Funny birthday quotes for husbands

This will probably be a long one. I just am at my wits end. I don't like to talk to my family about it because I don't want them to see her in a bad light.
Background information. My wife and I have been married almost 11 years. We have two younger school aged boys together and she has a high school son (who I basically see as mine since his father is a deadbeat and I have basically treated him like my own since he was 4). We both work. She is a teacher. I am overemployed (this will be pertinent later).
So first, my wife is absolutely awful with money. She knows this. She tries. But it never seems to stick. She'll spend on average $100-$400 a day. This does NOT include stuff like groceries, bills, dining out. It is stuff like targets, Amazon, moderately expensive dresses/clothes, Sephora. As mentioned, I am overemployed so we can afford a pretty nice lifestyle but she definitely goes overboard. Part of the reason I became overemployed was to be able to save money, but we can never do that. I rarely spend anything on myself. Frankly, I don't care. I'm happy with what I have. My main hobby is gaming and I really don't spend a lot on that. I have my XBOX and basically get lots of free games that keep me entertained via paying for Gamepass which is like $20 a month. My wife grew up poor. I grew up solid middle to slightly above middle class. So I think since she grew up with nothing it impacts how she buys things. She also likes to go overboard on stuff like teacher gifts. And I have zero problems buying stuff for our kids teachers for things like Christmas, teacher appreciation week, end of year. But she goes beyond overboard. She easily spent over $500 for our kids' teachers two weeks ago for teacher appreciation. The same type of stuff happens when she buys things for our kids or herself. She'll talk about how she's doing great not spending money buy then a box with 2 $200 dresses shows up. I frankly get nauseous checking the mail or our front door. It gives me anxiety. These aren't exactly things have haven't expressed to her either, but I don't think she sees my stress as serious or relevant (more on this later).
Second, our jobs. Yes, she has a very stressful job as a teacher. I have two jobs where I work from home. I am able to pretty easily manage them with no problems. Very, very minimal stress at work for me. With this, I pick up A LOT of the household duties. I cook all the meals. I then clean this dishes. If the kids have thing they need to go to or appointments. I am the one that takes them. I do a significant portion of the laundry. She will does it sometimes but I do more than 50% of it. Easily. I do most of the goodnight routines with the kids. Similar to laundry she will help at times but I do the vast majority of it. Lots of times she will read to the boys before bed. We also have a maid that comes twice a month. She will do some minor cleaning now and then but that isn't something that falls on her or myself a lot. I think her mindset is I have it easy at work and she doesn't so me doing the lions share of the household duties is fair. Truthfully, it doesn't bother me to do all the stuff at home. I have zero problems doing it but the lack of recognition or credit I get over it is bothersome.
Third, she hold onto things from the past and compares me to social media. A LOT. Some of the things she hold onto.

1. I am not romantic enough nor do I do grand romantic gestures.
2. My proposal wasn't good. What I did was made a book/album with things I loved about her and in the end I asked her to marry me.
3. She didn't like her wedding dress. We paid for our own wedding. It was well over $25,000. There was a budget for the dress because that is the one thing her parent paid for. Looking back she didn't like her dress and says she told me how much she hated the dress but I didn't like her spend the extra money so it is my fault.
4. Our 10 year anniversary was terrible and I didn't plan anything nice like a trip or expensive gift. This I will agree to. We didn't do much but it was during a time where we were having the worst fight in our relationship. And this also goes back to $. Since she spends so freely it makes it very, very difficult to plan for some sort of trip or expensive gift. I would have ZERO problems planning a weekend get away somewhere or buying some nice jewelry. But when I see how much money get spent it is overwhelming and I can't spend money on stuff like that. I have expressed this. I have said if we can save money I'd like to plan a getaway to Disney or some sort of resort. It just never seems to get through to her. For instance for her birthday recently I got her a diamond tennis bracelet. It wasn't the exact one she wanted because it wasn't from a certain place. It was the same carats and same type of gold but it just wasn't from a specific place. She literally told me when she was mad if I had a wife that wanted something I would have found a way to get it for them. Like what am I supposed to do? Get a third job? Rob the place?

Fourth, so constantly sends me tik toks of things boyfriends/husbands do. Like for this girl's one year he got her a Cartier bracelet. Or guys buying flowers (yes I do get her flowers a number of times a year). She constantly asks me what romantic things I have done for her. And by social media standards yeah I don't stack up but that crap is so fake. I mean sure I could plan dates better or do little things like decorate for her birthday better but mentally I feel just so spent. I feel so overstressed with the spending that I feel I just don't have the headspace. She talks about hwo I constantly ruin the occasion because I didn't plan anything special or romantic. Its not like I purposely do it to spite her or anything.
I just don't know what to do. When she is in a good headspace she's an amazing person. Recently, she started seeing a therapist and I think it has helped her a little. It is just so exhausting. I wish there was some magic button could hit so she could see my perspective and take my feelings into consideration. I want to be able to give her the love she wants, but I feel I need help from her.

Hello everyone! I just started planning my husband’s 30th birthday in Japan, and my brother and SIL are joining us (late june - early july 2025)
I’ve never been to anywhere in Asia, and I’m super excited to experience the culture, so I want to make sure me make the most out of it.
I’m thinking of going for 12 days and I want opinions on where to spend more time: Tokyo or Kyoto. I’ve been told Kyoto is better for temples and culture, but I’m also interested in Tokyo’s street culture and to visit quirky places (like the capybara cafe).
What are some absolute musts? All I have for now are hotel prices, rail pass, Disney, TeamLab Borderless, a geisha tea ceremony, and the capybara cafe.

I was married to a very abusive man. I suffered from vaginismus throughout the marriage in part due to religious beliefs and in part due to the abuse. We never had penetrative intercourse. We would try, but it never worked. After 4.5 years of marriage, he kept threatening to leave me because of it and other reasons. I got curious if my constant fear of him contributed to my inability to relax and let him penetrate me during intercourse. I had been a virgin up until that point. I ended up trying it with someone I was attracted to. He was a divorced single man. My period came that day, so we engaged in foreplay but he did not penetrate me. My husband immediately found out and ended the marriage the same day. We had no closure. I felt I had no one to turn to, and that man was the total opposite of my husband. He was incredibly nice, humble, calm, and funny. I started falling for him, partly because he was so different from my ex husband. I expressed my feelings to him. Initially, he told me that he didn't know if he felt the same and wanted to kiss me to figure out if he did. We did that and more. I continued wanting physical encounters. He agreed to them. We had one more physical encounter, and had trouble but came really close. I became interested in taking the relationship further. He told me he was in no shape to be in a relationship. I was heartbroken, but wanted to continue exploring the foreign world of sex with him, hoping he would be my big cure to vaginismus. So I asked him if he wanted to be friends with benefits, and he agreed. The whole time, he kept priming me to make sure I wouldn't get attached, which was understandable considering we agreed to a FWB situation. However, he kept insinuating that my pussy was one he intended on conquering, which made it sound like he was intent on taking my virginity. We did it one time after that, and he did. I was so happy that my vaginismus was finally cured, and wanted to keep exploring the sex world. He was the obvious go-to in my head. I'd try to meet up again and he'd be cold and distant and dodge the questions. I then started noticing inconsistencies in his stories, and figured out that he was probably married. I confronted him. He denied, giving a sob story that his parents are old and ill and he lives with them, and that he doesn’t do FWB situations. He also said he can't do it with me anymore because he feels nothing for me and isn't cut out for relationships with anyone, but that he's happy to stay friends. He made no sense but I accepted the BS. He continued texting me even though I wanted to start distancing myself from him. A few months later, I accidentally discovered he was secretly vacationing in Turks & Caicos with an awful woman from work. I later found out that they had been FWB for years, and he ended up falling for her before he had sex with me. I discovered it because I worked at the airline company their vacation was booked through, and saw that they booked this trip while he was still sleeping with me. I confronted him about his lie about not being able to be in a relationship with anyone, and it turned into a huge fight. I had taken a job offer across the country by this point and was leaving in 3 days. We ended up rebuilding a friendship that was an emotional support to both of us. I ended up moving back to my hometown, and discovered that he had been secretly married while sleeping with me and in a full-fledged relationship with this other woman, who had no idea that he was married. I confronted him about it and told him we can't be friends, and he begged me to stay friends and started treating me like royalty after that, being nice, caring and very sweet. Throughout the friendship I had repeatedly expressed how I felt this friendship was unhealthy for me, especially when he'd talk about his awful mistress and the royal treatment he'd give her when she treats others (including me) like garbage, and he'd beg me to stay friends with him despite me expressing how I didn't think it was good for me. About 8 months later, his mistress ended up finding out he was married, and he heartlessly ghosted me after I said some hurtful things to him, telling him he deserved it. He victimized himself, and then completely discarded me. I have wanted this man out of my life for some time, but I still have intense feeling of trauma and pain from every stage of the relationship. The damage is very deep. Thoughts?

My son was born at 35 weeks he has never hit a single milestone on time. He has an autism screening next week and I'm just trying to prepare myself. His therapists think he might have some sort of OCD, autism or anxiety. He is in our state's early intervention program and he has done occupational therapy, speech therapy, feeding therapy and developmental therapy.
My husband and I've been collecting a list of things that have been concerning for the last 6 to 9 months. I'm just wondering if these things seem worth having him tested for autism and what I should be expecting during his testing?
This is a random list completely out of order and not at all organized. I've made this list as things come to mind
[ ] Will quit eating if his hands get dirty [ ] Will stop eating if he drops food. Will not eat again until the "mess" has been cleaned up [ ] Does not eat well and when we cut his Kate Farms back he lost weight in a month [ ] His food needs to be separated and each section of his plate has to have food before he will eat [ ] He has had an upper scope, a lower scope, two swallow studies, anal, Botox He has prescriptions for Senna miralax and an appetite stimulant [ ] If his fork gets dirty we have to wipe it off before he will keep eating [ ] Mealtime takes one to two hours [ ] Most days he won't eat until 11:00 to 2:00 p.m. some days he will go all day without any food or water. He does not seem to be bothered by not eating [ ] Cries any time we try to have meal time [ ] Panics about things "coming apart" especially about food. He will say "back on" and cry [ ] He pockets food and uses his whole hand to shove food down his throat [ ] He will eat the same food for a few weeks at a time and that will be the only thing he eats and when he's done eating that type of food it takes us a few weeks to figure out something else he'll eat [ ] He has a food choice chart with pictures made by his DT to help with mealtime [ ] Knows what a horizontal stabilizer is on an airplane. Knows 8 or 9 planes parts and types [ ] Loves naming airplane parts, cranes, construction equipment, telescopes and trucks [ ] Loves wheels and gears and building things [ ] Used a medicine syringe as a screw driver to fix things around the house [ ] Blinks funny. Will hold both eyes shut for 2 or 3 seconds [ ] Will not get his hands dirty [ ] Hits and kicks during diaper changes [ ] I'm unable to change poop diapers without having to shower him because he won't stay still enough [ ] Cries every time he has a diaper change. He does not recognize when he's gone to the bathroom in his diaper [ ] We've tried a mirror, songs, hair brushes, TV, toys etc for helping with diaper changes [ ] Copies random phrases. "good job dude" or "hot dog" [ ] Bites every day. Mostly when happy or overwhelmed. Never during a tantrum [ ] I have to rip the tags out of his clothing in public [ ] He doesn't seem to care when we tell him his biting hurts or not to kick. [ ] Does not play alongside other children well. Does not follow directions or stay with the group like his peers [ ] Does not respond to his name unless it is called multiple times and then screamed [ ] Will only engage in conversations he starts [ ] Loves to fall down and crash. He will bloody his hands and then continue to throw himself down on concrete [ ] Covers his ears in public. When there is an air blower at the entrance he will freak out [ ] Loves to climb [ ] Loves to spin [ ] Head banging [ ] Loves flipping [ ] Is afraid of the dark [ ] Has little to no fear or sense of danger [ ] Gags himself with his hand until he throws up [ ] The vacuum scares him hair dryer scare him and he does not like it when the AC or heat kicks on [ ] Will get in your face to talk about something he is interested in but doesn't make good eye contact unless it's a topic he wants to talk about [ ] Will make eye contact briefly but will not hold it [ ] Plays with the same toys the same way every time [ ] Loves playing with small Legos especially the wheels [ ] Lines up his toys and food [ ] If we do something once it becomes our routine and it must be done over and over again [ ] Repeat the same words or phrases over and over again for a few weeks at a time [ ] He will have 2 hour long tantrums. We will do everything we can for him and we don't have any other things to help him. Last time we used a sensory brush and his z vibe. He will sound like he's having trouble breathing during these fits, has coughing fits and needs his inhaler [ ] He has trouble staying with his group and following directions at soccer and gymnastics. He doesn't like moving through rotations. He wants to stay in one spot [ ] He will zone out and we will have trouble getting his attention. We have to call his name multiple times and then scream his name for him to respond [ ] Had a speech delay. First word at 22 months [ ] Has trouble functioning outside of his routine. When we travel and we stay in our routine. He does great traveling as long as we follow our routine. He can't function if we change it up [ ] Will not lay on his back for diaper changes or bath time [ ] Freaks out if his hands are dirty [ ] He needs a tight squeeze when he gets upset but does not want to be touched unless he's asking [ ] Reacts well to changing tasks if we have a timer
[ ] Will stop writing his bike to clean leaves and dirt off of his tires [ ] Loves to be asked questions but will only answer yes and no questions. He doesn't always answer correctly [ ] He will pick a body part and say it hurts for weeks [ ] Everything has to be clean and picked up. He has to take every piece apart before putting a toy away like Legos, stackable boats in bathtub [ ] Refuses to leave Grandmamas house until all the mess is clean (toys and food) [ ] Never wants to be alone. Refuses to play alone unless he is outside or playing Legos. [ ] He's normally a very happy kid but the things that upset him makes it so he can't function [ ] Walk with his ear to shoulder [ ] Makes himself throw up [ ] Won't sleep unless his mouth is in the covers, his gray blanket in over his feet and his ceiling fan is on. He will lay in his bed and call for us to come fix it if we do it wrong. [ ] Does not follow what other kids are doing during soccer and gymnastics [ ] Loves to play Legos and build wheels [ ] Nightmares [ ] Lots of affection. Hugs, biting, tight squeezes, banging head when happy [ ] Loves trash cans [ ] Calls himself "you" [ ] Wants the same songs, toys, and books over and over again [ ] Doesn't like it when the wind blows. Covers his ears [ ] Whiny/ distressed/ high pitched voice [ ] Randomly walks away in public. Tries to chase cars in parking lots. Wants to touch cars we pass [ ] Only hits and bites when happy and excited [ ] Can not tell you his name [ ] Stopped hunting easter eggs to organize them by color [ ] Toe walks some [ ] Some hand flapping [ ] Remembers small details [ ] Runs his hands along the shelves in the grocery store [ ] Refused to get in his high chair at every meal until we confirm that it is clean [ ] Started chewing on hands and keeping hands in mouth all the time [ ] Will sometimes chew the neck of his shirt [ ] Loves reading. Will sit and listen to books for an hour [ ] Parents of friends have made comments. One parent said her child has started "saying everything 3 times like Teddy does" and "Teddy shakes when you touch him" [ ] His therapist have previously mentioned that Teddy wouldn't let her touch him [ ] Gets in your face to tell you things he's interested in [ ] Shakes so badly during swim class that he made himself throw up. He was not crying when he got sick. He loves water and loved swimming until his swim teacher started holding him [ ] Wouldn't go down the stairs to get in the car until I would sweep the dog hair out of the hall way [ ] Shakes his head really hard in front of sound machine [ ] If we are fussing at him or trying to get him to change tasks and we touch him, he falls to the floor screams and has a meltdown

Ok, as an elementary special education teacher (not teaching in my daughters’ district) I am in need of some advice to help my daughter, almost 10 in 4th grade, to deal with some mean girl behavior at her school. For background, my daughter gets straight A’s in school and always has, does her best to get along with everyone (at home can be a tad bossy with little sister at times), gets great marks in school for her behavior in class and towards others, and has quite a few close friends. She is constantly reading whenever she gets a chance and devours books. She is very musical, plays ukulele and takes lessons outside of the home, and plays cello in the school orchestra. She is super into theater and has done local theater since kindergarten as well as scored the role of the scarecrow in The Wizard of Oz in this years 4th and 5th grade drama club show at school. She loves to sing and is in many school clubs including inclusive ones like Best Buddies. I know, I know, she sounds like the perfect kid, but we’ve worked really hard to make sure we are raising her the right way. She is also a huge eco warrior and cares deeply about lots of things. She can give me a hard time at home because she’s a 10-year-old girl, but overall, I couldn’t be prouder of what an amazing person she is turning out to be.
She had casually mentioned to me about this one girl we will call Virginia. She said they were in gym and were practicing balancing tennis balls on racquets while walking and high fiving the other kids. Virginia gave her a high 5 and then immediately said, “Ew, I didn’t know that it was you.” I told her to ignore the behavior as some kids thrive off of making other people feel bad. I asked her if she had done anything to this girl to make her feel that way and she said she couldn’t think of anything because they’ve never even ever had a conversation other than having to work together in partner groups at school in math.
Last week, she mentioned that her, and this other girl, we will call McKenzie, were saying some mean things on the school bus, or else she thought they were talking about her. I again told her not to feed into it as she knows she hasn’t done anything to them, and she couldn’t be 100% sure they were whispering about her. Virginia is supposed to be her seat partner on the bus and has never sat with her. She told me she never said anything to her bus driver about it because she didn’t want to make it worse.
All week, I’ve asked her if things are continuing and she said no. But tonight, as she was getting ready for bed, she let it out that the girls overheard my daughter talking to her good friend “Addie” who lives up the street and is in 5th grade, about my daughters upcoming sleepover for her 10th birthday. They began to hound Addie and ask her if she was really going to go to go to her sleepover, if she was really friends with her, if it was just a pity thing, and if she really actually likes my daughter. I told her that that was crossing a line and they were dipping toes into mean girl behavior and maybe some light bullying.
She also said there was a strong perfume scent on the bus earlier this week. Some kids were complaining about it and the girls blamed my daughter and tried to get others to join in. She is really worried about looking like a tattletale and/or making it worse.
My advice was for her to go to her teacher who she trusts, and ask for time to talk to her about it alone away from the girls (Virginia is in her class). Then, when they talk, let her know what’s happening and how she has been trying to ignore it and deal with it herself but that it’s getting to be too big of a problem. I told her to explain how this has started awhile ago and that she doesn’t know why they’re targeting her as she has no relationship with them at all. They’ve never been in her class until last year. I told her to let her teacher know that she isn’t looking to get them into trouble, but that she wants the comments/mean behavior to stop and she needs help facilitating a girls circle to have the conversation.
My husband wants to have me reach out to the teachegirl’s parents, but I think my approach is a better first step as our daughter needs to advocate for herself and mean girls are something she’ll have to deal with her whole life. This way it’s at least documented if it continues.
Thoughts? Advice?

My father has been with his girlfriend "Jenny" for about six years. I'm not fond of her (for reasons that aren't her fault), but we get along fine. She is very close with her mother, "Tara".
I'll be honest; I don't like Tara. She is a sour woman who complains about everything. It doesn't matter if it's food, gifts or even stuff that doesn't affect her. Nothing is ever good enough for Tara. Being around is so unbearable that even my father, who usually jumps at every opportunity to please Jenny, is open about how draining and annoying she is.
Tara lives in a different state, but visits Jenny often. I am always polite around her, but I never look forward to seeing her. Since I don't live with my father anymore, it's easy to avoid her visits.
My son is turning one this Saturday. My husband and I are throwing him a small birthday party at our apartment.
A couple days ago, we visited my father's place for lunch. Jenny informed us that her mother will be in town this weekend, and that she's excited that she'll be able to make it to my son's birthday.
Tara has met my baby once, when we went to my father's place for dinner last year, and it was awful. She criticized my and my husband's parenting, was judgy about the fact that I had a c-section, and complained about a dish my husband had prepared before even trying it ("Just because it looks nice, doesn't mean it tastes good"). With that night in mind, I have no interest in having Tara in my place, much less at my child's first birthday party.
As politely as I could, I told Jenny that we were only inviting close friends and family (which she already knew), and my husband and I don't have a close relationship with Tara. She argued that her mother had rescheduled her flight to be able to come, but I held my ground. I said we'd never invited her in the first place, and she had business doing so on our behalf.
We left about an hour later. The next day, my father told me that he and Jenny had a fight about the situation. At one point, she got him to admit that he doesn't like her mother.
He told me he's extremely upset that my refusal put him in a bad spot with his girlfriend. He agreed that it's not my job to please Jenny or Tara, but he still wants me to "do the polite thing" and invite his mother-in-law. When I refused to, he hung up on me.
I understand that my father is frustrated, but I don't want to invite Tara over just to make Jenny happy.
AITA?

TL:DR; I was fired from my job because issues with equipment that I had raised dozens and dozens of times over the course of nearly two years were ignored. Bookings started getting ruined, we were understaffed and customers were horrible to me, leading to my anxiety condition being triggered and having a panic attack on several occasions. On my last day, it was so bad I had to ask my manager to come in and I left. I was fired on the basis of being "too anxious", and I'm distraught. Does anyone have any advice?
Hi there, I'm not sure if this is the correct sub, so please let me know if it's not. I was hoping for some advice and maybe some words of encouragement. I was fired from my job at a VR Arcade a week ago, and I'm really struggling with feeling like an absoloute failure. I also can't afford rent now, and I'm in my last push of getting my degree, so I'm really stressed out.
I was good at my job, really really good, my manager said so. My colleague doesn't think I should've got fired over what happened - nobody I actually worked with agrees with the decision, but it was out of their hands as it was made by the owner of the company (relatively small business). I believe if it had been down to my manager, I would still be there, as he was backing me while my termination was in discussion. I'm in the UK, for context, if this affects anything. I was employed there twice.
At the VR arcade, we ran VR escape rooms and free-play "gaming sessions" (I don't know why but the name of it makes me cringe), and birthday parties for kids (where they can all play gorilla tag or among us, for example) which are dependent on the PCs...working. They are plagued with technical and physical issues to this day, and bookings often don't run too well. On top of this, a coding club was forced on us which meant 9 hour shifts with a super early start on a Sunday, where we had to teach kids coding for 3.5 hours. I applied for and was given the role of a “gaming host”.
I had been saying since over a year ago, when I was first employed there, that the PCs weren't running very well, and that we really needed somebody to come down to our store to take a look at what was going wrong, but nothing was done. Then my (old) manager, who was almost 40, confessed feelings for me over text message, and I was 21 at the time. I found it sickening because we had a very "I ask you for life advice and you tell me about your life experiences" relationship, and he was always talking about how he wanted a wife and kids, so I was really upset and uncomfortable. We were the only two people working there. I told my boss that I was really upset and asked if we could be kept seperate. Because there was only the two of us, the bookings wouldn't allow for it (we'd have to work together), and "what he'd done wasn't illegal", my boss refused to accomodate anything at all so I walked out on the spot.
About six months later, I'm asked to come back for a higher wage and I agree. Creepy manager left after I did, they employed two new teenagers, and they've lost another staff member. Again, there is now only two of us working there. For context, sometimes we are expected to help up to 6 kids by ourselves with their games. This sounds relatively fair, until you imagine you're in a room with 6 7-12 year olds trying to play virtual reality, which many of them have never touched before, alongside PC crashes and errors and trying to make sure they all still have fun, whilst their parents are shooting daggers at you and loudly saying "Timmy, is your headset broken?", when in actuality they ignored the instruction talk and are pressing the buttons they were specifically told not to. Meaning I have to put their headset on and get them back into the game that they were in because they've found the settings. As soon as I come out, someone's PC has started throwing out errors and I need to fix that - and then another "excuse me!" - It's hard to juggle by yourself.
I start getting vocal about the PC issues again, and eventually someone comes down to "fix" them but we're still getting issues. There was one complaint because my boss did not pay for the game pass (and xboxes are advertised on the party packages), and kids couldn't play the games that were being advertised. I had to text him, during the party, to get it sorted out (and even then, I had to go and get the card and individually enter it on all of the xboxes and leave the kids in the VR room unattended - coming back to a backlog of issues which I can't fix in a timely manner). Eventually - and only because they thought I might be leaving due to the end of my course when I said I wanted to stay on full time - they hired a third person who is like the Jesus of VR.
On my last day, I had to tell my boss to pay the VR game subscription so that the day could run at all. Of course, this led to all of the PCs freaking out, and my colleague (who is luckily a VR wizard, she develops games for that) managed to fix it just in time for a party but even she experienced some hassle.
I play a lot of games, and I'm great with kids and have a good understanding of VR so when the PCs work I do an amazing job - I got a streak of returning customers once, but I'm not a technician, nor am I a manager and this was not listed in the job description. We have several complaints about the equipment not working on their booking. Our PCs were plaugued with technical issues (critical SteamVR fails for example) and crashes, which meant that entire bookings were being ruined, and I was being spoken to really badly by customers. I'm very sensitive because I have anxiety, so this was awful for me, and I cried several times on different days. I once had somebody ask: "who's running this sh*t show?" and "this is a f*cking waste of money" (on my last day). On my last day too, a lady booked the wrong time and said "the more you talk, the more you're wasting my kids time" and insisting that the booking system was wrong and that it was not her fault - even though the booking system has never messed up and the time she booked was the only available time we'd have had, as I checked the bookings the night prior and she had booked the only free space.
I have a lady that the bosses wife labelled as "horrible" break me in the end, she raised her voice at me while I was doing absoloutely everything I can to make her kids birthday party run well. It was a packed Saturday, and my boss had understaffed due to wanting to save money, so I was the only person on that floor. I couldn't ask my colleague for help as we're not allowed to leave anyone unsupervised and she was upstairs. The party I'm trying to run keeps failing, and several people are turning up early and bombarding me with questions even though they could clearly see how stressed I was, and that I was in the middle of trying to fix things.
My manager had given himself the day off, I'm by myself. There are so many people waiting (turning up 30 minutes early), that I run out of space in the xbox room for them to wait, and the party I'm trying to run keeps failing. I end up calling my manager, having an anxiety attack (I think) and having to go out the back. I couldn't breathe and I was crying and I felt dizzy, I almost fell over. The "horrible woman" comes over to the desk and mutters about how it's a "f*cking waste of money", apparently she was "wrecking our ratings on live chat and being really personal".
My manager comes in and I leave - I tell him over text while he's on the way that I don't want to quit, but I'm sick of being the face of a broken product and getting abuse for it. I ask if I still have a job when I come back into the building and he's arrived, and he said it'll be discussed but that I "shouldn't get fired".
I leave, go to see a fake Radiohead concert with my friends and get super smashed. No surprises was not a pleasant one when you think you're about to get fired LMAO
I start getting messages from my manager and my colleague saying, and I quote, "we looked at the PCs, and we can confirm none of the issues were your fault today". My colleague then messages me privately and gives me some hope, saying that it shouldn't be a big deal.
Turns out, the thermal paste on the PC that was being the worst out of them all had worn down thermal paste, which my colleague had to replace herself.
Well...this "discussion" was supposed to happen the following day, but they postpone it to Wednesday. I found this disrespectful on top of not getting breaks on packed days, being paid late and a general lack of communication from my boss and his wife.
I ask bosses wife what's going on. She calls me: "you're just too anxious, the people in [where you live] are so much more cutthroat than in our other locations, you're just not a good fit".
I think this is so unfair. I was essentially fired for having an anxiety condition, which would never have impacted my work if it wasn't for technical problems that I had raised dozens of times that they should have fixed. I asked if the decision was final and she said yes. She was almost crying, but she still did it - so I don't really care about how hard it was for her anymore. She did it on an unknown number, too, which looking back, I think is kind of weird.
I’m devastated, I feel like I’m just a broken individual that can’t do things. I’ve never ever been fired before and it’s hard to describe how I feel.

I'm very well prepared to get downvoted into hell for sharing this. I'm even more prepared not to give a fuck.
I refuse to accept second best.
I refuse to accept simply receiving text messages, YouTube links, memes and funny GIFs because he doesn't want to put in the effort to picking up the phone and talk.
I refuse to accept being his emotional support animal because he's lost, miserable, with nothing of value to offer me, and he feels trapped or otherwise entangled in a relationship where his needs are not being met but will not leave.
I refuse to accept being his second choice, substitute, or placeholder because the woman he truly prefers is either unavailable or has rejected him for obvious reasons.
I refuse to beg, plead, cry, yell, shout, cause drama, act out, or misbehave just to get him to pay attention to me.
I refuse to place such low premium on my heart, being easily bought and sold, from d-pics and text messages that promise a good time because we truly have nothing in common and nothing to talk about.
I refuse to believe that the idea of dying alone, settling down with cats, and never being touched by another man for my remaining 87 years of my life just because I wouldn't give up my self-respect and values is considered "Plan B" and something to avoid out of fear.
I refuse to chase after the idea of a husband and placing undue pressure on myself to have his babies simply because I need to or that I should, therefore, making me indiscriminate about the men with whom I involve myself.
I refuse to make myself available to him on the condition to be happily cast aside or otherwise forgotten if he discovers someone better.
I was planning on commencing my "Men On Pause" on my 40th birthday next month, but after taking a lot of things into consideration, I'm actually going to initiate that earlier than planned. I'll take that as an early birthday gift to myself.
That is all.

Hello, Reddit. I'm on my mobile, so there may be formatting and spelling issues. Sorry about that.
So here's the deal: I (39, M) am a single man. I have a coworker who is like a surrogate mother to me. I'll call her Lisa. She lives right next door to me. I take care of her yard, help her in her garden, and do matinance around her property as needed. In return she sometimes has me over for a hot meal (I'm not much of a cook haha), taught me how to sew so I can fix my clothes, and, in general, treats me like a third son.
She's usually kind and caring, but she absolutely HATES that I'm single. For the past year, she's been trying to introduce me to people she knows, and has even attempted to arrange blind dates. I have a bad track record when it comes to dating. (I've had my heart broken a few times, but my last relationship was the straw that broke the camel's back. I moved across the US continent to be with someone, only to be abused financially, emotionally, verbally, and physically.)
Since then, I have sworn off dating. I'm content to live my life alone. But, Lisa doesn't agree. She says I'd make a fine husband, and it's a shame that I'm denying any woman the chance to be with me. I have asked her several times to please stop, but she ignores me or insists that I just need to meet the right woman.
Three days ago, she had me over to celebrate my birthday a little early, as she will be out of state on the actual day. A few of my friends and her friends were in attendance. She introduced me to a woman I have never seen nor met before, and said that we have hobbies in common. We struck up what I thought was a friendly conversation, but she accidentally let slip that Lisa was attempting to set us up.
I didn't take it well. I pulled Lisa aside, and informed her that I did not appreciate her violating my wishes. Lisa argued with me about it, so I quietly left and went home. I shut my phone off, and refused to answer any knocks on my door.
Lisa came over the next day as I was working on my yard, and scolded me for leaving and making the party awkward. I got a little ticked, so I told her that I only left because SHE kept ignoring that I don't want to date. She left in a huff, but told me I'm being completely unreasonable. My friends who were at the party all agree that it was an asshole move to walk out before we even ate.
I'm pretty upset with her, but now I don't know what to think.
AITAH?

BAWAL ITO I-POST SA FACEBOOK AT TIKTOK!
Example 1: Noong wedding namin ni husband, hindi ako masaya. Sobrang nakasimangot ako dahil sa extended extended family ng husband ko. Nagrereklamo sila to the max kung kailan kakain kasi ang tagal. Hindi pa nagsisimula ceremony nito ah.
Pinilit lang ako kasi si husband daw unang ikakasal sa mga anak nila. Tapos nagulat ako na invited kahit extended extended family (as in hindi na same last name and sobrang layo na kamag-anak). Nakatira kasi lahat sila sa iisang compound na malaki.
Example 2: Buong angkan sa side ni husband ay invited sa isang outing, except us. When I asked my MIL why, sinagot ba naman saakin “baka nalimutan lang kayo iinvite. Sinabi ko kay (husband’s name) last week. Baka nalimutan”. Pero hindi talaga kami ininvite. Nalaman-laman ko sa isang relative nila na pinapalusot pala nila ay “busy” daw kami at “nasiraan ng kotse” kahit gawa kotse namin.
At kaya pala hindi kami invited ay birthday ng gf ng BIL ko na ayaw saakin. The gf of BIL and MIL backstabbed me 2 years ago, at siya pa may gana’ng maging pavictim after that. Sinasabi ni MIL na may naririnig na raw ako na hindi dapat (in short: baliw na raw ako). Tapos after 2 days pinalusot nila na kapangalan ko lang daw pinaguusapan nila.
Sobrang na-hurt ako rito. Pinilit ako iinvite sa wedding namin tapos magugulat ako na hindi kami invited sa mga lakad nila? Simula no’n hindi na kami napunta ng any occasions kahit birthday pa ‘yan.
Ngayon: They informed us that there will be a huge reunion sa side ulit ni husband. As in extended extended family ulit (50 or more families). Si MIL bigla sinabi saamin na nagbook na raw siya ng hotel nearby the venue at bumili na ng matching shirts for us. Gulat kami, kasi they did not asked us if pupunta ba kami or not.
Another reason why I don’t want to go is that I’m not comfortable to go, and magyayabangan at plastikan lang sila roon. Kinocompare rin nila ang anak namin sa anak ni BIL (I DONT LIKE THAT!)
Reason why I feel I’m the gago: Mabait FIL ko pero tahimik siya at wala ginagawa kahit alam niya na mali ginagawa ng mga kamag-anak/asawa niya. Ayaw niya may kakampihan. But he’s nice to me (at least). I can feel na tinatry bumawi ni BIL and MIL saamin, pero matigas siguro puso ko kasi I did not receive any apology from them. I could be wrong. Also family ito ni husband, he said he’s fine by my choice and for the sake of my peace of mind pero naaawa ako sakanya.
BAWAL ITO I-POST SA FACEBOOK AT TIKTOK!
ABYG if ayoko umattend ng any family gatherings with my in-laws?

I don’t know how to start this or how to explain my situation, but I am a Muslim women (28) and in my country we have arranged marriages so about 2 months ago I got engaged to a 29 years old man, Engagement means he is my husband but we need to do a wedding after several months in order for us to live together or do anything else.
Anyways, in this phase we are only allowed to talk to each others through phone or he can visit me occasionally.
What bothers me is that I just discovered that he is a workaholic, he works in 5 jobs in which he stays overnight in some, he has a huge debt, maybe I can live with that? I haven’t made my mind to it yet.
When we discussed pregnancy he told me that he wants me to be pregnant at least after 3 months after the wedding in which I told him that I don’t want to have kids until a at least a year has passed, he said considering my age (28)!!!! I should have kids as soon as possible because and I quote “ it is hard for women to have kids after the age of 35 , if you were like my niece who got married at the age of 24 then I wouldn’t mind waiting” OMG I was furious at him.
On top of that he told me that we will live next to his parents for at least 2 years now he says it will be 5 years
I don’t know if this is normal between spouses or what? Because I’m not feeling ok with these things

I don’t know how to start this or how to explain my situation, but I am a Muslim women (28) and in my country we have arranged marriages so about 2 months ago I got engaged to a 29 years old man, Engagement means he is my husband but we need to do a wedding after several months in order for us to live together or do anything else.
Anyways, in this phase we are only allowed to talk to each others through phone or he can visit me occasionally.
What bothers me is that I just discovered that he is a workaholic, he works in 5 jobs in which he stays overnight in some, he has a huge debt, maybe I can live with that? I haven’t made up my mind to it yet.
When we discussed pregnancy he told me that he wants me to be pregnant at least after 3 months after the wedding in which I told him that I don’t want to have kids until a at least a year has passed, he said considering my age (28)!!!! I should have kids as soon as possible because and I quote “ it is hard for women to have kids after the age of 35 , if you were like my niece who got married at the age of 24 then I wouldn’t mind waiting” OMG I was furious at him.
On top of that he told me that we will live next to his parents for at least 2 years now he says it will be 5 years
I don’t know if this is normal between spouses or what? Because I’m not feeling ok with these things

I don’t know how to start this or how to explain my situation, but I am a Muslim women (28) and in my country we have arranged marriages so about 2 months ago I got engaged to a 29 years old man, Engagement means he is my husband but we need to do a wedding after several months in order for us to live together or do anything else.
Anyways, in this phase we are only allowed to talk to each others through phone or he can visit me occasionally.
What bothers me is that I just discovered that he is a workaholic, he works in 5 jobs in which he stays overnight in some, he has a huge debt, maybe I can live with that? I haven’t made my mind to it yet.
When we discussed pregnancy he told me that he wants me to be pregnant at least after 3 months after the wedding in which I told him that I don’t want to have kids until a at least a year has passed, he said considering my age (28)!!!! I should have kids as soon as possible because and I quote “ it is hard for women to have kids after the age of 35 , if you were like my niece who got married at the age of 24 then I wouldn’t mind waiting” OMG I was furious at him.
On top of that he told me that we will live next to his parents for at least 2 years now he says it will be 5 years
I don’t know if this is normal between spouses or what? Because I’m not feeling ok with these things

We are going to visit family over Memorial Day weekend- we have an almost 9 month old and our family all live 4-5 hours away. My siblings came to visit for my birthday in March (my parents passed from cancer in 2020) but my in laws haven’t seen the baby since Christmas and this will be the first time they’ll see her unmasked (they refused to get flu shot/TDAP/Covid vaccine). They’re not my favorite people but I am excited to see my family.
DH video calls with them every Sunday and this past Sunday MIL informs us that her current job (a fundie religious private school that is closing down due to low enrollment) is throwing an open house for her to celebrate almost 40 years of teaching- she can’t retire because they don’t have the $$ and FIL was forced into retirement due to his ongoing cancer treatment. I digress- she’s worked the job a long time so the least they could do is celebrate her considering the poor pay and the fact that she’s in her 60’s and had to job search. When is this celebration? The weekend after Memorial Day weekend.
Husband of course feels obligated to go. We are both frustrated at the situation because we are a one car household so if he goes it’s only going to be for the day and I’ll be home with the baby. We discussed him taking the baby and driving and spending the night with them. Which would have been an easy fix except one of my oldest friends will be around that same weekend and wanted to meet the baby (an airline pilot who lives in another state so his schedule means I rarely see him). And I am not going to change my plans with my friend for them last minute.
You would think if you’re throwing a party to honor someone you’d let them pick the date…we don’t know if they ran it by MIL and she approved or they just decided themselves and she’s too meek to say anything. I’m more frustrated at the situation but I’m fairly sure MIL didn’t think to run the date by us but then excitedly tells us about it and hopes baby can make it. We are leaning towards husband just going for the day because baby will have spent enough time in the car Memorial Day weekend and I’m not putting her through it again just so grandma can show her off without considering us.

I 24F took in my younger sister 17F in October. She had texted me during school that day saying she didn’t feel safe, when she got home she texted me our code word. I left work as soon as I could and made a lame excuse to go over to my family’s home. My parents 41F and 57M were standoffish so I stuck to my lame excuse and distracted them. My sister ran to my truck and ducked down. I left and around the corner we self reported her runaway to the proper authorities. We reported to CPS everything that happened and led up to that day and have worked with the system since including the sheriffs office and detectives. I won’t say what exactly we went through but our dad has been arrested on 11 charges, 2 of which are capital crimes. Through all of this she has lived with me and my husband 24M in our home we purchased just a month before she ran. We’re both suffering PTSD and depression from everything that happened and she has been seeing a therapist. Unfortunately my sister and I present very differently. I took the quiet way out of that house so I could still have access to my sisters when I moved out, my sister has fought every step of the way since leaving for justice. It’s admirable and I don’t want to sound like I don’t love her and understand how hard all of this is, but my sister has been rude to my husband and I, condescending about my education, complaining we’re never home when we go to work, picking fights with me, complaining we can’t afford to buy her a car, etc. Needless to say it makes it feel like everything we do is not enough and never will be and has led to changes in how we want to handle her turning 18 in 3 months. My husband and I started working on a rental contract to give her and ourselves protection when she turns 18. She can rent her room and bathroom for $350 a month with all basic groceries, utilities, washedryer and all the supplies, kitchen and all the supplies, and streaming services included. There are rules that are basically keep your spaces clean, keep the common spaces clean, respect all members of the household, let us know in advance if you’re having company over and give us extra time if you’ll be having company over and hosting in common areas so we can make sure we don’t have plans overlapping. We did decide that for disrespecting the rules or us there would be a financial penalty after a certain amount of times a month of failing to do these things because we currently have no recourse for her consistently fighting with me until I cry, leaving messes in the kitchen I get to clean up, and just generally not respecting our home. There are clauses to have those penalties removed and added in for her protection because it’s meant to protect everyone if any arguments or issues come up. My husband, being frustrated after 8 months of her purposefully upsetting me or starting fights then asking us for things and guilting us for them not being done immediately because we need to work to pay bills, wants to drop this in front of her when she turns 18 and give her two options: sign the contract and stay with us or find somewhere else to live and provide us with a lease by the end of August (her birthday is early in the month). I felt that was unfair to drop with no warning so I gave her a heads up about it so she wouldn’t be startled when the time came. After talking with her therapist, she’s decided we’re a**holes for not just supporting her (emotionally and financially) after she turned 18. I’m on the fence and frustrated. So AITA for asking my sister to sign a rent contract or move out after she turns 18? P.S. my husband has been very patient with her and the first few months just brushed everything off. He’s only to this point because there’s been no improvement whatsoever and she has been apathetic to everyone and has even ridiculed me for crying or being at all emotional.

Hi👋 I'm a lady looking for other lady friends in the H.E.B., Mid Cities, Fort Worth and or surrounding areas. Preferably someone in the age range of 37 to 48. I'm early 40. My goal this year is to make new lady friends! So I'm out here trying and it's hard lol! I wanted to be clear because sometimes reddit can be strange. I'm just looking for NORMAL lady friends or NORMAL couples friends to hang out with with my husband and I. Nothing weird. Just normal friendships! We are NOT swingers and again are NOT looking for strange or weird relationships! Just NORMAL friendships only!!! We are liberal so it would be nice to meet other liberal friends too. Of course you don't have to be liberal! I have republicans friends too, but we never talk politics. That is our one rule when hanging out with someone of the opposite party. We don't have any kidos, just doggos. All my friends have either moved or just don't follow through with plans. I'm also always the one to make the plans. It would be nice to make friends with other ladies that put equal effort into the friendship. I'm kind of shy at first, but once I get to know a person I'm VERY talkative. I'm a very kind and thoughtful person. I like board games, singing and karaoke, make up, drawing, painting, cooking, baking, crafts, Nintendo switch, animals and I'm sure I'm forgetting other things. I like funny shows. Seinfeld, Modern Family, IT Crowd, Trailer Park boys to name a few of my favorites. I love to laugh and make people laugh. Feel free to Message or chat me👋. Don't send creepy messages and be a creep! It clearly states multiple times I'm only looking for female friends!

Hi👋 I'm looking for other lady friends in the H.E.B., Mid Cities, Forth Worth and\or surrounding areas.
Hi👋 I'm a lady looking for other lady friends in the H.E.B., N.R.H., Keller and or surrounding areas. Preferably someone in the age range of 37 to 48. I'm early 40. My goal this year is to make new lady friends! So I'm out here trying and it's hard lol! I wanted to be clear because sometimes reddit can be strange. I'm just looking for NORMAL lady friends or NORMAL couples friends to hang out with with my husband and I. Nothing weird. Just normal friendships! We are NOT swingers and again are NOT looking for strange or weird relationships! Just NORMAL friendships only!!! We are liberal so it would be nice to meet other liberal friends too. Of course you don't have to be liberal! I have republicans friends too, but we never talk politics. That is our one rule when hanging out with someone of the opposite party. We don't have any kidos, just doggos. All my friends have either moved or just don't follow through with plans. I'm also always the one to make the plans. It would be nice to make friends with other ladies that put equal effort into the friendship. I'm kind of shy at first, but once I get to know a person I'm VERY talkative. I'm a very kind and thoughtful person. I like board games, singing and karaoke, make up, drawing, painting, cooking, baking, crafts, Nintendo switch, animals and I'm sure I'm forgetting other things. I like funny shows. Seinfeld, Modern Family, IT Crowd, The Office, Trailer Park boys to name a few of my favorites. I love to laugh and make people laugh. Feel free to Message or chat me👋. Don't send creepy messages and be a creep! It clearly states multiple times I'm only looking for female friends!

So, this is my first time writing on reddit.
I (m21) found out my ex (m24) cheated on me. We have known each other since June last year, we met just a couple weeks after he broke up with his long-time boyfriend of 6 years. We live 1 and a half hours away from each other. I live in Brisbane; he lives in the countryside. So, every weekend we were always together. We started officially dating in September. I was only out at the time to my friends, not to my family, so getting into this relationship was a bit scary because he was out and proud. It’s funny because in the beginning he would try to accuse me of cheating, tell me he’s scared of me cheating, but I would’ve never done that. I loved him. Turns out, he was the one cheating.
In December last year, he told me to respond to an Instagram message for him. After I sent it, I saw a message he had sent this guy, A, he commented on his story, something flirty and it caught my eye. I confronted him about it. He admitted to being “lonely” and wanted to talk to him. Then he tells me he thought the guy was attractive. He was a friend of one of his co-workers. My ex only saw this guy once! Anyways, he would block this guy, then unblock him, then block him again, etc.
There have been times where I’ve had to confront him on a lot of stuff. For example, his ex. He told me his ex was blocked; he would never talk to him but that was all a lie. I would see notifications from his ex, he would tell me, his ex would create all these accounts just to get in contact with him, which that part was true but my problem was that he would never tell me but he never understood why that was a problem. When we went away for our six month anniversary last month, we wanted to watch Netflix but the Netflix on the hotel TV wasn't working so he told me to get his laptop and we'd watch "Is It Cake?" on there. His iMessage dings. He doesn't use iMessage. I see a text from a number and it was like "how dare you use my trauma against me" and "I just want to talk." His ex was always asking for money and would say "I need to talk it's important" and it wouldn't be important. He was always asking for money. I asked him why he didn't tell me he was still talking to his ex, he just told me "he wanted to see the kittens. I said to him if he wanted to buy one, he could see them but if he wasn't buying one, I don't want him near me" and he told me it was no big deal and that he loved me. Told me he deleted and blocked the number but I went through his blocked list, the number wasn't there but I didn't bring it up. I just moved on and wanted to enjoy our holiday. Then, when I was getting my tyres done, he told me about some random number calling him twice and he sent me a screenshot. In the screenshot it showed his call log, like, his calling history. Turns out he was on the phone to his ex, through Instagram the night before after we said "goodnight" to each other. He then said "oh yeah, I forgot to tell you. My ex called me last night about the kittens, again." and I was pissed because how do you forget to tell someone that. We ended up having a huge fight about it, he said he feels bad for his ex because he has no family and all this stuff. All these excuses. Again, I ended up forgiving him and moving on.
Fast forward to Monday, I recieved a friend request on Insta from the guy I confronted my ex about back in December, A, and I knew what was happening but I just deleted his request but then he kept on requesting to follow me. I told my ex about it and he told me not to worry about it. Then, yesterday on Tuesday, all day, I had this sick feeling in my stomach because I had a feeling something was going to happen. Then that night, I received a message from his old co-worker she said "I think you need to see this" and I responded with a question mark because nothing had come through but then the screenshots and screen recordings came through. My heart sank. He has been messaging A since December and messaged him again when he got back from my house after celebrating his birthday with me (I spent over $300 on his presents) and my family (my mum bought me a couple presents too) early because his birthday is on a Monday and I can't be there. (He stayed at mine, Thursday, Friday, and went home on Saturday). That Saturday, was my grandparents 50th wedding anniversary lunch, where my nanna said to my ex "you're apart of the family now", which made me happy but I loved him and I loved that my family loved him but that same Saturday, he went home and texted A. When I was looking at the screenshots of the texts and screen recordings, the screen recordings showed he was on Tinder. I was fucking mad. I called him immediately and said "what the fuck!" and I started reading out the texts he would send this guy on Instagram and on Snapchat. The other guy, A, didn't entertain him. He would just ignore him or just have small talk but it was just my boyfriend doing the flirting but what broke me was when A asked my ex "who's the J in your bio" and my ex said "that's my boyfriend. We're in an open relationship." I felt my heart break into a million pieces. He basically confirmed everything, said he was on Tinder and said he was on Grindr, and he said he was last on Grindr "two days ago" and yesterday, two days ago, was Sunday. I was at his house, he would've been on it when I left his. I felt so many different feelings all at once, I felt like I was going to burst. I then, just went over to my best friend's house but both A and my ex, told me they haven't had sex and my ex told me, that even though he was on Grindr and Tinder, he didn't sleep with anyone just talked to a couple guys and that's it.
I obviously broke up with him yesterday but we're stilling messaging each other. I even called him last night after I got back from my friend's house and we spoke more about the situation. I know still having contact with him isn't good for me but I still love him. Even though we only dated for six-almost seven months, I still love him. I think because this is my first relationship, I want to cling on this but at the same time, I know I deserve better. I haven't cried yet. I don't think I will tbh. He keeps saying how he's sorry and how he feels guilty and all I can think is then why do any of this in the first place? I told him last night, if you were feeling this way, talk to me, hell even break up with me. I remember in the beginning our relationship, I told him that he'd have to break up with me because I don't like the idea of me breaking up with someone but hey, I broke up with him. He told me he had made some "big mistakes" and I said "you made choices. Not mistakes. Calling it a mistake is trying to avoid that the idea has a consequence" then he said "if you want me to suffer than just don't ever get back with me" and I said "I don't want you to suffer but no, I don't see us getting back together. I love you and I've forgiven you for the past shady shit you've done and I can forgive you for this but I will never forget it." I just can't be with him knowing he did this. I had this feeling for months that he was doing stuff behind my back and now that's it all confirmed, it makes me feel good now that I don't have to constantly worry about what my boyfriend is doing. I would worry so much it was making me sick. He would tell me he loved me, he wanted to marry me, he bought me a promise ring, he told me he wanted kids with me, told me he wanted to do everything with me. He told me how sorry he was, how guilty he felt because he said I'm the sweetest, kindest, caring, funniest and most loving person he's ever met and he's going to miss me heaps but all I can think about is like if he did love me, if he did think of me like that, why would he do what he did.
This morning, we were talking some more and I told him that even that I hated what happened, that I was still thankful for the memories because before him, I wasn't doing anything. I was just working and going to uni. My life was pretty boring but thanks to him, I found this confidence and I got all this self-esteem but even though it's only been a day, I can feel my confidence and self-esteem going away. I told my family this morning, well, I told my youngest sister (15) last night because she saw how upset I was and she said "you want me to beat him up" and my other sister (17), I told her this morning and she just called him a cunt and told me I'm better off. My mum, she loved my boyfriend so she was a bit disappointed in him but I was happy when she didn't react, she just sat there and listened to me and told me "maybe you two will work things out" and I told her "no, I don't think I can" and she said "and that's fine." I wish I could talk to my dad but I'm not out to him because he's like crazy homophobic even though my sisters have told me he's asked them if my ex and I were dating lol and said he's ok with it and will love me but I don't know, I'm just still scared to tell him. Maybe one day. My cousin (26) though, I'm very close with her, she's pan, I came out to her two years ago when we went to spread our aunties ashes (weird I know but we went for a walk and it felt right) and she basically told me "I knew it!" apparently everyone knew I was gay before I even came out. I honestly felt like I hid it well but nope. The only person who had no idea was my mum lol but my cousin told me, how she has never seen me happier and was so shocked when I told her that we broke up and the reason why. She thought he was a good guy. We all thought that.
On my grandparents anniversary card, they've been married for 50 years, which I mentioned above and I wrote "I hope I get to experience your type of love one day" in a sense that my ex and I, would end up celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary, even more in the future but unfortunately we won't but I know I will someday. One day. I'm only 21. I know not all guys are bad but for the mean time, I'll just be focusing on my assignments for uni, work, and getting back into the gym. It's been a while but I'm currently sitting in the library at uni writing this listening to a mix of fun songs and sad songs by Raye, Adele, Beyoncé, Lemonade hits different now that I can relate to the songs except Freedom because I'm not black. Love the song though. I'm white as paper. Milk even. I've been listening to Kim Petras, Ethel Cain, Miss Britney, Ariana Grande, again true story, bye and We Can't be friends hit different now. Who else? Rihanna, Megan thee Stallion, Glorilla, Bia, miss Olivia Rodrigo and some Taytay even though I'm not a big fan of miss swift, her pen game is strong. Respect. I've also been listening to Dua Lipa, Ayesha Erotica, Black Veil Brides, Queen Nicki, Billie Eilish, Chase Atlantic, The Neighbourhood, Charlie XCX, Kylie Minogue, Tate McRae, Villain of the Story, Loreen (Tattoo is amazing!), Doja Cat, also my guilty pleasure song, "Jam" by miss Kim K. I love her. I love a boss bitch. I've been told my music is very confusing. One minute I'm listening to "treat me like a slut" then Yungblud plays.
Anyways, I know I'll be alright.

Hi👋 I'm looking for other lady friends in the H.E.B., Mid Cities, Forth Worth and\or surrounding areas.
Hi👋 I'm a lady looking for other lady friends in the Hurst, Euless, Bedford, North Richland hills, Keller, and or surrounding areas. Preferably someone in the age range of 37 to 48. I'm early 40. My goal this year is to make new lady friends! So I'm out here trying and it's hard lol! I wanted to be clear because sometimes reddit can be strange. I'm just looking for NORMAL lady friends or NORMAL couples friends to hang out with with my husband and I. Nothing weird. Just normal friendships! We are NOT swingers and again are NOT looking for strange or weird relationships! Just NORMAL friendships only!!! We are liberal so it would be nice to meet other liberal friends too. Of course you don't have to be liberal! I have republicans friends too, but we never talk politics. That is our one rule when hanging out with someone of the opposite party. We don't have any kidos, just doggos. All my friends have either moved or just don't follow through with plans. I'm also always the one to make the plans. It would be nice to make friends with other ladies that put equal effort into the friendship. I'm kind of shy at first, but once I get to know a person I'm VERY talkative. I'm a very kind and thoughtful person. I like board games, singing and karaoke, make up, drawing, painting, cooking, baking, crafts, Nintendo switch, animals and I'm sure I'm forgetting other things. I like funny shows. Seinfeld, Modern Family, IT Crowd, The Office, Trailer Park boys to name a few of my favorites. I love to laugh and make people laugh. Feel free to Message or chat me👋. Don't send creepy messages and be a creep! It clearly states multiple times I'm only looking for female friends!