Unblock it now

I've noticed I have a habit of doing this recently and I'm realizing it might not be a good idea, so curious to see if anyone else does it
For example, in my lifegain deck I run [[Roots of Life]] and [[Urborg Tomb of Yawgmoth]] and while they're not really dead draws alone, they're only good if I have them together (my deck doesn't have black so Urborg is really just a colorless land)
I also have an unblockables deck that runs basically all the combat damage draw cards, such as [[Gix Yawgmoth Praetor]]. Now Gix has a second ability that is fun to activate by discarding like 50 cards. I threw in [[Feldon's Cane]] so I'd be able to do it again (or at least prevent decking myself), but I keep drawing it early game and it feels pretty bad (edit: it'll probably be swapped out for Grima, Saruman's Footman)
Then finally I have a sacrifice/self-mill deck that uses [[Syr Konrad]] and [[Dreadhound]] as potential wincons and they work well. Until recently I was also running [[Mindcrank]] as a potential "combo" with either of them, but I just kept drawing it alone every game so I cut it and I don't miss it
Does anyone else run any cards like these, where they work really well if you draw the right card, but they're more-or-less useless if you don't?
I suppose cEDH is full of this, but they also run so many tutors it doesn't matter as much
Edit: here's my decks if there's any interest
https://www.archidekt.com/folders/359477

So me and my ex sort of started talking again?
After a period of no contact he unblocked me and started watching my stories, he let me follow his account but mine was public so he didn’t follow me
I reached out and asked if he’d ever want to be friends/start talking again, he said he is happy to be friends, after this we had a brief conversation, asked how each other were etc, then that was it
He still kept checking my account so 2 days later I decided to put my instagram on private because I didn’t like how he could have access to my account but didn’t want to follow me, I thought it was weird
A day later he requested to follow me and immediately messaged me asking me how I was, what I was doing etc, and we messaged more than the last time
It’s now been 2 days and neither of us have messaged each other, obviously I want to talk to him but don’t want to come across as pushy
I don’t know what to think, if he was checking my stories and my account and initiated contact without me doing so then surely he is still thinking about me? But he doesn’t continue conversation for too long. I would want to have a relationship with him again but it’s so hard to know if he thinks the same, how can I show him over text without being forward or needy that it’s something I want? How can I make him remember via text why we were together in the first place?

A couple of months ago a guy messaged me on "the app" (let's call him Jim) and was looking for fun and suggested we exchange photos. I figured his face would be in his photos (mine was but not on my profile) but his just had pictures of a sex room and toys. He said he recognised me via a mutual friend and is someone that I have never met - I think my friend must have showed Jim my face photo.
I just made a comment about the situation was awkward, let Jim know I was going to block him so that he no longer had access to my photos. I then unblocked him in case he wanted to discuss more.
We haven't been in contact since - I wouldn't know how to get a hold of him anyways. But there have been a couple of times now where my friend has mentioned doing something with Jim and him.
Now, my friend is no saint - but not sure if this would upset him, particularly not telling him about it as opposed to the actual exchange of photos. But this happened around December time and I just haven't thought that it was something to raise straight away until Jim's name has started to come up in our conversations.
I am starting to feel by not disclosing that I am not being truthful. And, in hindsight, a bit angered that Jim has seen my dick and everything and all I have seen are some of his kink toys, so not exactly on equal footing here on who has seen what.
In this case, would you mention it to your friend? Would you wait until Jim's name came up or just have a special conversation about it? (or not mention at all)
EDIT: I have never hooked up with my friend but we do discuss hook-ups.

I (23m) have been with my girlfriend (21f) for 2.5 years. We have argued in the past about petty things but our current argument has been going on for 2 months now. She doesn't have many friends, and barely speaks to anyone other than her family and her one friend at university. I was happy to know that she had finally gained a big friend group about 2 months ago.
She spoke about the male friend in question a lot to the point where I had to ask her to stop. A few days later she is mentioning how this male friend had offered her a lift home from university 4 times that day. She didn't get the lift and I was glad because she has known this person less than 3 days now. I reminded her of the dangers and she promised never to get in that car.
The weekend passes and that Monday she gets home and says she got the lift with the male friend. I was a bit disappointed in her for a few minutes but forgave her and she promised to never do it again. Later that evening things took a turn for the worse as I had noticed she had removed almost every photo of us together on Instagram. This prompted me to check her phone and I see she had been chatting and planning this lift home the whole weekend and hiding it from me.
I did get very upset at her and I made her block this male friend on all her socials. She was angry at me the next day and I had given in to let her unblock this person and I told her she shouldn't be going behind my back like this and should let me know when she speaks to this person. She promised to only message this person about university work as well.
The next day she is acting strange. Clinging on to her phone and when I was at university with her that day she claimed to turn it off to save battery (90% and never done that before) when I had to keep her phone for her. I checked the phone and once again I see she was messaging this male friend, borderline flirting. I said enough is enough and made her block this person once and for all.
A month passes and she is once again following him on Instagram, made her block him again. This time she had a lot of rage at me. This stayed for a few days and when I couldn't handle her anger anymore, we sat down and spoke about a compromise and drew up a contract (her idea) that stated she may speak to her male friend in person at university but there is to be no online and out of university contact.
Another month passes and she is finally invited to go out with her friend group that this male friend is a part of. I give her a pass on this and I am genuinely happy she is able to go out with friends even if this male friend is present.
A few days after this she tells me I am emotionally abusing her and tears up this contract and over the last few days has no longer let me see her phone and has broken her promise to never get in the car with this male friend again. I plead with her that this hurting me and she doesn't seem to care.
AITAH for just wanting this male friend out of our lives after she has gone behind my back and broken promises over this person?

I dont know if I have blocked ducts or mastitis but i have had pain on one area of my breast for the last 24 hours. There is no redness that i can see. I feel like ive had a fever (haven't actually checked my temp yet) and whole body aching. Feels sort of hard where the pain was. I should note I also have a cracked nipple on the same breast.
Today I started ice, panadol and ibuprofen. I was able to get some sunflower lecithin this evening, i had my first dose a couple hours ago.
Just now I attempted the dangle feeding method to see if that would help.. immediately after i stopped feeding, my daughter spat up what looked like watery breast milk with chunky bits and there was blood and blood clots 😲 is this normal? Does this mean she unblocked me?
I felt instant relief, its still a little sore but no where near as bad as before. Baby is 5 months, she seems perfectly fine is her normal happy self and feeding fine on the other breast now without bringing anything up.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated! This is my second breastfed baby but ive never had anything like this happen before.

We broke up 1 month ago. I still wanted her and tried to reach out to make things work out and poured my heart out. It really was a beautiful ending. We then agreed to calling each other one day after to talk but not relationship wise. I tried it but I kept talking about our relationship and after she said she doesn't want it anymore I said I'm gonna block her. I hurt her by blocking her and unblocking her one day after because she reached out with a fake profile on instagram to say that if I would love her I wouldn't hurt her so bad. I unblocked her and we agreed to stay friends. I again didn't respect her boundaries and decision by talking about our relationship and how much I want to fix it. She then didn't want to be in contact in general with me. We moved in no contact and about 3 weeks later she removed me from social media. I then asked her if she did it and she said she did I respected her decision. But I asked her if I can send her one last message she was very angry at me but agreed. In the meantime I really worked on myself and reflected me and the way I was in the relationship. She was angry at me the whole time after we broke up. 1 month after the break up I send her my last message. I send her a really ong message with a big apology the way I treated her after the break up but also in the relationship. Because I often controlled her and we argued often because of these things. Like the way she dresses, the way she posts or writes with friends and so on. But it wasn't only a apology I said I really wanted to fix things, improve myself and love her unconditionally. She said she was happy to read it and was happy that I finally understood her. But she said she couldn't hold my hands anymore and I will find my luck even tho it's not her. She also wrote that this message kinda healed and washed her heart. I said the relationship I want now doesn't have up and downs but just ups. She answered by saying she trusts me that there wouldn't be downs but changes need time. She also wrote that when she thinks back to the relationship she gets a bad feeling. This wasn't a long relationship it lasted 4 months. She has the avoidant attachment style which is important when talking about all this here .
Did I push her away with that message even tho I tried my best and worked on myself ? Is she healed and moving on ? Is there any chance in future we can make this work out ? She also reposted a video saying "If she doesn't replace you with a men but peace it's over"
I'm gonna move on and improve myself but I just want to know if this relationship is ever gonna come back.
I know most of you guys maybe will tell me to forget her but I just want answers on my questions.

So 3 weeks ago I(22M) broke up with my current ex(20F). We had a 2 month relationship. To be honest, for the 2 weeks before the breakup she started telling me that she doesn’t feel being loved anymore. I tried my best for the 2 weeks to treat her as good as I could but she was not as involved as before. So the night before the breakup we had an argument but decided to give our relationship another try. I didn’t sleep the entire night. What she wanted was princess treatment. And i wasn’t sure i would be able to give it to her. I was scared that maybe we will end up in the same situation again. So i told her next morning let us break up. She was mad at my sudden change of behaviour. Then i tried to move on and told her so. I removed her from my insta. But soon i realised that i made a mistake. I was in dilemma then, what should i do. I msg her at whatsapp and then we after talking a while we decided to be friends. After the next few days i realised that i had still been treating her like her bf and she was just getting more detached. But she still wanted me to treat her the same. Now i decided to convince her again to get back together. To be precise, i begged her. But she seemed so detached. I didn’t know what to do. I was missing her so badly. Next day i thought of giving another try. Suddenly my msg stopped going through. So i thought i had been blocked. I got furious. I wasn’t emotionally stable. I said some things to her that i shouldn’t have on insta and blocked. Then cried for hours. later that day i felt horrible abt what i had done. So i unblocked her and sent an apology later that day. And said we should do no contact. The next week was hard for me. I had the withdrawal from the breakup plus the regret of not treating her right. So again i contacted her twice in that week asking her for apology. Finally she blocked me. This was last week. I am still not able to move on. I still am thinking abt it most of the time. I don’t know what i am supposed to do. Sorry for my bad English.

i was part of a friend group in highscool that i no longer want to associate with but they keep trying to contact me. once the pandemic happened, i pretty much stopped going to in-person school altogether and didnt hang out with them that much. to make a long story short, over the years they got in to tons of trouble fighting people and getting warrents, etc. im not cool with that. yeah i had fun joking around with them but they were never actually violent around me, and now seeing that, i just dont want to be around them at all. not to mention, some of these people in the group were pretty mean to me. one would make fun of my body shape and told me to my face that none of our other friends care about my current relationship. and another in the group that i felt very close to started trying to argue with me via text about something i wasnt even involved in so instead of arguing with them i blocked them. this was all years ago and now theyre trying to get in contact with me again and they want me to unblock that one person. its giving me some much anxiety because even though i have been pretty much friendless over these years, my life has been VERY peaceful. and im not ready to bring in these types of friendships. i dont want to let myself get pushed around again and i really dont think these people have changed. im scared to just block all of them because they know where i live and im so scared they would like confront me or something (this is probably paranoia, but knowing the things they have done to people and the way they act, i wouldnt put it past them fr.) also i want to include these people pushed me around the entire time i was friends with them. we have good memories, but overall they treated me like garbage and i was never cared about. they dont understand things they put me through and if i even attempted to talk with them about it they would definitely take it as an attack. all i want is peace and this situation is very stressful and i have no clue what the best decision is. any advice on how i can handle this is greatly appreciated.

Me 22M and my girlfriend or ex girlfriend 22F we together for 6 months but have been broken up for a month now, but she and I still see each other no matter how many times I try to ignore her. The reason she broke up with me was because she doesn’t believe that I never had a romantic interest or had a relationship with my girl family friend. My family friend and I had photos in my phone of our memories hanging out, nothing weird. I have been asked by her multiple times if I did like her, and I keep saying no. I’ve told her everything about my relationship with my family friend, but she said something like all she needed was honesty and transparency and that I’m not giving that to her. I then showed her my phone and she looked through the past messages I’ve had with a friend of mine who happens to be involved with the situation and my girlfriend then sees a message of my friend asking if I liked my family friend and me saying that I really do like her, but not in a romantic way. I guess that’s what validated her assumption about the situation about me and my family friend. She then said that she’s been lied to by a lot of guys and knows when someone is lying to her, that is when she broke things off with me.
A week or so goes by and she then checks up on me, then later on would start seeing each other again, with no labels. Then whenever I would talk about getting back together and wanting to work things out, she still thinks that I’m a liar and won’t work things out which caused us to take some space from each other again, and then the same thing happens. This time the issue was about the girls on my instagram following. She made me show her my following and then tells me to unblock the girls that I’ve talked to before, which I have ever since I got in to the relationship with her. She then met someone i knew back in high school that I used to talk to, with no relationship interest, then the next day she asks me if I still talk to any of the girls I used to like or talked to and I said no. She then showed me a screenshot of a comment I had on my high school friend’s post from 4 years ago and she thinks I used to talk to her. I then asked her if my friend ever told her that I liked her or pursued her, she said nothing and wanted to end the call because she was upset about it. I kept my distance from her because I said take her time and talk to me whenever she’s ready. She would then reach out to me to see me but never in the talks of working things out, only to just spend time and hangout. Another issue happens again which caused me to take some time from her because I felt like it was becoming a cycle, and also made me want to stop fighting for the relationship to get back to normal, she said that we can’t get back what we had. As much as want to keep fighting for the relationship, I just felt like I wasn’t being heard and felt like every question she asks me, she wants to hear something right, right that validated her assumptions.
I tried to keep my distance from her by spending more time with my friends because I was really hurt from the situation when she broke up with me and felt like I was in an emotional roller coaster. I know everybody makes mistakes but to her, everything I do seems to be bad… But then few days later she would check up on me again, then spend time with each other, cuddling and everything, like everything was ok. But now I just feel like it’s gonna be the same thing again and I don’t know what to do about it.
She’s been cheated on in the past and have told me before that she had some jealousy from her past relationship and also told me that she was a pretty controlling. I didn’t mind it before because I feel like she might have changed now. But now I feel like everything she has done with her ex has now been projected to me. Earlier times in our relationship, whenever she and I had those issues and would take time apart, she would apologize to me few days after saying that she’s sorry for treating me bad and felt that she should’ve not projected things to me from her past that I had no relations to. And I also find it unfair on why she was focused on my past and not the present, when she was the only person in my life, my only priority.
I tried to have a serious talk about getting back but she said that she’s scared that I might eventually hurt her. Why would she be worried of the worst outcome about what could happen when she and I could be focusing on what we want to happen?
I love this girl and all, but I just don’t know what to do about this. I feel like I’m stuck on a relationship that’s not a relationship. I’ve been looking up a lot these attachment styles and many months ago, she took a quiz and says that she was a fearful avoidant, and I’ve been looking up what a person with narcissist tendencies does, but I don’t want to assume the worst about it because I’m just simply trying to understand where she is at with this type of relationship she and I has. I just really don’t know what to do now at this point and I could use some help because I’ve been sad and angry about the situation I’m in. Thank you for reading this.
What do you think I could do with this situation? What could be the cause of this happening to her and me? Should I let her go?

I made a really big mistake and now my friends are mad at me and i feel horrible. I'll start from the beginning. So a little bit ago I was struggling severely with my mental health and still am just not as much as before. I had to drop out off school and now I'm homeschooled. I also cut off all my friends and people from school because i thought that was the best thing I could do at that time. I also was in therapy that wasn't working. Fast forward to now. I'm a people pleaser I guess you could say and that's what started everything. I eventually started talking to my friends again and everything was cool. Until they both called me in our group chat and started arguing with me and calling me a liar. I was hurt but deep down I knew they were right because almost everything they said was true.
They were saying how when one of the speaks to me about the other how I agree with what they say just to avoid conflict and how everytime I say something different depending who I talk to. They also said how I lie and make up stuff that my one friend said. Which I didn't agree with that part but it's wtv. Anyways they were both calling me a liar and saying how I need to be more honest and if I have a problem then to just speak with them about it next time. Which I will admit I do agree with people to please them I'm a push over. But I also kinda feel like they were both attacking me when they both were also talking behind eachothers back but I didn't say that. I also tried apologizing to then and saying sorry for lying to them even though I really never meant to or thought I was. Then my one friend was saying how I never explained what happend when I blocked her and didn't give her an explanation and how I can't just suddenly unblock her and start talking with out giving her an explanation but i told my other friend and not her.
(To clarify my other friend just showed up to my house unannounced so i kinda was forced to say everything by my mom and thats how we made up.)I said I wasn't comfortable with talking about it cause it was a very bad part of my life I wanna forget. But she said I can't just be friends again when it's convenient for me and i apolozged to her again and explained I wasn't comfortable. So after that cause that's all I remember I apologized for the last time about the lieing, people pleasing, and talking behind eachothers backs they were still made and said that's not what we want u to apologize for and just said it's whatever and hung up. Now they arent really talking to me and i feel like it would be awkard to try to hang out when they are both still mad at me. But I don't know what to do or how to fix it. I always avoid my problems and I'm already getting the urge to just block them because I don't know what else to do, but I know that'll be even worse cause there my bestfriends i just hate when we get into fights. Besides saying sorry I don't think there's anyway to fix this. Thank you to whoever read this long. Any advice on how to make up with them or what to do would be nice or any opinions.

Well it's 8 months later now. The first 3 or 4 months were really rough. It felt like the world was ending. Then for awhile after I was starting to move on and barely even think about her. About a month ago I was hanging out with a lady friend and a song my ex showed me came on. I started thinking about her again for the first time in awhile. Then a couple hours later I was showing my friend my highlights on instagram. I noticed that all her posts I shared reappeared. She unblocked me out of the blue. I was too scared to check her profile because I didn't know if what I could potentially see would hurt me. I still haven't. But after that I can't stop thinking about her.
Ig a part of me is hoping that she did that to open the door. That maybe she realized the grass isn't greener elsewhere and wants me to contact her. I've waited over a month for her to message or follow me. She never did. The breakup was pretty ugly towards the end. I believe the last things she ever said to me is that I mean nothing to her and she regrets meeting me. But the original reason for the breakup was because she said we both had things to work on and weren't ready for a relationship. However she went on Tinder days after and met some people. She was in another relationship in less than two months. Before that we attempted to rekindle but it didn't work. It really made me feel like she meant what she said about me not meaning anything to her.
But again. Lately I've been missing her a lot and can't stop fantasizing and reminiscing. Is this all just wishful thinking on my part? I feel like I'm just delusional and that she doesn't care. The reason she did that probably wasn't because she missed me. Thoughts?

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I am f(21) and during the pandemic I developed this habit of going on Omegle to chat with random strangers. I did this since 2020 up until Omegle shut down. I would put tags related to being a bigger woman, such as bbw, chubby, etc. however one night I decided to just go on with no tags. So in one of the many nights in which I would drink a lot and get stupid drunk and go on Omegle and get purposefully taken advantage of sexually by strange men, I met this one guy who since then I have been utterly OBSESSED with. And I need help forgetting him. He’s this really tall Arab man who is Egyptian. Our first interaction on Omegle was pretty blurry for me and don’t remember much because I was drunk. But I do remember him asking to see my breasts and I did and he came. After that I didn’t really think about him until the next day I get a call from an unknown number. And it was HIM! apparently I gave him my number that night. Then we FaceTimed later that night and I noticed he was calling obviously cuz he was in a very horny mood. Now because i was sober this time, I didn’t really have the confidence so when it came really sexual I hung up and blocked him. I think maybe 2 days later he texted me through his work number. And for some reason this is what had me hooked. Usually when I block people they get the hint. But even though it was so minimal what he did it still felt like to me he went out of his way. And I did find him attractive. He told me to tell him straight up that if I wasn’t interested that he will leave me alone for good. And tbh I became interested so I engaged more with. We became I guess friends with benefits but strictly online cuz he lives 6 hours away from me. We started talking every night then one night he casually mentioned he is ENGAGED. Because I didn’t want to make it seem like a crazy obsessed girl which I am I made it seem like oh okay cool. However I felt guilty, and I felt jealous at the same time. But I had a reality check and this is why I am writing this for advice. It’s gonna be a year in june of me and him talking. At first we used to talk every night. Now he only calls me when he needs to rant about his fiancée or his family back home. It’s like once a week now. And the worst part is that he consumes my thoughts. And I know he doesn’t care about me like that not Even in the slightest. I even gave him 100 bucks when he was on vacation in Egypt because he was running low on money which he never paid back. That was in November we are now in May. He also told me he was going to give me a gift from Egypt never did. Yes I am very stupid for wanting a man that is toxic, a cheater. But I got so use to him and he got so used to me being there every time. I’ve tried blocking him but every time I unblock him cuz I literally have his number memorize. Also, if you couldn’t tell, he’s a narcissist. When I first met him online I was still a virgin then when I lost my virginity I told him about it, and it was a big mistake. He called me all the horrible names and said I wasn’t pure and I was disgusting and that should have lost it to him. Btw he’s 29 years old so there’s a small bit of an age gap but I like older men hence the daddy issues.
How do I stop thinking about him? How do I stop anticipating his calls? How do I stop letting him from dictating my happiness? When he ignores me for a week or 2 weeks or even the whole two months he was in Egypt I begin to be super sad, or irritable. It’s affecting my life. I wish I never met him, how am I so obsess with a guy I have never touched. The only way I can think about solving this issue is by obsessing over someone else preferably someone from the same state.
Please no judgment. Just advice.

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I am f(21) and during the pandemic I developed this habit of going on Omegle to chat with random strangers. I did this since 2020 up until Omegle shut down. I would put tags related to being a bigger woman, such as bbw, chubby, etc. however one night I decided to just go on with no tags. So in one of the many nights in which I would drink a lot and get stupid drunk and go on Omegle and get purposefully taken advantage of sexually by strange men, I met this one guy who since then I have been utterly OBSESSED with. And I need help forgetting him. He’s this really tall Arab man who is Egyptian. Our first interaction on Omegle was pretty blurry for me and don’t remember much because I was drunk. But I do remember him asking to see my breasts and I did and he came. After that I didn’t really think about him until the next day I get a call from an unknown number. And it was HIM! apparently I gave him my number that night. Then we FaceTimed later that night and I noticed he was calling obviously cuz he was in a very horny mood. Now because i was sober this time, I didn’t really have the confidence so when it came really sexual I hung up and blocked him. I think maybe 2 days later he texted me through his work number. And for some reason this is what had me hooked. Usually when I block people they get the hint. But even though it was so minimal what he did it still felt like to me he went out of his way. And I did find him attractive. He told me to tell him straight up that if I wasn’t interested that he will leave me alone for good. And tbh I became interested so I engaged more with. We became I guess friends with benefits but strictly online cuz he lives 6 hours away from me. We started talking every night then one night he casually mentioned he is ENGAGED. Because I didn’t want to make it seem like a crazy obsessed girl which I am I made it seem like oh okay cool. However I felt guilty, and I felt jealous at the same time. But I had a reality check and this is why I am writing this for advice. It’s gonna be a year in june of me and him talking. At first we used to talk every night. Now he only calls me when he needs to rant about his fiancée or his family back home. It’s like once a week now. And the worst part is that he consumes my thoughts. And I know he doesn’t care about me like that not Even in the slightest. I even gave him 100 bucks when he was on vacation in Egypt because he was running low on money which he never paid back. That was in November we are now in May. He also told me he was going to give me a gift from Egypt never did. Yes I am very stupid for wanting a man that is toxic, a cheater. But I got so use to him and he got so used to me being there every time. I’ve tried blocking him but every time I unblock him cuz I literally have his number memorize. Also, if you couldn’t tell, he’s a narcissist. When I first met him online I was still a virgin then when I lost my virginity I told him about it, and it was a big mistake. He called me all the horrible names and said I wasn’t pure and I was disgusting and that should have lost it to him. Btw he’s 29 years old so there’s a small bit of an age gap but I like older men hence the daddy issues.
How do I stop thinking about him? How do I stop anticipating his calls? How do I stop letting him from dictating my happiness? When he ignores me for a week or 2 weeks or even the whole two months he was in Egypt I begin to be super sad, or irritable. It’s affecting my life. I wish I never met him, how am I so obsess with a guy I have never touched. The only way I can think about solving this issue is by obsessing over someone else preferably someone from the same state.
Please no judgment. Just advice.

This will be very long get ready.
I am f(21) and during the pandemic I developed this habit of going on Omegle to chat with random strangers. I did this since 2020 up until Omegle shut down. I would put tags related to being a bigger woman, such as bbw, chubby, etc. however one night I decided to just go on with no tags. So in one of the many nights in which I would drink a lot and get stupid drunk and go on Omegle and get purposefully taken advantage of sexually by strange men, I met this one guy who since then I have been utterly OBSESSED with. And I need help forgetting him. He’s this really tall Arab man who is Egyptian. Our first interaction on Omegle was pretty blurry for me and don’t remember much because I was drunk. But I do remember him asking to see my breasts and I did and he came. After that I didn’t really think about him until the next day I get a call from an unknown number. And it was HIM! apparently I gave him my number that night. Then we FaceTimed later that night and I noticed he was calling obviously cuz he was in a very horny mood. Now because i was sober this time, I didn’t really have the confidence so when it came really sexual I hung up and blocked him. I think maybe 2 days later he texted me through his work number. And for some reason this is what had me hooked. Usually when I block people they get the hint. But even though it was so minimal what he did it still felt like to me he went out of his way. And I did find him attractive. He told me to tell him straight up that if I wasn’t interested that he will leave me alone for good. And tbh I became interested so I engaged more with. We became I guess friends with benefits but strictly online cuz he lives 6 hours away from me. We started talking every night then one night he casually mentioned he is ENGAGED. Because I didn’t want to make it seem like a crazy obsessed girl which I am I made it seem like oh okay cool. However I felt guilty, and I felt jealous at the same time. But I had a reality check and this is why I am writing this for advice. It’s gonna be a year in june of me and him talking. At first we used to talk every night. Now he only calls me when he needs to rant about his fiancée or his family back home. It’s like once a week now. And the worst part is that he consumes my thoughts. And I know he doesn’t care about me like that not Even in the slightest. I even gave him 100 bucks when he was on vacation in Egypt because he was running low on money which he never paid back. That was in November we are now in May. He also told me he was going to give me a gift from Egypt never did. Yes I am very stupid for wanting a man that is toxic, a cheater. But I got so use to him and he got so used to me being there every time. I’ve tried blocking him but every time I unblock him cuz I literally have his number memorize. Also, if you couldn’t tell, he’s a narcissist. When I first met him online I was still a virgin then when I lost my virginity I told him about it, and it was a big mistake. He called me all the horrible names and said I wasn’t pure and I was disgusting and that should have lost it to him. Btw he’s 29 years old so there’s a small bit of an age gap but I like older men hence the daddy issues.
How do I stop thinking about him? How do I stop anticipating his calls? How do I stop letting him from dictating my happiness? When he ignores me for a week or 2 weeks or even the whole two months he was in Egypt I begin to be super sad, or irritable. It’s affecting my life. I wish I never met him, how am I so obsess with a guy I have never touched. The only way I can think about solving this issue is by obsessing over someone else preferably someone from the same state.
Please no judgment. Just advice.

I (F 22) just can't what should I do to protect our relationship. He's (M 22) the most genuine person I have ever met. It's 4 years of our long distance relationship. He's a possisive person and madly in love with me, same as me. Everyday we fall for each other more. But I did something that hurt him, for most of the people I know it will not be a enough reason to breaking up our relationship.
As I said he's a possisive person, he said me to break frndship with someone. And I did that, actually I said him to text that person from my Insta ID. So he did that in 2022, now in 2024 that person texted me in my WhatsApp number. That "can I remember him or not" Kind of thing. I instantly said it to my boyfriend and he's like I'm this much careless that I didn't blocked that person. Somewhere I know that I blocked him years ago. I can't do this kind of mistake. First I didn't accept it that but after watching him suffering, I said him "okay I'm sorry".
And after that we started talking again, a week ago. But then just a very small thing happened between us and we are just broke up. But I still feel he loves me and I also love him. I think he blocked me cause it's says busy but he calls me back. He always say me things can't be fix again between us.
And I really don't know what to do in this situation. At just after our break up he's was angry on me but know he's calm down. And that's make me feel more tense, we both can't sleep over nights, after that our break up.
Can anyone suggest me something? He's in depression, I know that but he don't want me to fix it. How can I help him? And can anyone get automatically unblocked in whatsapp using any method?

I (28F) have already talked about the ongoing issue with my MIL and SILs. We took the advice of the redditors and blocked their contact numbers and had gone no contact. I was once checking my call logs and saw my MIL tried calling me atleast 20-25 times, asked my husband to check his call log too. There was also many calls. We got worried so unblocked MIL.
Actually what happened was my husband told FIL that he will be taking me to mother's place for delivery aftercare. I have planned to stay at my mother's for about 3 months to learn to take care of the baby. I have fought with my parents to get married to my husband. So my MIL was under the impression that I have no one. She even said it on my face once when my husband asked why she never asks about my pregnancy or show concern. She told my husband that ask her mother to take care of her, I am not her mother. My mother was always involved with my pregnancy from day 1. I might have fought with my parents for my husband but I was always a good daughter and they acknowledge it and are very much part of my life. My MIL was unaware of it as we don't talk much. So, she thought I will be doomed once the baby arrives.
Now that she came to know that I am going to my mother's. She flipped and started calling us continuously till we called her back. My husband talked very politely. She just ordered him that she will be coming after delivery or we "have to" come there for my delivery. My MILs place is 10 hours from where we stay and there are no good toilets in the home which I will need when the baby comes. Also, I want to deliver baby in hospital of my choice. They are forcing me to deliver baby in some healthcare facility in village where there is no private room and they are very rude too. I can't just go there and also, I can't stay here and make her come. She is not active at all. She doesn't cook food for my FIL. Doesn't do any work in the house. House is always dirty. And she washes her hands in water she uses to cook. These things irk me and I asked my husband to decline both of her orders. We can't accept them.
My husband was annoyed at me and said earlier you were saying that my family is not involved and now that they want to be get involved, you are not allowing them to. But I made him understand that she wouldn't help me much with the baby. I would have to take care of baby and MIL both. It will be too much for me. He reluctantly agreed and called his mother. Then we got to know from her that people from the village are taunting her that she is a bad "saas" who doesn't know anything about DIL's pregnancy. She managed to protect herself by saying I have a lot of maids but once they will see that I am living at my mother's, village people will not respect her and mock her. She was scared of that. So, she wanted to come to show face but as I will be at my mom's, it won't be possible. This enraged my husband that she is still a selfish woman. He told her we don't need you and she will stay where my baby and wife will be taken care of and disconnected the call.
Is it normal? I haven't completed even an year with these people and I am tired of all of it. Maybe it's pregnancy but it's exhausting. It's just last month, I wanted to chill and relax but now my whole mental health is ruined after that call. My husband's too. We are so done and tired of it. He feels very alone as he is taking care of me and listening from his entire family.

I (F 22) just can't what should I do to protect our relationship. He's (M 22) the most genuine person I have ever met. It's 4 years of our long distance relationship. He's a possisive person and madly in love with me, same as me. Everyday we fall for each other more. But I did something that hurt him, for most of the people I know it will not be a enough reason to breaking up our relationship.
As I said he's a possisive person, he said me to break frndship with someone. And I did that, actually I said him to text that person from my Insta ID. So he did that in 2022, now in 2024 that person texted me in my WhatsApp number. That "can I remember him or not" Kind of thing. I instantly said it to my boyfriend and he's like I'm this much careless that I didn't blocked that person. Somewhere I know that I blocked him years ago. I can't do this kind of mistake. First I didn't accept it that but after watching him suffering, I said him "okay I'm sorry".
And after that we started talking again, a week ago. But then just a very small thing happened between us and we are just broke up. But I still feel he loves me and I also love him. I think he blocked me cause it's says busy but he calls me back. He always say me things can't be fix again between us.
And I really don't know what to do in this situation. At just after our break up he's was angry on me but know he's calm down. And that's make me feel more tense, we both can't sleep over nights, after that our break up.
Can anyone suggest me something? He's in depression, I know that but he don't want me to fix it. How can I help him? And can anyone get automatically unblocked in whatsapp using any method?

I made a really big mistake and now my friends are mad at me and i feel horrible. I'll start from the beginning. So a little bit ago I was struggling severely with my mental health and still am just not as much as before. I had to drop out off school and now I'm homeschooled. I also cut off all my friends and people from school because i thought that was the best thing I could do at that time. I also was in therapy that wasn't working. Fast forward to now. I'm a people pleaser I guess you could say and that's what started everything. I eventually started talking to my friends again and everything was cool. Until they both called me in our group chat and started arguing with me and calling me a liar. I was hurt but deep down I knew they were right because almost everything they said was true.
They were saying how when one of the speaks to me about the other how I agree with what they say just to avoid conflict and how everytime I say something different depending who I talk to. They also said how I lie and make up stuff that my one friend said. Which I didn't agree with that part but it's wtv. Anyways they were both calling me a liar and saying how I need to be more honest and if I have a problem then to just speak with them about it next time. Which I will admit I do agree with people to please them I'm a push over. But I also kinda feel like they were both attacking me when they both were also talking behind eachothers back but I didn't say that. I also tried apologizing to then and saying sorry for lying to them even though I really never meant to or thought I was. Then my one friend was saying how I never explained what happend when I blocked her and didn't give her an explanation and how I can't just suddenly unblock her and start talking with out giving her an explanation but i told my other friend and not her.
(To clarify my other friend just showed up to my house unannounced so i kinda was forced to say everything by my mom and thats how we made up.)I said I wasn't comfortable with talking about it cause it was a very bad part of my life I wanna forget. But she said I can't just be friends again when it's convenient for me and i apolozged to her again and explained I wasn't comfortable. So after that cause that's all I remember I apologized for the last time about the lieing, people pleasing, and talking behind eachothers backs they were still made and said that's not what we want u to apologize for and just said it's whatever and hung up. I started crying when I processed what just happen. Now they arent really talking to me and i feel like it would be awkward to try to hang out when they are both still mad at me. But I don't know what to do or how to fix it. I always avoid my problems and I'm already getting the urge to just block them because I don't know what else to do, but I know that'll be even worse cause there my bestfriends i just hate when we get into fights. Besides saying sorry I don't think there's anyway to fix this. Thank you to whoever read this long. Any advice on how to make up with them or what to do would be nice or any opinions.

I (F 22) just can't what should I do to protect our relationship. He's (M 22) the most genuine person I have ever met. It's 4 years of our long distance relationship. He's a possisive person and madly in love with me, same as me. Everyday we fall for each other more. But I did something that hurt him, for most of the people I know it will not be a enough reason to breaking up our relationship.
As I said he's a possisive person, he said me to break frndship with someone. And I did that, actually I said him to text that person from my Insta ID. So he did that in 2022, now in 2024 that person texted me in my WhatsApp number. That "can I remember him or not" Kind of thing. I instantly said it to my boyfriend and he's like I'm this much careless that I didn't blocked that person. Somewhere I know that I blocked him years ago. I can't do this kind of mistake. First I didn't accept it that but after watching him suffering, I said him "okay I'm sorry".
And after that we started talking again, a week ago. But then just a very small thing happened between us and we are just broke up. But I still feel he loves me and I also love him. I think he blocked me cause it's says busy but he calls me back. He always say me things can't be fix again between us.
And I really don't know what to do in this situation. At just after our break up he's was angry on me but know he's calm down. And that's make me feel more tense, we both can't sleep over nights, after that our break up.
Can anyone suggest me something? He's in depression, I know that but he don't want me to fix it. How can I help him? And can anyone get automatically unblocked in whatsapp using any method?

I did a formal apology for my ex since I know that I caused a lot of pain to her and since the breakup I didn’t cry I’ve been thinking about her but since I ended it it’s pretty obvious that I wasn’t the one crying that day but I am now 15 days later it feel so overwhelming how right she was today I felt helpless because I know if she was with me I would cry to her but now I cry by myself and I know that I miss her love but I know it’s not worth it it’s worthless putting the wrong puzzle pieces together I left a whole message taking accountability and I took anything out that could give off my selfishness I took anything that could make it about my feelings and just apologized for everything she communicated that she felt wronged in and I apologized and then blocked her I did have to unblock her to do this so I also feel that it was a wrong move in case of what if me texting her brings in unnecessary stress or emotional pain.

I made a really big mistake and now my friends are mad at me and i feel horrible. I'll start from the beginning. So a little bit ago I was struggling severely with my mental health and still am just not as much as before. I had to drop out off school and now I'm homeschooled. I also cut off all my friends and people from school because i thought that was the best thing I could do at that time. I also was in therapy that wasn't working. Fast forward to now. I'm a people pleaser I guess you could say and that's what started everything. I eventually started talking to my friends again and everything was cool. Until they both called me in our group chat and started arguing with me and calling me a liar. I was hurt but deep down I knew they were right because almost everything they said was true.
They were saying how when one of the speaks to me about the other how I agree with what they say just to avoid conflict and how everytime I say something different depending who I talk to. They also said how I lie and make up stuff that my one friend said. Which I didn't agree with that part but it's wtv. Anyways they were both calling me a liar and saying how I need to be more honest and if I have a problem then to just speak with them about it next time. Which I will admit I do agree with people to please them I'm a push over. But I also kinda feel like they were both attacking me when they both were also talking behind eachothers back but I didn't say that. I also tried apologizing to then and saying sorry for lying to them even though I really never meant to or thought I was. Then my one friend was saying how I never explained what happend when I blocked her and didn't give her an explanation and how I can't just suddenly unblock her and start talking with out giving her an explanation but i told my other friend and not her.
(To clarify my other friend just showed up to my house unannounced so i kinda was forced to say everything by my mom and thats how we made up.)I said I wasn't comfortable with talking about it cause it was a very bad part of my life I wanna forget. But she said I can't just be friends again when it's convenient for me and i apolozged to her again and explained I wasn't comfortable. So after that cause that's all I remember I apologized for the last time about the lieing, people pleasing, and talking behind eachothers backs they were still made and said that's not what we want u to apologize for and just said it's whatever and hung up. Now they arent really talking to me and i feel like it would be awkard to try to hang out when they are both still mad at me. But I don't know what to do or how to fix it. I always avoid my problems and I'm already getting the urge to just block them because I don't know what else to do, but I know that'll be even worse cause there my bestfriends i just hate when we get into fights. Besides saying sorry I don't think there's anyway to fix this. Thank you to whoever read this long. Any advice on how to make up with them or what to do would be nice or any opinions.