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My mom has severe hypothyroidism and high diabetes. She started having hallucinations about a year back and that's when I took her to a psychiatrist with a lot of difficulty. They wrote a medicine which has the side effect of increasing the blood sugar. So the doctor also ordered to do blood sugar tests etc. That's how we came to know that she has very high sugar levels. 400+.
She's someone who never takes care of her health and doesn't go for regular checkups or anything.
Whenever she's at our house she starts hallucinating that the neighbours are talking bad things about her or is constantly watching her and criticizing her about everything she's doing. She gets super angry with the voices and she sometimes comes out of the kitchen and starts scolding the neighbours loudly. She even talks loudly at our home saying "neighbours can hear everything we talk about why talk in low voice at all".
And I have tried for months to convince her that she's hallucinating and this isn't real but she's not ready to believe this at all. She thinks that I'm against her and neighbours are actually talking about her. If I fight with or say anything to her at all she will say that now the neighbours heard it and now they'll use it against her and spread bad rumours about her.
But whenever I take her to the city I'm living in she doesn't hallucinate. No neighbours no problems! Why is that ? If she has schizophrenia she should be hallucinating here too ? Or can this condition be that specific? So it's like her own brain is trying to convince her this neighbor thing is real by shutting up whenever she's away from the house?! I mean can this disease act like an evil alien controlling her?! It's so confusing and difficult for me. I have ADHD and I'm not diagnosed and I don't know when I will get to take any medicines that will help me with my executive dysfunction. Because of that I'm not able to monitor her whether she's taking her diabetes and thyroid medicines properly or not. If I leave it to her she starts skipping it and forgetting about it. So far I have been monitoring her for a week or so finally with the help of a pillbox and all. But I honestly don't know how long it will work. She's still not taking any meds for the hallucinations and is completely against psychiatrists because of the stigma in my country.
Is there any way I can convince her to finally start taking the medicines for schizophrenia ?! Because we both need to move back into our home soon. I had to leave my job because of my toxic manager and we can't afford to pay rent and stay here in this city for long. I'm so scared of what will happen when we move back home and she starts hallucinating again.. At home because of this she starts getting super stressed and that's further making her sugar levels worse it seems.
Her sugar level was 500 last month and she was suicidal and had written something on a paper which wasn't much sensible apart from her saying that "a woman needs justice, I'm being targeted by the neighbours" and religious chants etc also with this statement that "suicide attempts are going on because of lack of support". Now I don't know if this means she saying that the neighbours are trying to attack her or if she's trying to do that. This terrified me to my core and I convinced mom to come to my city to help me pack and all. She was seriously not well. My grandparents and relatives aren't even ready to understand that she's going through a serious crisis. Even if they kinda understand they still don't care enough to help her much. I feel all alone.
I consulted a psychiatrist and she didn't even prescribe me anything for ADHD or depression. ADHD diagnosis seems so far away. She wrote me clonazepam to help with my sleeping issues. I haven't started taking it and I don't know if it will be of much help.
I have had many panick attacks especially every time I see her sugar test results. I feel like my days are numbered too. She's my only family. If something happens to her I'm gone too. I'll never be able to forgive myself. But this situation is hell. I can't ever seem to convince her about this. And if she doesn't start taking medicines it will all go to hell.

I’m sorry if this has been asked a million times. I’m guessing it has.
I’m a 46yo male. 30+ years as a natural bodybuilder. Used to compete. Total T just tested at 320 ng/dl. I’ve dealt with constant tiredness, depression, low sex drive, etc. for a long time, which is why I got blood work done in the first place. Now I’m considering TRT to see if it helps with anything.
I know about the potential pros of TRT, but I’d like to learn all about the potential cons as well. I’m especially interested in long-term health risks (prostate, heart, etc.). I’d also like to learn about state-of-art protocols for TRT — type of T, frequency of injections, other drugs to take as adjuncts, etc.
Is there a “best” place to learn all this stuff? I don’t know enough to risk “doing my own research” and wading through internet sources of dubious verity.
Many thanks in advance.

Supposed to conduct a study.
Comparing policies that two states have on their prison population.
IV: state 1 policy allows prisoners 3 consecutive hours of rec time once a week
State 2 policy allows prisoners 3 hours of rec time a week but broken up into 3, 1hr periods.
IV is nominal data (would I use dummy variable?)
DV: depression levels Stress levels Satisfaction levels DV is ordinal and all three are measured using lickert scales
Each prison would be its own population and I’ll random sample approximately 100 prisoners from each prison to participate.
Need help with my statistical analysis. How would I test the data Would I use independent chi square? T test?
If someone could help out that would be great.

I have been on medications for Depression, (which has been recently re-diagnosed as Major Depression,) ADHD, Anxiet and Panic Disorders since I was a kid. Some of my diagnoses came at later years in my life, like depression and the panic disorders. Either way, the point of my post is to remind everyone to try their best to take their meds and keep up with them. I've been taking auvelity for a few months now and it has genuinely helped me a lot. (I've seen a lot of posts about side effects and things of that nature, and my biggest piece of advice is please talk to your doctor about genesight testing! It really helped me find a medication that works well for me!) But all that aside, it has helped treat my depression and has helped me achieve a more clear state of mind and cut back on a lot of my intrusive thoughts of harming myself.
But, I couldn't afford to get my meds refilled recently along with my other bills, and the 4 days I didn't have auvelity, I sunk back into how I felt before I started it. Not taking care of myself, not eating, not having energy, sleeping all the time, depressive thoughts constantly, and an overwhelming feeling of dread. It was a shocking feeling to go from my newfound feeling of quiet-er brain to loud and overwhelming brain with no spoons again.
This isn't a miracle drug, obviously. I don't believe that is the case for any drug. But I do believe it is one of the better options out there, especially for me! I've been on medications from A to Z and have had little to no luck with any of them with treating my depression for YEARS.
Anyway, long post and I apologize for that. I just wanted to remind everyone to take their meds. Whether it's auvelity, or another med that you need to take. It's okay to need medications.
Have a great day:)

I've tried numerous antidepressants, all of which have either been ineffective or caused side effects I cannot tolerate (major one being sexual side effects). As a gay man with anxiety+depression who's left a highly conservative religion where I couldn't be myself, antidepressants causing sexual side effects aren't a great solution, as I feel like this serves to continue to inhibit me in this way. I've tried the following:
10mg Lexapro- sexual side effects, insomnia 150mg Wellbutrin- daily severe headaches 10mg Lexapro+150mg Wellbutrin every other day- sexual side effects 5mg Lexapro- ineffective 50mg trazodone- always sedated 37.5mg Effexor- ineffective 75mg Effexor- sexual side effects, suicidal ideation 10mg Viibryd- ineffective 20mg Viibryd- tired, sexual side effects 10mg Viibryd+40mg propranolol- ineffective 5mg Trintellix- sexual side effects
I'm at a loss here and my psychiatrist keeps saying we're getting kind of close to running out of good options. We did a GeneSight test, and all of these are in the green except Lexapro and Wellbutrin which are in the yellow. Therapy hasn't been very effective on its own. Has anyone else been in this situation? What's worked for you/what would you suggest?

My neuropsych report came back today: ASD, ADHD-inattentive type, and depression- in remission. I'm still overwhelmed and don't know how to feel. My psychiatrist sent me for testing saying "Maybe it's more than being very introverted" because I'm often struggling to deal with the social demands of just my own family & aging mom. I need a lot more time alone than I get.
I guess I knew I had some characteristics but I didn't think I would meet criteria. I have a son with level 2 autism who is 27 now and a sweet young man. But he'll never live independently. I feel like a fraud more than anything else.

I (17M) have been suspecting I have ADHD for some time now. It mostly started like 2 years ago I think when my friends said I might have it. I had a way of thinking that I might have it or I might not, what difference would it make? Which is why what actually peaked my interest was the fact that they mentioned that it's possible to get treatment per se.
Just noticed I've created a walk of text yapping about what essentially are my suspected "symptoms" you can skip this if you'd like
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I've only had contact with one person with diagnosed ADHD in my life and they had behavioral problems and had had a person that watched him over in his class, which made me believe that was ADHD, especially with my mom using the fact he has ADHD to explain why he was acting the way he was. It didn't help that my whole life I've only ever heard ADHD being used in a joking manner like when I was jumping all over the place as a kid or straight up being told it's made up by my biology teacher back in primary school.
So I started researching it and I related to most if not all posts on here, on subs like adhdmeme and comics like the ones created by ADHD Alien.
I honestly don't see a big deal with not being able to sit still, sitting weird etc. My bigger problem is my working memory being so horrible that at this point I'm known for remembering nothing and not being expected to. Some of my friends have even resolved to telling me plans only a day before because they knew I wouldn't remember. I always forget where I put anything anywhere and I've been described by one of classmates as "one of the smartest and dumbest people in the class" cause subjects like math come so easy to me I don't remember the last time I've had to study and yet I seem to not know the most basic things that everyone just seems to just know. I can barely even recall my childhood.
I've always thought that maybe it was the pandemic that did something to my memory and my time clock which is equally fucked up but honestly I don't even remember that far to confirm with absolute certainty whether I've always been like this or not.
I also get this weird seasonal depression I'd call it? I'm pretty sure I've read about it here once, it's like every couple of weeks I switch from mostly happy to mostly sad and vice versa. I dunno if it's relevant but I wanted to mention it anyhow.
Tho I'd say the worst is the executive dysfunction and procrastination that I could go on and on about but I suspect most of you know what I'm talking about. The feeling of wanting to do everything and yet ending up doing nothing and the putting things off till last minute or till there's something bigger to procrastinate on like I'm doing rn writing this post instead of studying for my history and chemistry test tommorow. Or the waking up early and yet staying in bed till I'm almost late.
I can barely make myself do anything in my free time which is why I feel like I'm wasting my potential and I want to do something about it before it's too late.
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Coming back to the actual subject at hand. I come from Poland, which is not exactly known for its male mental health awareness and I'm afraid my mom won't understand or will try to dismiss my worries since private therapy costs money. I tried to just mention ADHD in a conversation with my mom and the literal first thing I get is "you don't have ADHD". I've never really talked to my dad about these kinds of things so I don't think I have it in me.
Do you guys think I should try or just wait 8 months till my 18 birthday and go by myself? I also suspect that if it will ever come to the medication subject my parents will be against it which is probably why I'm leaning on waiting. I don't even know why, it's just a gut feeling.
Even now I think I'm getting ahead of myself, for all I know it's not ADHD but something completely different and I'm just inserting myself here for some subconscious need to have a special label to carry. I have no idea and my patience is growing thinner. I always thought that knowing doesn't do anything but now I'm not so sure. At the end of the day something is wrong, I am spending my days doing nothing of value, so therapy would help either way.
I just can't bring myself to ask, to even spark a conversation, I've always avoided things like this for some reason.

I'm in high school right now and it seems everyone have some kind of friend- literally. Even if it's just a basic acquaintance or a friendly classmate. I have none though.
I literally talk to nobody at school, at least no kids. Or at least, no specific kid. If there's a group project, yes, I may have to interact with others but how sad is it if I even count that as social interaction? Just like today, when I went by the grueling hours of school without a single exchange between a peer. Am I like just plain weird or something, not that I would know if I was.
In general, there's no interaction with peers whatsoever. I've been in this school district for 8 years so it's not that I'm new. 2 new kids came into my class this year, both getting some kind of friend group within a month. Even the quieter kids at school seems to have some kind of person I would see walking with in the hallways or eating with at lunch.
I used to have 2 friends back in 8th grade with one leaving the district and another drifting apart quickly. Maybe it's the wonderful Covid-19 pandemic as before that, I at least have a small group of friends. I still haven't found a single friend. I'm not super quiet exactly but I'm not extroverted either as I don't approach others or smile in the hallways. Still though, you would've thought I have at least one or two somewhat close friends...
I may look a little unapproachable. I don't frown or keep my head down in the halls. Nor am I dismissive. And here's the thing, it's not like I've rejected people who came to talk to be, attempting befriendment as nobody has even approached me to talk. Whether that be an upcoming test, a quick copy of the homework as they forgot to do it or whatever.
Am I doing something wrong I don't realize? Covid may have messed my social skills up a good bit. Still though, I wasn't the only one who experienced such an event. But other people got over it soon after and now, hang out with a friend group.
I'm not depressed (at least not yet), not seriously suicidal in any ways or very desperate for friends though I still would like to understand the reasoning for this. And truth be told, I'd do wish for a few close, genuine companions.
TLDR: In high school with no friends at all. What am I doing wrong?
Thanks for reading

ADHD deleted my post with no explanation so I'm posting it here
I (17M) have been suspecting I have ADHD for some time now. It mostly started like 2 years ago I think when my friends said I might have it. I had a way of thinking that I might have it or I might not, what difference would it make? Which is why what actually peaked my interest was the fact that they mentioned that it's possible to get treatment per se.
Just noticed I've created a walk of text yapping about what essentially are my suspected "symptoms" you can skip this if you'd like
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I've only had contact with one person with diagnosed ADHD in my life and they had behavioral problems and had had a person that watched him over in his class, which made me believe that was ADHD, especially with my mom using the fact he has ADHD to explain why he was acting the way he was. It didn't help that my whole life I've only ever heard ADHD being used in a joking manner like when I was jumping all over the place as a kid or straight up being told it's made up by my biology teacher back in primary school.
So I started researching it and I related to most if not all posts on here, on subs like adhdmeme and comics like the ones created by ADHD Alien.
I honestly don't see a big deal with not being able to sit still, sitting weird etc. My bigger problem is my working memory being so horrible that at this point I'm known for remembering nothing and not being expected to. Some of my friends have even resolved to telling me plans only a day before because they knew I wouldn't remember. I always forget where I put anything anywhere and I've been described by one of classmates as "one of the smartest and dumbest people in the class" cause subjects like math come so easy to me I don't remember the last time I've had to study and yet I seem to not know the most basic things that everyone just seems to just know. I can barely even recall my childhood.
I've always thought that maybe it was the pandemic that did something to my memory and my time clock which is equally fucked up but honestly I don't even remember that far to confirm with absolute certainty whether I've always been like this or not.
I also get this weird seasonal depression I'd call it? I'm pretty sure I've read about it here once, it's like every couple of weeks I switch from mostly happy to mostly sad and vice versa. I dunno if it's relevant but I wanted to mention it anyhow.
Tho I'd say the worst is the executive dysfunction and procrastination that I could go on and on about but I suspect most of you know what I'm talking about. The feeling of wanting to do everything and yet ending up doing nothing and the putting things off till last minute or till there's something bigger to procrastinate on like I'm doing rn writing this post instead of studying for my history and chemistry test tommorow. Or the waking up early and yet staying in bed till I'm almost late.
I can barely make myself do anything in my free time which is why I feel like I'm wasting my potential and I want to do something about it before it's too late.
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Coming back to the actual subject at hand. I come from Poland, which is not exactly known for its male mental health awareness and I'm afraid my mom won't understand or will try to dismiss my worries since private therapy costs money. I tried to just mention ADHD in a conversation with my mom and the literal first thing I get is "you don't have ADHD". I've never really talked to my dad about these kinds of things so I don't think I have it in me.
Do you guys think I should try or just wait 8 months till my 18 birthday and go by myself? I also suspect that if it will ever come to the medication subject my parents will be against it which is probably why I'm leaning on waiting. I don't even know why, it's just a gut feeling.
Even now I think I'm getting ahead of myself, for all I know it's not ADHD but something completely different and I'm just inserting myself here for some subconscious need to have a special label to carry. I have no idea and my patience is growing thinner. I always thought that knowing doesn't do anything but now I'm not so sure. At the end of the day something is wrong, I am spending my days doing nothing of value, so therapy would help either way.
I just can't bring myself to ask, to even spark a conversation, I've always avoided things like this for some reason.

I'm diagnosed with Schizoaffective depressive type and feel like my personality changed a bit after being psychotic a few times.... Old hobbies are no longer enjoyable, replaced by a phone addiction and browsing E-bay compulsively for "good deals." The medications messed up my health a bit and probably lowered my Testosterone levels, plus I'm scoring differently on personality tests. Does anyone have any advice on getting back into some kind of hobby and not being depressed again? Examples of hobbies : Vintage computing, woodworking, learning to program, videogaming.... Right now my life feels empty. I make and drink a lot of coffee + tea to combat the sedation and don't otherwise do much.

i just got my results back for my mental health assessment i did. im extremely confused as to why i got the results that i did. i went in seeking a general overview with an autism test as well because i show many autistic symptoms (both self, peer, and parent reported) and expressed them thoroughly in my evaluation.
there were issues in my responses as it turns out that i accidentally “over reported” on all the multiple choice tests i took and that there were contradictions on my answers based on the context and wording of each question and my self analyses weren’t shown to them in my assessment at all.
all of this led to me being diagnosed with unspecified anxiety disorder (which i know i struggle with anxiety, and have since i was a child, but has gotten significantly better with age to the point it rarely bothers me), major depression (that ones a given in my case), and i am now on watch for bpd. this one makes absolutely zero sense to me. i display very few of the symptoms and with certainty none of the big ones. ive been through severe trauma but see myself as more of a ptsd case than bpd on all fronts. apparently i didnt even cross the threshold for it.
the craziest part to me is that i scored ridiculously low on the autism portion of the test that it was entirely ruled out, though the person i went to almost diagnosed me with antisocial personality disorder but didnt simply because “i crave connection”
ultimately i feel like ive been left with more questions than answers and overall feel like the past year of research and self finding/comfort ive found in recognizing my autistic traits have been for nothing. despite the LIST i gave them of autistic tendencies i have displayed since childhood i appear too normal for them to give the possibility the time of day. its all just so frustrating.

I (F18) just graduated from highschool with a 3.4 GPA and I cheated my entire way through highschool. It first started in freshman year when I was too depressed to leave my bed ever so I asked my friends to let me copy their work. I hope I didn't take advantage of them, but I did it for about 4 months until I got on antidepressants and started feeling better. By that time, I was a lazy piece of shit. I continued to cheat my way through every single test I took the rest of freshman year and sophomore year. I copied all of my friends notes and by the time ChatGPT rolled around I made all of my notes using that and never got caught. I had an entire elaborate system to how I cheat, to make it look like I'm working in class, to never do any work. At the end of my junior year, I created a program to automate doing my schoolwork assignments using generative AI like Llama2. It would generate all the work for the entire week in just a few minutes, and all I had to do was review it carefully for a few hours and edit until I felt it was perfect. I'm going to major in computer science as that's the only thing I seem to be good at. I was never caught one time cheating.
Also, I was able to cheat on tests because I would carefully carve answers into my pencils, write on my arm in tiny lettering (permanent marker), and would sometimes cheat by rolling up a tiny sheet of paper into a mechanical pencil and taking it out during the test. (The last one only worked until Sophomore year).

Guys, you keep sending me those "I think this person needs someone to talk / I think this person needs some help" alerts.
Just want to say that im fine.
I had to deal with severe depression for almost a decade, and didnt see a professional for the better part of that time cuz im not a person who fixes his problems by talking. Yea - I was diagnosed with a severe cronical depression when i did - Yea i DID REFUSE THERAPY. Not because i think im fine (Nope depression is still there), but because i found my own way to deal with that.
If you deal with bullying, depression and an mentally abusive mother (yea its bad, No dont want to talk about it) for as long as i did, youll reach one of two things:
A: You become su*c*dal or drift into a similar circle of endless shit
or
B: You learn to controll your feelings to a point you can just feel absolute nothing on command.
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Im one of the few who did manage to pull off B. And i think i might know the reason:
Im pretty inteligent, even so, that the standard IQ tests dont really work on me - Im estimated to be somwhere in the 125-140 range - The standard tests start to fail at 120 or more.
Also im diagnosed with half a dozen mental disorders (nothing like really bad only some ADHD, slight autistic traits and stuff), that basically cancel each other out to a point that i can be pretty much "normal", but am a bit more subsceptible to stuff like depression than others, socially akward, shy AF, and a lone wolf.
All in all i can be normal, but also be cold as ice and a calculating and emotionless guy on command. Also there is some kind of "nerd mode" somewhere in me, that basically makes me want to think about something into the smallest detail and just nerd around (often i cant controll on what the theme of this is)
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IRL i try to keep a healthy medium level to all this (try to socialize and stuff), but here on social media where i can be almost completely anonymous i feel save to leave some of my "less perfect" side out.
Here i can be myself. No one can juge me here. And feel this helps and is good for me.
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Oh f*ck that actually felt good to have typed that out.
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Anyway: Thanks to all of you. Feel free to AMA
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Special thanks to u/Perfect-Occasion-790
You are a great artist and your art made me smile a lot of times in a time i had not so much to be happy about. Irayo tsmuke.
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Diagnosed with CFS in March on top of ADHD, Autism, depression, and PTSD in 2022
Over the years, I've coped with my mental illness, usually hiding away in video games until the low feelings stop or become numb.
However, since my CFS diagnosis, my ability to game and hide away from all of the stress has become difficult. I barely game at all, not even cozy or Mario games.
I was kind of doing okay. I had some upsets and ideation when I felt doctors were ignoring test results, but I was able to rally after that.
However, now that I'm working on the forms for my disability claim, I feel SO overwhelmed. I've reached out to a lawyer who is going to help, but I've always been independent. I like to be in control. She's only going to write what I tell her, but it feels like something I should be able to do even though my eyes burn, letters have fuzzy edges, and there's pain behind my left eye if I push myself too hard.
(Going to see an eye therapist next week to see if I have BVD or some other tracking issue).
I feel so hopeless and unhelpful. I've always been the one to 'be strong' due to my upbringing. It's why I always pushed my mental health down.
But without my favorite way to cope, all I can do is watch a tiny bit of tv, be stuck with my thoughts, or sleep.
I've contacted a local therapy organization to see if they will honor my hospital's financial assistance and cover the cost of my sessions. I'd rather not use meds as I'm super sensitive to those I've taken in the past (this includes all meds).
But if they can't cover me, I just feel like I'm going to overflow with this feeling of drowning, which will then affect my husband. He supports me. He's done everything for me. But I don't like bringing him down if I can help it.
He says he doesn't mind, but I can see how my disability and the worry he feels wears on him.
I should be able to talk to him about these things, and yet, I just feel like I'd be hurting him more.

Hi everyone - I’m hoping to get some advice. My doctor just diagnosed me with vulvodynia. However, I feel like my concerns are being ignored and played down as not so serious. Back in January I had a UTI and took antibiotics, still was having issues 2 weeks later, so i t tested again and for yeast infection and STDs/STI. UTI was negative, yeast was positive. Ever since then my symptoms have not gone away. I got tested again and everything was negative, but i was on my period. The pain comes and goes. Most of the time it hurts to wear underwear and tight clothes. Feels like a prickly pine needle feeling, like the hairs are hypersensitive. I get random stabbing/shooting pains in clitoris/uretha. Sometime it feels like it’s burning and a tampon is almost poking me. My period also has changed. It’s not red anymore and doesn’t flow. It is dark brown/black, comes out in chunks. This has totally killed my sex life. I used to never have pain in sex or wearing a tampon, etc. I feel so depressed and mentally drained. Since this has happened all my doctor has suggested is hydrocortisone/anti-fungal cream, and now is suggesting PT. I totally get this could be a nerve thing and I need PT, but isn’t there more we could try? More we could test for? Something I can do or take when I have a really bad day? She says it all looks normal. This is all I can think about and it is ruining my mental health. Any advice would be appreciated greatly. Thank you!

Hi everyone - I’m hoping to get some advice. My doctor just diagnosed me with vulvodynia. However, I feel like my concerns are being ignored and played down as not so serious. Back in January I had a UTI and took antibiotics, still was having issues 2 weeks later, so i t tested again and for yeast infection and STDs/STI. UTI was negative, yeast was positive. Ever since then my symptoms have not gone away. I got tested again and everything was negative, but i was on my period. The pain comes and goes. Most of the time it hurts to wear underwear and tight clothes. Feels like a prickly pine needle feeling, like the hairs are hypersensitive. I get random stabbing/shooting pains in clitoris/uretha. Sometime it feels like it’s burning and a tampon is almost poking me. My period also has changed. It’s not red anymore and doesn’t flow. It is dark brown/black, comes out in chunks. This has totally killed my sex life. I used to never have pain in sex or wearing a tampon, etc. I feel so depressed and mentally drained. Since this has happened all my doctor has suggested is hydrocortisone/anti-fungal cream, and now is suggesting PT. I totally get this could be a nerve thing and I need PT, but isn’t there more we could try? More we could test for? Something I can do or take when I have a really bad day? She says it all looks normal. This is all I can think about and it is ruining my mental health. Any advice would be appreciated greatly. Thank you!

Hi everyone - I’m hoping to get some advice. My doctor just diagnosed me with vulvodynia. However, I feel like my concerns are being ignored and played down as not so serious. Back in January I had a UTI and took antibiotics, still was having issues 2 weeks later, so i t tested again and for yeast infection and STDs/STI. UTI was negative, yeast was positive. Ever since then my symptoms have not gone away. I got tested again and everything was negative, but i was on my period. The pain comes and goes. Most of the time it hurts to wear underwear and tight clothes. Feels like a prickly pine needle feeling, like the hairs are hypersensitive. I get random stabbing/shooting pains in clitoris/uretha. Sometime it feels like it’s burning and a tampon is almost poking me. My period also has changed. It’s not red anymore and doesn’t flow. It is dark brown/black, comes out in chunks. This has totally killed my sex life. I used to never have pain in sex or wearing a tampon, etc. I feel so depressed and mentally drained. Since this has happened all my doctor has suggested is hydrocortisone/anti-fungal cream, and now is suggesting PT. I totally get this could be a nerve thing and I need PT, but isn’t there more we could try? More we could test for? Something I can do or take when I have a really bad day? She says it all looks normal. This is all I can think about and it is ruining my mental health. Any advice would be appreciated greatly. Thank you!

Hi, I have a 15-year old boy who is a sophomore in high school. He has long struggled with pretty bad social anxiety. He has actually been given a likely diagnosis of "selective mutism" in the past which means he is basically unable to speak in certain situations. Presentations are particularly debilitating for him. We initially sought out treatment when he was in 5th grade because he developed a facial twitch due to the stress of a classroom presentation. After some number of months, the twitch went away and the (private) therapist we were seeing backed away from treatment.
14-months of virtual school during the pandemic sent him into some amount of depression and even more heightened anxiety (which included a 5-month wait to get him back into the adolescent mental health system of our primary local health provider). Since then he's been on a small dose of Prozac and sees a therapist every 2 weeks. Depression is gone, but struggling to do classroom presentations continues to be a big challenge for him.
He otherwise performs well academically. A's in AP Chemistry, AP World History, etc. However he is getting B grades in English and Spanish because he is being docked for presentations that he is either not doing, or not doing well. Nothing wrong with Bs except for the fact that it is pretty much primarily due to anxiety. (And well admittedly I just don't know how competitive colleges are these days).
I've sent e-mails to his teachers explaining the issue. Some are accommodating by allowing him to present a lunchtime just to the teacher. Some teachers haven't responded to me at all. (perhaps they are too overwhelmed to deal with e-mail).
I've sent e-mails to the high school psychologist and guidance counselor asking about whether we should have additional accommodations in place, but they haven't responded to my e-mails either. A family friend of mine asked if I have an "ILP" in place.
I'm not really sure how to navigate this or what I should expect. Obviously ability and effort factors into grades, and ability comes in different flavors other than the ability to answerecall information in a multiple choice test for example. I'm not expecting my kid to get Straight As (i.e., his in-progress semester grade for AP Pre-calculus shows a B and presentation abilities surely doesn't impact that). That said, I vaguely know that in some situations, deficits in ability are accommodated for.
I'm just looking for parenting advice on what I should and should not be doing. I'm not sure whether I'm advocating enough, or, whether I'm being a parent that expects too much at his age.

As title suggests I am failing my college course miserably,
It's taken my 8 months to finally buck my ideas up and make an effort to make some sort of an academic comeback but I start my first set of tests tomorrow and I'm at a loss because I will fail these exams and there's just nothing I can do about it.
I am feeling extremely down all the time because of this as I genuinely have an interest in the course I'm doing but I was going through a tough time when I started the course (I was struggling with what I thought was depression at the time but had not received a diagnosis) where I was just constantly down, I made 0 effort to form any sort of friendships in my class, I struggled to be punctual to my lectures only averaging a 72% attendance record in my first term, and when I did turn up it was like I wasn't even there because I could not for the life of me retain any information from those lessons, all of this was not helped by my addiction to League of Legends at the time as well where all my free time at home untill 2AM every night was spent playing that god awful game.
Now I really wish to make a change and prove to myself that I can pass this course because I really want to go on to work in the IT sector, mainly in the Cyber Security department but I'm afraid that if I don't change now it will become too late (it may already be too late) and I will be stuck working a 9-5 shift in McDonalds for the rest of my life instead of living my dream.
If anyone has any tips for me and how I can turn my course around I will hear anything anybody has to suggest because me personally I am lost and have no idea how I can begin to make a change.

Hi there. I need some input and some people's experiences with this. I have osteoarthritis in my neck, lower back, hips, knee, shoulder, ribs (how? No idea)... With bone spurs in my hips that cause intense si pain. I have degenerative disc disease, and have bouts of flu-like symptoms with my temp never exceeding 100.8F. My half brother has RA, but with my Medicaid, a rheumatologist basically wants positive autoimmune tests to accept me as a patient. I'm scared. I've always been very active, working out and active jobs. I'm starting physical therapy tomorrow, but I did it ten years ago for my neck and it didn't do much. What can I do for pain and to stop it all from getting worse?? I just keep saying, why me? I know it's not as bad as MS persé, but it's still gut wrenchingly sad. Any advice you have, I'm all ears! I have severe allergies that nothing but steroids helps, and I've been on allergy shots for almost two years with no relief. I feel better when I'm not sitting or laying. Movement helps my pain, but as soon as I sit down, I want to die. Sleep is difficult with the pain. I started Zoloft a bit ago to help with the anxiety and depression from the pain. Thank you so much, I look forward to your input! •Erica•

• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.

1. Either agender and/or pangender. I’m also either asexual and/or pansexual. I live comfortably alone but have a decent number of friends that I maintain communications with. Onlookers seem to believe I am dating all of them (not all at once but individually depending on which one I am “closest” to), which I take to mean that I apply no distinction between a friend and a partner (which I can agree with), hence the asexual/pansexual duality. Not really sure what this has to do with typing but there's a description.

• Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?
Yes.
• Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?
I had a whole paragraph here but I realised it was probably very NSFW so I've decided to remove this part.
• What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not?
I’m an engineer, a mix of both hardware and software. I like the work of my job, but I don’t care much for the job or career part of it. I don’t have any career ambitions and would rather just learn the skills that the work can provide me and then move on to becoming entirely self-sufficient and only working for myself. I don’t think it's the other people aspect I dislike here as such, more the lack of independence and control over how I spend my time. That said, it’s worth it to live on my own two feet away from disturbances in the house.
• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?
I know I would be completely fine, as I do this regularly. I don’t think I feel lonely nor refreshed. I generally have plenty to do with my time and find ways to occupy myself, even if that involves doing nothing and resting. If I’m interested in someone's thoughts or feelings on a topic I will just message them without issue and I usually do this once or twice a day, but there are many occasions in which I will just be focused on doing my own thing and won’t have contacted anyone.
• What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?
I do all kinds of activities, from reading to games to sports. I’m very good at sports and enjoy them, but I usually choose to stay inside over doing them. I think to an onlooker a lot of my activities could look more like work than fun, but I get fun out of them. You would be most likely to find me (or not) inside reading some kind of research paper or building a machine. If not that then you’d find me playing a single player RPG/sandbox style game and if not that then you’d probably find me meditating/introspecting. You’d probably only find me outside playing sports if I’d been asked to by a friend.
• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?
Very curious. I research just about everything in depth and if I had free time I would research even more. It’s become something of an inside joke at work that I will come in and have some kind of new theory or discovery to share with the office about some random topic that has nothing to do with the last. I don’t think I have more ideas than I can execute, it's more that I have more ideas than I do execute. I’m actually not a very ambitious person despite my insatiable curiosity, so there are many occasions where I will do nothing at all. Aside from the theories I create from whatever information/topic I have been researching, most of the ideas I present to others are to do with having fun. I often create small games using the objects we have in our environment (like playing cards or checkers pieces) on the spot, improvising the rules as we go along DnD style. I actually was invited to play DnD once with a friend group but I was something of a nightmare of a player since I would come up with completely outlandish ideas that the DM couldn’t handle. I was never invited to a session again after that.
• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
Being a leader isn’t tied to my self identity at all, but it does seem to be the impression other people get about me. I have been told several times that I would make a good cult leader (concerningly) and that I always seem to end up in charge of a situation. I don’t really do this on purpose but a lot of the time I am the only one who will speak up and start moving a group forward when we are in a situation that calls for it. I have been told that I am quite a diplomatic leader that makes sure people get along, have something to do and feel supported. That said, I personally don’t like telling people what they should value. I am of the belief that it is their own choice to decide that. I will however help people by telling them the actions they could take in line with those chosen values. I also think conflict is quite important and I will only try to keep the conflict civil without ending it until both parties are satisfied and have conveyed everything they wish to. This also includes conflict with me, I dislike “sweeping things under the rug”.
• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?
I think I am. I often feel as though my entire body is under my control and I am very intune with any physical sensations. I fear being paralyzed or losing mental integrity. This is the reason I avoid dangerous and reckless behavior that could result in losing control of my mind or body. I will not partake in highly “extreme” sports such as free climbing and I will not consume any kind of drugs to an extent that it affects my mental state, including alcohol.
• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particularly artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forms of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.
I’m not actually sure. I like writing stories and drawing, but I wouldn’t consider myself an artist. I am very interested in art and have been learning how to properly paint and create music on and off for a while now. I think it's probably similar to sports in the sense that I enjoy it but rarely choose it over another activity. I don’t really enjoy going to art museums, I find art to be subjective so interacting with it from such an objective standpoint disinterests me. A lot of my friends are artists and I support them in their endeavors.
• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
I don’t think about the past much unless I actively make myself do so to search for something there. I am very in tune with the present and am constantly looking out for dangers in my environment and observing people, but it's not my main way of thinking. I am almost always thinking about the future, both in terms of potential futures as well as what future I am aiming for. I have some trouble deciding on a future to aim for since all of the options seem so appealing and I don’t particularly want to close any of them off. There is a part of me that wishes I was immortal so that I could experience as much of everything as possible. This is probably also the part of me that likes stories and hearing the experiences of others since I get to understand a whole other world with its own futures in such a short amount of time.
• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?
I will help immediately. I’m not entirely sure why but I imagine it has something to do with me enjoying solving problems, whether that problem is mine or anothers. I have largely minimized my worldly connections and needs so I often appear to “go out of my way” to help others even if it appears like it's sacrificial to myself. I don’t find it sacrificial to myself at all. I don’t need anything to be comfortable, it’s all just building upon that initial comfort as a kind of “excess” or “abundance”. I could lose everything I own tomorrow and be absolutely fine. All of this to say, I don’t sacrifice myself for others, I just help them most likely because I enjoy it. I do not consider myself a “good” person for doing this, in fact I do not really believe in the concept of good or evil at all.
• Do you need logical consistency in your life?
I think the fact that I immediately thought both yes and no for this question points to me not needing it. I certainly try to be logically consistent, but it's not the end of the world if I’m not. I think it's more important to me that I not be in denial about it.
• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?
I do aim for efficiency but it’s not very important to me. While I do want to make the most of my time in this life, if I don’t feel like doing anything then I won’t. I’m comfortable with being unproductive and “lazy” for as long as I like.
• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?
I think I’m indirectly controlling. I don’t use force to control people (at least not anymore), I’m more inclined to engineer the circumstances of a situation in a way that results in people choosing to move in one of the ways that I want them to. Nobody has told me I am controlling, nor do they seem to feel they are being controlled. I don’t really do this intentionally, it just ends up being the path that I go down based on the options I have available (perhaps I am being controlled by something as well?). I’m not sure why I do this but if I had to guess it would be to protect myself and others from being hurt, after all you can’t be hurt if the option isn’t even available.
• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?
See activities. My topics of interest are usually to do with people, nature or technology.
• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?
I teach myself things. I always seem to find teachers/tutors intellectually suffocating. Outside of that I take any form of information possible.
• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?
I break tasks down instinctively. I do like to plan out the whole project before I start but I have no problem deviating from the plan and improvising if I think of something I like the sound of more. This usually results in the finished project looking very different from the plan and taking longer than it could have.
• What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?
None really. I’m content with just existing. However, in terms of what I choose to pursue it would be perfection in all fields, having all knowledge and having experienced everything, as well as transmitting this perfection to everyone else so that they stand beside me. More realistically, I’m trying to buy some land and build a community so that as many people are under my direct protection and responsibility as possible. The world has many powerful people that are looking to exploit the innocent solely for their own gain. I’m not expecting a utopia but I would hope it would be more comfortable for people to live in than the insecurity of greater society. It’s nice to think of spending the rest of my days with this small community.
• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
As mentioned earlier, I fear losing autonomy of my body and mind. I think I would still be comfortable in this state as I would get used to it but I actively avoid it coming to pass. I don’t think I hate anything, I don’t think in black and white. I’m not even sure I think in shades of gray, it seems more like the whole spectrum of color to me. I mentioned I don’t really believe in good or evil. In the event that someone is judged as evil by the world I can easily look at them and find just as many things people would find good. Does this make me endlessly accommodating of the actions of others? Certainly not. It’s just a matter of managing a conflict of interests, which is not something I struggle with.
• What do the "highs" in your life look like?
I can’t really think of anything that would fit a “high”. I think the closest thing would be my family and my friends. I’m not sure why they are what comes to mind. I mentioned before that I would be comfortable with losing everything I own since I have discarded worldly attachment, but for some reason when I think of losing people it's not such an easy answer.
• What do the "lows" in your life look like?
There was a time just after I had graduated high school and before I had moved out that I was highly depressed. I lacked any kind of purpose or direction in life and thought that I should have it. I also felt immense guilt over the harm I had caused throughout my school life. I believed that I should hide myself away from all life so that I never had the choice to take those actions again. It took me over a year living in this state to finally pull myself out of it. I discarded my need for a purpose or a direction and I discarded the need to be forgiven for the past so that I could live a new life. I discarded any other need that I could find as it is when a need is unmet that you enter a victim mindset, which is a mindset that I really want to avoid in me.
• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?
I’m not attached to reality at all. I daydream very often but I do pay close attention to my surroundings while I do so. I think having extremely sensitive senses helps with this. I have quite a vibrant and detailed imaginary world.
• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?
I would think about the same things I do as I fall asleep. In other words, I’d just daydream about hypotheticals and the future. Possibly not the future in this case as there might not be one but I imagine I’d be able to entertain myself endlessly in my head.
• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
I think of myself as having 3 decision makers. My rational mind, my sensory body/gut and my emotional heart. If all 3 are in agreement, I am able to make a decision very quickly. If 2 are in agreement, I will take longer to weigh up the options before I choose as often they will end up in agreement after I have thought it through. I will do the same if none are in agreement. In the event that they still can’t come to a unanimous decision I will flip a coin or roll a dice and go with the option that picks. I do this no matter how “important” the decision is.
• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?
Apparently I don’t feel emotions in the way other people do (at least according to the people I’ve spoken to about this). I tend to recognise emotions through the bodily sensations they apply to my body, for example, I can tell if I'm angry by my body feeling hot and my jaw feeling tense. With reference to my 3 decision makers, this means I can only figure out what my heart is telling me by going through my body. In chaotic or highly sensory situations where there is not enough time or space to recognise what I am feeling, it’s as though I am not feeling any emotion at all. I tend to think they are just as important as the other 2 decision makers when deciding things, as emotions are the basis for deciding what you value. If you don’t know what you value, you can’t determine what the best actions are for you to take according to those values, which results in nihilism. I think people would be surprised to learn that I consider emotions important. I have an almost entirely inexpressive face and a monotone voice which has resulted in me being called a robot quite often. In the times that I do have an expression, it is usually fake and done to make the other person feel more comfortable.
• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?
No. If I want to keep the conversation going then I will intentionally disagree with them to see how far they can take their opinion and understand it better. If I disagree with someone, I will inform them of my perspective. I do not wish for them to agree with me to “appease” me, although I will understand if they make that choice. I want them to inform me of their whole perspective so that I can understand it. If they can convince me after all this, then I will truly agree with them. This is not always the case though, I can imagine times that I would pretend to agree with someone, but it would have to be “worth” it.
• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why?
I don’t think rules are set in stone. If I disagree with a rule and there are no meaningful consequences, then the rule may as well not exist for me. I make no comments on others' takes on that. I will challenge authority any time I want to. Whether or not they “should” be challenged depends on what you value in an authority, but for my case the answer is yes they should be. In the event I am an authority I would want to be challenged, it would be both an opportunity to test my ability as well as to exchange information with people.

Would you leave your spouse if they had a toxic relationship with their parent
Do you think it would ultimately affect you and cause you to leave the marriage if your wife has a bad relationship with her mother?
I grew up alone with my mom who was always very controlling of me and quite strict. I was always compared to others no matter how good or obedient I was. Don’t get me wrong it wasn’t always hell but I would say maybe around 60 percent of it was. She had some good days where she would treat me very lovingly as a normal caring mother. But yeah overall our relationship hasn’t been that good when you see the overall picture.
Since I got married, our relationship has gotten worse. And unfortunately my husband has had to witness the dysfunctional and abusive nature of my mothers relationship towards me: her calling me bad /foul words/ swearing at me, not respecting me, always calling me useless or just trying to control every aspect of my life.
She has been staying with us under the same roof (in mine and my husbands home) for a while due to some unfortunate circumstances - I was hospitalised for a long while due to a threatening illness (that I am still battling at the moment and may relapse any moment). I have 3 very young children, a toddler and infant twins. Im still only a few months post-partum. It was the complications in my labour and delivery that led to my health condition / illness worsening. April last month, my family were told that I might not survive. For weeks I was on a ventilator in the intensive care unit at the hospital. Miraculously (and alhamdulilah) I managed to pull through it. I was eventually allowed to come home after weeks of therapy & treatment. So my mom had to care for all my babies while I was hospitalised. I thought coming home, this would all change and my mom would be more caring towards me and not seem so upset all the time but it seems like our relationship is still the same and probably even worse. I sometimes don’t blame her bc I know how depressed she is but it’s no excuse to dogpile on me her problems & her anger.
Background: Before my dad left us when I was 6, he was physically abusive towards my mom and as a child Ive witnessed all the domestic abuse that went on at home. He then abandoned us eventually and till this day I don’t really have much contact with him. I still have unpleasant memories of him doing inappropriate things to me as a child yet it’s something I’ve tried to block out and my mom won’t fully acknowledge the SA that I may have endured from him. I know all this would affect my mother a lot. Especially when her second marriage didn’t work out either. Feels like she is unhappy how I am married to a man and her hatred for men is affecting her judgement on my husband. No matter how well he treats her, she still holds this grudge against him. They have had a lot of disagreements, and have recently had a massive fight (i did a previous post about this) but they are on civil terms now. However, as of recently me and my mom had a big fight, this all happened whilst my husband was away on a trip with his friends and cousin. This fight ended up with me physically attacking my own mother. Which I am very sad that it had to resort to that. I was driven to insanity from her remarks and bad words that I just suddenly lashed out at her to shut her up and just kept hitting her. She then said to me that’s what she wanted for me to do so she can be the one in the right. And she started telling me how I’m going to go to hell for a laying a hand on my own mother. I lashed out again and then she threw a metalic object in my face which has bruised my left eye and just above it where the temple is. That area is still blue and purple right now, which my husband will visibly see when he comes back home. I deserve it I know. I regret submitting to that fit of rage so much. It’s like a jinn had taken over me and I can’t stop crying but I don’t know how else to control my rage and anger in that moment. I literally feel insane. I’m already suffering from postnatal depression and an illness that has affected my whole life AND past memories of a trauma that I do not want to remember AND a difficult mother who is suffering from depression, OCD and a lot of hatred towards my little family. I called my husband and told him what happened whilst I was crying and sobbing but he told me to try dealing with it, as she’s my mother and he doesn’t ever want to get involved again. I don’t know why I called him I guess it was just the heat of the moment, I needed to talk to someone.
My mother heard me on the phone to him and decided to talk to him herself and told him that we fought and that I physically attacked her and that I am an embarrassment & all of that. She said “what daughter do you know physically lashes out at their own mother” My husband messaged me and asked me if that was true. I told him it was true. He messaged me saying he’s disappointed in my reaction and didn’t realise how crazy me and my mom both were. He wishes he never met me and married me.
I cried myself to sleep that night. I never wanted my marriage to be ruined or for my husband to look at me like this. I never asked for any of this, it’s made me even question my self as a Muslim and why all this is happening to me. I know it’s all tests from God but I’m not strong enough for these tests I’m really really weak and I feel like I’m losing my mind. I just don’t know why my mom seems to always find ways to fight and argue with me. I’ve done everything I can growing up to be a good daughter, I pray 5 times a day, I fast, I’m modest/wear hijab, I never had any relationships, I remained chaste until marriage, married someone from my ethnicity as my mom requested, obeyed it all (ofcourse not for her, but for the sake of God), graduated with high grades, got my dream job alhamdulilah, saved up so much money from previous work and bought my home with my husband but yet I’m still someone who is lacking in her eyes. Why??? I’ve been tested with my health, my mother and now it seems like my marriage is on the line.
I keep wishing everyday I wish I just died when I was in hospital why did the healthcare team even try so hard to save me. Both my physical and mental health is deteriorating and I can’t even focus on being a mother to my very young children. Is there any coming back from this?
I felt really bad and asked for my mother’s forgiveness the next day and we have squashed the argument and she has also apologised to me but I fear it’s too late. I forgive her and she forgives me. She has agreed to leave soon but she is attached to my children and doesn’t want to leave them with us as she believes my husband won’t be able to care for them well as he is working and he is a man that goes out often. And ofcourse I’m incapable due to my physical and mental health state. I hope god forgives me. I have nothing left but my faith right now and my children. Any advice on how I can communicate with my husband about this? I love him very much and I don’t want to lose him. Can he still love me despite all of these issues between my mother and I?
Sorry for the long post. I’ve never told anyone in real life about all of this.. so I guess writing all this down and what has happened is somewhat helping me absorb it all and to see if there is anyone out there experiencing anything similar.
Update: my mother has said she will never do this to me ever again and that she forgives me, she just didn’t realise I would lose my mind & get angry like that.