TL;DR: Matched with a seemingly great guy on Bumble, hit it off well, moved to texting and phone calls, only to have him "test" me on our first disagreement about who should pay on dates. Despite forgiving him, he responded with hateful accusations, leaving me to move on from his manipulative behaviour.
Hey everyone,
I need some advice on a situation that’s been bothering me. Here’s the full story:
I (32) matched with this guy (37) on Bumble recently, and we hit it off immediately. We spent hours texting and eventually, we moved to a phone call that lasted several hours. We got along so well that he mentioned he would have liked to take me out that day, but he already had plans with his friends to watch an F1 race and a football match. I appreciated his honesty and told him it was fine, and we continued talking throughout the day, even while he was with his friends. It was going SPLENDIDLY!
However, out of nowhere, he made a condescending comment about my Instagram, saying it looks like he’d have to sell a kidney to take a girl like me out. I found it extremely offensive and told him that while I’m financially comfortable and can pay for myself, I do have standards when it comes to dating. I expect a man who asks me out on a date to be willing to pay for it. If a man doesn’t pay, I see it as going out as friends, and I wouldn’t consider a second date. He then doubled down, saying he was new in town and unsure where to take me because I seemed to have an extravagant lifestyle.
I clarified that I didn’t expect an extravagant first date and had a favourite bar in mind that’s quite economical due to my regular patron status there. But I wasn't sure if I was interested in moving forward with him because this had gotten too weird and uncomfortable for me.
He then admitted he was TESTING me because he has a lot of money and didn’t want to be used for it - Mentioning his FERRARI, while he was at it, which I had frankly assumed was a rental, I didn't give it a second thought or glance. He then said he was very disappointed in me accused me of being like other women who expect men to pay — He called me a Gold Digger in so many words. I found this extremely manipulative, insulting, offensive and downright disrespectful and told him so and asked him to fuck right off! Just for the record - I am also rather well-off. Not only do I make decent money, but my parents are also financially well-off.
Despite my frustration, he apologised profusely and asked for a second chance, claiming he was wrong to test me and that he genuinely wanted to get to know me better. I told him I appreciated the apology but couldn’t get past the disrespect and the implications of his “test.” I made it clear that his behaviour had made me feel judged and uncomfortable, and I didn’t see how we could move forward.
He kept insisting, saying we could laugh about this misunderstanding later and that he’d make it up to me. I reiterated that I didn’t want to feel scrutinised or judged every time we interacted, and that this incident had soured my perception of him. I told him it was best to part ways and ended the conversation. He asked me to sleep on it, and I did.
The next morning, I sent him a text to formally close things off, but on a good note, saying:
"We definitely had a fun and interesting day, but we both know this isn't going to work out! I truly enjoyed our time together and our roller coaster of a conversation. Most people don't even have dates as fun and intriguing as this! But sadly, this is the end of the road for us. I do truly wish you the very best with everything, and I'm glad we ran into each other. Take care and be well! 💗"
He didn’t respond to that text, but he continued to view my Instagram stories, which I found really passive-aggressive. So, I followed up with:
"Hey, I noticed you didn't respond to my last message. I just wanted to say that I tried to be respectful and honour the conversation we had because I genuinely valued it. It would have meant a lot to hear back from you, even just a simple acknowledgment. Regardless, I wish you all the best."
His response to that was unexpectedly hostile. He accused me of being selfish and only caring about my own feelings. He claimed he had already responded to my earlier texts and accused me of being stubborn and ungrateful for the time he spent talking to me. His tone was rude and accusatory, which only reinforced my decision to end things.
I replied, explaining how his actions had made me feel judged and disrespected. I pointed out that despite enjoying our conversation, his test and subsequent behavior were major red flags. I told him I was disappointed by his hostility and that I was hoping for a more respectful closure.
He left my final message on “seen” and hasn’t responded since. Which is fine. Screw him.
I'm not looking for advice on how to get back with him. I’m just trying to process this and move on. Any tips on how to deal with such a disappointing end to what seemed like a promising connection? Because I hadn't been this super excited to go out in a VERY long time!
Thanks for reading.

🌸 H*ello Lovely Fam *🌸
After our 30-day challenge, I couldn’t help but wonder: are there simpler ways to reignite our passion for action? So, I decided to shrink the timeline and introduce the 715ActionChallenge! 💖
This challenge is all about taking tiny but meaningful steps towards our dreams. For the next 7 days, we invite you to spend just 15 minutes each day working on something you’ve always wanted to do. It's all about making progress, no matter how small!
Here’s how it works:

1. Pick Your Goal: Choose a sweet little goal you’ve been dreaming about.
2. Daily Time: Dedicate 15 minutes each day to this goal for one week.
3. Write It Down: Use your diary to capture your daily journey, thoughts, and feelings. 🌈

Imagine the magic of little steps adding up! Here are some adorable ideas to inspire you:

• Get Moving: Do a fun 15-minute workout or dance session.
• Stretch and Breathe: Spend 15 minutes doing gentle yoga to feel calm and happy.
• Learn Something New: Try a new dance move or a cute makeup trick each day.

The most important thing is to start small and keep going. 🌟
In the comments below, share your 715ActionChallenge goal with us! Let’s cheer each other on and celebrate every little victory. Remember, this is our warm and fuzzy space where we can be ourselves and support one another.
Even if the outside world feels chilly, here we have warmth, comfort, and friendship. Let’s take this first step together and see how far we can go with just a little bit of daily love and effort.
We can’t wait to hear all about your goals and see the beautiful progress you make. Let’s do this together!
Sending you all hugs and encouragement,
TheBigGirlDiary Mod🥰💕

Chedd - AAAAAAAAR
Well, let me tell you a little about me and maybe we’ll see.
I’m 36, from the states, a former college professor and now work in marketing for a software company.
When I’m not working, I love hiking, traveling, going to museums, cooking/baking, and learning in general. I really enjoy a good book too. I’m currently ripping through pages on one right now and I’d love to talk about it.
Anyway, if you feel like you’re up for chatting, please send me a message with your age and little about you. Hope to talk soon!

I develop, manage, and scale online businesses.
I offer remote services (as lead front-end and back-end developer) for the following tasks/projects

• WordPress, and WooCommerce. I write lean and bespoke themes or utilize existing themes depending on your requirements and budget.
• Shopify
• Code your existing shop design to a fully working website that actually reach customers, and sell products/services
• Redesign, update existing websites, full auditing
• PHP shopping carts (Opencart, Prestashop etc)
• Multi vendor, SaaS and development of custom platforms
• Physical products/shipping/tracking or Digital products
• Booking/Membership/Subscription
• Custom Analytics/Reports
• Custom payment method and checkout
• Custom features for front-end (customers) or back-end (less management, more productivity) experience
• APIs/Payment gateway integration (ex. Stripe, Paypal, BTC/Crypto Wallets)
• Chat/Bot/AI integration
• Automation/Data Scraping requirements for your online shop
• Data conversion/Product entry (automated)
• Social media/Community management
• Small, mid-scale hosting included (you just need to provide a domain address)
• can work with Google cloud, AWS and other cloud services
• can work with any market or industry

I provide assistance throughout the entire lifecycle of your website, from planning, building, running, and maintaining. I specialize in managing the technical aspects of your shop and remain dedicated and reachable until your business achieves its first sale.
starts at $15/hr. accepted payments in Paypal/Wise/Crypto/Stablecoin
available for 20-40 hours/week
portfolio, email contact basmatix .netlify .app
email contact is hello_thomasino(@tuta .io) (better notification in email) the reddit chat/message can be buggy at times. please send your information direct to my email instead. it is a more reassuring method to be connected. You can also reach me via chat applications afterwards.
dm me for more in-depth details and discussion. please include a brief description of your job offer. If you are looking for a easy to work with guy and can carry all technical tasks for web then you’ve found the right place.

Dear members,
I've been facing an ongoing issue with making music for a while now. To introduce myself, I am Martin Parks, and I have two releases on Spotify. It takes me nearly a year to complete each track, which, as you can see, isn't sustainable. I’ve been making music for 1 to 2 years, singing myself while my best friend, a very talented producer with some gold records to his name, produces the tracks. So, that part is well covered, and I have plenty of inspiration.
However, the process of making music isn't going smoothly. Sometimes, he sends beats, I work on them in Logic, and then the track never gets finished, or it feels very forced when we try to complete it. Once a track is done, I often release it immediately because I want to put something out there, but this leaves me in a "pressure phase" since I have nothing in reserve. This cycle continues, and honestly, it's not very enjoyable this way.
Do you have any tips on breaking out of this cycle? How can I finish music properly and maybe even work towards an album? I would love to hear your advice, thanks!
Best regards, Martin Parks

TL;DR: Matched with a seemingly great guy on Bumble, hit it off well, moved to texting and phone calls, only to have him "test" me on our first disagreement about who should pay on dates. Despite forgiving him, he responded with hateful accusations, leaving me to move on from his manipulative behaviour.
Hey everyone,
I need some advice on a situation that’s been bothering me. Here’s the full story:
I (32) matched with this guy (37) on Bumble recently, and we hit it off immediately. We spent hours texting and eventually, we moved to a phone call that lasted several hours. We got along so well that he mentioned he would have liked to take me out that day, but he already had plans with his friends to watch an F1 race and a football match. I appreciated his honesty and told him it was fine, and we continued talking throughout the day, even while he was with his friends. It was going SPLENDIDLY!
However, out of nowhere, he made a condescending comment about my Instagram, saying it looks like he’d have to sell a kidney to take a girl like me out. I found it extremely offensive and told him that while I’m financially comfortable and can pay for myself, I do have standards when it comes to dating. I expect a man who asks me out on a date to be willing to pay for it. If a man doesn’t pay, I see it as going out as friends, and I wouldn’t consider a second date. He then doubled down, saying he was new in town and unsure where to take me because I seemed to have an extravagant lifestyle.
I clarified that I didn’t expect an extravagant first date and had a favourite bar in mind that’s quite economical due to my regular patron status there. But I wasn't sure if I was interested in moving forward with him because this had gotten too weird and uncomfortable for me.
He then admitted he was TESTING me because he has a lot of money and didn’t want to be used for it - Mentioning his FERRARI, while he was at it, which I had frankly assumed was a rental, I didn't give it a second thought or glance. He then said he was very disappointed in me accused me of being like other women who expect men to pay — He called me a Gold Digger in so many words. I found this extremely manipulative, insulting, offensive and downright disrespectful and told him so and asked him to fuck right off! Just for the record - I am also rather well-off. Not only do I make decent money, but my parents are also financially well-off.
Despite my frustration, he apologised profusely and asked for a second chance, claiming he was wrong to test me and that he genuinely wanted to get to know me better. I told him I appreciated the apology but couldn’t get past the disrespect and the implications of his “test.” I made it clear that his behaviour had made me feel judged and uncomfortable, and I didn’t see how we could move forward.
He kept insisting, saying we could laugh about this misunderstanding later and that he’d make it up to me. I reiterated that I didn’t want to feel scrutinised or judged every time we interacted, and that this incident had soured my perception of him. I told him it was best to part ways and ended the conversation. He asked me to sleep on it, and I did.
The next morning, I sent him a text to formally close things off, but on a good note, saying:
"We definitely had a fun and interesting day, but we both know this isn't going to work out! I truly enjoyed our time together and our roller coaster of a conversation. Most people don't even have dates as fun and intriguing as this! But sadly, this is the end of the road for us. I do truly wish you the very best with everything, and I'm glad we ran into each other. Take care and be well! 💗"
He didn’t respond to that text, but he continued to view my Instagram stories, which I found really passive-aggressive. So, I followed up with:
"Hey, I noticed you didn't respond to my last message. I just wanted to say that I tried to be respectful and honour the conversation we had because I genuinely valued it. It would have meant a lot to hear back from you, even just a simple acknowledgment. Regardless, I wish you all the best."
His response to that was unexpectedly hostile. He accused me of being selfish and only caring about my own feelings. He claimed he had already responded to my earlier texts and accused me of being stubborn and ungrateful for the time he spent talking to me. His tone was rude and accusatory, which only reinforced my decision to end things.
I replied, explaining how his actions had made me feel judged and disrespected. I pointed out that despite enjoying our conversation, his test and subsequent behavior were major red flags. I told him I was disappointed by his hostility and that I was hoping for a more respectful closure.
He left my final message on “seen” and hasn’t responded since. Which is fine. Screw him.
I'm not looking for advice on how to get back with him. I’m just trying to process this and move on. Any tips on how to deal with such a disappointing end to what seemed like a promising connection? Because I hadn't been this super excited to go out in a VERY long time!
Thanks for reading.

7 reasons why I think FFIE will squeeze.
1. Traction and Media Attention.
-Once traction picks up on $FFIE, it will be over for the hedgies. We must work the stock in order to meet WSB's requirements and bring in more fighters.
2. Short interest remains staggering 95.36% and 36.3 million shares are borrowed
-This must be accounted for. Once we raise the stock price, it will induce the need to cover the short positions, leading to the big short squeeze we are looking for. (Got it from Fintel, can't link for some reason),
Edit: went in-depth more in reason #10 due to requests.
3. The stock has seen incredible performance and has fundamental value -Surging from 0.04$ to 3.80$ is no easy feat. This highlights the strength of retail investors as we stand up to the big money.
-FFIE has also announced cooperation with Master Investment Group and Siraj Holding LLC in the Middle East, establishing a strategic effort to expand business.
4. Your fellow apes are in the trenches with you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
-There are those who have lost a lot, and there are those who missed out on a lot. Nonetheless, we must not let our fellow apes be stranded. We are coming with more backup and support everyday!
5. Trading volume is extremely high, reaching over 9 figures, indicating strength and oncoming fire that is FFIE.
6. SEC Rule 201, this restricts the short selling after significant price decline. It is currently in effect for FFIE, reducing potential for short attacks and aiding in the squeeze. More power to retail this week.
Edit: I've linked multiple threads/sources in the comment section. Sources indicate that SEC Rule ended after today.
7. Historical Precedent: The same song is being sung here as with GME, AMC, and the other meme stocks. I believe in the potential and I am confident in our community.
PSA: THIS IS NOT FINANCIAL ADVICE, I AM NOT AN EXPERT. I'M JUST AN APE. I CAN BE WRONG.
AS FOR ME, I'M NOT SELLING....
Edit: Reading other sources, I want to add more reasons.
8. Regulation and Market Dynamics aka closing above 1$
-Why is this important?
If FFIE maintains a closing price above 1$ for seven consecutive sessions. It will no longer be at risk of being delisted from the Nasdaq. Staying listed will ensure CONTINUED access to a larger pool of investors and maintains regulatory compliance standards, basically enhancing INVESTOR CONFIDENCE AND MARKET STABILITY FOR FFIE.
Edit: UNDERSTAND IF THE STOCK PRICE DROPS TO 0, SHORT SELLERS DO NOT HAVE TO SPEND ANY MONEY TO BUY BACK THE SHARES. IF IT DID, THEIR PROFIT WOULD ESSENTIALLY BE THE TOTAL AMOUNT THEY SOLD THE BORROWED SHARES FOR.
This basically means we can INFLICT UNLIMITED LOSS IF THE STOCK PRICE INCREASES INSTEAD OF DECREASE.
9. FFIE on the REG SHO and FTDs
FTD (fail-to-deliver) occur when a seller (short seller) does not deliver the securities sold by the settlement day. This can happen for a variety of reasons. FTD can be caused when many investors short a stock, depleting the supply of available shares to borrow. High short interest = susceptible to FTDs. Higher # of FTDs = more pressure on short sellers to cover.
In a nutshell, short sellers borrow shares to sell on market. They sell them to buyer. Short seller then can't deliver the sold shares to the buyer by settlement date.
-Being on the REG SHO List indicates that FFIE has experienced a substantial number of fails-to-deliver OVER A CONSECUTIVE FIVE-DAY PERIOD. This means short sellers have not been able to deliver the shares they sold, often due to the unavailability of borrowed shares.
-Once the threat of delisting is removed, short sellers will be compelled to close out their positions by purchasing actual shares from the market. According to SEC regulations, they are required to do so within ( typically ) 35 days of the stock being listed on the REG SHO List. This mandatory covering may drive up stock price due to increased demand.
HERE'S HOW IT AFFECTS FFIE. SHORT SELLERS WHO CANNOT DELIVER SHARES ARE REQUIRED TO COVER THEIR POSITIONS BY BUYING SHARES FROM THE MARKET.
10. Retailers BUYING ANDDD HOLDING We buy and hold because the short sellers only benefit by making the price go down. What happens if it stays up or hell, even increase?? THEY'LL HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO COVER. (Extension to point 2.)
-Imagine you're a short seller, you want the stock to go to 0$ so you can walk out with significant profits without BUYING BACK the BORROWED shares ok?
Then you see a bunch of apes keeping the price up. Now what? HOW HIGH CAN IT GO? How long can it stay up?
-However long this takes, it will inflict losses. The potential for a stock to skyrocket is theoretically indefinite, BECAUSE a stock price can go up forever. EVEN IF THEY SEND THE STOCK TO 10$ AND PUSH IT ALL THE WAY DOWN TO 1$, WE MUST REMEMBER....
IT'S ONLY EVER IMPERATIVE TO KEEP HOLDING UNTIL THEY HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE BUT TO BUY BACK THEIR BORROWED SHARES. ONCE THEY REALIZE THE POTENTIAL OF THE STOCK WON'T EVER REACH THE PRICE TARGET, THEY WILL ACCEPT DEFEAT AND BUY BACK THE BORROWED SHARES. GIVING US THE SHORT SQUEEZE AND WE WILL WIN.
THAT'S WHY IT'S SO IMPORTANT TO BUY AND HOLD, THIS CAN SKYROCKET.
WE MUST HOLD THE LINE. BLEED THEM UNTIL THEY HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO COVER THEIR SHORTS.
I'M IN WITH YOU APES TIL THE END. THANK YOU FOR ALL THE SUPPORT.

Dear members,
I've been facing an ongoing issue with making music for a while now. To introduce myself, I am Martin Parks, and I have two releases on Spotify. It takes me nearly a year to complete each track, which, as you can see, isn't sustainable. I’ve been making music for 1 to 2 years, singing myself while my best friend, a very talented producer with some gold records to his name, produces the tracks. So, that part is well covered, and I have plenty of inspiration.
However, the process of making music isn't going smoothly. Sometimes, he sends beats, I work on them in Logic, and then the track never gets finished, or it feels very forced when we try to complete it. Once a track is done, I often release it immediately because I want to put something out there, but this leaves me in a "pressure phase" since I have nothing in reserve. This cycle continues, and honestly, it's not very enjoyable this way.
Do you have any tips on breaking out of this cycle? How can I finish music properly and maybe even work towards an album? I would love to hear your advice, thanks!
Best regards, Martin Parks

Hey friends,
Today, I want to share a story with you that might seem small at first, but it carries a powerful message about how we handle life's little disappointments and turn them into opportunities for growth and resilience.
So, picture this: It's a beautiful sunny morning, and I'm feeling super pumped about tackling my to-do list. I decide to start my day with a trip to the grocery store because, you know, eating healthy is a huge priority for me. I head straight to the produce section, and there they are—gorgeous, vibrant fruits just waiting to be chosen. I carefully pick out the juiciest strawberries, the ripest peaches, and the most beautiful blueberries. I’m envisioning all the delicious smoothies, fruit salads, and snack plates these fruits will create.
Fast forward to me back at home, ready to whip up a fresh fruit bowl. I start unpacking my grocery haul, and that’s when it happens. I notice something off. Some of the strawberries have mold on them. The peaches are bruised, and a few of the blueberries are squished beyond recognition. My initial reaction is one of frustration. I mean, seriously? I took the time to carefully select each piece, and now I’m left with this?
For a moment, I felt a wave of disappointment wash over me. It would have been so easy to just let it ruin my morning. But then I remembered something crucial: it’s not the situation itself, but how we react to it that defines our day.
I decided to pivot. Instead of dwelling on the fruit that went bad, I chose to focus on the fruit that was still good. I cut away the bruised parts, tossed the moldy pieces, and made the best of what I had left. And you know what? That fruit bowl turned out pretty amazing. It wasn’t exactly what I had planned, but it was still a delicious, nutritious start to my day.
Here's the thing, friends: Life is a lot like that grocery store trip. Sometimes, despite our best efforts, things don’t turn out the way we planned. We can choose to focus on what went wrong and let it sour our whole day, or we can adapt, adjust, and make the best of what we have. It’s about shifting our mindset from “Why is this happening to me?” to “How can I make this work for me?”
I want you to remember this story the next time you face a setback, big or small. Maybe it’s a project at work that doesn’t go as planned, a relationship that hits a rough patch, or even just a bad day. Don’t let the moldy strawberries of life keep you down. Instead, look at what you can salvage, what you can learn, and how you can grow from the experience.
You are stronger than you think, and you can handle more than you realize. Life will always throw curveballs, but you have the power to decide how you’ll hit them. Every challenge is an opportunity to prove to yourself just how resilient and resourceful you are.
So, the next time you encounter a little disappointment, remember to pivot, persevere, and push through. You’ve got this! Let’s go out there and tackle today with grace, grit, and gratitude.
With all my love and belief in you,
Rachel

I (32M) have been seeing this guy (26M) since February. We both go to this combat sports gym, he saw me there and shot me a message on grindr the next day. I met him at his place to hookup then we talked a lot naked in the bed and I felt a nice connection I don't often feel. We hooked up again a few days later and since I still felt a nice vibe I asked him out the next weekend. He said he would probably be busy studying (he's a med student) and didn't suggest another time, which made me feel rejected and since my friends told me I was coming on too strong I just dropped the ball and let him be.
10 days later he texted me to chat a bit. Then he suggested to meet again to fuck and that's how we became regular fuck buddies (which I'm fine with, I got tons of them lol).
Over the next couple of months he started to warm up, texting me regularly to ask about my days and tell me about his, and our meetings felt more and more intimate. One night, I told him it felt like we were going beyond just fuck buddies and that we should either take a step back and just fuck or we should move forward and date. He told me he had been thinking about it too and he agreed to date.
We've now been dating for the past month and it's going well. I like him, he's ticking a lot of boxes and I feel like he likes me.
When we're together, everything's fine: he's kind, interested and very cuddly. But the problem is that I feel like this dating phase is very unbalanced cause I'm the one instigating our meetings nearly 100% of the time.
I've been cooking dinner for us at my place, offered to watch movies together, I've taken him to restaurants, stuff like that, but he has never asked me out on a date. Granted, he's a med student so busy studying and working a lot, but I feel as if I'm the one who's exclusively pursuing him. And I know it's a bit unfair to say that cause he's reaching out to me regularly and sends me pics of him and keeping me in touch and stuff so it's not as if he's completely passive, but I just miss being pursued lol I feel like he's taking me for granted or something, at least I feel like he's not trying to seduce me and it makes me feel frustrated.
Do you think it's a sign that he's just not that interested and has never been? Should I settle for a guy that I vibe with although I don't feel pursued or seduced? I don't really know how to navigate this

I develop, manage, and scale online businesses.
I offer remote services (as lead front-end and back-end developer) for the following tasks/projects

• WordPress, and WooCommerce. I write lean and bespoke themes or utilize existing themes depending on your requirements and budget.
• Shopify
• Code your existing shop design to a fully working website that actually reach customers, and sell products/services
• Redesign, update existing websites, full auditing
• PHP shopping carts (Opencart, Prestashop etc)
• Multi vendor, SaaS and development of custom platforms
• Physical products/shipping/tracking or Digital products
• Booking/Membership/Subscription
• Custom Analytics/Reports
• Custom payment method and checkout
• Custom features for front-end (customers) or back-end (less management, more productivity) experience
• APIs/Payment gateway integration (ex. Stripe, Paypal, BTC/Crypto Wallets)
• Chat/Bot/AI integration
• Automation/Data Scraping requirements for your online shop
• Data conversion/Product entry (automated)
• Social media/Community management
• Small, mid-scale hosting included (you just need to provide a domain address)
• can work with Google cloud, AWS and other cloud services
• can work with any market or industry

I provide assistance throughout the entire lifecycle of your website, from planning, building, running, and maintaining. I specialize in managing the technical aspects of your shop and remain dedicated and reachable until your business achieves its first sale.
starts at $15/hr. accepted payments in Paypal/Wise/Crypto/Stablecoin
available for 20-40 hours/week
portfolio, email contact basmatix .netlify .app
email contact is hello_thomasino(@tuta .io) (better notification in email) the reddit chat/message can be buggy at times. please send your information direct to my email instead. it is a more reassuring method to be connected. You can also reach me via chat applications afterwards.
dm me for more in-depth details and discussion. please include a brief description of your job offer. If you are looking for a easy to work with guy and can carry all technical tasks for web then you’ve found the right place.

I develop, manage, and scale online businesses.
I offer remote services (as lead front-end and back-end developer) for the following tasks/projects

• WordPress, and WooCommerce. I write lean and bespoke themes or utilize existing themes depending on your requirements and budget.
• Shopify
• Code your existing shop design to a fully working website that actually reach customers, and sell products/services
• Redesign, update existing websites, full auditing
• PHP shopping carts (Opencart, Prestashop etc)
• Multi vendor, SaaS and development of custom platforms
• Physical products/shipping/tracking or Digital products
• Booking/Membership/Subscription
• Custom Analytics/Reports
• Custom payment method and checkout
• Custom features for front-end (customers) or back-end (less management, more productivity) experience
• APIs/Payment gateway integration (ex. Stripe, Paypal, BTC/Crypto Wallets)
• Chat/Bot/AI integration
• Automation/Data Scraping requirements for your online shop
• Data conversion/Product entry (automated)
• Social media/Community management
• Small, mid-scale hosting included (you just need to provide a domain address)
• can work with Google cloud, AWS and other cloud services
• can work with any market or industry

I provide assistance throughout the entire lifecycle of your website, from planning, building, running, and maintaining. I specialize in managing the technical aspects of your shop and remain dedicated and reachable until your business achieves its first sale.
starts at $15/hr. accepted payments in Paypal/Wise/Crypto/Stablecoin
available for 20-40 hours/week
portfolio, email contact basmatix .netlify .app
email contact is hello_thomasino(@tuta .io) (better notification in email) the reddit chat/message can be buggy at times. please send your information direct to my email instead. it is a more reassuring method to be connected. You can also reach me via chat applications afterwards.
dm me for more in-depth details and discussion. please include a brief description of your job offer. If you are looking for a easy to work with guy and can carry all technical tasks for web then you’ve found the right place.

If a guy messages everyday morning, messages throughout the day, video calls you, etc are they into you? He makes all these comments like type house and what we are going to do when we're old etc, has said he misses me and likes me but also says he's not ready. Granted he came out of 8yr relationship and has been in long term ones before that. We have been friends for 6 or 7yrs now but flirting talking for 6 months now since he separated. He has said he is finding himself. Be still wants to see what happens and doesn't want to go back to just how we were beforehand.
I'm questioning it lately because I keep thinking if he wanted to be with me he would but then I feel guilty because he's going through alot and I know he isn't ready. I think because when I used to picture the type of husband and man I wanted in my life I pictured someone like he was. I never expected him in my life and I was happy in my own world and now I'm here pining over a guy who came into my world and made me fall for him only for him to freak out and say he not ready. Now I have to figure out do I continue to bother. I'm already pulling back. If he wants to he can't contact me. I'm not even sure where I'm going. Anyone wanna share their story's like this so I ain't alone

Two years ago, I took a part-time job that still haunts me to this day. I decided to finally write about my experience, hoping it might help me process everything. I was a college student, and like a lot of you, I needed a part-time job to help cover tuition and other expenses. After a long search, I found what seemed like the perfect job. It was a caregiver position, working from 5 PM to 9 PM, taking care of elderly people. The job was pretty straightforward, make sure they took their meds, had their meals, and just hang out with them for a few hours.
I got assigned to take care of this 85-year-old lady. Let's call her Mrs. Eleanor to keep things anonymous. She lived alone in this quaint little house on the edge of town. The place was old but well-kept, with a charming, slightly overgrown garden that probably hadn't seen a gardener in a few years. She had a small poodle named Max who was always by her side, following her around everywhere she went.
From the start, the house felt... off. There were no family pictures anywhere. I mean, you'd think at her age, she'd have photos of kids, grandkids, maybe an old lover or something. But no, nothing. It was weird. The walls were bare except for a few generic paintings. I asked her about it once, just casually during a conversation, but she brushed it off and changed the subject real quick. She had this look in her eyes, a mix of sadness and something I couldn’t quite place. I didn't push it because I didn't want to lose the job, but it definitely made me curious.
My daily routine was simple enough. I'd get there around 5 PM, cook dinner, make sure she took her meds, and just keep her company for a few hours. Max, the poodle, was a friendly little guy, always happy to see me, wagging his tail and jumping around despite his age. Mrs. Eleanor, though, was polite but pretty reserved. She didn’t talk much about her past or family, which just added to the mystery. Our conversations were always pretty basic, like talking about the weather or what was on the news.
Every evening, as I cleaned up after dinner, I'd hear Mrs. Eleanor singing a lullaby. It was the same soft, melodic tune every night, echoing through the quiet house. While the song was gentle, it really creeped me out. It felt so out of place in the otherwise silent house. She sang it every night, like clockwork, and it always made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. Sometimes, I would find myself pausing my cleaning just to listen. The whole situation was unsettling. The house, the lack of family photos, the nightly lullaby, it all felt like pieces of a puzzle that didn't quite fit together. I couldn't shake the feeling that there was a deeper, darker story behind those melodies. It was like the house held secrets that it wasn’t ready to share, and I was just an outsider peeking in.
As the weeks went by, my curiosity grew stronger. Why was she singing this lullaby every night? Who was it for? The routine stayed the same, but the sense of unease kept building. I had been given strict instructions by my employer not to go into Mrs. Eleanor's room. It was one of the non-negotiable rules of the job, probably to respect her privacy and maintain professional boundaries. One evening, while I was cleaning the dishes, I noticed that the door to Mrs. Eleanor's small office was slightly opened. She had always kept it closed and had told me it was just a mess she didn't want me to fuss around with. But that evening, the door was invitingly open. Hearing her close the bathroom door upstairs, I decided to take the chance and peek inside the office.
The room looked straight out of the 1960s. Blue walls, a small single bed, and a wooden desk cluttered with old papers. There was a small closet to the left that caught my eye. The whole setup struck me as odd. This room, which looked like it belonged to a young boy, was in the home of an elderly woman living alone. There were no pictures, no personal belongings, nothing to explain why this room was here. I couldn't explore more because I heard footsteps right above me, making my heart race. Panicking, I quickly closed the door and hurried back to the kitchen. The rest of the evening went by uneventfully. I gave her the necessary pills, made sure she was comfortable, and left for the night. But I couldn’t stop thinking about that room. Why would she have a boy's room in her house if she had no children? The thought gnawed at me, creating a whirlwind of questions.
The next day, my curiosity got the better of me. I decided to do some research on Mrs. Eleanor. I spent hours online, searching for any information about her. But nothing came up. No social media profiles, no news articles, nothing. Not a single piece of information about her life.
It was baffling and left me with more questions than answers. I returned to work after the weekend, determined to find out more. That evening, as usual, I prepared dinner and ensured Mrs. Eleanor took her medication. Then I waited for her to go to the bathroom. The moment I heard the bathroom door close, I quickly made my way to the office. The room was just as I had left it, with that same lingering, musty smell hanging in the air. This time, I opened the closet. Inside, I found small boxes, stacked neatly but covered in a thin layer of dust. My heart pounded as I opened one to find baby clothes, tiny socks, pants, and sweaters, all meant for a baby boy. They were neatly folded and seemed well-preserved, despite their apparent age. But why would Mrs. Eleanor have these?
The discovery left me with more questions than answers. I went back to making dinner, trying to process what I had found. My mind was racing with possibilities, but none of them made any sense. Was it possible she had a child once? If so, where was he now? That night, as usual, Mrs. Eleanor began singing her lullaby. Normally, this song would send shivers down my spine, creeping me out every time. But this night was different. Instead of fear, I felt a surge of curiosity that I couldn’t ignore. I went upstairs quietly and with each step up, the lullaby grew louder. The door to her bedroom was almost closed but had a small gap, just enough for me to peek through. She always left a gap, saying it was to let Max come and go as he pleased. I peered through the gap and was shocked by what I saw.
There, Mrs. Eleanor was sitting in a rocking chair, gently swaying back and forth. She was holding Max in her arms, cradling him like a baby, and singing softly to him. Next to her was a small wooden cradle, old and worn, as if it hadn't been used in years. She continued her lullaby, her voice soft and melodic, but now it felt more sad than creepy. Her gentle rocking, the way she cradled Max, and the soft melody of the lullaby created an image that was hard to shake. I slowly backed away from the door, not wanting to intrude any further. I went back downstairs, my mind spinning from what I had just seen.
This made me think and start connecting all the dots. Was she pretending her dog was a baby? A baby she never had? I could be wrong, but that would make sense, right? The boy’s room, the baby clothes, no pictures, no husband, no children, just her and her dog, whom she pretended was her own son.
There are many possibilities. Maybe she lost her child during a miscarriage, or the son died somehow. It’s heartbreaking to think about, but I had no way of knowing for sure since there was nothing about her online. I even asked my boss about Mrs. Eleanor, trying to get some information about her past. My boss didn’t know much either, just that Mrs. Eleanor had always been a bit reserved and private. She mentioned that Mrs. Eleanor had experienced some tragic losses and that she was now quite lonely, with some health issues typical for her age, but nothing specific.
I worked out the rest of the week, but everything felt so creepy and intense. The quiet dinners together, the silence in the house, the haunting lullaby, it all felt like I was living in some kind of ghost story. Each night, as I lay in bed, I couldn't stop thinking about what I had seen. The pieces seemed to fit together, but they painted a picture that was too tragic and eerie for me to handle. Even during the day, I found myself distracted, replaying conversations with Mrs. Eleanor in my mind, looking for clues I might have missed. I thought about asking her directly but quickly dismissed the idea. It felt too intrusive, and honestly, I was scared of what I might uncover. There was a part of me that didn't want to know the full story because the fragments I had were already too much.
I noticed more details that added to the unsettling atmosphere. The way Mrs. Eleanor would sometimes pause mid-sentence as if lost in a distant memory, or how she would stroke Max's fur with a faraway look in her eyes. The house itself seemed to hold its breath.
I made my decision, I sent a text message to my boss saying I couldn’t continue with the job and that I was quitting immediately. I didn’t even say goodbye to Mrs. Eleanor. It felt wrong and I knew it was rude, but I just couldn’t bring myself to face her again. The thought of another day in that house, surrounded by haunting memories and unanswered questions, was too much for me to handle.
I felt a mix of guilt and relief. Guilt for leaving without a proper goodbye, for abandoning Mrs. Eleanor when she clearly needed someone. But also relief, knowing that I wouldn’t have to endure another evening of lullabies and unsettling silences. I knew I was being cowardly, but I just couldn’t do it. The experience had taken a toll on me, and I needed to get out. The whole experience was something I couldn’t shake off easily. It made me think a lot about the hidden struggles people face and the ways they cope with their pain. Mrs. Eleanor's story, whatever the full truth was, taught me that sometimes, the past can cast a long shadow over the present.
So, that's my story. It was a job I thought would be simple, but it ended up being one of the most emotionally intense experiences of my life.

Hey there everyone! I’m Z (he/they) & I’m looking to run a slow-paced, roleplay-heavy game with a focus on queer players & narratives. Experience doesn't matter, I love having newer players in my games!
I know this is long, but please read it throughly! The application isn't much shorter and I don't want to waste your time. I will be keeping the application up and reposting through the week, so there's no rush!
I also really shouldn't have to say this, but considering the only comments I got on my first post were negative: please don't harass me for wanting to run a safe table for people. Or, if you do, at least acknowledge the irony. . . This is a handicapped parking space; I know it's empty, but so are the dozens of spaces around it.
A little more about me - I'm 32 and I’ve been playing since 2017, mostly as a DM. Before the pandemic I ran a lot of local store games and ‘how to DM events’ for adults, as well as library games for kids. It took me a while to adjust to playing online but now I prefer it, as it’s allowed me to find a whole new love for the game playing with different kinds of people and focusing on intentionally creating a safe space for those who don’t feel comfortable at most tables.
Format - I would like to run weekly voice sessions on discord (with optional cameras) using roll20 as our VTT & the option to roleplay via text on the server throughout the week, with either other PCs or NPCs - I also like doing lore drops this way, or giving previews to other things that are happening in the world. I like dndbeyond for character sheets (and I’m happy to share all my content), but as long as I can see them, you can run them wherever. I am bad about using music bots on discord, so I would love it if someone knew how that all worked and could help with that, otherwise I can share playlists on spotify.
Scheduling - I would like to play anytime between 8am MST in the mornings and let’s say 4pm or so on Saturdays, and again we’d be shooting for every week, but obviously life happens and we might need to take a week off. It would also be lovely if you have a slightly flexible schedule just in case, as I can occasionally play on Sundays or Mondays as well. Sessions can be anywhere from 2 hours to 4 or 5 hours, depending on the amount of roleplay. I leave a lot of space in my game for in-character conversations, so if you are someone who gets bored easily / doesn’t care about the game if it doesn’t directly involve your character, this is not the game for you.
For this reason, I prefer running smaller groups, 3-4 being the sweet spot.
Mechanics - we’re playing 5e* and the asterisk represents all the stupid rules that make the game less fun that I ignore or change. I care more about the story and roleplaying than the mechanics, I very much default to the ‘rule of cool’ or letting the dice decide your fate. I am very much on your side and if it ever feels like I’m not, please let me know. The basics are I don’t make you track food/arrows/ etc. and if you forget or misunderstand something major I’ll remind you or clarify. I also don’t care too much about times for donning / doffing armor and using action economy to pull out a weapon - we’ve all woken up well past our alarm and still made it to work on time; you can get your armor on for that middle of the night combat.
In a similar manner, we’re playing Dragons of Shipwreck Isle* where the asterisk represents all the parts of the adventure that I’m gonna change and try to make more interesting. I would ask for y’all not to metagame and look up the adventure, but mostly because if you’re comparing the module to what I run, it’s not going to line up and it will probably end up frustrating you. I am also looking at other modules as well but instead of listing them all, in the question on the form where I ask if you’ve played this specific module before, please list all of the ones you’ve played instead of just saying yes or no. I don't like feeling like I need to trick my players into playing attention during the game, so I like players who pick up on these details.
Hard lines / veils in game - racism / sexism / homophobia / transphobia are NOT built into my fantasy worlds; we deal with that enough irl. I also don’t fuck with slavery, SA (this includes during combat, assault is assault even if they are a ‘bad guy’) or ERP. Anything sexual will be implied / fade to black, but I would prefer things not get too sexual. I don’t mind in character romance between PCs, but I would appreciate a heads up if you want an NPC romance for your character - and I will be checking in with everyone about your comfort level with this, if you want absolutely no flirting towards your character from any NPC please let me know that as well.
I will also stay away from harming kids / pets / elderly, and anything you would like to list as a hard line (something you don’t want showing up in the game at all) or veil (something that can be alluded to, just not graphically detailed). I will say there are heavy themes of undead present in the module at the beginning, and zombies / undead are a personal favorite monster of mine to use so PLEASE do not apply to this game if you don’t like fighting undead! My descriptions can get graphic at times when it comes to monsters & combat, but I will likely gross myself out before it becomes too gratuitous.
Triggers - even if you don’t think it will come up in game, triggers can unfortunately pop up with silly memes or jokes ooc. If there’s a certain image / idea that totally squicks you out and you don’t want them included ANYWHERE on the server, please let me know! Everyone’s comfort is a top priority to me, and keeping your triggers out of our safe space is really important to me.
Morality - I love moral ambiguity, but I genuinely don’t want any evil aligned characters. This is a collaborative game that requires everyone to work together to some extent; you don’t have to be instant best friends in character, but you will need you to communicate and check in ooc if tensions rise up in character. Play your character true to their actions, but make sure that their actions are fun and interesting for everyone involved, not just you.
I also always allow non-lethal combat options, such as knocking sentient creatures unconscious. I encourage trying to persuade / lie / bargain with those you have captured, but I will not condone outright torture. That said, there will be humanoid bad guys who won’t always be the most reasonable people, and may not collaborate.
Safety Tools - outside of open communication in discussing boundaries & triggers, I encourage the ‘X card’ method - whenever anyone gets uncomfortable and wants to immediately stop a scene, you can send a literal ‘X’ in either the main chat or to me privately and we will stop immediately. Ideally, we can get on the same page easily about comfort levels and everyone here will feel okay coming to me with any issues they have, but we are all human and things can pop up.
Expectations - The only thing I really ask out of y’all as my player is for open communication and I will always try my best to do the same. If something isn’t vibing with you or it makes you uncomfortable, even if it’s something little, please tell me. I expect you to be engaged with the story, and encourage you to keep some sort of notes / inventory / ‘to do list’ for the game. I also would really appreciate feedback - not just for how I run the game, but what you want to see in the game so I can put it in there. If someone’s character is interested in a specific realm of study in history / arcana / nature, I can build that into the lore. Same thing if you want to find a specific item or learn how to do a certain skill - let me know either in or out of character and I’ll try to make it happen!
Starting point - I am intentionally keeping this part loosey-goosey to accommodate players backstories & experiences! Mechanically, you will start at either level 1 or 2 with Point Buy for stats, and I am imagining getting to at least level 5, but it really depends. The loose idea I have right now is that y’all are traveling on a ship from Neverwinter to an island where you will likely be for several weeks in character, but I want to leave the overall ‘why’ up to the individual players and group. It will likely take about a dozen or so sessions, but I am happy to play for as long as my players want to keep doing things in character!
If you haven’t been put off by the amount of text, please click the link below to apply. If you thought this was too much and you skimmed the post to find this link, you’re probably going to get bored before you finish applying lol
best of luck!
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