Hi all, I'm here vent.
My wife and I have been together 7 years. When we met, we both were not ok mentally but through the years, we've somewhat found ways to get better. At the beginning, like most relationships, we were pretty in to eachother, always having sex and dates, just overall a great time. Even 2 years in, there was the same intensity and we were both in a better state, mentally.
Fast forward to the last year, maybe year and a half. Everything is... Distant. She's distant, only wants to watch YouTube, smoke weed and be in bed. That's her thing, she even gets upset if I watch TV in the living room and "it's to loud" (she wears noise cancelling headphones and I keep the TV at a 10-15lvl volume). She doesn't help around the house anymore, or with the cats. She won't initiate sex and the few times she does... She just wants me to go down on her and then she rolls on her side and sleeps. She doesn't like touching me as much anymore, or hugh me. She also has been very reactive and short, having outbursts of anger for no reason (work, or she dropped something).
I know she needs help, i told her dhe needs help from a professional, she got a referral from our dr and she missed the call to book an appointment TWENTY TIMES, because she refuses to put her phone at least on vibrate (its always silent). So, I told her to ask for the phone number so she cal call and that was 1 year ago.
Well, yesterday I had enough... She was on a work call and got angry, snapped and tried to punch the bed and what she assumed was a rolled up black t-shirt, but it was our little black cat. She immediately felt horrible and started to cry and apologize, I lost my shot and told I was done with her shit, I'm over this whole situation and she needs to fix herself. I checked on the cat to make sure she wasn't hurt (she wasn't) and my wife just bolted to the door and left. Came back after 40 minutes and went straight to the room to watch her YouTube vids again.
She later came to apologize, and I told her I'm just tired of carrying everything. The house, her mental health, my mental health, the cats, the finances, our sex life and that I've goven her all the chances in the world. She apologized and went to bed.
I'm not sure what to do or how to move forward...

Hey all,
I'm taking my wife's old 2003 Specialized Sequoia and converting it to a light gravel/bikepacking style bike for myself. It is currently running 700x28mm tires with stock sidepull caliper brakes. In measuring, there is about 7mm on either side of the tire to the front fork edges.
What is the largest tire with a little tread on it that I could realistically put on it? And do you have any recommendations for a tubed tire that would work on it?

Hi, I'm sure this has been asked before but we're confused. My Canadian wife has been living with me (British Citizen) for over 5 years. We were going to extend her family visa and have realised we can apply for ILR.
It's been a very hectic 18 months with university, newborns and moving so we haven't planned things out as well as we should.
Her current visa expires July 1st - can we apply for ILR given that we have a little over a month left?
Thank you!

BRP Pickup for UK
Hello, my family is planning on moving to the UK from the USA this year, and I’ve been approved for a spouse visa as my wife is British. Our goal is to move at the end of July for work-related timelines. I received the acceptance letter and vignette, but it expires at the end of June. According to the acceptance letter, I need to pick up my BRP before it expires (‘Your passport/travel document contains a short-term entry clearance visa, which allows you to travel to the UK. This visa is valid for 90 days. If you do not travel to the UK before your 90-day visa expires you will need to apply and pay to transfer your visa. ‘), but on the website (https://www.gov.uk/biometric-residence-permits/getting-your-brp-if-you-applied-from-outside-the-uk) it says ‘You must usually do this before the vignette sticker in your travel document expires or within 10 days of arriving in the UK, whichever is later.’
So do I have to pony up and fly over before June ends just to pick up my BRP, or should I try and transfer to a later date, knowing that it might not come back in time to move in July?
Any help with the confusion will be greatly appreciated!!

Hi everyone. I'm currently in the north east of UK. I have received british citizenship recently so looking forward to exploring. My wife is currently 24 weeks pregnant and suffers from pelvic girdle pain(we already have a 5 year old). I'd like to surprise my wife by taking her to a nice european destination (could fly from Newcastle or Manchester). I believe most of the nice places will involve lots of walking. However with her pelvic girdle pain, wondering if someone can recommend any nice destinations which we would be able to visit at the end of May where a lot of walking won't be involved? Not looking for anything wild, somewhere we can enjoy the local culture, have nice food, nice scenery would be a bonus but I suspect that will involve going up and down hills. Lol

Hi all, I'm here vent.
My wife and I have been together 7 years. When we met, we both were not ok mentally but through the years, we've somewhat found ways to get better. At the beginning, like most relationships, we were pretty in to eachother, always having sex and dates, just overall a great time. Even 2 years in, there was the same intensity and we were both in a better state, mentally.
Fast forward to the last year, maybe year and a half. Everything is... Distant. She's distant, only wants to watch YouTube, smoke weed and be in bed. That's her thing, she even gets upset if I watch TV in the living room and "it's to loud" (she wears noise cancelling headphones and I keep the TV at a 10-15lvl volume). She doesn't help around the house anymore, or with the cats. She won't initiate sex and the few times she does... She just wants me to go down on her and then she rolls on her side and sleeps. She doesn't like touching me as much anymore, or hugh me. She also has been very reactive and short, having outbursts of anger for no reason (work, or she dropped something).
I know she needs help, i told her dhe needs help from a professional, she got a referral from our dr and she missed the call to book an appointment TWENTY TIMES, because she refuses to put her phone at least on vibrate (its always silent). So, I told her to ask for the phone number so she cal call and that was 1 year ago.
Well, yesterday I had enough... She was on a work call and got angry, snapped and tried to punch the bed and what she assumed was a rolled up black t-shirt, but it was our little black cat. She immediately felt horrible and started to cry and apologize, I lost my shot and told I was done with her shit, I'm over this whole situation and she needs to fix herself. I checked on the cat to make sure she wasn't hurt (she wasn't) and my wife just bolted to the door and left. Came back after 40 minutes and went straight to the room to watch her YouTube vids again.
She later came to apologize, and I told her I'm just tired of carrying everything. The house, her mental health, my mental health, the cats, the finances, our sex life and that I've goven her all the chances in the world. She apologized and went to bed.
I'm not sure what to do or how to move forward...

Dan Wootton is firmly in the William and Kate camp and is very anti-Harry and Meghan. Just curious if he is a reliable source of info on the Royal Family? His latest YouTube video, he says Catherine is “battling cancer”. He’s said it before as have others in the British media. It’s present tense. Which contradicts what Kate said in her March video which was cancer HAD been found and the chemo was preventative. Does Dan know more that they’re letting on or is he just being dramatic?

https://www.npr.org/2024/05/13/1251040886/this-film-festival-spotlights-efforts-to-preserve-and-discover-lost-movies
The Restored and Rediscovered film festival begins Monday at the Jacob Burns Film Festival in New York City. It's meant to put a spotlight on movies that have been since lost.
AILSA CHANG, HOST:
Nearly half of all movies made before 1950 have been lost, according to some estimates. That's why film historians and archivists are racing to preserve older movies. The Restored and Rediscovered Film Festival spotlights these efforts, and it kicks off today at the Jacob Burns Film Center in Pleasantville, N.Y. One of the festival's offerings is this rarely seen 1971 film, "Bushman." It's about the racial politics of 1960s America as seen through the eyes of a Nigerian immigrant.
(SOUNDBITE OF FILM, "BUSHMAN")
UNIDENTIFIED ACTOR #1: (As character) Man, I can't get used to these strange Black people in the world (ph).
UNIDENTIFIED ACTOR #2: (As character) I'm Blacker than you are.
CHANG: Senior film programmer and critic Monica Castillo is here to tell us more. Welcome.
MONICA CASTILLO: Thank you for having me.
CHANG: Well, thanks for being with us. So can we start with that film, "Bushman"? Like, I've heard it described as half drama, half documentary. What was this film about exactly?
CASTILLO: It's a really interesting film that blends narrative nonfiction and fiction. You're following a Nigerian exchange student as he kind of explores identity, ideas of home and belonging in counterculture San Francisco in the late 1960s. And he even embraces the name Bushman as well. You know, and his different questioning and answers throughout the different characters that he meets.
But then all of a sudden, the movie comes to a screeching halt. And then somebody else comes in front of the frame and tells you that the actor playing the main character was arrested on his own college campus and deported. So then that's when the documentary aspect really comes in. And it's a talking point for the way that Black students are treated, the way that immigrants are treated. It's a really remarkable film.
CHANG: So interesting.
CASTILLO: Yeah.
CHANG: Well, I do want to talk about the work involved in bringing a film like "Bushman" to audiences on the big screen. Like, what does it take to restore a film? What do archivists have to do to resurrect some of these films, exactly?
CASTILLO: Yeah. So it really depends on the film itself and what condition it's in. There's usually a scanning process, digitizing it. And then once it's in a computer, they can fix the imperfections, whether that be mold or color degradation or scratches. And then through that process, we're able to get another copy on the other end. So that's what we're able to show.
CHANG: What's fascinating about this for me is when I think of restored films, I think of, like, the old silent films or the early talkies. But we're talking about films that are much more modern. Like, I know one of the films you're showing is the 1960 British horror thriller "Peeping Tom."
(SOUNDBITE OF FILM, "PEEPING TOM")
UNIDENTIFIED ACTOR #3: (As character) Whatever I photograph, I always lose.
(SCREAMING)
CHANG: Which I understand that critics hated when the movie came out. So tell me why you decided to showcase that movie here.
CASTILLO: Absolutely. And they sure did hate it at that time. But...
CHANG: And why? What was so awful about this movie?
CASTILLO: It was controversial in the way that it depicted violence. And it sort of equated, you know, movie making with a sense of warriorism. I mean, that's very much what it's playing with, but maybe it was a little too ahead of its time. So even though it came out about the same time that "Psycho" did, you know, Alfred Hitchcock was celebrated, and Michael Powell had to deal with the sort of career fallout with all of these negative reviews over "Peeping Tom." But now with this new restoration, I mean, you get to really appreciate the amount of texture and color work that he's working with. Like, he really immerses you in the main character's sort of mania, and it's really fascinating.
CHANG: So what do you ultimately hope that people will take away from watching these films years and years later?
CASTILLO: I really just hope that they keep an eye out for these restorations. They are so special, and you get to see so much more. I was just thinking of the Iranian New Wave film "The Runner," which we have in our series. Before, I had seen a sort of VHS scan copy off of YouTube, and you lost so much of the story.
CHANG: Yeah.
CASTILLO: And then now with this restoration, there's whole pieces of the story that now come together. And you feel this character's journey in a such more emotional and visceral way. That's part of the movie magic.
CHANG: That is Monica Castillo, senior film programmer at the Jacob Burns Film Center. And if you aren't able to make it to the festival in Pleasantville, many of these restorations will be available to stream or to buy. Thank you so much, Monica. Thank you for having me.
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Newish to HA. I've got a pretty good understanding of how things work. Expect for Music Scenes.
Man am I stumped. Will explain what I've got and what I want and maybe someone with a similar setup can chime in with their setup and how they did it. I'll even offer to buy a cup of coffee or a beer in return.
Note: I've watched YouTube videos and read a handful of reddit / website articles on this. Still stumped.
I'd like the ability to wakeup and hit my "morning coffee" button ( on phone or tablet ) and have my morning radio turn on and come through my Sonos speakers. Or my wife's " Mom Mode " where we now have to listen to hours of Taylor swift on end from Spotify.
I have Sonos speakers around the house, but don't want to give my kids, wife, or guests the Sonos app.
I was using my Brilliant Wall panels to do this easily but since it looks like they are shutting down I figured I should go full in on HA.
I've added the Sonos integration, added spotcast via hacs, Spotify integration with dev key etc.
also have Music Assistant ( AMAZING! ) I can get closer with groups and music playback but can't figure out how to create a scene with MA.
for the life of me I can't create a Music Scene, I think I can get as far as adding a single entity ( speaker ) but I would need a group. I tried using Helper and creating a speaker group but it's not seen as an option when I go to create the Scene.
Is anyone using Sonos grouped Scenes ? Any insight would be amazing. Thanks.

I'm British 🇬🇧. I see "marching band" mentioned a lot in this sub, in particular in relation to instrument damage or risk thereof. This really confuses me.
I play in a community street band and a decent number of our gigs are outside, often on the move (parade/march/carnival type events). Yet instrument damage is never a concern. I also played in loads of different bands when I was at school, albeit usually static then - again, never any concerns with getting even a scratch on my horn, let alone visible dings or a bent tube.
What don't I know / understand about the US context of "marching band"?

I will continue to update this post as reviews come in.
Rotten Tomatoes: Rotten
Critics Consensus: Back to Black's sympathetic approach to its subject's story is an overdue antidote to the tabloid treatment she often received in life, even if the end results are disappointingly pedestrian.

	Score	Number of Reviews	Average Rating
All Critics	36%	69	4.50/10
Top Critics	38%	24	4.50/10

Metacritic: 49 (18 Reviews)
Sample Reviews:
The film’s snaky on-and-off power begins with the British actor Marisa Abela, whose lead performance nails Amy Winehouse in every look, mood, utterance, and musical expression. - Owen Gleiberman, Variety
Back to Black is, like its heroine, flawed and fallible but frequently very affecting. - Leslie Felperin, Hollywood Reporter
Tells the story of Amy Winehouse but shows no passion in telling it and has nothing to say about the events that transpire. It’s the utter minimum of what a biopic can be. - William Bibbiani, TheWrap
There are other, tougher, bleaker ways to put Winehouse’s life on screen – but Abela conveys her tenderness, and perhaps most poignantly of all her youth, so tellingly at odds with that tough image and eerily mature voice. 4/5 - Peter Bradshaw, Guardian
There are moments when Abela disappears and Winehouse bursts on to the screen, like a magic eye picture blinked fleetingly into focus. But the film is wildly uneven and prone to catastrophic misjudgments. 2/5 - Wendy Ide, Observer (UK)
Because of the cautious gloss, the film is perhaps less enlightening or truly tragic than it might have been. 3/5 - Tim Robey, Daily Telegraph (UK)
The final scene, in particular, with its completely and utterly baseless, sensationalist implications, made me physically gasp in horror. 1/5 - Hamish Macbain, London Evening Standard
The ending, of course, is sad... Yet, for all its faults, the film is more celebratory than tragic. 3/5 - Ed Potton, Times (UK)
Back to Black is a fitfully enjoyable little package that will do wonders for the careers of Abela and O’Connell. But unlike Winehouse’s oeuvre, it’s not worth taking seriously. It’s just too afraid of the dark. 2/5 - Charlotte O'Sullivan, Independent (UK)
The film seems too tame, too tasteful, too frightened of alienating the fans: everything that Winehouse was not. 2/5 - Tom Shone, Times (UK)
[Amy Winehouse's] music remains in a different creative galaxy to this dispiriting film, which is at once twee and ghoulish. 2/5 - Danny Leigh, Financial Times
Sure, you will learn more – and hear more of the original recordings – in Asif Kapadia’s great documentary Amy, but Taylor-Johnson does a decent job of making a tight drama from the same tragic yarn. 3/5 - Donald Clarke, Irish Times
This is a middle-of-the road biopic about a musician who was anything but. It’s not great and it’s not terrible. 3/5 - Stephen Romei, The Australian
It has such reverence for Winehouse that it lacks the honesty the 2015 Oscar-winning documentary Amy was able to present. 2.5/5 - Wenlei Ma, The Nightly (AU)
A solid performance let down by a script that cherry-picks the facts and ultimately tells us less than we already know. Watch Asif Kapadia’s Amy instead. 2/5 - Hayley Campbell, Empire Magazine
Offers a pallid account of Winehouse’s story, ironing out some thornier issues, and bringing little that’s new, either in fresh revelations or distinctive angles on the familiar. - Jonathan Romney, Screen International
This is better than I expected (although my expectations were low). It does seem softened at the edges, and one can never forgive a falling-in-love montage set at London Zoo -- ever -- but I (mostly) didn’t cringe and it is respectful, if painful. - Deborah Ross, The Spectator
In her attempt to put the woman back at the centre of her own life, Taylor-Johnson has at least captured an addictive personality and achieved a powerful portrait of doomed love. - Kate Mossman, New Statesman
It is as salacious and cruel as any tabloid cutting from the noughties – only invested in the bloody ballet pump left in the street, not the complexities of living a very public life with addiction. 1/5 - Rogan Graham, Little White Lies
Everyone involved in the film approaches the late artist with love and respect, but its tawdry instincts and misguided sense of responsibility let her memory down. C- - Vikram Murthi, indieWire
Bizarrely, the one thematic thread that Back to Black does seek to tie its tale together with is the singer’s desire to have a child. 1.5/4 - Ross McIndoe, Slant Magazine
Like Winehouse herself, the film teeters on the edge, hovering restlessly between genre-subversive brilliance that complicates celebratory narratives about artistic genius, and well-worn, re-hashed tropes about tragic women. - Rebecca Harrison, Sight & Sound
A strong cast, in particular a stirring performance from Marisa Abela, is not enough to effectively convey the chaos and the tragedy central to the story of such a beloved artist. 2/5 - Linda Marric, HeyUGuys
Its punchlines lack punch, [but] what it does have is a frankly dynamite central turn from Marisa Abela. - Mark Kermode, Kermode and Mayo's Take (YouTube)
SYNOPSIS:
The extraordinary story of Amy Winehouse’s early rise to fame from her early days in Camden through the making of her groundbreaking album, Back to Black that catapulted Winehouse to global fame. Told through Amy’s eyes and inspired by her deeply personal lyrics, the film explores and embraces the many layers of the iconic artist and the tumultuous love story at the center of one of the most legendary albums of all time.
CAST:

• Marisa Abela as Amy Winehouse
• Jack O'Connell as Blake Fielder-Civil
• Eddie Marsan as Mitch Winehouse
• Lesley Manville as Cynthia Winehouse

DIRECTED BY: Sam Taylor-Johnson
SCREENPLAY BY: Matt Greenhalgh
PRODUCED BY: Alison Owen, Debra Hayward, Nicky Kentish-Barnes
EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Sam Taylor-Johnson, Anna Marsh, Ron Halpern, Joe Naftalin
DIRECTOR OF PHOTOGRAPHY: Polly Morgan
EDITED BY: Martin Walsh
PRODUCTION DESIGNER: Sarah Greenwood
COSTUME DESIGNER: PC Williams
MUSIC BY: Nick Cave, Warren Ellis
MUSIC PRODUCTION BY: Giles Martin
MUSIC SUPERVISOR: Iain Cooke
CASTING BY: Nina Gold
RUNTIME: 122 Minutes
RELEASE DATE: May 17, 2024

I figure this question is vague enough to be “information for the whole community” so I’ll give it its own post instead of going to the sticky.
But I wonder if anyone knows where to buy records that aren’t exactly music, but more along the lines of news presses/historical. I already checked discogs and no luck. I figure there must be a niche website for this.
I ask this because my uncle is looking for a record he had that he listened to like almost every other night. I’ve never heard it but he has described it to me as “world war 2 soldiers making an advance, British soldiers, and it’s real not a play or anything.”
He has no idea what it’s kind, he’s relatively sure these are British soldiers (but I guess these could be Australians, he’s not an accent expert). And he says that this is a real recording of I guess a journalist with a microphone following a real platoon during the Second World War.
My uncle was a soldier in the Croatian army during the homeland war (Yugoslav wars as you guys called it) and he loved listening to this album because it reminds him of his own time in the field during war and it make him happy to remember (if you’re American I know how this sounds, this is a Balkan thing, don’t overthink it).
He has lost this record somehow, I have told him he could get the same thing on YouTube, but he insists he have a record. I assumed this was bbc and I dug through their archives, but nothing.
So again I ask - anyone know a website specifically for historical/war correspondence/journalism in war records. Just a place where I can find a record of soldiers in war so he could have something similar to sit and relax to and put a smile on his face? Thanks in advance.

I have a question as something happened regarding my car It’s a Skoda Octavia VRS 2017 British Gas needed me to move my car so my wife did it Unfortunately she didn’t switch the car off and left the key in the house and drove off in her car. My son told me my window wipers where on That’s when I discovered she left the car running and the “no key fob “ found Why doesn’t the car A. Switch off B. Lock the doors
If the key isn’t in the car????
It’s a concern owning a keyless entry car I know but it’s more concerning the car still operate with key nowhere near it

Greetings everyone
First of all can I say thank you to all the wonderful people who have helped in this community.
Like others before me I am seeking some reassurance that I have the correct documents for my wife and step-daughter's 2.5 year renewal. Lots of posts have been very helpful and I am confident for my wife, but want to check for my step-daughter also. For further information we also have one daughter together who is a British Citizen.
ID's -
BRP - wife and step-daughter, Passports- mine, wife, stepdaughter and daughter ,Birth certificate - stepdaughter
Language -
IELTS B1
Step-daughter -
Translated court document for custody, Notarised letter from Father, Letter of attendance from local school
Letters -
Covering letter (signed by wife and myself) Letters of character (from priest and police officer)
Proof of address -
No joint mail. Six different letters each to same address ,Title register of our home
Finance -
My (sponsor) payslips 6 months, My bank statements 6 months, P60 ,Contract Letter from Employer
Relationship -
Photos, Marriage certificate
Consent to verification
I hope that's all correct but I would love it if one of you lovely people could give me some pointers or reassurance. I've grown a little bald patch worrying about all of this and the cost of it!

Full interview: https://www.youtube.com/live/0hIyE8jSzYg?si=iY6Rzyqe5upSJkBz

1. Seth confirms the PI's exit was due to Tony's involvement.
   
2. Seth said he likes Tony because Tony does whatever he tells him
   
3. Seth says the PI's didn't share all information with him and weren't checking up on leads. Seth says it's his operation, not theirs.
   
4. Tony and Seth say the Proudfoot's aren't working with them, and Tony's job was to get them on board with Seth.
   
5. Seth said the leaked phone call of Chris Proudfoot interfered with getting the Proudfoot's on board. Tony rebukes Chris Proudfoot for calling into Cluemaniti with fake voices. (note: there's still no proof this was actually CP. If anyone can link clear evidence of this please do so)
   
6. Tony claims Chris Proudfoot agreed not to do social media but did it anyway, said "he's not a good guy".
   
7. Tony said he was Seth's agent for the latest Nancy Grace appearance in regards to the polygraph he took.
   
8. Tony said he had an agreement with Nancy Grace's producers that the interview would not paint the Proudfoot's in a bad light. He said when the polygraph administrator said Seth told him he believes Katie accidentally OD'd Sebastian he advised Seth to hang up immediately, which Seth complied with.
   
9. Seth confirmed this account from Tony. Seth said the polygraph administrator ask for his top three theories on what might have happened to Sebastian. Seth said he said the OD theory and an additional two more, but the polygraph administrator only focused on that one.
   
10. Tony said he spoke with Nancy Grace's team afterwards and that's why this part was edited out later on.
    
11. When asked if Seth actually believes the OD theory he evaded the question.
    
12. Seth rebukes people for worrying too much about Chris Proudfoot's ex-wife and other drama.
    
13. Seth talks about his physical search during the first couple of weeks. Goes on to rebuke people "running their mouth". He's venting quite a bit. (IMO he deserves a break here)
    
14. Seth shut down the GoFundMe because of "grief" about it. Said he used the funds for flyers and other things like that. (Fair. I admit to thinking it was more nefarious than what it likely was)
    
15. Seth is being quite genuine during this venting. (I'd hug him, no lie)
    
16. Tony rebukes Pascal's chat.
    
17. Tony talks about how awesome he is, and what a saint he is for helping Seth.
    
18. Seth rebukes soical media vultures. (Even though he's on social media vulture Pascal).
    
19. Tony once again talks about how awesome he is.
    
20. Seth praises Tony for doing whatever he tells him
    
21. Tony rebukes social media vultures, on social media vulture Pascal. Tony says it's okay to make money off of Seth's missing child, and rebukes them, and then says it's okay again. Then rebukes them again.
    
22. Seth says he has no social media and listens to Tony to stay off of YouTube... While he's on YouTube. Seth rebukes someone for commenting on his weight.
    
23. Seth praises his volunteer searchers for putting their health and safety on the line.... Rebukes people that say bad things about him online.
    
24. Seth thanks the parents of the North Carolina boy that was thought to be Sebastian for giving him a few brief days of hope.
    
25. Seth has not seen all the footage the police have. Seth says there is dashcam footage the police have. Evaded all followup questions.
    
26. Tony says he has no idea about dashcam footage
    
27. Tony says neither of them have talked to Seth's mom about her Facebook posts, but they don't blame her. Tony says she is just venting.
    
28. Tony talks about how awesome he is for not blaming Calib's grandmother either. (Another case he worked on)
    
29. Seth apologizes for cutting Tony off, stands up for his mom. Says she's feeling very helpless, and he is too. Rebukes people for sending stuff to his both him and his mom.
    
30. Seth says he obtained Sebastian's CPS file. Says he won't share it, says his attorney told him not to.
    
31. Sumner county has this file. Seth says TBI didn't have it. Seth clarified he has a redacted copy. Says Tony hasn't seen it.
    
32. Tony speaks with authority on it even though Seth said he hadn't seen it.
    
33. Seth rebukes Pascal for prying the issue.
    
34. Something something Church. Seth challenged Pascal to come to the next vigil, Pascal agrees. Let's hold him to that. It's on the 19th!
    
35. Seth says if Sumner Sheriff and TBI won't clear him than they (meaning the Proudfoot's) aren't cleared either. (This is an interesting statement!)
    
36. Pascal than spends the rest of the interview making money from reading superchats priced $5-$50. He made good bank.
    

My thoughts, it's good seeing Seth sober and ready for these interviews. He's definitely trying to be more cordial. Even though I'm crapping on Pascal, and he deserves to be crapped on, he advocated for for a united front from Seth, Chris and Katie. He did however cowtow to the idea that Seth should just get to see all the evidence the police have collected. He's smart enough to understand why that can't happen. Tony definitely has Seth's ear, and he probably helped him out a great deal during the Nancy Grace incident... But I still don't think he's doing it for altruistic reasons. I meant it when I said we should hold Pascal to his commitment to come to the vigil. He made more money in an hour and half than I made in the 8 hours I worked today.
My last thought... An hour and 41 minutes. That's how long that live stream was and the majority of it was Seth and Tony addressing drama that Seth and Tony and basically everyone that wasn't the Proudfoot's created (with the possible exception for Chris calling in to Cluemaniti). At no point did the stream put up a picture of Sebastian. At no point did anyone say or show the number for the tip line. At no point did Seth mention what areas his volunteer searches have covered. At no point did Seth outline areas that still need to be searched. At no point did Seth give insight to Sebastian's personality that could help indentify him. If this was the very first thing I'd had seen about this case I'd know all about Seth and Tony and how they feel about things.. but Sebastian would be pretty much a mystery.

Hello everyone,
A while back, my wife and I relocated to a new city and settled into an apartment in British Columbia. The landlord informed us about a pre-existing issue with cockroaches in the building, but assured us that our unit and section were free from them. However, we were informed of mandatory monthly pest inspections, necessitating a high level of cleanliness in our living space. The regulations include no cardboard allowed, no open food on kitchen counters (not even fruit or bread unless completely sealed), and thorough inspections that involve going through our belongings, including drawers and rubbermaid containers. Occasionally, items like the fridge and stove are moved, which once resulted in a broken plate.
Following each inspection, we receive a detailed letter listing areas that need improvement. Initially, there were numerous infractions mentioned, but we've managed to reduce them to just a few. We've had to invest roughly $100 in rubbermaid containers to eliminate cardboard boxes, store perishables in the fridge on inspection days, and even place cast iron inside the oven.
The inspections continue to trigger significant mental distress for my wife due to the invasive nature of the inspections.
She's urging me to consider lodging a complaint with the appropriate authorities, such as the Landlord and Tenant Board (LTB). However, I'm unsure if there's a valid case for such action. While we were forewarned about the inspections, the severity was significantly downplayed, and we wouldn't have chosen this apartment had we known the extent of the intrusion. It's worth noting that the landlord does adhere to the legally required notice period before each inspection.
Any insights or advice on this matter would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance for your input.

Hi all, I've got a Trak Racer TR160 MK4 with a Moza DD wheel and Sim Jacks Pro pedals. I've been racing on a 34" ultrawide for 2 years which has been great, but I've been super lucky lately - my wife has ordered me three Samsung G5 32" Curved 165hZ monitors and a free-standing triple screen mount.
I am currently running a RTX 3060Ti which I know is not going to run these monitors as well as others could but it's all I have for now until I can upgrade the graphics card. I mainly race in iRacing and I realise I will have to lower the graphics quality which I am fine with as it's temporary until I upgrade. The card has 2 x Display Ports and 2 x HDMI ports.
Could I please ask for advice or if you could point me to a guide / YouTube video to teach me:

• How to set up the monitors with the correct angle and distance from me
• How to configure the screens in iRacing with regards to FOV
• How to configure Windows so that I can race using the three monitors and somehow switch to only the 4th monitor on my desk to play other games like Escape from Tarkov, Transport Tycoon Deluxe and Project Hospital.

Thank you very much for your help iRacing community, I love it here.

Hi all, I've got a Trak Racer TR160 MK4 with a Moza DD wheel and Sim Jacks Pro pedals. I've been racing on a 34" ultrawide for 2 years which has been great, but I've been super lucky lately - my wife has ordered me three Samsung G5 32" Curved 165hZ monitors and a free-standing triple screen mount.
I am currently running a RTX 3060Ti which I know is not going to run these monitors as well as others could but it's all I have for now until I can upgrade the graphics card. I mainly race in iRacing and I realise I will have to lower the graphics quality which I am fine with as it's temporary until I upgrade. The card has 2 x Display Ports and 2 x HDMI ports.
Could I please ask for advice or if you could point me to a guide / YouTube video to teach me:

• How to set up the monitors with the correct angle and distance from me
• How to configure the screens in iRacing with regards to FOV
• How to configure Windows so that I can race using the three monitors and somehow switch to only the 4th monitor on my desk to play other games like Escape from Tarkov, Transport Tycoon Deluxe and Project Hospital.

Thank you very much for your help Sim Racing community, I love it here.

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/AdhesivenessMurky204
Originally posted to AITAH
AITAH for separating from my husband because he refused to get a vasectomy?
Thanks to u/queenlegolas and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for suggesting this BoRU
Editor’s Note: added paragraph breaks for readability
Trigger Warnings: PTSD, mentions of abortion, domestic abuse, verbal abuse, sexual assault, rape
Original Post: April 28, 2024
My husband (28M, who I will call Jack) and I (27F) have been together for 4 years, we have 2 young children and I am pregnant again. I have been pregnant for what feels like most of our relationship. I got pregnant 4 months into our relationship. We got married a month before our daughter’s 1st birthday and ended up with a honeymoon baby. After our son was born, I talked to my OB and she put me on birth control and I have been taking it militantly.
My daughter is now 3 and my son is 2. A little over a month ago I discovered I am pregnant again, despite taking my birth control religiously. Abortion is banned in my state, and the pregnancy was discovered too far along to attempt to obtain one out of state. While Jack and I were nervous, we also love being parents and decided that 3 young kids would be a challenge, but 3 was a good number for us. Then we went in for the first ultrasound and got some unexpected news - it’s twins.
Things have been tough financially, and while we were stressed but excited for a third child, we were not expecting a third and fourth child. Beyond the finances, I am the primary caretaker and I know that twins is going to be a lot, three children under 5 is already a lot, but 4 children under 5 is going to be really really difficult for me. Physically, I am tired of being pregnant. I’ve been pregnant or breastfeeding the majority of our relationship. It’s exhausting, it feels awful, and I don’t recognize my body anymore.
Four children is enough. I don’t want more. I told Jack that I was done with pregnancy, I’ve been pregnant enough, I’ve been experimenting with different types of birth control for over a decade and I still can’t stop getting pregnant, abortion isn’t a valid option where we live, we need something more permanent. He agreed, and suggested an IUD, I told him no - if it did fail then it could cause an ectopic pregnancy which could kill me, especially where we live. I’ve had both control fail me multiple times already and I’m not taking the chance, so I suggested a vasectomy. He was not open to the idea, and was even upset that I suggested it and told me I should get my tubes tied. I told him a tubal ligation is a much bigger surgery and I could be recovering for weeks during which time I wouldn’t be able to work or take care of our 4 young children, but he could ice his balls for a day or two and be done with it. He told me that not getting pregnant was ultimately my responsibility, and topped it off by saying “that’s what your body your choice means, YOUR body, so YOU choose.” That’s when it went from a discussion to a full blown fight.
See, when I was 19 I had another birth control failure with my boyfriend at the time (who I will call Tom). I wanted an abortion, Tom did not because he was opposed. I told him I was getting the abortion since it was my body and my choice, and Tom said some horrible things to me, including threatening me. I broke up with him and got the abortion. In response, Tom ended up following me one night and attacking me. I don’t want to go into detail but it was horrible, and he ended up going to prison for a number of charges related to the attack. Not only do I have a number of scars and some long lasting physical effects, but I have PTSD as well.
Jack knows about my history and diagnosis, and has known from the beginning. I have a pretty prominent facial scar so I was upfront about it early on in our dating. Jack always presented himself as very pro-choice, so I was shocked that he would say that. I got really emotional and started crying and shouting, and it turned into a full-blown fight.
Eventually I said that birth control is a two-way street and so far I’ve been the only one managing it and he said “and now we have 2 kids and 2 more coming, great job.” I told him he sounded like Tom and he got super pissed, basically said how dare you compare me to him, and maybe he might want kids one day with someone who doesn’t compare him to her felon ex-boyfriend. I was stunned and horrified. I said “well then let’s not waste any fucking time,”then packed up myself and the kids and drove to my parents place.
It’s been about a week since the fight. I’ve spoken with Jack a few times and he has since apologized and said he was out of line and was speaking from a place of anxiety after finding out about the twins, but also that I said things that were out of line and it was wrong of me to insist he undergo a medical procedure. He said that can move on from the things I said and that he wants to see his children and be a family again. I told him no, that I didn’t want to “move on” from the things he said to me. I can’t just get over that and I think we need space apart. Jack was upset by this and while we talked I brought up getting a separation agreement to manage custody and finances while we figure things out. He did not like this suggestion, said we didn’t need to pull the courts into this.
I haven’t told a lot of people about what’s happening but my family and a couple close friends. My sister and best friend both think I should throw the whole man away, but my brother (who is the only other one married with kids) thinks that I’m being extreme for what sums up to a fight between two scared people who both said nasty things. My mom is trying to be supportive but is occasionally reminding me that I “don’t want to be a single mother of 4” and telling me not to let my PTSD drive my decisions, while my dad is being completely unhelpful (he thinks jokes are helpful - like calling me Doorknob because I “can’t stop getting knocked up”, telling me to let the oven cool down, real knee-slappers). I don’t know what to do. My kids are happy to be at grandma and grandpas house but they miss their daddy, I’m 4 months pregnant and already uncomfortable as hell, I wish I could go back to being a happy little family but I’m so hung up on the things he said in that fight. Am I destroying my family over one bad night? Am I being unreasonable for asking my husband to get a vasectomy?
Edit: I've noticed a lot of people recommending condoms. I have gotten pregnant with condoms twice. Our second child and my first pregnancy were both conceived using condoms properly (correct fit, put on correctly, single use, not expired, no breaks, etc). I do not trust condoms enough to not fail a third time. I know the failure rate is supposedly small, but it's not personally small enough for me. Edit to the edit: I'm sorry, I didn't expect so many comments so fast and I can't keep up with them. By the first pregnancy I mean the pregnancy with Tom. With Jack I was on the patch when I got pregnant with our daughter, condoms with our son, and the pill with the twins. So far I haven't ever suspected that Jack has tampered with our birth control and always presumed that I'm a fertile Myrtle.
I recognize the comments and just want people to know I'm seeing the suggestion. I'm not dismissing it, but the thought of it is deeply upsetting and has provoked a lot of anxiety. I just wanted to make it clear that if the suggestion is only based on the condoms, that the condom pregnancies were with two different partners. While I know I always used condoms properly with Tom, I do believe that Tom could have been fully capable of sabotaging the condoms.
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deepsleepsheepmeep: NTA. Your husband is though. Your body has already been through A LOT. A tubal ligation is a serious surgery and you are right about being out of commission for a while when recovering. If he is more concerned with an imaginary future wife than he is for you, I don’t think there is much hope for this marriage.
We have 4 close friends who all got vasectomies. None of them bitched about it like your wimp of a husband. We actually had fun vasectomy themed parties for them.
On the off chance he does end up getting a vasectomy, make sure to do the follow up appointments. One of the vasectomy fab 4 did not follow through and ended up with a post-vasectomy baby.

OOP: Thank you, I feel like this is a lot of what has been so upsetting has been that he's thinking about some imaginary future wife when I'm right here, his actual wife, the mother of his children. It's like he's already imagining a future without me.

 
Update: AITAH for separating from my husband because he refused to get a vasectomy?: May 3, 2024
I didn’t expect so many comments and literally couldn’t go through them all. It seemed like the majority of people said I was NTA but I did get a lot of YTAs telling me I was trying to force him to get a medical procedure and telling me to get one instead. Besides already addressing my reasonings why I made my request in the original post (which I want you to read with real "per my last email" energy), I in no way am *forcing* him to have a medical procedure, but I am saying that I do not want to be with a partner who is not willing to be snipped. This is an issue of compatibility. The number of children you want, the methods of birth control you’re willing to use, those are issues of compatibility and a reason relationships end all the time. If he doesn’t want to be sterilized that’s fine, but then that means that we’re not compatible anymore, since it means he wants more children and I don’t. Beyond that there were some YTA comments and some DMs that were just nasty, calling me a murderer and saying my body is a cemetery. Sadly enough, I expected those types of comments, because I know there are a lot of Toms out in the world.
First I wanted to address a couple things that kept coming up, because last post turned into thousands of comments that all said about 5 different things, so to avoid my inbox becoming another echo chamber:

You’re 100% going to have a C-section anyway so just get a tubal while giving birth.

No, I’m not 100% going to have a C-section anyway. Twins are not an automatic C-section. With my birth history there is no reason to presume that a C-section is in my future. My OB agrees, and has discussed the possibility as doctors have to do but also said that based on my past two birth experiences, I'm a "perfect candidate" for vaginal delivery.
I also am not going to mince words: tubal ligations are *less* effective than vasectomies with a *much higher* likelihood of an ectopic pregnancy. Ectopic pregnancy can *kill me*. In fact I got a PM from a woman who is a fellow fertile Myrtle who had an ectopic after a tubal. I am rejecting birth control options that, if they fail, would lead to my likely death. I don’t want to be pregnant again but I also don’t want to die and leave my children motherless, and in no way should anyone assume that traveling to another state to obtain an emergency abortion will continue to be an option in the future - we live in scary times, and Gilead is a real possibility. The comments seemed to have the vibe that people think that ligations are magically more effective than vasectomies and vasectomies are more of a whisper of sterility than an actual sterilization method so for those in the back VASECTOMIES ARE MORE EFFECTIVE THAN TUBAL LIGATIONS, FULL STOP. So I really need y’all to shut up about it.

Go to another state and obtain an abortion anyway.

I appreciate the personal offers to help I received in DMs deeply, but no. I’m in my 2nd trimester, which I know is still legal in some places, however I am at a point in my pregnancy where I personally as an individual do not feel comfortable obtaining an abortion, considering I would be *even farther* along by the time I could travel (which is not only finances, but logistics as well). I am 16 weeks pregnant now, these babies aren’t just clusters of cells to me anymore, and I’m not going to expand on that since it’s not up for debate.

Why not adoption?

With love and respect to everyone who has gone through adoption in all its aspects, adoption is absolutely not for me. This is a thought process I already went through 8 years ago, and now that I’m a mother and not a scared teenager I know it’s even less for me. I personally could not go through with it and come out the other side intact. Going through a full pregnancy, having my babies, and then being separated from them would break me.

Leave him and give him full custody of the twins

No. Because going through a full pregnancy, having my babies, and then being separated from them would break me. Jesus, some of y’all.

Just have a sexless marriage.

No. I love banging my husband, obviously lol. I don't want to be in a sexless marriage and anyone who has been to an abstinence-only high school knows that abstinence is not the way lol. There were a lot of comments assuming I would be perfectly fine withholding sex from my husband and having na dead bedroom, and I wouldn't. I have a sex drive. I'm going to want to bang my husband. Wanting to have sex with your spouse is *normal*.

What you would do about birth control if you divorced and dated in the future?

I’m not thinking of dating anyone else right now, because I’m thinking more about saving my actual marriage instead of an imaginary relationship. And if theoretically I did, I would probably seek out a partner who was snipped or was ready to be to be honestly, or a woman. I’m bisexual so there’s a very good chance that my future partner wouldn’t have the right parts to knock me up anyway lol.

Jack is sabotaging your birth control

I clarified my methods in the original post (as per my last email), but I did want to address this because it came up a LOT. I don’t have reason to believe that Jack sabotaged my birth control. A number of other fertile Myrtles showed up and brought up they or their family members repeated pregnancies in the face of birth control, including tubals. Accusing my husband of reproductive coercion for no reason other than I keep getting pregnant is a big leap and a weighty accusation. I am not the only fertile Myrtle out there, there's a reason there's a whole term for it.

Your husband is a narcissist, abuser, psychopath, and he does no childcare

My husband and I historically have a really healthy and loving relationship outside of this fight. In fact, this fight is the first time we’ve really had a fight, we’ve only ever had little arguments that we’ve been able to talk through. He’s an active father, the reason that I do the majority of childcare is due to circumstance between maternity leaves, our job schedules and the fact that I breastfed my babies. Someone also presumed I’m the breadwinner, which isn’t quite true. Jack makes more than me, but we do not have deeply significant differences in our incomes. When he is home he does his fair share of cleaning and cooking (arguably more than me at times), and parenting. That being said, the things he said in the heat of the moment were deeply concerning, and we’re addressing that together.
So to get down to the nitty gritty of the real update: since the last time I posted, Jack and I have sat down together and had a real come to Jesus talk. I’m not going to go through the whole breakdown, but it basically boiled down to this: it’s the vasectomy, but it’s more than the vasectomy. It was wrong of me to compare him to Tom but it was wronger of him to weaponize my trauma against me in a very malicious way. The way he intentionally used the same language my abuser used in an effort to hurt me was not acceptable and damaged the trust between us. He agreed it was not acceptable and said that in the aftermath he was horrified and ashamed his own words, and that he (as an explanation and not an excuse) kind of snapped under the stress. Oh and what he said about his “next wife” was not an indication of him not being committed to me but was because he felt hurt and wanted to hurt me back. He has apologized numerous times and seems to feel genuinely bad about it.
As for the separation, I am still going forward with it. I need space and time and I need to take that before the babies come. I am still staying with my parents who, for the record, are not sick of me or the kids. We’re a tight knit family, I only moved out when I moved in with Jack, and my sister moved out about a year ago so they have been empty nesting, and my mom doesn’t like that we live “too far” (an hour) away. What I have realized with space and time is how deeply triggering it was, in a way that I cannot explain to those without PTSD from DV, those who know will know. It’s deeply unsettled me and I’m having a hard time “getting over it” so to speak. There is now a lot of fear of my husband that was never there before and it’s going to take a lot to repair that trust and sense of safety. I cannot make a decision while I’m in this space, and I am addressing this with my personal therapist. Overall, I told him that if he wanted to stay married to me I needed two things from him: marriage counseling and a vasectomy, and even then I still cannot guarantee him anything. He understands, but I do not know what will happen with the vasectomy right now, we focused more on talking about the fight, but he is very aware that it's now a dealbreaker. And we have a marriage counseling appointment set up for next week. I'm hoping that counseling will bring some clarity to the situation, and in the mean time for the next couple months I'm focusing on giving my kids lots of cuddles and preparing myself for two new babies to come into my world, with or without Jack.
Additional information from OOP on her relationships

OOP: I've been through a trial to convict my ex-boyfriend of trying to kill me because of an abortion in a deep red, deeply religious area. I've definitely heard worse things, and I typically have pretty thick skin. That being said, I am pregnant and pretty emotional, so it's not the best experience. That being said, I do appreciate the level-headed comments when I see them through the sea of comments kind of saying the same stuff over and over. I'm not reading a lot of them if what I can see in the comment notification starts off nasty, so a lot of it is just inbox white noise. My favorites are the ones that start off with "I'm not going to read that BUT..." and I just think lol same. Like you don't want to read my post but expect me to read your comment that was made without even reading the situation? lol nope. And there are a lot of people conflating "providing someone with a hard choice" with "forcing someone into a medical procedure" and it just makes wading through for the actually helpful comments more tiring. Thank you though, I very much appreciate the kindness. Sorry, I've gotten so much of the same nonsense I guess I needed a little vent lol.

OOP on wanting her husband to make a decision and be on the same page

OOP: I want to be honest with him about where I am emotionally because I want him to make an informed decision. While the vasectomy is a deal breaker, it's really my secondary concern. My primary concern is the way he acted during the fight and his intention exploitation of my trauma because he was mad and scared. I think that telling him "get the snip to stay with me" and then deciding to leave anyway because there are deeper issues and/or I don't feel safe anymore would be cruel. He deserves to have the full picture before he makes a choice, doesn't he?
If he doesn't want the vasectomy, that's his choice. It's not what I want, but it is what it is. If he wants to call it quits at 4 kids, then it is what it is and if he secretly wants to be the next Nick Cannon then it is what it is he should be free to do that. That is part of why I don't know where he is on the vasectomy right now and we didn't really discuss it much when we talked, I'm focusing on discussing the bigger issue for me which is trust and safety within the relationship. The only way for him to make an informed decision about whether or not he get a vasectomy is for him to have all the information about the situation. If that makes him want a vasectomy less, then it is what it is. It's not about making him want to have a vasectomy. It's about being on the same page.

 

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