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I am back after a break with another reimagining, and I thought this time I would tackle another movie that fell disappointingly short of expectations... Sarkar. Sarkar released to huge expectations after the success of both Thuppakki and Kaththi, but the film failed to deliver on its promise of a Mudhalvan-like political fantasy; I have to admit though, the movie is a guilty pleasure of mine which I do often revisit. That being said:
WARNING: I am not claiming to be a better writer than any of the people involved in the film and this is not a criticism of their ability.
The movie begins with a boarding meeting at one of the companies in Canada that GL (Sundar's company) is about to acquire. The members of the board nervously waiting for the arrival of their new boss, the media is waiting outside and we get the hype up for Sundar's eventual mass intro. After a build a of tension, a Rolls Royce pulls up and the camera follows as a man wearing pair of Tom Ford shoes exits the vehicle and walks into the elevator in the building as the media tries to snap some pics of him. The members of the board continue to wait impatiently, as the elevator doors open to reveal Sundar Ramaswamy (Vijay). He basically walks in doesn't say a word and sits at the head of the table. Sundar's lawyer drops the paperwork on the table, each member of the board takes their turn signing the document. Finally the document comes back to Sundar who flicks his signature onto it and gets up to leave, but one of the board members stops him to ask, "How do you feel after ruining the livelihood of 3,000 employees?". Sundar turns around and smiles at the board before doing the signature 'Vijay gum flick' and walking away in slow motion, queue the 'CEO in the House' song as Sundar heads out to celebrate acquiring the company. The scene is to establish Sundar as a proper overconfident and cocky 'corporate monster' instead of just telling us that he is a 'corporate monster'.
From there the movie continues pretty similarly with Sundar coming back to India to cast his vote, even though he takes his job very seriously he is still a patriot at heart and has a soft corner for his people. Same as the movie, someone else casts his vote and he begins organising lawyers meetings and press conference to get his vote back. All goes pretty much the same until the point Sundar's driver tells him about the atrocities done by the government and the family that set themselves on fire, Sundar is genuinely quite unaware of all this. Similar to the movie, he directs his convoy to go to the colony where the little girl is. Unlike the movie, we have one long take where the camera follows Sundar from behind as he gets out his car and walks through the local area, through the alleys and slums, observing the common folk; this is to show how out-of-touch he really is with reality. He finally comes to the little girl's house, and the camera finally pans to reveal Sundar's somber face; this scene is crucial as this paints his actions for the rest of the movie, it is important that we spend time showing how this incident impacts him. Unable to look at the girl's burnt face Sundar turns around and walks away, he signals his PA to sort the family out with treatment for the little girl.
From here, we go to the scene with Rendu (Radha Ravi) at the hotel; this will go pretty much exactly how it did in the movie. The only difference here is, going into the hotel Sundar is slightly solemn, but his expression slowly changes with Rendu's speech and we get the scene with the 'Topu Tuckeru' BGM as Sundar smokes. The following events also unravel similar to the film with the action block and the 'Simtaangaran song'; these are commercial filler compromises that must be made, its also a staple of the ARM-Vijay combo movies. The following scene is also similar with Sundar instigating the court case to stop Masilamani's inauguration, the key difference though is that Sundar doesn't speak in the court he silently watches from the stands as his lawyer does the arguing. Once the ceremony is stopped, he gets up, does the 'Vijay gum flick' and walks away in slow motion with the 'CEO in the House' BGM; this mirrors the opening scene where Sundar finesses the board room, but this time he's finessed the government. The election is postponed by 10 days.
Meanwhile, Masilamani is furious by what Sundar started, he encourages his party members to start rioting and to find where Sundar is. The riots go on for 2 days, but there is no sign of Sundar anywhere. Masilamani grows impatient and starts seeking advice from Pappa (Varalaxmi), who says that they shouldn't have tried instigated or started beef with him in the first place, saying that she will be back in Chennai within the next day or so. While this is happening, media crews have gathered outside Masilamani's house which confuses him. Rendu goes outside and asks them why they are here, for which they respond: 'Sundar told us to meet him here'. Both Rendu and Masilamani are shocked. Suddenly a convoy of youngsters on bikes arrive with a Rolls Royce travelling at the centre of the party. Sundar gets out of the Rolls Royce and he is followed by his lawyers. Sundar asks for permission to enter, for which Masilamani obliges. The two sit down and face each other, with Masilamani asking what Sundar wants. Sundar responds with this:

1. "I've got 750 youngsters who are ready to work for this party."
2. "I've got 40 crores in hard cash."
3. "I've got the tag of GL CEO."
4. "Will you let me join your party?"

Masilamani and his partymen are shocked, he asks Sundar 'Why should I let you?". Sundar basically responds by saying:

"Your party's image is in shambles, even if you pay people to vote for you, they won't do it. You're guaranteed to lose this election and there's nothing you can do about it. I'm here to offer you the winning card, I will do everything to ensure your party retains. All I ask for is 70cr in campaigning funds and that you give me 2 MLA seats and take in the 750 youngsters that I have brought as party members. If your party loses, I will pay you twice what you paid me as a penalty but regardless of the outcome you can't raise this to the media or I will sue your ass. If you agree, sign the contract. You can let your lawyers read over it, but you have nothing to lose."

Masilamani is shocked by this offer and looks over the contract, he doesn't know how to read so he passes it to his lawyer who verifies it and says that it's legit. Rendu proposes that they wait for Pappa before signing, but Sundar says "if you don't accept this within the next 1 hour, I will take it to the opposition party". Masilamani is properly checkmated now, but what could he possible have to lose? He smiles and signs it, Sundar smiles and shakes his hand. Sundar walks out with a cigarette in-hand, the 'Oru Viral Puratchi' guitar rift rolls in the background.
INTERMISSION
Going into the second half, we have a few questions:

• Why did Sundar join Masilamani's party if they are the losing side?
• Where was Sundar in the two days during the riots?
• How did Sundar get the backing of all these youngsters?
• How does Sundar plan on making the party win and how does this benefit him?

NOTE: I completely ignored Keerthi Suresh's character as it added nothing to my story.
With 8 days left till the election Sundar sits in his office, he calls his team and GL and tells them to run the ads of him giving the post press conference speech after getting back his vote (as he does in the movie). This creates waves in the media and makes him the poster boy for the coming election. He tells his PA not to organise any press conferences until he says so. Sundar has booked out a small venue where he will be speaking to the 750 youngsters that he has inaugurated into the party, this is where he finally reveals what happened in the last 2 days. We get a flashback and it is revealed that he ultimately did the same as what happened in the movie; to run an internet scan on all the most suitable candidates of each constituency and run interviews like a corporate company (I really like the idea of this), he positions the people he selected as independant candidates in their respective constituency. Sundar has been planning this since the scene with Rendu at the hotel; this all plays as a montage over the first half of 'Oru Viral Puratchi'. After the song we cut back to this speech with Sundar and the youth, where he basically says we are going to infiltrate this party from the inside and then he says the 'branding' dialogue from the movie (which I like the idea of, the mannerism was kinda cringe though).
Following the speech, Sundar enacts his next plan. He identifies Masilamani's candidates who are most likely to win in their respective area and launches a smear campaign through his influence over GL. This forces Masilamani to identify alternate party members to take their place, but Sundar presents Masilamani with the constituency polling data which shows that the independant candidates (that he selected based on the internet scan) are in the lead. Sundar suggests to Masilamani that they buy them out with a salary (also like corporate company), however Masilamani doesn't know that these individuals were planted by Sundar. Masilamani is beginning to get suspicious about Sundar's plan but he still hasn't fully sniffed it out yet given his lack of understanding about technology.
Pappa finally arrives in Chennai from Canada and confronts her dad about everything that has happened, she is shocked to find out that he has basically sold the party to Sundar. She is quickly able to deduce Sundar's plan based on the information given by her dad and Rendu. Pappa also reveals here that her husband was one of the board members from the start of the movie, which explains why she knows so much about Sundar.
Given that Sundar now controls most of the seats in the party, he begins his campaign from the background with candidates doing most of the work ; this plays over the second half of the 'Oru Viral Puratchi' song. As soon as this montage finishes, we find out that Masilamani has died. A confusion has now arisen as to who controls the party, with only 3 days left until the election. Pappa gives an angry press conference saying that Sundar had cheated her dad and stole the party, revealing the contract to the public. She also announces that she and her father's loyal supporters will be joining the opposition party. Based on the sympathy votes gained from her father's death the opposition offers Pappa a significant number of seats. Sundar is shocked to see what has happened, he won't be able to sue Pappa as Masilamani was the one that signed the contract (not sure about legal terms, but lets just go with it), suing her will also only get him more negative press.
Sundar gets a call from the GL board questioning him about his extensive involvement in politics given the bad press around his contract stunt. Cut to the next scene, Sundar is in a press conference and publicly announces his resignation from GL as he is about to leave the stage, he is heckled by one of the reporters on his way down. Sundar has to give up his company assets such as his PA and bodyguards, if he loses this election he still owes Masilamani's family 140crs as per the contract that he signed. For the first time in Sundar's life, overconfidence has led to his downfall. With two days left till the election and no internet influence and power, how is Sundar going to win?
The next day he posts a Facebook live and addresses his plan transparently with the party, this can be the same as the 'Idhu Namma Sarkar' scene from the movie. Sundar explains how he chose his candidates and compares it to the millions of college graduates who get a corporate job, highlighting the need for the government to be qualified. This gets some positive buzz for Sundar but not enough to win the election. As Sundar sits in his office, hopelessly, one of his candidates tells him about 'Saatai' Muthukumar (this plotline will be the same as the movie); this could be the ideal trump card to win the election. This ticks of an idea, given that all Masilamani's loyalists have moved to the opposition along with Pappa all the party assets now reside with Sundar. He hires a corporate auditing team to unpack all the party records and finds all the holes in there records this allows him to unpack the 'Saatai' Muthukumar conspiracy and he has all the evidence ready to go public... but he waits. Sundar contacts Pappa for a meeting and the two sit down, with lawyers present. Sundar reveals everything that he has found from his audit of the party and threatens to go public with it unless she voids their contract where he owes her family 140cr, he also agrees to sign an NDA. Pappa obliges and asks him to burn the evidence in front of her, which Sundar does. On the car ride home, Pappa orders for Sundar to be murdered as she doesn't trust him.
The next morning is the day of the election, similar to the actual movie Sundar begins tweeting from a fake twitter handle about the evidence pulled from the audit, leading the media on a wild easter egg hunt to put the evidence together themselves, this removes any paper trails that lead back to Sundar. Pappa and the opposition party struggle to manage the storm that has been caused by the tweeting, she knows this was done by Sundar but has no evidence to prove it; the only way for her save face is if Sundar confesses to his manipulation for which he needs to be alive, so she cancels the hit on him. It is soon revealed, similar to the movie that the fake twitter handle is associated with that of a dead man, begging the question of who is tweeting? Sundar and his team re-route the IP address of the tweets to the leader of the opposition party and spin the narrative that he did this to tarnish Masilamani's reputation as a leader, which leads to in-fighting. Pappa is furious, as although she knows the truth about Sundar's access to the evidence, she can't speak about it due to the NDA (which would open her up to being sued). With no other option, she plots to have Sundar killed, as it looks like he is going to win. We can insert an obligatory climax fight here, where Sundar overcomes the odds but realising an opportunity, he fakes his own death which increases the votes to his party, leading to a victory in the election.
The following day is the swearing-in ceremony as all the candidates take up their positions. Pappa is also present and she along with everyone else believes Sundar is dead. Just as the first candidate is swearing-in, Sundar arrives and sits right next to Pappa, there is a media frenzy happening outside. There is a small bit of dialog between the two and he explains why he did all this (i.e. reference back to the girl who was burnt outside the collecter's office, etc). He finally tells her that the contract he signed with her father was only for 8 days, so his time has expired and he is no longer part of the party. Sundar gets up and walks away in slow motion as the credit roll.
This is my reimagining of Sarkar, what are your thoughts and what would you do differently? And what movie should I do next?

Hello Darling Tiger,
I am writing because I miss you. Do you miss me? Never mind, I know you do. Only at twilight, though. You keep yourself too busy to confront your yearning for me in the daylight hours. There are some things I didn't get to discuss with you. You brushed my concerns and insecurities off regarding that one topic twice. It hurt. It still hurts, but not consistently. It keeps fading in and out. Every time I am back to me and on track, those fucking words needle their heads into my heart again. I told you I was sensitive and for the first time, you spoke to me without care. So, I did what I always do. Rationalized, and researched. To understand how I let myself get here with feelings I should not have caught.
Here is the dastardly list of chemicals that make me bold but stupid: Oxytocin is the"love hormone". This lie-producing hormone is released when hugged or during sex. Problem solved don't touch m…damn it that's not going to work. Phenylethylamine (PEA), this is the "chemical of love". It is the chemical of deception and manipulation from my experience. Vasopressin is a neurotransmitter that plays a role in romantic love and social attachment formation. It's involved in behaviors that can lead to long-term, monogamous relationships in males, such as territorial aggression, mate guarding, and pair bonding. Oh, wait that would be the hormone that isn’t affecting your brain in regards to me. Linked to behaviors that can lead to long-term, monogamous relationships. Haha, monogamy. I can not stop laughing. Everyone is cheating. Norepinephrine, cool now I will be more alert. I will also remember all these tender moments that don't mean shit to you. Dopamine, nice I get this feel-good euphoric reward chemical released too. Nice! Too bad it isn’t going to last. Once, it sets in that I am the only one who caught feelings it’s going to be a quick slap in the face. Then, who knows how long I will chastise myself for losing the plot. Also, dearest the brain deactivates the amygdala, which controls fear, anger, and sadness The brain dampens the ability of the mid-and frontal cortex to use logic, criticize, or think clearly. What I see more clearly, none of this applies to you. Mores the pity for you darling tiger. I am a real tigress, and once release you me you won’t catch me again. Yes, I am angry with you. I never speak to you like this, because I respect you. This time though, you disrespected me. I can not let that stand. Fix yourself, figure out if you want me, or you want to lose me. Then get it together and tell me like the decent man I know you are. -illustrious tigress P.S. You should know, I am quite the bitch to people who hurt me. Not, in a vindictive way. No, I just go ice cold. We already know you don’t like that.

(sorry if it sounds like I'm rambling there's a lot of context)
For context, my (f29) cousin (f46) but acts like she's in her 20s. I'm really close with her (we grew up together now we're living together). She went thru a lot of bad situationships/ relationship issues/ trauma during her 20s-30s. I feel like I was low-key being exploited by her since I turned 18 y/o & especially @ 21 y/o when I could start legally drinking. She's a very kind, caring, outgoing person, always networking with people, but ALWAYS talking to guys. She would take me around her male friends (also around her age/ older than me) to "show me off" (it felt like).
I could be wrong but looking back at all those times, it never felt like she took me out because I wanted to go, it felt like she needed me to be seen with her to attract males out at the club/bar. It worked... she would even low-key set me up to talk with men knowing I had a bf/fiancé. Don't ask me why I agreed to go out lol I hated being at home so I would take any chance to get out of my house. She never made me do anything I didn't want to do, I should add.
I haven't been in a serious relationship for a few years until last year (April 2023 - now). He met the family and they all love my boyfriend (m30). I do have my insecurities as I'm sure others do but I observe a lot. People, behaviors, words, body language... everything. My cousin has done & said some questionable things regarding her other friends' boyfriends. She's never made a move or initiated cheating or anything like that but sometimes it feels like she's being TOO nice and getting TOO close.
As a woman, out of respect of others' relationships/friendships, I wouldn't be too friendly with other womens' significant others. I wouldn't laugh really loud at their jokes, I wouldn't touch them at all except for a hug (if initiated by them), I wouldn't inappropriately dress and flaunt around them. In other words I wouldn't put myself in a position to make any female uncomfortable with me around their boyfriends. All just out of respect because I have been on the receiving end of situations like that & I hate it.
Some of the things I've noticed is that she'd change the tone of her voice around other men/boyfriends. She'd sneak in these random touches on their hands/arms/shoulders. She had a finsta (separate IG account she used to post thirst traps) & added one of our mutual friend's boyfriends... WHICH IS WEIRD - pls don't tell me I'm the only one that feels like that! She dresses super provocatively when she knows there's going to be guys around. I've been FaceTiming my boyfriend a lot (everyday) I'll usually have my phone on a tripod and she'll always say hi to him BUT I noticed she'll wear tight/revealing clothes and come in front of the camera to "talk to me" or she'll be in the background of my FaceTime to show her butt.
Like I said, maybe I have insecurities, maybe I'm being sensitive. But when I remember and add up everything from the past that I've peeped, it's hard to ignore those little gestures. I'm so back-and-forth with this feeling because she's got a good heart and so so so kind, she's been there for me like a best friend for so many years but I'm still uncomfortable with these things that I listed.
WHEW. Ok, idk what to do or go about this.

Keep in mind, this is primarily from 2022, just touches on some 2020/21 and current date. Ages not shared bc idk if I want to share them yet (with exceptions)
Also, this is an Alt acc since much of my family has reddit
I, currently 15, at the time 12, used to have a VERY strong relationship with my grandma. We hung out as if we were BFF's and our emotional connection was very strong. This was mostly because my mom and step mom was busy a lot, and I only go to my dads house every once in a while.
To give some background, 2020 to 2021 my parents and just family in general wasnt doing the best. We had 2 family members, including my grandpa pass away, 1 pet pass away, my parents were having issues due to one thinking the other was cheating (Idk all details and not my thing to share, relationship still stands today without that relationship issue sooo), my grandma broke her back, and probably more things I dont remember.
Anyways, this takes place after my grandma's recovery, grandpa's celebration of life, a bunch of legal stuff, etc. In the start of 2022, my parents were still having relationship issues, very badly. So much to the point that my mom talked to me about what would happen if my step mom decided to leave. I have an open relationship with my step mom and mom, and my step mom has been apart of most my life so she would likely not just leave entirely, but obviously things would change.
During this time though, my brother was lying a bunch. Every child has a point they lie a lot and need to be gone senseless so they stop, I jusy had mine at a Muuuuch younger age so it was quicker and less important stuff. In this case my brother stole a very important heirloom from my grandma that used to be my grandpas. He lied a lot about it from where he got it, to what it was. Now, why is this important? Some of the responses that was given by my parents, this includes my mom, step mom, and dad of things like: my brother will be sent to Juvy, or threatening putting up for adoption, or calling police for theft because the item was REALLY expensive.
Now I think that was overboard even now looking at it. Like the way they said it, you could tell they were just trying to get into my brothers head to not lie, but still, that wasn't morally ok with me then or now. Also, not like they didn't get the item back-.
See, this actually made me want to have time away from the house, so I asked to spend to night with my grandma like I had many times before. Just me, not my brother. While there, I told her what they had said, and even things they had done to me, with to this day i still believe to be mentally abusive, such as calling me things like idiot, stupid, cursing at me about things, yelling about petty things (no joke, they have yelled because there was a single drop of syrup infront of the microwave on the floor not picked up), and more. A lot was without context though or downplaying what I did to make them mad. Note: my parents do realize things here or there and does apologize, and they mean my actions were stupid or idiotic, but doesn't mean they say it at that moment, they correct it later and sometimes dont correct it.
Now a bit more context: when I was a very young kid, the main 3 punishments I got was either Standing in the corner for often hours, standards (writing the same line again and again for blank amoumt kf pages), or spankings (belt or hand to the butt). Now, that sounds bad, especially the spankings, but keep in mind that one parent came from mentally abusing parents, the other came from an abusive family for the most part, and both were grown up being given spankings. They RARELY give spankings, and for that now, I have to royally piss them off. Anyways, those punishments seem to have actually gave me an automatic reaction to freeze when either parent is yelling at me, (trauma, were literally meaning 3 forms of punishment that hurt for at the time about a decade, now over a decade) so I tend to not argue back. Anyways, to the point, I told my grandma about these punishments too.
When I said this all, I asked my grandma to not share it with anyone. Now obviously that didn't happen given that mental abuse isn't ok to any of our family (my parents didnt quite understand that's mental abuse as they had ok'ed it in there mind beforehand with anger)
The issue is she waited till my birthday. See my step mom at the time is the main person I mentioned to my grandma since she and I at the time had a smaller relationship than with my mom since she generally gives punishments and I didnt notice my mom had just as much to do with my punishments as she did. It painted my step mom as a bad guy and my grandma wanted to do something.
So on my birthday, she decided to yell at my step mom (my grandma definitely had a thing to drink that day btw, she was an alcoholic. Also, my step mom rarely sees my grandma, then or now) about how she was treating me. My dad escorted me, my brother, my friend, and any other children in the house to the front porch and gave us a thing to do. I obviously decided to listen in a bit, but best thing I know is my grandma said stuff in a REALLY bad way.
Now, this point of the story, I would say me being an AH is iffy. My issue is even to this day, this one event, along with how my grandma treated my mom growing up a little, and how my grandma defines love as; "you dont love me if you dont help me work on things" (to put simple, my grandma is a functioning alcoholic, and a narcissist) has basically ruined my mom and step moms relationship with my grandma. My grandma actually recently went to the hospital due to falling on the blacktop of her street and I cant help but feel my mom not going to the hospital and staying home is my fault. (Its serious enough she is having surgery) My mom did still go out and help her get stuff to go to the hospital, but then came back, and when she got back my step mom said she was proud of my mom for now feeling the need to stay. I know there is more to the story that I don't know but the previous time when she broke her back, before I mentioned things to my grandma, that once it got to my parents made them purposefully distance themselfs, me, and my brother from our grandma, mom literally stayed for a few nights, she even had my grandma move in to our house till she recovered. Yet now she doesn't even go up to the hospital for any reason other than my great grandma wants to go and see her.
If you want more details as I probably forgot some, please ask. I will likely do follow ups and more stuff as this is only one piece of issues in my family. But I still want to know positive, negative, and neutral reply's. AITA

I know the obvious answer is to leave, but I don’t know how. For context, my father cheated on my mom when I was young. She never left, and I never learned to hate him. He stopped but never got better for my mom. My father had anger issues and would hit and scream at us when he’s in a bad mood.
I grew up physically abused, as most Asian families do. I have a fear of abandonment to a point where it’s paralyzing. I am the oldest out of 3 and learned quickly to be a pillar, a second mother for my sibling. I love taking care of people.
Me and my boyfriend met when we were 19. He is my first boyfriend, my first love, and who I lost my virginity to. He was the first man to take care of me, he never yelled, he talks to me so softly. He was nice and I fell in love. To be honest, I let a lot of things slide because he was truly loving towards me. I didn’t get lots of great physical touch when I was young, so it was nice that he never hits me. He always kisses and hugs me.
But he would constantly lie, cross my boundaries, and never truly understood me. Yet I still loved him wholeheartedly. I choose to see his good and hoped that he would one day change or that my love will be enough for him to want to change. But he never did. We moved in 4 years ago, and ever since, I did everything for him. I cooked, packed his lunch for work, dropped him off, and picked him up from work when I could. I played games with him. But he would lie, and we would have fights where I sometimes got physical, like pushing him away when he hugged me to calm me down or hitting his chest in frustration. I don’t have an excuse for my reaction.
But he never once told me that he minded, and so I stayed the same. One day, he told me he’s done, out of the blue, and that he needs space. I was confused at first and pestered him to tell me why. He was having trouble at his new job and is generally depressed. He didn’t want to handle our relationship and would like a break. I tried talking to him about helping him and working things out.
He wanted to move out, and I took the initiative and booked and paid for a hotel room for him for one night for him to cool off, and maybe we can talk after, since it has been weeks of this talk.
He came back saying he still needs to move out and be by himself to better himself and come back to me. He promised that if he does, he’ll be a better version of himself.
Today, I found out that he was cheating since months before. That the hotel I paid for with the little savings that I had was for him to sleep with this girl. I found out way later, and when I caught him having phone calls with her, he denied it being romantic.
Today I met the other girl, AZ. AZ told me everything. She was also lied to, she had no idea we were still dating. She told me every detail, how he kissed her and how much he loved kissing her. How much they love each other. How he lied about our relationship and our breakup, how he showed interest in her from the beginning.
He told me it was a mistake, that it was a one-night stand. And all he wanted was to let go of his frustration and play around a bit and will eventually come back to me after the break. That the 7 years was during his young years and that he didn’t explore and that he thought we were getting boring and with AZ, he felt alive again. He said he liked how easy it was, how fun being with AZ is. But he said he knows it was wrong and that he will never forgive himself or ever do it again.
I basically made him quit his job; they’re coworkers, and I stopped them from going further. He asked that we start over in a new country and that we can be better. He said that he doesn’t deserve me and is ready if I would want to let go, but if I would want to work things out, he would change.
I spent all those years not having a backup plan. He was everything for me and was the person I never thought could do this. I truly planned my whole life for him.
Yet after all of this, I can’t shake the feeling that I can’t leave. I want to forgive him and forget this ever happened. But all of you experienced folks, please help me. I don’t know what to do, I’m so lost. Its so hard for me to abandon people. I’m 26, and I feel like dying. Will I even be desirable, and will I even love again, are all men like this? What if I meet one that hits me? Was I loved?
Please, help me.
I’m so sorry this was long, I had no one to talk to. I just hope to get some advice.

I know the obvious answer is to leave, but I don’t know how. For context, my father cheated on my mom when I was young. She never left, and I never learned to hate him. He stopped but never got better for my mom. My father had anger issues and would hit and scream at us when he’s in a bad mood.
I grew up physically abused, as most Asian families do. I have a fear of abandonment to a point where it’s paralyzing. I am the oldest out of 3 and learned quickly to be a pillar, a second mother for my sibling. I love taking care of people.
Me and my boyfriend met when we were 19. He is my first boyfriend, my first love, and who I lost my virginity to. He was the first man to take care of me, he never yelled, he talks to me so softly. He was nice and I fell in love. To be honest, I let a lot of things slide because he was truly loving towards me. I didn’t get lots of great physical touch when I was young, so it was nice that he never hits me. He always kisses and hugs me.
But he would constantly lie, cross my boundaries, and never truly understood me. Yet I still loved him wholeheartedly. I choose to see his good and hoped that he would one day change or that my love will be enough for him to want to change. But he never did. We moved in 4 years ago, and ever since, I did everything for him. I cooked, packed his lunch for work, dropped him off, and picked him up from work when I could. I played games with him. But he would lie, and we would have fights where I sometimes got physical, like pushing him away when he hugged me to calm me down or hitting his chest in frustration. I don’t have an excuse for my reaction.
But he never once told me that he minded, and so I stayed the same. One day, he told me he’s done, out of the blue, and that he needs space. I was confused at first and pestered him to tell me why. He was having trouble at his new job and is generally depressed. He didn’t want to handle our relationship and would like a break. I tried talking to him about helping him and working things out.
He wanted to move out, and I took the initiative and booked and paid for a hotel room for him for one night for him to cool off, and maybe we can talk after, since it has been weeks of this talk.
He came back saying he still needs to move out and be by himself to better himself and come back to me. He promised that if he does, he’ll be a better version of himself.
Today, I found out that he was cheating since months before. That the hotel I paid for with the little savings that I had was for him to sleep with this girl. I found out way later, and when I caught him having phone calls with her, he denied it being romantic.
Today I met the other girl, AZ. AZ told me everything. She was also lied to, she had no idea we were still dating. She told me every detail, how he kissed her and how much he loved kissing her. How much they love each other. How he lied about our relationship and our breakup, how he showed interest in her from the beginning.
He told me it was a mistake, that it was a one-night stand. And all he wanted was to let go of his frustration and play around a bit and will eventually come back to me after the break. That the 7 years was during his young years and that he didn’t explore and that he thought we were getting boring and with AZ, he felt alive again. He said he liked how easy it was, how fun being with AZ is. But he said he knows it was wrong and that he will never forgive himself or ever do it again.
I basically made him quit his job; they’re coworkers, and I stopped them from going further. He asked that we start over in a new country and that we can be better. He said that he doesn’t deserve me and is ready if I would want to let go, but if I would want to work things out, he would change.
I spent all those years not having a backup plan. He was everything for me and was the person I never thought could do this. I truly planned my whole life for him.
Yet after all of this, I can’t shake the feeling that I can’t leave. I want to forgive him and forget this ever happened. But all of you experienced folks, please help me. I don’t know what to do, I’m so lost. Its so hard for me to abandon people. I’m 26, and I feel like dying. Will I even be desirable, and will I even love again, are all men like this? What if I meet one that hits me? Was I loved?
Please, help me.
I’m so sorry this was long, I had no one to talk to. I just hope to get some advice.

I know the obvious answer is to leave, but I don’t know how. For context, my father cheated on my mom when I was young. She never left, and I never learned to hate him. He stopped but never got better for my mom. My father had anger issues and would hit and scream at us when he’s in a bad mood.
I grew up physically abused, as most Asian families do. I have a fear of abandonment to a point where it’s paralyzing. I am the oldest out of 3 and learned quickly to be a pillar, a second mother for my sibling. I love taking care of people.
Me and my boyfriend met when we were 19. He is my first boyfriend, my first love, and who I lost my virginity to. He was the first man to take care of me, he never yelled, he talks to me so softly. He was nice and I fell in love. To be honest, I let a lot of things slide because he was truly loving towards me. I didn’t get lots of great physical touch when I was young, so it was nice that he never hits me. He always kisses and hugs me.
But he would constantly lie, cross my boundaries, and never truly understood me. Yet I still loved him wholeheartedly. I choose to see his good and hoped that he would one day change or that my love will be enough for him to want to change. But he never did. We moved in 4 years ago, and ever since, I did everything for him. I cooked, packed his lunch for work, dropped him off, and picked him up from work when I could. I played games with him. But he would lie, and we would have fights where I sometimes got physical, like pushing him away when he hugged me to calm me down or hitting his chest in frustration. I don’t have an excuse for my reaction.
But he never once told me that he minded, and so I stayed the same. One day, he told me he’s done, out of the blue, and that he needs space. I was confused at first and pestered him to tell me why. He was having trouble at his new job and is generally depressed. He didn’t want to handle our relationship and would like a break. I tried talking to him about helping him and working things out.
He wanted to move out, and I took the initiative and booked and paid for a hotel room for him for one night for him to cool off, and maybe we can talk after, since it has been weeks of this talk.
He came back saying he still needs to move out and be by himself to better himself and come back to me. He promised that if he does, he’ll be a better version of himself.
Today, I found out that he was cheating since months before. That the hotel I paid for with the little savings that I had was for him to sleep with this girl. I found out way later, and when I caught him having phone calls with her, he denied it being romantic.
Today I met the other girl, AZ. AZ told me everything. She was also lied to, she had no idea we were still dating. She told me every detail, how he kissed her and how much he loved kissing her. How much they love each other. How he lied about our relationship and our breakup, how he showed interest in her from the beginning.
He told me it was a mistake, that it was a one-night stand. And all he wanted was to let go of his frustration and play around a bit and will eventually come back to me after the break. That the 7 years was during his young years and that he didn’t explore and that he thought we were getting boring and with AZ, he felt alive again. He said he liked how easy it was, how fun being with AZ is. But he said he knows it was wrong and that he will never forgive himself or ever do it again.
I basically made him quit his job; they’re coworkers, and I stopped them from going further. He asked that we start over in a new country and that we can be better. He said that he doesn’t deserve me and is ready if I would want to let go, but if I would want to work things out, he would change.
I spent all those years not having a backup plan. He was everything for me and was the person I never thought could do this. I truly planned my whole life for him.
Yet after all of this, I can’t shake the feeling that I can’t leave. I want to forgive him and forget this ever happened. But all of you experienced folks, please help me. I don’t know what to do, I’m so lost. Its so hard for me to abandon people. I’m 26, and I feel like dying. Will I even be desirable, and will I even love again, are all men like this? What if I meet one that hits me? Was I loved?
Please, help me.
I’m so sorry this was long, I had no one to talk to. I just hope to get some advice.

He was walking into the kitchen from hall and his sister was bent over and he grabbed her hips and touched her but and kinda trusted her. She's wearing black sweat pants I was wearing jeans I was in the same room standing right in front of him looking at him bc I was about to ask him a question
He also called his sister his girlfriend when the ball was next to her "The ball is next to my girlfriend" I'm on the completely different side of the room and sitting next to him
I dont think Being drunk is an excuse
He also smacked his other sister's butt as she walked by I am sitting not even a foot away from where he's standing, she was also wearing black leggings
They are both in their 20s And this was on his 18th birthday party
When I tried talking to him about it I cried alot it really felt like I had just been cheated on right infront of my eyes. He used the excuse that he was drunk and thought it was me. And when I said anything about cheating, he said it wasn't cheating bc he was in his own house and they are his sisters so it doesn't count
We've been in a relationship for a year and a half
It's been about 3 weeks since this happened and I still think about it everyday and I have sm anxiety when he goes out drinking bc what if he does it again with not his sister and I never find out, I feel like I have to be with him 24/7 while he's drinking and when he's not. I now have this huge anxiety that every time he gets drunk thar he's going to cheat.
What should I do and what would you do in this situation? I don't think I could ever leave him.

Hey there! I just bought the 13.6 in M2 MacBook Air, it's my first Apple device since middle school with my iPod touch 4th gen. Absolutely love it and am enjoying Mac OS. That being said I was wondering if anyone else out there does their own DIY vinyl wraps? Or just happens to like using skins on their devices? Personally I use cases for my Galaxy Tab S9+, and Pixel 7 pro. However when I'm not out and about and I'm just at home I don't use cases but I absolutely love having skins on my devices.
And about 6 months ago I bought a 2x15 ft roll of white marble and vinyl wrap. And I have been skinning everything since. However I think by far my new favorite is the MacBook. I have a Canon Ivy 2 sticker printer. And so I printed out a purple Apple logo and then cut it out and placed it. I buy far I think it's the cleanest thing that I've wrapped so far.

If you're on the apps—whether you're looking for marriage, looking for a hookup or you're just looking for a nice night out on the town—one thing is for sure: You have seconds to make a first impression that keeps someone from swiping left. What's the key? Knowing how to make your Tinder bios stand out among the rest.
If you're wondering: "What is a good bio for Tinder? How do I spice up my Tinder bio?" then you've come to the right place. Marissa Moore, a counselor and couples therapist with years of experience, gave us all her recommendations for making your bio the best of them all (plus 40 ideas for the best Tinder bios, below!)
What to Put In a Tinder Bio
So, you've opened up the "edit" section on your Tinder bio (or Hinge bio or even Bumble bio, too) and you're staring blankly at your phone. How are you supposed to know how to write a Tinder bio that will stop someone in their tracks?
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The secret, Moore says, is deciding between a few different formulas, and sticking to one. Remember: This doesn't have to be super complicated. It's actually supposed to be fun! To get started, use these are a guide on what to put in Tinder bio:
Everyone loves a perfectly-timed one-liner, right? Write something that captures your personality or sense of humor.
Want to keep it straight forward? Go the old-fashioned route and write a brief description of yourself, highlighting your interests, hobbies or passions.
You're funny, so maybe use this time to show it off. Using a joke or witty remark can be a great way to give someone a sense of your personality, too.
Lastly, if you're a romantic at heart or suave in your own right, try using a creative and flirty pick up line that stands out (but avoid anything overly cheesy or inappropriate.)
How to Write a Tinder Bio
Now that you've got a road map for how to make a good Tinder bio—i.e. you've chosen a one-liner, keeping it straight forward, leaning on your humor or a pick up line—what is the best way to approach actually writing it all out?
Whether you're looking to write clever Tinder bios, Tinder bios for guys or just wanting to make your dating app bio shine with your personality, Moore has a few tried-and-true tricks up her sleeve to stand out.
Be Authentic
It might be tempting to want to make yourself look "better" than you are IRL, but this is never a good idea, and your dates will learn the truth eventually. That's why Moore suggests the biggest piece of advice: to be authentic.
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Let her know that she's always the first thing on your mind.
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"Showcase your genuine personality and interests," Moore says. "Rather than trying to portray yourself as someone you're not."
Keep it Concise
Next up? Make sure to keep your Tinder bios as concise as possible. Remember: you've got seconds to impress the person on the other end — let's make sure you get a swipe right.
"Aim for a bio that is clear, concise and easy to read," she says. "Avoid overwhelming potential matches with too much information."
Show, Don't Tell
Another tip? Show, don't tell. According to Moore, Instead of listing qualities about yourself, you might consider sharing anecdotes or stories that illustrate who you are and what you enjoy. This can sometimes be more intriguing.
Highlight Your Unique Traits
What makes you unique is a good thing! Use it to your advantage. By focusing on what makes you stand out from the crowd, and what you can offer in a relationship, you may find someone who already loves your quirks and differences, right off the bat.
Funny Tinder Bios
Do you consider yourself a comic? If so, you might have chosen going with the funny Tinder bios route. If so, here are some ideas to use, below.
I'm not a photographer, but I can picture us together.
Looking for someone who can keep up with my pun game.
Swipe right if you're ready for cheesy pick up lines and spontaneous dance parties.
Looking for a wingwoman to hunt down the best tacos in town on a random Tuesday afternoon.
Seeking someone who will support my travel addiction and my obsession for squeezing everything into a carry on bag.
If you date me, you'll be the good looking one.
Looking for someone to appreciate my puns and share pizza with. If you can't handle my cheesy jokes, you're not the one for me. Let's see if we can find the perfect slice together!
You're single, I'm single. You know what that means? Nobody wants us.
Life's too short for boring conversations and dull dates! Let's do both.
I'm really bad at putting together IKEA furniture—looking for a cute helper 😉
Clever Tinder Bios
Maybe a clever bio is more your speed. If so, there are plenty of ideas for Tinder bio that fall under clever and smart, too.
Currently accepting applications for a partner in crime and fellow Netflix binge-watcher.
Like a 'Fun-Size' Snickers bar, they say good things come in small packages.
If life is a game, consider me your cheat code. Swipe right and let's unlock some bonus levels together.
I'm like a Rubik's Cube—complex, colorful and slightly frustrating at times. But once you figure me out, you'll realize I'm worth the challenge.
If you can guess my favorite pizza topping, you win bonus points.
Seeking someone who can match my level of sarcasm and appreciation for dry humor.
Looking for someone who can handle my impeccable taste in music, questionable cooking skills and my uncanny ability to always find the best meme for every situation.
Outdoor enthusiast and indoor Netflix champion.
Professional overthinker seeking someone who analyzes texts as much as I do. Showcases self-awareness and a touch of vulnerability.
Chapter 23 - Looking for someone to co-author the next chapters. Indicates a life seen as an unfolding story, inviting collaboration.
Cute Tinder Bios
If being cutesy is more your thing, look no further: using cute Tinder bios has been proven to work again and again. Being and feeling cute can be a confidence boost when dating — here are some of our fave examples.
Lover of sunsets, dog walks and spontaneous adventures. Let's create our own love story.
Looking for someone to share lazy Sunday mornings and late-night conversations with.
Searching for my partner-in-crime to explore the city, try new foods and cuddle up with on rainy days.
Puppy enthusiast. Ice cream connoisseur. A seeker of great coffee dates.
Might steal your heart, will steal your fries.
Just a Jim looking for his Pam. Bonus points if you give great bear hugs!
A believer in fairy tales, serendipity and the magic of a good cup of coffee.
Looking for someone who's all about making everyday moments a little bit extraordinary.
Cuddling champion searching for a worthy competitor. Must be fond of star-gazing and midnight snacks.
Looking for someone to share in my adventure of finding the best tacos in town.
Simple Tinder Bios
If being cute, funny or clever doesn't speak to you, it's OK to stick to simple, too! Here are some ideas to try on for size.
Looking for a real connection, not just a one-time thing.
Just trying to find my other half.
Drinks?
Come say hello.
____ born & raised.
Looking for more laugh lines.
Traveling and exploring. Want to join?
Let's see how this goes.
Looking for an adventure partner.
If I am not home, you can find me ____.

He was walking into the kitchen from hall and his sister was bent over and he grabbed her hips and touched her but and kinda trusted her. She's wearing black sweat pants I was wearing jeans I was in the same room standing right in front of him looking at him bc I was about to ask him a question
He also called his sister his girlfriend when the ball was next to her "The ball is next to my girlfriend" I'm on the completely different side of the room and sitting next to him
I dont think Being drunk is an excuse
He also smacked his other sister's butt as she walked by I am sitting not even a foot away from where he's standing, she was also wearing black leggings
They are both in their 20s And this was on his 18th birthday party
When I tried talking to him about it I cried alot it really felt like I had just been cheated on right infront of my eyes. He used the excuse that he was drunk and thought it was me. And when I said anything about cheating, he said it wasn't cheating bc he was in his own house and they are his sisters so it doesn't count
We've been in a relationship for a year and a half
It's been about 3 weeks since this happened and I still think about it everyday and I have sm anxiety when he goes out drinking bc what if he does it again with not his sister and I never find out, I feel like I have to be with him 24/7 while he's drinking and when he's not. I now have this huge anxiety that every time he gets drunk thar he's going to cheat.
What should I do and what would you do in this situation? I don't think I could ever leave him.

There's this girl who is almost my girlfriend, though we never use the words "girlfriend" or "boyfriend" in our conversations. She is sweet and honest but usually doesn't connect with people. I met her six months ago and felt an instant connection with her. We listen to each other, and our conversations are meaningful. However, she's not comfortable with my physical touch.
We do engage in physical activities, but afterward, she often refuses to see me for a while—usually about 20-30 minutes until she settles down. This happened again a few days ago, so I asked her directly about the reason. She told me she had a difficult past and takes time to trust people. She mentioned a guy who has been friends with her for years. She had a crush on him in the early days, but now they're just friends. She said he never touched her inappropriately, and aside from her brother and father, he's the only person she's comfortable with physically.
I asked her why she didn't tell me this when we first started our physical relationship five months ago. She said she wanted to be touched and likes my touch more than anything, but after the heat of the moment, she feels a sense of guilt, as if she is cheating on someone with me. When I asked if she would ever be comfortable with me, she replied that she didn't know.
Feeling confused, I dropped her off at her home and messaged her that we shouldn't meet again. She called me, crying and apologizing for everything she said, and asked for one last chance. I'm emotionally weak and can't stand to see people cry, so I said fine, and things went back to normal. But now, I'm still confused.
Should I wait for her to get comfortable with me, or should I just let her go?

Please be kind as this whole situation has me kinda anxious. I feel like there's no right answer on what to do.
Minor TW for mention of SA but its not significant to the whole post.
TLDR- My ex from almost 10 years ago has been secretly stalking my Instagram account for just under 2 years. The situation gives me the ick but I also don't care enough to take the time to block him. Especially as I feel his behavior doesn't deserve my attention or acknowledgement and could just lead to bigger problems i dont need. How ever, the girls girl in me feels bad for his wife because I know she would not be happy to find this out. I wouldn't be happy if my fiance did this. Am I the asshole for not making a bigger deal out of this. For not confronting/blocking him or telling his wife.
Here's more details. The long version with the back story.
My (28F now 17/18F at time of relationship) ex fiance (21/22M At time of relationship) has been stalking me on Instagram. Our relationship started when I was a junior in High School at a local Votech. He was my shop teachers son who was paying for and taking classes as an adult for another shop along side the high school students. A special opportunity that he was presented because of his parents employment at the school. That's how we met and started dating in like April of 2013.
He was extremely toxic in our relationship (I'm not saying I'm perfect). He would constantly try to make me jealous. First by saying a girl in the shop class he was taking was constantly flirting with him. Later by telling me while working at his job (gas station convince store) women gave him their number. Even one time trying to tell me some woman messaged him asking to sleep with him. I told him it sounded like an ad from a porn site and he got extremely offended and tried to convince me it wasn't an ad but that a real woman was trying to get him to come sleep with her. Basically the whole "other women want me. You should feel lucky I only want you" behavior BS. He also refused to let me have friends. He would start fights with me almost every time I was with a friend. I'm bisexual so he assumed I would cheat on him with my girl friends. None of my friends liked him because of this.
But I was naive and thought I was in love. He proposed to me on Valentines Day 2014. I turned 18 and graduated a few months later before going to college in August 2 hours away. Things got worse between him fighting with me all the time about him being paranoid I'd cheat on him. Then him taking 2 months before visiting me only to say he was coming up for the weekend then actually only come up to visit for 2.5 hours, fuck me, eat a donut, and then decide to leave and go home. Long story short we broke up at the end of October after some toxic shit.
I quickly moved on because of some homophobic shit he said to a friend of mine causing me to lose any love or respect I had for him. His SIL messaged me after we broke up to tell me how horrible I was for breaking his heart. He had told his family we broke up because I had "cheated on him with a female and decided I'm a lesbian." I promptly told her he lied and told her what really happened including screenshots. I thought that was the end of everything. Deleted everyones number and moved on. November came and went and in December I met a different guy we can call Matt and we started dating.
After 6 months of dating Matt, my exs SIL messaged me cussing me out, insulting and threatening me. Telling me he found someone much prettier and better than me (her cousin who we had actually met at her wedding to his brother). She claimed my ex said I had been texting him gloating about my new relationship and sending him photos of Matt and I. I explained I hadn't texted my ex since the day we broke up in October and lost his number with in the same week. It was not me trying to text him. But I was genuinely concerned and wanted to know who did since I didn't want or need unnecessary drama. I offered to help find out who was doing this (though my suspicion told me it was him using a text app on his iPod Touch to text himself and the photo that was sent was one of my public FB Profile pictures since as I said above he tried similar to make me jealous before when I was his GF so it would not shock me if he did it to the new girl too). Unsurprisingly when I asked for the number that texted him this stuff he conveniently deleted it and didn't know the number. But I was told if they texted again the SIL would tell me the number. They never texted again. That was in 2015. I hadn't thought about them since.
Until this past December 2023.
I was on Instagram looking through stories. Instagram showed me a "People you may know" story with a few accounts it thought I may want to follow. The first one showed my Exs account, his picture of him and his wife (the SILs Cousin). This weirded me out because we've been broken up for 9 years at this point. We don't have mutual friends or social circles. He shouldn't be in my "people you may know". But then I saw it specifically said "Follow BACK" indicating he was following me. Which is why it showed me his account. I was so confused because I would have noticed if my ex had shown up in my notifications.
I went to his profile and I actually did recognize the username. And was able to check when he had followed me. He followed me in August of 2022. But he didn't have a PFP or any post then. I didn't realize it was my ex because even though the username included his first name it had been so long that I didn't even think it was him. The only reason why I remembered the account even following me is because it includes his middle name (that I forgot was his middle name at this time) and that middle name is the same first name as the man who assaulted me in 2017. So I was afraid the account was my rapists Instagram but realized I was being paranoid and that he was still in jail at that time so it couldn't have been him. A lot of random accounts follow me on Instagram because my account is public.
Anyway, he followed me in August of 2022 and never had a PFP or any post until November of 2023 which is why I had no idea he was following me and why he showed up in December as someone I may know (because he was active on Instagram then and recently made his first post). I know he sees my post because he only follows 9 accounts, me, a few shops, and model accounts.
What had me the most weirded out by this is that in the 9 years we were broken up I never saw him or ran into him. But in the time between August 22 and November 23, he showed up at the mall at the same time as me. More than likely a coincidence. But it was still weird. I considered blocking him but both my fiance and best friend told me not to worry about it unless he does keep showing up places. Because otherwise I'm just giving him a response to his behavior and he isn't worth that.
Some may say not blocking him means I'm trying to rub my relationship and family (I have a toddler and another baby on the way and I'm getting married this year too) in his face. But I'm not forcing him to look. I'm not posting anything with him in mind. And it's not my responsibility to help him move on. If he wants to look through my photos, as long as it doesn't actually affect or hurt me, I honestly could care less.
So I let it go. And honestly forgot about it until this week. While driving to my OB appointment I got a notification that my Exs account liked one of my photos on Instagram. When I saw this later at my appointment I did take a screenshot and then clicked the notification to see what it was. This wasn't a recent photo. It was a photo from 2015. Instagram showed he had unliked it, indicating he didn't mean to and was probably hoping I wouldn't see that he did in the first place. But what was weird to me about this was that he had to scroll through over 1,000 photos on my Instagram to get to and accidentally like this one from 9 years ago. So like this wasn't a casual just keeping tabs on how my ex is doing these days. He was scrolling through over 1,000 photos I've posted.
I once again considered blocking him but my friend made a good point that he followed me undetected before for over a year. He could make a new account and follow me again undetected. At least right now I am able to document anything that happens incase things were to escalate. And that not warranting the behavior with acknowledgement or a response is best. As it's highly unlikely this will go beyond him looking at my Instagram. I didn't post i was going to the mall the two times he was also there. And I don't share my location on any other social media apps. So it truly was more than likely a weird coincidence. So I'm just documenting everything incase it does escalate OR incase he tries something again like mentioned above and I get threatening messages from his family.
This is the part that's eating me up. His wife knows who I am. As I said I met her when his brother and her cousin got married. We were both in her bridal party. She's had me blocked on Facebook since the situation were her cousin messaged me about someone texting him thinking it was me. She was also with him at the mall the second time he was coincidentally there and she definitely saw me which was in itself an embarrassing encounter (because I had just bought my fiance a father's day gift but they couldn't remove the security tag from it so as I exited the store the alarm sounds like I'm robbing the place armed and they were in the food court right by the entrance and all this attention was on me, I went back to the counter but they told me they couldnt remove the tag so I had to let the alarm go off as I leave and it will turn off after a moment). I heard her even say "isn't that [my name]?" Anyway, I know she probably would not be happy to know he's following me. I looked her up on Instagram, she doesn't post often but most recently posted on Valentines Day about their 5 year wedding anniversary. But I don't think she knows he has an Instagram. She only follows a few accounts, including her cousin mentioned above. But neither of them follow her husband, my ex. And he doesn't follow any of them either.
Idk, maybe it's just me. But I would be livid to find out my fiance/husband had an Instagram where he didn't follow me but did follow his ex. I honestly feel bad for her because I know it would hurt me. But I also don't know if she truly has no idea. I asked my friend if I should say something to her but my friend said I'd just be opening myself up to unnecessary drama and stirring a pot that doesn't need to be stirred. Unless things escalate. That it would be wrong to potentially cause issues in their relationships over what could be innocent curiosity.
Idk. Maybe I'm over thinking things as I am hormonal as I'm 7 months pregnant. But I feel bad not telling her. And I also don't want to block him because at least now I know and can be aware of what's happening. Since he doesn't know I know at this time. I guess it's important to mention I have diagnosed ptsd from multiple things including abusive partners and had an ex stalk me previously. So being able to document things makes me feel calm and more in control of the situation. As finding out he was following me unnoticed for over a year was extremely triggering and as I said before blocking him could result in him just making another fake account.

i havent touched mc cheating since i made my last redesky config 3 years ago 💀

i (F16) broke up with my ex, lets call him M - he is 18, about a year and a half ago. it was an online relationship over discord that i regret very much and made me realize how easy manipulated i was over the year i was with him. i got into the healthiest relationship ever about 3 months after i broke up with him, so around march of 2023. i have been with my current boyfriend, b - who is 17, since then (so much happier lol) when i was scrolling through comments on a reddit post i realized i accidentally stumbled upon my ex's reddit acct, and what i saw made me go into shock, and i immediately showed my current boyfriend. he is posting stuff about me, lying, saying i cheated on him, and that for some reason i hooked up with a bunch of guys right after we broke up? and that im an alcoholic and drug addict? i, for one, have never even touched alcohol nonetheless drugs besides my antidepressants. and ive also never had sex with anyone besides my current partner (ex has also lied about doing it with me..) i know i can't actually do anything about this but i just needed to vent bc it pisses me off so much.

Let me preface this with the past 5 years summarized.
My wife used to smoke when I met her. She smoked when we were married, and for many years after. Due to health concerns, she decided to quit, and did so sometime around 2013.
We used to go away on holidays together as a family. In 2016 I took our son (13 at the time) on a road trip across a lot of the South and Western US States (CO, TX, UT, AZ, NM) while she went to another city to spend time with her daughter from another relationship. Since then, we did not go on holidays or take vacation together at the same time.
In 2017 I went away with our son, and again in 2018 and 2019. Sometime around 2019 I noticed my wife was smoking again, but I decided not to bother her about it, just let it be. I didn't say anything. She would leave to go to the store to smoke, because who goes to the store 2x every day?
She got into the car cruise nights and she would take her daughter along with her. Our son would ask to go, and she would often say no, she had already promised her daughter. Sometimes she would let him go.
She never wanted me to go with her, and in fact said so with excuses all the time ("you don't like sitting in my car, you don't like being around other people a lot, you should have fun with our son playing games instead" you name it). In the fall of 2022, our son told her that we knew she was smoking, when I wasn't home. So at first the nightly shopping trips ceased, as she began smoking outside on the street.
In 2023, for our anniversary, I got her a present and sent her a nice text. She thanked me by text, and didn't do or say anything in return. For my birthday, she didn't get me a card, or a gift. For father's day, same thing, no card, nothing. I had asked her to go away with me on a trip, and she said no. So I took our son on another trip. We had to come home 4 days early because we got sick, and she was upset we arrived early. She had taken the same period off for her holidays without telling me, and was mad that she was off work when I would also be off work and at home.
For her birthday, she didn't want me to do anything or even take her out, and instead went out by herself on a cruise night. At least she said she was going by herself, I didn't verify.
I should mention that during our whole relationship, I have always shared my phone location with her, but she has never shared hers with me, even though I've asked. She said she doesn't trust location services on the phone and so didn't want to use it. Okay, fine. She never would let me see her phone, and she had a passcode she never wanted me to see. Also, we had ceased having any sex sometime around 2018, and stopped kissing each other shortly after.
In the fall of 2023, she wanted to go to a cruise happening in another city, one state over. I said I'd like to go, and it seemed like she wasn't pleased but also not showing it. I could just have been reading that wrong. We went, and checked in to our hotel for the night, and she sat on the couch beside me on her phone for hours. I tried talking and she didn't want to engage. I tried rubbing her back, and touching her and it was like touching a dead person, with no response. When I finally said that I thought maybe we could make love, she said she was too tired for that.
The next day, I told her I wanted to make love to her, and she said she would have to shower first, and when she came out of the shower, we made love. But it was different than it used to be.
She started going out again to the store more frequently, and then it became just going for a drive, or going for a walk after a drive, or just sitting in her car in some random parking lot for 6 hours listening to music (so she said).
Just before Christmas, she went to the car club dinner, and said I wasn't invited so I couldn't go along.
On New Year's Eve, she told me after supper, at 7pm, that she was going to a party that her friend was hosting, and that she wanted to go alone. I was quite upset over this, but didn't say anything. I just let her go, while I sat at home and cried.
The next week, she asked me to book a hotel room for her for middle of January, as she was taking a week of holidays. I was upset, wondering where this was leading, but I did it for her.
After her first night, I texted her and asked how she slept, and she said she didn't sleep well, was up at midnight because car alarms were going off in the parking lot, and she didn't get back to sleep until after 2:30am.
Our anniversary came, and I got her a gift, and sent her a text. She simply said "thank you for the gift" but nothing else. It seemed off, but not like this wasn't a trend. It was just, becoming more distant and off.
From the hotel stay, through until the end of February, she would be out for at least 4-6 hours every single night and the entire weekends. It was drinking with the girls from work (something she never did before) to coffee with a certain friend (we'll call her Nettie), out for a drive, etc. In the beginning of February, our son needed to go to the hospital, and he had texted her to take him, because I had already taken him 4 times in the prior 2 months. She showed up at home to pick him up, and on the way to the hospital, she was texting someone, with her phone held at an angle so he couldn't see. Several times they almost hit another car or went into the ditch.
Finally he shouted at her "who is so important that you're texting, that you're willing to kill us over?" and she angrily just slammed her phone down and said nothing.
On February 29, in the afternoon, she sent me an email that she was separating from me. I didn't see it until 7pm. She came home from work at around 6, and was really weird. I guess she didn't know I hadn't seen it yet. We decided on supper, and she went out to get the food and bring it home. While she was out, I saw the email.
She never gave me any reason why. Here was her email:

I have been unhappy for such a long time, and nothing seems to help us improve our relationship. I am sorry to say this, but this relationship isn’t bringing out the best in either of us so I’ve decided that I want to separate with the intention of reconciliation.
I feel like I don’t have any space in our house. I mentioned using the 2^nd bedroom for my painting and you said right away that you wanted to use it. I stopped even trying to do this.
I would like for you to take care of yourself and get some answers regarding your health and wellness.
Some of the steps I am taking include:
I am currently looking for a place of my own, so we both have space to work on our own stuff. I need time to reflect on myself and discover who I am again. I’m looking for peace within myself and feel I need to do this on my own.
I have opened my own account and my next pay check will be deposited into this account.
I am seeing a counselor.
In restarting our journey, I support your promise to clean up the basement and to sell the stuff. I am also hurting at this time, we both need to heal so we can continue.
I think it's best if we communicate through email for now. I will respond within 24 hours.

After this, she began asking me questions over several days about things, accounts, etc., and I reasoned she was seeing a lawyer. So I made an appointment and saw a lawyer, and we drafted a letter to send to her. In the meantime, before receiving that letter, she filed for divorce, with no possibility of reconciliation, and she filed to take all of my assets, and for a restraining and protection order. She filed to take the house, and have exclusive access to it, etc.
I began trying to figure out where this was all coming from. I started looking at the phone bills, something I had never done before. I reversed phone numbers she had called, and then saw that during the time she was at the hotel, she had zero phone calls, except for one. She received a call at 11:30pm on the first night she was staying there, The same night she mentioned she was awakened by car alarms when I asked how her night was.
Why did she get a phone call at 11:30pm, who was it? Why no other calls for the rest of her stay? People she would talk to knew she was away? She would typically have at least 3-5 calls minimum every single day on her phone.
Unfortunately, incoming calls don't have a call number listed, just that it is incoming. The call lasted for 2 minutes.
While she was 'separated' from me, but still living in the same home, she would not talk to me. At all. One evening, a few weeks after the divorce filing, she was texting someone, and at 9pm she went to bed. Half hour later she got up, and went out the door, and was gone for 2 hours, returning at 11:30pm, going straight to bed. Something she had never done before.
I was blindsided and struck by this separation, and then divorce. I mean, our marriage wasn't great for years, no sex, no intimacy, no "love", but I had figured she just needed some space. I gave her space.
One thing that happened 3 weeks before she separated from me, our son came to me, and told me that his mom was acting really weird for the past while. He said he had some ideas, but he didn't want to tell me because he didn't want to be wrong. I told him I already had ideas, and I had already talked to friends who gave me their opinion, and just spit it out. He said he thought she was cheating on me, and that it was possibly someone from the car cruise group. He told me about the texting incident while driving to the hospital.
Additionally, he told me the first time she took him to the car group, she told him MANY times "you don't have to worry about me, all of these people are married". He said at one point "why are you telling me that?" and she said "well, I didn't want you to think I'm seeing other people behind your dad's back".
On top of this, I had started checking up on her when she would say where she was going. And she wasn't going there. She said she went for coffee at a coworker's house, and when I went for a drive while she was there, I found she wasn't there. She also had texted me at least 8 times that she was going to see Nettie for coffee. Which is funny because I ran into Nettie a few weeks ago, and Nettie hadn't seen her since last summer, when my wife betrayed her trust somehow and walked out on their friendship.
Was my wife cheating on me? She refuses to talk to me. She is telling people lies, like saying that I came to the hotel and checked up on her while she was there, telling the front desk people to "call him if anyone goes to his wife's room". She has told people I know that I had accused her of cheating on me, and I wasn't trusting her, etc.
Is she just done with our marriage? I think it all fell apart 5 years ago, but I'm not entirely sure. The way she was with me, and at home was nearly the same until the day she gave me a separation email, as it was for the prior 5 years. Was she faking it for 5 years?
In the meantime, she has turned her daughter away from me. She and our son went out for the afternoon a couple of months ago, and she told him "isn't it so shitty what dad did to mom?". I didn't do anything... I don't get it.
If she comes crawling back to me, I will not get back together with her. She has proven now that she is 100% untrustworthy. And without trust, there can be no relationship.

TL;DR: My husband and I have a rocky relationship with MIL, she doesn’t know I’m pregnant but she’s offering to stay with us for two weeks to help care for my step daughter while we have her long term in the summer. There’s no way I could hide my pregnancy when she comes because I will be nearing 18 weeks. She’s going to be so upset and I don’t know how to tell her that I didn’t want to tell her because I know she will run to my husband’s ex girlfriend with the information and that makes me uncomfortable.
I’m gonna start this off by saying I don’t have a great relationship with my mother in law. She’s not nice to me and she prefers my husband’s ex, (The mother of his first child) and gets irritated with me for every little thing like, not sending her pictures of my step child, not keeping in touch with her, not agreeing with her when she tells my husband he’s wrong or when she wallows in self pity about her broken relationship with my husband.. Her relationship with my husband is weird because she basically abandoned my husband at the age of 5 and left him with his dad who was very physically and emotionally abusive. She came back when he was 10 because she found out even if she abandoned him she’d still have to pay child support or get arrested. 🙄 he spent time with her because even though she did dugs and her new husband was a loser, he wasn’t being physically abused or left in cars while his dad went to bars. He left the house at 18 and hasn’t looked back. ANYWAY. I don’t trust her, and I don’t speak to her on a consistent basis because she is very close to my husbands ex girlfriend and any time we tell her anything, my husbands ex all of a sudden knows the information and it’s no longer private. This is how she found out we moved, how she found out we got married.. (we let the court know as we were legally required to, but we meet her at the police station for pick up and drop off) how she found out about us taking my step daughter to the doctor because we were concerned about some things we noticed when she would come over (we provide insurance) and it just makes me wonder how much she actually talks about us behind our back to his ex and it makes me super uncomfortable. It makes me uncomfortable because my husband’s ex girlfriend cheated on him for the last year of their relationship and he found out through some coworkers, plus she was pregnant with new guys baby. Instead of letting my husband care for their child, she moved their child in with her parents house while she lived in a different house with her boyfriend and new child, and threatened him with kidnapping charges if he took his child. Court forced her to either be responsible for her child, or move in with her parents. So thankfully that issue isn’t an issue anymore. ANYWAYY. I’m currently pregnant, and we have not told my MIL or my step daughter. This is our first child together and I’m not in the mood to be stressed. My MIL is now calling/texting us about coming to our apartment (us traveling over 100 miles to pick her up, and then take her back home because MIL has no vehicle) and staying with us to help watch my step daughter for the month we have her. This would mean us spending a lot of time together, as she wants to stay 2 weeks. By the time she comes to visit, I will be nearing 18 weeks so there’s no chance that I’ll be able to hide it. She will be pissed that she wasn’t in the loop, and I don’t have the energy to even try and sit her down to explain to her why it’s my choice regardless on who I tell and why.
So now I’m stressed. And I don’t know what to do.

Steam Search (steampowered.com)
Scott doesn't really do much lore in his Steam posts, so I also included direct game descriptions and Steel Wool's Descriptions
FNAF 1 About:

Welcome to your new summer job at Freddy Fazbear's Pizza, where kids and parents alike come for entertainment and food as far as the eye can see! The main attraction is Freddy Fazbear, of course; and his two friends. They are animatronic robots, programmed to please the crowds! The robots' behavior has become somewhat unpredictable at night however, and it was much cheaper to hire you as a security guard than to find a repairman.

From your small office you must watch the security cameras carefully. You have a very limited amount of electricity that you're allowed to use per night (corporate budget cuts, you know). That means when you run out of power for the night- no more security doors and no more lights! If something isn't right- namely if Freddybear or his friends aren't in their proper places, you must find them on the monitors and protect yourself if needed!
Can you survive five nights at Freddy's?
Five Nights at Freddy's on Steam (steampowered.com)
FNAF 2 About:

Welcome back to the new and improved Freddy Fazbear's Pizza!

In Five Nights at Freddy's 2, the old and aging animatronics are joined by a new cast of characters. They are kid-friendly, updated with the latest in facial recognition technology, tied into local criminal databases, and promise to put on a safe and entertaining show for kids and grown-ups alike!
What could go wrong?
As the new security guard working nights, your job is to monitor cameras and make sure nothing goes wrong after-hours. The previous guard has complained about the characters trying to get into the office (he has since been moved to day-shift). So to make your job easier, you've been provided with your very own empty Freddy Fazbear head, which should fool the animatronic characters into leaving you alone if they should accidentally enter your office.
As always, Fazbear Entertainment is not responsible for death or dismemberment.
Five Nights at Freddy's 2 on Steam (steampowered.com)
FNAF 3 About:

Thirty years after Freddy Fazbear's Pizza closed it's doors, the events that took place there have become nothing more than a rumor and a childhood memory, but the owners of "Fazbear's Fright: The Horror Attraction" are determined to revive the legend and make the experience as authentic as possible for patrons, going to great lengths to find anything that might have survived decades of neglect and ruin.

At first there were only empty shells, a hand, a hook, an old paper-plate doll, but then a remarkable discovery was made...
The attraction now has one animatronic.
Five Nights at Freddy's 3 on Steam (steampowered.com)
Multiple Springtraps are Hallucinations, not Glitches:

For those wondering what the new update is all about; I added a fourth star to the game for those who beat Aggressive Nightmare mode!

Also, there is some confusion about Springtrap appearing on multiple cameras and people thinking it's a glitch. It's not a glitch, even though I should have explained this better when I released the game. As long as the red light is flashing after a ventilation error, you may see multiple Springtraps. These are hallucinations.
https://store.steampowered.com/news/app/354140/view/4579554195991878197?l=english
FNAF 4 About:

This time, the terror has followed you home.

In this last chapter of the Five Nights at Freddy's original story, you must once again defend yourself against Freddy Fazbear, Chica, Bonnie, Foxy, and even worse things that lurk in the shadows. Playing as a child whose role is yet unknown, you must safeguard yourself until 6am by watching the doors, as well as warding off unwanted creatures that may venture into your closet or onto the bed behind you.
You have only a flashlight to protect yourself. It will scare away things that may be creeping at the far end of the hallways, but be careful, and listen. If something has crept too close, then shining lights in its eyes will be your end.
Five Nights at Freddy's 4 on Steam (steampowered.com)
The Box Post (The actual piece of lore relegated to Steam):

Hi guys! I wanted to post some information about the upcoming Halloween update. I started off a few months ago with several ideas in mind for what I wanted to release; ranging from DLC, to a new game, to opening the box (more on that later), but now I've been working steadily and have a pretty clear vision going forward.

The October 31st content will be an automatic update, not DLC. It will update the game to 1.1 and will include lots of goodies on the extras menu (for those who have beaten night 6), including a cheat menu, a challenge menu, and a twist on a familiar minigame that provides a boost when playing challenge modes. This also means that there will be a whole new set of stars to earn for those who are up to the challenge!
That part will be released for certain, and I'm hoping to have something else in addition to it, but it may not be ready. I have something fun in mind, a new game (not FNaF5), but it will be a real challenge to have even a small playable portion by Oct 31st. If a playable demo isn't ready by then, then at the very least there will be some sneak-peak content.
Now I want to talk about what WON'T be included... the box.
You know, when I released the first game over a year ago, I was amazed at how quickly everyone found every bit of lore and story. Then the same happened with part 2, fans and youtubers dug in and found everything. Game Theory did an incredible video on part 2; getting almost everything right. Then part 3 came out, and once again the story was uncovered by the community. It seemed that there was nothing I could hide!
But then I released part 4, and somehow.... no one, not a single person, found the pieces. The story remains completely hidden. I guess most people assumed that I filled the game with random easter eggs this time. I didn't. What's in the box? It's the pieces put together. But the bigger question is- would the community accept it that way? The fact that the pieces have remained elusive this time strikes me as incredible, and special, a fitting conclusion in some ways, and because of that, I've decided that maybe some things are best left forgotten, forever.
https://store.steampowered.com/news/app/388090/view/4033492738906633101?l=english
FNAF World:

Hi everyone, this is a big update! :)

I wanted to keep my plans for a new game secret until Halloween, but while my teasers have created excitement for some people, they have created some confusion as well, mainly because people don't know if the Five Nights at Freddy's story is over or not.
It's very important for me to say again that there will NOT be a Five Nights at Freddy's 5. The story is complete, and the Halloween update and new game will not add to it.
That being said, I wanted to use these characters in a new and fun way because they are so near and dear to my heart, and I was excited to work on a type of game that I hadn't made in a long time.
The new game that I'm working on will be called FNAF World. It will not be a horror game, but a role playing game where you create a party using the huge selection of characters from the FNaF games, including the classic, withered, toy, phantom, and nightmare versions. I've been working steadily on characters and hope to start on enemy models next week.
The bad news is that it's unlikely that a demo will be ready for Halloween like I had hoped, since this game's scope is significantly larger than previous games in the series. However, I will release a free demo, as promised, as soon as it's ready!
FNAF World will be released on PC, Android, and iOS. I don't have an estimated release date yet since the game is still early in development.
I hope you enjoy the new designs of the "adventure" characters, as I call them.
UPDATE: The scottgames.com teaser is complete and includes every character that you can have in your party! Stay tuned in the coming months for more updates as the game progresses!
https://store.steampowered.com/news/app/388090/view/4033492738906632983?l=english
Halloween Update is Non-Canon:

Hi guys!

I wanted to make a quick announcement for everyone about what to expect with the Halloween update. I got myself into a tricky situation because I wanted to release an update but not change the basic game or lore. That limited me as to what I could change, so I announced that I would created a cheat menu, a challenge menu, and an updated minigame. I thought I was done. But no. ;)
It became clear to me that the community's expectations demanded more than just a cheat menu, so I was faced with my sticky situation yet again. But then I solved it:
On Halloween there will be TWO releases. One will be the content update for the official game, updating it to 1.1. This version is canon, as it always has been. This update will include the features originally promised such as the new challenges and cheats.
The second release will be a special Halloween edition of FNaF4, with a few changed characters and other cosmetic changes. This game is not canon, and is only for fun for the holidays. (this version will be free as well)
If everything works correctly, then players should have two launch choices on Halloween- the Standard Edition and the Halloween Edition.
If it doesn't work for some reason, then the Halloween Edition will be available on GameJolt instead.
https://store.steampowered.com/news/app/388090/view/4033492738906632873?l=english
FNAF Sister Location About:

Welcome to Circus Baby's Pizza World, where family fun and interactivity go beyond anything you've seen at those *other* pizza places! With cutting-edge animatronic entertainers that will knock your kids' socks off, as well as customized pizza catering, no party is complete without Circus Baby and the gang!

Now hiring: Late night technician. Must enjoy cramped spaces and be comfortable around active machinery. Not responsible for death or dismemberment.
Five Nights at Freddy's: Sister Location on Steam (steampowered.com)
Custom Night is Non-Canon:

Hey guys! I wanted to let you all know that I'll be working on an update for the game that will add a "Custom Night" to the Extras menu.

To answer a few questions about it:
1) Yes, it will be FREE. When the update is ready, your games will automatically update to include this feature.
2) It will NOT be canon. (otherwise it would screw up the entire plotline!)
3) It will be unlocked only when you have 3-stars, so you'd better get to work!
4) Since it's not part of the game's "Story Mode", you will be able to jump right into the action from the Extras menu and restart as many times as you like.
5) It would have been awesome to have this ready for Halloween, but there's no way that will be possible. Be looking for this in December!
https://store.steampowered.com/news/app/506610/view/4648234090313050467?l=english
But Cutscenes are Canon:

Hey guys, the new update is live (v1.12). It gives a little additional power for Golden Freddy Mode on Very Hard, and also adds the final cutscene!

Enjoy!
(By the way- Cutscenes are canon.)
https://store.steampowered.com/news/app/506610/view/4648234090313050041?l=english
Pizza Sim About:

Presenting a fun Five Nights at Freddy's adventure with a lighter touch for the holidays, Freddy Fazbear's Pizzeria Simulator puts you in charge of developing your own restaurant! Design pizzas, feed kids, and get high scores!

Freddy Fazbear's Pizzeria Simulator on Steam (steampowered.com)
UCN All Character Descriptions:

[Had to cut it because of Reddit's Post Length Limitations]

(I'm sure there's some lore in there somewhere)
https://store.steampowered.com/news/app/738060/view/5156014950379793852?l=english
Death Coin:

There is a new item available at the prize counter! For a lean 10 Faz-coins (price subject to change) you can purchase the Death Coin. You can only buy it once per night, and you can use it to eliminate one character from the roster, although only certain characters are susceptible to deletion.

Although this means that you can potentially eliminate a character who has been giving you trouble, it also means that you will have fewer coins to defend against characters who demand them, such as Rockstar Freddy, Baby, Nightmare Bonnie, and Nightmare Mangle. So if you choose to buy the coin, it can potentially put you in danger until you build up your coin count again.
The characters that are susceptible to deletion by Death Coin are:

• Bonnie
• Foxy
• Lefty
• Toy Freddy
• Funtime Foxy
• Marionette
• Rockstar Bonnie

The way this feature will work is that once you have purchased the Death Coin from the Prize Counter, there will be a Death Coin icon in the top left. Then when you are viewing a cam showing a vulnerable target, the icon will light up. If you click the Death Coin icon at that point, it will eliminate the target animatronic from the game.
Although this may seem pointless at first (after all, if you didn't want a certain character in the game, then why add them in the first place, right?), eliminating them in this way still gives you credit for beating that character. It isn't a freebie, it's a calculated risk. Spending ten Faz-Coins puts you at risk from other Faz-Coin hungry characters, so it's a choice that players must make depending on the circumstances, similar to how Rockstar Foxy comes with risk, despite the potential benefits.
https://store.steampowered.com/news/app/738060/view/5156014950379793583?l=english
UCN Description:

Welcome to the ultimate FNAF mashup, where you will once again be trapped alone in an office fending off killer animatronics! Featuring 50 selectable animatronic characters spanning seven Five Nights at Freddy's games, the options for customization are nearly endless. Mix and match any assortment of characters that you like, set their difficulty from 0-20, then jump right into the action! From your office desk, you will need to manage two side doors, two vents, as well as two air hoses, all of which lead directly into your office.

This time you will have to master other tools as well if you want to complete the ultimate challenges, tools such as the heater, A/C, a global music box, a power generator, and more. As if all of that weren't enough, you'll also need to set up laser traps in the vents, collect Faz-Coins, purchase items from the prize counter, and as always, keep a close eye on not one, but two, Pirate Cove curtains!
Other features include:

• Challenge menu including sixteen themed challenges.
• Voice acting from returning favorites as well as from new arrivals to the franchise!
• Unlockable office skins!
• Unlockable cutscenes!

Ultimate Custom Night on Steam (steampowered.com)
Steam Developer: Steel Wool Studios (steampowered.com)
FNAF VR About:

Five Nights at Freddy’s: Help Wanted is a collection of classic and original mini-games set in the Five Nights universe. Survive terrifying encounters with your favorite killer animatronics in a collection of new and classic FIVE NIGHTS AT FREDDY’S™ experiences. “Where fantasy and fun come to life!”

A VR headset is NOT required to play.

YOU’RE HIRED - Time to get your hands dirty. Repair claustrophobic ventilation systems, troubleshoot broken animatronics that could activate at any moment, or spend your evenings cowering in the nighttime security guard office.
CELEBRATE - Confront your favorite killer animatronics including; Freddy, Bonnie, Chica, Foxy, Springtrap, The Mangle, Funtime Foxy, and Circus Baby.
FUN FUN PRIZES - Toys, Plushies, Bobbleheads, and candy candy candy! Earn super fun prizes you can play with at the interactive Prize Counter! Collect well hidden Faz-Tokens to unlock even more rare collectibles for more SUPER FUN FUN FUN.
PIZZA PARTY - Scenes from classic titles have been updated and remade for a fully immersive experience including; Five Nights at Freddy’s, Five Nights at Freddy’s 2, Five Nights at Freddy’s 3, Five Nights at Freddy’s 4, and Five Nights at Freddy’s: Sister Location.
TWO WAYS TO PLAY - Experience the horror in flat (non-VR) mode or VR. Oculus Rift and HTC Vive are supported.

FIVE NIGHTS AT FREDDY'S: HELP WANTED on Steam (steampowered.com)
Curse of Deadbear About:

The Curse of Dreadbear DLC unlocks a new Halloween themed hub packed with spooky new mini-games and prizes.

* New spine-tingling mini-games include; Trick or Treat, Mangle Repair, Corn Maze, the Plushkin-Patch, “Cap’n Foxy’s Pirate Adventure” dark ride and many more!
* Featured frightening animatronics include; Nightmare Bonnie, Nightmare Chica, Nightmare Freddy, Jack-o-Chica, Jack-o-Bonnie and a few... surprises.
This content requires the base game Five Nights at Freddy’s: Help Wanted in order to play.

Five Nights at Freddy's: Help Wanted - Curse of Dreadbear on Steam (steampowered.com)
Security Breach About:

THE NEXT CHAPTER IN FEAR

Five Nights at Freddy’s: Security Breach is the latest installment of the family-friendly horror games loved by millions of players from all over the globe. Play as Gregory, a young boy trapped overnight in Freddy Fazbear’s Mega Pizzaplex. With the help of Freddy Fazbear himself, Gregory must survive the near-unstoppable hunt of reimagined Five Nights at Freddy’s characters - as well as new, horrific threats.
THE HUNTERS AND THE HUNTED - Once nighttime protocols are initiated, the animatronics at Freddy Fazbear’s Mega Pizzaplex will relentlessly pursue all intruders. Glamrock Chica, Roxanne Wolf, Montgomery Gator, and the Pizzaplex’s security guard, Vanessa, will turn over every Cotton Candy Pizza Stand if they have to - it’s not wise to stay in one place for too long.
ADAPT TO SURVIVE - Access the building’s security cameras to survey the environment and plan your route through danger. Distract enemies by knocking over paint cans and toys - just slip away before enemies are drawn to your location. Hop into hiding spots and allow danger to pass, or try to outrun your pursuers. Play your way, but be prepared to adapt.
EXPLORE AND DISCOVER - Freddy Fazbear’s Mega Pizzaplex offers a variety of attractions for guests to enjoy - Monty Golf, Roxy Raceway, Bonnie Bowl, the sewers, and… Sewers? The Pizzaplex is vast and has no shortage of goodies to discover.
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Ruin About:

You can run, but you can’t hide…

Enter the ruins of Freddy Fazbear’s Mega Pizzaplex in the FREE story DLC for Five Nights at Freddy’s: Security Breach!
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Can you save your friend, yourself, and the Pizzaplex? Find out in the 100% free DLC, Five Nights at Freddy’s: Security Breach – Ruin.
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Help Wanted 2 About:

Find out if you have what it takes to be a Fazbear Entertainment Superstar!

Five Nights at Freddy’s: Help Wanted 2 is the sequel to the terrifying VR experience that brought new life to the iconic horror franchise. As a brand new Fazbear employee you’ll have to prove you have what it takes to excel in all aspects of Pizzeria management and maintenance.
Go Backstage as a VIP to help Roxanne Wolf & the S.T.A.F.F Bots get ready for their performances in the Pizzaplex Salon!
Head into the Fazcade and enjoy classic games like Bonk-a-Bon and Fazerblast! See if you can top all the high scores!
Take care of things behind the scenes in the Staff Only section of the Pizzeria. Deliver First Aid to patients who aren’t quite feeling themselves, and help animatronics perform routine diagnostics & maintenance.
Our Food Prep courses will help you get the federally mandated amount of value preparing food in the Pizzaplex. Experience all the joys of high-speed food service & get ready to feed some hungry bots!
Head over to the Ticket Booth to test out our E-ticket attractions, such as Captain Foxy’s Cowboy Adventure! On this lighthearted log ride, you’ll float through the old West as a gunslinger in search of booty!
And finally, if you’re short on dread, dive into the world of our Sister Location! These special minigames are VR versions of classic experiences from Five Nights at Freddy’s: Sister Location. These fan-favorites brought to life promise to be as fun as they are terrifying!
So what are you waiting for?!? Five Nights at Freddy’s: Help Wanted 2 is now accepting applicants for all positions, effective immediately.
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No new features! No balance tweaks! Let me just play the game as close to vanilla as I can dammit!
Hi all. This post is 1000% the result of many, many hours trying to get this game to just WORK and I'm dead inside! So I wanted to make this guide, maybe it'll help you. Here's an in-depth guide to how I got the game to run GREAT on a modern Win 11 machine in 2024.
I have an AMD Ryzen 7800X3D 8-core processor, AMD Radeon RX 7900 XT graphics card. Game version is GOG v1.4.0.525 ultimate edition w/ all DLC. Tested on a brand new certified fresh copy of Win 11. Support for Ultrawide/other display support included at the end of the post.
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---GAME INSTALL INSTRUCTIONS---
I will assume you already have a copy of NV and a mod manager such as Vortex. I only used Vortex while playing, so that's the mm I will be talking about in this post. Go get them if you don't.

1. INSTALL THE GAME IN WINDOWS 7 COMPATIBILITY MODE (if you've already installed the game, completely uninstall it!). Right click setup application file>properties>compatibility tab>check Run this program in compatibility mode for: Windows 7>apply. Then run setup and follow the installer. DO NOT UPDATE DIRECTX OR INSTALL ANY C++ REDISTS OR .NET FRAMEWORK THRU THE INSTALLER. This is how to avoid the 404 file not found problem. Finish install as normal.
2. Now go grab that stuff we ignored in step 1. DirectX here, you need C++ Redist x86 from here, and .NET 4 framework here. Just in case you don't have em. This should prevent any missing .dll file errors from happening once you try to run the game.
3. Launch the game and make sure it can run at all lol. The launcher should pop up, go ahead and click Options and let it detect your hardware (it will probably be a little or a lot wrong just since it's an old game, a little more on that later). Then press Play. Even if it looks like total poop and crashes pretty quick, it's fine for now. Close game.

I'm gonna let y'all know right now that both Fallout 3 and NV in my experience cannot handle alt+tab like, at all, so get in the habit of maybe not doing that.
---VORTEX AND MOD INSTRUCTIONS---
Tbh, if you're willing to cough up the couple bucks, it might be worth it to get Nexus premium to uncap the download speeds if you have fast internet, but it's not necessary at all. Open up Vortex make sure you're logged in all that good stuff. Set to New Vegas obvi. Head over to Nexus Mods.
I would follow the order I list these pretty close because there are some dependencies on each other involved. Most are okay with just the mm/Vortex download option, though some do require manual install. I'll try to list out all instructions.
-ABSOLUTELY 100% NECESSARY MOD LIST:-

1. NVSE - New Vegas Script Extender: Absolutely the first thing you should get no matter what, so many mods require this!!! Will generate nvse_loader.exe in the game root folder, run this app and not the default one when starting the game from now on!!
2. 4GB Patcher: Necessary so that the game can use 4GB of RAM instead of the default 2. Follow install instructions on mod page (place .exe in the FNV game folder>right click it and Run as administrator). After it does it's thing I'd recommend launching the game normally again just to check on it. This is a good practice to do after installing mods anyways so you can catch mistakes or problems early, and because other mods are dependent on this fix. Close game.
3. NVAC - New Vegas Anti Crash: Now apparently this one is a little controversial due to it being a hair outdated for new machines. If you experience a lot of crashes it may be worth it to get rid of this mod, but I have a high-end PC and no problems so far. See if it works for you.
4. NVTF - New Vegas Tick Fix: THE REPLACEMENT FOR NEW VEGAS STUTTER REMOVER ON WIN 11! (Other guides will tell you to get NVSR, DO NOT!! If you have NVSR my recommendation is to get rid of it completely, it may be the reason your game isn't working). You will most likely need to edit the .ini file for this mod to work!! Right click on NVTF in Vortex>Open in File Manager>NVSE>Plugins>NVTF.ini (should open with Notepad by default). ctrl+f and make the following edits: bModifyDirectXBehavior = 1, iTweakRCSafeGuard = 2. SAVE and close.
5. CASM_NV: Replaces the autosave system and adds a quicksave hotkey. Autosaves every 5 mins by default, but lots of customizability. The vanilla system can lead to crashes mid-/late-game once save files get big, so this prevents that. Be sure to disable autosaves within the in-game Options menu itself, and get into the habit of creating new saves instead of overwriting old ones.
6. JIP LN NVSE Plugin: NVSE extension, required for some mods. Also fixes many engine bugs and lets you restore broken features. I didn't personally edit the .ini file for this mod, but the mod page has an extensive list of instructions if you want to!
7. JohnnyGuitar NVSE: Another NVSE extension that's required for some mods. Once again I didn't really mess with this one.
8. Unofficial Patch NVSE Plus: More game fixes>???>profit
9. New Vegas Heap Replacer: Another mod that will help with performance, stutter, and crashes. Install manually by extracting or copying the contents of the zipped folder into the root NV folder. If a windows terminal pops up when you launch the game, it's working!
10. YUP: Unofficial patch for NV and all DLC (doesn't require any DLC tho, there are individual files for those who don't have Ultimate Edition). Beeeeg bug fixer and enabler of broken features. Make sure YUP is at the top of the load order (in Plugins tab, YUP.esm goes after all game & DLC .esms and before all other .esms, and same thing for YUP.esp) LOOT/Vortex should sort it correctly, but double check if you encounter problems.
11. (Edit to add) NVIDIA D3D9 Perf Fix: Fixes some visual glitches like glowing water and bald NPCs. Just extract or copy+paste .dll file into the New Vegas root folder.
12. LOOT: Separate app that sorts mods for ya, checks for compatibility issues, etc. Install as normal. I ran LOOT after I installed & enabled all mods in Vortex, then launched the game. (Edit to add: apparently I'm dumb and LOOT is basically built into Vortex, lol. I still recommend using it because it's more descriptive.)

THIS SHOULD BE ALL YOU NEED TO RUN THE GAME!!! Be sure to enable plugins via the Plugins tab & deploy mods in Vortex before playing!! To double check, run FalloutNVLauncher.exe in root folder>Data Files>make sure they're checked off as they should be!
-"Not 100% necessary, but.....recommended" mod list:-
Here I'll get into the mods I have that aren't *necessary*, but sure do help make this game look pretty nice. Install if ya want! Note: some of these mods conflict with one another! I recommend following Vortex's recommendations and then using the aforementioned LOOT in order to help with load order.

1. NMCS Texture Pack for New Vegas: Replaces most textures in-game, except for DLC. Small has only 1 file, Medium has 2, and Large has 3. I use the Large version with no trouble, but obviously get the one your PC can handle best.
2. EVE - Essential Visual Enhancements: Has a main file and lots of optional files if you want em (I only use the main file). Should detect all installed DLC and install the appropriate mod file automatically - make sure all DLC are enabled in Vortex before downloading EVE to get the right version!
3. Wasteland Flora and Terrain Overhaul: Adds a bunch of new tree & plant types. Doesn't make the Mojave green by any means, just adds a nice variety of new textures & hand-placed models. Some locations are "greener" than vanilla (like near water, for example), but I think it adds to it. Doesn't mess with any harvestables as far as I know.
4. ELECTRO-CITY - Relighting the Wasteland: Does what it sounds like! Adds lots of new light fixtures and some engineers here and there. Optional plugin to add streetlights along highways & byways, enable/disable in the Plugins section of Vortex. There are lots more lighting overhauls out there, but I only use this one.
5. (Edit to add) Weapon Mesh Improvement Mod: Redone weapon meshes, making them more accurate to animations and such. I load before WRP but after YUP. They are compatible with one another even if Vortex says they aren't.
6. (Edit to add) Weapon Retexture Project: Adds HD textures to weapons (since NMCS doesn't touch weapons). I load after YUP and WMIM.
7. (Edit to add) ArchiveInvalidation File Generator: GET THIS IF YOU HAVE TEXTURE MODS!!! Separate app, place the .exe anywhere (like Desktop)>run>Game Name: Fallout: New Vegas>Enable Invalidation. YOU WILL NEED TO DISABLE AND REENABLE INVALIDATION EVERY TIME YOU GET A NEW TEXTURE MOD AFTER THIS!!! Or else they won't show up in-game :(

-"Not at all necessary, but maybe you'll like?" mod list:-
Okayyyyy so maybe I did do a couple QOL tweaks after all. Here's the rest of the mods I have. Install if ya want x2!

1. Bottle That Water: Allows you to mass bottle water from any source if you have empty water bottles in your inventory, without a cumbersome menu. Just sneak and drink!
2. Convenient Fast Travel Markers: Adds markers to basically every building in the Strip so you don't have to hike through several gates, and a couple more elsewhere as well. If you couldn't already tell, I'm lazy! (and this game is a lil repetitive sometimes...)
3. Increased Run Speed: This is mainly because I'm used to sprinting in other games, and I feel that the top speed is the tiiiiiiniest bit too slow for me. This mod increases run speed from the default value of 4 to 6...which is actually too fast for my taste. So, I changed it in GECK! GECK is a tool that should be already included in your game root folder. To change run speed yourself: run GECK>File>Data...>uncheck all but Increasedspeed.esp>Set as Active File>wait for it to complete...might take a min>Gameplay>Settings...>Filter by fMoveRunMult>select and change value. I changed it from 6 to 5, just one value above vanilla. OK and SAVE. Close GECK. (Source for GECK edit: zefferia's comment on mod discussion page) Note: Vortex will detect a file change on next mod deployment, make sure to use newer file to apply your changes.
4. Universal Air Tank: Once you get the rebreather, you get water breathing with any airtight helmet & armor. Includes optional files, read the mod description for further details.
5. Stealth Suit MK II Mod: Modifies when the stealth suit auto-uses Stimpaks and Med-X (so she doesn't eat all your chems in one battle), and re-adds the broken speed multiplier when sneaking. 2 other optional versions as well.

---SUPPORT FOR ULTRAWIDE MONITORS/GENERAL DISPLAY SUPPORT---
Grabbed from this Steam discussion post, restated here. My monitor is 3440x1440, op's is 2560x1080. Refer to the original post for more detail!

1. Launch the...launcher. FalloutNVLauncher.exe in root folder>Options>set resolution to 16:9 version of your 21:9 monitor (i.e. for my monitor it is 2560x1440, for op's it is 1920x1080)>make all other graphics changes you want>OK>Exit launcher.
2. Documents>My Games>FalloutNV>FalloutPrefs.ini (should open with Notepad by default)
3. ctrl+f and make the following edits (using my monitor size for simplicity, everything else the same): iSize W=3440, iSize H=1440, fDefaultFOV=95, fRenderedTerminalZoom=75, fRenderedTerminalFOV=.25. If terminal zoom is really messed up in-game, change fRenderedTerminalZoom from 75 to 40.
4. SAVE and close. Note: you will have to do much of this process again if you ever switch to windowed mode. I recommend keeping a master modified copy of FalloutPrefs.ini somewhere like your Desktop so you can just copy+paste the file into Documents instead of editing manually every time.

---TROUBLESHOOTING---

1. (Edit to add) HOW COULD I FORGET THE INFAMOUS SPOTIFY FIX??? Is stuttering audio driving you crazy?? Before launching the game, pull up your favorite music player and play some tunes. Then launch the game (you can pause the music at any time atp). This is the only surefire way to fix audio stuttering in my experience.
2. Be sure you have followed all game install instructions first and foremost. Not installing the game in compatibility mode will most likely cause issues, and the game as well as certain mods need DirectX and the others.
3. Run the game with the nvse_loader.exe, NOT default application! Make a shortcut or pin to taskbar for ease of use. You do not need to use the launcher every time you play.
4. Check to make sure the game launches after each new mod installation. This will allow you to catch problems early on!
5. Check the actual Nexus mod pages for special instructions with mods. Make sure all mods are installed following the mod author's instructions. Discussion posts are very helpful for troubleshooting.
6. (Edit to add) If charging thru doors is causing crashes...slow down!! Give the game a moment before entering any new areas and crashes shouldn't happen often.
7. If at any point you experience insta-crashes or other problems loading save files, try New Game>loading the save once you are able to. (Edit to add) If you're mid- to late-game and you have a million saves, I really recommend deleting almost all of your oldest ones. Save files can get pretty big after a lot of gametime which can cause corruption eventually. Also, get into the habit of creating new saves instead of overwriting. Refer to CASM above.
8. Read this post again. There's a lot of good stuff in here!

---NOTES---

1. I experience crashes 99.9% of the time when executing cheats via the in-game terminal (~). I have no idea if this is due to a mod or just the game freaking out. I only ever use in-game cheats to fix the game (i.e. fixing the bug where House/Caesar don't give back the platinum chip when they should...), so not a huge deal for me, but just fyi.
2. Some of these mods are not necessarily """vanilla""" (as in some authors do make minor tweaks or fixes), but in my opinion are very very close. My intention is a vanilla-like experience.

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That is every single mod I have and changes that I made (that are relevant to this list, lol). I sincerely hope that this guide is helpful and serves its purpose as an updated masterpost for making NV accessible to those who want to play it in 2024. Please let me know if I forgot any details (I probably did), I will edit the post if I notice any. Add your stuff in the comments! I'm actually not super duper computer savvy but I will try to help where I can.
ENJOY!!!!!! GO GET SHOT IN THE HEAD!!!! <3
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