Is herpes scab still contagious

I (25F) started dating my boyfriend (30M) and we had an instant connection- everything was perfect. About 3 months in, he comes out of the shower and shows me that he has something on his downstairs. I looked at it and said “looks like herpes- you should go to the doctor”. He was shocked. He said something along the lines of “I can’t believe this- I’ve never had any STD before and this could be herpes?!” He was distraught…. Like acted like the world was ending and he couldn’t believe this was happening to him. I calmed him down & assured him that I know so many people that have it and it’s truly not a big deal. He says with tears in his eyes “will you leave me if it is?” And I was like “oh my god no it’s really not a big deal I promise”. At some point, he asks if I have it & gave it to him…..
So I drop him off at the doctor and he says “the doctor said it doesn’t look like herpes & he won’t give me the meds unless you come in & get tested”. I didn’t have health insurance at the time & I’d never had a breakout & was just tested for everything 2 months prior so I was like no… I was confused because I’ve been told they hand out valtrex like candy & the fact that they didn’t even test him just as a precaution so weird to me because I was pretty sure it was herpes.
Anyways, the little spot just goes away. Now keep this in mind, he was sharing a cat with his ex so they were in communication at this point.
Fast forward to like 6 months in, he has another one. This time though, him & his ex had cut all ties & she wanted absolutely nothing to do with him. He goes to the doctor, NOW it’s herpes. Interesting. But I believe him that he didn’t know and boohoo whatever & I stay and eventually get it as well (HSV-2 by the way).
Now fast forward to over a year in, he’s out of town. I’m cleaning up and I come across his old phone. Now look, I’m not one for going through phones but something inside of me told me to do so. So, I did.
I found texts from around the time of his first breakout, saying to her “you gave me something I’ll have to deal with for the rest of my life” and a voice memo saying “he was having a really bad one & needed some of the pills”. Along with all these other texts to his ex during the first month of us dating that looked like he was trying to get back with her.
So, I screenshotted the worst ones, circled them, left the phone with a note that said “open me”, and went to Hawaii with my friends.
Anywho, after screaming & fighting & all of that, he convinces me that he was actually just trying to manipulate her (he used the word manipulate) into giving him the cat by making her feel bad. And he started telling her that she gave him herpes after they broke up to make her feel guilty. And I believe it.
However, my intuition doesn’t let me live lmao. I am an anxious wreck. So about once a week for a year, I bring up a text that doesn’t make sense or another question I have about the situation. I BEG him to tell me the truth if he’s lying because it’s genuinely driving me insane. It’s all I think about. He swears up and down that he’s not lying. He even says “I honestly wish I was lying just so you could have some closure.” And would get frustrated at me for “always bringing up his ex”.
Anyways, life still goes on normally. He asks my parents for permission to marry me, etc.
Now it’s Christmas time. I was at home with my family. I told him during this time that I just can’t shake the feeling that he is still lying and it’s unfair that I keep bringing it up so I’ve decided to go on Prozac (he’s very anti depression/anxiety med bc “it changes people”). So the day after Christmas, he calls me and tells me the truth. I flip the fuckkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk out. Because how could you lie to my face weekly when I BEGGED for the truth. My best friend spent probably a total of 300 hours while I talked through all of the evidence for a year. Like……. What. (Also I feel so fucking bad for my friend having to listen to this shit for so long).
Anyways, I chose to forgive him after a month of me just losing my fucking mind. And now, he’s going through a difficult time (seems like he always is) and just sooooo frustrated with life every day because the world is against him & everything goes wrong for him while my life is pretty good lol. And I think he resents me for it. It’s only been 5 months since he told me the truth & he’s getting frustrated when I complain to him, saying he’s picking on me (he said my outfit looked like I was a lesbian— also why is that an insult they have amazing style lmao) and just taking out his shit on me. Anytime anyone tries to help him, he sees it as an attack because he just has to be right.
Oh my god sorry this was so long and honestly just reading it back, I’m like girl………….. but what would you guys do? HAHA I’m so sorry but all I can do is laugh bc this whole thing is so rediculous. Oh, I’ve caught him in some other small lies as well that he didn’t fess up to until I presented him with evidence.
Anyways, do I break up with him? It’s been over 2 years now & the whole time it’s just been his problems & me helping solve them.

I, 25 f, have a family that has a tendency to talk about everybody and everything. Most specifically my aunt, we will call her tara, 45 f. Tara talks about everyone so much, she even talks about her own kids. Important detail, she’s also my neighbor. I have been on and off with my child’s father for a few years, and now we are at a perfect place and doing really well, so my child and I stay at his place a lot. My family is not his biggest fan due to the issues we have had in the past.
Well, Sunday was Mother’s Day. My family, my dad’s family I might add, planned a zoo trip. I have a zoo pass which allows me to take one additional adult and 6 kids for free. A few days before, my child ended up getting strep throat. And I also did not feel well. By Sunday it was no longer contagious due to antibiotics but still was getting rid of the scarlet fever caused by strep throat. I also still was not feeling well by Sunday. We were staying at my boyfriends all weekend he helped me take care of our sick child and helped take care of me. I told my family that due to us being sick we would not be going to the zoo. My dad was upset and tried to ask if my child could go but I said no because she was still a little under the weather, and it was Mother’s Day I wanted to spend my day with her. He had an attitude but I ignored it, I couldn’t help that we were sick.
Monday I went home, and my family all came and sat on my porch. We all live on the same block. My aunt had an attitude with me the whole time, so I’m not even sure why she came over. She had short responses to everything I said and also had an attitude with my daughter it seemed like. I just brushed it off because she is the type of person that you never know what mood you’ll get from her. If she’s in a good mood she’s great and if not, everyone has to deal with her attitude.
Today, my brothers girlfriend told me that everyone was mad at me for not going to the zoo. So I texted my cousin that I’m close with and asked if she heard anyone talk crap about me for it. She said that at the zoo she asked where I was and my aunt replied and said “they are sick, but how sick can they be”. My cousin said she asked if we were home, and my aunt said “no she’s up her babydads butt at his house”. My cousin said she just ignored it and kept going because she knows how my aunt is. i explained to my cousin how sick we were and that I just didn’t want to get anyone else sick and she understood. My grandma who went, was there when I took my daughter temp a few days before and that she had a fever so she knew about her being as sick as she was, and didn’t stick up for me when I was talked about. She seems to be afraid of my aunt, her daughter, because any time my aunt goes on a rage on somebody my grandma stays silent, and usually nobody deserves the way she talks to them.
My family apparently thinks I lied about being sick so I could be with my boyfriend on Mother’s Day. So, AITAH?
Side note- I was never asked to go to the zoo I was told we were all going.

So my cat has had these small reoccurring lumps all around her neck and head. Majority of them go away on their own within a day or two but some of them on the back of her head have scabbed up. I took her to the vet around three weeks ago and they told me it was her lymph nodes and they gave me antibiotics. My cat finished the round of antibiotics and still continues to get the small bumps, today two showed up one near the base of her ear and the other one down by her jawline. They are small bumps probably about the size of a dime. Is this maybe an allergic reaction to grain or something she’s eating? Should I focus on trying new foods to avoid allergies or Is it more concerning that I should get her checked immediately?

Is it possible for cats to develop a flea allergy randomly? Our cat is an indoooutdoor cat, we give her over the counter flea ointment, the kind that goes on the back of their neck. But honestly I don't think my family has been consistent with it and we've learned those arent the best to tackle fleas anyway. Shes been getting bald spots around her body and scratching and biting these spots like crazy to the point of scabbing and wounds. We took her to a holistic animal "doctor" who told us it was her diet, so we switched up her diet to more nutritious food, as well as wet food and 4 supplements the lady recommended. It's been about a month and half and our cat is not getting better. She still eats and plays just fine (just finished running around the house with her lol) but her fuskin is not getting better. We know she still has fleas, so is it possible for cats to develop a random flea allergy all of a sudden? I'm just trying to 'trial & error' this before we have to take her to the vet again. Last trip was over $200 for the lady to tell us its allergies and to switch her diet. And that didn't work. Any things to try before we have to take her back to the vet? Also its worth mentioning, shes an outdoor cat and absolutely hates baths. We haven't given her a bath in nearly 3 years. Should we give her a bath? My partner thinks we shouldn't because of her already irritated skin with the wounds and scabs but I think it might help? The holistic animal wellness lady also told us she could use a bath. Thank you in advance.

Has it ever crossed you that if you are positive via swab and negative via blood work that you actually don’t really have herpes in your system? Of course the sore is positive it’s a sore but if it’s not positive in your bloodstream what would make you believe this is something you have for the rest of your life? You’re only contagious and can give it to someone through an outbreak . Just like flu, a cold, Covid, you’re only contagious when you’re positive for those sicknesses. But if your levels aren’t high enough to be in your bloodstream have you ever thought I really don’t have this I’m not really contagious or at high risk since it’s not fully in my blood.

My entire life I have been my mother’s disappointment. Nothing I have ever done was good enough for her. lol my life I have chanced her approval and for her to say good job baby or something along those lines. But by my sophomore year of high school I finally realized I would never get it so I quit trying. I finally realized I was the SEVERLY unwanted child. She treated my siblings so much better than me. The one sibling that’s a year older than me got away with anything. But when I did it I would be hit in some manner or punished in some way. My father was always the parent that loved me unconditionally and without prejudice. No matter what. But my mother hated me. Hated who I was as a person. And for nearly 16 years I tried to force myself to be someone I wasn’t. For example I had to have basically waist length hair that had to be either straighted, curled or done in anyway like braids or other hair styles. And I always had to have make up on or I wasn’t allowed to leave the house with her. But my other sibling didn’t have to. And I had to be dressed to the nines.

 And when I finally had enough I moved out of her house. Cut my hair into a “man’s hair cut”. That pissed her off so badly. But I honestly did it because that’s how I wanted my hair. Short. I HATED having long hair. And always having to do something with it. Never being able to just brush it and leave it be. And I have a skin condition that isn’t contagious or anything. But she absolutely hates it and tells me I look disgusting because all the damn medicine she made me take and rub on my skin wasn’t working like she wanted too. I mean what 16 year old girl wanted to smell like medicated head and shoulders. And I refused to take meds that would damage my kidneys(there’s a family history of severe kidney problems in my birth line I’m adopted) I didn’t wanna risk it. But that made her angry. And my father promised to get me my first tattoo. To keep my mother somewhat calm I chose to wait until I graduated to get it because I wanted it on my fourarm. Which she hit me over that even tho I was 18. And she couldn’t stand the fact my “man hair cut” was now blue. And it’s been an unnatural color since. Being 8 years now. I’m so fucking feed up. And her latest stunt was ruining my child party. Oh and that’s another thing. I got pregnant at 19. But had my child at 20. Our birthdays are 6 months apart. Got pregnant in August turned 20 in October. She hates the fact I got pregnant and chose to keep my little bundle of chaos. But honestly out of only three things I’ve done right in my life. He is number one. The second is my “viscous pit bulls” (one is 8 years old and the other is 4 months old((she still doesn’t know about the 4 month old one tho)). And the third is my husband(not my child’s biological father) but I love him endlessly. I just wish my mother was more like my father. And would let me just be me. She can’t say oh it’s how I was raised. That’s bullshit my daddy was only 4 years younger than you he was able to love me for me. Why can’t she understand I’m not gonna be a little marching soldier for her to parade around town. I wanna be myself. I wanna be me. Not just a different hair color version of herself. I wish my dad was still alive. I miss him so much 

Okay, I did it, those erre the deepest cuts I've ever had, I was passing out. My husband who is a nurse did everything to stop the bleeding. I only have oxygenated water and surgical soap. Scabs were forming but I thought my wounds were infected. Today I took a shower, scabs were maybe too superficial and it was still fresh underneath so water made them fall off. Scabs were almost covering the whole thing and one wound wasn't wet (you know, those liquids that they have for healing) Any advice on how to wash them without scabs falling? I swear I cleaned them very carefully I only have oxygenated water and surgical soap at my disposition and I can't go to the hospital. I wash my hands with that soap first, then pour some oxygenated water and carefully wash the wounds with that soap. I noticed that the healing and scabs form faster with the wounds exposed and without getting washed, just with pouring oxygenated water and dried carefully with cotton swabs. Am I missing something?

i have the hardest time staying still, but it is so hard because i am at this constant battle with myself and my hyperactivity. i need to move— but “am i annoying everyone around me?” or “im being so loud”
i try to resist the hyperactivity as much as possible, but its IMPOSSIBLE. so i resort to skin picking, like biting the inside of my cheeks, lip biting, nail picking, scab picking, scalp picking. i don’t do it because of anxiety, i know that, i do it out of boredom and needing to move.
i was curious, does anyone else struggle with this? any tips to help stop this habit?

I’m reaching out for your honest feedback on whether this community has helped you.
When I first discovered my situation, I felt completely alone. There was no one to talk to, and I found myself frantically searching for information online. Most resources, like older posts or general forums, didn’t quite fit what I needed, especially as a Muslim seeking connection.
That’s why I started this subreddit. Initially, I didn’t have any grand plans—it was simply about creating a space where Muslims affected by HSV could connect and support each other. With sites like Honeycomb and BlessingsInDisguise no longer available, our subreddit remains one of the few places for us to meet and share experiences. There is another subreddit that has been created recently, I'm more than happy to promote any other platforms and resources other fellow Muslims have created.
Over the years, I’ve talked to many of you and still stay in touch with several members. It’s been invaluable to have people I can turn to for advice, or just when I need support dealing with things like rejection—things I can’t always discuss with family and friends.
I’m truly grateful for the connections I’ve made here and the ongoing relationships that have formed.
This community was never about having a specific objective, other than to offer support. Even the ISO marriage thread was just a temporary measure, never meant to be a long-term solution.
But I believe we can achieve more with this community, and I can’t do it alone. I’m asking for your help to continue building this community into something even more helpful and meaningful even beyond Reddit.
How has this subreddit helped you, and what more would you like to see from it?
I will share some strategies in another post, but I would like to get your honest feedback on this community first.

So I got the no scalpel vasectomy done ladt friday (10th may) and as of today (15th may) there is still quite a bit of tenderness and my scab came off with a surgical covering I have.
Just wondering if anyone can sort of reassure me or walk me through the healing process as the after vasectomy pamphlet I was given seems very light on actual information involving cleaning the open wound and how best to cover it (if at all). Any help is extremely welcome as im a bit nervy as I cant see much online I can relate to. Thank you in advance 😁

So it been 7 days since the operation. everything has been going as smoothly as it could be, despite the horrible pain and not being able to talk or eat well. Last night i woke up for my pain med dose, and noticed my mouth tasted like blood. i should mention about 4 hours before going to bed, the pain on the left side of my throat was severe. i was experiencing highly sharp twinges of pain whenever i swallowed but that seemed to go away after i took my medicine. anyways I started spitting into the sink to see how much i was bleeding. i couldn’t open my mouth too well because my jaw hurts so much and is really tight, so i couldn’t really tell what was going on. i managed to take a peek and it seemed that i was bleeding on one side of my throat. i kept spitting up blood and it seemed to be a lot too, which scared me. the blood also seemed to be bright red and was persistent for about an hour. my parents questioned taking me to the ER but decided to call a 24 hour office instead to talk to a doctor. the doctor said this is normal for day 7 because the scabs should be coming off around now. personally i can’t really tell if the scabs are or have come off. he also said that if it’s blood mixed with saliva, it’s nothing to worry about. when it’s oozing blood from the wound site, that’s when it should be concerning. i wasn’t exactly sure how to feel about this information because i don’t know what’s bad and what’s not bad during this healing process.
woke up today with minor blood spots in my spit. tried to look at my throat and it looks like there’s a blood clot or something that has formed on the left wound. there’s still some whit parts which i know is normal but there’s a pretty large dark red almost blackish spot, which i am assuming is the clot. i’m not bleeding as heavily as before, which is good. i just need to know if this is a cause for concern or not? should i go to the doctors to have them check it out? should i be worried? did i hemorrhage? i’m so confused and this whole process has been extremely stressful. what are some things i can do to help this not happen? the doctor we called said to gargle (i can’t gargle tho) ice water for about 10-15 minutes, so i’m assuming this means letting the water sit in the back of my mouth/throat. so i’ll be doing that. i also heard it’s better to sleep elevated so the bleeding has a lesser chance of occurring. i just hope i’m not hemorrhaging. i’m sure i’d probably be able to tell
but please can someone, anyone, help me out here? i’m really nervous about this. i desperately need this to heal properly

I've never had my 7yr old German Spitz groomed. I am planning to do so for the first time.
Up until now, I have always taken care of my doggo myself. I brush him consistently, but not too much, and also do his sanitary cut myself (otherwise he pees over his coat). He started to shed, and I could do it myself as usual, but it always takes such a long time. I brush him out, shower, and brush again, but then he still sheds. That's why I decided to go with professional this time.
I wanted to take him to professional last year, and the year before, but each time I got very scared from reading too many horror stories. There was one case, two years ago, in local newspapers where groomers destroyed German Spitz's hair by shaving him down, and he also had scabs.
How do I go about explaining to groomers I only want his undercoat taken care of with a little scissoring cleanup. No shaving or BOO haircut or anything such as. Just his normal shape, but with an undercoat removed so he's not hot?
Also, do I need to bring anything with me for an appointment?
And lastly, I know shedding season is twice a year. When exactly would be the best time to take my doggo to the groomer (what month)? Will I be too early if I take him in the next two weeks?

It’s been a little over two years since my first OB. I got GHSV1 from a boyfriend who had oral hsv1.
We ultimately broke up over it. I ended up meeting my now boyfriend only a couple months after that relationship ended. We now live together and are in the process of buying our first home.
Everyday for the first 7 months or so Herpes was on my mind, bringing me down. I was left wondering if I was having recurring outbreaks or just a few zits here and there.
At the end of the day, herpes is a treatable rash. I’m fortunate to live somewhere that I have access to medication to help control outbreaks.
I probably think about my disease less than once every couple weeks! I’m still selective with who I share it with because of the stigma. I’ve also found that when I do share I find myself surrounded by other people who also have it themselves.

If you want to see the progression it’s in my post history. Second picture shows the before and 3 days, and 3 week update. Doctor was Dr Dahan in Reno, NV and was just under $4000.
Overall I’m still super happy with it, I am so much more confident now! Before I hated how uneven and lumpy my lips were (they were like that even before filler). I got filler and it helped with volume, but couldn’t fix the unevenness. The surgeon measured and my right side was 0.5cm lower than my left.
I had a setback literally on the 1 month date, I mentioned in previous posts that my smile hurt on my right side and it was red, but I thought it was just muscle healing. Turns out my body rejected the internal sutures and I had some spitting out. I got them trimmed, but didn’t see the doctor because I was in a rush (bad idea). 3 days later I had a bump, it popped and it turned out it was a stitch abscess, a rare complication. It was gross, but the pain relief was immediate. My amazing doctor responded to my call within 5 minutes and called in new antibiotics and went over what to do, it was very reassuring. He said in all his years it’s only the second one he’s seen.
I’ve been on antibiotics since then and paused the scar cream to keep neosporin on it. The redness is now almost completely gone and the scar is not visible. The only visible part is the tiny scabs from the abscess and the spitting stitches. Other than that setback, it was really smooth. I still would do it again 100x!
The lips look big in pictures, but honestly I have an oval face and my face is so much more balanced now! Another note, the right side of my lip seems “heavier” because of the extra filler that was put in to compensate. I wanted to dissolve it all, but I’m hoping to wait it out and avoid any potential complications.
No more fillers for me!

I just found out that I have HSV2, which is shocking to me. I have always stood up for people who are carriers to not be ashamed and still live their lives and be safe about it. I understand that it isn’t life threatening, and so many people have it, along with the fact it’s needed to be asked for as it isn’t included on full panel testings which is why I have stuck up for them.
I entered a new relationship recently, we became official in April but have solely been together since January. One night we had a talk about partners and everything, which ultimately led to us discussing not having anything ourselves. He stated during that conversation that he would never be with someone who had any STDs including that he’s turned down every female who told him they had herpes. Of course, at the time of this talk - to my knowledge - I was clean. Finding out has me worried about the relationship coming to a quick end now, and that’s the last thing I want.. how would you go about bringing it up ?

I just found out that I have HSV2, which is shocking to me. I have always stood up for people who are carriers to not be ashamed and still live their lives and be safe about it. I understand that it isn’t life threatening, and so many people have it, along with the fact it’s needed to be asked for as it isn’t included on full panel testings which is why I have stuck up for them.
I entered a new relationship recently, we became official in April but have solely been together since January. One night we had a talk about partners and everything, which ultimately led to us discussing not having anything ourselves. He stated during that conversation that he would never be with someone who had any STDs including that he’s turned down every female who told him they had herpes. Of course, at the time of this talk - to my knowledge - I was clean. Finding out has me worried about the relationship coming to a quick end now, and that’s the last thing I want.. how would you go about bringing it up ?

Hi all! I just want to start this post by thanking everyone for sharing and posting here. It has helped me immensely in my own journey!
To preface all of this, I have diagnosed OCD and anxiety disorder. My main trigger is health related things, so all of this has thrown me for a huge loop and has caused a relapse.
I’m so scared of hemorrhaging out of no where that I am struggling to eat and sleep. I made the mistake of reading online prior to my leep about so many people’s terrifying experiences with hemorrhaging that started seemingly out of nowhere after their recovery had been going great.
So, I had my leep on May 8th (7 days ago today) and have had 0 bleeding so far. Lots of yellow/coffee grounds discharge but no bleeding. My period is expected to begin in about 3-5 days however (another worry I have).
During the procedure itself i was sobbing and extremely upset and told the doctor and nurse about my fear. The doctor remarked after the procedure how little I bled during it! The nurse said this usually is a promising sign for avoiding issues with heavy bleeding during recovery. the doctor also said she'd be extra careful to cauterize everything. (but it seems that the scab can be the issue anyway?)
However, I’m still going insane with anxiety. Every little drop of discharge has me running to check whether or not it’s blood. My personal life is impacted by my ocd/anxiety flare up…. And I can’t seem to find any literature online that actually provides statistics for this risk of hemorrhaging. i feel as though i cannot relax until i pass the 2 week recovery window where most people who posted online experienced their hemorrhaging.
I’ve limited all exercise except for gentle walks for 4 weeks and am not lifting anything over 10lbs.
I know that no one here can really tell me whether or not I will experience this, but i figure this is the best place to post. thank you for reading