Cute idea for one year anniversary

First post in ages, deleted this, but I’m back to get this off. I just turned 20 a couple months ago, have good friends, decent job, loving family, but my life has been rough for 6 years now, I’ve lost many friends , have gone through depression, agony even, best friend got with my ex and I told him it’s ok then stopped being friends with me, broke up with the girl I loved (different then that one my friend got together with) , got back together , crashed my car, broke up again and for good, she then totally abused me for months afterwords by doing everything she can to hurt me, still dealing with that, watched my best friend at the time crash into and kill someone , I saw all the aftermath and it was scarring , and more recently I have a legal thing going on and it’s totally effecting my life, and it’s for something I didn’t even do, it will pass over and things will go back to normal because I didn’t do anything but it will take time and until then my life is drastically effected and I’m spending lots of money on a lawyer, I’ve had so many bad things happen to me, and I just want to give up
Out of all those things the heartbreak of losing my girl was the worst, it was over a year and a half ago and I still think about her all the time, I loved her with all my heart and wanted to marry her. No girl after her makes me feel the same and now I hate talking to other girls because I’ve talked to countless girls and they just aren’t her. I know I’m young , and have friends and family, but I’ve gone though so much already and I’m just done. My best friend is about to move away in a couple months too. I don’t want to do this anymore. I just want it to all go away and to sleep forever. If anyone has advice I’d like to hear it. But I feel the way I do for a reason.

Whatsup gang, soon I will be leading one shots twice a month at a bar downtown (won't say which one yet), and I need help coming up with some character ideas for the people to use those nights.
I was hoping to get some Tulsan archetypes and turn them into DnD characters. Some of my thoughts are:

1. The Punk Rocker that could be a Paladin or Warlock (Talks to Pazuzu or whoever to fight the evil "Christians" or whatever)
   
2. The Charismatic Homeless Person who could be a Bard (RIP Stacey, ily)
   
3. The Rich Bich Blonde who could be a Wizard (Creation Wizard who is always wearing new clothes)
   

That's about where I'm stuck at so if anyone else has ideas or improvements I'm all ears! Thanks for taking the time to read my post!

How do you set a budget for yourself for watches? I would consider it as part of leisure. All my expenses are in the gray zone… And you can always save more money… Is there a percentage of your monthly income that you don’t go over? Do you only buy one nice watch per year or two years, or…? What’s a nice watch for you relative to your monthly income?
I have recently purchased a watch, but I feel guilty because, as I said, you can always save more money and invest it somewhere.
Curious to know what other people are doing and how they’re making their choices for those type of expenses.

Man, this is complicated. It's also very, very long.
A little piece out of a lot of background: I've been sick for about 10 years old. For the first six of those years, it was mainly a physical illness. I had chronic pains that the doctors just couldn't figure out and it derailed my entire life. Then in 2020, I ended up in a rehab facility for about 18 months. The first year there was really slow since I was still in pain, but after about 10 months I finally got the meds I needed and my aches went poof.
Amazing!
However, once they did, I discovered that I had a lot of latent psychological trauma etc. that popped its head up as soon as I didn't have the physical pains to distract me. I asked the nurses and doctors there for help with getting in touch with someone who could help me with that, but that didn't happen and instead the remaining 8 months was hell because somehow they decided that instead of offering help, they'd gaslight and abuse me. I've never felt so disconnected from reality because it didn't matter what I did or how hard I worked to accomplish a goal, I always did something wrong and never worked hard enough. It was a wild time, in the worst way possible.
Then I was kicked out of that facility and into my own one-room apartment. I was hesitant about the benefits of living alone right in ground zero for my previous trauma, but then again, staying at the place I had just been at wasn't really an option either.
Well, as it turns out, it was as horrible of an idea as I had feared. I quickly spiraled mentally since I was just alone with myself all day every day, and my own head is a pretty toxic conversational partner.
However, one upside to moving out of that facility is that it opened up another avenue of care for me. I'm not sure how to translate the Swedish health care system into English but basically, if you don't need to go to the hospital for something more urgent, your first go-to health care place is a vårdcentral. I'll just call it a "VC" from now on. You go there for all of the usual smaller things that doesn't require a surgeon or something. There are doctors and nurses there and they'll help you if they can or refer you to a hospital or other health care facilities if they offer the help you need.
When I came home from the rehab place in August of 2021, I got into contact with my local VC and explained that I needed some psychological help, and they let me talk to a counselor. She eventually sent me to another counselor of sorts who was supposed to evaluate me and then send me to the actual psychiatrist who could help me. After talking with her for a while, she sent me on my way and I met the psychiatrist in December of 2022.
We met up and had one conversation, but he basically said that there was nothing he could do for me. There were some reasons why but I don't think those matter now. The point is, my psych help kind of ended there. For various reasons, it wasn't picked up until six months later when I went on a boycott of all of my medicines in order to force my VC to actually do something. They had stayed radio silent up until then despite my pleas to find me some kind of help.
I ended up meeting with another one of their counselors in May last year and we've been talking ever since then. However, I wasn't getting anywhere. I said to her that the only way I saw myself getting better was by going to another of those rehab facilities since I wasn't able to get better on my own. On a fundamental level, I just don't function while alone. I shut down completely and just go on auto-pilot. It doesn't matter what we come up with while talking because as soon as I'm alone again, the auto-pilot engages and I remember almost nothing that isn't a hardwired biological need until I start interacting with another person again and the auto-pilot disengages again.
I had a three-way phone call with my counselor and the woman in charge of granting stays as such rehab facilities, and I said that one thing that I needed as a necessary guarantee was some sort of additional psychological help so that I wasn't simply helped physically and then thrown back once those needs were met. I've been there and done that, and I've seen how destructive that can be.
On the first session with my counselor after that call, she said that she could refer me to another counselor since I had pretty much said that only her support wouldn't be enough during my stay at that rehab facility (if I get a spot). I wasn't sure if that was the best way to go but since we hadn't really gotten anywhere in the last year, it didn't seem like the worst idea.
And this finally brings me to what this post is really about.
I had an initial conversation with this new counselor and then sent her a letter where I outlined my feelings better than I managed in the conversation. She asked if she could show the letter to her boss but didn't say why. I said sure, and after that we settled on a new session that was last Thursday.
During that session, she explained both why she'd taken my letter to her boss and why she'd be stepping down as my counselor after just a couple of sessions.
The reason she took the letter to her boss is because I outlined how I'd been ping-ponged around different counselors and psychiatrists for almost 3 years. That just wasn't right.
The reason she stepped down as my counselor was because of what the psychiatrist I'd met briefly in December 2022 had said about me. I was only aware of what he said directly to me: "I can't help you." However, what I was completely unaware of was that he told my VC a whole different thing: "This guy needs a whole team of (more suitable) psychiatrists."
They seemingly completely ignored this. As I mentioned before, for the first 6 months after my meeting with that psychiatrist, they did nothing. I had to resort to fairly desperate measures to get them to act, but when they did act, they just handed me to one of the counselors who were woefully underqualified to help me through my issues. This is why nothing happened during the year I was speaking to her. She then passed me on to the most recent counselor, and she realized that my issues were far above her paygrade. This wasn't the reason she stepped down, though. Rather, she felt that as long as I had a counselor, everyone around me would just assume that I was getting qualified help when the reality was far from that. As such, she thought that her staying on would do more harm than good to me.
She advised me to talk to my doctor about it and I just so happened to have an unrelated appointment booked with him for later this week so at least I can talk to him without having to wait a month or so. She also suggesting reporting all of this crap to the governing body for health care issues.
I don't know what to feel. I'm angry and confused. It feels like I've lived on a diet consisting of nothing but knuckle sandwiches for the longest time, with these recent revelations being a huge one-dish buffet.
I just needed to get this off my chest.

Good day! I few years ago, I finally became an independent contractor, and I specialize in exterior work. Recently, I added Bolster to my "contractor toolkit." it essentially streamlines the quoting process, design editing, customer preference editing, etc. I've been very satisfied with its output, but I have one giant problem. I don't have the fogiest idea how to save the designs for future reference?
Just to make sure that you know what I mean, two months ago, I made the design for a suburban backyard in Chester. It was actually one of my best works. I really liked the irrigation system I selected; the way I seamlessly connected it to the water fountain in the center and also the roofing for the toolshed was quite harmonious with the rest of the property. I would really like to save it for future reference, In case I get the same type of client, but I have no idea how. I don't even know what type of file would that be? It can't be a PDF because it loses all interactivity and the real-time price updates. Maybe it is something proprietary that I don't know about.
All in all, I reeally need any help I can get. Ideally, someone who also uses Bolster could help me (because I really got used to it). However, if Bolster lacks this function, I am willing to switch to other apps.
Thank you in advance!

Hi all, I've looked at a ton of hunger games results throughout this process and figured I'd throw mine in as well. I also love details so I tried to include everything even potentially relevant.
Results 20ish follicles 15 retrieved 14 mature 11 fertilized with ICSI 7 blasts frozen (2 day 5s, 4 day 6s, 1 day 7)
Context We have been TTC for 3.5 years with no pregnancies. Treatment history includes 5 medicated TI cycles and 3 IUIs (all with letrozole).
My spouse had low T discovered 1.5 years ago and has been successfully medicated with clomid and anastrozole for low sperm count. Motility is good but he consistently has 0-1% morphology. My RE defaults to ICSI for any MFI (zymot was not mentioned).
My usual AMH is around 0.8ng/ml and my AFC is around 10. A few months ago my AMH was randomly 1.8ng/ml and my AFC at baseline for my ER was zero after 3 weeks on birth control. My RE hoped for 5-8 eggs from this cycle.
Protocol My RE insisted 0 AFC was not a problem to move forward and started me on 300IU follistim and 150IU menopur for the first 5 days. On day 6 of stims, they saw 24 growing follicles which was a huge surprise.
Added ganirelix that day and dropped to 225 follistim and 75 menopur; further dropped follistim to 150 on day 8 when they counted around 20 follicles.
Last monitoring appointment and doses of follistim/menopur were on day 9 and we triggered with 10,000IU HCG the following night (shout-out to my husband for jabbing that huge needle in my butt at 1:00am on Mother's Day lol).
Continued ganirelix daily through ER and the following week. Also added letrozole and cabergoline to prevent OHSS. Had a standard course of antibiotics (doxycycline).
Symptoms and side effects On stims, my biggest side effect was feeling crazy emotional. Everything had me crying or raging. The constipation hit me like a truck on stim day 9 and lasted a week after ER.
That whole week I was bloated and uncomfortable and it took a few days for my ovaries to calm down. I drank a lot of electrolytes, took my prescribed meds, and did not develop OHSS.
Genetic testing and future plans PGT-A was a complicated decision but we ultimately decided not to test. We are hoping for one child and do not plan on another ER at this time.

I graduated college a year ago and moved to work at my current job around the same time. The jobs okay— pay is livable and it has good benefits but I don’t get any social interaction during the day which is hard. I moved to a city where I didn’t know anyone and still really don’t after really trying to put myself out there. I moved from my college town where my boyfriend still lives (about 4 hrs away, he’s still working there and can’t move here for a few years) and where I’m living now is pretty far away from my family so I don’t really get to see them anymore. I’m just not very happy here, I miss being close to family and seeing my boyfriend and want to go back to my college town, but it feels like that would be mistake to give up my job. I could find another job there, but I don’t know if I could find one as good for my resume as this one, plus I feel like I have a responsibility to this job now that I’m here. But I’m just so unhappy here. Should I try to move back? Is a year too short?

I have a few questions about using a shooting range in the Staates. In a few weeks we travel to a competition in Massachusetts and we are from Germany We stay here for a week and wanted to do some activities. One of these activities should be going to a shooting range. But now I have a few questions. First of all our age ranges from 14-17 years. We travel with two guardians that are over twenty-one years. If this is allowed to go there with these different ages, what would you recommend for a good cost efficient shooting range. We have no real requirements for what guns we want to shoot, we just want to do it for fun. I would love to get an answer for that question because going to a range in Germany is very expensive.

I’m teaching middle school reading. It’s been an awful year. It started out okay but after winter break it quickly spiraled into hell. I am teaching in this position for my TEACH grant and I have one more year. I have been checking other districts to see if there are any elementary positions open, especially reading, but there has been nothing so far. I originally started in elementary which is why I desperately want to go back.
The problem is, people were hired as reading teachers due to Covid. Now that we’re past that, it’s unlikely schools are hiring reading teachers unless people are retiring. I’d be lucky if someone did retire.
The idea of going back to this position next year is terrifying. I’m worried my mental health will completely dissolve to nothing. But I don’t want to have to pay back more student loans.

I’m on holiday and accidentally forgot to pack my anti depressant, only my anti psychotics.. I’ve been off it for 4 days now, and the 2nd day I instantly felt a difference. And as time goes by I feel surprisingly well, my doctors has said before that my high dosage of anti depressant might be the reason I have anxiety and still feel depressed.. I have bipolar 2, a recent diagnosis after years of treating with depression only. I feel surprisingly good right now, just calm, not much intrusive thoughts and sleeps well. I’m thinking about coming off it completely? Has anyone have a similar experience of wanting to quit anti depressant? I’m on mirtazapine 45mg, which is highest it goes for this specific drug, I’ve tried countless others and this is the only one that puts me to sleep. Not sure if this is a good idea at all, but I just feel ok right now and really want to keeps my medications as low as possible
Maybe it’s because I’m on holiday, but it’s quite a stressful holiday for me but I just feel surprisingly well

Details: 20F, no diagnoses or medications currently taken. I’m Asian & I weigh about 122 lbs (not sure if this needs to be included). I’m also vegetarian.
I have been having some terrible GI issues for the last couple of years. I have extreme nausea on a regular basis, and this nausea often leads to dry heaving which is extremely uncomfortable. These “episodes” come and go and usually last for a couple of weeks.
No matter what I eat, I have extreme bloating and issues with my bowel movements. It’s extremely painful and also uncomfortable. Either I’m having multiple bowel movements a day (and these are rather loose and unhealthy) or none at all for multiple days at a time. My stomach is in constant pain.
What could this be? I’ve tried cutting out foods, eating smaller meals, avoiding dairy, and nothing seems to be helping.
One thing I forgot to add: this issue seems to be worse around the times I’m stressed out.

Hello everyone!
I am writing this post to seek some advice on how to go about job search while I am on my current job. I have been thinking about switching jobs for a while now but what happened yesterday at work has made me rethink my entire career.
For context, I have been working as a Junior App Developer for this healthcare startup company for just over a year now. My main job responsibility is like an on-call engineer who would respond to incidents in production. These tickets usually have a strict and tight timeline and is always a high priority (Goes from high to low like class - 1 > 2 > 3 > 4 etc).
Before I joined this company, I used to work for a FAANG company but due to layoffs, I had to take a massive pay cut in order to support myself. Even though I cracked a job at this FAANG, since this was my first tech job ever right out of school, I was completely lost. It is only here that I got some full-stack web development experience by fixing bugs that come up in production and collaborating with several teams throughout the sprints.
Initially, I liked working for my manager and the team since all of them were patient with me and helped me grow as an engineer. After a while, another guy joined our 5 man team who also worked at a FAANG previously (Intern) but had a lot more experience as a Dev through several internship opportunities. Then, we had another intern join us who had 5-6 different intership positions before joining here as an intern.
After some time for both of them at this current company, I started to get some jokes from my manager and those 2 guys. They would say to me in a joking manner - "Man, we need a {my_name} 2.0 to get through all these tickets" and then, all 3 of them would start laughing. It hurt me to hear that but I kept quite and laughed it off.
Recently, I have been doing really well at work and got the total number of tickets down to 7-8 from the inital 50 something that I started with (obviously with other people's help). However, yesterday something happened that reminded me of those times when my manager and the 1 FTE and the intern used to laugh at me.
The FTE guy went to the room that had my manager, me and another intern (not the same one I mentioned above but a newer one) - "What is the riskiest thing you guys have done recently?". My manager goes "Hiring {my_name}". And I couldn't hear it the first time because my manager is very soft spoken, so I asked the FTE guy again - "What did he say?". He went - "To hire {my_name}". So I laughed it off again and I said out loud "Yeah, but I am trying to best to manage the risk."
All this comes across as a joke on the face of it but I feel like they actually think that I am a bad hire and do not respect me as an engineer and see me as an equal (even though I can wash my manager in Data Structures and Algorithms; he has been more a DevOps guy in the healthcare industry).
Now, this BS is starting to get to me and I want out for 2 reasons. I am looking for a Software job in Canada for immigration purposes and also trying to make more money being an engineer now that I have decent experience (the pay here is shit because I did not know how to negotiate my salary and took the low ball offer out of desperation after getting laid off)
The Questions:

• How can I apply for Software jobs in Canada using Linkedin?
• How can I tweak my LinkedIn settings so that none of my co workers know what I have been up to but also be visible to potential future employers and make connections with them? Can someone please tell me any settings that they might be aware of?
• Am I taking this too personally? How should I go about this BS and not let if affect me and my work or change my behavior towards them all of a sudden?

Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you so much in advance!
TL;DR: Trying to apply to other jobs while keeping my current one in order to get more salary and leave the toxic teammates and manager taking subliminal shots at my competence. How can I leverage LinkedIn by being invisible to my current connections but be completely visible to potential future employers?

Hi everyone! I'm hoping to get some advice on integrating new technologies into my business. I've been working in custom home building for the past 20 years, and I always liked to do all the paperwork, quoting process, and others by pen and paper because this is what I was taught and used all my career. However, my business has been steadily going south over the past few years. I've looked it up online, and it supposedly reduces estimation times and makes things more efficient. No doubt this is true, but I have no idea how it works. Could anyone enlighten me on how the estimation and quoting processes take place? I'm also curious if you had any experience with it and if it can be trusted? Does it have a bias toward bigger, more established sellers, or does it also include smaller shops? What software has a comprehensive guide (maybe a detailed blog or an active YouTube channel) and very responsive customer support? I am an old man now and very green when it comes to technology in general, not only with this specific construction estimating software. Any experience you have is invaluable! Thank you for your time!

Ok, so in one of my classes my teacher wants to have a “esports tournament” as a final for our class. My friend is bringing his xbox and it has the Street Fighter 30th Anniversary Collection. I’ve been given the task to pick the version of Street Fighter that we play as a class (I’m the only one who actually plays fighting games). I was talking with my dad about it and we came to the conclusion that it should either be 3rd Strike (my choice) or Alpha 2 (my dad’s choice). Now I came here to ask out of those two, which one would you pick and why?

If anyone is interested in doing a kandi swap and has some extra goodies from this year they wouldn’t mind trading with me over mail plz hit me up.
This was the first year ever that I did not bring my kandi 😭 I’ve been pretty sad about it all weekend because one of my favorite things to do is swap at raves.
I’ve gone to music festivals for over 9 years and the past 2 EDCs (in Orlando) people didn’t really weatrade kandi so I felt like it was something that was dying (something I noticed from my perspective but I could be wrong). Anytime I brought them I felt out of place because even my friends stopped bringing them. I really should’ve just done my own thing and brought them anyway. Now after my first EDC in Vegas kandi was EVERYWHERE. So yeah lots of fomo!
TLDR I’d love to share from my personal collection at home for a few souvenirs from LV if anyone is open to. I missed out on the fun 😭😭😭

Obligatory on mobile so awkward formatting and throwaway because he knows my reddit account. Long story.
I come to ask the Reddit crowd to be kind with me as I legitimately have no idea what to do. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months now and are on the verge of a break-up because of several reasons.

• His long term ex girlfriend has been harassing us for 7 months. I've blocked her everywhere but she is adamant on contacting me. Her messages usually vary from asking for forgiveness, her moving on, I'm ugly and other insults about my appearance and identity, how she was the third party, how I was the third party, how desperate I am, how she cares about me, how she plans to destroy my academic and social life, etc.
  
• They had closure sex a few days before we went on our first date. In his defense, we were not exclusive back then and I told him before in the past that I'd probably find someone like him but not him specifically to date; and that I didn't date; so he only confessed because I pushed him to under the impression he liked another girl. Ex girlfriend shared some of their deleted conversation and he had been refusing to meet with her. They only met that day because she had gone to the front door of their home and up until the end of their conversation he was angry and asking for her to leave.
  
• He confessed the closure sex happened before we agreed to start seeing each other exclusively. But he didn't tell me exactly when it happened, just that it was recent to that conversation. When his ex girlfriend told me by blasting my face on social media the exact dates, he denied it happened on those specific days. He assured me for 4 months that it did not happen.
  
• According to him, she had been pestering him for a few weeks prior to that meeting and promised to stop her advances if they had one final time together. They had sex and a few days later, he told me that I shouldn't worry about her possibly pestering us because he had already "fixed" the problem.
  
• Ex girlfriend was not satisfied and kept messaging for him to go back to her with clips of her slashing her wrists, warning him that she would really kill herself, sending goodbye messages, etc. He at first would respond and tried to call her a few times to check if she was still alive but ended their conversation after he had mailed her remaining stuff back to her (a few essentials: IDs, etc.) After that, she waited for him outside his house several times to beg either inebriated or sober. Other times she would send messages through financial apps with those short messages because he had blocked her on everything even GMail.
  
• He says he doesn't want to go back to that relationship because of how emotionally draining it was. I can vouch for this detail because he had been saying this even before we liked each other, and I had seen their correspondences with each other over the years. She had an unbelievable amount of fake accounts she would cycle through because she would get verbally abusive (you're ugly, you deserve none of the success you have right now, posting his nudes, sending wrist slicing videos, you're lucky I decided to love you, etc.) and would blow up over seemingly nothing. Her own admission, she would get into fits that would end up either getting them into physical fights or him trying to hug her and sort of hold her down until she calms.
  
• He has her blocked everywhere but would occasionally view her Tiktok. He says he isn't in love with her anymore and does not desire a relationship, just that a part of him still cares for her and feels bad because he had promised that he was never going to leave but did.
  
• Up until recently, she was trying to reach out to my friends (people she does not know) and had been telling them I was a third party. She made a groupchat and asked my friends not to tell me and my boyfriend (they did tell us).
  
• She had messaged me multiple times that she knew where I lived and studied and that she was going to wait for me outside my buildings. I didn't want to talk to her before because I had already seen her tendencies based on their correspondences and her messages to me, and I still don't want to contact her even now. She talks shit about my identity, my vag*na, my deceased parents, everything she can target to get under my skin.
  

My boyfriend is adamant he does not hold romantic feelings for her anymore and that he isn't staying because I'm the safer option (in the sense that I am avoidant and have admittedly blindsided my past situationships/ partners and could very well do the same with him). He tells me he's not settling for me and that he genuinely wants to make our relationship work because he knows he only has one shot with me and that he feels genuine for me. It is easier for the both of us to leave the relationship because both are avoidant people, but he is trying to go against his trauma and avoidant tendencies to remain with me. He just fails sometimes (checking her tiktok, etc.)
Currently, we are very open with one another and have good communication (regular relationship checks, we never get into screaming matches). He has never called me names, he takes responsibility for his actions and has accepted blame for every single event that has happened (the lying, the tiktok, ex's harassment) and has not done those since we discussed each issue. Another is that he has been improving himself and his tendencies that hurt me emotionally as well (fixing problems on his own and only informing me they exist well after the fact, not sharing emotions, etc.). I have trouble vouching for this because we had just become friends later in the previous year, but from what I can logically deduce it is true.
THE PROBLEM, finally. I am losing feelings for him because I feel underappreciated, undervalued, and I genuinely feel like I was his second option. Due to the amalgamation of the things we have faced together, I am misinterpreting the pain from those into distrust for him.
To his credit, and if you remove the harassment problem, he has been a good boyfriend to me. We used to regularly go out on dates (used to because both of us are swamped with work, so now he just invites me to future plans after we finish said work), he cooks me food and pays for my meals whenever I allow it (gifts and gestures like this make me feel like I'm a callgirl so we avoid it), bringing me to events I would enjoy (movie showings, concerts, recreational parks) for free (he pays), is physically affectionate, and accompanies me in my commute everyday to and from work regardless if we have fought each other that day, would physically go to me just to talk, spends hours past his curfew if our serious conversations have not finished, etc.
I genuinely still want to work on my trust for him, I want to gain it back and move past our problems. I want to be able to support him because I do know I would also be fucked up if I came from said experience. I don't want to leave him alone because I empathize with what he has gone through and the effects they have on him, but I don't know how to help him. More importantly, I don't know how to process my own feelings about the matter.
This is an incredibly long post and I realize the easier way would be to leave. But I want to give our relationship a fighting chance before we break up. It's not the smart choice, it's not the beneficial choice either. But it's a choice I'm still considering.
TLDR: Because of harassment and other problems, I feel unloved and underappreciated by my boyfriend and am falling out of love. How do I stop losing feelings for him because of circumstances?

I don't know if it's only me, but this game, while being fantastic, in some areas manages to consistently break years of gaming conventions.
A few examples of the top of my head:

• 500kg bomb does not have a blast radius, it’s like a punch, but when it explodes it looks like it has
• the charger has a weak spot glowing green, but it isn’t, the heavy armored head and front legs are
• the charger is named charger, but can stop and turn and defy physics
• the bile titan has unarmored green belly which explodes but it’s not the a weak point when it starts spitting and exposing it, the heavey armored head is.
• the nursing spewer weak point is the heavy armored head, not the unarmored body
• fastest way to kill bersekers is their crotch, not the glowing red head, but on devastators and hulks it is
• the primary weapon is not primary, you should rely on your stratagems
• eagles are more powerful than something that gets launched from the orbit
• not even going to go into the armor designs vs. their passives (absolutely bonkers)
• weapons line up do not have any distinct trade offs between them so you are aware of their designated destination of use (e.g. no armor penetration, but low recoil, more magazines -> vs. high armor penetration, high recoil, lower magazines)

I’m very sure there is an explanation for each one of these.
But the thing is, it’s just bad design, it’s not intuitive and breaks expectations without any reason at all.
It’s like a joke, if you have to explain it, it’s not that good.