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2014.05.17 18:23 SmokeyPeanutRic DDOI
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A spider in your bed? A seafood aspic? Third degree burns? Thanks, I Hate It
2014.12.02 00:19 Poemi Two Redditors colliding. It's a small world.
2redditors1cup! a place where folks across the internet cross ways in an unexpected way! sometimes the world can be incredibly small.
2024.05.21 16:22 ThrowAr_006 AITA I Think I (18F) ruined my partner (18M)'s life?
Now for a little background my partners mother is incredibly toxic. Ignored her sons mental health, blamed others for his problems and multiple times tried to ruin her sons father's image to me when we started dating.
I'm a very open and out there person, and was taught by my family to express my feelings and not hide. So when I saw my partner hiding his feelings and hiding his issues I told him to stop. To start seeking help and confide in me. Which in turn then turned into him snapping and shouting his true fears and anger at his family when they bugged him.
They then blamed me for his mental health being in the ground and tried to make him leave me, but he chose to stay. Further down the line I had to save him from life attempts and more. This made them hate me more as I asked them many times to help him and said things like he was faking it to it wasn't my business.
Eventually things died down a little. They still told him to leave me but it never worked.
Then last year my mother passed away very abruptly, my partner is a first aider but also someone I need, so I called him to come support me. His mother then told him and his step dad I was FAKING until she was outside and saw ambulances.
This made it hard to see each other.
Things were still tense but died down, later in the year around September time, he moved in with me to escape his family and so we could see each other more and see his family whenever plans where made. Now my fiance is a very introverted person, and rarely makes plans and if he does he usually forgets or cancels. Which often ment he didn't see his family. (They also made no effort to see him) So since Nov ’23 up until yesterday they fought with him.
Telling people I was controlling him and never let him out. When I was actively trying to do the opposite even taking him to my own family outings to include him.
How the issue that's made me make this post.
On our 18th birthday in April we had a small fight as I'm very off with alcohol and don't really like it. He however likes to drink on occasion. We had plans but he went behind my back and planned a small get together when we got home from our plans with his family. Without me. I was upset but understood. I asked him not to drink much as I have a fear of vomiting and couldn't help him if he was drunk. He made a promise to me to be home by 10 and not be drunk. After ignoring me on both and coming home at midnight we fought but sorted the issue. However his mother hated I was messaging him for info. Called me a liar and controlling, saying he wasn't drinking and why does it matter where he is. I struggle with anxiety to an extent my partner made me get life360 so if I was worried I could check. And I had proof he was at a bar and he even showed me he was. Which I showed her and told her as his partner I'm not wrong to want to know he is ok. As I said we as a couple had already sorted the issue, she hadn't.
Over the past few days she's been telling him your coming home ECT ECT.
After the birthday issue I chose to go no contact with her, and if she's was adamant about speaking to me it would have to be in the presence of my father as she's made threats to hit and choke me. Well yesterday she called to say he's coming home now if buts or maybes and that she wanted to speak to me. As I said I didn't want to speak with her. So she threatened to come to our house. We told her no but she still came.
She shouted at my partner for nearly an hour to come down, to drag me to her to chat, even going as far to say I do bad things to him, speak for him and control him, threading to call the police and say I was no treating him right.
As 18 year olds home alone I was scared, I called my father for advice and was told "either you call the police or I will and I won't hold my tongue" (references the threats she's made to me) so I did, the police came and took a statement and left.
Now this morning his mother basically said you have chosen to cut me off. (My family have said it was just a blackmail message) Saying she won't be there and how there relationship is over.
He was upset but told me it wasn't my fault but he did wish I just spoke to her.
His best friend who also doesn't like me for the "controlling" reasons. Has now told his gf who was also my friend that I've ruined him ECT ECT and she's now dropped me.
I've tried for almost 5months to avoid fights and I still ruined his mother, best friend and my friend. By not speaking. It's highly likely any of the people from the story may find this.
Apologies for formatting and errors , on mobile and dyslexic. + Stressed fast typing.
TLDR: PARTNERS MOTHER HATED I HELPED HER SON AND HE DIDNT SEE HER SO SHE SCREAMED AT US AND THE POLICE WERE CALLED AND SHE DISOWNED MY PARTNER.
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I'm a very open and out there person, and was taught by my family to express my feelings and not hide. So when I saw my partner hiding his feelings and hiding his issues I told him to stop. To start seeking help and confide in me. Which in turn then turned into him snapping and shouting his true fears and anger at his family when they bugged him.
They then blamed me for his mental health being in the ground and tried to make him leave me, but he chose to stay. Further down the line I had to save him from life attempts and more. This made them hate me more as I asked them many times to help him and said things like he was faking it to it wasn't my business.
Eventually things died down a little. They still told him to leave me but it never worked.
Then last year my mother passed away very abruptly, my partner is a first aider but also someone I need, so I called him to come support me. His mother then told him and his step dad I was FAKING until she was outside and saw ambulances.
This made it hard to see each other.
Things were still tense but died down, later in the year around September time, he moved in with me to escape his family and so we could see each other more and see his family whenever plans where made. Now my fiance is a very introverted person, and rarely makes plans and if he does he usually forgets or cancels. Which often ment he didn't see his family. (They also made no effort to see him) So since Nov ’23 up until yesterday they fought with him.
Telling people I was controlling him and never let him out. When I was actively trying to do the opposite even taking him to my own family outings to include him.
How the issue that's made me make this post.
On our 18th birthday in April we had a small fight as I'm very off with alcohol and don't really like it. He however likes to drink on occasion. We had plans but he went behind my back and planned a small get together when we got home from our plans with his family. Without me. I was upset but understood. I asked him not to drink much as I have a fear of vomiting and couldn't help him if he was drunk. He made a promise to me to be home by 10 and not be drunk. After ignoring me on both and coming home at midnight we fought but sorted the issue. However his mother hated I was messaging him for info. Called me a liar and controlling, saying he wasn't drinking and why does it matter where he is. I struggle with anxiety to an extent my partner made me get life360 so if I was worried I could check. And I had proof he was at a bar and he even showed me he was. Which I showed her and told her as his partner I'm not wrong to want to know he is ok. As I said we as a couple had already sorted the issue, she hadn't.
Over the past few days she's been telling him your coming home ECT ECT.
After the birthday issue I chose to go no contact with her, and if she's was adamant about speaking to me it would have to be in the presence of my father as she's made threats to hit and choke me. Well yesterday she called to say he's coming home now if buts or maybes and that she wanted to speak to me. As I said I didn't want to speak with her. So she threatened to come to our house. We told her no but she still came.
She shouted at my partner for nearly an hour to come down, to drag me to her to chat, even going as far to say I do bad things to him, speak for him and control him, threading to call the police and say I was no treating him right.
As 18 year olds home alone I was scared, I called my father for advice and was told "either you call the police or I will and I won't hold my tongue" (references the threats she's made to me) so I did, the police came and took a statement and left.
Now this morning his mother basically said you have chosen to cut me off. (My family have said it was just a blackmail message) Saying she won't be there and how there relationship is over.
He was upset but told me it wasn't my fault but he did wish I just spoke to her.
His best friend who also doesn't like me for the "controlling" reasons. Has now told his gf who was also my friend that I've ruined him ECT ECT and she's now dropped me.
I've tried for almost 5months to avoid fights and I still ruined his mother, best friend and my friend. By not speaking. It's highly likely any of the people from the story may find this.
Apologies for formatting and errors , on mobile and dyslexic. + Stressed fast typing.
TLDR: PARTNERS MOTHER HATED I HELPED HER SON AND HE DIDNT SEE HER SO SHE SCREAMED AT US AND THE POLICE WERE CALLED AND SHE DISOWNED MY PARTNER.
2024.05.21 16:22 Kitchen-Block7848 My opinion on the transgender versus femboy issue as a transgender person
 | Hi! I am Aidan, a transgender man who is also a femboy. It’s been a while since I browsed Reddit, and when I got into my favorite communities again to get to know what’s going on… Kaboom! A big amount of Femboy subreddits are annoyed, pissed and tired of something: seeing breasts and female genitals in subreddits that are supposed to let only feminine men post pictures. I thought it was only occurring in this subreddit, but discussions are occurring in other subreddits too. The FemBoys subreddit seems to be the main topic of these discussions. This subreddit is a +18 place where you can find pornography of feminine men. If you know, you know. However, you can find explicit content of transexual women too. The femboy subreddit, a family friendly community where you can find pictures of feminine guys, and where +18 posts are strictly banned, you can find pictures and stories about transexual women too. Entire communities of femboys are standing up against these situations, and since I’ve seen people who are not transgender saying what is transphobic, and what should be transphobic, I decided to post my opinion in these controversies as a transgender man who likes being feminine sometimes. With that being said, let’s get into this post. submitted by Kitchen-Block7848 to femboymemes [link] [comments]
Transgender men can be feminine too, but maybe not in the same way a common male is, because the vast majority of our clothing choices are driven by gender dysphoria. I’ve always liked mini skirts, but my gender dysphoria didn’t let me use them, due to mini skirts highlighting the female characteristics I was born with. Let’s be real: skirts are designed to fit and highlight women’s bodies, but that doesn’t mean men and transgender men can’t use them too, of course. After four years of physically modifying my body to obtain a masculine shape, my gender dysphoria reduced to the point I can wear mini skirts without wanting to squeeze my hips to make them less noticeable, lol. I forgot to say gender dysphoria is the distress we, transgender people, feel due to the incongruence of our biological sex and the sex we self-identify with. It goes beyond not liking our sexual characteristics, and it can manifest through wanting to change our IDs as soon as possible, wanting to be treated and recognized as the sex we self-identify with, and a strong conviction that we think and act the same as a person of our self-identified sex. Being masculine, as a female, doesn’t mean you must be a transgender man; and being feminine, as a male, doesn’t mean you must be a transgender woman, because clothing comes and goes, but our gender identity remains the same throughout our lives. Gender and gender identity are biological, because it is in the brain. Female brains and masculine brains aren’t the same. The principal hypothesis to the reason behind transexuality is that we, transgender people, are the result of an anomaly during gestation. Transgender women have female brains and male bodies, while transgender men have male brains and female bodies. This incongruence makes us transition in the first place, due to, in my case, my brain knows it’s male, and can’t comprehend why my body is female. So, my brain craves certain physical and medical changes to adjust my body to a male sex. Transgender people probably are the product of an anomaly during sexual development during gestation, but it is what it is. We are born this way and we will die this way. However, it is important to clarify transexuality isn’t a mental disorder, in fact, it can be considered a medical condition due to its biological origin, and we need social and medical support to cope with the difficulties of our transition. Once I explained how gender can’t be changed and how clothing can’t determine gender identity, I can clarify the difference between a femboy and a transgender woman. A femboy can be as feminine as a transgender woman, but he doesn’t change his ID, doesn’t modify his body to obtain sexually female features, and he always sees himself as a man in the mirror, even when he is dressing up all feminine. Femboys are men, and transgender women are not men. Yes, transgender women have a sexually male body, but they transition in order to make their male characteristics less noticeable and to obtain female features. Transgender women are not Cross-dressers, because crossdressers don’t medically change their whole body to appear feminine, and don’t want to do so. Genuinely, I don’t understand why transexual women post in femboy subreddits. I hope they know being transexual and being a cross-dresser are two different things, otherwise, they may regret the medical changes they did to their bodies. Transgender women decide voluntarily to post these images in femboy subreddits, so it isn’t like someone is calling them boys or men. As a transgender man, I am not the same as a tomboy (masculine girl/woman), and I would never post any picture in a subreddit dedicated to tomboys, because that isn’t my place. These are the situations in SFW subreddits. In NSFW subreddits the things are more controversial. There are a lot of transexual women publishing their content while the subreddit is literally called “FemBoys”. To be honest, I feel I can't judge them, at least not completely. “Transexual” is one of the most viewed porn categories worldwide (people like seeing breasts and a penis in the same person) and transexual women usually, for lack of better job opportunities, recur to sexual work. Because that’s how it is called. Selling explicit images on the internet is sexual work. They usually have to deal with misgendering (not referring to someone as the real gender he/she is) to gain money, or to refer to themselves as a lot of slurs to catch the attention of a potential client. I think transexual women publishing their content in femboy subreddits is another strategy to sell their images and videos. However, I don’t think that’s okay, because there are plenty of NSFW subreddits dedicated to transexual women. So, that’s all for today, fellas. I hope this little post gave you a better understanding of this situation from a feminine transgender man’s perspective. Despite this community’s focus isn’t transexuality, I really appreciate the effort from moderators to make this place free of any type of discrimination. I thought of adding more points to this post, but that would make it incredibly wrong. Let me know in the comments if you want me to speak about another points. With that being said, bye bye <3 Random Hideri Kanzaki image because this guy is genuinely one of my comfort characters. Artwork by Nakayama Miyuki |
2024.05.21 16:22 QueasyBonus491 Played the I feel unsafe card
My ss is 17 now I been in his life for 3 years. In those three years I have disciplined him twice . The first time he decided to eat on the couch wich was talked about with all children in the house and stated what the punishment would be. So he got his phone taken away just until bedtime because it's his alarm. He blew up and was acting ridiculous and started slamming doors and yelling at his mother. Took no accountability. He responded by moving into his bio dad's who prior to this didn't have much to do with him. Fast forward a couple years to here recently. I asked him not to lay on the couch wich again talked about prior and was one of the few rules I have. He ignored me. I asked 2 more times and still no response. So I had to raise my voice and he got an attitude with me. He started that he didn't hear me then it was he wasn't laying down and he was just being disrespectful. I will nor accept that so I took away the internet. Then he asked to take to his mother where he states he don't feel safe around me but the day before and months and months prior he never said a word wanted to hand out want me to take him places bur all because I took the internet he feels unsafe and had his bio dad pick him up the next day because I didn't restore internet privileges after he was yelling at his mother the night prior. His bio dad talked to neither me or mother and just took it upon a 17yo and took him. They do have 50/50 but to not even talk to anyone is bs. He is literally condoning the disrespect this child shows towards me and his mother. But since he played victim and manipulate his dad he get away with everything with no accountability and no remorse.
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2024.05.21 16:21 korafay 5/21/24 Morning thoughts
I had a therapy appointment this morning. I've been doing really well recently, social anxiety wise, so I wanted to tackle my trust issues. (I'm really proud of the progress I've made. I never thought I would come this far.)
We talked a little about it, so I could connect with the feeling of how it feels when I feel like I'm being lied to, or tricked, and then my eyes naturally settle into a spot, and I start focusing on those sensations, as memories drift to me. It's a little like a combination of brain spotting and internal family systems, focusing on the different parts and asking them what is up while processing memories. I guess I don't need to label it, if it works.
One of the things that I struggle with is the idea of emotional neglect. It's not a single traumatic memory, it's the absence of something that was supposed to be there. So when I have memories come up in therapy, they're usually small in comparison to the trauma that other people go through. And I feel embarrassed. My therapist says this is the bulk of her work and lots of people feel the same. I just wish I could just.. get over it.
For my trust issues, it's pinpointed to not wanting to feel humiliated, so as a coping mechanism, I don't trust people. And then if they do trick me, I can comfort myself by thinking, "Well, I KNEW, I just couldn't say it". (Which is how I dealt in the past growing up with liars. I wasn't supposed to assert myself or say what I knew to be true.)
I feel good today. Even a little progress is progress.
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We talked a little about it, so I could connect with the feeling of how it feels when I feel like I'm being lied to, or tricked, and then my eyes naturally settle into a spot, and I start focusing on those sensations, as memories drift to me. It's a little like a combination of brain spotting and internal family systems, focusing on the different parts and asking them what is up while processing memories. I guess I don't need to label it, if it works.
One of the things that I struggle with is the idea of emotional neglect. It's not a single traumatic memory, it's the absence of something that was supposed to be there. So when I have memories come up in therapy, they're usually small in comparison to the trauma that other people go through. And I feel embarrassed. My therapist says this is the bulk of her work and lots of people feel the same. I just wish I could just.. get over it.
For my trust issues, it's pinpointed to not wanting to feel humiliated, so as a coping mechanism, I don't trust people. And then if they do trick me, I can comfort myself by thinking, "Well, I KNEW, I just couldn't say it". (Which is how I dealt in the past growing up with liars. I wasn't supposed to assert myself or say what I knew to be true.)
I feel good today. Even a little progress is progress.
2024.05.21 16:21 Yeet_Lmao I’ve ruined my body already
I’m only 30 years old but I feel like my body is already breaking down. There’s two main issues: I’ve destroyed my spine with gamer lean and I’m chronically malnourished.
I didn’t realize until recently how far forward I’m leaned when sitting “normally.” Sitting up straight literally feels like I’m actively pushing my upper torso backwards. I was recently being told to sit up straight and it wasn’t until I was leaned back in what I expected was a comically exaggerated position that people finally said my back was straight. Is this fixable or am I too far gone? I feel like phones aren’t helping either, and I’m not short so things are often require me to at least crane my neck downward some, but when I look around in meetings, I’m the only one whose “natural” position has them leaned so far forward their upper back is not touching the chair. I’m obviously kind of embarrassed of it.
I’ve also never eaten enough and I’m starting to experience the consequences of that as well, both in the form of sped up hair loss and chronic fatigue. Days that I eat feel infinitely better than days I don’t yet I just can’t compel myself to do it more often. At some points in my life it’s been money based, but now I’m just used to not eating and doing so feels abnormal and kind of sickening. I like eating food. It tastes good and I enjoy the experience.
I guess I’ve always told myself I’ll do better at self care “later” or “when I’m older” or whatever. I’ve also always leaned into youthfulness and borderline immaturity as basically my aesthetic, so that may be why this is all hitting me especially hard. I’ve always rationalized self sabotaging behavior on the grounds that “I’ll worry about it later,” and I guess it just sucks and is hard to swallow that later is… now.
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I didn’t realize until recently how far forward I’m leaned when sitting “normally.” Sitting up straight literally feels like I’m actively pushing my upper torso backwards. I was recently being told to sit up straight and it wasn’t until I was leaned back in what I expected was a comically exaggerated position that people finally said my back was straight. Is this fixable or am I too far gone? I feel like phones aren’t helping either, and I’m not short so things are often require me to at least crane my neck downward some, but when I look around in meetings, I’m the only one whose “natural” position has them leaned so far forward their upper back is not touching the chair. I’m obviously kind of embarrassed of it.
I’ve also never eaten enough and I’m starting to experience the consequences of that as well, both in the form of sped up hair loss and chronic fatigue. Days that I eat feel infinitely better than days I don’t yet I just can’t compel myself to do it more often. At some points in my life it’s been money based, but now I’m just used to not eating and doing so feels abnormal and kind of sickening. I like eating food. It tastes good and I enjoy the experience.
I guess I’ve always told myself I’ll do better at self care “later” or “when I’m older” or whatever. I’ve also always leaned into youthfulness and borderline immaturity as basically my aesthetic, so that may be why this is all hitting me especially hard. I’ve always rationalized self sabotaging behavior on the grounds that “I’ll worry about it later,” and I guess it just sucks and is hard to swallow that later is… now.
2024.05.21 16:21 Specific-Peanut-8867 I see a lot of people start posts with 'I Started an LLC'
Maybe I'm in the minority here, I'm just surprised that people don't say that they started a business. Instead it is that they formed and LLC. Maybe I'm being ridiculous but like when I bought a commercial property I told people I bought a building. I didn't say I formed and LLC and the LLC bought the building. When I tell people I own a business I don't say I formed and LLC that is treated as an S Corp, I just say I own a small business.
The reason I bring this up is I love the fact people are starting businesses(or want to start a business) and get why they'd want to set it up properly so they have questions and that is what Reddit is for but it seems to me that some people think an LLC has some magical powers. I guess I think people overthink it.
Maybe someone who is a better writer than I am with a better practical understanding than most could come up with someone related to this topic and it could be a pinned post or something. I'm far from an expert but remember my accountant pointing out to me that the main reason you get an S Corp(which was the more common thing to get when I started my first business) or an LLC is about liability. Sure, there are some tax strategies you can put in place(though I've always been told by my CPA that if I pay myself 60K/year and consistently have 60k of pass through income that could be a red flag. Though I admittedly take a more conservative approach rather than aggressive when it comes to taxation.
am I all wrong about this?
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The reason I bring this up is I love the fact people are starting businesses(or want to start a business) and get why they'd want to set it up properly so they have questions and that is what Reddit is for but it seems to me that some people think an LLC has some magical powers. I guess I think people overthink it.
Maybe someone who is a better writer than I am with a better practical understanding than most could come up with someone related to this topic and it could be a pinned post or something. I'm far from an expert but remember my accountant pointing out to me that the main reason you get an S Corp(which was the more common thing to get when I started my first business) or an LLC is about liability. Sure, there are some tax strategies you can put in place(though I've always been told by my CPA that if I pay myself 60K/year and consistently have 60k of pass through income that could be a red flag. Though I admittedly take a more conservative approach rather than aggressive when it comes to taxation.
am I all wrong about this?
2024.05.21 16:21 queenofthedragons Realizing a breakdown I had last year might be PMDD
Just joined this wonderful community and wanted to share my experience that I’m realizing now was probably due to PMDD.
So for a long time now I’ve realized I tell my partner a lot after my period starts “I’m sorry if I seemed off or irritable, I’m just now starting my period.” These mood swings could be mild some months but were usually effecting me negatively on a monthly basis, hurting relationships and my job. It hit a boiling point last year when I had a breakdown at work that had me leaving in tears and booking an appointment with a therapist for the first time ever.
I want to be authentic as others have been on this sub, in the hopes of helping others who might be going through something similar, so I’m going to be honest on why I had a breakdown even though it makes me a lil uncomfortable (so please be nice). But ultimately it boiled down to him watching porn; it had been a hurdle in our relationship for awhile where I’ve been back and forth on being ok with it, and he’s been back and forth on his honesty on using it. It boiled down to my own insecurity, and it got so bad this one day at work (I think I saw something random online that triggered it) that I just spiraled and was obsessively freaking out about it, that’s the best way I can describe it anyway. But this led me into therapy, and my therapist did help me move past it and now I can honestly say I don’t care about the porn anymore. It’s never affected our sexual relationship, I was just being controlled by my own insecurity and can say I barely think about it anymore, it was like I set myself free when I decided to tell him “I honestly don’t care anymore, watch what you like and maybe I’ll watch it too sometimes.”
Unfortunately work with this therapist didn’t lead very far, because when I started to realize my symptoms were largely cyclical and asked her if it might be something related to my menstrual cycle all I got from her was “oh I can’t help with that, you’ll want to talk to the gyno”…. As if the gyno is going to care 😒
But as I’m reflecting today during a rough patch, I realize now this breakdown was probably due to PMDD. I’m so glad I found out about this disorder and I think I’m going to try and find a therapist again, this time one that has a clue about PMDD. Getting the right help and resources is hard, but I’m so grateful for communities like this one.
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So for a long time now I’ve realized I tell my partner a lot after my period starts “I’m sorry if I seemed off or irritable, I’m just now starting my period.” These mood swings could be mild some months but were usually effecting me negatively on a monthly basis, hurting relationships and my job. It hit a boiling point last year when I had a breakdown at work that had me leaving in tears and booking an appointment with a therapist for the first time ever.
I want to be authentic as others have been on this sub, in the hopes of helping others who might be going through something similar, so I’m going to be honest on why I had a breakdown even though it makes me a lil uncomfortable (so please be nice). But ultimately it boiled down to him watching porn; it had been a hurdle in our relationship for awhile where I’ve been back and forth on being ok with it, and he’s been back and forth on his honesty on using it. It boiled down to my own insecurity, and it got so bad this one day at work (I think I saw something random online that triggered it) that I just spiraled and was obsessively freaking out about it, that’s the best way I can describe it anyway. But this led me into therapy, and my therapist did help me move past it and now I can honestly say I don’t care about the porn anymore. It’s never affected our sexual relationship, I was just being controlled by my own insecurity and can say I barely think about it anymore, it was like I set myself free when I decided to tell him “I honestly don’t care anymore, watch what you like and maybe I’ll watch it too sometimes.”
Unfortunately work with this therapist didn’t lead very far, because when I started to realize my symptoms were largely cyclical and asked her if it might be something related to my menstrual cycle all I got from her was “oh I can’t help with that, you’ll want to talk to the gyno”…. As if the gyno is going to care 😒
But as I’m reflecting today during a rough patch, I realize now this breakdown was probably due to PMDD. I’m so glad I found out about this disorder and I think I’m going to try and find a therapist again, this time one that has a clue about PMDD. Getting the right help and resources is hard, but I’m so grateful for communities like this one.
2024.05.21 16:21 KaNy2006 Agents of Shield an underrated masterpiece
After the unfortunate downfall of marvel as a consequence of total disregard of the quality of the content that is being put out, i have come to appreciate Agents of SHIELD more than i ever did before. The reason why I say this is because that show did what modern marvel has been doing horribly wrong and that is writing good female characters. The thing is in recent years marvel has subjected none of their female superheroes to actual character development (i am sure this has been covered by many content creators before). Lack of character development makes their superpowers feel undeserved and the audience stops caring about the character. This is what happened with characters like Captain Marvel, Monica Rambeau, She Hulk and many more. And this is exactly where characters like Quake, May and Simmons come in. These characters are faced with multiple moral dilemmas, they make bad decisions at time and then face consequences of those mistakes and as a result become stronger emotionally and physically. Needless to say this significantly better than making female characters simply brute their way out of sticky or painful situations which is basically the whole character sketch of Captain Marvel. (I will write about this someday else) When talking about character development in terms of agents of shield two characters just cannot be left out of the conversation- Leopold Fitz and Jemma Simmons. These two characters compliment each other in ways never seen before. They start off as nerdy goofballs who appear to be purely for comic relief and come out as warriors and leaders capable of accomplishing feats that are comparable to the achievements of Tony Stark. The psychological trauma of being Evil Doctor Fitz makes him colder in ways that come in handy during the fifth season when he has to survive over seventy years to save the love of his life. of course he does not actually survive for seventy years but he does break out of prison, and fight aliens and also rescues Simmons. Same in case of Simmons where she sacrifices everything by implanting a chip that removes her memory of Fitz's location. May is another example of legendary writing and probably the direction they should have gone with when writing Captain Marvel. Incase of May they go in the opposite direction by introducing a brute who will take down anyone and everything in order to accomplish her mission but then as the series goes on a softer side of her accents her personality. This is what humanizes her. And this is what Captain Marvel does not have, she is a robot who will set out to kill everyone and everything that comes in her way without much thought and consideration for consequences of her actions. Phil Coulson. I do agree with the fact that bringing people back from the dead is not a very good way of writing stories but he is an exception. This man is probably one of my favorite characters in all of marvel. His super power is his leadership especially towards Daisy. By the end of the series he is sort of a father figure for her. But he single handedly builds back what is left of shield and is the moral compass of the crew. He goes out of his way to protect the crew even if it might cost him his life which it does. Daisy Johnson, its a shame she couldnt be in the MCU but she is one of the greatest female superheroes marvel has ever seen. From being a naive hacker living in a van to leading a team exploring deep space. That is exactly the kind of character development marvel needs. Her power seems earned and the audience can actually connect to her. Special mentions: Ghost Rider, where do i even start with that guy. Probably one of the coolest characters in the series and i really hope he is written well in the mcu. Enoch: One of the most wholesome addition to their crew. I wish we could see more of him. Mac: Another great example of incredible character development. I could not think of a better character to be the director of shield after the end of the series (well Fitz could be one but he's a family man now) I am pretty sure ive missed a lot of characters but i dont think i dislike any of them. On the story aspect: They gave up on the idea of being in the mcu by the end of the second season and while i wish they showed up in the main timeline, it certainly was a good decision. Third season onwards they went completely crazy with the show. From being a Spy thriller it becomes a fullon sci fi superhero. but it is not to say that the first two seasons were bad by any means. I mean Grant Ward was an interesting character and I think his backstory makes us love him even more. Third season(and a little bit of the second season) takes things to another level with the whole Hive arch and the whole story of HYDRA which was probably one of the biggest turn of events in Marvel history. The fourth season is probably my favorite season and it introduces characters such as Ghost Rider and AIDA. This season explores a unique problem and they executed the whole "what if" scenario in the best way they ever could have. I mean the framework was probably my favorite part of that show. The Fifth season Takes the crew into space somewhere around 75-80 years into the future and introduces us to Deke Shaw who is a hillarious character. I mean his destiny is the greatest plot twist/ Joke in the show; i mean he is the last person you would expect to be a director of shield. Season 6 dwells with an alien invasion and a fake Colson and season 7 is basically time travel. ( I am gonna stop elaborating now because this whole section has become a summary of the show which i did not initially intend to write because most people who have stuck around this long probably already know the story) I wish they do some multiverse magic and make agents of shield cannon or simple bring characters over to the MCU.
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2024.05.21 16:21 Dezirea622 What's your craziest supernatural experience you have had with a Ouija board.
I had a very creepy experience when I was 9 and my oldest brother and a friend decided to use me to play the board while they told me what to say and ask.
I remember bits and pieces of it. Nit the whole entire event. Event is exactly what it was. My brothers friend had be studying demonology at university when his professor had raffled a oujia board off. Not a normal board one bought in a market in the middle east it was old made of wood. He had the best grade at the end of the semester and knew my brother would be down to play and so he brought it to our house. For reference my brother is 10 yrs older than me. Anyway when he won it the professor explained that virgins are ideal to handle the board. Blood also helped virgin blood. He at first took it as a joke and then the more he thought he decided to use yours truly. He knew I would not scare easy and would have fun with it. Even at that age I loved tales from the crypt and nightmare on elm street.
So we go into my brother's bedroom a converted garage. They lite candles and sat it up on a card table. I remember them telling me it was make believe and trying to down play it's seriousness. I am sure the it's a game was incase I told my mother. She would be more concerned then normal as our background is a little bizarre, my grandfather a very Irish man was raised in the mountains and raised to practice druidism. Which he did tell he died.
Anyways "game" was set up I remember starting it out slightly and his friend spoke in I think Latin prior to use starting the board the standard way. I can not recall the whole thing but the entity I spoke with was answering it was easy to tell as I was 9 like barely 9 or almost 9. I am Dyslexic. And that would mean I spelled backwards . At least for me the words I could spell correct were backwards. So when she started to respond it was very clearly not me the only one touching the board. My brother and his friend were reading out loud the stuff she was spelling to use since I couldn't read it. She claimed to also be a little girl age 9. Rebecca. Or so she claimed. But she was trapped in hell and was scared. She could get out but needed my help. She needed my body, but I had to agree. At that point my brother stepped in and said the game was over. He had been saying when she claimed to be a little girl he told me remember it's a game but the game can lie to you she's is not really a kid because kids can't go to hell , right. But once she needed well 'me' he knows longer wanted me to play. He went to take the board from under my hands he seemed angry. The board didn't move and oddly I could hear her now. But she didn't sound right. It was a child like voice but n something was wrong. And I told my brother that she was mad he was stopping us playing. She was trying to push the no one here plays with me tell me you want to co.e here and play,you do don't you? I don't remember much but the feeling like dread it was the.most scared I have been in my life. And it came out of nowhere the second she said to tell her I want to go there. I know he and his friend hot the board away and his friend was on out house phone screaming at the professor asking how to.stop what was happening the I felt frozen. I dont recall all the rest and what i do i have a hard time believing so why would you. but I remember the next day and my brother woke me up, I do not remember going to bed at all. He said what did you dream and when I told him I had a bad dream and it had Rebecca he said he didn't know what I was talking about we had not played a game. I felt stupid most of the day. least until I walked into the back yard just outside my brothers room in the old metal oil drum the drum was normally used as a fire pit . But inside was a partial burned wooden oujia board, and I had dreams/ nightmaresshe wanted me to go back she then would scream at me. Eventually it stopped which was the time we moved out of the house so who's know if it was the "game" so you tell me!
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I remember bits and pieces of it. Nit the whole entire event. Event is exactly what it was. My brothers friend had be studying demonology at university when his professor had raffled a oujia board off. Not a normal board one bought in a market in the middle east it was old made of wood. He had the best grade at the end of the semester and knew my brother would be down to play and so he brought it to our house. For reference my brother is 10 yrs older than me. Anyway when he won it the professor explained that virgins are ideal to handle the board. Blood also helped virgin blood. He at first took it as a joke and then the more he thought he decided to use yours truly. He knew I would not scare easy and would have fun with it. Even at that age I loved tales from the crypt and nightmare on elm street.
So we go into my brother's bedroom a converted garage. They lite candles and sat it up on a card table. I remember them telling me it was make believe and trying to down play it's seriousness. I am sure the it's a game was incase I told my mother. She would be more concerned then normal as our background is a little bizarre, my grandfather a very Irish man was raised in the mountains and raised to practice druidism. Which he did tell he died.
Anyways "game" was set up I remember starting it out slightly and his friend spoke in I think Latin prior to use starting the board the standard way. I can not recall the whole thing but the entity I spoke with was answering it was easy to tell as I was 9 like barely 9 or almost 9. I am Dyslexic. And that would mean I spelled backwards . At least for me the words I could spell correct were backwards. So when she started to respond it was very clearly not me the only one touching the board. My brother and his friend were reading out loud the stuff she was spelling to use since I couldn't read it. She claimed to also be a little girl age 9. Rebecca. Or so she claimed. But she was trapped in hell and was scared. She could get out but needed my help. She needed my body, but I had to agree. At that point my brother stepped in and said the game was over. He had been saying when she claimed to be a little girl he told me remember it's a game but the game can lie to you she's is not really a kid because kids can't go to hell , right. But once she needed well 'me' he knows longer wanted me to play. He went to take the board from under my hands he seemed angry. The board didn't move and oddly I could hear her now. But she didn't sound right. It was a child like voice but n something was wrong. And I told my brother that she was mad he was stopping us playing. She was trying to push the no one here plays with me tell me you want to co.e here and play,you do don't you? I don't remember much but the feeling like dread it was the.most scared I have been in my life. And it came out of nowhere the second she said to tell her I want to go there. I know he and his friend hot the board away and his friend was on out house phone screaming at the professor asking how to.stop what was happening the I felt frozen. I dont recall all the rest and what i do i have a hard time believing so why would you. but I remember the next day and my brother woke me up, I do not remember going to bed at all. He said what did you dream and when I told him I had a bad dream and it had Rebecca he said he didn't know what I was talking about we had not played a game. I felt stupid most of the day. least until I walked into the back yard just outside my brothers room in the old metal oil drum the drum was normally used as a fire pit . But inside was a partial burned wooden oujia board, and I had dreams/ nightmaresshe wanted me to go back she then would scream at me. Eventually it stopped which was the time we moved out of the house so who's know if it was the "game" so you tell me!
2024.05.21 16:20 Heavy-Ad-6462 I recovered from NEVER getting a period to getting my first one AGED 29!
Hi all,
I just wanted to share my story of primary hypothalamic amenorrhea recovery with you all in the hope that it will inspire any of those who find themselves in a similar situation, as I haven't seen many stories like mine on this sub and I was always searching for them myself when I was going through it.
So, my story goes that I was a normal child and was quite developed for my age around 11/12 and looked as though I would probably start my period within the next year or so, like my mum and sister had done. However, at this age, I developed an eating disorder and also began to run competitive cross country. The development that I had (boobs, hair etc) remained, but as I lost weight, I didn't develop any further and I didn't start my period.
By age 15 I still had no sign of a period and I was still running a lot, even though my relationship with food was a bit better and I had a healthy BMI (19.5). My mum took me to see a gynaecologist who did bloods and an ultrasound which came back saying my oestrogen was very low and that my uterus was not fully developed. The doctor strongly recommended putting me on oestrogen to develop my body and uterus before I reached adulthood and also hoped that the oestrogen might kickstart my period. He wasn't sure of the cause of my primary amenorrhea (this is called primary not secondary because I had never had a period before and so I didn't have one to lose) and whilst he said it could be running, he also said I was a healthy weight and that I should just carry on as normal.
So I did, I took the oestrogen, grew boobs, my uterus developed and I carried on running competitively, like 50 miles a week, aged 15!! (Crazy to look back on and think that I thought this was normal!!) Anyway, surprise surprise, I didn't get a period. By age 17, the doctor decided to put me on the combined pill to induce a withdrawal bleed and make sure I didn't have any issues with bone strength, so I did that, had my first bleed but still did not stop running. The doctor said I was fine, that I should just stay on the pill until I wanted to have kids at which point he would give me drugs to help me ovulate as my ovaries looked fine and my AMH levels were good. Anyway, I just carried on with my life and assumed that I could never get a period on my own.
Throughout my early 20s, I began reading up a bit more about hypothalamic amenorrhea and wondered if it was what I might have, but I couldn't be sure because I could only ever find stories about women who had gotten their periods and then lost it, not people like me who had never even had one. The people who hadn't had one seemed to have issues with their pituitary gland, which I didn't have, so I just couldn't work out what was the matter with me and I felt like a freak!
Aged 22, I was still running but my relationship with food was a lot better, and so I decided to come off the pill again to have a check-up. This time, the ultrasound showed that my ovaries looked polycystic, and so that was the diagnosis I was given for STILL not having a period. But it didn't seem to add up. I had no other symptoms of PCOS (excess body hair etc), my weight was normal, my oestrogen was on the lower side and my LH to FSH ratio was low not elevated like in PCOS, but that's what the doctor said it was, so...you guessed it, I went back on the pill and carried on with my life, which included lots of exercise.
Anyway, in the last couple of years I went through a trauma that meant I quit running completely, and just lived my life. I did lots of walking, ate what I wanted and gained about 10-15lbs taking me from a BMI of 19-20 to 21-22. At this time, I also began to read more about amenorrhea recovery and books like "No Period Now What," and how often people like me can be misdiagnosed with "lean PCOS," especially as I was nowhere near clinically underweight. So, given that I had stopped running and had gained weight, and because my husband and I would like kids in the next few years, I decided to do my own experiment, I came off the pill, and after a couple of months, would you believe it, I got my FIRST NATURAL PERIOD AGED 29 YEARS OLD!!!
I couldn't believe it, I had always had withdrawal bleeds on the pill, but because of what I had been told all my life that the switch in my brain that made me have a period was just somehow broken, I honestly believed I could never have a period on my own. I thought all these secondary amenorrhea recovery stories could never apply to me because I had never had one in the first place, and I just assumed my body no longer knew how to do it, but it DID!! I wish to god someone had just told me when I was a teenager that if I stopped running and gained weight, I would have gotten my period, that even though my body was a healthy weight, it wasn't a healthy weight FOR ME! I feel let down by doctors and sports coaches who encouraged me to keep running and told me I was so healthy, when it could have saved me so much stress, anxiety, and possibly future health issues if I'd just let my body get to be where it had needed to be all those years ago. But I also wanted to share this story to let you know how truly and incredibly resilient our bodies are!! If I can recover after never having a period for 29 YEARS! You can do it too! Hope is not lost and you must have faith in your body's ability to heal. My periods are still quite irregular now, (long cycles between 40-60 days) but I hope they will get more regular over the next year or so and that my husband and I can start a family!
Anyway, I'm sorry for the very long post - but I wanted to share this story with you in the hope that it inspires you to keep going with recovery - you got this!! xxx
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I just wanted to share my story of primary hypothalamic amenorrhea recovery with you all in the hope that it will inspire any of those who find themselves in a similar situation, as I haven't seen many stories like mine on this sub and I was always searching for them myself when I was going through it.
So, my story goes that I was a normal child and was quite developed for my age around 11/12 and looked as though I would probably start my period within the next year or so, like my mum and sister had done. However, at this age, I developed an eating disorder and also began to run competitive cross country. The development that I had (boobs, hair etc) remained, but as I lost weight, I didn't develop any further and I didn't start my period.
By age 15 I still had no sign of a period and I was still running a lot, even though my relationship with food was a bit better and I had a healthy BMI (19.5). My mum took me to see a gynaecologist who did bloods and an ultrasound which came back saying my oestrogen was very low and that my uterus was not fully developed. The doctor strongly recommended putting me on oestrogen to develop my body and uterus before I reached adulthood and also hoped that the oestrogen might kickstart my period. He wasn't sure of the cause of my primary amenorrhea (this is called primary not secondary because I had never had a period before and so I didn't have one to lose) and whilst he said it could be running, he also said I was a healthy weight and that I should just carry on as normal.
So I did, I took the oestrogen, grew boobs, my uterus developed and I carried on running competitively, like 50 miles a week, aged 15!! (Crazy to look back on and think that I thought this was normal!!) Anyway, surprise surprise, I didn't get a period. By age 17, the doctor decided to put me on the combined pill to induce a withdrawal bleed and make sure I didn't have any issues with bone strength, so I did that, had my first bleed but still did not stop running. The doctor said I was fine, that I should just stay on the pill until I wanted to have kids at which point he would give me drugs to help me ovulate as my ovaries looked fine and my AMH levels were good. Anyway, I just carried on with my life and assumed that I could never get a period on my own.
Throughout my early 20s, I began reading up a bit more about hypothalamic amenorrhea and wondered if it was what I might have, but I couldn't be sure because I could only ever find stories about women who had gotten their periods and then lost it, not people like me who had never even had one. The people who hadn't had one seemed to have issues with their pituitary gland, which I didn't have, so I just couldn't work out what was the matter with me and I felt like a freak!
Aged 22, I was still running but my relationship with food was a lot better, and so I decided to come off the pill again to have a check-up. This time, the ultrasound showed that my ovaries looked polycystic, and so that was the diagnosis I was given for STILL not having a period. But it didn't seem to add up. I had no other symptoms of PCOS (excess body hair etc), my weight was normal, my oestrogen was on the lower side and my LH to FSH ratio was low not elevated like in PCOS, but that's what the doctor said it was, so...you guessed it, I went back on the pill and carried on with my life, which included lots of exercise.
Anyway, in the last couple of years I went through a trauma that meant I quit running completely, and just lived my life. I did lots of walking, ate what I wanted and gained about 10-15lbs taking me from a BMI of 19-20 to 21-22. At this time, I also began to read more about amenorrhea recovery and books like "No Period Now What," and how often people like me can be misdiagnosed with "lean PCOS," especially as I was nowhere near clinically underweight. So, given that I had stopped running and had gained weight, and because my husband and I would like kids in the next few years, I decided to do my own experiment, I came off the pill, and after a couple of months, would you believe it, I got my FIRST NATURAL PERIOD AGED 29 YEARS OLD!!!
I couldn't believe it, I had always had withdrawal bleeds on the pill, but because of what I had been told all my life that the switch in my brain that made me have a period was just somehow broken, I honestly believed I could never have a period on my own. I thought all these secondary amenorrhea recovery stories could never apply to me because I had never had one in the first place, and I just assumed my body no longer knew how to do it, but it DID!! I wish to god someone had just told me when I was a teenager that if I stopped running and gained weight, I would have gotten my period, that even though my body was a healthy weight, it wasn't a healthy weight FOR ME! I feel let down by doctors and sports coaches who encouraged me to keep running and told me I was so healthy, when it could have saved me so much stress, anxiety, and possibly future health issues if I'd just let my body get to be where it had needed to be all those years ago. But I also wanted to share this story to let you know how truly and incredibly resilient our bodies are!! If I can recover after never having a period for 29 YEARS! You can do it too! Hope is not lost and you must have faith in your body's ability to heal. My periods are still quite irregular now, (long cycles between 40-60 days) but I hope they will get more regular over the next year or so and that my husband and I can start a family!
Anyway, I'm sorry for the very long post - but I wanted to share this story with you in the hope that it inspires you to keep going with recovery - you got this!! xxx
2024.05.21 16:20 datingurfather im worried it’s time to break up
My (23F) boyfriend (24M) and I have been dating for 3 years. When i first met him things were great and there were no red flags. He then started to make strange comments like he wouldn’t be dating me if my breasts weren’t big etc. so i decided to go through his phone one night and I found tons and tons of porn just everywhere. (Camera roll, reddit, safari search, instagram, tiktok). This caused a huge issue in our relationship. I even caught him jerking off one time and I didn’t do anything, I wish I did.
Things got worse and so I finally decided to put an end to things and put up boundaries. I told him if i found out he was still watching porn and keeping photos (some even of people we personally know) I would break up with him. I became extremely unhealthy, I was developing stress rashes, I was depressed and insecure, I couldn’t even spend the night at my own house because I was afraid if I wasn’t sleeping with him, he’d be doing his business to other girls and then treating me different the next day.
He began to call me crazy and toxic and he promised me a million times that he wasn’t doing anything bad, he claimed his fetishes were starting to go away. I stupidly decided to trust him. I didn’t go through his phone for nearly a year. Until last night, just a quick check up on his camera roll and instagram activity, and everything was good. Until I saw his reddit browsing history. He still has his weird fetishes apparently. I am completely devastated. I feel stupid for having trusted him and I am in tears still.
We are currently on vacation in another country. We have a few more weeks to go. What do I do? Do i confront him tonight? Do I break up with him when the trip ends? Should i just accept all guys watch porn? He’s perfect in all other ways. I feel so heartbroken and all trust is lost again.
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Things got worse and so I finally decided to put an end to things and put up boundaries. I told him if i found out he was still watching porn and keeping photos (some even of people we personally know) I would break up with him. I became extremely unhealthy, I was developing stress rashes, I was depressed and insecure, I couldn’t even spend the night at my own house because I was afraid if I wasn’t sleeping with him, he’d be doing his business to other girls and then treating me different the next day.
He began to call me crazy and toxic and he promised me a million times that he wasn’t doing anything bad, he claimed his fetishes were starting to go away. I stupidly decided to trust him. I didn’t go through his phone for nearly a year. Until last night, just a quick check up on his camera roll and instagram activity, and everything was good. Until I saw his reddit browsing history. He still has his weird fetishes apparently. I am completely devastated. I feel stupid for having trusted him and I am in tears still.
We are currently on vacation in another country. We have a few more weeks to go. What do I do? Do i confront him tonight? Do I break up with him when the trip ends? Should i just accept all guys watch porn? He’s perfect in all other ways. I feel so heartbroken and all trust is lost again.
2024.05.21 16:20 dinguyen2301 A young woman who recently moved into a new apartment to investigate the whereabouts of her missing best friend discovers a horrifying secret - her friend's body is hidden within the walls. She must do everything in her power to survive, fight, and escape from the landlord, a ruthless and perverse m
"This is the logline for our short film. However, the teacher commented that the character of the girl in the apartment starts off with no clear motivation, making the film seem quite lackluster until the landlord's actions. But the part where the landlord enters the room isn't described in enough detail and feels vague. With the elements currently in place, it's not clear that the main character is seeking revenge for her friend. Actually, I'm torn between two directions: the first is where the girl investigates and discovers, fighting towards the end in a linear storyline, which is quite typical. The second is where the girl pretends to be innocent but is actually investigating everything, and when the landlord catches on, she still fights back, using strategy to turn the tables and reveal how he commits his murders. I prefer the second approach because it offers more action for both characters. However, we're running low on ideas, and revising the script multiple times has left us quite emotionally drained. Could anyone please offer some suggestions? Thank you all so much."
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2024.05.21 16:20 ryanman1999 24 [M4F] #NewEngland #Online Looking for Someone Special to Explore and Share Life's Adventures
I'm a 24-year-old guy from Rhode Island hoping to meet someone with whom I can share some fun memories with and get to know one another. Here's a bit about me:
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- Interests: I love everything from outdoor activities like hiking and fishing to more laid-back pursuits such as gaming, smoking weed and watching movies.
- What I look like: I can send a picture if you ask but I’m 6’1, slim/average build and brown haifacial hair
- Work and Education: Currently, I'm working from home as a software engineer; but that gives me plenty of time during the day to sneak a message in or send a meme to you ;)
- Personality: Friends describe me as easygoing, thoughtful, and always ready to help out. I value honesty and communication and am looking for someone who shares those values.
- Looking For: I'd love to meet someone who is kind-hearted, curious about the world, and enjoys laughing both at life’s absurdities and the good jokes (or bad puns!). Let’s start with a chat and maybe a casual meet-up if we click!
2024.05.21 16:19 beeby8 How do I save my family from falling apart and we get our lives back?
So I am 26 years old. I am from Melbourne Australia. I am single and I live with my mother, my step-dad, my brother and my sister in law who have just moved back in recently after having moved out of home 3 years ago, but have moved back in to save money to eventually move out into the country somewhere. They are not really city/suburb people. The prefer regional/rural areas.
Anyway, the problem in our family is my step dad. I would say for the last 5-6 years, he has withdrawn alot from us. He spends the majority of his time (when he is not at work) sitting outside smoking, drinking and watching YouTube videos on his phone. We barely see him except for weekends because he works the afternoon/evening shifts.
When we do see him on weekends, he barely ever wants to do anything with us. We are always inviting him out to do things with us, but the majority of the time, he says no and uses the excuse of staying home to look after the dogs to get out of it. The only thing that we really do anymore is watch our show together on Saturday nights (if we haven't got something on, which we often do), but even that he is starting to lose interest in.
He also get sick quite often. He has a really bad cough due to his heavy smoking. I have never smoked in my life. My mum, brother and sister in law have, but they have all given up regular cigarettes now and either vape or use marijuana. I would honestly prefer if they just ditched the vapes and just smoked the marijuana to be honest and I have never had a problem with people who smoke pot as long as you do it safely and don't drive on it. It smells way better than cigarettes or the horrible artificial smell of vapes. Anyway, that's not the point.
He (my step dad) has also claimed to be on a meat and dairy only diet for the past couple of years now, basically the complete opposite of a vegan, yet we constantly see him eating bread, chips and other regular foods that are not part of his carnivore diet. He also makes a massive mess in the kitchen every time he cooks his food and never cleans it up because he cooks and attempts to clean in the dark without the light on.
We all think (myself, mum, my brother and sister in law) all think he had some severe health problems like potentially lung cancer and maybe even early onset dementia, but her just will not go to the doctor.
My brother and sister in law even said that one of the main reasons they moved out in the first place 3 years ago was because of how uncomfortable they felt around him and now they are saying the exact same thing again. They said it again literally tonight.
He also does not have a very good relationship with either of his biological children (my step brother and step sister). He says that he wishes that he talked to and saw them more, yet he makes little to no effort to see them or spend time with them outside of special occasions like birthdays, despite the fact that his son lives 10 minutes around the corner. His daughter lives a few hours away, but you would think he would make the time to see her more often, especially since his daughter now has a daughter, making him a grandfather.
He also sleeps in a completely separate room to my mum too which I believe severely impacts their relationship. Couples who do not sleep in the same bed together (for the most part) I believe do not wore every well in general. Now to be fair, this is mainly due to the fact that he snores very loudly and has too wear a massive CPAP machine at night which would keep mum awake, so he eventually just moved into the spare room. That part of it I get, but it's still not ideal.
And the worst part is, all that is just scratching the surface. My mum is constantly ranting and complaining to me about how much she has had enough and is fed up with him just doing nothing and not wanting to be a part of the family any more and just retreating into himself and I completely agree with her as well.
My mum and step dad have been together for 20 years this year, but I know for a fact that she does not love him anymore and wants to break up with him and end the relationship. Not only has she flat out told me this in private, but she wouldn't even have to tell me for me to know.
The biggest problem however and the primary reason why she won't separate from his is money. They have a mortgage for the house in both their names, many contracts are in both their names as well for things that we have done to the house like adding the solar panels, the battery backup for the solar panels, the renovations etc. A few joint accounts too.
Mum has told me so many times that if she were to win the lottery, she would leave him in a heartbeat. The money side of things and so many things being in both their names makes the situation so much harder. Mum has also said that she could not afford to live in our house if they split up as just a one person salary would not cover everything. I currently do not have a job and am actively;y looking for a new one after leaving a toxic work environment recently, but I do my part by paying for the houses monthly internet bill which lowers the cost of my board and my brother and sister in law also chip in in their way, but I still don't know if that would be enough.
Now of course, I love my step dad. I really do. He has been my main father figure in my life for the past 20 years since my mum divorced my real dad in 1999 when I was 2 years old. I still see my real dad on a regular basis and we have a good relationship, but I obviously have not lived with him 24/7 like I have with my step dad for 20 years. It's just that unfortunately, he is just not working in our family anymore and something has to change.
I guess what I am asking for is some advice and some help. Is there a way that we can move on from him? Is there a way where we can get him out of our lives without our lives being shaken up in the process. We have lived in this house for 18 years and it is our home. The thought of moving somewhere else just because we wouldn't be able to afford it anymore is heartbreaking to me. I know I may eventually move out one day if I get a girlfriend or whatever, but more heartbreaking for my mum than anything else.
So my question to you all is, has anyone out there reading this experienced the same sort of thing I have just described to you and if so, how did you manage to get out of it (if you did) and get your family back again? Any sort of advice or information or whatever else you can give me would be so much appreciated.
Thank you for reading and listening.
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Anyway, the problem in our family is my step dad. I would say for the last 5-6 years, he has withdrawn alot from us. He spends the majority of his time (when he is not at work) sitting outside smoking, drinking and watching YouTube videos on his phone. We barely see him except for weekends because he works the afternoon/evening shifts.
When we do see him on weekends, he barely ever wants to do anything with us. We are always inviting him out to do things with us, but the majority of the time, he says no and uses the excuse of staying home to look after the dogs to get out of it. The only thing that we really do anymore is watch our show together on Saturday nights (if we haven't got something on, which we often do), but even that he is starting to lose interest in.
He also get sick quite often. He has a really bad cough due to his heavy smoking. I have never smoked in my life. My mum, brother and sister in law have, but they have all given up regular cigarettes now and either vape or use marijuana. I would honestly prefer if they just ditched the vapes and just smoked the marijuana to be honest and I have never had a problem with people who smoke pot as long as you do it safely and don't drive on it. It smells way better than cigarettes or the horrible artificial smell of vapes. Anyway, that's not the point.
He (my step dad) has also claimed to be on a meat and dairy only diet for the past couple of years now, basically the complete opposite of a vegan, yet we constantly see him eating bread, chips and other regular foods that are not part of his carnivore diet. He also makes a massive mess in the kitchen every time he cooks his food and never cleans it up because he cooks and attempts to clean in the dark without the light on.
We all think (myself, mum, my brother and sister in law) all think he had some severe health problems like potentially lung cancer and maybe even early onset dementia, but her just will not go to the doctor.
My brother and sister in law even said that one of the main reasons they moved out in the first place 3 years ago was because of how uncomfortable they felt around him and now they are saying the exact same thing again. They said it again literally tonight.
He also does not have a very good relationship with either of his biological children (my step brother and step sister). He says that he wishes that he talked to and saw them more, yet he makes little to no effort to see them or spend time with them outside of special occasions like birthdays, despite the fact that his son lives 10 minutes around the corner. His daughter lives a few hours away, but you would think he would make the time to see her more often, especially since his daughter now has a daughter, making him a grandfather.
He also sleeps in a completely separate room to my mum too which I believe severely impacts their relationship. Couples who do not sleep in the same bed together (for the most part) I believe do not wore every well in general. Now to be fair, this is mainly due to the fact that he snores very loudly and has too wear a massive CPAP machine at night which would keep mum awake, so he eventually just moved into the spare room. That part of it I get, but it's still not ideal.
And the worst part is, all that is just scratching the surface. My mum is constantly ranting and complaining to me about how much she has had enough and is fed up with him just doing nothing and not wanting to be a part of the family any more and just retreating into himself and I completely agree with her as well.
My mum and step dad have been together for 20 years this year, but I know for a fact that she does not love him anymore and wants to break up with him and end the relationship. Not only has she flat out told me this in private, but she wouldn't even have to tell me for me to know.
The biggest problem however and the primary reason why she won't separate from his is money. They have a mortgage for the house in both their names, many contracts are in both their names as well for things that we have done to the house like adding the solar panels, the battery backup for the solar panels, the renovations etc. A few joint accounts too.
Mum has told me so many times that if she were to win the lottery, she would leave him in a heartbeat. The money side of things and so many things being in both their names makes the situation so much harder. Mum has also said that she could not afford to live in our house if they split up as just a one person salary would not cover everything. I currently do not have a job and am actively;y looking for a new one after leaving a toxic work environment recently, but I do my part by paying for the houses monthly internet bill which lowers the cost of my board and my brother and sister in law also chip in in their way, but I still don't know if that would be enough.
Now of course, I love my step dad. I really do. He has been my main father figure in my life for the past 20 years since my mum divorced my real dad in 1999 when I was 2 years old. I still see my real dad on a regular basis and we have a good relationship, but I obviously have not lived with him 24/7 like I have with my step dad for 20 years. It's just that unfortunately, he is just not working in our family anymore and something has to change.
I guess what I am asking for is some advice and some help. Is there a way that we can move on from him? Is there a way where we can get him out of our lives without our lives being shaken up in the process. We have lived in this house for 18 years and it is our home. The thought of moving somewhere else just because we wouldn't be able to afford it anymore is heartbreaking to me. I know I may eventually move out one day if I get a girlfriend or whatever, but more heartbreaking for my mum than anything else.
So my question to you all is, has anyone out there reading this experienced the same sort of thing I have just described to you and if so, how did you manage to get out of it (if you did) and get your family back again? Any sort of advice or information or whatever else you can give me would be so much appreciated.
Thank you for reading and listening.
2024.05.21 16:19 NebV What would you put between and around the raised bed?
 | I built 5 new 4x8 raised beds earlier this spring, but weed eating in between them is obviously a real pain. Not to mention it kicks up grass clippings and seeds everywhere including in the beds themselves. We also have 3 more raised beds elsewhere in the yard. I bought 4x300 ft Dewitt Sunbelt weed barrier landscape fabric with the intention of putting that between all the pathways and maybe later on put patio pavers down or something on top. My only concern is I'm hesitant to add plastic to our garden space. Everytime I research the issue, most people are warning against plastic woven fabric because it eventually starts tearing/breaking down, and most recommend 4"+ of mulch (and cardboard as well). I would definitely prefer cardboard/mulch approach but I have bermuda grass and bermuda grass would thrive and grow up into the mulch at some point. Unless I reapply cardboard under the mulch every year. What do you all think, is there a better alternative? I'd love to hear from those with Bermuda grass problems, because other weeds just don't compare. submitted by NebV to gardening [link] [comments] |
2024.05.21 16:19 LadyGoodman206 2017 Audi eTron Audi Bellevue AutoNation
I bought a 2017 Audi eTron with about 40k miles on it in 2020. In 2022 the car just stopped driving and I received a “low power” alarm. Prior to this there was no warning light, alarm, or other indicator that something was wrong. Had my car towed to Audi Bellevue and they tell me it’s going to be over $7k to fix this 5 year old car. Luckily I bought an extended warranty and didn’t pay much for the repairs but $7k in repairs for a car that’s 5 year old seems extreme. In September 2023 on a road trip to Spokane I stopped for gas about 90 minutes outside of Spokane. When I arrived in Spokane a car alarm indicating my key was not within range went off. I’m rattled by this alarm because it’s loud and it keeps going off every couple minutes. I park my car in a parking garage, tear the car apart looking for the key and it’s s no where to be found. Since I only made one stop to get gas, I realize I must have dropped it at the gas station. It’s hard to believe this car let me drive away without the key and did not alert me that the key was out of range until I was 100 miles away from the key but it happened! Now I’m parked in a garage, several hours from home without a key for my car. I ended up having to have a key made which was close to $1k. The whole thing was a nightmare but it gets worse. A few days ago I’m at Goodwill , I go out to my car and it won’t start. Again, no warning light, alarm or notice prior. I see a “low power” notice and a “transmission malfunction notice”. I want to throw up because the warranty expired and I know how much this is going to cost to repair. Begrudgingly, I have my car towed to Audi Bellevue. Went in the next day (5/18/24) to test drive a $40k van. Because my car is not drivable, Audi Bellevue proceeds to lowball me on the value of my car. Long story short, I left and contacted a couple of places that take non running cars and I’m offered $1k more than Audi offered me. I ask Sodi at Audi (over text) for $1500 more than their original offer. She responds they can’t do it. She doesn’t respond with, “this is what we can do”, nothing, no follow up, no help which forces me to respond and ask if they’ll match the offer I received and she says she ask her GM tomorrow. I attached the text exchange for you to see she asks how she can “earn” my business in one text and in the next says, no to my request with no additional info. If you didn’t know, Audi Bellevue is owned by the multi billion dollar company, Autonation that Bill Gates owns 19% of. This is the highest earning auto dealership in the US. They are haggling with me over a couple hundred dollars EVEN THOUGH I am interested in buying a $40k van!! Make it make sense. These people are unethical and I won’t get into the entire ridiculous experience but just wondering if anyone else has had issue with Audi Bellevue or Autonation? Also, want to say do not buy an eTron because it is a giant POS. Imagine being on a road trip in a rural area or in the mountains, you make a pit stop at a truck stop and your car all of a sudden just stops working! Now imagine not having cell service. I want to get the word out because that’s and dangerous and scary.
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2024.05.21 16:19 Filmyboy7 A detailed review of the VARC1000 course by Gejo Sir! Do go through this! :')
So, as the title says this is a post on the review and guide to VARC1000 course by Gejo Sir (the VARC God for me I'll say) 🤌🏻 First, I would like to add 2 important notes :)
Note 1 : I went through this year's VARC1000 course and it's very different from last year's course but I'll try to give you a review of it 🫠
Note 2 : You'll find many people suggesting and saying that "pirated content le le" and stuff. But I won't really suggest that. VARC1000 course is more than what the pirated content will offer. It's not just about VARC okay? It will help you with DILR and QA too (Last year Gejo sir had made videos on how he himself solved DILR and gives really amazing tips and tricks). There will be content/materials for GDPI prepration, profile analyser (which I didn't really find helpful tbh), calls predictor (which again turned out to be not so true in my case but for others it was helpful), daily vocab, GK section, WAT topics, your acads specific questions generally asked during PIs etc etc. All this you won't get in the pirated stuff. You'll just get the videos of his lecs that's it. Course hi lena bhai if possible 🙂
👉🏻 Coming to the course's details : This time they have divided the course into 4 sections Launch Phase, Enhance Phase, Advanced Phase and Peak Phase. And each phase (from Enhance Phase) will be launched in specific months from June onwards. As of now the Launch Phase is active 👀
Coming to the description of the phases : As per my understanding it's perfectly summed up to take you from the very basic (launch phase) to the advanced level (peak phase) 🔥
Focus more on the Core Lessons which Gejo Sir will teach you. He'll just tell you the methods and tricks in these videos ig (that's what happened in the last course) and then maybe he'll teach you to apply them. He'll take a particular RC and solve it. Focus on how he deals with all this okay? Obv take the learnings and develop your own strategy/method (you can copy him but we all can't be like him) 😂
He'll throw some tests before the start of the video.. apply your brains there and see how you do. Then he'll also come up with the strategy lessons (very important) wherein he'll tell you about how to approach the VARC section in those 40 mins and what approach you should have. The core lessons, application lessons and strategy lessons were launched together last year in the course and were really helpful! Till now all the is for RC btw. For VA the material won't be much different but he'll teach you specially about how to deal with the VA too!
Then comes the Daily Article Dose! Do it! Roz karo! It's really good. He'll upload the solutions for it. For every article dose he'll do that and solve it for you. Also, throughout this course you'll find a diverse range of RCs! Humanities, Philosophy, Natural Sciences, Arts etc etc. Everything. And I hope that like last year, this year also he'll make seperate videos for every genre! It's really helpful in that sense! 🍻😌
Coming to the tests! He'll give you a lot of sectional tests (minimum 10 sectional tests) and previous year ke course ke bhi kuch tests alagse (this happened in the last year's course). So you need not worry about the sectionals. You'll get a satisfactory number of those. He'll also solve some sectionals for you. You'll be able to see how he solves the VARC section (trust me you'll be amazed seeing his way of solving). You'll also get Daily Drills where you'll have small tests or say 1-2 RCs and a few VA questions etc. this will also be there. Also, you'll get PY CAT papers as mocks and also as sectional tests separately! So that's also a done deal!! 🍻✨
Don't miss Gejo sir's live sessions! He'll have 1-2 every month ig. And those will be really helpful. It's an interactive session so you can ask your doubts there. He's a very funny guy so you won't be bored. He'll also give you some videos (hopefully) on how to approach DILR! He's a genius in DILR also (atleast for me) 💥
Then comes the Telegram Group of VARC1000 where Gejo sir will also be there! It's a very interactive group and very much helpful. A really nice place to be in I'll say as you'll find serious aspirants mostly.
I hope that I was able to include most of the important things of this course and if needed I'll update this post in the future! :')
Overall I'll say that this course is worth it? It'll definitely improve your VARC skills and understanding if you follow it religiously. As I have said... This course is not just about VARC but there are many many things in it and it'll turn out to be helpful overall! 🩵 Do share this review with your friends and other aspirants! 😼
All the best with your prep! If you have anything to add about the course or your opinions then feel free to drop it in the comments! ;')
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Note 1 : I went through this year's VARC1000 course and it's very different from last year's course but I'll try to give you a review of it 🫠
Note 2 : You'll find many people suggesting and saying that "pirated content le le" and stuff. But I won't really suggest that. VARC1000 course is more than what the pirated content will offer. It's not just about VARC okay? It will help you with DILR and QA too (Last year Gejo sir had made videos on how he himself solved DILR and gives really amazing tips and tricks). There will be content/materials for GDPI prepration, profile analyser (which I didn't really find helpful tbh), calls predictor (which again turned out to be not so true in my case but for others it was helpful), daily vocab, GK section, WAT topics, your acads specific questions generally asked during PIs etc etc. All this you won't get in the pirated stuff. You'll just get the videos of his lecs that's it. Course hi lena bhai if possible 🙂
👉🏻 Coming to the course's details : This time they have divided the course into 4 sections Launch Phase, Enhance Phase, Advanced Phase and Peak Phase. And each phase (from Enhance Phase) will be launched in specific months from June onwards. As of now the Launch Phase is active 👀
Coming to the description of the phases : As per my understanding it's perfectly summed up to take you from the very basic (launch phase) to the advanced level (peak phase) 🔥
Focus more on the Core Lessons which Gejo Sir will teach you. He'll just tell you the methods and tricks in these videos ig (that's what happened in the last course) and then maybe he'll teach you to apply them. He'll take a particular RC and solve it. Focus on how he deals with all this okay? Obv take the learnings and develop your own strategy/method (you can copy him but we all can't be like him) 😂
He'll throw some tests before the start of the video.. apply your brains there and see how you do. Then he'll also come up with the strategy lessons (very important) wherein he'll tell you about how to approach the VARC section in those 40 mins and what approach you should have. The core lessons, application lessons and strategy lessons were launched together last year in the course and were really helpful! Till now all the is for RC btw. For VA the material won't be much different but he'll teach you specially about how to deal with the VA too!
Then comes the Daily Article Dose! Do it! Roz karo! It's really good. He'll upload the solutions for it. For every article dose he'll do that and solve it for you. Also, throughout this course you'll find a diverse range of RCs! Humanities, Philosophy, Natural Sciences, Arts etc etc. Everything. And I hope that like last year, this year also he'll make seperate videos for every genre! It's really helpful in that sense! 🍻😌
Coming to the tests! He'll give you a lot of sectional tests (minimum 10 sectional tests) and previous year ke course ke bhi kuch tests alagse (this happened in the last year's course). So you need not worry about the sectionals. You'll get a satisfactory number of those. He'll also solve some sectionals for you. You'll be able to see how he solves the VARC section (trust me you'll be amazed seeing his way of solving). You'll also get Daily Drills where you'll have small tests or say 1-2 RCs and a few VA questions etc. this will also be there. Also, you'll get PY CAT papers as mocks and also as sectional tests separately! So that's also a done deal!! 🍻✨
Don't miss Gejo sir's live sessions! He'll have 1-2 every month ig. And those will be really helpful. It's an interactive session so you can ask your doubts there. He's a very funny guy so you won't be bored. He'll also give you some videos (hopefully) on how to approach DILR! He's a genius in DILR also (atleast for me) 💥
Then comes the Telegram Group of VARC1000 where Gejo sir will also be there! It's a very interactive group and very much helpful. A really nice place to be in I'll say as you'll find serious aspirants mostly.
I hope that I was able to include most of the important things of this course and if needed I'll update this post in the future! :')
Overall I'll say that this course is worth it? It'll definitely improve your VARC skills and understanding if you follow it religiously. As I have said... This course is not just about VARC but there are many many things in it and it'll turn out to be helpful overall! 🩵 Do share this review with your friends and other aspirants! 😼
All the best with your prep! If you have anything to add about the course or your opinions then feel free to drop it in the comments! ;')
2024.05.21 16:18 lonelyhomiedog123 Situationships stink 33(M)
Just had my heart broken a few hours ago; the end of a 4 month, monogamous situationship.
It's incredible how affectionate people can be while having zero desire to pursue something long term. This was the hardest lesson. Apparently, words speak louder than actions when it comes to love, a tough pill to swallow.
The biggest problem was I knew this was going to happen. On our second date, she made it clear she was not looking for something serious, though we never spoke about it again. Four months later, her mind never changed, though I didn't want to tell myself.
Anyway, the lesson moving forward is to not sacrifice my needs and be honest about what I want, which is a committed, long-term, monogamous relationship. If someone I like is not on board with that, then time to move on immediately.
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It's incredible how affectionate people can be while having zero desire to pursue something long term. This was the hardest lesson. Apparently, words speak louder than actions when it comes to love, a tough pill to swallow.
The biggest problem was I knew this was going to happen. On our second date, she made it clear she was not looking for something serious, though we never spoke about it again. Four months later, her mind never changed, though I didn't want to tell myself.
Anyway, the lesson moving forward is to not sacrifice my needs and be honest about what I want, which is a committed, long-term, monogamous relationship. If someone I like is not on board with that, then time to move on immediately.
2024.05.21 16:18 No_Wall6721 I think I messed up things with my crush.
So here's the thing, I have a really huge crush on a guy since 2018 and we had a really great friendship. But in 2019 somethings became awry. We lost our connections and i heard that he was in a relationship so i also tried to move on [but apparently couldn’t]. Recently because of a dare, i came to know that he was never in a relationship and everything was just a rumours. This time our conversations started in a awkward situation and i don't know how to get out from this situation. Also i still like him but don't have the courage to confess to him because all of my insecurities. Moreover, i'm not sure if he's interested in me. So, I'm kinda confused about what should i do? How to converse with him normally as a introvert when most of his reply ends with a single sentence or word!!?? Please do give me your suggestions. 🙇♀️🙇♀️ Thanks in advance. ❣️
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2024.05.21 16:17 Zero0081 Inadvertently ended up in a triad. How can I try to make this fair for everyone involved?
I (34m) have been with my NP, Aspen, (30F) for 9 years, and we have 2 kids. After talking about it for the last couple years, last year (around October) we decided to start seeing other people too. Yes, I'm aware I'm still very new to this, and I'm still trying to learn.
Now for the issue(?). I matched with Willow (37f) in February. We had a couple of dates, but since we live about 2 hours away from each other, this was over a month. In this time Aspen and Willow matched and started talking. Aspen and I realized quickly that she matched with Willow, and made sure to inform Willow of our connection. The two of them had their date and later returned to mine and Aspen's house to stay the night. Since then, we've had some more individual dates and one more group date.
We've also talked about if this is a triad or it becoming one. In that conversation with Willow (she brought it up), she made a comment that had sat uneasy with me since. She said that if there is any trouble between Aspen and I, or if there is a problem between Willow and one of us, Willow would cut off relationships with both Aspen and I to save our relationship. I did not address this in the moment because I felt that is her choice, but again that comment did not sit well with me. Another comment she made recently was about her being extra-marital. Aspen and I aren't married due to personal reasons, but we'll say we are in certain contexts to save time explaining. I did address that comment, trying to assure her, but I worry that it didn't help.
Now for the main questions. First, how can I address the comments Willow made, and assure her that she is not an extra anything? Second, what are things I can do to address couples privilege early? Thank you for any advice you can give.
TLDR: My first poly relationship is accidentally hard mode, and I want to address couples privilege before someone gets hurt.
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Now for the issue(?). I matched with Willow (37f) in February. We had a couple of dates, but since we live about 2 hours away from each other, this was over a month. In this time Aspen and Willow matched and started talking. Aspen and I realized quickly that she matched with Willow, and made sure to inform Willow of our connection. The two of them had their date and later returned to mine and Aspen's house to stay the night. Since then, we've had some more individual dates and one more group date.
We've also talked about if this is a triad or it becoming one. In that conversation with Willow (she brought it up), she made a comment that had sat uneasy with me since. She said that if there is any trouble between Aspen and I, or if there is a problem between Willow and one of us, Willow would cut off relationships with both Aspen and I to save our relationship. I did not address this in the moment because I felt that is her choice, but again that comment did not sit well with me. Another comment she made recently was about her being extra-marital. Aspen and I aren't married due to personal reasons, but we'll say we are in certain contexts to save time explaining. I did address that comment, trying to assure her, but I worry that it didn't help.
Now for the main questions. First, how can I address the comments Willow made, and assure her that she is not an extra anything? Second, what are things I can do to address couples privilege early? Thank you for any advice you can give.
TLDR: My first poly relationship is accidentally hard mode, and I want to address couples privilege before someone gets hurt.
2024.05.21 16:17 DeadManSinging Three Dog is an idiot, a hypocrite and a poser
I know I am going to catch some hate for this, because people really love Fallout 3. I don't want to take that away from you if you like this game, but I need to get this off my chest.
Recently, I started replaying Fallout 3 for the first time in over a decade - Through the Tales of Two Wastelands mod Now, I really liked this game back when I was a teenager but replaying it now, I definitely understand the massive amount of hate levied at this game.
I'm not even that far in and I've already decided to stop playing it. - Everything about the game just infuriates me to all hell and honestly, I've been finding it a slog when compared to almost any other game in the franchise. (Including FO4 Which I actually enjoy quite a bit) In my opinion, many characters in this game are either narratively flat and underwritten, or incredibly annoying.
The last thing I did in this game was reach Galaxy New Radio - And that's where I realized one character in particular stands out as especially badly written and obnoxious: Three-Dog.
Not only is his radio personality completely unfitting within the setting (He sounds like a modern day shock jock IMO), he is incredibly preachy as well as being a hypocrite, an idiot and a complete poser arm chair "activist".
"Oh wow man I'm such a rebel working up for the little guy! Sitting in my ivory tower protected by a xenophobic militia of techno-fetishists hording all the tech! Wow, man I'm such a voice for the downtrodden! Let me blackmail the protagonist into doing my dirty work because even though I fight the good fight I actually only do things quid pro quo! THREEEEEEEEEE-DAWWWWWG! WOOF WOOOF WOOOF!"
Three Dog lives in an impenetrable fortress, surrounded by misery, preaching about how 'ghouls are people too' while his techno-cult terrorist buddies kill all ghouls they come across without exception.
Even in Fallout 3, the goody two shoes version of the Brotherhood still hate ghouls, killing them whenever encountered (In Underworld an NPC tells you as much) yet Three Dog has no problem working with them as long as they protect him.
Now, if the game was actually well written or clever, and ACKNOWLEDGED this fact, that might be interesting and deep. Like, if there was a way you could convince him he was a hypocrite and not to work with the brotherhood of steel - Or even if he didn't KNOW the Brotherhood did things like that and you could show him the proof and convince him to seek protection by Reilly's Rangers instead.
Or, he could be completely irredeemable, and a commentary on fake activists or a statement about journalistic integrity and how the media misrepresents itself.
But of course, this is Fallout 3 - So Three Dog is a good guy, and the Brotherhood are also good guys - Despite the fact that they are still mostly ambivalent towards everyone else in the wasteland and distribute the water for their own reasons. Three Dog is basically a propagandist for a xenophobic technology hoarding terror cell who are occupying the DC ruins as its self proclaimed rulers.
(And no, I'm not an Enclave fanboy, but the Brotherhood are by definition terrorists and Mr House and NCR say as much in New Vegas.)
Then, to add insult to injury, he's perfectly happy sending you on a fucking suicide mission to repair a radar dish because "he has to stay here and fight the good fight" (I find this particular stupid because the brotherhood a; Kill Mutants and b: hoard pre war tech like that in the Museum of Science and seem to be using him as a hype man. Why wouldn't they help him out?).
He's not cool, he's not subversive - He's just a fucking idiot and a hypocrite.
He's like if there was a supposedly anarchist podcaster whose entire show was about "smashing the state" and "ACAB" and anti government oppression, surveillance and racial discrimination - Meanwhile he was streaming from the headquarters of the FBI and lived with his Lockheed Martin CEO father.
What makes him even worse (IMO) is that his voice actor seems like the most obnoxious self important ass hat ever - Begging Amazon to put him in the show, getting angry every time Bethesda (And Obsidian) don't return his desperate phone calls about coming back in sequels and generally acting like his character is such an integral part of the franchise - Even though he was literally just a radio DJ in a single game that came out, what, over 16 years ago?
So yeah, sorry; Rant over. I don't mean to offend anyone who likes this game or this character, you're entitled to disagree with me, as I am entitled to disagree with you - But he in particularly annoyed me to no end and I was finding the game a terrible slog anyway. Personally, I'm going back to the Mojave and then maybe a stop over in the Commonwealth - Leaving the Capitol Wasteland for good.
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Recently, I started replaying Fallout 3 for the first time in over a decade - Through the Tales of Two Wastelands mod Now, I really liked this game back when I was a teenager but replaying it now, I definitely understand the massive amount of hate levied at this game.
I'm not even that far in and I've already decided to stop playing it. - Everything about the game just infuriates me to all hell and honestly, I've been finding it a slog when compared to almost any other game in the franchise. (Including FO4 Which I actually enjoy quite a bit) In my opinion, many characters in this game are either narratively flat and underwritten, or incredibly annoying.
The last thing I did in this game was reach Galaxy New Radio - And that's where I realized one character in particular stands out as especially badly written and obnoxious: Three-Dog.
Not only is his radio personality completely unfitting within the setting (He sounds like a modern day shock jock IMO), he is incredibly preachy as well as being a hypocrite, an idiot and a complete poser arm chair "activist".
"Oh wow man I'm such a rebel working up for the little guy! Sitting in my ivory tower protected by a xenophobic militia of techno-fetishists hording all the tech! Wow, man I'm such a voice for the downtrodden! Let me blackmail the protagonist into doing my dirty work because even though I fight the good fight I actually only do things quid pro quo! THREEEEEEEEEE-DAWWWWWG! WOOF WOOOF WOOOF!"
Three Dog lives in an impenetrable fortress, surrounded by misery, preaching about how 'ghouls are people too' while his techno-cult terrorist buddies kill all ghouls they come across without exception.
Even in Fallout 3, the goody two shoes version of the Brotherhood still hate ghouls, killing them whenever encountered (In Underworld an NPC tells you as much) yet Three Dog has no problem working with them as long as they protect him.
Now, if the game was actually well written or clever, and ACKNOWLEDGED this fact, that might be interesting and deep. Like, if there was a way you could convince him he was a hypocrite and not to work with the brotherhood of steel - Or even if he didn't KNOW the Brotherhood did things like that and you could show him the proof and convince him to seek protection by Reilly's Rangers instead.
Or, he could be completely irredeemable, and a commentary on fake activists or a statement about journalistic integrity and how the media misrepresents itself.
But of course, this is Fallout 3 - So Three Dog is a good guy, and the Brotherhood are also good guys - Despite the fact that they are still mostly ambivalent towards everyone else in the wasteland and distribute the water for their own reasons. Three Dog is basically a propagandist for a xenophobic technology hoarding terror cell who are occupying the DC ruins as its self proclaimed rulers.
(And no, I'm not an Enclave fanboy, but the Brotherhood are by definition terrorists and Mr House and NCR say as much in New Vegas.)
Then, to add insult to injury, he's perfectly happy sending you on a fucking suicide mission to repair a radar dish because "he has to stay here and fight the good fight" (I find this particular stupid because the brotherhood a; Kill Mutants and b: hoard pre war tech like that in the Museum of Science and seem to be using him as a hype man. Why wouldn't they help him out?).
He's not cool, he's not subversive - He's just a fucking idiot and a hypocrite.
He's like if there was a supposedly anarchist podcaster whose entire show was about "smashing the state" and "ACAB" and anti government oppression, surveillance and racial discrimination - Meanwhile he was streaming from the headquarters of the FBI and lived with his Lockheed Martin CEO father.
What makes him even worse (IMO) is that his voice actor seems like the most obnoxious self important ass hat ever - Begging Amazon to put him in the show, getting angry every time Bethesda (And Obsidian) don't return his desperate phone calls about coming back in sequels and generally acting like his character is such an integral part of the franchise - Even though he was literally just a radio DJ in a single game that came out, what, over 16 years ago?
So yeah, sorry; Rant over. I don't mean to offend anyone who likes this game or this character, you're entitled to disagree with me, as I am entitled to disagree with you - But he in particularly annoyed me to no end and I was finding the game a terrible slog anyway. Personally, I'm going back to the Mojave and then maybe a stop over in the Commonwealth - Leaving the Capitol Wasteland for good.
2024.05.21 16:17 Sauront6702 Just to get a bit of hate
Once, the girl I love (she has moved on) was in a horrible time in her life, where she was actually thinking about suicide for some time... One day, after receiving an email saying that she had not overcome the test to enter the film academy she hoped to attend, she was desperate and saw no way out of that terrible situation. I made the biggest mistake in cases like these: I started looking for pragmatic solutions to her problem when the only thing I should have done was take the first available flight and go to Spain to see her (we had been in a long-distance relationship for almost 2 years). I too was in a difficult moment, having just moved to another city, alone, dissatisfied with my life and my choices... I was the only person with whom she felt she could open up and someone with whom she could share her weight... but I gave in, and to yet another negative response to my proposals I replied with this message: "so what do you want to do? just kill yourself?!" we argued and argued for a long time that day. needless to say that a couple of months later, after many discussions and almost total distancing on her part, we break up. she asked me to leave her. Now she's fine, she has new friends, a new boyfriend,I can't find out more, but I know she's fine, and I hope with all of myself that she's happy. I can only imagine what it felt like reading that message, that the person you need most, on whom you rely, one of the few things that gives away a glimmer of hope to stay alive: he disappoints you by breaking and praising you by giving that sentence, how much pain could she have tried? how can someone say they love another person and write that message, on such a difficult and disappointing day... how could they then even just want to hear the name of the boy who disappointed and hurt her so deeply and seriously? it happened two years ago now, since then I have never had a restful night's sleep, a day in which I didn't think about what I had done, a time in which I didn't feel like gagging when I looked at myself in the mirror. I'm sick, I've been sick for two years and my life goes on by inertia, and now it's too late to talk about it to my friends, rightly bother to hear me talk about my ex... and then, knowing this about me, what would they think? ? I disappointed and failed the woman to whom I had promised eternal protection and care, to whom I had assured support and security, I can't stand it anymore but I can't do anything other than continue to live with that moment, that message, stuck in the my eyes, feeling it burn like a brand on my back. I tried to contact her again but she made it clear that she didn't want to have anything to do with me, I don't blame her, but I miss her like crazy and maybe I've become a little crazy because of it.
she will probably never read these words, and it's better this way, it wouldn't change anything anyway, I tried to make up for it in every way, except going there in person, things she asked me not to do, and so I obeyed. there is no ending to this message, rambling and badly written... it's just an outburst from a person who can no longer live every day in the same head as the boy he hates, in the same body as the one he hates. he destroyed the most precious and important relationship I have ever had, I understood all this too late, as usual, I always arrive too late.
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she will probably never read these words, and it's better this way, it wouldn't change anything anyway, I tried to make up for it in every way, except going there in person, things she asked me not to do, and so I obeyed. there is no ending to this message, rambling and badly written... it's just an outburst from a person who can no longer live every day in the same head as the boy he hates, in the same body as the one he hates. he destroyed the most precious and important relationship I have ever had, I understood all this too late, as usual, I always arrive too late.