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I (40m) and my wife (30f), just had a final lunch with our third (37f).
The wife we will refer to as Kay, and our third Jen. So a little backstory…
I have been married to Kay for 7 years and we have been together for over 11 years. Just after our first year together I was a pig but also very much in love with Jen. So,in love with two women. Jen was already married but we continued to develop feelings and a relationship over about 5 years. Then Kay found out, outed us both, and let Jen’s husband know. I was back in school at this time and just about to graduate, me and the wife were not married, was just a shit show. Needless to say at this moment in time me and Jen stopped seeing each other. Her marriage was ready to end at this point and had I left my current wife at this time she would have taken off. Well I did not leave Kay. She in many ways has healed me and is one of four total loves I have had in my life. Jen also just happens to be one as well. Which sucks. Also sorry for poor format and run on sentences in advance. So life goes on, have three kids with the Waifu, have been building our relationship back to trust from the initial affair. Well I was grocery shopping one day and ran into Jen. We had had no closure and like a light it was back on. So fast forward to about 13 months ago Kay finds out again, and I am sweating bullets. Things were going great for me obviously as I was double dipping with them both. So this is where it gets interesting. Let’s just say I was able to bring them both together a handful of times, and they have developed a strong friendship. We all just want the others to be happy. Me and Kay are stronger than ever, and I want Jen to join the party permanently. Wife is willing to give it a try. Except she herself is still married, with two kids involved. We are sitting with three and the last is one month old today. Anyway I think Jen’s husband treats her like dogshit. Obviously he is doing something wrong for her to keep coming back. I have expressed to Kay and Jen how electric it feels when the three of us are together and how it just feels right to me. So today we are having lunch. We kind of figured this was gonna have some finality to it in some ways because her husband is suspect to activity. She says she wants to give it a year to try to make it work, and if it doesn’t she is gonna end it. We all had a serious conversation about the future of the three of us and what it would look like and how we could go about making it happen. I feel like regardless of my feelings, and my wife agrees, that I should honor and support this decision for the kids if anything. I just do not want her to fall back into a rut and think being treated like a servant is the norm. I was on top of the world for 5 months, lucked out that after messing up so bad my wife and best friend was willing to keep it all together and try this for me. I just don’t know which way it is gonna go. I know I need an answer regardless because life won’t wait regardless and plans for the future need to be made. I don’t know am reaching out for advice, insight, as I obviously want to do the right thing for the kids all the way around, but damnit I want us all to be happy.

Hey everyone. I’ll be attending the KLI starting next month. Well, more like 2 weeks. Anyone else? And why? I’d love to connect with you guys.
I’m an American man, 34 y/o. I fell in love with Korean culture and the language while working at the North American office of a major Korean automotive company as a software engineer over the past 5 years. I got introduced through the company and coworkers.
I’m hoping to strengthen my skills so I can get a job at their HQ in Korea, or have more options with companies that value Korean fluency (and there are SO many in tech/automotive).

I’m a stay at home mom of two baby boys. Married 3 years & dated 6 months prior to marriage & got pregnant a couple of months before getting married.
I’m going to get shit for all my bad decision-making here.
I prayed (out loud) for a man that would meet all this criteria and one month later met my husband. He met all the criteria of my prayer so no matter what bad things happened, I thought God had this purposed for me. I mean like a checklist of 10-20 items all checked off. I was vedy devout in my faith. But, now looking back I feel like maybe it wasn’t God who answered my prayer. Maybe this was like a time in the book of Job where God let Satan attack Job and take everything away from him. I don’t know. Oddly enough, the man that became my husband said he prayed for this, too, one month prior.
He love-bombed me. He devalued me. Later, he threatened to leave me (but never has). While we were dating, when I was pregnant, when we were engaged. He called escorts behind my back. I find out he had sexual relations with a woman in his apartment complex one week before we started dating - he told me three years into our marriage. Before we dated, he also had a two year affair with a married woman (whose husband to this day has no idea about it.) He was meeting her and texting her behind my back 2 weeks into us being officially dating exclusively. I find out because he got arrested and I went to pick up his things on his person at the jail. I guess his passcode in one try and there I see the truth. He lied about this woman - he said she was a best friend with no I love yous and no sexual relations. He even asked me if it was okay to be friends with her and I asked him those two questions. He lied and the proof was right there. We were fairly new so I didn’t read too many texts. I spent one hour on his phone at most and handling a panic attack in between.
I read where he texted escorts, too, and read two other relationships he had while seeing this married woman. My mind was blown. I was done. I screenshoted some evidence for my personal keepsake. I texted the married woman because their I love you was so recent. I told her what happened and said to go get him out of jail because I was done. She blew up my phone with texts. She wanted to know who I was and she wanted to share all the creepy details about this man. She claimed they only had sex twice and it was rape - bullshit. She also said a lot of other things like she knew when he bought me a coffee and knew when he went to the city to meet his friends. She said he said that they could still have sex while he was seeing me. He denied it and said it was the other way around.
When he got out of jail, he contacted me and sent me a video. She texted me to show me he sent her a video, too. Same shirt, same scenery and all filmed back after back. He told her how much he cared about her but he was letting her go. He came to meet me because I took his dog to care after her while he was in jail. He talked me into giving him one more chance. I moved into his apartment to get away from a situation at home. I fell for him hard and believed I was in love. We texted and talked all the time and when we were able, we were together. I went on a trip for a week withoht him to California. I got back and the sheets were washed. He said he did that for me so I can come home to clean sheets. Later over the course of our relationship I noticed he never much stepped up to do the laundry. A lot of chores started falling on me. Before even being married he expected me to coean his whole apartment which seemed to have never been touched once with any cleaning.
We were fighting a lot and I saw some of his anger but I thought he was just frustrated with things he was dealing with in his life. He got sort of pushy with me having intercourse with him at times I told him I didn’t want to because I wanted to wait. That made him angry. I find out that he had been FaceTiming escorts from the first weeks we started dating and found at least one call every month up to the week we were suppose to get married. I was shocked! I had no idea and I couldn’t believe it. We had intercourse so much that he wouldn’t need that so I thought. He said it was like porn to him and he had that habit from before he met me. Keep in mind, I’m religious so I was abstinent most of my life and these red flags weren’t so obvious to me. I thought most men were dogs like this. The biggest factor that blew my mind (of which he explained away) was that these escorts weren’t typical - they were transgender women and some still had their boy parts. After talking with someone who I thought was like a mom to me(I find oht later she wasn’t for me), I went through with the wedding, and besides, I was having his baby.
We moved states. I noticed a lot of verbal abuse starting from typically the night time as we shared a bed. He would cuss at me a lot and get so angry. It was almost every night. I was surprised - thinking who is this guy. He made me cry a lot. It was so stupid, I got screamed at just for rolling over in my sleep. He explained this away later after the problem got better. I began feeling like I made a mistake in marrying him. I was so scared at the same time because this was my first pregnancy. I feared so much about the “what ifs” and what world this baby was coming into.
The abuse got worse. It got physcial from time-to-time. He says I was abusive back but I feel like it was reactive abuse because it became too much for me. I would hit him back. It ate at my mind every day and I had all these hormones because I was going to have a baby soon. When pregnant, he has pushed me, held me down, jumped on me with his hands around my neck. He said things that were horrible like he would walk away from this son like he did his first son (he had a son from an earlier relationship which he had nothing to do with). Fear overcame me and some days I thought ending my life was the only way to escape my life and prevent a nightmare for my son. (These feelings relented later in time.)
One time he held up furniture above his head and he was ready to throw it at my head - I believe this was right after our son was born. We argued a lot because my mistrust in him because what I mentioned I discovered earlier. I wanted him to assure me he was trustworthy so sometimes I asked for his phone. Doing that resulted many times in violence and rage. When he had that furniture held up, I felt like he was going to end me right then and there. He stopped himself and I asked him why. He said because he saw the fear in my eyes.
We fought and made up A LOT. That was our relationship and me asking him where he has been or was he with someone. It was terrible for both of us. I discover later that he lied about a lot of things. I didn’t even know he didn’t have a drivers license until about 1-2 years into our marriage. I didn’t know the pictures of his boy parts I found once while dating were to the escorts. I asked him approximately a thousand times. He doesn’t just lie - he tells a story with details and the whole thing is a lie.
I use to check his phone and browser history because it was never ending place of discovery. I never got confessions out of him but I did get evidence that he thought he hid. He must have gotten better at hiding things because I would find less and less. I got to a point where I don’t check anymore - I know and it’s a damn headache to live like that. All the time he did these things, he swore his love for me. He said I was everything.
I discovered again a lie the first time he went to Miami last year (his first time away from me.) He took advantage and called at least ten eacorts and almost met up with one (or did. I don’t know. There’s no money spent but he lied and said the last escort called was his co-worker. I may never know what happened but his coworkers got weird around me after that trip. They won’t look me in the eye.) I didn’t know all this until December last year where I asked him for his T-Mobile password. He didn’t think I would find this when giving me the password.
I saw a text after that trip and found out he lied. He was awake at 2:00PM after he told me he went to bed on the phone. He told me how he missed me SOOO much. He said he tried putting his arm around me in bed to realize I was not there. We FOUGHT over the phone. He didn’t want me to see the rest of the texts between him and his coworker. He left bruises on my arms pushing and shoving me with all his strength. He overpowered me and I never saw the messages. He said he was hiding the fact ge did cocaine. I lost control because I pulled a knife out at him. Not to hurt him but to intimidate him. (I never lost it like this again -he ALWAYS uses this against me to say I’m the abusive one.)
December he admitted the elaborate cocaine story he gave me was a LIE. He said he did do cocaine but not how he told me. The real thing he was hiding was the escorts. At that time, I find out he kissed a coworker (maybe more but nobody will tell me anything.) Another girl told me he was always flirting with new hires. After I find this out from these girls, he put two holes in the walls and broke the doors at the apartment that was in my name. He also bought me $200 roses and a new marriage ring fo Christmas along with other nice gifts. He even goes to therapy to get better at his lying problem (which he only did for about 3 sessions.) He swore this was the last time I would EVER have this happen to me. He swore he loved me and our family. My second baby was born February after ALL of that.
November, my mom died and left me money. I find all that out after I put money on a house for us - Our first house. I made sure we were good. I made sure my baby had everything he could need. I didn’t even buy myself a new car (backstory I lost my good credit, my 2020 car and had one eviction in this marriage. I was almost $30,000 in debt after all of that. My husband made his bad credit good and how we got the house, too. He still has his car and no evictions on his name. We paid over $5,000 for his traffic tickets and court fees plus his debts.)
I could have left then but I was vulnerable because I was having another baby in two months.I feared all the time because I couldn’t get a job or keep one being pregnant and I worried about having one after because I wouldn’t make enough with him and me working would put us at a negative income. I tried building this website but I have yet to get sales. I knew I needed to get out but one last things I feared was breaking up my marriage. I thought he could get better for all his problems.
His anger reared its head again this past month. I found a book titled “Why did he do that.” My husband fits a lot of those examples of abusers. The book said the nice guy is the mask.
This time when he got angry, he said it was my fault he cheated on me. He said it’s a woman’s fault if a man cheats. He said that women need to keep a man happy. He said he had depression caused by me which he never mentioned before. He always said I made him happier than he ever has been in his life. I didn’t know about the cheating just like I didn’t know about the cause. He endlessly lied to me.
I went to his work and asked his boss about the girl he kissed. He is still lying. He said he told his boss what happened. His boss said they both said nothing when they came in for questioning. My husband got the word out and it turned into drama when those girls texted me.
My husband is two people. Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde. I just learned recently he has been reading my journals on my phone and texts between my sister. He read my reddit posts. He lied about this and kept it to himself. I feel like he may have planned trapping me in my marriage so I would have nothing. I feel like he is stalking me, too. I have 30K left locked up in a CD - he wants that when its available to pay off the credit cards in his name. We both spend on those cards for food and needs. I want to keep it as my nest just in case. He scares me sometimes. I feel like he may charm a judge when we fight for custody if I leave. I’m scared he will bring up the knife incident and the baker act (I was bakeracted last year when 5 months pregnant- he said he would cut me off financially and have me and our unborn baby fend for ourselves. I panicked and he was being a monster. I said he was hurting me and he said he didn’t care.) I told a cop I wanted to hurt myself but I wasn’t suicidal - I just feared my husband and wanted to get away from him. It was impulsive and I regretted saying it immediately. He was messing with my mind - he fake called the cops. Never dialed but acted out a conversation. I called right after.
I fear him. He is looking like a pscychopath to me or narcist - he pal ed his whole marriage and family around abuse and lies. He admitted to lying to keep me from leaving him on a few occassions. He would act like a little innocent and hurt boy. I could never see the abuser when he switched.
Would you be scared, too? I feel like no matter what I will never be free from him. My husband has once told me nobody will believe me. Everyone thinks I’m crazy - he said this right after convincing the cops that. (Time where he bent the truth to make it funny - the cops were sold.)

There’s a longer story to it but I’d rather keep it short. Girlfriend and I of 2 years recently broke up a little over a month ago. Decided that it was the best for both parties to take some space because of how stressful life was getting for us. She started being friends with a guy she met a little before we broke up. I definitely got a little jealous of this and one night decided to look through her phone. I found a couple of messages that I considered as flirting, asked her if they were talking, she said no. Assured me that those messages were not flirting. Well I let it go for the most part. Everything had been going good for us and we had still been friends Unfortunately I recently checked their messages again; messages from before the original ones where I saw them flirting and found more flirting. I don’t think anything too serious went on with them, I know for sure she had a crush and maybe he didn’t completely feel the same. When they were supposed to go hang out at times, he’d flake on her. They’d actually only known each other for about 3 weeks. But I feel like somewhere along that time, they developed an emotional connection (especially on her end) and it turned into a crush. I haven’t reacted the best to us being broken up I’d admit, but I know now that she was at least lying about not liking him. I know what I seen. I’m guessing she was trying to protect my feelings and while it was in the past, I don’t believe that I want to be with her anymore. I’ve spent so much time stressing over if something was going on and was constantly assured that it was nothing. Knowing that it probably was, I don’t want to be with her now. I love her but lately I’ve been making it a point to choose my peace over anything else. I can at least be friends with her but no dating anymore.

Hi guys! I have been on Norethindrone Acetate for about 6 years. I have been extremely stressed out the last few months as there have been some crazy developments in my life recently.
Last month I had cramping with light bleeding for a few days during my normal withdrawal period time, enough to require a tampon. This month, I didn't have a period or cramping at all. I was supposed to have my period last week but it hasn't happened yet. I’m wondering if I might be pregnant or if stress really can have an affect like that. For reference, I've never missed withdrawal bleeding. But the fact that last month it was an oddly light period and this month no period makes me think this could be due to stress. I've had some serious anxiety this month too.
Has anyone had the above experience and determined that stress was the cause? I continued with my birth control pack as planned and I will still get a test to ease my mind, but I’m curious to see if anyone has had a similar experience. Thanks in advance, friends!

Recently, I submitted an application at the local Walmart in De Soto, Missouri, aiming for a position as a cart attendant or stocker. I also applied to other stores nearby to boost my employment prospects. Surprisingly, I discovered that securing a job as a cart attendant was quite straightforward. A couple of days later, I received an invitation from the Festus, Missouri Walmart (store #69) for an open cart attendant role. I had hoped the De Soto store, which is only a mile from my home (store #159), would hire me. However, they didn’t, and I later learned that the hiring manager was on vacation when I applied, leading the Festus store to promptly offer me the position. Feeling both disappointed and frustrated, I faced the reality of commuting 16 miles to Festus instead of the convenient one-mile trip to the De Soto store. My old Ford truck, with 326,000 miles on the odometer, is barely running, and I had hoped for a job at De Soto due to its proximity. Regrettably, I didn’t realize that applying to multiple stores was a mistake; now I’m committed to the Festus location for another five months before I can consider transferring to De Soto. I’ve discussed my situation with various managers, and it seems I must wait out the six-month period before attempting a transfer. Conversations with my colleagues at the Festus store suggest that transfers are nearly impossible once you’re established there, especially if you’re a competent and hard worker. A coworker mentioned accumulating eight points but never facing termination because the store desperately needs full-time cart attendants. Working at the Festus store is indeed challenging; it’s constantly busy, and an associate from the De Soto store described it as a completely different beast of an environment. I’m sharing my experience to help others avoid the same oversight. In hindsight, I realize my desperation and two-year unemployment clouded my judgment during the application process. Now, with clearer understanding, I hope my narrative can prevent others from repeating my mistake. They say hindsight is 20/20, and that’s certainly true in my case.
Peace out! ✌️

I’m a stay at home mom of two baby boys. Married 3 years & dated 6 months prior to marriage & got pregnant a couple of months before getting married.
I’m going to get shit for all my bad decision-making here.
I prayed (out loud) for a man that would meet all this criteria and one month later met my husband. He met all the criteria of my prayer so no matter what bad things happened, I thought God had this purposed for me. I mean like a checklist of 10-20 items all checked off. I was vedy devout in my faith. But, now looking back I feel like maybe it wasn’t God who answered my prayer. Maybe this was like a time in the book of Job where God let Satan attack Job and take everything away from him. I don’t know. Oddly enough, the man that became my husband said he prayed for this, too, one month prior.
He love-bombed me. He devalued me. Later, he threatened to leave me (but never has). While we were dating, when I was pregnant, when we were engaged. He called escorts behind my back. I find out he had sexual relations with a woman in his apartment complex one week before we started dating - he told me three years into our marriage. Before we dated, he also had a two year affair with a married woman (whose husband to this day has no idea about it.) He was meeting her and texting her behind my back 2 weeks into us being officially dating exclusively. I find out because he got arrested and I went to pick up his things on his person at the jail. I guess his passcode in one try and there I see the truth. He lied about this woman - he said she was a best friend with no I love yous and no sexual relations. He even asked me if it was okay to be friends with her and I asked him those two questions. He lied and the proof was right there. We were fairly new so I didn’t read too many texts. I spent one hour on his phone at most and handling a panic attack in between.
I read where he texted escorts, too, and read two other relationships he had while seeing this married woman. My mind was blown. I was done. I screenshoted some evidence for my personal keepsake. I texted the married woman because their I love you was so recent. I told her what happened and said to go get him out of jail because I was done. She blew up my phone with texts. She wanted to know who I was and she wanted to share all the creepy details about this man. She claimed they only had sex twice and it was rape - bullshit. She also said a lot of other things like she knew when he bought me a coffee and knew when he went to the city to meet his friends. She said he said that they could still have sex while he was seeing me. He denied it and said it was the other way around.
When he got out of jail, he contacted me and sent me a video. She texted me to show me he sent her a video, too. Same shirt, same scenery and all filmed back after back. He told her how much he cared about her but he was letting her go. He came to meet me because I took his dog to care after her while he was in jail. He talked me into giving him one more chance. I moved into his apartment to get away from a situation at home. I fell for him hard and believed I was in love. We texted and talked all the time and when we were able, we were together. I went on a trip for a week withoht him to California. I got back and the sheets were washed. He said he did that for me so I can come home to clean sheets. Later over the course of our relationship I noticed he never much stepped up to do the laundry. A lot of chores started falling on me. Before even being married he expected me to coean his whole apartment which seemed to have never been touched once with any cleaning.
We were fighting a lot and I saw some of his anger but I thought he was just frustrated with things he was dealing with in his life. He got sort of pushy with me having intercourse with him at times I told him I didn’t want to because I wanted to wait. That made him angry. I find out that he had been FaceTiming escorts from the first weeks we started dating and found at least one call every month up to the week we were suppose to get married. I was shocked! I had no idea and I couldn’t believe it. We had intercourse so much that he wouldn’t need that so I thought. He said it was like porn to him and he had that habit from before he met me. Keep in mind, I’m religious so I was abstinent most of my life and these red flags weren’t so obvious to me. I thought most men were dogs like this. The biggest factor that blew my mind (of which he explained away) was that these escorts weren’t typical - they were transgender women and some still had their boy parts. After talking with someone who I thought was like a mom to me(I find oht later she wasn’t for me), I went through with the wedding, and besides, I was having his baby.
We moved states. I noticed a lot of verbal abuse starting from typically the night time as we shared a bed. He would cuss at me a lot and get so angry. It was almost every night. I was surprised - thinking who is this guy. He made me cry a lot. It was so stupid, I got screamed at just for rolling over in my sleep. He explained this away later after the problem got better. I began feeling like I made a mistake in marrying him. I was so scared at the same time because this was my first pregnancy. I feared so much about the “what ifs” and what world this baby was coming into.
The abuse got worse. It got physcial from time-to-time. He says I was abusive back but I feel like it was reactive abuse because it became too much for me. I would hit him back. It ate at my mind every day and I had all these hormones because I was going to have a baby soon. When pregnant, he has pushed me, held me down, jumped on me with his hands around my neck. He said things that were horrible like he would walk away from this son like he did his first son (he had a son from an earlier relationship which he had nothing to do with). Fear overcame me and some days I thought ending my life was the only way to escape my life and prevent a nightmare for my son. (These feelings relented later in time.)
One time he held up furniture above his head and he was ready to throw it at my head - I believe this was right after our son was born. We argued a lot because my mistrust in him because what I mentioned I discovered earlier. I wanted him to assure me he was trustworthy so sometimes I asked for his phone. Doing that resulted many times in violence and rage. When he had that furniture held up, I felt like he was going to end me right then and there. He stopped himself and I asked him why. He said because he saw the fear in my eyes.
We fought and made up A LOT. That was our relationship and me asking him where he has been or was he with someone. It was terrible for both of us. I discover later that he lied about a lot of things. I didn’t even know he didn’t have a drivers license until about 1-2 years into our marriage. I didn’t know the pictures of his boy parts I found once while dating were to the escorts. I asked him approximately a thousand times. He doesn’t just lie - he tells a story with details and the whole thing is a lie.
I use to check his phone and browser history because it was never ending place of discovery. I never got confessions out of him but I did get evidence that he thought he hid. He must have gotten better at hiding things because I would find less and less. I got to a point where I don’t check anymore - I know and it’s a damn headache to live like that. All the time he did these things, he swore his love for me. He said I was everything.
I discovered again a lie the first time he went to Miami last year (his first time away from me.) He took advantage and called at least ten eacorts and almost met up with one (or did. I don’t know. There’s no money spent but he lied and said the last escort called was his co-worker. I may never know what happened but his coworkers got weird around me after that trip. They won’t look me in the eye.) I didn’t know all this until December last year where I asked him for his T-Mobile password. He didn’t think I would find this when giving me the password.
I saw a text after that trip and found out he lied. He was awake at 2:00PM after he told me he went to bed on the phone. He told me how he missed me SOOO much. He said he tried putting his arm around me in bed to realize I was not there. We FOUGHT over the phone. He didn’t want me to see the rest of the texts between him and his coworker. He left bruises on my arms pushing and shoving me with all his strength. He overpowered me and I never saw the messages. He said he was hiding the fact ge did cocaine. I lost control because I pulled a knife out at him. Not to hurt him but to intimidate him. (I never lost it like this again -he ALWAYS uses this against me to say I’m the abusive one.)
December he admitted the elaborate cocaine story he gave me was a LIE. He said he did do cocaine but not how he told me. The real thing he was hiding was the escorts. At that time, I find out he kissed a coworker (maybe more but nobody will tell me anything.) Another girl told me he was always flirting with new hires. After I find this out from these girls, he put two holes in the walls and broke the doors at the apartment that was in my name. He also bought me $200 roses and a new marriage ring fo Christmas along with other nice gifts. He even goes to therapy to get better at his lying problem (which he only did for about 3 sessions.) He swore this was the last time I would EVER have this happen to me. He swore he loved me and our family. My second baby was born February after ALL of that.
November, my mom died and left me money. I find all that out after I put money on a house for us - Our first house. I made sure we were good. I made sure my baby had everything he could need. I didn’t even buy myself a new car (backstory I lost my good credit, my 2020 car and had one eviction in this marriage. I was almost $30,000 in debt after all of that. My husband made his bad credit good and how we got the house, too. He still has his car and no evictions on his name. We paid over $5,000 for his traffic tickets and court fees plus his debts.)
I could have left then but I was vulnerable because I was having another baby in two months.I feared all the time because I couldn’t get a job or keep one being pregnant and I worried about having one after because I wouldn’t make enough with him and me working would put us at a negative income. I tried building this website but I have yet to get sales. I knew I needed to get out but one last things I feared was breaking up my marriage. I thought he could get better for all his problems.
His anger reared its head again this past month. I found a book titled “Why did he do that.” My husband fits a lot of those examples of abusers. The book said the nice guy is the mask.
This time when he got angry, he said it was my fault he cheated on me. He said it’s a woman’s fault if a man cheats. He said that women need to keep a man happy. He said he had depression caused by me which he never mentioned before. He always said I made him happier than he ever has been in his life. I didn’t know about the cheating just like I didn’t know about the cause. He endlessly lied to me.
I went to his work and asked his boss about the girl he kissed. He is still lying. He said he told his boss what happened. His boss said they both said nothing when they came in for questioning. My husband got the word out and it turned into drama when those girls texted me.
My husband is two people. Dr. Jekell and Mr. Hyde. I just learned recently he has been reading my journals on my phone and texts between my sister. He read my reddit posts. He lied about this and kept it to himself. I feel like he may have planned trapping me in my marriage so I would have nothing. I feel like he is stalking me, too. I have 30K left locked up in a CD - he wants that when its available to pay off the credit cards in his name. We both spend on those cards for food and needs. I want to keep it as my nest just in case. He scares me sometimes. I feel like he may charm a judge when we fight for custody if I leave. I’m scared he will bring up the knife incident and the baker act (I was bakeracted last year when 5 months pregnant- he said he would cut me off financially and have me and our unborn baby fend for ourselves. I panicked and he was being a monster. I said he was hurting me and he said he didn’t care.) I told a cop I wanted to hurt myself but I wasn’t suicidal - I just feared my husband and wanted to get away from him. It was impulsive and I regretted saying it immediately. He was messing with my mind - he fake called the cops. Never dialed but acted out a conversation. I called right after.
I fear him. He is looking like a pscychopath to me or narcist - he pal ed his whole marriage and family around abuse and lies. He admitted to lying to keep me from leaving him on a few occassions. He would act like a little innocent and hurt boy. I could never see the abuser when he switched.
Would you be scared, too? Am I overthinking his lies and abuse? Do I need to get away now? I feel like no matter what I will never be free from him. My husband has once told me nobody will believe me. Everyone thinks I’m crazy - he said this right after convincing the cops that. (Time where he bent the truth to make it funny - the cops were sold.)

So let's say this is my first car that I ever had that I got in college...when I did not know how to drive. I paid for it like 6k (it was rebuilt) in cash. I got into an accident within the first year that happened, causing frame damage.
My AC is broken now 5 years later (condensor is broken) and when I took it to a mechanic, they said they wouldn't work on it because the radiator and frame is bent, and that I would have to get that taken care of first. Mechanic suggested to just get a new car. This was last year, I've been riding it since, but IT IS HOT AGAIN.
The regulator on my car is also not working- so window is taped up lol for now until I decide if I wanna invest money lol.
I dropped 500 dollars ish I think to get my heater fixed 6 months ago. It's 122k miles now, and kinda worried that all this stuff happening PLUS the fact that I can't get something fixed because of frame damage is concerning. She also just looks like a straight up beater. But alas..the idea of car payments are is haunting me.

I recently started texting with a friend from college. I just met him this year, it started as a normal acquaintance during class- speaking casually and complaining about project work. We then get to talking everyday using insta, then eventually calling. He calls me a "silly goose" and we have our own banter and everything. He then opened up about being freshly out of a relationship for 4 months, I got to know him better as well. I'm weary of course, I try not to give a lot away because thats just me protecting myself in general. He said he likes talking to me and that I'm funny ( I dont easily fall for that to be honest) but he also is genuinely fun and listens well. We have similar interests, and want to work on a creative project together. He also has asked me, what I look for in a husband, upon bringing it up in conversation.I don't want to push things, but I've caught him staring at me during class ( as if he's trying to figure me out) and he always leans in whenever I speak to him. On the surface, if someone's looks at us from afar, we are just giggling most of the time.

Just a heads up, I am not a native speaker so sorry for any mistakes.
Me (M28) and my bf (M31) live both in my apartment I bought 4 years ago with a big loan. We have been together for 7 years. I paid for everything around the apartmant. Kitchen, appliences, electronics, closets, lights, bed, sofas, the list goes on. It was my proposal as “it is my house and I dont want you to spend money on that”. Just to make things clear, it was also because my monthly income is approx 2x higher. Now, we decided together that we need a new closet and also air conditioning (there is none currently). The cost of both things really add up and it is a quite big sum of money. I automatically went forward and said I am gonna pay for it all, but now rethinking if we should split the cost accordingly to our income, as it is something we will both use. But, if something goes wrong in the relationship, I dont want to be thinking, oh he paid this amount for those thing and now I am gonna have to pay him back or someting. So, how should I aporoach this situation (ask him to chip in or keep it as it was) ?
Also, currenty I am paying the loan myself and the rest of monthly living expenses are split approx. 60:40 (electricity, water, heat, food, etc.)
Thanks for any advice.

I (18F) have been planning for months to go to the 3 year anniversary of a band I really like. And ik this sounds pretty basic, but I've been with this band since my teen days. They've watched me mature, and they're like family.
Problem is, I obviously didn't want to miss this so naturally I got the day off work in advance, and my boss gave it to me, however they had a venue change and the date was changed from Friday to Saturday and I once again had to ask my boss for the day off and swap it around.
He did, but now, yesterday morning I found out it was brought back to Friday, I'm devasted I'm working that day, I tried to swap with the only worker avaliable that day and she can't do it. I haven't talked to my boss or the band or anything cause I know there's nothing anyone can do, however suddenly I started to feel really determined last night and decided and almost any cost that I wanted to go, what should I do? I don't want to abandon anyone to work alone or lose my job, and I'm sure some people will say, "Trust me, this won't be the night of your life." But no one knows that for certain, and I find myself unwilling to let go till I find a way (which is very unlike me)
So please help me think of something.

I need HELP! So, I fell for ECSI debt collector trap by replying to one of their bills of $0.
When I contacted them in Sept 2023. They asked for proof of payment in full I made 7 years ago and I sent it, only for them to take my information, and claim I didn't pay in full. The took the amount I paid and subtract it from what the lawyer billed me in 2016 to prove that I didn't pay the principal? Which makes no sense because why would I pay almost double the amount in debt all at once only to leave out $200?! I don't have the letter for the payment in full since it was sent to my work email, and I was laid off so no access.
With this, they created a new amount for the debt with the $200+ and added fees and interest on top, restart my loan and claimed it to the Dept of Education. I never got any bills until ECSI decided to trick me with this scummy move. Basically they took Biden's covid deferment law and started sending out bills in hopes that someone answers them in order to zombify their loans, same situation with the zombie mortgages! I put in a complaint to the DoEd only to get my complaint dismissed without explanation which was weird.
They reported me to the credit bureau and claim they have been billing me since Feb. 2023 the so called "$300+ amount" even though I have paper proof I was billed $0 current and past amount in Sept 2023 with the bill stating " THANK YOU FOR KEEPING YOUR LOAN CURRENT. Credit Bureau rating as of the above due date: Current and in Good Standing."
I have asked for paperwork of this 26-year-old loan via mail and phone calls. They claimed they mailed it, I never got anything. I tried a pro bono lawyer, who first wanted to help but now said he got no time since he picked up so many other bigger cases. The lawyer suggested the SAVE program, but I have to wait another 20 years for it be dismissed? I also don't like the fact I have to agreed to take ownership of the new loan amount when I already paid more than enough to be considered paid off and extra all at once.
It's clear ECSI just made everything up. Now they constantly bill me every month since Dec. 2023. I tried everything I can think of, from complaints, to emails to the school the loan originated. By the way its no longer there, but merged into some other school. I emailed the old debt lawyer, too, and they all ignored me. Well, I tried everything other than starting lawsuits which I am highly tempted to do.
I swear they are just hoping this amount of $370+ is small enough that I would pay them off to get them off my back. It's still increasing by $1 every month btw. But I rather fight it if I can since I paid it off in full and should not be coerced to pay more for these scammers.
What do you all think?

I've been on the long long journey to get diagnosed and after finally finding a rheumatologist the specializes in spondyloarthropies.... I had an appointment in March but my gallbladder decided to try and kill me, I had to reschedule and finally had my appointment today, he said he'd update my chart after his case review with the radiologist tomorrow and then get an order in for biologic after all my labs came back.
I had no idea I'd be walking out with a treatment plan! The last rheumatologist I saw told me to get an MRI, 6 weeks of PT, and a colonoscopy and see him again in 4 months. But I probably had AS, and gave me a prescription for indomethacin amd said I probably shouldn't stay on it for too long.
The rheumatologist today said he hasn't had luck getting insirance companies to approve Humira, but first line is a biosimilar l, which, at this point I don't even care. But looking at the price, they're just as expensive, if I get a pre-auth.
They still count as a Tier 4 with my insurance so it looks like it'll cost around $650/mo.
How do people afford this??? Like, awesome. I was given a treatment option, but I maxed out my health savings on surgery this year and even though I hit my medical OOP, I didn't hit my pharmacy out of pocket maximum, soooooo that's another $2500, and I just don't have that laying around since my husband d got laid off a few months ago.
How does anyone afford to be this sick?

I'm 23 I haven't been counting the days and just been getting on with my life ever since i promised myself on December 2023 I wont watch porn & masturbate anymore.
I'm now on 5 months and I'm completely free. No desire, I can scroll past sexual images without being tempted. My anxiety is better,, I have more confidence but not as much as I want yet. I think this might be because I had a few wet dreams in the last 5 months. they have some negative effect but not as much as it happening when awake and doing it yourself by masturbating.
I won't be counting the days again after this post. I've got more stuff done these 5 months than I've ever done in all these years wasting my life away fapping since age of 11.
Although I think it's too late now. I wish I done this at age 11 and never knew what porn was or masthrbating was. Now my mind is free from that filth I see stuff and view things so differently. I ruined all thr crucial years of my life. Don't make same mistake as me.

I have an NIE, and will be heading to Spain for a month in the same holiday rental location. Would this be sufficient for me to open a bank when there? I'll probably be heading next year for a longer period, but wonder if it's worth spending the time attempting to open an account during my 1 month stay.

Age: 25 Sex: F
I have not been to the eye doctor for a standard exam in 5 years.
I waited 6 months for this appointment.
When I am called into the exam room, I am first asked to cover my left eye and read the letters from the slides that the tech is flipping through. She stops at the slide I start to have trouble with which is about 4 to 5 slides in. I repeat the same with my right eye covered.
I am then given some eye drops and she performs a pressure test.
Then, I am giving some drops to dilate my eyes, and I wait for the doctor to come in.
The Doctor looks at the health of my eyes using a series of bright lights and me looking in different directions. I had to rest my chin in some apparatus at one point. It was brief. He said my eyes look healthy.
I am then told that my tech will print out the prescription and that I'm good to go. The doctor leaves.
The tech prints my prescription. I try asking the tech while I was still in the room, why I wasn't giving a refractory test but she essentially ignores me, leaves the room, and I follow.
I then try to ask the receptionist if she might know why I was not given the test. She becomes a bit annoyed with me for asking, and says she'll call the tech back.
When the tech comes back, I just tell her that I was curious why I wasn't given a refractory test. She responds that I was just given the same as my previous prescription. I asked her, "wouldn't my eyes have changed in 5 years?" She responds, "not at our age." I stop pushing, say 'thanks,' and leave.
Is this standard practice to not be given a refractory test after 5 years of not having one?
I just don't see how they can know that my prescription is optimal. My insurance covers a refractory test. I've gotten one at every single one of my previous eye exams.
I have not been wearing my glasses for the previous five months because they're so damaged. I am unable to use them to gauge my vision in their current state.
I feel gypped, but I don't know if I should feel this way.
Thank you.

Just asking for advice to know if going forward I handled this situation correctly.
I recently left my partner of 6 years because they were having mental issues that they refused to disclose with me. They would perfer to stay on their computer all day than to go out or spend time with me. Even when we would go out, they'd want to just get home to go right back on their computer. Their computer was their entire life.
They claimed gaming was their escape. My ex would act very cold and distant from me. I asked them many times to focus on us and the relationship and communicate with me that they were dealing with something. I even said they didn't have to disclose what was going on with them mentally just to tell me they were having a day. They would distance themselves from the computer for a week or two then go right back to it. They also then told me it isn't that they can't tell me what's going on with them mentally but they they didn't want to, and never wanted to let me in. So after multiple conversations about being hurt and feeling like a glorified mother (I cleaned and cooked every night after working my fulltime job), I left them.
I feel like I might not have handled this right as I left them after like 2 months. Any advice?

Hello!
In june of last year i was playing with my dog when I went to kick a toy that was rolling, I missed and just about full forced kicked a base board on the wall.
Initial ER visit with x-rays came back no fracture in my big toe, immobilize for 4 weeks all should be good.
16 weeks rolls around and there is still pain and swelling, i i visit a ortho who x-rays with same result. Possible signs of a healing fracture but that is all. Said it should be good by EOY.
EOY comes still have pain when weight bearing, although less swelling, I visit one ortho in february who gets a MRI done, comes back with
mild arthritis, mild bone edema, mild joint effusion
We start Low Level Laser Therapy and Phsyical therapy in march, and I have been seeing gradual improvement, gaining rom and being able to stand on it with no pain.
We are now at the current day and the last ortho visit gave a timeline of a few more months to healed.
My current status is there is still joint effusion for sure. it hurts when pushing off with the toe or going in to my tipie toes. it’s not really a pain so much as the joint feels gunked up. I have no pain when moving the joint without weight bearing.
my question is, will this gunked up feeling go away as the joint effusion clears or is this a symptom of arthritis that will persist?
I am a 26 year old, 150lb, otherwise healthy male
TL;DR did a big bang on my big toe last june, doc says it’s healing, but curious what are symptoms of my new found PTOA and what are the injury healing
symptoms - pain when pushing off - pain when squatting and flexing it - toe looks slightly misaligned although both doctors said joint was not misaligned with x-ray - frequent popping (not painful)
(i have some screenshots of the mri in feb if anyone would like to see those, although i have definitely healed a lot since then)

I (m17) was with Keith (m16) for a year, he was my first time and I planned my future around us. He was my #1 supporter, and he made me feel more understood than I had ever felt in my life. We broke up over a year ago and had been on and off for a few months. He made me believe he was working on himself and still loved me but couldn't handle a relationship mental health wise. A loved one of his is going through a very tough time medically, and his siblings treat him like shit. He's had suicidal thoughts and has even harmed himself. By now this has been months past, and I have a new partner and I am happy with them. I still get haunted by things that remind me of K, but I try my best to move past them. K recently has tried texting me accusing me of texting him. Prior to this he told me he still loved me but I deserved more and that he couldn't give me that. He wants me to be happy but can't be in my life. I wanted to stay friends with him because I worry about his safety and care about him as a person. My partner made me block K, what do I do?

I’ve been trying out the tapes for the past couple months, mainly repeating the Wave 1 exercises and occasionally attempting the focus 12 introduction exercise in Wave. I can reliably reach focus 10 without the tapes possibly aided by 5-6 years of a consistent meditation practice prior to experimenting with the tapes. I haven’t gone much further in wave 2 aside from listening to the 1 month patterning tape once, but I’ve attempted the focus 12 introduction, probably around 5 times now. Strangely, 4 of those attempts have resulted in a strange phenomenon where at the point where Monroe is preparing for you to exit focus 12 and return to focus 10 before bringing you back to standard wakeful awareness, I lose perception of the audio and I’m in a sort of pure singular perception of the humming blackness of the back of my eyelids and I notice that the audio has long stopped after a while. Every time this has happened, I’ve been “out” for almost the exact same length of time (I start the recording at about 9:10pm and realise what has happened at 10:50 - 11) without fail. The one time I successfully finished the tape while maintaining awareness the whole time, my mind was busy with focusing on that particular task. I’m generally skeptical of the out of body experiences induced by the tapes as I haven’t experienced anything as vivid as I’ve seen others describe, but this particular series of experiences is something I haven’t seen talked about on here to my knowledge. Wondering if anyone has had any similar experiences or can provide any insight.

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Just a heads up, I am not a native speaker so sorry for any mistakes.
Me (M28) and my bf (M31) live both in my apartment I bought 4 years ago with a big loan. We have been together for 7 years. I paid for everything around the apartmant. Kitchen, appliences, electronics, closets, lights, bed, sofas, the list goes on. It was my proposal as “it is my house and I dont want you to spend money on that”. Just to make things clear, it was also because my monthly income is approx 2x higher. Now, we decided together that we need a new closet and also air conditioning (there is none currently). The cost of both things really add up and it is a quite big sum of money. I automatically went forward and said I am gonna pay for it all, but now rethinking if we should split the cost accordingly to our income, as it is something we will both use. But, if something goes wrong in the relationship, I dont want to be thinking, oh he paid this amount for those thing and now I am gonna have to pay him back or someting. So, should I ask him to chip in or keep it as it was?
Also, currenty I am paying the loan myself and the rest of monthly living expenses are split approx. 60:40 (electricity, water, heat, food, etc.)
Thanks for any advice.