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2024.05.21 16:11 AsheLeia2020 Me (22 F) and my ex boyfriend (22 M) broke up and now we’re dating again, but he slept with another woman, should I sleep with someone too?
Let me start with saying that English isn’t my first language so please excuse any error in grammar and so on.
Me (22 F) and my ex boyfriend (22 M) broke up a couple of months ago. When we broke up we were on the same page with it. We both recognized that we weren’t on the same path in life right now and wanted to break things off before things got too far and couldn’t be friends anymore.
Some context of our relationship is that we knew each other from school and then a couple of years later started to talk regularly. That turned into 5-8 hour phone calls almost everyday. We started dating and shortly after we moved in together. The reason behind that was that he works away 2-3 weeks every month and I couldn’t afford my apartment so we both thought it was a good idea. Under our whole relationship we never fought once. We’re really similar and different at the same time so we really did have a great relationship, that’s why we still wanted to be friends after the breakup.
We send each other TikTok’s and snapchats everyday still and sometimes he helps me with feeding my cats. I also need to add that we have had sex a couple of times after the breakup. But this last Friday we talked on the phone and asked him if he could come over (bootycall) and he said that he was going to another city around 1 1/2-2 hours away to another girl we met on tinder and we’re going to send the night. I really didn’t know how to feel about that since we didn’t break up because we didn’t love each other anymore. But we didn’t set up any rules that we weren’t allowed to see other people. I wanted to wright to him and say that I didn’t what him to go but I didn’t want to ruin the night for him.
So we talked the other day and I explained everything to him. I basically said that it hurt more than I thought it would and I either had to take a step back and not have daily contact with him or asked if we could start dating again. He said that he would have to think about it but he also said that he still loves me.
But now I wonder if I could get past that he slept with another girl. I want to sleep with someone to even it out but that would basically be cheating if we start dating again, but I really don’t know if I could let it go if I don’t sleep with someone else too. We haven’t talked about this and I don’t really want to either because I’m afraid that he will say that dating is out of the question than, and I am really dependent on having him in my life since I don’t have any family and barely any fiends.
I really need some advise… please help!
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Me (22 F) and my ex boyfriend (22 M) broke up a couple of months ago. When we broke up we were on the same page with it. We both recognized that we weren’t on the same path in life right now and wanted to break things off before things got too far and couldn’t be friends anymore.
Some context of our relationship is that we knew each other from school and then a couple of years later started to talk regularly. That turned into 5-8 hour phone calls almost everyday. We started dating and shortly after we moved in together. The reason behind that was that he works away 2-3 weeks every month and I couldn’t afford my apartment so we both thought it was a good idea. Under our whole relationship we never fought once. We’re really similar and different at the same time so we really did have a great relationship, that’s why we still wanted to be friends after the breakup.
We send each other TikTok’s and snapchats everyday still and sometimes he helps me with feeding my cats. I also need to add that we have had sex a couple of times after the breakup. But this last Friday we talked on the phone and asked him if he could come over (bootycall) and he said that he was going to another city around 1 1/2-2 hours away to another girl we met on tinder and we’re going to send the night. I really didn’t know how to feel about that since we didn’t break up because we didn’t love each other anymore. But we didn’t set up any rules that we weren’t allowed to see other people. I wanted to wright to him and say that I didn’t what him to go but I didn’t want to ruin the night for him.
So we talked the other day and I explained everything to him. I basically said that it hurt more than I thought it would and I either had to take a step back and not have daily contact with him or asked if we could start dating again. He said that he would have to think about it but he also said that he still loves me.
But now I wonder if I could get past that he slept with another girl. I want to sleep with someone to even it out but that would basically be cheating if we start dating again, but I really don’t know if I could let it go if I don’t sleep with someone else too. We haven’t talked about this and I don’t really want to either because I’m afraid that he will say that dating is out of the question than, and I am really dependent on having him in my life since I don’t have any family and barely any fiends.
I really need some advise… please help!
2024.05.21 16:10 burningbun Anyone remember how to hack older vending machines?
Probably obsolete now that is why i ask so it cant be exploited.
i did this few times long time ago just for fun but all i can remember now is that you need to power off the machine via the wallplug have someone hold a button or few buttons (which i forgot), then power the machine back on. if done correctly you would get a free item.
we first did it when a friend told us this and we didnt believe it and still couldnt believe it when we did it. we did it few times later but got bored and didnt feel like exploiting this.
i believe it was meant for technicians to trouble shoot or test the machine.
but nowadays most vending machines are different so this method probably no longer works. unless you still have them in one of those old motels or stations.
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i did this few times long time ago just for fun but all i can remember now is that you need to power off the machine via the wallplug have someone hold a button or few buttons (which i forgot), then power the machine back on. if done correctly you would get a free item.
we first did it when a friend told us this and we didnt believe it and still couldnt believe it when we did it. we did it few times later but got bored and didnt feel like exploiting this.
i believe it was meant for technicians to trouble shoot or test the machine.
but nowadays most vending machines are different so this method probably no longer works. unless you still have them in one of those old motels or stations.
2024.05.21 16:09 graywolt Total Flipped World Tour - African Lying Safari
 | submitted by graywolt to Totaldrama [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/2mc6o4x0es1d1.png?width=1298&format=png&auto=webp&s=09ee2dbc1a4ff327679846fc609c148b1bb395ea In a 9-5-4-3-1 vote, Staci & Sugar are eliminated, while Max wins immunity in a 3-3-2-1-1 vote, as Sugar is eliminated. After the challenge, Topher and Scott are in first class, waiting for Sugar. Sugar finally shows up and says that she would’ve been here sooner had someone not barfed all over her, which Topher apologizes for. Scott then tells everyone to get down to business. Scott asks who they should try to eliminate, and Topher suggests Staci, as she’s a bigger threat than Cameron & that she’s also level-headed, something that most of everyone else is struggling with. Scott agrees with this, as he believes that it should be easy to convince Max to vote for her. Scott tells Topher to do this and adjourns the meeting. Max is walking around the plane, and Topher finds him in the dining cabin. Topher asks him to sit down, and Max does so. Topher then asks Max who he’s voting for, and Max says Sugar. Topher then asks if Max will forget what Staci had done to him in Niagara Falls, and for a moment, it looks as if Max is truly convinced. We then get a flashback of the things Staci has done to help Max, and in the confessional, Max rhetorically says that he can’t believe that he was that close to believing Topher’s lies. Back with Topher though, Max puts on a facade of agreement, telling Topher that he’s in. Over the P.A, Chris tells the contestants to go vote. At the elimination ceremony, Sugar & Staci are the last ones not safe. Sugar, Scott, & Topher look smug, and everyone else looks worried. When Chris announces a tie though, this shocks everyone. Scott angrily says to Topher that he thought Topher had it under control, and Max just realized that he forgot to ask Staci & Anne Maria to vote for Scott, making them all facepalm angrily. While this is going on, Chris is on the phone with the producers, who are hounding him. Sugar then confidently says that she can take down Staci in a tiebreaker, which gets Staci to notice that Chris is still on his phone. The contestants are now yelling at Chris to do his job, and when Chris gets off the phone, he explains that due to budget constraints, he has to eliminate both Sugar & Staci from the game. This pleases exactly no one, and Chris is barraged with angry shouts from all corners of the room. Sugar then asks how eliminating her helps the budget, and Chris cites added weight to the plane, more food needed, and simply admitting that he finds Sugar & Staci both annoying. Sugar firmly refuses to leave before Chris gets Chef to shove her out of the plane, prompting Staci to quickly jump out as well. In first class, Scott is pissed off at Topher. He mocks Topher, quoting how he said that everything was under control, and that only Staci would be eliminated. Scott says that the only reason that the alliance will still be a thing now is simply for self-preservation. In economy class, Cameron tells Dawn, Staci, & Max that to bring down Scott and Topher, they need to be on the same page, which Cameron apologizes for not making clearer before Staci was eliminated. Cameron & Dawn put their hands in the middle, with Max & Anne Maria doing so as well. In the confessional, Max states that Scott better watch out, as his days are numbered. In the cockpit, Chris asks some questions before signing off. After the credits, we see Sugar & Staci land on the Great Wall of China. Sugar laments about how unfair her elimination was, getting Staci to tell her to shut up, as Sugar has complained about it for the umpteenth time. Sadie then shows up and tells the bickering duo that they need to hurry up, as their flight departs in 5 hours. Staci says that she can’t wait to be back in Canada, and Sugar hopes that the hotel they’ll be staying at is nice. Sadie tells Staci that they won’t be back in Canada quite yet and tells Sugar that having a nice hotel should be the least of her worries. Sugar asks what this means, and Sadie replies with “you’ll see”, before they all walk off, and the screen cuts to black. African Lying Safari The episode begins in economy class, where Dawn & Cameron are cuddling each other, Anne Maria filing her nails, and Max looking pensive. A slightly worried Max lays out this hypothetical to Anne Maria – After Topher is eliminated, Scott gets immunity. In that case, who do you vote for? This is stumping Max, as he is cool with everyone here besides Scott. Anne Maria agrees, saying some tough choices would have to be made here. In first class, Topher tells Scott that with everyone else reuniting, it’s every man for himself, as their two votes won’t change anything. Scott agrees, and he tells Topher not to be surprised by any tricks he pulls. Once the plane lands, Chris welcomes them to Tanzania, home to the Serengeti Plains. Anne Maria arrives slightly late, as she topped off her pouf as they landed. Chris introduces the first challenge, which he named "Sock-et To Me." This challenge entails going over to a pile of plums, and grabbing as many as possible while dodging the soccer balls that will be kicked at you by contestants. Scott mocks the soccer balls, so Chris beans Scott with one, reveling in his yelp of pain. Topher goes up first, and he gracefully dodges all of the soccer balls, getting a giant pile of plums. Cameron is calculating where to kick the ball, and when he figures it out, the soccer ball hits Topher in the shins, making him fall & drop the plums. Cameron is up next and isn’t even able to get any plums before he’s knocked down by a speeding soccer ball from Topher. Max is now going and while he stays upright this time, he is only able to get half a dozen plums, as he dropped most of them. Scott is next, and while he hits Cameron with Dawn’s ball, he gets beaned in the head by Anne Maria & Max at the same time, making him drop his plums. Dawn goes, and nearly makes it, but trips over a ball kicked by Scott Anne Maria starts running, deflecting all the balls with her hair. She grabs some plums, doing the same thing as she runs back to where she started. Max is speechless at this, asking how Anne Maria made her hair do that, with her saying it’s a mix of having good hair, and good product. Anne Maria hands Max a mostly empty can, and in the confessional, Max is flabbergasted when Anne Maria’s hairspray offers a 72-hour hold. The plums are then used to smash through gourds, and whoever does so first wins an advantage. While Cameron accidentally hits Chef, Anne Maria barely puts a dent in her gourd, frustrating her. After a Chris induced miss, Scott perfectly strikes his gourd, getting six tranq balls & a slingshot for his troubles. Max strikes his gourd soon after, getting four & a slingshot. Topher hits his next getting three, Anne Maria strikes her gourd with her cricket bat, getting two, and since Dawn & Cameron couldn’t crack their gourd, they each get one ball, but no slingshot. Chris tells the couple that they’ll have to throw the tranq ball with enough force to pop it, and Cameron says that’s nearly impossible. Chris then announces that the tranq balls will be used to knock out the Max clone, who according to Chris, is “bigger and better”, as he’s been genetically mutated. The Max clone is even wilder now, with his tracksuit being half-torn, glowing green eyes, and no shoes. As Chris explains that whoever knocks out the Max clone gets invincibility, said clone is seen attacking an intern. Chris tells them to go, with Dawn & Cameron teaming up, and Anne Maria & Max doing the same thing. Topher offers to team up with Scott, but the Farm Boy rebuffs him. This ends up being a mistake however, as Topher has stolen Scott’s tranq balls. With Scott, he is walking about when he hears a rustling in a bush near him. He tells the clone to come out, but is instead met with a lion. Scott then goes into his back pocket, finding nothing. Scott tries to calm the beast down, but eventually runs away. Meanwhile, Max has finished setting traps all around the area. Anne Maria is skeptical about this, and Max asks “who in their right mind could resist a Mallowmar?” Dawn & Cameron are looking for the Max clone, and when the lion is behind Dawn, she asks if Cameron has recently brushed his teeth. Cameron asks why, and Dawn looks behind them, seeing the same lion that terrorized Scott. The two lovers run away, but Cameron gets caught in one of Max’s traps, making Max wince. Anne Maria gives Max an “I told you so” look, and Max offers to help get Cameron out. He asks if anyone has a knife, and at that moment, a baboon grabs Cameron, greatly angering Dawn. Dawn & Max promise to find something to free Cameron before running off. The girls and boys run into each other and, mistaking the others for their intended target, hit each other, knocking each other out with tranquilizing balls. Chris chooses this time to make the contestants sing, despite being still stunned. While being in their stunned state, the contestants sing “Wake Up”, which is about exactly what it sounds like. Chris then warns the contestants that they have about an hour to catch the Max clone before the plane leaves, ditching them. Chris offers to watch the action back at the jet, which Chef obliges to. Dawn runs off to save Cameron, saying that she can handle it, as her boyfriend will not become baboon food. Anne Maria & Max run to the right, while Topher & Scott both inadvertently go left. As Max & Anne Maria go right, they turn around, as they see footprints going left. With Dawn, she has made it up to the baboon den at the top of the tree, and Cameron tells Dawn to not make any sudden movements, as the baboon really likes him. Dawn tries to explain the situation to the baboon, but it gets defensive, holding Cameron tighter. This is too far for the Moonchild, who rips Cameron out of the baboon’s hands, then kicks it in the nuts. As Dawn & Cameron make it down the tree, the baboon is shrieking. Topher & Scott both see the Max clone from a distance, as they’re on a hill. Topher steps up to fire, but Scott shoots Topher before shoving him down the hill. Topher angrily shouts at Scott for this, and he then notices the Max clone, which is right next to him. Topher tries to plead with him, but the clone mercilessly & viciously beats up Topher, which Max & Scott are cringing at from the top of the hill. Scott tries to take advantage of this, but Max snipes him from behind before doing the same to the Max clone, winning Max the challenge & invincibility. Chris goes to announce this, but only Max & Anne Maria are listening, as Topher & Scott are in a sleeping heap with the clone, and Dawn & Cameron haven’t made it back yet. Vote for anyone besides Max, vote for someone to get immunity for the next episode, and feel free to come up with any plot points for the next episode. (Rapa-Phooey!) |
2024.05.21 16:09 IChrisThereforeIAm Tuesday Morning Ramblings and A Poem: Chrissy's Story
Good morning everyone. As most of you may already be aware, last week I have decided to end things with my husband of 7 years. He moved all his belongings out last week, and I have been living in my apartment by myself. When I first met him 7 years back, we were both over the moon and we had gotten married just 3 months after dating. Things were amazing for a while, but shortly after we began to have a lot of problems. Mistakes were made of course, but we had tried to work through them as we both still loved each other very much. For 6 years, I supported his heart failure and took care of him. Paid all the bills, etc only up until last year when he was finally awarded money for his disability by the government.
Things just got really bad between us. Countless fights, screaming, stress, everything. I had realized that I fell out of love with him years ago, but was too afraid to speak honestly. And so the vicious cycle of fighting, tears, anguish, and sadness continued for years. We became roommates so to speak. I would work, come home, eat, and we were sleeping in separate rooms for years. I was too afraid to speak up and say anything. I became an empty, lifeless shell devoid of human emotion, and I barely recognized myself anymore. It was the most horrible feeling. I thought this perpetual cycle of madness was going to continue on infinitely. My mental state was fucked at this point.
So we continued on, I came back to Reddit...again as some of my followers know I had quite the history of coming and going. (Now you know why). I started to post characters again for fun, not really returning to full time sliders as it's a lot of work, but rather just sharing some fashion and faces I thought looked good. This simple thing made me feel happier despite how much pain I was dealing with internally. I made my first post here several weeks ago, and that same night I received a PM from a complete stranger that was really nice. It was a simple message, but it made me genuinely smile. Probably the first real genuine feeling I had felt in a long time. And something inside of me told me to respond. And so I did. And instantly my conversations day and night with said individual were the only thing I looked forward to. They brought me solace and happiness that I never knew I could even feel again. I really have came to know this individual really well and it turns out we both have very similar situations. It was the absolute most real and unreal thing I could fathom. At some point I questioned if this was real, because surely this was something that my subconscious just cooked up. I wouldn't have put it past it, as I was already so screwed up from a culmination of everything that had happened and everything currently going on. But I found myself rereading all of the conversations recently and the first time I heard his voice, I think I said something to him along the lines of "Oh my god, you're real."
And we continued talking every day and night since then, and I told him everything. Like...my entire life story. Fucking flood gates were open and i couldn't stop. I was one hundred percent completely open and honest with him and I've never been able to do that with anyone, not the man I was married to for 7 years....not even myself. He accepted me completely, flaws and all. And I realized that I was falling in love with him. That I do love him.
I had to start being honest with myself and those around me before it got to the point where I completely lost sight of myself. My marriage was already in shambles prior to this, and it was going to end regardless, but once he entered my life, I knew I had to speak up.
And so when I told him I wanted a divorce and asked him to move out, he tried to give me the ultimatum of I could stay in the marriage or I can continue talking to "dipshit". And I was seething and seeing absolute red. I chose Josh. And I told him that I never expected to fall in love with him, but I did. I told him he needs to leave because regardless of whether I had fallen in love or not, this was already and had been already long over. And so he packed his things and calmly left. I was expecting him to punch a hole through the apartment wall as he had done in the past. Because I was so used to the fighting and screaming. The calm departure threw me off. But once he left, I fell to the floor hysterically crying from a mix of so many emotions. I was alone. I was relieved. And I could finally start healing.
And to Josh, who I know will read this, but probably not comment...I love you. You mean more to me than you could realize and I can't wait to meet you in June. ❤️
And to my soon to be ex who won't be seeing this. These are my final words, because writing is my life blood, the very essence of my being:
Torture crawls and scrapes its claws, through my dampened corridors. Each lonely passage stinks of flesh, a labyrinth of echoed death.
Steel my darkness; absorb its pain, syringe despair just like cocaine. Hooked by your spell and through my heart, you scored my veins with kisses tart.
Liquid regret sucks from my skin, seeps through the dungeon deep within. Living, dying, dead existence, shallow stone, sinking resistance.
You said your heart was my true gift, but through cold eyes I sensed a mist. I saw behind your two-faced mind, your scheme to control clearly defined.
Etched realization chilled my soul. How could your love be lifeless coal? Was evilness pursed on your lips with every single deadly kiss?
Did you desire to burn disgust, upon man's love with poisoned bust? Was there ever somewhere deep within, a piece of love wrapped in thin sin?
Your eyes were blank, no love lived there. An empty book, full of blank stare. So now I write my final note, To tell you my love is revoked.
A heart like yours has only hate. A sprite disguised with angel bate. No longer will your tricks deceive and leach the energy from me.
So read these words from me to you, our love is dead so we are through. My heart's immune to your black spell, your love unreturned to rot in hell.
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Things just got really bad between us. Countless fights, screaming, stress, everything. I had realized that I fell out of love with him years ago, but was too afraid to speak honestly. And so the vicious cycle of fighting, tears, anguish, and sadness continued for years. We became roommates so to speak. I would work, come home, eat, and we were sleeping in separate rooms for years. I was too afraid to speak up and say anything. I became an empty, lifeless shell devoid of human emotion, and I barely recognized myself anymore. It was the most horrible feeling. I thought this perpetual cycle of madness was going to continue on infinitely. My mental state was fucked at this point.
So we continued on, I came back to Reddit...again as some of my followers know I had quite the history of coming and going. (Now you know why). I started to post characters again for fun, not really returning to full time sliders as it's a lot of work, but rather just sharing some fashion and faces I thought looked good. This simple thing made me feel happier despite how much pain I was dealing with internally. I made my first post here several weeks ago, and that same night I received a PM from a complete stranger that was really nice. It was a simple message, but it made me genuinely smile. Probably the first real genuine feeling I had felt in a long time. And something inside of me told me to respond. And so I did. And instantly my conversations day and night with said individual were the only thing I looked forward to. They brought me solace and happiness that I never knew I could even feel again. I really have came to know this individual really well and it turns out we both have very similar situations. It was the absolute most real and unreal thing I could fathom. At some point I questioned if this was real, because surely this was something that my subconscious just cooked up. I wouldn't have put it past it, as I was already so screwed up from a culmination of everything that had happened and everything currently going on. But I found myself rereading all of the conversations recently and the first time I heard his voice, I think I said something to him along the lines of "Oh my god, you're real."
And we continued talking every day and night since then, and I told him everything. Like...my entire life story. Fucking flood gates were open and i couldn't stop. I was one hundred percent completely open and honest with him and I've never been able to do that with anyone, not the man I was married to for 7 years....not even myself. He accepted me completely, flaws and all. And I realized that I was falling in love with him. That I do love him.
I had to start being honest with myself and those around me before it got to the point where I completely lost sight of myself. My marriage was already in shambles prior to this, and it was going to end regardless, but once he entered my life, I knew I had to speak up.
And so when I told him I wanted a divorce and asked him to move out, he tried to give me the ultimatum of I could stay in the marriage or I can continue talking to "dipshit". And I was seething and seeing absolute red. I chose Josh. And I told him that I never expected to fall in love with him, but I did. I told him he needs to leave because regardless of whether I had fallen in love or not, this was already and had been already long over. And so he packed his things and calmly left. I was expecting him to punch a hole through the apartment wall as he had done in the past. Because I was so used to the fighting and screaming. The calm departure threw me off. But once he left, I fell to the floor hysterically crying from a mix of so many emotions. I was alone. I was relieved. And I could finally start healing.
And to Josh, who I know will read this, but probably not comment...I love you. You mean more to me than you could realize and I can't wait to meet you in June. ❤️
And to my soon to be ex who won't be seeing this. These are my final words, because writing is my life blood, the very essence of my being:
Torture crawls and scrapes its claws, through my dampened corridors. Each lonely passage stinks of flesh, a labyrinth of echoed death.
Steel my darkness; absorb its pain, syringe despair just like cocaine. Hooked by your spell and through my heart, you scored my veins with kisses tart.
Liquid regret sucks from my skin, seeps through the dungeon deep within. Living, dying, dead existence, shallow stone, sinking resistance.
You said your heart was my true gift, but through cold eyes I sensed a mist. I saw behind your two-faced mind, your scheme to control clearly defined.
Etched realization chilled my soul. How could your love be lifeless coal? Was evilness pursed on your lips with every single deadly kiss?
Did you desire to burn disgust, upon man's love with poisoned bust? Was there ever somewhere deep within, a piece of love wrapped in thin sin?
Your eyes were blank, no love lived there. An empty book, full of blank stare. So now I write my final note, To tell you my love is revoked.
A heart like yours has only hate. A sprite disguised with angel bate. No longer will your tricks deceive and leach the energy from me.
So read these words from me to you, our love is dead so we are through. My heart's immune to your black spell, your love unreturned to rot in hell.
2024.05.21 16:09 ReserveFJ40 Thank you for helping with the stress
First - Yes, I know I could use the search function and figure out this has been posted before by others! lol
However, I think I need to post this for me. Thanks to everyone that contributes to this forum. Most of us are the same, we don't like to ask for help. We don't like to admit we can't do things ourselves or have issues. We don't admit if something is wrong and we have a problem.
This place and all of you take that stress and pain away in all the big and small things you do. I am the first to admit that I do not reach out for help, admit I'm wrong or broken or that I don't know everything. When someone posts about their issues, it makes me realize that I'm not alone. When someone says they never went to sick call or got a profile because they were scared to seem weak, I realize that it wasn't just me. And when they post that they got help and got a rating, I realize that there is still hope and I should try. This place helps me not give up or give in.
When I read that January 2024 claims are being assigned temp jurisdiction, I realize that I haven't been forgotten by the VA and I just need to be patient. Now I only have to check the VA website 20 times a day rather than 50 times. lol
So to all the upvotes I did not give and should have and to everyone that posts their stories, troubles, laughable moments and success, Thank you. To all the frequent posters and VA employees and experts that help where they can. Thank you. Us lurkers, that are still learning and have a ton of stupid, repeat questions, we all Thank you for helping us stay away from that black hole that is always one step away.
It helped me through some bad times and I'm sure your help in this forum have helped many others that you may not hear from.
Finally, my therapist keeps telling me that I need to acknowledge the good things and not all the bad, so this is my first step and not at all a sappy post. Shut up and drop and give me 20! lol
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However, I think I need to post this for me. Thanks to everyone that contributes to this forum. Most of us are the same, we don't like to ask for help. We don't like to admit we can't do things ourselves or have issues. We don't admit if something is wrong and we have a problem.
This place and all of you take that stress and pain away in all the big and small things you do. I am the first to admit that I do not reach out for help, admit I'm wrong or broken or that I don't know everything. When someone posts about their issues, it makes me realize that I'm not alone. When someone says they never went to sick call or got a profile because they were scared to seem weak, I realize that it wasn't just me. And when they post that they got help and got a rating, I realize that there is still hope and I should try. This place helps me not give up or give in.
When I read that January 2024 claims are being assigned temp jurisdiction, I realize that I haven't been forgotten by the VA and I just need to be patient. Now I only have to check the VA website 20 times a day rather than 50 times. lol
So to all the upvotes I did not give and should have and to everyone that posts their stories, troubles, laughable moments and success, Thank you. To all the frequent posters and VA employees and experts that help where they can. Thank you. Us lurkers, that are still learning and have a ton of stupid, repeat questions, we all Thank you for helping us stay away from that black hole that is always one step away.
It helped me through some bad times and I'm sure your help in this forum have helped many others that you may not hear from.
Finally, my therapist keeps telling me that I need to acknowledge the good things and not all the bad, so this is my first step and not at all a sappy post. Shut up and drop and give me 20! lol
2024.05.21 16:09 Bln-Bln MC at a friend's wedding, looking for ideas!
I've been asked by a close friend to be the MC at his wedding this summer. I'll be conducting the ceremony, including a moment when the niece brings the rings, and I'll say a few words. My role involves entertaining the couple (and the guests) for 15-30 minutes with something meaningful and funny.
I'm not one for long speeches about love or the meaning of life - which is part of why they chose me - but I want to make sure it's engaging and fun.
I'm looking for inspiration! Have you ever been to a wedding with a memorable MC? Can you recommend anything you've experienced or would like to see that stood out and made the event special?
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I'm not one for long speeches about love or the meaning of life - which is part of why they chose me - but I want to make sure it's engaging and fun.
I'm looking for inspiration! Have you ever been to a wedding with a memorable MC? Can you recommend anything you've experienced or would like to see that stood out and made the event special?
2024.05.21 16:08 Bln-Bln MC at a friend's wedding, looking for ideas!
I've been asked by a close friend to be the MC at his wedding this summer. I'll be conducting the ceremony, including a moment when the niece brings the rings, and I'll say a few words. My role involves entertaining the couple (and the guests) for 15-30 minutes with something meaningful and funny.
I'm not one for long speeches about love or the meaning of life - which is part of why they chose me - but I want to make sure it's engaging and fun.
I'm looking for inspiration! Have you ever been to a wedding with a memorable MC? Can you recommend anything you've experienced or would like to see that stood out and made the event special?
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I'm not one for long speeches about love or the meaning of life - which is part of why they chose me - but I want to make sure it's engaging and fun.
I'm looking for inspiration! Have you ever been to a wedding with a memorable MC? Can you recommend anything you've experienced or would like to see that stood out and made the event special?
2024.05.21 16:08 Holistic_Dick Buzzing at first fret - should I shim the nut?
Been meaning to ask this for a while.
I’m using a Sterling Stingray that I love to pieces. Been using it for 4 years and it was time for the yearly setup - intonation, full clean and a check of the truss, saddle height etc.
Every time I do this I follow the requisite guides and try to align everything correctly. The issue is that when I get it all done, I can’t seem to get the open A string playing cleanly unless I put an unacceptable bow in the neck.
Saddle height for the A is about as high as it will go, every other string plays well and action is nice along the neck. I’ve tried isolating the buzz and it seems to happen at the first fret wire. It doesn’t happen immediately, only seems to happen after the string has been vibrating for more than an eight or quarter beat
So my question is: is it worth trying a thin shim under the nut? My (admittedly amateur) assessment gives me the impression the string is set too low at the nut. I’m thinking a very thin shim under the nut could lift it enough to clear the fret.
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I’m using a Sterling Stingray that I love to pieces. Been using it for 4 years and it was time for the yearly setup - intonation, full clean and a check of the truss, saddle height etc.
Every time I do this I follow the requisite guides and try to align everything correctly. The issue is that when I get it all done, I can’t seem to get the open A string playing cleanly unless I put an unacceptable bow in the neck.
Saddle height for the A is about as high as it will go, every other string plays well and action is nice along the neck. I’ve tried isolating the buzz and it seems to happen at the first fret wire. It doesn’t happen immediately, only seems to happen after the string has been vibrating for more than an eight or quarter beat
So my question is: is it worth trying a thin shim under the nut? My (admittedly amateur) assessment gives me the impression the string is set too low at the nut. I’m thinking a very thin shim under the nut could lift it enough to clear the fret.
2024.05.21 16:07 StacianaD76 Thoughts on My Child's Name...
So, I've always been such a name collector all my life and always dreamt of what I'd name a baby if I were ever lucky enough to become a mom. Well, at 43 I miraculously became pregnant (it was never supposed to happen for me) and I finally got my dream come true! So, naturally you can imagine all the names from over the years (and years and years lol) flooding back to me & excitement I felt!! I found out I was having a baby girl (what I secretly wished for - even though I would've been thrilled with a baby boy too, of course!) I went through a million names that I "always wanted to name my future daughter" - but I did find that naming a "future child" VS. naming an actual child felt pretty different. I guess I just, well this is all a REALLY long, verbose way of setting up to ask a question. I just sort of wanted to preface it so you could understand the gravity of how much my little girl and how much naming her meant to me. She just turned 4. So, I'd really like to know what people think of her name. Her 1st name is Everleigh-Ana. Her middle name is Grace (after my grandmother). Ana is pronounced Ah-na, not Ann-na. I realize it's sort of a long-ish name and most of the time I call her either Everleigh or by her NN 'Evi' (which is pronounced Eh-Vee, not Eve-vee). When people ask her name, they usually comment on how beautiful it is and you can usually tell when someone genuinely thinks it beautiful or they just think it's pretty and/or are being extra polite. So, I read all of the name posts/questions on here and although I know some are quite harsh, I'm interested (I think lol) in knowing what people honestly think of her name. Everleigh-Ana. This is my first post, so I hope I'm doing it correctly! Thanks for your time!
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2024.05.21 16:07 Tricky-Wallaby8795 Weird ghosting by the most loving girl I’ve been with
So there’s this girl that I was talking to for like 2 months. We’re both seniors and are going to the same college so it was really easy to bond and throughout the two months we really connected with each other. Like after about a month we were mutually committed to each other and we would talk on the phone all night, talk throughout the day, and be there for each other whenever it was needed. The only real problem is that I tend to overthink a lot, as I’ve had bad anxiety issues in the past. This windiest is compounded by the fact I was played in my last relationship by a girl who said she loved me and swore she was loyal that was talking to other dudes and picked them over me. But anyways, I would try to express how the overthinking made me feel to her but I really wanted to get her on a call because other than seeing her we only exchanged voice notes and never really got on calls. This expanded my intuition and made me think I was getting played so I did some mild research. We follow each other on Ig and she has a lot upwards of a thousand followers, which also set some alarm bells off in my brain because I knew she was most likely lying that I was the only want for her and everything. Also, just through like looking at her post comments, I saw that she still had her ex bfs flirty comments up there for a while when we were talking and that she still followed him, making me think that I was possibly going to be a rebound. Also, based on her TikTok reposts, she was just starting to get over him when she told me they had been done for three months so I didn’t know what to believe. But while we were talking, me and her shared everything with each other like past trauma, current issues, and I play guitar so I would sing love songs to her or send them to her(corny Ik) so she told me that she’s been deeply traumatized in past relationships and that her ex was the worst of them all because he would use her for her body and I think she implied some abuse so I knew to be gentle with her. She also said that no guy had ever put in so much effort to talk to and understand her and that it was so different and special to her. So everything is going good and I really like this girl, like more than anyone before. And like I said, we’re going to the same college so we both like follow the college posting accounts and follow people that are going to be her classmates. So one day, I follow someone a guy in there with my major, but when I do I realize my girl already followed him. So I go back to the college account (which consists of 90% girls) and realize that she hasn’t followed a single girl on there and follows basically every guy. This makes me feel awful because just logically, on an account with 90% girls being posted, can you following every dude but no girls be considered as anything but looking for replacements or new guys to talk to? So in the heat of when I found this out, I send her a pretty stern voice note in a tone I regret asking why she’s following that ratio of girls to guys when she has deemed me as “perfect”, “the one”, and “her favorite ever” and when she’s said we’re locked in and committed and I’ve agreed. Like at this point I wasn’t even looking at other girls anymore so it was really hurtful. So she responds nds with saying she follows everyone(not true) and that I’m reading way too much into this and that she’ll unfollow if there is a problem and now she feels confused and off about me. She also said she knows I don’t trust her now. She said she was going to get gas and after that, she ignored all of my texts for a week but always viewed my stories so I knew she just didn’t want to talk to me. This really breaks my heart because she told me she wasn’t like that and she would never just leave. So after a week, she finally responded and said that “I’m sorry and that I should’ve said something and I didn’t want you to think I left so easily. I have a on my plate rn and you’re such a sweet guy and I really hope this could work in the future but I have too much rn I’m sorry.” So I respond saying that I understand I’m not the most important thing in her life and that I was sorry for making her think I didn’t trust her because I do and I just wanted to understand her pov. I also said that I want to be a safe space for her and that she can communicate that with me bc let’s be honest, no one is too busy to shoot out a 5 second text update. Plus, it was too coincidental it came after our first real negative communication. So it’s been over a week and she still hasn’t responded to me so I assume I’ve been ghosted. I miss her so much and I’ve been trying to move on but I blame myself for this so it’s harder to move on then if I got played. Was that the breakup text she sent? It hinted at the future and I know I shouldn’t take her back but I know I would because of how much I miss her. Was I out of line to question her following because I knew I probably should’ve stayed away from the topic but I wanted to communicate how it made me feel. I feel like she def got a friends opinion and then decided to ghost because she seemed more apologetic at first. Is this even a ghost and did she ever really mean what she said about me being the one for her and her favorite guy ever? I want honest opinions on the situation and please don’t just give me the move on talk. I really just can’t and I feel like I’ve messed everything up and that I may love her. Should I call her? I don’t want to seem desperate.
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2024.05.21 16:07 Miserable_Lab4471 [TX] Could ADA cover an exemption to team lunch/drinks?
(Tl/dr): Medical issues make eating with others difficult. Can ADA be used to allow an exemption?
My work is 99% remote, other than a monthly team meeting and lunch. Basically there's a team meeting where we go over progress, followed by lunch. It's paid time, voluntary on paper, and it's a casual gathering for "team building." There is also a quarterly happy hour, also voluntary.
We have 2 team members who live out if state and attend the meeting virtually. They are not expected to attend the lunch or drinks events virtually, even on the occasion they're held in office.
I've got a lot of MD confirmed GI issues that basically mean instant N/V/D/extreme fatigue if I eat a meal like a normal person. I live off grazing small amounts (like an ounce) of easily digestible food throughout the day. It takes me 30m to eat a piece of toast. I've been going to the meeting and bailing on the lunch after to avoid questions and being the weirdo. Never discussed why and it was never an issue. I don't drink so never attended the happy hour either.
We got a new manager last month, promoted from team lead, and she had a virtual meeting with me, where my performance is good but I need to attend the lunch or there "might be consequences" because how can she recommend "someone I don't know". This is a reference to our company policy requiring a manager reference to move roles. I asked if this would affect our out of state contributors as well and she got flustered and said of course not. She's been very curt with me since, which isn't a big change. I'll admit that wasn't a wise question to ask.
Our role is not sales or anything social, we're independent contributors. I'm concerned that if I explain the reasons I don't go, she won't believe it or will tell her favorites about it. I'm not thin so it sounds like BS at first sniff, but makes sense when you consider I basically eat trash carbs all day since anything difficult for my body to break down flips my bowels to "evactuate". Someone on our team once told me that she would comment on my absence at lunch but our previous manager shut it down. He's promoted out so not able to help me here.
Can I request ADA accomodations to excuse me from these lunch and drinks sessions?
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My work is 99% remote, other than a monthly team meeting and lunch. Basically there's a team meeting where we go over progress, followed by lunch. It's paid time, voluntary on paper, and it's a casual gathering for "team building." There is also a quarterly happy hour, also voluntary.
We have 2 team members who live out if state and attend the meeting virtually. They are not expected to attend the lunch or drinks events virtually, even on the occasion they're held in office.
I've got a lot of MD confirmed GI issues that basically mean instant N/V/D/extreme fatigue if I eat a meal like a normal person. I live off grazing small amounts (like an ounce) of easily digestible food throughout the day. It takes me 30m to eat a piece of toast. I've been going to the meeting and bailing on the lunch after to avoid questions and being the weirdo. Never discussed why and it was never an issue. I don't drink so never attended the happy hour either.
We got a new manager last month, promoted from team lead, and she had a virtual meeting with me, where my performance is good but I need to attend the lunch or there "might be consequences" because how can she recommend "someone I don't know". This is a reference to our company policy requiring a manager reference to move roles. I asked if this would affect our out of state contributors as well and she got flustered and said of course not. She's been very curt with me since, which isn't a big change. I'll admit that wasn't a wise question to ask.
Our role is not sales or anything social, we're independent contributors. I'm concerned that if I explain the reasons I don't go, she won't believe it or will tell her favorites about it. I'm not thin so it sounds like BS at first sniff, but makes sense when you consider I basically eat trash carbs all day since anything difficult for my body to break down flips my bowels to "evactuate". Someone on our team once told me that she would comment on my absence at lunch but our previous manager shut it down. He's promoted out so not able to help me here.
Can I request ADA accomodations to excuse me from these lunch and drinks sessions?
2024.05.21 16:07 Financial_Lie_8836 All the benefits are true
Female attraction, luck, increased libido and energy. I feel like i can conquer the world when im on a good clean streak. Started nofap at like age 16 i think, just turned 20 now and have been on it since then on and off. My longest streak back then was like 120 days, but with a couple of other streaks of 90 days, 60 days etc and everytime ive been on these longer streaks i feel like nothing is impossible in this life.
About 90 days ago i found out about semen retention and started taking it seriously. And that was like step 2, with nofap being the first step.
When i was on nofap i used to still be addicted to other stuff like energy drinks, nicotine pouches and vape, junk food and other stuff. I still looked at girls bodies, and said "dayuuuuuummmm" when a girl with a nice ass walked by just like all my friends still do. Now i cant help but to cringe when i see my friends do that type of behavior, like animals.
Dont get me wrong i will still sometimes look at a beautiful girl if she walks by and sometime admire her body, even tho i try not to. But it feels different from before. Its not in the animal way, now its more of admiring the body and beauty and i not as much as an object anymore.
(Yeah i know the old feminist "men see girls as objects" saying, which i have always hated before. But when im on semen retention i can not ignore how many other guys, especially younger like my age just see women as objects.
Bad habits
Now that i found semen retention i have easily kicked alot of bad habits, with energy drinks, nicotine and alcohol being the main ones that i felt was holding me back. (Been drinking energy drinks like everyday since i was 14, my main addiction). No shit i was feeling like shit and hated my life. I just sat at home fat, drinking energy drinks and jerking off. No shit i wanted to end it. Now i just feel disgusted when i see these chemicals and wonder why anybody would put them in their body.
Nowadays i only crave good natural food, and wonder why anybody would destroy themself and their body with these bad habits.
Life gets so much easier when you get more discipline in your life, alot easier. People seems to think that eating only good natural food is hard and that you are not living, by restricting yourself to only. But to me, i see people eating junk food and consuming substances, jerking off, that they are really taking the hard way in life.
SR is like a cheat code. I dont know the science behind it but all the benefits are true. Luck, stuff seems to just fall into place when on a good streak. People are friendlier. Girls come up and start conversations about random things, like at the gym asking for help with certain things or just saying hi when they walk by. People respect you. Old people seem to like u more and not see u as a thug. Animals seems interested in u. Things that i manifest become real. Almost all benefits that i read on here are really true.
I have gotten alot more spiritual. I go into nature and just become one with the nature. Observing.
Semen Retention has saved my life. Everything started with nofap believe it or not. But after hopping on SR i have leveled up and kicked my bad habits. I do still enjoy smoking weed sometimes, and i do still drink coffee. And if i do meet a girl that i really like, then i will have sex while trying hard not to come.
So yeah im dedicating my life to this practice, lets see what happens. Sky is the limit.
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About 90 days ago i found out about semen retention and started taking it seriously. And that was like step 2, with nofap being the first step.
When i was on nofap i used to still be addicted to other stuff like energy drinks, nicotine pouches and vape, junk food and other stuff. I still looked at girls bodies, and said "dayuuuuuummmm" when a girl with a nice ass walked by just like all my friends still do. Now i cant help but to cringe when i see my friends do that type of behavior, like animals.
Dont get me wrong i will still sometimes look at a beautiful girl if she walks by and sometime admire her body, even tho i try not to. But it feels different from before. Its not in the animal way, now its more of admiring the body and beauty and i not as much as an object anymore.
(Yeah i know the old feminist "men see girls as objects" saying, which i have always hated before. But when im on semen retention i can not ignore how many other guys, especially younger like my age just see women as objects.
Bad habits
Now that i found semen retention i have easily kicked alot of bad habits, with energy drinks, nicotine and alcohol being the main ones that i felt was holding me back. (Been drinking energy drinks like everyday since i was 14, my main addiction). No shit i was feeling like shit and hated my life. I just sat at home fat, drinking energy drinks and jerking off. No shit i wanted to end it. Now i just feel disgusted when i see these chemicals and wonder why anybody would put them in their body.
Nowadays i only crave good natural food, and wonder why anybody would destroy themself and their body with these bad habits.
Life gets so much easier when you get more discipline in your life, alot easier. People seems to think that eating only good natural food is hard and that you are not living, by restricting yourself to only. But to me, i see people eating junk food and consuming substances, jerking off, that they are really taking the hard way in life.
SR is like a cheat code. I dont know the science behind it but all the benefits are true. Luck, stuff seems to just fall into place when on a good streak. People are friendlier. Girls come up and start conversations about random things, like at the gym asking for help with certain things or just saying hi when they walk by. People respect you. Old people seem to like u more and not see u as a thug. Animals seems interested in u. Things that i manifest become real. Almost all benefits that i read on here are really true.
I have gotten alot more spiritual. I go into nature and just become one with the nature. Observing.
Semen Retention has saved my life. Everything started with nofap believe it or not. But after hopping on SR i have leveled up and kicked my bad habits. I do still enjoy smoking weed sometimes, and i do still drink coffee. And if i do meet a girl that i really like, then i will have sex while trying hard not to come.
So yeah im dedicating my life to this practice, lets see what happens. Sky is the limit.
2024.05.21 16:07 WeakWatercress5479 What score on Digital SAT would be enough for me?
If I wait around for someone who actually has knowledge about this topic, I'll prob get a reply by the time I'm graduating from uni so don't hesitate to answer my question after you read and get a general picture of my situation, whoever you are.
I got a score of 1260 out of 1600, in May D-SAT (640 from the Reading and Writing Section and 620 from the Math Section). I'm taking it again in the 1st of July. Unlike pretty much everyone else, I'm not taking the SAT for applying to a Uni/College in the US. I'm gonna use it to apply to a school in Istanbul, Turkey.
I'm Turkish, I live in Turkey and in our country we have a national university exam. It's the kinda exam that consumes students' joy of life throughout 12th grade and in terms of level of difficulty, SAT is nothing compared to it. It's the product of a corrupt system anyway; on average, turkish students who take the test are able to answer only 7 questions of math out of 40. It's literally designed for failure; the questions are meant to be unperceived. And if you wanna study in Turkey (which I do) or if you, financially, don't have a chance to study abroad, you gotta study hard and take it. But I learned that those of us who have another citizenship, other than the Turkish one, have alternatives. I was born in the US therefore have a USA citizenship. I'm a dual citizen. The alternative way for me is renouncing my Turkish citizenship, becoming American only, taking the SAT and applying with the score I get from it, as if I'm a foreigner who wishes to study here. Anyone who has such chance would jump on it and that's what I'm doing. But since this is a procedure that's done so rarely, what I must achieve to guarantee acceptance isn't so clear. This kinda leaves me in an uncertainty. I was able to find the minimum scores some universities I'm considering, require for applying: A uni requires min. 1200 (min. 650 from Maths), another one requires min. 1100 (min. 550 from Maths), another requires min. 1300 (min. 680 from Maths). The reason why they also have requirements specifically for the Math section of the SAT is bcuz the major I want to study is Architecture, that's why. Anyway, a college I'm also considering requires 1000 (min. 600 from the Maths) for application. I have two other colleges in mind but I just can't find the base points they necessitate. I know that my worries probably seem unnecessary when you look at these numbers cuz my performance seems fine but there are some important points that must be taken into consideration, as well: The Turkish Ministry of Education has established a certain quota for studying Architecture as a foreign student. And as if that quota isn't limitating enough, schools themselves are given the freedom to reduce that quota as they wish, so they do! Consequently, the quotas of the Architecture programs of these schools I'm looking into, range from 3 to 40, in a country with a population of 85 million lol (One of these published quotas is 3 students, another is 4, another's 15, another's 30 and another one's 40). But that's not all; also, they're not obligated to fill that quota they determine, to the brim, so they don't! Additionally, there's the fact that these are only the D-SAT scores that are required for applying (u need a score higher than the established minimums so that they don't immediately throw ur application in the trash can). It's not like u can start packing once your SAT score exceeds those published min.s. The way I see it, there's no guarantee of anything unless you get a score as high as 1400, 1500 or a perfect 1600. But obvi I'm not sure if "the way I see it" is accurate. So I wanted to ask you redditors about your thoughts. What do you think??
Approx. what score would be ideal for me, in ur opinion?
Thank you in advance :)
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I got a score of 1260 out of 1600, in May D-SAT (640 from the Reading and Writing Section and 620 from the Math Section). I'm taking it again in the 1st of July. Unlike pretty much everyone else, I'm not taking the SAT for applying to a Uni/College in the US. I'm gonna use it to apply to a school in Istanbul, Turkey.
I'm Turkish, I live in Turkey and in our country we have a national university exam. It's the kinda exam that consumes students' joy of life throughout 12th grade and in terms of level of difficulty, SAT is nothing compared to it. It's the product of a corrupt system anyway; on average, turkish students who take the test are able to answer only 7 questions of math out of 40. It's literally designed for failure; the questions are meant to be unperceived. And if you wanna study in Turkey (which I do) or if you, financially, don't have a chance to study abroad, you gotta study hard and take it. But I learned that those of us who have another citizenship, other than the Turkish one, have alternatives. I was born in the US therefore have a USA citizenship. I'm a dual citizen. The alternative way for me is renouncing my Turkish citizenship, becoming American only, taking the SAT and applying with the score I get from it, as if I'm a foreigner who wishes to study here. Anyone who has such chance would jump on it and that's what I'm doing. But since this is a procedure that's done so rarely, what I must achieve to guarantee acceptance isn't so clear. This kinda leaves me in an uncertainty. I was able to find the minimum scores some universities I'm considering, require for applying: A uni requires min. 1200 (min. 650 from Maths), another one requires min. 1100 (min. 550 from Maths), another requires min. 1300 (min. 680 from Maths). The reason why they also have requirements specifically for the Math section of the SAT is bcuz the major I want to study is Architecture, that's why. Anyway, a college I'm also considering requires 1000 (min. 600 from the Maths) for application. I have two other colleges in mind but I just can't find the base points they necessitate. I know that my worries probably seem unnecessary when you look at these numbers cuz my performance seems fine but there are some important points that must be taken into consideration, as well: The Turkish Ministry of Education has established a certain quota for studying Architecture as a foreign student. And as if that quota isn't limitating enough, schools themselves are given the freedom to reduce that quota as they wish, so they do! Consequently, the quotas of the Architecture programs of these schools I'm looking into, range from 3 to 40, in a country with a population of 85 million lol (One of these published quotas is 3 students, another is 4, another's 15, another's 30 and another one's 40). But that's not all; also, they're not obligated to fill that quota they determine, to the brim, so they don't! Additionally, there's the fact that these are only the D-SAT scores that are required for applying (u need a score higher than the established minimums so that they don't immediately throw ur application in the trash can). It's not like u can start packing once your SAT score exceeds those published min.s. The way I see it, there's no guarantee of anything unless you get a score as high as 1400, 1500 or a perfect 1600. But obvi I'm not sure if "the way I see it" is accurate. So I wanted to ask you redditors about your thoughts. What do you think??
Approx. what score would be ideal for me, in ur opinion?
Thank you in advance :)
2024.05.21 16:06 StoryHorrorRick Why leaving current job
I am contemplating how to answer an interview question of "why are you leaving your current job" or something similar if it comes up.
I don't want to leave my current job with how great we have it together like it's almost a family, but it is a contract position that goes year to year and last year our client passed away. The contract has been given control to a business partner who plans to end the contract and allow his friend to take over staffing which means the great majority of us will most likely be on the way out. Others think they will get rehired. I am not so certain because I have seen this happen before where I was offered a contract with new company and other coworkers were not.
I really don't like uncertainty or leaving things to chance so I decided to test the market now before the contract expires at the end of the year. There is a very good chance we may get offers but I don't want to leave the company and I know how they can just use people in PT flex positions for months until a FT position opens up. I have bills to pay, mortgage, etc. I have a savings but I don't play around with uncertainty in employment.
How should I go about talking about this if or when the question comes up? Should I be open about it that I am leaving over the contract expiring? Is there anything that I shouldn't say?
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I don't want to leave my current job with how great we have it together like it's almost a family, but it is a contract position that goes year to year and last year our client passed away. The contract has been given control to a business partner who plans to end the contract and allow his friend to take over staffing which means the great majority of us will most likely be on the way out. Others think they will get rehired. I am not so certain because I have seen this happen before where I was offered a contract with new company and other coworkers were not.
I really don't like uncertainty or leaving things to chance so I decided to test the market now before the contract expires at the end of the year. There is a very good chance we may get offers but I don't want to leave the company and I know how they can just use people in PT flex positions for months until a FT position opens up. I have bills to pay, mortgage, etc. I have a savings but I don't play around with uncertainty in employment.
How should I go about talking about this if or when the question comes up? Should I be open about it that I am leaving over the contract expiring? Is there anything that I shouldn't say?
2024.05.21 16:06 DeadManDukeD My (29M) Girlfriend (33F) thinks i don't see her as family. What should i do?
I'm at my lowest right now.
Long story short summary.
My girlfriend is paranoid and frequently has anxiety attacks about her health because she has an immune deficiency. we frequently visit the ER because she is scared that something happens and she dies. We also have a 1-year old Daughter together.
I try my best to support her in any way i can. i work 100% and pay most of the stuff. when i come home i do the cooking and try to do that with my daughter next to me so that my girlfriend can rest a little, because she is at home monday and tuesday with our daughter. She works 60% and during that time our daughter is either at my family's place or in the daycare.
we already had some arguments because my girlfriend doesn't think my parents respect some of our decisions on how to raise our daughter which i understand but don't think it's that much of a problem because it's small things like giving our daughter another kind of food (still completly healthy).
my girlfriend was always the kind to just explode when something happens and calling me names and abusing me verbally. but last week it was just extreme.
we were on holiday to celebrate my cousins wedding which i grew up with my whole life, as he lived in the appartment next to ours. i really would not want to miss this by any chance. so in the first 3 days we went to different doctors because she said she was not feeling good and it got so bad that she deciced she wants to go home. i flew back with her to support her but said i will leave our daughter here with my parents and that i will fly back again, because i want to participate in this wedding.
and then for the next 4 days she terrorized me because i handled the situation extremly wrong and i should have taken our daughter back with us and stay with her because she could die was what she said.
now our relationship is on the verge of breaking because she thinks i don't see her as family and still am too attached to my biological family.
she started to belittle me, saying i'm a failure and a good for nothing, that she hates my family and my family should go f*** themselves and so on.
i tried to summarize everything important in this short text, but if someone has a question feel free to ask, so that i can give more insight on both perspectives.
what should i do ?
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Long story short summary.
My girlfriend is paranoid and frequently has anxiety attacks about her health because she has an immune deficiency. we frequently visit the ER because she is scared that something happens and she dies. We also have a 1-year old Daughter together.
I try my best to support her in any way i can. i work 100% and pay most of the stuff. when i come home i do the cooking and try to do that with my daughter next to me so that my girlfriend can rest a little, because she is at home monday and tuesday with our daughter. She works 60% and during that time our daughter is either at my family's place or in the daycare.
we already had some arguments because my girlfriend doesn't think my parents respect some of our decisions on how to raise our daughter which i understand but don't think it's that much of a problem because it's small things like giving our daughter another kind of food (still completly healthy).
my girlfriend was always the kind to just explode when something happens and calling me names and abusing me verbally. but last week it was just extreme.
we were on holiday to celebrate my cousins wedding which i grew up with my whole life, as he lived in the appartment next to ours. i really would not want to miss this by any chance. so in the first 3 days we went to different doctors because she said she was not feeling good and it got so bad that she deciced she wants to go home. i flew back with her to support her but said i will leave our daughter here with my parents and that i will fly back again, because i want to participate in this wedding.
and then for the next 4 days she terrorized me because i handled the situation extremly wrong and i should have taken our daughter back with us and stay with her because she could die was what she said.
now our relationship is on the verge of breaking because she thinks i don't see her as family and still am too attached to my biological family.
she started to belittle me, saying i'm a failure and a good for nothing, that she hates my family and my family should go f*** themselves and so on.
i tried to summarize everything important in this short text, but if someone has a question feel free to ask, so that i can give more insight on both perspectives.
what should i do ?
2024.05.21 16:05 RobYaLunch Billboard Chart Discussion - Week Of May 25, 2024
Billboard Hot 100 chart
Billboard Global 200 chart (most popular songs globally)
Billboard 200 chart
Frequently Asked Questions:
Q: Why is X artist higher than Y artist on the 200 chart, even though X artist sold less?
A: This is because of a discrepancy between Billboard's ranking and the ranking from the website that the sales data is scraped from
Q: Where do you get the sales data from?
A: https://hitsdailydouble.com/sales_plus_streaming
Q: What does "err" mean on the 200 chart?
A: If you are seeing "err", that means that the bot I use to gather chart data couldn't identify sales data for a particular album because of a difference in album naming between Billboard and HitsDailyDouble
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| Position | Title | Artist | ▲/▼ | Last week | Weeks Charting | Peak |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | I Had Some Help | Post Malone Featuring Morgan Wallen | ▲+100 | [FRESH] | 1 | 1 |
| 2 | Not Like Us | Kendrick Lamar | ▼-1 | 1 | 2 | 1 |
| 3 | Million Dollar Baby | Tommy Richman | ▼-1 | 2 | 3 | 2 |
| 4 | A Bar Song (Tipsy) | Shaboozey | ▲+1 | 5 | 5 | 3 |
| 5 | Beautiful Things | Benson Boone | ▲+4 | 9 | 17 | 2 |
| 6 | Lose Control | Teddy Swims | ▲+4 | 10 | 40 | 1 |
| 7 | Like That | Future, Metro Boomin & Kendrick Lamar | ▼-1 | 6 | 8 | 1 |
| 8 | Fortnight | Taylor Swift Featuring Post Malone | ▼-4 | 4 | 4 | 1 |
| 9 | Espresso | Sabrina Carpenter | ▼-1 | 8 | 5 | 4 |
| 10 | Too Sweet | Hozier | ▲+1 | 11 | 8 | 1 |
| 11 | Euphoria | Kendrick Lamar | ▼-8 | 3 | 3 | 3 |
| 12 | Saturn | SZA | ▲+1 | 13 | 12 | 6 |
| 13 | We Can't Be Friends (Wait For Your Love) | Ariana Grande | ▲+1 | 14 | 10 | 1 |
| 14 | I Can Do It With A Broken Heart | Taylor Swift | ▲+1 | 15 | 4 | 3 |
| 15 | Stick Season | Noah Kahan | ▲+4 | 19 | 33 | 9 |
| 16 | Down Bad | Taylor Swift | - | 16 | 4 | 2 |
| 17 | Lovin On Me | Jack Harlow | ▲+1 | 18 | 27 | 1 |
| 18 | I Remember Everything | Zach Bryan Featuring Kacey Musgraves | ▲+2 | 20 | 38 | 1 |
| 19 | Family Matters | Drake | ▼-12 | 7 | 2 | 7 |
| 20 | Cruel Summer | Taylor Swift | ▲+4 | 24 | 54 | 1 |
| 21 | Who's Afraid Of Little Old Me? | Taylor Swift | ▲+5 | 26 | 4 | 9 |
| 22 | Feather | Sabrina Carpenter | - | 22 | 24 | 21 |
| 23 | Meet The Grahams | Kendrick Lamar | ▼-11 | 12 | 2 | 12 |
| 24 | Miles On It | Marshmello & Kane Brown | ▲+13 | 37 | 2 | 24 |
| 25 | Get It Sexyy | Sexyy Red | ▼-4 | 21 | 9 | 20 |
| 26 | One Of Wun | Gunna | ▲+75 | [FRESH] | 1 | 26 |
| 27 | I Like The Way You Kiss Me | Artemas | ▼-4 | 23 | 8 | 12 |
| 28 | Yeah Glo! | GloRilla | ▲+1 | 29 | 14 | 28 |
| 29 | Austin | Dasha | ▲+5 | 34 | 10 | 28 |
| 30 | But Daddy I Love Him | Taylor Swift | - | 30 | 4 | 7 |
| 31 | Cowgirls | Morgan Wallen Featuring ERNEST | ▲+11 | 42 | 22 | 31 |
| 32 | Greedy | Tate McRae | ▼-7 | 25 | 35 | 3 |
| 33 | Type Shit | Future, Metro Boomin, Travis Scott & Playboi Carti | ▼-6 | 27 | 8 | 2 |
| 34 | So Long, London | Taylor Swift | ▼-6 | 28 | 4 | 5 |
| 35 | Agora Hills | Doja Cat | ▼-3 | 32 | 34 | 7 |
| 36 | My Boy Only Breaks His Favorite Toys | Taylor Swift | ▼-5 | 31 | 4 | 6 |
| 37 | Where It Ends | Bailey Zimmerman | ▲+8 | 45 | 20 | 32 |
| 38 | Guilty As Sin? | Taylor Swift | ▼-3 | 35 | 4 | 10 |
| 39 | Boa | Megan Thee Stallion | ▲+62 | [FRESH] | 1 | 39 |
| 40 | End Of Beginning | Djo | ▼-1 | 39 | 13 | 11 |
| 41 | Florida!!! | Taylor Swift Featuring Florence + The Machine | ▼-8 | 33 | 4 | 8 |
| 42 | The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived | Taylor Swift | ▲+9 | 51 | 4 | 14 |
| 43 | Gata Only | FloyyMenor X Cris Mj | ▲+5 | 48 | 9 | 27 |
| 44 | Good Luck, Babe! | Chappell Roan | ▲+2 | 46 | 6 | 44 |
| 45 | The Tortured Poets Department | Taylor Swift | ▼-7 | 38 | 4 | 4 |
| 46 | Whatever She Wants | Bryson Tiller | ▼-5 | 41 | 13 | 19 |
| 47 | Wanna Be | GloRilla & Megan Thee Stallion | ▼-7 | 40 | 6 | 11 |
| 48 | Push Ups | Drake | ▼-31 | 17 | 4 | 17 |
| 49 | Texas Hold 'Em | Beyonce | ▼-13 | 36 | 14 | 1 |
| 50 | Slow It Down | Benson Boone | ▲+2 | 52 | 8 | 40 |
| 51 | Redrum | 21 Savage | ▼-8 | 43 | 18 | 5 |
| 52 | Carnival | ¥$: Ye & Ty Dolla $ign Featuring Rich The Kid & Playboi Carti | ▼-3 | 49 | 14 | 1 |
| 53 | Act II: Date @ 8 | 4Batz Featuring Drake | ▼-6 | 47 | 19 | 7 |
| 54 | On One Tonight | Gunna | ▲+47 | [FRESH] | 1 | 54 |
| 55 | loml | Taylor Swift | ▼-2 | 53 | 4 | 12 |
| 56 | Wild Ones | Jessie Murph & Jelly Roll | ▲+1 | 57 | 32 | 35 |
| 57 | Bulletproof | Nate Smith | ▲+7 | 64 | 6 | 57 |
| 58 | The Alchemy | Taylor Swift | ▼-2 | 56 | 4 | 13 |
| 59 | FE!N | Travis Scott Featuring Playboi Carti | ▼-1 | 58 | 28 | 5 |
| 60 | Prada Dem | Gunna Featuring Offset | ▲+41 | -- | 2 | 54 |
| 61 | So High School | Taylor Swift | ▲+4 | 65 | 4 | 24 |
| 62 | Whatsapp (Wassam) | Gunna | ▲+33 | 95 | 2 | 62 |
| 63 | Fresh Out The Slammer | Taylor Swift | ▼-9 | 54 | 4 | 11 |
| 64 | Made For Me | Muni Long | ▼-9 | 55 | 18 | 20 |
| 65 | Obsessed | Olivia Rodrigo | ▼-6 | 59 | 8 | 14 |
| 66 | Neck On A Yacht | Gunna | ▲+35 | [FRESH] | 1 | 66 |
| 67 | Hakuna Matata | Gunna | ▲+34 | [FRESH] | 1 | 67 |
| 68 | Halfway To Hell | Jelly Roll | ▲+8 | 76 | 6 | 68 |
| 69 | Get In With Me | BossMan DLow | ▼-8 | 61 | 15 | 49 |
| 70 | Illusion | Dua Lipa | ▼-20 | 50 | 5 | 43 |
| 71 | Back Then Right Now | Tyler Hubbard | ▼-3 | 68 | 9 | 62 |
| 72 | imgonnagetyouback | Taylor Swift | ▼-10 | 62 | 4 | 26 |
| 73 | Scared To Start | Michael Marcagi | ▲+1 | 74 | 13 | 54 |
| 74 | I Can Fix Him (No Really I Can) | Taylor Swift | ▼-11 | 63 | 4 | 20 |
| 75 | La Durango | Peso Pluma, Junior H & Eslabon Armado | ▲+26 | [FRESH] | 1 | 75 |
| 76 | Collage | Gunna | ▲+25 | [FRESH] | 1 | 76 |
| 77 | Stargazing | Myles Smith | ▲+24 | [FRESH] | 1 | 77 |
| 78 | Wildflowers And Wild Horses | Lainey Wilson | ▼-18 | 60 | 16 | 48 |
| 79 | Enough (Miami) | Cardi B | ▼-4 | 75 | 9 | 9 |
| 80 | The Black Dog | Taylor Swift | ▼-13 | 67 | 4 | 25 |
| 81 | Tucson Too Late | Jordan Davis | ▼-10 | 71 | 11 | 71 |
| 82 | Hell N Back | Bakar Featuring Summer Walker | ▼-13 | 69 | 6 | 53 |
| 83 | Clara Bow | Taylor Swift | ▼-13 | 70 | 4 | 21 |
| 84 | Belong Together | Mark Ambor | - | 84 | 3 | 84 |
| 85 | Wind Up Missin' You | Tucker Wetmore | ▼-5 | 80 | 7 | 75 |
| 86 | Bandit | Don Toliver | ▼-14 | 72 | 14 | 38 |
| 87 | Si No Quieres No | Luis R Conriquez x Neton Vega | ▼-1 | 86 | 2 | 86 |
| 88 | We Ride | Bryan Martin | ▼-6 | 82 | 6 | 82 |
| 89 | Dirt Cheap | Cody Johnson | ▼-6 | 83 | 4 | 83 |
| 90 | Lose My Breath | Stray Kids Featuring Charlie Puth | ▲+11 | [FRESH] | 1 | 90 |
| 91 | Tell Ur Girlfriend | Lay Bankz | ▼-25 | 66 | 5 | 58 |
| 92 | Spin You Around (1/24) | Morgan Wallen | ▲+4 | 96 | 16 | 24 |
| 93 | The Prophecy | Taylor Swift | ▼-16 | 77 | 4 | 32 |
| 94 | Back In The A | Gunna | ▲+7 | [FRESH] | 1 | 94 |
| 95 | Outskirts | Sam Hunt | ▼-10 | 85 | 10 | 66 |
| 96 | 23 | Chayce Beckham | ▼-6 | 90 | 20 | 45 |
| 97 | Wine Into Whiskey | Tucker Wetmore | ▼-5 | 92 | 8 | 77 |
| 98 | How Did It End? | Taylor Swift | ▼-17 | 81 | 4 | 35 |
| 99 | Cinderella | Future, Metro Boomin & Travis Scott | ▼-21 | 78 | 8 | 6 |
| 100 | I Think I'm In Love With You | Chris Stapleton | ▲+1 | -- | 2 | 91 |
| Position | Title | Artist | ▲/▼ | Last week | Weeks Charting | Peak |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | I Had Some Help | Post Malone Featuring Morgan Wallen | ▲+100 | [FRESH] | 1 | 1 |
| 2 | Million Dollar Baby | Tommy Richman | - | 2 | 3 | 2 |
| 3 | Not Like Us | Kendrick Lamar | ▼-2 | 1 | 2 | 1 |
| 4 | Espresso | Sabrina Carpenter | ▼-1 | 3 | 5 | 2 |
| 5 | A Bar Song (Tipsy) | Shaboozey | - | 5 | 5 | 5 |
| 6 | Beautiful Things | Benson Boone | ▲+1 | 7 | 17 | 1 |
| 7 | Fortnight | Taylor Swift Featuring Post Malone | ▼-1 | 6 | 4 | 1 |
| 8 | Too Sweet | Hozier | ▲+1 | 9 | 8 | 1 |
| 9 | I Like The Way You Kiss Me | Artemas | ▼-1 | 8 | 8 | 2 |
| 10 | Gata Only | FloyyMenor X Cris Mj | - | 10 | 14 | 4 |
| Position | Title | Artist | Sales | Change | Last week | Weeks Charting |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | The Tortured Poets Department | Taylor Swift | 259,859 (48,177 pure) | -9% | 1 | 4 |
| 2 | One Of Wun | Gunna | 83,467 (933 pure) | -- | [FRESH] | 1 |
| 3 | One Thing At A Time | Morgan Wallen | 74,765 (1,506 pure) | +4% | 3 | 63 |
| 4 | We Don't Trust You | Future & Metro Boomin | 52,637 (195 pure) | -16% | 4 | 8 |
| 5 | Dangerous: The Double Album | Morgan Wallen | 43,812 (504 pure) | +4% | 7 | 175 |
| 6 | Stick Season | Noah Kahan | 41,404 (4,116 pure) | +2% | 9 | 77 |
| 7 | SOS | SZA | 37,474 (1,716 pure) | -5% | 10 | 75 |
| 8 | Zach Bryan | Zach Bryan | 37,834 (2,804 pure) | +3% | 12 | 38 |
| 9 | Fireworks & Rollerblades | Benson Boone | 35,978 (798 pure) | -4% | 11 | 6 |
| 10 | Cowboy Carter | Beyonce | 35,869 (3,935 pure) | -15% | 8 | 7 |
Q: Why is X artist higher than Y artist on the 200 chart, even though X artist sold less?
A: This is because of a discrepancy between Billboard's ranking and the ranking from the website that the sales data is scraped from
Q: Where do you get the sales data from?
A: https://hitsdailydouble.com/sales_plus_streaming
Q: What does "err" mean on the 200 chart?
A: If you are seeing "err", that means that the bot I use to gather chart data couldn't identify sales data for a particular album because of a difference in album naming between Billboard and HitsDailyDouble
2024.05.21 16:05 slubaroni My (25F) new boyfriend (25F) doesn’t initiate sex, is it time to go?
About two months ago I met and started dating this super sweet, incredible guy. We met on Hinge. We have a ton of compatible features and no shortage similar values and interests. Within the first month of dating we told each that we were in love with one another and so far everything has been perfect. I’ve had shitty relationships in the past and haven’t dated anyone seriously in over 4 years. He’s very patient with me and goes above and beyond to make sure I’m happy and comfortable.
He’s incredibly attractive, hard working, sweet, patient and he’s super smart. Sex was great the first month, frequent, similar kinks, a lot of passion. He put in a lot of work to make sure I had fun as well. For the first month, we would see each other nearly every day and usually have sex once at night and once in the morning. He texted me sexual things semi-frequently. Not like sexting, more of talking about things he wanted to do. I was excited about all of these things.
The past two or three weeks have been very touchy. Sex has dropped down to maybe once a day or every other day. Each time I have to initiate it. About a month ago, I over reacted when we had sex for like 10-15 minutes, I didn’t get off and he didn’t do anything “for me”. I left without saying anything very late at night after I could tell he went to bed. He called me, extremely concerned and sad that I left, and I came back. A week later I had another talk with him about how he rarely focuses on my pleasure and the frequency of our sex dropping. I asked if there was anything wrong, he said no, thank you for telling me and that it will change. Nothing changed. Another week goes by of me having to awkwardly initiate. He started declining entirely some days, which hurts but is totally ok and I never push it. I had another talk, since sexual compatibility matters a lot to me and I figured it was an easy fix. I said I was upset because it was the third time I’ve had to bring it up. He hugged me and said I’ll never have to bring it up again. The next time we had sex was absolutely amazing. We had sex once a day that week, I still had to initiate.
Fast forward to now, our lack of intimacy is killing my feelings for him and making me incredibly distraught. We’ve had three arguments that pop up when I bring up how much anxiety I have about dating and also how I feel like we lack sexual compatibility. He views it as an attack, will say some back handed things and it makes me shut down completely. Last night (after no sex for four days, being declined after trying to initiate) we had a fantastic date night after work but still no sex. I asked if I could go home, he said it would upset him and asked what’s wrong. I asked if he thought we have a good sex life. He said yes, it’s the best sexual compatibility he’s ever had with a girlfriend. That he dated people before that had lower drives and it made him bored and ruined the relationship. He asked if I felt it was bad, I said yes and my reasons why, and he went into almost an attack mode where he blamed me and said after our talks he tried to initiate oral “three times” and I said “no” and completely shut him down, that maybe I lied about liking oral. I had been thinking about our lack of “depth” and sexual intimacy for two weeks and it’s been eating me alive to slowly realize that something that seems like this small of an issue is what’s going to tear my amazing relationship apart.
I told him he’s losing me and it feels like I’m losing him. That I just wanted to not keep this inside and build resentment. All he views it as is an attack on him, almost like it’s purposeful. We agreed to not see each other for the next two days and think it over and grab coffee to talk about it and decide where we want to go from here. It feels like we are colder and distant from one another. We are both working long hour, high stress jobs. I got him a new job that he’s having to learn and puts pressure on him, it also won’t be that profitable until about 3-6 months from now so I’m sure he’s stressed about money. Our schedules don’t really align and I have no days off due to working a 50 hweek high stress job and going to college classes on my days off. He gets up insanely early for work. Is this something that might sort itself out in a few months once he’s settled into the new job and I’ve graduated? Should I stick around and see if it improves instead of having these conversations and making him feel bad? It’s also really difficult to communicate anything without him taking it very personally and trying to flip it on me. I’m scared to lose him but I’m also fine on my own and don’t want to waste his or my time or make him feel bad about himself for something that isn’t his fault.
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He’s incredibly attractive, hard working, sweet, patient and he’s super smart. Sex was great the first month, frequent, similar kinks, a lot of passion. He put in a lot of work to make sure I had fun as well. For the first month, we would see each other nearly every day and usually have sex once at night and once in the morning. He texted me sexual things semi-frequently. Not like sexting, more of talking about things he wanted to do. I was excited about all of these things.
The past two or three weeks have been very touchy. Sex has dropped down to maybe once a day or every other day. Each time I have to initiate it. About a month ago, I over reacted when we had sex for like 10-15 minutes, I didn’t get off and he didn’t do anything “for me”. I left without saying anything very late at night after I could tell he went to bed. He called me, extremely concerned and sad that I left, and I came back. A week later I had another talk with him about how he rarely focuses on my pleasure and the frequency of our sex dropping. I asked if there was anything wrong, he said no, thank you for telling me and that it will change. Nothing changed. Another week goes by of me having to awkwardly initiate. He started declining entirely some days, which hurts but is totally ok and I never push it. I had another talk, since sexual compatibility matters a lot to me and I figured it was an easy fix. I said I was upset because it was the third time I’ve had to bring it up. He hugged me and said I’ll never have to bring it up again. The next time we had sex was absolutely amazing. We had sex once a day that week, I still had to initiate.
Fast forward to now, our lack of intimacy is killing my feelings for him and making me incredibly distraught. We’ve had three arguments that pop up when I bring up how much anxiety I have about dating and also how I feel like we lack sexual compatibility. He views it as an attack, will say some back handed things and it makes me shut down completely. Last night (after no sex for four days, being declined after trying to initiate) we had a fantastic date night after work but still no sex. I asked if I could go home, he said it would upset him and asked what’s wrong. I asked if he thought we have a good sex life. He said yes, it’s the best sexual compatibility he’s ever had with a girlfriend. That he dated people before that had lower drives and it made him bored and ruined the relationship. He asked if I felt it was bad, I said yes and my reasons why, and he went into almost an attack mode where he blamed me and said after our talks he tried to initiate oral “three times” and I said “no” and completely shut him down, that maybe I lied about liking oral. I had been thinking about our lack of “depth” and sexual intimacy for two weeks and it’s been eating me alive to slowly realize that something that seems like this small of an issue is what’s going to tear my amazing relationship apart.
I told him he’s losing me and it feels like I’m losing him. That I just wanted to not keep this inside and build resentment. All he views it as is an attack on him, almost like it’s purposeful. We agreed to not see each other for the next two days and think it over and grab coffee to talk about it and decide where we want to go from here. It feels like we are colder and distant from one another. We are both working long hour, high stress jobs. I got him a new job that he’s having to learn and puts pressure on him, it also won’t be that profitable until about 3-6 months from now so I’m sure he’s stressed about money. Our schedules don’t really align and I have no days off due to working a 50 hweek high stress job and going to college classes on my days off. He gets up insanely early for work. Is this something that might sort itself out in a few months once he’s settled into the new job and I’ve graduated? Should I stick around and see if it improves instead of having these conversations and making him feel bad? It’s also really difficult to communicate anything without him taking it very personally and trying to flip it on me. I’m scared to lose him but I’m also fine on my own and don’t want to waste his or my time or make him feel bad about himself for something that isn’t his fault.
2024.05.21 16:05 SeaReplacement2733 I (22M) am at the breaking point with my (20F) GF, what to do?
So me and my GF have been dating for about 6 months now. But as of the last 5 days she’s been going out with her friends till anywhere from 2-5am. When shes out she barely texts me (we’ve talked about it, and i made my feelings clear that i would appreciate updates while shes out/i don’t like being ignored fir hours on end) Now i dont have a problem with her having friends to go out with. But I do have a problem with not feeling valued and appreciated. I told her early on that I very much value quality time spent together. And since this has all happened I’ve talked to her about feeling like im not a priority and that I miss her. I just wanna be able to spend sometime with my partner. Should i hold out hope that she will eventually or is this a lost cause?
TL;DR: GF has been out every night for the last 5 days, till 3am, and barely texts me. I asked her to make some time for me and she hasn’t yet even after saying multiple times that she would.
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TL;DR: GF has been out every night for the last 5 days, till 3am, and barely texts me. I asked her to make some time for me and she hasn’t yet even after saying multiple times that she would.
2024.05.21 16:05 Selfawareseacucumber I finally lost it
This was my first Mother’s Day. My son is the only biological family I’ve met. I think being post partum and the triggers of being a new mom ended with me giving my adopted parents an ultimatum.
It didn’t start at that as first. I tried to ask them questions about my adoption. My “adoption” was done informally in Mexico. They had the doctor write down that I am their bio child and that my adoptive mother gave birth to me. I don’t know if any of this is true, but they didn’t tell me of my adoption until I was 19 and then proceeded to stress the importance of staying quiet because I’m my fathers words, “we will go to jail! Do you want us to go to jail!”
Everytime I ask them questions about my adoption they give me different conflicting answers. I finally told them all the pain this has caused me and how I deserve to know and that I’m going to search and whatever legal troubles they run into is their own fault (they were fully aware adults when they decided to be an accomplice in this) and I’m done feeling guilty for them and trying to comfort them when they are my parents and they should have been there to comfort and help me. They proceeded to ignore me and then follow up with how they can no longer offer me financial support, which I’m financially independent from them.
I responded to my mom saying I’m done. That I want answers on my situation and how sketchy it all sounds. That they cannot play grandma and grandpa to my son if they cannot have a working relationship with me first and be parents to me. That I will not respond to any texts until they start being honest about the situation and give me answers.
They have continued to ignore me.
I cannot believe these people who claim to love me are being this way.
Also, they’re fucking weirdos for not adopting through a legally appropriate way. They don’t see themselves as predatory for “getting around” the adoption process. They say the same thing, “we saved you! You would’ve ended up in the state foster care and it would have been so much worse.” (They’re just reinforcing their own narrative that helps them feel at peace with their decision.)
They act like their my saviors and advocates when no one was their to advocate for little baby me to make sure the appropriate steps were taken. I’m sorry, but if you’re sooo eager to adopt that your willing to do it illegally, your fucking predatory and care more about your own wants then the well being of said child.
I’m hurt but I’m glad to be fucking done.
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It didn’t start at that as first. I tried to ask them questions about my adoption. My “adoption” was done informally in Mexico. They had the doctor write down that I am their bio child and that my adoptive mother gave birth to me. I don’t know if any of this is true, but they didn’t tell me of my adoption until I was 19 and then proceeded to stress the importance of staying quiet because I’m my fathers words, “we will go to jail! Do you want us to go to jail!”
Everytime I ask them questions about my adoption they give me different conflicting answers. I finally told them all the pain this has caused me and how I deserve to know and that I’m going to search and whatever legal troubles they run into is their own fault (they were fully aware adults when they decided to be an accomplice in this) and I’m done feeling guilty for them and trying to comfort them when they are my parents and they should have been there to comfort and help me. They proceeded to ignore me and then follow up with how they can no longer offer me financial support, which I’m financially independent from them.
I responded to my mom saying I’m done. That I want answers on my situation and how sketchy it all sounds. That they cannot play grandma and grandpa to my son if they cannot have a working relationship with me first and be parents to me. That I will not respond to any texts until they start being honest about the situation and give me answers.
They have continued to ignore me.
I cannot believe these people who claim to love me are being this way.
Also, they’re fucking weirdos for not adopting through a legally appropriate way. They don’t see themselves as predatory for “getting around” the adoption process. They say the same thing, “we saved you! You would’ve ended up in the state foster care and it would have been so much worse.” (They’re just reinforcing their own narrative that helps them feel at peace with their decision.)
They act like their my saviors and advocates when no one was their to advocate for little baby me to make sure the appropriate steps were taken. I’m sorry, but if you’re sooo eager to adopt that your willing to do it illegally, your fucking predatory and care more about your own wants then the well being of said child.
I’m hurt but I’m glad to be fucking done.
2024.05.21 16:05 ThrowRA242342342 I’m a good looking woman in my 30s absolutely broken with loneliness and feel there is no solution
I don’t know what to do. I have tried absolutely everything.
So I’m a woman in my 30s who has a degree, a good enough job and all I do is work, come home, eat alone and loneliness is eating me up.
I have felt this way since I was 23 years old.
I don’t have a community of friends. I have around 3 fairly close people who were from different parts of my life (one an old job, one from high school, one from college) who I see now and then but there’s no intense, talk constantly, I can tell them anything kind of friendship, they are just people I can grab lunch with now and then months apart.
My dating life has been horrendous. I can’t even explain how bad. It makes me feel like I’m this disgusting rat. All 3 friends and family members plus random people I’ve known throughout my jobs and things have all commented on how strange it is that I don’t have a partner and how badly things go for me.
The people I have dated in my past have all treated me very similarly. As in, I’ve never had an amicable breakup that ended nicely. They’ve all left me feeling awful. Everyone has always been extremely blunt in telling me I’m basically not good enough. Some phrases I’ve heard were: “you make me feel like I want to get myself back” “I didn’t ever see a future with you and didn’t know why I didn’t tell you this before” “you’re boring” “I understand why your friends and family don’t bother with you” “I just don’t care about you” “
I don’t drink alcohol and all these people told me at the start it wasn’t a problem for them. But sooner or later they would comment on how nice it would be if I joined them for a wine out on the porch after work or be able to go to a cocktail bar. And they would pressure me into doing it despite my strong stance on just not enjoying it. It almost seemed like everyone I dated was a disguised alcoholic even though they weren’t because that was the topic of a lot of our arguments … even though I know they weren’t in their “normal life” but just with me alcohol seemed so important that I didn’t do it.
I always came away feeling awful. I have an array of hobbies and find myself interesting - care for animals, reading, hiking, nature, skiing, cycling, I draw, and also write stories - nobody was ever interested in reading any or caring.
Whenever I go out with friends their partners… care. It’s something I noticed a lot. They’d text or call and ask for updates. Even when I was in relationships this didn’t happen. I’ve never, EVER had a partner or boyfriend who cared about me. This is not normal and I’ve never felt loved.
Both of my parents aren’t here either and I have a weird relationship with my brother. He’s married with kids and we aren’t close. I’ve tried and again I feel “not enough”. He tells me he doesn’t WANT to go on vacations with me because I don’t drink and he likes to go to bars and sip wine at nice places and I’d just not be compatible with him on holiday. He therefore doesn’t ever ask to hang out with me in our own country.
I was only ever close with my mother and miss her so much it hurts. I don’t feel connected with anyone and feel my personality must be so awful that nobody wants me around.
I’ve travelled a lot and even lived in other countries and feel deflated. If I do something pretty cool or a nice achievement I can’t tell anyone. Sure, a couple of my friends might send a nice text but I have nobody to hug, kiss or hype me up. I come home to my empty apartment and just have my own thoughts.
Every date I go on recently is a reflection of my past. People just seem to be super interested in the start, as in.. I have no issues getting matches and getting a good conversation flowing, sometimes even up to three moths of dating but then it ends. The same patterns occur where they suddenly don’t want a serious thing and are gone.
I’m broken making these constant deep connections with strangers only to then feel like I never knew them at all.
Friends have told me in the past I am too nice and fall too hard and people can see this but I don’t get it.
I pour my heart and soul into connections I do make, am sweet and caring and it’s never enough for people. I’ve never ever felt anything was ever reciprocated.
Everyone around me has a marriage - a stable, grown adult marriage with house problems and real life stuff, kids or engagements, stuff like that. I want that so much. I want a person to share my life with. I am so tired of being alone and being on this age on apps and going through the same things feeling so unloved and unwanted.
I look around - and this is going to sound judgmental and I don’t mean to be. But I look around at others I knew from school and friends and things and even people who are either not very attractive or even people with horrific personalities (mean, screechy, drama central kind of people) have good loyal husbands and a fairly decent enough life.
I feel like I’ve witnessed multiple situations where people cheat, so awful things and still someone is FIGHTING for someone to stay, fighting for love, somebody is a staple in their life worth it.
For me that’s just exactly what I feel I don’t have. Nobody has ever fought for me. Never cared enough to even go into a serious, let’s live together, maybe get married situations. Nobody has ever made effort the way I do. I’m good looking enough, not the most sexy person in the room but get told I’m natural beauty, cute and stuff like that. I try and take care of myself. I have that “sweet shy gentle” type personality and everyone I meet tells me I have such a good heart and soul. I really do everything for people. So I don’t understand.
I’m terrified of this continuing and I’m exhausted. I don’t feel like I belong anywhere. I’m absolutely broken with feeling like my whole life has been loss around me, in terms of death of my loved ones and also loss of people I’ve cared for and wanted something with, loss of friendships that were once more solid and now are casual, just loss of everything.
Like I said I’ve tried travelling, lived in other countries, joined so many hobby groups and clubs, the amount of nights I’ve sat at a random meet up of a social night with a soft drink and chatted and gave it my all for nothing to come of it is hard to remember, I’ve even reached out on social media to old friends from random hobbies and school and nothing comes of anything.
I don’t know what else to do. I enjoy my own company but I’m now at a point where it’s depressing me so much. I don’t want this to be my life. I want to go to theme parks with someone and feel alive. I want to book holidays with someone and get excited. I want to pack together and prepare their bags. I want to ask someone about their day. I want to share plans. I don’t want to just come home anymore and stare at a wall. Constantly see people thriving on social media. Have no family at important holidays. Nobody to celebrate things, I feel so empty and not even a part of society when I see the beach packed with people, gifts for sale in stores, etc. it’s not for me because I have no one.
I don’t know what else to do. If something cool happens in my day it didn’t really happen because I am literally by myself and have nobody who cares. I feel like other single people still have close friends or a mother or father who is interested, even a community of some sort. But I am literally alone.
Even when I do stuff with friends it’s only for an hour or two and I’ll get a taste of what a nice happy life is like, maybe an hour walking along a nice beach or a nice dinner somewhere with people around us then I’m back to being alone when they go back home to their husbands and have a cute night.
I cry everyday and don’t understand this. I’m so envious of people who have tons of people in their life. I never will have that even if I find a partner. But it just kills that even that part doesn’t exist. I can’t even explain how empty I feel. My birthday went by with one text message from one of my close friends and the other two sent one days later saying they forgot and had been busy. It’s like I don’t exist. And I’m terrified and don’t know what to do.
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So I’m a woman in my 30s who has a degree, a good enough job and all I do is work, come home, eat alone and loneliness is eating me up.
I have felt this way since I was 23 years old.
I don’t have a community of friends. I have around 3 fairly close people who were from different parts of my life (one an old job, one from high school, one from college) who I see now and then but there’s no intense, talk constantly, I can tell them anything kind of friendship, they are just people I can grab lunch with now and then months apart.
My dating life has been horrendous. I can’t even explain how bad. It makes me feel like I’m this disgusting rat. All 3 friends and family members plus random people I’ve known throughout my jobs and things have all commented on how strange it is that I don’t have a partner and how badly things go for me.
The people I have dated in my past have all treated me very similarly. As in, I’ve never had an amicable breakup that ended nicely. They’ve all left me feeling awful. Everyone has always been extremely blunt in telling me I’m basically not good enough. Some phrases I’ve heard were: “you make me feel like I want to get myself back” “I didn’t ever see a future with you and didn’t know why I didn’t tell you this before” “you’re boring” “I understand why your friends and family don’t bother with you” “I just don’t care about you” “
I don’t drink alcohol and all these people told me at the start it wasn’t a problem for them. But sooner or later they would comment on how nice it would be if I joined them for a wine out on the porch after work or be able to go to a cocktail bar. And they would pressure me into doing it despite my strong stance on just not enjoying it. It almost seemed like everyone I dated was a disguised alcoholic even though they weren’t because that was the topic of a lot of our arguments … even though I know they weren’t in their “normal life” but just with me alcohol seemed so important that I didn’t do it.
I always came away feeling awful. I have an array of hobbies and find myself interesting - care for animals, reading, hiking, nature, skiing, cycling, I draw, and also write stories - nobody was ever interested in reading any or caring.
Whenever I go out with friends their partners… care. It’s something I noticed a lot. They’d text or call and ask for updates. Even when I was in relationships this didn’t happen. I’ve never, EVER had a partner or boyfriend who cared about me. This is not normal and I’ve never felt loved.
Both of my parents aren’t here either and I have a weird relationship with my brother. He’s married with kids and we aren’t close. I’ve tried and again I feel “not enough”. He tells me he doesn’t WANT to go on vacations with me because I don’t drink and he likes to go to bars and sip wine at nice places and I’d just not be compatible with him on holiday. He therefore doesn’t ever ask to hang out with me in our own country.
I was only ever close with my mother and miss her so much it hurts. I don’t feel connected with anyone and feel my personality must be so awful that nobody wants me around.
I’ve travelled a lot and even lived in other countries and feel deflated. If I do something pretty cool or a nice achievement I can’t tell anyone. Sure, a couple of my friends might send a nice text but I have nobody to hug, kiss or hype me up. I come home to my empty apartment and just have my own thoughts.
Every date I go on recently is a reflection of my past. People just seem to be super interested in the start, as in.. I have no issues getting matches and getting a good conversation flowing, sometimes even up to three moths of dating but then it ends. The same patterns occur where they suddenly don’t want a serious thing and are gone.
I’m broken making these constant deep connections with strangers only to then feel like I never knew them at all.
Friends have told me in the past I am too nice and fall too hard and people can see this but I don’t get it.
I pour my heart and soul into connections I do make, am sweet and caring and it’s never enough for people. I’ve never ever felt anything was ever reciprocated.
Everyone around me has a marriage - a stable, grown adult marriage with house problems and real life stuff, kids or engagements, stuff like that. I want that so much. I want a person to share my life with. I am so tired of being alone and being on this age on apps and going through the same things feeling so unloved and unwanted.
I look around - and this is going to sound judgmental and I don’t mean to be. But I look around at others I knew from school and friends and things and even people who are either not very attractive or even people with horrific personalities (mean, screechy, drama central kind of people) have good loyal husbands and a fairly decent enough life.
I feel like I’ve witnessed multiple situations where people cheat, so awful things and still someone is FIGHTING for someone to stay, fighting for love, somebody is a staple in their life worth it.
For me that’s just exactly what I feel I don’t have. Nobody has ever fought for me. Never cared enough to even go into a serious, let’s live together, maybe get married situations. Nobody has ever made effort the way I do. I’m good looking enough, not the most sexy person in the room but get told I’m natural beauty, cute and stuff like that. I try and take care of myself. I have that “sweet shy gentle” type personality and everyone I meet tells me I have such a good heart and soul. I really do everything for people. So I don’t understand.
I’m terrified of this continuing and I’m exhausted. I don’t feel like I belong anywhere. I’m absolutely broken with feeling like my whole life has been loss around me, in terms of death of my loved ones and also loss of people I’ve cared for and wanted something with, loss of friendships that were once more solid and now are casual, just loss of everything.
Like I said I’ve tried travelling, lived in other countries, joined so many hobby groups and clubs, the amount of nights I’ve sat at a random meet up of a social night with a soft drink and chatted and gave it my all for nothing to come of it is hard to remember, I’ve even reached out on social media to old friends from random hobbies and school and nothing comes of anything.
I don’t know what else to do. I enjoy my own company but I’m now at a point where it’s depressing me so much. I don’t want this to be my life. I want to go to theme parks with someone and feel alive. I want to book holidays with someone and get excited. I want to pack together and prepare their bags. I want to ask someone about their day. I want to share plans. I don’t want to just come home anymore and stare at a wall. Constantly see people thriving on social media. Have no family at important holidays. Nobody to celebrate things, I feel so empty and not even a part of society when I see the beach packed with people, gifts for sale in stores, etc. it’s not for me because I have no one.
I don’t know what else to do. If something cool happens in my day it didn’t really happen because I am literally by myself and have nobody who cares. I feel like other single people still have close friends or a mother or father who is interested, even a community of some sort. But I am literally alone.
Even when I do stuff with friends it’s only for an hour or two and I’ll get a taste of what a nice happy life is like, maybe an hour walking along a nice beach or a nice dinner somewhere with people around us then I’m back to being alone when they go back home to their husbands and have a cute night.
I cry everyday and don’t understand this. I’m so envious of people who have tons of people in their life. I never will have that even if I find a partner. But it just kills that even that part doesn’t exist. I can’t even explain how empty I feel. My birthday went by with one text message from one of my close friends and the other two sent one days later saying they forgot and had been busy. It’s like I don’t exist. And I’m terrified and don’t know what to do.
2024.05.21 16:05 sad-sackofsh1t Stamina and scoring questions
Hey folks!
Prepping for the August LSAT. I’m wildly assuming that chaos will be a ladder, so I’m dead set on taking the first LSAT in the new format. Please correct my assumption if you know something I don’t.
Have you noticed in yourself that you can do LRs all day but can barely finish 1 or 2 RC a day? I’ve been aiming for 4 sections daily: 20 sections a block, 10 blocks of RC interweaved with 10 of LR from April to August. I’d need to finish at least 1.5 block a week to finish all LRs once and RC twice before the test day. Under that schedule, I’m behind. I can easily average out at -2 to -1 with 4 LRs a day (yes, I’m working full time on top of that) but can only do 2 RCs a day for a -3- when I tried a 3rd, it always slipped to -4/-5 without exception. How do you stabilize your RC while building up your tolerance? I asked that assuming that you want or feel the need to in the first place… I’m presuming that only because I’m bracing for some 2-LR-2-RC madness.
It might sound like a dumb question to you, but I’ll shoot my shot anyway: how will you project the raw-score-to-curve conversion be? My test day curved score was 169, and that probably had LG to thank. I’ve had all but one LR where I got -0. So, if it’s to be counted double, I’d be looking at a -[3+(2*2)] unless I manage to climb out of my current plateau. Would you project the curve to give any more breathing space for high 170s? If so, by how much? If not, what’s your current strategy?
Many thanks!
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Prepping for the August LSAT. I’m wildly assuming that chaos will be a ladder, so I’m dead set on taking the first LSAT in the new format. Please correct my assumption if you know something I don’t.
Have you noticed in yourself that you can do LRs all day but can barely finish 1 or 2 RC a day? I’ve been aiming for 4 sections daily: 20 sections a block, 10 blocks of RC interweaved with 10 of LR from April to August. I’d need to finish at least 1.5 block a week to finish all LRs once and RC twice before the test day. Under that schedule, I’m behind. I can easily average out at -2 to -1 with 4 LRs a day (yes, I’m working full time on top of that) but can only do 2 RCs a day for a -3- when I tried a 3rd, it always slipped to -4/-5 without exception. How do you stabilize your RC while building up your tolerance? I asked that assuming that you want or feel the need to in the first place… I’m presuming that only because I’m bracing for some 2-LR-2-RC madness.
It might sound like a dumb question to you, but I’ll shoot my shot anyway: how will you project the raw-score-to-curve conversion be? My test day curved score was 169, and that probably had LG to thank. I’ve had all but one LR where I got -0. So, if it’s to be counted double, I’d be looking at a -[3+(2*2)] unless I manage to climb out of my current plateau. Would you project the curve to give any more breathing space for high 170s? If so, by how much? If not, what’s your current strategy?
Many thanks!
2024.05.21 16:05 jovermoe The Bed + Headboard + Headboard Cushion
 | Hey! When I was looking to buy my bed, I couldn’t seem to find any pictures of the full Bed + Headboard + Headboard Cushion online (other than Thuma’s pictures on their website). So I figured I’d share pics of my bed! I absolutely LOVE it! I got it in their Walnut finish with the Dark Charcoal Linen-weave Headboard Cushion. If you have any questions for me, or want any other pictures, just ask! submitted by jovermoe to Thuma [link] [comments] |