Quotes on a best friend who s died

My (30M) partner (35M) is not out to his parents who are christian and arab have lived in the Middle East for their whole lives. He has lived here in the US for enough time to become a citizen and fall in love and get a permanent job and house.
We've been together for 4 years now and have a pretty strong relationship but I'm sort of his only strong support strucutre. He has a best friend that lives in another region of the country and maybe some good friends he made throughout life that have gone off and done their own things.
He works a ton since he's in the medical field and barely has time to feed himself or do anything around the house so I usually take care of all of that including work my 40 hours in the office.
His parents have moved to the US however due to current events and this has caused some pressure on our relationship. The parents wanted to come visit and obviously that wasn't possible since we live together. He's gonna go visit them from time to time and probably over the holidays which ofcourse doesn't bode well for me having to always spend separately.
He expresses to me all the time that he wants to be with me forever / for a long time. Our relationship feels like it's been climbing constantly even with the occasional valleys. But he's very afraid of losing his family if they were to ever find out that he's gay and dating a man. So afraid that he wakes up in the middle of the night screaming and in a panic and I have to calm him down.
I know I can't force him to come out and I would never think that's a fair choice to make between me and his family, but with them moving into the states, it makes me lose a little hope for our relationship. (But also, supposedly it's a choice because he doesn't actually know if 1) they know already 2) they won't accept him 3) maybe they don't like it but things won't even change and he doesn't have to stress about them finding out.)
He's always said that marriage is dumb and he would never do it and I've always been of the opinion that i would do it if it made sense. For us its made sense. We used to argue about it but i sort of gave up. Recently as we've been getting closer, he gets drunk and vulnerable and expresses his desire to marry me. I keep lingering on to these moments sometimes to feel happier but then it gets sour in my mouth when I remember that these things might be mutually exclusive. How can we be married but his family not even know? He would be pictured with a ring on his social media and possibly someone would notice. And if he says he can't wear a ring, that would hurt me a lot. And then what if he gets sick? Ofcourse I have to let his parents know who love him but then they're like, who even is this guy?
I haven't been in the closet since I was maybe 14 and even then my parents for the most part more so cared if I got an A+ vs an A- so it's hard for me to at the age of 30 live my life for someone else and even worse to watch him at his age consider living this life. So I got him a therapist that he talks to weekly and that's been for a month but lately my mental has been circling this idea that this will never get better and I'll have to sacrifice some of my long-term happiness so that he has his family still.
My question is, is there anyone that is either someone in my position or someone in his position that can relate to this situation and help me not feel so alone?

My (37f) ex husband (42M) was a serial cheater. He cheated many times during our entire marriage (7 years) and the last straw was when he was having an affair with his best friend's fiancé. After that, we got divorced and the other couple broke up. The best friend (40M) and I hung out some about a year after these events to share stories since we were the only ones that really fully knew what we were going through. We developed feelings, but ultimately decided nothing could go further because of the history as well as me not wanting to rush into a relationship that quickly. It has been 3 years since this happened. We hadn't spoken since (would have been too hard emotionally to stay in contact) and both have dated other people in this time. He reached out a couple of months ago asking how I was. Then we recently had a serious conversation laying everything out on the table about how we felt back then and now. Both of us have still thought about each other consistently since then and haven't found that same connection with anyone else.
I do have 2 elementary aged kids from my marriage that I have to think about. They do not remember him since they were so young and he wasn't around them often. I have not introduced them to anyone that I have dated and wouldn't even in this situation until I was sure there was a serious future (so who knows if it would end up coming to that).
My friends think I should go for it. They think he is a great guy and say that I deserve happiness. But am I asking for trouble/drama if we do this?? Is this a terrible idea? Will I regret not giving it a chance if I don't go for it? I'm torn and just seeing what people may think outside of the situation that I don't have a personal relationship with.
TLDR: My ex husband cheated on me with his best friend's fiancé. 4 years later, now the former best friend and I might date.

For context, I work in social media marketing. I have my own clients, but I also work as a freelancer with a larger agency. Late last year, they took on a local chain of clothing stores as a client, and I agreed to being the main social media coordinator, but other team members would do other aspects. The price had seemed very good at the time.
The store has proved to be very difficult to work with - they expect us to work all hours, including nights and weekends. They're not organised, and always send last minute requests or assets to post. The assets are often full of mistakes (typos which I point out to them, but also wrong images and prices etc that I wouldn't have info on) so while they rush me to post them ASAP, they then call after to delete them and replace as they have mistakes. This of course wastes my time. We also do content creation for them, and it takes days or weeks for them to approve work, due to their hierarchy with many supervisors to go through. The holiday season was a nightmare - they were calling me about every 30 mins and sending emails throughout the day and night!
The biggest headache of all is the store's main point of contact - she has a VERY abrasive personality, and it seems as though she enjoys being difficult and condescending. She nitpicks at everything we produce, constantly moves goalposts, gets into snappy moods, and it honestly seems as though we're pandering more to her personal preferences than what perform bests on social media. She's also very sarcastic in her speech, saying things like "It shouldn't be this hard for you to understand, you seem intelligent". There was a time where I pushed back on a video that I edited for them and she clearly didn't like it and became even more unpleasant for weeks, including ignoring my calls and messages and pointing out if I hadn't replied to messages and comments quickly enough on the stores' pages. Most of the time with the messages/comments, I was waiting on the store to provide the info to then share with the person asking. She complains that we don't do things fast enough, but then takes ages to send over information. It feels as though you just can't win.
I've brought up with the agency how difficult they are to work with, and while they agree, they've not tried to address it, or ask how we can make the process easier for all involved. I know that the store is one of the agency's biggest clients, and that I'd only be getting a fraction of what they're charging, so the agency owner is probably just overlooking it for the money. Some of the other team members have told me that she often doesn't enforce boundaries with other clients or listen to their complaints, and she personally works almost 24/7, so this may be just how she operates.
This month, I decided that I had enough, and I told the agency owner that I'm not continuing with this client, and that I'll finish over the next few weeks. She said she understood, but she then made it seem as though the problem is that I have too many responsibilities to be able to provide the support needed, and not that the client is just too much. I thought it best not to argue with her, because she's always makes comments about how I'm too "sensitive" or "defensive", especially when I'm trying to address a client issue with her. Both she and the store contact woman are older than me, and it seems like they both dismiss me because of the age difference, which feels disrespectful.
So I'm just riding out the next few weeks, but unfortunately it seems as though the store contact has decided to make them as difficult as possible. She's been ultra picky and vocal about everything this past week, and with summer sales and events coming up, I know it'll get worse.
I'm basically asking for help or advice on how to not let these next few weeks get to me. I know that the end is coming up, but it feels almost unbearable to have to keep dealing with them - I'm sorry I didn't choose a closer end date.
I'm also wondering if I should ask for an "exit interview" of sorts with the agency on why it didn't work out with this client. I spoke with my friend who works in HR about this and she said it seems like a waste of time, especially if the agency owner has me painted in a certain way in her head. She said to just leave it for the next agency member to see how difficult the client is, and that maybe if the agency owner is honest, she'll see that the client is the problem.
Would love some advice on how to not get too frustrated over these next few weeks. Thanks!

I’ve written too many drafts here but I wasn’t sure what to say or at least di ko masabi directly kasi what for pa
Di ko alam pinaparinggan mo ba ako sa songs na pinopost mo, pero if you do
I’m really sorry for being an asshole all this time pero di mo kasi talaga deserve ang di siguradong feelings. I really want to try and work it with you pero it’s best we are friends. Sasabihin mo na naman eto nanaman nirereject kita, pakyu ka hahaha.
If in the future we learn how to, we can still smile, laugh, talkshit, drink coffee without all the complications.
Hold on to the girlie you are dating. Hindi mo siya need bitawan for me. That’s a stupid decision if you did.
Ako, I’ll be just here as your friend, or as the ghost from your past.

My partner and I are planning a 3-4 week trip for this August/Sept I am intermediate. She is more of a high level begginer - a longboarder that is happy in 2-3 ft mellow conditions.
I need something decent for both of us. We did Maldives last year in August. Generally ticked all the boxes (except value) but she wasn’t able to surf any of the breaks on bigger swell.
This year, hoping for some ideas in Indo (or maybe Siargao (went 5 years ago, but was small in August).
Thoughts are:
1) Bali, Lombok + Sumba (or maybe Sumbawa) I’ve done Bali + Lombok a few times, and I know it’s a safe bet except the crowds these days. Sumba seems like a cool hedge on something new. Sumbawa might be too advanced for her.
2) Telos - seems to have a few mellow breaks consistently 2-3ft even in peak season. Is this a waste of a trip with someone who can’t duck dive ?
3) Somewhere else in the ments - Maybe monkeys resort, where the house wave is longboard friendly. same as above
4) Siargao - would be perfect for long boarding, value and chill, but I think swell is too inconsistent until late Sept - Oct ?
Advice ?!

That will be a long post, I hope you can accompany me until the end, I will give you a little context and I will start with my story. I 24 (F) I clarify that I am a trans girl, my ex 27 (M) heterosexual cisgender had never had a trans girlfriend. We met through a social network. We realized that we lived nearby and decided to go out to eat, before seeing each other in person I made it clear to him that I was a trans girl, which took him by surprise, it was something that he was not expected, but he still said that he felt something inside his being that told him that there was no problem. two weeks after seeing us for the first time he asked me to become his girlfriend to which I agreed because he is an excellent human being with very good values, good ethics and morals and definitely men like him difficult to find today. the relationship flowed and at about three months, he decides to leave me. He had a lot of things in his head. He was waiting for a new job, struggling with insecurities and I know that the fact that I was trans somehow took away his sleep and I didn't know how he was going to handle it with his traditional family. he lied telling me a story saying that he had to go to Las Vegas for work, for a year and a half and that he could not continue with a long-distance relationship, at the passage of the hours he confesses to me that it was a lie that he was not gonna leave. At this point deep inside me, I had already left him, I had cried and I had suffered the grief and even though I agreed to continue trying something in m broke from that first time he left me, with the passage of time, I realized that there were things that did not convince me at all his physical appearance, his personal hygiene, his height, his neediness, his way of being so closed in certain things, they made me quite angry, we talked about it, he told me that he was going to change, but I only saw changes for a certain time and then he did the same again 6 months after being in a relationship I decided to finish things this time on my own and within hours, he came regretful, telling me that everything was going to be fine that everything was going to work. After that I began to feel a little uncomfortable, but I decided to move on because he had given me a promise ring when he asked me to be his girl, since his dream was to see me dressed in white. we made many plans for the future, we planned to have a family. A month ago He managed to get that job that he was waiting for so long, everything was slowly taking form and in order to accomplish the plans we had he needed that very good job. I was able to meet his mom, he never told her that I was a trans girl and his mom didn't realize it and he kept hiding it until certain point, I got along very well with her. Everything went well and the date to meet his dad, brothers and his sister-in-law was near and I began having doubts in me. I really wanted to stay with him and meet his whole family but It would seem like an act of bad taste if a few months after i decided to end up things. Then I tried to postpone things and not meet them. when spending time with him when sleeping together when kissing, I already felt different. I felt that something was off. I felt that something had broken since that first time, we broke up, but maybe I hadn't wanted to accept it. It hurt me a lot to think that all our plans, the great work he just got, the big salary, was finally coming true, everything we waited for almost a year. I just wasn't feeling it anymore, I talked to him and told him that I no longer felt the same as he deserved someone who could give him the same thing he expected since he was settling for the little I gave him of my person, he said that this was love and that it was worth fighting and that it didn't matter how long he had to wait that it was going to be worth it. Two weeks ago, I decided to leave him and coincidentally a best friend invited me on vacation with his family. I had time to think about things and I realized that maybe I'm too young to get married. Although I feel ready, were simply mixed feelings and I didn't know what to do, when I returned last weekend we saw each other we talked and I told him that it was time to heal both for him and for me that we could not continue living a half-love because he gave everything for me, but I didn’t. I decided to put an end to our story, he told me that he would never understand why I did it if he tried so hard that if this was actually love because why I did not continue fighting, but there was simply something inside me that It made me feel that I should no longer continue and it hurts me because he is an excellent man, he will be an excellent husband, an excellent father, an excellent provider has all the qualities that any girl would die to find a man, but I simply do not know if I am getting carried away and I will regret it in the future, but I simply no longer feel this relationship. I would like you to share your opinion with me. I feel that in the future, a part of me may regret it, but for now I feel that it is the best thing for both of us to take different paths and take care of healing and doing things. Better. Maybe in our next relationship. Thank you for reading me so far, I told you it would be long. If you have any questions, leave it at the comments and I will answer since I can't put all the details here because it would be too much. Thank you. Kisses. Melina.
TL;DR I need advice if I should fight for a man that is worth it but I don’t longer feel the relationship and am not sure to continue even though I might regret it since he’s an excellent men.

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Hi all! After a crazy, but incredibly fun and rewarding year earning my pilot certs, I wanted to make a write-up of my experience in hopes that it’ll be helpful for any other aspiring or current pilots. To summarize, I went from zero aviation experience to CFII in 13 months, Part 61, paying as I go and on the pretty cheap side. I do want to emphasize that I was ~incredibly~ lucky and had some very generous people who helped me out, and I could not have done this as efficiently and cheaply if it weren’t for them. I’m going to list all my takeaways below, but I think my biggest piece of advice is to network as much as you can because there are some amazing, generous people in this community that want to see us all succeed.
Background:
For context, I’m in my mid to late twenties and have been in the workforce for about 5 years. Through a combination of factors I decided to make a career switch to professional pilot but was hesitant because I did not want to take on debt. I have a family member who is an airline pilot who helped me devise a plan. I moved home and kept working my job remotely so I was able to put all my paychecks towards flying.
Private Pilot – 3 months, 75 hours TT, $12k
I did my private in a Piper Archer owned by my local FBO. The owner allowed my family member to be my instructor and gave me a small discount for pre-paying hours. We flew almost daily. I also took ground school at another local FBO in-person, and that was much more helpful than having to learn everything on my own because I was brand new to aviation. I took the private written exam as soon as my ground school concluded which was also the week of my checkride (bad idea in hindsight, but it worked out).
I solo’d around 25 hours and took my checkride with about 60 hours in the Archer (15 additional hours were in a friend’s airplane). The checkride was challenging, but straightforward and I was well prepared. The DPE said good things about me afterward and I was officially a private pilot! I’d be happy to answer questions or do a writeup in a separate post on any of my checkrides but for the sake of brevity I’ll skip that for now.
~Key takeaways from private:~
Fly as often as possible and make sure your instructor is aligned with that. Also stay on top of ground school. Also, don’t rush to take the checkride before you’re ready, it’s okay to have a lot of practice first. Lastly, I know DPE availability is a big issue in lots of areas and can cause people to have to wait on a checkride even though they’ve been ready for months. In my experience, if you try hard enough and call around, you will find someone. However, it might mean you have to travel a little bit which I know is not possible for everyone.
Instrument – 2 months, 150 hours TT, $14k
I was feeling a little fatigued after private so I was slow to start studying for instrument. I started by doing a lot of flying for fun, mainly flying in the Archer by myself on little cross countries to check off some of the requirements (in hindsight I should have found someone to split time with).
I did my instrument at a flight school in one of the adjacent states. This particular school specializes in accelerated programs, but they do not have a formalized instrument course. I went in-person and spoke with the director of flight operations to discuss my options. Since I had to take PTO to do this, the goal was to finish my instrument in one week with the checkride at the end. I paid a flat rate for the airplane and instructor time. I also stayed over there during that week so I had to pay for housing as well.
Before I went over there, I did some prep in the Archer that I did my private in and took the written exam (Sheppard air). I also purchased Sporty’s Instrument course and used that to prep and for the endorsement needed to take the written. The week I spent at the flight school was honestly a blast, and I was able to take my checkride on day 7 with 20 hours in the plane and about 4 hours of sim time. Again, happy to discuss the checkride in the comments or another post.
~Key takeaways from instrument:~
TAKE THE IRA, FII, AND IGI EXAMS AT THE SAME TIME. You only have to purchase the IRA Sheppard course and can take all 3 exams back to back. Also, again stay on top of ground school because instrument flying requires a lot of technical knowledge. But it honestly is really fun!
Commercial – 3 months, 263 hours TT, $8k
The biggest challenge for commercial was time building, of course. This is where networking saved me. I made friends with another instructor who frequented my local FBO who also owns a plane. He needed the time as well so we flew together a lot and I paid for the fuel. I also had another friend at the airport who owns a plane that he doesn’t fly often and offered to let me time build in that (again, I’ve been so lucky to come across some very generous people).
I did my checkride in the Archer that I learned in with my family member signing me off, and with the same DPE who did my private. Commercial was probably the easiest one I had done so far, but it still was no joke! I will say I was amazed with how much easier things came to me by this point versus when I first started, which was a great feeling.
~Key takeaways from commercial:~
Network, network, network. Spend as much time as you can at your local FBO or flight school and make friends with everyone. Like I’ve said, there are some very generous people out there who love to help out new pilots, and I could not have made it this far without them.
Also, in retrospect, it would have been a really good idea to have done commercial from the right seat. I’ve heard of a lot of people doing that and if I had, I would have been able to knock out CFI a lot sooner and cheaper.
Multi-engine add-on – 1 week, 298 hours TT, $4.3k
Shortly after getting my CPL, I had a week of PTO and decided to knock out my multi add-on. I found a flight school with a Seminole and got ahold of their MEI, and we figured we could knock it out during that week. I contacted the DPE who did my private and commercial and we scheduled my checkride for the end of the week. This flight school was about 2 hours driving from home, and I was able to stay with friends while I was there.
This one was a little challenging because this was in January in the midwest and we were seeing a lot of low IFR days. We ended up getting weathered out the first half of the week, but luckily the Seminole was an easy transition for me and we got me trained up in 3 days, 8 hours of flying. I took the checkride as scheduled and passed (I will say I have had extremely good luck with weather for all of my checkride days so far).
Sidenote: Prior to this checkride, I also took the AGI and IGI exams and asked the DPE who did my multi checkride to sign off on the ground instructor certificate at the same time. I did this because I’ve heard it helps when applying to CFI jobs (shows a little extra effort) and it was easier to do it this way versus having a FSDO issue the cert. Cost me $50 to the DPE.
~Key takeaways from multi:~
Do your research to find an airplane at a good rate. I paid $395 per hour which included the instructor, but I’ve seen some schools charging a lot more. Also, I looked into schools with accelerated courses that you pay as a package, and based on my experience I would not recommend because I was able to do it much cheaper my way.
My instructor did a good job of making sure I knew all the aircraft systems well enough to teach them in case I go for my MEI (which I would like to do soon). Since the MEL is light on material, I highly recommend this. Also, when I was doing research I was told to look for a Seminole or DA-42 because they’re easy trainers, which I would agree with based on my limited experience.
CFI – 1 month (on top of all my experience thus far), 316 hours TT, $5k
This was the scariest one for me. I had heard all along that CFI is the hardest and longest checkride and for the most part I would agree. I originally was planning on going to a school with an accelerated program for this, but after asking around I decided to do it on my own (with my family member signing me off).
This one was heavy on ground school. I got some lesson plans from various people as I heard that’s what everyone has prepared for the checkride, but I hardly ended up using them. I also had a friend send me PowerPoints he made for the technical subject areas. I edited them/made them my own and these are what I ended up using for the checkride along with a couple props.
As far as studying goes, the thing I found most helpful was watching random YouTube videos before bed every night. Although it was all review, I picked up a lot of tidbits that weren’t quite drilled into my brain as I still feel new to aviation overall. As the DPE described it, to be a good CFI you basically need to be a nerd about everything aviation and that’s what I tried to do. I would guess that I studied a few hours a day for a month and a half or so. As for the flying part, I had a little bit of right seat experience prior to buckling down for CFI (probably under 5 hours), so I’d guess it took me about 5 more hours to feel comfortable in the right seat. I took the checkride with the same DPE who did my private, commercial, and multi and passed! The checkride was 8 hours total so definitely a long day. As we were debriefing, I went ahead and scheduled CFII with him as well.
~Key takeaways from CFI:~
Start nerding out now (if you aren’t already). Keep a running collection of links and videos that explain concepts well or teach you something interesting, they will be useful for the checkride. Also, don’t buy lesson plans. As my DPE put it, there are really only like 5 lesson plans for any given topic and we all steal them from each other, so no need to reinvent the wheel or pay for them if someone else can give them to you. I’d also recommend really getting to know the PTS, because it lays out very clearly what you are required to do on the checkride (for example you know you’re going to need to teach runway incursions so it’s a good opportunity to be really prepared). I’m sure my last point is most applicable to those doing CFI on their own since you won’t have a school telling you exactly what to expect.
CFII – 1 month, 368 hours TT, $1.3k
CFII was possibly the easiest checkride to prepare for. I did this one in a friend’s airplane – a Mooney with a G750 and GFC 500 autopilot. It probably took about 10 hours of flying (I already have lots of time in this plane) to be ready. For studying, I reviewed Pilot Cafe, YouTube videos, and obtained some lesson plans from a friend. I did not use PowerPoints or anything for this one. I also had already completed the written exam back when I did my instrument rating. I’m not sure what else to say about this one, but I did it with the same DPE again and passed. It feels amazing to be done with checkrides for a while!
~Key takeaways from CFII:~
Select an airplane with a good autopilot. This made the flying portion of the checkride super easy. For the oral, I highly recommend working with instructors who send students for a lot of instrument checkrides. I feel like there are so many very specific questions that DPEs like to ask on instrument/CFII checkrides, so it helps if you have someone who knows what those questions are going to be. Also, FlightInsight on YouTube and Boldmethod were my favorite resources for this one. Lastly, make sure you know your avionics and autopilot really well, including reading and being able to teach all of the limitations that are in the user manuals.
Notes regarding cost:
I did a decent job of tracking all my expenses throughout this process. I noted in the title that the total cost to me was about $50k, which consists of the ~$45k that I discussed above plus some additional expenses. I also did my commercial ASES rating at Jack Brown’s seaplane base which cost me about $2.5K total (of course this was just for fun). The remaining amount consists of things like buying a headset, books, random accessories, and even some things I called “unnecessary expenses”. I temporarily paid for a membership at a flight school that I barely ended up using, so I put that in that category. While I did everything pretty cheap, I was definitely not perfect!
Here is a further breakdown of my expenses:
Airplane rentals/fuel - $36.9k
Instructor fees - $2.5k (bear in mind I got a lot of free instruction from friends & family)
Ground school - $1.3k (includes actual ground school and books)
Flight accessories - $1.2k
Written exam fees - $1.2k (8 exams total)
DPE fees - $5.8k (7 checkrides; this includes seaplane)
Medical fees - $290
Housing - $900
Misc/unnecessary expenses - $1.2k
Total: $51.7k
Overall Takeaways:
- For those doing Part 61/pay as you go, I highly recommend finding an independent instructor with a flexible schedule. This was key for me because I had a work schedule to work around.
- NETWORKING/MAKING FRIENDS. Go to every fly-in you can, always stop into the FBO to say hi to people, etc. etc. Having friends in aviation was monumentally helpful for me and saved me SO much money. Cannot stress this enough!
- If you are on a timeline, make sure you set specific milestones and when you are going to hit them. Make sure your instructor is on board too.
- Do your research! Reddit has been a fantastic resource for me throughout this process. Talk to people who have achieved the things you want to achieve. I really cannot thank you all enough for all your help and insights on your experiences!
Again, I am more than happy to answer any and all questions. I also apologize if anything is jumbled or confusing; this took a long time to write and I’m sure I missed things. I will also disclaim that while I did a good job of tracking all my expenses, I was not perfect and YMMV for sure. I just hope this gave a somewhat helpful picture for those hoping to do something similar to what I did.
As for next steps, I am aiming for the airlines one of these days! I have a couple interviews at flight schools coming up so I am planning to quit my job and finally start flying full-time soon. I want to do my MEI sometime soon as well but I haven’t figured out how I’m going to pay for the PIC time yet.
I also want to say that I absolutely love general aviation and hope to always be involved in it. I have made so many friends, had some incredible experiences, and learned way more than I could have ever imagined in the past year. For anyone thinking about flying, hopefully this is your sign to just do it! Feel free to comment with questions!

Okay, so I’m doing my second playthrough and I can’t for the life of me figure out how I beat Fell Xenologue the first time… specifically I’m on map 5 (you know the one), I’ve tried so many unit line ups, unit/emblem combos and unit/emblem skill combos, but I just can’t beat it, all my healers die immediately, the boss takes next to no damage, and Fogado cheats when he gets to summon multiple fabrications (what gives, Veronica? why can’t you do that?!)
I’ve been making sure one unit has Lyn so they can snipe the corrupted wyverns attacking Alear, I equip Nel with Celica so she can Warp Ragnarok her way over to my other units, I’ve made sure one unit has Tiki so that Nel can have two health bars, I typically bring a unit with Ike because Great Aether is a good last stand option. I’ve tried bringing Micaiah but I can pretty much only use Great Sacrifice once and then that unit either dies immediately next turn or sits in a corner not being able to build up their engage meter.
It also kinda frustrates me that my units have set stats and levels because I have a strategy I do every time I play a FE game where I load every stat boosting item on a single character. Lapis was practically unstoppable before and now she’s very stoppable.
What are some suggestions for best units and emblems to bring? At the time I’m locked into the mission I have all emblems except for Marth (I pretty much wanted to do the Xenologue fairly late game, but not too late, so I started right after regaining Celica in the story)

I don’t know if it’s the pregnancy hormones or if I’m just pissed because I already can’t stand this person, but here we are. I need an outside opinion because in the office, most of our colleagues don’t want to get involved (understandable).
I’m six months pregnant. We don’t know the sex of the baby because we want to keep it a surprise. In our culture, there’s a custom where we name our babies after family or close friends who have since died. The idea is that they will gain the good qualities of the deceased with the hope they will gain an interest in who they were and, in a greater scope, our family and cultural heritage.
We want to name the baby after my grandfather, who had a Y name. We’re thinking Yosef for a boy or Yael for a girl.
My coworker Casey thinks I’m doing my future baby a disservice. She thinks I’m an asshole for burdening my child with someone else’s name and that they should have their own name. In addition she keeps bugging me with hypotheticals like what if my child wants to change their name or if they come out as trans. The answer is, either don’t care or the chances of it happen are low that it probably might not happen.
I’ve tried to explain that we’re not naming my baby after my grandfather. They will just share the same initial. Casey doesn’t listen.
Anyway, I’m having lunch when Casey is buggering me about my baby’s name. I tried to shut it down by threatening to go to HR for harassment.
That shut her up for now, but my cubicle mate and a few others in the department think I’m taking it too far when HR has other problems to deal with. I also ask because Casey got really upset with me and begged me not to go to HR, which makes me think there’s more going on I don’t know.
So, AITA?

I just wanted to make this post for anyone who is considering starting strength training/lifting but is hesitant or scared to start.
I’m 28 now and up until last year when I was 27, I only ever did cardio. I had not so much as touched a weight - I was always on the treadmill, I ran track and cross country in high school. While cardio is great, I also had a lot of body image issues. I wanted to be as skinny as possible and was obsessed with restricting my calories and eating as little as possible. For some time in my late teens/early 20’s I regularly ate under 1000 calories per day. I was obsessed with being thin and didn’t care if it was at the cost of being “healthy” or feeling like shit!
I finally started seeing fitness videos on my social media algorithms and through that started learning a lot more about nutrition and how building muscle means your metabolism will increase, you can eat more, and how muscle is important as you age. I was finally ready to try something new after around 10 years of off and on restricting calories and binging.
I got a body composition analysis at my gym and although my BMI was 20, my body fat % was 39%….. My muscle mass was also below average/healthy. I was fortunate that at the time I could afford a few months of personal training to get me started so I could learn how to lift properly without hurting myself.
I did 2 months with the trainer 3x a week and gained 3lb of muscle and lost 6lb of body fat. This was almost year ago, since then, I have continued to learn and lift and am now 10lb up in muscle and still 6lb down in fat (my eating habits could still improve). I am at the heaviest I’ve ever weighed but I feel great. Best of all with the help of a nutritionist, I’m finally eating to fuel my body and make gains instead of starving myself and fearing food.
I’m still on my journey but if anyone is thinking about starting your strength journey it’s so worth it!

Hi all, looking for advice. Im 23, I live in Europe, ending my Engineering studies next year(Bachelor’s degree) , somewhere along the way i realized altough its cool and all, its not really for me. I have worked 10 months as a testing engineer in a big company. I quit because i had some stuff going on in my private life, then decided to go for software developer internships, got a few interviews in decent companies, but didnt make it past the last round due to the size of my portfolio(thats understandable as im fighting CS guys who have some decent projects while i had pretty much none). Now altough I have some programming projects lined up for the summer which i want to do and create, i recently have learned about sales, seems to fit me, altough you never know for sure, also as i have realized its hard to break in. Im really outgoing, extroverted and not scared of talking to people, i can make bread out of shit when i talk with someone. From experience i know this working 9-5 as an engineer would make me unhappy, i have done this once for almost a year and i was far from happy. In my last position i used to work in a team and i was talking to clients a lot, doing lots of analysis and presenting those to the clients, collaborating with client engineers on different projects, thats the part i actually enjoyed, thats also one of the reasons Im thinking about sales, its not the same, but similar. I sure as hell can talk and also listen, would say my engineering knowledge is not over the top, but helping people, talking and thinking whats best for them is definitely one of my strongest qualities. Any advice to which direction i should look forward to? Also when reading about sales online, i have seen lots of engineers doing well in sales, i know it depends on the person. I know trying it would give me some amazing skills, but dont know if its worth it, especially here in Europe.

I want to write this here since I'm a fan and to get some advice since my post keeps getting removed from other subs. I came home about 5 months ago after deciding that I wanted to take a break from college because of burnout. I had been begging my father to send me back to our home country to refresh and get back to school, and about a month ago, he agreed because he had been wanting to go to the doctor where there isn't as long a wait to get a consultation as it is here so we went together. Unfortunately, he had to go back to the U.S. about a week later since the doctor told him his condition was severe and that he needed to get further tested since they didn't have that kind of equipment and especially not for cheap as our home country is a 3rd world country, we have a healthcare plan in the U.S. that covers most things anyway. Not even a couple hours later after he landed, we got the news that he had colon cancer and that he had to go into surgery in a couple of days.
My family all collectively decided that because I wasn't "doing anything" and because my mom didn't want to put in the effort of learning how to take public transport even though she's lived here for 5 years, I was the one who had to take care of my dad. They flew me back the next day. When I landed, I didn't even have time to rest after traveling internationally with our suitcases. I was pretty much told by my grandmother to get food ordered and head straight to the hospital to take care of my dad, and I did. In a way, I was happy that I was finally being helpful to my parents. My dad was in the hospital for about 10 days. For those 10 days, I fell asleep by his side in a chair almost every day, calling and texting family to update them on his condition; every few hours, the nurses and doctors would come in to give him meds and talk to him. I would pretty much be awake for all those days with only a couple of hours of sleep as I would be the one to have to translate for him and to tell them of any questions he may have. I only left the hospital to take public transport for an hour and return home to shower. But honestly, that wasn't hard at all; it was the way that my family and even my father would talk about me that made me depressed.
My aunt slashed out at me because I called my other aunt a shared Uber from the hospital to her house to not spend a lot of money; she called me a penny pincher and said that I put her in danger by doing that at night, but she later apologized. My father would call me useless and tell me that I was worth nothing and that I might as well stay home because I was doing nothing to support him. This triggered me as my mom had been telling me that stuff my entire life, and hearing it from my father made me feel like those words were true. I tried to push it aside and forget about it; I knew that he was just probably easily agitated at the hospital because of all the medicine and needles and having his surgery pushed back. But his behavior hasn't changed; if anything, he became more hateful towards me.
A couple of days ago, I woke up to them and my grandmother talking in the living room and calling me all types of things. Useless, worth nothing, unhelpful, berating my entire existence just because I couldn't get on the line with my father's doctors to make his appointments due to the lines were always busy saying that I couldn't even do that. After they changed the topic, I went out pretending to have just woken up and called the doctors in front of them. I was finally connected with the doctors and got the appointments for him. My grandmother thanked me and told me that I was so helpful for doing all of this and being the backbone of the family through this challenging situation at such a young age. Honestly, I couldn't even look at her, knowing she could say that not even an hour after she talked behind my back, criticizing me. I wasn't surprised that my mom was in on it, but so was the aunt I mentioned before, my grandmother, and my father. Some days after that, I accompanied my father to one of his appointments again to translate for him, and after I relayed the fact that my father needed chemo to my family, they all got angry at me for saying that even though that was what the doctor had told me point blank. They contacted a family friend who works at the hospital to ask him if this was true, and he said that it was, but it was likely only to be preventive. They never apologized for questioning me and calling me a liar, even though what I said was precisely what the doctor had told me. I mean, I'm 18; I don't think I'm supposed to have the medical knowledge to know what type of chemo a patient needs.
I thought I could get over this entire situation since this is stuff that I have had to deal with my whole life from my mother but to hear those exact words from my father and my other closely related family is making me fall into crippling depression again. To listen to those things from people I thought cared about me and wanted to watch me succeed to find out this is what they really think about me. He was supposed to be my good parent. I don't know what to do anymore nowadays. Even getting up from my bed to use the bathroom seems like a chore. I've just slammed my mind with media every waking hour so that I don't think about it anymore, but the words they said are always looming at the back of my mind.

Hey everyone.
I'm 17 years old, turning 18 in July.
I feel kind of lost right now. I get that it's hard for 99% of the people that just turn " 18 " and are " just " entering life and learning the hardships, I've always been aware of these and prepared. I love working, like genuinely love it and spend 24/7 wanting to work.
I just don't know what or where.
So, a little " picture " of me. I was hit by a car back in 8th grade, I don't remember exactly what age that is. In result I was in the hospital for 4 months, had to " re-learn " how to walk since my body had technically forgotten it since I hadn't walked for so long. And this affected what I could do for a couple of years, and I kind of sometimes find it hard to "memorize" stuff. I had broken my left leg, spine, nose and my skull. Worst part was the skull, had to get a VERY risky operation, which thank God it went great and now I've got a very " cool " big ol' scar on my head lol. I was very sporty, I loved sports and wanted to pursue " fighting " sports such as mma and grappling as I got older, so like the age that I am now. But since this happened, Sports & MOSTLY those sports came out of the picture. I used to be a really good b'bal player, I was always put up with people 4-5 years older than me, but stupidly I was " shy " of how skinny I was. Anyways, I was SUPER skinny, and I hated that so much. And I'm basically an ectomorph, no matter HOW much I eat I genuinely don't get fat. So, I put my mind to it, ignoring what the doctors said and started working my ass out. And now, I'm much better, don't feel anything related to the accident. My head just feels a little overwhelmed when let's say I run constantly for like 5+ mins. Anyways, now I'm very very very pleased with my body. It's quite the " dream " body for my age.
I know you might be thinking what in the fuckery does this have to do with me asking for advice about " work ", I'm basically trying to tell you that if I put my mind to something nothing stops me. I don't need "motivation" to pursue something, all I need is the " start " and I just chase till finish. And That is how it is for me, 99% of the time the start is hard for me.
I guess I'm good with languages. I speak Armenian, Persian, English and a little Russian // Spanish (Can get them both to an advanced level if I find the " need " for it) & I started learning French, because I'm going to go to a French UNI and I wanted a HeadStart compared to the other students, but my mom kind of shut me down and said why are you wasting your time learning a "language" when they're going to teach you that from scratch. Instead learn something actual (she was referring to programming). I mean yeah, I guess I agree with her, since I don't know anything for the "future" to work. But anyways in no way do I want a job in anything related to languages (Like a translator etc...)
I was 15-16, I worked as a logistics operator and was able to make $1600 in a month. But the market kind of died, so did the office, so I stopped, then I focused on my exams for UNI and I'm accepted now. I will be studying Marketing, but probs will switch to Business on my 2-nd year. I have plans to get a Master's degree as-well. Either the opposite of what I study (so If I get a bachelor's in marketing, I'll go for a master's in business or if I have enough finances to pay for it myself, I'll go for CS).
So now, after I've finished everything, School exams done, UNI has been applied // accepted to and I'm just " getting " into life I'm worried day and night about work. I feel like I genuinely don't know anything to find a work for or just in general don't know anything. And I know people say there is so so much time ahead of you, you're still young and you'll find it. But I don't want to waste a single second, since each second can be spent studying or even better working.
I am decent at forex trading; I am able to make decent profit (demo account obviously) and have general knowledge of the market and know how it works basically. Of course there is still much to learn, like anyone in any field. My dad works as a trader as-well. See this is something that I enjoy, but I can't have this as a " main " job. It will be something on the side, and I need to have another MAIN source of income to be able to grow my account and get decent profit. Anyways as I mentioned that 1.6k I've got saved, I'm going to be opening an account at like $300 and I can see me making decent money from it, but still as I said that's not going to be a main " field" or "job" I don't know the word.
That's basically all that I "know" or am good at.
I talk to my mom, asking her to help // guide me. She keeps on saying programming, go become a programmer (saying this person makes tons, that person pays for her whole family and has tons of money for himself etc...). I know programming is an amazing job, mostly pay-wise, but I just don't enjoy it. I ask her to give me an idea for something else, I don't enjoy this and sarcastically she says go become a barber or a server or something. It's quite irritating because my sister has just finished her master's degree (she's 22) and makes good money, and she looks " down " at me, treats me like she's "higher?", ha-ha.
So currently, for the past week I've been studying programming (Python to be exact), and I guess I can see me finding a junior position during August or September probably. But as I mentioned, I don't really enjoy this. It's just not my thing I guess, writing stuff on and on and on all day is eh... to me.
I'm a person who genuinely loves working, just need guidance. Also, another reason why I'm so EAGER to just " jump" into life and start ACTUAL work, is because I want to get myself a car (fully paid by me) and much more stuff on my bucket list.
Sorry if this is stupidly long and half of this is just " pointless " but I guess I'm ranting and trying to get advice.
Thank you if you read all of this,
Kindly put down thoughts!
Best Regards.

Just finished and overall I thought it was a pretty solid book. If you’re looking for a quick read it’s worth a shot.
It’s about a teenage girl and her weird neighbor who is keeping an eye although not for reasons why you might think.
It takes place during the 80s although despite the cover and title reference there’s not a whole lot that really ties it to the decade beyond the lack of modern technology. That might be a good thing for people sick of all the 80s nostalgia in horror but I kind of missed it.
A number of reviews have already mentioned this as it’s what the book is about but it’s arguably a spoiler. So if you want to go in blind skip the next paragraph.
It’s about demonic possession. It being am 80s-themed book about a teenage girl being possessed will draw comparisons to My Best Friend’s Exorcism although I felt this was different enough. This is from the perspective of the possessed and I felt the author did a pretty good job of presenting it in such a fashion where the protagonist was not aware of what was going on or where the divide between her own thoughts and the demon’s is.

My ex and her best friend and I are all on a lease with guarantors. The two of them haven’t paid rent and I’m not trying to have it hit my dad’s credit (or mine) and the leasing office gave us 5 days before eviction. Can I pay their share (they’ve only paid 500 of the 737 due) and then sue in small claims court?

Hello all,
I'm fortunate enough to a fairly fit guy through constant diet and gym going (93kg lean, 5'11).
I've been recently been getting comments (frequently) from mutual friends and friends that I am on steroids. It's starting to get annoying and I've no clue how to react.
I don't want to kick up a fuss and I can see it from their point of view as a compliment (not always true though). However, instead it feels like they are belittling what I have done to get to this point.
Has anyone experienced this if so how did you respond?
P.S no disrespect to people who do use.

Trying to keep it short. This girl and I used to be best friends, ever since she’s started dating, I’ve been put as her second option. Look, I get it, we have different priorities in life and I’m happy for her. I don’t think he’s the best for her but she’s happy (her bf lives with us too). Here and there I would catch some remarks he makes of me, making me think that she’s been talking behind my back to him. She has stopped checking up on me. The only time we talk or hand out now is when she needs something or needs to express her own feelings. When we’re in a deep conversation, she would just leave saying she needs to call her bf. So I stopped reaching out as well.
Recently, she lost her father causing her to move back home a few hours away. Very tragic so I tried to be there for her. Not too long after she invited me to his memorial service and bring her bf since he can’t drive. She told me it was okay if I couldn’t make it since it’s not the official funeral in our culture. Last week, I told her I wouldn’t be able to make it due to the conditions of my car from a trip (I had helped my sister in with my father in another state). She thanked me for letting her know. Then, a few days past, I received a long text from her saying how she’s hurt that I’m not going, if anyone should be there for her it should be me. For me to “find it in my heart” to make it and bring her bf (that’s what I was looking for. I felt like I’m being used to be her bf’s uber). As much as I feel bad and want to be there, I literally can’t. It just felt like I was being guilt tripped with the best friend card when she hasn’t been a good friend at all. Although, I can’t help but feel like selfish. Before this, every time I would check up on her, it would take days to get her reply. She didn’t reply back until I suggested a few solutions to the car situation. Regarding that too, I’ve had my own problems this year that were tough, the only person who’s been there for me is my bf and my sister.
I just want advice or inputs from others. Don’t be scared to tell me I’m in the wrong, if I am. I would appreciate it greatly, as I am a little lost and confused of all my friendships nowadays.

i love my boyfriend so much but lately ive been feeling myself straying from him a little, ive recently been (non romantically) talking to some other people, one of whom i am pretty sure wants to date me, and just questioning things now because this guy (person A) seems way more attached than my boyfriend. A is incredibly unstable and overattached but so am i, so seeing that in someone whilst bring in a relationship with a mentally stable and healthy person makes me feel weird. i almost wish my boyfriend would give me the same level of attention as person A and i am worried im falling for A, who is my boyfriend’s close friend. on sunday i was planning to off myself and my boyfriend’s heart was literally broken down the phone to me, i just dont know what to do anymore, should i leave the guy?

Hi everyone👋🏻I am an autistic woman and I have an autistic male friend who (I feel like) texts me way too often. I am talking sometimes 75x a day or more. Even if I do not respond he will continue texting, and then he will always say “are you okay? Are you sure you’re okay? Is everything okay?” as if he assumes I am not texting him back because something is wrong. But the truth is, I just don’t want to talk to him all the time. 1) I am married. 2) I have children to care for. 3) I am busy with work and just day to day life. I have other long-term friends and we check in and talk once a week or a few times a week but never incessantly like this man texts me. (He is not romantically interested in me as he is gay), but he has told me before that none of his relationships have ever worked out because everyone has “poor communication” but now I’m thinking it’s HIM that is the problem, and he clearly has horrific boundaries and just annoys/bothers people all day with his texting. He says everyone has poor communication but it’s because he is expecting people to respond to him 24/7. How on earth do I tell him to knock it off? Not just with me but with everyone apparently?