What is it you are trying to gain by peering into the future in matters of Revelation?
How to save your own sorry hide from what is to come? What are you going to do that you couldn't do right here, right now?
Predicting the future is a common practice of witchcraft
We don't have to engage in such nonsense if we simply read the disclosures
Here's a real simple open reading of Revelation:
THE DEVIL AND HIS MESSENGERS SHALL BE UTTERLY DESTROYED
You just heard part of the Gospel and part of the Good News.
Is this earth shattering information for you? Really? You mean you've read all this time and you still think it's about the Pope or the RCC or some supposed guy as thee antiChrist and the NWO and yada yada yada and you haven't even got the one single basic component of the entire END TIME narratives?
The END TIME is about the END OF WHO?
ProTip: Your enemies, unseen, that you bear in your own sorry hides, just like the rest of us
Thumbing my nose at your witchcraft's nonsense

Hello everyone, I apologize in advance if I don't use the correct terminology here or there. My WP (28F) and I (29M) got engaged on our DDay which was 8 months ago. She couldn't really accept the ring before telling about the PA that happened over 4 years ago. It was a kiss (and touching) on three occasions when we were in a LDR at the time. The ring is currently on hold and not on her finger.
We have since decided to try R. I began doing IC and we both also started and are still doing couples counseling. I loved this girl. I bought a ring, which isn't as easy for myself as I'm an overthinker. I know myself enough that I had to be really really sure about this person if I'd want to marry her. This means that it was pretty easy to not just throw this thing away and at least try to R after I learned about the PA. I know my WP enough to assure myself she wasn't trickle truthing when she revealed the news to me. She's a good person, with some childhood issues as well as lingering issues from her previous relationship.
Here are my struggles right now. Even with all that information, I'm starting to struggle with certain aspects of R. I'm finding more things that I don't like about WP now. They could be visual things or personality traits. Is this normal? I'm finding myself in a position where I feel guilty for judging WP's looks and things she does or says. Is it possible that I just loved her more and found those things attractive? I feel like I also became more shallow. I'm starting to ponder about what would others think about me, that I forgave a partner who cheated on me. The internet is relentless in bashing victims of affairs.
I'm feeling a bit weak and frustrated. I know this is a support group, but I consent to direct advice. Let me know if I'm the one being a bit out of line. If it's not within the rules of this subreddit you can DM instead.
Thanks for reading.

24F. Diagnosed with Bipolar II, ADHD, and CPTSD. I'm not even sure I can properly explain this because during depressive episodes (right now and for the past 4 months, in fact, though it's gotten marginally better in recent days) I lose a lot of my ability to write coherently, concisely, and accurately about what I'm feeling. The disconnect between emotion and thought has actually gotten so bad I genuinely cannot even journal anymore. (Coming back after finishing to add: this post alone ended up taking me nearly half the day to complete because I kept having to break and come back to it when my brain wouldn't work, and I often thought about giving up entirely lol.) But that's besides the point.
I had a sort of "eureka" moment during a non-depressive state at one point. That being, "This illness is cyclical. It will come back just as surely as it will eventually go away. Next time it comes, don't fight it."
It came back. I haven't been fighting it. I went from feeling immense, active suffering from constant self-hatred and learned helplessness to feeling dissociated and completely disconnected from my own thoughts, both positive and negative. Most moments are spent feeling nothing but irritability and in the moments where I feel something else, I am thoroughly distracted. My days are filled with distraction. The second I have time alone with my brain, I have crying spells that end in pathetic defeat and it's back to dissociation. "I get it. I get it. I wasn't meant to exist. But I am psychologically incapable of ending my life. I'm already here and I can't do anything about it. I have literally no choice but to continue to try."
Good for me for having that barrier to making rash decisions. But now I feel imprisoned by a life I did not choose. A prison of my own making that I am unwilling to break out of because I am just so. tired. I am aware of how much hard work and commitment it takes to live a fulfilling life with these disabilities. I am keenly aware that it is anything but an easy task and in this state it just does not feel worth it. But it is not an act of bravery that I'm still here in the face of suffering. I'm here because I have no choice.
It always comes back to this, and has since one of my first severe depressive episodes at the age of 14: I am too sensitive, too weak, to exist. So much so that I don't think I was supposed to be here in the first place. I do not, and have never cared about doing something "important" with my life. I have never cared about creating a legacy. I have never cared about being remembered. I have never cared about meaning or purpose in the traditional sense; in this state of mind, my purpose is to just exist, let life happen to me, observe carefully, learn, mimic. And in this state, I've realized I use this information as evidence. Confirmation.
At the end of the day, it seems the answer to this hypothetical is always the same. If there was a console with two buttons: one to continue living as is, and one to make it so I never existed at all, I would always choose the latter. Always. Even when things are good, even with all the luck I've had. The unfairness of life coupled with my weak constitution is inherently incompatible. Negative experiences will always feel more powerful, more real, than anything else.
Which brings me to my hypomanic episodes. They tend to involve extreme productivity, usually starting some large project that I spend every waking moment working on, of which there are many considering how poorly I sleep. I have energy and inspiration that simply cannot be funneled into enough things. I am able to "maintain" (these episodes last anywhere from 4 days to about a month) a superhuman-like "schedule" and "routine" that I would otherwise be incapable of adhering to, and would likely outright despise in ordinary circumstances.
But most notably, most of the time, I have a euphoric feeling about the human condition. I obsess over human suffering and our capacity to withstand it. I convince myself that if something catastrophic were to happen at that very moment, I would be resilient and strong in the face of it. That I could be, and would be, like those who can overcome any adversity at all.
But nothing I've ever been through has suggested that is true. Nearly any negative experience can knock me out of any positive or neutral mood and into a kind of dissociative, vegetative depression. My previous baseline state, where I was able to maintain a realistic and beneficial routine and sleep schedule for nearly 2 months, was instantly derailed, pathetically, by the moment I ended up crocheting too much and injured my left hand for a few days.
This one happenstance triggered a depressive state that I've now been in since March. And I tried to prevent it, really I did. I had enough experience practicing good habits by that point that I tried everything in my repertoire to keep it from spiraling. But it did. And now I'm here. I know better than to think I'm resilient. My window of tolerance is embarrassingly low, and I'm sorry that I don't have the will to strengthen it. Mentally, I am still a scared child hiding in the corner of a dark room from any and all real or imagined danger. And until my brain decides otherwise, (because of course mood changes are the nature of this illness), that's how it will stay.
Part of me believes that even my hypomanic self knows this. I don't know entirely how she operates, if I'm honest. So I've decided to conduct an "experiment."
I know she can't fathom how I think the way I do, and similarly I can't fathom how she thinks either. One is always blind to the other. I need to know whether or not, in my heart of hearts, I still say I would undo my existence. Even when everything inside of me is bursting with energy and life and vibrancy. Because instinct says I've always been this way in any state of mind, but I've never proved it.
So I recorded a short video explaining myself to my future hypomanic and even to my baseline self. Maybe I can find some middle ground between us. Because I have to do something. I have no choice but to do something.

I'm 24M and she's 28F. We are both native Chinese, and I have been studying in the US for 5 years. We met last year in China when I took the summer break (she hasn't been abroad before) and soon fell in love. So we are in LDR now (I've flown back to see her for two months, together we've physically been together for 5 months, and separate for 5 months). She indeed helped me through the most difficult period of my life, as I had depression at the time and was on medication. I think I got out of the condition under her support and love. However, deep in my heart, I always doubt if this relationship will last forever, as I think I'm still exploring my own life, and quite unsure of what my future looks like. She has suggested that she wants to marry me. I really want to tell her about my internal struggles and the idea of marriage actually sounds intimidating to me, but I can't because I don't want to hurt her, because I know once I tell her I don't want marriage she will wonder if I'm not serious on this relationship.
I know many of you may think it's the best to confess my thoughts to her and break up. I've thought about this, but I can't do so, for two reasons: 1. she has a really hurtful dating history, as her two ex-boyfriends hurt her so much, treating her so bad, that she has this inferiority complex that seems ingrained in her heart. She really sees me as a fateful destination of her life, as we have had a lot of good times together. I can't leave her like this, I can't deepen her existing trauma by betraying her. 2. She is from a rather economic-restrained family. She needs to support her parents, one of them suffering from a chronic illness. She works overtime everyday, sometimes plus weekends. If she hasn't met me, her parents would help find her a "ok" husband, which she despises. My point is: I can picture her life after I leave her, which is painstaking, living with a husband she doesn't necessarily love and doesn't love her (she's not physically attractive to most people I guess, but I'm fond of her), and she will spend rest of her life in China supporting her parents. I know this may appear to be my arrogant speculations, but I want to display the harsh reality here. If we continue, I can take her here to the US, I can help support her family by my salary. She has saved me from a dark place, I should do these things for her. It's immoral for me to leave her.
However, I can't keep myself from the thought of pursuing my own life, to me it's an evil thought. I know this sounds so contradictory, so hypocritic, but this is my true state right now.
Really hope for some true advice...what should I do, and what are the best ways to think about this?
Plus: I plan to work here in US after graduate. We have discussed about living abroad in the future, which she kind of objected but I think if we have determination to be together in the future it's not big issue.
TL;DR: I'm unsure about continuing the relationship, also some morality burdens are involved here. We are both Chinese and I'm studying in the US.

It's a lot. And it's nearly 2 years worth. I think given what's happened tonight, I want to get it off my chest. This is a throwaway for obvious reasons....
Partner was in some weird niche group on fb. The admin is a very good friend of his. He made friends with some of the people in the group and chats moved to DMs etc. The admin passed on the number of a woman in the group and they chatted (it later transpired the behaviour youre about to read about happened with multiple men in cluding admin friend). The woman is in a whole different country very far away. They exchanged gifts, talked/video called every day and pretty soon, he was relying on her heavily for emotional support. This happened behind my back. He pulled the old "you would never let me have female friends" chestnut.
Jan 2023, I got covid and a close family relatives health went downhill. My covid resulted in secondary chest infections, chest xrays, multiple tests for all sorts of things and a lot of time off work not being fit for much at all. It was a long recovery and it was all I could do to work and then collapse in a heap at the end of the day. My partner felt like he had the brunt of everything to do around the house (I was still doing a lot but appreciated him sorting food in the evening and never complained). I didnt realise it but he also felt incredibly lonely- he works a solitary job by choice and his work hours meant he was coming home as I was going to bed and I could hardly keep myself awake with the post viral fatigue to spend time with him. I did try, napping when I got back from work to try and be able to stay up later, but it probably wasn't enough and I dropped the ball I guess.
My sick relatives health declined further and they ended up in palliative care before passing in April. I was devastated and he supported me through it but things felt off, I could never quite put my finger on it but definitely off. I mean the fact he called me the other woman's name in bed twice should have been a big red flag but he played it down- jokimg that it was one of his many many girlfriends and he can't help what he does when he's asleep.
What happened shortly after the funeral (2 weeks maybe) was that I came home from an errand and found partner on a video call with this woman. It was awkward AF. He asked me what I was doing home, tried introducing us, she didn't speak and then later complained I was very rude. She's a year younger than my mum and he tried to make out she's a mother figure and a good friend.
The following few days were strange, I was feeling jangled but still trying to get on with everything. We are in June now. He started bringing his work phone in with him and low and behold a message pings up from her- love hearts and all this bull. So it all comes out. They fucking love each other, she persued him and made it sexual. He loves it. I have yet another health issue resulting in small outpaitent surgury, its ok but im dealing with everything and it's a lot. Listening to him talk about her and how angry he feels towards me.
We hash it out. Nothing physical has ever happened obviously, gotta be in at least the same country for that blah blah blah. A lot of hurtful things were said (by him) but ultimately we decided to move on together and part of it was that they had to be NC. In the interests of open clarity and fairness, I emailed info to her husband. I'd have wanted to know. I apparently put her in danger from this which resulted in more anger.
I sought therapy and my health improved and I thought everything was going ok. Booked a holiday together for spring 2024 and, even though I had some blips in response to triggering behaviour, I thought we were doing ok. By Christmas I felt safe about opening up and felt more comfortable like we were back to our old selves. We had a festive blip- he tells me there's no longevity becuase I lost it over shit hidden in a cupboard that she'd gifted him. I need to get over it. He apologises for overreacting. We move on.
Jan 2024, I'm ill again. And it's wiped me out. I'm a mess. March 2024 roles around. Im still not right, struggling with my health and managing everything. Lo and behold, there's an email from her husband in my inbox with a LOAD of incriminating sexual screenshots and videos in a chat between my partner and his wife. Transpires NC never happened, or a least did only for a couple of weeks. He missed her too much. It's been going on again. Behind my back. Interestingly, I could not see him in any of what i was emailed, only her and he is very clear she is a friend and he never did anything inappropriate and had asked her to stop. Most of the time it wasn't like that but when she wanted to be naughty she would. I still stand by the fact friends wouldn't behave like that with boundaries and risking relationships, and if he really didn't want it he'd have put a stop to it.
It has been AWFUL. I insist on NC. He's very worried about whats going to happen to her, husband is allegedly not too nice. Partner is also suggesting that he'd just go behind my back because she's his safe space and he loves her, not in a romantic way mind.... Husband messages me to say they are getting a divorce (there have been several men, from our country- my partner was not as special as he thought). I worry having had it made clear that husband isn't so nice, I figure the news is better off coming from me. I tell him and he asks to be in contact with her.
Now here is where I might have gone wrong. I say to the pair of them to behave like long distance friends, set parameters- no pics, videos, love yous love hearts, whatever. She accepted full responsibility for everything and apologised. He says contact will dwindle over time and it will be ok. He wouldn't hurt me again. I felt like this was the right thing to do and that I could manage it. If they were genuinely just friends and it was her being broken and sad making it weirdly sexual maybe it would be ok, especially as I felt I'd said my piece and gotten some understanding.
I lasted 3 weeks. The contact level was insane. She was the 3rd wheel on our holiday. Honestly, it fucking killed me. I have never been so sad. And I was aware that pretty quickly my conditions of contact had been ignored. I broke down about 3 weeks later and said I couldn't do it anymore. Even with him saying that with the divorce the contact would decrease becuase she'd meet someone else etc. He said he'd cut contact and all he needed to know was that she'd be ok. He gets it done and I am surprised given everything I didnt think it would be an option. He said he knew it was hurting me but didn't do anything about it.
We've been going ok, probably about 3 weeks of realtive peace. Until today. I take a work call and he scuttles into another room and I can fucking hear them in a video call together. Apparently its only very recent- I mean its only been 3 weeks🤦🏻‍♀️. Apparently he's very lonely and doesn't want a miserable life of being monitored all the time. The trust is broken and its me thats dragging it out. Seems me saying I couldn't cope with them being in constant contact makes this my fault becuase he just misses her all the time.
So yeah. Hes downstairs on the sofa, messaging her. And I'm upstairs venting to you guys becuase WTF.
I'd do a TLDR but honestly, how?!

Everyone, A channel that I manage is about to hit 100k Subs (99,701 right now) which is a humbling moment I have been at this for over 7 years on other channels (only on thos channel for 6 months).
But I wanted to post this and say IF YOU REALLY HONESTLY WANT TO DO IT THEN DONT QUIT. You may just be barking up the wrong tree keep and open mind. I went from a tech channel gaining 1 or 2 subscribers a video to now working in the firearms industry making hundreds and thousands of subs per video.
I work with a team now, I have a fantastic editor, thumbnail guy, and people to help manage the channel with me.
I am the lead on the channel which feels great, but can't take all the credit... either way I will leave my story below so you can read through it if you want. The skills I learned on my own and got good at in my free time as a hobby are now what I do for a living.
I suppose after a few years of being here on NewTubers, I may not be so new anymore. Regardless if anyone needs help with anything let me know (dm me or comment) and I wil respond .
If anyone wants proof the channel is called CF Clips. Feel free to stop by and say hello.
" 7 years ago I started a small channel called BAD Tech & Gaming (now BAD Tech Unlimited).
I gained 2k subscribers in nearly 3-4 years posting 400+ videos and learning from each and every one. I made Tech reviews and gaming content in overly crowded spaces so I saw moderate success. Meaning I really was once a small NewTuber, still am in some areas. (You can literally see my progression)
NOW I work with a Company called Classic Firearms (they have a yt channel w/ 1.4 million subs) and am the person running a channel called CF Clips at 78k Subs. I gained over 3-6 months 51k subs and wow does it feel great. All my hard work put in on my own channel paid off as I now have a great job working for a great company.
I say this to give you guys hope, if being a YouTuber is really something that you want to do then stick with it and learn EVERY CHANCE YOU GET!
I'm still not a massive channel or the best youtuber out there but I feel as though I can give some advice to those who are struggling. Really look at your Content Category, is that the best place for you? I took what I was doing with Tech Reviews and applied them to Firearms proving a business model to a already established company who would then support me as I continue to grow as a creator and a Youtuber.
Sometimes the path you think you need to be on is not quite right. Something needs to change and that change can feel impossible to know. I still have a long way to go to become one of the greats in my category BUT I will leave you with a quote that got me through all those 5am live streams many years ago.
"The heart of a champion is a light switch that's always on, it doesn't go on and off when someone is watching IT'S CONSTANT." "

I am sick and tired of not progressing. I turned 25 last week. For the last 2-3 years I’ve been trying (very inconsistently) to achieve financial freedom.
I want to be able to quit my day job, that’d mean having an income of around 1300€/month on my own. (Right now my extra income is of around 200€/month)
Most of the time I loose time scrolling, just to finish the day with a 100 tasks sitting on my mind (and notebooks) that I know could help me progress or develop my health.
The truth is that I currently suck big time at being responsible for myself. I am EXHAUSTED.
However every day I show up at work, and at every job I’ve had I’ve been really good at.
I feel like I need: a) a super clear to do / path b) something to own it to to be responsible and do the work.
I am also so good at helping people plan, organize, brainstorm and at seeing the bigger picture for a project. So here again comes my question.
Can we help each other progress?
• I am looking for someone to partner with, & act as personal managers for each other.
Something like: • Weekly call to do our schedules and assess progress. • Helping each other creating clear to do lists. • Keeping each other on top of what’s real, what’s happening, and how much we can do the work each week.
Not only with business development but overall goals. I have interest in learning Swedish & Breathing theory, and just recently started going to the gym (this month I’ve slip so much).
If you think we can help each other out, comment here to connect :) also general advice on how to start or whatever you want to say here is welcomed. This is my first time posting ahhh.
For some context: I’m a certified/trauma informed breathwork coach and tarot reader. I have experience instructing and guiding since almost 6 years now, but in the outdoor industry. Anywho. I decided to focus on this because it changed my life: I haven’t had asthma in 3 years, cured my acne, can now run without dying, sleep great, lost weight, experience presence more often than not, and got out of sleeping 18h / day to avoid being here. I have now guided more than 200 people, I practice every day, people around me are interested in what I do, I teach at a very nice and unique studio in the city.
I work 35h a week as a barista, half of my pay goes to renting a room in Barcelona. I don’t want to end the year this way. I’m Venezuelan, I want to have the freedom to help my parents & friends progress. Can we help each other progress?

So for most of our relationship (four years), my partner has been switching jobs and had some bouts of being unemployed. While he did keep his last job for about a year, it was a job with no benefits (like vacation and sick leave or any yearly extras).
In the meanwhile, I've been grinding my way through with a difficult three shift job with the same company, doing overtimes and ultimately climbing my way in the corporate ladder to a somewhat comfortable position with normal working times and acceptable paycheck.
The financial burden has mostly been on me for all this time. I've always been covering the rent alone and I got the best place I could afford for us, but it's far from good. I've been paying for all trips (he does not ask to go on any, but I personally can't stand not having a vacation at least once a year, because I don't know what I'm even working for then). Granted, he helps with groceries and his family often invites us for meals, but I also often provide food for both of us.
He also struggles with depression, and during his last bout of unemployement, he had a particularly dark period. At some point after that, he said he realized he needs to provide as well and we need to have a constant income, and he got serious about finding a job with normal contract and solid paycheck. When he finally did land one, I was over the moon and we also started planning moving into a bigger place.
But, when he started working and signed the contract, he immediatelly started saying how much he hates the job and started applying to different ones. His reasons for hating it are that they're using shitty software and he doesn't like the work environment. So he got an offer from a different company for a different job with minimum wage. He thinks he would ultimately be able to progress there and make more than he does on current one and he does have long-term plans to specialize in something else. He also thinks he could still cover half of the rent if we get a bigger place.
However, based on my work experience, I'm very sceptical of this new job providing any kind of stability and I don't think it's financially viable, nor that the people in charge really care about people working under them (I think they just want to get away with paying them as little as possible). The current one might have it's flaws, but it provides substantially more money that would increase our quality of life.
I love my partner to death and he is the most important person in my life. We click on many other levels and I can't see myself spending my life with anyone else. Ultimately, I want him to be happy. But, I'd be lying if I said my needs were being met for years now and I have a crippling fear that life will pass me by without being able to travel and explore the world. At the same time, I hold back from speaking my concerns most of the time because I don't want to affect his mental health negatively.
Right now, I don't know if I should give the new job the benefit of doubt and let him do his own thing or insist that it's not a good idea. I don't want him to be unhappy at his current job, but I don't know want to put my life on hold anymore either. I also have no idea what we would do if I lost my job, which can happen in this hectic world.
TL;DR - Partner is leaving a well paid job he just got for a minimum wage one; the financial burden has been on me througout the whole relationship and I'm worried this act means it will be on me for years to come. I don't want him to be unhappy at his current job (that would provide financial stability), but I don't know if I can continue putting my life on hold either. What do?

Got the Kingdom of Ireland formed and feel so satisfied with it. I am pretty new to the game and this is the first run where I felt like I intentionally made stuff happen.
Diplomacy based RP run. Made a good few strong allies early in with Bavaria, England, some strong French vassals. Gave me a lot of space from my Irish rivals and would-be Norse challengers. My strength at peak (around 15 years in) was at 20k+ stacked against my strongest threat coming in around 5-8k soldiers.
Really played into the gregarious trait, made a lot of friends including the catholic pope early on (for gold injections) and held a middling to decent court with an Excellent marshall. Played the county control game while I slowly vassalized most of the Irish land holders. Only waged two short wars internally.
Realised pretty quick that Insularism was delaying me diplomatically, so went on a short pilgrimage and converted my faith and that of my house members to Catholicsm. I’m sure I could have played the long game and taken Insularism through but I didn’t see any RP reasons not to convert as I was playing a socialite ruler who saw through the folly of needless war.
In amongst all this a few plagues afflicted us. I had a brilliant physician who controlled them well. I also built one set of hospices in Luimneach.
My first wife bore me four children. She and my fifth born child died during labour.
Increased legitimacy via hunts, the aforementioned pilgrimage and by holding Bavaria well in their defensive war.
Now I’m close to 60 alliegances are dwindling due to allies old age. England has had Robert succeed who is weakening by the month. I am still a strong player militarily in Europe now especially with Ireland united. So I can see the angle to unite Britannia and set Irish culture as a global force.
I am sure I still have no idea what I’m doing!!!!
House is burgeoning, the Kingdom is formed. I feel good about it! But I’m sure it will go to shit when my son inherits. Such is life :)

Background
My partner and I have been saving into a lifetime ISA for the last few years to purchase a house. At the end of 2022 we decided it was a good time to go ahead with a house purchase. We shopped around and found a nice new build in the first phase of a housing development. We were under the assumption it would take 6-8 months to complete due to what we had been told by the developer and the estate agent.
6 months passed, then a year passed and so on, we are still waiting. It turned out there were some legal issues with the developer's laying of the road. I'm unsure of specifics. Anyway, this lead to a great delay. This gave us some time to think, and we have decided we would like to live abroad (for at least 1 year, but with the possibility of it being permanent).
We have around £55k total between our lifetime ISAs for the deposit and the house has an agreed sale price of £275k. This remains unpaid until the developer can sort their legal issues. Right now I am only out £1k for the new build reservation fee, and thankfully not my entire deposit.
In the meantime, the developer has started building the second phase of the development. Another identical property (with less land) is now sale agreed for £295k, £20k more than we have an agreement to buy ours for.
Some other caveats is we have kitted out the house with upgrades as it is a turnkey new build. So if and when the purchase does happen, we will be paying £275k and an additional £12k for upgraded flooring, kitchen etc.
I'm really just looking for some thoughts, experiences and opinions here.
Is it worth buying this house when it is possible for £287k total, and then reselling it immediately for a higher price of £295k (or possible more due to higher quality finishing)? Will the price of the mortgage per month (~£1k) and fees offset any of the profit I could potentially make if the sale takes some time?
Or would I be better letting my lifetime ISA grow with interest and if I ever come back to the UK use it then?

So, i am a practically recent student started on spring 2024. I have done these 3 courses, ISYE6501 on micromaster , and CSE6040,MGT8803 on spring, got an A on all and want to share my opinion on them.
Also i am right now taking Simulation and MGT6203 any tips for them?
ISYE6501: My first class and my favourite from these 3, The professor was amazing and the class was the right one for introduction. The concepts are too general and i really love the ideas and the thinking behind the teaching methods, not focusing on the theory but on the practical use of the concepts learned. The homeworks and peer grading is strange, you will more likely get 90% with barely some work but it's comepletly hard to get an 100% you need a very good presentation not really matters what work you done , it's all about prospective of other students. The exames where tricky and some questions very strange stated, like they wanted you to get tricked. Midterm 1 was the hardest one while the next became easier each time. I would suggest to start studying early, and DON'T focus on the proofs and math types but try to understand how to use each model and what happens if you change a variable or what's the purpose of it? Also quizlet flashcards were a very big help. ( also the R part on homeworks was easy not really need to learn something complex)
MGT8803: Really don't like the many subjects in one class format, neither the every 3 weeks test . But to tell you the truth, everyone said too much to learn and such a memory class, i have a bad memory and got a 97% overall with average studying. Finance and accounting are the hard stuff, Finance was pretty hard to learn and put a lot of effort, accounting was the first class and was too much to learn in short period of time. But the exams are fairly easy, and the rest of the classes are like 4-5 hours studying per week and you are good to go. Watch the TA and professor recordings and you will be ready for most midterms and actually have a good idea of what's going to happen. Also Bob Mayers on supply chain is my favourite teacher till now , absolutely love this guy the live sessions with him were amazing. Overall easy class , with 2 hard subjects, study early for accounting and finance and use excel and learn how to solve every exercise from the self assesments and you will have at least a 80%.
CSE6040: Professor was good and when he did the classes actually had much fun watching them but the rest classes were blunt and not very informing about what we have to learn. This class was hard, you need to learn to be good on python , actually good not just copy paste master and you need to learn how to have a programming thinking. The midterm 1 was with average 10 so that's tell you enouth , second midterm they screwed up with the long memory and lagging issues and they put 100% SQL problems so that didn't go well but they did a generally curve. The last midterm was a little rough but for someone with no background python knowledge , i scored a 100% overall so that means if you study enough you can too. But be careful, this class need time commitment. The TAs were amazing and very helpful, the best on all classes till now. Also they had these bootcamp sessions every week that they teached and show step to step every coding needed to succed so you have no excuse that you didn't know how to solve something, also they hint many times what's important for the upcoming midterm on these sessions , so unless you are a pro programmer WATCH THEM,and also solve all the past midterms and homeworkds available and you will be on the go for an easy A.

So I have been battling an anal fissure for 7 months now. Using conservatory methods and oinments nifedipine, diltiazem. The fissure seemed to be healing and then re-teared for no apparent reason. About 2 months ago a skin tag developed so I knew it is the moment when fissure became chronic. The last month pain was way better because I managed to keep stool soft with stool softener.
In January I had a colonoscopy to exclude something else and they said I have internal hemorrhoids.
Since then I have been to several proctologists trying to fix the AF. Some said I have grade 1-2 hems, some said my hemorrhoids are not too big to worry. When I realised the AF become chronic I accepted that in order for it to heal I have to do something more (cleaning the scar tissue and the skin tag)
One surgeon proposed me fissurectomy, skin tag removal and Botox. He said if the fissure does not heal or retareas after this, it will be because of hard stool. (Although it re-teared before and I had good stools.. so this made me a little frustrated since I knew I have been very careful with what I was eating)
Other surgeon said I have internal hemorrhoids and he wants to rubber band them. He said that because of hemhorroids the anus tends to need to open way more than usual in order for a BM to pass. So he said without fixing hemorrhoids first the anal fissure will retar. He said rubber branding has no risks (he even wanted to perform one band right there at the first meeting with him). But I wonder if I really need that... As I have read the recovery is long and painful. And I also did not have hems simptoms before the anal fissure.. maybe sometimes a little itching but no bleeding, no prolapse
I am sooo confused since I do not want to make any unnecessary interventions but I also want to heal my AF...
For people who deal with both AF and internal hemorrhoids, what did your doctor say about this?? Who needs to be treated first hems or AF? Can AF heal even if you have hems?
I have the strange sensation I read some doctors won't touch the hemorrhoids until the fissure is gone. If this is true, does this doctor want me to do the opposite??
PLEASEEE HELP

Hey all, here is my scenario and current plan would love people to question my thought process.
Goal = Get off the treadmill, although still happy to work / consult but slow the pace down a bit enjoy more family time, Get a meaningful positive cashflow from investments.
38, Married with 1 kid (no more incoming).
PPOR = $1.8M (owe $0.69 cents (just cos) on $700k mortgage which can be redrawn. )
Shares = $1.4-1.5M after CGT in my company (way too high risk for me).
HHI = $200-220k pre tax (lower than alot of you, but partner has started new business which is starting to grow)
Yearly Expenses = $70k (can save around 50k per year after expenses). Potential for private school in 4 years, maybe..........
Plan
Sell $750k'ish of shares (after CGT) invest in commercial property ($2-$2.5M range, a good long lease,) with a net yield estimate 6%. Net cashflow around $30k-38k per year (not included capital growth). This will be purchased in a Discr. Trust with Corporate trustee to divy out the income.
Take $500k-600k of the last of the shares and sell down over the next 6 months place into some ETF's. Then add the extra 50k per year into the ETFs. Lets say $24k per year at a 4% withdrawal rate.
Leave 100k in High interest for commercial property issues and life things.
Whilst I'm working, the net income from the commercial property pays off it's mortgage.
Worst case, the above would provide me with $55k per year in income, with $70k expenses. Meaning I have the flexibility to take a lower paying role, and still save and still have growth in my investments.
I'm not really touching the equity in my house at all as it's a safety net, but I could potentially look at using against another investment down the road and debt recycle. I could potentially leverage more tbh.
The above plan spreads my NW risk across, my house, commercial property, and the Market (ETFs), and gives me flexibility and cashflow over the coming years to find a job that aligns more, figure out my next steps and reduce any major stresses.
What are people's thoughts?

I was with my ex for nearly 2 years we come from a culture and religion where marriage is the ultimate and we don't just date for fun. The whole relationship was a whirlwind and I'm not usually a trusting person but with him he was telling me he loved me a 2 week into the relationship. Needless to say the rest we moved very fast constant dates constant soppy I love youse and I really could be myself around him, he was my first real relationship at 25 he was 24.
Within maybe 2 months I noticed he would lie about stupid silly things which really bother me because I hate it when people lie I caught him out a few times and he would cry and say he couldn't live without me and I would always end up staying,, I had a bad feeling one time and contacted his ex girlfriend who said they were still in contact now I'm not sure whether she lied about that or whether he lied. Regardless I continued to be with him as he cried and said she was lying then I found he was sending pictures of other girls to his boys group chats with really horrendous messages on what he wanted to do to them and would say it's 'boys banter' it did get toxic and became a cycle of lies crying and me being moody. He was unemployed when I met him and I worked really hard to do his applications and prepped him for interviews which resulted in him getting the job he wanted. it wasn't all bad we had some really good times too and that led us to get the families involved to get married his family didn't like me because I was from a different caste and he essentially fought to get married to me. We were so close our deposits down on venues and everything and had our wedding in 5 months. Something in my gut wasn't right and I did some digging and found something else out and before you all start on me for going looking for issues I asked him numerous times to clarify everything so I could draw a line but he just wouldn't and I kept finding things out. I met him 2 days before dooms day and we talked about our honeymoon our wedding and I told him about some health issues I was having and under the care of neurology. He told me he loved me and would never leave me. 2 nights after we argued and I deleted him but this time was different he didn't contact me or anything the next day I contacted him and he was a different person blunt rude and dismissive I asked him to meet me so we could talk in person he came and was just different I was crying whilst he smirked and told me he needed space because it was all too toxic. That same night he messaged other women he met someone 3 weeks after me and told her he loved her within 2 weeks she was his auntys neighbour and his sister in laws friend who were suprise suprise from the same caste. 2 years on and they tied the knot I'm still not over it and people are sick of listening to me crying about it I'm sick of myself doing that all I've done this past 2 years is cry and miss him every day I'm at a point where I don't even want to be here anymore so I can avoid feeling like this. Not to mention I gained weight in the relationship and after due to emotional eating I haven't dates since I've been to therapy numerous holidays nothing works. I have adhd and awaiting medication for that but I feel like I'll never get over it whilst they got married and moved into their new house living their happily ever after

Little context, while I enjoy playing certain Pokemon, I have a lot more fun when we win, regardless of whether I'm playing my favourite Pokemon or not, so usually Im happy to pick based on both team comps. (I don't play a lot of support yet, only hoopa, but planning to grab some soon as I get some aeos coins, supporters look more real after you actually hit masters and have good teammates sometimes lol, umbreon is like the pseudo exception ig, which i play a lot)
However this time after having 8/9 games in a row where I was reduced to the defender role, as an attackeSpeedster main I was a bit fatigued and wanted to try and play a dps or a mage, just a squishy / glass cannon in general. I got lucky and got the top pick in the draft (I'm 1600+ on master so most games I get are draft). Went ahead and picked garde, given that my team hasn't prepicked any attackers or anything yet, and was relieved to finally get a mage game. However my team then proceeds to pick gren, cinderace sableye, deci and you can imagine how that game went. Next game similar thing happens, where I grab leafeon, and my team picks grief mons again and we are essentially force forfeiting after 6 minutes because they've already scored 700 and were yet to scratch a goal and we literally have no way to counter KO. Having my frustrations built up, I just ended up picking zard the next game and trying to jungle invade and do really dumb stuff to just try and vent and have a little joy, which my team cursed my out for (fairly tbh, wouldn't want to be in that situation either).
The question is, i understand the occasional cinderace, greninja picks, even in masters sometimes you just wanna have fun, but what I don't understand is the sheer volume of these knuckleheads, and I feel like at some point even though I really enjoy the game, I'm very hesitant to queue up, just because I know there's like a 75% chance that there's someone who's gonna pick whatever they're gonna pick in draft regardless of team comps, which I'm honestly sick of at this point.

Christians are to love The Lord their God with all their Heart and Soul and Strength and Mind. This is the basis of Christianity. What does it mean to love God with your soul? What is the soul? Soul has a lot to do with identity. I would like to talk about identity politics; however, there is a learning curve. Someone may need to understand The Soul.
Discovering The Soul
When someone is talking about The Soul, which Soul are they referencing? Plato and The Soul? Abstract Philosophy God and the Soul? The Bible, and how The Bible references The Soul? Working to explain The Soul and The Bible, I have worked to do so in a way that your average person may be able to understand, and find or feel their soul. He are starting with a perception, we postulate that the Soul is a person, and has to do with decision making and identity, and given scripture, and various media or cultural references of The Soul, we may be able to see if we are right, and a bigger picture.
Given you understand what The Soul is in the Bible, someone may begin to understand exorcism. They may understand Identity Politics, and what it actually is in spiritual warfare. They may come out with greater understanding of creation and God.
The Basis of Christianity

• 5 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.. (Deuteronomy 6:5)
• He answered, "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'" (Luke 10:27)

Song to Preface this: Heuy Lewis "Heart and Soul."
What is a Soul? A soul is a person. Given a The King of Salem had 50 Souls, he had fifty persons or servants. How did they identify themselves? Possibly as a servant of The King of Salem in some way. Loving The Lord with all your SOUL, may have to do with identity. Who was someone serving? Was someone a Servant of "Something Else" or a Servant of God? A child of God? A son of God? These may be good things to be as a Christian looking to love God with your Soul or identity.
A couple years ago I lived in walking distance from Duke University. Given someone was a Duke fan, or Duke Alumni, or had a lot of Duke Paraphernalia, they may have loved Duke University. How did they love Duke University? They loved Duke with their Soul or Identity. Someone with a Duke T-Shirt may be saying something about who he is, or was, or would like to be. When Duke wins or has done well in basketball, someone who loved Duke with their Soul or identity, they may have rejoiced? They felt good? In their soul, they rejoice, and feel a sense of happiness. That is where the soul is. Given anyone has been a sports fan at some point, and has identified as a fan of ___________ their soul rejoices when their team does well. Given I was to look up Soul in a Bible concordance, there are many of these feeling or sensing type verses where the soul is a place inside someone where there is passion. Someone loving God with Their Soul in a world of materialism and commercialism may have given up their Nike and Adidas, to be more as "Plain as John the Baptist?"
Given a musician signed a record contract, and said record contract was very strict, did said musician "Sell their Soul?" Given a musician has to sing all the songs said record company tells them to, and be at A or B place at a certain time, as said record company tells them to, and said musician has very little free will, would that be "Selling The Soul?" Given the record company was a servant of "The Purple Gang," or Kabbalists, or some other group not serving God, that may have been someone selling their soul to the devil? When we get the basics of what the Bible describes the Soul to be, there are a lot of interesting topics that come up. The Truth hurts. Knowledge brings sorrow. Ignorance is bliss? Their is freedom in The Lord.
The Soul and Identity.
True Statements:

• The Song of Songs is in the Bible as a representation of God's Love for Israel or The Church.
• In the New Testament, The Church is a Bride for Christ.
• Christ is to man as a man is to woman or Christ is the head of man as man is the head of woman. (1 Corinthians 11:3)

Marriage has been an important part of The Bible and Faith and growing in understanding.

Woman is meek before her husband. Man is meek before God. A woman loving her husband with her heart and soul may have taken his name. She is forging a new identity as Mrs. _____________. A married woman with a hyphenated last name is one foot in, one foot out? Who or what does she love more? Her husband or Feminism? Maybe she didn't quite want to leave her family and her old identity behind as a single female or "Daughter of?" Feminists tend towards socialism. Is a woman really married to her husband or more married to The State? Woman is meek before her husband. A man is meek before God.
Looking at the Soul like this, someone may be able to see God. (And Satan.) The Truth hurts. Knowledge brings sorrow. Ignorance is bliss?
Spirits
Given we are coming into an understanding of The Soul, what are Spirits? Spirits effect motivations. Here is a short list of some spirits mentioned.

• Deaf and dumb spirit (Mark 9:17-29)
• Lying spirit (II Chronicles 18:20-22)
• Perverse spirit (Isaiah 19:14; Romans 1:17-32)
• Seducing spirit (I Timothy 4:1)
• More at: https://www.christcenteredmall.com/teachings/evil-spirits.htm

What are these Spirits doing? They are influencing. They are effecting motivations. Someone with a seducing spirit or spirit of prostitution may have been on tinder in the wrong way? Someone with a lying tongue may have been a habitual liar? Someone with one of these spirits, their character may have been molded a certain way. Their soul, who they are, may have been molded to something. Part of their identity, even if it was subconscious, may have been molded to something. Some Spirits are generational. They may have been passed down from Generation to Generation. There may have been generational curses on some families. (Deuteronomy 5:9) Some spirits someone may have picked up by being in sin, and being unrepentant. Someone's Soul or character may have been molded around something.
Given someone has God's Holy Spirit, they say "Jesus is Lord." They may tend to think about God, and talk about God a lot, and be prone to God-centric activities. Their Soul, and God's Holy Spirit, overtime, may have entwined. They are "One with God" leading towards an understanding of Theosis.

I was with my ex for nearly 2 years we come from a culture and religion where marriage is the ultimate and we don't just date for fun. The whole relationship was a whirlwind and I'm not usually a trusting person but with him he was telling me he loved me a 2 week into the relationship. Needless to say the rest we moved very fast constant dates constant soppy I love youse and I really could be myself around him, he was my first real relationship at 25 he was 24.
Within maybe 2 months I noticed he would lie about stupid silly things which really bother me because I hate it when people lie I caught him out a few times and he would cry and say he couldn't live without me and I would always end up staying,, I had a bad feeling one time and contacted his ex girlfriend who said they were still in contact now I'm not sure whether she lied about that or whether he lied. Regardless I continued to be with him as he cried and said she was lying then I found he was sending pictures of other girls to his boys group chats with really horrendous messages on what he wanted to do to them and would say it's 'boys banter' it did get toxic and became a cycle of lies crying and me being moody. He was unemployed when I met him and I worked really hard to do his applications and prepped him for interviews which resulted in him getting the job he wanted. it wasn't all bad we had some really good times too and that led us to get the families involved to get married his family didn't like me because I was from a different caste and he essentially fought to get married to me. We were so close our deposits down on venues and everything and had our wedding in 5 months. Something in my gut wasn't right and I did some digging and found something else out and before you all start on me for going looking for issues I asked him numerous times to clarify everything so I could draw a line but he just wouldn't and I kept finding things out. I met him 2 days before dooms day and we talked about our honeymoon our wedding and I told him about some health issues I was having and under the care of neurology. He told me he loved me and would never leave me. 2 nights after we argued and I deleted him but this time was different he didn't contact me or anything the next day I contacted him and he was a different person blunt rude and dismissive I asked him to meet me so we could talk in person he came and was just different I was crying whilst he smirked and told me he needed space because it was all too toxic. That same night he messaged other women he met someone 3 weeks after me and told her he loved her within 2 weeks she was his auntys neighbour and his sister in laws friend who were suprise suprise from the same caste. 2 years on and they tied the knot I'm still not over it and people are sick of listening to me crying about it I'm sick of myself doing that all I've done this past 2 years is cry and miss him every day I'm at a point where I don't even want to be here anymore so I can avoid feeling like this. Not to mention I gained weight in the relationship and after due to emotional eating I haven't dates since I've been to therapy numerous holidays nothing works. I have adhd and awaiting medication for that but I feel like I'll never get over it whilst they got married and moved into their new house living their happily ever after

just looking for other ppls perspectives maybe support idk idk what to do
~rant/vent~
🔍I had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc i’m really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like i’m gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. I’m not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
🔬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she ain’t ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isn’t right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (she’s also made many comments before this situation like “you seem like you need to get back on ur medication you’re being irritable” etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made i’m sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldn’t possibly be me that’s writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say “it feels like i’m being abused” GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) it’s honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. i’ve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like that’s a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasn’t what I wanted, bc i’m feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! i’m way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping it’s not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
⚛️ she can’t see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as “you don’t know me” “i’m a good person” “i have a good heart i love everybody” etc or blame everything on me for examples “we do everything for you” “you’re going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for you” etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so it’s fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card “you’re abusing me” “it feels like you are abusing me” “we feel like we can’t say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you it’s exhausting” she knows damn well I’m not abusing her in any way shape or form that’s disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. “do you want to hurt us? is that your goal” “you’re destroying the family” “you’re destroying our marriage” etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didn’t do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc it’s been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how i’m not okay with it i internalize literally everything (that’s y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah i’d rather internalize then talk to her that’s a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think he’s brainwashed by her so idk that’s just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like i’m exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all this😵‍💫. there’s SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talk🕷️.
🤢they are both closeted RACIST and openly HOMOPHOBIC so you can imagine what they say/have said to me and about other ppl. shit makes me so AHHH. anyways.

During boss fights it really feels like I'm dying without knowing what the hell I'm dying to. I can pretty easily dodge mechanics when there's some kind of indicator that damage is incoming (red on ground) but so many boss mechanics just don't have this.
Two one-shot examples from the chief marauder boss: 1. Does an attack where he lifts his weapon up and slams it on the ground, quaking it, which is long enough that he can do while off screen and still hit you with no way of knowing it's incoming. 2. He does his leap, he charges it.. but there's no indication of where he's jumping to so you just have to hope you're dodging in the right direction.
Can't we get a red incoming damage indicator on the ground like other mechanics?
From watching other players it seems like there's two ways around this: 1. Kill boss faster so you don't have to dodge as much 2. Get enough damage mitigation
Both are basically - get stronger so you don't have to worry about the mechanics anymore. How is this good game design?

Seriosuly, I've been crying tears of joy all these days because this is something I've always wished for, and I can't believe it's happening.! It's almost a miracle for me :') It turns out that my best friend in that awful organization who was PIMQ has continued talking to me on WhatsApp, and she and her husband are becoming more and more disappointed with the organization. They're now at the point where they no longer attend meetings regularly or go out in field service as they used to. And when they do go to meetings, they leave the hall as soon as it ends, like they can't stand it any longer haha. When she told me that (and I've seen it), I couldn't help but feel a sense of relief.
But what caught my attention the most is that she's studying for a diploma in neuroscience and biomagnetism, something that JWs definitely discourage XD. She shared some Instagram reels with me from people versed in this field who share their knowledge about it, and I checked out their profiles. Honestly, if a conventional Witness saw them, they'd run away because these people debunk all their doctrines XD. One of them even has a book called 'The Path of Awakening,' and it makes me very proud to know she's on the right path.
On Sunday, I went to the KH again because, with these changes in her, I'm suspecting that she might feel very lonely there since, besides her husband, she has no one there to support her. So, as a good friend, I made that sacrifice. To my misfortune, the elders who have known me for a long time wanted to talk to me because they've seen me 'active in my works of repentance,' so they took me to the infamous Room B, (or Torture Chamber as I call it)... and man, all the awful memories came flooding back. They told me that I could be readmitted in 3 months if I continued meeting at this pace. They even shared the famous Zoom link for virtual meetings.
When we finished, my friend asked me how it went (she had stayed waiting for me, looking worried), and I told her that I could return in 3 months... to which she told me to think it over carefully, as she clarified that it's not necessary for me to return because now that we've reunited, she's NOT willing to end our friendship even if talking to DFs is not allowed in the future.
Basically, she told me that she's taking a risk by talking to me and she doesn't give a damn about it. In fact, she doesnt give a damn about a lot of things! It really blows my mind tbh... We still can't meet like 'normal' people, for example, spending a weekend at together, etc., because she still has a lot of doubts in her mind, from what I've observed. But as advised by this same community, I've been encouraging her for all this little steps she is taking, and I think she'll continue to wake up more and more in the future.
So that's the summary... I think I'll keep meeting mainly to support her, so I have 3 months to decide if I return for the friendship or if the friendship returns for me xD. What do you all think about this? I want to help her, but it seems that social media and her awakening are doing the job for me xD its insane.
2024 has been one hell of a year for me, probably my favorite in a long time. I can't wait to see what the future holds, and I cant wait for this stupid borg to fall.

The Context:

/Barcelona is the main sub for the second largest city in Spain and the capital of Catalonia. Long a tourist hotspot, much of the local economy is driven by tourism.
OOP posts a picture of graffiti in a park with the message: “Tourist: your luxury trip my daily misery.” [sic]
Users begin debating if this is a fair take, the effect of tourism on the city, and vomiting memes.
For ease of readability to a majority English-speaking audience, I’ve translated some comments from Catalan, poorly.

The Drama:

Is the graffiti expressing a selfish sentiment?

What a selfish, shitty thing to say to someone trying to live their best lives and share a bit of the magic you enjoy everyday.

Love this comment! Not all tourists are bad.

Tourism is unsustainable.

So we should all just stick to the respective cities we’re born in? What a lovely, thriving, multi-cultural society that’ll end up in /s

Not all the cities have the same problems. Responsible tourism is a thing

[Continued:]

Then why don't you vote for politicians that want to improve the situation?
Tourism tax, restrictions on how many people can visit a park/attraction per day, etc pp.
Instead you get nonstop whining on reddit. Or shared bicycles that can only be rented by Barcelona residents. Wow, good job! The tourism tax is at only 4-5€ per night in Barcelona. Compare that to Berlin where it's a whopping 7% soon (which is usually way higher than 5€).

Who did tell you who I vote for or what I do? [If you want we can talk face to face when you want clown]

Oh no, we got a badass over here. [I didn't say anything like that, of course you tourists are the problem if your head lacks intelligence...]

[It's very good to learn Catalan (good luck with what you have left to reach a decent level, I'm really telling you this with love) but don't put words in other people's mouths without knowing. There are many of us here who are fed up with the borderline situation that the city is living in and if you are a privileged person who doesn't get the slightest bit, I would at least ask you to have the decency to keep quiet when it's time to keep quiet]

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No. We should stop travelling at the expense of the plane, the cities and the people's suffering. And locals should resist what makes their lives more difficult. In this case, a tourist model that hikes rents, contaminates and destroys the social fabric of the community displacing people and creating precarious jobs that provide no stability or value. Barcelona can be a great and fun place if you are staying here for a week, or if you are a remote worker that gets paid by a large firm with headquarters in Amsterdam. But that fun can be, and is, disastrous for other people. That search for sun and beach, of parties and stories uploaded to social media causes many problems for others. That's a fact. Non-sustainable tourism is what it is. Tourists and expats (high earning migrants) can be, individually, very nice and conscious folks. But the dynamics they are participating in are the cause of many problems for the city and its inhabitants.
[It's the market, friend.]

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The problem isn't the singular tourist. The problem is suffocating hordes of tourists that treat your home like an amusement park or museum.
Tourism can be a real economic win for a city, but it also has externalities that can kill the very thing that made it special if not kept in check. Barcelona is a great example of this.
I say this both as someone who loves to travel and who lives in a tourist hotspot.

I mean, there is not too much you can do about it besides a ridiculous tax, and that would be a little hypocritical if you love to travel, because traveling should be accessible to the majority of people.
It makes sense to me if you defend the free market, and you put the price on your city or whatever you want to do like a libertarian, but again,it is hypocritical when we see that the political party that won the elections do not like the free market or libertarian politics.
You can't have all.

Woooosh!
That's the sound of everything going over your head

Lmao, it is the definition of being a logical thinker and not being a hypocrite.

Oh sorry, it went so over your head, that you didn't even hear the whoosh.
You're talking politics when I was talking social and economic. So, not much of a logical thinker.
But it doesn't surprise me that Barcelona would vote that way. It's called the resource curse, and by now tourism will have all but killed all other industries. So yeah, they have no choice now. Which is exactly what I was talking about in my second paragraph.

Who are the users of the sub anyway?

Because 90% of the people answering are expats. They don't fucking care about locals, they mostly despise or ignore them. Most of them live in their own English ghettos, not even bothering about anything else that themselves.

Biggest load of horseshit I’ve read all day.
You live in fantasy land and it’s really, really sad to see. I hope you open your eyes one day.

[How is your Catalan?]

[my Catalan is good. not that it matters]
Nobody “despises” Catalans. Every single person I know that has moved here is desperate to get involved with local culture, history and activities. They try their hardest to learn the language. They try their hardest to make more catalan friends.
Classic Reddit perpetual victim.

Is Barcelona dying?

Barcelona is dying. Soon it will be an empty city, a shiny shell of what had once been alive and authentic. The locals can't face the rent prices, the gentrified shops and bars, we are forced to leave our neighborhoods and give up decent housing.

Looking at rent availability and prices - it is very far from dying.

Are you looking at the prices as a foreigner or as a local? Because wages in Spain for most of us are quite poor, so yes, it's really difficult to find decent housing with those prices

And yet people don't do anything like moving away meaning situation is still not that bad.
When things like that happened in my country - a lot of people emigrated for better work and things normalised at home too.
Economy has a way of fixing itself. No workers to serve tourists - higher wages or fewer tourists.

It will only be expats and tourists here and the 10% rich Catalans in the end. Look at the most common local salary from locals in the city.

You're so close to understanding the root of the issue. Yet so far...

Yeah, it's all the fault of the 10% of evil Catalans. OK. Nobody else is responsable or can do anything.

[Continued:]

Think a little bit harder. You can do it.

[You're enlightening, kid.]

I give you the answer because you're obviously struggling. It's the wages. Your salary is shit, and there's no excuse for that because you live in a rich region, of a rich country, part of a rich continent.
And once again, one of the greatest success of those profiteering is to turn people like you into the useful idiots by pointing the finger to people from your own social class: in this case, the Ryanair flying middle to low income tourists (yeah, far from luxury holidays), who are the majority of the people visiting this city. And with whom you have much more in common than you realize.
While prices have increased, as it did everywhere around the globe, Barcelona remains a cheap city. And that's exactly the reason why it is such a popular destination across the spectrum of tourists, and especially with low income ones.
So, if you really want to change something, start asking yourself why wages are so low in such a rich region. And at an individual level, negotiate (like I did) an income worth your efforts. And if it's still not enough, keep in mind that 80% of the properties are owned by locals.

You don't know shit about how I fight, or any people like me for a more fair society. Probably way more than you. But this post is about overtourism and touristification. I can care about multiple things and fight multiple fights.

Then this conversation is over, you don't have the intellectual bandwidth to understand something as simple as how low wages are linked to the problem you blame "the tourists" for. Also, if me, an immigrant from a poor Caribbean country, is able to live significantly better than you in a place where I arrived few years ago without speaking the language, ask yourself the right questions about your fighting abilities, and probably your life choices.

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Lol you know shit about who I am, my life choices, or the money I earn. Your comment is funny.
I'm a socialist. I care about my family and friends, about people who had less oportunities than me. I despise people who only think about themselves, or fight only for themselves. The last part of your comment says a lot about you. Bye.

Sure, keep telling yourself that you're a socialist while defending a xenophobic agenda benefiting the ruling class. Like I said, useful idiots like you are what's keeping the system on its feet. Great work 👍

A user is crowned king:

When your own city becomes overcrowded all the time and you can’t afford to live in the center because it’s so expensive due to tourist/expats money inflating the market, it doesn’t matter how much money “the city” makes from tourism, your individual life is affected very negatively and you live worst off than with less tourism. I’m not even a local, but this is not hard to understand.

can’t really blame tourists for systemic issues

Erm, says who, you, the king?
If local wages are lower than abroad (not ideal but would be ok in its own, it’s still better than my own country) but due to how attractive the weather and culture is, people from other countries with much higher wages flock here and destroy the market, either by paying much higher (making it impossible for locals) or buying properties to rent (know many who do this, buy something, live in it 3 months of the year, and rent to other expats the rest of the year) - who’s fault is? The locals? lol

then fight for wages, not tourists.

This is why the locals hate you lol

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This is why I don't care bro.
[Photo of a beach]

What are you trying to prove? I’m not even a local, I just have more than a brain cell and understand why the locals blame the tourists, which is what was being discussed.

Nothing mate, I just really don't care who hates me. That is my day everyday at 11 am.

You care enough to have made now 3 comments that are totally irrelevant to what was being discussed.
“I don’t care. I swear. I promise! Let me show you that I don’t care. I really don’t care I swear”.

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People working in tourism related jobs mostly work part-time, have no indefinido contracts and earn minimum wage. You can google that.
Some people are getting rich by tourism, most people are just surviving in it.
But of course 'expats' and tourists who represent most of the sub members and not local or immigrant workers are going to upvote your out of touch comment.

Some of these people need it to survive though

Not the Airbnb owners obviously

I have an Airbnb and I need it to survive.

Get a job.

What is misery?

Misery is that your old neighborhood is full of souvenir shops and none of your friends even live there anymore.

Shut the fuck up, Spain has one of the highest living standards in the world. You’re mad because other people want to visit and have a bit of it in their shitty lives? Spain has it so damn good, the thing youre complaining about is literally a problem around the entire developed world and isn’t necessarily any worse or unique to Barcelona. Stop being so damn dramatic and accept that your ‘misery’ is just you disliking seeing foreigners happy.

If you can afford spending hundreds of euros in partying and Airbnbs, why is their life so shitty? Leave your jobs and come work here as a server, try to rent anything with the minimum salary. Barcelona can be a paradise, but the tourist model is making it a hell for the majority.
Yeah, the market is being a problem for everyone everywhere. Now, people in Barcelona have to fight against the effects of the market in the city. As everybody should do in their home cities. A Barcelona for those who build their lives there, not for those who wish to consume and toss it.

Something tells me, me, a guiri, leaving my job and working in Barcelona makes Catalans even more mad than if I were just visiting.

And that something is in the room, here with us?
in fact if you live and work in Catalonia you are a Catalan. so this comment makes 0 sense at all.

Who’s to blame anyway?

Classic losers playing the victim card. Without tourism beautiful Barcelona's economy would be destroyed. But please keep blaming your shortcomings on others.

Barcelona was beautiful before tourism.

If you live in Barcelona, enjoy it. It is and will always be beautiful, and if you truly believe otherwise you are wasting the time you have in one of the world’s greatest cities. Times are tough, yes, but remember that people are also having tough times in the middle of nowhere, without any cultural outlets or ability to find likeminded people. Real estate greed is running rampant the world over, and hopefully it will not last.
Be a part of the solution, never travel again please. Just spend the rest of your life in Barcelona like a hermit. Otherwise you're a fucking hypocrite.

Hypocrite is thinking that tourism is good for the locals.

Ok great. Then be a part of the solution and never travel again. It hurts the locals. Been to London? Been to Berlin? Been to Italy? Greece? Cairo? Are you going to stop travelling and seeing the world? Everyone here knows perfectly well that you won't. It's just childish whining

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Hi everyone. I have recently started attending a non denominational house church, after being kicked out of my last church for believing Jesus is the Almighty God. I posted about this and you can read it in my account history if you're interested.
This new church is run by two ex-adventists, and a few of their members are also ex adventists. They are genuinely wonderful, lovely people and are very kind to me. They seemed to have renounced adventism and left because they wanted to follow "truth" which is what i was drawn to, and i travelled a great distance to be with them - but, sadly yet again i've found myself in a place with teachings i don't understand/am concerned about, this teaching here is now that Jesus is not YHVH, that he is the "begotten son" in the sense he was "brought forth" at some point in time, so he is not co equal or co eternal but is still divine and shares the father's nature, but is not the "almighty" God, which they seem to believe is only the Father. They seem to believe YHVH Almighty is only the Father, the Son is some sort of other divine being who shares the nature of the father but somehow is not YHVH. They say the bible speaks nothing about a triune God and it's Catholic etc. I'm beginning to think they have not renounced adventism and this is just adventist theology and i've been deceived again.
Can anyone tell me what is this teaching? I'm despondent at this point and feel like giving up on finding anywhere that teaches what i actually believe is written in the bible - that there is ONE GOD who is made up of 3 persons. To me this is CLEAR in scripture. It doesn't need to be spelled out, it's so clear to me when i read it.
Can someone still be saved believing this stuff? Is it heresy? Do i have to run away AGAIN from another heretical group or does God just not care and would rather us all get alone and issues like the nature of God don't really matter etc. I'm at the end of it honestly it's just so upsetting