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Okay y'all, this is the longest of shots but if y'all can't help me then maybe it really has vanished from existence.
There's a video on the internet of a young Slavic sounding boy playing Gen 4 and trying to make a "how to use the PokeRadar" esk video. However, while attempting to move to the shaking grass, he encounters a shiny starly and exclaims "SHINY STARLY. I CAN'T BELIEVE." Stumbling on his own excitement, he goes to catch it only to realize he has no poke balls. The dreams sets in, has he contemplates what to do, eventually deciding to faint it. He then ends the video without saying a word.
I saw this video around 10-15 or so years ago, it lives in my head rent free. A genuine all-time fave video, I often say I CAN'T BELIEVE in a Slavic accent as my own inside joke. I have looked and looked for this video and cannot find it for the life of me, and after catching a shiny starly in Pokemon Go today I decided to look again to no avail. Does this video sound familiar to anyone? Has anyone else even seen it? No one I mention it too has any clue about it of course. I think I originally saw it on Tumblr if that helps. But it was linked to a YouTube video. I
I know this is prolly a not-so normal post for this subreddit, but help me ShinyPokemon you're my only hope! I need to thank that boy and tell him I'm sorry he had to do that to that poor shiny starly. He was but a boy, he never could've been ready.

Hey fellow travelers!
I recently embarked on an incredible 3-day journey from Bangalore to the serene hills of Chikmagalur, and I just had to share my experience with you all! 🌄✨
From the bustling streets of Bangalore to the tranquil coffee estates of Chikmagalur, this trip was filled with breathtaking views, delicious food, and unforgettable memories. Whether you're a seasoned traveler or just looking for a weekend getaway, Chikmagalur has something for everyone.
In my YouTube video linked below, I've documented every detail of our trip, including our budget plan, itinerary, and all the must-visit spots along the way. From exploring the lush greenery of Mullayanagiri Peak to savoring authentic Malnad cuisine, every moment was an adventure.
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If you're planning your own trip to Chikmagalur or simply looking for some travel inspiration, I hope this video helps! Feel free to ask me any questions about the trip or share your own Chikmagalur experiences in the comments below.
Happy traveling! 🚗✈️

I am done with rodha YouTube free playlist ( 2 times). On a break now as I have finals this month. From June if I complete 200 daily dilr ( already done around 70 from it), 200 sets from simcats( 40 mocks & 10 sectional) and 72 2017-2023 pyqs sets and 100-150 ims coaching material sets. 4 sets everyday from June. Is this enough ? DILR is my weakest section, I’m a bit confused about where to practise sets from. Also in what order should I complete it?
Any help is appreciated. Thanks in advance!

Of course you shouldn't do this always, (I mean the free fleets you get are free, they're meant to be cannon fodder) its too expensive in terms of upkeep and alloy cost (out of all the ascensions Nanite is weakest economically). But at the same time having all of your fleets destroyed each engagement leaves you weak and vulnerable to new threats. By having a few dependable fleets that make use of the Nanite ability to mass torpedo's/strike craft you can ensure that you can either wait for your fleets to naturally replenish or draw on your Nanite reserves in a sustainable way.
Why Fallen empire ships? Because relative to their capacity they are the most efficient at guarding Nanites. This leaves more room in the fleet for torpedos and fighters (the real damage dealers). Normally Fallen empire fleets can suffer due to attrition, relative to their cost even if they can beat fleets larger than theirs they can't afford to brawl like normal empire fleets. To make up for this they have a higher survivability, however normally it still encourages a more close to the chest playstyle as its not sustainable to lose a fleet to win a battle, and fewer fleets in general can be sustainably fielded (assuming regular replacements are necessary). However, in this case instead of having to destroy the enemy, they just have to not die while the Nanites wipe them. Furthermore, you don't even need to field that many! Just enough to keep enemy destroyers and corvettes from rushing for your vulnerable back line. You could easily use one "sticky" fleet to trap an enemy force and two ranged Nanite fleets to finish them off.
Downsides: while you still can field fleets much larger than usual due to the reduced upkeep from Nanites, it doesn't have the advantage of a pure swarm, so this is mainly for early game Cosmogenesis Nanite builds who have a lot of ships but not yet an infinite amount of them.
Can you use regular destroyers and battleships for these roles? Yes! Personally I went down the Cosmogenesis path to offset the increased research costs of empire sprawl, but still I think that on a one-to one basis Fallen empire ships are superior to the more attritable regular empire ships. So, if you're going down that path, and you have extra alloys from all the corvettes you fielded early game but aren't using any more, try them out! Still theres nothing intrinsically different from using different ships as buffers, the riddle escorts are just the best at it.
I based most of my reasoning off of the YouTube channel Tachyon Lance, who's been the only one I have seen so far conducting tests on various Nanite fleet compositions.
If you're interested in this line of thought, check him out!
What do all of you think, do you have any more tips to provide or resources to share?

Modern media can embellish people and actions that are actually ugly, unproductive and anti-humane. The mega-popular TV presenter Tucker Carlson (the programmers of the X/Twitter social network are currently working on the artificially inflated ratings of his programs) published an interview with Alexander Dugin, who in the West has a reputation as an influential intellectual and academic philosopher, although in both cases it is not true. In fact, Dugin just likes to read and talk. He really reads a lot, in particular, philosophical works, but he quotes and interprets all these in a free manner, skillfully and manipulatively adapting the opinions of other thinkers and various facts to himself.
Dugin is a pseudo-intellectual who, however, a skillful orator and knows how to impress people. The philosophical community of Russian academic circles openly disrespect Dugin. He is popular among the radical far-right public, who never read his printed works, but only know his repeated appeals and slogans as “protection of traditional values”, “protection of traditional families”, “protection and spread of the Russian language and culture”, “the supremacy of true Christian Russia over the rotten West, which has plunged into Satan’s Kingdom” and so on. It is noteworthy that Dugin is considered one of the main creators of the ideology of the “Russkiy mir”, while the latter is not generally accepted ideology in Russia, but a mixture of different views (which sometimes contradict each other).
It is quite interesting that Carlson and Dugin complained about the ban on the works of the “Eurasian philosopher” in the United States and the impossibility of purchasing his translated English books on the Amazon service. At the same time, both of them did not mention the facts of total censorship inside Russia or mass arrests and convictions for spreading true news about the Russian Federation's war against Ukraine, etc.
In any case, no matter how extravagant Dugin's views are, he looks quite presentable for a Western audience in Carlson's interview. The latter may perceive him as an intellectual with some deviations, or, in the worst case, as a useful idiot. However, there are no statements in the interview with “Putin's brains” on Carlson’s YouTube channel for which Dugin is so loved and respected in Russia; namely about his calls to destroy Ukrainians, kill Ukrainian children, fight bravely against the civilization of the satanic West, not be afraid to use nuclear intercontinental ballistic missiles, etc.
In general, anyone in the West who takes a deep interest in Dugin’s personality, carefully reads his works and critically listens to his interviews, is guaranteed to be horrified by this aggressive pseudo-philosophical delusion. However, being maximum loyal to the interviewer, a relatively short video story (a 20-minute conversation) on a mega-popular YouTube channel can, unfortunately, rise the popularity of a cult Russian neo-fascist, chauvinist, xenophobe and imperialist in the West.

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First time posting here. I have seen many of Dr. K’s YouTube videos and I’ve had something on my mind so I figured it wouldn’t hurt to share my thoughts here because I feel like I don’t have anyone to talk to this about. Writing is not my strongest subject, so please bare with me as I try to get my thoughts typed out in a coherent manner.
For a little background, I am 24 M and I just graduated with an associates in cyber security. 90% of my free time consists of me sitting in front of my pc playing video games, but I don’t let it interfere with school or work. I work as a servebartender and have been at the same restaurant for 3 years and I plan to stay there until I can get my foot in the door somewhere using my degree. I have a small social circle consisting of my high-school friends and a select few of my co-workers that I occasionally hang out with.
Now, there is this one girl (22) I work with who has been there longer than I have. Ever since I’ve started we have been friends and she’s been a joy to be around. She always puts others before herself and is very sweet to everybody. She brightens everyone’s day as soon as she walks through the door. It wasn’t until last fall when one of my coworkers told me that she likes me, that I became interested in her in that way also. I was pretty busy going to school full time and working so we didn’t go on many dates, and the ones we did were just out to dinner or maybe a movie every few weeks, and never amounted to anything. We both knew they were “dates” but it kind of just felt like we were going out as friends. We are both very inexperienced when it comes do dating. Neither of us have ever had gf/bf and we are both virgins. It was also hard to hang out at either of our places because I have 3 roommates in a small townhouse and I am kinda weird about people knowing I have a girl over. And she was living at her moms In also a small house with 4 siblings and she didn’t want us to hang out there either. It wasn’t until very recently that she moved out of her moms and got her own place. Since then I have been over multiple times and I think we really enjoy each others company.
But here is the problem. I feel very incapable of showing affection or interest. I’ll try to explain, but it’s like the closer I get to somebody, the harder it is for me to look them in the eyes (I don’t enjoy eye contact to begin with) or have any sort of confidence at all. It’s like I want to be around them but I want to avoid them at the same time. I’m afraid to put my arm around her, hold her hand, or show basically any form of interest or affection. I know she isnt going to bite and I can almost garuntee she would welcome it. Idk what to do about it and I feel like it’s unfair for her. I feel like it’s time to make some sort of move, any type of move really, but I can’t muster up the courage other than 1 time when she asked me to kiss her. Sometimes I can feel her eyes staring at me but I’m too much of a coward to meet them with my own. I’m lucky she’s been very patient with me so far, as I think she enjoys my company more than anything. I think she is somebody that I really want to get to know and be close with, and now that I am done with school I feel like I have the time and energy to do so, but I am sure not making it very easy for myself.
Another thing that I don’t understand, is that I can talk to most any other girl just fine. 90% of the front of house staff where I work are female and I have absolutely no issue socializing with them. I only struggle with the one that I’m trying to get close to..
Anyway, if you managed to read all of that, thanks.
I’m going to keep hanging out with her and see how it goes from there. I’m sure things will get better if I keep hanging out with her.

Welcome to the Free Talk thread! Talk about...anything! These threads will go up every Friday and be stickied throughout the week, though other posts may take priority (AMAs, matches, announcements, etc.)
Welcome to Free Talk thread! Talk about...anything!
These threads will go up at 12am ET every Friday and be stickied throughout the week unless other posts take priority (AMAs, megathreads, announcements, etc.)
We'll list some other leagues that are in play right now (or in the near future) and the relevant communities you can check out

Other women's soccer leagues broadcast in England

UEFA Women's Champions League - /WomensSoccer

• All group stage and knockout round matches broadcast for free on DAZN, with select games on DAZN's YouTube channel

USA - National Women's Soccer League - /NWSL

• Matches broadcast for free on NWSL+
  
• Runs from March through late November
  

Australia - W-League - /Wleague

• TNT Sport

Germany - Frauen Bundesliga & DFB Pokal Frauen - /FrauenBL

• DAZN

France - Division 1 Féminine - /D1feminine

• DAZN

Italy - Serie A Femminile & Coppa Italia Women

• DAZN

Spain - Liga F

• DAZN

Saudi Arabia - Saudi Women's Premier League & SAFF Women's Cup

• DAZN

This is a frequently updated site with most women's soccer broadcasts
For the rest, here's a list of various women's leagues from around the world you may be able to watch

Hubby is a huge fan, got free tickets to see them at Foxwoods Saturday night. I've only heard a few of their songs so far, but I love loud music, so I'm excited, I've been checking out YouTube so I'm not completely lost lol. And checking out this sub

I've been searching for recommendations on the best books and other resources on this and similar subreddits, checked the pinned megathread, but I’m still not sure what to pick.
Honestly, I'm not sure what my goal is. I've always struggled with math, and it's been a source of frustration my whole life. My parents hired a tutor when I was in middle and high school, but I still didn't do well, even after years of personal tutor once a week, my math grades were bad, huge contrast to the other school subjects.
In college, I was even EXPELLED due to a failed statistics class exam (three attempts in a row), I tried to get my bachelor’s in ‘crisis management’ and we had a math and statistic classes which killed me. I eventually got back and managed to get my poor degree, it’s been 10 years since then, but math won’t stop haunting me.
I still find it hard to calculate easy stuff in my head, like percentages or subtraction/addition, I need to use a pen and paper to visualize these calculations…
I have always been struggling with logic as well. Every time I try to learn something or get new skills, or simply watch a video on cosmos and other stuff I like that actually seems straightforward for many people, I fail to understand and have to ask my friends to explain it to me, which annoys them because to them it’s like fighting against a wall, I’m so bulletproof.
Of course I have ADHD like a typical person these days, it definitely contributes to my struggles, but I often think I’m just stupid. I've had to quit jobs due to my inability to understand math concepts, such as those in economics/business. Even Excel tables and formulas are my biggest enemies at any job.
When I play video games and check the content online, I'm shocked by the complex math involved in calculating damage multipliers and other game mechanics, content creators and the community always make these huge spreadsheets calculating everything possible and explaining it to a wider audience, but I never understand.
I try to take logic/erudition tests sometimes, but I fail miserably. I feel so vulnerable and pathetic. I don’t understand why it takes so long for me to ‘get it’, even when everyone does on a daily basis.
I want to try to change this. Even though there’s no college in my life anymore, no exams, I can’t ignore the math involvement in our daily life. What would you recommend for me to read/watch/listen to in my free time? Math has many categories, and I'm unsure where to start. It has a lot of categories, every book is, for instance, dedicated to applied math or discrete math, etc. Also, what level? For preschoolers? Lol.
Khan Academy only offers ‘trigonometry’ and ‘middle school statistics’ units, that’s it. At least in my language. It’s gonna be a bad idea to try learning math in a foreign language (Eng), I think, because I don’t know a single math term in English. I don’t want to complicate everything even futher.
As for books, YouTube channels and websites, everyone recommends a different one, so I'm unsure how to choose, there are too many. What section should I even choose? Algebra? Calculus? Statistics? Or even middle-school stuff? Btw, your calculus has a different structure from ours, like Calculus I, Calculus II, III. We had a different structure at school in my country, so I’m even more confused.
Some people suggest "Basic Mathematics" by Serge Lang, but others say it's not exactly ‘basic’ per se and might be a bit harsh for some idiots like me. Should I start with something more ‘pop’ like "The Joy of X"? Or to hell with it, just start math on Khan Academy in English, learning all the new vocabulary?

Hey, hope this is appropriate to post here! I've been working in the world of mental health and self-development for over a decade now and have had my journey of recovering from massive social anxiety and isolation. I've never really been active online and talked about these ideas with friends, coworkers, and partners. However, I feel inspired to stimulate some discussions I find are important and try to contribute to this and other similar communities. So I would like to share with you some reflections I wrote. I'd love to hear your thoughts and reflections. I'm not here to convince you of my ideas (although perhaps I can write persuasively sometimes), I am no authority, but I would love to hear your reflections, thoughts and discuss. I feel hopeful to try to find some truth together through this, and maybe think together as a community how we can make certain situations better for people. Of and please be very honest! I'm not looking for feedback for my form, or to get better at writing although I'm sure I could definitely use some. But I would love to see what these ideas evoke and people, their stories, their concerns, their disagreements, and points of view.
Let me know if I'm breaking the rules, and if you want more discussions like this! I'm eager to talk about agency, addiction, customizing mental health interventions, combining self improvement with social impact, the effects of our construction of social status on happiness and growth, how we can make the internet more nuanced and promote mindful content vs polarized, absolutistic and quick dopamine hit formats.
Well, without further ado. Welcome and thank you.
What Does It Mean to Be a Strong Man?
I acknowledge that the question may be irrelevant. That we may not need a definition. These definitions do not apply to everyone who uses the same term. However, people, perhaps more commonly those who identify as men, do often choose a definition. It is often nebulous, implicit, acted out, and unexamined. An amalgamation of ideas we are fed by others, cultural norms, emotional reactions, stereotypes, and beliefs we buy into. These ideas come from many sources that we do not have the opportunity to question. Being told to not cry and be a man while growing up, the attempts of other men to portray themselves as strong whether fruitful or vain, narratives around celebrity, status, fame. These often influence us, and eventually have some influence on the stereotypes that form around the idea of being a man. Perhaps it would be helpful to examine these ideas. I find them quite problematic. Not because I want to erase the concept of manhood, but because I think they often do a disservice to what a man can be and embody. We are often led to believe that unless we act in a certain way, we are not men. That we are weak, that we are not valuable, that we will not be respected and loved. And that the way to avoid this is to conform, to become rigid and put up our walls and defenses. This can often lead to tragically unnecessary outcomes. Alienation, isolation, stress, inner critique, avoidance, low self-esteem, and perhaps even push people away and lash out at them. We are told we need to hustle and grind to live up to being a man, that unless we reach certain goals we are diminished and failures. And we are often certain not the ones to choose our goals, but they are imparted on us.
So are the stereotypes true? What is it to be a man? Is it to be wealthy, physically strong, intimidating, shouting, or aggressive? Are these traits that we often see espoused by what we've come to associate with masculinity? Is it to achieve nebulous "success" as defined by others, and at any cost? Is masculinity dependent on the admiration of others, and upon the validation of our romantic interests? Is this what is central to being a man? Are we falling for a false narrative? Or are these phenomena just a symptom of our confusion, and the result of not having a clear vision of what being a man can entail?
My experience tells me that by adopting these notions, we underestimate and undervalue what a man can be, giving way to and rationalizing insecurities. We assume, through this model, that we cannot deal with certain experiences with grace and severely limit our growth. Are we not suffocating our freedom by buying into these narratives? Perhaps it is our lack of role models that deprives us of formative experiences during childhood, of seeing men be a pillars of love and calm for others. Seeing them be truly loved and respected, without the need for any gimmicks, silver tongue, status games or other forms of compensation we are continuous told me need by companies and influencers.
No, I believe the reality of being a man is much more profound than that. That we are leaving so much on the table by not having this compass. That it can seem daunting, but infinitely rewarding. I also don't view it as a stressful obligation that needs to be met otherwise we are unworthy. Rather, an invitation. I believe our natural inclination and the identity in which we flourish most are far from these stereotypes. It seems to me that it is blocked and occluded by many factors. And the path to actualizing it is of acceptance. It is time to seek out an identity that defies all those gurus who try to make us feel insecure, to try to be like them, to buy their products, to keep trying to replicate techniques that only reinforce self-doubt and the idea that we cannot embody who we want to be, live the life we want without chasing shiny status symbols.
No, to be a man is much more than that.
The idea of a man is to be able to fully feel one's emotions, one's fears, without panicking, without changing one's behavior, and doing the loving right thing. People think that feeling weakens you, controls you. But a man still has the agency to choose how he responds to them without cowering and escaping them, and therefore blinding himself. A man can feel his sorrow and still show up to work. A man can feel insecure but not run away and go for what he wants. A man can feel small and not hide from others, but share his vulnerability and still choose to step up. A man can let himself feel desperate and needy but choose to respect his integrity and not try to control the situation to suppress how he feels. The beautiful thing is, you don't have to be there. We are often told that unless we hit the mark, we are shunned and not respected. I have found that to not be true, and my imperfect attempts to be open, to hold space, to feel, have brought people closer to me and gave them the opportunity to help me grown and support me when I am vulnerable. It created the space for people to accept me the way I am once I took the step to be vulnerable and reveal myself. And that has helped shed so many insecurities.
Being a man is to have the courage to love, whether vulnerable or with tough love, and boundaries. It is to choose freedom and feeling through pain rather than contracting and escaping. It is to be able to give space, to serve others, to love them, to support them. To show one's weakness without trying to escape it, while working on improving. It is to be resilient, resourceful, and proactive in doing what seems to be right without the need for control. It is loving oneself and not chasing validation from others. It is to love without expecting in return, which is very different from being used. It is to tell the truth even when it is difficult. It is to, with inner calm and gentleness, confront someone with the appropriate intensity when they hurt others, or themselves. It is to be your brother's keeper. It is to forgive. It is to protect those you love. It is to weather the storm of love with as much calm as possible. It is to let go of the need to prove oneself. It is to be an anchor. It is to take life with humor. It is to love others as fully-fledged human beings and not as a means to an end.
It is to realize that sexual gratification does not make a man, and yet to fearlessly and compassionately give yourself to your partner. To realize that wealth and status cannot weld inner rifts. It is to comfort one's inner child when its demons terrify it. It is to be a light onto this world and give space to the darkness. It is to accept responsibility and uphold it. It is to be free from the fear of losing freedom. These are all not exclusive to men, but qualities latent within us all.
However, if we decide to be men, let us be this sort of forgotten, powerful man. A man that does not need to belittle, a man that does not need to abuse, a man that recognizes his own beauty and strength and has faith in it when he feels small. That allows love to come in. A man that does not need to retaliate when others disturb him. That recognizes that nothing can reduce the being within, its potential, and the beauty of the world it projects into its consciousness through his eyes.
Men, believe in yourself. You can be who you want to be. You can create the life you want. You can attract the one you love. But society is letting you down. Instead of giving you tools that work, it shoves you on an eternal treadmill. A treadmill that only profits those who would see you be an obedient soldier, a consumer, a higher bracket taxpayer, or whatever pursuits or status our society brainwashes us to pursue.
You can do all these things, but let it be your choice. Make these things more attainable by growing, by reducing the inner conflict, by using the full power of your emotional awareness and regulation that is only unlocked by feeling. By understanding yourself and others better. By seeing things more clearly, not by following others' techniques and instructions only but by honing your perception and intelligence. So much social conditioning and consumer culture divide us, make us understand each other less, and make us alienated from other genders and groups. Sometimes so they can sell us their narrative and their products. Let us be free.
Easier said than done you say?
We truly live in a world that makes it harder to develop these qualities. Or perhaps these qualities are there, but their potential is suppressed and supplanted by other patterns. We often start off with trauma and life events that interfere with our growth. We try to cope, and the world can be harsh to our coping mechanisms. We model the world as we see it through our hurt selves, and we often blame ourselves for being stuck. Luckily, there are ways to break out of the cycle. It's unfortunate that most of us don't have access to people who guide us through the process. And most importantly, we are constantly distracted by strategies that don't work. Buy this course, go to this gym, buy these clothes, make more money, stress and push yourself, or get lost in the system trying to get therapy. We keep being told we need to be better, and enhance ourselves from the outside in. But we are not taught how much we can affect our mental software, how we can reshape our psyche, heal from patterns, and regain our natural social and emotional skills and self-esteem.
This requires calm, patience, time, and deliberate focus, but our focus is snatched away by millions of distractions and a barrage of FOMO. We are made to feel stressed and insecure, that we need to succeed and maximize our potential, so that we consume more tips, coffee, addictions, or work ourselves to death to the benefit of employers, tax agencies, or the general economy. We are told we don't have time to reflect, that if we make the wrong choice we are screwed, so we need to hurry and follow whatever beaten path is thrown onto us. We perpetually seek guidance, sometimes from people that masquerade as experts on YouTube for views and forget to strengthen our own intuition and remove whatever puts us on a leash.
We are social animals; we process information about social situations unconsciously far more effectively than through our thinking minds. Anxiety can block this, so we assume we lack knowledge and need to learn. We resent the anxiety and fight it, and get stuck in a perpetual battle we cannot win because we are using the wrong method. Then we blame ourselves. Make ourselves smaller. And the cycle continues, with more desperate attempts to exit the cycle and find more tips and tricks.
There is a way out, but it feels so counterintuitive that we expect it the least. Meeting ourselves where we are at, exposing ourselves to our fears and weaknesses, growing from there, sharing it with others, feeling—it all makes us feel like we will get stuck. The child that learned these lessons throws a tantrum at the possibility. But we are not children anymore. We needed these strategies in the past, but now they hold us back. We do not need to hide; we are capable of growing and learning to meet our own needs. And that is the way forward.
Do you truly think this kind of man is weak? That he is unable to achieve what he sets out to do? That women will gloss over? I have never been so comfortable and connected to women as when I started letting go of all the things above and being there. Calm, present, joyful, grounded in my own being, and creating space for the both of us; changing the dynamic forever into one of exploration, of love, of excitement, of ease, and of insight for the other person that sees that this mode is possible.
Let's build this reality together. Please, tell me what this made you think. Please argue and object, or ask questions. I am not an authority, but we are here to explore together, think independently and disagree. Perhaps we can reach more nuance and truth that way together. Share your experience with me. Share with me your ideas on how to create a world that does not inhibit the freedom of man but encourages his agency, helps him be better to others, and be a source of flourishing rather than anguish to women. And, let me know if you want me to write more. I have a lot of experience and ideas I haven't shared. If it helps, I will. Want to bounce off ideas on how to start implementing this? Just send me a text and i'll try to share some things that worked with me when I can :)