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2024.05.19 08:07 TheOldWestern May 2024 Fan creation prompts

Something I’ll experiment with is posting prompt lists I have in storage for you writers, artists, whatever out there. Most of the ones I have are from ancient LiveJournal communities but this one is special in that it’s from an ancient FE site. Internet Archive link is at the top (though be warned, it’s in Japanese and on iOS the text is garbled.)
In summary, these are 100 FE-themed prompts that I’m posting here for your usage (Google translated, so there may be some awkwardness):

Load
Prepare to attack
Heroine
Loyal Knight
Close call!
Hero
Knight and Princess
Attack!
Join
Class change
Arena
Treasure found
Fluttering
Dancing in the sky
Across the desert
Wound
Brother and sister
Healing
Dragon's blood
Rage
Warrior
Time to rest
It has to be you
Wind
Frozen land
Triangle attack!
Heavy
Beautiful long-haired swordsman
Valkyrie
Rival
Take aim
Go at your own pace
Rescue
Revenge
Bonds
The Captive Princess
Goodbye
Sleep
Mage
Friendship
Noble and Commoner
Risking My Life
Not Yet!
I Can Be of Help
Grassland
Unstoppable
Persuasion
Princess
Prayer
Light and Darkness
Dragoon
Domination
Fated Showdown (Part 2)
Wait
A Break
Loved One
Money
Big Brother
Tension
Look-alike
...I'm Bored
Unrequited Love
Cleric
Guard
Beard
I'm sorry
Special training
Ancient magic
Smile
Sword dance
That cute girl
Partner
Sweat
Help me
Night
Friends
...!!
Tears
Fatal blow
Prince
Legendary weapon
Thank you
Blood
Stand by me
Strategy meeting
Confession
Past
Hurry! Hurry!
Heart pounding
Rain
Alone
Happiness
Great duo
Handsome
Banquet
Back
Eve of the final battle
Final battle
The Message of Peace
Wedding Ceremony

Use some of them, all of them, go wild! Some are not very husbando-themed but you can probably still make it work ;)

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2024.05.19 08:05 AtasoyDi Best 10 Online Clothing Stores in the UK [2024]

The United Kingdom boasts the most lucrative ecommerce market in Europe, with the ecommerce industry reaching £103 billion in revenue in 2023. Over 27 million people made online clothing purchases last year, contributing significantly to this growth. ,
We explored the best online clothing stores in the UK, covering product ranges, best sellers, and prices in our article.
Here is a quick summary of the full post:

Gymshark

Overview: Renowned as one of the best ecommerce companies in the UK, Gymshark stands out as a top online sportswear store built on Shopify. The Gymshark products are designed to help and encourage customers to perform at their best and achieve their fitness goals.
Product Range: Fitness apparel for men and women, including t-shirts, leggings, shorts, hoodies, and sports bras.
Best Sellers: Adapt Fleck Seamless Shorts, Crest Tank
Price Range: £20 - £120

Oh Polly

Overview: Oh Polly is a premium women’s fashion brand offering trendy and flattering clothing. It began by selling clothes on eBay and has grown into aone of the leading DTC brands, designing and producing its own garments.
Product Range: Dresses, trousers, swimwear, beachwear, and accessories.
Best Sellers: CALI, ELLI
Price Range: £17 - £220

ASOS

Overview: ASOS aims to provide young adults with a wide variety of high-quality clothing, accessories, and beauty products. The brand stands out for its vast product lineup, featuring premium brands alongside its own range of clothing and accessories.
Product Range: Clothing, accessories, footwear, and beauty items.
Best Sellers: ASOS DESIGN denim jacket, Levi’s t-shirt
Price Range: Under £20 to over £200

Boohoo

Overview: Boohoo is known for trendy, affordable fashion targeted at young adults. The brand leverages a strong social media presence to engage with its audience, particularly through platforms like Instagram.
Product Range: Dresses, tops, shoes, and accessories.
Best Sellers: LINEN PINSTRIPE PUFF SLEEVE CROP TOP, TONAL STRIPE LINEN LOOK SHORTS
Price Range: £24 - £44

Club L London

Overview: Club L London offers “accessible luxury” through its distinctive range of apparel aimed at forward-thinking women. The brand emphasizes quality and unique design, catering to sizes UK 4-24 and US 0-20.
Product Range: Dresses, tailored suits, jumpsuits, accessories.
Best Sellers: EVA, LAW OF ATTRACTION
Price Range: £20 - £200

Represent

Overview: Represent is a British luxury streetwear brand known for its distinctive approach to fashion that merges street style with high-end craftsmanship. The brand is acclaimed for its meticulous attention to detail and the use of premium materials.
Product Range: T-shirts, hoodies, pants, outerwear, accessories.
Best Sellers: REPRESENT OWNERS CLUB HOODIE, REPRESENT OWNERS CLUB T-SHIRT
Price Range: £20 - £900

Motel

Overview: Motel is a vibrant and trendy fashion brand known for its eclectic and vintage-inspired fashion that resonates with young, style-conscious individuals. The brand works with a global team to create trendy, expressive pieces for its core collections.
Product Range: Dresses, trousers, skirts, swimwear, knitwear, accessories.
Best Sellers: Pami Bikini Top, Jarli Hot Pants
Price Range: £22 - £60

Chi Chi London

Overview: Chi Chi London is a vibrant and fashion-forward brand known for its unique, trend-setting designs. The brand prides itself on bringing catwalk-inspired fashion directly to the high street, offering exclusive styles that celebrate individuality.
Product Range: Dresses for various occasions, tops, trousers, skirts, outerwear.
Best Sellers: V Neck Floral Embroidered Lace Midi Dress, Knot Detail Maxi Dress in Champagne
Price Range: Under £50 to around £200

Pretty Little Thing

Overview: Part of the Boohoo Group, PrettyLittleThing is a UK-based fast-fashion brand targeting young women, emphasizing trend-driven styles. The brand operates internationally, focusing on affordable fashion to ensure style accessibility across budgets.
Product Range: Dresses, tops, shoes, accessories, beauty products.
Best Sellers: Petite Basic Grey Cotton Blend Cycle Shorts, Cream Contour Sculpt Short Sleeve T Shirt
Price Range: Starting at £9

Glamorous

Overview: Glamorous offers contemporary and affordable fashion, available in over 30 countries. Known for its contemporary and affordable fashion, the brand thrives on being at the forefront of fashion trends.
Product Range: Dresses, jeans, coats, jackets, shoes, accessories.
Best Sellers: Apple-Green Pink Lace Trim Mini-Dress, Fuchsia Ruffle Halterneck Mini-Dress
Price Range: Tops for under £30 to mini dresses over £150

Statistics of Online Clothing Stores in the UK

Current Buyers: Over 27 million UK residents purchased clothing online in 2023, expected to increase to over 32 million by 2028.
Ecommerce Revenue from Fashion: In 2023, sales from apparel, shoes, handbags, and accessories contributed nearly one-third of the ecommerce revenue in the UK, surpassing £35 billion.
Revenue Forecast: The fashion ecommerce market is projected to grow by £14.3 billion by 2029, reaching nearly £47 billion.
Market Penetration: The penetration rate of apparel ecommerce stood at 15.2%.

Demographics & Shopping Trends

Millennials (Ages 27-42): 70% reported primarily shopping online for clothing and footwear in Q2 2023.
Generation Z: 50% preferred online shopping for apparel.
Primary Age Groups & Gender Differences: The largest segment of mobile clothing shoppers was those aged 25-34, accounting for 52.3%. Men were 4% more likely than women to shop online for apparel.

Conclusion: Leading Online Stores in the UK

The UK’s top online clothing stores are reshaping how we think about fashion shopping. From impressive growth in the overall UK ecommerce sector to distinctive shopping preferences and options, online stores are meeting and often exceeding customer expectations. Whether seeking the latest trends, best deals, or most sustainable choices, online clothing shopping offers many options and benefits.
If you want to explore statistics or ecommerce-related content, you can browse the pieces we have crafted earlier:

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2024.05.19 08:00 DotDense4951 Theory on Judith

Here is my theory on why Judith is such a bitch. I guess its more of an analysis but I think Judith had anxiety all the time growing up. She looks like she fought a lot with her sister but overall I think she was spineless and delicate but blamed her way of being on her family. Even alan mentions in the first few episodes something like "what happened to that delicate cute girl I met"
Once Judith got married, she thought she found her happily ever after. Her unhappiness was in the past She then lived with Alan and realized how unhappy she still is. Alan was controlling, annoying, suffocating and probably walked all over her at the beginning. She tried couples counseling to get her voice heard only once she started going her therapist sided with her and validated her feelings. Therefore over time, her resentment only grew and she began fighting with Alan a lot. Alan even mentions that their marriage went down the drain after couples counseling. Because she still was unhappy, she decided to leave Alan and felt bad for him because she knew it wasn't all his fault. After her divorce she realized how unhappy she still was and came to the conclusion she was gay. Most likely to help her cope with the fear of being single and reason why she threw away her safety blanket. Once she started dating men again, she realized that the dating market was incredibly difficult for a single mom in her 30s so she blamed Alan for this stating many times "You took the best years of my life"
So still unhappy, she takes anti depressants, goes to a divorce support group (all bitter women who blame the men) and the more she stays in this state of regret she realizes how much Alan "stole" from her. Her bitterness continues and she punishes Alan little by little. She then meets herb and was happy with him for a bit, and then she hated her life again. She then sees alan with someone younger and prettier (kandi) and hates that she can be replaced with someone better, but more than anything hates that Alan is happy and she isn't.
She begins letting her anger out on herb becoming extremely toxic and pushing him away to the point where he cheats. We can hate Judith because she was a bitch YESS, I also feel sorry for her.. Just like Alan both refuse to grow and continue to self-distruct. Makes sense why they attracted each other in the first place. Their marriage was meant to change them, instead they further regressed.

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2024.05.19 07:55 Micah_Bell-1907 One potentially dumb thing I was wondering about BoJack having power over women in Xerox of a Xerox

There’s a part where BoJack says that he never forced himself on any women. For example, he and Wanda got together consenusually, and while it was definitely odd for him to date a woman who was basically 20, it was a completely consensual relationship they shared together. Biscuits then says that BoJack doesn’t force himself on these women, but understand the power differential he holds over the women. BoJack then asks “So I can’t be with any woman I might have power over? Who does that leave with me with?” And like, I’m kinda wondering the same thing. He has completely consensual relationships with Wanda and Princess Carolyn, but because he’s a celebrity and PC was his agents assistant, he’s abusing his power? Like people can’t meet in the workplace? And yeah if him dating anyone is just him having a power differential over women, who the hell can he date? I’m not saying he hasn’t done shady shit with women, he definitely has. But he’s also had consensual relationships that are apparently not okay because he as a celebrity ‘held more power’. Who can he possibly date without doing that?

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2024.05.19 07:53 Contrapuntobrowniano Are you aware that the "i don't do casual" is a problematic trend?

I'll go straight up to the point: women are screwing up the casual dating scene with their compulsive search for commitment.
Its super weird how many of you actually think that a man that "wants to have fun without commitment" is a bad man, or immature, or whatever. In first stance, this signals pretty hard that you don't know yourselves. Women are not men: you just don't function fast. Attraction biulds up for you as you get involved, so striving for a LTR from the very beginning is friendly fire, at best. Taking things slowly is a must, and for that to happen you have to be open minded about the guy you're, quite literally, just knowing. Also, men don't function with a relationship mindset from the very head start. We want to know you too, but we don't want to be simultaneously risking rejection, risking ghosting, planning for dates, paying things up, coping with lack of reciprocity and setting a good vibe all together with being constantly pushed for a commitment when we don't even know if we're sexually compatible. Thinking we have to go through all that if we want to know that is, at best, delusional. We're being super generous here, and get paid with the worst of the indifferences.
This also doesn't match with the history of sexual revolution or modernity. The whole point of women having more sexual freedom was that you could engage in sexually liberated activities, like men do. That's why going from "sexually liberated" to "contractless marriage" is just a stupid take. As society, we expected women to have a more active role in dating, instead of becoming super conservative, self-righteous, and unreasonably selective. We might as well get back to arranged marriage and would get a lot of those LTRs statistics back in track again. Do you realize these things are messing everithyng up?

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2024.05.19 07:46 Striking-Respect-711 How To Help My Cousins

Hey,
So I just want some unbiased feedback from people regarding if my cousins were abused growing up. They both would insist they weren't, but the older one (27F same age as me) is currently in rehab for alcohol abuse after her 3rd DUI after moving across the country to California by herself. She's made a LOT of bad decisions over the years but she used to be my best friend when we were younger... I know she's suffered from ana/bul for a long time and had a miscarriage when we were 13. She has openly had issues with her dad (my uncle) since we were teens, but has verbalized for the last few years on and off that "nobody cares about her" and "her family treats her like shit"...
My younger cousin (24M) I currently live with and love to absolute pieces but he's also been through a lot. His parents kicked him out during covid at the age of 20 with no job because they were moving almost 2 hours away and wanted to live child free. I've expressed many a time how shocking this was to my cousin when he told me about it and it severely changed my overall outlook on my aunt and uncle. He couch surfed for years off and on until I was able to get him a job working with me and he was able to move in with me and my best friend. We've lived together for over a year now and things were overall happy but recently he's been dealing with a lot again. My best friend and my cousin are both queer and a messed up situation occurred on the Grindr app between the two of them, but long story short my best friend ended up coordinating a voyeur event involving my cousin.
This has caused shock waves throughout the house obviously and my cousin has every right to be extremely upset. After a lot of confusion, some things were cleared up from the extra person that was involved with this and it was proven that my best friend did not touch my cousin. This does NOT change the fact that the entire situation was effed up and orchestrated, but I do believe with intense therapy for both of them that something can be worked out...
However, I also do not believe that with all of the stuff going on with my cousin that he had any right to lash out at me in the car for explaining how I feel like our coworkers are harassing me at work. For context, my cousin is into edgelord dumb alt right style comedy and likes to make transphobic, homophobic, racist, etc jokes at work sometimes. The trade field I am in is almost all men, and I am one of two women in our whole shop. There were more before, but after the last one quit for a different job, all these jokes have just gotten SO much worse. I constantly feel like I am getting egged on for my reaction, one example was last week i was told I should "get stung by a bee for the experience" after talking about how my grandma was deathly allergic. This kind of things been happening almost weekly since January and I vented to my cousin in the car ride home (I give him car rides almost every work day) and he just absolutely blew up on me.
He screamed about how I need to "Get the eff over it", how he has to tell me like it is because when I get upset it ruins the whole vibe for him and he just wants to have fun at work. I told him that edgy jokes are fun when theyre NOT pointed directly at someone and he just wouldnt put himself into my shoes and continually told me to get thicker skin. There was a lot more that was said but long story short, he basically cannot accept that he could be wrong in this situation and even if it was all jokes, if it hurts someone its not worth making them.
I know that's how he was raised, his dad specifically gives no effs about equality, "woke culture", etc and they've always been VERY well off their whole lives so my cousins feel that anybody who has trauma or gets upset about "little things" need to suck it up because that's what their parents told them. My uncle still calls depression "the dark place" I do know that he's currently in therapy but I fear that the damage to his kids is too far gone. My dad (my uncle's brother) died in 2010, and my mom is a single mom whos been working at a grocery store for 41 years but can still find time to love and empathize with her child. She was also very upset to hear that my cousin was kicked out during covid and she bought him a queen size mattress to sleep on while he stayed at her house with my sister for a few months before moving in with me.
I just want to know the best way to move forward with my cousins. The older one in California I fear is a lost cause, she's been told to move back home so many times and she just wont... The cousin that I live with didn't come home last night after our blow up because I texted him setting my boundaries going forward (not allowed to use my coffee and no more rides to work) and texted back shooting off things to hit below the belt (like my weight, how I am "rotting" because I dont go out and see friends every night like he does, etc.) I want to be there for him because of all the things he is going through but I also need to protect my peace.
Thoughts?

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2024.05.19 07:38 throw_me_awaylater Women shouldn’t be the only ones wined, dined, pampered, and prepared surprise dates for. Question for the men: what are some date ideas you would want your ladies to plan that may tickle your pickle and pleasantly surprise you?

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2024.05.19 07:37 throw_me_awaylater Women shouldn’t be the only ones wined, dined, pampered, and prepared surprise dates for. Question for the men: what are some date ideas you would want your ladies to plan that may tickle your pickle and pleasantly surprise you?

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2024.05.19 07:35 CumCheckMeOut Just a little lesbian babbling

So, I've (30 f) been with mostly men for a huge majority of my life. I felt I was meant to service men, not for any specific religious reason, but moreso trauma from my childhood. Anyway, I tried hard to fit the mold. Even married a textbook narcissist at 19 and going through an abusive rollercoaster. With them, I came out as queer for the first time, though he didn't like that much. Fastfoward past our divorce and many other men I dated to fit the mold of what I was supposed to be- in service of men- I finally started dating women. I came out as a lesbian at 26, or around that time, and got into a three-year relationship with a horrible abusive woman I met online and moved states to be with, only to watch her spend money on weed and neglect her son. After that, I dated a few other women; one was even an engagement, but that ended on a raw-end. I dated one man a final time, trying to fix myself, but I couldn't fake the motions and he fit the narcissistic mold my exes tend to fit, I met my current spouse while living with my ex (we were no longer together) and his then girlfriend. They are nonbinary and swept in to save me from the chaos that was my life. Since meeting them, my relationship with women have changed to become healthier and I feel more confident. Through their patience and self love, I finally came out fully as a lesbian and haven't looked back. People judge just because my partner is amab nonbinary, but I feel the title of a polyamorous lesbian fits me best because they have been the only person I've ever felt a genuine romantic attachment to, including my ex-husband, who isn't a female. I love them very much, to the ends of the earth, and they've accepted my sexuality as a best friend and lover should, with joy and acceptance. They have been who has helped me grow more confident and I'm just using subreddits for lesbians for the first time and it's exhilarating! Thank you for listening to me ramble <3

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2024.05.19 07:26 JaydenChip Am I aroace, or just some microlabel?

I forced myself to be attracted to people because I thought that's what I was supposed to do because all the other kids my age were being in love; I just became really good friends with my 'crushes' and never wanted to kiss, hold hands, or do more than just hang out; I never thought any of my classmates were attractive; if society deems someone attractive, then so do I; I never realize people are genuinely drawn to people they think are attractive and want to DO things with them; I think romance is gross when I see it IRL or between live-action people and think it should just stay in books or non-live-action media. I just think people of any gender presentation look pretty. Growing up, I developed a 'crush' on anyone who was nice to me; I had a crush on ALL my friends and just wanted to hang out with them a lot; I got super uncomfortable and my attraction faded when we became 'intimate' with me like holding hands or wanting to date; and I feel this towards ALL genders, so I thought I was pan. But inside my head is the only place I feel sexual and romantic attraction, and it's only between non-live action characters and is always experienced from a 3rd-person perspective. Love and sex are just a storyline to me; I feel the romantic and sexual emotions of the character I'm telling the story's perspective from, but once the storyline ends, so does my attraction. I have a libido; I still experience personal desires, but I find that they can be managed easily on my own. I feel very repulsed by the idea of having sex with someone else. But, when I do get aroused, it's sexual attraction to anyone of any gender, but again, it's viewed from the 3rd-person perspective. After the solo mumbo jumbo, the arousal and sexual attraction fade into nothing; I even get repulsed by sex and romance for a long while after solo spicy adventures. I genuinely don't understand how somebody looks at someone else and wants to touch them, kiss them, and have sex with them. It's always been "Oh, they're pretty!"; it's never been "Oh, they're pretty; I want to date/have sex with them!". When I was a kid, I was a hopeless romantic; I wanted to find my soulmate, but the way of doing that was unrealistic. It was more like a remix of a Disney movie rather than something I actually wanted. I saw other kids my age have crushes, and adults always asked me if I was going to get a boyfriend, so I always thought it was something I was supposed to want, but I don't. I'm fine with being single forever. I'm happy this way, but I also don't want to do anything with anyone, so I feel as though I'm somehow on both the a-spec and m-spec. I’m not sure how exactly. All I know is that I consider both men and women attractive, but I don’t necessarily care about their gender identity when it comes to finding them attractive or not. I honestly can't understand how someone wants to do romantic or sexual things with another person. I dated this one guy in my freshman year, and it only lasted a week, and I avoided him like the plague the whole time. I felt all mushy and blushy when we talked and did things together, but once we started dating, I got super uncomfortable. We texted, and I was a huge flirt, saying we could hold hands and all that stuff , but when I went to school and he wanted to hold hands, I didn't want that. I didn't like being touched in a romantic way. I'm fine with my friends, though. What's confusing is that, at the same time as never wanting or feeling romantic attraction, I still want to do those things. I literally only feel romantic and sexual attraction to fictional characters. Because I am attracted to [female OC] and [male OC] (currently speaking, not speaking about past fictional crushes). I always have the strongest desire to be with [female OC], touch her, kiss her, and do other things, but I don't feel those things in the real world. She is literally my soulmate. Yes, romance and sex are still just a storyline to me, but I would say that I am in love with her. And sometimes the same can be said for [male OC]. There are some moments where I, Rowan, will get blushy and just smitten over him, but again, it's never in the real world. Would this even be considered a romantic or sexual attraction? I think it would. It's very rare when I feel something for real-world people, but it's always on the a-spectrum, like cupioromantic or grey-, for example.
— Rowan (they/he)

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2024.05.19 07:26 SusFairy Feeling defeated as a single, 25f putting herself out there (long rant).

Looking for others who can relate and who may have felt this same way at one point. Advice is welcome. ❤️
I’m in my mid-twenties now and have been single for 6 months. My ex was a nice man, but he was not able to meet my needs and often invalidated my feelings. He wasn’t the first man to do this to me. So I started going to therapy regularly, gained some self confidence back, and have been vigorously putting myself out there on dating apps and in real life too. All my closest friends are in happy relationships, and I also want to meet my best friend and share my life with someone special. Currently, I’m seeing someone as a fwb, and he’s great, but he doesn’t check all my boxes for a relationship. So I continue on with my search as a single woman in her 20s. To be very honest, I feel extremely lonely. I believe this is partly due to the culture of dating apps, and perhaps modern dating rituals in general. Right now, I’m on Tinder and Hinge and I’ve been love-bombed on these apps multiple times. We will talk and have great conversations for a week or two, getting on really well, and then radio silence. Sometimes I’ve even gone on dates with these people. Men are also constantly not replying when I message first, which confuses me as I thought this was a positive thing for a woman to do in their eyes… If they do reply, maybe we will have a decent banter and a couple back a forth messages, and then they become so dry! Their replies turn into single words for reasons I struggle to understand. The last thing Ive noticed on the apps is the absolute lack of initiative these men have in making plans to meet in person. It feels like this ball is always left in my court. To some, this isn’t an issue, but I want a man who is ambitious and assertive. It’s as though they tip toe around making a plan, leaving hints but never being straight forward. And this isn’t just men in their 20s I’m meeting on the apps, it’s men in their 30s too. It’s gotten to a point where I am frequently disappointed and exhausted by the culture. Especially as I curate my profile to get more matches, put effort into witty responses and try to message first as much as I can. Sometimes I tell myself that I need to take a break and get off the apps, but then I think that will only put me one-step backwards from where I want to be, which is with my person.
If it were easier to meet someone in-person, then I would not be bothering with online dating. Unfortunately, no one goes up and talks to you at the bar anymore either. Maybe this is just an issue where I live. I’m curious to know if other women find the same thing when they go out in their city.
Anyways! The rant is over now. I hope this helps some other women out there feel seen too. Good luck to all us single ladies, because we need it!

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2024.05.19 07:25 Smart_Rain5105 AITA for not dropping the fact that my boyfriend goes on online dating sites / webcams all the time?

Here’s some background information to help you guys assess the situation, I am a 60 year old woman, and this is a relatively new problem with my on and off again boyfriend for the past 13 years. It’s been a rollercoaster we’ve lived with eachother for multiple years and we’ve also broken up three times over the 13 years, the most recent breakup was my decision two years prior to this, and guy (we will name my boyfriend guy) took the break up very hard. We recently about 6 months ago started talking again and got back together, the sex that we’ve had now has been tremendously better than ever before it’s easily the best I’ve ever had, he performs differently it’s like he’s a whole different man in bed.
He recently got a new job a year ago and who else but his ex wife to work there as well! Him and his ex wife ended on bad terms 20 years ago and hadn’t spoken since, but when they saw each other at work they kinda became friends again. Anyways during sometime between the last time we broke up and since we got back together now, he had moved in with his ex wife because he had to leave where he was living at before. I later learned from guy that ex wanted to rekindle relationship, but allegedly guy had no interest and denied such offer.
He finally moved out from his ex a few months ago to his own home that he shares with roommates. It was weird to me once we got back together I had basically let everyone I know aware that we were back together but guy didn’t want to tell any of his family or friends or even his ex wife that has been blowing him up all the time.
He can’t really give me a reason why he hasn’t told anyone his response is “I don’t know” so that got me feeling a type of way, and I couldn’t but help go on his phone one night while he was asleep. Now he told me previously that he goes on porn sites (like every guy) which I have no problem with, what I have a problem with is this isn’t just porn it’s online dating sites and webcams that talk directly to the girls, I told him how uncomfortable this made me feel and he promised he would stop doing it immediately, some more background info, guy and my son have always been very close and kept contact thru all, and son let me know that since last break up guy had spent about $5k on dating sites (the shady ones that were probably fake) chatting with the girls.
Anyways after our talk about how he would stop, in short he didn’t, he would claim he keeps just getting notifications and doesn’t know how to make them go away so he would click it trying to delete it and couldn’t figure out how. Now I’ll give it to him at the time that sounded reasonable and I beleived him, I tried to delete them myself then from his phone, and I did but somehow the sites kept popping up in his history whenever I checked his phone. He again said they were just notifications but shoutout to google it clearly says what he typed in the search bar and then the links he clicked after typing.
At this point he just went irate and I think it’s cause he ran out of excuses and he just completely lashed out and went berserk, he began telling me this was all my problem and that I was the crazy one, every time this argument would come up (all the time) he would tell me it’s not his doing it viruses or notifications popping up , and always promises to me it’s not him going on the sites he’s just trying to get rid of them, but after every argument the sites kept popping up in his recent history, my instincts have been telling me this whole time that he is trying to establish a relationship (‘s) and is just using me in the meantime until something better comes along.
Sorry for writing a whole book but any input would be seriously appreciated! Thank you!!

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2024.05.19 07:22 TraditionFun53 Women, how would you feel if a guy deliberately pursued you because he thought you were less attractive and therefore more attainable?

I’ve been thinking a lot about dating dynamics and attractiveness, and I wanted to get some perspective from women here. I often see discussions where women say that men could get laid more easily if they lowered their standards. This got me wondering: How would you feel if a guy deliberately went for you because he thought you were less attractive and therefore more attainable?
To clarify, this isn’t about how often people get approached in general, but specifically about the idea that someone might choose to pursue you not because of a genuine attraction, but because they perceive you as an “easier” option compared to more conventionally attractive women.

1. Have you ever felt like a man’s “lowered standard”? 2. How would you feel if you knew a guy saw you as more attainable because he thought you were less attractive?

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2024.05.19 07:20 Latter-Mission-9723 I'm not attracted to anyone i meet on dating apps.

I (30F) left an 8 year relationship about 6 months ago (we broke up almost 1 year ago but there's been 6 months of a grey area), and honestly I'm starting to regret it. I was really unfulfilled in that relationship and we were incompatible. He wanted a house in the middle of nowhere, I wanted to live in the city. He was anti-social, strongly disliked people and I was craving a social life. He was a homebuddy and I felt a bit trapped/stuck in that relationship. I felt like it had run its course, but we still had a great sex life and we got along really well. Our lifegoals just did not align, which was making me unhappy. But I miss him sometimes.
The issue is, I've tried dating apps, and it turns me off so badly, I'm starting to question if I am even into men to begin with. It's also hard to meet people organically.
I can't develop any chemistry on dating apps, with anyone. In my early 20's, at the start of dating app, I had a lot of fun on there, I hooked up with a couple guys, but now I can't even understand how to even proceed. I can hold conversations easily, I can tell the guys I go on a date with are often interested, the night usually goes well, we talk a lot and laugh a lot. But I don't feel any attraction to any of them, ever. I always feel like I'm just spending time with a friend, but it's usually not what they're looking for.
It never goes beyond a first date, I usually turn down a second date because I don't want to lead them on. They're usually fairly attractive. I'm never really excited for any of them and don't feel like keeping contact after the first date, aside maybe to stay friends sometimes. I still have a sex drive. I miss both sexual and emotional intimacy, I really crave it, I just can't seem to get there with anyone. I feel like I physically cringe whenever a man tries to get physical with me (like touching my arm).
Is this normal? Is anyone else like that? Should I push through second dates? How do you deal with this?

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2024.05.19 07:12 Lefthandedguy_Pandey Should I get it ?

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2024.05.19 07:07 Stage-Piercing727 Best Canvas Gym Bags

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Looking for a stylish and durable gym bag? Look no further! In this article, we bring you a comprehensive roundup of the best canvas gym bags available today. Whether you're a fitness enthusiast or a casual gym-goer, these bags are designed to provide ample storage, comfort, and convenience during your workout sessions. So if you're in the market for a reliable workout companion, read on to find the perfect canvas gym bag for your needs.
From stylish and functional designs to lightweight and spacious options, our selection of canvas gym bags caters to every preferences and requirements. Discover the top-rated options and make an informed decision on the perfect bag to accompany you throughout your fitness journey.

The Top 13 Best Canvas Gym Bags

Premium Waxed Canvas Duffel Bag for Outdoor Adventures - The Readywares Waxed Canvas Duffel Bag delivers exceptional quality and durability, featuring a spacious interior and robust construction that can withstand the toughest conditions.
Heavy Duty Military Canvas Duffel Bag - The WHITEDUCK Hoplite Heavy Duty Military Canvas Duffel Bag is perfect for adventurers, with its unmatched wear & tear resistance, reinforced stress points for supreme durability, and military-grade zippers for hassle-free packing.
Extra Large Capacity Canvas Duffel Bag - The YoKelly Canvas Duffel Bag provides 100L capacity and lightweight convenience with a 1.2 lbs weight, making it an ideal choice for travel, camping, fishing, and sports.
Durable Military Canvas Duffle Bag for Long Trips - Rothco's Canvas Double Strap Duffle Bag - Military-grade durability, 22oz heavyweight cotton canvas material, perfect for travel or sports, with adjustable backpack straps and a large side pocket for easy organization.
Steeletex Antimicrobial Gym Bag in Navy - Experience unmatched hygiene and durability with the Steele Canvas Steeletex Gym Bag in Navy, featuring BACshield-treated water-resistant liner, ample storage, and an adjustable strap - designed for fitness enthusiasts.
Classic Canvas Duffle Bag for Travel - The Trailmaker 30L Canvas Duffel Bag with adjustable shoulder strap is perfect for travel, gym, and storage, offering a spacious, lightweight design with both hand and shoulder straps, ideal for adults and teenagers.
Classic Vintage Duffle Bag - The Sweetbriar Classic Weekender Canvas Duffle Bag offers a stylish, spacious and durable solution for overnight and weekend travel, gym sessions, and more, while being kind to your wallet through Direct-to-Consumer pricing.
MOLLYGAN Large Capacity Canvas Gym Bag - A stylish and spacious canvas gym bag with a shoe compartment, perfect for travel, yoga, and gym use, offering exceptional durability and functionality for both men and women.
Military-Grade Canvas Duffel Backpack - Introducing the modern military-grade canvas duffel backpack: a must-have lightweight travel companion featuring strong adjustable straps, heavy-duty cross-stitched handles, and a high-capacity interior for optimal storage and comfort.
Extra Large Yoga Mat Duffel Bag with Hammock - Experience the perfect balance of style and function with the eco-friendly, extra-large Kindfolk Yoga Mat Duffel Bag, featuring a trendy pattern and ample room to carry your mats, blocks, and towels.
Casual Canvas Travel Gym Bag for daily jog or trip - The Vagabond Traveler 18" Medium Hand Lift Canvas Travel Gym Bag C72.Khaki offers a durable, stylish, and organized solution for your on-the-go fitness needs, boasting a vintage aesthetic with classic brass hardware accents.
Durable Waxed Canvas Duffle Bag - Steele Canvas Waxed Canvas Duffle Bag: A stylish, roomy and durable bag with nickel plated zipper and adjustable shoulder strap, perfect for your travel adventures.
Durable and Versatile Military-Grade Canvas Gym Bag - Experience top-quality, heavy-duty duffel bag craftsmanship with Bear&Bark's range of military-grade Canvas Gym Bags, perfect for every adventure – from the great outdoors to stylish travel.

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Reviews

🔗Premium Waxed Canvas Duffel Bag for Outdoor Adventures

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I recently had the chance to test out the Readywares Waxed Canvas Duffel Bag on a camping trip, and it truly exceeded my expectations. The first thing that caught my eye was its timeless design and high-quality waxed canvas construction. It's no wonder this bag has a rating of 4.7 out of 5, as users consistently rave about its craftsmanship.
Before my trip, I was a little concerned about the stiffness of the waxed canvas, but it quickly softened up as I loaded it with my camping gear. I particularly appreciated the padded handle and base support, which made carrying the duffel bag comfortable and easy, regardless of how heavy it got.
The storage options in this Readywares duffel bag are quite impressive as well. With multiple compartments, I had no trouble keeping my items organized throughout my trip. The only downside was the lack of an interior pouch, which would have been beneficial for smaller items.
In conclusion, the Readywares Waxed Canvas Duffel Bag is a reliable and stylish choice for anyone in need of a high-quality carryall. Its craftsmanship, storage options, and overall size make it a perfect companion for various activities, ranging from weekend getaways to camping trips. However, it could benefit from the addition of an interior pouch to keep smaller items secure.

🔗Heavy Duty Military Canvas Duffel Bag

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The WHITEDUCK Hoplite Heavy Duty Military Canvas Duffel Bag in Blue is an indispensable travel companion that you can take along no matter where life leads you. This sturdy bag boasts a whopping 204L capacity, perfect for packing all your essentials for a weekend getaway or longer excursions.
One of its key features is the high-quality, double-fill cotton canvas with a tight weave, ensuring durability and wear and tear resistance. The weatherproof fabric is reinforced at all stress points too, making it incredibly sturdy. Plus, the fully zipped compartment offers ample space to store larger items without any hassle.
A standout feature is the heavy-duty, full-length zippers that can handle oversized and bulky items with ease. The soft and ultra-reliable cotton carry handles equipped with a Velcro tag for quick lifting and carrying add convenience. And let's not forget about the adjustable, removable padded shoulder strap for maximum comfort.
The bag's versatility is another significant highlight. Whether you're going camping, using it for gym storage, or during your daily commute, the Hoplite Duffel Bag adapts seamlessly to all your needs.
On the downside, some users have mentioned that the bag's dimensions can be a bit confusing initially, but after figuring it out, its performance has exceeded all expectations.
In a nutshell, the WHITEDUCK Hoplite Heavy Duty Military Canvas Duffel Bag combines durability, capacity, and versatility to provide a top-notch travel experience. Its excellent workmanship gives it the robustness and longevity you desire in a duffel bag. This product is undoubtedly a worthwhile investment for those seeking a reliable travel companion.

🔗Extra Large Capacity Canvas Duffel Bag

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I recently found myself in need of a reliable and spacious bag for a camping trip, and that's when I came across the YoKelly 36 inch Canvas Duffel Bag. I have to say, this high-quality canvas duffel has been a game-changer for all my outdoor adventures since then. I was initially skeptical about the capacity given its light weight of just 1.2 lbs, but boy, was I in for a pleasant surprise.
This Deluxe Canvas Duffel Bag truly delivers on its promise of a spacious 100L storage capacity, making it perfect for travel, camping, fishing, and sports as well. The high-quality canvas ensures durability and the solid stitching provides extra strength and resistance against wear and tear. Its dimensions of 36x13x13 inches are just the right size for packing all my essentials without feeling bulky or cumbersome.
However, one minor drawback I noticed is that it only has one compartment for organization. While this didn't cause any major issues during my camping trip, I do wish there were additional pockets for smaller items to keep everything more organized.
Overall, the YoKelly 36 inch Canvas Duffel Bag has made my life so much easier and more convenient, offering ample storage space in a lightweight, durable, and versatile package. If you're on the hunt for the perfect travel, camping, or sports bag, I highly recommend giving this duffel a try.

🔗Durable Military Canvas Duffle Bag for Long Trips

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When I first laid my eyes on the Rothco Gi Style Canvas Double Strap Duffle Bag, I knew that it was a perfect match for my travel needs. This military-inspired bag checks all the boxes for durability, ample storage space, and versatile carrying options.
Made of 22 oz heavyweight cotton canvas material, it's been built with utmost durability, making it the go-to option for all your long and short trips. The generous dimensions of 22 inches x 38 inches allow me to pack plenty of clothes and gear effortlessly.
I especially love the adjustable shoulder straps and the sturdy handle for conveniently carrying it like a suitcase or a backpack. This flexibility gives me the freedom to pack even more stuff while ensuring comfort on long commutes.
The additional side pocket with a snap closure is a bonus for keeping small items or travel documents organized and easily accessible. I've been using this duffle bag for everything from overnight trips to the gym and it has exceeded my expectations in every way.
However, some users have reported a strong odor upon receiving the item. This can be a bit off-putting, but a couple of washes usually do the trick.
The Rothco Gi Style Canvas Double Strap Duffle Bag is a smart buy for anyone looking for a reliable, large-capacity bag made from high-quality materials. Its versatile design, durability, and practical features make it an ideal choice for all your travel adventures.

🔗Steeletex Antimicrobial Gym Bag in Navy

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I recently got introduced to the Steeletex Gym Bag by Steele Canvas, and I must say, I've been thoroughly impressed with its performance and quality. The first thing that caught my eye was the unique construction material - it's not your regular canvas or nylon bag. This one has an antimicrobial vinyl coating that not only provides water resistance but also ensures easy cleaning.
One of the standout features of this bag is its size. It's perfect for holding all my gym clothes, sneakers, and even my favorite water bottle. I've been using it regularly since I got it, and it has shown no signs of wear and tear yet.
Speaking of which, the durability of this bag is another highlight. The 18.5 oz. antimicrobial vinyl coated nylon liner is not just water and tear-resistant, but it's also treated with BACshield, which ensures that mold, mildew, fungi, or bacteria don't get a chance to grow.
The Steeletex Gym Bag also comes with a couple of convenient pockets - one inside and one outside. These have been incredibly useful for keeping my belongings organized.
As for the design, the black leather hand grips add a touch of class to the overall aesthetic. Besides, the adjustable shoulder strap ensures comfort even during long gym sessions.
However, there's one thing that I would've appreciated more - if they had included a mesh or ventilated pocket for storing wet clothes or shoes separately. This would have made the bag even more versatile and useful.
But all in all, I've been thoroughly happy with my Steeletex Gym Bag. Its durability, size, and convenience make it an excellent companion for my daily gym visits. Plus, knowing that it's made in America by hardworking American craftsmen adds an extra layer of satisfaction to my purchase. I would highly recommend this bag to anyone looking for a reliable and high-quality gym bag.

🔗Classic Canvas Duffle Bag for Travel

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First off, picture yourself embarking on a weekend getaway with nothing more than this trusty Trailmaker duffel bag at your side. The 30-liter capacity ensures you'll have ample space for all your essentials - be it clothes, shoes, or even your favorite dance attire for weekend classes! And don't worry about wearing it out yet. This durable canvas bag is built to last, so you can make countless travel adventures with it.
One thing I noticed about this bag is how versatile it really is. Not only does it serve as an excellent carry-on for flights, but it proved to be quite handy for daily trips to the gym as well. Its lightweight design ensures easy portability, especially when combined with its adjustable shoulder strap. Plus, the simple yet elegant design pairs well with any outfit, whether you're dressing up or down.
However, there are some cons to consider. Some users reported issues with the quality of the bag, particularly the zipper which tends to jam often. The lack of compartments inside can also lead to a messy bag when overstuffed. However, considering its affordable price point and high ratings among users, these minor drawbacks seem overshadowed by the overall positive experience most reviewers have had with this bag.
Overall, the Trailmaker duffel bag is a reliable choice for individuals seeking a spacious, durable, and affordable bag for travel, gym use, or everyday needs. Despite some reported issues with the zipper and lack of compartments, the majority of reviewers seem satisfied with their purchase, highlighting the immense utility and convenience offered by this bag.

🔗Classic Vintage Duffle Bag

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I recently had the chance to try out the Sweetbriar Classic Weekender Duffel and I must say, it's been a game-changer for my travel needs. The moment I laid my eyes on its vintage-inspired canvas design with retro rucksack vibe, I knew this bag meant serious style.
One of the features that really stood out was its spacious interior. It comfortably fit all my essentials for a weekend getaway, including clothes, toiletries, and even some extras like a small travel pillow. Speaking of extras, the bag has several pockets both outside and inside, which are perfect for storing smaller items like wallets or keys.
Another thing I appreciated was how easy it was to clean. I'm known for being a bit clumsy, so accidents are inevitable. But with this duffel, a damp cloth was enough to wipe away any spills or stains.
However, there was one issue I encountered. The zipper closure, while sturdy and secure, was a bit tricky to navigate at times. It took me a few attempts to get it right, which felt a little frustrating.
All in all, I'm quite satisfied with the Sweetbriar Classic Weekender Duffel. It's stylish, practical, and well-built, making it an ideal choice for short trips or gym sessions. It's definitely worth considering if you're in the market for a new bag.

🔗MOLLYGAN Large Capacity Canvas Gym Bag

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I've never been the type to travel lightly - I've always packed everything but the kitchen sink. But recently, I stumbled upon this MOLLYGAN Travel Duffel Bag, and I must say, my travel game just leveled up! The black exterior made it perfect for both genders, but what really caught my eye was the superior-quality, soft and smooth canvas material.
The structure of this bag is quite impressive too. The side zipper pocket provided a separate space for my shoes (goodbye, smelly gym bag! ) whereas the spacious main compartment and small zipper pocket proved that even though the bag was large in capacity, it was well-organized.
Its 35 liters capacity was more than enough to accommodate all my laptops, A4 books, clothes, and daily essentials. Whether going for a leisurely trip or a hectic gym session, this bag had my back. Measuring 18.8 x 10.2 x 11 inches, the bag was just the right size for convenience yet offered so much space.
However, the product did have one hiccup, the shoulder strap. It was long and adjustable, but at times, it felt a bit too long, and the handles could have been a tad longer, making it a little harder to carry around.
In conclusion, the MOLLYGAN Travel Duffel Bag has undoubtedly improved my daily travel experiences. With its large capacity, durable construction, and ample organization options, it has become a necessity for my daily activities. While it could do with a few adjustments (pun intended), it has nonetheless proven to be a reliable companion.

🔗Military-Grade Canvas Duffel Backpack

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I recently embarked on a weekend getaway with just the Military Duffel Backpack in tow. The modern green color added a trendy touch to my outfit, and upon closer inspection, I could see that the canvas duffel was indeed made of high-quality, water-repellent material. I felt confident that my belongings were well-protected, even in a sudden downpour. The adjustable shoulder straps came in handy as I traversed through the crowded city streets, allowing me to find the perfect fit and distributing the weight of my stuff evenly.
One feature I particularly appreciated was the heavy-duty cross-stitched carrying handle. I found it incredibly useful when I wanted to switch up my carrying style and convert the backpack into a traditional duffel bag. The stainless eyelets and rugged buckles made the whole process incredibly smooth and secure.
However, I did encounter a minor issue with the top clasp that held everything closed. It was slightly smaller than the holes on the flaps, so the bag wasn't completely sealed. While this didn't affect its overall performance during my trip, I did have to exercise a bit more caution to prevent anything from slipping out.
To sum it up, the Military Duffel Backpack is a reliable and fashionable bag that offers ample space and thoughtful storage options. The canvas material ensures durability and water resistance, while the adjustable straps offer comfort and convenience. Although the top clasp could be slightly improved, I would definitely recommend this backpack for travelers and everyday adventurers alike!

🔗Extra Large Yoga Mat Duffel Bag with Hammock

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I've been using the Kindfolk Yoga Mat XL Duffel Bag Mesa for a few weeks now and I must say, it's been a game-changer for my daily yoga practice. The highlight of this bag is undoubtedly the ample amount of space it provides.
After spending days googling 'XL yoga duffel bags', I finally decided to give this one a shot when I saw that it could fit multiple yoga mats, blocks and towels - and boy, was it true! I've never been able to bring everything I need to the studio or gym with such ease.
Another thing that I absolutely love about this bag is that it's vegan and environmentally friendly. As someone who's conscious about their impact on the environment, knowing that I'm using a product that aligns with my values gives me peace of mind. Plus, for every unit sold, Kindfolk donates $1 to FITS STANDARD, a charity that helps end slavery worldwide.
However, one of the cons I noticed is that the straps could be slightly longer. While it's not a deal-breaker for me, it can be a bit cumbersome when carrying it on top of everything else.
All in all, I am thrilled with my purchase and would definitely recommend it to others. Not only is it spacious and stylish, but it also feels well-made and of high quality. For those looking for a reliable and environmentally-friendly bag for their yoga practice, the Kindfolk Yoga Mat XL Duffel Bag is definitely worth considering.

🔗Casual Canvas Travel Gym Bag for daily jog or trip

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Imagine this: I'm strolling down the bustling city streets, and my trusty Vagabond Traveler Casual Canvas Bag is by my side. This bag isn't just a carry-all for my gym gear; it's a statement about my sense of style and practicality.
The first time I used this bag, I was blown away by its spacious interior. It holds everything I need for a workout and more, from my sneakers to my sweat towel, and even a spare change of clothes. The multiple pockets (and there are plenty) kept me organized and efficient, making my mornings just a little bit easier.
The Vagabond Traveler bag's construction is a testament to its craftsmanship. This bag isn't just made to last; it's made to look good while doing it. The canvas is a beautiful shade of khaki, and the vintage brass hardware adds a touch of class. The cotton fabric is incredibly comfortable to carry, and it's clear that it's been washed and worn to achieve its classic, old-school appearance.
Now, every time I strap this canvas bag onto my shoulder, I'm reminded of its many merits. It's the perfect blend of practicality, durability, and visual appeal. However, some users may find the strap too long or the lack of waterproofing a concern. But for me, these minor quibbles don't detract from the overall quality and utility of this amazing gym bag.
In conclusion, the Vagabond Traveler Casual Canvas Bag has become an indispensable part of my daily life. Its combination of space, organization, and style makes it the ideal choice for anyone looking for a reliable gym bag that's both functional and fashionable.

🔗Durable Waxed Canvas Duffle Bag

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I recently purchased the Steele Canvas Waxed Canvas Duffle Bag for an upcoming travel adventure, and I must say, it has surpassed all of my expectations. As soon as I laid my eyes on it, I was impressed by its sleek and sturdy appearance, which instantly made me feel confident about its durability. The adjustable shoulder strap and brown leather grip handles felt comfortable against my shoulder and hands, making it a pleasure to carry around.
The moment I unzipped the bag, I noticed the generous space inside, perfect for holding all of my essentials without any clutter. The two interior pockets are an added bonus, allowing me to keep my smaller items organized and easily accessible. The exterior side and end pockets have also proven to be quite useful for storing my frequently needed items.
One of the key features I truly appreciated is the nickel plated zipper and pull, making it easy for me to secure my belongings without any worry about potential malfunctions. Steele Canvas has truly created a high-quality, durable bag that is sure to withstand the test of time.
Despite the minor inconvenience of needing two hands to secure the zipper on the outside pocket, I believe this duffle bag is a perfect addition to my travel collection. The Steele Canvas Waxed Canvas Duffle Bag has definitely made a lasting impression on me, and I am already looking forward to using it on countless more adventures.

🔗Durable and Versatile Military-Grade Canvas Gym Bag

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As a product reviewer, I recently got the chance to try out the Medium Duffle Bag in black, and my experience has been nothing short of exceptional. I've been using it for everything from weekend trips to gym sessions, and it's truly become a staple in my daily routine.
The bag's most striking feature, hands down, is its heavy-duty construction. The double and triple-needle-stitched reinforced design not only gives it a sleek look that fits any environment but also ensures that it can handle even the heaviest loads without a hitch. I've noticed its durability in various situations - from transporting bulky sports gear to storing off-season clothing, this duffel bag has never let me down.
One of the things I love about this duffel bag is how versatile it is. Made from lightweight yet durable cotton canvas, it's perfect for travel, sports, and leisure activities. Its convenient collapsible feature when not in use makes storage a breeze, and it's been especially useful during my many camping trips.
Despite its size, the bag is surprisingly easy to carry around. Reinforced handles and adjustable shoulder straps make sure that I can handle even the heaviest loads comfortably. Plus, the two-way zipper and key-locking mechanism offer extra security for my belongings.
However, one small area of improvement could be the weight of the bag itself. While it's definitely not a deal-breaker, considering the durability and high-quality materials used, some users might find it slightly heavier than desired.
All in all, I'm extremely satisfied with my Medium Duffle Bag. Its combination of sturdy construction, versatility, and ease of use make it a worthwhile investment for anyone in need of a reliable bag for travel, sports, or everyday use.

Buyer's Guide

Canvas gym bags are a versatile and stylish choice for active people who prioritize functionality and quality. With the right features and construction, these bags can become an essential part of your fitness routine, ensuring that your gear stays organized and protected during workouts and commutes.

Important Features

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Durability: Canvas is a strong and hard-wearing material that can withstand regular use and resist wear and tear, making it ideal for gym bags.
Organization: Look for gym bags with multiple compartments or pockets to keep your belongings separate and easy to find, including a dedicated shoe compartment and an area for wet or soiled items.
Comfort: Padded shoulder straps, handles, or a combination of both can provide added comfort when carrying your bag, even when it's filled with heavy gear.
Versatility: A adjustable or removable strap allows you to carry your bag as a shoulder bag, across your body, or as a traditional gym bag, offering flexibility and convenience.
Style: Opt for a canvas gym bag that complements your personal taste and style, whether it's simple and minimalistic or bold and colorful.

Considerations

Material: Choose a gym bag made of high-quality, water-resistant canvas that's easy to clean and maintain, ensuring your bag stays looking great for longer.
Size: Consider the dimensions of the bag, especially if you're planning to commute with it. Make sure it's large enough to hold your essentials, but not too bulky.
Zippers and Hardware: Durable zippers and hardware are essential for long-lasting use. Look for quality components that offer smooth closing and opening.
Warranty: Check the manufacturer's warranty to ensure you're protected in case of any defects or issues with your bag.

General Advice

Invest in a high-quality canvas gym bag that will last you for years to come, even with consistent use.
Consider your individual needs and preferences when choosing a gym bag, such as the types of sports or activities you participate in, and the specific features that will be most useful for you.
Take care of your canvas gym bag by cleaning it regularly and storing it properly, in a well-ventilated area, to preserve its condition and prolong its lifespan.
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2024.05.19 07:03 Skyknighter AITA for keeping lewd anime stickers on my PS5's shell?

This is likely one of the weirdest posts I've ever felt compelled to make on Reddit. Additionally, please understand that I am Autistic, so the way I communicate this may seem a bit off or discombobulated in places.
I (25M) recently just finished the spring semester at my local university and have moved out of the dormitory and back into my mother's home for the summer (still looking for jobs, no luck so far), and I got into a disagreement with my mother and her boyfriend surrounding my placing a bunch of lewd anime lady stickers all over the left shell of my PS5. It wasn't heated by any means, but more of an interesting and slightly humorous debate.
It started out with me laying in bed, nearly falling asleep after clearing out and organizing my sizable closet, which was filled to the brim with English papers (English major) from my previous semesters as well as plenty of books and bags and several loose articles of clothing (this isn't pertinent to the main point, but let's just say living in the dorms gave me a very strong reality check of the importance of cleanliness - when I came back, I was like "oh my god I've been LIVING in this???"), but I digress. My mom walked into my room, while I was near passed out, saying "what are you doing?" because I was laying on my stomach with my head dangling over the side of the bed. I shot my head up, and said "huh? I was resting my eyes after cleaning out my closet", and she tells me that she made some waffles and proceeds to set them down at my work desk. Before she leaves, though, she says "gross" quietly to herself before walking out of the room. At first I was too groggy to think about it, but when I overheard the word "stickers" in her conversation with her boyfriend my mind was like "oh no". Embarassed and nervous much like a child is when they've been caught doing something they shouldn't be, I peek my head out into the kitchen where my mom and her guy are talking and inquire as to why she thought the stickers were gross.
My mom smiled humorously, before saying that it was "just kind of weird" that I had so many risque anime girls on my PS5. I felt compelled to defend the two-dimensional pieces of paper (likely because they came from anime conventions, and were not cheap as far as stickers go), so I asked what made them gross.
My mom went on to say that it potentially implied that I was the kind of guy who was addicted to wacking it, but also said she understood it because I'm a young adult who hasn't dated in a while. For the record, my mother is a very down to earth woman - she's the kind of mom who humorously asked me if I needed condoms when a girl delivered apple pie to our house during my sophomore year in high school, so this use of language was normal between us. She then said to me that it wasn't "wrong", but just gross from "her own personal perspective", saying that when I get a girlfriend, she'll likely not want to see those stickers.
Now, I'm not interested in relationships right now, primarily because, as I said, I'm Autistic. My ability to communicate and my overall social skills in comprehending and deciphering social cues is almost non-existent, so I tend to just keep everyone around me in the friendzone. However, I understand that, so long as I keep socializing as normal, I'm eventually going to run into a woman that clicks with me. My mother and her boyfriend went on to tell me that societal expectations placed on women can lead to women viewing such stickers to feel inadequte, but I said that any women who looks at a lewd Japanese cartoon character and finds themselves inadequate is insecure - and I didn't want to date insecure. They then said that most women are insecure, and that the potential girlfriend that I get together with will likely want the stickers to be done away with.
I told them I'm attracted to women who, put simply, don't give a fuck. They are confident in themselves, know what they want, and don't let something as trivial as anime girl stickers make them feel inadequate. I'm a chunky guy, I don't fit the description of the lean, mean, and proteined muscle men out there, and I don't feel inadequate as a result, so what's the harm? Are these stickers potentially harmful to future relationships I get into? Am I the asshole for keeping them around as I am now? Would I be the asshole for keeping them when I start dating?

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2024.05.19 07:02 burnerback9 23F Insecurities keeping me from being with women

Hey guys,
Wouldn't consider myself to be a late bloomer, but I am probably not going to have my first successful relationship with a woman until I'm 30 or something.
I consider myself to be gynosexual - I'm very attracted to feminine looking people, especially feminine presenting women.
I was in a relationship with one bio guy that lasted about 2 months, and he was bisexual and even considered himself to be potentially trans-femme (she/he was undecided on their gender identity)
Other than that, all my experiences have been with women. I used to be a sex worker, and homeless so I would sleep with men to "get things" (as terrible as that sounds)
I cringe looking back at my past with women, how I turned some off with my insecurities and behaviors. I just feel like I'm a big ick for femme women.
I don't want to relive some of those experiences, but I will tell you what in particular phases me:

for one, I'm broke (working on it - in school for a degree - will aim for admin work upon graduation and I need to get on meds for mental health - my ADHD renders me broke and useless)
I seem to only attract masc women. I have a somewhat femme presentation - my body is very curvy and soft but I consider my essence and personality to be a bit more masc. It seems like femme women only want butches and mascs. WHERE ARE THE FEMMES THAT LIKE OTHER FEMMES.
Feel like my marriage with a woman won't be "respected" by my family - granted, I went NC with my dad and I'm going as far as to consider changing my social security number and name so he can't find me again. It's just really emotionally hard to start a new life without the family you already know. But if not my family, then society in general. I live in Texas too - but I plan on leaving the US and going to Australia or SEA so hopefully, I'll be a bit more accepted over seas. I just want my relationship to a woman to be viewed as legitimate to that of a man. And I feel like lesbians are especially targeted for hate/SA crimes when they date out in public.
fear that a femme woman will one day leave me for a masc woman or even a man. I feel this is pretty self explanatory.

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2024.05.19 06:59 Fluid-Educator-7766 Break up or is my relationship fixable?

Hi Reddit,
I can’t believe I’m writing this post, but this has been on my mind for the past few months and I really need some external input. I need help to figure out if I’m in a toxic relationship, if there’s something I can do to fix it, if I’m over sensitive, or is it time for me to end this?
Context: I (M26) and my girlfriend (F25) have been together for 2.5 years, and known each other for 8 years. We both live in the U.S. but I’m from Europe and she’s from Central America, met in college. Issues started 2 years ago but when things are good she’s amazing (funny/beautiful/caring/makes me feel unconditionally loved/etc) and I always thought the issues were friction we could iron out together. With time I have grown increasingly skeptical of that. This is my first relationship (longer than 3 months) so at the same time I’m worried that maybe I am overly skeptical, that I only see my perspective and fail to see hers. I want to be fair to her, because I love her and care deeply for her as a person, I am just starting to resent the relationship.
History of issues: To me the issues are all centered in my girlfriends anxiety. Frequently, rather than being vulnerable, she projects her anxiety on me and accusing me of all kinds of things. I have both tried to shake off those moments, to recognize that this isn’t her but her anxiety talking, but it still affects me deeply. Not only when it occurs, but when I am doing something and she seems fine I still worry that maybe I will do something wrong and she will snap and this moment will turn to a life or death situation. I have also obviously communicated my concern over this behavior repeatedly, and every time after she takes things too far she apologizes and takes ownership and we come up with a strategy to avoid the issue from repeating. This all sounds very healthy, I think, but the problem is that we’ve had these issues and conversations 25+ times and here we still are. Some things have gotten better for sure but it still feels unbearable to me. Let me provide three examples to illustrate our issues (from my perspective).
Example 1 - 1.5 years ago: My best friend and I were victims of attempted robbery from people affiliated with organized crime, the event went to court, and after the trial we wanted to get away from everything. My girlfriend and I had planned to go to a Caribbean island shortly after, so I invited my friend to come a week before my girlfriend and leave the day she arrived. We were both pretty shaken up and just wanted to talk things out and enjoy a tropical paradise. The first night my friend and I arrive (girlfriend still in the US) she starts texting fervently that my friend and I shouldn’t see any of the sights so she and I can see them together for the first time. I get where she’s coming from but this is also a challenging time for me and my best friend so I am not willing to completely sacrifice his week with me to appease my girlfriend. Things escalate and she demands my attention all the time. When my friend and I is out she is calling me 50+ times in a row, texting me that if I love her I would respond and that I am ruing hers and mine vacation and though I’m trying to deescalate I don’t see how to. I end up turning off my phone, although she begs me not to, but I’m still in my head unable to enjoy the night. When I turn my phone back on next day there’s a picture of herself with a cut (very shallow but still) saying I made her do this. This event is the low point of our relationship, and I told her if she ever hurts herself or threatens to hurt herself I’m out, and to be fair to her she has not once since hurt herself. Nonetheless, the calls continue after this (50+ a day) and I spent 3-4h a day on the phone with her and neglecting the trip with my best friend. Damn writing this out really makes me ashamed for not standing my ground back then. Anyways, this really colored the trip with my childhood friend and I think I still resent myself and her for making that happen.
Example 2 - 0.5 years ago: I visited a close childhood friend in South America for 2.5 weeks. Because of the events that transpired in example 1, my girlfriend was nervous for my trip. She expressed worry that she would act out in the same way as my last trip. I really appreciated this self-awareness. We therefore talked extensively about how to avoid issues. The first few days were alright, with her being anxious but being vulnerable about it and we managed well, calling once a day and texting 15-20 messages a day (more than I’d want, but that’s a compromise I’m okay with). At this point I make a mistake, but her reactions to it is (in my head at least) not proportional. I told her I was going out with my friend and his friend that weekend, and she expressed that this would make her anxious that I would cheat on her. So I asked what can I do, and we decided I’d send her a text once I left the pre-game, once I left the club, and call her once I got back to my friends place. A little bit much I thought, but I love her so a fair compromise for now. Unfortunately, I got caught up in the moment at the pre-game, and forgot to text my girlfriend. I realized as I was walking home from the club with 25+ missed calls and a bunch of emotional messages about how I forgot because I was around beautiful women and how I don’t love her. Here I understand her pain. She was vulnerable, I agreed to a compromise and I didn’t fulfill my end. 25+ calls is never productive but hey I had some blame here. The following day I call her for 1.5 hours apologizing and we talk things out, and it feels like though she is feeling anxious that she accepts my apology and we have now managed to resolve my mistake. The same night my friend and his friends are going to someone else’s house for a BBQ (which I told my girlfriend about days before). An hour before we are about to leave my girlfriend starts telling me to talk to her on the phone, because I hurt her so bad and when I say I can’t because we are 10 people having a beer before we head out she says she doesn’t care and that I hurt her and now she “wants to make my life miserable”. I tell her “hey I understand you’re upset but I never want to hear those words from the person I love. I know I hurt you but never intentionally”. She says she doesn’t care and keeps calling me non-stop for 40 minutes and I’m worried that if I don’t pick up she will start to call my friend. I try to deescalate and beg her to take a step back and that she is pushing me away by doing this. The whole thing culminates by me getting out of the Uber towards the barbecue and telling my friends that I think my girlfriend and I are breaking up and I need to deal with it. I am crying as I say this and feel so damn embarrassed. Even writing it now I can’t believe this actually happened. Damn. Anyways, as soon as I tell her that I am no longer going to the bbq and I left my friends car she becomes a different person (the person I love) and tells me she is so sorry and realize she took it too far and begs me to order an Uber to the BBQ. She says she’ll pay for it and begs me to go. At that point I’m just so embarrassed at the whole thing and tell her something along the lines of “why the fuck did you push me this far then. I told you you are pushing me away”. I head home, and wonder how someone who loves me so much can intentionally cause me so much harm and I seriously begin to doubt if her and I will ever work. I tell her I don’t think I want to be in the relationship, but that I recognize I’m emotional so I need 7 days without contact to process my thoughts. I won’t block her, but if she reaches out I will. She does reach out (albeit with a nice message) but I still block her.
I probably should have left the relationship here, but damn I love her, we live together, and at this point she was depending on me for her visa to stay in the country. I don’t want to rip all that apart from her. So I say I don’t know if we’ll ever feel okay, but I’m willing to give this one last chance.
To her defense, she take a lot of new steps at this point. She tells her mom and sister everything that happened (including her trust issues and jealousy), she starts with anxiety medication and starts being more vulnerable with her therapist. I am still skeptical that things will actually be okay, but I recognize the effort she puts in and I really appreciate it. The frequency of our arguments decrease, and more disputes now end before they become arguments.
Example 3 - Yesterday: My GF flew to Vegas with three of her girlfriends (I know two of them very well) and I know it’s a high risk trip for someone in a relationship but I honestly have complete trust in my GF. I decided to do a dinner with 3 of my friends (who my GF knows equally well, we’re all in a group chat together and do things regularly together) and they invited a 4th person who was part of our sports team (my girlfriend met her 2-3 times, just like me).
She texts me from Vegas asking who’s coming to the dinner and once she finds out this 4th person is coming she asks nicely if we cannot be in someone else’s apartment. When I say hey I’m sorry but I already said we could be at my place she asks at least don’t smoke weed together (my friends are stoners so 100% chance they’ll bring weed), and I say “I’m sorry but I won’t tell them not to and I’ll join In too if they bring it but you have nothing to worry about. I love you and I’ll call you as soon as they leave?” My girlfriend then goes into panic mode and calls me nonstop throughout dinner. I go to the bathroom and begs her to stop, tells her she is ruining this for me, and ask her to trust me. She still calls nonstop until they leave. I try to keep a brave face but again it really ruins the dinner for me.
At this point I have told her how actions like these makes me feel uneasy and prevents me from enjoying life. I told her I need her to trust me. I told her that I won’t have it anymore. And if anything the idea that she doesn’t trust me around 3 people she knows well with a 4th stranger while she’s at a pool party in bikini in Vegas just seems so hypocritical it makes me ever more frustrated.
In her defense: - Her dad cheated multiple times while she was growing up. I understand this makes it excruciatingly difficult to trust a partner. - She started seeing a therapist ~8 months ago. - She now takes medication for her anxiety. - She now has told her mom and sister about her trust issues for the first time in her life. - She began attending codependency meetings regularly. - She says she doesn’t want me to limit my life just for me to communicate better what I’m doing (I think it’s really possible that I’m bad at communicating, because to me this request feels like it comes from a lack of trust).
She is putting in immense effort, but I just feel like I can’t do this anymore. Even when things are good I’m worried that she’s going to explode and that prevents me from enjoying the good times too. I love her and she’s amazing in many ways, but I don’t like feeling responsible for her suffering. I know that by trying to end things she’s going to suffer so much and she’ll beg me to give her another chance. I don’t want to but in those moments I feel like she’s the rational version of herself and that maybe she’ll never explode again. Can I solve my relationship with her? Is it time to leave? Is it fair to leave when she is putting in so much effort? How do I find the courage to go through with it?
Thanks so much in advance, and I’m sorry for such a lengthy post.
TL;DR: I’m I overly sensitive, can this relationship be fixed, or is it time to breakup? Is it fair to breakup if the other person is putting so much effort in?

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2024.05.19 06:52 CleverBeetle Singaporeans approaching 40s and already in their 40s who are single and childless, how do you feel about that?

This is more directed to women I suppose but feel free to share your thoughts otherwise.
I've been thinking a lot lately about what it means to be in our 40s or approaching 40 as single and childless in Singapore. It's a topic that doesn't seem to come up often enough, so I wanted to hear from you all.
For those of us in this age group, how do you feel about not being married and childless? In Singapore, there's this strong expectation to settle down and start a family by a certain age. But life isn't always so straightforward I guess, too many curveballs.
I always thought I'd have a future with someone special by now. But things didn't turn out as planned. Had my share of relationships, and honestly, most of them didn't end well. I think I have a very people-pleasing trait that attracts a lot of energy vampires and narcissists and I tend to ignore red flags. However, I've learned a lot from those experiences and can see things more clearly now. Now, I'm feeling pretty jaded about the whole dating thing imho
On top of that, I'm of Indian and Eurasian ancestry, and our communities here are quite small. This makes the peer pressure even more intense. It feels like everyone knows everyone else's business, and there's this unspoken expectation to hit certain life milestones. While I'm not really feeling FOMO, it's tough being surrounded by people who think that getting married and having kids is the epitome of success.
I've noticed that some of my friends who are single and childless seem to be leading very mundane, Groundhog Day sort of lives. It feels like they're just going through the motions, perhaps to avoid thinking about what they might be missing.
Another thing that scares me is the number of divorces happening around people in this age group. And this is very hard to say, but while I was dating in the last few years, I came across so many married men on these sites in their 30s and 40s. Even friends who are married with kids behave like they're single. It makes me feel like they aren't fulfilled in their marriages and are looking for something else or just variety. I don't know, but it scares me a lot.
So, how do you deal with these societal expectations? Have you found fulfillment in other parts of your life? How do you balance personal happiness with all the external pressures?
Would love to hear your wisdom and experiences. Let's support each other and share some advice!

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