Kelis haircut pictures 2010
Inscription on Book
2024.05.18 21:22 Rockman829 Inscription on Book
 | Hello fellow fans! I went to a used bookstore recently and happened upon this book “Dylan His Life In Pictures” by Harry Shapiro. It’s quite a beautiful book containing pictures of Dylan and other related figures in his life from 1959-2010. submitted by Rockman829 to bobdylan [link] [comments] On the inside of the hardcover is an inscription. While I highly doubt it’s genuine, I was wondering if any of you have context as to its history. I’ve included a picture of a page at the end which I found amusing! |
2024.05.18 20:38 WompWompO7 Looking for next hairstyle advice?
 | Hello, attached are some pictures of my hair (first picture is most recent, all are within the past 6 months). I did have way longer hair, but I got it chopped off roughly a month ago, and then got an even shorter (for me) haircut about two weeks ago, mainly for work purposes. I wanna go shorter on the sides, with like a fade look, but not sure what to do with the top. I've thought about just getting a buzz cut with a fade, to keep it low maintenance for the summer, but not sure how it will look on me. (The last photo where my hair is longest was taken at Thanksgiving.) submitted by WompWompO7 to Hair [link] [comments] |
2024.05.18 20:28 WompWompO7 Looking for next haircut/hairstyle suggestions
Hello, attached below are some pictures of my hair (first picture is most recent, all are within the past 6 months). I did have way longer hair, but I got it chopped off roughly a month ago, and then got an even shorter (for me) haircut about two weeks ago, mainly for work purposes. I wanna go shorter on the sides, with like a fade look, but not sure what to do with the top. I’ve thought about just getting a buzz cut with a fade, to keep it low maintenance for the summer, but not sure how it will look on me. (The last photo where my hair is longest was taken at Thanksgiving.)
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2024.05.18 20:07 Signal_Expression730 Illumination Pictures Theory
I already published this theory a year ago, and now I'm republishing it because I understood how Reddit works better and where to publish my theories or ideas.
Moving on to the theory, it's based on the Pixar theory, about how all movies are in the same world, but in the case of Illumination Pictures, there's a lot more evidence, and most of it is in the movie Pets. In the park scene of the film, Gru appears in a cameo passing by with Kyle, which confirms that the two franchises are in the same world. Taking these two films as a basis, then we can say that the world of Illumination is a normal world, with a human society and animals cannot talk to humans but talk to each other, which also suggests that films like Migration and Hop, since there is a human society and, except for easter bunnies and easter chicks, animals can't talk.
Now, this comes into contradiction with other films produced by Illumination, such as Lorax and Sing, in the first they present us with a society without plants but which is slowly recovering, and in the second a society of anthropomorphic animals.
The answer is always given to us in Pets. When Kevin Hart's character drives the bus, you can see that there is a poster for "Sing" behind it, which tells us that it is a movie within that world, as is possibly the Lorax. I think this can also be applied to other films for which the rights do not belong to Illumination, but are lent by third parties, such as Doctor Seuss' wife or Nintendo.
To resume, here is the thing: There is a real world with a timeline (Minions in 1968, Minions 2 in 1976, Despicable Me in 2010, Hop in 2011, Despicable Me 2 in 2013, Pets in 2016, Despicable Me 3 in 2017, Pets 2 in 2019, Migration in 2023 and Despicable Me 4 in 2024) and there are some films that are films in this world (Lorax, The Grinch, Sing and Super Mario)
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Moving on to the theory, it's based on the Pixar theory, about how all movies are in the same world, but in the case of Illumination Pictures, there's a lot more evidence, and most of it is in the movie Pets. In the park scene of the film, Gru appears in a cameo passing by with Kyle, which confirms that the two franchises are in the same world. Taking these two films as a basis, then we can say that the world of Illumination is a normal world, with a human society and animals cannot talk to humans but talk to each other, which also suggests that films like Migration and Hop, since there is a human society and, except for easter bunnies and easter chicks, animals can't talk.
Now, this comes into contradiction with other films produced by Illumination, such as Lorax and Sing, in the first they present us with a society without plants but which is slowly recovering, and in the second a society of anthropomorphic animals.
The answer is always given to us in Pets. When Kevin Hart's character drives the bus, you can see that there is a poster for "Sing" behind it, which tells us that it is a movie within that world, as is possibly the Lorax. I think this can also be applied to other films for which the rights do not belong to Illumination, but are lent by third parties, such as Doctor Seuss' wife or Nintendo.
To resume, here is the thing: There is a real world with a timeline (Minions in 1968, Minions 2 in 1976, Despicable Me in 2010, Hop in 2011, Despicable Me 2 in 2013, Pets in 2016, Despicable Me 3 in 2017, Pets 2 in 2019, Migration in 2023 and Despicable Me 4 in 2024) and there are some films that are films in this world (Lorax, The Grinch, Sing and Super Mario)
2024.05.18 19:39 noshika0127 mood rn
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2024.05.18 19:17 Pure-Energy-9120 Re-writing Deep Blue Sea.
If you're in the original ending camp, I think you'll agree. Deep Blue Sea is regarded as a cheap 90s popcorn film, but I read the script and discovered that they didn't just change the ending, they were forced to go back and cut so many elements in the story we didn't even notice, some of this extra deleted content wasn't included on the DVD or the 2010 Blu-Ray release of the film. I know these scenes were shot because there are stills floating around and some of this unseen content is in one of the TV spots. They cut so many scenes involving Susan McCallister (Saffron Burrows) after the ending was re-shot for the sole purpose of making you feel less sympathetic toward her so her death would feel less tragic and more deserved. They did this because the test audiences hated her, viewed her as the villain for causing the movie's conflict and felt that she deserved to die. They didn't have enough time to go back and re-shoot all of Susan's other scenes, which in my opinion would include changing her personality to make her more villainous or give her a more sinister motive. They just took the easy way out instead. I feel like the test audiences ruined her character and the story by killing her off. Just cutting half of her scenes to make you feel "Meh" toward her just made Susan a bland and uninteresting character opposed to what she was supposed to be. She was the main character and it was her story in a way. She was the only character with a story arc. I never saw her as a true villain because she never acted like one. She didn't have the motive of a villain. I know she screwed up and was the brainchild of the shark experiments but the deaths were all accidental and unintentional. She didn't want any of this to happen. The experiments with the sharks just went wrong, there wasn’t anything inherently malicious with her actions. She didn't know that a helicopter winch would break off causing Jim Whitlock (Stellan Skarsgard) to fall into the water for the shark to grab.
I would change this movie by adding in all of this deleted content that was cut from the theatrical version thanks to the test audiences negative reaction to Susan redeeming herself by killing her own creation. I want to add all deleted content, not just featured on the Blu-Ray, but featured in the script too.
I would add in one more detail about Susan's backstory aside from her dad dying from Alzheimer's and her mom dying in a car crash. In the script, it's revealed that Susan was the youngest scientist to win a MacArthur grant and had a brilliant mind. Show things from her perspective so the audience can understand her point of view and humanize her more.
I would also add in an explanation for why Carter Blake (Thomas Jane) ended up at Aquatica. In the script, it's revealed that Carter took the job because he needed work but stayed because he really liked Susan.
Elaborate a bit more about Russell Franklin (Samuel L. Jackson) and his avalanche backstory. Franklin was on a hike in the alps with a group when they were hit by an avalanche and resorted to killing and eating two in their group to survive.
In the scene where she threatens Carter about his job, the script notes she's embarrassed because of how it sounds and tries to soften things up with Carter in the next few lines when he walks off because he is upset with her. In the scene, you'll notice she turns back to him. They cut away before she delivers her next bit of lines, embarrassed about what she said in the heat of the moment. But in the script, Carter ignores her and won't answer so she turns and walks off embarrassed.
I would change the scene where the shark breaks the window with Jim Whitlock's corpse. I would have Susan, Carter, Franklin, Tom Scoggins (Michael Rapaport) and Janice Higgins (Jacqueline Mackenzie) start running to the door as soon as the glass starts cracking. It's better than just staring at the glass like idiots.
In the theatrical cut, Janice berates her for what happened to Jim. Even though Jim was equally responsible. But they actually made up before Janice was killed. Initially, Susan tries comforting her, but Janice rejects her because she blames Susan for everything. There's also another deleted scene where Janice is berating Susan and Susan tells Janice that Jim was her best friend. Janice asks "Really? When was his birthday and what did he like on his pizza?" Susan is a wreck and doesn't answer which makes you think Janice is correct while Susan is wrong. That made the deleted scenes because it made Susan look bad. But there was a scene that followed (which didn't make the deleted scenes). Janice is sitting by herself and Susan sneaks up and quietly says Jim's birthday, which takes Janice by surprise. Janice starts to cry and Susan names off Jim's favorite pizza toppings. Janice realizes Susan really did care about him and forgives her. Susan even gives her a heartfelt apology in a different scene. When Carter loses all hope on the ladder after Janice is eaten, you'll notice in the scene, Susan climbs over beside him. But there was actually dialogue that followed which was cut. She comforts Carter because he expresses guilt. He's also hopeless but she fills him with hope. And then Sherman Preacher Dudley (LL Cool J) shows up to save Susan, Carter and Scoggins, proving her optimism to be true. She even talks to Preacher about Janice and Jim, asking if he knew they were in love, after Janice's death while holding a picture of her. I appreciated this because, when your friends die, you aren't just going to move on like it's nothing. I know you can't drag the grief out in these films but little scenes like this make it so much more believable.
Establish Susan's relationship with Carter. She tells him she wants to take him up on that beer (which he offered at her birthday party) as she nurses his arm in the bathroom. In the theatrical cut, they cut away before she takes the gauze from him and starts wrapping his arm up. That's when the conversation gets deeper and personal between the two. Carter also talks to her about his time in prison. Carter served two years in prison for smuggling. I know it's implied he had a rough past, but I never knew it was prison. Before Carter and Scoggins leave for the control panels, Susan gives Carter a scuba knife for protection and Carter mocked her over the knife's size because it's small and won't work on a shark. But he keeps it in his leg strap. I would have Susan become a voice of reason in some scenes. In the script, she tries to talk Carter and Scoggins out of going to the control panels, warning them how dangerous it is and likely to fail... and she was correct, as Carter escaped after Scoggins was eaten.
Last but not least, I want to change the ending by adding in the original ending cause it's a much better ending. Preacher survives too. Everyone thinks he dies in the original ending for some reason but he still lives. The difference is, in the original ending, when he passes out after Susan nurses his leg, that's it. You don't see him again until the end. I prefer this because there's no way Preacher could have miraculously found the strength to hop up and save the day, as badly as he was wounded. Plus how did he know the plan? How was he able to also find the harpoon gun and battery he didn't even know existed and as quickly as he did at that? That's one of the reasons I hate the theatrical ending. In the original ending, Susan and Carter are looking at the ocean, admiring it's beauty, Susan expresses regret for what her actions caused, saying that all she wanted was to save people, not slaughter them. Carter realizes that the sharks were using them to flood the facility so it would sink and the sharks would escape out into open water and be free. Susan gave a monologue about how the shark can't escape because it will breed, take over the ocean and kill everyone and everything that it comes across. That's when Susan and Carter decide that they must kill it. While they're setting up the explosives, Carter tells Susan he learned how to rig explosives in prison. When Susan jumps into the water after cutting her hand, Carter rescues her unlike the theatrical ending where he gets there a second too late and she's eaten. In the original ending, he has her climb over him. She hops onto his shoulders and uses the other rungs to pull herself up. But she's not strong enough to pull Carter up despite her best efforts. Carter looks back at the shark, he lets go, falls into the water and rides the shark by clinging onto its fin. Susan climbs the tower and aims the harpoon at the shark. She fires and the harpoon hits the shark but penetrates Carter's leg. He yells at Susan to detonate the explosives, but she's hesitant because she knows it will kill him. When the cable is close to running out she realizes she has to do it. She blows the shark up. She has an emotional breakdown and starts crying believing she's killed Carter. Carter's head appears and she rushes over to pull him up. He reveals that he freed himself by using the scuba knife she gave him earlier, telling her that the knife came in handy after all. He teases her a bit about trying to blow him up and then they kiss. Susan, Carter and Preacher get on a raft and use it to leave Aquatica. While on the raft, Susan finds a bottle floating in the ocean, inside that bottle is a tape. It's the videotape Preacher made when he thought he was going to die. She gives the tape to Preacher since he lived. Then they see the next crew approaching on the boat.
And this is how I would fix Deep Blue Sea. I know people being picked off by sharks is more exciting, but there's nothing wrong with appreciating a good, deep story with more realistic and relatable characters from time to time too and I really believe this version was far superior to the theatrical cut. Plus, there's no way with this extra content, Carter and Preacher would have been able to carry on like she never existed. Carter would’ve been utterly gutted by Susan’s death as they grew close throughout the film. I mean, this was originally her story so naturally she should have lived alongside Carter and Preacher. The theatrical version sucked majorly compared to the original version. Thomas Jane and director Renny Harlin are both supporting the original ending petition. Hopefully Warner Bros will finally release all deleted content.
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I would change this movie by adding in all of this deleted content that was cut from the theatrical version thanks to the test audiences negative reaction to Susan redeeming herself by killing her own creation. I want to add all deleted content, not just featured on the Blu-Ray, but featured in the script too.
I would add in one more detail about Susan's backstory aside from her dad dying from Alzheimer's and her mom dying in a car crash. In the script, it's revealed that Susan was the youngest scientist to win a MacArthur grant and had a brilliant mind. Show things from her perspective so the audience can understand her point of view and humanize her more.
I would also add in an explanation for why Carter Blake (Thomas Jane) ended up at Aquatica. In the script, it's revealed that Carter took the job because he needed work but stayed because he really liked Susan.
Elaborate a bit more about Russell Franklin (Samuel L. Jackson) and his avalanche backstory. Franklin was on a hike in the alps with a group when they were hit by an avalanche and resorted to killing and eating two in their group to survive.
In the scene where she threatens Carter about his job, the script notes she's embarrassed because of how it sounds and tries to soften things up with Carter in the next few lines when he walks off because he is upset with her. In the scene, you'll notice she turns back to him. They cut away before she delivers her next bit of lines, embarrassed about what she said in the heat of the moment. But in the script, Carter ignores her and won't answer so she turns and walks off embarrassed.
I would change the scene where the shark breaks the window with Jim Whitlock's corpse. I would have Susan, Carter, Franklin, Tom Scoggins (Michael Rapaport) and Janice Higgins (Jacqueline Mackenzie) start running to the door as soon as the glass starts cracking. It's better than just staring at the glass like idiots.
In the theatrical cut, Janice berates her for what happened to Jim. Even though Jim was equally responsible. But they actually made up before Janice was killed. Initially, Susan tries comforting her, but Janice rejects her because she blames Susan for everything. There's also another deleted scene where Janice is berating Susan and Susan tells Janice that Jim was her best friend. Janice asks "Really? When was his birthday and what did he like on his pizza?" Susan is a wreck and doesn't answer which makes you think Janice is correct while Susan is wrong. That made the deleted scenes because it made Susan look bad. But there was a scene that followed (which didn't make the deleted scenes). Janice is sitting by herself and Susan sneaks up and quietly says Jim's birthday, which takes Janice by surprise. Janice starts to cry and Susan names off Jim's favorite pizza toppings. Janice realizes Susan really did care about him and forgives her. Susan even gives her a heartfelt apology in a different scene. When Carter loses all hope on the ladder after Janice is eaten, you'll notice in the scene, Susan climbs over beside him. But there was actually dialogue that followed which was cut. She comforts Carter because he expresses guilt. He's also hopeless but she fills him with hope. And then Sherman Preacher Dudley (LL Cool J) shows up to save Susan, Carter and Scoggins, proving her optimism to be true. She even talks to Preacher about Janice and Jim, asking if he knew they were in love, after Janice's death while holding a picture of her. I appreciated this because, when your friends die, you aren't just going to move on like it's nothing. I know you can't drag the grief out in these films but little scenes like this make it so much more believable.
Establish Susan's relationship with Carter. She tells him she wants to take him up on that beer (which he offered at her birthday party) as she nurses his arm in the bathroom. In the theatrical cut, they cut away before she takes the gauze from him and starts wrapping his arm up. That's when the conversation gets deeper and personal between the two. Carter also talks to her about his time in prison. Carter served two years in prison for smuggling. I know it's implied he had a rough past, but I never knew it was prison. Before Carter and Scoggins leave for the control panels, Susan gives Carter a scuba knife for protection and Carter mocked her over the knife's size because it's small and won't work on a shark. But he keeps it in his leg strap. I would have Susan become a voice of reason in some scenes. In the script, she tries to talk Carter and Scoggins out of going to the control panels, warning them how dangerous it is and likely to fail... and she was correct, as Carter escaped after Scoggins was eaten.
Last but not least, I want to change the ending by adding in the original ending cause it's a much better ending. Preacher survives too. Everyone thinks he dies in the original ending for some reason but he still lives. The difference is, in the original ending, when he passes out after Susan nurses his leg, that's it. You don't see him again until the end. I prefer this because there's no way Preacher could have miraculously found the strength to hop up and save the day, as badly as he was wounded. Plus how did he know the plan? How was he able to also find the harpoon gun and battery he didn't even know existed and as quickly as he did at that? That's one of the reasons I hate the theatrical ending. In the original ending, Susan and Carter are looking at the ocean, admiring it's beauty, Susan expresses regret for what her actions caused, saying that all she wanted was to save people, not slaughter them. Carter realizes that the sharks were using them to flood the facility so it would sink and the sharks would escape out into open water and be free. Susan gave a monologue about how the shark can't escape because it will breed, take over the ocean and kill everyone and everything that it comes across. That's when Susan and Carter decide that they must kill it. While they're setting up the explosives, Carter tells Susan he learned how to rig explosives in prison. When Susan jumps into the water after cutting her hand, Carter rescues her unlike the theatrical ending where he gets there a second too late and she's eaten. In the original ending, he has her climb over him. She hops onto his shoulders and uses the other rungs to pull herself up. But she's not strong enough to pull Carter up despite her best efforts. Carter looks back at the shark, he lets go, falls into the water and rides the shark by clinging onto its fin. Susan climbs the tower and aims the harpoon at the shark. She fires and the harpoon hits the shark but penetrates Carter's leg. He yells at Susan to detonate the explosives, but she's hesitant because she knows it will kill him. When the cable is close to running out she realizes she has to do it. She blows the shark up. She has an emotional breakdown and starts crying believing she's killed Carter. Carter's head appears and she rushes over to pull him up. He reveals that he freed himself by using the scuba knife she gave him earlier, telling her that the knife came in handy after all. He teases her a bit about trying to blow him up and then they kiss. Susan, Carter and Preacher get on a raft and use it to leave Aquatica. While on the raft, Susan finds a bottle floating in the ocean, inside that bottle is a tape. It's the videotape Preacher made when he thought he was going to die. She gives the tape to Preacher since he lived. Then they see the next crew approaching on the boat.
And this is how I would fix Deep Blue Sea. I know people being picked off by sharks is more exciting, but there's nothing wrong with appreciating a good, deep story with more realistic and relatable characters from time to time too and I really believe this version was far superior to the theatrical cut. Plus, there's no way with this extra content, Carter and Preacher would have been able to carry on like she never existed. Carter would’ve been utterly gutted by Susan’s death as they grew close throughout the film. I mean, this was originally her story so naturally she should have lived alongside Carter and Preacher. The theatrical version sucked majorly compared to the original version. Thomas Jane and director Renny Harlin are both supporting the original ending petition. Hopefully Warner Bros will finally release all deleted content.
2024.05.18 16:15 Shagrrotten FG Decades Tournament, the 2010’s: Round 1
Well here we are, FG, our first decades tournament, the 2010’s. Thank you to everyone who nominated movies, and let’s get right into it!
Results of Round 1
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Results of Round 1
- Spider-Man Into the Spider-Verse (2018) (9) beat 10 Cloverfield Lane (2016) (8) and Sorry to Bother You (2018) (6)
- Snowpiercer (2013) (11) beat 12 Years a Slave (2013) (7), and Spotlight (2015) (6)
- Skyfall (2012) (9) beat 127 Hours (2010) (8) and Spring Breakers (2012) (7)
- First Reformed (2017) (10) beat Skate Kitchen (2018) (3), and Steve Jobs (2015) (3)
- 1917 (2019) (9) beat Sing Street (2016) (6), and Stoker (2013) (6)
- Silence (2016) (14) beat 20th Century Women (2016) (4) and Stray Dogs (2013) (3)
- Sicario (2015) (17) beat Sunset (2017) (3) and 50/50 (2011) (3)
- Shutter Island (2010) (11) beat A Field in England (2013) (5), and Tabu (2012) (2)
- A Ghost Story (2017) (13) beat Short Term 12 (2013) (6), and Tehran Taboo (2017) (1)
- A Separation (2011) (7) tied with Shoplifters (2018) (7), and beat The Act of Killing (2012) (3)
- The American (2010) (8) beat A Silent Voice (2016) (2), and Shin Godzilla (2016) (2)
- The Assassin (2015) (11) beat Shame (2011) (7), and A Star is Born (2018) (5)
- Scott Pilgrim vs the World (2010) (11) beat Ad Astra (2019) (6), and The Avengers (2012) (4)
- The Babadook (2014) (10) beat All is Lost (2013) (7) and Rubber (2010) (4)
- Annihilation (2018) (15) beat Room (2015) (5), and The Babysitter (2017) (2)
- Roma (2018) (12) beat April and the Extraordinary World (2015) (4), and The Conjuring (2013) (3)
- The Big Short (2015) (7) beat Aquarius (2016) (5), and Right Now, Wrong Then (2015) (0)
- Arrival (2016) (16) beat Raw (2016) (3), and The Big Sick (2017) (1)
- Atomic Blonde (2017) (6) beat Rango (2011) (5) and The Captain (2017) (3)
- The Ballad of Buster Scruggs (2018) (8) beat Post Tenebras Lux (2012) (3), and Bait (2019) (1)
- Portrait of a Lady on Fire (2019) (10) beat Barbara (2012) (1), and The Counselor (2013) (1)
- The Death of Stalin (2017) (8) beat Popstar: Never Stop Never Stopping (2016) (6), and Beasts of No Nation (2015) (3)
- Birdman (2014) (7) tied Phoenix (2014) (7) and beat The Double (2013) (2)
- Black Swan (2010) (11) beat Phantom Thread (2017) (8), and The Drop (2014) (3)
- Blade Runner 2049 (2017) (11) beat The Florida Project (2017) (9), and The House That Jack Built (2018) (2)
- The Grand Budapest Hotel (2014) (15) beat Blindspotting (2018) (2), and Paddington 2 (2017) (1)
- Blue is the Warmest Color (2013) (7) beat Only Lovers Left Alive (2013) (6), and The Great Beauty (2013) (2)
- The Handmaiden (2016) (11) beat Bone Tomahawk (2015) (7), and Only God Forgives (2013) (4)
- Once Upon a Time....In Hollywood (2019) (15) beat The Hateful Eight (2015) (8), and Bridge of Spies (2015) (4)
- Boyhood (2014) (7) beat Once Upon a Time in Anatolia (2011) (5), and The Hollars (2016) (2)
- O.J. Made in America (2016) (10) beat Parasite (2019) (9), and Brooklyn (2015) (5)
- Nightcrawler (2014) (12) beat Burning (2018) (7), and The Hunger Games: Catching Fire (2013) (1)
- Nebraska (2013) (7) beat The Hunt (2012) (4), and Byzantium (2012) (4)
- Mysteries of Lisbon (2010) (4) beat Carlos (2010) (3), and The Imposter (2012) (2)
- Carol (2015) (12) beat The Irishman (2019) (6), and mother! (2017) (3)
- The Lighthouse (2019) (9) beat Moonrise Kingdom (2012) (8), and Cemetery of Splendour (2015) (4)
- Moonlight (2016) (9) beat The Killing of a Sacred Deer (2017) (5), and Chappie (2015) (3)
- Molly’s Game (2017) (8) beat Coherence (2013) (7), and Cloud Atlas (2012) (4)
- The Master (2012) (11) beat Mission Impossible: Fallout (2018) (6), and The Martian (2015) (5)
- Cold War (2018) (5) ties Meek's Cutoff (2010) (5), and beats The Missing Picture (2013) (2)
- The Nice Guys (2016) (14) beat Contagion (2011) (5), and Mary Poppins Returns (2018) (2)
- Margaret (2011) (9) beat The Place Beyond the Pines (2012) (6), and Creed (2015) (2)
- Dawn of the Planet of the Apes (2014) (8) tied with The Raid 2 (2014) (8), and beat Maps to the Stars (2014) (3)
- Drive (2011) (17) beat The Revenant (2015) (6), and Mandy (2018) (4)
- Django Unchained (2012) (11) beat The Salesman (2016) (3) and Made in Dagenham (2010) (2)
- Mad Max: Fury Road (2015) (9) beat Train to Busan (2016) (5), and Diamantino (2018) (1)
- Eighth Grade (2018) (5) beat Elle (2016) (4), and Long Way North (2015) (2)
- The Turin Horse (2011) (10) beat Logan (2017) (9), and El Camino: A Breaking Bad Movie (2019) (0)
- The Way Back (2010) (8) beat Locke (2013) (5), and The Tree of Life (2011) (4)
- Embrace of the Serpent (2015) (10) beat Little Women (2019) (6), and The Whispering Star (2015) (2)
- Enemy (2013) (6) tied with The Wind Rises (2013) (6) and beat Like Someone in Love (2012) (3)
- Life of Pi (2012) (9) beat The Witch (2015) (8), and Evangelion 3.0 You Can (Not) Redo (2012) (1)
- The Wolf of Wall Street (2013) (7) beat Leave No Trace (2018) (6) and Exit Through the Gift Shop (2010) (3)
- Ex Machina (2014) (9) beat Thoroughbreds (2017) (4), and Le Havre (2011) (3)
- Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, Missouri (2017) (13) beat Ladybird (2017) (9), and Extremely Wicked, Shockingly Evil and Vile (2019)
- La La Land (2016) (13) beat 13 Assassins (2010) (4), and White Boy Rick (2018) (1)
- The Social Network (2010) (11) Four Lions (2010) (5), and Kung Fu Panda 2 (2011) (2)
- Get Out (2017) (7) beat Two Days, One Night (2014) (5), and Konosuba Legend of Crimson (2019) (1)
- Uncle Boonmee Who Can Recall His Past Lives (2010) (7) beat Girlhood (2014) (4), and Klaus (2019) (1)
2024.05.18 16:03 ghhewh PO's new advert: A political attack on PiS or a serious discussion about Russian influence?
Let us start with the advert itself. Well, in form it is no different from the PiS adverts made by Kurski. Dramatic music, dramatic narration, dramatic frames, a few piles of skulls, a smiling Putin, Lukashenko and so on. It's obvious that the intention was to hammer the PiS = Russia equation into people's heads by appealing to the simplest of emotions, namely fear of a brutal superpower. Well, and it's a campaign ad, so of course the political opponent, i.e. PiS, is hit with a mace. Opinions differ. I am one of those who believe that this form will have the opposite effect to the one intended. In the safe electorate of PO it will probably be attractive. Everywhere else, it will cause embarrassment. As a result, many people will think that all this Russian influence is no real problem. Just another stage in the 20-year PO-PiS war. And I am not even talking about the so-called Jan Kowalski). This is exactly the tone in which professional pundits speak. It never ceases to amaze me, but what can I do, I have come to terms with the facts.
Well, it shouldn't be like that.
It has been argued that PiS has did a lot more and a lot worse over eight years. Yes, that is true. It has. And it would be nice if some pundits remembered that and didn't write silly things about how now, in May 2024, someone in Poland has called someone a traitor for the first time. Still, I guess we expected a more sophisticated rhetoric from the current government, didn't we? Because the problem of Russian influence is real and has been swept under the carpet as much as possible. And it needs to be dealt with in a calm, rational way.
That's right. Because apart from the form, there is also content in the ad. There is the statement that PiS "won the election with the help of illegally collected recordings from a Russian coal importer". Ok, here is the suggestion that PiS won ONLY because of this, which of course is not true. The 2015 victory, like any victory, was the result of many factors. Both the mistakes of the then PO-PSL coalition, the lies of PiS (Smolensk trutherism, refugee fearmongering, purported plans of privatising forests) and the poor result of the Left), which was missing a few tens of thousands of votes to enter the Sejm. Yes, this is manipulation, although we should also remember that we are talking about a 50-second election ad. Nevertheless, the base of this argument is as true as it can be. The recordings from the restaurant were commissioned by Marek Falenta, who imported Russian coal into Poland. The Russians were involved in this affair on several levels, to which I will return shortly. PiS obtained these recordings from Falenta, knowing that they had been obtained illegally and probably knowing that they were helping a Russian spy. PiS used them to help itself win the election. I'm sorry, but that's what happened.
It goes on to say that PiS increased imports of Russian coal. This is no secret either, the figures are public. In the last two years of the PO-PSL coalition, 6.5 and 4.9 million tonnes were imported from there. In the first years of the PiS government, these figures rose to 5.2, 8.6 and 13.1 million respectively, after which they began to fall. In 2019-2020, they reached a similar volume as in 2010-2011, i.e. with the PO-PSL government. Of course, this is manipulative, because to get a complete picture one would have to give the total volumes for eight years (and these are similar), while the sheer fact of the sudden increase in Russian coal imports after 2015 is undeniable.
It continued: 'Cases indicating the growing influence of Belarusian and Russian agencies have been swept under the carpet.
Excuse me, but weren't they? If it is possible to point to a constant, unchanging part of this issue during the eight years of the PiS government, it is the pattern, which has always been the same. Investigative journalists uncover some Russian influence on people close to the ruling party, some (let's be clear: some) media write about it, some of us are outraged, and then nothing happens. Little has been done about the Russian infiltration of circles opposing the government, see the Confederation, the anti-establisment and anti-vaccine movements and so on. The question 'where are the agencies' has even been asked so many times in pro-democratic social media that I could print these comments and cover my walls with them. Sorry, but that's how it was. I don't know if it gets any better, but that's the way it was.
Furthermore, 'they blocked investment in the expansion of the Polish army'.
If I were PO, I would stay away from this argument. Yes, PiS blocked the purchase of Caracal helicopters, and during Macierewicz's time as defense minister, the army sometimes even lacked uniforms. But all this is irrelevant today, given that after the Russian invasion of Ukraine the PiS government has expanded the Polish military a lot. This argument would make sense in 2019. In 2024 it does not. I note, however, that it was not as various PiS propagndists now portray it that they took power and immediately turned Poland into a military superpower. In fact, little was done in this direction for the first six years.
It continues: 'Thanks to the support and involvement of PiS politicians, Tomasz Szmydt, until recently a judge and in fact a spy who fled to Belarus, has made a dizzying career.
I don't know what could be controversial here? Probably just the clear naming of Szmydt as a spy. Actually, we don't know 100% what his role was, but ok, it fits into the convention of a campaign ad. On the other hand, the statement that Szmydt had a career on the side of PiS is, well, I'm very sorry, but: true.
Finally, there is a passage in which Tusk compares the United Right) to the communist ruling party PZPR, which was once deciphered as 'paid traitors, lackeys of Russia' (Płatni zdrajcy, pachołki Rosji) . It's all part of the political shit throwing. To make it stick, the PiS logo is turned upside down, and turns into the Russian coat of arms is. This is how the advert ends.
We have discussed the ad itself, but it has sparked a discussion about Russian influence in Poland. There is no shortage of voices saying that it is absurd to call PiS a 'pro-Russian party', because the PiS government has given a lot of military equipment to Ukraine, including priceless tanks, in considerable numbers. Let me perhaps clarify a few things.
It is necessary to specify what is meant by 'pro-Russian party'. Is PiS a party that openly says that Russia is great? No. Has Kaczyński ever said that he copied his policies from Russia? No. Has he openly sided with Russia against the West? Again, no.
But was Kaczyński saying much the same thing about the West that the Kremlin has been saying for years? Yes, he was. Did Kaczyński create a political crisis in relations with almost all of Poland's Western allies as soon as he took power? Yes, he did. Did he introduce a series of anti-democratic laws in Poland that resembled Russian solutions, albeit in a softer version? Yes. Did Kaczyński plan and promote a war with the EU institutions that ultimately led to an unprecedented freeze of EU subsidies to Poland? Yes. Did he speak the language of polexit? Yes, he did. Does all this fit into Russia's strategy of dismantling Western structures? Absolutely.
So perhaps a more appropriate word than 'pro-Russian' would be 'Russifying'? Or a little longer: 'often strongly pursuing the Kremlin's geopolitical interests, sharing the Kremlin's view of Europe and European values, as the Kremlin is fiercely anti-Western, though likely to see itself as very anti-Russian'?
Earlier I mentioned the tape scandal and the involvement of the Russians in it. Although it seems unlikely, some pundits have managed to dismiss this fact because it does not fit in with the fact that PiS supplied arms to Ukraine. Well, they say, if PiS is supposedly so pro-Russian that the Russians helped it come to power, how do you explain the aid? Well, first of all, its proponents forget something as trivial as chronology. When the people linked to the Russians were setting up the background to the tape scandal, there was no war. It was 2010-2012, and the first wiretap was set up in the spring of 2013. There was no Euromaidan, no rebellion in Donbas, no annexation of Crimea. No one could have predicted how PiS would behave in 2022, because no one expected anything unusual to happen in 2022.
On the other hand, it was foreseeable that PiS would be an anti-Western party. That it would be a party that would confront the EU and its individual members. That PiS would say similar things about the EU as Russia, as PiS had been saying for years, and that it would ally with far-right circles that said so even more. That it would make a mess in the intelligence agencies, just like in 2006. And now let's look at the chronology. In 2013, the first bugs were set up. In June 2014, a scandal erupts, the media repeats all these vulgar quotes for months, which kills off PO's chances in the 2015 elections. In the autumn of 2015, PiS takes power and almost immediately: breaks into the NATO counterintelligence expert centre, abolishes the ABW field delegations, removes almost everyone from the agencies and fills them with newcomers with no experience (just like in 2006), makes Macierewicz the head of the Ministry of Defence with all his Russian connections, which Macierewicz immediately turns into a landing spot for people with Russian connections (such as Gaj and Kownacki), supports the pro-Russian think tank Ordo Iuris and immediately initiates an anti-Western civilisational turn. In this context, should we be so surprised that the Russians might have preferred the PiS in power?
All this happens six years before any tanks are handed over to Ukraine. I know, shocker, history didn't start in the spring of 2022.
Well, and now PO is releasing that ad. And some people say: oh dear, now PiS is going to accuse PO of being pro-Russian and the PO is going to accuse PiS of being pro-Russian, It's unbearable, so let's pretend it's not happening. I won't hide it, it's tiresome. But it would be nice if, as a species, a rational species, we could sometimes look beyond the political insults and focus on the evidence. And there really is a lot of it. The fact that the advert presents the case in this way does not change the fact that the situation is extremely serious.
It has been argued that PO's ad is setting the European Parliament campaign entirely on the Russia-EU divide. This is true, but there is a nuance. Leaving aside the clumsy form and the manipulation I explained above... isn't it the case that it was PiS that just took part in no less than three summits of European and American eurosceptics, Trumpists and Putin lovers, where it was explicitly said that this is the election in which it would be decided whether Europe would return to 'normality', traditional values, Christian roots and a 'Europe of homelands', or be swallowed up forever by the woke behemoth? Needless to say, this is a narrative very similar to the one the Kremlin has been using for years?
In short, what we need now is a serious debate about Russian and Belarusian influence in Poland. A debate that has been sorely lacking in recent years. This debate will inevitably become part of a political conflict. It will not be avoided because we are also talking about the influence of top politicians (not only from the PiS, by the way). All the more reason to be careful. The PO ad is a campaign ad, so it has a different convention. Nevertheless, in my opinion, it does the opposite. It reduces a real problem to a political trend. We can only hope that this is just a stupid idea of a few PR excecs and not part of a strategy that will last for years. The recent actions of the ABW and the fact that Donald Tusk has announced the appointment of a commission of experts to investigate these influences allow for some cautious optimism on this issue. Time will tell, of course.
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Well, it shouldn't be like that.
It has been argued that PiS has did a lot more and a lot worse over eight years. Yes, that is true. It has. And it would be nice if some pundits remembered that and didn't write silly things about how now, in May 2024, someone in Poland has called someone a traitor for the first time. Still, I guess we expected a more sophisticated rhetoric from the current government, didn't we? Because the problem of Russian influence is real and has been swept under the carpet as much as possible. And it needs to be dealt with in a calm, rational way.
That's right. Because apart from the form, there is also content in the ad. There is the statement that PiS "won the election with the help of illegally collected recordings from a Russian coal importer". Ok, here is the suggestion that PiS won ONLY because of this, which of course is not true. The 2015 victory, like any victory, was the result of many factors. Both the mistakes of the then PO-PSL coalition, the lies of PiS (Smolensk trutherism, refugee fearmongering, purported plans of privatising forests) and the poor result of the Left), which was missing a few tens of thousands of votes to enter the Sejm. Yes, this is manipulation, although we should also remember that we are talking about a 50-second election ad. Nevertheless, the base of this argument is as true as it can be. The recordings from the restaurant were commissioned by Marek Falenta, who imported Russian coal into Poland. The Russians were involved in this affair on several levels, to which I will return shortly. PiS obtained these recordings from Falenta, knowing that they had been obtained illegally and probably knowing that they were helping a Russian spy. PiS used them to help itself win the election. I'm sorry, but that's what happened.
It goes on to say that PiS increased imports of Russian coal. This is no secret either, the figures are public. In the last two years of the PO-PSL coalition, 6.5 and 4.9 million tonnes were imported from there. In the first years of the PiS government, these figures rose to 5.2, 8.6 and 13.1 million respectively, after which they began to fall. In 2019-2020, they reached a similar volume as in 2010-2011, i.e. with the PO-PSL government. Of course, this is manipulative, because to get a complete picture one would have to give the total volumes for eight years (and these are similar), while the sheer fact of the sudden increase in Russian coal imports after 2015 is undeniable.
It continued: 'Cases indicating the growing influence of Belarusian and Russian agencies have been swept under the carpet.
Excuse me, but weren't they? If it is possible to point to a constant, unchanging part of this issue during the eight years of the PiS government, it is the pattern, which has always been the same. Investigative journalists uncover some Russian influence on people close to the ruling party, some (let's be clear: some) media write about it, some of us are outraged, and then nothing happens. Little has been done about the Russian infiltration of circles opposing the government, see the Confederation, the anti-establisment and anti-vaccine movements and so on. The question 'where are the agencies' has even been asked so many times in pro-democratic social media that I could print these comments and cover my walls with them. Sorry, but that's how it was. I don't know if it gets any better, but that's the way it was.
Furthermore, 'they blocked investment in the expansion of the Polish army'.
If I were PO, I would stay away from this argument. Yes, PiS blocked the purchase of Caracal helicopters, and during Macierewicz's time as defense minister, the army sometimes even lacked uniforms. But all this is irrelevant today, given that after the Russian invasion of Ukraine the PiS government has expanded the Polish military a lot. This argument would make sense in 2019. In 2024 it does not. I note, however, that it was not as various PiS propagndists now portray it that they took power and immediately turned Poland into a military superpower. In fact, little was done in this direction for the first six years.
It continues: 'Thanks to the support and involvement of PiS politicians, Tomasz Szmydt, until recently a judge and in fact a spy who fled to Belarus, has made a dizzying career.
I don't know what could be controversial here? Probably just the clear naming of Szmydt as a spy. Actually, we don't know 100% what his role was, but ok, it fits into the convention of a campaign ad. On the other hand, the statement that Szmydt had a career on the side of PiS is, well, I'm very sorry, but: true.
Finally, there is a passage in which Tusk compares the United Right) to the communist ruling party PZPR, which was once deciphered as 'paid traitors, lackeys of Russia' (Płatni zdrajcy, pachołki Rosji) . It's all part of the political shit throwing. To make it stick, the PiS logo is turned upside down, and turns into the Russian coat of arms is. This is how the advert ends.
We have discussed the ad itself, but it has sparked a discussion about Russian influence in Poland. There is no shortage of voices saying that it is absurd to call PiS a 'pro-Russian party', because the PiS government has given a lot of military equipment to Ukraine, including priceless tanks, in considerable numbers. Let me perhaps clarify a few things.
It is necessary to specify what is meant by 'pro-Russian party'. Is PiS a party that openly says that Russia is great? No. Has Kaczyński ever said that he copied his policies from Russia? No. Has he openly sided with Russia against the West? Again, no.
But was Kaczyński saying much the same thing about the West that the Kremlin has been saying for years? Yes, he was. Did Kaczyński create a political crisis in relations with almost all of Poland's Western allies as soon as he took power? Yes, he did. Did he introduce a series of anti-democratic laws in Poland that resembled Russian solutions, albeit in a softer version? Yes. Did Kaczyński plan and promote a war with the EU institutions that ultimately led to an unprecedented freeze of EU subsidies to Poland? Yes. Did he speak the language of polexit? Yes, he did. Does all this fit into Russia's strategy of dismantling Western structures? Absolutely.
So perhaps a more appropriate word than 'pro-Russian' would be 'Russifying'? Or a little longer: 'often strongly pursuing the Kremlin's geopolitical interests, sharing the Kremlin's view of Europe and European values, as the Kremlin is fiercely anti-Western, though likely to see itself as very anti-Russian'?
Earlier I mentioned the tape scandal and the involvement of the Russians in it. Although it seems unlikely, some pundits have managed to dismiss this fact because it does not fit in with the fact that PiS supplied arms to Ukraine. Well, they say, if PiS is supposedly so pro-Russian that the Russians helped it come to power, how do you explain the aid? Well, first of all, its proponents forget something as trivial as chronology. When the people linked to the Russians were setting up the background to the tape scandal, there was no war. It was 2010-2012, and the first wiretap was set up in the spring of 2013. There was no Euromaidan, no rebellion in Donbas, no annexation of Crimea. No one could have predicted how PiS would behave in 2022, because no one expected anything unusual to happen in 2022.
On the other hand, it was foreseeable that PiS would be an anti-Western party. That it would be a party that would confront the EU and its individual members. That PiS would say similar things about the EU as Russia, as PiS had been saying for years, and that it would ally with far-right circles that said so even more. That it would make a mess in the intelligence agencies, just like in 2006. And now let's look at the chronology. In 2013, the first bugs were set up. In June 2014, a scandal erupts, the media repeats all these vulgar quotes for months, which kills off PO's chances in the 2015 elections. In the autumn of 2015, PiS takes power and almost immediately: breaks into the NATO counterintelligence expert centre, abolishes the ABW field delegations, removes almost everyone from the agencies and fills them with newcomers with no experience (just like in 2006), makes Macierewicz the head of the Ministry of Defence with all his Russian connections, which Macierewicz immediately turns into a landing spot for people with Russian connections (such as Gaj and Kownacki), supports the pro-Russian think tank Ordo Iuris and immediately initiates an anti-Western civilisational turn. In this context, should we be so surprised that the Russians might have preferred the PiS in power?
All this happens six years before any tanks are handed over to Ukraine. I know, shocker, history didn't start in the spring of 2022.
Well, and now PO is releasing that ad. And some people say: oh dear, now PiS is going to accuse PO of being pro-Russian and the PO is going to accuse PiS of being pro-Russian, It's unbearable, so let's pretend it's not happening. I won't hide it, it's tiresome. But it would be nice if, as a species, a rational species, we could sometimes look beyond the political insults and focus on the evidence. And there really is a lot of it. The fact that the advert presents the case in this way does not change the fact that the situation is extremely serious.
It has been argued that PO's ad is setting the European Parliament campaign entirely on the Russia-EU divide. This is true, but there is a nuance. Leaving aside the clumsy form and the manipulation I explained above... isn't it the case that it was PiS that just took part in no less than three summits of European and American eurosceptics, Trumpists and Putin lovers, where it was explicitly said that this is the election in which it would be decided whether Europe would return to 'normality', traditional values, Christian roots and a 'Europe of homelands', or be swallowed up forever by the woke behemoth? Needless to say, this is a narrative very similar to the one the Kremlin has been using for years?
In short, what we need now is a serious debate about Russian and Belarusian influence in Poland. A debate that has been sorely lacking in recent years. This debate will inevitably become part of a political conflict. It will not be avoided because we are also talking about the influence of top politicians (not only from the PiS, by the way). All the more reason to be careful. The PO ad is a campaign ad, so it has a different convention. Nevertheless, in my opinion, it does the opposite. It reduces a real problem to a political trend. We can only hope that this is just a stupid idea of a few PR excecs and not part of a strategy that will last for years. The recent actions of the ABW and the fact that Donald Tusk has announced the appointment of a commission of experts to investigate these influences allow for some cautious optimism on this issue. Time will tell, of course.
2024.05.18 14:42 Late-Law7437 Child Support and paternity fraud
Where do I begin. For the purpose of this post, I will use fictious names and locations as it is ongoing, and out of respect (even though she doesn't deserve any)
My name is Daniel. I am 35 years old, and i am dying. I have a disease called systemic sclerosis. I am currently on a supplemental disability plan, until I get approved for SSI (social Security). Until then, my income is about 4K a month. I own a home but after child support and bills, NOT INCLUDING gas, food, haircuts, medical appointments, and or emergencies like my fridge just broke. (which i never go out) I am left with $260 that has to last me a month. I also have three children who I have to take care of half the time per the 50/50 agreement.
Recently, I found out my oldest, (who is 13) is not biologically mine. I decided to look into it as I had concerns for a while since my divorce as her cheating was very rampant. I also had caught her in 2017 with a man in my house, which is what prompted the divorce. But FL being a no fault state, doesn't matter. I also had to pay child support since the beginning and WHILE LEGALLY Married since 2010 because she had applied for financial support like food stamps and government assistance then. I know what your thinking. Why didnt you stop it then? I tried. You cant take yourself off child support. I also never grew up with a father and wanted that two-parent household. I don't run from responsibilities, like he did. Its how I was raised. Anyways, I married her, tried to do the right thing, she lied numerous times. she never worked, and I worked 90 plus hours a week. To look into her cheating, was impossible at the time as I was never home. and to busy providing for my family.
fast forward to now. My disease started to become worse and over three years; it didn't reveal itself until last year fully to actually pinpoint what this was. for instance, I had in 2019 pain behind my eyes and horrible headaches to the point that I thought I had MS. following year, I had trouble swallowing for 3 months. next year itching in the skin for three months. But prior, I had visited various doctors to see what was going on, each time a flare up then would last 3 to four months, which again, when you don't understand what's going on, you need to take time off to go see doctors, run tests, but this illness was and still is very elusive. with that being said I had 5 jobs since its first flare up till last year to continue to support my family and to pay child support. as of last year. I'm having trouble moving on certain days, breathing and acid reflux and muscle atrophy. (disease progression) especially when this is going on, it worsens everything as this is flared up. I was working under the table to try and make ends meet as I was paying child support still. I should add that the child support with 50/50 custody was $1029 for three kids cause I was making six figures at the time of divorce in 2018. Last year however, I couldn't work anymore, and filed for disability.
In june of last year, I had asked Susan, to get the children school supplies, (which she never does) as I was still paying at the time $1029 in child support. She said she didnt have the money despite now making 70k and her new BF living with her and is working whom she cheated on me with. With me working under the table, I bought them clothes, haircuts, school supplies (ive done every year) but then, I noticed she went on vacation to puerto rico and got a giant leg tattoo. At the time, I had already known what I had, and I asked myself why the heck am I doing this? So i turned to an attorney to get it modified. Again, this is June 20th to be exact of last year. My lawyer, stated that this was only going to be a 90 day turn around for the temporary modification then we will go for the final.
Since then, I have gone for a DNA test. I had to know. I am dying. I wanted to know. And you may judge me for this. but i have filed for disablement for paternity, meaning I am removing myself from the birth certificate. However, in the state of Florida, a mother can deny this and so can the courts. before you judge me, I have many reasons none of which have to do with him other then his mental disability (Aspergers) This illness, as days go by takes more and more from me. As previously aforementioned, I am left with 250 a month. I cannot go get a drs appointment pay for groceries or start planning my funeral which I will start making payments on soon. He also eats three times the amount that we all collectively do (Not his fault) but I have paid enough both mentally and financially. He also has trouble communicating as my suspicions is, that he was born of incest (gross) which is why I was 'chosen' to be his father at the time. Before you ask how do you know? Lets just say she had an uncle 'leave' during that time.
anyways, in February, I had the temporary modification hearing for child support and needless to say it was a circus. My doctor was subpoenaed to be there by my attorneys request to better my argument, even though I felt we didn't need her, she advised me to have my doctor there. Well, he attorney attacked my doctor and me for an hour and 40 mins when the court case was only supposed to go for an hour. He said "you saw another dr Max so and so and they said it was all in your head" (again I had flare ups on a illness that hadnt revealed itself correctly since last year). So there argument was that I was doctor seeking to avoid child support. After I have paid for 13 years never missing a payment. Her lawyer also targeted people who are living with me. Now I'll admit that I said they were friends which is true but how else can I pay for my attorney? Cant work, cant sell drugs, cant rob a bank? So they want to take there income into consideration. BS. She also hired a private investigator to watch me exercise outside and stated that because I can exercise, I can work..... Ok. Where's the 23 hours of the rest of the day watching me in pain. or when do you have me on video of a flare up from this terminal illness? (that's what I wanted to say)
Although I was granted the temporary modification, of $209, I left the court thinking wow, this woman can cheat, commit paternity fraud, not give two craps about our children, live with her mom in a section 8 home, and here I am doing whatever I can and I've done nothing wrong but be lied to and this is how my government, my country treats me? No wonder men my age dont have children this is insane. The paternity issue wasn't even brought up they said that this isnt the place for this and that the disestablishment will be another trial for those wondering. My lawyer only spoke for 5 mins. Asking her about her income cause thats the only thing that has changed since 2018 since she didnt work at the time. Other than that, it was an attack on me and my disease arguing my ability to work.
after leaving that, I didnt eat for 96 hours. I have since been crying nonstop. Compilating suicide. I am already heart broken about my son not being mine. Sure does a terminal illness make me said, no question everyday. But a life wasted on another? Cause I decided to be a man and take up responsibility? thats soul crushing. And to say "well, there is a big chance the courts will deny your request' thats BS. If i go to prison because I was accused of a robbery for 13 years, and DNA evidence proves I wasnt there, I get out of jail and can sue. This is no different. If anything, DNA evidence needs to be more of a factor in family law than in almost every court of law if not as equally important. My bad for not investigating her infidelity not only in the beginning but also in the end. How about not being a POS. sorry rant over
gets better. Her mom and dad smoke in the section 8 house, kids reek of cigarette smoke and marijuana, all day. they dont take showers there, they were hand me down clothes, they live in the garage shared with there mother, that isn't air conditioned. and he makes only a few thousand less than I do a month. She stated in court that she pays her mom $500 in rent which is BS, she is only doing that now so that she makes herself look bad. I know she is doing pills, like oxy and what not. Id love to prove it.
after the temp hearing, in april, I had to go to court to contest my drivers license suspension as I hadn't paid child support since, august of last year. again, there is no way, I can pay my bills, feed my children, go to the doctor, pay my lawyer to end all of this BS and pay the current child support amount. and again, this final hearing is still not set yet. So they intercepted my tax return, even though the temporary modification was approved, the final is what gets it retro backed to the date of filing, so they took, a much needed 5500 tax return from me. I needed that cause one of the issues I failed to mention as well, hurricane Ian has destroyed my home and I'm still going through that process too. not to mention I am on payment plans with Mayo clinic and other various medical facilities. (no one cares) but the interest that accrues, makes it impossible to catch up. also, Florida department of rev is overstepping I feel, and asking for medical info to be sent to them as well as updated doctors letters to be sent saying that I am still on disability.
a few weeks ago, I got an email from my lawyer having a withdrawal notice from her lawyer. in the withdrawal, he stated that he cannot represent her, due to something she may have withheld or lied about (more or less wasn't worded like that but you can tell). In feb court appearance they never produced the PI report, or videos, they had medical info they shouldn't have had, and they had very outlandish comments about my lifestyle. So my lawyer filed immediately a motion to compel. meaning, we want to see everything you have on my client. this was filed almost immediately after court appearance on feb 20th. Susan has failed to provide any updated info requested by my attorney so on june 18th, we have that upcoming hearing.
in the mean time, I have sent my lawyer, a very heavily requested topics, such as "where did they get my medical records, if those were lies, what are the consequences if any"? What did exercising have to do with any of this despite various drs saying he has to or he will get worse.
I know wat you must be thinking, what about your oldest, how can you do that to him. Please listen. This woman has taken everything from me. And i mean everything but the roof over my head. I am seeing a therapist to help with the suicidal thoughts. it isnt enough. the reality of it is, I chose to be loyal and it bit me in the butt. This disease will rob me of everything, my teeth will fall out ( I had 5 cavities last time I went to the dentist) I haven't had a cavity since I was 30 and even then I was suspicious. And I am brushing 5 time s a day to save them. My skin is tightening, and my arms and muscles are wasting. I will literally be left with nothing. My organs will also start to harden, and I will have to start getting around the clock care.
I forgot to mention they (child support) recently, sent a letter to SSI (social security) saying that they would garnish my SSI before I even got it, totaling $1029. the incorrect amount. I sent this to my lawyer and she is looking into it. But it shows that child support will overstep and breaks every law or freedom you may think you have. I DO take care of my children. if they need a haircut i do it, school supplies clothes, anything I do it. And I do it, cause she wont. What I want to leave you with, is that woman can be dead beats too. Child support was designed to have woman off of government subsidized programs like section 8 food stamps and what not. Also to make the man pay for their children man or woman I should say, I know this. I am not running from my obligation. I just want Susan, to have to pay for what's she's done to me and the kids.
I would like to hear your thoughts on this, please comment and share, all names are fake, but everything else is unfortunately real. I know it was wordy, but I wanted to provide as much backstory as possible. And please. Respect my descions. When you are end of life, I hope someone would be kind enough to respect yours. You may not agree and that's ok, but I am asking you to respect them. Thank you for reading.
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My name is Daniel. I am 35 years old, and i am dying. I have a disease called systemic sclerosis. I am currently on a supplemental disability plan, until I get approved for SSI (social Security). Until then, my income is about 4K a month. I own a home but after child support and bills, NOT INCLUDING gas, food, haircuts, medical appointments, and or emergencies like my fridge just broke. (which i never go out) I am left with $260 that has to last me a month. I also have three children who I have to take care of half the time per the 50/50 agreement.
Recently, I found out my oldest, (who is 13) is not biologically mine. I decided to look into it as I had concerns for a while since my divorce as her cheating was very rampant. I also had caught her in 2017 with a man in my house, which is what prompted the divorce. But FL being a no fault state, doesn't matter. I also had to pay child support since the beginning and WHILE LEGALLY Married since 2010 because she had applied for financial support like food stamps and government assistance then. I know what your thinking. Why didnt you stop it then? I tried. You cant take yourself off child support. I also never grew up with a father and wanted that two-parent household. I don't run from responsibilities, like he did. Its how I was raised. Anyways, I married her, tried to do the right thing, she lied numerous times. she never worked, and I worked 90 plus hours a week. To look into her cheating, was impossible at the time as I was never home. and to busy providing for my family.
fast forward to now. My disease started to become worse and over three years; it didn't reveal itself until last year fully to actually pinpoint what this was. for instance, I had in 2019 pain behind my eyes and horrible headaches to the point that I thought I had MS. following year, I had trouble swallowing for 3 months. next year itching in the skin for three months. But prior, I had visited various doctors to see what was going on, each time a flare up then would last 3 to four months, which again, when you don't understand what's going on, you need to take time off to go see doctors, run tests, but this illness was and still is very elusive. with that being said I had 5 jobs since its first flare up till last year to continue to support my family and to pay child support. as of last year. I'm having trouble moving on certain days, breathing and acid reflux and muscle atrophy. (disease progression) especially when this is going on, it worsens everything as this is flared up. I was working under the table to try and make ends meet as I was paying child support still. I should add that the child support with 50/50 custody was $1029 for three kids cause I was making six figures at the time of divorce in 2018. Last year however, I couldn't work anymore, and filed for disability.
In june of last year, I had asked Susan, to get the children school supplies, (which she never does) as I was still paying at the time $1029 in child support. She said she didnt have the money despite now making 70k and her new BF living with her and is working whom she cheated on me with. With me working under the table, I bought them clothes, haircuts, school supplies (ive done every year) but then, I noticed she went on vacation to puerto rico and got a giant leg tattoo. At the time, I had already known what I had, and I asked myself why the heck am I doing this? So i turned to an attorney to get it modified. Again, this is June 20th to be exact of last year. My lawyer, stated that this was only going to be a 90 day turn around for the temporary modification then we will go for the final.
Since then, I have gone for a DNA test. I had to know. I am dying. I wanted to know. And you may judge me for this. but i have filed for disablement for paternity, meaning I am removing myself from the birth certificate. However, in the state of Florida, a mother can deny this and so can the courts. before you judge me, I have many reasons none of which have to do with him other then his mental disability (Aspergers) This illness, as days go by takes more and more from me. As previously aforementioned, I am left with 250 a month. I cannot go get a drs appointment pay for groceries or start planning my funeral which I will start making payments on soon. He also eats three times the amount that we all collectively do (Not his fault) but I have paid enough both mentally and financially. He also has trouble communicating as my suspicions is, that he was born of incest (gross) which is why I was 'chosen' to be his father at the time. Before you ask how do you know? Lets just say she had an uncle 'leave' during that time.
anyways, in February, I had the temporary modification hearing for child support and needless to say it was a circus. My doctor was subpoenaed to be there by my attorneys request to better my argument, even though I felt we didn't need her, she advised me to have my doctor there. Well, he attorney attacked my doctor and me for an hour and 40 mins when the court case was only supposed to go for an hour. He said "you saw another dr Max so and so and they said it was all in your head" (again I had flare ups on a illness that hadnt revealed itself correctly since last year). So there argument was that I was doctor seeking to avoid child support. After I have paid for 13 years never missing a payment. Her lawyer also targeted people who are living with me. Now I'll admit that I said they were friends which is true but how else can I pay for my attorney? Cant work, cant sell drugs, cant rob a bank? So they want to take there income into consideration. BS. She also hired a private investigator to watch me exercise outside and stated that because I can exercise, I can work..... Ok. Where's the 23 hours of the rest of the day watching me in pain. or when do you have me on video of a flare up from this terminal illness? (that's what I wanted to say)
Although I was granted the temporary modification, of $209, I left the court thinking wow, this woman can cheat, commit paternity fraud, not give two craps about our children, live with her mom in a section 8 home, and here I am doing whatever I can and I've done nothing wrong but be lied to and this is how my government, my country treats me? No wonder men my age dont have children this is insane. The paternity issue wasn't even brought up they said that this isnt the place for this and that the disestablishment will be another trial for those wondering. My lawyer only spoke for 5 mins. Asking her about her income cause thats the only thing that has changed since 2018 since she didnt work at the time. Other than that, it was an attack on me and my disease arguing my ability to work.
after leaving that, I didnt eat for 96 hours. I have since been crying nonstop. Compilating suicide. I am already heart broken about my son not being mine. Sure does a terminal illness make me said, no question everyday. But a life wasted on another? Cause I decided to be a man and take up responsibility? thats soul crushing. And to say "well, there is a big chance the courts will deny your request' thats BS. If i go to prison because I was accused of a robbery for 13 years, and DNA evidence proves I wasnt there, I get out of jail and can sue. This is no different. If anything, DNA evidence needs to be more of a factor in family law than in almost every court of law if not as equally important. My bad for not investigating her infidelity not only in the beginning but also in the end. How about not being a POS. sorry rant over
gets better. Her mom and dad smoke in the section 8 house, kids reek of cigarette smoke and marijuana, all day. they dont take showers there, they were hand me down clothes, they live in the garage shared with there mother, that isn't air conditioned. and he makes only a few thousand less than I do a month. She stated in court that she pays her mom $500 in rent which is BS, she is only doing that now so that she makes herself look bad. I know she is doing pills, like oxy and what not. Id love to prove it.
after the temp hearing, in april, I had to go to court to contest my drivers license suspension as I hadn't paid child support since, august of last year. again, there is no way, I can pay my bills, feed my children, go to the doctor, pay my lawyer to end all of this BS and pay the current child support amount. and again, this final hearing is still not set yet. So they intercepted my tax return, even though the temporary modification was approved, the final is what gets it retro backed to the date of filing, so they took, a much needed 5500 tax return from me. I needed that cause one of the issues I failed to mention as well, hurricane Ian has destroyed my home and I'm still going through that process too. not to mention I am on payment plans with Mayo clinic and other various medical facilities. (no one cares) but the interest that accrues, makes it impossible to catch up. also, Florida department of rev is overstepping I feel, and asking for medical info to be sent to them as well as updated doctors letters to be sent saying that I am still on disability.
a few weeks ago, I got an email from my lawyer having a withdrawal notice from her lawyer. in the withdrawal, he stated that he cannot represent her, due to something she may have withheld or lied about (more or less wasn't worded like that but you can tell). In feb court appearance they never produced the PI report, or videos, they had medical info they shouldn't have had, and they had very outlandish comments about my lifestyle. So my lawyer filed immediately a motion to compel. meaning, we want to see everything you have on my client. this was filed almost immediately after court appearance on feb 20th. Susan has failed to provide any updated info requested by my attorney so on june 18th, we have that upcoming hearing.
in the mean time, I have sent my lawyer, a very heavily requested topics, such as "where did they get my medical records, if those were lies, what are the consequences if any"? What did exercising have to do with any of this despite various drs saying he has to or he will get worse.
I know wat you must be thinking, what about your oldest, how can you do that to him. Please listen. This woman has taken everything from me. And i mean everything but the roof over my head. I am seeing a therapist to help with the suicidal thoughts. it isnt enough. the reality of it is, I chose to be loyal and it bit me in the butt. This disease will rob me of everything, my teeth will fall out ( I had 5 cavities last time I went to the dentist) I haven't had a cavity since I was 30 and even then I was suspicious. And I am brushing 5 time s a day to save them. My skin is tightening, and my arms and muscles are wasting. I will literally be left with nothing. My organs will also start to harden, and I will have to start getting around the clock care.
I forgot to mention they (child support) recently, sent a letter to SSI (social security) saying that they would garnish my SSI before I even got it, totaling $1029. the incorrect amount. I sent this to my lawyer and she is looking into it. But it shows that child support will overstep and breaks every law or freedom you may think you have. I DO take care of my children. if they need a haircut i do it, school supplies clothes, anything I do it. And I do it, cause she wont. What I want to leave you with, is that woman can be dead beats too. Child support was designed to have woman off of government subsidized programs like section 8 food stamps and what not. Also to make the man pay for their children man or woman I should say, I know this. I am not running from my obligation. I just want Susan, to have to pay for what's she's done to me and the kids.
I would like to hear your thoughts on this, please comment and share, all names are fake, but everything else is unfortunately real. I know it was wordy, but I wanted to provide as much backstory as possible. And please. Respect my descions. When you are end of life, I hope someone would be kind enough to respect yours. You may not agree and that's ok, but I am asking you to respect them. Thank you for reading.
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2024.05.18 08:01 SharkEva I (50 M) just learned my spouse (47 F) was unfaithful years ago in marriage. She came clean from guilt. Where do I go from here?
I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/SRBias posting in relationship_advice
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Original - 10th May 2024
Update - 13th May 2024
I (50 M) just learned my spouse (47 F) was unfaithful years ago in marriage. She came clean from guilt. Where do I go from here?
This will be quite a lengthy read because I'm laying out everything to get honest opinions with all the context. There's a TLDR at the end for those who'd rather skip the backstory. I know that most people go incognito with a throwaway account for this kind of post. But I wanted this to be authentic, using my real account. I didn't want anyone to think this was disingenuous. If we know each other in real life or you find me on my other socials, let's keep our chats here or in PMs. I don't want anyone harassing anybody, and I have a sixteen-year-old daughter who has been spared this drama so far.
I tied the knot shortly after high school, and let's just say, if my marriage were a collegiate course, it would be "F*** Up - 101." It was a masterclass in what not to do, featuring every red flag in the book. I was fresh-faced and barely off on my life journey, thinking I'd hit the jackpot. I'd assumed I'd accomplished what my parents did, that being the poster couple for marital bliss. I was so naive, always giving the benefit of the doubt. Meanwhile, my then-wife, fresh from escaping her parental fortress of solitude, went bat s*** crazy, deciding that 'living life to the fullest' didn't include me in the picture.
Before I knew it, I was Mr. Mom with our toddler while she was trapped underneath a few individuals, making up for lost time. After finally catching her in the act, I filed for a divorce and braced for the impact. Divorcing in '97 in the heart of the bible belt was not favorable towards the husband back then. What followed was straight out of a horror movie. I paid my attorney five thousand dollars to watch her take everything from my guitars and video games. She even claimed keepsakes from a departed relative, and the judge seemed happy to grant her every wish. Not only did I bid farewell to everything I owned, but my time with my son got slashed to a mere Wednesday afternoon and alternating weekends.
My faith in women was broken. I went on a few dates here and there but mostly kept it to casual encounters and dinners. I never let anyone get too close. But, in early 1999, at a friend's birthday party, I met a woman whose marriage had crashed harder than mine. She'd had a stillbirth six months into her pregnancy, and her husband dared to bring his girlfriend to the funeral. She was heartbroken, to say the least, to learn about her husband's affair and the end of her marriage on the day they laid her daughter to rest. We sat on a couch that night, swapping tales of romantic ruin. She was clever, and to me, that is an instant connection. It's rare for me to find someone who makes me laugh instead of vice versa. As I headed home, I couldn't shake her from my thoughts, kicking myself for not asking for her number.
The next, my phone rang, and it was her! She'd gotten my phone number from someone we both knew and asked: "Would you like to get food sometime?" I said, "Now sounds great!" So, I drove to her grandmother's house, and off we went on what turned out to be what I still consider the perfect date. Now, I get it; we were both lonely and had our hearts broken, but trust me, this was no spark; it was an inferno. And believe it or not, we've been inseparable since that day. We have not spent a night apart. That was twenty-five years ago, with us marrying a year after our meeting. Go ahead and facepalm, I know how it sounds, but it's hard to put the connection between us into words. Even I'm still shaking my head in disbelief.
Our families adored the two of us together. I was certain I had found my soulmate, if you believe in that, and I was certain she felt the same. We enjoyed each other's company, and our lives meshed perfectly. As with life, however, it finds those moments of bliss to take a giant s*** on you. In 2006, I began feeling ill; eating resulted in violent illness, which I initially thought was a virus. But after a week with no improvement, it was clear this was something else. I was admitted to the local hospital and underwent numerous tests. When I was first admitted, I weighed 222 pounds at a height of 6'2". Within a year, I had dropped to 146 pounds, and my condition dumbfounded the doctors. My health was deteriorating rapidly. Throughout the ordeal, she never left my side, her hand in mine, begging me not to leave her.
In late 2007, a last-ditch effort sent me to the Cleveland Clinic, where a young doctor rushed me into surgery. When I awoke three hours later, she was there, hand in mine, with a smile. It was a success; I was cured. While I'll spare you the details, it involved my colon. Finally, I could eat and move without agony. My life resumed, and we were happy again. The following year, she received a lucrative job offer in her field, earning more than I did. That didn't bother me at all; she worked hard, and she'd earned it.
After her miscarriage, my wife was unable to conceive. We had been trying since 2000 and eventually came to terms with the fact that it might not happen. In 2010, we got a call from the state of Minnesota about a two-year-old girl who had been taken from her mother due to drug-related charges. They asked if we would consider adopting her because the mother had requested she be placed with family members before her parental rights were terminated. My wife and I drove for 30 hours to meet her, and after a few months, we adopted her and welcomed her into our home.
Our daughter faced social challenges and had endured abuse, leading the two of us to decide one of us needed to be at home with her. As mentioned, my wife earned significantly more, so it made sense for me to be the one to step into the role. I dedicated each day to supporting our daughter's mental health. While I played a part, I can't claim all the credit for this; her preschool, kindergarten, and therapist were instrumental in her learning to socialize and trust again. Eventually, I took up freelance journalism, so I was home when our little one finished her school day.
Our evenings were family time, and we took small trips on weekends. It was in 2017 that my wife returned from work one evening, deeply shaken by what she told me was a workplace argument. Despite my attempts to console her, she remained incorrigible. She was declaring her intent to find a new job. She'd never had any issues before, so I was stunned. For days, she was a mess and withdrawn. When I pressed for details, she'd say, "It would only upset you. Let me deal with it."
True to her word, she left for a new company within a week, accepting a 15 percent reduction in pay. I should have questioned it then, but she never gave me cause for concern. Once she began her new role, life returned to normal, and our family happily moved forward. In 2022, I published my first novel with an independent publisher, fulfilling a lifelong dream. I could sense the pride emanating from both my wife and daughter. I had achieved this milestone before my fiftieth birthday, and I couldn't wait to start on my second one.
And now, ladies and gentlemen, this is where my world breaks. In 2023, as I was finishing up my new novel, my twenty-seven-year-old son from my first marriage died suddenly of a heart attack. He had an underlying condition that none of us knew about. I want everyone to understand that when you say, "I couldn't imagine my child dying," you truly can't. There is no pain quite like it. My wife and daughter, who also felt his loss deeply, did their best to support me. But there is no way to deal with such a tragedy. In the months following his death, I immersed myself in my work, striving to complete my second book for him.
On the day I finished it in January, my father passed away after a long battle. Dad had been ill for a long time. You think you can prepare yourself for that, but that's a lie you tell yourself. The loss was hard, and my daughter was instrumental in getting me back on my feet. My second book was released in February, and I tried to smile as I had my release party. At the beginning of April, I started feeling better, writing outlines for my third novel and doing the same things I'd always done with my wife and daughter.
My wife and I have a Wednesday tradition where she picks a random recipe she finds online, and we cook it together. On April 3rd, while making crockpot chicken tacos, I thanked her for everything. She asked why, and I thanked her for everything she'd done to get me through the tough times. I shared a lot of pent-up emotions, telling her I couldn't have managed without her. She started crying, then weeping, and soon she was sobbing uncontrollably. I tried to comfort her with a hug, but she pushed me away. I apologized, not realizing my words would stir such a reaction.
Suddenly, she confesses her infidelity. I laughed, mistaking it for a joke. She grabs my shoulders and then details how, back in 2017, a 28-year-old at her former job started flirting with her, and she reciprocated. She believed it was innocent, yet it persisted. My wife has always feared growing old. Her birthdays were days she dreaded every year. She admitted that the attention from a younger man was exhilarating. She told me that turning 40 had sent her into a tailspin and that she couldn't talk to me about it because I would have just shrugged it off.
He invited her to leave work early and come to his place one day. She couldn't understand why she chose to; maybe it was the thrill. She said she didn't know, but she went and ended up sleeping with him. Afterward, she felt terrible, glaring at her keychain in his driveway because it had a photo of me holding our daughter. She drove home, and that's when she lied about having a workplace argument. She never wanted to return there. It's why she suddenly went somewhere else. She then told me she wanted to tell me but didn't have the fortitude to do it.
I remained silent, just wide-eyed and open-mouthed. She apologized, saying she couldn't live with it any longer. I just shook my head, unable to speak a single word. She offered to leave if that's what I wanted, to attend counseling, or even to beg for my forgiveness. Instead, I picked up my AirPods and phone and walked out. I wandered from six in the evening until almost eleven that night. When I returned, she was on the loveseat, asking if I was ready to talk. I shook my head again, went to my office, where I had a couch, and slept there.
The next day, after our daughter left for school, she asked if I had anything to say. I said yes. I questioned why she brought this up after the worst year of my life. Why couldn't she have kept it to herself until I could somewhat deal with something of this magnitude? She just looked away. I scoffed and told her to go to work and to try not to f*** anyone during her lunch break. That would have been April 4th; those were the last words I said to her until last night.
She had attempted to talk to me several times, but I would just walk past her into my office, trying to focus on my upcoming science fiction comedy book. Writing something funny is challenging when the thought of your spouse rolling around with another man stuck in her consumes your thoughts. A week ago, my daughter asked in the car if everything was okay, and I lied to her, which made me feel sick. Then, last night, my wife came to the office door and asked, "Are we getting a divorce?" I looked at her and replied, "Looks like it." She started crying and closed the door.
I haven't consulted an attorney, and the thought of divorce hadn't crossed my mind until she mentioned it. That's why I wrote this essay. Where do I go from here? How do I start to untangle this mess? I have no desire for therapy. I don't even want to step outside. I'm broken at this moment. The burden of everything has been overwhelming. There's been so much to bear this past year. What do you say to someone who has been by your side through it all, only to tear your heart apart?
Thank you for reading to the end. And for those who are part of the TLDR crowd, my wife decided to go home with a younger man, felt guilty about it, and quit her job. She waited eight years to tell me about it.
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Foreign_Flight4566
Jesus, man. I’m sorry for your loss(es). Timing of your wife’s confession is mind-boggling. Realistically, this is above Reddit’s pay grade. I’ll recommend therapy, but probably above a therapist’s pay grade too. I know you also state you don’t want therapy, but that sounds like the exact time you need it. They can offer grief support, which is what you’ll need as you tease out emotions from losing loved ones and a very nasty betrayal. I hope you find happiness in whatever you decide.
cakivalue
Not couples counseling but individual therapy for you. You need the support right now after all you've been through and an unbiased third party to support you through the pain and demise of your marriage, next steps and co-parenting.
My unprofessional angle here is that this is most likely over. Had she come clean in 2017 you would have been able to make a choice regarding forgiveness, couples therapy etc. she held on to this secret for seven years and then dumped it on you at the worst time in order to ease her own guilty feelings. Especially knowing that you had both been hurt in this exact way in the past is especially jaw dropping that she did all of this.
Magnum_tv
Fuck man! This is...just fuck...
Firstly, I'm so sorry for your losses. I extend my sincere condolences.
You need grief counseling. This would help you put things in perspective. At least you'll be able to eventually make decisions based on logic than just pure emotion.
Secondly, your spouse. She not only betrayed you, she lied to you for eight years. EIGHT YEARS! That's fucking scary, because now you're gonna be wondering what else she can be hiding.
Now I'm an asshole, I'd be out of that marriage tomorrow. You however, have truly built a life with her. If, and I mean a big fucking IF, she's regretful, you should divorce, it would be less stress in your life having to be her warden. Because the trust is gone.
If, she's remorseful, you could try to work it out. But she needs to put in the work. Not you, HER. Because she's the one who fucked up.
Remember, regret and remorse are two completely different things.
I'd recommend you still talk to a lawyer before making a final decision. The more informed you are, the better choice you'll be able to make.
I'm truly sorry you're dealing with this, best of luck brother.
Update - 3 days later
UPDATE - After spending Saturday morning formulating and reading the staggering number of comments, I've made my decision. Some said my issue was far beyond the Reddit pay grade – they were mistaken. I deliberately avoided turning to family and friends, seeking a view from an outside perspective, and I think it worked. My gratitude goes out to all who sent private messages and responded; your thoughts on the matter helped me come to my conclusion.
On Saturday evening, I approached my wife to apologize for the silent treatment, I told her I wasn't attempting to punish her and acknowledged that it was childish. I told her if I would have opened my mouth, I would have been overly harsh and ruined any opportunity of a civil conversation. I promised we'd discuss it the next day.
On Sunday evening, I let it all out; I didn't cry, or raise my voice. I asked the man's name, which she provided. I asked her if the man was married when she betrayed us, and she confirmed he was. That hit me hard, because she knew he was also with someone. I asked if he was still married. She told me she had no clue, she hadn't seen him since the day she left for her new job. I told her I hoped they were, because I was going to make sure she knew. If my life had to be ripped apart, so would his. I thought that would get a rise out of her, it didn't. She just nodded.
I expressed my doubts about the affair being an isolated event, echoing the comments of several others. She maintained it was a one-off and was the sole reason she left her job. I explained that after eight years of this lie, it's natural for me to question anything she said. I then made it clear that if there's more to the story than what she's admitted, now is the time to be as open and honest as possible.
Any further revelations would be a deal-breaker for me, and there would be no excuse that could rectify it. She pleaded it was a singular occurrence and that she's been wanting to confess since it happened. I asked if he had reached out after her departure, she denied any contact. I responded that it didn't surprise me, assuming he got what he wanted and moved on to another person at work. It was the only cheap shot I threw.
I requested that she leave the house for a few weeks, I wasn't telling her it was over, but I wanted to be away from her. I suggested she could stay with her sister, her mother, or even rent a place—anywhere but here. I also informed her of my intention to discuss the situation with our daughter, who is 16 by the way, some people have commented believing her to be quite younger. To my surprise, my wife revealed she had already told her about a week ago, which I was completely unaware of. She inquired about the tone of the house, and my anger, and my wife confessed to her. Before my daughter went to bed, I asked her, and indeed, my wife had admitted that she had been unfaithful. I wanted to know why she hadn't come to me about it, and she told me she didn't want to make me feel worse.
I've decided to keep her home from school tomorrow to have a heart-to-heart about everything. It's important for me to understand her feelings and to emphasize that harboring hatred towards her mother isn't the goal. Her mother has always been loving and supportive. It's natural for her to feel angry, and that's okay, but picking sides isn't beneficial – nobody wins in this situation. It's a tough reality I'm coming to terms with, everyone loses. Tomorrow, I plan to contact three local therapists and reach out to the grief counselor I met after my son's death. I'm not interested in couple's therapy; I believe individual therapy is what I need, and since it's highly recommended, I'm going to pursue it.
My daughter's school year is ending soon, and I'm looking forward to spending quality time with her. I prefer to keep our plans private from family and friends; it's our personal matter. Someone advised me about controlling the narrative, but the only thing that matters now is that my daughter knows the truth. I need some time to come to terms if this relationship is salvageable. I need this time for self-reflection and to assess the situation. When she asked if we were going the route of legal separation, I clarified that it wasn't the case. I told her that when I look at her it brings up feelings of anger, which isn't healthy.
To my astonishment, she consented to everything. She doesn't want our relationship to end, and I reminded her that her actions with him forfeited that choice to me. She mentioned my wedding ring as a sign that she still matters to me, and I assured her that she does. I proposed we conclude things there. As I walked by, I touched her shoulder; she nodded in agreement. Later, she phoned her sister and made plans to stay with her the following evening after work.
TLDR. I want to express my gratitude to everyone for their support and guidance, except to the asshole that just wanted to pick a fight. I apologize for the length of my initial post; I believed the full context was necessary to help you understand why I'm so conflicted. To those who reached out privately and know my identity, your discretion is deeply appreciated. I'm looking forward to spending the next month with my daughter and starting therapy. Your messages are welcome, and I'll do my best to respond to each one. I'll provide another update in the future when I've made a decision about our next steps or if it's time to move on. I am not rushing into this decision lightly.
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Bolt_McHardsteel
Clearly you have given this a lot of thought, and come up with a way forward that is best for you. Good luck in therapy, get yourself mentally right, there is no rush to make a final decision on your marriage. Take good care of your daughter! She seems like an amazing kid. Hang in there.
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Ongoing as per OOP
1 update - Long
Original - 10th May 2024
Update - 13th May 2024
I (50 M) just learned my spouse (47 F) was unfaithful years ago in marriage. She came clean from guilt. Where do I go from here?
This will be quite a lengthy read because I'm laying out everything to get honest opinions with all the context. There's a TLDR at the end for those who'd rather skip the backstory. I know that most people go incognito with a throwaway account for this kind of post. But I wanted this to be authentic, using my real account. I didn't want anyone to think this was disingenuous. If we know each other in real life or you find me on my other socials, let's keep our chats here or in PMs. I don't want anyone harassing anybody, and I have a sixteen-year-old daughter who has been spared this drama so far.
I tied the knot shortly after high school, and let's just say, if my marriage were a collegiate course, it would be "F*** Up - 101." It was a masterclass in what not to do, featuring every red flag in the book. I was fresh-faced and barely off on my life journey, thinking I'd hit the jackpot. I'd assumed I'd accomplished what my parents did, that being the poster couple for marital bliss. I was so naive, always giving the benefit of the doubt. Meanwhile, my then-wife, fresh from escaping her parental fortress of solitude, went bat s*** crazy, deciding that 'living life to the fullest' didn't include me in the picture.
Before I knew it, I was Mr. Mom with our toddler while she was trapped underneath a few individuals, making up for lost time. After finally catching her in the act, I filed for a divorce and braced for the impact. Divorcing in '97 in the heart of the bible belt was not favorable towards the husband back then. What followed was straight out of a horror movie. I paid my attorney five thousand dollars to watch her take everything from my guitars and video games. She even claimed keepsakes from a departed relative, and the judge seemed happy to grant her every wish. Not only did I bid farewell to everything I owned, but my time with my son got slashed to a mere Wednesday afternoon and alternating weekends.
My faith in women was broken. I went on a few dates here and there but mostly kept it to casual encounters and dinners. I never let anyone get too close. But, in early 1999, at a friend's birthday party, I met a woman whose marriage had crashed harder than mine. She'd had a stillbirth six months into her pregnancy, and her husband dared to bring his girlfriend to the funeral. She was heartbroken, to say the least, to learn about her husband's affair and the end of her marriage on the day they laid her daughter to rest. We sat on a couch that night, swapping tales of romantic ruin. She was clever, and to me, that is an instant connection. It's rare for me to find someone who makes me laugh instead of vice versa. As I headed home, I couldn't shake her from my thoughts, kicking myself for not asking for her number.
The next, my phone rang, and it was her! She'd gotten my phone number from someone we both knew and asked: "Would you like to get food sometime?" I said, "Now sounds great!" So, I drove to her grandmother's house, and off we went on what turned out to be what I still consider the perfect date. Now, I get it; we were both lonely and had our hearts broken, but trust me, this was no spark; it was an inferno. And believe it or not, we've been inseparable since that day. We have not spent a night apart. That was twenty-five years ago, with us marrying a year after our meeting. Go ahead and facepalm, I know how it sounds, but it's hard to put the connection between us into words. Even I'm still shaking my head in disbelief.
Our families adored the two of us together. I was certain I had found my soulmate, if you believe in that, and I was certain she felt the same. We enjoyed each other's company, and our lives meshed perfectly. As with life, however, it finds those moments of bliss to take a giant s*** on you. In 2006, I began feeling ill; eating resulted in violent illness, which I initially thought was a virus. But after a week with no improvement, it was clear this was something else. I was admitted to the local hospital and underwent numerous tests. When I was first admitted, I weighed 222 pounds at a height of 6'2". Within a year, I had dropped to 146 pounds, and my condition dumbfounded the doctors. My health was deteriorating rapidly. Throughout the ordeal, she never left my side, her hand in mine, begging me not to leave her.
In late 2007, a last-ditch effort sent me to the Cleveland Clinic, where a young doctor rushed me into surgery. When I awoke three hours later, she was there, hand in mine, with a smile. It was a success; I was cured. While I'll spare you the details, it involved my colon. Finally, I could eat and move without agony. My life resumed, and we were happy again. The following year, she received a lucrative job offer in her field, earning more than I did. That didn't bother me at all; she worked hard, and she'd earned it.
After her miscarriage, my wife was unable to conceive. We had been trying since 2000 and eventually came to terms with the fact that it might not happen. In 2010, we got a call from the state of Minnesota about a two-year-old girl who had been taken from her mother due to drug-related charges. They asked if we would consider adopting her because the mother had requested she be placed with family members before her parental rights were terminated. My wife and I drove for 30 hours to meet her, and after a few months, we adopted her and welcomed her into our home.
Our daughter faced social challenges and had endured abuse, leading the two of us to decide one of us needed to be at home with her. As mentioned, my wife earned significantly more, so it made sense for me to be the one to step into the role. I dedicated each day to supporting our daughter's mental health. While I played a part, I can't claim all the credit for this; her preschool, kindergarten, and therapist were instrumental in her learning to socialize and trust again. Eventually, I took up freelance journalism, so I was home when our little one finished her school day.
Our evenings were family time, and we took small trips on weekends. It was in 2017 that my wife returned from work one evening, deeply shaken by what she told me was a workplace argument. Despite my attempts to console her, she remained incorrigible. She was declaring her intent to find a new job. She'd never had any issues before, so I was stunned. For days, she was a mess and withdrawn. When I pressed for details, she'd say, "It would only upset you. Let me deal with it."
True to her word, she left for a new company within a week, accepting a 15 percent reduction in pay. I should have questioned it then, but she never gave me cause for concern. Once she began her new role, life returned to normal, and our family happily moved forward. In 2022, I published my first novel with an independent publisher, fulfilling a lifelong dream. I could sense the pride emanating from both my wife and daughter. I had achieved this milestone before my fiftieth birthday, and I couldn't wait to start on my second one.
And now, ladies and gentlemen, this is where my world breaks. In 2023, as I was finishing up my new novel, my twenty-seven-year-old son from my first marriage died suddenly of a heart attack. He had an underlying condition that none of us knew about. I want everyone to understand that when you say, "I couldn't imagine my child dying," you truly can't. There is no pain quite like it. My wife and daughter, who also felt his loss deeply, did their best to support me. But there is no way to deal with such a tragedy. In the months following his death, I immersed myself in my work, striving to complete my second book for him.
On the day I finished it in January, my father passed away after a long battle. Dad had been ill for a long time. You think you can prepare yourself for that, but that's a lie you tell yourself. The loss was hard, and my daughter was instrumental in getting me back on my feet. My second book was released in February, and I tried to smile as I had my release party. At the beginning of April, I started feeling better, writing outlines for my third novel and doing the same things I'd always done with my wife and daughter.
My wife and I have a Wednesday tradition where she picks a random recipe she finds online, and we cook it together. On April 3rd, while making crockpot chicken tacos, I thanked her for everything. She asked why, and I thanked her for everything she'd done to get me through the tough times. I shared a lot of pent-up emotions, telling her I couldn't have managed without her. She started crying, then weeping, and soon she was sobbing uncontrollably. I tried to comfort her with a hug, but she pushed me away. I apologized, not realizing my words would stir such a reaction.
Suddenly, she confesses her infidelity. I laughed, mistaking it for a joke. She grabs my shoulders and then details how, back in 2017, a 28-year-old at her former job started flirting with her, and she reciprocated. She believed it was innocent, yet it persisted. My wife has always feared growing old. Her birthdays were days she dreaded every year. She admitted that the attention from a younger man was exhilarating. She told me that turning 40 had sent her into a tailspin and that she couldn't talk to me about it because I would have just shrugged it off.
He invited her to leave work early and come to his place one day. She couldn't understand why she chose to; maybe it was the thrill. She said she didn't know, but she went and ended up sleeping with him. Afterward, she felt terrible, glaring at her keychain in his driveway because it had a photo of me holding our daughter. She drove home, and that's when she lied about having a workplace argument. She never wanted to return there. It's why she suddenly went somewhere else. She then told me she wanted to tell me but didn't have the fortitude to do it.
I remained silent, just wide-eyed and open-mouthed. She apologized, saying she couldn't live with it any longer. I just shook my head, unable to speak a single word. She offered to leave if that's what I wanted, to attend counseling, or even to beg for my forgiveness. Instead, I picked up my AirPods and phone and walked out. I wandered from six in the evening until almost eleven that night. When I returned, she was on the loveseat, asking if I was ready to talk. I shook my head again, went to my office, where I had a couch, and slept there.
The next day, after our daughter left for school, she asked if I had anything to say. I said yes. I questioned why she brought this up after the worst year of my life. Why couldn't she have kept it to herself until I could somewhat deal with something of this magnitude? She just looked away. I scoffed and told her to go to work and to try not to f*** anyone during her lunch break. That would have been April 4th; those were the last words I said to her until last night.
She had attempted to talk to me several times, but I would just walk past her into my office, trying to focus on my upcoming science fiction comedy book. Writing something funny is challenging when the thought of your spouse rolling around with another man stuck in her consumes your thoughts. A week ago, my daughter asked in the car if everything was okay, and I lied to her, which made me feel sick. Then, last night, my wife came to the office door and asked, "Are we getting a divorce?" I looked at her and replied, "Looks like it." She started crying and closed the door.
I haven't consulted an attorney, and the thought of divorce hadn't crossed my mind until she mentioned it. That's why I wrote this essay. Where do I go from here? How do I start to untangle this mess? I have no desire for therapy. I don't even want to step outside. I'm broken at this moment. The burden of everything has been overwhelming. There's been so much to bear this past year. What do you say to someone who has been by your side through it all, only to tear your heart apart?
Thank you for reading to the end. And for those who are part of the TLDR crowd, my wife decided to go home with a younger man, felt guilty about it, and quit her job. She waited eight years to tell me about it.
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Foreign_Flight4566
Jesus, man. I’m sorry for your loss(es). Timing of your wife’s confession is mind-boggling. Realistically, this is above Reddit’s pay grade. I’ll recommend therapy, but probably above a therapist’s pay grade too. I know you also state you don’t want therapy, but that sounds like the exact time you need it. They can offer grief support, which is what you’ll need as you tease out emotions from losing loved ones and a very nasty betrayal. I hope you find happiness in whatever you decide.
OOP: I contemplated several different subs and I have no idea why I chose this one. I should have clarified above that after my son died, local hospice house around here has grief counseling, which I used extensively. I don't want to do couple's counseling is what I should have said. My apologies. I posted this to try and get outside perspectives from people, and maybe give me a different angle to look at this.
cakivalue
Not couples counseling but individual therapy for you. You need the support right now after all you've been through and an unbiased third party to support you through the pain and demise of your marriage, next steps and co-parenting.
My unprofessional angle here is that this is most likely over. Had she come clean in 2017 you would have been able to make a choice regarding forgiveness, couples therapy etc. she held on to this secret for seven years and then dumped it on you at the worst time in order to ease her own guilty feelings. Especially knowing that you had both been hurt in this exact way in the past is especially jaw dropping that she did all of this.
Magnum_tv
Fuck man! This is...just fuck...
Firstly, I'm so sorry for your losses. I extend my sincere condolences.
You need grief counseling. This would help you put things in perspective. At least you'll be able to eventually make decisions based on logic than just pure emotion.
Secondly, your spouse. She not only betrayed you, she lied to you for eight years. EIGHT YEARS! That's fucking scary, because now you're gonna be wondering what else she can be hiding.
Now I'm an asshole, I'd be out of that marriage tomorrow. You however, have truly built a life with her. If, and I mean a big fucking IF, she's regretful, you should divorce, it would be less stress in your life having to be her warden. Because the trust is gone.
If, she's remorseful, you could try to work it out. But she needs to put in the work. Not you, HER. Because she's the one who fucked up.
Remember, regret and remorse are two completely different things.
I'd recommend you still talk to a lawyer before making a final decision. The more informed you are, the better choice you'll be able to make.
I'm truly sorry you're dealing with this, best of luck brother.
OOP: Thank you so much. This is another thing in the back of my mind what else has she been dishonest about?
Update - 3 days later
UPDATE - After spending Saturday morning formulating and reading the staggering number of comments, I've made my decision. Some said my issue was far beyond the Reddit pay grade – they were mistaken. I deliberately avoided turning to family and friends, seeking a view from an outside perspective, and I think it worked. My gratitude goes out to all who sent private messages and responded; your thoughts on the matter helped me come to my conclusion.
On Saturday evening, I approached my wife to apologize for the silent treatment, I told her I wasn't attempting to punish her and acknowledged that it was childish. I told her if I would have opened my mouth, I would have been overly harsh and ruined any opportunity of a civil conversation. I promised we'd discuss it the next day.
On Sunday evening, I let it all out; I didn't cry, or raise my voice. I asked the man's name, which she provided. I asked her if the man was married when she betrayed us, and she confirmed he was. That hit me hard, because she knew he was also with someone. I asked if he was still married. She told me she had no clue, she hadn't seen him since the day she left for her new job. I told her I hoped they were, because I was going to make sure she knew. If my life had to be ripped apart, so would his. I thought that would get a rise out of her, it didn't. She just nodded.
I expressed my doubts about the affair being an isolated event, echoing the comments of several others. She maintained it was a one-off and was the sole reason she left her job. I explained that after eight years of this lie, it's natural for me to question anything she said. I then made it clear that if there's more to the story than what she's admitted, now is the time to be as open and honest as possible.
Any further revelations would be a deal-breaker for me, and there would be no excuse that could rectify it. She pleaded it was a singular occurrence and that she's been wanting to confess since it happened. I asked if he had reached out after her departure, she denied any contact. I responded that it didn't surprise me, assuming he got what he wanted and moved on to another person at work. It was the only cheap shot I threw.
I requested that she leave the house for a few weeks, I wasn't telling her it was over, but I wanted to be away from her. I suggested she could stay with her sister, her mother, or even rent a place—anywhere but here. I also informed her of my intention to discuss the situation with our daughter, who is 16 by the way, some people have commented believing her to be quite younger. To my surprise, my wife revealed she had already told her about a week ago, which I was completely unaware of. She inquired about the tone of the house, and my anger, and my wife confessed to her. Before my daughter went to bed, I asked her, and indeed, my wife had admitted that she had been unfaithful. I wanted to know why she hadn't come to me about it, and she told me she didn't want to make me feel worse.
I've decided to keep her home from school tomorrow to have a heart-to-heart about everything. It's important for me to understand her feelings and to emphasize that harboring hatred towards her mother isn't the goal. Her mother has always been loving and supportive. It's natural for her to feel angry, and that's okay, but picking sides isn't beneficial – nobody wins in this situation. It's a tough reality I'm coming to terms with, everyone loses. Tomorrow, I plan to contact three local therapists and reach out to the grief counselor I met after my son's death. I'm not interested in couple's therapy; I believe individual therapy is what I need, and since it's highly recommended, I'm going to pursue it.
My daughter's school year is ending soon, and I'm looking forward to spending quality time with her. I prefer to keep our plans private from family and friends; it's our personal matter. Someone advised me about controlling the narrative, but the only thing that matters now is that my daughter knows the truth. I need some time to come to terms if this relationship is salvageable. I need this time for self-reflection and to assess the situation. When she asked if we were going the route of legal separation, I clarified that it wasn't the case. I told her that when I look at her it brings up feelings of anger, which isn't healthy.
To my astonishment, she consented to everything. She doesn't want our relationship to end, and I reminded her that her actions with him forfeited that choice to me. She mentioned my wedding ring as a sign that she still matters to me, and I assured her that she does. I proposed we conclude things there. As I walked by, I touched her shoulder; she nodded in agreement. Later, she phoned her sister and made plans to stay with her the following evening after work.
TLDR. I want to express my gratitude to everyone for their support and guidance, except to the asshole that just wanted to pick a fight. I apologize for the length of my initial post; I believed the full context was necessary to help you understand why I'm so conflicted. To those who reached out privately and know my identity, your discretion is deeply appreciated. I'm looking forward to spending the next month with my daughter and starting therapy. Your messages are welcome, and I'll do my best to respond to each one. I'll provide another update in the future when I've made a decision about our next steps or if it's time to move on. I am not rushing into this decision lightly.
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Bolt_McHardsteel
Clearly you have given this a lot of thought, and come up with a way forward that is best for you. Good luck in therapy, get yourself mentally right, there is no rush to make a final decision on your marriage. Take good care of your daughter! She seems like an amazing kid. Hang in there.
I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
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(3 weeks ago, 2 weeks ago & today)
i didnt like the way my hair looked when it was short so i started just letting it grow and havent had a haircut in just over a month.
i think it looks better but im still not completely happy with how it looks, but the problem is i have no idea what to do with it. (the first 3 pictures are more so best case scenario, usually after a shower with the last one being what i feel it looks like more realistically) although usually as the day goes on my hair gets more puffy(5th picture)
i dont know if i just need to buy some products and learn to style or go get a more pricy haircut, or both maybe?
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i didnt like the way my hair looked when it was short so i started just letting it grow and havent had a haircut in just over a month.
i think it looks better but im still not completely happy with how it looks, but the problem is i have no idea what to do with it. (the first 3 pictures are more so best case scenario, usually after a shower with the last one being what i feel it looks like more realistically) although usually as the day goes on my hair gets more puffy(5th picture)
i dont know if i just need to buy some products and learn to style or go get a more pricy haircut, or both maybe?
2024.05.18 03:35 Ivan_Redditor 2000s MCU (Phase 2)
2000s MCU (Phase 2)
X-Men: The Last Stand (2006)
I would have Matthew Vaughn do this (if it wasn’t for those execs writing a fake script for Halle Berry) or Sam Raimi as some sort of side project for him so that he could also take time developing the story of Spider-Man 3.
I would keep the original ideas of TLS like the opening where there are random interferences around the world. The mutant cure and the creation of Sentinels are responses to these attacks.
I would also make Nightcrawler an official member of the team instead of just being left out after X2.
Cyclops still leaves the mansion and DOESN’T GET FUCKING KILLED OFF. He comes back in the final battle as a deus ex machina ala Han Solo in A New Hope and Harry Osborn in Spider-Man 3. Jean and Professor X don’t get killed off. Jean turns into a figure of energy in the end and tells the X-Men that she’ll be watching as he ascends to the stars.
I would add a few more scenes of Angel to show his acceptance of being a mutant while showing his rocky relationship with his father and give him a bigger role in the film.
Rogue doesn’t take the mutant cure and is officially an X-Men member. She also is more like the comics counterpart and would fight against the Magneto-controlled Sentinels in the final battle.
The Brotherhood would be the same, but with more members. Scarlet Witch (Christina Ricci) and Quicksilver (Jensen Ackles) are introduced. Juggernaut (who’s much bigger than the one in the movie we got and is revealed to be Charles’ adopted brother), Callisto, and Pyro are more badass in this version and wouldn’t get done dirty.
This would also be the movie where the X-Men are exposed to the world, which make people see them as terrorists, but the public reception improves as the film progresses. It ends with Cyclops telling a speech to the world that they’re here to protect them from world-ending threats and that they fight for mutant rights.
More Oscorp, Stark Industries, Daily Bugle, and S.H.I.E.L.D. references.
Blade: Trinity (2006)
This would be a Blade-centred story, no Hannibal King or Jessica Biel. Vampire is a much better villain in this version. Moon Knight (Aaron Eckhart) and Werewolf By Night (Benicio Del Toro) are introduced here and helps Blade fight Dracula in the finale.
This would set up the Midnight Sons.
Doctor Strange (2006)
Same plot as the 2016 film. Johnny Depp is Doctor Strange, Christoph Waltz is Kaecilius, and Keanu Reeves is Baron Mordo (him and Depp switched would work too).
Post credits scene shows Blade in the Sanctum Sanctorum, telling Strange that he needs his help to assemble a team.
Spider-Man 3 (2007)
I’d probably keep all the deleted scenes that Raimi made. It would be both the Editor’s Cut and The Raimi Cut combined into one. I would’ve gone with the original Venom design, which looked creepier than the one we got instead. Eddie and Sandman get more screen time and I wouldn’t make him be Uncle Ben’s killer. MJ has something to do in this film and helps Peter and Harry in the final battle.
Gwen is the damsel in distress here instead of MJ and that she dies in the final battle. Her and Harry’s death would make Peter heartbroken after all of this. The ending will be the same as the actual film and show Peter's start of moving on from Gwen and starting a new life with MJ.
Baxter Building and Stark Industries building sightings also appear.
Captain America: The Winter Soldier (2007)
Same as the film we got but this would be the introduction of Black Widow (Milla Jovovich). Ali Larter would play Sharon Carter and Will Smith would play Falcon. Alexander Pierce turns out to be Red Skull, showing that the Tesseract swooped him to the 50s and that (in disguise) he’s the one who actually made S.H.I.E.L.D. absorb Hydra.
Red Skull would be arrested and sent to The Raft by General Ross in the ending.
Ghost Rider (2007)
This would be R Rated and would be a lot darker. Johnny’s transformation into Ghost Rider is more grotesque and disgusting. Mephisto would have his comic accurate look. Blackheart doesn’t have that Twilight-esque relationship with Eva Mendes. Carter Slade would ironically be recasted to Harrison Ford.
Blade appears in the post-credit scene.
Iron Man 2 (2008)
This version still has Justin Hammer (Bob Odenkirk for a Rockwell take, Ian McDiarmid for a comic accurate take) as the main villain, with Whiplash as his henchman. This would also showcase Tony’s alcoholism much better. Would also set up more references to The Ten Rings. Whiplash gets the suit and becomes Crimson Dynamo for this version.
The Incredible Hulk (2008)
The Leader is the main villain. It would just be u/vampira199x Hulk 2003 pitch that he made for his 2000s MCU, which I liked and was the main inspiration for this pitch while also borrowing ideas from other posts in the subreddit.
The Punisher 2 (2008)
It would just be the 2005 game, but with Barracuda as the villain, no Stark Industries battle, and remove the framing device. More glimpses of the Baxter Building, Oscorp, and Stark Tower in the background of some shots.
Fantastic Four and The Mole Men (2009)
This would have Mole Man (Danny DeVito) and the Moloids as the villain. This would be more space adventure-esque but with the final battle taking place on Earth. Reed and Sue still get married like in ROTSS, but with The Avengers, Spider-Man, Iron Man, Daredevil, and the X-Men (without Wolverine) attending. S.H.I.E.L.D. helps during the final battle.
Daredevil: Born Again (2009)
It would just be DD S3, but with Elektra (Penelope Cruz) and The Hand.
This would introduce Jessica Jones (Liv Tyler). She appears in the ending, taking pictures of Kingpin getting arrested and Daredevil watching on top of the building.
Wolverine: The Story of Weapon X (2010)
I delayed this film a year later for the 2007-2008 writers strike to end (which is one of the reasons why X-Men Origins: Wolverine sucked)
It would still be about his origins and is Rated R, and would be more focused on Wolverine’s origins from getting his bone claws and the darker aspects of the character to his Weapon X experiment, which would end the film.
Cap has a little cameo in the WW2 scenes and there would be mentions of the Weapon Plus program having him as the first guy to participate in the program. More S.H.I.E.LD. references.
Ant-Man and The Wasp (2010)
AIM and Darren Cross (Billy Zane) are the main villains here. It would just be the 2015 film but with the AIM from Iron Man 3. The film ends with Hank creating Ultron.
Thor: The Forbidden Daughter (2011)
It would just be Thor Ragnarok but without Hulk and not killing off the Warriors Three, since they will help him alongside Thor in the final battle. It would also be less comedic and have a much darker tone.
X-Men: First Class (2011)
Same film, but Darwin doesn’t die, he just turns into big ball of energy and shows up in the end after Charles is shot, watching in the sky.
Spider-Man 4 (2011)
Vulture (John Malkovich) is the main villain. It would probably just be the Spider-Man 4 Raimi wanted to make, with Black Cat (Anne Hathaway) to ruin Peter and MJ’s relationship. Felicia would go through some character development from being a cat burglar to a straight up anti-hero.
Luke Cage (Terry Crews) gets introduced in the post credit scene, watching the news coverage of Spider-Man defeating Vulture.
The Defenders (2012)
The Defenders (Spider-Man, Daredevil, Luke Cage, Jessica Jones, and Iron Fist (Chris Pine)) fight against Kingpin, who has now ruled over the Hand. It would just have the same story as the Netflix show, but with Kingpin as the main villain instead of Alexandra Reid and Elektra dying in the rubble with Kingpin, while Peter saves Matt from dying with her. It ends like the 2003 film.
It also is revealed that Peter and Jessica had a history, since Jessica had a crush on Peter when they were in school together.
The Midnight Sons (2012)
This would be horror-themed and would have Mephisto as the main villain. The lineup would consist of Blade, Moon Knight, Doctor Strange, Hannibal King (Peter Facinnelli), Werewolf by Night (Josh Hartnett), and Elsa Bloodstone (Minnie Driver).
Avengers: Age of Ultron Part 1 (2013)
It would adapt the Age of Ultron storyline justice but with Ultron assembling the Masters of Evil (or Liberators or Masters of Earth): Red Skull, Dr. Doom, Magneto, Sandman, The Mole Man, Loki, and The Leader. Magneto would also seem weary of the inclusion of Schmidt here, especially if you know his origin. Vision (Mark Strong) starts out as a villain here.
The ending shows that they failed, and leads to a bleak and dystopian future where the villains have ruled over the world.
This is also where Black Widow and Hawkeye (Timothy Olyphant) are integrated in the team. Wanda and Pietro too.
The Wolverine (2013)
Set before the events of AOU Part 1, but still the same movie. The Silver Samurai outfit is more smaller and the third act is a fight between him and Logan.
No DOFP tease post credit scene, since I’ll save it for later.
Avengers: Age of Ultron Part 2 (2013)
The Avengers would encourage the help from the F4, X-Men, and Spider-Man to stop them.
Spider-Man would fangirl over meeting Cap, since he often saw him as his idol due to Uncle Ben always telling stories about him and Peter reading a lot of Cap comics when he was a kid.
Cap would recognize Logan from his WW2 days, but Logan doesn’t remember because of the adamantium bullet wiping away his memories.
Magneto, Sandman, and Vision would turn against them and help the Avengers, F4, and X-Men fight the Masters of Evil, which they succeeded. Sandman sacrifices his life while fighting them. Magneto gets arrested and put in the restructured glass prison from X-Men and X2, but more secure. The battle causes a lot of collateral damage, which leads to the government creating the Superhuman Registration Act in response to the Ultron attack in the ending.
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X-Men: The Last Stand (2006)
I would have Matthew Vaughn do this (if it wasn’t for those execs writing a fake script for Halle Berry) or Sam Raimi as some sort of side project for him so that he could also take time developing the story of Spider-Man 3.
I would keep the original ideas of TLS like the opening where there are random interferences around the world. The mutant cure and the creation of Sentinels are responses to these attacks.
I would also make Nightcrawler an official member of the team instead of just being left out after X2.
Cyclops still leaves the mansion and DOESN’T GET FUCKING KILLED OFF. He comes back in the final battle as a deus ex machina ala Han Solo in A New Hope and Harry Osborn in Spider-Man 3. Jean and Professor X don’t get killed off. Jean turns into a figure of energy in the end and tells the X-Men that she’ll be watching as he ascends to the stars.
I would add a few more scenes of Angel to show his acceptance of being a mutant while showing his rocky relationship with his father and give him a bigger role in the film.
Rogue doesn’t take the mutant cure and is officially an X-Men member. She also is more like the comics counterpart and would fight against the Magneto-controlled Sentinels in the final battle.
The Brotherhood would be the same, but with more members. Scarlet Witch (Christina Ricci) and Quicksilver (Jensen Ackles) are introduced. Juggernaut (who’s much bigger than the one in the movie we got and is revealed to be Charles’ adopted brother), Callisto, and Pyro are more badass in this version and wouldn’t get done dirty.
This would also be the movie where the X-Men are exposed to the world, which make people see them as terrorists, but the public reception improves as the film progresses. It ends with Cyclops telling a speech to the world that they’re here to protect them from world-ending threats and that they fight for mutant rights.
More Oscorp, Stark Industries, Daily Bugle, and S.H.I.E.L.D. references.
Blade: Trinity (2006)
This would be a Blade-centred story, no Hannibal King or Jessica Biel. Vampire is a much better villain in this version. Moon Knight (Aaron Eckhart) and Werewolf By Night (Benicio Del Toro) are introduced here and helps Blade fight Dracula in the finale.
This would set up the Midnight Sons.
Doctor Strange (2006)
Same plot as the 2016 film. Johnny Depp is Doctor Strange, Christoph Waltz is Kaecilius, and Keanu Reeves is Baron Mordo (him and Depp switched would work too).
Post credits scene shows Blade in the Sanctum Sanctorum, telling Strange that he needs his help to assemble a team.
Spider-Man 3 (2007)
I’d probably keep all the deleted scenes that Raimi made. It would be both the Editor’s Cut and The Raimi Cut combined into one. I would’ve gone with the original Venom design, which looked creepier than the one we got instead. Eddie and Sandman get more screen time and I wouldn’t make him be Uncle Ben’s killer. MJ has something to do in this film and helps Peter and Harry in the final battle.
Gwen is the damsel in distress here instead of MJ and that she dies in the final battle. Her and Harry’s death would make Peter heartbroken after all of this. The ending will be the same as the actual film and show Peter's start of moving on from Gwen and starting a new life with MJ.
Baxter Building and Stark Industries building sightings also appear.
Captain America: The Winter Soldier (2007)
Same as the film we got but this would be the introduction of Black Widow (Milla Jovovich). Ali Larter would play Sharon Carter and Will Smith would play Falcon. Alexander Pierce turns out to be Red Skull, showing that the Tesseract swooped him to the 50s and that (in disguise) he’s the one who actually made S.H.I.E.L.D. absorb Hydra.
Red Skull would be arrested and sent to The Raft by General Ross in the ending.
Ghost Rider (2007)
This would be R Rated and would be a lot darker. Johnny’s transformation into Ghost Rider is more grotesque and disgusting. Mephisto would have his comic accurate look. Blackheart doesn’t have that Twilight-esque relationship with Eva Mendes. Carter Slade would ironically be recasted to Harrison Ford.
Blade appears in the post-credit scene.
Iron Man 2 (2008)
This version still has Justin Hammer (Bob Odenkirk for a Rockwell take, Ian McDiarmid for a comic accurate take) as the main villain, with Whiplash as his henchman. This would also showcase Tony’s alcoholism much better. Would also set up more references to The Ten Rings. Whiplash gets the suit and becomes Crimson Dynamo for this version.
The Incredible Hulk (2008)
The Leader is the main villain. It would just be u/vampira199x Hulk 2003 pitch that he made for his 2000s MCU, which I liked and was the main inspiration for this pitch while also borrowing ideas from other posts in the subreddit.
The Punisher 2 (2008)
It would just be the 2005 game, but with Barracuda as the villain, no Stark Industries battle, and remove the framing device. More glimpses of the Baxter Building, Oscorp, and Stark Tower in the background of some shots.
Fantastic Four and The Mole Men (2009)
This would have Mole Man (Danny DeVito) and the Moloids as the villain. This would be more space adventure-esque but with the final battle taking place on Earth. Reed and Sue still get married like in ROTSS, but with The Avengers, Spider-Man, Iron Man, Daredevil, and the X-Men (without Wolverine) attending. S.H.I.E.L.D. helps during the final battle.
Daredevil: Born Again (2009)
It would just be DD S3, but with Elektra (Penelope Cruz) and The Hand.
This would introduce Jessica Jones (Liv Tyler). She appears in the ending, taking pictures of Kingpin getting arrested and Daredevil watching on top of the building.
Wolverine: The Story of Weapon X (2010)
I delayed this film a year later for the 2007-2008 writers strike to end (which is one of the reasons why X-Men Origins: Wolverine sucked)
It would still be about his origins and is Rated R, and would be more focused on Wolverine’s origins from getting his bone claws and the darker aspects of the character to his Weapon X experiment, which would end the film.
Cap has a little cameo in the WW2 scenes and there would be mentions of the Weapon Plus program having him as the first guy to participate in the program. More S.H.I.E.LD. references.
Ant-Man and The Wasp (2010)
AIM and Darren Cross (Billy Zane) are the main villains here. It would just be the 2015 film but with the AIM from Iron Man 3. The film ends with Hank creating Ultron.
Thor: The Forbidden Daughter (2011)
It would just be Thor Ragnarok but without Hulk and not killing off the Warriors Three, since they will help him alongside Thor in the final battle. It would also be less comedic and have a much darker tone.
X-Men: First Class (2011)
Same film, but Darwin doesn’t die, he just turns into big ball of energy and shows up in the end after Charles is shot, watching in the sky.
Spider-Man 4 (2011)
Vulture (John Malkovich) is the main villain. It would probably just be the Spider-Man 4 Raimi wanted to make, with Black Cat (Anne Hathaway) to ruin Peter and MJ’s relationship. Felicia would go through some character development from being a cat burglar to a straight up anti-hero.
Luke Cage (Terry Crews) gets introduced in the post credit scene, watching the news coverage of Spider-Man defeating Vulture.
The Defenders (2012)
The Defenders (Spider-Man, Daredevil, Luke Cage, Jessica Jones, and Iron Fist (Chris Pine)) fight against Kingpin, who has now ruled over the Hand. It would just have the same story as the Netflix show, but with Kingpin as the main villain instead of Alexandra Reid and Elektra dying in the rubble with Kingpin, while Peter saves Matt from dying with her. It ends like the 2003 film.
It also is revealed that Peter and Jessica had a history, since Jessica had a crush on Peter when they were in school together.
The Midnight Sons (2012)
This would be horror-themed and would have Mephisto as the main villain. The lineup would consist of Blade, Moon Knight, Doctor Strange, Hannibal King (Peter Facinnelli), Werewolf by Night (Josh Hartnett), and Elsa Bloodstone (Minnie Driver).
Avengers: Age of Ultron Part 1 (2013)
It would adapt the Age of Ultron storyline justice but with Ultron assembling the Masters of Evil (or Liberators or Masters of Earth): Red Skull, Dr. Doom, Magneto, Sandman, The Mole Man, Loki, and The Leader. Magneto would also seem weary of the inclusion of Schmidt here, especially if you know his origin. Vision (Mark Strong) starts out as a villain here.
The ending shows that they failed, and leads to a bleak and dystopian future where the villains have ruled over the world.
This is also where Black Widow and Hawkeye (Timothy Olyphant) are integrated in the team. Wanda and Pietro too.
The Wolverine (2013)
Set before the events of AOU Part 1, but still the same movie. The Silver Samurai outfit is more smaller and the third act is a fight between him and Logan.
No DOFP tease post credit scene, since I’ll save it for later.
Avengers: Age of Ultron Part 2 (2013)
The Avengers would encourage the help from the F4, X-Men, and Spider-Man to stop them.
Spider-Man would fangirl over meeting Cap, since he often saw him as his idol due to Uncle Ben always telling stories about him and Peter reading a lot of Cap comics when he was a kid.
Cap would recognize Logan from his WW2 days, but Logan doesn’t remember because of the adamantium bullet wiping away his memories.
Magneto, Sandman, and Vision would turn against them and help the Avengers, F4, and X-Men fight the Masters of Evil, which they succeeded. Sandman sacrifices his life while fighting them. Magneto gets arrested and put in the restructured glass prison from X-Men and X2, but more secure. The battle causes a lot of collateral damage, which leads to the government creating the Superhuman Registration Act in response to the Ultron attack in the ending.
2024.05.18 03:30 AstralKoga I need a GOOD hair salon/barber shop for an alt style
 | I am so tired of not getting the haircut I asked for, with a visual example I provide and repeatedly ask for about 5 to 7 times during the haircut just to make sure. This has already happened twice. Does anyone know any good hair stylists/barbers or salons that actually listen instead of deciding that my head is a good canvas to practice on? And preferably lgbt+ friendly? I hear lgbt+ salons/barber shops tend to cut hair without prejudice towards gender which seems like a positive in my book because I want a masculine haircut, but always end up with a karen bob because the person cutting my hair decided "to make it more feminine since you're a girl." PLEASE!!! If anyone knows any good places to go to, PLEASE let me know. I'll add some pictures just to show yall what I'm going for, either something like the first 6 or the last 3. Can't really decide yet. submitted by AstralKoga to Oahu [link] [comments] |
2024.05.18 02:49 XMarksTheSpot987 Brian Geraghty As Kaku
Ethnicity: American
Age: 49
IMDB: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1310016/
Wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brian_Geraghty
Yes, I know he is a bit old, but he has the look, and also has the experience to play Kaku, as far as his resume goes. I only saw him on a TV show called Big Sky, which was from 2020. The character he played expressed a range of emotions throughout the arc. Kaku is mostly serious during Water 7 saga, but could be shown to cut loose during his fights. I know Water 7 Saga would be several years from now, so the only issue would be if Brian can remain young-looking enough. As for fight scenes, those would probably be covered by stunt doubles anyway. The picture is from 2010, just so nobody gets misled.
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Age: 49
IMDB: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1310016/
Wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brian_Geraghty
Yes, I know he is a bit old, but he has the look, and also has the experience to play Kaku, as far as his resume goes. I only saw him on a TV show called Big Sky, which was from 2020. The character he played expressed a range of emotions throughout the arc. Kaku is mostly serious during Water 7 saga, but could be shown to cut loose during his fights. I know Water 7 Saga would be several years from now, so the only issue would be if Brian can remain young-looking enough. As for fight scenes, those would probably be covered by stunt doubles anyway. The picture is from 2010, just so nobody gets misled.
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2024.05.18 02:03 MooseBro301 Linkin Park - All the Working Titles (Updated 2024, Entire Discography)
Felt like putting a proper list of every working title of Linkin Park songs. Still, there are quite a few songs' working titles we are yet to know.
-This is info as of 2024 only
-Some songs have multiple working titles, and I tried to include them all or at least the most different ones for each. Many later songs have working titles that are the same as the final ones, so I intentionally put just the same title.
-This is also only "Full" Linkin Park tracks that could be considered a "song". I also might have missed a track or a couple, so please feel free to let me know, Linkin Park has a LOT of songs, obviously. This is really only tracks from the 7 main albums, and Linkin Park standalone singles.
Hybrid Theory (2000)
Hybrid Theory Extras and Demos/EP
Meteora (2003)
Meteora Extras
Minutes to Midnight (2007)
Minutes to Midnight Extras
We Made It (2008 Single) (No working title known)
New Divide (2009 Single) - Megatron
A Thousand Suns (2010)
Not Alone (2011 Single) (No working title known)
Living Things (2012)
A LIGHT THAT NEVER COMES (2013 Single & Recharged) - Victorious
The Hunting Party (2014)
Mall (Film Soundtrack, 2014)
Darker Than Blood (2015 Single) - Horizons
One More Light (2017)
One More Light Extras
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-This is info as of 2024 only
-Some songs have multiple working titles, and I tried to include them all or at least the most different ones for each. Many later songs have working titles that are the same as the final ones, so I intentionally put just the same title.
-This is also only "Full" Linkin Park tracks that could be considered a "song". I also might have missed a track or a couple, so please feel free to let me know, Linkin Park has a LOT of songs, obviously. This is really only tracks from the 7 main albums, and Linkin Park standalone singles.
Hybrid Theory (2000)
| Final Title | Working Title(s) |
|---|---|
| Papercut | Paper Cut |
| One Step Closer | Plaster |
| With You | Dust Brothers, Now I See |
| Points of Authority | Oh No, Points And Authority, Points Of Authority |
| Crawling | Sky (also derrived from "Blue" demo) |
| Runaway | (No working title known) (the song was reworked from "Stick N Move" demo) |
| By Myself | Sad, SuperXero/Super Zero |
| In the End | Untitled/Untitled (It Doesn't Matter)/The Untitled |
| A Place for My Head | Esaul |
| Forgotten | Rhinestone |
| Cure for the Itch | The Cure For Mr. Hahn's Itch/Mr. Hahn/Mr. Hahn's Itch/The Cure |
| Pushing Me Away | Harmonic Song |
| Final Title | Working Title(s) |
|---|---|
| My December | (No working title known) |
| High Voltage (EP Version) | Siamo |
| Part of Me | Chair |
| Technique (Short) | Rendezvous |
| She Couldn't | Emo (evolved from another demo called "Flower") |
| And One | And One |
| Carousel | (No working title known) |
| Could Have Been | (No working title known) |
| Step Up | (No working title known) |
| Dedicated | Kids |
| Blue | Over To Me (Blue) |
| Slip | (No working title known) |
| So Far Away | (No working title known) might be "Hurry" but that demo was supposdely made later using parts from So Far Away |
| Pictureboard | (No working title known) |
| Final Title | Working Title(s) |
|---|---|
| Foreword | Foreword |
| Don't Stay | Sick |
| Somewhere I Belong | Pretty Birdy/Pretty Birdie |
| Lying from You | Cuidado |
| Hit the Floor | Husky |
| Easier to Run | Interrogation |
| Faint | Faint |
| Figure.09 | Plaster 2/Plaster II, Figure.09 |
| Breaking the Habit | Drawing |
| From the Inside | Shifter |
| Nobody's Listening | Nocturnal |
| Session | Session |
| Numb | (No working title known) |
| Final Title | Working Title(s) |
|---|---|
| Lost | Resolution |
| Fighting Myself | Shortcut |
| More the Victim | Cumulus |
| A.06 | A6/A-Six |
| Healing Foot | Healing Foot (track is likely a reworked version of "Broken Foot" instrumental demo) |
| Final Title | Working Title(s) |
|---|---|
| Wake | WAKE Album Intro Idea |
| Given Up | 21 Stitches (evolved from an older demo called "Fire In The City") |
| Leave Out All the Rest | Fear, When My Time Comes |
| Bleed It Out | Accident |
| Shadow of the Day | Shadow Of The Day |
| What I've Done | Bang Three |
| Hands Held High | Song Q |
| No More Sorrow | Ebow/Ebow Idea |
| Valentine's Day | (No working title known) |
| In Between | (No working title known) |
| In Pieces | Pictures |
| The Little Things Give You Away | Drum Song |
| Final Title | Working Title(s) |
|---|---|
| Across the Line | Japan |
| No Roads Left | Patients, No Roads Left But One |
| Blackbirds | Blackbirds |
| What We Don't Know | (No working title known) |
| Chance of Rain | (released with working title) final title for track was "Voices" |
| Pretend to Be | (No working title known) |
New Divide (2009 Single) - Megatron
A Thousand Suns (2010)
| Final Title | Working Title(s) |
|---|---|
| The Requiem | (No working title known) |
| The Radiance | (No working title known) |
| Burning in the Skies | (No working title known) |
| Empty Spaces | (No working title known) |
| When They Come For Me | Dingleberry |
| Robot Boy | Robot Boy |
| Jornada Del Muerto | (No working title known) |
| Waiting for the End | Meadowlands |
| Blackout | Pac-Manny/Packmanny |
| Wretches and Kings | Rygar |
| Wisdom, Justice, and Love | (No working title known) |
| Iridescent | Iridescent New |
| Fallout | (No working title known) |
| The Catalyst | Under Bite/Underbite |
| The Messenger | (No working title known) |
Living Things (2012)
| Final Title | Working Title(s) |
|---|---|
| LOST IN THE ECHO | Holding Company |
| IN MY REMAINS | One Forty |
| BURN IT DOWN | Buried At Sea |
| LIES GREED MISERY | Piledriver |
| I'LL BE GONE | Primo |
| CASTLE OF GLASS | Castle Of Glass |
| VICTIMIZED | Battle Axe |
| ROADS UNTRAVELED | Roads Untraveled |
| SKIN TO BONE | Skin To Bone |
| UNTIL IT BREAKS | Apaches |
| TINFOIL and POWERLESS | Tinfoil |
The Hunting Party (2014)
| Final Title | Working Title(s) |
|---|---|
| Keys to the Kingdom | Coffee |
| All for Nothing | True Chainz |
| Guilty All the Same | Blinky |
| The Summoning | (No working title known) |
| War | Warrior |
| Wastelands | Artillery, The Wastelands, Wastelands Of Today |
| Until It's Gone | Thanksgiving |
| Rebellion | (No working title known) |
| Mark the Graves | Plato |
| Drawbar and Final Masquerade | Drawbar |
| A Line in the Sand | Odyssey |
| Final Title | Working Title(s) |
|---|---|
| White Noise | White Noise |
| Mal RX7 | Milk (shortened version of "Buttermilk" demo) |
| It Goes Through | Luna |
| Devil's Drop | Warm Spell |
| The Last Line | Ammosick |
| Dancer (Instrumental) | Dancer |
One More Light (2017)
| Final Title | Working Title(s) |
|---|---|
| Nobody Can Save Me | Nobody Can Save Me Now, Nobody Can Save Me J Green 2 |
| Good Goodbye | Good Goodbye |
| Talking to Myself | Talking To Myself |
| Battle Symphony | Battle Tymp Ony |
| Invisible | Invisible - MS w Justin Parker |
| Heavy | Heavy |
| Sorry for Now | Sorry For Now |
| Halfway Right | Halfway Right |
| One More Light | One More Light |
| Sharp Edges | Sharp Edges |
| Final Title | Working Title(s) |
|---|---|
| Friendly Fire | Friendly Fire |
| Out of Reach (unreleased) | Out Of Reach |
2024.05.18 01:01 cactusocean55 Any advice for my haircut?
It's time for me to get a haircut again but every one I've been to has given me a terrible haircut. I have a modern mullet with kind of wavy hair. The sides aren't completely shaved and I don't have a fade. I want to keep the front and back longer, just below or at eyebrow level. Every barber I've been to seems to either give me a bowl cut and cut straight across my head or doesn't listen and just gives me a short ugly style. Part of it is on me because before I didn't explain clearly even though I had a picture and video but I still think that there aren't many modern barber shops where I live. Does anyone have any barber shop or salon suggestions that are in the Barrie, Orillia, Vaughn area? (Ontario Canada).
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2024.05.17 23:00 Character_Fortune240 AITAH for making fun of my friends dead father?
So for the past couple of years ( 3 ish ) he has been making fun of me slightly and teasing ( My haircut, my weight, my style, how I look, ) I never said anything and kept my mouth shut and laugh it off last year I moved country's and we haven't been talking and for this last week or so one of our others friends made a new group chat with the friend group me and him used to hangout with and we've been talking and he still teased and i got so mad that I just said fuck it and found a picture of his father and made a video of his father as tony stark and him as spider man and edited both of they're real faces on to the characters faces in the scene the character dies and the other one is crying and sent the video in the group and now he's mad at me and left the group and everyone is saying that what I did was a dick move and I went overboard
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