I have read couple of personal finance books, such as "Let's talk money" , Psychology of Money, Coffee Can Investing. One common thing that can observed in all these book is suggestion to not put hard earned money in real estate / house buying. And when you dig on why should we not invest money in real estate, the answers given by them is :

1. Real estate isn't flexible. You can't sell 20% of your house to someone [unlike equity] hence you always need to transact in bulk.
2. Real estate isn't transparent. You don't know who and how do they decide the price. Black money, foreign money has fair share of part in deciding it.
3. Renting is better option, when we check it financially.

While I do agree that all these three points do makes sense to an extent, but they make sense only yo an extent. One of the common suggestion given by all the finfluencers is to not bring up emotion while spending money. I would like to have different opinion over this. Why ?
-> House is highly valued, especially during traditional arranged marriage. If you dont have any ancestral property, then it is wiser to purchase house in tier-1 city [assuming you are in IT and you need to live in tier-1 city]. Not having house, not having ancestral property is an issue in arranged marriage. This is not general rule, but depends a lot on region, community and caste.
-> Amount of peace house brings is innumerable cant be explained.
-> Life is not all about finance, it's not all about societal need also. It's balance between. If you go to gym and are on diet, then you shouldn't consume too much of sugar. But it's your cousin's marriage and you need to have some sweets to enjoy. So you eat it. That's the balance. Life is not all about following diet. At the same time, it is not all about eating sugar also. It is the balance.
Personal finance is personal for a reason. Emi shouldn't be more than 30%, real estate is utter waste etc etc need not be your choice. It is personal. What's the use of money, when it is not there when you needed the most ? So plan wisely.
Never forget the value of home, especially if it's first home. Societal value it brings can't be fulfilled by having money. This is my gyaan.

I have read couple of personal finance books, such as "Let's talk money" , Psychology of Money, Coffee Can Investing. One common thing that can observed in all these book is suggestion to not put hard earned money in real estate / house buying. And when you dig on why should we not invest money in real estate, the answers given by them is :

1. Real estate isn't flexible. You can't sell 20% of your house to someone [unlike equity] hence you always need to transact in bulk.
2. Real estate isn't transparent. You don't know who and how do they decide the price. Black money, foreign money has fair share of part in deciding it.
3. Renting is better option, when we check it financially.

While I do agree that all these three points do makes sense to an extent, but they make sense only yo an extent. One of the common suggestion given by all the finfluencers is to not bring up emotion while spending money. I would like to have different opinion over this. Why ?
-> House is highly valued, especially during traditional arranged marriage. If you dont have any ancestral property, then it is wiser to purchase house in tier-1 city [assuming you are in IT and you need to live in tier-1 city]. Not having house, not having ancestral property is an issue in arranged marriage. This is not general rule, but depends a lot on region, community and caste.
-> Amount of peace house brings is innumerable cant be explained.
-> Life is not all about finance, it's not all about societal need also. It's balance between. If you go to gym and are on diet, then you shouldn't consume too much of sugar. But it's your cousin's marriage and you need to have some sweets to enjoy. So you eat it. That's the balance. Life is not all about following diet. At the same time, it is not all about eating sugar also. It is the balance.
Personal finance is personal for a reason. Emi shouldn't be more than 30%, real estate is utter waste etc etc need not be your choice. It is personal. What's the use of money, when it is not there when you needed the most ? So plan wisely.
Never forget the value of home, especially if it's first home. Societal value it brings can't be fulfilled by having money. This is my gyaan.

so, I'm gonna explain everything in extreme detail. as much as i can. everywhere i tried to learn how to play from confused me so much so i tried to explain it all to make it the LEAST confusing. it's just going to be a long explanation and I'm so sorry for that. shorter explanation at the very bottom.
first thing to know is: the game itself is very simple. you get all of your stacks to 21-26 before the other player does and trying to stop them from doing so. essentially is a simple math game with strategy.
second: you need at least 30 cards in your caravan deck. you don't have to have exactly 30 but you can't have 29 or less. gotta have at least 30.
those are the first two things you need to know.
so, now onto what do all of the cards mean in the game? ace thru 10, just means 1-10. that simple the special cards mean something entirely different they do not mean numbers. as in the king, queen, jack and joker. these go on top of numbers and effect what the original card does.
kings go on top of a number and double the number. another king stacked on that king doubles it again. so, a 9 would turn into 18, and then another king with that would make it 36. you can apply this on your own cards too.
I'm gonna skip over queens and go to jacks. jacks when added onto a card take that card out of the stack. if you stack it on a card that has 1 or more kings it will take those kings and the number away. so without the king there it just takes the number card away. either way, the number disappears. this can be applied on your own cards too.
jokers go on top of a suit you want to get rid of. and it gets rid of any of them on the table including your own. so on top of a diamond it gets rid of all diamonds on the table. queens can counteract the joker by bringing back the suit. I'm not sure exactly what else it does or if that specific thing is correct, i don't use queens personally.
so, now we have a basic understanding of the cards and their meanings plus the general idea of what you need to do going into it. there is more, but i'll get into that as i go on.
when you boot up caravan with an npc like ringo in the beginning of the game, it'll take you to the first screen which is placing a bet. if you aren't used to playing, keep it low. but you can always do an equal bet, which is just matching their bet. you can raise the amount if you wanna drain them more of their caps but that is up to you my friend.
after you place your bet, itll take you to the next screen. a group of all your cards, one row on top and one on the bottom. one showing the backs of the cards, and one showing the front. so, this is where you either add or remove cards. remember have at least 30. the higher the number of cards in your caravan deck the better though it makes you less likely to run out of cards. if you run out you lose the game and your caps. so, the best numbers to store in your caravan deck are higher numbers. like 5 and above. specifically 10s, 9s, and 7s. "why this exact combination, op?" because it makes 26! so you should stock up on these cards where do you get cards? from specific vendors around the mojave wasteland, if I'm able to edit to add later which vendors i know of that sell cards i will. if not ill make sure i comment. you can only get them in the main menu of their vendor screen, not in misc not in apparel not in aid nowhere else. so you'll have fun scrolling through the entire menu of their shop lol other cards to stock up on? jacks and kings. these are so so so important!!
when buying cards, make sure you do not have any cards that are the exact same from the same place. you can have the same number and suit, that is okay. but not from the same place. that is illegal in the game. so this is an example: a 4 of hearts from gomorrah and a 4 of hearts from tops are completely different than two separate 4 of hearts from tops. make sense?
now onto the strategy part of the strategy math card game that is caravan...
so, i don't use queens or jokers cuz they are pretty irrelevant to the game and no npc i've ever played against has used them against me. the jokers can fuck you over and the queens themselves are just so confusing to me I'm still not entirely sure if i have it down what they do.
the beginning of the game starts off with you putting down your first 3 cards and you cannot proceed to stack on top of the first cards until you complete this task. you do not have to follow strict rules with what card you start off with. some people say only start off with 10s, that is simply not necessary. if you remove/discard cards out of your hand they cannot be played for the rest of that game of caravan. discarding cards after your first three cards are placed will end your turn and go to the npc to play a card. just start off with whatever is helpful in that moment for those first three cards. i go with the biggest numbers i can, whatever is in my hand. once the three cards are placed on the table, sometimes the npc will put a jack on one of your cards and that's just part of the strategy. don't fret. you will get your revenge.
focus on building your stacks while simultaneously stopping them from building theirs. i personally like to be petty and stack a jack on one of their cards almost immediately after they do it to me. when stacking your numbers stack in numerical order. smallest to biggest or biggest to smallest. it's what works. you cannot stack the same number in the same stack. it's pretty cool to stack the same suits together but not required. I'm pretty sure you can break the big to small and small to big process if you stick to the same suit. i can't remember off the top of my head right now but in my tired state it sounds right at the moment.
you use jacks when you don't have your own card to play, jacks are used throughout the game on the npc and yourself. if you don't have any cards in your hand that can directly add to your stack, try to destroy their abilities to build their stacks. that's why you stock up on the kings and jacks. they can ruin the npc's game. you use kings on the npc when they are close to achieving 21-26. do anything to put them above 26 and if they add a jack to the king you placed, make it so when they do that it puts them the furthest they can be from building back up to that stack. as in, put a king on the highest number they have in that stack <3 if you want to add a king to your own stack to make it easier to get to 21-26, be wary npcs might just decide to use one of their kings against your king. it's very rude but they do this sometimes. like i said before don't fret. their karma will be their pockets drained.
so, you don't always have to do the 10, 9, 7 method. you can also do king, 5, 6 method. you stack kings on the 5 to get it to 20 and then add a 6. bada boom. but relying on this might not help if you don't have enough kings OR if they decide to be a douche and add another king on yours making it 46 instead of just 26. find a method that works best for you, but you don't HAVE to stick to this method or any method! you can switch it up and figure out what is easiest for you. like have one 10, 9, 7 stack and then another stack is 5, 8, 10 and another stack is ace, 5, 9, 10. that's one little idea. it isn't something you need to stick to!!
just keep them on their toes. use these methods to your advantage. make sure you are building your stacks and getting to 21-26 before them.
so far, no-bark in novac is yes a crazy man who somehow spits facts he is a high better and so is the ambassador at the ncr embassy on the strip. still trying to find even more high betters.
condensed ways to win caravan: •you need 21-26 to win. if you get above 26 you have to fix that stack or discard it. closer to 26 the better •keep higher numbers in caravan deck •caravan deck=the cards you're playing in the game •stock up on good cards but not doubles of the same card from the same place •remove any cards you won't use from caravan deck before fully playing the game with npc •build your stacks while you destroy theirs •ace-10 = 1-10 nothing special about them they're just numbers •jacks=removes card(s) •kings=double card(s) •jokers/queens=unnecessary. not needed. confusing and self destructive. •go in numerical order, keeping suit may break this rule. bigger to smaller, smaller to bigger otherwise •use jacks throughout game •only use kings on them to make them go above 26 •use kings wisely on yourself they may stack a king on yours to fuck you up •if they stacked a king on your stuff remove it with a jack whenever throughout game. avoid discarding the entire stack completely •no numbers or kings/jacks to play on your own stacks in your hand? stack jacks/kings on their stuff instead •try not to discard stacks OR cards from your hand you won't be able to use them for that specific game after you discard •buying cards takes place in the main menu of certain vendor's shops, nowhere else. not aid/apparel/weapons/misc. only main. •no-bark in novac: high better •ambassador at ncr embassy on strip: even higher better •more cards in your caravan deck the better, if you run out of cards to play you will automatically forfeit your caps. •10, 9, 7 method=recommended not required •5s with 2 kings then 6 method=not exactly recommended so tread lightly
if you have any questions or other helpful tips to add to the list, let me know!! i havent lost once. all of this stuff once i figured it all out helped me SO much and now I'm so obsessed with playing caravan i drain everyone's caps and it is a thrill i can't get over. now i know why some people actually gamble. its.. addictive.
good luck and god speed couriers!

Hi everyone! Are there any French books that explain the logic of how sentences are constructed?
For instance, the one I have now just says: je m’appelle [insert name] = my name is [insert name].
I’m looking for something that breaks it down:
Je = I
M’appele = contraction of “me + appelle” (lit. “I myself call” or in English, “I call myself”)
I saw a YouTube video that did this and would like to have a book or printed option. I’m a new learner.

One of the reasons why I changed my name was because it was gendered. So I chose a new name that's gender neutral & had a meaning I relate to, I liked it & managed to have a few family members & ppl refer to me with that. But after some time, I didn't... feel ok with it anymore. I heard of people changing their names multiple times & it was fine to do that since they should take their time on deciding. But for me, I don't actually felt the need to use my old or new name or even create new ones I could feel comfortable with. I just don't want to have a name like it has to be official or something? But I also don't want to be open to the option of letting anyone call me what they want. Still, I don't associate myself with my birth name but have no choice to always put that on paper or in some situations. I also don't use the new name anymore. So now, 2 deadnames ig. But for now, i just decided to go by a nickname or multiple nicknames for different people (I haven't come up with a nickname yet 💀). But it'll never be a nickname that I'll be attached to. I bet someone would say "oh don't do it out of pressure, give yourself some time with your name 🥺" please don't assume. I, even with how ridiculous it might sound, sometimes wished I didn't had a name. Same with pronouns, I prefer to not use third person pronouns, ppl could just refer to me as "this person, etc" or my nickname if we're close. Even if it dissatisfy me when ppl still use third person pronouns on me even when I stated I use no pronouns, it's not like I'm going to correct them right away. I don't expect them to know since they don't even know me, I just ignore them & let them figure out the mystery or something. If you're confused or have questions, I don't have anything smart to say. There's some info I left out about my reasoning but I decided to keep it private just because I'm bad at explaining. I'm aware I can't control things but I think it's fine to feel how I disliked being perceived so that might explain. This might be my odd original experience.

The slow reveal of more details on what happed on the night of Gavilar's death has been a very interesting part of Stormlight for me. And on the surface, it seems that we finally have the full story here, with the prologue to WaT. By coincidence, Szeth was in Kolinar. Coincidentally, Nail bumps into Ulim, who takes him to Venli, who accidentally convinces him that Gavilar should die. Gavilar also accidentally convinces Eshonai to kill him, and thanks to all those previous coincidences, she now has Szeth ready to do the job.
It's just that this is way too many coincidences. Like, someone has been messing with the Teris prophecies levels of coincidence. I feel like I've read enough Sanderson to see foreshadowing when it's in front of me.
In terms of motivation, I think that Odium, the Stormfather, and Thadakar are all off the list. Up until everything was already in motion, they all had an interest in keeping Gavilar alive. Szeth, Nail, Ulim, Venli, and Eshonai all seem to be pawns in this scenario, moved perfectly into place to complete the goal. It could be some random person we haven't seen yet, but that isn't all that satisfying.
In terms of major players, all I think that we have left is Cultivation and Navani. I suppose this could be some master plan on Cultivation's part, but my interpretation was that all that she has been doing is planting seeds, in the hopes that things will turn out just right, so that they might sprout. And secretly planning an assassination seems a little too direct for her, but I guess we don't really know all that much about her in the first place. We've also already seen things from Navani's perspective.
My best guess is this: Navani accidentally orchestrated the death through the use of her glyphward. While it seems like a leap in logic, I'll explain why I think it's possible that this could be the case.
To start, I'll just point out that there are many things about the Rosharan invested arts we don't know. Surgebinding has been pretty fleshed out at this point, but with many holes still there. Voidbinding is very foggy. The best we have is that the unmade all have unique properties granted by odium, and that fused can mimic surges, but those are altered in some unknown way. And the old magic is as clear as mud.
So, with all those blind spots, it is entirely possible that glyphwards could fit in their somehow. If I had to guess, they would probably be connected to Cultivation in some way, going off of how little we know so little about her power, and the fact that people don't consider glyphwards evil. And compared to other forms of invested arts, the idea that glyphwards could actually produce an effect isn't that silly. Symbolic representation works just fine on Sel, and there are many arts that only very specific people can properly perform. Like with Elantrians and Yoki-Hijo. A practitioner could even live their life without ever realizing their potential.
For Navani, we have repeatedly seen her burning glyphwards in situations where her desires seem to miraculously manifest. Galinar's death, Dalinar's survival, Adolin's victory, and the recovery of Urithiru. Granted, she probably also burned some for Elokhar, but you can't expect things to work out every single time. There is an easy explanation for all this. Navani burns a lot of glyphwards, so some times they work out. But this is a book series. If Brandon takes pages at every major miraculous victory to show Navani burning glyphwards, there is probably some greater meaning behind it.
In terms of Navani's glyphwards somehow working to ensure victory, the only event that stands out to me as needing such an explanation is Gavilar's death. That event was set in motion right after the ward was burned, and was dependent on too much coincidence to have happened without some sort of outside intervention. Everything else could be explained in some form or another. We had an entire book building up to Dalinar's survival. Adolin's victory wad dependant on skill and Kaladin's oath to protect the Kholin family. Navani herself made plenty of preparations to ensure her success in recovering Urithiru.
There is another reason why I suspect that glyphwards have a hidden power to them. Throughout the series, there has been a repeating pattern of reveals. An element of Alethi or Rosharan culture is shown, and then we see that this element is actually part of some greater hidden mechanism in the world's history. Lighteyes are seen to be above darkeyes. The Shin see walking on stone as profane. The thrill is a unique Alethi advantage. Any sort of prediction of the future is seen as evil. The declaration of victory by the heralds at Aharietiam. The existence of Damnation in the Vorin religion. The existence of the Tranqualine Halls. The betrayal of the radiants.
All of these have been pretty much present from the start, and the story could be seen as the slow process of taking what seems to have at first been nothing but some interesting cultural flavor, and revealing it to have actually been an integral part of the world. Glyphwards fit in perfectly with the above examples. A very widespread element of culture that seems like nothing more than an innocent background detail. I can't help but feel that we are due for some sort of big reveal on the origins of the practice, whether or not they prove to actually have some magic to them.
I guess Stormwardrns have their own secret practices, so someone could argue that glyphwards are no more likely to be magical than Stormwarden numerology. All I can really say there is the glyphwards are more ancient, and I personally felt that Brandon was just taking some little jabs at these crazy cultists trying to predict the future off firepit ashes.
Anyway, that's about what I have to say. I'm interested to hear what other people think about all this. If we've already seen all there is of Gavilar's death, or if there is something deeper going on there. What that secret might be. If there is some secret going on with glyphwards, and if there is any magic connected to them.

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Finding Simplicity in God’s Plan: An Inspirational Devotional

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the complexities of life? It’s easy to get caught up in a whirlwind of worries, projects, and endless To-Do lists. In moments like these, we can learn a valuable lesson from one of the most brilliant minds of the 20th century—Albert Einstein. English theologian C.S. Lewis once noted that “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains.” It might come as a surprise that Einstein, often heralded for his intricate theories, believed, “God always takes the simplest way.” Intrigued? Let’s dive in to explore how simplicity in God’s plan can bring peace to our chaotic lives.

The Beauty of Simplicity in Scripture

The Bible is brimming with verses that highlight God’s preference for simplicity. For instance, Micah 6:8 (NIV) says, “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” Notice how straightforward these instructions are. Despite the complexities of life, our calling is clear and uncomplicated.
Consider also Matthew 6:33: “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” It’s an uncomplicated formula for a fulfilled life. Focus on God’s kingdom, and everything else will fall into place.

Examples of Simplicity in God’s Actions

God’s simplest way is evident throughout the Bible. When Jesus was asked about the greatest commandment, He replied in Matthew 22:37-39, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind… And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’” These are simple yet profound directives that can transform our complex lives into a journey of love and grace.

• Feeding the 5,000: Jesus didn’t need grandiose plans to feed the multitude. He used a young boy’s simple offering of five loaves and two fish (John 6:9-13).
• Prophet Elijah: In 1 Kings 19:11-13, God revealed Himself not in the wind, earthquake, or fire but in a gentle whisper. In the simplest way, God communicated His presence.

Questions for Reflection

• Personal Connection: What complexities in your life could benefit from a simpler approach?
• Faith Journey: How has focusing on God’s simple instructions transformed your walk with Him?
• Everyday Actions: Can you identify small, simple actions that align with God’s will today?

Reflect on these questions and feel free to share your thoughts in the comments. It’s a wonderful way to connect and encourage each other.

Call to Action: Embrace Simplicity Today

Remember, God’s simplest way is often the most profound. As you go about your day, consider how you can shift your focus from the complex to the simple joys and directives laid out by God. Share your thoughts or experiences in the comments. How has embracing simplicity drawn you closer to Him?
By seeking beauty in simplicity, you can experience the divine peace and clarity that God offers. Embrace it today and witness the miraculous transformation it can bring to your life.
Isn’t it refreshing to know that God’s way, like Einstein’s insight, often lies in simplicity? Let’s journey together in faith, embracing the simple yet profound path God has set before us.
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Sorry if this comes across as insensitive in any way, I just want to briefly share my experience with depression and the journey through it - When I was 14 me and my best mate trekked to the top of the highest hill around, not so unusual for us growing up on the outskirts of Glasgow - But on this particular day once we reached the top and planted our arses down to soak in the view of the city, he offered me a drag of a joint he had brought with him - Unfortunately that was the beginning of a long and heavy 10 years that revolved around substance abuse, always chasing the same eutrophic feeling I felt during that first high atop the hill, but never replicating it - For years I had suicidal thoughts daily and was filled with shame and regret for never reaching in my potential, however eventually I found myself in a position where I had to make a choice - And that was either r o off myself or to turn things around - I’ll be honest with you, I badly wanted to choose the former, and it was only the thought of the heartache it would cause my mum that stopped me from following through - So instead I found myself slowly but surely over the course of months and years making a conscious effort to do the ‘right’ thing - And the way I did that was by asking myself what the person I respected most in the world would do, and imagining if they were here, what would they think and what advice would they give - I’m not trying to convince you that any of this was easy, but eventually all the small steps I took over months and years worked - It’s hard to explain, but one day the suicidal thoughts stopped, and I started to feel a sense of pride in the little things and small steps I had taken - I no longer had to lie about how I spent my time and it was liberating, because instead of the lies I was actually living it, even if my progress was only relatively small - I’m sorry that I can’t offer a step by step guide to getting out that deep dark hole, but I wanted to share that it is possible, and if you take one small step at a time, then before you know it things become a lot brighter, and pretty quickly at that - Wishing you all lots of strength and determination, it is certainly possible to beat this - Rooting for you :)

I (M21) have been in a relationship with my partner (NB21) for almost 3 years. We’ve hit a point in our relationship that I’ve never had to deal with before. We are currently on a break. And as much as I hate that term it was either that or a break up and I love this person with all my heart and would do anything to make it work.
Mini personal info before getting in to what lead us here. They are my 2nd but first REAL relationship to this extent with someone. And I already had a good mindset about mental health but had no idea about BPD especially undiagnosed and diagnosed differences. Once we made things official they opened up and were very honest about what I could be getting into. I told them I’d make things work and we’d figure it out. We’ve even gotten to the point of having a note we collab on so I can ask questions and she can answer them and I always can go back and look if I’m lost or confused. I’ve done plenty of research and try my best to respect what they go through. They’ve even done better for themselves since being together such as, no more self harm and feeling more comfortable being around me even when they switch most of the time. They go to college and we’ve had to adjust to long distance and back and forth visits but they’re currently down for the summer. Since they’ve been down they struggle to make friends down here and the home they’re staying in is with their family that they’ve gotten a lot of trauma from.
To get back to the main topic, this began a week from today. We went out camping with their family for the weekend and on the night before we left the campsite I noticed they were very distant and short with convo. I realized this must’ve been a switch and knew I had to be patient. The next morning comes and I noticed it was the same. When we got back to their place they gave me dirty laundry to put away and I stupidly put them in the wrong places this triggered them and made things a bit worse. Once I left for work I went home after and noticed even her texts were still pretty dry and short. Which is normal for this behavior. I tried to make conversation and change the topic to keep convos going. For the next 2 days it felt like what I can best describe as being emotionally neglected getting no convo or life out of them. On those 2 days, were my days off of work and I tried to link up to eat together since they were close by but we ended up missing each other. We later saw each other for their little sister’s concert but I went to go get their brother a vape before coming. (i was told the wrong time and already late so i figured i’d just get it first, kind of slow ik) This added fuel to the fire. After the concert I tried to talk with them a bit when we were out with their family but it was the same vibe. I even tried to offer plans for tomorrow or even after we were done hanging with family. But the way they rejected I took a little personally, since it just felt like I was just getting nowhere. The next day they had to take their brother to a baseball game and I selfishly choose not to go simply because they were going to be out all day up at the baseball game and I wanted to genuinely relax at home. I texted them while they were there trying to make a conversation but it just kept dying. Eventually when they were leaving I texted and asked if they were upset with me personally. They opened up and said that the whole situation still had them angry simply because they felt like it was just very stupid to mess that up (i wouldn’t say they’re wrong) and that they had emotionless detachment from me JUST me. When they switch they usually show it towards everyone unapologetically. I’ve never dealt with that before and it honestly hurt reading it so i replied with simply “okay” and went to bed shortly after. I was in my head but tried to keep texting we couldn’t hangout because i work long hours and I usually try to make up for that in the weekends when i see them but this time due to what they said i asked pretty much if there was any point of me being over there and they pretty much replied you can come if you want to this unfortunately started to turn into a argument since I began to get more frustrated from not getting a straight answer and not knowing what to do it got really bad to the point I said triggering things such as “you need to help yourself more.” and “it just feels like you want to be mad at me.”These things were said out of pure emotional defense but it destroyed them. In the middle of the argument they opened up and said they were reallly tired of the texting and how things felt the same as if they still up in college even though they’re back home. Due to what I said they feel like I truly can’t handle being with them and being broken up is the better answer since things like this have been a repeated through the years and have steadily gotten a bit worse over time. I tried to explain it was simply the fact that they were emotionless towards me and being told that directly made me feel like whatever i said or did had no emotional value therefore had no meaning in their eyes. We agreed on a week break of no contact no location no nothing. This is currently day 3 and I’ve been trying to do a lot of self reflection on myself so I can have a clear mindset for this person to be there for them and love them for who they are but it’s hard to not get emotionally defensive myself sometimes.
I know this is a long read but any advice would mean the world. I know we can make this work I just feel like I need a better way of handling certain situations. I hope I made everything clear if anything isn’t don’t be afraid to ask!
thank you for reading :)

Idk how to explain this, I dont drink, I dont smoke, neither weed nor cigarettes, like I am a completely normal human being npc-like. But dudes, these thoughts have been tormenting me, I have "imaginations" of death, when you close your eyes and no longer have sight when you can no longer feel youre just a body. I am christian but like it hurts to even imagine going to heaven or hell, mainly because of ETERNITY, as in, you are going to be tormented forever, FOREVER or youre going to be liveing FOREVER(btw sorry for the spelling mistakes I am worried and stressed) I have never heard anybody talking about eternity as it is just, eternal death/life. Also I just love this earth I cannot imaginenot being here, and a constant thought that I have is: What if yoh just end up, nowhere? IT TERRIFIES ME. Like I feel so alone on this one because if anyone were to have to deal with what I deal, they would be talking about it like I am. The only person thya sympathises with me is Jesus Christ where he says stuff similar to what I am dealing with is "Father forgive them" and that point before his death where he is sweating blood. Another thing is, I do not understand how there is so much brain rot and so many distractions and so much ignorace in social media, you feel what I am saying? Like DUDE YOU ARE GOING TO DIE. Yeah, just tell me something or I am going to lose my mind and send my self to a psychiatric hospital, idc if you are atgiest, muslim etc just tell me something!!!!

Hello I have a question, I'm not English so sorry if it's hard to understand but I'm gonna try to explain what I mean.
so on Instagram when you tap that notification tab, on the top there are the story mentions, right? So it says "you're being mentioned in so and so many stories"
Now I have noticed that these notifications go away after a certain amount of time even though the story mention is still there. so my question is how long is the notification there before it disappears?

Aslah asked Ayas why he believed it was murder.
Ayas explained.
"I based my conclusion on forensic evidence. The wound pierced Anaswarnath's heart, likely causing immediate death. In most suicide cases, the victim doesn't have the strength to pull the knife from their chest. However, here the knife isn't in the chest, suggesting Anaswarnath pulled it out."
"While uncommon, it's not impossible." Aslah sai
Without caring about it, Ayas continued, "Secondly, Anaswarnath's wound pierced his heart, but there's no blood splattered on the room or walls. If the knife were pulled out immediately after stabbing, blood would have splattered everywhere. Instead, the blood is pooled on the table, indicating that Anaswarnath did not pull the knife out right away. This suggests the blood flowed steadily, creating a flat pool on the table."
"Maybe he pulled it out after some minutes, some seconds before his death. That can happen," Aslah interrupted again.
"The chances of Anaswarnath being alive long enough to pull the knife out are slim. Even if he had managed to do it, the knife would have been soaked in blood, and his hands would likely have been injured in the process. When someone uses a sharp weapon, especially if it slips due to blood, it's common for their hands to get cut—sometimes small nicks, sometimes deep gashes. But Anaswarnath's fingers are uninjured, which means he didn't pull the knife out. The person who did may have injured themselves. If the killer wore thick rubber gloves, they might have avoided injury."
This time, Aslah was silent.
"Now, the most important thing is the tailing," Ayas emphasized. "You assumed it was a suicide because you interpreted the tailing below the wound as a hesitation mark. But if you look at the direction of the scratch, it goes from the bottom of the wound to the left side. If a right-handed person had stabbed themselves and pulled the knife out, the tailing would go from the top of the wound to the right side. This clearly indicates that someone else, who is right-handed, pulled the knife."
Aslah didn't ask anything, but the question lingered in the air.

How?

I'm coming up on a year with VBA and to say it's awful would be grossly understating.
I'm a supervisor and workload is outrageous. I supervise and do the technical work. I'm basically doing two jobs and making it all happen within 40 hours because "if I'm not getting my work done in 40 hours, it's my fault".
No comp time, no RDO (how dare a supervisor even ask), no flex time. But wait, there's more. As supervisors we are making such amazing money we should not need anything else. Just bow at the alter of the Director and take all the garbage that person presents. Any issue we bring, the director finds a way to explain how much worse they have it or turns it around and now it's another task on my plate.
I am good at my job and love supervising. I get stellar reviews from my staff. I just need to get out of this place because it's demoralizing, high stress, and unsustainable. Sitting at my desk working, I find my heart racing, even the Teams ding is stressful.

For some, intensive meditation can cause mental suffering. The predominantly positive image of meditation makes it difficult for those affected to be heard in the event of side effects, as SWR research shows.
By Linda Huber, SWR
Millions of people in Germany meditate regularly. The offerings range from apps and online courses to meditation in studios and multi-day retreats. According to a Statista Consumer Survey, almost one in four people between the ages of 18 and 64 have a meditation app on their cell phone. A Buddhist tradition has long since become a mass phenomenon and the market for mindfulness is booming, with meditation often being praised as a cure for stress and mental health problems. However, recent scientific studies show that intensive meditation can also trigger serious psychological side effects. This side effect is often ignored or trivialized, as research by the investigative format Vollbild revealed.
One in ten meditators suffers from side effects
In a ten-year long-term study, US psychologist Willoughby Britton from Brown University was able to prove that around one in ten meditators develop side effects that severely restrict them in their everyday life. According to Britton, anxiety, traumatic flashbacks and hypersensitivity are the most common side effects of meditation. German studies also point to undesirable side effects of meditation: a study by a working group at Charité Berlin found that a total of 22 percent of 1,397 meditating test subjects had undesirable effects. Of these, around nine percent were classified as mild and temporary, while 13 percent had moderate to extreme adverse effects that required treatment, were permanent or even required hospitalization.
Negative effects often underestimated
Research on meditation over the past 20 years has mostly shown positive effects such as the reduction of stress or depression. Psychologist Britton criticizes the research on contemplative practices and points out that the negative effects of meditation are often underestimated.
In Germany, the first contact point for victims of meditation side effects has been open for two years at the Institute for Frontier Areas of Psychology and Mental Hygiene in Freiburg. Psychologists Ulrich Ott and Liane Hofmann set up the contact point. They report that the consultation hours are already very popular and that the level of suffering of many of those affected is high. The psychologists suspect a high number of unreported cases and assume that there is a great need for counseling in Germany.
Panic attacks, hospitalization, suicide after meditation
Fullscreen has spoken to several people who have developed severe psychological problems after intensive meditation and had to be treated in a clinic. A 26-year-old student from Wiesbaden describes how he developed panic attacks after intensive meditation with an app and had to be treated in a clinic. A 28-year-old doctoral student from Düsseldorf reports that she developed delusions after an intensive retreat and had to be hospitalized, while a particularly drastic case from Canada shows extreme consequences: A young woman left a ten-day meditation retreat early and took her own life. Her mother reports that her daughter already felt unwell during the retreat. When asked, the meditation center explained that it was deeply saddened by the tragic incident. Teachers are trained to recognize signs of mental imbalance, and students are not asked to continue meditating if they are in distress.
Responsibility seen in meditators
The predominantly positive image of meditation often means that those affected have difficulty being heard and understood when side effects occur, and that providers often see meditators as being responsible.
US researcher Britton also observes this: "Blaming the victim is probably the most common reaction. It comes in many different varieties." It is often said that the person has already brought the problems with them. The retreat or the provider are therefore not responsible. Or the person has meditated incorrectly. "The normal meditation teacher wants to be helpful, and then to hear that you have caused harm is a very difficult kind of feedback," says Britton.
The psychologists Ott and Hofmann criticize the fact that meditation providers often deny responsibility for possible side effects: "It is of course also the responsibility of the providers to check in advance whether the people are mentally healthy, whether they are stable and not to deny all responsibility with such a disclaimer," says Ott. However, the offers often state: "Participation at your own risk. This clearly places the responsibility on the participants," says Ott.
No mandatory training, no monitoring
How little attention is paid to risks is also shown by an undercover investigation: in a self-experiment, Vollbild asked around 20 meditation providers for a course and stated that the supposed interested party had mental health problems. Only a few advised her to consult a doctor or therapist beforehand. The providers' websites did not provide any information on the risks and side effects of meditation in advance. In Germany, there is the Association of Mindfulness Teachers with eight training institutes and around 1,000 mindfulness teachers. According to full-screen research, undesirable side effects of meditation are an issue in training here. However, the training is voluntary. Anyone who wants to can offer meditation. There are no controls. This is another reason why many meditation teachers are apparently overwhelmed by the psychological damage and side effects of meditation.
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https://www.tagesschau.de/investigativ/swmeditation-risiken-nebenwirkungen-100.html
Comments to the video:
"The fact that meditation or Buddhist practice in general (not just sitting) has dark sides has always been described. In Buddhist sutras, entire texts are dedicated to the spiritual decline of some practitioners. In Zen, "meditation sickness" is a well-known term, as is "lung" in Tibetan Buddhism. Various studies prove that there are often psychological problems, especially during intensive meditation sessions. For example, one psychologist describes that deprivatized sitting without movement can stress the neurons to such an extent that psychosis-like states can be reached. If you need help or would like more information on the possible symptoms and side effects (based on scientific data), please visit Cheetah House, they can also help those affected. What Micki describes at the beginning is also something that I consider extremely dangerous, if any teacher says to you "you have to go through this", then you should distance yourself as quickly as possible. Meditation should never be associated with thoughts of self-optimization or the desire for eternal happiness, in Zen they say "Zen brings nothing", or you could say, seek neither happiness nor unhappiness, only in this way can an authentic path be realized, with in my opinion clearly more serenity. Unfortunately, it is not without reason that many practitioners have been saying for a long time that 80 percent of Buddhist offerings are not authentic. Just look at the charlatans who serve as role models these days: Hinnerk Polenski, Shi Heng Yi, Zensho W Kopp... All people who are self-proclaimed masters."
"Shi Heng Yi has never studied Shaolin Buddhism, but has a martial arts master title under an American, yet the Otterberg Temple claimed to teach people on official behalf of the Henan Mother Temple, the warning then came quickly, officially Shi Heng Yi has recently made the first pin in the Warrior Monk Duan Pin System, so he is at the level of a novice. Nevertheless, he sells books on Zen Buddhism and the like. (Shaolin is Chan, Japanese Zen) and also meditation courses with dubious people for thousands of euros, which of course has nothing to do with Zen or Shaolin. Then Hinnerk, could never prove his mastery, like many others of the controversial Oi Saidan lineage he was only in the monastery for a few weeks. Zensho W Kopp, claims to have received Zen mastery from a teacher, but as I said, this man is only a teacher and not a master and therefore cannot confer mastery, but has never claimed to do so. It is clear that this can only result in spiritual confusion, but people who have no prior knowledge of religious integrity find it difficult to differentiate. In the end, a spiritual ego is built. But that doesn't mean that the “authentic” path isn't full of stumbling blocks. Who wants to let go of their ego? For some it can actually brighten up life again, but I think it is much more difficult to find an authentic guru these days than the danger on the path itself. For Buddhist practice, at least in Zen, sitting meditation is not necessary.
“I do not wash my hands or shave my head, I do not read sutras or observe precepts, I do not burn incense, I do not do sitting meditation, I do not perform memorial ceremonies for a master or Buddha.”
Chin'g gak Kuksa Hyesim (1178-1234)
How about that? :)"
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Hi everyone! Are there any French books that explain the logic of how sentences are constructed?
For instance, the one I have now just says: je m’appelle [insert name] = my name is [insert name].
I’m looking for something that breaks it down:
Je = I
M’appele = contraction of “me + appelle” (lit. “I myself call” or in English, “I call myself”)
I saw a YouTube video that did this and would like to have a book or printed option.

For God knows what, I have been seeing people specifically on YouTube say how the Rex on episode ten wasn’t big eatie. However this is just blatantly false.
Exhibit A: the two have the EXACT same scars in the exact same areas of the body. Same facial scarring, same leg scarring and same lower body scarring.
Exhibit B: The blue skin. Big eatie is a specialty tyrannosaur among the many we’ve see for the fact she is ash-blue. She stands out among the rest cuz of her skin, and we see the trex who shares her scars also have the same skin tone.
Exhibit C: Darius and Kenji imply that it’s her. I’ve seen a lot of non English speakers attempt to say that Darius has said that it’s an unknown trex. Well as an English speaker, American, I am here to tell you that’s false. What’s said is this
Kenji: is that big eatie?!
Darius: Well it’s not the rex from nublar so uhh
Kenji: so then where did you come from?!
The last line is what’s causing confusion, however it’s just asking how did she get there, a fairly simple and likely interpretation considering the first two work to establish a basis. It’s like someone appearing suddenly and then another person asks “where the hell did you come from.” The increase in loudness in his tone establish that effect since that’s clearly supposed to just be a sort of comedic thing.
It also isn’t buck because, he’s uh, green and only has small lip scarring that runs up diagonally and depending on when you think this takes place he’s in the biosyn valley in Italy.
I had to make this because for some reason the Jurassic community on yt seem to be a bunch of bobble heads, have a good day :).

Hi there. I don't know how long ago but my Facebook reels started showing me narrated Reddit stories and I got addicted. I loved how people seemed to get actual help and advice for their issues so that's why I came to this forum.
I have been married for over 15 years. We met just out of high-school and moved rather quickly. We were married less than 18 months after meeting. Back then, I was 1000% sure this was the one to grow old and expire happy with. I know the flame eventually dies down but a while back, it damn near extinguished. We were both large people. The weren't skinny when we met and we only got bigger. At our peak, we were together half a ton (do the math yourself). At that size, I didn't find myself at all attractive and didn't find my wife hot either. We had our one child and couldn't get pregnant again (The excess weight was the cause of it- I'll explain why shortly). But sex had slowed down and when we did have it, it was pretty quick anyway. Being that out of shape, I had little to no stamina. We even got into a fight once where she asked me if I found her attractive anymore and I told her no. But things changed shortly after the pandemic. We had good jobs and insurance and were both able to get bariatric surgery. We've both lost a considerable amount of weight. I'm literally less than half the man I used to be and I think I'm smaller now than I was back even I'm high school. She's been doing great as well and lost almost as much as I have. We even were able to get pregnant and have a new baby.
But , with that weightloss came attention I wasn't ready for and I stepped out on my marriage. To be fair, even before that i had gotten onto apps to see what's out there. I would put on the profile that I was married and just looking to flirt. I wanted to kill time with the apps. Those would fill my attention bucket since it wasn't being filled at home. For the most part, the women on there could understand. One even said "you just wanna see if you can still hunt without actually making a kill?" And that was going okay for a while but then it got too serious. I had met someone and I even fell in love with another woman and tried to divorce my wife. I had moved out and gotten an apartment and everything ... I loved how that other person made me feel. You see, my job keeps me out late and traveling. Im a full time musician. So the wife stayed home. And since we were big, even when she could come out- she wouldn't want to. And on the even more extreme rare chance she did, i wouldnt be proud to show her off. And it seemed like she was only there to get out of the house and get drunk. It wasn't to support me, but to escape motherhood. She works hard and she does deserve a break, I knew that but it still felt bad to me. To have a wife be there, get f*ed up and seemingly not give a damn or pay attention to me. In my eyes, she stopped showing that she loved me. I felt like a roommate in my own home that occasionally she decided to sleep with. But this other person made me feel important. She was infatuated with me.
But I decided, no matter what, I couldn't break up my family like that. I tried to and thought I could do it. But I love my kids to much. I would be seeing them part time just to have her full time and I just couldn't do it. This other woman was/is an amazing woman. If things were different (like my wife had divorced me and was the one to break up the home) this person would have been perfect fit to my broken heart and home. But there's a difference in finding an amazing port in a terrible storm and causing a storm (I hope that makes sense)
So that brings me to now... I'm moved back into my house with my wife. I cut off all contact with the other person and blocked her on all social media. I removed apps that allowed me to do those bad things (Snapchat, WhatsApp, tinder, etc) and I wanna fall in love with my wife again but I don't know how to. I still feel alot of guilt. And , I hate to say it, I'm not that attracted to her atm. She's lost alot of weight but as a result, she has alot of excess skin. We are both working hard at saving money to pay for surgery to remove the skin and to do breast augmentation, but im worried that won't be enough. That I'll still feel like a roommate. I've decided no matter what, imma stay here. If I never fall in love again, so be it. Im going to do it for the kids. Her and I are a great pair as partners. We rarely fight, so it's not like staying just for the kids would be a terrible option. I don't think I'm going to F them up or be those parents who fight day and night and should have divorced ages ago. We've had plenty of conversations and I see now that she never stopped loving me. She was showing it in a way that I didn't see. Or in a way that I didn't receive love. Like our love languages changed and we drifted apart. Now when I'm on a trip for work and she'll call and tell me she misses me, she'll ask if I miss her. And I don't. Idk how to change that or how to make myself long for her. She deserves to be loved and cherished. Like how I used to love and cherish her... I do love her but im not IN love with her. I know that sounds stupid and cliché , but it's the best way I can describe it.
So what can I do to get that spark back?
What can I do to Snuff out the spark for that other person? I hate to admit it but I do miss her. I've never broken up with anyone so I have never had to walk away from someone and maybe that's it? Idk how to do that step?
I hope this didn't come off too scattered or rambling. Any advice would be helpful. Please don't hop on just to talk crap and put me down, I know I messed up. I am trying to fix it and be a better man and live up to the being the husband I used to be. The husband she deserves.
TL;DR advice needed to fall back in love with my wife after 15+yrs of marriage and coming back from infidelity

Hello everyone, I've been lurking in this sub for quite some time. I've been having GI issues for a very long time because of a severe case of MS (my rectum is not working anymore), which forced me to resort to drastic, painful and desperate measures: laxative and microenemas abuse (I need to get my colon irritated to have some sort of movement, even for farting), TAI (useless), zero residue diet (and I mean ZERO, vitamin tablets only), you name it. Every single day. A neurogenic bladder is just icing on the cake, so you can get the gist of it. An ostomy is my only hope for a normal life (and a suprapubic catheter, which will come with the ostomy).
My surgery is scheduled at the end of June (sigmoid or descending colostomy, might turn into an ileostomy in the future). I have been reading lots of resources about ostomy and some of the posts here (and I'll make sure to ask the doctors, my pre-op appointment is in 2 weeks), but I would like to have some reassurance about "stupid" questions:

1. I can't really walk (I must use a walker at home and a wheelchair outside) and the place I live in does not have a handrail... Think of Chris Pratt in Jurassic World when confronting the velociraptors and you can picture me climbing the stairs (it's just five steps, but they feel like a mountain). Is it "too much" of a strain to put on my body right after surgery, or.. ?
2. My cats LOVE making biscuits on my stomach. Can I let them? Will they pierce my bag? Do I need to wear anything under my clothes (like a pillowcase)?
3. Before MS, I would eat lots of veggies. And I mean LOTS, I would GORGE on them. I haven't eaten a single veggie for almost 4 years now (fiber causes blockage in my rectum, even steamed or mashed). Will I be able to eat vegetables again?
4. Some guidelines advise to eat avocado, cheese and eggs, some advise not to. Is it one of those things that differ from person to person?
5. Is sushi allowed? What about pizza?
6. Will I have to say goodbye to konjac noodles? They're a category of food I gave up 4 years ago.
7. Can I shower with a bag, even if it features a foam adhesive (it's one of the pouching systems I'm looking at)? Or will it fall off because of the heat?
8. How do I dispose of the bags when I'm outside? Will I smell (not that I don't smell because of my issues at the moment, I must wear diapers)?

Thank you!
PS: I'm italian and English is not my native language, so please excuse any errors or redundancies on my part.
EDIT: some grammar mistakes

My (38F) parents (late 60s M&F) are having a bit of a crisis right now because of my brother (36M) and SIL (32F). My SIL just had their baby and she wanted to have it in her home country so she could be close to her parents and have their support. None of us were overly thrilled with the idea, mostly because we all care about my brother and felt like he was being robbed of an important life experience.
He was only able to get a week off work, and because the date babies are actually born is fairly unpredictable, he had to wait until the baby was already born before he could visit. He wasn't there for the birth of his first child. Furthermore, she then had to remain in her home country, with the baby, for months until they could get a passport, so my brother didn't see his child again for the first 3 months of it's life.
Regardless, we supported her decision, as she was the one giving birth. I recently had a baby myself so I understand how vulnerable you can feel during that time, and how important it is to stand up for yourself and set boundaries for you and your child. That's why, when they SIL made plans to return to our country, I wasn't surprised when we were informed she wouldn't be up for visitors the first week after traveling.
I completely understood and even encouraged it - I couldn't imagine taking a 10-hour flight with a 3 month old, the stress of it and the jet lag, and my husband working full time from the moment I get back, only to have to entertain visitors who just want to hold the baby. I let them know to just get settled (and for my bro to get some quality time with his baby he hasn't seen) and let us know when they're ready for visitors.
My parents, however, took this as a personal attack. As soon as they found out they weren't allowed to bombard my brother's family at the airport they've been on a tear about how this is extremely disrespectful to them. How in "their day" (ie when my brother and I were babies) they had to entertain all sorts of visitors all the time because it was expected, they weren't 'allowed' to say no. When I point out that that's a hazing mentality ("I had to suffer so you should too") and an extremely ill way to think, they'll say something like "we want them to do what's best for them.... But I guess now we know where we stand". They've also mentioned that they "were good enough to help them buy their house but not good enough to visit their own grandchild" and that they're being treated like "second-class citizens".
My SIL finally made a concession that they could come over for 2 hours this weekend (literally 2 days after she's gotten home) and this has only served to anger then even more. Apparently my brother isn't "standing up" for them, and what "really" bothers them is that it's clear SIL just "doesn't want them around".
I've tried to explain to them SIL's perspective, that she's dealing with sleep deprivation and wacky hormones, not to mention the travelling and finally getting to be a family again with my brother I've explained that ultimately she's just setting boundaries, and they should respect them since she is trying to respect their wants. I've explained they're not "owed" anything, regardless of how much they helped out with the house purchase. It wasn't a transaction, it was a gift. They can't trade financial help for dedicated baby time.
My mum hasn't responded to my latest text, though, which outlines all that, despite having read it. So now I'm wondering if I'm wrong, if I too am being disrespectful. Do they deserve to see their grandchild within hours of its arrival in our country, without having a time limit set on their visit?

I am a fresher graduated in 2023. 83/66/6.75 Aeronautical engineering from tier 1000 college where we had a 3 faculty for all 8 subjects including lab
CAT: 77.77 Extracurricular:
1) can speak 9 languages 2 ) certified in Arabic and Spanish 3) worked under swach Bharath 4) worked for NGO which specializes in child rights
My NIT CALICUT interview experience
" Excuse me sir may I come in "
There were two panelists inside
" Yeah come in "
I handed over them the interview verification form which was verified by faculties..they turned it to backside where extra curricular activities is written
Interviewer 1 : " do you know Spanish and Arabic "
Me : " yeah sir , I can "
Interviewer 1 : " how many languages can you speak? "
Me : " I can speak total of 9 languages, sir "
Interviewer 1 ( surprised and smiling) : " can you speak bihari? "
Me : " no sir , I cannot ( smilingly )
Interviewer 1 : " which are the languages you can speak ?"
Me : " English, Hindi, kannada,Tamil , Malayalam , Urdu, kodava thakk, Spanish and Arabic "
Interviewer 1 and interviewer 2 faced towards each other and started gossiping among themselves and after a minute pointed out to the chair and told me to sit.
Interviewer 2 : " do you have OCD ?"
Me : " sorry , I didn't get you sir ? "
Interviewer 2 : " ohh, I see..you are not aware of that "
I am surprised as this is the first time I have heard about the word
Interviewer 1 : " introduce yourself ?"
Me : " My name is X , I am from Kodagu ...I have completed my bachelor's in aeronautical engineering. I have worked for child rights under an NGO , I have worked under swach Bharath mission ...I would like to point out my Rolemodels are my parents. Kodagu is also called as kashmir of South India and Scotland of india ... I can speak 9 languages namely.... "
Interviewer 1 ( intrepts me ) : " I know this , tell me diffrent things "
Me : " I have started working in Airtel while preparing for the interviews "
Interviewer 2 : " Airtel !!! , so you have work experience "
Me : " yeah sir , about 4 months "
Interviewer 2 : " i have a Airtel sim , inside my home I am not getting signal but outside I am getting the signal ...so as a Airtel person how will you solve this "
Me : explained him how the process takes place
Interviewer 2 : " imagine , I have a broadband and i and I am shifting from x to y location but I donot want to shift , how will you convince me to shift "
Me : " I told him the answer that I was taught during my training "
Interviewer 2 : " how many months work experience do you have "
Me : " I have 4 months of experience, I was recently promoted from L1 to L2 supervisor role"
Interviewer 2 : " what's the difference between L1 and L2 "
Me : explained him the difference and told our various roles and in the organisation
Interviewer 2 was slightly impressed now
Interviewer 2 : " you have learnt so many things in this short amount of time and also got promoted " ( smiling)
Me : just laughed awkwardly with him
Interviewer 1 : " tell me x , what is the language you are going to learn next "
Me : " Japanese and sawahii ( African ) "
Interviewer 1 : " why ? "
Me: " i explained why my interest align with Japan due to their tech advancement and my startup idea I have regarding import and export buisness in Africa "
Interviewer 1 : " once you tell MBA and once you tell tech now "
Me : I told him how we can take this both things side by side and my startup idea in African countries
Interviewer 1 : " i understood your first reasoning but not your startup idea , any ways have you started learning Japanese"
Me : " yeah sir , i can understand some words and basic lines ..."
Interviewer 1 ( smiling ): " how did you learn? "
Me : watching anime , and told him how how I like Japanese culture and all
Interviewer 2 : " from where did you learn Spanish and Arabic "
Me : I told him how
Interviewer 1 : " why MBA? "
Me : " Answered "
Interviewer 1 : " you are many things x , but why so much ...isn't there a stop to this "
Me : " sir , I have many responsibilities in my shoulder ...so I am looking for a breakthrough every opportunity I get "
Interviewer 1 : " there are two people, one is very creative and has many ideas but another one is a go getter ...if you give him one task he will complete that , So as a manager who will you choose?
Me : go getter and my reasons
Me and the interviewer 1 had a small debate for our reasons
Interviewer 1: " tell me something, you have done from start to end and alone and thatcan be added as a CV point for you "
Me : " can I take a minute to think "
Interviewer 2 : " yes sure "
They both started to slowly gossip untill I started speaking
Me : " no sir , nothing like that... everything I have done is with a team or someone backing me up "
Interviewer 1 : " okay , there are two couples...one writes their daily duties and ambition on a diary and another couple who do not write , so who is a better one "
Me : " the couple who writes "
We had a small debate again and I pointed out how I was the second couple kind of guy who just have ideas but not willing to put so much efforts
Interviewer 1 : " thank you, the interview is over "
Me ( surprised ): " what sir ?"
Interviewer 1 : " Thank you , the interview is done "
Me : okay , can I have a moment of your time please
Interviewer 1 and 2 ( simultaneously) yess!!!
Me : " what's OCD "
Interviewer 2 : explained it to me and interviewer 1 told about his ocd where he has published 30 + reasearch papers
Me : " are you guys faculties or alumni of this college "
Interviewer 1 : " we are faculties and started telling his credentials "
Interviewer 2 : told his credentials
I was impressed by the faculties here ...these people will be teaching me if I get in here
Me : " in corporate anyone will give you 40 - 50 lakhs for your experience and quality....then why did you choose the teaching profession"
Interviewer 1 and 2 started gossiping and smiling at each other
Interviewer 2 :" X , everything is not about money "
Me : " yeah sir , i can understand"
Interviewer 1 : " there are still people waiting outside "
Me : " yeah sir , I will take my leave then ( smiling)"
Thanked them both for the interview

I apologize in advance because this might be lengthy.....I 21F am deeply in love with my 22NB ex... I use ex lightly because we dated for maybe 8 months when I was 13. At the time, they used female pronouns and they were my first everything. We broke up for stupid reasons, I mean we were just kids. We never really lost contact and have always been "friends". On multiple occasions, we have sorta tried to rekindle our relationship but for various different reasons it just never worked out. Our relationship has never been platonic though, it is very obvious we are not just friends. Over the past year and a half, I have been pushing to move our relationship forward... I am so sure this is the person I want to marry and spend the rest of my life with and according to them, they feel the same way. We talk about our future together all the time, how our wedding is going to be, what kind of house we will live in, even down to how many kids we will have and what we will name them. The problem is they don't want a relationship with me right now, they state they need time to figure themselves out and heal from past relationships and trauma, etc... which I can respect. A couple of months ago I was having a horrible roommate situation and I desperately needed to move out, they happily offered for me to move into their spare bedroom and of course, I took them up on that offer, this is where everything started to get very confusing for me. We don't live like roommates or honestly even friends, we are like a couple that doesn't sleep together. We pretty much do everything together like we are dating. We go on "dates" where we hold hands, flirt, and talk to each other like a couple would. We cuddle on the couch and take naps together. They will kiss my shoulders and back and open car doors for me and pay for my dinner. We go grocery shopping together and cook dinner together. I will bring them lunch to work and do their laundry. I will come home from work and get in their bed and we will just hold each other and talk about our days and even fall asleep together. Everything just feels so natural and right, and they have even stated that. They invite me to all of their family things and we seem like a couple, even their family gets confused and questions it. And this eats me alive because at the end of the day, we aren't together.. we are just "friends." The real kicker is, that they see other people... a lot. They will take girls on dates and bring them home and stay the night with them. They will tell me all about their dates and the sex they have and even ask me to pick them up from their one-night stands. But it's okay because I am " the end game" and this is them "figuring themselves out"???? It's really starting to fuck with my head and I just feel crazy at this point. I have tried to bring up how I don't understand how this is them healing or working on themselves and somehow they just spin it all around. I feel so used at this point. I need to know, am I stupid for still believing they actually want to be with me and this is them just 'figuring themselves out"??? Lately, I have started to feel resentment for this whole situation. I feel like maybe I deserve better? I would drop anything and everything to be with them and that is clearly not the case for them. I find it so hard to understand that they are so in love with me and that I am "the only person they could see themselves marrying" and yet they don't want a relationship with me anytime soon. I want nothing more than to just be with them, and I love them so much that I just keep sucking it up and telling myself that eventually, we will be together. I have voiced that this is hurtful for me and that I don't understand any of it and again they somehow spin it around. I guess I just don't know if I am in the wrong for questioning them... is this normal? Am I being an asshole for thinking that maybe they aren't a good person for doing this to me? I love them more than anything and it would absolutely destroy me to be the one to step away from this relationship and move on, but do I deserve more? I am just so confused and emotional. I know that I should have more boundaries with this all but it's so hard. I just need outside advice because I have no one to talk to about this and I am starting to see things in a different light. I apologize if this is hard to understand but honestly I am distraught at this point. Please help.