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2024.05.22 03:00 Olmecs-Temple Law school admissions counselors are telling me they are still accepting applications - but are they?
As the title says, I’ve reached out to several schools who said they are still accepting applications (some the deadlines have passed, some they have no) but from what I’m reading on here even February and March applications are considered late. Will I be seriously considered? Do I need to blow the median out of the water to be considered at these schools? Or is there usually space since most of the schools I’m applying to aren’t ranked very high.
Right now I’m applying to CUA’s part time day program and it’s the one I’m most interested in. My grad work was all on CUA campus, I like it there, love the library, I live nearby, and the fact that I can do part time during the day is what sold me. I’m also planning to apply for online programs at Dayton, case western, southwestern, northern Ohio, maybe CSU. I’ll probably apply for GULC’s evening program but i can’t imagine I’d be considered this late without anything amazing. I was going to send my application over before LSATs because evening program is test optional. The evening schedule would honestly be difficult since I have young kids but if I did get in might be worth trying to workout a new child care schedule with my ex to make things work.
I was planning on starting fall 2025, and the VA is footing the entire bill. I was just accepted into this program in (applied once in the fall, denied, then re-applied and accepted) and now that I’m in, I have to start within a year. If I don’t, I have to re-apply and risk not being accepted for the program / funding.
So I’m going to try and go to law school. If not they’ll pay for another degree- but law is really what I’m interested in.
3.7gpa undergrad majored in history and psych (this was over a decade ago) president of psychology honor society and ROTC scholarship. (This far out from graduation seems silly to also list things like fraternity, mission trips, volunteer work, etc when I have so much more recent life experience - but should those things be include?
3.8 gpa MTS degree (theology) 1.5 years PhD work in theology. Never started dissertation. Reading comprehension in Latin, Attic Greek, Spanish, Italian.
7 years total teaching experience (social studies, Latin, and theology), 5.5 years high school.
Certified strength coach, also ran my own training business on the side during Covid and after for a bit. Not sure if that helps on the resume but won’t look bad.
Should have one strong academic letter from PhD program which was over 5 years ago - he is going to write one this weekend - and already have a strong letter form my principal (which I wrote for him and he edited a bit). Waiting to hear back from a second professor but last class I took with him was fall 2018 and they just started their summer vacation I might not hear back from him in time).
Signed up for LSAT in June. I had to convince LSAC just to let me register late (successful in that at least). My verbal GRE after undergrad was 164 (score no longer valid), and that was before learning Greek and Latin. My reading comprehension has always been very strong. I’m good at looking for flaws in logic in arguments since had to do that enough in grad school (besides theology I studied both the ancient and modern philosophers). The logic games I just started learning today - I can do them slowly but think I’ll be able to get them down quick by using the strategies from 7sage.
I’m gonna write my personal statement this weekend, ordered transcripts yesterday so I should have everything besides LSAT scores ready when transcripts come in which is hopefully by June 1.
I see a lot of people talk about “softs.” I think mine are good. How I do on the lsat I’m sure will be a big determining factor. Going to do a diagnostic tomorrow.
I’m only looking at part time programs right now because I have a full minivan’s amount of young kids who need their dad in their life as much as possible because of some unfortunate life circumstances.
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Right now I’m applying to CUA’s part time day program and it’s the one I’m most interested in. My grad work was all on CUA campus, I like it there, love the library, I live nearby, and the fact that I can do part time during the day is what sold me. I’m also planning to apply for online programs at Dayton, case western, southwestern, northern Ohio, maybe CSU. I’ll probably apply for GULC’s evening program but i can’t imagine I’d be considered this late without anything amazing. I was going to send my application over before LSATs because evening program is test optional. The evening schedule would honestly be difficult since I have young kids but if I did get in might be worth trying to workout a new child care schedule with my ex to make things work.
I was planning on starting fall 2025, and the VA is footing the entire bill. I was just accepted into this program in (applied once in the fall, denied, then re-applied and accepted) and now that I’m in, I have to start within a year. If I don’t, I have to re-apply and risk not being accepted for the program / funding.
So I’m going to try and go to law school. If not they’ll pay for another degree- but law is really what I’m interested in.
3.7gpa undergrad majored in history and psych (this was over a decade ago) president of psychology honor society and ROTC scholarship. (This far out from graduation seems silly to also list things like fraternity, mission trips, volunteer work, etc when I have so much more recent life experience - but should those things be include?
3.8 gpa MTS degree (theology) 1.5 years PhD work in theology. Never started dissertation. Reading comprehension in Latin, Attic Greek, Spanish, Italian.
7 years total teaching experience (social studies, Latin, and theology), 5.5 years high school.
Certified strength coach, also ran my own training business on the side during Covid and after for a bit. Not sure if that helps on the resume but won’t look bad.
Should have one strong academic letter from PhD program which was over 5 years ago - he is going to write one this weekend - and already have a strong letter form my principal (which I wrote for him and he edited a bit). Waiting to hear back from a second professor but last class I took with him was fall 2018 and they just started their summer vacation I might not hear back from him in time).
Signed up for LSAT in June. I had to convince LSAC just to let me register late (successful in that at least). My verbal GRE after undergrad was 164 (score no longer valid), and that was before learning Greek and Latin. My reading comprehension has always been very strong. I’m good at looking for flaws in logic in arguments since had to do that enough in grad school (besides theology I studied both the ancient and modern philosophers). The logic games I just started learning today - I can do them slowly but think I’ll be able to get them down quick by using the strategies from 7sage.
I’m gonna write my personal statement this weekend, ordered transcripts yesterday so I should have everything besides LSAT scores ready when transcripts come in which is hopefully by June 1.
I see a lot of people talk about “softs.” I think mine are good. How I do on the lsat I’m sure will be a big determining factor. Going to do a diagnostic tomorrow.
I’m only looking at part time programs right now because I have a full minivan’s amount of young kids who need their dad in their life as much as possible because of some unfortunate life circumstances.
2024.05.22 02:57 According_Coach3806 What is the bad side of “off brand” financing options?
A lot of websites/companies anymore are offering “off brand” financing options anymore. I say off brand because they aren’t like going to your traditional bank or credit union pre-purchase to take out a loan/ finance a purchase, but rather they are point of purchase/time of purchase options.
So, what is the bad side of them? Are they worth using or is it just modern day loan sharking that hasn’t been busted yet?
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So, what is the bad side of them? Are they worth using or is it just modern day loan sharking that hasn’t been busted yet?
2024.05.22 02:55 chimepeace Cant take it anymore
Non stop bullshit my entire life. Its like bad luck is my best friend. I have scabies that no one believes me I live in a building with bed bugs that no one will take care of and I can't move out of cuz I can't afford the currently raised rent in my city. My bf of 15 years stole all my money and left me in credit card debt that I cannot pay off now. My friends and family don't speak to me anymore cuz I never see them and have missed important events due to my apparently perceived scabies. They think I was just making excuses to not spend time with them or something. So I'm done. I think I'll end it tonight. I will not be leaving a note since no one in my life will care why I did it.
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2024.05.22 02:50 plaguedwench insurance application through employer denied??
recently, my application for group insurance through my employer (including life, single health, and single dental) was declined due to my medical history. i have a sleep disorder, and I'm currently on medication for anxiety and depression. the insurance company noted that due to this and the fact i haven't consulted a doctor for lightheadedness/brain fog issues, which they see as increasing the risk of a life and/or health claim.
i have the option to appeal the decision by providing additional medical details from my doctor.
has anyone successfully appealed a similar insurance denial? what kind of information or documentation did you provide?
what specific details should I ask my doctor to include in the appeal letter to strengthen my case?
any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated. i'm feeling a bit overwhelmed. i don't need anything medical related immediately which is the only upside :/
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i have the option to appeal the decision by providing additional medical details from my doctor.
has anyone successfully appealed a similar insurance denial? what kind of information or documentation did you provide?
what specific details should I ask my doctor to include in the appeal letter to strengthen my case?
any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated. i'm feeling a bit overwhelmed. i don't need anything medical related immediately which is the only upside :/
2024.05.22 02:41 Dark_Snow_Drop Past life hitting hard tonight
Half vent, half kind of letter idk (preemptive clarification that everything I say here is about a past life and shouldn't be taken as applying to the current world)
I can't escape the guilt and I'm honestly just distraught at the moment, I already had these memories so I knew it happened but I feel particularly bad about it tonight
Our parents weren't so great to me, I was the disappointment child, especially once they had another kid, I wish I didn't grow to resent Grimsley so much but by the time I realised it wasn't his fault I was already too ashamed to try and make contact
I left home, ran away, whatever you wanna call it. I tried countless times to keep a Pokémon, but every time I tried to raise a partner pokemon they'd inevitably die on the road and I'd have to bury them, there's 2 reasons to feel like a failure already
I was about ready to just give up on everything when I was offered a place in team Galactic. Suddenly I had people around me who were always checking in on me, it was pretty overwhelming
I vaguely remember becoming an admin, I clearly remember Charon though. I wish I didn't but I don't want to go into too many heavy topics at once.
Really, I'm just missing Grimsley, Mars, Jupiter, Excel (my Toxicroak), even Cyrus This kind of went off track but I feel like I let all those Pokémon down. And I definitely let Grimsley down, I abandoned him and (to my knowledge) never tried to contact him again just because I was scared? Or embarrassed? I don't even know why anymore
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I can't escape the guilt and I'm honestly just distraught at the moment, I already had these memories so I knew it happened but I feel particularly bad about it tonight
Our parents weren't so great to me, I was the disappointment child, especially once they had another kid, I wish I didn't grow to resent Grimsley so much but by the time I realised it wasn't his fault I was already too ashamed to try and make contact
I left home, ran away, whatever you wanna call it. I tried countless times to keep a Pokémon, but every time I tried to raise a partner pokemon they'd inevitably die on the road and I'd have to bury them, there's 2 reasons to feel like a failure already
I was about ready to just give up on everything when I was offered a place in team Galactic. Suddenly I had people around me who were always checking in on me, it was pretty overwhelming
I vaguely remember becoming an admin, I clearly remember Charon though. I wish I didn't but I don't want to go into too many heavy topics at once.
Really, I'm just missing Grimsley, Mars, Jupiter, Excel (my Toxicroak), even Cyrus This kind of went off track but I feel like I let all those Pokémon down. And I definitely let Grimsley down, I abandoned him and (to my knowledge) never tried to contact him again just because I was scared? Or embarrassed? I don't even know why anymore
- Saturn (kin)
2024.05.22 02:39 SemiStrong My mother in law just got scammed.
The scammers got my MIL with an obvious screen sharing scam. I only got some of the story. But basically they called and had her download a screen sharing app and had her open her settings to distracted her enough to hack into her Facebook. She “says” she got a bad feeling before transferring the $500 they were requesting. I told her she needed to change all of her passwords immediately. She said she has a small credit union and will call about it tomorrow. I profusely told her to call the 1800 number on her card and freeze it ASAP. As of right now she can’t get into her Facebook account. She lives three hours away otherwise I’d go help her in person.
Is there anything else I can tell her to do? So far I told her to change her Apple ID password, and freeze her bank cards. I feel like I’m missing a step.
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Is there anything else I can tell her to do? So far I told her to change her Apple ID password, and freeze her bank cards. I feel like I’m missing a step.
2024.05.22 02:35 LynnK0919 TIME CAPSULE: Exclusive: The Bold and the Beautiful's Joanna Johnson Comes Out of the Closet
https://www.tvguide.com/news/bold-beautiful-joanna-johnson-1047477/
I recall reading the above interview when it was published in 2012 around the time when the show introduced Caroline Jr. (Linsey Godfrey) and her backstory included being raised by two mothers played by Joanna Johnson (the OG Caroline Spencer) and Crystal Chappell.
I'd like to excerpt from the article to share the following gems.
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I recall reading the above interview when it was published in 2012 around the time when the show introduced Caroline Jr. (Linsey Godfrey) and her backstory included being raised by two mothers played by Joanna Johnson (the OG Caroline Spencer) and Crystal Chappell.
I'd like to excerpt from the article to share the following gems.
...TV Guide Magazine: With this announcement you seem to be the only officially "out" star currently in daytime soaps, even though the shows are loaded with gay actors. What's up with that?Oh wow! If I were a gay man just starting out as an actor in the 1990's, I wouldn't come out of the closet too because there was a perception many viewers perceive me as my character and they wouldn't find me credible as a romantic leading man. Thank goodness we're living in more enlighten times.
Joanna Johnson: Daytime is a whole different world than primetime or theater or film. There's a greater intimacy between the viewers and the characters. They think you are your character. And that creates a lot of fear. Fear of rejection. I was so worried I wouldn't be employable as an actress if people knew I was a lesbian. Or that I wouldn't be believable in romance stories. I had to deal with a lot of self-loathing.
TV Guide Magazine: How bad did it get?
Johnson: After I started playing Karen, I remember doing a fantasy scene that showed what life would have been like if Caroline had not died of cancer. She was married to Ridge [Ronn Moss] and had two kids and a wonderful life. When we finished shooting, I ran to my dressing room and just cried and cried because I knew I was never going to have that kind of life.
TV Guide Magazine: Yet you did!
Johnson: I did! I'm married to [L.A. club promoter] Michelle Agnew and we have two beautiful children, Julian, who is five, and Harlow, who is two. And now we're finding out that Karen is married to this great lady Dani [Crystal Chappell] and together they have raised her daughter Caroline [Linsey Godfrey]. So times have certainly changed. I guess that's why I'm ready to open up. It feels weird and wrong to play this revelation about Karen's life and not talk about my own. I used to hang out with Ellen Degeneres, k.d. lang and Melissa Etheridge back in the day and thought it was so beautiful they were out, even though I didn't have the nerve. When I realized I was gay in my early twenties we didn't have role models like Ellen. I'm not anywhere near as famous as those ladies, but I guess it's my turn to do my little part. It's time to live a fully authentic life...
TV Guide Magazine: If you could go back in a time machine, what would you say to your younger self?
Johnson: Have the courage to embrace who you are. Don't project your own fears and low self-esteem onto others. Let your light shine!
TV Guide Magazine: What were your thoughts when you found out Karen is gay?
Johnson: When [exec producer-head writer] Brad Bell called and pitched the story I was kind of thrown. I just said, "Oh." And there was this very long pause. Then I said, "Where'd you get that idea?" He laughed. I laughed. And I said, "Just make sure you get me a hot wife." And he did! ...
2024.05.22 02:34 airbubbles08 Assertiveness & Boundaries tying in with Virtues (subjective vs. objective)
First off, my apologies for this very long post...It's hard for me to word this out as my communication skills are very bad.
My therapist told me I need to work on the two above so I bought a workbook on each of them. So far I am working on the Assertiveness workbook. I am having a lot of analysis paralysis with trying to understand the concepts and was wondering if anyone had an idea on how to approach this.
According to my workbook this is the definition of Assertiveness: Not a strategy for getting your own way, but instead recognizes you're in charge of your own behaviour and decide what you'll want to do and not do and accepting the consequences and the responsibility for your actions (same for others). Similar to having a sense of agency. There is no attempt to take control from one another. When you are being assertive, you're making a deliberate and conscious choice.
Boundaries, I haven't dived deep into it, but from what I am getting: it's something YOU do and not others (a.k.a. it's not about changing the other person) (i.e.) if you call me during work hours, I will not pick up. or if you call me names, I will walk away from the situation.
This sounds like it is heavily subjective and depended on person to person then. One of the examples in workbook, word by word: "Rather than say our coworker shouldn't be handing us her own work (controlling her behavior), we can simple inform her that we won't be doing it (controlling our own way)" ^so from what I understand, you can have boundaries and apply assertiveness but can still be seen as a jerk, rude, problematic? I.e. a kid saying no to their parent. Employer to boss, or person with higher authority. You just have to be ready to accept the consequences of your deliberate, conscious choice (possibility of getting arrested, fired, etc.)
So tying into applying stoicism + virtues. I am thinking the same thing, that it's all subjective at the end of the day? One of the ones I am thinking about is JUSTICE. Example: going through an unfair breakup and the other person is stone-walling you. So you want to take matters on your end and speak of the unfair treatment even if it means going to the other party's side (friends, family). Some people might think that it's unhinged or doing too much, but what if it helps give you that closure or aligns with your understanding/BELIEFS of what JUSTICE is? (very SUBJECTIVE)
Like this is quite extreme, but justice also implies that it relates to morality too, but there are factors like culture, religion and personal experience that shapes one's morals. For example one part of the world, maybe it's moral to execute someone who was a murderer or raped someone. So if I carried that belief while claiming to want to practice stoicism, is that right?
I am just confused on the whole black/white, right/wrong/, effective/non-effective. How do I see gray in all of this? It's causing a lot of confusion, sorry for my long message and if this might not make sense as I am trying to rewire a lot of old toxic behaviours from my upbringing. I am worried that I may be practicing stoicism wrong (still in the introduction phase), because I have had people close to me tell me sometimes I think I am being fair, but then I was actually controlling and demanding, which I seriously was unaware (due to cognitive distortion, being a late-bloomer, my toxic upbringing, etc.) So I am grateful for my friends for bringing awareness to my "unfair" judgements.
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My therapist told me I need to work on the two above so I bought a workbook on each of them. So far I am working on the Assertiveness workbook. I am having a lot of analysis paralysis with trying to understand the concepts and was wondering if anyone had an idea on how to approach this.
According to my workbook this is the definition of Assertiveness: Not a strategy for getting your own way, but instead recognizes you're in charge of your own behaviour and decide what you'll want to do and not do and accepting the consequences and the responsibility for your actions (same for others). Similar to having a sense of agency. There is no attempt to take control from one another. When you are being assertive, you're making a deliberate and conscious choice.
Boundaries, I haven't dived deep into it, but from what I am getting: it's something YOU do and not others (a.k.a. it's not about changing the other person) (i.e.) if you call me during work hours, I will not pick up. or if you call me names, I will walk away from the situation.
This sounds like it is heavily subjective and depended on person to person then. One of the examples in workbook, word by word: "Rather than say our coworker shouldn't be handing us her own work (controlling her behavior), we can simple inform her that we won't be doing it (controlling our own way)" ^so from what I understand, you can have boundaries and apply assertiveness but can still be seen as a jerk, rude, problematic? I.e. a kid saying no to their parent. Employer to boss, or person with higher authority. You just have to be ready to accept the consequences of your deliberate, conscious choice (possibility of getting arrested, fired, etc.)
So tying into applying stoicism + virtues. I am thinking the same thing, that it's all subjective at the end of the day? One of the ones I am thinking about is JUSTICE. Example: going through an unfair breakup and the other person is stone-walling you. So you want to take matters on your end and speak of the unfair treatment even if it means going to the other party's side (friends, family). Some people might think that it's unhinged or doing too much, but what if it helps give you that closure or aligns with your understanding/BELIEFS of what JUSTICE is? (very SUBJECTIVE)
Like this is quite extreme, but justice also implies that it relates to morality too, but there are factors like culture, religion and personal experience that shapes one's morals. For example one part of the world, maybe it's moral to execute someone who was a murderer or raped someone. So if I carried that belief while claiming to want to practice stoicism, is that right?
I am just confused on the whole black/white, right/wrong/, effective/non-effective. How do I see gray in all of this? It's causing a lot of confusion, sorry for my long message and if this might not make sense as I am trying to rewire a lot of old toxic behaviours from my upbringing. I am worried that I may be practicing stoicism wrong (still in the introduction phase), because I have had people close to me tell me sometimes I think I am being fair, but then I was actually controlling and demanding, which I seriously was unaware (due to cognitive distortion, being a late-bloomer, my toxic upbringing, etc.) So I am grateful for my friends for bringing awareness to my "unfair" judgements.
2024.05.22 02:31 ThrowRA_mindlessfly5 I (F30) discovered my boyfriend (M30) learnt my native language secretly to listen in on what my me and my family talk about. Is this a red flag and should I tell him that I know?
TL;DR: boyfriend (M30) learnt my native language secretly to listen in on what my me (F30) and my family talk about.
Some basic info on us that I think is relevant:
My bf, come from a kind of rich country in europe, and has been living in the secondary country for all of his life. He has a good job but has had bad relationships in the past.
I (GF) come from a comparitively under-developed country and met my bf on holiday to visit my brother in the secondary country.
I met my boyfriend about 3.5 years ago, we spoke for a year while he visited almost every month even though it is far, he sorted out having me move to the secondary country where I have been living with him for 2.5 year. So far it has been great, he's kind, smart and very charismatic. I know all of his friends and family and nobody has said anything bad about him or mentioned anything about him learning my language so I think they do not know.
All my family speaks English fully but we default to a kind of small dialect of a language when I am home, they are here, or I am on the phone. He has no links to this community other than his step-dad who is from the same place as me, but has never hinted or even joked that my bf knows our language.
So. On with the story.
We were both home today, he is working on his laptop and someone from his work comes to the door and he has to leave urgently. This happens sometimes and is not unusual.
After a while I walk by the table he works on near the kitchen, and see that his laptop is still on and unlocked, with a document open in my native dialect, which as far as I knew he only knows a maximum of 5 words. I know it's bad of me, but I decided to snoop. I know that is dishonest of me but you can't not see the screen when you go to the kitchen and this isn't exactly something you would ignore, because its so unexpected.
I looked through the document, and it's basically small notes on a conversation I had with my brother earlier where my bf has listed down some slang phrases we used, which i thought was odd as my bf doesn't speak my language and incredibly intrusive (i know, irony). So by now I have to know more, so I carried on looking at his laptop and I saw a folder titled with my language and can see in there that he has been paying for lessons for almost 3 years and I can see all of his notes, which include writing practice stories in my language, letters and even watching tv shows. So I can see that he isn't just learning basic phrases, he has a very extremely advanced knowledge and understands almost everything, including slang we use.
Following on from this, I see messages between him and his tutor, explicitly saying that he is learning the language not to talk, but only to listen to me my family and my friends to see if we are looking to hurt him and if I mention something to a friend indicating that I'm cheating etc.
By now I'm angry, I know it probably look bad since I just admitted to snooping, but I've never given him a reason to think I'm scamming him or whatever, and I don't intend to.
Also, whenever I have been with family, he has made me translate what they are saying into English almost every day for 3.5 years while he has played dumb like he doesn't understand anything other than hello and give me beer.
Should I confront him and let him know all of this? some of this? I don't think I can ignore it as it is bothering me so much and I'm sure he will be back later tonight and he will know something is wrong. I love him of course, but I feel betrayed and now I'm worried about other things he may be hiding.
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Some basic info on us that I think is relevant:
My bf, come from a kind of rich country in europe, and has been living in the secondary country for all of his life. He has a good job but has had bad relationships in the past.
I (GF) come from a comparitively under-developed country and met my bf on holiday to visit my brother in the secondary country.
I met my boyfriend about 3.5 years ago, we spoke for a year while he visited almost every month even though it is far, he sorted out having me move to the secondary country where I have been living with him for 2.5 year. So far it has been great, he's kind, smart and very charismatic. I know all of his friends and family and nobody has said anything bad about him or mentioned anything about him learning my language so I think they do not know.
All my family speaks English fully but we default to a kind of small dialect of a language when I am home, they are here, or I am on the phone. He has no links to this community other than his step-dad who is from the same place as me, but has never hinted or even joked that my bf knows our language.
So. On with the story.
We were both home today, he is working on his laptop and someone from his work comes to the door and he has to leave urgently. This happens sometimes and is not unusual.
After a while I walk by the table he works on near the kitchen, and see that his laptop is still on and unlocked, with a document open in my native dialect, which as far as I knew he only knows a maximum of 5 words. I know it's bad of me, but I decided to snoop. I know that is dishonest of me but you can't not see the screen when you go to the kitchen and this isn't exactly something you would ignore, because its so unexpected.
I looked through the document, and it's basically small notes on a conversation I had with my brother earlier where my bf has listed down some slang phrases we used, which i thought was odd as my bf doesn't speak my language and incredibly intrusive (i know, irony). So by now I have to know more, so I carried on looking at his laptop and I saw a folder titled with my language and can see in there that he has been paying for lessons for almost 3 years and I can see all of his notes, which include writing practice stories in my language, letters and even watching tv shows. So I can see that he isn't just learning basic phrases, he has a very extremely advanced knowledge and understands almost everything, including slang we use.
Following on from this, I see messages between him and his tutor, explicitly saying that he is learning the language not to talk, but only to listen to me my family and my friends to see if we are looking to hurt him and if I mention something to a friend indicating that I'm cheating etc.
By now I'm angry, I know it probably look bad since I just admitted to snooping, but I've never given him a reason to think I'm scamming him or whatever, and I don't intend to.
Also, whenever I have been with family, he has made me translate what they are saying into English almost every day for 3.5 years while he has played dumb like he doesn't understand anything other than hello and give me beer.
Should I confront him and let him know all of this? some of this? I don't think I can ignore it as it is bothering me so much and I'm sure he will be back later tonight and he will know something is wrong. I love him of course, but I feel betrayed and now I'm worried about other things he may be hiding.
2024.05.22 02:27 NAIRIVN It feels like the “wires are crossed” in my brain- not sure what to do or what this is
F20, 115 lbs, 5’4, history of anxiety, depression, and cyclothymia. Family history of hypothyroidism, depression, and paternal vascular dementia (my grandfather had it). Severe health anxiety that started about 10 months ago. I used to take anti depressants and mood stabilizers but haven’t been able to continue them in the last year or so due to my psychiatrist retiring.
I’ll try to keep this as short as possible, but I’ve done a ton of googling and research and keep coming up empty. I’m wondering if anyone has seen this “presentation” of symptoms before.
About ten-ish months ago I started having memory problems- I had word finding difficulties, severe headaches, and I lost things all the time. This was unlike me as my memory had always been sharp in highschool. I began to worry that I had a brain tumor, but I got a CT scan and the results were “unremarkable”. Since then I have had health anxiety relating to ALS (full body twitches, bad memory, etc) but that eventually went away after a few months. According to my boyfriend, my bad memory is episodic- it’ll be alright for a few weeks and then become bad again. With each episode, however, it seems to get worse.
I was ok-ish for a while but recently, my memory has been dreadful - I have short term memory issues. I can’t remember what happened a few seconds ago. I misplace and lose things frequently. I forget what tasks have to be done and often have to ask people to repeat themselves. I’ve started to lose the ability to do complex tasks.
-I struggle with hear, reading, and writing, specifically with words and complex sentences. I frequently mis-hear words or don’t really hear what people are saying to me at all. I see their mouth moving, I know they are saying something, it’s just not registering in my head. I usually have to ask them to repeat themselves. Today I thought people were saying completely different words than they actually were (car instead of club, etc). I struggle with writing. My hand writes things I didn’t ask it to, like today it wrote “where” instead of “like”. It adds strokes to letters that I write or completely misspells the word. I usually write something phonetically similar like write instead right or tight, or they instead of the, so on and so forth. I’ve forgot how to spell simple words I’ve been spelling for years.
-I’m seeing things, but not really seeing them, in a way. It’s like I see things half way. For example, at work, someone gave me their rewards card and I scanned it like it was an item. I was confused as to why the item wasn’t coming up and then realized it was a rewards card and not an item. It’s like my brain sees the barcode, but not the rest of the card and doesn’t recognize that it’s something separate that needs a separate procedure. Another example I could give is that I left a drawer partly open because that is what we do with till drawers once we take the money out for the night. But the drawer I left open wasn’t a till drawer, it was an actual drawer. It’s like my brain saw drawer and immediately thought to keep it open. Kind of like my short term memory isn’t working so my long term memory steps in. My eyes always feel glazed over, like I’m half way between seeing and my vision being hazy. Almost like I can see things clearly but my brain Is seeing them as fuzzy and not really recognizing what’s in front of me.
-it feels kinda like I’m in a dream. I have a hard time expressing myself, and I have word finding difficulties frequently. I often say things without thinking because I know I’m supposed to say something but my brain doesn’t recognize what yet. I’m confused often. It doesn’t feel like I’m fully “there”, like I’m on autopilot constantly and I don’t know how to shut it off. Even after 12 hours of sleep, I’m exhausted. I often can’t recognize how much time has passed.
I tried to find answers for these symptoms and the only answers I could find to memory and word problems was dementia or Primary progressive aphasia. I’m especially worried about the writing and spelling as these don’t seem to be a common symptoms of any mental health disorder. Any advice or even guesses would be truly appreciated.
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I’ll try to keep this as short as possible, but I’ve done a ton of googling and research and keep coming up empty. I’m wondering if anyone has seen this “presentation” of symptoms before.
About ten-ish months ago I started having memory problems- I had word finding difficulties, severe headaches, and I lost things all the time. This was unlike me as my memory had always been sharp in highschool. I began to worry that I had a brain tumor, but I got a CT scan and the results were “unremarkable”. Since then I have had health anxiety relating to ALS (full body twitches, bad memory, etc) but that eventually went away after a few months. According to my boyfriend, my bad memory is episodic- it’ll be alright for a few weeks and then become bad again. With each episode, however, it seems to get worse.
I was ok-ish for a while but recently, my memory has been dreadful - I have short term memory issues. I can’t remember what happened a few seconds ago. I misplace and lose things frequently. I forget what tasks have to be done and often have to ask people to repeat themselves. I’ve started to lose the ability to do complex tasks.
-I struggle with hear, reading, and writing, specifically with words and complex sentences. I frequently mis-hear words or don’t really hear what people are saying to me at all. I see their mouth moving, I know they are saying something, it’s just not registering in my head. I usually have to ask them to repeat themselves. Today I thought people were saying completely different words than they actually were (car instead of club, etc). I struggle with writing. My hand writes things I didn’t ask it to, like today it wrote “where” instead of “like”. It adds strokes to letters that I write or completely misspells the word. I usually write something phonetically similar like write instead right or tight, or they instead of the, so on and so forth. I’ve forgot how to spell simple words I’ve been spelling for years.
-I’m seeing things, but not really seeing them, in a way. It’s like I see things half way. For example, at work, someone gave me their rewards card and I scanned it like it was an item. I was confused as to why the item wasn’t coming up and then realized it was a rewards card and not an item. It’s like my brain sees the barcode, but not the rest of the card and doesn’t recognize that it’s something separate that needs a separate procedure. Another example I could give is that I left a drawer partly open because that is what we do with till drawers once we take the money out for the night. But the drawer I left open wasn’t a till drawer, it was an actual drawer. It’s like my brain saw drawer and immediately thought to keep it open. Kind of like my short term memory isn’t working so my long term memory steps in. My eyes always feel glazed over, like I’m half way between seeing and my vision being hazy. Almost like I can see things clearly but my brain Is seeing them as fuzzy and not really recognizing what’s in front of me.
-it feels kinda like I’m in a dream. I have a hard time expressing myself, and I have word finding difficulties frequently. I often say things without thinking because I know I’m supposed to say something but my brain doesn’t recognize what yet. I’m confused often. It doesn’t feel like I’m fully “there”, like I’m on autopilot constantly and I don’t know how to shut it off. Even after 12 hours of sleep, I’m exhausted. I often can’t recognize how much time has passed.
I tried to find answers for these symptoms and the only answers I could find to memory and word problems was dementia or Primary progressive aphasia. I’m especially worried about the writing and spelling as these don’t seem to be a common symptoms of any mental health disorder. Any advice or even guesses would be truly appreciated.
2024.05.22 02:26 Anxious_Survey4333 CSEP Query
Hi MoveToIreland Community,
I have read about CSEP here on government website. All the points are pretty much clear to me except few. I have BS honors degree in finance and accounting and nearly 1 year of industry experience (along with multiple finance & project management certifications) and I am non-EU national. I am applying for jobs in Ireland. I have following questions:
-> Does multiple years of experience necessary for CSEP or someone can apply with null or 1 year of experience.
-> I had interviewed remotely for a scale-up small company and they called me for final stage interview. Does small companies need to apply for CSEP license from government if they don't and registered Irish employer is the condition with 50% of Irish/EU workforce then its just a job offer >= 38K euros that is enough to apply own my own with their help.
JFYI: According to critical skill occupation list, I fall on SoC-2424 (Business and financial project management professionals specialising in finance & investment analytics, risk analytics, credit, fraud analytics or related and relevant specialist skills, qualifications or experience).
Thank you in advance :)
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I have read about CSEP here on government website. All the points are pretty much clear to me except few. I have BS honors degree in finance and accounting and nearly 1 year of industry experience (along with multiple finance & project management certifications) and I am non-EU national. I am applying for jobs in Ireland. I have following questions:
-> Does multiple years of experience necessary for CSEP or someone can apply with null or 1 year of experience.
-> I had interviewed remotely for a scale-up small company and they called me for final stage interview. Does small companies need to apply for CSEP license from government if they don't and registered Irish employer is the condition with 50% of Irish/EU workforce then its just a job offer >= 38K euros that is enough to apply own my own with their help.
JFYI: According to critical skill occupation list, I fall on SoC-2424 (Business and financial project management professionals specialising in finance & investment analytics, risk analytics, credit, fraud analytics or related and relevant specialist skills, qualifications or experience).
Thank you in advance :)
2024.05.22 02:26 okur_time What should i do? Spend the money for it or waste my time?
Hello
I know the website only accepts 15 credits max from public high school, but i already have 19 from my previous public high school.
How much did yall transferred from public high school and how much was the total cost to get the penn foster diploma??
I want to get my diploma asap which i think i will be able to with penn foster but the cost is what im concerned about. Not sure if its worth spending over 1k just to obtain 6 more credits when i have already completed 19.. cuz they only accepts 15 max.
I do have local classes to help with ged exam for FREE but its not until fall of this year to even start. Basically i will be wasting several months when I could’ve started my program with penn foster and already got my diploma.
The reasons why im not just taking the ged exam either is that its been several years since i have gotten out of school.
What would you do? I know once i start my college and get my bachelors degree, the employer wont even ask about my high school diploma or grades. 🤔
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I know the website only accepts 15 credits max from public high school, but i already have 19 from my previous public high school.
How much did yall transferred from public high school and how much was the total cost to get the penn foster diploma??
I want to get my diploma asap which i think i will be able to with penn foster but the cost is what im concerned about. Not sure if its worth spending over 1k just to obtain 6 more credits when i have already completed 19.. cuz they only accepts 15 max.
I do have local classes to help with ged exam for FREE but its not until fall of this year to even start. Basically i will be wasting several months when I could’ve started my program with penn foster and already got my diploma.
The reasons why im not just taking the ged exam either is that its been several years since i have gotten out of school.
What would you do? I know once i start my college and get my bachelors degree, the employer wont even ask about my high school diploma or grades. 🤔
2024.05.22 02:21 artandgardenal What is it called when my friend does this?
My college friend really needs help and has for about 10 years. Despite trying a lot of tactics to help her, she just isn’t interested in sobriety or therapy. The past few years she seems to be devolving into what I can only describe as alcoholic rambling, general madness, and randomly lashing out.
When she calls me, it typically goes something like this: she tells a story or talks at me, reminisces about the good old days, remembers something that upset her, yells at me, says she loves me, reminisces again, and then I try to exit.
I think it would help me to have a few terms to describe her behavior and maybe mine too… My husbands friend was a total jerk to me behind his back for years and no one believed me. Understanding what “gaslighting” is helped me frame that behavior and be able to talk about it!
So that’s why I’m posting and would so appreciate any comments.
—-—- here’s the long version:
My friend is a 37-year-old living in a rural area with her parents and grandmother with dementia since COVID. My friend is an alcoholic, workaholic, and has ADD. She also really smart, funny and social. Shes amazing at her job in sales/recruiting and really defines herself by it. Her parents are both alcoholics, kinda conspiracy theorists, and often mean to each other (yelling in the background, belittling, hiding things from eachother, etc). She feels obligated to help with her grandma and is kinda resigned to change nothing. Clearly the environment is bad and rubbing off on her.
For example, last week she called me frantic and crying because her dog killed a bird. She talked for about 30-45 minutes, jumping between the current bird and other bird stories, of which there are many. I barely uttered a mmhmm the whole time. Eventually, she asked what’s up with me. I mentioned that I’ve been depressed and struggling to find a job, which is putting stress on my marriage so overall I’m feeling really low. Since she’s in recruiting and knows my work history, I asked if she knew of any job openings. She then launched into a story about how competitive she is with her coworkers and how it’s all a game to get the biggest commissions on placements but those are for engineers. So I take that as a no and by the end of her monologue she was back on the topic of birds. I tried to exit the conversation, and she said to call her the next afternoon if I wanted to talk about job hunting and she may have ideas.
The next day, I called her, optimistic to see the side of her that shines and hoping for some jobs she can refer me to. Instead she pulled up my LinkedIn profile and started telling me what I should change. Which wasn’t want I wanted but sure if that’s her approach she’s the expert. Then she became critical, loudly laughing at my picture, saying my hair was covering part of my face and I looked like a villan, untrustworthy. She’d never hire me based on that photo. She was kinda manic laughing as I was kinda tearing up (I’m aging and avoid photos so I thought the one take by my hairdresser was a high quality headshot and my hair looked cute). Okay sure I’ll change it. The critique wore on roast style with the justification of this is just tough love, the way we talk to each other is unfiltered and she just always around guys.
She brought up networking and remembered introducing me to a coworker, Sally. I said I didn’t remember what ever happened with Sally because it was two years ago. To which she got very heated, accusing me of dropping the ball and never following up. She started screaming, how she put her neck out for me and I couldn’t be bothered. I tried to talk her down and eventually hung up. I later checked the old email thread and saw that I had followed up with Sally, but she was going on vacation, so it didn’t go anywhere. My friend kept calling and texting, so I eventually picked up. I told her I didn’t mess up, and I didn’t want to be spoken to like that. So she apologized for yelling. Then she went back to criticizing my LinkedIn, pointing out a spelling error and calling me stupid. I told her I wasn’t in a great place and that her feedback style was hurtful.
She then veered off into a story about how she loves me and has saved the letters I wrote her. I cut her off, saying that while I appreciate it, those notes aren’t relevant to this conversation and let’s focus on job talk. She got upset, saying I don’t value our friendship and was using her just for a job so fuck you blablabla…
After a few more hours of texts and calls, I let her know I’m going to prioritize my own feelings and block her number but I’ll check in with her in 3months. I’ve tried to support her but also keep my distance but I need to be firmer in enforcing that. I’d say forever but that feels like canceling her when I know she needs help. ——- Rewriting this, feels as long and draining as that conversation was so I’ll stop there.
All of this to say, what kind of pattern is that? Is it something she’s doing because her parents do it to her? Am I crazy to keep picking up her calls? I feel like if I had a name or terminology to unpack all these conversations it would be easier to process them.
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When she calls me, it typically goes something like this: she tells a story or talks at me, reminisces about the good old days, remembers something that upset her, yells at me, says she loves me, reminisces again, and then I try to exit.
I think it would help me to have a few terms to describe her behavior and maybe mine too… My husbands friend was a total jerk to me behind his back for years and no one believed me. Understanding what “gaslighting” is helped me frame that behavior and be able to talk about it!
So that’s why I’m posting and would so appreciate any comments.
—-—- here’s the long version:
My friend is a 37-year-old living in a rural area with her parents and grandmother with dementia since COVID. My friend is an alcoholic, workaholic, and has ADD. She also really smart, funny and social. Shes amazing at her job in sales/recruiting and really defines herself by it. Her parents are both alcoholics, kinda conspiracy theorists, and often mean to each other (yelling in the background, belittling, hiding things from eachother, etc). She feels obligated to help with her grandma and is kinda resigned to change nothing. Clearly the environment is bad and rubbing off on her.
For example, last week she called me frantic and crying because her dog killed a bird. She talked for about 30-45 minutes, jumping between the current bird and other bird stories, of which there are many. I barely uttered a mmhmm the whole time. Eventually, she asked what’s up with me. I mentioned that I’ve been depressed and struggling to find a job, which is putting stress on my marriage so overall I’m feeling really low. Since she’s in recruiting and knows my work history, I asked if she knew of any job openings. She then launched into a story about how competitive she is with her coworkers and how it’s all a game to get the biggest commissions on placements but those are for engineers. So I take that as a no and by the end of her monologue she was back on the topic of birds. I tried to exit the conversation, and she said to call her the next afternoon if I wanted to talk about job hunting and she may have ideas.
The next day, I called her, optimistic to see the side of her that shines and hoping for some jobs she can refer me to. Instead she pulled up my LinkedIn profile and started telling me what I should change. Which wasn’t want I wanted but sure if that’s her approach she’s the expert. Then she became critical, loudly laughing at my picture, saying my hair was covering part of my face and I looked like a villan, untrustworthy. She’d never hire me based on that photo. She was kinda manic laughing as I was kinda tearing up (I’m aging and avoid photos so I thought the one take by my hairdresser was a high quality headshot and my hair looked cute). Okay sure I’ll change it. The critique wore on roast style with the justification of this is just tough love, the way we talk to each other is unfiltered and she just always around guys.
She brought up networking and remembered introducing me to a coworker, Sally. I said I didn’t remember what ever happened with Sally because it was two years ago. To which she got very heated, accusing me of dropping the ball and never following up. She started screaming, how she put her neck out for me and I couldn’t be bothered. I tried to talk her down and eventually hung up. I later checked the old email thread and saw that I had followed up with Sally, but she was going on vacation, so it didn’t go anywhere. My friend kept calling and texting, so I eventually picked up. I told her I didn’t mess up, and I didn’t want to be spoken to like that. So she apologized for yelling. Then she went back to criticizing my LinkedIn, pointing out a spelling error and calling me stupid. I told her I wasn’t in a great place and that her feedback style was hurtful.
She then veered off into a story about how she loves me and has saved the letters I wrote her. I cut her off, saying that while I appreciate it, those notes aren’t relevant to this conversation and let’s focus on job talk. She got upset, saying I don’t value our friendship and was using her just for a job so fuck you blablabla…
After a few more hours of texts and calls, I let her know I’m going to prioritize my own feelings and block her number but I’ll check in with her in 3months. I’ve tried to support her but also keep my distance but I need to be firmer in enforcing that. I’d say forever but that feels like canceling her when I know she needs help. ——- Rewriting this, feels as long and draining as that conversation was so I’ll stop there.
All of this to say, what kind of pattern is that? Is it something she’s doing because her parents do it to her? Am I crazy to keep picking up her calls? I feel like if I had a name or terminology to unpack all these conversations it would be easier to process them.
2024.05.22 02:16 No-Attorney8061 Worst 18 months of my life.
18 months of hell.
In November 2022 I got accused of a very serious crime and investivated by police. My girlfriend at the time lost her job. I had to move home because rent was getting ridiculous for the area and quality.
Christmas 2022, grandfather dies of a Stoke. At rhe same time, grandmother on other side of family nearly dies of the same thing.
Ny father can't speak at his dad's funeral, I step up, trying to support the family and keep things ordered. I do it. But I see my dad cry fir the first time in my life...
I took out a £15k loan. Which helped with credit card debt (due to my gf at the time not really working or paying for anything), then after I moved, new housemate was a fucking slob who used my good nature to treat the place like a shit tip. Leaving chocolate out for my dog to eat and everything.
Police issue is resolved, no evidence after I get a solicitor and an interview. Still to this day, I flinch when I hear sirens...
Birthday... gf St the time, while sleeping upstairs and I sleep on the sofa cause be and my friend are chatting unti lwe fall asleep ad a heavy day drinking... ex comes down.. stands over me. And hits me so hard I scream. House wakes up. Mate sees this happen. And then housemate comes down, and asks why she got in his bed... she is currently pinning me down, crying and screaming.. I tell everyone to go to bed and deal with it the next day.
Tell gf at the time that she has fucked up... She doesn't know why she did it... says she was sleep walking.. touch starved...
Had to physically remove housemate after 1) his room smelled so bad, that I had to get landlords involved and a professional carpet clean on his room and 2) he pissed on my fucking landing carpet.
Months of me paying nearly as much rent as I earn in wage, due to gf at the time barely paying me... get a housemate in who wants the place to be good to live in.. Ex decides to threaten suicide when it's just me and her, after multiple times she has grabbed and tried to hold me down knowing I am in pain from her hitting me... She locks herself in the bathroom (razors and isopropyl alcohol inside, and apparently as I find out later, our dog). I call 111, she is screaming, I'm taking on the phone to try to get control... I struggle...
Eventually she opens the door, screaming at me... 111 operator can't do anything more... I thank him and hang up.. ex gf screaming at me immediately.. im the worst person, im stupid... can't believe i believed her she might commit suicide. How stupid am I.. all of it.. I broke.. broke up with her. Hated life, hated myself. Still do.
This was November 2023.. she finally left in May 2024. Every day since I havent been able to say a word in my house. I have been belittled, broken, criticised, for the tiniest things... while I can't say a word against anyone... she left dishes to go mouldy, I cant ask her to clean after herself.... and that's the minor things..
I am alone... when she left, she took the dog.. she was ours. She slept with me every night... ans now she is gone.. to a girl who never took her for a walk unless she was the ONLY one to.. and even then.. First walk at 2:30... maybe 5pm...
I dont know anymore. I'm sick of everything.. ex even got to move out of London and keep her job.. Best I could argue was the possibility of a transfer... but I'd lose my London weighting... and fuck over my housemate...
I don't even know what I need.. I've had counselling, the Counsellor didn't turn up to half the sessions... And can't get free ones... I canr get help for domestic violence victims as its not an ongoing issue and I'm a male in my 30s. So im not priority (I get it, but im allowed to say it hurts not getting support).
I just want to be allowed to live a normal life.. I dont want this... I just want to scream.
Thank you if you read this. I'm sorry if its not the usual content.
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In November 2022 I got accused of a very serious crime and investivated by police. My girlfriend at the time lost her job. I had to move home because rent was getting ridiculous for the area and quality.
Christmas 2022, grandfather dies of a Stoke. At rhe same time, grandmother on other side of family nearly dies of the same thing.
Ny father can't speak at his dad's funeral, I step up, trying to support the family and keep things ordered. I do it. But I see my dad cry fir the first time in my life...
I took out a £15k loan. Which helped with credit card debt (due to my gf at the time not really working or paying for anything), then after I moved, new housemate was a fucking slob who used my good nature to treat the place like a shit tip. Leaving chocolate out for my dog to eat and everything.
Police issue is resolved, no evidence after I get a solicitor and an interview. Still to this day, I flinch when I hear sirens...
Birthday... gf St the time, while sleeping upstairs and I sleep on the sofa cause be and my friend are chatting unti lwe fall asleep ad a heavy day drinking... ex comes down.. stands over me. And hits me so hard I scream. House wakes up. Mate sees this happen. And then housemate comes down, and asks why she got in his bed... she is currently pinning me down, crying and screaming.. I tell everyone to go to bed and deal with it the next day.
Tell gf at the time that she has fucked up... She doesn't know why she did it... says she was sleep walking.. touch starved...
Had to physically remove housemate after 1) his room smelled so bad, that I had to get landlords involved and a professional carpet clean on his room and 2) he pissed on my fucking landing carpet.
Months of me paying nearly as much rent as I earn in wage, due to gf at the time barely paying me... get a housemate in who wants the place to be good to live in.. Ex decides to threaten suicide when it's just me and her, after multiple times she has grabbed and tried to hold me down knowing I am in pain from her hitting me... She locks herself in the bathroom (razors and isopropyl alcohol inside, and apparently as I find out later, our dog). I call 111, she is screaming, I'm taking on the phone to try to get control... I struggle...
Eventually she opens the door, screaming at me... 111 operator can't do anything more... I thank him and hang up.. ex gf screaming at me immediately.. im the worst person, im stupid... can't believe i believed her she might commit suicide. How stupid am I.. all of it.. I broke.. broke up with her. Hated life, hated myself. Still do.
This was November 2023.. she finally left in May 2024. Every day since I havent been able to say a word in my house. I have been belittled, broken, criticised, for the tiniest things... while I can't say a word against anyone... she left dishes to go mouldy, I cant ask her to clean after herself.... and that's the minor things..
I am alone... when she left, she took the dog.. she was ours. She slept with me every night... ans now she is gone.. to a girl who never took her for a walk unless she was the ONLY one to.. and even then.. First walk at 2:30... maybe 5pm...
I dont know anymore. I'm sick of everything.. ex even got to move out of London and keep her job.. Best I could argue was the possibility of a transfer... but I'd lose my London weighting... and fuck over my housemate...
I don't even know what I need.. I've had counselling, the Counsellor didn't turn up to half the sessions... And can't get free ones... I canr get help for domestic violence victims as its not an ongoing issue and I'm a male in my 30s. So im not priority (I get it, but im allowed to say it hurts not getting support).
I just want to be allowed to live a normal life.. I dont want this... I just want to scream.
Thank you if you read this. I'm sorry if its not the usual content.
2024.05.22 02:15 ElegantHovercraft116 I 23M stupidly texted Ex 22F and Parents saying stupid ish to both of them
TLDR: Irrationally texted my ex parents after a breakup saying mean shit about her no threats just emotional dumb shit. Regret how childish I came off and feel like part of my healing even to move on fully is apologizing to grow. But I don’t want to bother as other redditors have exclaimed I should be lucky no restraining orders have been put out or I’m not in jail. I admit I said ugly shit but nothing that comes to threats or harm. Lmk please
Ex texted a bestfriend behind my back ending of last year ruining the friendship. Broke up with her, during that time I rekindled with someone else while occasionally texting my ex still not back together. Felt like I missed the warmth of my ex and dropped the new girl going back to my ex fully beginning of this year. Missed the support and love from my ex that I never truly got. Girl told me ex about our dirty laundry, causing trust issues in the whole relationship. Trust me when I tell you I felt more than guilty. I balled my eyes out with her and not even for getting caught for the reaction she had and how fragile she always was to me. I mention what she had does because stupidly I should have left when I had the chance. Even other instances where she had initiated things, I knew it might have not been the healthiest but she showed other signs of real true love. Tried fixing them by removing girls, sharing location, etc. I felt scared my ex is gonna get revenge and started being distant at the end which pushed her away as well. I thought we would get back together as always, found out she’s been adding guys she removed a long time ago. I got upset and texted her ugly nasty shit, and texted her dad saying his daughter is nasty etc. I thought by doing this I’d move on quicker by burning bridges, he told me to leave them alone I’m being childish. I understand I fucked up and fully agree. She’s done things and I know I shouldn’t have let be, but staying and getting revenge wasn’t the way. I’m realizing that as the hours even go by everyday I think about it. I want to apologize to the parents for the lack of character I had because I never ONCE disrespected them in their house, to their face. I called them Mr and Mrs always and always asked if they needed anything. I talked to a close female friend who said this stuff needs time and I can apologize if I’d like and if it makes me feel better, or write a letter and burn it. My parents said that’s not my character and said apologize if you feel necessary as I wasn’t raised like that. I feel like it’s too late to backtrack on the stupid shit I said. Am I being selfish by sending a text? I just want this weight off my chest of being the shitty person at the end at least to her parents who didn’t need any of that.
Is it smart to reach back out to the parents to show respect as an adult or just let them be? I know this was a lot but it’s on my heart and brain everyday since. I know I was emotional for no reason as I had done hurt to her in the past too. Seeing her move on so fast is what bothered me but I see she wanted me to feel what she felt. I just feel bad sitting on the thought that I left her parents with such a bad image of myself even thought it doesn’t matter anymore just doesn’t sit with me. Help?
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Ex texted a bestfriend behind my back ending of last year ruining the friendship. Broke up with her, during that time I rekindled with someone else while occasionally texting my ex still not back together. Felt like I missed the warmth of my ex and dropped the new girl going back to my ex fully beginning of this year. Missed the support and love from my ex that I never truly got. Girl told me ex about our dirty laundry, causing trust issues in the whole relationship. Trust me when I tell you I felt more than guilty. I balled my eyes out with her and not even for getting caught for the reaction she had and how fragile she always was to me. I mention what she had does because stupidly I should have left when I had the chance. Even other instances where she had initiated things, I knew it might have not been the healthiest but she showed other signs of real true love. Tried fixing them by removing girls, sharing location, etc. I felt scared my ex is gonna get revenge and started being distant at the end which pushed her away as well. I thought we would get back together as always, found out she’s been adding guys she removed a long time ago. I got upset and texted her ugly nasty shit, and texted her dad saying his daughter is nasty etc. I thought by doing this I’d move on quicker by burning bridges, he told me to leave them alone I’m being childish. I understand I fucked up and fully agree. She’s done things and I know I shouldn’t have let be, but staying and getting revenge wasn’t the way. I’m realizing that as the hours even go by everyday I think about it. I want to apologize to the parents for the lack of character I had because I never ONCE disrespected them in their house, to their face. I called them Mr and Mrs always and always asked if they needed anything. I talked to a close female friend who said this stuff needs time and I can apologize if I’d like and if it makes me feel better, or write a letter and burn it. My parents said that’s not my character and said apologize if you feel necessary as I wasn’t raised like that. I feel like it’s too late to backtrack on the stupid shit I said. Am I being selfish by sending a text? I just want this weight off my chest of being the shitty person at the end at least to her parents who didn’t need any of that.
Is it smart to reach back out to the parents to show respect as an adult or just let them be? I know this was a lot but it’s on my heart and brain everyday since. I know I was emotional for no reason as I had done hurt to her in the past too. Seeing her move on so fast is what bothered me but I see she wanted me to feel what she felt. I just feel bad sitting on the thought that I left her parents with such a bad image of myself even thought it doesn’t matter anymore just doesn’t sit with me. Help?
2024.05.22 02:14 rynmgdlno Could use some advice on changing my target school and/or major...
Some context: I'm a middle aged CC student living in SF for 9 years now and have been working as a self employed software developer for ~8 years cummulatively, ~5 years recently (mostly web but some other stuff). My work has given me extreme flexibility in my schedule so I decided to finally pursue a degree (I was a working musician from about age 14-25 and that took over my life, school was hardly considered and I barely graduated HS). I DO NOT want to move out of the bay so obviously I've been targeting Berkeley and have been following an ed plan to apply to EECS (non IGETC).
Due in part to unexpectedly losing my father this semester but mostly just having a stacked schedule, it's possible I come out of this semester with big enough hit to GPA such that the best possible GPA I will have when applying is a 3.85. Looking at their transfer data the low end of their admit range for EECS generally hovers around 3.9, and to maintain a 3.85 until the time of application would mean nothing less than an A in Calc II/III, and Physics I/II (calc gave me the most trouble this semester), and their transfer admit rate is obviously low at ~11% or so. I suppose I could agument one of these classes for honors and get a GPA boost but have yet to look into that, and taking stacked 18/9 credit semesters alongside working has already been absolutely brutal, my average week is ~85 hours between school and work.
So considering the low odds of being accepted I'm trying to figure out the most viable path forward. IMO at my age any degree I get needs to have a significant impact on income potential, another reason why I've been targeting UCB/EECS, but I also do just want to get it done for the sake of it.
So the options as I see it: 1. Augment current ed plan to get into a less impacted major at UCB. Not sure what major this would be, probably data science, math, or physics, but open to suggestions. This would mean dropping planned math/physics coursed for foreign language etc to meet IGETC requirements. If I manage to attend UCB I'm interested in the 5th year masters program so doing that in CS is possible.
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Due in part to unexpectedly losing my father this semester but mostly just having a stacked schedule, it's possible I come out of this semester with big enough hit to GPA such that the best possible GPA I will have when applying is a 3.85. Looking at their transfer data the low end of their admit range for EECS generally hovers around 3.9, and to maintain a 3.85 until the time of application would mean nothing less than an A in Calc II/III, and Physics I/II (calc gave me the most trouble this semester), and their transfer admit rate is obviously low at ~11% or so. I suppose I could agument one of these classes for honors and get a GPA boost but have yet to look into that, and taking stacked 18/9 credit semesters alongside working has already been absolutely brutal, my average week is ~85 hours between school and work.
So considering the low odds of being accepted I'm trying to figure out the most viable path forward. IMO at my age any degree I get needs to have a significant impact on income potential, another reason why I've been targeting UCB/EECS, but I also do just want to get it done for the sake of it.
So the options as I see it: 1. Augment current ed plan to get into a less impacted major at UCB. Not sure what major this would be, probably data science, math, or physics, but open to suggestions. This would mean dropping planned math/physics coursed for foreign language etc to meet IGETC requirements. If I manage to attend UCB I'm interested in the 5th year masters program so doing that in CS is possible.
- Continue with the EECS based ed plan (probably with some slight modifications) and try to get admitted to another UC with a good program. I despise the idea of moving, particularly to Southern California, so this is difficult. Davis is a shithole (no offense Davis people lol) UCSC is beautiful but not a particularly well regarded program, UCSB has potential. There's always SF State but I'm yet to convince myself it would be worth the time. I'd actually be more interested in moving out of state but tuition becomes an issue.
- Carry on and hope my work experience, life experience, and essays get me into EECS (non-traditional and first gen could help too I suppose).
2024.05.22 02:12 NoWind1903 School List Feedback? WAMC for T10/T20?
Hey everyone, wanted some feedback on my school list, is it too top heavy? I think I am a strong applicant, and I have dreams of a T10 acceptance, but I’m not sure if I’m overestimating my competitiveness, or if I need a reality check.
Stats: ORM, NY resident, T30 Undergrad, 2023 grad (so two gap years) GPA: 4.00, Psych Major MCAT: Score coming back 6/11, FL average was 524, but felt rushed on cars so I probably did a little lower than FL avg.. Predicting 519-522 score, very unlikely to be below 518.
Narrrative: Overall, pretty strong ”mental health in medicine” narrative backing up my PS and experiences.
Research: 1500 hours clinical psychiatry research (4 year commitment) 2 published abstracts, 1 first author paper in review, 1 second author paper in review, presented at 1 professional conference, received a $1000 research grant from my uni.
Clinical Employment: 650 hours split between two inpatient mental health facilities
Non-Clinical Employment: 150 hours as lumberyard worker
Clinical Volunteering: 75 hours as behavioral health aide, helping w autistic children.
Non-Clinical Volunteering: 150 hours at Crisis text line
Leadership: 200 hours as high school & K-5 wrestling coach
Shadowing: 100 hours, between Internal Medicine & Neurology
LORs: 1 science prof, 1 non-science prof, 2 research PI letters, committee letter. To my knowledge, the 2 PI LORs are very strong, and one PI has clout lol
Athletics: 2000 hours D3 athlete across freshmen and sophomore year, had to stop after sophomore year due to injuries, big part of my story regarding mental health
Artistic endeavors: Songwriting/music production…been making rap music for 6 years have 2 full length albums out, multiple music videos, 50,000+ streams, etc.
School list (35 schools, I know it’s a lot, but I’ve already started pre-writing secondaries)
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Stats: ORM, NY resident, T30 Undergrad, 2023 grad (so two gap years) GPA: 4.00, Psych Major MCAT: Score coming back 6/11, FL average was 524, but felt rushed on cars so I probably did a little lower than FL avg.. Predicting 519-522 score, very unlikely to be below 518.
Narrrative: Overall, pretty strong ”mental health in medicine” narrative backing up my PS and experiences.
Research: 1500 hours clinical psychiatry research (4 year commitment) 2 published abstracts, 1 first author paper in review, 1 second author paper in review, presented at 1 professional conference, received a $1000 research grant from my uni.
Clinical Employment: 650 hours split between two inpatient mental health facilities
Non-Clinical Employment: 150 hours as lumberyard worker
Clinical Volunteering: 75 hours as behavioral health aide, helping w autistic children.
Non-Clinical Volunteering: 150 hours at Crisis text line
Leadership: 200 hours as high school & K-5 wrestling coach
Shadowing: 100 hours, between Internal Medicine & Neurology
LORs: 1 science prof, 1 non-science prof, 2 research PI letters, committee letter. To my knowledge, the 2 PI LORs are very strong, and one PI has clout lol
Athletics: 2000 hours D3 athlete across freshmen and sophomore year, had to stop after sophomore year due to injuries, big part of my story regarding mental health
Artistic endeavors: Songwriting/music production…been making rap music for 6 years have 2 full length albums out, multiple music videos, 50,000+ streams, etc.
School list (35 schools, I know it’s a lot, but I’ve already started pre-writing secondaries)
• very high tier: Harvard, Hopkins, Upenn, Columbia, Duke, Stanford, Cornell, Yale, Mt. Sinai, NYU, Mayo, Ucsf, Northwestern, UMich, Pittt, WashU (st.louis), uchicago, Vanderbuilt • Slightly less high tier: Case western, Brown , Emory, Dartmouth, Albert Einstein • Mid tier: Rochester, Stony Brook, UMiami, Tufts, V-tech • “Easier” NY schools: SUNY Upstate, Suny Downstate , Buffalo, Hofstra, NYMC, UAlbany.Please let me know what you guys think!
2024.05.22 02:10 OreoJehi So how are we feeling Kaeya mains? I think we all know it never been was a coincidence at this point. [+and an UNRELATED THEORY post]
![So how are we feeling Kaeya mains? I think we all know it never been was a coincidence at this point. [+and an UNRELATED THEORY post]](https://preview.redd.it/h0wpxjtt8q1d1.png?width=640&crop=smart&auto=webp&s=1585559ba28b175dc8545e651e4c4ccc478fdea4 "So how are we feeling Kaeya mains? I think we all know it never been was a coincidence at this point. [+and an UNRELATED THEORY post]") | For newcomers who doesnt know what I'm talking about: Here's two posts for context. submitted by OreoJehi to KaeyaMains [link] [comments] Im going to be honest. Im feeling dreading sick for Kaeya rn (pls help 🥹). I opened this app cuz I wanted to giddily share a nothing-post, a theory that you probably had read it before but I haven't thought of it and it was making me too giddily-excited that I wanted to share. Only to see this post. I couldn't help it but express my dreading feelings here, so pls let me piggyback this post to also share my theory thoughts. But really, Im feeling it really bad rn, the chills, the dread. It has never stopped and it gets worse over time, starting from the beginning, ngl it feels super unlucky to be a Kaeyamain. Anyone here feels similarly if not the same? (And fyi, it's not affecting me in real life scale, I know how to separate irl and fiction so please, just dont; If you're not up for a theory you can freely skip it and talk about deathflags! Anw, I'll start abt that theory right now with this: Kaeya: Oh, you can't tell? My family's lived in Mondstadt for generations. [I got bored sitting around at home, and decided to set off on a journey to expand my horizons.]Hyperborea, Natlantian, Remuria & Khaun-Arya. Dont the word being hyphenated and Arya capitalized are being too specific? Arya reminds me of Mond's ost "Dream Aria". Khaun-Aria? Credit to u/Sun_ele155 for telling me for that Aria means wind in latin and Khaenriah possibly being a translation of "traitor of wind" (Im sorry for the unsolicited tag so pls feel free to tell me if you dont like that 🙏) I think you're already getting a clear picture but let me add more "pieces". The Abyss Order stole a statue of Barbatos and hung it upside down. Doesn't it signifies their hate against this god? Out of all the other statues of 7? Kaeya was specifically sent to Dawn Winery, with his dad looking back to him with hatred and hope. These are what I currently have to support this theory (+other Mondstadt ominous signs. Im curious if the Dadaupa battle is related to this). But Im sure I could dig more and Im currently doing that. It's just that this I seriously, seriously, want to share this realization to y'all even if I havent have yet all the pieces: Haven't you realized it yet? What if Khaenriah were former Mondstadtians! Maybe during in the early ages where Mondstadt is in its lowest point, possibly the slavery period, where their god has immensely disappointed them. Believing that Barbatos has abandoned them. So they branched out, traveled far and formed a new kingdom? In the first Chasm Interlude, a Dain Quest, Dain stated that the ruins there were much more older than their ex-kingdom.hah So how about this, what if these ex-Mondstatians discovered and successfully studied the civilization's technology of this ruins and migrated underground with it? Or how about these former Mondstatians migrating with the already formed kingdom underground, fully taking it over? You know, I wonder how did the Crimson Moon Dynasty end? (Ofc, ex-Mondstatians overtaking the Crimson Moon Dynasty is still just a possibility; it could had started way before!) Imagine that, Kaeya is a fully Mondstadtian nobility! (Well, half). It's such a game-changing fascinating thought isnt it? Let me share this tidbit I think is relevant: “[...] The Temple of Silence was originally founded by the ruling elite of the day. Traditionally, such organizations are bound by a strict and ancient code of nobility.” (Cyno SQ2 spoilers)Now I think they want get back to their roots and rule it again, and using it for revenge against Celestia. You know, I dont know why I never thought and realized of this before, Khaenrians being ex-former-Mondstadtians, despite the obvious "pieces" being right there-. I only remember being confused by Kaeya's line “My family has lived in Mondstadt for generations”. But I guess playing through the new update made me "see" it. Whoever said or thought that Kaeya was involved in a ceremony, and/or that's how he got his " ——— Separate comments: If we assume that the cycle "Hyperborea" occured in Snezhnaya (the word relates to extreme north, look it up) and "Natlantian" for Natlan, try to think of civilizations that were both destroyed and its people cursed, representing each of our present nations. Outside of the unified civilizations ofc (with Trifecta symbols), post-Primordial One/Celestia rule. ALSO NOTE THAT WE ARE STILL HALF-WAY OF THE KHAUN-ARYA CYCLE (sorry for the caps, I just lately discovered this one). What happened in Khaenriah was only the beginning Do you know, during the Remuria ruling era, there were two "nations" that were involved to something, and no, Im not talking abt Fontaine for the other one. Cassiodor's former tribe (it's a group of people, it counts right?), was destroyed and its people ‘enslaved’ by Remuria (hmm, doesnt it overlap with ex-mond theory too?). Him defecting to Remuria and being, *ahem*, close friends with Boethius being the reason of escaping that fate. In the end, Remuria still had gotten itself destroyed. Tbh I still need to look deeply more onto this but this is what I currently have. Okay now, to this final part is an afterthought of the post and I don't have the explanation for it(meaning proof). It was an instantaneous thought. And I quickly forgot what urged me that thought, the reasons why. Sorry, but I have(and want) to write this here for the record: I couldn't help but feel that, in the same way we experience and progress through the storyline in the game, this samsara cycles shenanigans, civilizations being destroyed, first started in Mondstadt. And we are now back in a full circle. |
2024.05.22 02:02 JAM_Passive Apprentice of the Year
 | https://preview.redd.it/k3uwxljnwu1d1.jpg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fa0120ed23e7338cbba776dee3e3245db1a5d0c6 submitted by JAM_Passive to UnitedAssociation [link] [comments] Before getting to the award, I'd like to talk about my journey from open shop to the UA. About 2 years or so ago, before I knew about unions, I was working for an open shop plumbing/HVAC company. $15/hr, mostly residential with the occasional commercial. I liked my co-workers, boss was cool, one of my supervisors was cool, the other was a toss up on any given day. Ladies in the office were cool too. Good all around. I was a helper or apprentice, that title changed whenever the boss wanted it to, made no difference in my pay or hours. I went to a job with one of the guys, and it was to work on a tankless water heater. Long story short, the water heater was piped in backward. That's not important. What is, is the man we did the job for: Mr. Stevens. He was a retired pipefitter of about 30 years from a UA in Chicago. He had a bunch of union stickers from many different locals on the fridge in his garage where we were working. He asked me if I ever thought about joining the UA. I told him no, and I had no idea what that was. While my coworker was on the phone getting approval for the work from a warranty company, Mr. Stevens talked to me about how the UA gave him better wages, the good retirement that he's currently enjoying with his wife, health benefits, and everything he could advertise. I was listening intently because that sounded wonderful to me. He was describing everything I thought my at the time company was supposed to be. Before we left, Mr. Stevens gave me his number. He told me if I had any more questions to call or text him, he'll be available. He also told me if I was interested in getting in the UA, he'd write me a letter of recommendation for the board members. I thanked him and we went on our way. Over the next few months, I looked into unions, the UA specifically. I saw pro-union stuff, and anti-union stuff. I'm here, so as you can see, there was too much good for me to care about any of the anti-union stuff, which were mostly lies or exaggerations. Come March of 2023 when applications opened up, I speedran everything I could have. I called Local 43's office, got all the info I needed. Filled out my application, got my HS transcripts, did the Helmets to Hardhats, got with the VA to work out my GI Bill, smoked the ACT WorkKeys test. My supervisors did eventually find out about me doing all that. One of the board members owned the plumbing company next to my boss's and I guess they're friends and talked to each other, and my boss talked to my supervisors. The cool one made a joke about the dues I'd have to pay (exaggerated the amount) and the other one was visibly not pleased and made a sly remark about it. Fortunately nothing negative came of it for me. Anyway, finally, the interview. Easily the only thing I was stressed out about. I got a fresh cut, bought a nice (but cheap) blue suit, bought a nice pair of lowkey business casual shoes, bought a cheap black tie, even lightly put on cologne. I walked in to the waiting room and thought I fucked up. The other interviewees had on jeans, those nice dress(?) cowboy boots, and tucked in button-up long sleeve shirts. I make no exaggeration when I tell you, I was the ONLY one in a suit and tie. Internally I'm freaking out wondering "What was I thinking? It's the South, I should have dressed like them! The board is gonna see me an think I'm some prim & proper (derogatory) Yank!" An assumption I made based on the reaction I got when I joined a Fire Department and I told one of the Firefighters I'm from NY. Fortunately, this was not the case. Nothing to be done about it at that point, I get called into the room. I've been through a board or two in the Army, so I knew I could fake it at least, but I'm still nervous. What I did do immediately that I'm still proud of to this day is I remembered to shake everyone's hand and look at them. Just like I've practiced, a nice firm handshake and eye contact. Sat up straight, hand positioning, made eye contact when answering, answered audibly and clearly, practiced it all beforehand and executed. They did get Mr. Stevens' letter of recommendation and had me tell them about the work we did for him. And they wanted me to tell them about my time in the Army. That took up a large portion of time thankfully. No matter where you go, men love a good story. Around the last 5 -10 minutes, they had me tell them about my previous company. I didn't badmouth the company, I didn't have much negative to say about it anyway, aside from the hours being wonky occasionally and learning being difficult sometimes if they guy you're with didn't feel like teaching you that day. Sometimes, you really were just a helper. Hand them the tools and move back. Before I left, one of the men stopped me at the door and told me he was glad I dressed like a professional. He said "Some of these guys come around here and dress like they're about go to the bar and not an interview. I know this is blue collar work, but we're still professionals. Just a blazer goes a long way, and we appreciate that you took this seriously." All that work (and I'm not gonna lie, there's no doubt in my mind that me being a veteran damn near guaranteed me in) paid off as me and the rest if the 1st years swore in. And starting at $17.60 ain't too bad. Fast forward to today. Today was the last day of class at my Local. They did awards, congratulations, and all the flair that comes with it. Among the awardees, was me. I haven't earned an academic award since elementary. By the time I got to HS, I realized schooling (at least traditional) isn't something I enjoy or care for, and my effort (or lack of it) reflected that. I stopped doing homework altogether as it was only 15% of our grades, I did well on tests and quizzes, and did classwork depending on length/difficulty and necessity. Graduated HS stress free and got the same diploma as everyone else. This was not the case during this past school year. I put in the effort for this. I paid attention and asked for help. Especially with math, I asked for a lot of help with math. And I suppose that showed and reflected. I earned Apprentice of the Year for the 1st Year Class. I feel really good about it. I intend to put my ass into and try to earn it for the next 4 years. Joining the UA is one of the best decisions I've ever made. I fucking love the UA, and I love my Local Union 43. Note: I still talk to Mr. Stevens to this day. I sent him a picture of my award and he's treating me to dinner this weekend. |
2024.05.22 02:00 Previous_Ninja_332 Landlord snooping around house + back yard
I’ve ordered cameras and I’m going to hide them in my house so I can see what she’s actually looking for. Basically there’s been numerous times where I’ve left something small under the door in a certain way that I’d know if someone had come in.
I’ll explain why I done this.
When I first moved in and couldn’t get to the door fast enough, I heard her getting her keys out so she could let herself in. Also when I first moved in and I had left the door unlocked she would just walk in.
I told myself ok she couldn’t be that bad, she would hardly come in when I’m not home, but yea it looks like she has been coming into the bedroom as well. I went away the other day and the same thing happened, I put the alarm on the front door so she came in through the back door.
I feel violated and tbh I feel creeped out to the point where I’m leaving stuff in front of the back door at night so that I’ll hear noise if she tries to come in.
Recently I was making bottles for my child in the kitchen and when I turned around I seen someone looking through my coal bunker, it was her. Coal bunker was empty btw.
She is so nosy. I’m not ok with her letting herself in either because I have private letters and stuff, I just feel really uncomfortable with her coming in rooting through my stuff. It’s not just once either it’s a few times if not every time I leave the house.
I am renting through hap so maybe I have no right to complain since I’m paying less for rent but this can’t be ok.
What’s the best way of handling this? I’m furious
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I’ll explain why I done this.
When I first moved in and couldn’t get to the door fast enough, I heard her getting her keys out so she could let herself in. Also when I first moved in and I had left the door unlocked she would just walk in.
I told myself ok she couldn’t be that bad, she would hardly come in when I’m not home, but yea it looks like she has been coming into the bedroom as well. I went away the other day and the same thing happened, I put the alarm on the front door so she came in through the back door.
I feel violated and tbh I feel creeped out to the point where I’m leaving stuff in front of the back door at night so that I’ll hear noise if she tries to come in.
Recently I was making bottles for my child in the kitchen and when I turned around I seen someone looking through my coal bunker, it was her. Coal bunker was empty btw.
She is so nosy. I’m not ok with her letting herself in either because I have private letters and stuff, I just feel really uncomfortable with her coming in rooting through my stuff. It’s not just once either it’s a few times if not every time I leave the house.
I am renting through hap so maybe I have no right to complain since I’m paying less for rent but this can’t be ok.
What’s the best way of handling this? I’m furious
2024.05.22 01:53 TopicUpstairs2109 Help/Advice
Well long story short I owe about 16k in collections and I have no clue where to start I know it’s affecting my credit badly but I need a step by step on how I can clear my collections this problem bugs me everyday and depressed because of it
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2024.05.22 01:51 According-Balance874 AITAH for telling my mom she is making my highschool grad party about her?
For context I 18yF have not had the smoothest time during highschool, i have struggled with numerous mental health issues and trauma and i’m very proud that i actually am graduating. My mom on the other hand doesn’t believe in mental illness and has never helped me through anything i’ve been thru. She is a good mom i will say and most of the time my best friend, but when it comes to my senior year she made it about her.
Ex;When prom came around she begged me to go so she could have pictures to post on her facebook, i refused because i had switched to our online program at the school given i had 1 credit left. I mostly did this because all of my friends did too and i essentially didn’t like anyone at my school, also to work. She cried over it when i said why wouldn’t i just go hangout with my friends than pay 1000’s of dollars just to be miserable.(Again she made it about her)
My mom peaked in highschool and was popular and did dance and had LOTS of friends, i like to keep to myself and don’t enjoy school tied sports although i did play sports growing up outside of it.
It is now the last week of my senior year and i graduate on saturday, i am very proud of myself and excited although i’m dreading the party. When we began planning on about march-april she began making invitations, i had told her i only wanted our family and my friends and maybe some extra people i care about. She decided to invite 60+ people of which i have either only met once or never have without me knowing. They are all her friends or friends of friends, i mean seriously this is MY GRAD. She even decided to buy decorations in the color she wants. I’m very privileged to be able to have a grad party but it’s being over done quite a bit. I told her numerous times over the past month i didn’t want a huge party because i get overwhelmed in that setting but she invites them anyways, i didn’t want it to be huge just a small celebration with people i actually know. It has now turned into an old people soirée instead of an 18 year old grad party. Also, i have to change my playlist i made (6 hours long) because she doesn’t want her people to think of our family badly when if i just invited the people i wanted we wouldn’t have this issue and i could fully be myself. AITAH for being upset about this ??? Help me out please 😭
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Ex;When prom came around she begged me to go so she could have pictures to post on her facebook, i refused because i had switched to our online program at the school given i had 1 credit left. I mostly did this because all of my friends did too and i essentially didn’t like anyone at my school, also to work. She cried over it when i said why wouldn’t i just go hangout with my friends than pay 1000’s of dollars just to be miserable.(Again she made it about her)
My mom peaked in highschool and was popular and did dance and had LOTS of friends, i like to keep to myself and don’t enjoy school tied sports although i did play sports growing up outside of it.
It is now the last week of my senior year and i graduate on saturday, i am very proud of myself and excited although i’m dreading the party. When we began planning on about march-april she began making invitations, i had told her i only wanted our family and my friends and maybe some extra people i care about. She decided to invite 60+ people of which i have either only met once or never have without me knowing. They are all her friends or friends of friends, i mean seriously this is MY GRAD. She even decided to buy decorations in the color she wants. I’m very privileged to be able to have a grad party but it’s being over done quite a bit. I told her numerous times over the past month i didn’t want a huge party because i get overwhelmed in that setting but she invites them anyways, i didn’t want it to be huge just a small celebration with people i actually know. It has now turned into an old people soirée instead of an 18 year old grad party. Also, i have to change my playlist i made (6 hours long) because she doesn’t want her people to think of our family badly when if i just invited the people i wanted we wouldn’t have this issue and i could fully be myself. AITAH for being upset about this ??? Help me out please 😭