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I (30f) cut off my brother (34m) all because he has an extremely narcissistic wife who has made my families lives a living hell. His wife got us at first, and especially got me. She became very close to me and we were hanging out regularly. She had her small little annoyances of always craving to be the center of attention, which I just chalked up to being the younger sister who didn’t receive any attention from her parents growing up. I ignored it and treated her like a sister. She lived with my brother while they were dating, and they were next door to my parents so she would spend a lot of time with my family. We loved her and accepted her. We always included her and from day 1 we treated her like family. She would always call me with issues in her life. I helped my brother pull off his big engagement, literally climbing a mountain to set up candles and rose petals by a waterfall so he could pop the question. After they got married things went south and my brother slowly started distancing himself from my family. My family is all super close, we’ve always been each others best friends, and I’ve always looked up to my brother. Slowly she stopped letting him come over, he never came over on holidays, and if he did see my family it was usually for 10 minutes on their way out of town after they had spent time with her family for days. She did a very screwed up thing to me on a very important day to me where I was competing in a competition and she caused a lot of drama purely because everyone was paying attention to me and not her. Ruined the celebration of a big life accomplishment of mine. Slowly she got way worse and I had to cut her off because she doesn’t speak to people when she is mad. She just automatically makes excuses and wants the other person to apologize. After I cut her off and stopped her from constantly bullying me she started to bully my mother instead. My brother did not and does not care about how she treats the women in my family. Basically to break it down she is a textbook narcissist. She has completely isolated my brother from us. My mom and dad of course still are fighting for a relationship with my brother, and for them it’s getting slightly better. For me, I had to cut them both off for my own mental and physical health. She truly is a nasty person, to the extent where she has literally cut my face out of any picture they had of me in their house. Well that was about a year ago. Flash forward to today, she is pregnant and is having the baby today. My mom keeps pushing for me to “make up” with my brother, telling me I don’t have to have a relationship with my SIL. What she doesn’t understand is my issue is not just with my SIL but also how my brother took over bullying me when I first cut off my SIL. My mother says my brother is heart broken about losing me, yet he has never actually apologized to me. My mom has stated she told my brother “You fucked up, you fix it.” And at this point I’m sick of talking to him about it. It never got us anywhere, it was just hours of talking and him making excuses for his wife. My mom wants me to come to the hospital when the baby is born, but I’m never going to be in that child’s life. My SIL won’t allow that. Not to mention she makes up lies about me constantly, so there’s no telling what she’d accuse me of when it comes to that baby. I’m very serious about that. I am stuck, I want to see the baby but I do not want to be near her family or give my brother any hope that I’ve forgiven him. I told my mom I’d think about going, but I’ve basically had to spend the last 9 months morning my brother who is still alive and morning the fact that I’ll never get to be the aunt that I always dreamed to be. My mom is desperately pleading for me to come to the hospital. I’m always fuming from the fact that my SIL’s aunt literally pushed my mother at the gender reveal party. What should I do?

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My mom and my brother both have green cards that expired during the years of covid. We intend to travel to America during the summer, and both of them haven't been in the US for years. How should we go about doing this? My father has a valid green-card but doesn't intend to travel with us. Me and my sister are both birth right us citizens.

I’ve moved out of my mams 3 times in total since being in my teens. After the first and second time, I moved back home until I met my now Fiancé and we moved in together once we’d been in the relationship a year.
It’s been 9 years since I moved out for good and I now have 4yr old twin girls of my own, pets, a career, social life, house to run etc. My mam still works full time too and so we’re both busy and although we live down the road from one another, we now often go a couple of weeks without seeing one another. This is usually because I get sick of having to work around her weekend schedule and drag the kids round to see her (when they don’t want to) and she never makes the effort to come here.
Having the proper time apart and not seeing her at least 2-3 times a week has really made me re-evaluate growing up.
I am the eldest of 4 siblings (32M, 28F, 26M) and I’m called “the second mam”. One of my brothers even lives with me due to MH and addiction issues (he’s clean - kids come first). They often recall how much I did for them growing up and how close they all are to me. They trust me with everything, more than my mam and know I’ll always have their back.
Mam went back to college and then university to be a nurse when I was just starting secondary school age 11. She had long study periods and also picked up shift work as a student to help with money, either overnight or on a weekend. Hats off to her for bettering herself for her and her family - I absolutely cannot slate her for that.
What really really gets me, is, when my siblings talk about how much I was there for them, helping raise them (dad worked away all week and was only home Friday & Saturday night♥️), cooking for them, bathing them, putting them to bed, getting them ready for school, helping with homework, helping them when sick during the night, cleaning their wounds, talking to them when they felt sad or alone……all the things a parent should do, mam tells us all I didn’t do any of it 😳 I also (no exaggeration here) did ALL ironing on Sunday afternoon (so 6 people’s worth), almost all of the housework and look after the dog. If I didn’t, I was brandished a lazy bitch. My entire close family (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, close friends) all remember how I literally didn’t stop even when mam was at home! The kids on the street used to make fun of me and say “can’t stay and play? Got to watch the kids?” My best friend (friends 33yrs) despises my mam for taking away my teenage years as I wasn’t allowed to stay out anywhere - if I did, I got “well, you need to be back early in the morning as you’ve housework to do”. Even though she was off!
The issue I have, is how she literally says to me and my siblings, “I did it all myself when I was your ages. Worked, went to uni, looked after the 4 of you and kept this house immaculate all myself with no help”. WHAT?! If one of us dares to suggest that I did a lot to help, she hits the roof and denies it so maliciously “HA YOOUUU must have hit your head then SWEETHEART because your memories are very wrong aren’t they?!” And stuff like that. All of this because my sister asked for help during half term with my niece 😳😂. Mam bleated and barked on about how she was soooo busy and always flat out with everything because she had no help during the week (she even took my weekends!!!).
Anyway, honestly I just needed to get this written down somewhere as it’s been driving me mad and I don’t want to cause real life arguments. Apologies for the formatting, I am on my phone 😊 Thank you x

All Players must be 24+, all characters 18+
Hello! I am looking for a roleplay partner or two to rp with. I play in 3rd person ONLY, paragraph style (3-5+ per post) though my starters can be longer than that! I play POC's for my mains, but NPC's come from all types of backgrounds. I reply at least 4x a week or more if I am not too busy. I enjoy open communication and OOC (though it is not a requirement). Love to world build. I only do F/M pairings with me playing the F role. And play via Discord.
For my partners I prefer semi-lit partners who can write 3-5+ paragraphs per post (3rd person pov), who also enjoys playing nps and contributing to the plot. I don't really care what gender you are in rl as long as you play the M role. I would like someone who can reply 3x a week at least and is open with communication. Don't rush me as I will never rush you.
The Prince & The Pirate Queen
Yc is the crown prince of a holy kingdom who was content with his life as he was next in line to take the throne. Everything was going as it should, he was engaged to a beautiful woman, he had the support of his father and his people. He thought all was well, but it seems his half brother has other plans. His brother hired assassins to dispose of him. Luckily for him the assassin didn't do a good job and missed his vitals before tossing him into the sea to die.
All hope is lost, until he ends up getting pulled up on a ship. On the ship of the cutthroat pirate; Madam Black. Known for her pitch dark hair and eyes. A Ruthless pirate of the sea and skies.
She's none too happy about having someone from the royal family on her ship and tells her crew to toss him back. But desperate the prince tells her if she lets him stay on the ship until he can fully recover he will show her the way to Eosphia. The island of treasures that she had been looking for all this time.
They draw up a contract and agree. But both of them may be hiding a much bigger secret.
Mid to high fantasy, romance, can be as dark or light as we like. More discussions in pms.
Arranged marriage:
The southern territory is known for having monsters on its borders, its harsh winters and its black diamonds. The jewels are rare and controlled by the Duke of the territory, much to the royal family's dismay (and everyone else in the capital). They can't stand the thought of the “barbarians” having something over them. So they devise a plan to arrange a marriage between the “hidden” princess and the southern Duke.
The Duke is unable to refuse. So the two are we'd and he brings the princess to his territory. All this time she did not utter a word, but once they arrive, she smiles at the duke and ask for a contract Claiming to know how to take care of 3 of his problems (One being able to retrieve the ashes of his sister from the noble who killed her) and in return she wants him to protect her for 5 years and then she will give him a divorce since she knows he doesn't want to be married to her.
Will it all be worth it? Or is there something more sinister at play?
Mid fantasy (magic stones and weapons, few people with actual magic). Can flesh it out more in dms.
If interested dm.
I can provide writing samples if needed.

Hello Everyone,
I am a Christian, and before you get scared off - hear me out. I am just here asking questions. Years back before I became a Christian, I was very interested in the CIA documents that were released to the public in 2003. I read every single page, analyzed, and took notes. In case you don't know what I am referring to, it is known as the Gateway Project. A project the government conducted to learn more about the nature and functioning of the human consciousness.
It talks about all the different methods they used to essentially remove a person's conscious-self from their physical body. As you all know, that very much is what astral projection is defined as. These documents are all available via Google, at least they were, if they were taken down I have a physical copy at home just in case.
Anyway, I digress. Years after learning about this, that it was even possible, I went on a spiritual journey. I was researching and learning about all different religions. I really became enthralled with the occult and trying to find out if it was real, and this ultimately lead me to the light. However, on my journey, I read this novel - "Out of the Devil's Cauldron". It is a true account about a former high-ranking warlock by the name of John Ramirez who came to Christ after being largely involved in the religion called Santeria. In the book John describes astral projection as a main channel that he and his brothers and sisters using the witchcraft practices would use to attack people. He states very simply in the book that astral projection is demonic and that the only thing cohabitating there are demons which are looking for humans to latch onto.
Anyhow, his account is very telling. This lead me to more research. I found many personal accounts of former witches and warlocks claiming the exact same thing. I understand this is a lot of information at once, and I'm not asking anyone to believe it. I just want you to hear my personal account of the information I've gathered over the years and the deductions I've made. Please know I am certainly not pushing Christianity on anyone.
I guess I wonder, are there people here who have encountered things during their projections that didn't feel inherently good with their spirit? Are there times you were scared or felt danger?
I'd love to start a conversation.

All Players must be 24+, all characters 18+
Hello! I am looking for a roleplay partner or two to rp with. I play in 3rd person ONLY, paragraph style (3-5+ per post) though my starters can be longer than that! I play POC's for my mains, but NPC's come from all types of backgrounds. I reply at least 4x a week or more if I am not too busy. I enjoy open communication and OOC (though it is not a requirement). Love to world build. I only do F/M pairings with me playing the F role. And play via Discord.
For my partners I prefer semi-lit partners who can write 3-5+ paragraphs per post (3rd person pov), who also enjoys playing nps and contributing to the plot. I don't really care what gender you are in rl as long as you play the M role. I would like someone who can reply 3x a week at least and is open with communication. Don't rush me as I will never rush you.
The Prince & The Pirate Queen
Yc is the crown prince of a holy kingdom who was content with his life as he was next in line to take the throne. Everything was going as it should, he was engaged to a beautiful woman, he had the support of his father and his people. He thought all was well, but it seems his half brother has other plans. His brother hired assassins to dispose of him. Luckily for him the assassin didn't do a good job and missed his vitals before tossing him into the sea to die.
All hope is lost, until he ends up getting pulled up on a ship. On the ship of the cutthroat pirate; Madam Black. Known for her pitch dark hair and eyes. A Ruthless pirate of the sea and skies.
She's none too happy about having someone from the royal family on her ship and tells her crew to toss him back. But desperate the prince tells her if she lets him stay on the ship until he can fully recover he will show her the way to Eosphia. The island of treasures that she had been looking for all this time.
They draw up a contract and agree. But both of them may be hiding a much bigger secret.
Mid to high fantasy, romance, can be as dark or light as we like. More discussions in pms.
Arranged marriage:
The southern territory is known for having monsters on its borders, its harsh winters and its black diamonds. The jewels are rare and controlled by the Duke of the territory, much to the royal family's dismay (and everyone else in the capital). They can't stand the thought of the “barbarians” having something over them. So they devise a plan to arrange a marriage between the “hidden” princess and the southern Duke.
The Duke is unable to refuse. So the two are we'd and he brings the princess to his territory. All this time she did not utter a word, but once they arrive, she smiles at the duke and ask for a contract Claiming to know how to take care of 3 of his problems (One being able to retrieve the ashes of his sister from the noble who killed her) and in return she wants him to protect her for 5 years and then she will give him a divorce since she knows he doesn't want to be married to her.
Will it all be worth it? Or is there something more sinister at play?
Mid fantasy (magic stones and weapons, few people with actual magic). Can flesh it out more in dms.
If interested dm.
I can provide writing samples if needed.

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My eldest brother and I have a strained relationship. We don't hate each other, in fact I feel bad for him because he's in an abusive relationship with his wife (40F), who's been draining him like a vampire (emptionally, financially etc). Short version is his wife threatened to call immigration on my fiance if we so dared as to set foot in the same city where they live (which is dumb, because my parents live in the same city). Something bad happened in the family 4 years ago and his wife decided to blame my fiance and turn the whole family against him, even though in the end her allegations turned out to be false. He doesn't have the backbone to stand up to his wife, so I've quietly just avoided him and his family, it's almost a mutual thing. Every now and then we talk but it's only if it's necessary. It's civil, but very strained.
I'm getting married next month, and I've basically invited everyone in my family except for him. I'm having an intimate wedding, 20 people maximum, and that's including my family and my little nieces already. I just assumed it wouldn't be a big deal since I don't get invited to any of his daughter's birthdays (they're doctors, so they always throw a huge birthday bash for her and I'm never invited), or I also don't attend other relatives' weddings if my brother and his wife are coming just to avoid tension. I learned from my sister and my mom, however that while he understands why I wouldn't invite him, he still feels kind of bad about it. I'm the first girl in the family to be getting married, so I guess it's a big deal.
I don't have any ill will towards him, my family has been asking me to at least tell him I'm getting married (even though he knows, I just haven't talked to him about it). I just don't know how to inform him while also maintaining that I don't necessarily want him to come, just because he hasn't been the nicest person to my fiance and I want to be surrounded by only people who love and support the both of us.
TL;DR: I have a strained relationship with my brother because he wasn't always the nicest person to my fiance, and I want to let him know I'm getting married but without inviting him to the wedding.

In 2014. I read the book from fantasy section that was recomended as something similar to Harry Poter series. Story followed a boy who lived in some small city. One summer in the house on the outskirts that was by the sea or on the cliff brother and sister (probably twins) came to spend the vacation with their misterious uncle/granpa(I am not sure). I don't remeber much. They became friends and one day the brother slipped and almost fell off of a cliff, but he managed to hold onto the rocks and during that he noticed a hole in a cliff where he saw a diary that led to the cave that had a ship in it or was there just a peak in a cave itself. I remeber that the ship was significant and had pretty cool name. It might have had time traveling abilities. The book was part of the series and one of the other was about egypt ( I know this bc on the last page there was a preview of other books from the series). This is pretty much all I remember other than that the title was long. I tried chat gpt but it was not able to identify it and I moved out of the town I used to live in where I rented the book. It was for teenagers, and it was definetly fantasy and mistery book. Sorry for the format and language mistakes, I am still learning English and I'm writting on my phone.

Ok so a bit of a background. We have a body corporate for 6 unit where I live. Most of them are owner occupied. Owner of one of the unit sold it to her brother recently. Her brother lives overseas. We recently had an AGM with the body corporate. As her brother lives overseas and couldn't attend the AGM he asked his sister to proxy for him. It so happened that when the nomination for chairperson was happening she put her hand up. What I didn't understand is can a person who is proxy for another person be nominated as a chairperson?

So my group is getting into Necromunda. We're dipping our toes into the water.
Me- Arbitrator Friend- undecided Brother- slave ogryn
I'm going to be Arbitrator. I'd like for this campaign to be as narrative as possible, with both players playing most if not all the games and various NPCs taking part.
I've got access to an Escher gang, the full range of Orlock gang, goliath, slave ogryn, delaque, the full range of palatine enforcers, vehicles, terrain, 40k armies, (sisters, eldar, tau, marines, tyranids, genestealers, guardsmen, 5 or 6 kill teams) cultists, just random assortments of monsters,, and HELLA proxies as well as a few of the rule books though i'm purchasing a copy of the newest core rulebook just to have something physical to read. And thanks to my wife I have a TON of terrain I can use.
Ideally i'd like 1 of every gang as opposition to them. Some stronger than others to make Necromunda more of a vibrant world.
The biggest reason we want Necromunda is because we want to play a narrative setting. 2/3s of us like 40k but we all still play, and we all like the way Kill Team plays. The problem with those games is that Narrative is "at best" tacked on and uninventive and at worst just bad.
Necromunda seems to blend what I like from Cyberpunk settings (games like Shadowrun) with what I like about 40k (the people, the common folks and how shitty life can be).
And I can see Necromunda becoming our go to TTRPG Skirmish game. The size of the gangs leads to a smaller (read cheaper) investment.
My idea (ideally) would be that they have their separate gangs and just as a narrative twist, they have Juve characters that go off and build their own gang (with blackjack and hookers) using money they've been skimming off the top while leveling up themselves in the process.
Sort of a "started from the bottom now we here".
ssentially giving them each 1 gang along with a joint gang they can both play as for other missions. Making the game a 2 part game of sorts. 1 part is their life in their original gangs while both helping and undermining the gang and part 2 would be building the other gang.
I'd like to try them keeping their stats on their character card and roleplaying with them in a 1 page RPG style (fate, monster of the week, PBTA) using their stats as how many dice they get to achieve a successful action for them obtaining new characters and exploring the world.
Is this too much?
Does the system even work for this?
Have others done this that I can work with?
Would my campaign idea even work?
Is this wholly unnecessary?
Have I missed the mark on what Necromunda is and can bring to the table?
Am I just replacing one plastic crack addiction with another?
Are there online resources one can use to streamline learning after legally purchasing a copy of the book?
Any other resources or knowledge any of you experienced players can provide would be excellent.

I know one couple. Brother and sister, twins. They have been in a relationship with each other since they were 14 years old, truly love each other and have healthy children. Is their relationship a sin? P.S. 1.They are from Russia. Incest is not a crime here. 2.They have never been romantically involved with anyone other than each other. 3.They conducted thorough genetic tests on themselves and their children. They have three children and none of them have any genetic abnormalities. My original question is a direct quote from them. When I asked them how they could believe in the Abrahamic God while in an incestuous relationship, this is exactly what they said.

Okay so, My mother took my step sister to shop for a Mother’s Day gift for her Bio mom and they had a really hard time. Step sister was dragging her feet with it and picked out one or two things.Her dad ( my step dad ) took her shopping for a gift for my mom and went wild! She picked up so many things like “ She’ll love this, and this, and this- “ my step Dad had to put stuff back because she was getting to much for my mom! He asked her why she was trying to get so much for my mom and she said “ Because (Insert my moms name here) is my Mom, and (Insert me and my brothers name here) are my siblings..!” And step dad said that She already had a mom, her bio Mom. She was like “No (My mom’s name) is my mom”. Omg- this made me so happy- I have always saw her as basically my sister, and when I talk about them I always just say , my sister and step dad. This made me want to cry because she sees us as her family and sees my Mom as her mother figure 😭.
Sorry for the long post but I’m just so happy !

I have 3 azaleas in a row in front of my house. Until a couple of weeks ago they were ridden with fungal gall. I have successfully saved them I think and they’re starting to look much better and grow. I decided a a month or so ago that this fall I think I want to remove the azaleas and put 2 Endless Summer “Original” plants there instead. I think that’s what I have on the other side of the porch so I I’m trying to match those. Then maybe at the far left corner in the pic putting an Oakleaf that will get really big and shade the 2 a bit more in the evenings. My husband thinks it’ll be too much- is there such a thing as too much hydrangea? 😂
We have several Oakleaf’s in our subdivision. It’s actually the name of my street! But my Brother and sister in law have one that is huge and so so gorgeous. I know it’s probably not a good pic for this question but anyone have any ideas of the cultivar or one similar in height and flowering ability? I am attaching photos.
TLDR- Do y’all think 2 big leafs in place of azaleas and one big oakleaf in the left corner of pic would be too much? Then maybe some small colorful plants in between?
And any ideas on the cultivar of the oakleaf would be appreciated also. Thanks guys!

According to the Nintendo Life review, the revised translation has made canon that Vivian is a transgender girl. No more ugly debates about this issue! It also seems they’ve updated the language to today’s standards because in other translations it was a bit rough how other characters like Goombella referred to Vivian.

I have went lc and nc and back into contact. I really love my brothers and want a relationship with them. But I have one brother who calls and tries to exploit everyone’s business. Even when I gray rock or explain I don’t want to hear, he continues or he drops the information so quickly that I can’t correct him each and every time. Nor do I want that challenge.
He doesn’t call often and this is the first time in months but I can’t seem to handle it and feel guilty. I want to help him and be there and have family future plans but the conversation is so taxing even when I try to put all these barriers in place.
I also believe because my parents aren’t really in the picture and haven’t been I feel some sort of guilt or obligation to listen to him and be there as an older sister.
But everything I say sounds wrong or like my mom, or I just don’t have the energy at all. I don’t want to talk to him. He doesn’t feel like a safe person to me. In the past when I was fresh postpartum he brought a gun into my home with no safety on it. When I tried to express myself saying it made me uncomfortable and to leave it in the car he grew ill. Then later on told me he will always carry no matter what. So now I’m under the assumption is it always on him no matter what. It makes me not want to do anything with them at all for the foreseeable future.
Now I have a fear just being around him. I dread any and all contact from my brothers. Yet I still answer his calls and pretend things are okay. None of which feels good at all.
Yet I stay stuck in this cycle and feel shame for not being able to close this relationship for good. For not being able to just talk to him without taking on all the feelings that come with it.
I just feel like I need a lot of help.

I was considering going no-contact with my family minus a brother I’m close to 3 years ago and was almost out until my father died in a freak accident and I got roped back in. My sister has spent the last 30 years making my life a living hell and my parents never stuck up for me or protected me from her. My mother, now alone, is terrified of her. We had a shitty childhood and all have different survival tactics, but after going to therapy for four years now, I’ve gotten away from those and surround myself with happy, healthy, amazing, supportive people. In regard to family, I keep my distance when I can (living 3.5 hours away helps), but often am the one everyone turns to when shit goes sideways to fix everything, calm people down, figure out what to do next. I’m tired of it, especially now realizing no one does the same for me.
I recently got married and had a 40 person head count, with 38 yeses. After a bunch of random crap, 13 of my 20 invitees flaked 3 days to 2 hours before the party, all of which were very, very close family members including a brother and two of my BILs. Had I known this, with ample timing, I would have invited more friends who WOULD have shown, but due to family taking up so much of the headcount, I couldn’t extend invites to them all. I vented to my mother who said at least I have my sister coming, who I said was only invited since the others were and she has never been nice to me or my husband - which my mother agreed with and said was a self-centered survival thing. I said she should learn a little kindness which would get her far. She despises my husband, who is genuinely as nice as can be, even to a fault. Doesn’t have a bad bone in his body, god bless him. But he supports me and loves me and we do well off each other and thrive, which she doesn’t like. Other siblings have commented on the fact she treats him so poorly when he is nothing but so kind to her.
Come party, 2 hours in and she’s nowhere to be seen. We’re waiting around to cut cakes since her household consisted of 5 people and we didn’t want to have people randomly walk in on it and ruin the photographs, miss the momentous moment, etc. My brother gets in touch with her and relays the message that I’m a monster, I’m childish and horrible and never welcome her to anything and I’m irrelevant and no one likes me which is why everyone bailed on me and I should be embarrassed. The only person I said those things to was my mother (who couldn’t come to party due to health reasons). I spent a majority of my wedding party crying on a fire escape because I was so upset by her words, so upset that everyone bailed, and so upset I didn’t follow my gut inviting other friends who would have come over obligatory family invites. I blocked my sister and her friend who joined in on her meanness. She has taken to emailing and texting me under spoof emails and phone numbers. Calling me irrelevant, embarrassing, disgusting, ugly, childish, greedy, no one showed up because they don’t like me, never been liked, etc.
My mother has spoken to her, but hasn’t reached out to me since the party when I said I was hurt at what she shared in confidence and need to think about what I want from this family anymore. My mother swears she went through her phone and saw the messages, but other parts of her (mothers) story don’t align. My mother historically has victim mindset over everything and could do no wrong. I try to do nothing but support my mother but she can never ever see how she’s in the wrong - ever. For example, she put her electric bill under my name and SS and defaulted on it for years. When I called her out on it after the company started reaching out to me, she said it’s always been like this, I didn’t say anything years ago so what’s the difference now, she’s doing no wrong and if I want her to go without electric and ruin the family then by all means go ahead and shut it off if I want.
I’m hurt, I’m upset. My husband has been amazing, but he doesn’t have any family that we could lean on ever. I’m torn between going fully no contact between my siblings who enable my sister, my mother who is emotionally abusive and enables her and doesn’t protect the rest of us, and calling it a day. Or going no contact with siblings, low contact with my mother, and never returning until they get their shit together and go to therapy. I just don’t know what is best anymore since I know my mom will never stand up to her. Family is all I’ve ever really had outside a close knit group of 3 friends, so it’s hard to go from everything to nothing in the blink of an eye.
Ever since my dad died and my sister took over, I have felt like I don’t have a spot in the family anymore. My sisters best friend of 15 years has always wanted to be apart of our big family since she had a dysfunctional one herself, and joins us on family vacations, Christmas, every waking moment. She is just as bad as my sister, and my sister is her only friend so she bows down to her. Since dad died, it’s like my sister and her friend don’t want me in the family and want to give the bff my daughter spot and to ostracize me. All of this is making me spiral and spiral and spiral. I haven’t been this bad mentally in a really, REALLY long time and it’s triggering me a lot.
I feel like as a woman, I’m held to a different caliber than the others. My brothers could do whatever they damn well please, and they do, and everyone turns a blind eye. With my sister being the oldest, she gets the same treatment. I am overwhelmed with what this family puts me through. My husband doesn’t have any family anymore for us to lean on, spend holidays with, etc. How do you move on? How do you find peace? How do you be okay with the fact nothing will ever change in this dynamic so it’s all or nothing?
FWIW - have an amazing therapist, amazing support group. Am ok, just sad and upset.