Let me start from the very beginning. I met this girl 2 years ago in one of my classes and she asked for my number for math help and we started talking. However, not one conversation was about math. We talked about life and other stuff (and obviously since we were high schoolers about our classes) and I started catching feelings for her. She told me what she enjoyed doing, asked questions and wasn’t really dry (I felt like I was starting most of the conversations as I look back) and how she wanted me to join her in partaking in her hobbies and overall said a lot of things that made me believe that I had a chance. As the year was coming to an end, we planned on going to a movie (me, her, a few other girls and my best friend). I told her I wanted to speak about something to her a few days before we went and she called me for the first time and I was scared to pick up so I said I was busy and it was too important so I’d save it for later. The day of the movie came and one of the girls knew what I wanted to do (turns out that girl had a crush on me) so she helped get the rest of everyone away for a little bit and left us alone. I chickened out and just made it awkward between us being too scared to say anything. After that, we all went to go get food and this was my last opportunity to say anything. So once more the girl came up with a reason to take everyone away and leave the two of us alone together and I built up all the courage I had and just said it. She said she never really thought of me that way and I was crushed and pretty sad for the rest of the time we were there.
That night, I texted her telling her that I might need some space and if it was okay with her if I didn’t reach out as much for a few days. The next day at school, she was speaking to me in the third person and not even acknowledging that I was there (we sat right next to each other and we were working on something together with another person). I couldn’t help but feel so alienated in the situation and feel like giving up right then and there because even though I did say that I wouldn’t reach out as much, I didn’t expect her to completely ignore me. Then the last day of school came around (I couldn’t go as I had a flight booked that day to go out of the country) and she texted me “we missed you today” as in her, the few other girls, and my best friend. That day, my best friend texted me saying that he suspects that my crush liked him and asked me if he should ask anything about it to her because of the way she was acting on the last day of school. The whole time, my friend was pushing me to tell her how I felt and helped me build up the courage and introduced me to the gym. I had known him since elementary school and he was honestly one of the best people I could ask for at the time. From the start, he barely talked to her having minimal interaction with her and kept saying that he caught my crush staring at me during class. Basically, I pushed him to do it since I was curious as well and he asked her. At this time I was in the airport and on the plane but turns out, she liked him and wanted to go out on a date with him. And all that “caught staring” was actually to him and not me. He asked me what he should do and I told him it was up to him so at first he said yes. I felt so betrayed, by her for even asking to go out with my best friend 4 days after it all went down, and a little by my best friend. In my clouded mind, I texted her saying what she did was a little f’ed up (I don’t know what I was thinking) and we had a small argument about everything.
Once all this happened, my friend was mad at me for going and texting her (as he should be) and he cut it off with her saying he was busy and just showed no interest. After the whole situation, my best friend just distanced himself from me, barely talking or texting me the whole time I was in a different country. I texted her saying whatever I did was unnecessary and that I felt bad. After a month and a half of having no contact with either of them, she texts me one random day that she wanted to end the beef. I texted her here and there but not as much as everything felt dry and as if I was forcing her to speak so I just gave up. I get back home and my best friend and I go to the gym once and for some reason I felt so nauseous (this had never happened to me before) and like I would collapse so I had to go home and I texted him as I was leaving the gym. That was basically the last time that I had any interaction with him until the next school year started. Once the school year started, I asked both my ex crush and my ex best friend about what classes I had and none of them were the same. From that day onwards, my conversations with my ex best friend was strictly about academics, nothing more. When it came to my ex crush, she posted something about her having a scare experience of some guys harassing her and I asked her to make sure everything was okay. After that for a few months (my dumb self wanted to do this for some reason) I texted her asking for help to get this other girl and said I needed her help. It was an awkward conversation and was so unnecessary.
After that I realized how dumb I was being and I stopped having any interactions with her and she texted me happy birthday so when it was her birthday I just texted it back. I won a competition as well so she said congratulations and all the things people do to just be nice. So that comes brings us up to my senior year. We got a couple classes together this time, I’ve caught her staring at me a couple of times myself and I’ve just made eye contact a few times. The only issue is, I don’t know if she has a boyfriend or not and is talking to someone at the moment. For some reason, I started catching feelings for her once more with just barely talking to her. I don’t know where it came from but I have no idea what to do. School just ended for me and I have graduation in a little bit. I plan on going to a different college (or the Air Force for a year depending on how everything pans out) while she is going to a completely different school than me out of state. Do you guys have any advice on what I should do? Should I just forget about it and try my best to move on or how should I approach going about this whole situation?
tldr: I got rejected by my crush 2 years ago and turns out she liked my best friend and we had an argument. Lost my best friend and was still trying to find ways to talk to her. Gave up for a year and half and now I’m catching feelings again. We are about to graduate this week and will be off to different colleges. What should I do?

Let me start from the very beginning. I met this girl 2 years ago in one of my classes and she asked for my number for math help and we started talking. However, not one conversation was about math. We talked about life and other stuff (and obviously since we were high schoolers about our classes) and I started catching feelings for her. She told me what she enjoyed doing, asked questions and wasn’t really dry (I felt like I was starting most of the conversations as I look back) and how she wanted me to join her in partaking in her hobbies and overall said a lot of things that made me believe that I had a chance. As the year was coming to an end, we planned on going to a movie (me, her, a few other girls and my best friend). I told her I wanted to speak about something to her a few days before we went and she called me for the first time and I was scared to pick up so I said I was busy and it was too important so I’d save it for later. The day of the movie came and one of the girls knew what I wanted to do (turns out that girl had a crush on me) so she helped get the rest of everyone away for a little bit and left us alone. I chickened out and just made it awkward between us being too scared to say anything. After that, we all went to go get food and this was my last opportunity to say anything. So once more the girl came up with a reason to take everyone away and leave the two of us alone together and I built up all the courage I had and just said it. She said she never really thought of me that way and I was crushed and pretty sad for the rest of the time we were there.
That night, I texted her telling her that I might need some space and if it was okay with her if I didn’t reach out as much for a few days. The next day at school, she was speaking to me in the third person and not even acknowledging that I was there (we sat right next to each other and we were working on something together with another person). I couldn’t help but feel so alienated in the situation and feel like giving up right then and there because even though I did say that I wouldn’t reach out as much, I didn’t expect her to completely ignore me. Then the last day of school came around (I couldn’t go as I had a flight booked that day to go out of the country) and she texted me “we missed you today” as in her, the few other girls, and my best friend. That day, my best friend texted me saying that he suspects that my crush liked him and asked me if he should ask anything about it to her because of the way she was acting on the last day of school. The whole time, my friend was pushing me to tell her how I felt and helped me build up the courage and introduced me to the gym. I had known him since elementary school and he was honestly one of the best people I could ask for at the time. From the start, he barely talked to her having minimal interaction with her and kept saying that he caught my crush staring at me during class. Basically, I pushed him to do it since I was curious as well and he asked her. At this time I was in the airport and on the plane but turns out, she liked him and wanted to go out on a date with him. And all that “caught staring” was actually to him and not me. He asked me what he should do and I told him it was up to him so at first he said yes. I felt so betrayed, by her for even asking to go out with my best friend 4 days after it all went down, and a little by my best friend. In my clouded mind, I texted her saying what she did was a little f’ed up (I don’t know what I was thinking) and we had a small argument about everything.
Once all this happened, my friend was mad at me for going and texting her (as he should be) and he cut it off with her saying he was busy and just showed no interest. After the whole situation, my best friend just distanced himself from me, barely talking or texting me the whole time I was in a different country. I texted her saying whatever I did was unnecessary and that I felt bad. After a month and a half of having no contact with either of them, she texts me one random day that she wanted to end the beef. I texted her here and there but not as much as everything felt dry and as if I was forcing her to speak so I just gave up. I get back home and my best friend and I go to the gym once and for some reason I felt so nauseous (this had never happened to me before) and like I would collapse so I had to go home and I texted him as I was leaving the gym. That was basically the last time that I had any interaction with him until the next school year started. Once the school year started, I asked both my ex crush and my ex best friend about what classes I had and none of them were the same. From that day onwards, my conversations with my ex best friend was strictly about academics, nothing more. When it came to my ex crush, she posted something about her having a scare experience of some guys harassing her and I asked her to make sure everything was okay. After that for a few months (my dumb self wanted to do this for some reason) I texted her asking for help to get this other girl and said I needed her help. It was an awkward conversation and was so unnecessary.
After that I realized how dumb I was being and I stopped having any interactions with her and she texted me happy birthday so when it was her birthday I just texted it back. I won a competition as well so she said congratulations and all the things people do to just be nice. So that comes brings us up to my senior year. We got a couple classes together this time, I’ve caught her staring at me a couple of times myself and I’ve just made eye contact a few times. The only issue is, I don’t know if she has a boyfriend or not and is talking to someone at the moment. For some reason, I started catching feelings for her once more with just barely talking to her. I don’t know where it came from but I have no idea what to do. School just ended for me and I have graduation in a little bit. I plan on going to a different college (or the Air Force for a year depending on how everything pans out) while she is going to a completely different school than me out of state. Do you guys have any advice on what I should do? Should I just forget about it and try my best to move on or how should I approach going about this whole situation?
tldr: I got rejected by my crush 2 years ago and turns out she liked my best friend and we had an argument. Lost my best friend and was still trying to find ways to talk to her. Gave up for a year and half and now I’m catching feelings again. We are both graduating this week and will be off to different colleges. What should I do?

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(I posted this yesterday but got scared and deleted it. Here is it reposted).
I'm only going to give some examples of what my mom would do to me as a child. It is a big step for me to even admit that I was abused because I have had so many people tell me that what happened to me is completely normal and I'm just throwing words around. Others have told me that every mother has high expectations of their daughter and I need to get over it. Then others have also told me that this is a severe form of abuse that no one should ever face. I don't know what I believe but I know for a fact that I am traumatized and cannot move on.
Starting from the least harsh of examples if I were to wake up in the middle of the night even if I just needed to pee she would scream at me from across the apartment to get my ass to bed. I really needed to pee some nights but I knew she would scream if I did so I resorted to not using the bathroom even when I really needed it. This resulted in my child self wetting myself and sitting like that all night to the point where I was getting rashes. My mom would then get so angry at me over the rashes and force me to smell my underwear by shoving it in my face and wouldn't let me leave until I smelled it. I felt like a failure. These punishments would move on to me being consistently smacked in the face when I messed up. One night I woke up in the middle of the night and got up and accidentally made a lot of noise and woke my mom up. She got so angry and was screaming for me to come to her room. I stood in the doorway shaking afraid. She kept repeating "Come here" so I admitted that I was afraid she was going to smack me. She said "I'm not gonna smack you" so I believed her and walked in. Once I got up to her she smacked me in the face over and over again. I couldn't do anything but just sit there feeling like I deserved it. The smacking would continue even for the smallest of things I did wrong.
One time in my latter half of elementary school my father found out that my mother was smacking me (my parents split when I was a toddler). He's not any better by any means, he is actually worse because he is extremely manipulative and has used my sisters against me but that's for another time. He told me I needed to report to my school that this was happening. I didn't want to tell the school but my dad pushed so I did. CPS was called and I was pulled out of class to be spoken to. When I got home my mom was a mess in tears saying how dare I do this to her? How dare I ruin her life? I felt like a horrible excuse for a human being knowing I made a mistake and should have kept my mouth shut. My mom went to court with my dad and she ended up winning due to lack of evidence to what I reported and the agreement decided that my dad "manipulated me into fabricating lies about my mother."
Things only got worse by middle school. I was constantly bullied and my mom told me to just deal with it. This was also when I first started having several medical problems mostly within my stomach. I was in pain all the time so I had to go see doctors. This continued into high school. My mom would constantly complain and complain and complain about my medical bills and how much they were ruining her life. She said it wasn't fair for her to have to pay so much in medical bills for me and that I was destroying her financially. I felt horrible. She also resorted to pointing out all the flaws in my appearance and picking apart how I looked. That is the part some people say every mother says. Some other things she would do is just throw things and rip things up when she was angry. There were also some nights at dinner that if I angered her she would throw and break all of the plates and say it was my fault for pushing her. She would also drink a lot of wine every single night. One time she was mad at me over something and ripped up my science homework. I told her it was homework and she said she didn't care. The next day I told the teacher but he did not believe me for a second. If you're wondering what teachers did about this, nothing. I would tell my school social worker what was happening and she would refuse to report saying "Parents are allowed to hit their children." One day I was simply too scared to go home and was begging the social worker to do something. Since she didn't want me going to the police she decided to call the hospital for me to be there for my safety. For some reason, however, I was put under suicide watch when I was not suicidal. I had been in the past but at this time I was not. The worst part is my mom was told absolutely everything including the idea that I was suicidal which was false. When I was finally free to go home my mom just complained about how I ruined her day and how she had to leave work early because of me. She then got so angry with me when she received the ambulance bill and wouldn't let it drop for a long time.
Now I am about to turn 21 and I'm about to enter my senior year of college. I have had to return home because I need somewhere to go during the vacations. My mom continues to constantly insult my appearance criticizing me, tearing me apart. Yet she tries to have a good relationship with me but I can't move on and I know that sounds selfish. A few months ago my mom and stepdad told me that once my mom gets old and stepdad is no longer around, I will be responsible for returning home and taking care of my mother. I also have a younger half-sister who was often the golden child and my mom would always go on about how perfect she is. She has spent so much money on her and her activities and she has been given more. I don't blame her for it in any way though and I love her with all my heart. I asked why it couldn't be her and they responded that it is my responsibility because I am the oldest. I just kept quiet and said okay but inside I was panicking. How could I deal with this? My stepdad reminded me of it later saying "I want you to take care of her because she took care of you your entire life. You owe her." My family has this huge belief that children inherently owe their parents for feeding them, clothing them, housing them, etc. They believe that it's a form of debt to be repaid. I'm glad it's at least not monetary because they refused to help me pay for college and I'll be $77k in student debt (thankfully I'm on a plan where the majority will be paid off in just 15 years). The point is I don't know how to deal with this. It's true she fed me and gave me a home but everything else she has done sits at the back of my head. Who knows what else she'll start saying to me when she gets older?
I thankfully have a partner who I'm going to be living with once I graduate. He says not to even bother with taking care of her and to just put her in a home. The thing is I know she'll never forgive me if I do such a thing and it will eat at my soul forever. Even after everything she's done, she is still my mother and she still provided for me. A lot of the people I know say it's despicable to not take care of your mother no matter what she does to you. Like I said I often question if I was even actually abused or if I'm just being dramatic and trying to be woe is me. My mom accuses me of that all the time, saying I'm just trying to be sad and having a victim complex. I have been in therapy for years for Depression, Anxiety disorder, PTSD, and some other things. I feel so stuck right now and I'm still fighting my thoughts because no matter how hard I try I can't just move on from what she has said and done to me.

Specialized suggested Workouts for elderly people are essential for maintaining and enhancing their overall health and fitness, they give them movement capabilities and quality of life.
In old age, it becomes very important for elderly people to exercise, and because they stay at home all the time, their bodies are not able to do any physical activity at all in such a situation. If they do little workouts, it will be very good for them.

Why should elderly people need to exercise?

Exercise that enhances balance and coordination of activities plays an important role in preventing falls and maintaining one’s independence. There are many more reasons why elderly people need to do their daily workouts.

Strength training

First of all, we think that strength training is important for senior citizens to maintain their muscle and bone health in old age because it is common to have pain in the joints and bones with increasing age for which strength training works very well. it minimizes the risk of osteoporosis and frailty-related injuries and decreases the risk of many chronic diseases such as high blood pressure and diabetes.

Flexibility and stretching

Secondly, important, flexibility and stretching exercises for senior citizens this is the key to maintaining joint mobility and range of motion in old age too. As individuals get older, flexibility usually decreases, and they face more difficulty in doing their daily activities. To overcome from this problem, we suggest specially designed workouts for elderly people.

Cardiovascular workouts

Moreover, cardiovascular workouts are best for preserving heart health and building stamina to deal with heart problems. because the risk of heart disease increases with age. So they need to do some activities to keep them healthy and fit, like walking, swimming, or cycling at a moderate pace. It can improve cardiovascular fitness and that too, without putting too much stress on the body.

Best Workouts for elderly people

We’ve recommended some easy and gentle exercises that are specifically designed for elderly people, for aiming to keep them fit and healthy without overexerting themselves.

1. Walking

Walking is an accessible and beneficial activity that is most suitable for elderly people.
Always begin with shorter distances walks, you do not need to put too much force on yourself at the starting period and increase the distance as gradually as can easily handle you.
To avoid falls, you should wear comfortable supportive walking shoes and walk on flat surfaces to reduce the risk of falling.

2. Chair exercises

Sitting on a chair slowly raise up your one leg in front of you until they become straight. Hold it briefly, After that, slowly bring your leg down and repeat the same process for your other leg as well.
While sitting comfortably in a chair, perform one knee lift up towards your chest and then the other in a marching-like motion.

3. Tai Chi exercise

Tai Chi is an exercise in which you perform a slow and smooth movement for graceful relaxation and mindfulness. This practice can enhance your ability to balance yourself, and it also increases the flexibility of your body and overall physical resilience.
If you’re an older adult and interested in Tai Chi, many communities are ready to sport with their specialized classes for your age group.

4. Yoga

Yoga contributes to increased flexibility, better balance, and increased physical strength.
For a safer experience, you need to select a yoga class that is specifically designed their sessions for senior citizens to ensure a safe practice. When you start practicing yoga, focus on comfortable poses and avoid pushing yourself too hard in yoga poses.

5. Balance Exercises

Position yourself close to a wall or stable chair to help you balance. Raise one foot from the ground and maintain the balance for a comfortable duration. After that, repeat this process on the other foot.
Next, take steps in a straight line, aligning the heel of one foot directly in front of the toes of your other foot as you move forward.

Safety Tips for Workouts:

1. We suggest that, before starting any new exercise routine, it’s very important to talk to your healthcare provider.
   
2. Initiate your workouts with a gentle approach, slowly increase the intensity, and set the duration as your fitness level requires improvement.
   
3. If you feel any pain or discomfort during the workouts, it’s important to heed your body’s warnings stop that activity, and rest.
   
4. Keep yourself always hydrated Wear the right shoes and choose suitable clothing for your physical activity.
   

Do you think children of working class parents are the minority & would be a social outcast in a prestigious school?
By “working class” I mean not a director of an established successful company, or are not working at an executive level/senior management, have no generational wealth & are working a 7 day week to pay the hefty fees.

Hi so I been doing bad on my first Econ class in my first dual enrollment class in order to knock out a senior required class. I have taken 4 aps and usually do good with math but usually it’s because of lectures and one on one learning. I been failing a lot of the homework on the online self paced Econ class, I couldn’t really understand anything and I did not expect for me to do this bad. I just couldn’t stand the 1 hour lectures and couldn’t understand anything. It was really difficult, I wasn’t used to the environment and I was much of a physical learner where there’s someone talking and socializing with me. So I decided to withdrawal and also I came home to Asia in a province where internet is awful and on top of that I had jet lag issues and adjusting to the environment. Is this bad? I really regret taking economics, I underestimated it. Is a withdrawal bad? I plan to go to community college after highschool.

For senior year, a few of my friends were planning on doing a senior trip. Our senior class is around 100 people, so if we can somehow involve the entire class we also get access to school funds (if the admins approve). Lowkey we want to leave the state so is there any wild things we could do? Ideas please 🙏

I am a 16 year old going into the senior year and have only had 1 other girlfriend. She cheated on me but that's a whole story in itself. I have a crush on this one girl now, let's call her E. E is Nice, Pretty, smart, athletic. Basically everything that I would like in a girlfriend. We have been classmates since middle school but we became better friends this year. I'm taking a lot of the same classes with her next year. I feel like she feels the same way about me. I am having trouble figuring out if she is single or not. She didn't go to prom with a date. E has a brother. I talk with him whenever I see him in the hallways. Should I ask him if E has a boyfriend or should I try tricking her into saying if she does or not (Ex. I liked prom but it felt a bit weird not taking anyone. Did you feel the same way). I am probably going to stay in touch with her over the summer but I'm not going to try and become boyfriend/girlfriend with her until the homecoming dance next year.

I need help but also need to vent a little bit
I’m really interested in this guy i’ve never even spoken to and NOW I ONLY HAVE 4 DAYS LEFT OF SCHOOL. I feel so sick because I had since September to speak to him and I can’t because I have horrible anxiety. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DOOOOO 😭😭😭
Anyways he’s the most beautiful person i’ve ever seen in my life and he literally sits at my lunch table. I stalk him a lot on his social media and I felt so sick finding out that we actually have a decent amount of things in common and when I see him in comment sections he’s actually really funny and he’s seems really kind and we share the same morals. Like why is he literally perfect I CANTT 😭😭😭
How do I get over this horrid horrid anxiety. I keep on thinking if I approach him he’s going to be weirded out. And I feel like he’s going to think i’m weird and annoying or I feel like I’m not pretty enough for him. Or what if he thinks i’m a loser because in this class we have together, I recently had a really embarrassing presentation where I was literally shaking with my voice wavering. 😞
The only interaction I’ve ever had is just that we make a lot of eye contact or sometimes if i mention an interest he likes to my friend at the lunch table I see him look up at me. And my friend said before when he comes to the table and i’m drawing he’s tries to look at what i’m drawing so yayyy???? also i was thinking about just adding him on instagram but from what i’ve observed he doesn’t even use it that often 😞 I wish I could just talk to him!! how to approach a man when you have horrible dying anxiety (and if anything I still have my senior year to talk to him)

Things you need to know about the Iglesia ni Cristo (Church Of Christ)
THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT THE IGLESIA NI CRISTO (CHURCH OF CHRIST)

1. INC is neither a protestant sect/denomination nor a member of any interreligious organization. It is an independent Christian religion, the largest in Asia.
   
2. INC is not a cult. Critics consider us as such because we dont adhere to what they believe as "essential doctrines of mainstream Christianity" like the Trinity and some just want to discredit the Church.
   
3. INC holds worship services twice a week and we believe that attending this holy gathering is our obligation to God. Men and women have separate seats. Everyone is welcome to join us.
   
4. INC doesnt believe in Trinity. We believe in only one God--the Father.
   
5. INC believes in our Lord Jesus Christ. We believe that He is human in nature, the Son of God, God's messenger, made Lord and Christ by God, the only mediator to God, and the foundation where the Church was built. He is the founder, head and savior of the Church. We also worship him as instructed by God.
   
6. INC believes that the Holy Spirit is not a God but a power being sent by God and Jesus.
   
7. INC doesnt practice tithing. Members give voluntary offerings and donations. It is not true that this Church is only for the rich or middle class. It is also not true that our offerings only go to ministers and INC leaders. Besides buying properties, the church is able to continue building and renovating houses of worship worldwide because of the wise management of the Church Administration--all for the glory of God.
   
8. INC believes that the BIBLE is the word of God, the sole basis and service to God. It is not true that we are forbidden to read the Bible, but what members shouldnt do is private interpretation. We dont have our own Bible version.
   
9. INC believes that membership in the Church is necessary for salvation. We dont believe that salvation can be attained only by faith alone. It is not true that there is a membership fee when joining the Church, a Bible student only needs to finish the indoctrination process and undergo a probation period before getting baptized and officially becoming a member.
   
10. INC believes that baptism by means of immersion is necessary for salvation. The Church doesnt baptize babies.
    
11. INC believes that Jesus established only one Church. We dont believe that all churches belongs to God.
    
12. INC believes that Jesus built a Church in the 1st century. It was named after him and it is the Church that he will save however, it had fallen to apostasy like what happened to the ancient Israel--God's chosen nation. The apostatized church is now known as the Roman Catholic Church.
    
13. INC believes that Bro. Felix Manalo is God's messenger in these last days. He was the instrument on re-establishing the true Church thru biblical prophecies. We never recognized him to be the founder of the Church and to be greater than Christ. We dont worship him.
    
14. INC believes that being a member of the Church is not enough to be saved. One should lead a new life, and obey all the teachings of God until the end.
    
15. INC believes in the Day of Judgment which will take place in the second coming of Christ. We also believe in resurrection and the second death which is the Lake of fire.
    
16. INC believes that it is the will of God for us members to love one another as true brothers and sisters. We treat each other equally.
    
17. INC believes that unity is God's teaching that should be practiced and there should be no division within the Church. We also practice voting in unity in relation to submitting to the Church Administration. It is not true that the church asks for money or anything in exchange of support for political candidates and there is no bidding.
    
18. INC believes in the separation of Church and State. The Church doesnt meddle in politics. Members are advised to respect and observe the rules of the government, as long as it is not against God's will.
    
19. INC members practice discipline and orderliness. It is not true that members are murderers or violent people. Church members/officers/ministers/officials who are found to have violated Church doctrines and teachings are expelled.
    
20. INC believes that God is against eating/drinking blood as food, live-in relationships, inter-faith marriage, homosexual unions, same-sex marriage, divorce, annulment, legal separation, extra-marital affairs, drinking alcoholic drinks, and taking of drugs.
    
21. INC doesnt believe in Catholic Saints and we do not keep images/statues of them in our homes and chapels. We also do not believe in the Catholic teachings about Mary and the cross.
    
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I didn’t know if I should put this as rant/vent or school/career, but given that this feels more emotional than anything I guess it’s more appropriate to call it a vent. Sorry if formatting is weird I’m on the app! !!!TW: suicide attempt mention!!!
I’m a very goal-oriented person. I’ve always had goals and big dreams and those goals are what have always kept me going. Achieving my goals is one of the most important things to me, it’s my purpose in life. I’m just terrified that this is going to make it too hard for me to actually reach those goals. I know, I know “as long as you try your best that’s all that matters” and yeah I will try my best, but I HAVE to succeed. I want to finish out my BS in psychology, go on to get my PsyD (and I might have to get my MS in clinical psychology before that) and eventually get my MS in psychopharmacology. I have one year of my BS finished, and due to how much my hEDS progressed within the last year I really felt the exhaustion hit and I made some C’s for the first time despite trying so hard. I just couldn’t stay awake enough to study or I had to take more sick days than I wanted because my fatigue was so bad. Like, if I’m in pain I’ll still go to class I don’t care. I’ll make one of my friends carry me, and they’ll do it. However, when I’m fatigued I can’t. I’d fall asleep in class even if I tried not to and that’s rude (especially because I know I snore..). I’m still feeling really discouraged following this last semester because of the two C’s I got. This was just my first year of higher education, and I might have to keep going for up to 8 more years after this plus intern and most PsyD programs have a year or two of residency. I’m so passionate about what I want to do. I really am, and it would kill me to not go all the way and get the full education I want. I really want to specialize with teens, too, because there aren’t many psychologists that really focus on teenagers. Usually it’s either younger kids or adults and teens are kind of overlooked or stereotyped when in reality many are struggling with a lot more than just teen angst (I know from experience). I slipped through the cracks when it came to my mental health in my teen years. So did my very best friend and it nearly killed her. And when it nearly killed her our senior year of HS I had to stay on FaceTime with her and try to talk her down while my mom called emergency services for me so she wouldn’t take her own life. She had struggled for years and she tried to get help but it was never adequate. I remember feeling like her psychologist at the time was overlooking stuff (from what she had told me) and I remember wanting to find him and tell him to look into something more because her treatment plan wasn’t working and she was going downhill and he seemed to just keep upping her dose and doing the same type of therapy instead of trying something new. Something catered to a traumatized and depressed teenage girl. From what she told me he seemed desensitized, and no one deserves that when they’re getting help. They deserve to feel like the person on the other side is passionate. The night she was admitted to the ward, I was sad because she is like a sister to me, but I was also MAD because I felt like she had been failed. And this is too common. That’s when that fire and passion for my goal truly got to the point where I felt like I HAD to succeed. And I love learning every day. There are other parts of psychology that make me mad, too, and that passion comes again and I want to create change. I have to get a pretty powerful position if I want to be a change, and a PsyD is a shot to that.
I guess what I’m trying to say is I have the passion, a love for learning, and the intelligence (I used to win state level psychology-knowledge competitions against college students when I was in HS)! However, having hEDS is really scaring me. I’m scared the stress of school is only going to make it progress faster, and I’m scared that it will limit me. Man, I’m crying as I type this up. Thanks to anyone who made it this far. I just needed to get it off of my chest to some people who understand how exhausting and painful hEDS (and any subtype of EDS) can be. Love you guys.

Hello Evertonians! I am an FC Barcelona fan, based in Los Angeles, who works in Sports Finance. My neighbor and his wife, who are Evertonians, came over to chat and understand what’s up with the club. It's Saturday night here, and I didn't have anything better to do, so I dug into things.
I will try to simplify things from what I read and the conversations I have heard. I am not involved with the buyout but know folks who are. It's a much smaller industry where everyone knows everyone.
Here we go.
The Debt

• £159 million – MSP Sports Capital
• £225 million – Rights and Media Funding
• £4-5 million – Metro Bank
• £190 million – 777 Partners (Inherited by A Cap)
• £450 million – Moshiri Shareholder Loans

MSP Sports Capital has two distinct security arrangements:

• Assets of Everton Stadium Development Company Limited. This means that in default, MSP can acquire the new stadium to recover their loan. Slightly complicated to explain, but Andy Bell, George Downing, and Moshiri through Blue Sky Capital are also funders of this project.
• Alternatively, MSP has an option to acquire 50 per cent plus one share of Everton’s issued share capital, which would give MSP majority control over Everton Football Club.

Rights and Media Funding is a five-year rolling credit facility. Think of this as something similar to a credit card. Here is where you get conflicting information. A significant discrepancy in reporting, which in my opinion can be a dealbreaker. A few outlets report this loan is secured by future payments from transfers/media, etc. I likely believe it is secured against Everton’s bank accounts, fixed charges over Everton’s property portfolio (near Goodison Park), and a floating charge over all other unencumbered assets. (Shoutout to The Esk, he is an absolute gem). This RMF debt accrues a 10.25% interest.
These are the loans that Everton will have to pay regardless as they are secured well.
Loans to 777 Partners (Inherited by A Cap) are likely junior to these two loans. In any bankruptcy event, MSP and RMF get paid first before 777 Partners and Moshiri. However, A Cap says their loan is secured and they are senior creditors of the club, which would put them at the same level as MSP and RMF.
The Timing
Something that came up in the chatter was the timing of this takeover. It is interesting as Everton is due to receive prize money payments from the league which are stood at £133 million. This is the money the club receives from the overall competition commercial pool, which is distributed to all the teams, based on a few things, for example, their position in the league table at the end of the season.
Folks involved in financing other clubs have said this payment likely hits before 30th June. There is another payment due in August/September which is the first tranche of payments from the league. (Unsure on this one, but this is what I heard, payment flows vary a lot).
Despite the timing, the payments would go only so far in helping the club and were likely factored in during takeover talks. My bet is the takeover is likely to complete before 30th June, or at least a structure is agreed upon. 30th June is the deadline used for accessing Premier League Profit & Sustainability Rules (PSR) compliance.
If deals can be done before that “deadline”, they fall within transfers for the 2023/24 season and are included in the club’s financial accounts for last season, rather than moving into the new campaign. If the plan of the new owners is to recapitalize the team, pay down some debt, and sell players to avoid another PSR violation penalty, my bet is the deal gets done before June 30th.
The Sale
The Buyers As of today, June 8 11:00 pm PDT, here are the potential suitors:

• Andy Bell, George Downing, backed by BDT & MSD Partners (More on this later)
• A consortium led by MSP Sports Capital
• Vatche Manoukian and Investors from Gulf and USA
• John Textor, founder of Eagle Football, owns 45% of Crystal Palace
• Dan Friedkin, Owner of AS Roma

Hear rumblings of another group, but almost everyone is looking to finance the takeover using debt along with equity. Many suitors will be willing to provide debt-based financing for the purchase, hence allegiances are bound to change.
The Possibilities
Here are the things that can happen. I am simplifying this to the bare minimums. The actual deals are complicated af and take months to put up and months to complete.
Possibility I: New Owner comes in, pays all debt, and recapitalizes the team
Highly unlikely. The Premier League is a lucrative league for almost every single private equity investor. It’s the league that is expected to continue to grow and firms take less downside risk when buying a team versus a team in a league like Serie A.
However, this would cost any new owner over £1 billion. My bet it costs somewhere around £1.3 billion. Deals of this size happen, but Everton is in a unique position and negotiating from a position of weakness. In my opinion, only someone in the Middle East or a single buyer would be able to pull this through. No one in private equity would commit to this, as they are all answerable to their investors.
Simply put, Everton is not worth £1.3 billion.
Possibility II: New Owner comes in and negotiates with creditors
A likely option. In this case, a new owner comes in and negotiates with the creditors to either forego some of this debt or restructure it over an extremely long period of time at low rates. This would make Everton a more lucrative option. However, the club would still owe a lot of money over the long run and will be paying interest on that loan.
This would mean Everton is run like a lean machine for a few years, with fewer resources going towards things like player transfers, etc. It would, however, still be able to stay afloat.
Possibility III: MSP Capital exercise the option to take majority control of Everton
Another likely option. More likely than Possibility II. MSP Capital takes majority control and would, in all honesty, look to buy out Moshiri. They will need a lot of capital, and they are already pulling strings, putting up their stake in FC Augsburg for sale last week. MSP buy out Moshiri, restructure some of the debt, and put up some more capital. They would likely clear the RMF loan first.
The managing partner of MSP Sports Capital, Jeff Moorad, was a professor of mine in a class I took at UCLA. He is an absolute beast, and an amazing dude to hang with. Unbiased view, MSP is actually highly respected in the industry, and widely regarded as having a razor sharp approach to finance.
They are known to take long positions, but I think Everton would likely be a position they hold for the short term, IF they go alone on this deal. (This is my take, not Professor Moorad). It would be akin to what Elliott Investment Management did with AC Milan when their Chinese owners backed out. They would step in, stabilize the ship, hope the new stadium attracts enough new commercial and matchday revenue, and sell the team to another buyer recovering some of their investment. What Elliott did with AC Milan was absolutely legendary, and in no world would Gerry Cardinale and RedBird have bought AC Milan had Elliott not done its job.
INSIDE INFO HERE: I cannot reveal others in the MSP Sports Capital consortium. Texted a former colleague who is at the firm that are bidders with MSP. If the consortium is agreed upon, MSP comes in with others, who are capable of buying majority control, and running Everton over the long term. MSP in this case would still retain a minority stake. The new stadium holds the key to this deal.
Possibility IV: Everton goes into administration
Cannot rate this option or its likelihood. Let me walk you through this. Administration is a major taboo in the football world, but something extremely common in finance. It is a way for a firm to basically restructure its debt and get back to good health. It does not mean the club ceases to exist.
The preferred way that things are done is through a method called ‘company voluntary arrangement’ (CVA). In a CVA, a deal is put forth, which creditors vote on, usually giving them less money than they are owed, with voting power decided based on seniority. In this case, MSP and RMF would get more votes in the say versus A-Cap and Moshiri.
CVAs are extremely common in the EFL and other leagues, with advisory firms literally minting millions every year, doing nothing but advising teams here. In the Premier League, only Portsmouth has ever gone into administration. Going into administration would see 9 points being docked at the start of next season for Everton.
The Pros of this approach:

• Everton sheds a ton of debt. This would make it extremely attractive for someone to buy the club.
• The reduced debt will likely be restructured over the long run, hence a free-spending owner coming in can actually devote more money to things like rebuilding the squad, enhancing facilities, hiring more staffers, and growing the club.

The Cons:

• A ton of people likely get fired at Everton, as the club must break even.
• The club cannot spend any more money on signings. They may even sell players.
• Local businesses are affected the most, these are folks who provide things like catering services, produce, florists, etc.
• The Big Kahuna: Going into administration can trigger certain clauses in player contracts that allow them to leave for free. I have seen it happen with teams in the EFL, but the situation remains subjective. Any player with such a clause would need assurances from the new owners before the takeover is complete.

There are some speculations online as this being the preferred way in for new owners. I doubt it, but the threat of administration is enough for even the world’s biggest banks/financiers to come to the negotiating table. Every possible new owner would hold this gun over Moshiri’s head, to get him to agree to a deal, and forgo as much of his loans.
Some Questions I think are FAQs
Is Michael Dell buying Everton?
No, Michael Dell is not buying Everton. Michael Dell’s family office is DFO Management, which was formerly known as MSD Capital. MSD Capital was Michael Dell’s family office, meaning it exclusively invested his money. However, in 2009, MSD Capital opened up to outside investors and became an investment firm of its own. In 2023, MSD merged with BDT to create BDT+MSD, the firm that is backing the Bell and Downing bid.
They do still invest some of Dell’s money, and Dell may be their biggest investor, but as far as I know, BDT is huge itself, managing some of the capital from the Walton Family (Walmart), the Pritzkers, and the Mars Family. BDT’s founder, Byron Trott, is worth about $3.2 billion alone. Trott is considered a legend at Goldman, where he helped Buffett structure his investment in Goldman Sachs during the financial crisis of 2008. One of my ex-bosses worked at Goldman during this period under Trott’s team and considers him a legend, even saying he single-handedly saved Goldman Sachs by convincing Buffett to invest and structuring some wild deals.
One thing I know for sure is BDT+MSD would likely pursue a debt-based financing structure. They are not built to go heavy into equity-based financing for sports teams. BDT+MSD have already done a bunch of debt-based deals; Everton won’t be different. In the scenario where Bell and Downing succeed in taking over, Everton would likely owe a lot of money to BDT+MSD.
Would Bell and Downing with BDT+MSD make sense?
My take here is no. Running a football club is no joke. Even though Bell and Downing being Evertonians makes it ideal, I am not entirely convinced of their ability to run a team. Everton would still be severely constrained financially, as they would owe money to BDT+MSD, and Bell and Downing wouldn’t be able to pump a lot of cash into the business from their end.
There is nothing that guarantees Everton will not see the same scenario as it does now, three years after Bell and Downing take over. Private equity folks make sense, as they come in knowing they may know other clubs but don’t know much about Everton. They will, by default, bring on Evertonians on the board, and will have much more incentive to run it over the long term, as the only way they see a return is through actually growing the club economically, which only means a better Everton on and off the pitch.
Are BDT+MSD backing only Bell and Downing?
No, BDT+MSD are free to back anyone in the contention. They are committing to debt-based financing, so as long as the buyer is credible enough, they should have no problem going ahead. Considering they are backing Bell and Downing, I would be surprised if others in the race did not get better financing terms.
As I said, allegiances in debt-based financing are fluid. The hard truth here is BDT+MSD would likely be calling up other potential buyers who bid to see if BDT+MSD can provide financing for their deal. Debt-based financing for a Premier League club is pretty much a dream scenario for any firm, as the underlying asset securing the loan is more stable than in other deals.
Simply put, BDT+MSD are not competing with other potential buyers; they are competing with firms like JP Morgan, Sixth Street, Ares, Arctos, etc., who may want to front one of the buyers.
What’s up with A-Capital?
I do not know. Conflicting things online. I doubt A-Capital will get to invest anything more in Everton, through debt or through equity. I also read that their financial position is under question as the rating they rely on no longer reflects their financial standing. However, I still do not know what there position is.
Who do I want to see win the bid?
Biased towards MSP Sports Partners because of Jeff Moorad. If they pull the consortium through, and the other investors take over the majority club, all I can say is Everton would be lucky. That being said, there are plenty of other people willing to buy Everton with MSP. As of now, the one most likely, along with MSP, would be a dream scenario.
Also, it wont take time for someone entirely new to emerge as a suitor. That is how consortium works. People are surprised, but its literally like texting friends to pitch in and creating a group chat. Things happen over Telegram/Whatsapp/Signal. My boss had once raised $xxx million for a deal texting the LP in the deal. The conversation went along these lines.
Prospectus sent over Mail + WhatsApp
My Boss : What do you think?
LP : $xxx m 👍
LP : Jeff also $xx m and Jake $xx m 🤝🤝
I can bet there are plenty of group chats of potential consortiums that may enter bidding. Everton FC is low-key a bargain, the debt will eventually get restructured. There are plenty of more messy restructurings that have happened in Finance before. Creditors eventually cave, but its a dogfight.
Enough written. Feel free to drop any Qs you may have, I will answer them to the best of my ability and knowledge of Everton’s finances. Massive shout to The Esk. The guy seems incredibly passionate about Everton.
I really hope you guys pull through, I know you will.

I (F22) am doing postgrad in a college in Central Chennai and I'm the only non-Tamilian in my class. Since starting my course, I've felt a sense of constant alienation, not just due to the language barrier, but also bcoz of the cultural differences. For eg, from the first day of class, I've encountered multiple instances where people ask me about my religion and caste repeatedly before even asking my name. This behavior is particularly strange to me, as I've not experienced such things in Kerala. Amidst this environment, a group of my peers has been very considerate, showing affection and including me whenever they hang out.
Recently, my senior and I became good friends. Though he is Tamilian, he has relatives in Kerala and can read and speak Malayalam. I was comforted by his hospitality, as he showed a genuine interest in Kerala culture and people. One of my peers, who had an unrequited crush on him, felt threatened by our friendship. One day, when I was with him, she angrily asked him, "Why are you speaking with her? You like her more than me? Ohh, you like her because she's MALAYALI". She reiterated my Malayali identity as if I don't "belong" there. I felt really bad and after that, she and her friends stopped talking to me and began avoiding me.
I deeply regret leaving Kochi for Chennai, as I had a huge supportive friends and fam here, but I took the hard decision for the sake of my academics. But this sudden change of behaviour, which is exclusionary in nature, from the people I'm currently with is affecting me badly.
How do I tackle this situation?

hi! im an incoming freshman majoring in chemical engineering. I’m trying to decide between taking math 171 or math 172 - bc idk how confident i am in my calc skills.
I took AP Calc AB junior year of high school and I passed with a 5 on the test - so that places me into math 172 (calc 2). buttt i self studied most of it, my teacher didn’t really teach so im not too confident in everything
But i talked to the academic advisor and she said that they recommend AP kids to still take math 171 (calc 1) for fundamentals. (she said math jesus suggests that too)
I’m usually strong in math, but im scared that i lost the skills because it’s been so long. I didn’t do any calculus during senior year so it’s been a while.
What math class should I take?? Any help is appreciated please!

seniors please clarify my doubts i will be joining college this year i was a jee dropper will be going to tier 4 college i dont know shit about computer science like i dont even know basic terms. maine search kiya abhi ki konse language start karu bc ek banda ek ek bol rha hai sabko upvotes hai ek post pe niche likte hai c++ se start kar java se start kar bc karu kya bolte hai jo intrest h wo karo abe mujhe kya pata intrest kisme hai
aur maine dekha ki computer science kon lena chaiye toh bole jiske problem solving skills ache ho bc mere toh classes ke badh basic questions bhi nahi bante the physics aur maths ke meri dimag hi kharab hai pata nahi mai kaha aake phas gaya ece aur eee dekha bolrahe tough hai mere jaise chutiye ke aukaat ke bahar hai wo sab
agar koi senior mujhe guide karde toh ki kisse start karna and wtf is dsa backend frontend bc ye kya cheeze hai mera dimag ghoom raha mujhe basic se explain karo kis language start karna uske badh kya karne ye dsa wagera wagera kya karu
aur mai jo college jaa raha waha sab chapri pade hue hai seniors se baat kiya idk agle 4 saal kaise jeena hai waha par...khud hi kuch karna padega

seniors please clarify my doubts i will be joining college this year i was a jee dropper will be going to tier 4 college i dont know shit about computer science like i dont even know basic terms. maine search kiya abhi ki konse language start karu bc ek banda ek ek bol rha hai sabko upvotes hai ek post pe niche likte hai c++ se start kar java se start kar bc karu kya bolte hai jo intrest h wo karo abe mujhe kya pata intrest kisme hai
aur maine dekha ki computer science kon lena chaiye toh bole jiske problem solving skills ache ho bc mere toh classes ke badh basic questions bhi nahi bante the physics aur maths ke meri dimag hi kharab hai pata nahi mai kaha aake phas gaya ece aur eee dekha bolrahe tough hai mere jaise ch**tiye ke aukaat ke bahar hai wo sab
agar koi senior mujhe guide karde toh ki kisse start karna and wtf is dsa backend frontend bc ye kya cheeze hai mera dimag ghoom raha mujhe basic se explain karo kis language start karna uske badh kya karne ye dsa wagera wagera kya karu
aur mai jo college jaa raha waha sab chapri pade hue hai seniors se baat kiya idk agle 4 saal kaise jeena hai waha par...khud hi kuch karna padega

A few conversations and an effort to be more self aware have recently made me rethink most of my past. I’ve had pretty muted thoughts on it, but now i’m starting to feel like it was realllllly damaging and i was way too sheltered to notice or care. Really would appreciate an outside perspective.
born in alberta canada (I guess this was the first mistake badum tss) Lived with my mom and two siblings while my dad worked and lived in nigeria to support us. we were very well off Never considered myself to be in a single parent household but by definition that’s kinda what it was. In hindsight my mother was grossly negligent despite being a stay at home, to me it was just fun to be allowed to be online/ playing games all day :P
The major issue of my life has been Selective Mutism, the triggering incident was when someone in kindergarten called me a slur and i didn’t know how to respond. From that moment til i graduated high school I never spoke a single word to someone my own age outside of my family/ adjacent. Looking back, any normal parent would’ve tried to do something about this. The most my mom would do was ask me if i made any friends at school a few times in 3rd grade. When my dad heard about it years later i got the craziest beating ever. Had someee friends from church and the neighborhood but most times my mother would tell me i’m not allowed to be friends with them due to “witchcraft” she’s schizophrenic.
In 2011, we visited dad in nigeria, my mother’s schizophrenia told her to say fuckit to the return tickets and have us begin a whole new life there without warning. This is messed up enough but what was more messed up was both my parents just acting like it wasn’t happening, without any explanation being given or like a shred of acknowledgement, all the kids could do was make jokes to each other n withdraw from life to pretend it wasn’t happening. Never knew if we’d go back to our old lives, shit was so freaky. I later learned that the trend in our enclave of society was to go to a western country for university so i figured id just do good in school so i could go back “home” with that method and start over. Otherwise, i had no motivation in life after that incident. It really was handled in a way where life felt so useless. Living with my dad was about the same as what i was used to, another negligent parent. Not much can really be said.
i never knew how to feel about my predicament, i spent all my free time distracting myself with Roblox and other games, and i would play in the loneliest ways i could find. Safe to say, high school was a blur. I also feel like i weaponized my mutism to affirm to myself that i wasn’t supposed to be living there? I just tried to do as little as i needed. I did make a few friends if you could call them that. I try to really examine that time but i find it really hard to grasp. You kinda look forward to your teenage years as a child, a lot is supposed to happen. Not much happened. After i graduated in 2020, i went to a nice university in ontario for one year (online classes era) before taking a gap year to figure things out. Ended up pivoting to doing Roblox full time. Honestly i looked forward to university a lot cause i felt like i knew it would help my social skills. I just had no motivation education wise, i simply had never seriously thought that far ahead. Honestly the only life plan i had since 2nd grade was to be gone by 20.
I found a lot of success in 2022 now living alone in toronto, so since 2021 i genuinely haven’t been in, like any real life social situations. I mastered isolation long ago and never figured that my financial freedom meant i could go outside and mingle and enjoy things. I don’t really know how to, i’ve never ever done that whatsoever. I definitely tried man. but looking back at 2022 the shell shock was still so real. I’m addicted to watching Twitch for social stimulation. One time i donated 50 subs i knew i had gone too deep bruh i signed up for therapy so quick… I only donated 6 today
Today I went to an amusement park. I’ve been trying to think of myself more as a normal person, but the more i observe people the more pain, regret i feel as i see countless normal interactions present such a stark contrast to the type of life i’ve lived. I just want to integrate into society, but i feel so alien. Looking at other people, i feel like i was failed by my parents and robbed of agency, purpose, confidence and the ability to enjoy life beyond music and a few other escapes. Going outside always feels like i got a gun to my head, idk how to describe it. people are so scary to me
Had two more siblings after 2011, their development is going pretty shit to be frank. My parents are like ghosts, they don’t do shit. you can barely get their rich ass to buy clothes for their growing kids. Living with them it was hard to notice, but i’m really starting to think about what the average parental relationship is, and holy crap my shit is so heartbreaking. I’m worried if those kids will also fail to assimilate into society. They have like 0 experience going outside bruh. Won’t speak for my other siblings situations but i’m basically doing the best, and i’m still doing crap
I’m committed to undoing the damage inflicted on me, been in therapy for more than a year. But to help my family, it’s a big burden on me, sometimes i just wanna leave them behind so i can have my own shit in peace man. Nowadays I try to push my parents to do more but they are just so lethargic
What’s really been pissing me off lately is my mother’s demands to be treated like a normal loving parent? Am i tripping or do i have the right to like, cut her out completely? A lot happened i don’t really need to go into here

There I was, the newly appointed manager of a bustling cafe in the heart of the city. Bright-eyed, bushy-tailed and ready to whisk up a storm, I was eager to stamp my leadership mark on this well-oiled machine. A machine that, unbeknownst to me, was churning on an outdated and ineffective operating system.
It wasn’t long before issues started creeping up. Understaffing during peak hours, inventory mismanagement, and a communication gap wider than the Grand Canyon. As much as I’d like to blame my predecessor, it dawned on me that the real issue lay in my inability to see the café operations as a system. I was trying to fix problems in isolation, like a doctor treating symptoms while disregarding the disease itself.
In this muddle, I remembered the 'Iceberg Model' from my management classes back in the day. According to this mental model, events (in this case, the cafe's issues) were just the tip of the iceberg. Beneath the surface, there were underlying patterns, system structures, and finally, the mental models driving those structures.
The constant understaffing during peak hours? The underlying pattern was the outdated shift-rotation system. And the deep-seated mental model? The belief that seniority warranted primetime shifts. The inventory issues? Yet another archaic system structure grounded in the mental model that the 'we have always done it this way' approach was the best way.
I set about changing these mental models, starting with open discussions about shift fairness, skill-based rotations, and the importance of inventory accuracy for customer satisfaction. It was an uphill battle, and I stumbled more times than I care to remember, but it was worth it. Over time, the café began to run more smoothly, but more importantly, my team gained a better understanding of the milestones we had to collectively reach.
Reflecting on this tale of frothy lattes and leadership lessons, I believe that the key to effective leadership lies in systems thinking. It's not just identifying and rectifying issues, but understanding the system as a whole and the mental models driving it.
P.S.: If you thought this was about an actual café, I have a laugh for you. It was a metaphorical café representing any organization. Gotcha! But hey, isn't it fascinating how you can apply systems thinking and mental models to daily life, café, or no café?

i will be joining college this year i was a jee dropper will be going to tier 4 college i dont know shit about computer science like i dont even know basic terms. maine search kiya abhi ki konse language start karu bc ek banda ek ek bol rha hai sabko upvotes hai ek post pe niche likte hai c++ se start kar java se start kar bc karu kya bolte hai jo intrest h wo karo abe mujhe kya pata intrest kisme hai
aur maine dekha ki computer science kon lena chaiye toh bole jiske problem solving skills ache ho bc mere toh classes ke badh basic questions bhi nahi bante the physics aur maths ke meri dimag hi kharab hai pata nahi mai kaha aake phas gaya ece aur eee dekha bolrahe tough hai mere jaise ch*tiye ke aukaat ke bahar hai wo sab
agar koi senior mujhe guide karde toh ki kisse start karna and wtf is dsa backend frontend bc ye kya cheeze hai mera dimag ghoom raha mujhe basic se explain karo kis language start karna uske badh kya karne ye dsa wagera wagera kya karu
aur mai jo college jaa raha waha sab chapri pade hue hai seniors se baat kiya idk agle 4 saal kaise jeena hai waha par...khud hi kuch karna padega

This is very tangentially related to the subreddit, but it's been weighing on me heavily for a while and I'm interested in hearing what y'all have to say on this topic, so fuck it.
Watching as the ceaseless accumulation of capital and the bourgeoisie's efforts to fight off falling rates of profit slowly cripple this country is agonizing. Of course, it's far from the sole fault of neoliberalism, or Reagan, or whatever narrow explanations leftists provide, and it's not at all unexpected. That doesn't make it hurt less.
New housing is purposefully being withheld except for a few cities in Texas and Florida. What gets built nowadays are depressing suburban developments at worse, (more on this later) and overpriced luxury condos at best.
Schools are not only utterly failing on an educational level, but are physically decrepit and only getting worse as money is funneled into private schools. During my elementary years, our class was relegated to a duplex trailer home because the school didn't have the capacity for us, nor did they have the money to build more rooms.
Infrastructure is crumbling from neglect while it gets bombarded by ever worsening weather events -- winter freezes in the north, tornados in the plains, forest fires in the west, and hurricanes in the south.
Public services are steadily cut until they can barely operate, while the nation's most robust public program, Social Security, shovels tons of money into the accounts of seniors already wealthy from the value of their artificially scarce property.
Financial capital has consumed all that comes within its path, including nursing homes for the elderly, which are systematically sucked dry for profit and destroyed in the name of capital.
The bourgeoisie are increasingly relying on superexploitation. The vast majority of jobs added to the economy since 2005 have been temporary and/or tenuous jobs, euphemistically known as "alternative work."
But most poignant of all is how atomized we are. Most of us live in soulless suburbs, me included. We are sharply divided by class and wealth, and concurrently, we are more racially segregated than ever before. On the rare occasion I pass through where those less fortunate than me live, it's nothing less than crushing. At times, the houses are so broken down as to resemble sheds, and there's no one out there to help them. Fuck, there's no one to even cry out to.
Everywhere you go, it feels empty. Of course, there's the many small towns which have been abandoned and left to the vultures after the material resources they once provided dried up, but even in most cities, there's little to seek out. Eerily quiet neighborhoods, sidewalks which few people use, and shopping centers barren of activity. Most of the time, I don't even feel like I live in a definite place, but instead, a series of isolated locations which I drive back and forth from.
Societally, the decay expresses itself in the most ugly ways. An increasingly depressed population resorts to drugs and suicide more and more. The homeless are shown utter disgust, perpetually forced to live in misery. Undocumented immigrants, the same people who hold up the entire system by being forced into superexploitation and arduous labor, face rising xenophobia and racism, to the point where nowadays a majority of Americans (including ~40% of Democrats, to no one's surprise) support the mass deportation of these people.
I'm sorry that this was so long and tangential, but I had to get it off my chest. I don't wanna live my whole life in a place like this. Something has to give.