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So I’ve recently graduated cosmetology school and a little over a month ago I began working at a high end salon as a assistant and now moving to working one on one with a senior stylist. My dilemma is that I came into this industry to specialize in natural/curly hair and although my salon offers a ton of education and classes, none of it aligns with my goals in this industry. Some stylists do work with curls but I don’t feel like I’d be learning anything from them. On the contrary, I’d be teaching them and I still have a TON to learn in what I want to specialize in. Although I know the more you know the better in this industry, and I am learning a lot and also am interested in being a well versed stylist, but I can’t fight the feeling that I’m straying from why I even started all of this and this is starting to make me feel less than excited to go to work. There aren’t many curly specialists in my area so this is making it tough for me to find a mentor or someone that I feel like I could really learn from. I’d say I definitely have to be more of a go getter and fly solo to get myself positioned in the industry but this is where I’m struggling on what to do. Also, the salon I work at doesn’t booth rent and it’s the typical stylist level 1 40/60 commission and go up from there by experience but I don’t think it would be right that I’m paying out of pocket for these pricey curly classes/certifications to then go to a salon and only make 40% especially when I’d be the only stylist there that could offer true curly cuts and styles. Maybe it’s something I can negotiate down the line but who knows. So my question is should I stay at the salon or would it make more sense to go all in solo? I know this is not recommended but I was thinking of just doing hair out of my house for now until I build my clientele up enough to booth rent because I really don’t see any other way to take off in this specialty while working for a salon and I already feel like I’ve wasted enough time dragging my feet in my area of focus. I regret not making better use of my time while in school but that’s not here nor there.
For background, the reason I can’t do both is because I am a single mom juggling 2 jobs so my time is very limited and I don’t want to take the little free time I have away from my kids so I’d have to sacrifice something and it can’t be my bread winning job because well, that’s how I support myself and my family. I’m only part time at the salon and make pennies so financially it wouldn’t be a hit to me. Sorry for making this long and thank you in advance for any knowledge or insight offered!!

I (26F) when I was 4 years old my parents legally divorced and for my whole life I lived with shared custody. Until I was 16 years old my mom was my biggest enemy because she abused me verbally and physically while my dad was my best friend, going to his house was what I expected all week long because I went on weekends, we played board games, we went to the movies or to different places, he did let me have a pet, everything was a dream until I turned 16 years old. Something curious about this time is that my dad used to talk to me about how my mom cheated on him and she told me not to believe him, but since he was the enemy I didn't listen to him.
12 years ago my mom started attending a Christian church along with my whole family and I, curious, started attending with her... that's when everything took a turn. You see, my father is an extremist Catholic and from then on he started to attack me in every way possible: against my new belief, he discovered that I had Facebook and forced me to give him my password to h*rass me and read absolutely everything; he told me that if I took the entrance exam for the university I wanted, he would find out because he hired a friend to stand near the door and take photos of me if he saw me arriving, which made me scared; when I decided that I was going to be a teacher my dad exploded in fury, although I was already a legal adult he told me that I had no right to choose my career and only my mother and he could do it, he tried to force my mother to pay me to study medicine but he didn't succeed and now I am studying education; Oh and it is worth mentioning that he generated in me an irrational phobia of buses because he told me that if I got on a bus, my parents would never see me or my body again.
My father over time has tried to manipulate me more and more and I increasingly move away, he pressures me every year to marry someone rich, to get pregnant even by accident because he doesn't want to “die without knowing his grandchildren” (my father is macho), that I stay in his house when he no longer lives alone and lives with a family that I don't like, he wants me to call his partner's children "my siblings" and treat them the same as my biological siblings, that I become Catholic again so I don't go to hell, that I convince my sister to stop therapy because her bipolar "is a lie", that I don't relate to minorities or people of other races (my father is r*cist since we are not white), that I don't relate to anyone in the LGBT community (my father is “proudly homophobic”).
My father lives by appearances, he lives in an expensive house but my grandparents pay his rent, he wears pilot suits when he used to repair airplanes and he doesn't know how to fly a plane, he tells everyone that I studied “educational administration and future founder of a school” because he is ashamed that I am a teacher, he bought very big cars when he didn't even have enough to pay for gas and finally he presumes he is a good father... when he has caused me such strong psychological abuse that I'm afraid to do things because he might find out.
4 years ago I started to progressively cut communication with him to the point that I don't talk to him and I don't go to his house anymore, only once a month and it hurts me because in this dispute my paternal grandparents and my younger sister got caught in the crossfire, but my dad is so harassing that if I call them or her just to say hello, he will find out and come here to complain because I talk to them and not to him. Sometimes I think my life will be easier and I will rest the day he dies, AITAH for wanting or thinking that?

I was at a Skyzone with a few of my friends who were staying over, I have a liking for dodgeball and I decided to go to the dodgeball game. Well, practically the whole group of people who were playing were cussing, throwing dodgeballs at the staff member and disrespecting the staff member who was watching the game. The staff member got sick of it and told everyone to line up, these children were so disrespectful that it took 5-10 minutes just to line them up. One of the children even said, “If you separate me from my friends I’ll sue you.” And this kid is in the 11-13. [And for some clarification the staff member prior to lining them up had most likely talked to the person who either brought those kids or was one of the kids parents/guardian. Which conversation I didn’t hear but most likely the guardian didn’t find any wrong.] So, resuming. The staff member yelled and got everyone into their own team. But they started cussing more and disrespecting this staff member. The staff member didn’t know what to do so she decided to call security, security said something similar to, “No cussing on my court!” Etc stuff I didn’t hear. And by then I had left there. But the friends who came along which we’ll call XX had still been paying attention to the drama. So I asked, “Do you know what happened?” And XX said, “Yeah, when the security guy came in he yelled at them but even he was scared, kids were throwing dodgeballs at him.”
Eventually the situation was under control, me and XX already had left but while we were walking around we had still been discussing what we heard. Eventually we felt a bit bad for the staff member, and this may be on us for being a bit nosy. Me and XX went to this staff member and asked if she was OK. Staff member replied with, “I’m going to get fired.” Me and XX were obviously shocked, but we replied with something similar with, “Damn, that’s unfair.” And we walked away. Well, that scene was pretty big so we were still discussing it, and again we went over to the same staff member and said, “I’m sorry if this sounds insensitive, but I hope you get fired and get a new job at a better place, this place is really not worth the stress.”
I’m not sure if I’m in the wrong here, but the staff ember seemed a but shocked. I’m sorry if I made a lot of typos and told the story a bit oddly, I’m new to posting here as this is the only time I think I’ve needed to post here.

Hi. I’m a high school senior and recently got accepted to a few colleges, mainly UCs. For some background, I come from a really low income family, and I would be a first generation student.
I applied to some colleges just to see what would happen, and I got accepted to a few UCs, including a school I really want to go to.
I got a really good financial aid offer (my SAI index came out to be -1500, so basically the max amount of grants), but even with all the grants I’m still wondering if it would be worth it to go?
My other option, which was my “first choice” was Community College and then transfer to any UC.
For UC, I kinda calculated the costs based on the cheapest options, and without work study or any loans the total net price would be around 4-5k (everything else is covered in grants). This is just a rough estimate (the price that is listed on the portal is around 12k, but the housing and food estimates seemed much higher than if i were to choose the cheapest options offered etc)
Community College would, in my opinion, be a lot harder to manage. I’d be working for sure, and paying some other living expenses that come with it. Not sure if CC students get much aid to help with that. I would also probably be paying rent to help out my parents. But I would also have more money since I’d be working more, and I’d be saving up for eventually transferring.
I’m just very torn what direction to go in. Both are great choices with their own challenges but I’m just not sure that the cost of going straight to college rather than CC is worth it.

Hey! This is my first time in Portland.. I'm visiting for 5 days for work in August. I'd like to stay closer to the Beaverton area (closer to the office I'd be visiting during my trip) but I'm open. I'll be paying for my stay and renting a car. Chains like Hyatt/Hilton are alright too. I never had any trouble finding free breakfast and free parking in suburbs outside Portland.
I'm surprised to find no options in the city or suburbs. I found some good hotels in $150/night range but the parking seems to be $50/day. My kids + partner may be visiting with me.. So I'd like to have the parking close by (if not in the facility).
Any tips? Thank you!

In January of last year my friend invited me to stay with him at the home which he owns. The place only has 2 bedrooms and there are 6 people living here. I took a portion of the living room and used a series of sheets and shelves to give myself a little bit of privacy. I paid him rent every month, but it was dirt cheap. There were no deposits, lease, or anything like that. Two months ago I moved into the garage because the cats kept pissing on my stuff.
This guy was like a brother to me. But he has some mental health issues that he refuses to seek help for. A few weeks ago he accused me of not being proactively supportive of his new business (I guess he thought I was going to work for him?). He felt very insulted that I didn't want to be his minion, so in retaliation, he said he needed the garage back and is making me live in a tent outside. I still have access to the inside of the house, but I sleep in the tent. I'm very unhappy about this. In a really weird move, he sent me a text message saying that I didn't have to pay him rent anymore, but that I needed to be out within a year. Honestly, I would have rather continued to pay rent and stayed in the garage.
His mental health took a big turn a few days ago and he flew into a rage, accused me of plotting to kill his cats (I would never), and pursuing his niece that is also a tenant (even his niece told him that was not the case). He was screaming in my face telling me that he would beat my face in if I touched his cats. He wanted to fight. He threatened to force me to leave. Eventually I diffused the situation, but now I'm shook. He's unhinged and violent. He's hit previous occupants before.
What happens if I call the police? If I get a restraining order against him does that mean he needs to leave his own house? Or will I have to? I want to leave but I can't afford my own place and don't currently have money for deposits and such. But it also sucks living under the threat of violence. Any advice on what legal recourse I might have?

So, a bit of context. My parents decided to move out of state for a better job opportunity. We have a big dog that they couldn’t take with them, so we decided I would move back into my parent’s house with my husband so we could take care of the house and the dog. While its been great living rent free, we still pay the maintenance fee, utilities, and fix up anything that goes wrong in the house. Meanwhile, I haven’t been able to even move a couch without my mother making a fuss about it. I also have to keep everything the way she likes it, making it hard for it to feel like a home for my husband and I. But Im still finishing my master’s and had to quit my full time job over a year ago so I could complete my practice hours, so we made it work. This year I found out I’m pregnant, which is great because we weren’t even sure we were physically able to. So I asked my parents to switch rooms so we could have the master bedroom since were planning on having a bedside bassinet and my room is already cramped as it is. Since they only come over twice a year, I didn’t think it would be a problem, its not like they wouldn’t have a place to stay. My old room would be a baby room, but i planned to move her crib into my room when they’re in town. But my mom’s making me out to seem ungrateful and won’t give me reason for why she won’t switch besides “its my house and I said no”. She was even offended that I would want to have a conversation about it. She told me that they failed as parents if they’ve helped me so much, but I have the audacity to ask for more. But everything thats been given to me by them has been offered by them and then gets thrown in my face. I honestly can’t remember the last time I asked something of them, my dad is constantly telling me to ask him for help if I need it. So, AITA? What would you do?

context: he abandoned my mom, he's single. so helping and giving should not be an issue and idc tbh he abandoned my mom so reparations. like $100 $200 $50 isnt anything over the period of 6 months bro with no other type of support even less emotional
what does $200 do for book supplies? mf works in a hotel with no fucking responsabilities DUDE'S A FUCKING SUPERVISOR AT A CASINO IN A VEGAS HOTEL WITH HELLA EXP RETIRED FROM ONE JOB working for fun.
what the fuck does $200 for school supples equal to only communicating for money didnt reply to me or ask me about school or if i needed help or food or gas or to pay for anything else. its been 4 months!! i just want grocery $ and a pair of converse. I DIDNT SAY THANK YOU FOR MY BDAY GIFT?? I DID AND
it was LATE!! WHAT ABOUT ALL THE ONES HE MISSED?! mf WORKS. THAT WAS FOOD MONEYY. IT WASNT A GIFT. IT WAS GROCERIEEEEEES.
MY DUDE IS RETIREEEED. i am unemployed. i am 24. HE WANTS ME TO GET A PHD so provideee >:(
like tf i got no funds running on the leftover of workstudy cuz im irresponsible as shit and he doesnt wanna help?? mf i was basically on the street and u took a minute to reply
dis is why ion ask for helpp
'i feel used' mf u abandoned my mom, reparations asshole. BUT IMA STAY QUIET
IMA STAY QUIET AND SIP MY LIL BOTTLE OF NEW AMSTERDAM thats been making trips for two months now since a white girl with parents that are engineers felt in the mood to give...cheap af $13. i love college...kinda...just cuz ur funny u get free stuff and cuz u can drive 🥲

Hi! I’m a 28F and I’ve been seeing this dating/life coach for a few months now. I do like her as a person but I find that our sessions tend to go off course. She has ADHD and has a tendency to cut me off or start asking questions while I am explaining something or sharing my thoughts. I did ask her a few weeks ago if we could have a set agenda for our sessions in order to stay on track. She said yes and we did have a dedicated topic that we plan on discussing at our sessions. For example, today we were discussing spirituality. However after an hour on Zoom, I felt like we didn’t really cover a lot of ground. These sessions aren’t cheap either. I end up paying $90 per session. I do have a therapist who I see weekly but I wanted to hire a dating coach to help me as I navigate the dating scene.
I think I want to part ways with my dating coach but I’m not sure how to do it. She has been very nice to me and I appreciate everything she has done for me. Should I send her an email or call her?

going to keep vague as possible, as i don’t want people getting mad for sharing my opinion lol. probably going to be long my apologies.
so basically my sisters pregnant again. which isn’t necessarily bad but i don’t think it’s the best idea. at the end of the day it’s not my life she’s an adult and can make her own choices so i don’t really care what she does. i’m just very wary on how kids grow up (i came from a great family, but my parents weren’t very emotionally available it was more financially more on that later) im not going around being like get rid of it to her and i get kids are a touchy subject. she’s my sister and i love her, of course im willing to help and all that i just feel like she’s doing stuff she doesn’t have to be if that makes sense.
one of my other siblings got mad at me the other day when we were talking abt our sisters situation and i gave my opinion to them again. i was told i should keep my opinion to myself and just be happy for them.
i just don’t think financially and mentally it’s the best for them or the kids but this is my opinion that i shared privately with parents and other siblings not involved. she’s got a kid already, and her situation has improved since having her first child (very proud of her for being better for her kid) but not to the point where i think it’s smart to have more. love that she’s in a place where she thinks it’ll be great and i love that she’s found someone and all that truly am so happy for her. i just feel she’s so rushing when waiting would be such a better choice. but here’s why i think waiting would be better.
her and her partner maybe make 100k together which by all means is not bad at all. her partner makes most of it, so another kid means either she stays home full time and partner works more or they both work and pay for childcare which makes no sense with the price of that these days. they do have debt. along with the fact that they have a roommate (i think the roommate is more dependant on them then they are on the roommate but still). the roommate makes it literally 10x worse. their house is AWFUL it’s full of pets and the three adults in the house do not do laundry and the roommate keeps bringing in more animals. unfortunately from what i’ve heard they also don’t take the best care of the animals, i’ve heard they have cats and they rarely empty the litter boxes. leading to overflowing boxes. dishes pile up and all that (i personally have not seen the house in person as im a neat freak but i’ve seen it in the background on facetime and the like). that scares me as my current nephew/niece is a toddler and could easily ingest something they shouldn’t.
they also haven’t really left the party stage, again it’s gotten better. but any chance for a festival or concert and u bet they’re going (not knocking them for having fun but priorities) and it’s not like they live super close to help (family) so they either have to get a sitter as the roommate will go with them or (this has happened A LOT used to happen more but still) a post will go up asking if anyone on their socials will be able to take care of my nephew/niece for the day/night. which of course it’s not like they’d have a stranger watch the kid but that just feels so irresponsible to me. i get spending the money ahead of time and maybe plans changing w the babysitter or whatever but still. UR ASKING SOCIAL MEDIA TO WATCH UR KID. gotta do what u gotta do i guess but again for a concert? really. along with the parties comes drugs which scares me as our family has bad history with it. and so does she, she has a history of addiction so i don’t think her still doing that is good even if she’s dialled it back.
don’t get me wrong i know my sister loves her kid and would do everything she could to give them the world and keep them safe. i just can’t stop thinking about, as she stated to me “i love them but baby name wasn’t as worth it as i thought it’d be”. drunk off her rocker less than 5 months ago(child was home with family).
again im not saying any of this to her, this is just conversation between family that still lives at home and everytime we talk about her situation none of them really care. a lot of this is in my head stuff. im just worried for my nieces and nephews. as i know how much childhood stuff can affect kids myself.
going back to me again i grew up in honestly a great house. my parents weren’t perfect but they tried. my dads high functioning autistic and would work ALL THE TIME so we grew up pretty much with a single mom (they didn’t divorce just always working) who drank at least 2-3 bottles of wine a week. she did everything she could and protected us and all that but she had 3 kids each 2 years apart that’s a lot to deal with alone (we also moved a lot which didn’t help her). so she wasn’t the most calm or patient taking care of 3 infants by herself. our house was lovely but again three kids so not the cleanest most of the time etc etc etc. again i love my parents i know they did the absolute best they could and they love and care for us all deeply but it effected all of us. i have countless stories of me going to the top of the stairs during arguments and stuff like that (my dads not abusive but they’d yell a lot especially as kids to us and each other) i know we all have trauma (even if one doesn’t wanna admit it lol) and we should all probably be in therapy (tried bringing that up and was told “no need for outsider perspectives”).
a lot of stuff happened to us that messed with us and it seems my sisters repeating the cycle which just makes me sad. i know there no perfect time to have kids and i love that she’s doing better now that she’s got one, but just seeing them struggle as much already with the one they have and then making more seems so silly to me. don’t get me wrong i think the first kid was a great idea. yes they’re struggling but they can make due with the one. physically, i don’t think they can do more than the one they’ve got. cause as great of a job as they’re doing with it (they do try, like it’s clear my niece/ nephew is loved by their parents) but everyone has limits right and again the energy for just the one is a lot for them. not even to mention financials. again not my circus not my monkeys it’s not like it really effects me so i don’t care that much. im not losing sleep over it yk. it just saddens me to see all the struggle that could have been avoided on the parent side (my sister) and the kids. had they just taken another year or two let my nephew/niece get a bit older and them gain more parenting experience, get a house by themselves instead of renting with the roommate, grow up a little chore wise and maybe even pay the debt off so they can focus on the kids.
again im not saying any of this to her just sharing with others in the family as they’re also talking about all of her other struggles. i wasn’t saying i won’t be there to help or anything like that. just threw me off that me saying “do they really think having the seconds the best decision right now?” was taken like that by my family and i wanted to see what others think. i know their kids will be loved but it takes more than that to raise a kid, im just worried that everyone involved is not going to have the best shot because its rushed.
AITHA for thinking waiting woulda been smarter for both the adults and kids in this situation and voicing that opinion in a private setting?

I’ve had a run of what feels like bad luck in my career. I’m 15 years into the industry and I’m on company #6. My stays at companies have been 7, 1, 1, 3, 2, and about 2 years at the current place. I’ve never chased a promotion or a pay raise. I’ve changed just to try different things in the industry or because we needed to move closer to family.
I took my current job because the owner of a small firm made big promises that weren’t true. Boss is a massive micromanager and expects me to put work in front of family. It’s a tiny company so not like I can transfer or get a new boss.
I feel so stuck. I’ve done a couple interviews but I can tell everyone looks at my resume and sees a job hopper and that’s not the case at all. Our industry really seems to be full of people that are 20+ years at their firms. I’m really good at what I do and am a great addition to any team but I feel like I’ve screwed myself with my job changes.
I feel like I’m screwed no matter what. I feel forced to stay in this job because I have to show longevity even though I know the experience is bad in the short term. on the other hand, you hear how badly our industry needs people but I feel like my options are severely limited, if not completely zero.
Anyone else dealt with this? Do you have any advice?

TLDR; My partners family hates me and treat him horribly and I just want to keep myself away from them. I want to stay as far away from them as possible, but don't want to force my partner to as well, or leave him with all the backlash. How do I do it?
First I want to give a little background on the situation. Me (23NB) and my partner (23M) have been together since middle school. We just started dating and never stopped, and it's been great as far as just the two of us go-- we've graduated college, moved in together, plan on getting married when we can afford it, etc. I am extremely different from his family. They are very traditional; catholic, everyone has lots of kids, no one has moved more than an hour away without being shamed, everyone is married by late 20's, women stay home to care for the kids, etc. They're also very rich, with a huge house, paid foare paying for all their kids to go to college, that kind of thing. I'm not religious, child free, planning on moving to a different region when I can, raised by a single mother and low contact with my dad, difunctional/not close extended family for the most part, nonbinary, autistic. We were always surviving but frugal, got things like free school lunches, first cars were beaters or from family friends, that kind of thing. Most of my partners introduction to things like not affording vacations, normal sized houses, how to grocery shop efficiently/with a budget etc. were through me since he just hadn't experienced those things before.
For a long time those facts weren't really a problem, often glossed over or not mentioned. I now realize it's because his mother (And my extent his whole family) figured we'd break up during/after college and he would find someone more to their tastes (Outright said to my partner when I wasn't present). I always had the feeling she didn't like me, but it was always brushed off as my misinterpretation since she was so nice to my face. Again, I now realize this is just what she does, she is nice to my face and then complains to my partner after the fact. That is the majority of my problem. As mentioned before, I'm autistic, and I need direct communication to understand if they want something. My partner and I communicate amazingly, and we've both been on the look out for things I do that might be considered rude, but we never spot any, yet she always has some small thing I've said or done to complain over. In addition, I came out to his parents after much anxiety and deliberation. His mom talked through the whole thing, I didn't get to mention most of the talking points I wanted, she said I should "get therapy" and did everything but say directly that I'm a trans man who's confused and when I come out for real my partner will break up with me (As in she heavily implied with things like "Well, if this happened..."). They've proceeded to not tell any of the rest of the family (Which I feel nervous to do myself considering their reaction), have never used my proper pronouns, criticize the more androgenous parts of me such as my clothes and hair, and have generally just ignored that fact about me.
The straw that really broke the camels back is this last family vacation. I've only been to three of their vacations, but they go on at least three a year with the family (Mom, Dad, my partner, his three siblings, grandma, and sometimes the sisters boyfriends), and no less than five a year with less than that (So just the parents, parents and one kid, etc.) depending on who's available. These have always been rather hellish for my partner. He's one of the middle children and draws the short straw on everything. I saw it a little the first two times I came along, but really saw it this time. Ignoring his suggestions while listening to his siblings, ignoring problems that only effect him/us and telling him/us to deal with it (Ex. only our shower didn't work on this latest vacation, that problem was ignored while similarly annoying problems for others had to be fixed immediately), "If you want to do that, you can pay for it" comments while paying for literally everything else the other siblings wanted, being told he should be more grateful and positive when he simply removed himself from situations to avoid being upset. There was not a single event or day that went by without his whole family turning on him for every little thing. And, from as nonbiased a perspective as I can give, he never actually did anything to deserve the treatment. He just wanted to occasionally do his own thing, make suggestions, or remove himself.
That's where I need advice. After one last incident right as we got home of one of his siblings crying to my partner about how I'd been so rude and done so many "microagressions" (I'm using their words, the examples given were when I joked about a situation and when I asked them to open something for me I couldn't get), I never want to be around his family for extended periods again. They can't tell me to my face they don't like me, our lifestyles are apparently not compatible, I never know what I do wrong until after the fact, etc. But just because I don't ever want to see them again, doesn't give me the right to tell my partner he can't ever see them again, I feel. He absolutely wants to distance himself from them, but his mom's overbearing and insistent nature makes it extremely hard which I am understanding of, and holds out hope they'll chill out with time. Breaking up, telling him to just suck it up and block their numbers, or giving ultimatums are not things I'm willing to consider. The last thing I want to do is build resentment or let his family tear apart this very functioning, very loving relationship.

Recently found an opportunity for a salaried position related to my skills and interests, but not my professional experience. Since dropping out of college in 2020, I've primarily been stuck in low paying customer service jobs, and never received a salary before. I was able to get an interview through a friend-of-a-friend's referral, and spent an approximate total of 30 hours over the course of several days researching and creating examples of the work I would be doing to prove my ability to do it, despite not having the direct experience in that particular field. They seemed very impressed by this, and I was told I would fit in very well with the team. However, I made one faux pas: the interviewer asked me my expected salary range and I stated 40-45k.
Now, understand that with what I currently make, this would still be life-changing money for me. I have been in the red each month for the past 4 months on basic essentials alone. I have previously calculated that approximately 42k a year is how much I would need, bare minimum, to pay rent, eat, pay off debt, and save for retirement with enough wiggle room to not feel like i was constantly crunching myself. I did research on the median salary for this field in my area and thought this to be a fair offer given my lack of experience. I could tell by the face she made after I made my offer that I had messed up immediately. The rest of it went fine, but I was certainly nervous after that.
After the interview, I had a conversation with the person who referred me to ask about how they enjoyed their time there, and mentioned this error on my end. They informed me the last person in my position started at 55k and moved up to 60k after 6 months.
I worry that this makes me appear insecure (I am, but I was very careful and procedural in projecting as much confidence as possible), and how that may affect my chances. I also worry that should I be given an offer, I've now locked myself into lower pay.
I am now aware that what I should've said was "what's your budget?", so that I know for the future not to make that mistake again. But for this particular position, I am unsure of the best way to proceed forward or if I'm worrying myself too much.

Background Info: I (stupidly) got back with my abusive and cheating boyfriend. I had to move back in with my mom a few months ago so our physical contact has been limited. I was hanging on to the hope that if I stuck around that he would eventually pay me back the almost 10,000 dollars he owes me and to spend time with his dog who I love. I thought we could work through previous issues and things would improve. (I am an idiot)
Last week I had the opportunity to go over and spend time with the dog and see how the garden I planted last year was doing. I stayed overnight and the next day he spent mostly sleeping because he has been working overnights. I then (stupidly) looked through his unlocked phone. He had changed his passcode because of how I found out about all of the cheating in the first place. I saw it unlocked and I just went for it despite knowing that I would hate what I saw. Turns out it was way worse than I thought. Not only is he screwing many different men and women, buying drugs or attempting to, but also using pictures of us/me to do these things. The pictures I saw he used CLEARLY show my face and I have never ever consented to him sharing these pictures with anyone, let alone with STRANGERS ON THE INTERNET.
I took a picture of one message exchange but I was so sick to my stomach I couldn't look anymore. I read the law regarding Pennsylvania's revenge porn but I am not clear on whether this falls into that category. Can anyone clarify that for me? What would be the first thing I do if I wanted to pursue this legally? I don't particularly want to get near him again to obtain more evidence because I am honestly scared of him and his disgusting behaviors. Do I need a lawyer? Honestly any advice is welcome, I am a mess right now and need logical advice. I have no idea how many people now have access to these photos and I do not want anymore to be used. I am horrified that one of my many redditor friends will find me on one of the porn reddits.. Here is the info on revenge porn in PA:
§ 3131. Unlawful dissemination of intimate image.
(a) Offense defined.--Except as provided in sections 5903 (relating to obscene and other sexual materials and performances), 6312 (relating to sexual abuse of children) and 6321 (relating to transmission of sexually explicit images by minor), a person commits the offense of unlawful dissemination of intimate image if, with intent to harass, annoy or alarm a current or former sexual or intimate partner, the person disseminates a visual depiction of the current or former sexual or intimate partner in a state of nudity or engaged in sexual conduct.
(b) Defense.--It is a defense to a prosecution under this section that the actor disseminated the visual depiction with the consent of the person depicted.
(c) Grading.--An offense under subsection (a) shall be:
(1) A misdemeanor of the first degree, when the person depicted is a minor.
(2) A misdemeanor of the second degree, when the person depicted is not a minor.
(d) Territorial applicability.--A person may be convicted under the provisions of this section if the victim or the offender is located within this Commonwealth.
(e) Nonapplicability.--Nothing in this section shall be construed to apply to a law enforcement officer engaged in the performance of the law enforcement officer's official duties.
(f) Concurrent jurisdiction to prosecute.--In addition to the authority conferred upon the Attorney General by the act of October 15, 1980 (P.L.950, No.164), known as the Commonwealth Attorneys Act, the Attorney General shall have the authority to investigate and to institute criminal proceedings for any violation of this section or any series of violations involving more than one county of this Commonwealth or another state. No person charged with a violation of this section by the Attorney General shall have standing to challenge the authority of the Attorney General to investigate or prosecute the case, and, if a challenge is made, the challenge shall be dismissed, and no relief shall be made available in the courts of this Commonwealth to the person making the challenge.
(g) Definitions.--As used in this section, the following words and phrases shall have the meanings given to them in this subsection unless the context clearly indicates otherwise:
"Law enforcement officer." Any officer of the United States, of the Commonwealth or political subdivision thereof, or of another state or subdivision thereof, who is empowered to conduct investigations of or to make arrests for offenses enumerated in this title or an equivalent crime in another jurisdiction, and any attorney authorized by law to prosecute or participate in the prosecution of such offense.
"Minor." An individual under 18 years of age.
"Nudity." As defined in section 5903(e).
"Sexual conduct." As defined in section 5903(e).
"Visual depiction." As defined in section 6321.
(July 9, 2014, P.L.1013, No.115, eff. 60 days)

2014 Amendment. Act 115 added section 3131.
Cross References. Section 3131 is referred to in section 8316.1 of Title 42 (Judiciary and Judicial Procedure).

I view Operating Cash Flow (OCF) as the bloodline of any entertainment media business.
Warner Brother's Discovery (WBD) manages to pull in some $7+ Billion annual OCF. With a current market value of $20 Billion, WBD sells on the market 3 times its annual OCF. That's pretty fucking cheap.
The question is why so "cheap"?
Well, maybe it's because of WBD's:

• Crippling $40+ Billion in debt
• Relatively "high" interest rates
• 10% top-line decline in the linear segment
• Anti-trust political climate

However, I think the market has overstated these concerns. With my super inexperienced opinion I think: - WBD's $7+ Billion in OCF is sustainable - Interest rates will stay at a reasonable level (a.k.a no Paul Volcker) - The cable ecosystem won't implode before substaintial debt repayment - The cable ecosystem won't implode before direct-to-consumer becomes a material replacement
The key insight I have over other investors is:
WBD is a business that is saddled, but not funded, by debt, nor primarily funded by equity (cough cough AMC and GME cough).
Sadly, currently I can't say the same about PARA: - Most PARA debt reduction is net of asset sales - If Shari Redstone succeeds in the Skydance merger, then essentially PARA is being funded by new equity to pay down debt.
Of course, for PARA, this won't matter if the turnaround succeeds. However, the current status quote isn't the prettiest -- as the case with most turnarounds (otherwise you wouldn't call it a "turnaround").
For most people, the investment thesis on PARA is more of a sum of the parts (SoTP). If Shari does the "right thing" and get's EVERYBODY a nice payday, then our SoTP will have come to fruition.
So why this post?
Should we cash out, my next "deep value" investment will be WBD. You should be aware though of some risk factors: - Interest rates rocket higher - WBD loses the NBA rights - Top-line decreases in the cable ecosystem is fine, but if the bottom-line is materially affected by cord-cutting then economies scale is lost and the cable-ecosystem is fundamentally broken.
You might wonder, why not Disney? Valuation. Why not AMC? I'm not an APE. Why not Netflix? Valuation.
Of course though, I always keep half my "fuck you" money in the index. Stock picking is just a hobby...
Edit: Also, WBD is Seth Klarman approved who intern is Warren Buffet approved.
Edit: Moreover, Michael Burry has been in and out of the stock more than once.

Hi! I’m a 28F and I’ve been seeing this dating/life coach for a few months now. I do like her as a person but I find that our sessions tend to go off course. She has ADHD and has a tendency to cut me off or start asking questions while I am explaining something or sharing my thoughts. I did ask her a few weeks ago if we could have a set agenda for our sessions in order to stay on track. She said yes and we did have a dedicated topic that we plan on discussing at our sessions. For example, today we were discussing spirituality. However after an hour on Zoom, I felt like we didn’t really cover a lot of ground. These sessions aren’t cheap either. I end up paying $90 per session. I do have a therapist who I see weekly but I wanted to hire a dating coach to help me as I navigate the dating scene.
I think I want to part ways with my dating coach but I’m not sure how to do it. She has been very nice to me and I appreciate everything she has done for me. Should I send her an email or call her?

I recently traveled with a cardboard bike box through Montreal Airport (YUL) with Air Canada. It was my first time doing so and I had a few doubts beforehand. So I thought I'd share my experience here in case it could help others looking for information, as I've seen people discussing this subject here.
Where to get the box?
Any bike shop: -possibly the cheapest but also the most unreliable and time consuming -might need to call multiple shops, sometimes inconveniently located
CL Cycle (35$) -two bike shops in the Plateau Mont-Royal neighborhood, both about 1km away from a metro station -apparently sell cardboard bike boxes for 35$, sometimes show as out of stock online
Gare d’autocars de Montréal (17.25$) -Montreal’s bus station, situated downtown at Berri-UQAM metro station (easily reached by bike from central neighborhoods or by metro which accepts bikes outside of weekdays peak hours) -the option I went for as it's both affordable and convenient -sells bike boxes for 17.25$ through Expedibus shipping service -just ask for a bike box at the main bus ticket counter, no need to reserve in advance, they should pretty much always have them in stock, they also provide tape -I couldn't measure the box but it was not super long, I removed the front wheel and handlebar of my rigid 29er MTB (with an admittedly long wheelbase) and it just barely fit, some people may need to remove both wheels -there is one hole on each side to use as handle, but they're fragile, using them to lift the bike caused as significant tear in the cardboard that I had to patch -there’s usually plenty of space inside the bus station to work on your bike and pack it -while there are often colorful characters hanging around the bus station, Montreal is a safe place, but still keep an eye on your valuables -from the bus station there are regular city buses going to the airport (STM 747 line) which accept bikes and cost 11$
Montreal Airport - Safe Bag (70$) -two kiosks at the airport, opening hours from early morning to evening -over the phone they told me they sold cardboard bike boxes for 70$ each (which seems outrageous), and that they always have some available (no surprise) -while the airport is easily reachable by bike, it's a much longer bike ride than to the Gare d’autocars for people staying or living closer to downtown, a long bike ride that you might want to avoid before a long flight if the weather is rainy or super hot
How to get to the airport?
747 bus from the Gare d’autocars to the airport (11$) -costs 11$ which you can buy in person at the bus station counter when you buy your bike box, can also be bought anywhere else that sells STM tickets including the apps Chrono and Transit, can buy it as L’Occasionnelle which works as 24h day pass for public transit on Montreal Island including the airport bus -can pay cash in the bus with coins only and the bus driver does not provide change -the bus line runs 24h/7, multiple times per hour during the day and at least every hour at night -leaves directly from gate 15 inside the Gare d’autocars, and then makes a few stops downtown before taking the highway to the airport -should take 50min to an hour to get the airport depending on traffic, construction, and, more importantly, confused passengers not knowing how to pay their ticket -the bus accepts boxed bikes as explicitly cited by their website, but the racks are too small, you'll have to keep your box upright along the folding seats of the area reserved for handicapped people :( -see STM website for more up-to-date info
How to fly with a bike with Air Canada
Fixed 50$ fee no matter the destination -you do NOT need to have a checked baggage included in your fare (for example, you can buy the cheapest economy fare type without any checked baggage, you will only have to pay 50$ for the bike, and not 50$ + whatever is the price for one checked baggage) -before buying your flight you can call this number to see if there is room available for your bike box on a specific flight: 18882472262 -after buying your ticket, call the same number to tell them to reserve a place for your bike, if by bad luck there's no room you can always get a refund within 24h of buying your ticket -do your online check-in, available the day before your flight, indicate that you will be traveling with one bike and pay the 50$ fee -once at the airport go to an Air Canada self check-in kiosk, click on the baggage options (I think it was called “modify baggage” even if you won't be modifying it), it should show you’re traveling with a bike, click to continue and it’ll print stickers for your bike box -go to the oversized luggage area, they’ll ask you to open the box for them to check it and then they'll give you tape to close it
Open to hearing your experiences.
*All prices in Canadian dollars
TLDR: Simplest reliable and affordable way to travel with a cardboard bike box to YUL is imo: -bike/metro to Gare d’autocars -buy 17.25$ bike box there -take 11$ 747 bus to YUL -pay airline specific bike fee (50$ with Air Canada, no extra fee)

Let me start up front with my summary, because this is long- I don't expect I'd ever go back, I wouldn't recommend it, but wouldn't vociferous warn people away, especially if they get a good price (I was paying 20k points per night).
I'll start with what was the most positive aspect- although the resort was (allegedly) full, it never felt crowded at all. Any time of day, you can find chairs by the pool, and you don't need reservations for the sit down restaurants- I think the most I waited was 5 minutes.
(I say allegedly full, because while the front desk said it was full, and I actually checked on the app and was told their were no rooms, it just didn't seem possible how empty the place felt. I suspect maybe it was full in that they had as many people as they felt the had the staff to handle, but that rooms weren't all being utilized).
Second most positive- I was in a standard room, no preferred or swim out, and I thought it was great. Nice balcony, bug space, good shower, comfortable bed. One negative- they have what on its face is a cool feature, where floor light goes on if it detects you get out of bed so that you can find your way to the bathroom. Except, it was going on and off all night, which frankly had me concerned something was getting of the detectors- but I saw no other signs of that. Also, this didn't bother me, but while our room was very well cleaned before we got there, during our stay it wasn't done nearly as well. For example, there would be sand on the floor from the prior day not cleaned up. But beds were made, towels changed out, so as I said it was fine for me.
The beach is about a 15 min van ride away from the hotel. We never had trouble getting on the van- I do wonder if u were over there at 4:00 and a thunderstorm broke out if you might get stuck waiting a long time. Because it was windy, the ocean was very rough (as in, if it had been a beach in the US, it would have been closed). There are a couple of pools over by the beach, but frankly if you are just going to sit by the pool you'd be better off by the hotel. (See below for review about service)
The food was average, as you'd expect for an all inclusive. I liked Olios the best, but I'd say that really would come down to subjective tastes. (Again, see below for service).
I liked the pools, didn't love them. A lot of the pool space is very shallow, I'm not certain why.
Getting toward the more negative- the lack of signage or maps is just infuriating. The place isn't that big, and after a couple of days I had it pretty well figured out, but when you first get there - good luck finding anything.
The website is the only way to find out about daily activities, and it is absurdly lacking in details. For example, it will tell you it's "Movie Night". It doesn't say where the movie is shown (it's by the Edgewager bar, btw), and they don't tell you what movie it will be. Moreover, when you try to get more details from the staff, including at the front desk, they are less informed than you are. For example, there is a daily 6pm yoga class held by the gym. As it happened, there was a private party being set up in that space. So my wife went to front desk- first person she spoke to insisted yoga was only in the morning. When my wife showed the app said there was 6 pm yoga, they went to find someone else, but no one could say whether the yoga was cancelled for that night or being held elsewhere. (The yoga instructors were also never told, my wife went back to the space where it was supposed to be held, and the yoga instructors were trying to get an answer before finally just walking around until they found some empty space.
And finally- the staff and service, just terrible. I hate to really go off, because I certainly encountered staff members who performed their jobs adequately. But it was such a recurrent theme. Nobody on the staff could answer any questions, including how to get to places on the property. Repeatedly, food or drinks ordered, at the pool or at sit down restaurant, just never came. Or were wrong. At the beach club, my wife and I left our things on two chairs while we went to the pool. We came back, and there were people in our chairs- I asked why they sat there with our property, and they said they had needed 6 seats together so they paid a staff member who just scooped up our belongings and dumped them in the lost and found. At breakfast- when you get sat, you'll be asked if you want anything to drink. Order everything you might possibly want, you will never see this person again. So, think you want a second coffee or juice- order it along with the first. Our last breakfast was the epitome of the service. We got sat at a table (it's a buffet). We ordered our drinks (6 in total). Once they arrived, we went to get our food. We got back, and another group was sitting in our table, drinking our drinks. The hostess apparently forgot she had just put us at that table, and the fact there were drinks already there didn't clue anyone in. So, we got shunted to the side, but now we'd missed our chance to order drinks, so I literally had to chase waiters around to get someone to come take our drink order for a second time (because, as he said, I just brought you drinks).
One other thing- there is a VERY aggressive push to attend a time share presentation. The way it works is when you checked in you get handed off to someone who supposedly will tell you about the resort amenities. After a fee minutes, you realize it's a push to attend a 90 minute presentation. We told the guy forget it, we were only there a few days so weren't wasting a morning on this. The guy pursued us the entire trip. He would call us in the room, and when he would see us in the lobby would chase us down (we actually started avoiding the lobby).