
We broke up in December and he moved out at the beginning of May. We had a conversation about 9 days before he moved out we got into an argument about who gets the cats, he only wanted the cat we had adopted together if he couldn't have her just he he wanted my cat from before as well.
That conversation went terrible and he said nothing until May 4th when he officially moved out, he messaged my best friend and mom to make sure I was okay because he took our cat that we had together.
It's been a week and a half and I'm trying to fight for her back legally as pets have rights where I am.
Where I need advice is my baby I've had for pretty much ten years, and has no friends for the first time ever I'm noticing signs of depression in him. Of course I hate seeing him like this but I'm not sure if I should get him a new friend, foster a friend, or hold out oand hope he gives her back to us so my cat can have his sister again.

I'm sorry for this post. I just feel thr need yo get validation even though this isn't the right sub for it ig? I'm a little drunk atm so vate with me. I've struggle with thoughts of suicide thoughts before. I recently made my girlfriend of a month feel like she wasn't pretty beca7se I let it slip over video chat that I went to the club with a ex friends with benifits and thought they were pretty and everyone was staring at them. She said I haven't called her pretty yet but yet saying that girl was pretty came so east to me. It start a huge fight and I feel so bad. I think I love my current girlfriend but I struggle so hard with telling someone compliments to their face due to my past and I think I mad3 her feel like shit. I really don't think I sho7ld be alive with how badly everyone around me ends up feeling atm. I wrote a ton of ahit in an offline note doc that I think explains it better. I guess I'm sorta looking fora Stanger to talk me down but I 5eally hope someone can suppo4t mu thought process. I feel so bad feeling this way bc I k ow I'm just go8ng yo push mu pain on someone else. Sorry again for the waste of a post truly.

So, I'm in an unfortunate living situation for several reasons. The main one being that I wanted to try to get back together with my ex. Which is the WORST idea I've had in my life BTW, but that's what lead me here living with his brother and his step-dad. So- I've already asked nicely on more than one occasion for them to not eat my groceries because they're not considerate (AT ALL) I can buy a 5lb bag of french fries and get only literally ONE serving out of a 5lb bag of fries and they will eat all of the rest of them. (This has happened TWICE) it's incredibly RUDE, DISRESPECTFUL and INCONSIDERATE. I don't appreciate it at all. They'll take my microwavable breakfast bowls- which I very clearly and obviously bought for myself when I bought the microwave. Individual meals. Then when I ask them not to touch my food, as a deliberate "screw you" they cook and eat the last two hamburger patties that I had in the freezer. While I'm gone out to a job interview. They NEVER replace anything that they take or ruin. They've ruined cooking pots and never replaced them, the brother will bum cigarettes, pop, laundry detergent and never replace it. He bummed cigs from me for 4 days in a row here recently and already after the 2nd day you're just already like "wow- really? You just gonna KEEP asking?" And whenever he got paid he gave me 3 back. Lmao. Any decent person would have bought you a pack to replace 4 days of bumming cigarettes from you. I gave those 3 to someone else. It's annoying. So after I go to the store and bring back just a little bit of stuff that's supposed to last me two weeks and they STILL haven't been to the store and like I said they ate the very last of my food while I was gone prior to this-- and you STILL have the audacity to KEEP taking my things from the fridge when I've already made it crystal clear that I don't want you to touch my food?!?!? Excuse me- but NO. So I said- "you ever gonna go to the store and get yourself some groceries or are you really just going to KEEP taking mine?" BOTH of these assholes were up in my face yelling and screaming at ME as if I am in the wrong and furthermore trying to kick me out. All because I refuse to allow you to continue to eat up and drink up the tiny amount of groceries that I have to feed myself for 2 weeks?!?!?!?! They threw a couple of my belongings outside, and the 70 year old step-dad of my ex put his grimey disgusting hands on me- trying to push me out the door- ripped my shirt AND left scratches on my arm...... The brother called the cops. Or at least pretended to. They never showed. 🤷🏻‍♀️ ALL because I won't just sit back and allow them to continually disrespect me and take- take- take- take from me. Wow. Such. Fucking. ASSHOLES. !!!!!! Yea- go ahead and kick me out because you can't just keep taking from me. Because that makes perfect sense. 👌🏻 Make it make sense. I definitely want to say here, that REAL MEN don't act like that or treat people like that. I can't stand it. Now I'm trying to find another place to go. I might have to go to a shelter. If I stay here they're just going to keep doing the same thing and god only knows what else. I'm not going to stick around to find out or allow either one of them to put their hands on me AGAIN. Said "boyfriend" is such a low life that he knows that all of this happened and ue won't even come pick me up with my belongings to help me get somewhere else that's safe. Needless to say- he and I will never be together again. I never should have come here in the first place. Can't wait to leave here and NEVER see any of these pieces of shit again in my life.

Hello dear members!
Hope this finds you to be well :)
I am happily engaged to my fiancé who is in Nairobi, Kenya (a Kenyan Citizen). I am the USC. I wish to bring my fiancé to the US to live with me soon after marriage.
Here is the situation:
My fiancé was previously married to another person in India about 7-9 years ago under the islamic ceremony and had a nikah-nama. They had not registered the marriage under the marriage registrar.
Later they divorced after about 1.5 year, once again under the islamic talaq ceremony. However, my fiancé had returned to Kenya and the ex-spouse (the Indian citizen) was in India. So my fiancé had a power-of-attorney person (called as 'vakalat' in islam) be the signatory person on the islamic divorce (which was the 'murbahat' type, meaning mutually agreeable divorce).
So in short, there is no divorce decree from the court for this divorce that took place in India.
Now I am planning ahead for all the documents needed and do not want to end up in a situation where I get married to my fiancé before making sure that the previous marriage is legally binding for US immigration purposes and am helping navigate the journey to find and source confirmed cases of similar situation and confirmation that the islamic divorce document is valid.
I read on the India reciprocity page (https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/us-visas/Visa-Reciprocity-and-Civil-Documents-by-Country/India.html), that the islamic divorce and its certified translation (since it is in a non-English language) is valid for US immigration. But then, I came across this case (https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/erB9 - Battered Spouse or Child/Decisions_Issued_in_2009/Jan262009_06B9204.pdf) where the USCIS had denied the 'islamic marriage' part of their complicated situation. Although the ruling was legal since they had a Hindu and an Islamic marriage, the concerning thing for me is this statement in the initial rejection of the I-130 petiion quoted from the case document:
Quote Although your religious divorce is recognized in India as a legal divorce, this is not recognized as a legal divorce for immigration purposes. In order for the legal termination of a marriage to be considered valid for immigration purposes, it must have been registered with a civil authority.
I just wanted so re-assurance that the translation of my fiancé's talaq islamic divorce certificate will be accepted at all stages of US immigration up until the eventual N-400 application, especially since she is in Kenya. I don't know if they will use the Kenyan reciprocity (which states court divorce decree is must) or the Indian reciprocity to evaluate my fiancé's previous divorce document.
At this stage, my fiancé has no contact with the ex-spouse and it would be a huge hassle for filing a court divorce (especially that my fiancé is a Kenyan citizen residing in Kenya currently.
Few other notes: Under the Kenyan marriage act of 2014, islamic divorce is acceptable and can be registered (but no divorce decree will be issued). (https://kenyalaw.org/kl/fileadmin/pdfdownloads/Acts/TheMarriage_Act2014.pdf). However US immigration does not accept this in the Kenya reciprocity page on the state department website.
Under the Indian act(s) of "Muslim Personal Law (Shariat) Application Act, 1937." (https://www.indiacode.nic.in/bitstream/123456789/2303/1/A1937-26.pdf), and "Dissolution of Muslim Marriages Act, 1939" (https://www.indiacode.nic.in/bitstream/123456789/2404/1/193908.pdf); the islamic divorce document issued in India (talaq-nama) 'seems' to be legally binding for India as well as for US immigration.
Just too many facts/points here to make a conclusive understanding of what to do and to reassure myself.
Thanks a ton for your time to read through this patiently!!

After yesterday's mission of creating a house, today Pekora will be holding an Underground Chinchrio (aka: Cee-lo) event. Stay tuned for that during primetime JST (Most likely after Sora's Birthday Live). Rules will be listed below. In the meantime Nene will play during JP's lunchtime period with Ina returning at the start of primetime JST.
General Rules for the server. Written by Pekora in the rulebook, with some edits:

• If you die, its over
• I will write a diary after the broadcast
• Complete the mission
• Nether opening starts on the 16th
• The ultimate goal is to defeat Endora (Ender Dragon) and Wither
• About Survival Diary
  • Write about the events and memories of the day
  • If the content is good, good things might happen
  • Penalty will be incurred if there is no diary
• There are nether and recreational facilities
  • Nether opening date 5/16 JST
  • Recreational facilities 5/15 JSTchincillo etc (Editor's Note: According to servers this is Chinchiro, a dice gambling game that Kaiji fans might be familiar with)
• You are free!
• You may build a residence
• You can equip yourself
• Survive.

Some additional rules were added:

• If you die you can be revived with 7 diamond blocks collected from other players. There will also be a trial to see whether you actually will be revived or not.
• The server now only needs 50% of its online players sleeping for time to pass to the next morning.

There are also missions for the server. There are two types: Global and Daily
Global Missions are as follows:

• Find a Western Style Mansion in the forest (basically find a Woodland Mansion) - 20 Diamonds
• Find a Jungle Temple - 20 Diamonds
• Find a Pillager Outpost - 5 Diamonds
• Obtain a Trident - 30 Diamonds
• Find Ruins (Most likely meaning Trail Ruins) - 20 Diamonds
• Find a Pyramid - 10 Diamonds
• Find an Ancient City - 20 Diamonds
• Defeat the Boss of an Underwater Temple (This most likely means the Elder Guardians at an Ocean Monument) - 100 Diamonds

The Daily Missions will be posted after Pekora's News Stream today:
Rules of Underground Chinchiro
Note: These are subjected to change (based off of how Pekora will play and my understanding of the game itself. Feel free to make corrections in the comments)
These rules are generally based off of Kaiji's Underground Chinchiro but how it'll go is as follows:

• Players will roll 3 dice (in Minecraft's case push a button that will dispense a random number on a flag from 1-6)
• Depending on what numbers are rolled will determine a win, loss, or number of points.
  • Rolling 3 numbers of the same is an automatic win (like 3 ones, or 3 fives)
  • Rolling a 4,5,6 is an automatic win
  • Rolling a 1,2,3 is an automatic loss
  • Rolling a set of 2+1 will give points (some examples are 2,2,6; 2,2,5; 3,3,2)
  • If you roll neither of these sets, you can roll again (ex: rolling a 1,2,5)
• Winners will most likely receive diamonds. They may also bet on diamonds too (This is also subject to change)

Streams:

• Nene
• Ina
• Pekora's News Stream
• Botan
• Koyori

Members who played today but are not streaming:
Notes:

• Pekora built a new wall for the member's heads to be placed as the old one was too small and more members have been joining the server. The new wall now has member's heads placed on top of a barrel with the barrel containing diamonds (these are the diamonds members have won from completing missions).
• Nene makes sure to write in her entry for yesterday as she forgot to (Even if she played off stream she still has to write down what she did).

​

First of all I love this app, hands down the best game tracking app out there.
I've had little problems tracking my collection in regards to my console games, but I'm unsure how to categorize some of my PC games as some of them have jewel cases as well as an artbox (ex. Morrowind: GOTY Edition, which has bonuses, a jewel case the CDs come in, and a giant box). I also have some games that have the jewel case but not the artbox (ex. Starcraft).
I don't think the category of "boxed" fully fits here so I'm wondering if you'll be able to add a feature that categorizes PC games like this? Or even with collector's editions that may be missing a bonus or two. I know you can probably just use the notes but I'd love to see if you could add an in-between between "Boxed" and "Loose".
Hope this makes sense, great app yall keep it up :)

**What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.**

i will be gaming. mostly just fortnite, apex, sims 4, overwatch, valorant, and poppys playtime

**What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?**

$1000, i can go a little over though

**When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.**

plan on buying in a a few days

**What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc\)**

everything, this will be my first build. i do not have access to an ethernet port though

**Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?**

will be purchasing in midwest north america with access to microcenter

**If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.**

not reusing anything

**Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?**

nope

**Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)**

don't think so. though i would like it (the keyboard & pc itself) to be pretty quiet if possible so i don't annoy my roommates

**Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?**

i would like a white theme! doesn't have to be all-white since i prioritize performance over aesthetics. if at least the tower case would be white though that would be nice!

**Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?**

nope

Hey everyone,
I'm gonna just spill everything that's going on, and rant and I'd appreciate it if I could hear it from insight or advice from some people!! Thank you! I'm a guy (18) btw and my ex is a girl (18)
So me and my ex broke up about a month and a half ago. She brought it up with me about mid march out of the blue and said that her mental health was real bad and she didn't want it affecting our relationship, which is fair, I told her let's give it a month, let's try and work everything out, told her to maybe try therapy and let's try communicating and work it out because I loved her so much. After that it was thin ice for the rest of march, I tried so hard and she was just being distant. I stayed over the Easter weekend and she told me that she just doesn't see it working and wants the break up, I was like ok that's fine if that's what you need to do. While she was out of her house at work that weekend I was chilling at hers waiting for my own shift to start, I got curious and remembered she'd had a diary. The diary was a set boundary and I knew never to open it or read it, but in my mind at the time I thought what if there was something in there that could maybe help or understand her state of mind better yah know? When I did read the most recent entry I wish I didn't, she wrote some things that I won't disclose but she wrote that she had developed a crush on a guy in her uni class and that she was questioning "what if" Because they had similar interests and she believed that was something that we lacked (which honestly we didn't really, our childhoods are very similar, our humour is similar, the only things we didn't really have in common was a slight difference in music taste and TV shows etc but that never really bothered me) anyway at the end of the entry and she said "I won't act on it though". That whole weekend she was secretive about her phone, which she never was and "went to the toilet alot" we also went to have a shower after work and she left her phone open on the bathroom counter I picked it up and she freaked out, grabbing it and turning it off, when I questioned the reaction she said she had embarrassing photos she'd taken recently of herself and didn't want me to see them. Righttttt..... she left the room for a minute and left her phone and I ended up opening the conversation between her and this guy on her intsa and only saw the most recent message where he asked how everything was going, she replied with "it seems OK, everything seems mutual but I think everything's gonna be ok" something along the lines of that. I ended up telling her that I read her diary because I couldn't keep that to myself, she left the room hurt for about 10 minutes and when she came back I told her I also read her messages with the guy her face dropped like she had to explain something, but when I told her that I only saw the most recent one she seemed relieved. She ended up ignoring me for the rest of the night and going to sleep, I tried going on her phone after she feel asleep but she took my fingerprint and face id off, I didn't know her password unfortunately. The next day I stayed until I had work later in the afternoon but never mention anything because I didn't really think of it. For the first few days of the breakup we were still talking but then she randomly switched on me because I wasn't giving her space, giving me the cold shoulder etc. I ended up adding the dude on insta and messaging him, I found out through him that she was confiding in him and she was telling him our relationship problems, things she's never told me. I asked him to relay a message to her for me at uni and he did, she wasn't happy, she ended up massaging me and sending me a long paragraph where she doesn't really wanna interact with me anymore etc. I begged her to give me a 2nd chance just the usual shit you do and she was unresponsive and didn't seem to care at all, after our conversation she posted a new post on insta and the first picture was her and this dude next to eachother at a party, not sitting next to eachother but close enough. I've talked with some female friends and they've told me she's was emotionally cheating on me and yeah she was, whether she sees it like that or not. I never knew anything about this guy and their relationship tbh, I knew of his existence and that he recently went through a bad break up but other then that, nothing. I thought maybe she didn't tell me because of my insecurities etc and I also thought that she talked him for advice because he knew what she was going through but now that I look back I'm not to sure.
I was at a mates place 2 weeks ago and he told me that he thinks he saw her on tinder, he wasn't sure tho, we ended up making a new account on his phone and sure enough she was. Why was she on tinder if she's getting this attention from another guy? She also posted songs on her insta note which were clearly aimed at me, she also posted a song which was clearly aimed at me to make me jealous, the song is basically about a man and a women and how good they'd be together. Since then she's acted like I don't exist, but something that really got to me is that I saw one of her highschool friends where I work and she was telling me that they were at a catch up that my ex was present at and didn't speak bad about me, she told her friends that she broke up but when they all started a conversation about how hard uni was she mentioned and seemed quite chirpy at the fact that I recently got into uni. (I applied for uni after the break up and posted it on my socials when I got in) why act happy for me that I got into uni after being a cold bitch after the break up?
We ended up talking again recently because I needed a favour from her and she told me that when we broke up it was because her mental health wasn't good for us, but then she said that she didn't like the way she was treated during and after the relationship, she said that I destroyed her self worth because I made comments and my temper was bad. All of these things were at the start of the relationship and when I noticed it was hurting her I took a step back and stopped these actions, I apologised, worked on it and changed. It's like she was nit picking things and people have told me it's because she feels guilty but also because she's avoiding accountability.
She recently had a family member pass away and I messaged her my condolences after about 2 - 3 weeks of no contact and she said thank you, but after that I'm done. I hate the way I was treated and she's made me feel like shit and made me feel like some kind of monster with the things she said. With all of this do you think she'll come around and realise that she was not nice to me at all? I've also had a friend tell me that she'll realise that the grass wasn't greener and try to come back to me but to not let myself be an option. She said when she's ready she might reach out and we can catch up for coffee and be friends but if she doesn't start the conversation with an apology I know she hasn't done anything to reflect or change. But essentially will she come around and realise she wasn't nice at all and apologise or is this whole ordeal a sinking ship? I've been taking therapy and I'm in a better position then I was a month ago and I still get thoughts about her and miss her but I'm getting over it with the way she treated me.
Thanks for listening to my Ted talk and thanks for reading this big ass rant. Oh we were together for a year and 3 months if that helps with anything either. Thanks. Also Jan and February were fine and then in march she became distant. Thanks again.

A few years ago, I met a guy at a convention in Phoenix who did cosplays similar to my cosplays. We got along well and eventually began to have more intimate experiences together, although he insisted it was "just friendly". Whether kissing and making out is "platonic" or not is up to the person doing it, I suppose. Anyways, we broke up a few months after meeting and the whole experience really traumatized me for a while. He had sent his friends after me and all that. Normal teenager online drama. I avoided him at all costs for a good year or two until I started pursuing cosplay as a bigger thing. I discovered that he had a big following for his cosplay on TikTok and Instagram. He followed my group's Instagram account and I realized it probably wasn't worth avoiding anymore. That was when I began noticing strange behavior between him (who is now an adult) and a 16 year old non-binary fan artist. They would publicly flirt in the comments of posts, post about how much they love each other on Instagram stories, and for a brief period of time they publicly roleplayed pregnancy on Instagram. I watched all of this go down over the course of several months and screenshotted everything even remotely concerning. I am now also an adult and currently in a happy relationship with my boyfriend. I shouldn't be so concerned with my ex-boyfriend's behavior, right? But.. this guy is showing some weird signs of possibly grooming a minor and it's getting to be really weird now. I want to come out publicly about it, but I know I can't because of my status and my career at the moment. So instead, I've spoken privately to a few people associated with the ex-boyfriend and they've all said that it's weird, but I should probably stop looking at it. This feels like something much worse developing. Am I the asshole for wanting to call him out publicly?

This dream woke me up last night and the came back when I fell back asleep so I feel like there must be something I'm supposed to get out of it.
I was in a rustic looking house (maybe cabin?) that had a rough wood floor. In one version, an ex boyfriend was there. In the other I don't remember him being in the house. The floor explodes and it revealed what seemed to be a vault. It wasn't a basement. It was reinforced and there was a metal briefcase embedded in the wall that I couldn't remove.
It's all I can remember. Any thoughts?

This is something I wonder about. I notice that in general, people seem very intrigued by mixed race women (something I’ve noticed before on Reddit, a person here has even suggested that mixed race women tend to be more attractive) but it also seems to be a big issue within the black community. As someone who grew up in an area with a low black population, I have always noticed that if black boys/men weren’t specifically aiming to date white , Mexican/Latina or Asian women, they would date mixed race (1/2 black 1/2 white generally,) girls/women. I’ve had a black man who seemed excited before about the idea of me potentially being mixed with something, and came to understand in high school that there are black boys/men who do specifically seek out “mixed” girls, sometimes even over white ones (my ex boyfriend was like this to an extent.) I remember that at some point as a child, I had this idea in my mind that mixed race girls were more attractive, even though no one had ever directly told me this. I have realized that, although I am perhaps a colorist and am working on unlearning that sort of mindset, it is in my opinion largely because I didn’t see many dark skinned women in films and television growing up. By the age of 8 or 9, I had an idea in my mind, somehow, that having a darker skin tone was not ideal, even though no one had ever said this to me.
But why? Why are mixed race women considered more attractive, and uprooted within our society?

O.J. Simpson is gone-dead from cancer earlier this year. Rewind back to the 90's. O.J, or not O.J. depending on who you ask, stabbed his ex-wife and her boyfriend to death in Los Angeles. The whole country was subsequently held hostage with round the clock O.J. coverage in the wake of the murders*. Its all anyone talked about and there was no way to escape it. There weren't thousands of channels to flick to, or dozens of streaming services available to seek refuge-in far away from the insanity.
However, after his acquittal he seemed to simply fade from public view-absorbed back into the stained fabric of American society. That was of course before he was locked up for nine years in 2008 for attempting to rob his own memorabilia at gunpoint. So what was he doing with his freedom in the years prior?
Nothing. Well, almost nothing. In 2006, executive producer Rick Mahr, famous for the highly-cerebral Backyard Wrestling series, decided it would be a good idea to tap into the reality show boom with an MTV Punk'd themed prank show featuring O.J. Simpson.
It was a one-hour special that featured O.J. himself engaging in a series of pranks ranging from dressing in rags while selling oranges on the side of a highway, to him serving and insulting fat customers in a fast-food drive thru. At the end of the gig, he'd come clean and tell the victim with a smile "you just got Juiced!" Most of the pranks fell flat on their face: people sometimes didn't recognize O.J. or didn't understand the prank, or the whole idea was just too damn stupid.
But the icing on the cake was the skit where O.J. attempted to sell a replica of his white Ford Bronco, which incidentally was discontinued for years after the murders (but that's another story, you can see below for a few more details). The Bronco even sported a real bullet hole, which The Juice himself signed right above it.
O.J. seems to reflect on the whole Bronco chase as simply comical. Is this some dark type of new-age therapy? "It has great escapability!" he keeps informing customers. Does he admit that there was a dead body in the car? Was it him who placed it there? I have never heard O.J speak so candidly about details from the aftermath of the murders.
Here are some exchanges between O.J. and potential 'customers' as reported in the NPR This American Life episode 564-Too Soon?:

Man: Is there $10,000 in here?
O.J: Nope, Nope. No $10,000,
Man: ...You were carrying it, you know?
O.J: Naw, naw. They say that, I was carrying about $3.
Man: $3?
O.J: Yeah, that's why they never brought it up in court.

In another exchange:

O.J: It was good for me.
Man: Yeah?
O.J: Got me out of harm's way.
Man: ...Ok, I'll sit in it...there was a dead body in there.
O.J: Yeah. Well, um, hopefully there's no bodies in this thing. And I can guarantee you, the car has escape-ability. I mean, if you're ever getting into some trouble, and you've got to get away, it has escape-ability.
Man: (Laughing)

He'd be locked up soon after this aired. Apparently only about 100 DVDs ever sold, and there are no other details about the profits made from the pay per view event, or O.J.'s fee for appearing in the special.
All in all, it was a completely ill-conceived idea with even worse execution that somehow was spewed into existence. It reeks of a desperation for money from all parties involved, none of whom seemed capable of creating any well-written gags for the camera. However, it is memorable in the shock-value of seeing an accused murderer making light of the truck he rode in after he supposedly stabbed his wife and her boyfriend to death.
Most humans will live a rich, full life never knowing this even exists. For the woeful few who do see it, you can't help but leave with an overwhelming feeling that O.J. was a twisted and broken man at this point, straining to grasp at even the the slightest hint of his former celebrity and adoration.
\To most people born post 1980s, OJ Simpson was a famous athlete accused, then acquitted of murder who'd later serve time for a completely unrelated crime.*
But to the rest of us, OJ is the single most infamous athlete name of our lifetimes--the shockwave that was sent through the country when it was announced that his ex-wife and her boyfriend had been murdered in Los Angeles, was unprecedented.
Its impossible to recreate the magnitude of this mono-cultural event that was the OJ Trial, and words don't begin to describe the fall from grace of one of the most beloved sports stars ever.
We'll never be able to forget the image of the low-speed white Ford Bronco chase with dozens of police cars in not so hot pursuit, or the inhumanly long trial that fractured the country along racial lines, or the glove that don't fit (so you must acquit!).
To the younger generation: try to imagine waking up to read that one of the Manning brothers had been accused of bumping off their significant other. Maybe that serves to illustrate the disbelief that we were all hit with that one night in June, 1994.
After the 8 month murder trial (yeah, how many of you had forgotten it lasted that long?), OJ was a free man. Images of him happily golfing sent waves of anger through white America, who felt like justice was cheated by a slick defense team that highlighted the racist tactics of the LA police department. On the heels of the Rodney King video and subsequent riots, this was not only a brilliant strategy, but one rooted in a great deal of truth.
A civil lawsuit followed in which OJ was found responsible for the death of Ron Goldman and ordered to pay his family $33 million. To my knowledge, they never received a cent.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uOEcsIghRpg

Burner account. Looking for information, but I will unfortunately have to leave out some details to protect my identity. An ex boyfriend from a number of years ago was abusive. I luckily got out, moved away, then later moved several provinces away. I have an established life and I have never really hidden, but also have resisted any efforts the ex has made to get in touch over the years. Here’s the thing: this guy was violent back then and from what I can tell has gotten far more violent since then, and has done jail time for a violent act. Now, I hear (and have confirmed) that he has been posting old photos of me, and that he’s “looking” for me.
My question is, do I have any legal tools available to me that would protect me from this guy a couple provinces over? While I understand that posting old photos in and of itself is not a threat, knowing this guy, it’s enough for me to be worried. I will be taking screenshots of the pictures and giving them to my husband, in case something happens, but is there any way to be proactive without getting this guy’s attention?

Hi. I’m sorry if the format for this is poor. I (21M) am writing this on my phone. I would like to start by saying please no judgment. Of course you’re your own person and I cannot control what you do, however I am 100% no doubt my biggest critic and that is judgment and punishment enough, believe me. I’m a prisoner of my own mind. I’d also like to preface this isn’t me seeking counseling or therapy on here. I’m seeking advice on how to deal with my temper.
I am a truck driver. I’m a flatbedder so my job is very physically demanding (I don’t like exercise so this is good for me) however it comes with a lot of tasks that are not worth the time for what I get paid for, which is really not enough for what I do. A lot of it is free labor. This does cause a lot of stress but I really feel like it doesn’t have anything to do with my temper. It does make my temper act out though. I recently got a dog in late January of this year. I love him to pieces though he’s proven he’s just not a smart dog. Like at all. No matter how much I discipline him he’s just not getting it. He’s going on 6 months now. I picked up my german shepherd the day he turned 8 weeks. So he’s been in the truck a lot by now. He should be starting to get it. He is not.
This is where it’s getting bad. I had a really nice truck. 2024 freightliner. It’s a company truck but you’re supposed to treat it and care for it like your own, after all it is what pays the bills. I paid $1,000 for him to be approved to be in the truck per my companies pet policy. Most of it is refundable when I leave the company. However if they deem it necessary they will charge me even more. He’s shit and pissed on the driver and passenger seats more times than I can count and peed on my bed far too often. I wash my bedding 2-3 times a week most weeks because of him. Yes there are times he doesn’t go out for a while. But there are also times he does and he still does it. Just now I went to take him out and he just peed all. over. the. place. as I was going to put his leash on. He sprayed all over a brand new white shirt my mom got me that I loved and wore like twice.
It’s just so excessive and it’s pushed me over my limit. I love him. But this is ridiculous. I refuse to be one of those pet owners who just gets rid of their pet when it hasn’t even been a whole year but come on. This is where I let myself go and lose control. I just get so angry and it getting worse and worse because he just. won’t. listen. I do hit my dog. I don’t punch him, I don’t kick him, I don’t throw him. Nor would I ever. I hit him and sometimes I lose control and I just get so angry I just keep going and going. Even after all is said and done I’ll still look at him and just get so mad at what he just did again and hit him once more. I do usually always shower him with love to let him know I do still love him. But no matter what I even try to do he still won’t get it. This isn’t a post about seeking advice for my dog, however. I will keep trying with him because that’s what pet owners do. But when I act like this, I physically hate myself.
It makes me not want to be alive anymore. It makes me feel so invalidated and sad. All my life I’ve wanted someone to love, a life partner. But when I lose my temper it makes me feel unworthy of not only finding love but even having friends or feeling any type of emotion, really. I would NEVER harm a person. I had an ex boyfriend that I was with for 9.5 months who was the most mentally/emotionally abusive person I’ve ever met. Never once did I lay a finger on him to purposefully hurt him. I hate feeling so worthless and invalidated. I know im not this person. I don’t get off on being angry. I hate it. I want to control my emotions better. But in the moment it just gets so hard. This doesn’t just happen with my dog. It happens with a lot of things such as my job too. Only then I just get anxious and say stupid crap I don’t really mean. Any advice would be great, please and thank you.

Well hi there! How's the weekend been treating you?
Mine's been alright, but that's not what you're here for is it?
You saw the title on this post and now you're all curious right?
I bet you're wondering what boyfriend stuff includes? Let's start with:

• Getting texted back regularly with an option for phone calls!
  
• Going out on dates with possible holding hands or making out!
  
• I'll make you laugh with all sorts of jokes from the sophisticated cynicism, cutting sarcasm to childish fart jokes I can do it all!
  
• You can get home cooked dinners! And breakfast too if I'm working overnights!
  
• You'll get all sorts of attention and compliments!
  
• I'm emotionally available and completely over my ex's!
  
• Flowers!
  

....and so much more!
Sounds pretty great right?
But who am I?
I'm a nearly middle aged divorced ex stand up comic that's worked himself into full on burnout working in hotels for the last twenty years. It's made into someone that's very empathetic and caring while still being to be cold as fuck when needed.
In my free time I'm kind of a traditional nerdy white guy. Gaming, cartoons (not anime though), science fiction, detective stories, alternative history, sketch comedy, various sitcoms, hiking, cooking and mowing the lawn occupy my off hours. I also tried getting back into writing again, but it's been challenging.
Now it's your turn! PM me and we can start planning the first date!