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One of the biggest claims made by Xtians, is that "God" and angels he sends are always watching over and protecting us. Well then, why didn't God and/or the angels protect me from my childhood bullies, or my stepbrother from his abusive egg donor (I refuse to call that scumbag a "mom" or "mother")? Why did Tejano superstar Selena Quintanilla-Perez end up being shot and killed by scumbag Yolanda Saldivar, if God and his angels are always watching and protecting? Of course there are countless other examples...
Xtians will give the typical excuses of "mysterious ways" and "free will." Ah, so the perpetrator's free will is more important than the victim's will and desire to not be murdered, raped, abused, etc., and the perpetrator's free will is also more important than the victim's well-being. Got it...

Tagged as humor because otherwise I’ll cry. I’m a teacher at a high school but I also work at an elementary school for after-school care. At that elementary school, we have a 2nd grader who’s on the spectrum. His mom and dad are divorced, and while his dad and I get along, his mom seems to hate me. Today, her little angel was shouting “what the fuh” while we were playing in the gym. Now, he didn’t say the full word, but we’ve got kindergarteners in our program who will repeat that, which wouldn’t be a fun conversation with their parents. So this 2nd grader is shouting “what the fuh” and the director of the program and I both heard it. The director was like, “hey come sit out for a minute, you can’t say that here and we’ve already talked about why you can’t say that.” (He says it a lot and the director and another staff member talked to him about his language yesterday). He starts crying and claiming he didn’t say anything AT ALL. That he didn’t say any words at all. Now that’s not true, as both I and the director watched and heard him say it. But he eventually sits down. Then mom shows up almost at the exact same time, and as he’s walking to grab his backpack, he stops in front of his mom, points at me, and starts crying again saying that I had said that he said the f word when he really didn’t. So I clarify for the mom what he had actually said, and he says that I’m lying. So I say, “but buddy, both [director] and me heard you say it..” His mom starts off saying that she’s heard other kids at the program say way worse things and “you’ve gotta be kidding me” that he got in trouble for that. I clarified that when we hear anyone using language that includes swears or things that are very nearly swears, we sit them out and talk to them about it. Then she says that I had set her son off by “being so [she puffed out her chest to sort of imply that I was being too forceful].” I sort of just looked at her waiting for more explanation and then she said that the way I talked to her and her son was making her “irritated.” I said I didn’t understand what I had done wrong, and she says “he’s on the spectrum; he feeds off of YOU,” implying that I had upset her son and caused whatever issue he was having (she doesn’t believe that he actually said anything, and so whatever problem there was had been caused by the staff). When I asked what I could do better next time she cut me off and said “you’re doing it RIGHT NOW.” She asked to talk to my boss and then the two of them talked for 5 minutes without me until she finally left with her kid. When my boss came back over, she asked “What the heck did you say to her?? She says she doesn’t like how you were talking to her or her kid.” My boss is on my side, because the mom has been difficult before, but this was way more than any other time. She’s gonna call her boss and ask how to proceed.
Now, I’m a 24 year old black male and I’ve worked in childcare since I was 16, so I’ve got at least one theory as to why she doesn’t like me. I deliberately was speaking calmly and politely because I don’t want to be misunderstood or set anyone off, but oh well 🤷🏾‍♂️. Don’t really want to go into work tomorrow if I’m gonna have to see or interact with that woman again. Hopefully his dad picks up; he and I get along great.

One of the biggest claims made by Catholics (and other Xtians), is that "God" and angels he sends are always watching over and protecting us. Well then, why didn't God and/or the angels protect me from my childhood bullies, or my stepbrother from his abusive egg donor (I refuse to call that scumbag a "mom" or "mother")? Why did Tejano superstar Selena Quintanilla-Perez end up being shot and killed by scumbag Yolanda Saldivar, if God and his angels are always watching and protecting? Of course there are countless other examples...
They'll give the typical excuses of "mysterious ways" and "free will." Ah, so the perpetrator's free will is more important than the victim's will and desire to not be murdered, raped, abused, etc., and the perpetrator's free will is also more important than the victim's well-being. Got it...

One of the biggest claims made by Xtians, is that "God" and angels he sends are always watching over and protecting us. Well then, why didn't God and/or the angels protect me from my childhood bullies, or my stepbrother from his abusive egg donor (I refuse to call that scumbag a "mom" or "mother")? Why did Tejano superstar Selena Quintanilla-Perez end up being shot and killed by scumbag Yolanda Saldivar, if God and his angels are always watching and protecting? Of course there are countless other examples...
Xtians will give the typical excuses of "mysterious ways" and "free will." Ah, so the perpetrator's free will is more important than the victim's will and desire to not be murdered, raped, abused, etc., and the perpetrator's free will is also more important than the victim's well-being. Got it...

Why I like Spider-Man more than Batman
I just wanna preface this by saying that I love both of them. They’re both my top 5 heroes. I will just be going over some of the reasons why I feel that Spider-Man is a better character than Batman and things that I don’t like about Batman specifically.
1) Spider-Man’s resilience: Joker once said that it takes one bad to make a person snap. To turn an average joe into someone like him. And to extent, Batman personifies this. Spider-Man has gone through way more stuff that were just as bad, if not worse than what he went through. And yet he is still able to go out and fight crime with a smile on his face. Spider-Man as a person contradicts Batman’s entire character. Spider-Man lost his mom, his dad, his uncle, his wife, and even his aunt before. And yet he is still able to not absolutely go insane and keeps it together for the betterment of himself and the people around him. Spider-Man as a 15 year old child was able to handle the deaths of his loved ones around him better than this 30 something year old man. Peter takes “All it takes is one bad day” and throws it in the trash.
2) Batman’s “moral code”: I don’t really mind the no kill rule, except for not killing the Joker. Like mentioned before, Joker said that all it takes is one bad day. And the game between him and Batman is how but heinous stuff can he do before Bruce just caves in and goes off the deep end. And I can respect that Bruce is able to keep himself in check and not cave in. But Joker has done some heinous stuff though. At some point, Bruce is gonna have to realize that Joker needs to go. Joker has done cruel and horrible things to the city and even Batman’s family, but Batman still won’t kill him because “It’d be too damned easy”. Bro, wtf are you talking about. What is preventing him from killing Joker. What about Bruce’s psyche is not allowing him to cave in and kill Joker? You could hear the pain in Jason Todd’s voice when he said “I’m not talking about Riddler, or Penguin. Him. Just him”. How insane is Batman actually, to lose a son to this man, and still not kill him. How insane is Batman, to see the things that Joker is doing to the city, and realize that it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to understand that Gotham would be better off without Joker. Literally no one disagrees that Gotham would be a 10x better place without joker.
And if you’re really that hellbent on not killing him, then lock him away somewhere forever. You have billions of dollars and contact damn near every other Superhero in DC. You can find somewhere to put him. Doesn’t Oliver Queen own a literal island? Tell him to lock Joker there forever so he can live out the rest of his sad pathetic life until he dies. That Asylum clearly isn’t working. Every time Bruce puts him there, he is fully aware that Joker will break out at some point. And I don’t want to hear that killing Joker wouldn’t chance anything, because if you believe that then there’s no hope for you.
THIS IS JUST FROM MY MORAL STANDPOINT. ITS ALL SUBJECTIVE
If you disagree with any of my points, feel free to comment and we can discuss. All I ask is that we keep this civil.

I just wanna preface this by saying that I love both of them. They’re both my top 5 heroes. I will just be going over some of the reasons why I feel that Spider-Man is a better character than Batman and things that I don’t like about Batman specifically.
1) Spider-Man’s resilience: Joker once said that it takes one bad to make a person snap. To turn an average joe into someone like him. And to extent, Batman personifies this. Spider-Man has gone through way more stuff that were just as bad, if not worse than what he went through. And yet he is still able to go out and fight crime with a smile on his face. Spider-Man as a person contradicts Batman’s entire character. Spider-Man lost his mom, his dad, his uncle, his wife, and even his aunt before. And yet he is still able to not absolutely go insane and keeps it together for the betterment of himself and the people around him. Spider-Man as a 15 year old child was able to handle the deaths of his loved ones around him better than this 30 something year old man. Peter takes “All it takes is one bad day” and throws it in the trash.
2) Batman’s “moral code”: I don’t really mind the no kill rule, except for not killing the Joker. Like mentioned before, Joker said that all it takes is one bad day. And the game between him and Batman is how but heinous stuff can he do before Bruce just caves in and goes off the deep end. And I can respect that Bruce is able to keep himself in check and not cave in. But Joker has done some heinous stuff though. At some point, Bruce is gonna have to realize that Joker needs to go. Joker has done cruel and horrible things to the city and even Batman’s family, but Batman still won’t kill him because “It’d be too damned easy”. Bro, wtf are you talking about. What is preventing him from killing Joker. What about Bruce’s psyche is not allowing him to cave in and kill Joker? You could hear the pain in Jason Todd’s voice when he said “I’m not talking about Riddler, or Penguin. Him. Just him”. How insane is Batman actually, to lose a son to this man, and still not kill him. How insane is Batman, to see the things that Joker is doing to the city, and realize that it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to understand that Gotham would be better off without Joker. Literally no one disagrees that Gotham would be a 10x better place without joker.
And if you’re really that hellbent on not killing him, then lock him away somewhere forever. You have billions of dollars and contact damn near every other Superhero in DC. You can find somewhere to put him. Doesn’t Oliver Queen own a literal island? Tell him to lock Joker there forever so he can live out the rest of his sad pathetic life until he dies. That Asylum clearly isn’t working. Every time Bruce puts him there, he is fully aware that Joker will break out at some point. And I don’t want to hear that killing Joker wouldn’t chance anything, because if you believe that then there’s no hope for you.
THIS IS JUST FROM MY MORAL STANDPOINT. ITS ALL SUBJECTIVE
If you disagree with any of my points, feel free to comment and we can discuss. All I ask is that we keep this civil.

My mother has told me many times that if I had been born a girl, she would have locked me in our house, rarely letting me go out and never for fun.
My access to phone and internet would have been highly limited, implying she would have constantly checked my online chats to confirm I wasn't talking to any boys.
She envisions that if she had given birth to a daughter, she would have married her off as soon as she reached the age of 14.
She had a conversation with my father about this hypothetical situation in which I'm born as a female, to which my father replied that it's okay for our son to go out adventuring with his friends and be socially active, but if he had really been born as a girl, I would have beaten her every single day.
She never tolerates me cracking open the origins and roots of her misogynistic ideas. Only once did she get curious enough to seek if I'm telling her the truth about direct statements from Quran and Hadiths or not, so she asked my dad if Islam really views women the way I had described (as a lesser gender and subordinate to the superior gender - man). My dad, calmly, with absolute faith in how the world works, confirmed it all, saying that it's just how God has made it so, that we can't alter God's supreme authority. My mom, now conscious of what is what, protested that man and woman must be equals, that she cannot accept this Islamic teaching.
However, she soon reverted back to ignorance; the foundation is too deep for her to be released from it, and her mental capacity and psychological tolerance for a radical shift in her Reality is too low. She might lose her mind if she were to question her Din/Deen/Religion the way I do.

While I can go on and on about this situation, I will try to limit myself to the pertinent details as to not make this a novel.
I (23F) have been dating my partner (25M) for 5 years since we met in college. I am very much in love with him, and our relationship is pretty good. We communicate, support one another, and try to be very open with our feelings. He is the first person for me to date that I actually see myself having a future with.
The issue is our mothers. Neither one is more of a problem than the other. My mother does not like his mom, and she seemingly doesn’t like her either. Mind you, in our 5 years of dating they have only actually met for 15 minutes at most (at graduation, and his mom ended up leaving bc she was sick and ended up having covid).
I recently found out that apparently my mother left a bad taste in her mouth due to a comment along the lines of “oh are you excited to finally sit down and gossip/kiki about these two (meaning my partner and I).” Now, knowing my mom, she was making a light-hearted comment and trying to be personable. But apparently his mom took this as “catty and mean girlish.”
His mother has also tried to force him to break up with me numerous times, most notably on Christmas two years ago, to which I called him out for blindly listening to mommy. He admitted it’s not what he wanted, and his mom was just in his ear. She’s always in his ear about how “she’s worried that because we met so young that he hasn’t experienced other people and what he wants in relationships.”
Theres always some iteration of this sort of behavior from her. She’s truly a snake, and I’ve known that from the minute I met her. His family is very wealthy (think pedigree status) and my family just is not, which I think is another layer to all of this. She clearly doesn’t like me or think I’m good enough for her son, but it’s laughable because I am an admittedly conventionally beautiful woman with a MS in science who got her alcoholic son into AA (now 2.5 years sober), which ALSO resulted in getting her sober herself, since he refused to have a relationship with her once he was sober (since she was still a drunk).
And now I’m not saying it’s all on his mom. My mom is just as bad. In my ear trying to pit me against his mom and family, pulling emotional and mental manipulation to get me to live closer, etc.
This never was really a big thing to me; but when I found out her “bad taste” from my mom’s comment at the graduation, I kinda just lost my shit. Especially since I’m supposed to be moving to his family’s summer house to work for the summer and I’ll be around her all the time. I’m realizing that as much as I love this man, our future (and any potential marriage) also includes that insufferable woman, and the strange and controlling dynamics of his whole family. Not to mention having to deal with my mother and the dynamics there.
It’s just gotten me thinking whether this relationship is doomed from the get-go, and whether it might serve us both better to end it? There’s a part of me that thinks it’s so stupid to end the relationship because of parents and bullshit outside of the relationship, but I also know it’s stupid to think that those sort of things don’t have significant impacts on relationships.
I don’t know, this might just be rambling, but if it’s somewhere coherent, any advice is much appreciated.
TLDR: both my partner and I’s moms are emotionally and mentally manipulative people that hate each other (despite never meeting) and are making me think my 5-year relationship is actually doomed.

I have a "team" of people who support and manage my cheerful, good-natured, late stage 5 mom from the time she wakes up till she lays down for the night with her TV timer and the news on. My team is

• Fit older gentleman who lives in her basement apartment on a "senior home share" where he trades rent and utilities for support and companionship. He's been there 2 years and is now part of the family. He listens for her blinds to come up in the mornings then happens to knock on her back door each morning to end up administering her meds, breakfast, morning coffee, classical music session and general companionship. They are good friends.
• Outside female caregiver who comes "late morning" for 3 hours, takes a 2.5 hour break to walk her dog, and then returns "late afternoon" to organize and serve dinner & evening meds & helps my mom wrap up her day. She stands by for my mom's baths and pushes drinking lots of water (to avoid UTI's). When she first started I told her she didn't need to pledge in blood that she'd be there at a specific time each day as long as the routine was the same.
• My young adult sons who are 20 and 22 and not spooked by the changes in their grandmother. On weekends they are both able to show up about 5 and hang out with her and coax her to get ready for bed, take her pills, eat a dinner that I send with them--they even remember and know how to get her hair net on her... it is very endearing and she loves it.
• Myself - I watch cameras in my mom's room and main sitting room pretty constantly when she's alone. I go to my mom's and do a girls' night of walk, dinner, TV on her bed a couple of times a week. I clean her house while there (or wipe down high traffic areas) and I pay all of her bills and manage her many rental properties that she owns (along with her health care, finances, personal care appointments) from my home in her neighborhood. I talk to her 3 to 8 times each day. I am her person.

I am weary from texting everyone separately and relaying all the nuances of what the last person handled. A group text (where we all commit to trying to be super cryptic and brief) works with my own family, but I'm trying to find a group, "care-circle" type app that wouldn't be constantly chiming with what we're up to on the weekends for her weekday female caregiver, for instance. The gentleman who lives in her basement is lovely and devoted to her, but he scoots out of the way when he hears the female caregiver arrive because (I think) he doesn't want to get swept in to lady-talk, etc. I don't want to subject him to the lengthy texts that the female carer and I shoot back and forth. Yet I want him to know what the weekday caregiver's basic movements are because he's quite willing to listen for my mom and even hang out with her when the female carer leaves for her break, but she doesn't think to let him know when that's happened.
TLDR: I either need to know ground rules for a group text among about 5-6 different people in my mom's "care circle" or I need to find an actual SIMPLE/BASIC app designed for care coordination among a group. Any specific success stories from someone with a proven system? One of my main objectives is to keep messages brief and to not have phones chiming 24/7 for the people involved.
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So for context and a little back story I am 26m my younger sister is 22f (bekks for reference), we haven't always had a great relationship she's diagnosed bipolar disorder with few other things been in and out of mental wards. She had a kid about a year and a half ago as well as me our kids are 21 days apart. I had to move back home due to some relationship issues and bekks was here already due to her own relationship issues and the fact our bio dad no longer wanted to foot her bills anymore. In our mom's house, while my son was eating solid food already, bekks was giving her daughter baby snacks and milk which caused some major digestive issues for her daughter. Our mom being the saint she is was trying to teach her how to get her daughter onto solids and sippy cups however bekks never listened. She ignored her daughter, left her for our mom to take care of, even let her daughter fall down the stairs 3 separate times because as bekks said herself she thought her daughter knew better. Her daughter was only like 9m-11m old. Eventually she gave her daughter to our mom stating she never wanted to be a mom anyway and left. The last time she had seen her daughter was back in February of this year. Her daughter has majorly struggled with mommy issues every time our mom leaves the room she screams and cries for momma. Bekks has had every chance to see her daughter, our mom hosts family dinner night every Sunday.
A few days ago bekks tried messaging my mom saying she wanted to keep her daughter for a few days or something along those lines. Our mother refused because she has not been around for her daughter, has not financially provided for her daughter, and every time her daughter goes with her she comes back in full tantrum mode and relives her mom abandoning her again basically (if she was around more she wouldn't be like this but she hadn't bothered). Now she is calling the cops lying and saying our mom stole her daughter and now today has tried to call the cops and say that I had SA her daughter back in February when bekks last saw her and saying she found SA evidence on her back then. The detective looked into her file of course and she has a history of falsely accusing SA. I'm thankfully not getting my life turned upside down because of the overwhelming evidence that she is lying however I'm getting tired of her trying to do this to me. She has tried accusing SA against me on her before in the past which had been crazy even got my youngest sister to do it.
My mom tells me not to worry about it but I've wanted to go on fb and just blast her with all the evidence and false accusations to friends and family publicly but I have chosen to vent like this instead. I apologize that its lengthy and if you read all this i thank you for your time. Legally speaking our mother has been handling it so far they haven't needed me. Our mom has also told me not to worry that karma will get her and that karma is momma so I'm sure our mom is fed up with her bs now

I’m a stay at home mom of two baby boys. Married 3 years & dated 6 months prior to marriage & got pregnant a couple of months before getting married.
I’m going to get shit for all my bad decision-making here.
I prayed (out loud) for a man that would meet all this criteria and one month later met my husband. He met all the criteria of my prayer so no matter what bad things happened, I thought God had this purposed for me. I mean like a checklist of 10-20 items all checked off. I was vedy devout in my faith. But, now looking back I feel like maybe it wasn’t God who answered my prayer. Maybe this was like a time in the book of Job where God let Satan attack Job and take everything away from him. I don’t know. Oddly enough, the man that became my husband said he prayed for this, too, one month prior.
He love-bombed me. He devalued me. Later, he threatened to leave me (but never has). While we were dating, when I was pregnant, when we were engaged. He called escorts behind my back. I find out he had sexual relations with a woman in his apartment complex one week before we started dating - he told me three years into our marriage. Before we dated, he also had a two year affair with a married woman (whose husband to this day has no idea about it.) He was meeting her and texting her behind my back 2 weeks into us being officially dating exclusively. I find out because he got arrested and I went to pick up his things on his person at the jail. I guess his passcode in one try and there I see the truth. He lied about this woman - he said she was a best friend with no I love yous and no sexual relations. He even asked me if it was okay to be friends with her and I asked him those two questions. He lied and the proof was right there. We were fairly new so I didn’t read too many texts. I spent one hour on his phone at most and handling a panic attack in between.
I read where he texted escorts, too, and read two other relationships he had while seeing this married woman. My mind was blown. I was done. I screenshoted some evidence for my personal keepsake. I texted the married woman because their I love you was so recent. I told her what happened and said to go get him out of jail because I was done. She blew up my phone with texts. She wanted to know who I was and she wanted to share all the creepy details about this man. She claimed they only had sex twice and it was rape - bullshit. She also said a lot of other things like she knew when he bought me a coffee and knew when he went to the city to meet his friends. She said he said that they could still have sex while he was seeing me. He denied it and said it was the other way around.
When he got out of jail, he contacted me and sent me a video. She texted me to show me he sent her a video, too. Same shirt, same scenery and all filmed back after back. He told her how much he cared about her but he was letting her go. He came to meet me because I took his dog to care after her while he was in jail. He talked me into giving him one more chance. I moved into his apartment to get away from a situation at home. I fell for him hard and believed I was in love. We texted and talked all the time and when we were able, we were together. I went on a trip for a week withoht him to California. I got back and the sheets were washed. He said he did that for me so I can come home to clean sheets. Later over the course of our relationship I noticed he never much stepped up to do the laundry. A lot of chores started falling on me. Before even being married he expected me to coean his whole apartment which seemed to have never been touched once with any cleaning.
We were fighting a lot and I saw some of his anger but I thought he was just frustrated with things he was dealing with in his life. He got sort of pushy with me having intercourse with him at times I told him I didn’t want to because I wanted to wait. That made him angry. I find out that he had been FaceTiming escorts from the first weeks we started dating and found at least one call every month up to the week we were suppose to get married. I was shocked! I had no idea and I couldn’t believe it. We had intercourse so much that he wouldn’t need that so I thought. He said it was like porn to him and he had that habit from before he met me. Keep in mind, I’m religious so I was abstinent most of my life and these red flags weren’t so obvious to me. I thought most men were dogs like this. The biggest factor that blew my mind (of which he explained away) was that these escorts weren’t typical - they were transgender women and some still had their boy parts. After talking with someone who I thought was like a mom to me(I find oht later she wasn’t for me), I went through with the wedding, and besides, I was having his baby.
We moved states. I noticed a lot of verbal abuse starting from typically the night time as we shared a bed. He would cuss at me a lot and get so angry. It was almost every night. I was surprised - thinking who is this guy. He made me cry a lot. It was so stupid, I got screamed at just for rolling over in my sleep. He explained this away later after the problem got better. I began feeling like I made a mistake in marrying him. I was so scared at the same time because this was my first pregnancy. I feared so much about the “what ifs” and what world this baby was coming into.
The abuse got worse. It got physcial from time-to-time. He says I was abusive back but I feel like it was reactive abuse because it became too much for me. I would hit him back. It ate at my mind every day and I had all these hormones because I was going to have a baby soon. When pregnant, he has pushed me, held me down, jumped on me with his hands around my neck. He said things that were horrible like he would walk away from this son like he did his first son (he had a son from an earlier relationship which he had nothing to do with). Fear overcame me and some days I thought ending my life was the only way to escape my life and prevent a nightmare for my son. (These feelings relented later in time.)
One time he held up furniture above his head and he was ready to throw it at my head - I believe this was right after our son was born. We argued a lot because my mistrust in him because what I mentioned I discovered earlier. I wanted him to assure me he was trustworthy so sometimes I asked for his phone. Doing that resulted many times in violence and rage. When he had that furniture held up, I felt like he was going to end me right then and there. He stopped himself and I asked him why. He said because he saw the fear in my eyes.
We fought and made up A LOT. That was our relationship and me asking him where he has been or was he with someone. It was terrible for both of us. I discover later that he lied about a lot of things. I didn’t even know he didn’t have a drivers license until about 1-2 years into our marriage. I didn’t know the pictures of his boy parts I found once while dating were to the escorts. I asked him approximately a thousand times. He doesn’t just lie - he tells a story with details and the whole thing is a lie.
I use to check his phone and browser history because it was never ending place of discovery. I never got confessions out of him but I did get evidence that he thought he hid. He must have gotten better at hiding things because I would find less and less. I got to a point where I don’t check anymore - I know and it’s a damn headache to live like that. All the time he did these things, he swore his love for me. He said I was everything.
I discovered again a lie the first time he went to Miami last year (his first time away from me.) He took advantage and called at least ten eacorts and almost met up with one (or did. I don’t know. There’s no money spent but he lied and said the last escort called was his co-worker. I may never know what happened but his coworkers got weird around me after that trip. They won’t look me in the eye.) I didn’t know all this until December last year where I asked him for his T-Mobile password. He didn’t think I would find this when giving me the password.
I saw a text after that trip and found out he lied. He was awake at 2:00PM after he told me he went to bed on the phone. He told me how he missed me SOOO much. He said he tried putting his arm around me in bed to realize I was not there. We FOUGHT over the phone. He didn’t want me to see the rest of the texts between him and his coworker. He left bruises on my arms pushing and shoving me with all his strength. He overpowered me and I never saw the messages. He said he was hiding the fact ge did cocaine. I lost control because I pulled a knife out at him. Not to hurt him but to intimidate him. (I never lost it like this again -he ALWAYS uses this against me to say I’m the abusive one.)
December he admitted the elaborate cocaine story he gave me was a LIE. He said he did do cocaine but not how he told me. The real thing he was hiding was the escorts. At that time, I find out he kissed a coworker (maybe more but nobody will tell me anything.) Another girl told me he was always flirting with new hires. After I find this out from these girls, he put two holes in the walls and broke the doors at the apartment that was in my name. He also bought me $200 roses and a new marriage ring fo Christmas along with other nice gifts. He even goes to therapy to get better at his lying problem (which he only did for about 3 sessions.) He swore this was the last time I would EVER have this happen to me. He swore he loved me and our family. My second baby was born February after ALL of that.
November, my mom died and left me money. I find all that out after I put money on a house for us - Our first house. I made sure we were good. I made sure my baby had everything he could need. I didn’t even buy myself a new car (backstory I lost my good credit, my 2020 car and had one eviction in this marriage. I was almost $30,000 in debt after all of that. My husband made his bad credit good and how we got the house, too. He still has his car and no evictions on his name. We paid over $5,000 for his traffic tickets and court fees plus his debts.)
I could have left then but I was vulnerable because I was having another baby in two months.I feared all the time because I couldn’t get a job or keep one being pregnant and I worried about having one after because I wouldn’t make enough with him and me working would put us at a negative income. I tried building this website but I have yet to get sales. I knew I needed to get out but one last things I feared was breaking up my marriage. I thought he could get better for all his problems.
His anger reared its head again this past month. I found a book titled “Why did he do that.” My husband fits a lot of those examples of abusers. The book said the nice guy is the mask.
This time when he got angry, he said it was my fault he cheated on me. He said it’s a woman’s fault if a man cheats. He said that women need to keep a man happy. He said he had depression caused by me which he never mentioned before. He always said I made him happier than he ever has been in his life. I didn’t know about the cheating just like I didn’t know about the cause. He endlessly lied to me.
I went to his work and asked his boss about the girl he kissed. He is still lying. He said he told his boss what happened. His boss said they both said nothing when they came in for questioning. My husband got the word out and it turned into drama when those girls texted me.
My husband is two people. Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde. I just learned recently he has been reading my journals on my phone and texts between my sister. He read my reddit posts. He lied about this and kept it to himself. I feel like he may have planned trapping me in my marriage so I would have nothing. I feel like he is stalking me, too. I have 30K left locked up in a CD - he wants that when its available to pay off the credit cards in his name. We both spend on those cards for food and needs. I want to keep it as my nest just in case. He scares me sometimes. I feel like he may charm a judge when we fight for custody if I leave. I’m scared he will bring up the knife incident and the baker act (I was bakeracted last year when 5 months pregnant- he said he would cut me off financially and have me and our unborn baby fend for ourselves. I panicked and he was being a monster. I said he was hurting me and he said he didn’t care.) I told a cop I wanted to hurt myself but I wasn’t suicidal - I just feared my husband and wanted to get away from him. It was impulsive and I regretted saying it immediately. He was messing with my mind - he fake called the cops. Never dialed but acted out a conversation. I called right after.
I fear him. He is looking like a pscychopath to me or narcist - he pal ed his whole marriage and family around abuse and lies. He admitted to lying to keep me from leaving him on a few occassions. He would act like a little innocent and hurt boy. I could never see the abuser when he switched.
Would you be scared, too? I feel like no matter what I will never be free from him. My husband has once told me nobody will believe me. Everyone thinks I’m crazy - he said this right after convincing the cops that. (Time where he bent the truth to make it funny - the cops were sold.)

Okay so my son is 5 months old and I’m just reflecting on my post partum depression. Do any moms possibly relate? New and previous survivors of ppd?
It’s not easy I’m crying and screaming All I hear is the constant need The constant cry that needs to be answered No one is helping I’m alone All day and all night, I constantly have to care for you My identity is no longer there I’m constantly craving to be okay and not in an eternal mess Medication doesn’t help the constant angst and fire that’s within The blood coming from my wrists drenching my soul seems to take control The desire for you to not need anything For me to be just okay and to be alright with who I am I don’t know who I am anymore All I know is your cries The constant call for need Where’s me being taken care of I’m alone I’m working, I do all the chores and I care for you It’s overwhelming There is no individuality No identity just the constant choke of responsibility To fit into to society and be a good mother I love you but I’m dying My soul is no longer alive, nothing invigorates me The idea of trips seem fun but the answer is we don’t have the money The idea of doing things is fun but there’s always something saying that you can’t When will it be my turn to be okay and to not want to end it all Feel the darkness fully envelope my soul and just be able to breathe My hardest days seem to always be your hardest days We go from being okay to you crying and screaming at me for hours We try everything to take care of you but all that we hear is you cry There’s no laughter on these days but anxiety and stress I’m so ready to end it all, to just stop hearing and to finally rest Post partum the silent destroyer The anger The fear There is no rest for the mother but the father just sits there and watches you crumble There is no help No rescue just drowning

I’m a stay at home mom of two baby boys. Married 3 years & dated 6 months prior to marriage & got pregnant a couple of months before getting married.
I’m going to get shit for all my bad decision-making here.
I prayed (out loud) for a man that would meet all this criteria and one month later met my husband. He met all the criteria of my prayer so no matter what bad things happened, I thought God had this purposed for me. I mean like a checklist of 10-20 items all checked off. I was vedy devout in my faith. But, now looking back I feel like maybe it wasn’t God who answered my prayer. Maybe this was like a time in the book of Job where God let Satan attack Job and take everything away from him. I don’t know. Oddly enough, the man that became my husband said he prayed for this, too, one month prior.
He love-bombed me. He devalued me. Later, he threatened to leave me (but never has). While we were dating, when I was pregnant, when we were engaged. He called escorts behind my back. I find out he had sexual relations with a woman in his apartment complex one week before we started dating - he told me three years into our marriage. Before we dated, he also had a two year affair with a married woman (whose husband to this day has no idea about it.) He was meeting her and texting her behind my back 2 weeks into us being officially dating exclusively. I find out because he got arrested and I went to pick up his things on his person at the jail. I guess his passcode in one try and there I see the truth. He lied about this woman - he said she was a best friend with no I love yous and no sexual relations. He even asked me if it was okay to be friends with her and I asked him those two questions. He lied and the proof was right there. We were fairly new so I didn’t read too many texts. I spent one hour on his phone at most and handling a panic attack in between.
I read where he texted escorts, too, and read two other relationships he had while seeing this married woman. My mind was blown. I was done. I screenshoted some evidence for my personal keepsake. I texted the married woman because their I love you was so recent. I told her what happened and said to go get him out of jail because I was done. She blew up my phone with texts. She wanted to know who I was and she wanted to share all the creepy details about this man. She claimed they only had sex twice and it was rape - bullshit. She also said a lot of other things like she knew when he bought me a coffee and knew when he went to the city to meet his friends. She said he said that they could still have sex while he was seeing me. He denied it and said it was the other way around.
When he got out of jail, he contacted me and sent me a video. She texted me to show me he sent her a video, too. Same shirt, same scenery and all filmed back after back. He told her how much he cared about her but he was letting her go. He came to meet me because I took his dog to care after her while he was in jail. He talked me into giving him one more chance. I moved into his apartment to get away from a situation at home. I fell for him hard and believed I was in love. We texted and talked all the time and when we were able, we were together. I went on a trip for a week withoht him to California. I got back and the sheets were washed. He said he did that for me so I can come home to clean sheets. Later over the course of our relationship I noticed he never much stepped up to do the laundry. A lot of chores started falling on me. Before even being married he expected me to coean his whole apartment which seemed to have never been touched once with any cleaning.
We were fighting a lot and I saw some of his anger but I thought he was just frustrated with things he was dealing with in his life. He got sort of pushy with me having intercourse with him at times I told him I didn’t want to because I wanted to wait. That made him angry. I find out that he had been FaceTiming escorts from the first weeks we started dating and found at least one call every month up to the week we were suppose to get married. I was shocked! I had no idea and I couldn’t believe it. We had intercourse so much that he wouldn’t need that so I thought. He said it was like porn to him and he had that habit from before he met me. Keep in mind, I’m religious so I was abstinent most of my life and these red flags weren’t so obvious to me. I thought most men were dogs like this. The biggest factor that blew my mind (of which he explained away) was that these escorts weren’t typical - they were transgender women and some still had their boy parts. After talking with someone who I thought was like a mom to me(I find oht later she wasn’t for me), I went through with the wedding, and besides, I was having his baby.
We moved states. I noticed a lot of verbal abuse starting from typically the night time as we shared a bed. He would cuss at me a lot and get so angry. It was almost every night. I was surprised - thinking who is this guy. He made me cry a lot. It was so stupid, I got screamed at just for rolling over in my sleep. He explained this away later after the problem got better. I began feeling like I made a mistake in marrying him. I was so scared at the same time because this was my first pregnancy. I feared so much about the “what ifs” and what world this baby was coming into.
The abuse got worse. It got physcial from time-to-time. He says I was abusive back but I feel like it was reactive abuse because it became too much for me. I would hit him back. It ate at my mind every day and I had all these hormones because I was going to have a baby soon. When pregnant, he has pushed me, held me down, jumped on me with his hands around my neck. He said things that were horrible like he would walk away from this son like he did his first son (he had a son from an earlier relationship which he had nothing to do with). Fear overcame me and some days I thought ending my life was the only way to escape my life and prevent a nightmare for my son. (These feelings relented later in time.)
One time he held up furniture above his head and he was ready to throw it at my head - I believe this was right after our son was born. We argued a lot because my mistrust in him because what I mentioned I discovered earlier. I wanted him to assure me he was trustworthy so sometimes I asked for his phone. Doing that resulted many times in violence and rage. When he had that furniture held up, I felt like he was going to end me right then and there. He stopped himself and I asked him why. He said because he saw the fear in my eyes.
We fought and made up A LOT. That was our relationship and me asking him where he has been or was he with someone. It was terrible for both of us. I discover later that he lied about a lot of things. I didn’t even know he didn’t have a drivers license until about 1-2 years into our marriage. I didn’t know the pictures of his boy parts I found once while dating were to the escorts. I asked him approximately a thousand times. He doesn’t just lie - he tells a story with details and the whole thing is a lie.
I use to check his phone and browser history because it was never ending place of discovery. I never got confessions out of him but I did get evidence that he thought he hid. He must have gotten better at hiding things because I would find less and less. I got to a point where I don’t check anymore - I know and it’s a damn headache to live like that. All the time he did these things, he swore his love for me. He said I was everything.
I discovered again a lie the first time he went to Miami last year (his first time away from me.) He took advantage and called at least ten eacorts and almost met up with one (or did. I don’t know. There’s no money spent but he lied and said the last escort called was his co-worker. I may never know what happened but his coworkers got weird around me after that trip. They won’t look me in the eye.) I didn’t know all this until December last year where I asked him for his T-Mobile password. He didn’t think I would find this when giving me the password.
I saw a text after that trip and found out he lied. He was awake at 2:00PM after he told me he went to bed on the phone. He told me how he missed me SOOO much. He said he tried putting his arm around me in bed to realize I was not there. We FOUGHT over the phone. He didn’t want me to see the rest of the texts between him and his coworker. He left bruises on my arms pushing and shoving me with all his strength. He overpowered me and I never saw the messages. He said he was hiding the fact ge did cocaine. I lost control because I pulled a knife out at him. Not to hurt him but to intimidate him. (I never lost it like this again -he ALWAYS uses this against me to say I’m the abusive one.)
December he admitted the elaborate cocaine story he gave me was a LIE. He said he did do cocaine but not how he told me. The real thing he was hiding was the escorts. At that time, I find out he kissed a coworker (maybe more but nobody will tell me anything.) Another girl told me he was always flirting with new hires. After I find this out from these girls, he put two holes in the walls and broke the doors at the apartment that was in my name. He also bought me $200 roses and a new marriage ring fo Christmas along with other nice gifts. He even goes to therapy to get better at his lying problem (which he only did for about 3 sessions.) He swore this was the last time I would EVER have this happen to me. He swore he loved me and our family. My second baby was born February after ALL of that.
November, my mom died and left me money. I find all that out after I put money on a house for us - Our first house. I made sure we were good. I made sure my baby had everything he could need. I didn’t even buy myself a new car (backstory I lost my good credit, my 2020 car and had one eviction in this marriage. I was almost $30,000 in debt after all of that. My husband made his bad credit good and how we got the house, too. He still has his car and no evictions on his name. We paid over $5,000 for his traffic tickets and court fees plus his debts.)
I could have left then but I was vulnerable because I was having another baby in two months.I feared all the time because I couldn’t get a job or keep one being pregnant and I worried about having one after because I wouldn’t make enough with him and me working would put us at a negative income. I tried building this website but I have yet to get sales. I knew I needed to get out but one last things I feared was breaking up my marriage. I thought he could get better for all his problems.
His anger reared its head again this past month. I found a book titled “Why did he do that.” My husband fits a lot of those examples of abusers. The book said the nice guy is the mask.
This time when he got angry, he said it was my fault he cheated on me. He said it’s a woman’s fault if a man cheats. He said that women need to keep a man happy. He said he had depression caused by me which he never mentioned before. He always said I made him happier than he ever has been in his life. I didn’t know about the cheating just like I didn’t know about the cause. He endlessly lied to me.
I went to his work and asked his boss about the girl he kissed. He is still lying. He said he told his boss what happened. His boss said they both said nothing when they came in for questioning. My husband got the word out and it turned into drama when those girls texted me.
My husband is two people. Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde. I just learned recently he has been reading my journals on my phone and texts between my sister. He read my reddit posts. He lied about this and kept it to himself. I feel like he may have planned trapping me in my marriage so I would have nothing. I feel like he is stalking me, too. I have 30K left locked up in a CD - he wants that when its available to pay off the credit cards in his name. We both spend on those cards for food and needs. I want to keep it as my nest just in case. He scares me sometimes. I feel like he may charm a judge when we fight for custody if I leave. I’m scared he will bring up the knife incident and the baker act (I was bakeracted last year when 5 months pregnant- he said he would cut me off financially and have me and our unborn baby fend for ourselves. I panicked and he was being a monster. I said he was hurting me and he said he didn’t care.) I told a cop I wanted to hurt myself but I wasn’t suicidal - I just feared my husband and wanted to get away from him. It was impulsive and I regretted saying it immediately. He was messing with my mind - he fake called the cops. Never dialed but acted out a conversation. I called right after.
I fear him. He is looking like a pscychopath to me or narcist - he pal ed his whole marriage and family around abuse and lies. He admitted to lying to keep me from leaving him on a few occassions. He would act like a little innocent and hurt boy. I could never see the abuser when he switched.
Would you be scared, too? Am I overthinking his lies and abuse? Do I need to get away now? I feel like no matter what I will never be free from him. My husband has once told me nobody will believe me. Everyone thinks I’m crazy - he said this right after convincing the cops that. (Time where he bent the truth to make it funny - the cops were sold.)

I’ve (33F) been with my SO (43M) for 3 years, living together for 2 years. He has two kids from a previous relationship, SD (16 - with us full time) and SS (14 - with us every other week).
For the last few weeks, I’m been gradually returning back to work after 5 months on medical leave for a brain injury. It’s been hard, but I’m doing mostly okay. Working takes all my energy so in the evening, I’m usually a dead couch potato. My partner has been amazing through it all (the injury, the rehabilitation, etc.).
This week is a little crazy with everyone schedule and I’ve been feeling off in the last days. Saturday, my SO told me he had a hockey game on Wednesday and so does his son. He told me BM would go (he arranged everything with her). Sunday, his daughter asked him to go for a haircut next Thursday. He told her no, we have a date night so she can either pick another day or ask her mom, but he was unavailable because it’s a « us » time. In both situations, he didn’t ask me if I was available of anything, he just found other solutions and still kept our date.
Today, after work, I was barely functioning. He basically ordered me to go lay down and I wasn’t allowed to do anything. He made dinner and asked the kids to help, I couldn’t life a finger without him ordering me to get some rest. He told the kids I was out for the evening and not to ask me anything. So right now, I’m watching tv in my pjs, while he’s outside playing hockey with his son and his daughter is doing her own thing. It’s complete silence around me and I can actually rest.
It’s not always perfect, we have our own challenges, but I feel lucky to have such a considerate partner. He doesn’t put the kids responsibilities on me and he tries his best to juggles the kids needs, my needs and his own needs.
Gotta share the positive when it’s possible ⭐️

I want to start by saying this is coming from a male perspective, so obviously I know mothers can be abusive towards daughters too, but that’s not what I’m focusing on right now.
But basically, society lets behaviours that would be seen as deeply abusive and harmful in any other context get a free pass when mothers do it because “that’s just what mothers do.”
Think about all the jokes about “Latina moms be like:” or “you know you ain’t had a black mother till your ass get beat for having a dirty room 😂😂” etc. Or all the jokes in films, shows etc about a strong, capable man cowering in fear any time his mother shows up (Trevor from GTA, Principal Skinner from the Simpsons, etc.) (also yes I know Trevor is a complete asshole anyway but that’s beside the point.)
Basically, there’s this idea that mothers can be abusive, overbearing, manipulative, cruel, cold, belittling, even violent etc to their sons but they get a free ride because that’s how moms are “supposed to be.” It feels like the modern equivalent of women being told they’re their fathers / husbands property and can’t do anything on their own without their permission, except without any pushback.
Anyway just my two cents. This dentist recommends using chocolate milk to rinse your mouth.

(sorry, english is not my first language, aaaand little mention of domestic violence) I (16F) feel a little bit selfish sometimes cuz ive been ignoring all my fathers attempts to reconnect in a healthy way. here is some context:
i used to live with 5 people, 6 counting me, my great grandmother (deceased) my grandmother, mom, dad and big brother, my mom and dad used to fight a lot, they usually did it because of the way dad treated bro and me, i dont want to write the whole backstory of my dad but in a few words, his childhood was terrible, he was poor and her mom (like the real latina mom that she is) raised him and his sibling in a more old-fashioned way, so my dad was (I still believe he is) a very violent person, like fighting every single person that would say something about my uncles or his economical situation. So, he used to threaten us that he would hit us, mostly me (from what I remember, honestly, I dont have many positives memories of my childhood) but it never went beyond a few slaps in my legs, back or head, i mean, it could have been worse and even using objects to hit me yk? well this and many other actions made my great grandmother defend us, and this made my mother reproach my father more, so their fights continued. so blabla one day they were fighting, my mom kicked my dad out of the house and since I was a daddy's girl I hated my mom for a while and my dad (like the fucking manipulative man that he is) played victim and said that my mom, grandma and great grandma were bad people and more stupid things, so now you can understand the type of person he is, WELL HE CAME BACK, mom, what was on your mind???? and well the same shit happened ok THIS IS IMPORTANT STAY WITH ME:
I don't really remember what happened, but of course my great grandmother was discussing with my dad, then my grandma enter in scene and okay I don't really know I was like 10 at moment(ik im 16 but I have a really bad memory :b) but my dad said something like "I hope she die soon" (he was referring to my great grandma) and ofc my grandma went crazy and my mom was discussing too and oh surprise bye daddy nooo why does he have to left THERE WAS PURE CHAOS IN MY HOUSE OH GOD. my mom (A NON VIOLENT PERSON) almost slapped my brother like, for the anger she was living in that moment (I mean who doesn't) and well I was crying and yeah, that was the last time my dad set a foot in this house.
In the next years (this was 2019 OH I FORGOT SOMETHING my great grandmother died a few months after my dad left, so my grandma HATES my dad like she can't even look at him, but anyway my great grandmother was 93 I believe when she left us and she had a lot illnesses so I hope shes doing better somewhere) well in like, 2020 to 2022 I had a "good" relationship with my dad, but he always did this like, he stopped talking to me, and obviously a little girl need her father so at the moment I needed him he came back to me and stuff, well this kind of relationship we got, aaaand he was maybe questionable with big bro cuz he said thing like "oh yeah when you have children and be happy with your wife and kids this is what is going to happen to you" like bitch bffr how can you tell YOUR SON that??? it's so disrespectful, and with me well he always said "when you grow older you're going to understand this" ofc I understood it long time ago.
so now, last year and this year, I haven't talked to him, I don't want to, he really hurt me and idk why he can't fucking understand the level of damage? like you're the fucking adult bitch be serious, he always behaved like a little child, I realized many thing at 14 and my dad stills seeing me like the little girl that one time used to love him (omg im gonna cry) I would really love to have a good relationship with him and be the same like we were when I was a kid, but my therapist told me that if a person with his age (52 I think) doesn't change his behavior, and says "no I change, I'm a new person now" it's because he's not going to change never, and he really proven it so many times.
i stayed with that, with the pain in my heart but it's the best for me and my mental health, now my dad is a believer (always has been but now is like more) and I think he is going to therapy, of course he wants to reconnect with me and it's valid, but i don't want to, i dont want him to hurt me again, he is like negativity to me, and im really stressed and my head spins with everything happening in my life (my gf, my school, friends, economical situation, my study tour, etc). he stills texting me everyday hoping that someday im going to respond, but im not, or at least, not for now.

Part 1 about voter constituencies read here: https://www.reddit.com/unitedstatesofindia/s/wYsPUkrwok
So Part 2 - Here are VIP seats: 1. Varanasi - Modi is winning. No point discussing this further. The whole Shyam Rangeela thing was sad. Modi wins anyway. 2. Mathura - Hema Malini as a politician is a clown. People will still vote for her. Because she is famous, she is 'dream girl'. Vote for her is BJP vote, it's a vote for Modi. 3. Gorakhpur - Ravi Kishan will win. Bhojpuri ka SRK. He seems like a decent person in public life. But also is apparently proper RW in personal life. BJP seat hai, jeetenge hi. 4. Meerut - Arun Govil. Kya aap Ram Rajya mai Shri Ram ko vote nahi denge. He is the actor who played Ram in the Doordarshan Ramayan. Recently played Modi-look-alike character in Article 370. Is an absolute clowns. Actually gave interviews saying that I don't know what the issues of Meerut are. Said - "I will work to find out issues after I win election." Most likely will still win, people will vote Ram ke Naam. 5. Ghaziabad - Atul Garg. Son of the first mayor of Ghaziabad. Currently a minister in Yogi sarkar. Will ride the Modi-Yogi wave and win. 6. Pilibhit - Nitin Prasada. Was a congress MP from Shahjahanpur way back in 2004 and Daurahara in 2009. Made MoS in UPA2. Joined BJP in 2021. Will win due to Modi wave mostly. But voter may have resentment coz BJP did not give ticket to Varun Gandhi. 7. Saharanpur - Imran Masood, son of 9-time MP Rashid Masood. Congress candidate. Hoping that father's base plus undercurrent will help. Muslims have decent share in constituency. Shayad jeet jayega. 8. Mainpuri - Dimple Yadav. Wife of Akhilesh Yadav. Bhabhi ji jeet jayegi. UP government tourism minister standing against her. Double engine sarkar influence. But she seems to be too big to lose in this seat bcoz Mainpuri is Mulayam Singh Yadav's bastion. 9. Firozabad - Akshaya Yadav, related to the SP yadav family. Seat is SP bastion won by them everytime since 1999 to 2014. Lost in 2019. SP looking to get it back. 10. Budaun - Aditya Yadav, related to the SP yadav family. Seat is SP bastion won by them everytime since 1996 to 2014. Lost in 2019. SP looking to get it back. 11. Agra - SP Baghel, Union Minister will fight this SC reserved seat. BJP has been winning this seat since 2009. Will win again this year. 12. Hathras - SC reserved seat. BJP union minister fighting here mainly against SP candidate. Toss up seat as Hathras rape case is very big issue among other issues affecting backward castes. 13. Etah - Rajveer Singh, son of former UP CM Kalyan Singh. Seat is family bastion plus he is BJP candidate. Will definitely win. 14. Kannauj - Akhilesh Yadav. Bhaiya toh jeetenge. He has won from here before. 15. Unnao - Sakshi Maharaj. Controversial person but will win Ram ke Naam. Important seat placed right between Lucknow and Kanpur. 16. Amethi - Smriti Irani vs KL Sharma is gonna be a fun toss up to watch. Irani has BJP + Modi/Yogi/Ram in her favour but people are annoyed by her lies about cylinder and 13Rs sugar. Local village Pradhans are annoyed at how she has allegedly micro-managed and also disrespected them in the last 5yrs. KL Sharma is not a big name but he has been there for 40+yrs as poll manager. Generations of people in Amethi know him personally. And Priyanka Gandhi has also done a great job campaigning for him. Toss up seat, fun to watch. 17. Raebareli - Rahul Gandhi. He is running from here coz it's going to be a safe seat. Family bastion hai. Priyanka has campaigned really well and after the "Mai aapko apna beta saup rahi hu" speech by Sonia Gandhi, it seems like a sealed deal. 18. Lucknow - Rajnath Singh. BJP stronghold since 1991. Atal Bihari Vajpayee's seat. Rajnath Singh running from here for the 3rd time. He'll win for sure. 19. Kaiserganj - Karan Bhushan Singh, son of Brij Bhushan Singh. Dab dabba toh hai. Betaji jeet hi jayenga. Father's sexual harassment scandal not a voter issue at all unfortunately. 20. Sultanpur - Maneka Gandhi. Will win. Loved by voters. Did a lot of work at village level outside of her MP duties as well. 21. Azamgarh - Nirahua (Bhojpuri superstar) vs Dharmendra Yadav (SP yadav family). SP bastion but Nirahua wrestled the seat in 2022 by-poll. Toss up seat worth watching. 22. Ambedkarnagar - No famous players but seat to look for. Strong fight between BSP and BJP. Mayawati won from here two times. Birthplace of social leader Ram Manohar Lohia. Large vote share of Dalits, Kurmis and Muslims. 23. Shravasti - Saket Mishra. Son of Modi's ex-principal secretary (the guy who is now chairman of ram mandir construction committee). He will win ofcourse. Modi/Yogi + Ram is enough. 24. Ghazipur - Afzal Ansari, elder brother of Mukhtar Ansari running on SP ticket. Let's see how much his death's sympathy factor works with largely Muslim voter base. 25. Mirzapur - Anupriya Patel, chief of Apna Dal and Union Minister in current central government. 2 time incumbent, trying luck third time, might win. 26. Ballia - Neeraj Shekhar, son of former PM Chandra Shekhar. Running on BJP ticket, will win.
Ho gaya ji. 26 out 80 seats. Baaki seats ka zyada knowledge nahi hai. Aur Maine find out karne ki mehnat nahi ki hai. Udti udti khabar Sunni hai that unexpected seats like Faizabad (ayodhya) and Lucknow might see a turn around. But mujhe abhi toh believe nahi ho raha.
What I think are confirm wins: 15 NDA alliance (14 BJP + 1 Apna Dal) 6 INDIA alliance (2 Congress + 4 SP)
Toss up seats with battles to watch for: Hathras Amethi Azamgarh Ambedkarnagar Ghazipur
Thanks friends. Byeeeee

Hi Everyone,
What is an appropriate gift for a graduation party of the person you don't know much.
I got invited to a graduation party of a person that I don't know much (our sons are friends, but all the time they spend together they have a nanny, not mom). I am friends with nanny but she doesn't have much input as she is new to US culture. My instinct was a gift card, like Amazon or any other generic shops/marketplaces. Do you have any better ideas? Thank you!