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Tldr: I went to a fancy local barbershop and a guy there shamed me for moving into the neighborhood he called a local red zone. Lost me as a customer after only one visit.
So, I moved into what I would consider to be a decent neighborhood. (Considering where I am from)
My first home. I'm proud. So there's a barbershop two blocks down and I noticed they employ a particular kind of barber. Lots of tattoos, not alot of clothes. They call it "men's salon" So I'm sitting there, eager to meet new people and when you tell people you just move in, there's lots of options for conversations.
So I'm talking to the lady and it's typical banter, glad to be here, we love the neighborhood.
So the guy notices me talking and comes near us and starts sweeping. I mentioned earlier that I lived down the street, so that maybe they would catch on I could be a good regular. (Walking distance barber? Jackpot) nearly naked ladies cutting hair... I'm in.
So, he goes "you said you bought a house down [this] road?" I'm like yea... he says " isn't that a red zone" Now mind you... I'm originally from an actual red zone. (Long story) So I kind of got confused I mean, I met all my neighbors, all retired. They all seem to own several houses on the block so it's super quiet here. Bunch of air BNB's couple kids playing basketball.
So I said.... doesn't seem too bad. I hadn't noticed anything. I'm from an area relatively famous for car jackings, shootings and gangs... All I hear is bugs and birds.
Then he says "your daughter go to school at such and such" He looks at the lady cutting my hair and goes "isn't that a uniform school?"
So at this point I'm like fuck this guy. He starts bad mouthing the whole city, saying it's basically a college town with no college.
I felt like shit. I was 3 days into this neighborhood. I really liked it.
Why did he shit on my parade?
I haven't gone back in 3 years. I walk past there all the time and I hate them. It's like 50$ for a haircut anyway. And the lady there is a freaking wizard with a scissor. I don't see his car anymore. Maybe I will stop in again.
That's no way to treat a potential long term customer.

I bought one of those cheap videogame boxes (for a GBA game) some people make, knowing it wouldn't be of good quality. It was cheap so I didn't mind. The box arrived a bit damaged, which again wasn't the biggest deal, but I told the buyer. He read my message a few days later (at least according to the website), but he ignored me completely. The time to return it or ask for a refund passed (my fault, but up until this week I didn't know how this process works), so eventually I gave him a negative review simply explaining what happened ("the product arrived damaged, I tried to explain it to the seller and he didn't respond"). Big mistake. After this he called me a scammer on his negative review, and insulted me on private as well. I basically sent screenshots of what I previously sent him in case he was telling the truth and never received those messages, but based on his reaction I don't think he was being honest. Instead of engaging more, I just contacted Vinted. I got a response saying they were taking care of it, but the only thing they've done so far is to "block" our conversation (we can't text each other), but they left the reviews up. Had I been rude to him or had I lied about sending those messages, I'd understand his reaction or his 1* review, but I just sent pictures of the box, I said it came damaged and still complimented his design. Vinted's policy is to not erase people's reviews UNLESS there's insults or stuff like that. Idk but calling a scammer and a liar someone who just lost 7€ (and the box I won't even be able to use lol), when there's proof inside the conversation of what he did, seems like one of those cases. The seller had more negative reviews recently and reacted in a similar way btw.
And I know it's partially my fault for not acting sooner, I was just naive enough to think he would reply and I'd have time to solve this. Getting a negative review when I didn't do something wrong doesn't sit right with me.

TL;DR I (14F) don't know what to do about my friend/classmate (15M) who has love-hate (this is kind of an exaggeration) feelings for me.
We're in the same class and graduating 8th grade in less than a month and I'm asking for help because I don't want to be the villain in his life. I'm always stressed about hurting people and I only ever tried to be kind and honest, but I was stupid and I messed up this time. I don't want him to remember me as the exact thing I am not. I hate conflict and being mean. I would rather compromise than hurt somebody's feelings, but now I am just at loss.
We started talking more in October and then got pretty close in November and December. We'll call him D. We went out mid December at the mall to buy a book for school and I ended up buying Christmas presents. He helped me pick stuff for all of my friends and then we ate. It was very much a date-like hangout and we even walked arm in arm to the bus stop at the mall. He also walked me from the bus stop to my front door.
Fast forward to a day before our school's Christmas event. I told my friends that I kind of liked him and they convinced me to tell him. I told him and we texted some more at home then we agreed to talk the next day after the event. That evening I thought about it all and I realized that I wasn't ready for a relationship. I am 14 after all and I have the most important exam of my life so far at the end of the school year (this is just the schooling system in my country). The next day I avoided him and then at home I explained everything through text because I was too anxious to do it face-to-face. I was a wimp and I wish I had the guts to actually talk to him. I apologized countless times. I felt horrible and I can't even imagine how it was for him. I still kinda hate myself for it, but at the time I believed it was for the best.
I thought about the whole ordeal and it made me realize I might have attachment issues. I'm so obsessed with being loved (I grew up very lonely) that I feel a certain level of romantic attraction towards anyone who gives me a little more attention (especially men which I know is terrible). I also don't mean this as an excuse, but rather as an explanation to why I acted the way I did. I liked how D made me feel about myself, not actually him (this is horrible, I know). After I explained everything I felt he was cool about it and I actually thought that maybe things were okay. I told him i wasn't going out until after New Year's because I was very busy with family (I wasn't avoiding him purposely I was actually busy) yet for about a week straight he asked me 2 times every day where I was which was kinda weird and made me not want to go out at all even after New Year's.
Fast forward to this March when a common acquaintance of ours (not in our class) talked to D because he'd heard from a friend of his that D still liked me. D told this acquaintance that he does indeed still like me, that I look good and that he likes my big breasts (he said this in a much less respectful way). I was shocked because I couldn't fathom D still liking me after I'd been a total witch to him. We'd been ignoring each other mostly ever since December and even though we agreed to stay friends and I was very confused.
A few days later I was talking to a good friend of mine, D's deskmate, and mentioned the acquaintance who told me D still liked me. I just repeated something funny he said. I didn't say anything about D because he was right there, but D got mad (he probably found out I knew stuff) and broke a pencil. I'd seen that he had problems with anger and jealousy (he used to read my texts to my online friend on the other side of the world who is also a guy and got upset when I'd say they're personal and we weren't even together), but I didn't think it was that bad.
My friend (we'll call her R) told me she found out from another friend in our group that I was driving D crazy with telling his deskmate (a very close friend of mine) about stuff like weird fanfiction about my favourite singer (Gerard Way) and my variety of dirty jokes. From what R understood, he didn't like me speaking about sexual stuff (I haven't done anything like that, it's just an interesting topic to me) around him. I didn't understand why it would bother him, but apparently it did. Maybe jealousy? I don't know.
Nothing much happened until this Saturday when our whole class was taking album photos. The basic and typically "popular" girl in our class invited my group (the 7 emo girls basically) alongside her group (her another 3 people) to the new Japanese restaurant in town. We get along fine with them, though they kinda gossip about us sometimes, so we gladly agreed to eat with them. A girl in our group (whom D liked last year; she was much harsher in rejecting him - she blocked him on all platforms) is a tad bit closer to the popular girl, so the two of them made the reservation for 11 people at the restaurant.
During the shoot, D and another classmate that we're not very close friends with (they're chill, we just don't talk all that much) overheard our sushi plans and asked me if we were going. I said yes and tried to kindly say that we have a reservation already for 11 people and that they can tag along, but sit at another table. I felt bad because I've been excluded countless times in social situations in my life and I didn't want them to feel that. Their parents who were also there questioned me and I was too ashamed to lie, so I said that yes, we had a reservation. D and the other person didn't come in the end.
That evening I texted D apologizing and explaining that I was just invited and that I wasn't the one making the reservation. He said that it's okay and not my fault and he said that the other person was also not mad at me. He asked me why i was so obsessed with apologizing and I made a sharp remark I didn't think through about being annoyed at my friends' insensitivity about excluding them. He asked me why I was telling him all that and I told him to forget it. He encouraged me to continue and just speak my mind. I said no and told him I only had a question. I asked "do you still like me?" and I proceeded to explain why that would be impossible. He said I was changing the subject and I didn't realize that he was the one doing it in reality. He told me again to just speak and that nobody else will know whatever I tell him. I refused, but he somehow convinced me and I made a small confession about being lonely and feeling like only 3 people truly like me. It wasn't as personal as it may seem because I have much deeper feelings I have never told anyone, but I was still shocked that he somehow made me spit out things it takes a lot of hard work to get me to say as I am a very introverted and closed off person. For some context I was literally shaking and hyperventilating from anxiety throughout the whole conversation. I asked him again if he still liked me and he responded in the morning, completely ignoring the question and asking about a math test we recently took.
Yesterday evening, on Sunday, I talked to another classmate and friend (again not very close, but he's nice) whom I'll call L. L told me D had sent the group chat with the other person who I apologized to for the sushi thing, L and another classmate (I presume) screenshots of our whole conversation (even though he promised he'd keep his mouth shut). L sent me a screenshot of D saying I played him before and after I rejected him and said I manipulated him and only pretended to be interested in the things he liked just to get close to him (for the record, I'm a big listener, I love hearing my friends talk about their passions and interests). He also said he hated me. I was shocked and very upset because while telling me everything is alright and that the mess in my mind will get better, he was talking nonsense about me to others and sharing private information.
I told my friends about all of this. R said it's all my fault and that I did give him false hopes even after I rejected him and that I give him too much importance. She basically said I'm a bad person because I told D I wasn't ready to date anybody after saying I liked him. She probably believes I did it for kicks, just like D thinks, but I swear on everything I have that I'm just very dumb and I have no idea how to navigate human relations. I'm a massive people pleaser and it shows. Two friends said that it is what it is and another four said that it is totally not my fault and that I did not give him false hopes after I rejected him and that I barely even acknowledged him during that time (I also think so, but R said I kept flirting with him - I ignored him completely and he ignored me just the same so I am very confused as to what she deems "flirting"). They said I communicated clearly that it's not him, but rather a personal issue and that I am very sorry and I will respect his decision if he doesn't want us to talk or be friends at all anymore. I am in a dilemma.
I feel like a bad bad bad person for what I did and how I acted and I have no idea if R is right and that I did keep giving him false hopes or if all of my other friends are right and it's not my fault. I never thought that my behavior (existing in his perimeter) would be considered as flirting, but apparently R thinks otherwise. In R's opinion sending him two TikToks in 3 months and talking to him 3 maybe 4 times through text and another two face-to-face from December to now was too much attention.
So, am I a horrible person who deserves unhappiness or is D just overreacting and being manipulative and toxic? Please help this is really messing with my mind.

Of course I’m on mobile so sorry in advance, but I am at a loss. I moved to a new area about 3 months ago, and I am actually moving again at the end of this month. Partially due to this, as well as other reasons. Now my neighborhood is very quiet. There’s a dog park down the hill, and a school three blocks away. We have a school bus drive through every day, twice a day. Across the street is a fairly loud family. They have three kids and dogs, so of course they’ll have a lot going on. Their yard is TRASHED. As we speak they have cleaned it up a bit, and their dumpster is SURROUNDED by broken furniture, old mattresses, and hundreds of bags of trash. I believe it is because they were fined when the police were called for a different reason. Me and my husband are very quiet. We have two dogs but one is older and the other is totally crate trained. I know for a fact that even if they do bark, because we are on the second story and the only tenants in the building, you can’t hear them unless you’re in our driveway. Other than that, we really have not been bad neighbors. Maybe anti-social but that’s it. Now on to the issue at hand. The husband drives a large bed tow truck for work, and he parks it at his house. Recently he actually started parking it in his driveway, previously he was parking on the street but that has stopped. Now i understand large diesel engines work differently, so when it was snowy I didn’t really have a reason to be annoyed, but this guy starts his truck at 5 am, and idles it until 7:30/8 am when he leaves. It makes a hissing noise and wakes us up, I can hear it in every part of my apartment with the windows closed. It’s like a school bus. It makes me and my husband incredibly uncomfortable, especially since we both work nights and get home at 2-3 am. Now, due to the actions of the family (i.e. screaming, fighting, the son is always being violent, cops called often) I don’t feel safe walking over there to chat. We are a queer couple and I am transgender so I’ve always been anxious about confrontation. I did call the tow company he works for and explained the issue, and how I need to sleep, plus the city has a 8pm-7am noise ordinance. After I called my husband took the dogs out and the husband was yelling about “loud barking dogs” (every house on the street except my left side neighbor has a dog) and other things about what bs it is. The idling did not stop, so I unfortunately called the police after a week, and have called them a couple times since. Because it wasn’t stopping. Well, today he didn’t idle his truck. Instead he used his key to set off his horn 4-8 times every 20 minutes, and started his truck at 7am on the dot, since the noise ordinance is not in effect at that time. Obviously with me moving it will solve itself, but there’s an elderly couple who live to the left of me, the dog park brings all kinds of people walking the neighborhood, and the bus stop on the corner, plus the school being so close, i feel awful. As far as I have looked into it, a diesel engine doesn’t need to warm up for more than 30 minutes? Am I being too snooty??? Edited for spelling

I’m sorry if this is confusing, I’m not really sure how to word this. I just realised I misspelled the title sorry btw.
I F15 (2009) and my friend F14 (2010) have been friends for a couple months, we normally interact during school hours. We’re both in year 9 even though she’s a year younger, age is important to the story btw.
For the sake of simplicity I will call me friend Zoe, Zoe has a crush on this boy M17 let’s call him Jake. Jake and Zoe had been talking and of course the school had caught wind of it since they were walking around together during break, I personally thought it was a bit weird given there 3 year age gap. Normally 3 years isn’t bad but because of Zoe’s maturity level it made everyone agree it just wasn’t right.
Didn’t matter and they kept talking but eventually after a while u asked Zoe how things were going because she hardly talked about him. And she told me he liked her but things were complicated, I felt sorry for her and I didn’t want Jake to play with her feelings. So I went and talked to Jake who explained to me that he wasn’t comfortable with the ‘relationship’ because of the age gap and wasn’t sure how to tell her, I told him to just out right and say it. The next day he told me he did during a phone call, I was kinda relieved until a few days later he told me and my friends that she was still contacting him, he found it annoying and asked us to talk to her. I didn’t talk to her because i didn’t know how to approach the conversation, next week he complains again (she sent him a tik tok about how she liked him but couldn’t have him) and one of my friends tell him to block her on everything, since he already set his boundaries. We asked him why he hadn’t done it before and he expressed he was worried she’d kill herself (which is wild but okay).
Because of this whole thing me and Jake started talking more often and I got to know him, we text now and again when I’m not too busy. When Jake followed me on instagram he noticed my following count was 666, called me out lol. I thought it was funny and posted it on my story. Zoe has seen it and she texted me asking if I was talking to him and I explained we we’re talking about someone else (which we were) and she asked to know what exactly he was saying. I told her since it wasn’t a big deal but I still thought it was strange. I thought it was a bit odd but I just brushed it off, I did end up telling Jake to tease him. Couple weeks later Zoe messages me again asking if I would date Jake because she overheard my friend calling Jake my man (my friend was very unhinged and I was trying to tell her to shut it omg) so I obviously said no because at the time I wasn’t interested in him.
Now fast forward a couple weeks i regularly talk to Jake, I wouldn’t say I’m In love with him but idk he’s funny and today I was in class and I tried talking to her but she kinda ignored me, idk maybe I’m overreacting but I still feel weird about it.
ANYWAY I need advice and I need to know if I’m in the wrong and breaking girl code.

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As people load up their kayaks, canoes and boats ahead of Memorial Day weekend, local recreation company Adventure East and the U.S. Coast Guard Auxiliary are advising folks to keep safety in mind during National Safe Boating Week.
In 2022, the U.S. Coast Guard reported 4,040 accidents and 636 deaths resulting from recreational boating activities. Boaters of all types — especially paddlers in kayaks and canoes, as well as those on paddle boards — are urged to get their equipment inspected, properly prepare for boating and follow safety tips to ensure everyone has a fun and, most importantly, safe experience. National Safe Boating Week is observed the week before Memorial Day each year, as the holiday typically marks the arrival of warmer weather, which ushers in the recreational boating season. This year it is being observed from May 18 through May 24.
“Kayakers, paddlecraft as we call them, don’t think they’re boaters,” said William Bell, a member of the Coast Guard Auxiliary for 43 years. “Things happen quick in small boats, that’s why in a kayak it’s more important [to be prepared]. … Good swimmers think they can put a life jacket on in the water, it’s difficult.”
To mark the occasion in the Pioneer Valley, where paddlecraft make up the vast majority of boaters in the region’s rivers, the U.S. Coast Guard Auxiliary is partnering with Sunderland-based outdoor recreation company Adventure East to inspect the business’ fleet of boats and then with the Sunderland Public Library to offer inspections of the public’s vessels.
On Friday, May 24, from 3 to 6 p.m., folks are invited to bring their kayaks, canoes and other boats to the parking lot behind the Sunderland Public Library at 20 School St., where Coast Guard Auxiliary members like Bell and Tom Fydenkevez, who also previously served decades on the Selectboard, will inspect the vessels free of charge. Adventure East will also be on hand to share details about their boating safety procedures, additional paddlecraft safety tips and great locations for people to bring their boats.
If your boat is in compliance, you will receive a vessel safety check decal for your boat to indicate you are in full compliance with federal and state boating laws. If deficiencies are found, a written report will be put together.

Safety tips

While it may be obvious, a key point for all boaters and passengers is the importance of wearing a life jacket or other form of personal flotation device, as Fydenkevez noted 75% of all fatal boat accidents involve drowning. In 85% of those drownings, the person who died was not wearing a life jacket. Three in four drownings also involved vessels less than 21 feet in length, according to the Coast Guard. He added that life jackets should fit properly and high-visibility ones are more effective.
“You know, the black and the blue [life jackets] look really good, but if you’re out there, it’s nice to have a red one or brightly colored one. … Coloration is really important,” Fydenkevez said.
As for additional items and equipment, all boaters should have a personal ID on them and it is recommended to have some sort of identification on the vessel. This identification should have a phone number on it, so if a boater is safe, but separated from their boat, first responders aren’t sent on an unnecessary search.
Paddlecraft boaters are advised to have an additional paddle or oar, a flashlight, a first aid kit, a registered beacon that can be attached to a boat to track their location, and food and water. Boaters are advised to leave alcohol on the shore, as its use is listed as the “leading-known contributing factor in fatal boating accidents,” according to the Coast Guard.
“People think they’re on the water, ‘What could happen to me?’” Fydenkevez said of many people’s mindsets when getting in or on a boat. Beyond equipment, and much like going for a hike, the public is advised to have a “float plan,” where you inform a family member, friend or other responsible party of your plans, which includes where you’re going and the expected time you’ll return. That way, authorities can be notified if you do not come back.
Other tips include dressing for the water, not the weather, because even if the weather is going to be above 90 degrees, water temperatures can still be dangerously low. This time of year in particular, the water temperatures are still in the low 60s, “so you don’t have an unlimited amount of time,” Fydenkevez said. The National Weather Service notes “cold shock can be just as severe and dangerous” from 60-degree water as it is with 32-degree water.
As members of the Coast Guard Auxiliary and Adventure East prepare to inspect boats on Friday, Adventure East founder Brian Pearson said his business has gotten their life jackets inspected and they get all 45 kayaks, 15 canoes and two giant canoes inspected by the Coast Guard Auxiliary.
“A lot of people kind of start their pathway into paddling with Adventure East, so we have a lot of people who may have fear or anxiety about starting a new thing that has more risk. … The Coast Guard says we know what we’re doing, which is a huge thing,” Pearson said. “It’s great to have that partnership and their interest in helping and supporting us.”
For more information about National Safe Boating Week, visit the Coast Guard’s website at:
https://www.news.uscg.mil/Press-Releases/Article/3778406/coast-guard-urges-safety-during-national-safe-boating-week-memorial-day-weekend/

I’m sorry if this is confusing, I’m not really sure how to word this. I’m reposting her because I really need help
I F15 (2009) and my friend F14 (2010) have been friends for a couple months, we normally interact during school hours. We’re both in year 9 even though she’s a year younger, age is important to the story btw.
For the sake of simplicity I will call me friend Zoe, Zoe has a crush on this boy M17 let’s call him Jake. Jake and Zoe had been talking and of course the school had caught wind of it since they were walking around together during break, I personally thought it was a bit weird given there 3 year age gap. Normally 3 years isn’t bad but because of Zoe’s maturity level it made everyone agree it just wasn’t right.
Didn’t matter and they kept talking but eventually after a while u asked Zoe how things were going because she hardly talked about him. And she told me he liked her but things were complicated, I felt sorry for her and I didn’t want Jake to play with her feelings. So I went and talked to Jake who explained to me that he wasn’t comfortable with the ‘relationship’ because of the age gap and wasn’t sure how to tell her, I told him to just out right and say it. The next day he told me he did during a phone call, I was kinda relieved until a few days later he told me and my friends that she was still contacting him, he found it annoying and asked us to talk to her. I didn’t talk to her because i didn’t know how to approach the conversation, next week he complains again (she sent him a tik tok about how she liked him but couldn’t have him) and one of my friends tell him to block her on everything, since he already set his boundaries. We asked him why he hadn’t done it before and he expressed he was worried she’d kill herself (which is wild but okay).
Because of this whole thing me and Jake started talking more often and I got to know him, we text now and again when I’m not too busy. When Jake followed me on instagram he noticed my following count was 666, called me out lol. I thought it was funny and posted it on my story. Zoe has seen it and she texted me asking if I was talking to him and I explained we we’re talking about someone else (which we were) and she asked to know what exactly he was saying. I told her since it wasn’t a big deal but I still thought it was strange. I thought it was a bit odd but I just brushed it off, I did end up telling Jake to tease him. Couple weeks later Zoe messages me again asking if I would date Jake because she overheard my friend calling Jake my man (my friend was very unhinged and I was trying to tell her to shut it omg) so I obviously said no because at the time I wasn’t interested in him.
Now fast forward a couple weeks i regularly talk to Jake, I wouldn’t say I’m In love with him but idk he’s funny and today I was in class and I tried talking to her but she kinda ignored me, idk maybe I’m overreacting but I still feel weird about it.
ANYWAY I need advice and I need to know if I’m in the wrong and breaking girl code.

I’m sorry if this is confusing, I’m not really sure how to word this.
I F15 (2009) and my friend F14 (2010) have been friends for a couple months, we normally interact during school hours. We’re both in year 9 even though she’s a year younger, age is important to the story btw.
For the sake of simplicity I will call me friend Zoe, Zoe has a crush on this boy M17 let’s call him Jake. Jake and Zoe had been talking and of course the school had caught wind of it since they were walking around together during break, I personally thought it was a bit weird given there 3 year age gap. Normally 3 years isn’t bad but because of Zoe’s maturity level it made everyone agree it just wasn’t right.
Didn’t matter and they kept talking but eventually after a while u asked Zoe how things were going because she hardly talked about him. And she told me he liked her but things were complicated, I felt sorry for her and I didn’t want Jake to play with her feelings. So I went and talked to Jake who explained to me that he wasn’t comfortable with the ‘relationship’ because of the age gap and wasn’t sure how to tell her, I told him to just out right and say it. The next day he told me he did during a phone call, I was kinda relieved until a few days later he told me and my friends that she was still contacting him, he found it annoying and asked us to talk to her. I didn’t talk to her because i didn’t know how to approach the conversation, next week he complains again (she sent him a tik tok about how she liked him but couldn’t have him) and one of my friends tell him to block her on everything, since he already set his boundaries. We asked him why he hadn’t done it before and he expressed he was worried she’d kill herself (which is wild but okay).
Because of this whole thing me and Jake started talking more often and I got to know him, we text now and again when I’m not too busy. When Jake followed me on instagram he noticed my following count was 666, called me out lol. I thought it was funny and posted it on my story. Zoe has seen it and she texted me asking if I was talking to him and I explained we we’re talking about someone else (which we were) and she asked to know what exactly he was saying. I told her since it wasn’t a big deal but I still thought it was strange. I thought it was a bit odd but I just brushed it off, I did end up telling Jake to tease him. Couple weeks later Zoe messages me again asking if I would date Jake because she overheard my friend calling Jake my man (my friend was very unhinged and I was trying to tell her to shut it omg) so I obviously said no because at the time I wasn’t interested in him.
Now fast forward a couple weeks i regularly talk to Jake, I wouldn’t say I’m In love with him but idk he’s funny and today I was in class and I tried talking to her but she kinda ignored me, idk maybe I’m overreacting but I still feel weird about it.
ANYWAY I need advice and I need to know if I’m in the wrong and breaking girl code.

I just started medication so I’m still discovering a lot of its impacts.
Usually I have a very active and vivid imagination.
For example, I will hear a sound in the room and it will trigger an invented melody or even harmonies in my head. I hear music all day long and it also triggers images/scenarios. I have also “practiced” immersive day dreaming as far as I can remember. And I mean IMMERSIVE.
I usually picture invented situations, using characters and topics I’m very interested in, often with what I perceive as complex music. The daydreaming used to be maladaptive (I would miss school, not do my work, get late to events and not sleep/eat/rest. It involves pacing in the room, mouthing dialogues and a lot of jumping and some running.) I could daydream for 8 hours in a row, which is of course very bad. Nowadays I considered my daydreaming immersive but no maladaptive, for 1-2 hours a day for my entertainment.
I love daydreaming, it sometimes gives me sad feelings if I’m in a bad place, but 90% of the time It’s giving me very intense joy, because I daydream about things I’m so interested in. I don’t see time passing when I do it and I can struggle to get out of it and go on with my day. It feels the same as hyperfocus to me.
I also daydreaming all day long while I do other things. My mind is effectively doing two things at once. I thinks it helps me not getting bored when I’m doing it alongside something else. Still this daydreaming is immersive as well and I sometimes need to take breaks in what I’m doing when I’m getting too interested in the dream, then I go back to “multitasking”. I think it makes me less efficient in my everyday tasks, it distracts me and makes me slower even though I enjoy it. And it feels out of my control to an extent.
Since I started the medication (one week ago) it just stopped! I also feel like I struggle much more with audiation and picturing things in my mind. Don’t get me wrong , I can still get lost in my thoughts, but it’s mainly a single monologue and much less vivid pictures/sounds. Even though I miss the experience, it has helped me to function better.
I got diagnosed recently so I have some questions:

1. Is this type of daydreaming common in most people?
2. If not, can it be an adhd symptom ?
3. Has anyone stopped or greatly reduced daydreaming on medication ?
4. If I stop the medication in the future, will I be able to daydream vividly like I use to/ go back to my old self?
5. Did your perception of music change on medication ? I feel like I was able to dissect the music and follow a lot of the separate voices composing the harmony. I never had to work or train for it. But now I hear music more as a « block » if that makes sense? I truly don’t think I’m imagining this, it feels like my brain is prioritising the global sound instead of perceiving several details at once.

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So, I (f16) have known a guy (let's call him Sans, m15) for 4 years. This guy has always treated me like he didn't care a bit about me and has always been pretty disrespectful to me and and to my "sister-by-heart." For the first 3-and-a-half years, he always pretty much didn't seem to care about me, and we only talked when he needed to vent or had something to share. I went to middle school with him, we were in the same class, so I saw him everyday and for the first year I even had a crush on him, in fact we dated for 9 months (6 on his behalf, but it was from November to May) before he broke it off saying he wasn't ready, something completely understandable. We've been good friends ever since, and I stayed silent through all the things he did to me over the years: touching me when we went to the cinema with a couple of his other friends, and all the shit he threw at me with his problems (family, friends, love life ecc... I never had the occasion to do the same). Long story short, he's always been the class clown, and that was all his personality in and out of school. To be clear, I also own some fault in all of this because I could've talked about those things with him, it was just never an option I thought to be worth considering.
All changed when he introduced me to my now boyfriend (18m), I had the courage to talk to him about the situation and, with the help of my sister since because of some at-the-time-recent drama he blocked my number, I sent him a message that contained all the anger I kept inside and ended the friendship ultimately. It was August 2023.
After that, I continued to talk about it to both my boyfriend and his mom (basically my second mom, I'm really close with her) and what came up it that the mother of one of Sans' best friends told my bf's mother that Sans was head over heels for me. I didn't believe it at first, since two years prior he advices me to stop "flirting" with him or he'd end the relationship, but this thing is also supported by the fact that, as far as I knew, he still kept an old note I gave to him back in the first year of middle school with something sweet written on it, I don't really remember what.
Now, a couple of days ago (so May 19th) he showed up at my house at 10pm completely changed: he looked totally different, had a perm, seemed more contained, a bit better dressed and actually had the balls to apologize to me AFTER I apologized first in an Instagram story, explaining that I've changed and I'm not immature anymore, and that I was sorry to all the people that I was an ass to in the past. Fortunately my boyfriend was there that night or I don't know how I would've handled it. We shook hands and declared peace. Now, he's started to say hi on the bus again.
My question is, how do I handle him coming back out of the blue? I've got a completely different life now, new social circle he'd hate to hang out with ecc..., so I really don't know that to do. I don't even know why I accepted his apology in the first place tbh.
(P.s. sorry for any mistakes, English is my second language)

TL;DR: I have way less opportunities for building up ECs than one'd expect, residing in a close-to-vilage town; financially or otherwise. Do I have a chance for studying Biology (most likely PG) abroad (such as the US or UK)?
my_qualifications: ICSE 10th grade, 98.8% Bo5
Starting with what I mean by "situation" in the title, it, as a matter of fact, doesn't symbolize some excruciatingly painful or physically deranging position or anything even close to that; it's something a lot more commonplace (at least from what I've seen in real life): I reside in a pretty small and isolated town and this alone ticks off a lot of boxes for a reduction in chances I'd ever get out of India. What I have gathered over the course of my obviously inadequate research on the Internet that it is pretty inevitable that those who get in have exceptional academics, even out of the stipulated curriculum. - One that I've seen often being mentioned is the AP classes administered by the College Board; a typical applicant takes anywhere between 5 and 20 (!) AP courses and somehow gets a 5 in all of them – the highest score, I presume – all the while acing the exams held in their respective curricula. I was interested, of course, although I was stumped by noticing the testing fee for one AP itself; courses themselves are a whole another thing. - The other option I stumbled upon was Olympiads. Some googling led me to the official websites administering the regional, state, and national level Olympiads in different sciences. They were cool and all, but – as far as I understand – you'd need an educational institution or anything similar to apply for such a thing, which is most likely not possible to do here. I might be incorrect though, and while this is a clear tangent to the original question, I would like to know if I can self-teach myself the kind of skills different Olympiads like IPhO, IMO or IBO (or anything similar that would look fine on my resume) demand, as well as if I can apply for them by my own.
My academics? Just a "class topper" tag multiple times and winning a few very localised competitions. Haha.
Even with exceptional academics, it's only a barebones requisite for actually having a chance. I was acquainted of the fact that people who get in have gone out of their way to do stuff that's very unique - and I believe stuff like this is a differentiator for selecting people. Especially at the top Unis. - The most popular EC were starting / leading clubs or similar. An applicant usually started one on their own due to a lack of such an organised body at their schools for interested people. This is out of my reach, too – where I studied till 10th grade in did have clubs, but they were taken down on account of pandemic and since then the Principal has been hesitant to restart them. No real activity was happening in these clubs, anyway. - The other niche thing I saw was publishing research papers or participating in essay competitions where you formally put forth a unique standpoint about something. I'm once again incapable to do so, as far as I could see: my understanding is that you're supposed to conduct experiments or at least partake in a STEM-based research body that does these experiments, and either unanimously or otherwise publish the findings and conclude certain things. I might be wrong, again, but this is what I've come to know – and I definitely have no opportunities where I live to even start doing anything; more specifically, a bigger problem is that I have no idea what to do at large for getting into stuff like this. - Raising money for a cause? Nope. Nada. Zero possibility. - Starting public awareness camps / hosting conferences related to my major / NGO? Also not possible.
Now I know there are many (a lot many, I presume) cases where someone didn't have stellar ECs on their profile but still got in, which would allow someone to hurl back at me with the following points, in my opinion:

The AOs do not see a huge brag-list of near-perfect grades and out-of-the-world ECs; they only see if what you've done over your high school period is helpful.

That's the most common point I see everywhere. While I do understand what it implies, I honestly don't think I ever had a chance to do so - my school, as it is now inherently deducible, is pretty dogsh*t at providing opportunities for stuff like that. On top of that, the place I live, and the contacts I have with people, have almost no knowledge of what it takes for someone to apply to abroad colleges. Therefore, the long and the short is, the number of notable activities I've undertaken during or before 9th grade is infinitesimally small.

You can try your best to have a very good CGPA in 11th and 12th and partake in international-level exams.

I certainly can ensure the first half of it; the second half? I don't even know where to start - I feel what I've gathered till now is just an innate cloud of tension and presumably erratic bits of information with no continuity.

You can move outside and study in an international board such as IB, A-levels, etc.; for the most part, these have a higher weightage in foreign colleges than ISC or CBSE.

Sadly not possible because those are waaaay outside my affordability.
I think that's a pretty feasible summary of the information I've congregated beginning from the past year up-till now. If there is any mistake or misconception that I might bear, please let me know! And going back to my initial question: Do I still have a chance to open up a whole new pathway to pursue studying abroad? Should I stick with being in India?

A company reached out to me to try and find someone suitable... So here I am.
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About the company

Small business, hospitality adjacent.
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About the role

You will be responsible for marketing the brand and its products online and offline for wider exposure.
You can expect to be required to travel within the UAE and GCC mostly, but there may arise a need to travel to other countries across the MENA region. Passport holders who can get visa easily will be preferred.
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To be negotiated with the employer.
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Requirements

Must already be in the UAE with valid residency visa.
Language Proficiency: English and Arabic, professional level, reading and writing as well. Fluency in a third language preferred.
Experience: Open to all levels of experience, but ideally young candidates who have the skills and need experience. Training will be given.
Driving License: Valid Dubai driving license and car preferred (fuel expenses will be covered). If not, company car may be provided.
Preferrably female.
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Process

You can forward a cover letter that briefly introduces yourself or discusses your CV.
You may forward me images or imgurl link of your CV through DIRECT MESSAGE ONLY.
Make sure to remove any personally identifiable information from your CVs. Do NOT include the following:

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If the company is interested, I'll get back to you.
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Do not send me a chat request about this topic or you will be ignored or blocked. Sorry, but I just don't like chats on Reddit and any other app. Chats overwhelm me.
All the best!

So I may have two job offers coming in this week and I want to weigh the pros/cons with some fellow teachers to see what you think. For reference, I currently teach 6th grade (4th year teaching, always 6th or 7th grade), and I'm certified for 4-8 math. I also have 3 kids; 1 school age (elementary) and 2 Littles. I could stay where I'm at but I'm not happy with some of the things next year, like how we are addressing loss of funds, breaking my team up, our calendar, etc. I've also been getting up at 4:30 everyday to commute and my poor kids get up at 5:30 and we don't get home until almost 6 (I live about 45 mins from my campus and can't afford to live anywhere less than 25 mins away).
Option #1: Intermediate School Pros- 6th Grade, so familiar to me and I'm certified for it District offers low-cost daycare (I have 2 under school age) that would save me over $1200+/month School calendar includes Fall Break (rare for my area) Small classes and less overall students; teach 3 block periods per day with about 20 kids each Comparable school rating to where I currently work Same contract hours I have now Autonomy in the classroom
Cons- Would have to relocate to the area about 40 mins from our current house (lease is up in August anyway so not a major issue, but is farther from family) Would have to still drive about 25 min each way from where we could afford to move to Would move into a team of veteran teachers who have been together several years Lower salary than I currently make Lots of BTC concepts and stations in the classroom, which I'm unfamiliar with
Option #2: move up to High School Pros- I've worked at this district in the past, so I know "the game" and many people I would love to teach HS; not a state-tested subject (yay!) Comparable salary to what I currently make I've taught this group of kids several years ago when they were in JH (could also be a con, lol) Could relocate when my lease is up and be close to family and only about 10 mins from the school Lots of autonomy in the classroom and how I can grade things
Cons- Lower rating than current school No district daycare, kids would likely stay at their current facility Would have to study and get HS Math cert within the year or I won't have a job next year - very nerve wracking for me 6 classes with 25-30 kids each Earlier contract hours than I have now No Fall break
What would you do?

So my mom and my brother have been living in the same apartment together for almost 25 years. My mom just recently (5/16/24) passed away from cancer. I had asked the leasing company if we could get my brother's name on the lease, and they said, sure, no problem. The new lease was to be sent in June. My mom died two weeks too early and we never got the new lease. Instead, I got an email with their 40-day vacate notice and her apartment is already up on the website to be available in July.
We have not even had my mother's services and is this how they're treating 25-year tenants. I'm sick about it it. My other brother was going to move in to help the brother who currently lives there pay the rent. At the end of the day, my brother is a middle school custodian but does not make enough money to support himself.
I'm upset they didn't reach out to me first to figure out an agreement, I'm upset that there are no places where he can move and I'm wondering if even if he wasn't on the lease, but he lived there for 25 years, does he have any rights to this place?

Even before Indiana abortion restrictions took effect last year, Indiana in 2022 had a lower ratio (9.86) of nurses to 1,000 population than neighboring states of Kentucky ( 9.97), Michigan (10.11), and Ohio (11.09). Indiana's new abortion restrictions may result in existing and prospective nurses choosing other careers, leaving Indiana, or becoming traveling nurses. Young women especially are conscious how abortion restrictions may impact their health needs personally, let alone professionally as nurses.
https://nursejournal.org/articles/the-us-nursing-shortage-state-by-state-breakdown/
As noted in the above article, nursing shortages are a national problem to be aggravated by an expected increase in retirees as well as increased demand as Baby Boomers age and require more medical services.
<< A lack of nurse educators keeps nursing schools from being able to admit enough students to address the shortfall. A shortage of nurses means more burnout and more nurses choosing to leave the profession, contributing to the shortage.
In addition, the aging of Baby Boomers means that more nurses are retiring at a time when an aging population has a greater need for healthcare providers. The COVID-19 pandemic exacerbated the nursing shortage.>>
Many Indiana women rely on medication abortions aided by doctors practicing remotely in other states, who often rely on "shield laws" in those states to protect them from prosecution in states with abortion restrictions. If anti-abortion states are successful in blocking these shield laws and restricting telemedicine abortions, Indiana may become even less attractive to young women concerned with their own reproductive rights.
<< A clash is looming between anti-abortion red states and the blue state telemedicine shield laws trying to preserve abortion access.
More than a dozen states have laws shielding medical providers and others from out-of-state investigations and prosecutions regarding abortions and gender affirming care. But six states — Colorado, Massachusetts, New York, California, Vermont and Washington — have gone even further.
Those shield laws offer protection for doctors, nurses and other practitioners who prescribe and send abortion pills to people living in states that ban or severely restrict abortion.>>
https://thehill.com/policy/healthcare/4671299-abortion-bans-clash-shield-laws/
<< According to a new report from the abortion-rights research group Society of Family Planning, nearly 8,000 people per month in states with bans or severe restrictions were getting medication abortion from clinicians operating under shield law protections from October through December 2023. >>
The personal turmoil of nursing in states with abortion bans and restrictions also lessens the desirability of those states not only for nursing recruits, but also existing nurses.
<< National articles provide a look at how some nurses and physicians are quitting or moving because they cannot handle the trauma they see when women are denied health- and life-saving abortion care during a pregnancy crisis. For instance, Leah Wilson, a Texas nurse, had to watch her pregnant patient for days as the woman’s infection worsened and drew closer to sepsis because the fetus still registered a heartbeat when the woman’s water broke at 19 weeks of pregnancy. The nurse said, “You know what? I’m not doing this anymore,” and she left her job. Wilson had worked with high-risk pregnancy patients before and provided them with support for fetal loss, but she had never seen patients denied standard medical care until after Roe v. Wade was overturned.>>
https://www.reliasmedia.com/articles/abortion-bans-lead-physicians-nurses-to-avoid-certain-states
https://www.nursingworld.org/practice-policy/work-environment/health-safety/srh-advocacy/
Shortages of nurses increase the workplace burdens and stress for remaining nurses. This can compromise the quality of healthcare for patients, as does Indiana laws providing for lax continuing education requirements and lowered training supervision quality for student nurses.
Unlike neighboring states, Indiana has no continuing education requirements for RNs or LPNs.
https://www.nursingce.com/ceu-requirements/indiana
https://www.nursingcenter.com/continuing-education/ce-state-requirements
<< Estimates predict that Indiana would need an additional 5,000 nurses by 2031, equal to graduating an additional 1,300 nurses each year until that time, according to the Indiana Hospital Association. >>
https://indianacapitalchronicle.com/2024/02/12/indiana-has-a-problem-a-lack-of-nurses-and-lawmakers-are-trying-to-help/
To increase the supply of nurses, a new bill would ease the requirements for nurses supervising student nurses.
<< While most of the bill received glowing support in testimony, one issue was a bit of a sticking point for nurses working in clinical settings: language striking minimums for preceptors, or licensed nurses supervising students during rotation. Previously, preceptors needed 18 months of experience before they could be drafted to teach and mentor the next generation.
The new law has no minimum requirement.
Rep. Cindy Ledbetter, a nurse practitioner with a doctorate, cautioned against the move, saying unprepared nurses would be given to students to address a shortage.
“My concern is you have a brand new nurse and the hospital requires them to precept and they’re not ready to translate what they’ve learned in the classroom themselves into a real-world scenario,” said Ledbetter, R-Newburgh. “(I’m concerned) that we’re going to … lose more nurses on the other end.”>>

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I'm a parent of a teen who saw an NP via telehealth. I can't even bring myself to talk about the experience. Teen was misdiagnosed by NP with depression and prescribed fluoxetine. Was on it for 6 months, completely stopped growing. My discomfort with the NPs quickness to diagnose after 10 minutes of chatting (and ignoring my observations as a parent) grew and I ended up learning a lot about NPs. I did not know at the time that they have limited training. This particular one went to a well-known diploma mill school. I feel a TON of guilt for how this went and should have had the teen see a doctor. I didn't know. I know now.
The issue now is that I suspect this NP is practicing solo. They have a website. They are the only staff member on the website. There is no mention of a supervising MD. None at all. The office manager using the same email as the NP. Office manager says there is no office so they don't have in person appointments. NPs website gives an address.
The NP does not offer in person appointments at all. They are all online. The photograph of the NP does not look like the person we had an appointment with. There are other dubious elements of this story, but they might be too specific for me to mention here while trying to maintain privacy.
A lot of this practitioner's early reviews are from people on a different continent.
I don't know what, if anything, I should do about this. We are no longer seeing this NP. Am I being overly paranoid? Something feels really off about this, and many reviews call this NP a "wonderful doctor." NP responds to reviews but never correccts the ones that call them "Dr."

I'm told women want a man who knows what he wants, so here's the whole nine yards. If there is anything here that you are not willing to accept, then don't. You will not change me now or years down the line. Obviously I intend to grow and mature (as one ought to), but I have decided who I am and what I want out of a relationship.
I am looking for a woman that I can make a permanent covenant bond with; I have no interest in flings or "long-term relationships."
I don't intend to come across as bitter or angry with any of this, just clear and up-front. It makes things easier for both of us.
A bit about me:
My faith in Christ is paramount in my life. I would not be where I am without him. In taking interests in various things, I've learned a lot about God's character and design. Each new thing I learn fills me with more worship of him and wonder at his works. It is very important to me that you share this admiration of God.
I have a full-time job that I am very satisfied with, but what I feel truly passionate about is art and storytelling. To be honest, I've hit a bit of a block lately as far as my output. But I've been trying to find my feet so I can make something valuable to share with the world. I think that art and stories are a fundamental part of being human, not just a luxury. So pretty much any kind of art will spark passion in me, be it music, cinema, video games, literature, video essay, sculpture, etc. I could go back and forth for hours on a lot of things. My hope is that you and I will be able to enjoy art together and create some of our own.
I frequently spend time with another gentleman from my Church and we enjoy conversations about personal projects and contemporary issues, along with walks along beaches and park trails. He is a very important friend in my life, and I am lucky to know such a kind soul. Things aren't well with my family, so I really need that kind of presence.
While I rely on my bicycle for transport (no car), it's not a problem for me. I've been riding bikes since I was in elementary school (maybe even before). It would be really nice to ride down some trails with you.
What I expect from you:
-You need to be a follower of Jesus Christ. God needs to be an active part of your life because I intend to raise our children under Biblical values.
-You need hobbies and interests apart from me. I'm fine with helping you find things you like.
-You need to have no mileage.
-You must be humble and respectful. "Boss babe" attitudes are not attractive to me.
-You cannot have any tattoos or piercings.
-No cosmetic products. It's not good for your body and I am attracted women, not makeup. This includes fake nails and fake eyelashes. I don't need you to look "pretty." You character is more important to me.
-Related to the previous, no use of image filters in photos. I do not like the type of people who are vain and vapid enough to feel the need to use filters on their photos.
-Again related to the previous, you need to have a limited social media presence. If you have a business or post something of value (like art, for example), then I have no problem. What I'm talking about is having an Instagram or Facebook account where you make random posts to nobody in particular to "update" the internet on your life or post tons of pictures of yourself online. Basing your self-worth on the comments and likes from strangers on the internet is unhealthy, and I find people's obsessive need to take pictures of themselves very unattractive and vain.
-If we marry, I expect you treat me as the head of the house. There can't be two leaders in a household because one will have to submit to the other.
-I expect you to view marriage as something that you put work into. Marriages are a team effort, so I expect you to be a help meet.
-You need to treat me like a partner, not an adversary. Getting into arguments and nagging me helps neither of us. You must have conflict-resolution skills and a solution mindset.
-You need excellent communication skills. This means understanding yourself, putting your thoughts into words other people can understand, and verbalizing things rather than expecting me to read your thoughts.
-You cannot play games with me. Telling me about other guys to make me jealous or planning dates for specific days to pressure me into committing to you are wicked and manipulative.
-While we are dating, you cannot have a "backup plan." I expect you to not be splitting your attention between me and other men. This includes spending time outside of work with other men (family excluded).
-You must be in shape. Don't be dishonest with yourself about your weight; check your BMI. This includes being underweight, anorexic, and bulimic.
-You cannot have taken any COVID-19 vaccinations from any provider.
-No smoking, drugs, or drunkenness.
-I expect you to completely renounce fast food if we date or marry. We will never feed our children McDonald's.
What you can expect from me:
-While we are dating, I will not be speaking to other women.
-I cannot meet your height, money, or attractiveness expectations. I am simply an average dude. I am critical, abstract, and imaginative in my thinking though.
-I will not ask you to do something that is unreasonable or demeaning. I will only ask of you what I expect from myself. No relationship is going to be 50/50 100% of the time, but I will put forth the effort I am able to. I expect the same out of you.
-I will not raise my hand against you. My hands will be a safe place for you.
-I will be available to listen to your troubles and help you bear through them.
-I will not demean you or humiliate you, whether or not you are in the room.
-I will show leadership in our house and exercise restraint with a mild temper.
-I will cherish you and treat you as my own body.
-I will devote myself to displaying my love for you in a language you understand, even if I am feeling distant from you because of troubles we face. I expect the same from you.
-I will not turn to another woman and betray you.
-I intend to keep every promise that I make with you.
-I will treat our children with patience and kindness, but diligently discipline them and instruct them appropriately.
Please tell me a bit about yourself and what you expect out of a relationship, but be practical and clear. A list of platitudes like "loyal, honest, etc" does not help me understand what you're looking for. Think about what your expectations look like in a tangible, everyday way.

I’m gonna try to make this as simple as possible. Basically I’ve been dealing with this woman since 2019 and at first I thought she was sweet, spiritual, and innocent, boyyyy was I wrong.. as time went on I started to see the real her. She’s very manipulative, a pathological liar, narcissist, and she has cluster B border line personality disorder. The night we met she fed me a bunch of lies which I uncovered overtime for example she told me the first night we met that she had been raped the year prior while she was in school(which I later found out was not true whatsoever. Months down the line she would even talk about exs that were “abusive” towards her which I later also found out wasn’t true. Fast forward to February of 2020 she ended up pregnant with our first child and a couple months into the pregnancy she just decided she’s not gonna deal with me anymore, so I ended up dating a woman I’ve known since middle school. She found out about this and next thing I know the sheriffs are serving me a restraining order accusing me of rape!!! When we showed up for court she immediately dropped the order before we even could talk to the judge. Fast forward to when my child was born in December of 2020 she texts me that she just had the baby and I asked if I could come up there and she said “no” and as time goes on she start’s blatantly keeping my child from me I didn’t meet my first born until February of 2021, and that’s when she tried to reconcile whatever situationship we had and would go on to apologize for the accusations saying her family foster her to do that so that I won’t be able to be in my child’s life which of course was a lie that was her decision. As time goes on the girl I was dating passed away and I was distraught so my baby mother comes around and I ended up coming up on money and decided to get us an apartment with our child two months into staying there I had a seizure while sleeping and instead of staying there to help she takes my child and leaves and proceeded to text my mom a picture of me in bed having the seizure and even tells my mom I was hitting her while having a seizure …. She blocked me again after that and a month later comes back around againnnn I guess basically to just have sex with me and then blocks me again and keeps me from my child, and at that point she was pregnant with my second child. I didn’t see my oldest for 6-7 months I had moved on to a nice relationship with a wonderful woman by that time and my second child was born, and that’s when I decided to take this stuff to court and the judge reprimanded her for isolating my kids from me and a custody order was placed for them to be with me every other weekend. During the custody court date she tried telling the judge I was abusive and all that nonsense and the judge seen right through it and didn’t pay it any attention, so two months after that she starts reaching out more and trying to have normal conversations and I would go along with it like a idiot and she wanted to hook up again and we did a few times, in which my girlfriend found out and we broke up and then weeks after that my baby moms ghost me again, still following the order tho. A month later my girlfriend and I got back on good terms and she notices and tries to get me to sabotage my relationship again! It doesn’t really work and I came to find out she would tell her family I was abusing her and a bunch of other ridiculous lies. This time CPS gets involved and investigates me for DV, which didn’t work. Now let’s fast forward to two years later, my babymom keeps coming in and out of my life(I don’t know why I let her honestly) she thinks about leaving to the military and I took the kids while she tries to go to the recruiting camp or whatever to see if she can enlist which she can’t because apparently she’s been committed by her mother a few times.. I stopped dealing with her for a while until some months back, she calls herself apologizing for everything she’s done to me and we start hanging out again but at this point I no longer am in love with her I wanted to go be with the woman I was still in love with that she thought she Sabotaged, and when I confessed this to her and that I can’t deal with how much she lies and plays these mental games and before I try to go home she tells me she’s gonna kill herself when I go home and I had her committed at her own request, she stayed for about a week and a half. Gets out and was put on meds and therapy which she stopped using after a couple of months. Me and the girl I’m in love with are still seeing each other and me and my babymoms stopped dealing with each other yet again. I get a knock on the door about a month or two later with getting served another restraining order falsely accusing me of abuse yet again I didn’t fight it cuz I’m really tired of her at this point. We started hanging out just taking the boys to the park and stuff like that just to try to bond with our kids as a family despite everything… she starts wanting to get intimate and I actually didn’t want to this time and then she starts telling me a bunch of lies about how she hasn’t been with anybody and a whole bunch of non sense that I know is false, and I snapped on her and called her out on all of it, I went wrong in the conversation and threw her phone back at her but it wasn’t in a aggressive way it hits her on the eye and I apologized and everything and I still say I don’t wanna be intimate with her and wanna be with the same woman that I’m in love with still, and then she begins to start that “I wanna kill myself” bullshit again except this time I don’t commit her cuz I realize she just tries to get pity from me and everybody else however she can. The next day she texts and asks for a bag she left at my house I told her I’d leave it on the porch for her. When she pulls up me and my girlfriend and her son are outside playing, out of nowhere her uncles jumps out her car and attacks me while my kids are watching from her car and my girlfriend’s son was right there in front of all this he then runs back to her car and they pull off quickly. The phone left her eye a lil black when I threw it at her and she even admitted that to my brother through text and to me in text that it was the phone, but typical crazy girl fashion she even texts my girlfriend after her and her uncle left a picture of her eye and says “you better leave him alone before this happens to you” she reported the incident to police weeks later but no charges were filed, CPS reached out to me yet again and I explain to them what happened over the phone and they didn’t seem to adamant about opening up a case. After the attack from her uncle I go to the courts and filed for motion of contempt for not following the custody arrangement on a few occasions, one of being that she had her u cake attack me with my kids present and one of the requirements on the order is to not let the other parent be harmed in any way in front of the children which the judge signed off on and we have court later today for. So yesterday she reaches out after it’s been almost two months since that whole attack from her uncle saying how she misses me and she wants to get the restraining order dropped, and she wants to sleep with me, and see me, and all that. And I actually let her come meet up with me at the mall just to kind of see where her headspace is. Long story short came to find out she was dating some guy and I told him all about her in which he agreed that she lies about every single thing and it’s almost impossible to believe a word out her mouth. this girl has some serious issues and I really want full custody of my boys because I’m scared for their safety being with her as she’s really unstable and flat out crazy, I know hiring an attorney would be the easiest route and me and my family are willing to go in on one but it’s so expensive that if I can do it without an attorney I would like that, would the judge wnat to hear about any of this at this custody violation hearing? Or should I open another case for that separately? I did mention to CPS when they asked me if I had any concerns about my kids being with her I didn’t really want to say too much because I was going to court anyway but I did tell them she smokes marijuana often and drinks very often. I know I should’ve just told them about her mental health problems right then and there but I was still kinda in shock they called me in the first place. Now most of this stuff is documented in texts and pictures, what would you do in this situation? Like what’s the best way of going about fighting her for full custody?

Broke up with my boyfriend because he was gaslighting me, blaming me for my feelings, not respecting my boundaries, and lying to me. He broke up with me three separate times in the month of April and told me he fell out of love with me and then changed his mind miraculously thirty minutes later. After the third time of him breaking up with me (and insisting upon seeing female friend he lied to me about and told me he would no longer be friends with) I decided I had enough and that I am worth way more than the fucked up way that he was treating me. He sobbed cried and begged me not to, promising that he would do “whatever it takes” to make it work (including going to therapy). I said we could talk in a month and take it from there but that right now I needed space and no contact until then. He couldn’t respect that, continued messaging me and leaving flowers outside my front door. I blocked him. He called me seven times from his friends phone (I ignored). Then I found out something from a friend. A girl we went to school with had told her that my boyfriend had made her uncomfortable at a party and was making moves on her. I texted the girl and, low and behold, it was true. She also sent me screenshots of the texts he had sent her a year ago (while we had been together for about eight months). One of them was after the party and said “your dress looked amazing last night”. Keep in mind that this was a girl that I had felt weird about and he convinced me that I was crazy and I apologized to him for being insecure and crazy. Then I find out I was right all along. He also used that scenario to remind me of how I had been crazy when I was feeling weird about a new female friend he had made. He justified lying about spending time alone with that woman because he didn’t want me to be crazy like I had been before. I’ve never called him names i’ve never been violent I’ve never done anything that could possibly be construed as crazy but that’s not the point.
I was completely done. I sent him one last text and blocked him for good. It’s been almost a week now. He’s sent me several emails, claiming he just tried to be friends with her. He’s convinced all his friends that he is the victim and I’m a heartless piece of shit that didn’t talk to him first before believing lies. There are no lies. She sent me screenshots. I’ve been angry and disgusted. I’m convinced he’s a narcissist. He’s admitted to not having empathy for me. I do also worry that maybe I did the wrong thing by completely cutting him off and blocking him everywhere without giving him the chance to talk. However in his emails he still takes no accountability and turns himself into the victim. We were together almost two years and I want to treat our relationship like a real relationship and him like a real person but I’m finding out more and more that he’s not a real person…
I’m conflicted on if I should respond or something. I feel like I shouldn’t and it’s so sad because I was so deeply in love with him and it was so incredibly real to me it seemed real to him too which is why this makes no sense. I wish I could get closure. Instead I am left with these unresolved feelings of shock anger betrayal sadness confusion.
I guess I’m confused on if I owe him a responsesjusybased on the fact that we were together for almost two and that he promised me he would change and go to therapy don’t know what to do

i was part of a friend group in highscool that i no longer want to associate with but they keep trying to contact me. once the pandemic happened, i pretty much stopped going to in-person school altogether and didnt hang out with them that much. to make a long story short, over the years they got in to tons of trouble fighting people and getting warrents, etc. im not cool with that. yeah i had fun joking around with them but they were never actually violent around me, and now seeing that, i just dont want to be around them at all. not to mention, some of these people in the group were pretty mean to me. one would make fun of my body shape and told me to my face that none of our other friends care about my current relationship. and another in the group that i felt very close to started trying to argue with me via text about something i wasnt even involved in so instead of arguing with them i blocked them. this was all years ago and now theyre trying to get in contact with me again and they want me to unblock that one person. its giving me some much anxiety because even though i have been pretty much friendless over these years, my life has been VERY peaceful. and im not ready to bring in these types of friendships. i dont want to let myself get pushed around again and i really dont think these people have changed. im scared to just block all of them because they know where i live and im so scared they would like confront me or something (this is probably paranoia, but knowing the things they have done to people and the way they act, i wouldnt put it past them fr.) also i want to include these people pushed me around the entire time i was friends with them. we have good memories, but overall they treated me like garbage and i was never cared about. they dont understand things they put me through and if i even attempted to talk with them about it they would definitely take it as an attack. all i want is peace and this situation is very stressful and i have no clue what the best decision is. any advice on how i can handle this is greatly appreciated.

I feel like it's very useful but at the same time my mental health worsens 100x.
I found out about it in 2019 and I was on the social skills subreddit and someone was describing some experiences I related to and someone commented that he should get tested for Asperger's. This is how I found out I have it. I am going through a tough time emotionally and economically, many subreddits have helped me but it is tiring for me to constantly get people to be mean to me especially the moment I say I have autism and to downvote my comments if I do the slightest communication mistake and for not being able to realize basic things sometimes. I am too afraid of comfortation due to bullying so I never talked badly towards any user and also never mentioned anything about politics.
My own family never liked me and I was bullied all of my school years by classmates and teachers, my bullies bully me on social media too until last year even though I graduated school 6 years ago. It is just too harsh for me when I come over this place and it's full of hate too. I currently use subreddits that are for financial issues and they have helped me a lot but the hate I recieve is too much. Not sure what other forum or websites I can use.

I'm trying to figure out why in only 9 of 28 games (32%) did he get 15 or more touches? That seems very low for a guy with early round 3 draft capital. I know he has the catastrophic knee injury but 23' was pretty far removed from that incident. And he had a whole season in 22' where he looked great. It doesn't seem like his fellow running backs were anything special at least from a high school recruiting star rating. I could definitely be mistaken here so if any of his fellow rb's exceeded their expectations please tell me.
Also, why was his 2022 season so much better in terms of rushing efficiency metrics than his 2023? Being further out from his total knee implosion, you would think he would be even better in 23' but no. PFF rated the Seminoles’ run blocking unit as the nation’s 49th best in 2022 and as its 20th-best in 2023 and the offense as a whole put up top-20 scoring numbers in both seasons so it's probably not o-line related.
Any ideas are welcome.