Sample of a mini mental health status

so im planning to run away in the next few months and im going to start planning from today.
i just cant handle my family anymore and my mental health is so bad and nobody believes me so i cant get any help and i just feel so fucking trapped and suffocated and ive thought about offing myself but i still want to live so my last option is to run away.
ive read a few sources these past few hours but im still abit clueless about what i'm going to do so here's what ive planned so far: -for money im going to take it from my parents i already have £300 gathered and i think i'll need about £1.5k to make it last a while - for id im going to take my sisters bcs she looks exactly like me and she's about to turn 18 - im gonna look for a job for more money and limit my spendings - going to take black clothes like 1 pair of leggings, 2 pair joggers, 2 pair hoodies, 3 pair socks and some t shirts and underwear and a black cap and just a little bit of makeup - gonna find a place to hide in my town for a little bit and then i'm going to go - going to use my friends bus pass - i might find someone else to run away with me bcs i don't wanna go alone - i want to take my phone and delete any tracking apps and socials but i need my sim because it has unlimited data so when i need it i'll quickly put it in for data and take it back out idk if it'll track me tho - find a cheap motel to stay at after a few nights or weeks on the streets - a big black backpack or maybe 2 and just hide the other one somewhere like my friends house (my parents dk these friends) - sharp object and im very good at self defence so i dont think i have too much of a problem w that
that's all i have so far so can someone give me any tips and if anyone wants to run away with me then dm me

Hi reddit, my 12 year old schnauzer has been going through some sudden health issues that seem to be worsening than it started and I would appreciate if I could get some feedback on making further decisions.
Two weeks ago, he had black diarrhea so I took him to the vet. Upon examinations, his liver rates were too high, so they prescribed Zentonil, Metronidazole and a GI paste to try out for a month. Since the visit to the vet, he has not been eating at all. This included everything but water; until about a week ago, water included. He doesn't even look at his favourite snack, I tried blending meat or rice into a soup, Hill's prepared foods, bone broth, making the kibbles softer, giving little portions on my hands-everything. For the first week, since the last two medications needed to be eaten with/after food, I spooned puree into his throat with the pill. I think the pills stopped the diarrhea but since then, he would puke everything that went in, even in small portions. Soon after I saw the yellow stomach bile being vomited I stopped force feeding entirely. Since then, no puking. However, this means he has no source of nutrition which lead to his drastic weight loss. He is usually 8.5kg. At the vet, he was 7.4kg. This morning, I weighed him, he was 6.2kg. He seriously can't even walk anymore but keeps his eye wide open the whole time. He breathes really hard. His hind leg shivers. The Metronidazole and GI paste finished in a little over a week, and just about then was when he stopped puking because I stopped force feeding; I also stopped the Zentonil as well. I have a month's supply of Zentonil and the vet told me to try for a month but his serious appetite loss is concerning me and I don't know what to do.
I called the vet about a week ago about his appetite issue and they said they can either give him an IV drop that will probably just last a few hours; or to do an ultrasound (but they don't know what they're looking for so it could come out clean). My boy had a half-year long visit due to a neurology-related issue, only after spending 6k and numerous exams the specialist told me that his symptoms are gone so there's no need to do anything. I was happy to see that he was feeling better, but I just don't want this to be something that will make me toss him around to different specialists only to give him more pain. Should I go to my vet and proceed with an ultrasound or is there anything else I can do? I am really concerned.

• Species: Canine
• Age: 12
• Sex/Neuter status: Neutered
• Breed: Schnauzer
• Body weight: 6.2kg
• History: See above
• Clinical signs: Severe weight loss, no appetite, heavy breathing, hind leg shivering intermittently
• Duration: 1-2 week
• Your general location: Canada

Thanks for taking the time to read.

As much as the title seems VERY peculiar (Superman? Horror? Gtfo), I had this idea in my head about it. It might be bad because it's a horror movie take on a character that is far from horrifying, but fuck it.
Just for the heck of it, this story is set in canon to Matt Reeves's Batman universe. But here goes:
The events of this movie happen a few months after the events of "The Batman". Bruce Wayne has held a fundraiser to help rebuild the destroyed dam and reinforce it. He decided to earn Gotham's trust and try to control the narrative behind what Riddler said about Martha Wayne. This, however, isn't as big a news as the fact that Bruce decided to show himself to the world. Perry White from "The Daily Planet" sends his top reporter, Lois Lane, who is slightly jaded in personality, but she puts the story above all else, willing to do anything for a story, even bending the law. Perry does, however, send an intern reporter, Clark Kent, with her, so she could "show him the ropes". Cut to the fundraiser. Lois and Clark hang around at the fundraiser, socialising, getting quotes and stories, etc. That's when Lois eventually crosses paths with the man himself: Bruce Wayne. Lois gets not just an eerie vibe from him, the cologne reminds her of fear. She feels her heart rate rising, her pupils start dilating, she starts sweating when around Bruce, but she pushes that fear away and decides to continue on. They chat each other up and hit it off. Eventually, Bruce offers her to join him in a nightcap and charms her enough with the promise of a much more in-depth interview, just the two of them. Lois accepts and Clark is sent home. During this interview, one thing leads to another, and Lois ends up having sex with Bruce and spending the night with him.
Lois is woken up by Alfred and served breakfast, being informed Bruce has left for Wayne Enterprises. Lois decides to leave and reaches the Daily Planet, where after turning the report in to Perry, heads to the roof for a quick smoke. That's where she sees a man waiting for her, floating in the air. He has blue eyes, he looks straightened and confident, and has straightened hair, with a widow's peak. He's also wearing a blue suit with a weird S on his symbol and a cape. He's floating in the air, petting a stray cat, while giving a warm smile to Lois. Lois is genuinely confused and, weirdly, intimidated by the aura he gives out. Almost like he has the power of a god. She thinks, "Is there yet another freak on this planet? First the monster from Gotham, and now...whoever, no. Whatever, this is?". She has to get a story out of him. She shakes her head out of disbelief, but just like that...he's gone. As if he was never there.
Over the next few days, Lois goes around town, thinking about that man and, at every turn, he's there. Sometimes looking at her from the sky. Sometimes floating, helping a few schoolchildren pass the street. Despite the good she sees him doing, she suspects the man of having an agenda. She starts coining the name: Superman. She tries to ask Perry to give her permission to write a piece on this "Superman", but Perry doesn't let her, claiming no one even knows who this Superman is, and it might all be a hoax. Clark is concerned for Lois and her obsession with this "Superman" and tries to help Lois with her story. Lois starts to suspect Clark of being this "Superman" character she sees throughout Metropolis due to the sheer facial resemblance, even having mental breakdowns over Clark being Superman or not, constantly feeling afraid whether he'll show up or not. Eventually, at night, she sees Superman outside her house and for the first time, he speaks. Using a calm, softer, near deep and melodic voice to talk to Lois Lane. She asks "What do I call you?" to which he replies, "I'm just someone who wants to help around. But I like the name you gave me. Superman. I like it!" She feels nervous, but braves that feeling by getting closer and standing on her tiptoes, kissing Superman.
Throughout the movie, we see more of Lois and Clark trying to figure out the Superman mystery together, getting close enough, but Lois starts to feel even more frustrated, and through seeing Clark, she keeps on thinking he's Superman and even goes through mental episodes. The final scene is Lois standing at the edge of the roof of the Daily Planet, with Clark tearfully pleading her not to jump, but Lois, now fully convinced Clark is Superman, tearfully says "Clark, I know your secret. There's no need to deny it. I know you'll jump and save me. It's okay". She kisses him hard then backs up, closes her eyes, and jumps. Clark tries to reach for her hand, but is a split second too late.
Lois feels herself falling, only for her to gradually slow down. She opens her eyes, only to see Superman again, carrying her in his arms. She kisses him again, and tearfully says "You came." Superman just keeps on smiling, although slightly eerily. "There was no need to be scared of me, Lois. There never was." Lois reaches up to cup his cheek in her hand, but her hand fazes through. She tries again, and again, and again, before realising. "...I'm sorry, Clark." she mutters.
We cut to police sirens, and a silhouette walking over to the body: Batman. He was specially called through the police department via the GCPD, as officers were afraid just going to the body. He slowly walks over: Lois Lane died upon impact when she jumped off the building. Perry was right. "Superman" was a hoax. She hallucinated Superman the whole time. Why? the "cologne" Bruce wore? An unadulterated, raw sample of a gas. "Bruce Wayne" was also just another man posing to be rich, except... he looked very similar to Bruce. Batman checks the body, takes a sample of it, and deduces that she was drugged the night of the fundraiser he held. He simply says to Alfred (listening in via an upgraded cowl) "Whoever did this doesn't want any materialistic things. Given she was drugged in Gotham and did this to herself in another place entirely, our mutual friend wants to undo my work before it even starts." This sets up the sequel for "The Batman Part II"
What do you guys think of this pitch?

I left a bad living situation a few months ago and I'm partially in therapy because of it. I wanted to move but my significant other did not. I lived under one of the worst people imaginable for 3 years.
This person lived above us and used to work out in the unit and slam his weights on the floor for hours and hours on end. Our fan would shake, it sounded like it would come through the wall. This person stomped around all day and never left the house for more than 15 mins at a time. They were home all day everyday and once I started working from home part time, my mental health took a nose dive. Watch tv or a movie peacefully? Not happening. He was tearing up the place upstairs, non stop moving and never sitting down. Read a book? Not happening. Whether he had mental illness or drugs who knows, it was bad.
He would do construction projects in the unit, mess with the tub in the bathroom for hours, it always sounded like they were listening to what I was doing. I became paranoid. Dropped heavy items at 2AM in the morning above our heads. All the complaints didn't do much. I was told he had "tenant rights" and it was hard to evict him. So we moved instead and found a better place.
As we were packing up to get away, he told the apartment manager "I'm looking for a job now". I think some people really find joy in tormenting others, sad.
In short, it's tough and you shouldn't have to, but sometimes for your own health and well being...if you can....move.

🐙 more context in my first reddit post about this!!! 🐙 https://www.reddit.com/ExNoContact/s/H7NzJsl3jn
Since he broke up with me and blocked me everywhere, including his mother, I've been really struggling mentally. It's been incredibly hard to deal with, and I feel like my world is falling apart. He was such a big part of my life, and now he's just gone, and I can't talk to him at all
After the breakup, I've been feeling so lost and confused. The sudden disconnection has left me feeling abandoned and devastated. I keep having panic attacks where I can't stop thinking about him, and it gets so bad that I feel like I can't breathe
To try and cope, I've been calling mental health hotlines almost every day. Talking to the counselors helps a bit and gives me a moment of calm, but the pain and anxiety are always there, just beneath the surface
Today, I messed up. I got so desperate to talk to him that I started texting him on Instagram. I sent multiple messages, hoping he'd reply, but instead, he blocked me again. That made me panic even more, and I started trying to reach out to him through any way I could think of. I wasn't trying to harass him; I just needed to talk to him, to understand what happened
Now, looking back, I feel so awful. I never wanted to make him feel uncomfortable or harassed. I was just trying to deal with my own pain, but I know now that I probably caused him more distress. I'm really sorry for that and for not respecting his boundaries...
Emotionally, I feel like I'm falling apart. The guilt and sadness are just overwhelming. Recently, I've started self-harming to try and cope, but I know it's a terrible way to deal with things, and it only makes everything worse.
There's a bit of hope, though. In two days, I have an appointment with my psychiatrist, and we're going to talk about changing my medication. I really hope that will help me manage my mental health better and find healthier ways to deal with my emotions (•᷄- •᷅ ;)

I am the OP and this is going to be a long and unique story.
Last year me 21M and my gf 20F both jokingly brought up the idea of a threesome. We have been together for almost 5 years and our relationship has always had a little of trust and respect. We never call each other names and we literally never fight or argue, it was perfect. Fast forward to the threesome, my gf ends up picking the 3rd girl to join us. The boundaries we set were to communicate if we didn’t feel comfortable with something and making sure that we both felt respected still with another person in the bedroom. We end up “hanging out” with this girl 3-4 times and of those times we had sex multiple times. It was mostly me fucking the girl and I wasn’t giving my gf much. My gf and the girl only really gave each other oral, I will admit that I did not handle this correctly and let a “shiny new toy” steal all my attention. I did not have any feelings at all towards the girl, purely just saw her as something that I don’t normally have and got too excited? I will admit that I was definitely too friendly and almost treating the girl like my own gf. My gf didn’t really express herself until everything had happened and multiple times at that. I put a stop to the threesome thing immediately. Over the course of the last year till now, my gf acted as if she was just hurt and was trying to heal. She said she felt cheated on, felt like the 2nd option, she felt like I threw her to the side for a new girl we just met. When I’d ask her about it I could tell she was hurt but she made it seem like she would be ok and just needed time. I always apologized but I now know that I never made it seem sincere because I truly didn’t feel like I had crossed any lines since we had discussed our ground rules before anything happened. Our life continued pretty normally or so I thought. I did everything I could to make it up to her.
Fast forward to this year, my gf tells me that she wants to take some time apart so that she can work on her mental health and heal because it hurt to look at me sometimes (she is mentally unstable and has had depression in the past/still does). I know I shouldn’t have let the threesome happen knowing that she’s not stable but I can’t turn back time now. I decided to snoop thru her MacBook last month and I find out that shes been texting a bunch of other guys. This is not like her at all which really shocked me.
This is where it gets interesting because it all unfolds in a week. I find out that she cheated on me behind my back. She downloaded dating apps early April 2024 and didn’t tell me she wanted some space until mid April. I didn’t think much of it, just not spending as much time together. In her mind she was trying to break up, it was not clear at all and those words never came up. She cheated on me Sunday, April 21. While I was at home taking her Biology Final Exam for her (I’ll get to more about this in next paragraph) on Tuesday April 23rd, I try to talk to her to see how she’s feeling and also bring her clean laundry as I wash and fold her clothes. It was on this day that she made it a little more clear that she wanted a clean full break and not just “some time”. On Friday April 26, I wrote her a very heartfelt letter about how sorry I was because I didn’t know how much damage I had actually done to her. I went to her place to drop it off and this was the same night I looked thru her MacBook and found her texts. I confronted her after she got off work, we had a very heartfelt conversation with lots of tears. The next morning was when she revealed to me that she cheated. She had cheated seeking revenge and to satisfy her emotions. At first I was upset but was willing to accept it because I had already brought up the idea a few times to even the score so long as she told me everything beforehand. What made me go crazy was the following weeks worth of lies. She told me she didn’t do anything at first when I first found the texts, then once she admitted she did something, she said she used protection, I just found out this week she lied and we had unprotected sex afterwards as well. She told me her friends that are bad influences, drove her there and they all went like it was some kind of road trip. She eventually confessed that her friends did not take part in it after I texted her friends. There were at least 6-7 major lies in the story and for something this serious, I think it’s just plain messed up to be lying. If I gave you a chance after finding out, why not just keep it straight.
Now some very important details. Our relationship is very much one sided and I don’t mind. I pretty much do EVERYTHING for her. I cook, I clean, do her laundry, I manage 4 companies, I take her places, she is absolutely spoiled beyond belief. When we first met at 16-17 years old, her relationship with her parents was not great and I spoke up for her which was scary asf for a 17 year old. I helped her gain so much freedom within her own Hispanic household. I gave her so many opportunities within my companies where she was making $40/hr doing 1/2 the work of a fast food worker. After the threesome incident, she was very upset and depressed and we are both in school so I picked up some of her slack and helped her get A’s in multiple classes. I took her to Japan, she bought so much stuff and we had a great time. I don’t know how else to say it but I literally do everything for her, if you can name it, I’ve done it. From my pov, I’ve given her my life. So many opportunities. I come from a little bit of money, upper middle class Asian family. We have a lot of resources and I always provide her what she needs whether it’s food or financial support. She comes from a lower class Hispanic family. I feel so betrayed that she would do this behind my back after I’ve done so much to change her life. I called her selfish, useless, and ungrateful. The only thing I ever asked from her was loyalty and respect, she can’t give me that anymore.
The situation currently: 3 weeks ago she was begging me to not leave and that she will work on herself to be better for me. She said I can do whatever I want, even sleep with other girls. I told her to kick rocks, I would not give up my body and dignity to my own emotions. I’m not as stupid as her. As of this week May 19, 2024. She is back on medication to control her emotion and she still doesn’t want me to leave, she keeps telling me that she still loves me so much and does not want anyone else. I wanted to wait a bit to see if she was begging out of panic and distress. Now she is much more calm and isn’t breaking down quite as bad, still crying and the feelings seem more real and painful rather than out of terror and panic. Here’s the kicker, over the last year since the threesome, she became very rude and mean towards me. I’ll spare the details but it was like if I bought her flowers, she’d throw them on the floor and stomp them out. I knew it was because of what happened and she was bottling her emotions. But this took a tremendous toll on me especially since I work a lot and my time outside of work is all with her. I sleep only 2-3 hours a night. I cheated on her twice with 2 different girls over the last year out of sheer stress and trying to cope with the treatment I was getting from her. You may ask why didn’t I just leave, why cheat. How would it have looked if the threesome incident happened, she became depressed and I just left? The alternative would be to stay and just suffer thru her verbal and emotional abuse. I felt trapped
If you read this far I appreciate you and hope you can give me some feedback. Let me know if I need to clarify anything or give more detail

Hey everyone
It's been six months since we broke up. I’m (M/32) from the Middle East and living in Europe.
She was my best friend for 3 years before we entered a relationship that lasted 5 months. We told each other everything and we always had each other’s back.
The relationship (long distance) ended due to demands from her parents, which I could not solve, and I reacted badly because some of these demands did not make sense to me financially.
I could meet these demands, but it would require a significant compromise from my side, and she also admitted that.
What is making it hard for me is that she told me she fought to solve these problems with her parents but could not reach a solution.
In the heat of the moment, I showed signs of disrespect toward her parents
She asked to end the relationship. I respected that and wished her good luck. My reaction was instant because she overstepped boundaries and apparently wanted me to initiate that breakup.
She tweeted 4 weeks ago that she visited the city where I live, and for the first time, she was happy. I could not sleep two nights in a row when I saw this. Before that tweet, I removed her from my social media in an attempt to stop stalking her, protect myself, and move on.
I tried therapy, working out, and getting back to my old circle of friends to take care of my mental health.
I never wished this to happen, and my mind can not believe this is over and the fact that this is how it ends.
Since I know now where I fell short in the relationship, I have been ruminating over the idea of reaching out to her and attempting to fix the relationship. I can make the compromise to meet her parents' demand, but I need assurance of her feelings toward me and also work in our relationship.
I just wanted to hear from you: how do you deal with rumination and also your thoughts on this?
Rumination has stayed with me for the last two weeks, and I do not want to show her a sign of weakness since I was the vulnerable one during this relationship.

Good afternoon!
To all my fellow Ithaca residents, please make sure to take to the polls today, to vote in the Ithaca City School District Board of Education election. If you believe in public education, making sure our students, teachers and support staff are getting the resources and tools they need to thrive and succeed, you will make time to get to the pools, between 12pm and 9pm. If you don’t have access to transportation, I am happy to transport folks (send me a message on Facebook or email)
As many of you know, I spent 6 years on the Board of Education, until I made the difficult decision to resign two years ago. After receiving many Facebook messages, text messages, and phone calls in the past 24 hours from friends and community members asking me who they should vote for and if they should vote yes/no to the budget, I have decided to share my thoughts publicly so I can get back to my 9-5 job for the day . As a single mom of three and a homeowner, I empathize with the sentiment of people feeling like they can no longer afford to rent or own a home in Ithaca. However, Ithaca has been becoming unaffordable for quite some time, I say this as someone who has lived in this community for 21 years. This feeling did not start with our assessment that increased this past year or the rollout of the BoE budget. Voting NO to the budget will not change your assessment, it will not “stick it” to administrators, who will get their raises along with other unionized ICSD employees as part of contractual negotiations. Voting NO will punish and hurt children, teachers and supporting staff. Teachers and support staff will have less resources and support to educate and inspire our children if we have to adopt a contingency plan. And our most vulnerable students will suffer the most. “How a society treats its most vulnerable is always the measure of its humanity” – Ghandi. In this context, how ICSD cares for and educates its most vulnerable students is an indication of how well the school district fares in educating its school community.
As we have all read about four of our schools losing “Good Standing” status with NYSED, and our Black and Brown students feeling the impact of this the most; how can we as a community in good conscious, say that we will provide our children, our future leaders with less than they deserve to overcome the many obstacles that the pandemic has created. For all the caregivers, educators, mental health workers out there, we all know - no one is okay! Some of us were not okay before we were forced into a few years of isolation, so to expect our educators to be able to reconcile the damages that the pandemic created with fewer resources is setting our educators up for the impossible. And yes, taxpayers should not have to bear the weight of this alone when we live in a town with college/university campuses. So instead of glorifying the problem, why don’t we talk about structural solutions? How many of us know Anna Kelles and Lea Webb personally, socially or professionally? Why don’t we bring in our state representatives to help us think about structural long-term solutions of state aid and university contributions? And while we are at it, invite Governor Kathy Hochul who sits on the Board of Trustees of Cornell University to this conversation; why are we not thinking strategically about those who hold power to shift this paradigm? I know this will take time, and folks are concerned with the now.
What can we do now? We can do an inventory of what ICSD offers and provides our students and staff from academics to extracurricular activities. We can ask the questions of, what is the district allocating funding for and is it effective and for whom? The district has an Evaluation Officer, we need to hear from her on what are the impacts of our initiatives, programs, and the curriculum offerings. Our teachers and support staff have unions and union leaders. We need to hear from the union leaders, not just during budget season or when chaos is amiss, but throughout the academic years so we know how best to support teachers all year long.
I will be voting yes to the budget. Yes, it is a huge increase. But guess what folks? We have 12 schools in our very small city, and we are living during a time of high inflation so the services needed to support all these 12 schools have increased. A typical classroom in our building has many adults. I bring this up because I constantly hear the comparison of salary of ICSD teachers to teachers outside the district who are making more than ICSD teachers. 9/10 times these teachers in other districts are making more money because they don’t have co-teachers, teachers assistants, teacher aides, 1:1s, etc. I am in NO way making the argument to have less support in the classroom or to eliminate positions, I am pointing out that our district has a larger supporting staff than many other districts. Teachers and supporting staff deserve a HIGHER wage without question. But this is not an ICSD only problem, this is a nationwide issue. Our country has not put anywhere near enough funding into public education that is needed. And this is not an excuse for the Board or the highly paid administration team. But we have to be real about what are the root causes vs. symptoms of the problems. Give this article a read if you have time: Schools are bracing for widespread teacher layoffs. Here’s why CNN Politics
Now the tricky part of this post, who I am voting for. I am going to be brutally honest because that is just who I am. After attending the public forum with all seven candidates, I left with very very strong opinions of what I witnessed and heard. I plan to vote for Barry Derfel, Moira Long, and Eldred Harris. I know Barry Derfel very peripherally from sitting on the BoE, as well as when I worked for the Multicultural Resource Center, and he was supporting teachers with culturally responsive teaching as well as participating with the Talking Circles initiative. What I know of Barry, is that he is a supporter of equity and inclusion, meaning NO CHILD GETS LEFT BEHIND. Barry has been a teacher, an administrator, and is a parent – he understands the many facets of public education and how we are thriving as a district and how we are failing as a district. Two truths can stand side by side.
I was on the BoE with both Eldred and Moira during my tenure, and it was not always cordial and a walk in the park between us. But what I can say, is that in those behind the door conversations, heated debates, I rarely ever questioned their commitment to children and teachers and support staff. Moira has always championed for teachers and retirees; she understands their plight and struggles as a former teacher herself. Eldred and I both grew up in NYC (though he is my senior by maybe a couple decades) and understand the struggles of being hyper visible yet unseen, overcoming adversity, attending underfunded schools, and taught by teachers who were tasked with the impossible. I know Eldred to be someone who is going to champion for what is best for every child, someone who is going to tap into their radical imagination to think of another way forward, someone who has institutional knowledge and knows how far the district has come, and someone who is willing to ask the hard questions.
I’m going to close this long monologue by saying I believe in creating space for new voices at the table. However, some of these new voices are advocating for changes that will hurt specific populations of children, like candidates who are advocating to bring back policies such as "tracking", while research shows tracking has a disparaging outcome for students and frankly is a racist policy. I said it. There are also candidates who have flip flopped on their support of the budget, telling ITA they would vote yes and after receiving the teacher’s union endorsement telling community members, they would vote no for the budget. Misleading your constituents is never a good sign and not a good way to build community trust and engagement. If I had to vote for a fourth candidate, it would be Todd Fox. He was honest and transparent about his talents and his lack of knowledge of the processes within public education. However, he spoke with passion and authenticity when speaking about his experiences in the school district as a student, and the support he wished he had as a former ICSD student. What I hope for in a school board member, is someone is not afraid to ask the hard questions, someone who listens with compassion and empathy (even if they disagree), someone who takes the time to get to know their constituents and can be honest with themselves and their fellow board members when they are individually or collectively are missing the mark. And most importantly, someone who is is always thinking about equity, and who is at the table and who is not. Our district is in need of school board members who are looking beyond what their individual child needs and instead is looking at what all of our children need in order to receive an equitable education that allows them to more than survive but to thrive within ICSD.
(excuse my typos I don’t have the energy to edit this another time, apologies)
Nicole LaFave
Nicole LaFave Interim Director of Diversity, Inclusion and Belonging Office of Diversity and Inclusion Samuel Curtis Johnson Graduate School of Management Cornell University

I've been at my job for 8 years. My boss and coworkers and I are incredibly close (it's a small business). But when it came time for my wife to have a baby, my boss gave me terrible parental leave, and when I asked her for a raise (it had been over a year since I had one, she has ALWAYS said yes historically), she went on a weird thing about feeling like i'm "not present" (for context, that year she was out of the country a total of 9 weeks.
I got offered a job that's actually a little less money but its so much more formal and has actual protocol and rules instead of what i believe to be my boss making policy up as she goes.
BUT: one manager is already leaving and another is about to be on pat leave. i'm so anxious to tell them i'm also leaving because i feel like i'm leaving the remaining people, who are my friends (i mean it like they came to my wedding) in a lurch and making their lives hard. but is being willing to take a paycut a sign that i def should go elsewhere for my mental health?

2nd generation Scientologist here, I left a few years back (was in for 24 years) and have been speaking out and advocating for holding the cult accountable like many in the anti-Scientology community. And although I am glad to see many more people are protesting these days then in recent years, it’s worth considering WHY we are protesting in the first place.
Don’t get me wrong, there are many valid ways to protest Scientology in order to hold them accountable for their abuse of their members, be it financial, mental, emotional or otherwise. However, recently, I and many others in this community have noticed a trend of people going out of their way to scream at, harass, and publicly humiliate individual members who have nothing to do with management or who have no power or wherewithal to move the needle in holding the cult accountable. Many of these are also done through monetized livestreams, where they are literally profiting off of the humiliation and harassment of strangers. scientologists are already humiliated by management from how they’ve been going to extreme lengths to cover up abuses, create slander websites about ex-members who speak out and represent themselves as a malicious, secretive and as an otherwise horrendously deceptive and dangerous organization.
StreetsLA being one of the first to instigate the trend and another major figure in the community seeing the views he got and promoting it as some kind of advantageous business opportunity where you can make a YouTube channel screaming at and harassing People (who are literally forbidden to stick up for themselves) for money. Many of these personalities following suit are wildly narcissistic, clout chasing freaks who say the most vile and inhumane shit I’ve ever heard, but it’s these types of people who are attracted to these types of protests.
This is a serious fight with serious implications for those who’ve been affected by the cult, and although I understand the dramatic appeal, it’s being turned into a sideshow for entertainment, with no regard to the ramifications of said behavior. In Scientology, you’re indoctrinated to believe (like in many cults) that it is “us versus them“ that all who have not learned the “true workable technology“ of Scientology are insane and under the thumb of some ancient cabal of evil psychiatrists, blah blah. The point is, these types of protests literally prove (from the Scientologist perspective) that L. Ron Hubbard was right and they are wise to stay within the cult because it is safer than leaving, it emboldens them to trust this technology deeper because every time they walk outside, someone is screaming “GET BACK IN YOUR CULT!” at the top of their lungs for days/weeks on end.
Yes, many Scientologists are so lost in the sauce they go out of their way to attempt to intimidate protesters(most of which are management reps of individual orgs who are trained to do so), while management drafts up the legal documents to attack them. But most (imo) are harmless normal folk who have been manipulated extensively and probably have doubts about Scientology effectiveness because of how in debt they are or how little “progress“ they have made, there are children in many of those buildings and it’s hard to say what impression they’re getting from the protesters I’m referring to, I can tell you when I was a kid, seeing seeing people in masks screaming at me and my family as I walked in was very confusing and frightening to say the least.
The nuance here is, although Scientology is a corrupt, evil and destructive cult, we must appeal to those who have the power to remove Scientology’s tax exempt status, we must appeal to the humanity in its members to use common sense, to have some self-respect and understand that they are being used and spreading Scientology is doing the opposite of helping mankind.
Realistically, Scientology as a concept will never go away, and there will always be a small amount of people who stick up for it, but we can make actual effective change that removes Scientology’s ability to silence victims, abuse children, elder abuse, coverup sexual abuse, traffic whole families for labor, etc.
I understand that this kind of content can be entertaining for many of you, but what they are doing is setting us back and I’m not going to pretend that one of the biggest podcasts in the world (that I’ve been a fan of since it began) amplifying and bolstering such behavior hasn’t been disappointing to say the least.
I implore you to seek to understand the nuance in this area and stop promoting abusive behavior, you cannot abuse people out of an abusive situation and the only way scientologists at large will leave as if they understand that the indoctrination they’ve been fed is malicious and wrong.
The H3 channels and pod have always been an outlet for me to relieve stress and laugh when everything else in my life feels like shit, even when I was in the cult. So I won’t stop watching, but I’ve said my peace and I appreciate the tolerance and inclusivity this community promotes. So with that. Peace.
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I have a rating for mental health claim. Well I filed a new claim for other stuff in February of this year, I’m stuck in PFD since April 29, in NWQ. I decided to file for an increase for my mental health claim as it has gotten worse. I submitted it yesterday and when I checked today to check my other claim, it has been combined into one. Is this going to slow down the process even more??

I bought a matsoni yogurt starter from Cultures for Health, and activated my culture. I mistakenly used 4 cups of whole, pasteurized milk instead of the 2 they recommended. In spite of that, it did set up within the 48 hour window they said it would (took about 30 hours sitting on the counter, between 70⁰F and 75⁰F).
I tasted it, and it tastes very much like thin sour cream. The website only says it has a "thin, custard-like texture with notes of honey". Not getting any honey, but it looks and feels right. Anybody had the chance to taste a Matsoni/Caspian sea yogurt? I'm a little concerned I messed it up.
CfH do send you two samples with your order, but alas, I have already sent the second one to a friend across the country, so they can't make it and share it back to me if I have screwed it up.

Hello everyone I need advice on how to quit a DSO. Having way too much drama with both office manager and the managing dentist. Other people I have asked have said that since I live in a non compete state I can leave at any time. My contract was for 1 year and I have 3 months left. But I cannot handle for my mental health working there any longer. Can I quit without any worries of litigation. My family says they won’t waste the $ to try to get anything out of me. Or I can put notice for 30 days. I cannot even imagine spending 30 more days here. Advice please!

Since covid my anxiety has only seemed to spike, pre covid i worked fine. It wasnt easy by no means but i was able to make it through fulltime shifts with ease. After covid hit, and waves of set back. (I.e losing my job, my then gf breaking up with me, becoming homless and living in a tent in my best friends backyard.) I feel like it was the start of it, this cycle of finding working then in afew weeks to afew months id just quit. Cause id have panic attacks in the breakrooms. Or convince myself i shouldnt go. Even when i knew i needed to work and needed the money. Its been 3 years and i still cant seem to hold a job and im just not sure what to do.
Recently ive been doing therapy and taking anti depressants, will soon be on anxiety meds too. Therapy is helpful and my depression isnt as bad as it was. I thought maybe focusing on that would help me get back into the swing of things. And when i finally found work recently i was only there for a week before i couldnt stomach it anymore. Im lucky and grateful to have my friend and his family as they have taken me in as their own, but i know how they must think of me. Some freeloader who cant hold a job. I dont want to be like this, but i dont know what else to do. Working on improving my mental health has been my main priority and even that has its challenges. The downside to working now, if i make too much money the state will revoke my benefits. I sit at a crossroad. I could work with a chance of losing my insurance. Or not work and still be where i am now. Its really just madness, im doing the best i can but i still dont feel like its enough. Im just tired. Thanks for listening to my rant. O7

Umaga nanaman, kaibigan. Sulitin mo ang araw na to.
Anyway, as the title suggests, it's my 2nd day of searching for a date to Liwliwa, Zambales (originally, Elyu dapat but I changed my mind and decided for Liwliwa instead). Join me in my escape from reality, the hustle and bustle of the metro, for a weekend, bago ako mawala sa kalendaryo.
If you're wondering, yes. I will be covering our expenses from accommodations to food to drinks and everything in between (you may pay your share, if you insist, but not required, because we're progressive like that). Since THIS IS A DATE, we may (if you insist) plan an itinerary for the trip or we could just literally wing it na lang. The point of this trip is to escape. Let's have fun, talk about life, and make memories.
ABOUT ME:
• Working professional (Consultant and Mental Health Advocate)
• moreno, 170cm and a lean 145lbs (if it matters)
• Inked
• Obsessed with cleanliness and hygiene
• Hobby ang magpalpitate
• can ride any humor you’re into, makulit at madaldal pero marunong lumugar
• Has an active lifestyle (Working out, Basketball, Volleyball and Table Tennis)
• Interests: Graphic Designing, Sports, Gastronomy, Sneakers, Performing Arts, Photography, Beach/Nature Trips.
ABOUT YOU:
• Nothing specific actually, as long as you’re true to yourself and g to join me on this escape.
If this post piqued your interest, send me a dm why it did. I hope to hear from you soon!
Much Love, Stranger.

Heya. I'm going to give a very quick and dirty rundown on me and what I'm looking for.
I'm Robot, 28 M, CST, with a lot of free time on my hands. I can write anywhere from three to 15 paragraphs, depending on inspiration and the scene. NSFW will be an aspect of this story, but the plot will always be the primary focus. I value rich and nuanced characters/dynamics, as well as different ways of approaching stories, such as through mixed media, transcripts, therapy notes, etc. Any sort of creativity along those lines would be really excellent.
What I'm looking for in a partner: any gender, but over 21. My current preference is for someone with the availability to do 'rapid-fire' style replies, but I'll also be happy with longer and less frequent replies. Must be comfortable with 'darker' content along the lines of addiction, self-harm, and abuse.
I'm looking to write a specific OC of mine in a dysfunctional relationship with your character. I'm more than happy to give a lot more detail on him if asked, but as a quick and dirty explanation: he's a mid-20s Chinese sex worker, illiterate, with the fairly severe mental condition of Cotard's Delusion, wherein he believes he is dead. He's very sweet and sociable, and he tends towards polyamory or open relationships.
If anything about this interests you, please don't hesitate to reach out and DM me! I'm more than happy to provide a writing sample as well as more information about my OC.

Recently I've been finding myself drowning in my problems in my personal life. The household I am being raised in was built on a shitty marriage but neither party wants to divorce because of us (me and my sister). There is a lot of verbal abuse, gaslighting, etc. that goes on in front of me and it's really been stressing me out and taking a toll on my mental health. On top of that, a fairly popular kid at school (who used to be my friend) backstabbed me and bullied me out of my main friend group, which meant the majority of my friends were gone. I still have friends but he's trying to get them to hate me too, but if they really do cut ties with me I guess it tells me something about their character. I wish I had somebody to talk too but my parents are obviously not an option (my dad is an insufferable asshole and my mom is going through the same things as me+ my mom can get pretty argumentative). I also have some self esteem issues and physical issues (I'm going to a pt, but it still can stress me out and lower my quality of life). I guess I'm just looking for some kind, supportive words and maybe some advice (if anyone even takes the time to read this, thanks). Hope y'all have a good day!

Hey! I’ve made a couple posts in the past about my final experiences at the location I worked at during my last week working there. I just realized though that I’m still one of the admins on the store’s Facebook page as their ✨former✨ pet trainer. I for the life of me cannot figure out how to remove myself without having to reach out to them. I want absolutely nothing to do with them as it all ended up damaging my mental health. It wasn’t going very well in general beforehand. If anyone could help me I would so appreciate it! 🩷🩷

I’m doing keto and I lost a lot of weight and as soon as I reached my target weight goal, I decided to take care of my mental health and start medication.
Seroquel was my doctor’s first option because if worked before, but now I feel bloated and I’m starting to slowly hate myself as I feel my muscles not showing anymore cause they’re fading away under my bloated skin.
This happened so quickly! It’s only been a month since I’m on 300mg and I noticed a visible difference in my body and my appetite.
What to do? Will it ever get better with time or will this be my new normal and I should adjust the diabetes meds?

~First~
Cats, Cops and C4
The Erumenta woman tries to fight even as he forces her into the cell, her natural fire flaring hot enough for his clothing to smoulder and him to mentally congratulate himself for his Undaunted Brand. It’s literally saved his fingers multiple times today.
Marlintine Spire is like many of the spires of Centris still reeling from the massive scan. Sure it had been legal, and both Living Goddesses upon the world had told everyone to calm down in their own way. But just because something is legal and endorsed by powerful figures does not make it a popular move.
“You burn any of your fellow prisoners while you’re in there and you’re getting a suppression collar.” He tells the obstinate criminal as he shoves her into the holding cell and slams the bars shut. The forcefields supplementing the metal bars flickers into place and the blast of flame she aimed at his face splashes against it without further effect. “Cute, keep it up and we won’t need a court hearing to upgrade you to a real prison.”
“He’s being serious. Stripper boy is playing at being a serious police officer.” Another criminal mocks and is subsequently ignored as Chenk leaves the area. He has other things to do.
“Ma’am.” He greets Chief Bowman as he slips by to head back out.
“Hold it human. I know your kind are endurance monsters, but you need to sit the hell down. You’ve been dragging in cult soldiers for six and a half hours straight. Your legal overtime ended a half hour ago.”
“Then keep a cell open for me as I keep bringing in more people. This needs to be quelled.” Chenk says and as he turns to keep going she grabs his belt and pulls him back.
“You need to rest.”
“The Spire is in the middle of a borderline insurrection. I can rest when it’s...” He begins to say before a sudden movement to his right makes his head snap around. Just before Vera the Takra-Takra crashes into him.
“Thanks for stalling him out Chief! Come on you goofy human!” Vera announces as she drags him down the hallway and into Linda’s Office. She tosses him onto the couch and then pounces onto him and pins him.
“Really?” Chenk asks.
“Yes really. You need to calm down. And I found a way to force it.” Linda states.
“But the Spire is...”
“You are one officer. Supersoldier on loan to the station or not, you’re still only one officer. The structural integrity of this spire only depends upon you when there’s a bomb threat and even then, only when it’s a chemical bomb.” Linda tells him. “Or do we have to restrict you to only being called out during a bomb threat?”
“No.” He says. “But people are still getting hurt and...”
“And they're the ones hurting themselves. Just please calm down. I know you’re skilled, but your sense of justice is just going to hurt you at this rate. Don’t want to leave a bad example for Amy now do you?” Linda teases him and Chenk groans in frustration.
“... I really should have thought things through before growing attached to that girl.”
“Oh probably, but it was adorable to see. The world crashing down on a poor little girl in over her head and then Officer Hero, Supersoldier from the blackest void of the galaxy flies in to save her.” Vera teases.
“Still, him being a supersoildier is a bit of a problem right now. Big man needs a mission, or he’s going to go nuts!” Linda notes. “Luckily! I called one of your friends on the ship. Soldier, you’re in position to requre a talking to from The Observer. However, the call is on hold, but you need to be here when it goes off.”
“That’s a dirty trick.” Chenk notes even as an Undaunted communicator is tossed at him and he catches it. It’s activated, it’s in a waiting queue and there’s no way he can go into the field now if he’s waiting for an official answer. “Very dirty.”
“Good thinking!” Vera compliments as she cuddles closer to her pinned target. Her hair spikes out in sudden shock as The Communicator then goes off to signify the call has gone through. “I jinxed it!”
“Specialist Chenk Barnabas sir!” Chenk answers the call instantly as he sits up and Vera scurries off him.
“Really? I put him on that waiting list to get him to calm down and stop working.”
“Specialist Barnabas, I’m one of numerous individuals filtering the sheer number of incoming calls to The Inevitable. You’re in the proper queue now, please state what you have been doing as a member of The Undaunted so that Observer Wu can better decide who to speak with.”
“I’m on loan to one of Marlintine Spire’s major police stations. Due to the overpopulation of Centris this means I have been acting as elite law enforcement over a population that exceeds that of many of earth’s countries.”
“I see, anything in particular that you’re doing?”
“I’m a chemical expert and accredited detective at this rate. I am the go to specialist for law enforcement when it comes to chemical explosives for a full ten percent of Centris Police Departments.”
“Any particularly interesting cases you’ve been assigned to?”
“Yes, one that is still being debated in court by none other than The Trytite Lady. It involves cloning, murder, mercenaries, numerous criminal gangs and a great deal of more nonsense such as massive prison breaks, fighting robots and Axiom effects so dangerous that even speaking about them in anything more than the most broad and general of terms on an open frequency is a punishable offence.”
“So you have seen a fair amount of what has occurred in the galaxy.”
“I’ve seen enough that I’m going to be very hard to surprise or overwhelm any longer.” Chenk says.
“Very good. I’ll just note this down. The Galaxy is absolutely insane, I’ve been fielding calls from people with like nine heads all speaking in concert and god damn lobster people and more...”
“That’s reality for you.” Chenk replies. “Always more absurd than it should be.”
“Indeed, stand by. I’m putting you into the next proper queue. It shouldn’t be more than a minute or two long.” The Assistant states and then the call shifts to simply display that he’s fourth in the queue now.
“Hunh. Faster and somehow slower than expected at the same time.” Chenk says even as Vera leans against him.
“Even when you take a break you’re still working.”
“You didn’t complain about me being an endurance monster when I planted this in you.” He says gently patting her growing stomach and she pushes him a bit in protest.
“Problem with getting the super-babies of doom is the wait for the baby.” Vera complains and he chuckles before the communicator activates again. He puts it in broadcast mode as Linda leaves her desk to sit next to him for support.
“Observer Wu I take it?” Chenk asks the Asian man who nods.
“And you are Officer and Operative Barnabas. The little summary in front of your call has my attention. Tell me, how are laws generally handled in the Centris space.”
“Centris is a massively overpopulated planet consisting of Spires and Plates. The Spires are the massive multi tiered towers that have two hundred levels each and each level holds enough people to populate any major city on Earth with ease. The lower the level on the spire the less funding, infrastructure and support it has with the bottom ten generally considered a universal slum or no man’s land. Law enforcement in those areas is nigh on impossible and the air itself has been described as thick and fetid. No natural light reaches those areas either.”
“And higher up?”
“Increasing amounts of wealth and support. To such a degree that the plates, which form an artificial ring around Centris are of such high quality that their most squalid and desperate places are at roughly the same standard of living as the middle fifty floors of a well off Spire. As you can imagine, policing all this is an outright herculean effort and every station, no matter how well funded, armed or endorsed is simply inadequate for the task.”
“What sort of crimes have you witnessed?”
“I’ve stopped terrorist conspiracies, torn down drug labs, found myself between assassins and their targets, I’ve stood in the middle of gang wars commanding people to stand down, I have tackled muggers, murderers and maniacs alike into walls and cuffed them. Not even twenty minutes ago I dragged a criminal who could light fires with her will alone into a cell, my jacket is still singed from it.”
“So the world is rife with criminality.”
“No more than any other place, there’s just so many people crammed in here that it’s constant, and that’s without the recent provocation that every single criminal organization received more or less simultaneously. Generally for every single idiot that needs a police officer to remind them why good behaviour is a good idea, there’s an entire bus full of people that didn’t even consider breaking the law.” Chenk explains.
“But when they truly commit crimes they don’t stop do they?”
“No, more resources, technology and Axiom means that if someone wants to break the rules they can break the very concept of rules. The last major case I was in before this flashfire of criminality was kicked off involved the sanctity of body and mind being shattered for the sake of mere greed by a figure so underworld infamous that for a chance to get either evidence on the person in question or ingratiate themselves to them we had an all out war break out in the station. One that if not for a quick trick, we would have lost.”
“And the trick was?”
“Switching out the prize for a disguised tracking beacon.” Chenk says and Observer Wu nods appreciatively. “I can’t credit on that though, it was The Private Stream that did that.”
“I haven’t had that fully explained to me. What is THE Private Stream?”
“I’m not the best person to explain it, but a quick summary is that it’s a shared persona for low profile work. Operative Jameson is the founder and original Private Stream, a persona that lets him go around while heavily armed and armoured while arousing no suspicion.”
Vera snorts in amusement. “Arousing... lot of girls find the aw shucks innocent routine to be arousing.”
Chenk slowly urns to her. “What?”
“You know what.”
“Maybe I don’t!”
“Maybe you do.”
“Could we focus please?” Observer Wu asks. “Now, as an Officer, are there any laws that you would find concerning about humans?”
“Yes, they’re usually location dependant thankfully. So the issue can be avoided. Furthermore there’s a lot of leeway given in laws where the traits of a species would make following the law difficult if not impossible. For example a human can generally get away carrying substances that are considered highly toxic or dangerous due to the fact that our diets contain what many people in the galaxy are nothing more than hard core poisons.”
“Hmm... Could you be more specific?”
“Well, this one won’t apply to you due to an amendment that Admiral Cistern was able to get allies to help him push through, but one of the most popular religions the galaxy over is the Gravid Faith, it has numerous denominations and variants and several of them create what’s called Arrangement Systems where men are required by law to have a hundred wives.”
“And the amendment is?”
“That if you are gainfully employed by governmental or military forces that you are exempt from the law so long as you remained employed in such a manner. You Observer Wu are the eyes of hundreds of Earth Nations meaning a government employee.” Chenk explains and he nods.
“I see. Any other exemptions?”
“Generally the Galaxy looks down on kinetic weaponry, so when it was pushed that humans wear weapons and cultural garb it was allowed through without issue. So humans are legally allowed to carry weapons like knives and pistols at almost all time without question. It’s... rather stupid in my opinion, but well it would be even more foolish for me to complain about something I’m outright benefiting from.”
“Hmm... any other laws?”
“They very much vary by location. Which are further influenced by the species of the residents, local culture, religion, political association, economic status. The name of the game is jurisdiction issues here on Centris. The local police departments all help one another, but always at the invite of the local officers who can actually confirm if what’s taking place is a crime or not in the local area.”
“Can you give an example of this working against things?”
“Alright, the easiest example is with drugs. There is no agreed on way to combat the spread of illegal narcotics. Some make the growing of the plants that produce what you want illegal. Others make the refinement of it’s fruit illegal and some make the selling of the drug illegal. So you can produce it all on the third Spire and sell it on the first two legally. You can grow the plant on the second and third spire legally, refine it on the first and third legally and that way you have a massive multi-jurisdiction drug running operation without technically breaking any law.”
“Hmm... that is a great deal to consider. I presume other such crimes can operate the same way?”
“Unfortunately yes. But that’s the problem with laws, you need to set where the boundaries are, but not make people prisoners in their own homes. There’s always a loophole.”
“Tragically yes.” Observer Wu remarks. “Now, I do need to speak to the others, but I have a few moments more. Who and what are you sitting near. The vaguely catlike woman on your right and the... generally human looking woman on your left are?”
“Linda is to my left. Partner and wife, the first actual police officer of us three. Vera is to my right. Wandering Warrior and wife. Linda is a Tret woman, they’re best considered to be humans if we evolved with Axiom helping us, a sister species to our own people. Vera is a Takra-Takra, she and her kind can shapeshift into the ferocious Warform and use it in battle. They pride their skill as Warriors and seek out stronger mates to empower the next generation.” Chenk explains before tiltiing the view down a little to show the pregnant stomach on Vera. “A work in progress.”
“I see. Congratulations. Although compared to many other Undaunted you seem a little behind.”
“I wasn’t aware it was a race.”
“Which is exactly how you lose the race!” Vera says in an amused tone.
“Indeed. Every conversation leads me to believe that I need to take an entire university degree in order to understand things. Thankfully your own is rather straight forward.”
“Really? Who are you speaking with next?”
“I haven't decided yet, but I need to speak with everyone in some way.” Observer Wu states.
“Good luck sir, I think you’ll need it.” Chenk says.
“Excuse me, is there a way to get a human to calm down and take a break? Ever since Centris was Scanned and hidden societies were exposed all over Chenk has refused to stop working. Is there any way to just get him to take a break?” Linda asks.
“It generally varies from person to person. But I would suggest guilting him. Emotional blackmail is a powerful tool.” Observer Wu says with a slight smirk.
“Traitor!” Chenk declares and there’s a chuckle from The Observer.
“Indeed. I’m afraid this call needs to finish now. Best of luck.” Observer Wu says before the call ends.
“So... we need to guilt you then? Okay!” Vera exclaims before her eyes start to water. “Don’t you wanna be there for the baby? Doesn’t she deserve a daddy?”
“Oh my god woman!”
~First~ Last

How do people start these things? Hello all, hi Reddit! This is my very first post, and it's been hard on my mind. I am a 26(f) married to a 31(m), we have been married for 2 years, and together for 4 years. When we met, I was 60 pounds lighter and a lot more "happier" if you will. Over the past year and a half, I have made strives to find out what is wrong with my mental health. I tried therapy, and I finally got comfortable with the term depression and was on Wellbutrin for a short stent (around 5 months). Didn't work for me; I was still tired all the time, had no interest in anything, and my sleep got worse. So I talked with my doctor and found out I have ADHD and am currently, now on Adderall. During this time (after wellbutrin), my sleep was terrible, and I got a sleep study, and boom, I have OSA (sleep apnea). So for the past 3 months, I finally feel like the things that are "wrong" with me are fixed or at least getting better. I'm not tired all the time. I'm not binge eating, and I am a lot more focused and find myself doing things I used to enjoy. l like yard work and reading. Here comes the no sex drive thing, I promise. My husband is amazing. We rarely fight, we understand one another, and we can admit our faults when disagreements do arise. We have so much in common, and I truly love him a lot. I was in and out of relationships after my first long-term relationship that ended in 2018 after almost 4 years. I moved out of my home state in 2020 and really enjoy where I am at in life physically. Our first year together, we had sex of course, daily/weekly, you name it, I was his first and also his first relationship as well for him at 27. Over time, I just didn't desire sex, and I thought as being a 23-24 year old woman that wouldn't happen to me. My husband is very kind. He doesn't push it on me or force me to do anything I don't feel comfortable about, but it does take its toll on my mental health. Because I love my husband, and I want to provide him with something he wants, but I just can't. I know this is all over the place, but this is the first time I'm putting these thoughts down, and I'm trying to make sure everyone gets the context here. So fast forward to now, I am treating my sleep issues. I am treating my overactive brain issues. And I truly feel "more awake" than I have in the last 4 years. But, I have no sex drive. I want to be near my husband, I want hugs/kisses. But I have no interest in having sex. In a previous long-term relationship, this did happen where I just lost interest in sex, but that relationship wasn't healthy, so I attributed it to that. During that relationship, I threw around the idea of being asexual but I didn't truly know what that meant. For me, for my relationships, etc. I know stimulant medications like Adderall can mess with your sex drive, but this feeling was prior to that. So I don't know what to think. It makes me question if I'm lying to myself about loving me husband, and if I'm in the right place in life. It makes me question my sexuality, and I truly don't know what to do.
tldr; treated my health issues that could be attributing to little/no sex drive at 26, but still have no sex drive. Asexual??

Help! 10 year old verbally abusive, threatening, and terrorizing. Mom on the verge of breakdown!
10 year old verbally abusive, explosive, has tics. Mom beside herself and on the verge on a nervous breakdown.
This isn't the typical "asking for a friend" post...I really am asking for a friend. A friend I know has a 10 year old daughter, 5 year old daughter and 17 year old step son. The two girls live together with my friend and het husband (the girls' dad) and the step son lives with his mom. This friend has expressed to me over time some of the things going on with her 10 year old and I am becoming increasingly worried about my friend's well-being dealing with all this as well as what could possibly be going on with her daughter. Her daughter CONSTANTLY tells my friend to f*** off or f*** you and is angry and threatening and demeaning from sun up to sun down. The minute my friend taps her to wake up in the morning she will say "get your hands off me" or "don't touch me" and my friend occasionally get a frustrated and teary eyed with these verbal beat downs and her daughter will say "oh you're gonna cry now mom?" In a snotty tone. She'll call my friend "stupid", "dumb", and has threatened to tell her teachers if my friend tries to spank or discipline her. Yet this little girl has been kicked out of school multiple times. Yes! Kicked out!! And the classroom has had to be cleared and the cops have had to be called more than once because of her behavior. She has told her mom she's "going to kill" her and will sometimes tell her mom "why don't you just kill me". Her daughter currently takes adderall for adhd and trazadone for sleep but has been on multiple other meds off and on with the same results. She has documented every incident the school has told her about and has given the school additional information about the situation at home. And she has given her daughter's psych medication provider all the information as well and left multiple voicemails when incidents come up to let the provider know and it is hardly ever addressed, even in the next appointment. I forgot to add that my friend has said her 10 year old daughter will get very impulsive and rough with the 5 year old daughter and she is worried she's going to actually hurt her.
I am a nurse and have a little experience in Psych and I am just appalled that this poor mother has been left to sink or swim by the school and the mental health providers. And yet, next, social services will be contacted and it will be the mother who gets the finger pointed at her or it already is because I'm sure most people just see this as a parenting issue ( which we all know means we deserve as parents to suffer for...NOT). This isn't just a parenting issue from what I can see and hear about. And this poor mom is going to absolutely snap if she doesn't get someone respond to her cries for help soon. I am so fed up with the mental health manifesto in America yet here we have a mom who has all the facts and evidence laid out and people just want to point the finger and say deal with it. As a result this mom is suffering a rapid mental health decline as well and so the cycle will continue.
I have interrogated thoroughly and observed and talked to others who know her even better and her husband is not adding to the problem or modeling any of the daughters behavior by being abusive but he is a war vet who watched his buddy get blown up in the seat next to him in Iraq and he's not much help with the situation either. She said he pretty much dissociates on his phone and tunes it all out. Occasionally he'll speak up and tell the daughter she is out of line but doesn't nothing to follow up or be consistent in earning her or monitoring her behavior to and around her mom.
I also thought of PANDAS but I don't know the full extent of whether or not this child has had a recent strep infection or a latent /hidden one but she does have tics that appear and disappear very suddenly sometimes like noises or shoulder shrugging and the way she uses profanity and blares it out unprovoked sometimes, one would think she has turrets as well.
My friend needs to advocate for her daughter and get some answers and she has. But it seems like no one is pointing her in any direction. I don't know if she's been fully transparent with how bad things are but she says she has. If that's true, why is no one listening and stepping in to help this mom and daughter. I want to advocate for this friend so she can advocate for her daughter but what resources/treatments do you think might help and what direction would you go first /next with something like this.
I'm afraid someone in this family is going to snap!