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2024.05.21 19:20 Necessary-Bet-8966 is this trauma bond? my(23F) bf(28M) of 5 years insists that all we need is a threesome/poly relationship (very long story)
I've(23F bi) been in a relationship with my boyfriend(28M cis) for over 5 years, and we have been living together for 3 years. I recently finished university and I'm unemployed, been doing the house chores since we moved together based on mutual agreement (it's our first time out of our parents house). He works for the both of us and pays for everything. (I've had jobs but not full time so I spent the money on hobbies so I didn't have to rely on him so much).
I'm a cosplayer, and I keep a separate IG account for posting and interacting. My bf has always been supportive and keeps me company at conventions because I don't have many friends and have bad social anxiety.
A while ago he too wanted to cosplay, I helped him with everything and he created a cosplay account, I started to feel insecure when he would follow cosplayers that were doing +18 content, I explained to him how this made me feel and he would brush it off saying that I too made that kind of content (I had an OF, that he encouraged me to create, and never really announced it in my socials, so I always had very few people subscribed). He unfollowed specific girls that I would tell him, but never addressed the whole issue so he kept following this type of accounts.
Eventually I grew tired and stopped nagging him with the issue, but it never left my brain, I used to compare myself to these girls and would regularly check his following to see if he followed someone new, it was consuming a large portion of my sanity. What really broke me was finding out that he was messaging (we had access to our phones) some girls and complimenting them in a sexual way, so I confronted him about it and he told me it was not a big deal, that at the end of the day the one he loves its me, and doing that was just a way of getting out of boredom.
I already had infidelity issues because earlier (2 year mark) I found out he was messaging his ex, telling her that we were in bad terms and we opened up the relationship (not true), I confronted him about this as well and now he keeps her blocked, but it left a big scar and I used to check this girl profile and stories everyday multiple times a day, I would have nightmares about him messaging her again and meeting with her for a whole 3 years.
There has been 2 main break points in our relationship, once when I found out about his ex, he told me that he was bored of our relationship (we already lived together, and had quarantine restrictions because of COVID, he worked remotely so it was us 24/7 in the same apartment) and that the was looking for excitement, then I found out that the had a secret Tinder account asking for casual sex, I never got to see the messages.
We broke up and I returned to my parents house, where he blasted my phone with messages telling me how regretful he felt, and that if I gave him another chance he would be better. I forgave him but on the condition that we shared phone's passcodes.
The second break point was when he proposed that in order for our relationship to endure this hardship we had to include a third girl (i believe they're called unicorns) because in his eyes, i asked for too much (regarding affection) and because he wasn't very affectionate a new girl could give me that. And obviously he would get to fuck us both. I rejected this strongly because I'm monogamous, and we settled that a threesome could work out, we installed dating apps to look for a girl, and to this day we haven't found anyone. Along the days of the search I started to become numb, irritated at the minimum, cried every week and started to document every little detail/behavior that was making me fall out of love. Then one day I decided that this was going nowhere, and I told him that I didn't want to do the threesome, and because it was the only thing that would fulfill him it was better that we parted ways. So we did, and I went to my parents house for the weekend to think things through. He messaged me saying that why didn't I come up with a solution for us to be together because I said nothing. I talked to my mom and she told me that relationships this long shouldn't end without exhausting every little option. She made me come back and I did.
When I came back we talked, we agreed on things. I needed to quit snapping so easily and being irritated all the time, I needed to get a job, so I began studying again so I could get back on track. I asked him to be honest and loving, that we could try the threesome but under my terms (I would manage the account). And he said that I needed to delete my OF, so I did. He overstepped multiple times before doing things that I told him not to (like creating dating profiles for the threesome, when I specifically told him that I wanted to manage that) He also confessed to subscribing to other girls +18 content and I cried in front of him like never before.
I became even more hyper vigilant, and he once again was anonymously asking inappropriate questions to cosplayers. I decided to tell him and he became defensive, telling me how TF did I found out, that I was being dramatic and it was just a playful question, and if I keep looking for things it's obvious that I'm gonna find something. I went non verbal (I have asd) and I tried to shut me in my room, he didn't allow me and asked to discuss but I had a meltdown and I told him that if he didn't want me to get into his phone we should change our phones passcodes, and he would have to delete his cosplay account, so we did.
I've been paranoid again and I started to have nightmares of him messaging other girls again, he told me he deleted all dating apps, he assured me he did. But I know it's not true and he lied to me because days ago I saw he paid a subscription to a dating app we haven't used before. I don't have the energy to talk about that anymore. I don't know why am I still here, have I lost my identity? He says he wants to travel to the office (that's on the capital city) for work because he usually meets with his colleagues, and he can't bring me because tickets are expensive. I can't help but overthink that he will cheat on me, but at the same time I try to keep a mentality that if he wants to cheat, he will, and there's nothing I could do to stop him.
I don't want you to think of me as an angel either, I have ASD and I don't take meds for my anxiety, I'm needy and sensitive, don't have many friends, I just leave the house to go shopping and occasionally meet up with girl friends so Im very boring, i dont have a lot to talk about. Recently he posted on reddit about us opening up our relationship and I think he resents me financially because of the way he talks about me. I try to give him everything I can, I serve him breakfast, lunch and dinner, sometimes I bake pastries, I try to keep the house clean (we have cats so it's hard) I wash the dishes, do the laundry, manage the pantry stock, stay in shape, I consider myself attractive and been told so, we have sex almost everyday.
It's like I'm not enough for him, but he just wants me to himself (the polyamory/threesome can only be with a girl, I have proposed that we try with a man and he says he'd feel emasculated)
I don't really know what I am searching for writing this here, give me your thoughts, am i dumb?
And I think I'm traumatized.
I've been masturbating to threesome porn videos, sometimes I imagine the cosplay girls he used to send messages to while we have sex and I get more turned on.. orz
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I'm a cosplayer, and I keep a separate IG account for posting and interacting. My bf has always been supportive and keeps me company at conventions because I don't have many friends and have bad social anxiety.
A while ago he too wanted to cosplay, I helped him with everything and he created a cosplay account, I started to feel insecure when he would follow cosplayers that were doing +18 content, I explained to him how this made me feel and he would brush it off saying that I too made that kind of content (I had an OF, that he encouraged me to create, and never really announced it in my socials, so I always had very few people subscribed). He unfollowed specific girls that I would tell him, but never addressed the whole issue so he kept following this type of accounts.
Eventually I grew tired and stopped nagging him with the issue, but it never left my brain, I used to compare myself to these girls and would regularly check his following to see if he followed someone new, it was consuming a large portion of my sanity. What really broke me was finding out that he was messaging (we had access to our phones) some girls and complimenting them in a sexual way, so I confronted him about it and he told me it was not a big deal, that at the end of the day the one he loves its me, and doing that was just a way of getting out of boredom.
I already had infidelity issues because earlier (2 year mark) I found out he was messaging his ex, telling her that we were in bad terms and we opened up the relationship (not true), I confronted him about this as well and now he keeps her blocked, but it left a big scar and I used to check this girl profile and stories everyday multiple times a day, I would have nightmares about him messaging her again and meeting with her for a whole 3 years.
There has been 2 main break points in our relationship, once when I found out about his ex, he told me that he was bored of our relationship (we already lived together, and had quarantine restrictions because of COVID, he worked remotely so it was us 24/7 in the same apartment) and that the was looking for excitement, then I found out that the had a secret Tinder account asking for casual sex, I never got to see the messages.
We broke up and I returned to my parents house, where he blasted my phone with messages telling me how regretful he felt, and that if I gave him another chance he would be better. I forgave him but on the condition that we shared phone's passcodes.
The second break point was when he proposed that in order for our relationship to endure this hardship we had to include a third girl (i believe they're called unicorns) because in his eyes, i asked for too much (regarding affection) and because he wasn't very affectionate a new girl could give me that. And obviously he would get to fuck us both. I rejected this strongly because I'm monogamous, and we settled that a threesome could work out, we installed dating apps to look for a girl, and to this day we haven't found anyone. Along the days of the search I started to become numb, irritated at the minimum, cried every week and started to document every little detail/behavior that was making me fall out of love. Then one day I decided that this was going nowhere, and I told him that I didn't want to do the threesome, and because it was the only thing that would fulfill him it was better that we parted ways. So we did, and I went to my parents house for the weekend to think things through. He messaged me saying that why didn't I come up with a solution for us to be together because I said nothing. I talked to my mom and she told me that relationships this long shouldn't end without exhausting every little option. She made me come back and I did.
When I came back we talked, we agreed on things. I needed to quit snapping so easily and being irritated all the time, I needed to get a job, so I began studying again so I could get back on track. I asked him to be honest and loving, that we could try the threesome but under my terms (I would manage the account). And he said that I needed to delete my OF, so I did. He overstepped multiple times before doing things that I told him not to (like creating dating profiles for the threesome, when I specifically told him that I wanted to manage that) He also confessed to subscribing to other girls +18 content and I cried in front of him like never before.
I became even more hyper vigilant, and he once again was anonymously asking inappropriate questions to cosplayers. I decided to tell him and he became defensive, telling me how TF did I found out, that I was being dramatic and it was just a playful question, and if I keep looking for things it's obvious that I'm gonna find something. I went non verbal (I have asd) and I tried to shut me in my room, he didn't allow me and asked to discuss but I had a meltdown and I told him that if he didn't want me to get into his phone we should change our phones passcodes, and he would have to delete his cosplay account, so we did.
I've been paranoid again and I started to have nightmares of him messaging other girls again, he told me he deleted all dating apps, he assured me he did. But I know it's not true and he lied to me because days ago I saw he paid a subscription to a dating app we haven't used before. I don't have the energy to talk about that anymore. I don't know why am I still here, have I lost my identity? He says he wants to travel to the office (that's on the capital city) for work because he usually meets with his colleagues, and he can't bring me because tickets are expensive. I can't help but overthink that he will cheat on me, but at the same time I try to keep a mentality that if he wants to cheat, he will, and there's nothing I could do to stop him.
I don't want you to think of me as an angel either, I have ASD and I don't take meds for my anxiety, I'm needy and sensitive, don't have many friends, I just leave the house to go shopping and occasionally meet up with girl friends so Im very boring, i dont have a lot to talk about. Recently he posted on reddit about us opening up our relationship and I think he resents me financially because of the way he talks about me. I try to give him everything I can, I serve him breakfast, lunch and dinner, sometimes I bake pastries, I try to keep the house clean (we have cats so it's hard) I wash the dishes, do the laundry, manage the pantry stock, stay in shape, I consider myself attractive and been told so, we have sex almost everyday.
It's like I'm not enough for him, but he just wants me to himself (the polyamory/threesome can only be with a girl, I have proposed that we try with a man and he says he'd feel emasculated)
I don't really know what I am searching for writing this here, give me your thoughts, am i dumb?
And I think I'm traumatized.
I've been masturbating to threesome porn videos, sometimes I imagine the cosplay girls he used to send messages to while we have sex and I get more turned on.. orz
2024.05.21 19:18 Crazy-Tax-1320 27F Heree
Age: 27
Height & Weight: 5'6, Slim
Marital status: Single
Education: BSc Pharmacy (from China) , Planning for Masters (Possible places US, Australia or NZ)
Profession: Director (Family business)
Hobbies: Video games( From Xbox to Nintendo), outdoor sports, decorating anything and everything, watching Crime/mystery docs and movies, Cooking
Do you want kids? Yess
Religion: Moderately practicing, I will always try my best to pray all 5
Deal breakers: Aggressive behavior, Impatient, Disrespectful especially towards my family, Dishonesty
Interesting facts about you: I dont know what to write here lol
I witnessed two historic moments firsthand: the start of the Arab Spring and COVID-19, so I've got lots of stories to tell
City: Islamabad, prefer someone from Islamabad..easier to meet etc
Residence (Own/Rented): Own in Bahria town
Family details: 2 brothers, all married
About me:
I'm a positive person and I try to live life as best as I can. -Honest -I'm an active an outgoing person, and I try to find time to try new things. -I always care about the people around me, and try to be as helpful as I can be. -Family oriented -Great importance in donating to charities and helping the needy -I'm determined and know what I want in life. And I have a great family that gives me lots of support In a nutshell I like to think of myself as down to earth, optimistic, ambitious, easygoing, and faithful. I have a passion for traveling and would love to experience more diverse cultures.
What I'm looking for:
-A best friend who I can talk about anything and everything - Independent - Honest, humble, trustworthy, kind and loving - Family oriented and holds religious values -Educated and someone who's planning to move abroad as well
Timeframe in which you want to marry(Optional):
I would like to get married within 1 year, so family involvement as soon as we feel comfortable telling our parents about each other.
I was on Muzz and I found guys who would love to talk for hours on the phone and video calls for months, but would not want to commit despite me telling them that I'm only here for marriage purposes.
I was born and raised outside of Pakistan, so I find it quite difficult to adjust my life here. I don't see myself settling here, so I would want a partner who's also planning to move abroad.
Thanks:))
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Height & Weight: 5'6, Slim
Marital status: Single
Education: BSc Pharmacy (from China) , Planning for Masters (Possible places US, Australia or NZ)
Profession: Director (Family business)
Hobbies: Video games( From Xbox to Nintendo), outdoor sports, decorating anything and everything, watching Crime/mystery docs and movies, Cooking
Do you want kids? Yess
Religion: Moderately practicing, I will always try my best to pray all 5
Deal breakers: Aggressive behavior, Impatient, Disrespectful especially towards my family, Dishonesty
Interesting facts about you: I dont know what to write here lol
I witnessed two historic moments firsthand: the start of the Arab Spring and COVID-19, so I've got lots of stories to tell
City: Islamabad, prefer someone from Islamabad..easier to meet etc
Residence (Own/Rented): Own in Bahria town
Family details: 2 brothers, all married
About me:
I'm a positive person and I try to live life as best as I can. -Honest -I'm an active an outgoing person, and I try to find time to try new things. -I always care about the people around me, and try to be as helpful as I can be. -Family oriented -Great importance in donating to charities and helping the needy -I'm determined and know what I want in life. And I have a great family that gives me lots of support In a nutshell I like to think of myself as down to earth, optimistic, ambitious, easygoing, and faithful. I have a passion for traveling and would love to experience more diverse cultures.
What I'm looking for:
-A best friend who I can talk about anything and everything - Independent - Honest, humble, trustworthy, kind and loving - Family oriented and holds religious values -Educated and someone who's planning to move abroad as well
Timeframe in which you want to marry(Optional):
I would like to get married within 1 year, so family involvement as soon as we feel comfortable telling our parents about each other.
I was on Muzz and I found guys who would love to talk for hours on the phone and video calls for months, but would not want to commit despite me telling them that I'm only here for marriage purposes.
I was born and raised outside of Pakistan, so I find it quite difficult to adjust my life here. I don't see myself settling here, so I would want a partner who's also planning to move abroad.
Thanks:))
2024.05.21 19:17 NomadCal T-minus 15
It has always been a strongly held belief of mine that there is no single person in the world that is of sound mind that I couldn't get along with. This all seems pretty reasonable to me I have never met a person that was so dislikable that I couldn't get over the subtle irritations that they may make me feel. So why is it that today was the day? Nobody could have seen it the Amber alerts didn't go off on my phone there was nothing significantly intense happening in the world that would seem to cause this. I often times find myself looking at the nations of the world thinking why is it that this group of people hate another group of people so much why do we have wars in the middle east why are some world actors so willing to threaten people with the utter obliteration of their cities. Is it important who has claim over access to commercial ports why cant we all use the oceans with out conflict. Why can't we engineer a solution to make food available in struggling countries? I could never understand the fanatical devotion to causes that would justify the death of those who didn't believe in the cause that I devoted myself to. It doesn't even seem like anyone would stand against the cause that wished to provide the basic necessities for life. It seems that those in the world are actively working against lasting peace because of currencies which do not really seem to oppose anyone. People around me going through life arguing with their parents siblings significant others about issues that they can't at this time seem to understand can't be that important. "T-minus 15" that is the message I got from my friend who worked in the white house at first I didn't understand. These are the thoughts I am having sitting here watching people walk in and out of the store why. It's Three o'clock on a Friday, there are kids that are being forced to go to school that have no choice. They say well they aren't adults they do not have a choice to be somewhere else. The fact is that we've made that choice for them they legislate that they can't be anywhere else they aren't allowed to have a job, the truancy officers will make them go to school because that is where we said they have to be. The fact is that although it is possible for a child to know that they are no good a math or english they don't have a choice to be there or not. Is it that parents feel it is the only way to get out from under the need to be with their children till they find a purpose in life, though it seems that this educational system limits their ability to find something that they are truly passionate about, maybe though I don't think it matters anymore. Now it all seems clear what I should be doing unfortunately... "T-minus 15".
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2024.05.21 19:17 Ruwiaf Childhood book about kids who dislike their parents and choose to live with different families
The premise is pretty simple. There's a made up underground city where kids go to live with families who provide them with something they didn't have. The city worked as an adoption centre where the kids filled forms of what kind of parents they wanted and then waited for them to come to adopt them. I remember there being a kid who was poor so he chose to live with the rich family, then there was a kid whose parents didn't pay any attention to him so he chose a family who gave him all the attention and love he wanted, then lastly there was a kid who wanted to become an athlete but her parents rejected her idea so she chose to live with the active parents who let her work towards her goal. Then I don't remember very clearly but I believe there were also twins who wanted to do whatever they desired and not to be restricted by any sort of rules so they chose to live with parents who didn't care what their kids did. The ending of the book is that the kids learn to appreciate their own parents and come back home to live with them. If you have any questions about the details of the book, please do ask me! I also remember it having a red cover and was roughly 200-300 pages long.
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2024.05.21 19:15 moon_moth_mirror I made a reddit account to ask for help
This is my first time posting on reddit so sorry if it's hard to understand and this probably isn't the best place to post this but I'm getting really desperate and don't know where else to ask. I made this account some weeks ago but I didn't really have the courage to post anything so I procrastinated opening reddit until today . I self diagnosed for a bit but I've given up on it and I don't know exactly what issue I have but I want to avoid self diagnosis because I realized it probably does more harm.
A little background info :
My mom thinks that the worst problem I could possibly have is having to study a little extra. When I asked her if I could see a psychologist she said "most of the psychologists are people who couldn't pass the medical exam so they settled into this job instead .There are very few good ones out there. I don't think you really need to see someone but If you really think you need it find someone who isn't a quack and if I can afford to pay for it, we'll do it. " My relationship with my dad isn't good enough for us to talk about this kind of thing. (It isn't Great with my mom either but at least we can talk about these things)
I know most parents wouldn't even be this supportive so I'm thankful for her response.
The problem is that I don't know where I can get help. I tried to talk to the school counsellor but when I asked my class teacher to sign it she asked me to talk to her and when I kept saying it's nothing she told me she can't help me if I didn't want to share it with her and after a few sessions I realized school counsellor isn't the most helpful. My family can't help me (If anything the cause of why I need to get help) . I don't want to end up like my parents and I know I won't be able to live with myself if I do. I am very close to my sister but I don't trust her like I used to. I used to share everything with her but now we barely talk.
I live in delhi which is one of the cities with the best healthcare in this country and I still don't know where to look for help. I don't want to go just anywhere to any unqualified quack but my parents can't afford anything too expensive. Im also hesitant about online therapy because I want some privacy from my family and I want to create some physical distance with my house.
If anyone could help me figure out any good treatments in delhi please do because I'm getting really desperate
I hope this was coherent and I'm sorry if it wasn't, I'm new to reddit
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A little background info :
My mom thinks that the worst problem I could possibly have is having to study a little extra. When I asked her if I could see a psychologist she said "most of the psychologists are people who couldn't pass the medical exam so they settled into this job instead .There are very few good ones out there. I don't think you really need to see someone but If you really think you need it find someone who isn't a quack and if I can afford to pay for it, we'll do it. " My relationship with my dad isn't good enough for us to talk about this kind of thing. (It isn't Great with my mom either but at least we can talk about these things)
I know most parents wouldn't even be this supportive so I'm thankful for her response.
The problem is that I don't know where I can get help. I tried to talk to the school counsellor but when I asked my class teacher to sign it she asked me to talk to her and when I kept saying it's nothing she told me she can't help me if I didn't want to share it with her and after a few sessions I realized school counsellor isn't the most helpful. My family can't help me (If anything the cause of why I need to get help) . I don't want to end up like my parents and I know I won't be able to live with myself if I do. I am very close to my sister but I don't trust her like I used to. I used to share everything with her but now we barely talk.
I live in delhi which is one of the cities with the best healthcare in this country and I still don't know where to look for help. I don't want to go just anywhere to any unqualified quack but my parents can't afford anything too expensive. Im also hesitant about online therapy because I want some privacy from my family and I want to create some physical distance with my house.
If anyone could help me figure out any good treatments in delhi please do because I'm getting really desperate
I hope this was coherent and I'm sorry if it wasn't, I'm new to reddit
2024.05.21 19:14 changedthebeat "Mother I Sober" & "Auntie Diaries" Confusion & Questions
I revisited this album and now I have multiple questions relating to these two songs that I would like clarity on if anyone has answers, I'll list quotes from the songs, followed up with my questions related to the lines:
1). This is the most confusing one to me. To my understanding this is the moment Whitney finds out about Kendrick's infidelity/lust addiction. It reads as though this convo occurred when he was 25 years old ("twenty years later, after I was five") so this would be at or around 2012-2013, which fits in with him saying Whitney asked him about this soon after the GKMC tour. Which he mentioned earlier on 'Worldwide Steppers'
"good kid, m.A.A.d city tour, I flourished on them stages, Whitney asked did I have a problem I said, 'I might be racist'"
So this kind of makes it sound like this was a conversation they had over a decade ago? The "I made it home, seven years of tour, Whitney's gone" line makes this more confusing because I would assume the GKMC or Yeezus tour or even the Drake one were the first ones he was a part of back in 2012/2013, unless he is just talking about 7 years prior to the original interpretation where he would just be doing random shows back when he was K.Dot. Unless he's saying this is when the conversation happened, they remained together until sometime recently they split, but this would be unsubstantiated. So personally I think it is clear when Whitney found out about his infidelity sometime 10+ years ago, however it's very unclear when or if Whitney is even really gone and if they don't live together, see each other, or parent their kids together. The meta perspective of her appearing on the album multiple times and being a part of the artwork, and posting a ton of her own self growth stuff on IG as well an Kendrick never really saying anything contrary besides this one line leads me to believe they're still very much together?
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Whitney's hurt, the purest soul I know, I found her in the kitchen(All relevant lines for most context)
Askin' God, "Where did I lose myself? And can it be forgiven?"
Broke me down, she looked me in my eyes, "Is there an addiction?"
I said "No," but this time I lied, I knew that I can't fix it
Pure soul, even in her pain, know she cared for me
Gave me a number, said she recommended some therapy
I asked my momma why she didn't believe me when I told her "No"
I never knew she was violated in Chicago, I'm sympathetic
Told me that she feared it happened to me, for my protection
Though it never happened, she wouldn't agree Now I'm affected, twenty years later trauma has resurfaced
Amplified as I write this song, I shiver 'cause I'm nervous
I was five, questioning myself, 'lone for many years
Nothing's wrong, just results on how them questions made me feel
I made it home, seven years of tour, chasin' manhood
But Whitney's gone, by time you hear this song, she did all she could -'Mother I Sober'
1). This is the most confusing one to me. To my understanding this is the moment Whitney finds out about Kendrick's infidelity/lust addiction. It reads as though this convo occurred when he was 25 years old ("twenty years later, after I was five") so this would be at or around 2012-2013, which fits in with him saying Whitney asked him about this soon after the GKMC tour. Which he mentioned earlier on 'Worldwide Steppers'
"good kid, m.A.A.d city tour, I flourished on them stages, Whitney asked did I have a problem I said, 'I might be racist'"
So this kind of makes it sound like this was a conversation they had over a decade ago? The "I made it home, seven years of tour, Whitney's gone" line makes this more confusing because I would assume the GKMC or Yeezus tour or even the Drake one were the first ones he was a part of back in 2012/2013, unless he is just talking about 7 years prior to the original interpretation where he would just be doing random shows back when he was K.Dot. Unless he's saying this is when the conversation happened, they remained together until sometime recently they split, but this would be unsubstantiated. So personally I think it is clear when Whitney found out about his infidelity sometime 10+ years ago, however it's very unclear when or if Whitney is even really gone and if they don't live together, see each other, or parent their kids together. The meta perspective of her appearing on the album multiple times and being a part of the artwork, and posting a ton of her own self growth stuff on IG as well an Kendrick never really saying anything contrary besides this one line leads me to believe they're still very much together?
So I set free my cousin, chaotic for my mother's pain2). Obviously this is referring to Kendrick's cousin who is the parent of Baby Keem (who I always thought was Kendrick's first cousin, and not his first cousin once removed), but who is this cousin? Is this the cousin that was accused of touching Kendrick? I assume this isn't the same cousin from Auntie Diaries due to the similar age? Also do we know how or when they died? I feel like I'm missing something obvious. For some reason a Genius annotation says this is a female "his female cousin who’s the mother of Baby Keem" I'm not sure where this is concluded from.
I hope Hykeem made you proud 'cause you ain't die in vain -'Mother I Sober'
"Mother cried, put they hands on her, it was family ties" -'Mother I Sober'3). This is saying that someone in the family hit his mother, not that someone in the family was the one that molested his mother?
"Mother's brother said he got revenge for my mother’s face, Black and blue, the image of my queen that I can't erase" -'Mother I Sober'4). Kendrick's Uncle beats up another family member to avenge what happened in the previous line above?
"I asked my momma why she didn't believe me when I told her "No"5). I assume we have no further context to what happened here, whether or not this incident happened by someone in the family or not, just that it happened previously when she lived in Chicago before moving to Compton?
I never knew she was violated in Chicago, I'm sympathetic" -'Mother I Sober'
My Auntie is a man now -Auntie Diaries6). Final question regarding 'Auntie Diaries'. There was a little bit of discourse over Drake's line in 'Family Matters' regarding Kendrick's Aunt/Uncle. From my understanding, yes Kendrick's Auntie is a transman, but just because that's the case doesn't necessarily mean that he wants to be referred to as an Uncle. Is it reasonable to believe that because of the title of the song, the repetition of "My Auntie is a man now", and no other indication in the song, that Kendrick's Auntie retained the Aunt title regardless of transitioning to a man? (Technically making Drake's line incorrect/hurtful?) (Note: also in an interview around 2013 Kendrick referred to him as his Auntie then for what that's worth)
Where is your uncle at? 'Cause I wanna talk to the man of the house -Family Matters
2024.05.21 19:11 No_Philosopher1954 My boyfriend is moving and I don't want to go, what do I do?
I (20f) have been with my boyfriend (21m) for a year now. We have an amazing relationship, ever since we met we have pretty much been inseparable. I usually spend weekends at his house which started a month into us being together and we have a great dynamic even when we are together for weeks at a time. He lives at home with his family because he wasn't rushed to move out and it helped him financially since he didn't have to spend money on a 2k+ apartment. I also live with my parents for the same reasons. Living at home allows me to have a nice car and take vacations pretty often since I don't have as many bills as I would if I moved out. We live in the outskirts of a popular city in Florida so we often go out for dinner, hotels, excursions, etc. It's almost like our life is a vacation, except for the fact that we both have full time jobs. His family has been talking about moving to Oklahoma (OKC) for a couple months now and he wants me to come with him. We keep talking about how miserable it would be because it's the middle of no where and there is nothing to do. His family keeps trying to convince us that there are things to do and that it won't be that bad. I've lived in Florida 90% of my life and it has pretty much everything (except snow and mountains which we can travel for), he's been here for a few years and he loves it too. Going from Florida to Oklahoma to us is like going from a Porsche to a Prius. He doesn't have much of a choice other than to go, because I have pretty strict parents and all though they love him I highly doubt they would let him live with us. I don't want to be away from him but I also don't want to move to a state I know I would hate and leave my family and friends. If I did go, I know he would be my only source of happiness and I would hate to be that girlfriend. What should I do? Do I have any other options other than to stay or go?
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2024.05.21 19:11 Sweet-Count2557 Best Hotels in Fajardo Puerto Rico
 | Best Hotels in Fajardo Puerto Rico Are you ready for an unforgettable stay in the tropical paradise of Fajardo, Puerto Rico? Look no further! We've got you covered with the best hotels in town.From upscale resorts like El Conquistador and St. Regis Bahia Beach, to family-friendly options like Fajardo Inn, and vacation rentals at Suenos del Mar, there's something for everyone.Get ready to indulge in luxurious amenities, enjoy quality time with loved ones, and experience the beauty of Fajardo like never before.Let's dive into the best hotels in Fajardo together!Key TakeawaysUpscale resorts in Fajardo such as El Conquistador Resort and The St. Regis Bahia Beach Resort offer luxurious amenities like private beach access and world-class spas.Family-friendly resorts like Fajardo Inn provide amenities specifically tailored for children, such as a playground and a separate pool area.Vacation rentals in Fajardo, like those offered by Suenos del Mar Vacation Rentals, provide a personal and flexible accommodation option with more space and privacy.Fajardo hotels prioritize safety and satisfaction, offering services like 24-hour security, attentive staff, and dedicated concierge services.Upscale Resorts in FajardoWe should consider staying at the El Conquistador Resort, The St. Regis Bahia Beach Resort, or Las Casitas, a Waldorf Astoria Resort, as they're the upscale resorts in Fajardo. These resorts offer a luxurious experience with top-notch amenities that ensure a safe and enjoyable stay.At El Conquistador Resort, you can indulge in upscale resort amenities such as a private beach, multiple swimming pools, and a world-class spa. The resort also offers a variety of dining options, from fine dining restaurants to casual beach bars. Nearby attractions and activities include the famous El Yunque National Forest, where you can explore lush hiking trails and breathtaking waterfalls.The St. Regis Bahia Beach Resort, Puerto Rico, offers a serene and exclusive tropical retreat. You can relax by the infinity-edge pool or unwind in the luxurious spa. The resort also provides access to a private beach, where you can soak up the sun or enjoy water sports activities. Nearby, you can visit the bioluminescent bay in Fajardo, a natural wonder that glows in the dark.Las Casitas, a Waldorf Astoria Resort, offers spacious villas with stunning ocean views. The resort features a private island, Palomino Island, where you can enjoy pristine beaches and water activities. Other nearby attractions include the Culebra and Vieques Islands, known for their beautiful beaches and vibrant marine life.Overall, these upscale resorts in Fajardo provide a luxurious and safe experience, with top-notch amenities and nearby attractions and activities to enhance your stay.Family-Friendly Resorts in FajardoWhile researching family-friendly resorts in Fajardo, we discovered that the Fajardo Inn is a highly recommended option for a safe and enjoyable stay. Here are three reasons why the Fajardo Inn is the perfect choice for families:Family-Friendly Amenities: The Fajardo Inn offers a wide range of amenities specifically designed for families. From a children's playground to a swimming pool with a separate area for kids, there are plenty of options to keep your little ones entertained. The resort also provides babysitting services upon request, ensuring that parents can enjoy a relaxing vacation.Nearby Attractions: Located in close proximity to popular attractions, the Fajardo Inn allows families to easily explore the beauty of Fajardo. You can take a short drive to the stunning Seven Seas Beach, where you can swim, snorkel, or simply relax on the pristine sands. The resort is also a convenient starting point for excursions to the famous Bioluminescent Bay, where you can witness the mesmerizing glow of the water.Safety: Safety is a top priority at the Fajardo Inn. The resort features 24-hour security, ensuring a secure environment for you and your family. Additionally, the staff is friendly and attentive, always ready to assist with any concerns or needs you may have.With its family-friendly amenities, proximity to nearby attractions, and commitment to safety, the Fajardo Inn is an excellent choice for families seeking a memorable vacation experience.Now, let's explore the option of vacation rentals in Fajardo.Vacation Rentals in FajardoLooking for a more personal and flexible accommodation option in Fajardo? Consider vacation rentals in Fajardo, like Suenos del Mar Vacation Rentals.With a variety of properties to choose from, vacation rentals offer the freedom to create your own schedule and enjoy a home away from home.However, it's important to consider the pros and cons, pricing and availability, as well as customer satisfaction ratings when making your decision.Pros and ConsAlthough vacation rentals in Fajardo offer more space and privacy, they may lack the amenities and services found in traditional hotels. However, staying in Fajardo hotels has its own pros and cons that are worth considering. Let's explore the top amenities offered at Fajardo accommodations:Luxurious Spa Facilities: Indulge in relaxation and rejuvenation with a variety of spa treatments and services offered at many hotels in Fajardo. From massages to facials, these amenities provide a perfect way to unwind after a day of exploring.On-Site Restaurants: Fajardo hotels boast a range of dining options, from casual cafes to fine dining establishments. Enjoy delectable cuisine and convenient dining experiences without having to venture far from your room.Concierge Services: Need assistance with planning activities, making reservations, or arranging transportation? Many Fajardo hotels offer dedicated concierge services to ensure a seamless and stress-free vacation experience.With these amenities, Fajardo hotels provide a comfortable and convenient stay, prioritizing the safety and satisfaction of their guests.Pricing and AvailabilityWe found an amazing vacation rental in Fajardo that offers competitive pricing and availability for our desired travel dates. This rental, Suenos del Mar Vacation Rentals, provides a range of options to suit different budgets and preferences. Here is a pricing comparison and availability options table to help you make an informed decision:PropertyPrice per NightAvailabilitySuenos del Mar Vacation Rentals$150AvailableEl Conquistador Resort$300LimitedFajardo Inn$100AvailableLas Casitas, A Waldorf Astoria Resort$500LimitedThe St. Regis Bahia Beach Resort, Puerto Rico$400LimitedAs you can see, Suenos del Mar Vacation Rentals offers competitive pricing and is currently available for your desired travel dates. Now, let's move on to customer satisfaction ratings to ensure a memorable and enjoyable stay.Customer Satisfaction RatingsBased on the customer satisfaction ratings, most vacation rentals in Fajardo have received positive reviews for their quality and service. People have praised the excellent customer service quality and attention to detail provided by the rental owners and managers. They've also appreciated the cleanliness and well-maintained condition of the properties.The vacation rentals offer a comfortable and cozy atmosphere, making guests feel at home during their stay. The amenities provided are also top-notch, including fully equipped kitchens, spacious living areas, and beautiful outdoor spaces.The positive reviews highlight the convenience and value for money offered by these vacation rentals. With such positive feedback, it's no wonder that these vacation rentals are a popular choice among travelers.Now, let's explore some budget accommodations in Luquillo that offer great value without compromising on quality and service.Budget Accommodations in LuquilloOne option for budget accommodations in Luquillo is Casa Coral, which offers affordable rates and a convenient location near the beach. Casa Coral is a cozy guesthouse that provides a safe and comfortable stay for travelers on a budget. With its affordable rates and proximity to the beach, it is a popular choice for those looking to enjoy the sun and sand without breaking the bank.To give you a better idea of what Casa Coral has to offer, here is a pricing comparison table for some other accommodation options in Luquillo:AccommodationAverage Nightly RateProximity to BeachNearby AttractionsCasa CoralAffordableNearLuquillo Beach, El Yunque ForestOcean Pearl InnModerateNearLuquillo Beach, El Yunque ForestLuquillo Beach GetawayModerateNearLuquillo Beach, El Yunque ForestAs you can see, Casa Coral offers affordable rates compared to other options in the area. It is conveniently located near the beach, allowing guests to easily access the beautiful shores of Luquillo. Additionally, nearby attractions such as Luquillo Beach and El Yunque Forest are just a short distance away, providing guests with plenty of opportunities for outdoor adventures.Overall, Casa Coral is a great choice for budget-conscious travelers who want to enjoy a safe and comfortable stay in Luquillo. With its affordable rates and proximity to the beach and nearby attractions, it offers a great value for your money.Apartment-Style Stays in LuquilloLooking for a comfortable and convenient apartment-style stay in Luquillo? Look no further than Luquillo Beach Getaway and The Surfing Turtle Inn.These two options offer spacious and well-equipped apartments, perfect for a relaxing beach vacation. With their prime locations and amenities, they provide the ideal base for exploring the beautiful beaches and attractions of Luquillo.Luquillo Beach GetawayWe really enjoyed our stay at Luquillo Beach Getaway. The apartment-style accommodations were comfortable and had a great view of the beach.The pros of staying at Luquillo Beach Getaway include the following:Affordable pricing: Luquillo Beach Getaway offers competitive rates for its apartment-style accommodations, making it a budget-friendly option for travelers.Availability: We had no trouble finding availability at Luquillo Beach Getaway, even during peak travel seasons. The property offers a range of room options to suit different needs.However, there are a few cons to consider when staying at Luquillo Beach Getaway:Limited amenities: While the accommodations were comfortable, the property lacks some of the luxury amenities found in upscale resorts.Crowded beach: The beach in front of Luquillo Beach Getaway can get crowded, especially on weekends and holidays.Noise from nearby establishments: There are some bars and restaurants nearby, which may result in occasional noise during the evenings.Overall, Luquillo Beach Getaway provides a safe and affordable option for travelers looking for apartment-style accommodations with a beautiful beach view.Surfing Turtle InnWe heard that the Surfing Turtle Inn offers spacious apartment-style accommodations just a short walk away from the beach. It sounds like the perfect place to stay for a relaxing and enjoyable vacation in Fajardo, Puerto Rico. The inn provides a comfortable and safe environment for guests, with all the necessary amenities for a pleasant stay. The Surfing Turtle Inn also offers convenient transportation options to nearby attractions, making it easy to explore the area.Here is a table highlighting some of the key features of the Surfing Turtle Inn:FeaturesDescriptionAccommodationsSpacious apartment-style roomsLocationShort walk away from the beachAmenitiesAll necessary amenities provided for a comfortable stayTransportationConvenient options available for exploring nearby attractionsSafetyEmphasis on providing a secure and welcoming environment for guestsOverall, the Surfing Turtle Inn offers a great option for those seeking a comfortable and safe stay near the beach in Fajardo.Apartment-Style Property in FajardoChalet San Pedro in Fajardo offers apartment-style accommodations for a comfortable and convenient stay. Our property features spacious and well-appointed apartments that provide a home away from home experience.Here are three reasons why Chalet San Pedro is the perfect choice for your stay in Fajardo:Room amenities: Our apartments are equipped with all the amenities you need for a comfortable stay. From fully equipped kitchens and cozy living areas to private balconies and free Wi-Fi, we ensure that your stay with us is enjoyable and convenient.Nearby attractions: Chalet San Pedro is located close to some of Fajardo's most popular attractions. Explore the beautiful beaches of Seven Seas or take a boat tour to the stunning bioluminescent bay. With our convenient location, you can easily explore all that Fajardo has to offer.Safety: Your safety is our top priority. We've implemented strict safety measures to ensure the well-being of our guests. Our property is secure and well-maintained, providing a safe and comfortable environment for your stay.With its excellent room amenities, proximity to nearby attractions, and commitment to safety, Chalet San Pedro is the ideal choice for your apartment-style stay in Fajardo.Now, let's move on to discuss another popular hotel in Luquillo.Popular Hotel in LuquilloI can't wait to hear about the popular hotel in Luquillo and what makes it so special.When it comes to finding the perfect hotel in Luquillo, the Ocean Pearl Inn is a top choice for many travelers. This charming hotel offers a safe and comfortable stay, making it ideal for those who prioritize their safety. The Ocean Pearl Inn is known for its excellent amenities and friendly staff, ensuring a pleasant and enjoyable experience for all guests.One of the standout features of this popular hotel is its convenient location. Situated in the heart of Luquillo, it's just a stone's throw away from nearby attractions such as the beautiful Luquillo Beach and the El Yunque National Forest. Whether you're looking to soak up the sun or explore the natural wonders of Puerto Rico, the Ocean Pearl Inn puts you in the perfect position to do so.In terms of transportation options, the hotel offers easy access to public transportation, allowing guests to conveniently explore the surrounding areas. Additionally, the Ocean Pearl Inn provides a shuttle service to popular tourist spots, making it even easier for guests to navigate their way around Luquillo.Overall, the Ocean Pearl Inn stands out as a popular hotel in Luquillo due to its exceptional amenities, convenient location, and transportation options. Whether you're seeking relaxation or adventure, this hotel is sure to provide a memorable and safe stay for all guests.Frequently Asked QuestionsAre There Any All-Inclusive Resorts in Fajardo or Luquillo?Yes, there are all-inclusive resorts in Fajardo and Luquillo. These resorts offer a variety of amenities and services included in the price, such as meals, drinks, and recreational activities.Some pros of staying at an all-inclusive resort include convenience and the ability to budget your expenses. However, it's important to consider the specific offerings of each resort and read customer reviews to ensure it meets your preferences.In Fajardo and Luquillo, guests can enjoy activities like snorkeling, kayaking, and exploring the beautiful beaches.How Far Are the Hotels in Fajardo From Popular Tourist Attractions Like El Yunque National Forest or the Bioluminescent Bay?When it comes to the distance from Fajardo hotels to popular tourist attractions like El Yunque National Forest or the bioluminescent bay, it's important to consider convenience and accessibility.Many hotels in Fajardo offer guided tours to El Yunque National Forest, allowing guests to explore the beauty of the rainforest without worrying about transportation.Additionally, Fajardo is known for its stunning beaches and snorkeling spots, which are just a short distance away from most hotels.Are Pets Allowed in Any of the Hotels or Vacation Rentals in Fajardo or Luquillo?Pet friendly accommodations in Fajardo and Luquillo offer a range of options for travelers with furry friends. Some hotels and vacation rentals in both areas allow pets, but it's important to check with each property for specific policies and fees.When traveling with pets in Puerto Rico, it's recommended to bring essential items like food, water, and bedding, as well as keeping them on a leash and cleaning up after them. Safety is a top priority when bringing pets on vacation.Do Any of the Accommodations Offer Shuttle Services to and From the Airport?Yes, some accommodations in Fajardo and Luquillo offer shuttle services to and from the airport. These services provide convenient transportation for travelers, ensuring a stress-free arrival and departure.Additionally, these accommodations are located close to popular attractions, allowing guests to easily explore the surrounding area.With shuttle service availability and proximity to nearby attractions, these hotels and vacation rentals provide a safe and convenient option for travelers visiting Fajardo and Luquillo.Are There Any Hotels or Vacation Rentals That Offer Special Packages or Discounts for Extended Stays or Large Groups?There are several hotels and vacation rentals in Fajardo, Puerto Rico that offer special deals for extended stays or discounts for large groups. These packages can help save money and make your stay more enjoyable.Whether you're looking for a luxurious resort or a budget-friendly option, there are accommodations available to suit your needs.It's always a good idea to check with each property directly to inquire about their current offers and availability.ConclusionIn conclusion, Fajardo in Puerto Rico offers a variety of amazing hotels to suit every traveler's needs.From upscale resorts like El Conquistador and St. Regis Bahia Beach Resort, to family-friendly options like Fajardo Inn, and cozy vacation rentals like Suenos del Mar, there's something for everyone.And if you're looking for budget-friendly accommodations, Casa Coral in nearby Luquillo is a great choice.With so many options, you're sure to find the perfect place to stay and create unforgettable memories in this tropical paradise.Did you know that Fajardo has an average of 300 days of sunshine each year? 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2024.05.21 19:09 zimmer550king Do teachers effectively control your future in German high schools?
I read this comment under a Facebook post and I am posting it here verbatim. I have been here for 1.5 years and just want to get the opinion of Germans. The guy who wrote this comment grew up in Germany as a Muslim of South Asian background. Reading this definitely scared me as it appears that high schools in Germany are racist and teachers can effectively block you from a good future by giving you bad grades intentionally.
How true is the guy's comment? I would especially love to hear from Germans who grew up here and have a migration background.
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the second generation doesn't make it. You can analyse it yourself. Look how successful kids of your friends are. Most of them will be put in real schule or hauptschule. The few who still make it to Gymnasium. They are downgraded back to Realschule after a few years. Only a small portion gets Abitur and a very tiny portion gets the Abitur with good grades.The German culture especially at schools associates less intelligence with colored people. So since the teachers control your life and future. They can give you the grade whatever they want. It doesn't matter what you got in your exams. School is hell. Especially if its a pure gymnasium. To show you how powerful a teacher can be. If you get 100% in a maths exam the teacher has the power to reduce it to 50% and they do it.I will be honest, reading that a high school teacher can just slash a student's grade in Germany out of no where is scary. The guy who made this comment is now in the UK after growing up in Germany. He basically wants people of immigrant background to not have kids here as there is widespread racial discrimination in schools as compared to the UK.
I personally struggled a lot at school. Teachers are basically dictators. My sister struggled a lot. E.g in case of my sister she said as a Muslim she doesn't wanna go on Klassenfahrt. The teacher didn't like it and became her enemy and made sure she doesn't get any good grade to go to med school. They made her life hell. Luckily to go to med school you have to get good grades in the TMS. Its a state test it counts 50%. In this test no one knows your name. No one knows if you wear hijab. You are just a number. So she was in top 5% of whole Germany. Which allowed her to go med school. At Unis the life is much better because profs are not racist and they don't have the power to control your future. The school atmosphere is so harsh that most colored kids gets demotivated and just give up. It is one of the reason why yoh don't see many successful 2/3 generation people.
The bulk went to school in Pakistan studied there did master here doesn't speak german got a job as software engineer. The bulk doesn't understand the problems their kids will go through. Most of their kids will not successful. Because they have to go through the school system. Many desi parents still force their kids to get Fachabitur which is low level Abitur and they study history, social sciences or at Fachhochschule to please the parents. In the most of them drop out.
How true is the guy's comment? I would especially love to hear from Germans who grew up here and have a migration background.
2024.05.21 19:09 Humble-Ad4609 Me(22M) and my 3 months girlfriend(22F) had an argument last night. How to overcome?
I have a girlfriend for 3 months. We are now away with her because I'm visiting my parents in another city but we'll be together again in 5 days, it's not a long distance relationship. Last night, I called her and told that some of my problems about our relationship. Yesterday I was feeling very down partially because sometimes she bully me in emotional situations. I am very emotionally fragile person. For instance she blame me for leaving her me not loving her. We both know she is just messing with me but I'am affected such things. These kind of behavior really makes me sad and guilty even though I know she is just kidding. Last night we had a phone call and I told her that these kind of behaviors of her makes me sad and kindly requested that she not doing such things or at least minimize it. I feel very insecure while I'm expressing my feelings so my voice was shaking while I am telling all this stuff. She told me that she feel manipulated just because my voice is shaking just for a moment and then getting better again. She told me that for telling all this I waited to go away. She also told that she thinks I choose this timing purposely because she have a final exam today and she had to study. I was shocked hearing all that. Later she apologized several times for she not being able to handle my feelings and she told be that she is not really an emotional person as me and some of my actions seems her unreasonable and that's why she felt manipulated. I am very emotional but shy person so I generally don't share my inner feelings with anybody. I thought that she is a safe space where I can be me and share my feelings freely. However after last night I am feeling terrible. I was planning life long relationship and marry her sometime, I love her so much but after last night I am considering even breakup which I feel very guilty for just considering it. I don't know what to do, I am very thoughtful and sad right know. She sent me sweet photos this morning and saying "I love you" to me to cheer me up. I love her so much, I'm in love with her but this one hurt me a lot. The feeling I have right know is that I can never be as open as before when sharing my feelings. I feel that I lost that safe space and from now on I have to somewhat suppress my feelings instead of sharing with her. I know I might be exaggerating the situation but I can’t stop feeling like that. What should I do? How can I overcome this feeling?
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2024.05.21 19:08 Pure-You9124 AITA for talking to both my mother & sister?
I, 19, F live in India with my mother & sister. It's pretty much common to live with your parents in India, and especially for girls. My sister is 21. My parents had an arranged marriage, and since forever they've been fighting. He left us in December, 2021 (or I can honestly say that my mother asked him to go). We're a middle class family. Now when my father lived with us, my mother and him always used to have arguments, and my mother always brought that to us, told us everything since a very young age. My father was wrong in a lot of ways, but it wasn't as if my mother was a saint (from usually taunting him, to acting weird). When it all ended, it was because we were out of town, father was at home, he used to usually text us (I didn't have a phone, on mom's phone only) but my mother insisted on not replying. She didn't tell him when we were to return, and we returned very late, he slept at home, didn't open door, we were outside for 2-3 hours, scene created by mother. Now that he isn't there, my mother and sister fight very frequently. My sister wants to be on social media, and have a boyfriend (which all she has done hiddenly) now my mother gets mad at her for this (fights ranging from you're not my daughter, it's all your father's blood to go away, and beating her), and this happens every fu****g year. My sister has history of lying, deceit, stealing. In all this everytime a fight happens, they drag me in the middle. I pretty much don't have any friends, no social life, and don't argue much with my mother. It's like she also says this, she also does this, and on very petty things I get scolded. Right now both of them feel that I agree with the other, I try to remain on good terms with the other, and stop fights from happening by guiding them both. So both of them are like, you go talk to the other, you are cheating on me, I won't talk to you etc. Is it my fault to want them to calm down?
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2024.05.21 19:07 hulkgorgon Bachelor Degree in Psychology is useless in Psychology/Mental Health field. Pursue it ONLY if you are rich. That's the truth of the field in Malaysia.
A bachelor's degree in Psychology while interesting, only realistically provides you with 2 types of jobs.
My advice. DO NOT pursue the Psychology field if you are poor. Your love for children or mental health studies is great, but it will not cover your expenses and certainly will not help you survive in Kuala Lumpur. And if you have a Psychology degree and changed your mind, go for HR or data analyst jobs that pay 3k above and still utilize skills you learned from your degree. Or pursue a Master's and don't waste time in these centers.
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- Human resources/sales office jobs/data analyst - people/data corporate jobs
- Special Needs CenteTherapist Assistant - Mental Health field
- There is no proper training or seminar in Malaysia to help you understand better on how to help these children. The centers usually only give guidance for a bit and leave you on your own.
- Your job is to come up with tasks that YOU think could work rather than following some form of proven methods.
- You are handling the kids like a caretakebabysitter. Changing diapers, potty training, etc. If you are unlucky you might even have to become a driver to go to different houses to do sessions.
- The amount the parent pays for one month of class is unjustifiably expensive to the point of covering 2 employees' one-month salary combined. You are severely underpaid for the amount of physical work that is involved. MAJORITY of your job can be done by SPM holders. You are just a glorified babysitter who have to write a report every weekend. Some centers, do hire SPM holders.
My advice. DO NOT pursue the Psychology field if you are poor. Your love for children or mental health studies is great, but it will not cover your expenses and certainly will not help you survive in Kuala Lumpur. And if you have a Psychology degree and changed your mind, go for HR or data analyst jobs that pay 3k above and still utilize skills you learned from your degree. Or pursue a Master's and don't waste time in these centers.
2024.05.21 19:06 SillyDecoraKeiHyena Type me please!
Well i've already been typed as infp 6w7 but I've recently been pondering whether it's really something that fits me so I wanted to get other people's opinions on my typing.
• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.
— I'm 19 years old and identify as non-binary (he/they pronouns). I am extremely extra, I am eccentric, I love alternative styles, I love arts in all its forms, I am extremely sentimental, I can be considered strange to many, I talk too much, I seem extroverted around introverts and I seem introverted around other extroverts, I get tired easily in social situations, so I always prefer to talk more via cell phone or computer. I'm very extreme and I can end up feeling very angry, very happy or very sad out of nowhere, I usually try to be kind but I can be rude or insensitive if I'm very angry, I'm a person who really likes to fight for causes aimed at minorities since I'm from several minority groups, I hate injustice, I'm very stubborn and I don't like being contradicted while I always try to be someone who takes various arguments into account.
• Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?
— I'm autistic, adhd, i have gad (generalized anxiety disorder) and i might also have depression.
• Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?
— I grew up in a Christian family, which hurt me a lot when I got older since my family's religion is against my existence as a queer person, and it took them a long time to admit that I needed psychological help and things like that. It's difficult to leave my roots but in the end I ended up stopping believing in my parents' religion after everything I went through.
• What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not?
— I'm studying animation design at college, it's one of my passions and I really enjoy learning about the topics, I just hate the structure of taking exams and tests.
• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?
— I would feel crazy, insane. I need the company of some people close to me to regulate myself and talk about things I like, being alone makes me feel empty and strange. So yeah i would feel lonely.
• What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?
— I'm terrible at sports and I hate them, my motor coordination is horrible. I prefer indoor activities because there is less chance of me overloading myself with something (example: feeling unwell because of the sun, heat, etc.)
• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?
— I'm very curious, I love discovering new things, I have a lot of ideas at terrible times (in the middle of the night) and I really end up getting disorganized with the amount of things I think about. My ideas and curiosity are generally focused on creative processes like creating characters, universes, stories, but it can also simply be focused on a topic of interest to me (hyperfocuses / special interests). These are things that end up being more of a concept because I'm terrible at executing my ideas.
• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
— I don't like being the leader of projects and things like that for the simple fact that I'm not good at handling responsibilities, so I prefer to just execute some order, my problem is that I also really like doing things MY way so it's a bit contradictory. However, in the moments when I have had to be a leader (I was forced to since my colleagues didn't want to do anything) I haven't been a bad leader, I research the project topics and let people choose their topics to present.
• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?
— I'm not good at being organized or at things that involve motor coordination. For example, it took me decades to be able to tie my shoe laces, know which direction is right or left and I keep forgetting important dates. I don't like using my hands to do activities because they shake a lot and so I'm always horrible at things that involve using my hands. The only things I think I'm good at are playing games and drawing, and even then, drawing is an extreme challenge since I always put a lot of pressure on the pencil when I'm drawing or writing.
• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.
— Yes, art is something that I have loved since I was young because of the fact that I can express my creativity, ideas and feelings. I've always been passionate about cartoons so my drawing style is very cartoony. I really like seeing fanart from media that I love, but I also love seeing old paintings, especially from Roman and Greek times. I not only like drawing and painting, but I also love art in general. I love cinema, theater, books, sculptures, etc. One day I want to know how to write very well and be able to make books or even draw well enough to be able to make a cartoon. I want to be able to share the comfort I experience by seeing art that makes me feel happy and represented by doing something that also makes people happy through my art.
• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
— I have some regrets from the past, but in general I was more "normal" and happy back then, I wouldn't change anything because I follow the idea that my mistakes and successes made me who I am today. As for my present, I try to make the most of it but I'm not going to lie that I'm not a big fan of my current state, I feel a bit useless and very behind compared to most people I know my age so I end up preferring to think more about the future and how things will get better later. At the same time that I really appreciate some current moments of my present, like being able to play with my girlfriend most days, this makes me very happy.
• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?
— I like helping people, sometimes I even try to help people who didn't ask for my help if they are people I really like (I may end up being seen as inconvenient because of this). I always want to be able to help everyone, but currently because of my mood I may end up not being very helpful as my mental health is not the best, even so, I always try to be very patient and friendly with people who are going through difficult times, even when sometimes I just want to be left alone and I'm not in the mood to help anyone, especially because I know what it's like to be in a bad place and i don't want people to feel rejected.
• Do you need logical consistency in your life?
— I'm very sentimental and I often don't think very logically BUT in arguments and other serious situations I need people to use logic and proven arguments just like i do in those situations so that the debate or serious situation isn't just a bunch of nonsense. I am a sentimental person, but to develop some thought, I need logical arguments
• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?
— In general, I think it's very important, but I personally can't be productive and efficient since I have a lot of executive dysfunction. I KNOW it's important but I can't be like that.
• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?
— I like things to be my way but I don't really think I control people? I always impose my opinions a lot but I don't really control people.
• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?
— I like games, reading books, role-playing, drawing and even trying to write books. I really like fantasy things. It seems more fun than my reality and I like to distract myself from real life things.
• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?
— I like learning things when they involve what I like or at least are more interactive and I hate math, chemistry and physics btw. I have a lot of difficulty with classes in subjects that require a lot of memorization, I prefer things that are relative and interpretative like arts and literature and I really like classes that involve creativity. I also hate classes where the teacher just talks and talks and talks and doesn't do anything interactive and fun. I generally prefer to study at home for very short periods of time because I learn easier alone and study very briefly because I have difficulty studying for long periods of time.
• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?
— I'm terrible at planning things, I usually do things at the last minute and I improvise a lot.
• What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?
— I think I get a lot of inspiration from artists I like, such as Rebecca Sugar, Tyler Joseph and others. They are very creative people who do things that I really like (I love Steven Universe, which Rebecca Sugar created, and I love Twenty One Pilots, which is the band where Tyler Joseph is the lead singer).
• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
— My biggest fears are being alone, because it's scary not having anyone who understands you and who supports you and loves you, and being a burden to the people I love, because I don't want to be an extremely dependent and useless person and disappoint the people I love.
• What do the "highs" in your life look like?
— These are the days when I feel excited to do things and I can be productive doing everything I need in my routine as well as doing my hobbies and being able to relax.
• What do the "lows" in your life look like?
— These are the days when I feel sad, empty and discouraged, I can't do my routine tasks and I force myself to do them anyway in an extremely bad mood, my hobbies may even distract me on those days but it will be a strange feeling as if I'm not really excited to do what I like and I'm just distracting myself from my problems.
• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?
— Ah, I don't have much attachment to reality and I prefer fantasy things, I constantly get caught up in my own thoughts and I prefer to create happy fantasy situations so I don't deal with my real problems. I'm also pretty distracted in general so regardless of whether I'm fantasizing or not I end up missing a lot of details and dissociating
• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?
— I would probably try to distract myself by thinking about things I like or talking to myself, depending on if the day was bad I would eventually end up thinking a lot about my personal problems and becoming depressed.
• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
— I'm very slow and indecisive when it comes to choosing things, I always want to gather as much information about each option in my mind or by researching on the internet about it and then I always end up between multiple options and changing my mind several times until I arrive at a concrete result.
• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?
— Some of my emotions may be processed much later than they should have been processed or simply be different from what people usually have. For example, I'm not very good at dealing with grief and I end up not showing the sadness that my other relatives do, but generally I feel my emotions in a very extreme and volatile way. I feel happy for very silly things and when I'm happy I'm VERY HAPPY and I get sad very easily and when I get sad I get VERY SAD.
• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?
— Yes. I really like demonstrating my opinions and being authentic, it's a very important thing for me, but even so, I sometimes end up just remaining silent or agreeing with something that I don't really agree with because I'm too afraid of being hated and I generally want everyone to like me, even people I'm not very close to. However, I can also be a person with very strong opinions and be very stubborn about what I believe in if it is something linked to social issues or linked to things that I REALLY like.
• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why?
— I break rules that I believe don't make sense, if it's something that I think makes sense I'll follow that rule, but if it's stupid and I don't understand why I have to follow it I'll probably break the rule. I've also never been a person who understands authorities, for me anyone has the right to question something if it's not a useful or logical rule. I agree that rules are important but that they can be adapted, eliminated and added if necessary for people.
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• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.
— I'm 19 years old and identify as non-binary (he/they pronouns). I am extremely extra, I am eccentric, I love alternative styles, I love arts in all its forms, I am extremely sentimental, I can be considered strange to many, I talk too much, I seem extroverted around introverts and I seem introverted around other extroverts, I get tired easily in social situations, so I always prefer to talk more via cell phone or computer. I'm very extreme and I can end up feeling very angry, very happy or very sad out of nowhere, I usually try to be kind but I can be rude or insensitive if I'm very angry, I'm a person who really likes to fight for causes aimed at minorities since I'm from several minority groups, I hate injustice, I'm very stubborn and I don't like being contradicted while I always try to be someone who takes various arguments into account.
• Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?
— I'm autistic, adhd, i have gad (generalized anxiety disorder) and i might also have depression.
• Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?
— I grew up in a Christian family, which hurt me a lot when I got older since my family's religion is against my existence as a queer person, and it took them a long time to admit that I needed psychological help and things like that. It's difficult to leave my roots but in the end I ended up stopping believing in my parents' religion after everything I went through.
• What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not?
— I'm studying animation design at college, it's one of my passions and I really enjoy learning about the topics, I just hate the structure of taking exams and tests.
• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?
— I would feel crazy, insane. I need the company of some people close to me to regulate myself and talk about things I like, being alone makes me feel empty and strange. So yeah i would feel lonely.
• What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?
— I'm terrible at sports and I hate them, my motor coordination is horrible. I prefer indoor activities because there is less chance of me overloading myself with something (example: feeling unwell because of the sun, heat, etc.)
• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?
— I'm very curious, I love discovering new things, I have a lot of ideas at terrible times (in the middle of the night) and I really end up getting disorganized with the amount of things I think about. My ideas and curiosity are generally focused on creative processes like creating characters, universes, stories, but it can also simply be focused on a topic of interest to me (hyperfocuses / special interests). These are things that end up being more of a concept because I'm terrible at executing my ideas.
• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
— I don't like being the leader of projects and things like that for the simple fact that I'm not good at handling responsibilities, so I prefer to just execute some order, my problem is that I also really like doing things MY way so it's a bit contradictory. However, in the moments when I have had to be a leader (I was forced to since my colleagues didn't want to do anything) I haven't been a bad leader, I research the project topics and let people choose their topics to present.
• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?
— I'm not good at being organized or at things that involve motor coordination. For example, it took me decades to be able to tie my shoe laces, know which direction is right or left and I keep forgetting important dates. I don't like using my hands to do activities because they shake a lot and so I'm always horrible at things that involve using my hands. The only things I think I'm good at are playing games and drawing, and even then, drawing is an extreme challenge since I always put a lot of pressure on the pencil when I'm drawing or writing.
• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.
— Yes, art is something that I have loved since I was young because of the fact that I can express my creativity, ideas and feelings. I've always been passionate about cartoons so my drawing style is very cartoony. I really like seeing fanart from media that I love, but I also love seeing old paintings, especially from Roman and Greek times. I not only like drawing and painting, but I also love art in general. I love cinema, theater, books, sculptures, etc. One day I want to know how to write very well and be able to make books or even draw well enough to be able to make a cartoon. I want to be able to share the comfort I experience by seeing art that makes me feel happy and represented by doing something that also makes people happy through my art.
• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
— I have some regrets from the past, but in general I was more "normal" and happy back then, I wouldn't change anything because I follow the idea that my mistakes and successes made me who I am today. As for my present, I try to make the most of it but I'm not going to lie that I'm not a big fan of my current state, I feel a bit useless and very behind compared to most people I know my age so I end up preferring to think more about the future and how things will get better later. At the same time that I really appreciate some current moments of my present, like being able to play with my girlfriend most days, this makes me very happy.
• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?
— I like helping people, sometimes I even try to help people who didn't ask for my help if they are people I really like (I may end up being seen as inconvenient because of this). I always want to be able to help everyone, but currently because of my mood I may end up not being very helpful as my mental health is not the best, even so, I always try to be very patient and friendly with people who are going through difficult times, even when sometimes I just want to be left alone and I'm not in the mood to help anyone, especially because I know what it's like to be in a bad place and i don't want people to feel rejected.
• Do you need logical consistency in your life?
— I'm very sentimental and I often don't think very logically BUT in arguments and other serious situations I need people to use logic and proven arguments just like i do in those situations so that the debate or serious situation isn't just a bunch of nonsense. I am a sentimental person, but to develop some thought, I need logical arguments
• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?
— In general, I think it's very important, but I personally can't be productive and efficient since I have a lot of executive dysfunction. I KNOW it's important but I can't be like that.
• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?
— I like things to be my way but I don't really think I control people? I always impose my opinions a lot but I don't really control people.
• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?
— I like games, reading books, role-playing, drawing and even trying to write books. I really like fantasy things. It seems more fun than my reality and I like to distract myself from real life things.
• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?
— I like learning things when they involve what I like or at least are more interactive and I hate math, chemistry and physics btw. I have a lot of difficulty with classes in subjects that require a lot of memorization, I prefer things that are relative and interpretative like arts and literature and I really like classes that involve creativity. I also hate classes where the teacher just talks and talks and talks and doesn't do anything interactive and fun. I generally prefer to study at home for very short periods of time because I learn easier alone and study very briefly because I have difficulty studying for long periods of time.
• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?
— I'm terrible at planning things, I usually do things at the last minute and I improvise a lot.
• What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?
— I think I get a lot of inspiration from artists I like, such as Rebecca Sugar, Tyler Joseph and others. They are very creative people who do things that I really like (I love Steven Universe, which Rebecca Sugar created, and I love Twenty One Pilots, which is the band where Tyler Joseph is the lead singer).
• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
— My biggest fears are being alone, because it's scary not having anyone who understands you and who supports you and loves you, and being a burden to the people I love, because I don't want to be an extremely dependent and useless person and disappoint the people I love.
• What do the "highs" in your life look like?
— These are the days when I feel excited to do things and I can be productive doing everything I need in my routine as well as doing my hobbies and being able to relax.
• What do the "lows" in your life look like?
— These are the days when I feel sad, empty and discouraged, I can't do my routine tasks and I force myself to do them anyway in an extremely bad mood, my hobbies may even distract me on those days but it will be a strange feeling as if I'm not really excited to do what I like and I'm just distracting myself from my problems.
• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?
— Ah, I don't have much attachment to reality and I prefer fantasy things, I constantly get caught up in my own thoughts and I prefer to create happy fantasy situations so I don't deal with my real problems. I'm also pretty distracted in general so regardless of whether I'm fantasizing or not I end up missing a lot of details and dissociating
• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?
— I would probably try to distract myself by thinking about things I like or talking to myself, depending on if the day was bad I would eventually end up thinking a lot about my personal problems and becoming depressed.
• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
— I'm very slow and indecisive when it comes to choosing things, I always want to gather as much information about each option in my mind or by researching on the internet about it and then I always end up between multiple options and changing my mind several times until I arrive at a concrete result.
• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?
— Some of my emotions may be processed much later than they should have been processed or simply be different from what people usually have. For example, I'm not very good at dealing with grief and I end up not showing the sadness that my other relatives do, but generally I feel my emotions in a very extreme and volatile way. I feel happy for very silly things and when I'm happy I'm VERY HAPPY and I get sad very easily and when I get sad I get VERY SAD.
• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?
— Yes. I really like demonstrating my opinions and being authentic, it's a very important thing for me, but even so, I sometimes end up just remaining silent or agreeing with something that I don't really agree with because I'm too afraid of being hated and I generally want everyone to like me, even people I'm not very close to. However, I can also be a person with very strong opinions and be very stubborn about what I believe in if it is something linked to social issues or linked to things that I REALLY like.
• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why?
— I break rules that I believe don't make sense, if it's something that I think makes sense I'll follow that rule, but if it's stupid and I don't understand why I have to follow it I'll probably break the rule. I've also never been a person who understands authorities, for me anyone has the right to question something if it's not a useful or logical rule. I agree that rules are important but that they can be adapted, eliminated and added if necessary for people.
2024.05.21 19:05 Extension-Conscious ACADEMIC CV for a masters program . is this good? not sure if this is the right sub for academic cvs though
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2024.05.21 19:05 CaptainN_GameMaster US Interstate 101: I feel like a real dummy for not realizing the US Interstate system follows some simple patterns which make it a lot easier to remember
I feel like an idiot for not picking up on this sooner and I'm sure some of you are rolling your eyes. I wish someone had taught me these things a long time ago.
Of course there are exceptions to this system where interstates did not turn out as planned but it's made directions easier for me.
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- 2-digit interstates ending in 0 run east-west while those ending in 5 run north-south and are typically the main arteries of the interstate system. Examples: I-10 runs from Los Angeles to Jacksonville, FL; I-95 runs from Miami to Maine.
- The east-west interstates (ending in 0) have numbers ascending as you go north, while north-south interstates (ending in 5) have numbers ascending as you go east. For example I-10 spans the southern border of the country and I-90 crosses the north of the country. I-5 runs along the pacific coast and I-95 spans the east coast.
- Spurs and bypasses of an Interstate follow a simple naming pattern:
- Spurs (i.e. a branch of the interstate which does not return again to intersect with the main interstate) are given three digits where the first digit is odd and the last two digits match the parent Interstate. For example: without even looking at a map, you can assume I-555 is a spur of I-55.
- Bypasses or loops are given three digits where the leading digit is even and the last two digits match the parent Interstate. For example: I-265 originates from I-65 and circles Louisville to return to I-65.
Of course there are exceptions to this system where interstates did not turn out as planned but it's made directions easier for me.
2024.05.21 19:05 No-Yoghurt-8758 Still unemployed (25f) and my boyfriend (26m) wants me to move in?
We are in love and are crazy about each other. But despite this I am not sure if this is a bad decision. We’ve been dating almost a year now, and spend a ton of time together. I was laid off back in January and have still been looking. I’ve been applying to full time corporate positions similar to what I was doing before nonstop and have had several interviews going all the way up to the final round, but never seem to make it all the way through. It’s been very disheartening. I plan on getting at the very least part-time retail job when my Unemployment runs out. The only reason I haven’t got one yet is that the hourly job would pay less than what my Unemployment currently is.
We have been talking about moving in together for a few months, even prior to me losing my job. I do think he thought I would have a job by now, but he has continued to be supportive. He even paid for my plane tickets home recently so I can visit my family to be at my sister’s graduation. He has also helped me with my food and groceries so I can focus on paying my rent and other bills. He has even said I can get on his insurance once mine runs out. I just have a feeling he is going to start to resent me. It’s looking like I’m not going to be able to make as much as I did before anytime soon. I’m confident I can get part-time job, but it will not be enough to help pay our rent in the high cost of living city we live in. He makes three times as much as I did, so he is very well off. He assures me he has no problem paying for the rent in its entirety until I can get something.
Our leases end in august so we have started looking at apartments now. My mom has told me to be cautious because if I rely on on him, he could take it away and ask me to leave at anytime. He has assured me he would never do this, that is in love with me and wants to marry me, but wants to see how we do together first. I’ve met all his family and friends. My lease and his lease end soon and I want to move in together, but it would be putting so much reliance on him and trusting he will catch me if I fall. The alternative is me moving back home 2000 miles away with my parents. What should I do?
TLDR: Should I move in with my long-term boyfriend, despite being unemployed??
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We have been talking about moving in together for a few months, even prior to me losing my job. I do think he thought I would have a job by now, but he has continued to be supportive. He even paid for my plane tickets home recently so I can visit my family to be at my sister’s graduation. He has also helped me with my food and groceries so I can focus on paying my rent and other bills. He has even said I can get on his insurance once mine runs out. I just have a feeling he is going to start to resent me. It’s looking like I’m not going to be able to make as much as I did before anytime soon. I’m confident I can get part-time job, but it will not be enough to help pay our rent in the high cost of living city we live in. He makes three times as much as I did, so he is very well off. He assures me he has no problem paying for the rent in its entirety until I can get something.
Our leases end in august so we have started looking at apartments now. My mom has told me to be cautious because if I rely on on him, he could take it away and ask me to leave at anytime. He has assured me he would never do this, that is in love with me and wants to marry me, but wants to see how we do together first. I’ve met all his family and friends. My lease and his lease end soon and I want to move in together, but it would be putting so much reliance on him and trusting he will catch me if I fall. The alternative is me moving back home 2000 miles away with my parents. What should I do?
TLDR: Should I move in with my long-term boyfriend, despite being unemployed??
2024.05.21 19:04 SithumKottearachchi IAL or a foundation course?
First of all, serious replies only. And I tried contacting SLIIT City uni in this case but all 3 calls I made had issues with hearing properly so I gave up on their call support.
I'm a 17yro student, finished off OLs with some good results. I've done IAS levels on just Mathematics. It seems to me that it's going to take quite a while to complete IAL in a way that would satisfy me, personally because I don't want to spend my parents money on something that has no use for me.
I'm planning on choosing CS as my career base, to make some educational qualifications I'm having my eyes on SLIIT city uni. (There's 2 things called SLIIT uni and SLIIT city uni and I have no idea about the difference and what to choose).
SLIIT city uni offers moving into UK for the final year to a BSc after completing a 1 year foundation course and 2 years higher diploma, to Bedfordshire uni to be specific. I don't see a reason to complete IALs just to join SLIIT city uni and forget about it. Or am I missing anything here? What's better SLIIT UNI or SLIIT CITY UNI? To be honest I'm kinda lost here.
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I'm a 17yro student, finished off OLs with some good results. I've done IAS levels on just Mathematics. It seems to me that it's going to take quite a while to complete IAL in a way that would satisfy me, personally because I don't want to spend my parents money on something that has no use for me.
I'm planning on choosing CS as my career base, to make some educational qualifications I'm having my eyes on SLIIT city uni. (There's 2 things called SLIIT uni and SLIIT city uni and I have no idea about the difference and what to choose).
SLIIT city uni offers moving into UK for the final year to a BSc after completing a 1 year foundation course and 2 years higher diploma, to Bedfordshire uni to be specific. I don't see a reason to complete IALs just to join SLIIT city uni and forget about it. Or am I missing anything here? What's better SLIIT UNI or SLIIT CITY UNI? To be honest I'm kinda lost here.
2024.05.21 19:02 Deeedeebobeedee Questions for people supporting Israel
As someone who was born and raised in the uk I can understand how people as a base instinct would root for Israel, as a teenager I saw posts on social media about Palestinian oppression and started sharing them. I was told off by my mum, my posts all got removed and when I asked a teacher about it in school they told me being anti Zionist was anti semitic, everything I saw in the news was pro Israel and labelling Palestine as a terrorist state. I have some Jewish roots so have always been raised with an awareness of antisemitism, my mum taught me about the holocaust as well as other things like South Africa’s apartheid. However the one thing I can’t understand is how people are not only still siding with Israel but not actively doing their best to show support and join Palestinian demonstrations. I can see how people would start with Israel but not how people can still be actively supporting a genocide. I just have questions because I still can’t understand how you can see what’s going on and think that it’s alright.
1.) what entitles Israel to forcefully remove civilians from their homes? 2.) what entitles Israel to commit ecocide which almost exclusively harms civilians? (which they have done en mass. According to many sources.) 3.) If you support Israel do you also support the US and UK invasions in the Middle East? 4.) Do you see Palestinian infants as terrorists and how can you justify the deaths of so many children? 5.) What is your opinion on the constant use of drones simply to make noise with the purpose of depriving everyone in Gaza of sleep (which is a common torture method and goes against the Geneva convention) 6.) have you seen the videos from Palestinian content creators like Motaz Azaiza and if so what is your opinion to seeing content like babies being pulled out of rubble? 7.) How is a state that excludes people from living in areas, walking down certain streets and restricting basic human rights and access to water, electricity and food not an apartheidal regime? (All against the Geneva convention.) 8.) why is the reaction to October 7th so disproportionate? 9.) Do you realise that Hamas only exists as a result of Palestinian oppression? 10.) Do you know that the amount of people detained by Israel without trial or charges even just currently; dwarfs the amount of hostages taken by hamas? 11.) What’s the justification behind videos (which are for the most part proven to be untampered) of Israeli snipers, tanks and soldiers firing at and killing children, unarmed civilians literally holding white flags as well as clearly marked vehicles carrying aid workers. 12.) How can you see pictures and videos of entire cities reduced to rubble and think that’s ok as a military act? 13.) Do you respect the amount of articles of the Geneva convention Israel has broken as a legitimate response to October 7th and if so at what point did these actions become justified for you? 14.) what makes terrorists worse than an army systematically committing the same atrocities on a much larger scale? 15.) Do you realise that the nations that support you are mostly doing so against the wishes of their citizens to support the war economy. (Check novaramedia for their polls they’ve reported them on most of the biggest financing countries including the Uk and US according to entirely trusted sources.) 16.) Why are Hamas so much more willing to enter negotiations and why are Israel so resistant to them. 17.) Do you think Israel should be going further? 18.) And lastly at what point is it too far for you?
P.S I am not writing this to bait anyone and my position has been formed from a standpoint that has started out pro Israeli and was neutral until late 2021. I stand with the Palestinians from a country that not only has heavily supported Israel for years but was a key part of its formation, I have formed my opinion based on the facts of what I’ve seen despite being raised entirely to the contrary. (Also my mum is currently watching a documentary on the nakba, she also now firmly supports Palestine having raised me in a household that believed in Zionism.)
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1.) what entitles Israel to forcefully remove civilians from their homes? 2.) what entitles Israel to commit ecocide which almost exclusively harms civilians? (which they have done en mass. According to many sources.) 3.) If you support Israel do you also support the US and UK invasions in the Middle East? 4.) Do you see Palestinian infants as terrorists and how can you justify the deaths of so many children? 5.) What is your opinion on the constant use of drones simply to make noise with the purpose of depriving everyone in Gaza of sleep (which is a common torture method and goes against the Geneva convention) 6.) have you seen the videos from Palestinian content creators like Motaz Azaiza and if so what is your opinion to seeing content like babies being pulled out of rubble? 7.) How is a state that excludes people from living in areas, walking down certain streets and restricting basic human rights and access to water, electricity and food not an apartheidal regime? (All against the Geneva convention.) 8.) why is the reaction to October 7th so disproportionate? 9.) Do you realise that Hamas only exists as a result of Palestinian oppression? 10.) Do you know that the amount of people detained by Israel without trial or charges even just currently; dwarfs the amount of hostages taken by hamas? 11.) What’s the justification behind videos (which are for the most part proven to be untampered) of Israeli snipers, tanks and soldiers firing at and killing children, unarmed civilians literally holding white flags as well as clearly marked vehicles carrying aid workers. 12.) How can you see pictures and videos of entire cities reduced to rubble and think that’s ok as a military act? 13.) Do you respect the amount of articles of the Geneva convention Israel has broken as a legitimate response to October 7th and if so at what point did these actions become justified for you? 14.) what makes terrorists worse than an army systematically committing the same atrocities on a much larger scale? 15.) Do you realise that the nations that support you are mostly doing so against the wishes of their citizens to support the war economy. (Check novaramedia for their polls they’ve reported them on most of the biggest financing countries including the Uk and US according to entirely trusted sources.) 16.) Why are Hamas so much more willing to enter negotiations and why are Israel so resistant to them. 17.) Do you think Israel should be going further? 18.) And lastly at what point is it too far for you?
P.S I am not writing this to bait anyone and my position has been formed from a standpoint that has started out pro Israeli and was neutral until late 2021. I stand with the Palestinians from a country that not only has heavily supported Israel for years but was a key part of its formation, I have formed my opinion based on the facts of what I’ve seen despite being raised entirely to the contrary. (Also my mum is currently watching a documentary on the nakba, she also now firmly supports Palestine having raised me in a household that believed in Zionism.)
2024.05.21 19:01 Resident-Street-4847 Do Kpop Kdrama stans Americans can't stand anything from American media even commercials and songs or non Korean movie OST?
One time i read some kdrama reddit post everybody was saying how after they discovered kdrama they have no interest in media from their own country. ANd they were saying how it's cringe and it's so bad compared to korean. So i wonder how they live in USA when they hear music or see American or Nonkorean medias in public? Do they really hate living in their own country?
Oh And yeah, they may hear a Lot of Latin/Mexican music if they are in the cities with Latin minorities Or Other minirities where there are lots of Latin peoples, Indian, etc. Do they cringe when they are around all this non korean stuff?
It's alittle weird to some of us because we're multicultural and even have parents of different cultures and enjoy various cultures including the American one but the Kpop/Kdrama stans live in the USA and will only think Korean stuff has value.
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Oh And yeah, they may hear a Lot of Latin/Mexican music if they are in the cities with Latin minorities Or Other minirities where there are lots of Latin peoples, Indian, etc. Do they cringe when they are around all this non korean stuff?
It's alittle weird to some of us because we're multicultural and even have parents of different cultures and enjoy various cultures including the American one but the Kpop/Kdrama stans live in the USA and will only think Korean stuff has value.
2024.05.21 19:01 No-Yoghurt-8758 Still unemployed (25f) and my boyfriend (26m) wants me to move in?
We are in love and are crazy about each other. But despite this I am not sure if this is a bad decision. We’ve been dating almost a year now, and spend a ton of time together. I was laid off back in January and have still been looking. I’ve been applying to full time corporate positions similar to what I was doing before nonstop and have had several interviews going all the way up to the final round, but never seem to make it all the way through. It’s been very disheartening. I plan on getting at the very least part-time retail job when my Unemployment runs out. The only reason I haven’t got one yet is that the hourly job would pay less than what my Unemployment currently is.
We have been talking about moving in together for a few months, even prior to me losing my job. I do think he thought I would have a job by now, but he has continued to be supportive. He even paid for my plane tickets home recently so I can visit my family to be at my sister’s graduation. He has also helped me with my food and groceries so I can focus on paying my rent and other bills. He has even said I can get on his insurance once mine runs out. I just have a feeling he is going to start to resent me. It’s looking like I’m not going to be able to make as much as I did before anytime soon. I’m confident I can get part-time job, but it will not be enough to help pay our rent in the high cost of living city we live in. He makes three times as much as I did, so he is very well off. He assures me he has no problem paying for the rent in its entirety until I can get something.
Our leases end in august so we have started looking at apartments now. My mom has told me to be cautious because if I rely on on him, he could take it away and ask me to leave at anytime. He has assured me he would never do this, that is in love with me and wants to marry me, but wants to see how we do together first. I’ve met all his family and friends. My lease and his lease end soon and I want to move in together, but it would be putting so much reliance on him and trusting he will catch me if I fall. The alternative is me moving back home 2000 miles away with my parents. What should I do?
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We have been talking about moving in together for a few months, even prior to me losing my job. I do think he thought I would have a job by now, but he has continued to be supportive. He even paid for my plane tickets home recently so I can visit my family to be at my sister’s graduation. He has also helped me with my food and groceries so I can focus on paying my rent and other bills. He has even said I can get on his insurance once mine runs out. I just have a feeling he is going to start to resent me. It’s looking like I’m not going to be able to make as much as I did before anytime soon. I’m confident I can get part-time job, but it will not be enough to help pay our rent in the high cost of living city we live in. He makes three times as much as I did, so he is very well off. He assures me he has no problem paying for the rent in its entirety until I can get something.
Our leases end in august so we have started looking at apartments now. My mom has told me to be cautious because if I rely on on him, he could take it away and ask me to leave at anytime. He has assured me he would never do this, that is in love with me and wants to marry me, but wants to see how we do together first. I’ve met all his family and friends. My lease and his lease end soon and I want to move in together, but it would be putting so much reliance on him and trusting he will catch me if I fall. The alternative is me moving back home 2000 miles away with my parents. What should I do?
2024.05.21 19:00 No-Yoghurt-8758 Still unemployed (25f) and my boyfriend (26m) wants me to move in?
We are in love and are crazy about each other. But despite this I am not sure if this is a bad decision. We’ve been dating almost a year now, and spend a ton of time together. I was laid off back in January and have still been looking. I’ve been applying to full time corporate positions similar to what I was doing before nonstop and have had several interviews going all the way up to the final round, but never seem to make it all the way through. It’s been very disheartening. I plan on getting at the very least part-time retail job when my Unemployment runs out. The only reason I haven’t got one yet is that the hourly job would pay less than what my Unemployment currently is.
We have been talking about moving in together for a few months, even prior to me losing my job. I do think he thought I would have a job by now, but he has continued to be supportive. He even paid for my plane tickets home recently so I can visit my family to be at my sister’s graduation. He has also helped me with my food and groceries so I can focus on paying my rent and other bills. He has even said I can get on his insurance once mine runs out. I just have a feeling he is going to start to resent me. It’s looking like I’m not going to be able to make as much as I did before anytime soon. I’m confident I can get part-time job, but it will not be enough to help pay our rent in the high cost of living city we live in. He makes three times as much as I did, so he is very well off. He assures me he has no problem paying for the rent in its entirety until I can get something.
Our leases end in august so we have started looking at apartments now. My mom has told me to be cautious because if I rely on on him, he could take it away and ask me to leave at anytime. He has assured me he would never do this, that is in love with me and wants to marry me, but wants to see how we do together first. I’ve met all his family and friends. My lease and his lease end soon and I want to move in together, but it would be putting so much reliance on him and trusting he will catch me if I fall. The alternative is me moving back home 2000 miles away with my parents. What should I do?
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We have been talking about moving in together for a few months, even prior to me losing my job. I do think he thought I would have a job by now, but he has continued to be supportive. He even paid for my plane tickets home recently so I can visit my family to be at my sister’s graduation. He has also helped me with my food and groceries so I can focus on paying my rent and other bills. He has even said I can get on his insurance once mine runs out. I just have a feeling he is going to start to resent me. It’s looking like I’m not going to be able to make as much as I did before anytime soon. I’m confident I can get part-time job, but it will not be enough to help pay our rent in the high cost of living city we live in. He makes three times as much as I did, so he is very well off. He assures me he has no problem paying for the rent in its entirety until I can get something.
Our leases end in august so we have started looking at apartments now. My mom has told me to be cautious because if I rely on on him, he could take it away and ask me to leave at anytime. He has assured me he would never do this, that is in love with me and wants to marry me, but wants to see how we do together first. I’ve met all his family and friends. My lease and his lease end soon and I want to move in together, but it would be putting so much reliance on him and trusting he will catch me if I fall. The alternative is me moving back home 2000 miles away with my parents. What should I do?
2024.05.21 18:59 vernacular921 Hugs to you all
Just wanted to give (and receive) a virtual hug to those who are feeling the pain. I (mom) have been coparenting since my son was 2 years old, and now he is 11. He was so young... My ex got a new woman about 5 years ago. At some point my son started calling her mom as well, mostly influenced because she has a son the same age. The two boys are treated the same at that house, and it just naturally happened and I couldn’t stop it without being punitive to my innocent son. Anyway, it has been such a painful past 9 years. At times, this woman takes my place and robs me of my motherhood to my son. Whether intentional or accidental, sometimes she will not tell me about things like picture day or meet-the-teacher if the notice comes home while he’s at her house, for example. Not include me in his class’s parent group online. As if my son isn’t the most important thing in the world to me? So I end up feeling like I lost custody of my son and I’m a second tier parent. And this is NOT the case. I’m right here. You can’t make me go away to pretend like you have a perfect little nuclear family! She doesn’t share custody of her son… He was a dead beat dad I guess. I can be grateful my son has a dad who made him a priority like me. But that doesn’t stop the pain. Having my heart ripped out every other holiday. She doesn’t know what that’s like. And I just have to tuck it away and smile for my son because he doesn’t deserve to be in the middle of this bullshit. It sucks. Anyone going through the same thing, my heart goes out to you.
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