Zarah birth control cramping

I wanted to see if anyone had any ideas as to why i get so dizzy. It happens more ofte the few days before my period and while I have my period. I recently started a job as a pharmacy tech and I am on my feet the whole 8 hour shift. I wear compression socks and have great shoes. I have been feeling so dizzy it's making me think i need to find a job where I can sit again. When I go to the Gyno they want to throw birth control at me. I am 38 years old, in pretty good shape. I haven't been on birth control since my early 20s. I do remember not having these issues when I was on it. I tried to go on it again in the past and it would make me feel bloated, irritable, carb hungry. Maybe I should give it a go again .. not sure. I am really not a fan of it. My med doctor ordered blood work for me and I am trying to find a new gyno since I moved. I have had my blood sugars checked at an endocrinologist, that's not the issue. Any idea why i feel so dizzy from standing all day, plus i am stepping up on a step stool constantly and squatting down. I don't want to say anything to my work since I just started. It's so embarrassing.

I apologize in advance if I phrase this weirdly, English is not my first language.
I (34F) went off birth control two months ago after being on it for about 2-2,5 years. I took slynd/slinda which is a progestin only pill, there are four placebo pills in every pack but I always skipped them since the goal was to not have a period at all. I haven’t been on any hormonal bc before them since I was 19 and didn’t plan to either but started taking these mostly for crippling hormonal migraines.
Now I’m stressing myself out TTC. I just got my regular period for the second time (since going off bc). Before the two normal periods I had a short withdrawal bleed. My cycle seems totally normal again(26-28 days, super positive opk:s around day 11-13). This cycle I hade some fertile cm and even felt the ovulation pain on my left side. I haven’t started measuring my BBT yet so I guess that’s the next step. The only thing that’s different from before bc is that my period seems much lighter and that my breasts feel super sore and swollen all the way from ovulation to the day before my period - never had that before.
Now I know it’s super early into my TTC journey but I can’t stay level headed in this despite my best efforts. I can’t stop beating myself up with thoughts of what I could possibly be doing wrong? Am I too old, is something wrong with me, why am I not pregnant even though I had sex every day for weeks, did taking bc mess me up in some way? I am desperate to know what is or isn’t happening inside my body. I’ve already wasted money on taking extra sensitive pregnancy tests from 8dpo and onwards and haven’t seen the faintest line.
I feel like I took my fertility for granted. I always had a regular cycle with very obvious signs of ovulation. I got pregnant by accident at age 27 (I am still with the same partner) and had a very early abortion without known complications and right now I’m spiraling into thoughts about how not getting pregnant now is my “punishment” for having an abortion then. I don’t want to think like that or become more obsessive about this.
I would be so grateful for any kind advice or similar experiences.

Hi Guys,
Will try not to bore you. I was wondering if anyone has similar symptoms or if their progression sounds like mine.
So last year September, I woke up to this aching feeling when carrying my handbag on my right hand. Within a week, the whole hand was affected. I had pain lifting anything and I started using ibrupofen everyday to control the pain. It was that bad.
That same month, I noticed my vision became very blurry. I started having this shaky and tremor in my legs with slight cramps.
Somehow, my right leg was twitching uncontrollably too. I had shortness of breath when lying down (this has been on and off) with really bad fatigue. I was always tired.
September - Weak shoulder and arm, Painful hands
By October, noticed twitching in my neck and difficulty swallowing. Like I had to push the food down to swallow it properly. This time, I also noticed some cramps in my left fingers and hands. This continued on slowly. I still had strength.
October- Weak Left arm, swallowing issues.
November: I started twitching in my tongue. My tongue dances around. Soon, I would get mouth aches after talking for over an hour and my head felt weak, my neck could not hold itself up and would fall. I was using braces in my hands, legs and neck. This time, they did an EMG on all four limbs which came back clean. This was exactly two months since the symptoms started. I had a clean ANA profile as well.
November - Tongue twitching,neck collapse.
December - Nothing new, the symptoms just got worse. So, I decided to take a blood test. All came back ok except my iron which was extremely low and high copper.
So, I started supplementing iron. This somehow would stop the tongue dancing around for like an hour and soon it would return. This was too much to bear. So, I did the below treatments
Treatments
Feroglobin - 1 tsb per day Glu Scavenger - 1 Folic Acid - 1 Glutathione - 1 Vitamin E - 1 Vitamin D - 1 Ashwaghanda Lions Mane Lserine- 2x a day I also did a phospholipid exchange
Alas, the day I started Tudca mixed with fulvic and humic acid (omnyne on Amazon) , my life changed forever. My symptoms went down by over 90%. No longer had tongue twitching or facial weakness, I could not even notice the weakness. The pain almost went.
I have been on Tudca ever since. Realised the fulvic acid is what makes the Tudca effective so I bought Fulvic Acid separately and this was a game changer. Barely noticed any weakness. It helps with the pain and cramps too and I almost go by everyday without any pain or issues.
however, after a week of stress (I baked a lot and had a lot of guests so I had to be on my feet for close to 10 hours a day) I noticed my left leg has not become weak. The whole thing is all over my body now from head to toe. I am now experiencing similar symptoms as I did in Septembe October only this time, Tudca and acids are keeping it at bay and it did not get so bad like I had in September with my right side.
Problem is my next neuron appointment is in October and quite frankly w/o the Tudca, I think I would be in a much worse state by now. My legs are slowly better and my grip strength sometimes gets so bad but once I supplement with feroglobin, I get better.
I have asked every single person they seem not to even think this relates to the three big words or MS. MRI clean too.
Please help me.

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Advocating for Abortion Care in Canada:

• There is a serious lack of Abortion Care options in Canada, particularly in the rural areas, and for those living on reserves, they have almost no access to Abortion care. People may have to travel more than 100km and across provincial lines to access abortion. Some have to travel by plane from their rural community to one with an abortion clinic or hospital. This puts an unfair financial and logistical burden on those that need to access abortion care. Provincial Health Insurance Plans do not cover travel costs related to receiving medical care.
• Because many provinces have few facilities that provide Abortion care, this places an unreasonable load on the clinics that do exist, forcing clients to look elsewhere for facilities with capacity to help them. In Alberta, there is one clinic for every 209,077 people who can become pregnant (number of assigned-at-birth females between the ages of 15-29). PEI, the Northwest Territories and the Yukon Territory each only have 1 Abortion care provider. Nunavut only has 2 abortion providers, and of those, only one offers medical abortion covered by the provincial health insurance plan. In fact, 9 (out of a total of 13) Canadian provinces and territories have five or fewer facililities offering abortion care in their entire province. And 10 Canadian provinces and territories have one or fewer (0) rural facililities offering abortion care.
• Some provinces, have more restrictive guidelines regarding abortion, limiting access to abortion care to those with a gestational period of less than 12 weeks (meaning, 12 weeks since the first day of your last period, not 12 weeks since you discovered you were pregnant or when you had sex). Many people who menstruate have irregular periods. Some people might only menstruate every 2 or 3 months, and might only discover that they are pregnant near the gestation limit of 12 weeks.
• Insurance coverage also limits access to abortions. Some provinces, like Nunavut, do not offer coverage for medical abortions unless they are prescribed and performed in a hospital. And being a rural province, there also happens to be only 1 hospital in Nunavut - Qikiqtani General Hospital in Iqualuit. New Brunswick will only cover abortion services in a hospital setting, which means that abortion medical care provided in clinics are not covered by their Provincial Health Insurance Plan.
• Sexual and reproductive health services are among the services that physicians, pharmacists and nurse practitioners are most frequently unwilling to provide on moral or religious grounds. People who have been harassed and/or attacked while visiting an Abortion clinic may experience stigma and/or discrimination from their peers, especially in smaller, rural communities where everyone knows one another. People refused care by health care professionals because of personal beliefs may experience stigma and/or discrimination, forcing them to travel outside of their community to receive the care they need. This can all be particularly daunting for young people or those with limited resources.
• Everyone in Canada is supposed to have equal rights to access health care, regardless of race, age, class, immigration status, gender expression, sexuality and ability. Nevertheless, anyone's right to seek abortion care can be be impacted by discrimination and bigotry, both systemic and as a result of individual prejudice on the part of service providers. Racism, xenophobia, classism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, and ageism in Canada are all direct and intersecting barriers to accessing abortion. It is much more difficult for a person who doesn\u2019t speak English to access abortion services, despite the presence of a translator. Transpeople also experience discrimination at higher rates in reproductive health care settings. Providers may also lack the knowledge or training to provide trans-affirming abortion care and abortion services are typically housed within *women\u2019s* health care departments.
• Further compounding the issue of inequitable abortion access are unregulated crisis pregnancy centres (CPCs), which are anti-choice pregnancy centres that advertise in hospitals, doctor's offices, churches, schools and community centre. They deceive people coming to them for options and advice by giving misinformation about abortion or by insisting on options that may delay or interfere with the clients ability to access the care they need. CPCs far outnumber abortion care providers in Canada. In Ontario alone, there are 77 active CPCs but only 38 abortion care providers. Overall, in Canada, there are 165 known CPCs compared to 147 abortion care providers (as of August 2022).

Reference: Policy Options, via the Institute for Research on Public Policy and Action Canada for Sexual Health & Rights
What can you do to improve access to abortion care in Canada?

1. Listen, research and learn. This is always the first step to understand any problem.
2. Send a letter to your MP and MPP. Tell them that access to abortion care is important and how difficult it can be to access it in your province. Urge them to prevent anti-choice groups and CPCs from receiving charitable status, and to revoke the charitable status from CPCs that already have it. Encourage them to include reasonable reimbursement for travel costs related to receiving medical care when it is not available in your community. And push them to pass Safe Access Zone Legislation to protect patients, practitioners and their staff from anti-choice harassment and intimidation.
3. Give a donation to a pro-choice charitable organization of your choice. Remember, if you give a total of $201 CDN or more to Canadian charitable organizations, you'll get a credit of 29% of your total annual donations on your income taxes (for those that file Canadian Income Taxes, only).
4. Sign up for the Abortion Rights Coalition of Canada Newsletter. https://www.arcc-cdac.ca/
5. Participate in local marches and rallys in support of access to abortion care.
6. Spread the Word. Tell your friends and family. Encourage them to research, listen and learn. Encourage them to contact their MPP and MPs.
7. If you work in a Doctor's office or as a family physician, consider incorporating Mifegymiso into your practice to ensure patients have timely access to this essential service. If you are a Doctor, or studying to be one, consider opening an Abortion Care practice when you are licensed and qualified to do so, especially in rural areas where there are a lack of options.
8. If you work in politics, consider proposing legislation that will ensure safe access zones for abortion care providers and their clients and covering reasonable travel costs for constituents when medical care is not available in their community.
9. If you are a journalist or work in media, consider preparing pieces sharing the difficulty Canadians can have accessing medical care such as abortions.
10. If you work in the area of Not For Profit/Advocacy, consider partnering with a Pro-choice organization and helping them spread information and lobby for improving access to abortion care for Canadians.
11. If you know someone who needs abortion care, consider giving them a ride to a clinic, helping them access the advice and care they need, and provide non-judgemental support.
12. Ensure persons of First Nations, Metis and Inuit heritage know about Jordan's Principle, which ensures that First Nations children (which includes people who can become pregnant under the age of 18) can access the products, services and supports they need, when they need them. https://www.sac-isc.gc.ca/eng/1568396042341/1568396159824

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Hong Kong Dharma Talk by Master Lu
2016-07-03
Editor’s note: Dharma Master Jun Hong Lu has a powerful Dharma eye. He can clearly diagnose karma sources by reading the patient’s totem. The participants ask questions at the Dharma Convention, and Master Lu answers them by reading their totems. For living individuals, please tell Master Lu their zodiac and birth year; for deceased individuals, please tell Master Lu their names and death year. Master Lu will acquire their totems through these messages. By reading their totems, Master Lu will find the causes of their illness, helping them treat their diseases.
Patient's wife: This is my husband. He was born in 1969, and his zodiac sign is a rooster. Since being diagnosed with ALS in 2013, he has lost all mobility in his limbs.
Master Lu: No strength in the waist, the whole spine looks like completely paralyzed.
Patient's wife: Yes.
Master Lu: Ouch! Two spirits are pulling him, two rope-like wires pulling his waist, just pulling it upward, so he often gets cramps.
Patient's wife: Yes, yes.
Master Lu: He can still live for one year and three months. You have to tell him to change himself and recite Buddhist scriptures well. I'm telling you, he's here to pay his debt. This is his mother, isn't it?
Patient's wife: His mother.
Master Lu: You tell his mother to recite Buddhist scriptures for him properly. He is here to pay off his karmic debt, and he will be passing away very soon, so you have to recite the Little House to him now. His mother was very strict with him since he was a child, scolding and beating him constantly. Your mother-in-law is very fierce. As soon as the debt is paid off, he will pass away. Thus, I told you (the audience in the convention hall) to take it easy on yourselves about everything. Even if you know that your wife owes you debt, you should not force her to desperately pay. Many wives say, "Ouch, my husband owes me." They abuse their husbands every day, and one day the husband runs away because it's paid off. Do you understand?
Patient's wife: Understand.
Master Lu: You tell his mother to recite the Little House for him every day, a total of 384 sheets, this is the first set so far.
Patient's wife: I have already burned 800 Little House for his karmic creditors, and released 7000 fish.
Master Lu: Well, he's getting a little better. You tell him to take calcium tablets, and eat lecithin. Also, he has poison in his body and is often constipated.
Patient's wife: Yes, yes.
Master Lu: His brain is often messed up.
Patient's wife: Yes, yes, yes.
Master Lu: He often has painful feelings. Keep his mother from bothering him. What do you know, granny? You cast spell over his head, as if you were really doing something. Do you want me to get rid of your soul ah?
Patient's wife: She didn't learn any spells.
Master Lu: You see she just scratched over her son's head like this. Don't scratch, do you understand? Really, alas! (He) owes her. Do you know who his mother's face looks like, do you know? Like an official of the underworld ah? I tell you, (the mother) is to ask for debts. When her son is about to pay off his debt, he will be taken away. (The mother is) very powerful. Alas, you just let fate take its course. In your family, mother has the highest status, and the second is your husband, you are the third.
Patient's wife: Yes yes.
Master Lu: If you have a dog in your family, you will become the fourth. Do you understand? Recite Buddhist scriptures properly!
Patient's wife: Master, how many more Little Houses do we need to recite for him? How many fish to liberate for him?
Master Lu: 18,000 fish.
Patient's wife: Okay.
Master Lu: Continue reciting Little Houses for him until you reach the target of about 890 sheets.
Patient's wife: Now we have finished 800 sheets.
Master Lu: Keep reciting until he recovers. He will be able to stand up later, but he is weak and needs crutches.
Patient's wife: Okay.
Master Lu: If reciting Buddhist scriptures well he can stand up. No big problem. He just has a severe atrophy.
Patient's wife: Yes, yes, yes.
Master Lu: His muscles are all atrophied. With time, all muscles will completely close up.
Patient's wife: He is now having difficulty swallowing, and eating is a problem.
Master Lu: There is a way to help him. Serve him great compassion water every morning, and then ask his mother to give him a throat massage by hand. When you do massage for your husband, you recite the Great Compassion Mantra. Every time he can not swallow, you do massage for him with your mouth reciting the Great Compassion Mantra. You try, each time you can help him to be able to swallow. This is a temporary solution.
Patient's wife: Okay, thank you, Master!
Statement by translator
The dialogue was translated from Chinese into English by meaning, not word by word. If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the true meaning of the Chinese version, I pray for forgiveness from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Dharma protectors and Master Jun Hong Lu.
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病人妻子：这是我的丈夫。他是1969年属鸡的，2013年医院检查出渐冻症，现在已经发展到四肢没有任何的活动能力。
台长师父：腰没有力量，整个脊背完全瘫掉一样。
病人妻子：对。
台长师父：哎哟！两个灵性拉他的，两根绳子一样的铁丝拉他的腰，就是往上牵，所以他经常会抽筋。
病人妻子：是的是的。
台长师父：他还能活一年零三个月。你要叫他变化，好好地念经。我告诉你，他是来还债的。这是他妈妈是吧？
病人妻子：他妈。
台长师父：你叫他妈好好帮他念经，这个孩子是来还债的，他很快就要走的，所以你现在要给他念小房子。妈妈从小对他很严格，骂啊、打啊什么都要做的。你这个婆婆很厉害的，还完了，这个孩子就走掉了。所以我叫你们自己什么事情要悠着点，就是知道这个老婆来还债的，你也不要怎么样，就是知道怎么样，你也不要拼命地去叫人家还。很多老婆说：“哎哟，我老公欠我的。”对他整天不好、整天不好，到最后有一天老公跑掉了，因为还完了。听得懂吗？
病人妻子：明白了。
台长师父：你叫他妈妈每天要念小房子，一共要念384张，这是目前第一拨。
病人妻子：我已经为他烧送了800张小房子了，放生7000条鱼。
台长师父：嗯，他好了一点点。你叫他要吃钙片，还要叫他吃卵磷脂。还有他身上有毒，经常便秘。
病人妻子：是的是的。
台长师父：脑子已经经常转不过弯来。
病人妻子：对对对。
台长师父：经常有痛苦感觉，叫他的妈妈不要再乱弄他了。你懂什么，老婆婆？还要搞这种法术呢，头上拉拉下来，像真的一样，你要不要我把你魂弄掉啊？
病人妻子：她没学什么法术。
台长师父：你看她刚才在她儿子头上这么抓。不要抓，听得懂吗？真的，唉！欠她的。你知道他妈妈……你看看他妈妈的脸像谁，你们知道吗？像不像地府的官啊？我告诉你，就是来要债，把她儿子弄弄弄，还债，还得差不多了，把他带走。很厉害的，弄到最后还是她。你就是……唉，你就随缘吧，你就这种孩子了，没办法。你们家里，老大是他妈，老二是你老公，你是老三。
病人妻子：是的是的。
台长师父：如果你们家再养条狗，你就变老四了。听得懂吗？好好念经了！
病人妻子：师父，我们再为他念多少小房子？放多少鱼？
台长师父：放18000条鱼。
病人妻子：好的。
台长师父：小房子要帮他不停地念，最后大概要念到890张。
病人妻子：现在已经达到800张了。
台长师父：还要念，念到他好。他以后能站起来，但是浑身无力，要拄拐棍的。
病人妻子：好的。
台长师父：他如果好好念经，能站起来的，没什么大问题，他只是萎缩症很厉害。
病人妻子：对对对。
台长师父：他的肌肉都在萎缩，萎缩到后来完全收起来了。
病人妻子：他现在的吞咽都很困难，吃饭都成问题了。
台长师父：有一个方法，每天早上给他喝大悲水，然后叫他妈妈给他做手部按摩。你给你老公做，手部按摩的时候给他念《大悲咒》，每一次吞不下去，你就手帮他这里按摩，嘴巴里念《大悲咒》。你试试看，每一次帮你叫他吞得下去，这是暂时的办法。
病人妻子：好的，感恩师父！
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35f 5'3'' 230lbs severe alcohol use disorder (15+ units per day) Implanon birth control occasional smoker
I've been attempting to "taper" and with that has come being able to feel things in my body. For the past two weeks I've had left side shoulder and arm aches and pains. They come and go but sometimes persist for a while. My kidneys are also sore most days. I'm concerned that maybe my kidneys are struggling and impacting my heart? Would it be worthwhile to go to an urgent care just to get checked out?
At the same time I have a lot of acid reflux due to the alcohol consumption so I understand that could be a factor.

I 27/F and my husband 30/M have been married 9 years , we have 4 kids and we were high school sweethearts. We have always lived on our own (he does very well for himself in his career field and has always made good money.) my husband and have a rather traditional dynamic when it comes to our relationship which is quite typical in our cultures. We’ve always wanted to be parents and have a big family especially since I only grew up with one sibling.
**this is long so bare with me **
Here’s some back story on how we became parents. After we got married we agreed to have children eventually, but only 3 months after our wedding I fell pregnant due to rejection of birth control this continued to be a pattern and how I continued to fall pregnant under BC. Our expectations during our marriage were for him to provide and I continue my education whilst we enjoy life being a young married couple growing into adulthood. My husband was absolutely ecstatic to be a father… I was not I’m not going to lie at 18, I didn’t feel ready to be a mother yet. But dedication to my marriage and my soon to be family I had made the tough decision to continue with my pregnancy, even though I knew I’d be giving up a lot.
Fast forward 9 years … My husband is beyond disrespectful, unhelpful, unreliable and completely unsupportive. There has been infidelity( during a time of separation), verbal abuse over the years & financial hardship for a short period of time.
I have always supported his business ventures, career moves, family drama & any other personal issues under the sun and have always encouraged him in anything he’s involved in.
His family hates me and are extremely meddlesome all because I asked for privacy after the birth of our first child instead of allowing them to all come stay with me. ( over the years his parents have divorced and made the kids pick sides … yes you read that right )
I have yet to complete my doctorate due to constantly completely managing the home and family on my own. My husband never lifts a finger but to only participate in the “fun stuff” for the kids and not provide them with discipline or structure that children need. And is a complete SLOB. I’m OCD and being clean has always been a top priority in my life and having to clean up for our children is fine , they’re children. But having to clean after him is beyond enraging!
We hardly speak to each other, we spend no time together and rarely have sex and even if we do it’s only enjoyable maybe half the time. We both have absolutely no respect for each other we’re constantly bickering and I continue to try to discuss things with him which often results in him taking no accountability, gaslighting me or complete denial and defensive behavior that lashes out and usually sparks into another lengthy fight.
I’m at a complete loss…
When we talk and try to address our problems he assures me and insists on staying together and that he loves me even when I’ve suggested separating. He agrees to counseling but never has followed through with it at all during the years. I genuinely feel trapped, my obligation to our children and family is one of the most important things to me and because of that I feel like I sacrifice my own happiness to benefit our family as an entirety.
But I am beat. I’m helpless I’m resentful. I’m sad. I’m neglected. I feel like I can’t stop punishing him for things he has put me through over the years, especially things he has said to me because they are literally engraved in my head and cannot be unsaid.
I still love him very much , I just hate him as a person now. He doesn’t seem remorseful for his actions, he’s done a lot of cruel things over the years ( taunting my postpartum, disrespecting my parents, broken sentimental things, taken off on me for days and weeks at a time, flipped out in jealous fits on me in public, made life changing decisions without consulting me.) I often feel he has not incentive to change as he can get away with being disrespectful and not changing anything.
I’m out of boundaries to set. I cut off sex I stopped cooking for him, I’ll go days without speaking to him, step out of the house without communicating, kick him out of the house, bedroom etc. NOTHING influences any significant change just a few days and returns back to its toxic pattern.
Will this get better ? What can I do? Is change possible for people like him ? Can I ever get past this hurt?
I’ve turned into a person that I’m not whom is angry constantly and overwhelmed. My nature is a kind person & I truly long to serve my husband and family but I’ll be damned if I’m going to take this disrespect on a daily basis and still be “submissive” .
ANY suggestions are appreciated.

I see a lot of posts in the various bike subs about looking for a bike to start cycling for various reasons. These posts get a lot of responses talking about the features, components, and condition of various types of bikes, with only passing mention of bike fit. I think it should really be the other way around: yes, there are many types of bikes and all sorts of options. The used bike marketplace can be complicated, too. But none of that matters in the end, if you have bought a bike that is a poor fit, leaving you stretched out on a too large frame, or cramped in one that is too small. A bike fits the proportions of your body a lot like a set of clothes - particular combinations work for different individuals, and trying things on to see how they feel is important. Clothes don't just look a certain way, they hang on to your body and match and give it shape. You can no more judge a bike and how it will feel by how it looks on the rack.
Beginners often feel rushed, wanting to get out on the bike and start building the habit before they lose their motivation to start riding. In used private sales, buyers will often have the opportunity to try only one bike; even in visiting a shop, they might feel shy to ask for multiple test rides, or fail to budget the appropriate time. I recommend slowing down a bit: shop with a friend or family member who can advise about bikes, visit a couple of shops to see if there's one whose staff and style you like, and test ride as many interesting bikes as you can. When you ultimately choose one, make sure you feel comfortable and in control of the bike, and you can't go too wrong. Good luck!

hi im 16 and im in luteal rn and im sobbing i want to die i cant do anything and im so hurt and frustrated. I'm diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety and Autism and im already on birth control (for period management i still get shitty ass cramps and stuff but it helps a bit) and i have fluoexitine which is two treatments you can have for this so if PMDD is the reason what the fuck do i even do I already have the treatments even if it wasn't for that and i still feel this awful i cant stop crying

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I thought this was about that one T looking birth control. I'm gonna have to go onto it soon, because I have a blood clotting disorder and the Mirena works for it. But I dont like the thought of it. It's said to be very painful for the following weeks. What do I do? I have Factor V (Factor 5) Sorry for asking unrelated questions it's just hard for me to stomach and process negative thoughts. Speaking about them gives me the time to process it. My mind goes and goes and goes. So it's difficult.

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The last few times my partner and I have had sex I have allowed them to finish in me. I take my birth control everyday at the same time, but the last 4 days I've been 3-4 hours late taking it. I take tril-lo-mili. Yesterday I got a migraine and today I woke up with it still going strong and I vomited. I'm worried about being pregnant. I'm incredibly nauseous.

What's going on, I can't take this intense hunger anymore, it's uncomfortable and me not gaining weight from all this food is just making me think something else is wrong with me (because I have other undiagnosed symptoms).

I’m really struggling. I feel like I’ve been navigating the hardest season of my life the past two years when it comes to my health. And the state of women’s healthcare is insane.
I’ve been having severe perimenopause symptoms for almost 3 years. But since I’m not 40 yet, everytime I bring it up in the doctors office (or even to friends/family) I immediately get dismissed with some version of “you’re too young.” On top of that I’ve had a slew of issues with my pelvic area. I have prolapse on both side of my vaginal canal, cysts on my ovaries, and near constant heaviness and discomfort, sometimes pain. My mom passed away at 39 from cancer. My mom’s twin had horrific endometriosis along with fibroids before her hysterectomy at age 40. My maternal grandmother had her last period at 36. So I know there some family history that would justify what I’m going through but unfortunately none of them are around anymore so I have now one to talk to about it and no motherly support system. Which has been so isolating and caused me so much health anxiety as I try to navigate the unknown by myself.
Anyway, I had an ultrasound a few months ago that found small cysts all over my ovaries but my uterus “looked perfect.” My doctor had me try birth control to help manage the ovaries. The bc helped with some of my symptoms, made me feel a little more even keel in my moods, but I still have this heaviness and pain in my pelvic region all the time. Sometimes when I get up from laying down I can feel things “settling” in there. When I have bad days it feels like something is pushing against my lower back and hips. It hurts to wear pants. It just doesn’t feel right. And I’m so freaking tired. Like deep adrenal exhaustion.
So my doc ordered an MRI but that was THREE WEEKS AGO and I still haven’t gotten the results. (This is where I’m absolutely astounded by our healthcare system).
Every day that passes I hope they’ll call me to tell me what they found. But at the same time I’m terrified that they’re going to call and say “everything looks perfect” and I’ll be stuck in this scary place all by myself back at square one.
I don’t know what it is. Endo would make sense but I’m not in horrible intense pain all the time. It’s more of a heavy discomfort, bloat, nagging pain. I feel constantly inflamed. I wouldn’t be surprised if I had a big fibroid or two swimming around on stalks. Does this sound like anyone else’s story???? I just don’t know. I hate not knowing. I hate feeling awful. 😞 I just want a diagnosis so I can start to get my life back. Thank you for listening.

I've been unemployed for more than 2 months. I chose to leave the job in anticipation of an upcoming reorientation rather than being fired.
My previous job required me to ensure that I always used birth control, which can lengthen my time with my enterprise to at least 2 years. I had no plan to have the first baby then, so it was not a challenging choice. Furthermore, despite a suspicion that things might not work out, I decided to give it a shot in that new field after talking with the line manager about the scope of work, which was very different from what I had done before. Eventually, the final decision was made.
After 6 months of working, I started a series of rest days after submitting my resignation letter here. The primary cause was my disappointment since most of the tasks did not correspond with the job description provided during the interview.
Anyway, even though I had to give my decision a lot of thought—resigning from a job during a recession is a risky move—I am still happy with it. I am currently putting the required skills into practice and registering for a few professional knowledge-based courses. I want to be a better version of myself when I go back into the job market.

Hi everyone, I came off the pill a few weeks ago, had a break through bleed and woke up today with tender breasts and pains in my groin. Did an ovulation test and it was very very faint. Is this typical for coming off birth control? I thought you ovulated after your period, and it’s been about two weeks since the break through bleed and no ‘proper’ period as of yet. Sorry if I sound silly but I am new to this.

Hello, I'm changing birth control next month, from one IUD to another, less hormonal one. My concern, which I've brought up to doctors with no definitive answer, is if you get EXTRA moody before your period? I haven't had mine in 4 years so I'm a bit nervous!
Thank you!

when i was 17 my gyn suspected that i had pcos because i had heavy irregular periods and acne. i went on birth control and stayed on it for 6 years and my periods were normal and acne went away completely. im 25 now and stopped taking the pill 7 months ago and didnt have a period for 4 months. when i finally got it again it was normal, every 28 days and not heavy. last month i had 3 weeks of spotting a week after my period ended and then i got my period the week i was supposed to again. i’ve had light cramping since it ended but everything’s been fine otherwise. i had bloodwork done and it showed my testosterone and dhea were both very slightly elevated and estrogen was low. my gyn said this means i have pcos and that i need to go back on birth control. i dont really have any symptoms of pcos aside from this period irregularity. i have no acne anymore, im pretty underweight and always have been very skinny, i dont have hirsutism or anything like that. i’m mentally very effected by this diagnosis and i really dont want to go back on birth control for a number of reasons. i’m not sure what i can do, my doctor didn’t give me any options aside of birth control and to gain weight. should i get a second opinion or what can i do in the meantime?
for reference: my free testosterone is 5.1 and DHEA is 356. this bloodwork was taken on day 3 of my period and my FSH was 5.5, LH was 19.4, prolactin was 15.1, estradiol was 76.

After Luds comment on his last stream I did a quick Reddit search and found this post from 9yrs ago in sex by U/LudwigAhgren
Note: It was a funny read and definitely in his charming grammar style.
Note 2: Some of things do not work anymore but, a few still do.
“The Ultimate Guide to Shaving Your Pubes for Beginners (Men)
If you have a bush like Brillo^© , or just want to trim up the forrest so others can pass safely, you're in the right place.
I split groin hair into 5 different groups. Below I have listed the difficulty of each area as well as what kind of shave each area shall receive.
This is what we want the end product to look like. (His pubes look like the mustache of almighty Zeus himself!)

Pubic Hair	Ball Hair	Taint/Gooch Hair	High Thigh Hair	Shaft Hair
Easiest to shave. Needs to be trimmed down (No new-born baby penis look)	Scariest/Most Difficult to shave. This will be a clean shave.	Moderate difficulty. Up to shaver, but I prefer a clean shave.	Easy to shave. This will be a clean shave.	Nicks can happen here easily. This will be a clean shave.

Tools Needed: Shaving cream (MUST - Practice before which shaving cream works best! Sometimes Conditioner can work better),
electric razor (The side that pops out I will refer to as buzzer and the side with the guard I will refer to as electric razor from here on out)
A Women’s! shaving razor (women’s razors have a much higher guard and will protect better than one for men.
 
*PLEASE BE PREPARED!* I mean it’s your balls we’re talking about here…
 
Step 1: The first step will be to shave the pubic hair. Depending on how much hair is down there, you have the option to go at it with scissors like a harbor before throwing the buzzer down there. If you have an average amount (2”>x) then go at it with the buzzer. Hover your family jewels over the toilet, you may even choose to sit like a cool substitute teacher. Brush the square side of the buzzer backwards across your pubes vertically. It may seem as if it isn’t doing anything but trust me you’re losing hair faster than LeBraun James. Continue this until you deem it short enough, I like my pubes around 1/2”.
Note Make sure the pubes length is even throughout, focusing on areas that with longer hair to insure optimum symmetry, bitches love symmetry. Use a mirror!
 
Step 2: Now you’ll want to ‘square’ out your hair and completely shave off any outliers around your pubes. Perhaps you have a leaky happy trail? Or maybe your pubes are ‘fading’ in. Either way you’ll want this instead of this (not penis don’t fret) Use a mirror to make sure it’s not lopsided.
 
Step 3: Here we are going to tackle that upper thigh hair that encompasses the whole male crotch area. Now get all nakey if you aren’t already and hop in that shower. Make sure the water is warm because you’re going to be in there for a while. Whip out you’re shaving cream of choice, I use this because it makes the blade glide across my nuts (phrase of the day!). To be fair I am more metrosexual than most gay men. Anyway(!) lather that shaving cream on to you’re upper thigh, above the pubes and right around the taint (make sure the water isn’t washing it all away) and start shaving those areas. The shaving razor will insure that these areas are hair-free.
Note Make sure the blade follows the surface of the skin. You want max blade to skin contact.
 
Step 4: Here’s my favorite part. Shaving the shaft. Why is it my favorite? It adds an inch to your perceived dick length (now your dick will look like it’s an inch long^rekt. Extend your dick by pulling out your head. It will give a similar surface on the base of the dick to an erect penis. Now with the shaving cream and razor, shave the front part of the base, while always making sure the base is flat. Then do each side, trying your best to make the area being shaved flat. A flat area not only allows the razor to get more hair, it also prevents little nicks that can occur. I’ll refer back to Davidfor how far down the base you should shave.
Note If you look at the pic of David, you’ll notice he shaved the area to the right and left of his penis. That is totally you’re call, I have no opinion I find both to by stylish in their own penis way.
 
Step 5: The balls. AKA Holyshitiamsoscarediamgoingtochopmynutsoff. You may be tempted to skip this part, but trust me, hairy balls do not look good when the rest has been shaved. If you start this, you must to finish it. You are the chosen one. You are supposed to bring balance to your pubes, not leave them in darkness! Do it for the (potential) children.
Back to the balls. We’re going to first start with the outside balls. To do this get in your best captain stance which creates a nice U shape between your thigh and outer left/right ball. This is the kind of U Brett Farve has been talking about. Now, using that handy shaving cream and razor, this should be quite easy. Gently go up that are and always going along the grain. Don’t switch up directions here, that’s too ballsy.
After that’s done we’re going to drift away from the pubes for just a bit. Throw some shaving cream on the taint (this is the area that prevents you from shitting on your balls) and you’ll want to shave from your asshole to the base of your balls. Always going in that direction. IMPORTANT If you touch your taint (ew you’re gross) you’ll notice there is a line. Kind of feels like hair running from your asshole to your balls. It’s actually a vein that controls your orgasms. DO NOT SHAVE ON THIS VEIN Shave to the left and right of it. Don’t go directly on it. I don’t think anything will happen if you do… but better safe than orgasmless.
 
Step 6: Back to the balls and the last part of the shaving in the shower. This part is difficult and to be honest I’m not sure of the best way to approach this. Balls are weird and that they have no fucking shape and 2 million wrinkles. I like to first take my electric razor and use the buzzer part of it. Then I just air swipe my balls getting all the hair about 1/4” short. Then I take the shaving cream and focus on specific parts squeezing my balls to get maximum surface area. This seems to work out for me, but keeping it 1/4 of an inch isn’t that big of a deal. Hair that short is difficult to notice and ladies/men will still suck your nuts.
Note Loosen up before shaving your balls. Take deep breaths and relax. Make sure your asshole isn’t clenched because that raises your balls. And if you’re down there shaving with a clenched asshole, and for any reason your asshole unclenches, you’re balls will drop (again) and hell will break loose. It is better to shave them while they are low and have them clench upwards.
 
Step 7: Clean up all the pubes off of your body. This is no simple task. Water is an adhesive so you’ll have to detach the shower head and put that all up in your business. I like to turn on the bath and use that heavy rush of water to cleanse my body of those clingy cutoff pubes. Hop out the shower, dry off and look at your masterpiece Michelangelo. But you are not done yet!
 
Step 8: Similar to barbers, you will have missed a few hair and you’ll probably have a few 2 inch hairs amongst you’re gently coiffed pubes. Grab a pair of nail scissors or whatever tool you prefer and chop those suckers off. The majority will be on your balls. A fun thing I like to do that is totally fucking weird, is pulling long pubes on my balls and plucking them off. It is surprisingly easy to do so because of the loose ball skin. Don’t yank it out like a band-aid though or you’ll need a band-aid (Ha Ha.. I’m not funny)
 
Voila, you’re done. Get some aftershave on those freshly shaven balls to disinfect your nicks and make those meaty knockers smell like a man. Congratulations and I hope I was of some help!
 
Edit 1: Let't talk about asshole hair, (what a great conversation start^{furiouslyjotsdown)} that area can be shaved and it can look/feel good! But personally, I like to keep my Brown Eye of Sauron to myself. No traveller has dared venture down so I feel no need to shave.
Edit 2: One of my ball shaving colleagues has alerted me that the 'taint vein' is actually, "[A] scar, from where the skin fuses before birth and is called the perineal raphe." (Google it for some nice visuals)
 
Thank you all for the great response! Being on the front page of sex is something all my future employers will be impressed by. I recently shaved and I seriously mistook my junk for King David's jewels (obviously he is miles bigger) and I thought I'd right down exactly what I did.”

meditation is not a practice that you do. Meditation is simply what you are. it takes no effort at all to be what you effortlessly are. your awareness never requires any maintenance nor any effort at all to simply be aware. you need to make an effort only so that you can come to the realization that it was always effortless the entire time. effortlessness is our most natural and unique divine quality but most are disconnected from their pure self and have adopted beLIEfs about who they are which is the source of their suffering. Very important to understand that this is not personal in any way shape or form. I have recently come to realize that God is very logical and runs the universe in a way that we all can unanimously agree on deep down in everyone's soul we all unanimously agree with God's way whether we want to or not simply because the spirit in all of us can't help but agree with it absolutely. The physical version of us can easily lie to itself but our spirit is incapable of it. If you suffer It could only be because you deserve to suffer. Although we have always been strategically and purposefully told by our society that "life is not fair!!!" Big surprise it turns out the society that man has wrought is ass backwards in every way shape and form. It's not the world that's upside down it's the society that makes it seem that way. The truth is the universe is perfectly Fair. It's just that humans are incredibly skilled at lying to themselves. So they are not aware of why they deserve to suffer. I have always been one who has been incapable of lying to myself. For example, most people are proud or feel arrogance and superiority because they possess some great quality. This is only possible because they are skilled at lying to themselves and ignore the fact that everything amazing about them could only be seen as a gift from God and any imperfection within us can only come from us as individual people. You have to be an amazing liar to your self to ever feel arrogance or any sense of superiority above others. We are all given our own unique special gifts from God and he did not give you these gifts expecting to be thanked or for any ulterior motive other than out of pure love. It is simply a fact that you unknowingly spit in the face of this great pure love if you pretend that anything good about you comes from you the individual person. Of course if it did come from you you would be worthy to feel Superior and dominate others but God is the living breathing proof of one who is Worthy to feel Superior and look down on anything and yet he doesn't do it. So if anybody who is unworthy dare to dominate, control, or even feel Superior to another they commit a great great sin against the universe itself. And their own soul will punish itself knowing full well it deserves it. I have always been painfully painfully aware of why I deserved whatever I deserved. And thanks to my special gift God allowed me to be the kind of person that is incapable of lying to themselves. I'm aware of the fact that Humility is the only thing I ever truly deserve to feel. we resist feeling this humility only because we resist our suffering. Suffering has never been our enemy just like the pain you feel when you touch a hot stove is not our enemy but our very important friend that you would be smart to listen to. Understanding this allows you to never again feel like suffering is something to complain about instead it becomes a grand opportunity for growth. Another gift that God gave me was an insatiable desire for growth that only an infinite and eternal God can satisfy. This is why my entire life God has never allowed me to feel Pride or arrogance without severely teaching me a lesson and putting me in my place. God has been drilling the lesson of humility into my head above all other lessons my entire life. Humility is the Foundation of all my spiritual growth. There's two other super important lessons he made sure I mastered before truly revealing himself to me. And I believe that if anyone were to fully learn just these three specific lessons he made sure I learned above all others then you too would be worthy of seeing his glory. You could be perfect in almost every way but haven't fully learned three fundamental things he simply cannot bless you the way he wants to because you simply wouldn't deserve it. And if you have many many flaws but you somehow are able to fully understand three specific things then you will earn so much of his love and respect that he will personally take care of your other flaws in time and put you on a fast track to your own unique perfection.you let go of control simply by realizing that you don't have it in the first place. the only control we have is whether or not we accept what ever comes and goes. the one who realizes that realizes control is overrated. it's much easier to flow in harmony and allow the universe to do all the work for you cuz it is you silly. effortlessness is our most natural quality but most are disconnected from their pure self and have adopted belief of who they are which is the source of their suffering. thus giving birth to the false sense of personhood. a mere illusion that we cling to and overlook our true selves which is always present but seemingly overshadowed by the mind. it's very rare for me to find one who can not only follow me in this but also speak profound truth on the matter. The self within me is the same self within you. to connect love and inspire those who also know that we are not two is pretty damn cool if you ask me. there is nothing that I enjoy doing more than this haha. You beautiful bums do you not realize 😍 it is your experience at any given moment you can verify that this awareness we all have an experience of is ever present and unchanging? although I love ABSOLUTELY ALL equally and unconditionally. the way that I feel for another being who Has also walked the narrow path and can stand next to me shoulder to shoulder or better yet way Beyond me in terms of wisdom never as a mere follower but as an equal goes far beyond any word that could possible exist. I will give you nothing. all I will do is ask the question and you yourself have to testify that this awareness that you KNOW that YOU are is ever present and unchanging. every single person on the planet if they would only investigate themselves would come to the exact same conclusion within themselves. and if they only knew the implications of such a profound discovery their minds would be blown Sky High. for the past 10 years I've been pondering one profound matter and it wasn't until about 7 years did I barely begin to really understand it's depths. and 3 years later I now find myself to just begin to walk the path of understanding. there is no end to this path I'm on. there is an infinite amount of growth ahead of me. my journey to reaching this point has been one drenched in failure and suffering. I have fallen in every single trap possible many many times until I eventually matured slowly but surely in my awareness of these traps and adjusted to not only not falling anymore traps but pass every single test that the universe constantly loves to throw at me with flying colors. I went through all that pain and suffering so that I may be a light too those Souls who attempt to walk a similar path as me. although in comparison to the whole of humanity only a handful will bare the fruits they were supposed to. I have a feeling it's going to be a pretty damn good handful. my instincts tell me I'm far from alone and that many have walked a similar narrow Road. I do not often come across those who have an ear to hear that which I speak. I've had to learn the hard way to stop giving precious jewelry to swine and instead save it for those Worthy even if it means waiting a long time to find such a being. The universe loves to remind me that it appreciates me greatly for trying my very best with great passion to teach another that which I have understood but it seems like it's only meant for those who have a level of discernment that is extremely Sharp enough to see through all the b******* but not throw away the precious baby with the bathwater. the truth that I have found is so simple that most humans will simply Overlook or not be able to sense the importance of it because they don't realize the beauty of the most simple truth that if you investigate enough transforms into the most profound and never-ending mystery. leave it to God who is the source of all paradoxes to hide the most profound thing in existence right under everybody's noses in plain sight making it seem so simple that the vast majority of all beings who have ever lived are incapable of appreciating it and instead live and die never tasting or knowing themselves. Its always been my sincere Love Of Truth that has kept me forever Rising through an ocean of darkness. all the pain and suffering that life throws at anyone is Beyond worth it if one can just manage to learn the specific lesson that accompanied them. to not learn the lesson would be a waste of that suffering. I am one who has not wasted a single drop of it. I'm just a humble servant of this grand life. there is no greater honor in life than to be a servant of it. the true definition of a king is one who dedicates their life in service of their precious kin their beloved brethren. all beings are equal and deserving of dignity and respect, this is simply common sense to one who knows themselves. A servant of nature is what I'm hoping they will call me when I'm dead. It's okay, it's never too late. unconditional love really does exist and You can see for yourself it's infinite. I AM one who effortlessly wields this all powerful force we call LOVE. an infinity love that encompasses all. a love so mighty that no one could ever hope to Escape it's grasp no matter how hard they try. You see... That is a rare gift. A love that knows no bounds.

My wife "26/F" and i "25/M" have been in a relationship since 2016. We got married in 2019. For a while we have been having problems. In the begining it was great. We would talk, make love, and communicate. Along the ways things have gotten complicated. Ive worked for most of the relationship. She was going to school and has gotten her bachelors in psych. She also wasnt a citizen for a long time. During the relationship we've delbt with quite a few problems. For me it began that i would pick her up from uni and shes get really mad that i was 5-10 munuites late from her class ending. I would always tell her that waiting that long isnt too bad. Before we were married she expected me to share half of my income with her.
Before i go on in venting about her id like to say i too have had my own share of problems.
I was constanlty smoking weed and wasnt the best student. I dropped out of college and focused on work.
For a while i was working labor jobs at a big city 2 hours away to help us out. Id come home to her telling me i need to do more around the house even though i was away for most of the week and she was at home. She was done with school but still couldn't work because of her lack of citezenship.
Through this time i decided was looking for jobs around me. I landed a job as a car Salesman. It was tough to say the least. Im not the best with people but i did my best. It was a stressful job and trying to meet my quota for commision was hard enough alongside the long hours. Still shed get mad at me for no feeding ou pets before i clocked into work at 730am. Id always try and brush it off.
During this time she got really into spiritualism. (Taro cards, zodiacs, horiscopes). She wasn never into thay stuff before. In the begining we would both make fun of thag stuff. I figured since she spends so much time at home without anything to do. That it was an outlet for her.
Still if come home from working 10+ hours a day to her telling me she needed more help around the house. Id be beat every day. Dealing with customers and handling the stress of trying to meet my quota for commision. It came to the point where i quit the job because shed send me text during work about how she was unhappy with me.
I went back to working labor jobs/delivery apps. Id express to her my stress and struggles but she didnt seem to care.
Eventually she got her citizenship after we married. In my mind i thought that after shes able to have a job shed realized how much work i did to keep us afloat. Still we only had one car and she wasnt the best driver. For a while i was driving her to work 30 minutes away from home. Had gotten a job as a sushi line cook that was still really stressful. She still expected more from me.
I did mt best to handle chores at home and work mt job. Eventually i had a falling out with my managers and i was out of a job. Weve had a car payment since 2021 and i was paying all of it till the beging of 2023. Even though I was making all the payments for 2 years out of the 3 year leae she would get mad of me for having to pay it for a while.
Shes always had a temper. My sister got married in 2023. It took me a while to convince her to come along. She hasnt been very willing to get along with my family. Still we had a great time in the begining of the wedding. We were getting close to checking out of the hotel so we could go to my sisters ceramony. We had to check out by 11am and i was getting ready as fast as i could. I gave told her multiple times that we had to check out by that time ( my sister payed for the hotel and i didnt want her to get charged). As I was finishing up and grabbing all out luggage i told her we needed to hurry. She got really mad and screamed at me a lot of terrible thing. Hoping that id get ra*** and that i suck a di**. It really threw me off gaurd and i just continued doing my thing.
The rest of the day went well aside from all the bs. I still brushed it off.
She came off birth control in may 2024. So I once again thought shed have a more level head because i understand it can mess up your hormones quite a bit. Weve had multiple talks since then.
Ive told her id like for her to have a good relationship with my family and for her to get less angry. Id like for her to communicate and have talks with compassion. Shes been making an effort.
Recently i told her i need space and have slept in the guest room. We had a conversation and she said shes not willing to have a good relationship with my family. I do my best to have a good relationship with hers and it really hurts that she isnt.
Ps. Sorry for my lack of grammar and cohesiveness. My mind is all over the place and there is a lot of stuff i didnt include. Judt typing this gives me a good way to vent and bring be more clarity.

I was on Mercilon for 2 years and finally decided to stop.
But the symptoms are so crazy: I'm experiencing fatigueness, lightheadedness (I had my brain checked but there was nothing wrong with it) and anxiety.
Has anyone had the same experience? What did you do to ease the symptoms? When will it go away? 🥲