Right arm feels heavy and painful

I loved the ending and in fact the whole S6 of Justified. A few thoughts:
Raylan's shootout with Boon is the best gunslinger showdown since Johnny Ringo and Doc Holliday in Tombstone. Ever since we met Boon he's been presented to us as a Ringo-esque foil to Raylan's Holliday (although Raylan's character in general is more akin to Wyatt Earp than Doc Holliday). Boon, (like Ringo regarding Holliday) knows of Raylan's legend and sees him as the man to beat to prove (to himself, others in the game?) that he is in fact the gunfighter he so desperately wants to be. The first time they met (paraphrasing) Boon tells him "well aren't you just perfect? Down to the hat and everything." Boon sees Raylan as the man he needs to put down, or be killed by. Every interaction they have he alludes to this fact. And Raylan knows it. He knows Boon is itching for a gun fight and he suspects he might be up to the task. That's why Raylan doesn't waste too many words in the final showdown. He doesn't tell Boon to keep his hands where he can see them, or to turn himself in or any of the other Law Enforcement maxims he uses on so many others. Raylan knows exactly what Boon is looking for and he gives it to him.
Next I loved the scene in the final episode where Boyd was proselytizing in the prison chapel. Even when he busted out the faux-charismatic raised voice and hand waving, the other inmates were simply not feeling it. This to me represents the fact that the world is done falling for the sweet lies of Boyd Crowder. So many promises and grandiose plans he has never been able to deliver on over the course of the show, but everyone who ever believed in them has wound up dead. Boyd's two superpowers were his ability to convince others to follow him, and the fact that he is a low-down dirty murderer when it comes right down to it. Raylan knows he's full of shit so his telling him in their final visit "You know you're repeating yourself, right?" Is hilarious.
Third, I loved Choo-Choo. Such great acting (à la Slingblade) portraying a brain-damaged soldier and I honestly thought that after he kidnapped Caprice that Walker and Co. would convince their disabled homeboy to execute her... but he stood firm in his conviction that they should spare her. This redeemed his character in my eyes. Walker wanted to shoot it out and the marshals told Choo-Choo that Walker was there on Markham's orders to kill him for his mistakes. He's trying to process this and they tell him "you know it's true" and I think he realizes that... Then his loyalty to his brothers in arms when he's lost everything else in the war wins out and he says "It's all I got" before drawing and shooting out with the marshals is just awesome. And the way he takes two to the chest and keeps on chugging is incredible. I was wondering all along how the writers were going to demonstrate his insane physicality (I thought he was going to punch out Raylan at some point and beat him half to death before Raylan was finally able to draw and finish him) did not disappoint.
I could go on and on but all in all great show and thanks to this subreddit for the recommendation. Because of things I read here I persevered through some slow moments in the first season and finished out this show which was a great story and a love letter to the westerns of old.

I've been to Sonic Temple, Welcome to Rockville, Inkcarceration and Louder Than Life several times each and here are my thoughts.
All are great for different reasons, this is just my opinion, so don't tear me apart. I'll rank them.

1. Louder Than Life. Always a top line up and FANTASTIC setup. The grounds are setup perfectly with tons of room to roam, but not too far apart. Lining up stages 1 and 2, and 3 and 4 in the double stage setup is absolutely perfect. Louisville has tons to do outside the venue. Takes place in September, so the weather is "usually" cooler. Great sports tent to catch up on NFL and college football. Tons of parking and access to hotels
   
2. Sonic Temple. Probably places 3rd in lineup. The stadium setup provides plenty of seating to take a rest. The venue is easy to walk around as it's compact, but there can be some sound bleed between the stages. Columbus is an absolute gem of a place to visit. Takes place in May, usually fantastic weather, however you can almost bet one day will be heavy rain/ lightning delay. Easy parking and access to hotels. Has access to normal bathrooms if Porta Johns freak you out.
   
3. Rockville. Normally second best line up, but this year was hands down the best. Its Florida in May, it's going to be blazing hot, and likely heavy storms/lightning delays. The speedway is a cool venue, but I think they fail to use it to it's potential, and the layout is weird. There is way to much wasted space between the main stages. The dust is outta control! Plenty of parking and hotels. Tons to do just minutes from the beach.
   
4. Ink. Usually has the weakest and heaviest line up. It's got the best location once your inside; its right outside the Shawshank prison. Entertainment outside the festival is extremely limited; it takes place in rural Ohio. Limited hotels, but plenty of parking. Weather can be brutally hot in July.
   

Ok, as an elementary special education teacher (not teaching in my daughters’ district) I am in need of some advice to help my daughter, almost 10 in 4th grade, to deal with some mean girl behavior at her school. For background, my daughter gets straight A’s in school and always has, does her best to get along with everyone (at home can be a tad bossy with little sister at times), gets great marks in school for her behavior in class and towards others, and has quite a few close friends. She is constantly reading whenever she gets a chance and devours books. She is very musical, plays ukulele and takes lessons outside of the home, and plays cello in the school orchestra. She is super into theater and has done local theater since kindergarten as well as scored the role of the scarecrow in The Wizard of Oz in this years 4th and 5th grade drama club show at school. She loves to sing and is in many school clubs including inclusive ones like Best Buddies. I know, I know, she sounds like the perfect kid, but we’ve worked really hard to make sure we are raising her the right way. She is also a huge eco warrior and cares deeply about lots of things. She can give me a hard time at home because she’s a 10-year-old girl, but overall, I couldn’t be prouder of what an amazing person she is turning out to be.
She had casually mentioned to me about this one girl we will call Virginia. She said they were in gym and were practicing balancing tennis balls on racquets while walking and high fiving the other kids. Virginia gave her a high 5 and then immediately said, “Ew, I didn’t know that it was you.” I told her to ignore the behavior as some kids thrive off of making other people feel bad. I asked her if she had done anything to this girl to make her feel that way and she said she couldn’t think of anything because they’ve never even ever had a conversation other than having to work together in partner groups at school in math.
Last week, she mentioned that her, and this other girl, we will call McKenzie, were saying some mean things on the school bus, or else she thought they were talking about her. I again told her not to feed into it as she knows she hasn’t done anything to them, and she couldn’t be 100% sure they were whispering about her. Virginia is supposed to be her seat partner on the bus and has never sat with her. She told me she never said anything to her bus driver about it because she didn’t want to make it worse.
All week, I’ve asked her if things are continuing and she said no. But tonight, as she was getting ready for bed, she let it out that the girls overheard my daughter talking to her good friend “Addie” who lives up the street and is in 5th grade, about my daughters upcoming sleepover for her 10th birthday. They began to hound Addie and ask her if she was really going to go to go to her sleepover, if she was really friends with her, if it was just a pity thing, and if she really actually likes my daughter. I told her that that was crossing a line and they were dipping toes into mean girl behavior and maybe some light bullying.
She also said there was a strong perfume scent on the bus earlier this week. Some kids were complaining about it and the girls blamed my daughter and tried to get others to join in. She is really worried about looking like a tattletale and/or making it worse.
My advice was for her to go to her teacher who she trusts, and ask for time to talk to her about it alone away from the girls (Virginia is in her class). Then, when they talk, let her know what’s happening and how she has been trying to ignore it and deal with it herself but that it’s getting to be too big of a problem. I told her to explain how this has started awhile ago and that she doesn’t know why they’re targeting her as she has no relationship with them at all. They’ve never been in her class until last year. I told her to let her teacher know that she isn’t looking to get them into trouble, but that she wants the comments/mean behavior to stop and she needs help facilitating a girls circle to have the conversation.
My husband wants to have me reach out to the teachegirl’s parents, but I think my approach is a better first step as our daughter needs to advocate for herself and mean girls are something she’ll have to deal with her whole life. This way it’s at least documented if it continues.
Thoughts? Advice?

This is a continuation of my work (making a new post instead of a bigger wall of text, previous posts url: Translating to German and then Flipping : KryptosK4 (reddit.com))
Hello, I did some more work and seem to think I have figured something definitive out (which might not have been a question to begin with in the first place).
So my mind couldn't stop thinking about "AT I", which I derived out previously. Adding to my rush was another post made by another user on codes (url: Thoughts on Kryptos : codes (reddit.com)) mentioning IOCs (Index of Coincidence), which has the same acronym as IOC (International Olympic Committee), which is something I figured out may be tied to BERLIN CLOCK beforehand. Maybe something regarding Index of Coincidence needs to be used with K4. In turn, this may indirectly strengthens "AT I" being something real too.
In short, I wanted to focus more on "at I". So I began to think, seeing if it is actually an encryption key and/or a clue. What I found is interesting. When Mr. Sanborn gave his first clue in 2010, he only revealed Berlin, nothing else. Then later he revealed Clock. The placement of the words, and the timing of it seems to indicate that these two are related of course, but maybe more so than we previously thought.
Here is the an overlay of the Kryptos text, with the plain text below. The spacing is to keep the two words separate and thus easier to see what I will write below.
NYPVTT MZFPK
BERLIN CLOCK
Now what I noticed is that for Berlin, the first "T" leads to an "I", and the second "T" leads to an "N". Now I don't exactly know how I formulated this out, but the first "T" I imagined to be related to "AT I". It just kinda felt right. But then I connected this with "T is your position" and thought position is actually related to abscissa (note I later learned it doesn't need to be), and went to the right side keyed Vigenère, and using "T" as the abscissa and "A" as the other index for the vertical, I found it gives me "N".
Now, this all likely still isn't enough to be proof that "AT I" is valid phrase that should be looked into, but more proof is building for it. This next thing however really is interesting.
I wondered if instead of code per say, should "AT I" be taken literally. As in "at 'I'". With this, I used the Vigenère (I am gonna call it Vinny from now on), and found there are two diagonals consisting of "I"'s. Now I feel like I have found something incredible. For the top portion "I" line in Vinny, I traced its endpoint in both directions, and saw two "Q"'s at each end. Yep. And then when I again applied Q being one coordinate, and K being the other (last Kryptos letter for CLOCK) I saw it end up at "K" again.
It's not over. Then I saw in Vinny something I had already seen before hand, now I see in the Wikipedia article too. Vinny is an optical illusion. "BETWEEN SUBTLE SHADING AND THE ABSENCE OF LIGHT LIES THE NUANCE OF IQLUSION" Note the "I" leads into the "Q" for K1. Note how at least in the Wikipedia article, above the "I" line is "subtle shading" and below it is "the absence of light" that is the "MNQ" wall...
WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now this isn't absolute proof that "AT I" is in fact a legitimate thing. For starters, the Wikipedia article has black text. Kryptos actually will be yellow or white text, as the light shines into and through the letters. But we can apply the logic of inversing the colors as another "flip" per say, and even more so even with white text on black backgrounding, the optical illusion exists, and "I" leading to "Q" matches. Also this use of Vinny only applies to BERLIN CLOCK right now. I did try to apply this for EAST NORTHEAST, but I couldn't find any bigger patterns or proof. But I don't think it is needed. BERLIN CLOCK was stated long before EAST NORTHEAST, that the timing is suspect, making me think BERLIN CLOCK is its own thing, and a frequency of two is enough, especially with other things considered. I think we can trust this is what ABC was supposed to lead to as well.
So... yeah. I feel that gives a lot of validity to "AT I", and also my previous work in regard to that. But I wasn't done yet and found one last thing, bringing further proof that the Swedish Dodo is actually legitimate.
"T IS YOUR POSITION E" is strange. It can be just taken at face value, or as commonly thought "WHAT IS YOUR POSITION E" rather. I also added to that by stating it maybe "IT IS YOUR POSITION E". Well, focusing on "T is" rather than the next two variants, I happened to see one last thing in Vinny. The first row has an "E". Below that, is a "T". "T IS YOUR POSITION E" is actually a question we are sending to his holiness, KING TUT. So basically, in my last post I realized that the Morse Code has a joke where in a sense King Tut, who's discovery is stated in K3, is actually trying to communicate with us. Well, turns out, in Vinny, the "T" below the "E" (the "E" being an abscissa) is actually the last letter in the first portion of the second line, that matters.
"AKRYPT"
aka. "A KRYPT!"
Yep. It's right there. Now, I may have at least had some subconscious and reddit help. See, in this very subreddit, of which I still a very new part, there is one pinned post for the all the letters in K4. However, underneath it, is a unique comment. Only one, by u/Infinite_Force1227.
"Tosa tosa tosa tosa"
I have no idea what plane this person is thinking on. Maybe he is the legendary man who responded to Steve Harvey's "Pork", with "Upine", but holy moly (I wanna avoid curse words), but below the "T" of "A KRYPT" is in fact TOSA. I don't know how... But at least the ABC does in fact match with TOS, thus indicating a kinda bridge present, and filling it in gives of course King Tut letting us know where he is you know.
Now, here is the final dash of sprinkles. KRYPT is technically Polish for crypt. Google translate to the rescue again. But as mentioned, there are two clocks (technically more) in Berlin. One, the true Berlin Clock, and the other, the World Clock itself. The world clock has a compass at the bottom. Going EAST NORTHEAST gets you too POLAND.
So there isn't just German involved here, but also definitely Polish, and very likely Swedish. That did bug me as to why the Dodo was Dront, but now I know. Anyhow, this is my progress so far. If you have read this far, then thank you.

Hi everyone ! Here’s another update :

1. I haven’t been posting for the last month due to time constraints plus a little bit of burnout. I’ve been trying to be realistic with my upload schedule but I’ve come to realize that even uploading two posts a day becomes exhausting after a while especially since I want to watch and enjoy these videos too. I plan on returning in June though since I want to continue this archiving process.
2. I’ve decided to change one of the rules and make this sub mod-only for uploading files. I really wanted this sub to be open to the community but most people don’t seem too interested or, if they are, they upload files the wrong way and it’s a bit of a pain to reorganize everything. Not that I don’t trust people but … wow, some of you can’t follow basic directions. I understand that there have been some issues with users not being able to find the “post flair”, which is fine since the layout for whatever reason doesn’t want to show it for some users and I could always just manually add it myself as a mod anyway. However, I’ve already seen several people messing up titles (and there haven’t been too many users posting besides myself) and it’s like … either title it correctly or don’t bother posting ? It just feels annoying sometimes.
3. I’m not gonna recategorize the wiki by date since I don’t have the time for it lol. I barely understand how to make pages on it so I’m not interested in messing up the whole thing, especially if it’s simply meant to be one massive reference page for people who are searching for certain poops in mind.
4. And last but least, I’ve decided to make this update today since I just discovered that one of my favorite YTPers just got their channel terminated about a month ago :( . I’m not gonna list names due to privacy (or even relevancy, as I want these update posts to ONLY be about this sub) but I did want to bring it up due to its sudden occurrence. This isn’t the first it’s happened but every time it does, it becomes more and more apparent why I even felt the need to create this sub to begin with. It was even stated in the welcoming post about this sub’s purpose : to save YTPs not only for archival purposes but from the threat of deletion as well. Luckily in this case, the YTPer in question decided to open up another channel and post their new YTPs there as well as some reuploads (including some that I’ve already archived here). But ultimately, it’s these types of incidents that really reinforce the need to continue this ever-growing collection of vulgar and bizarrely edited videos lol.

That’s about it for this update. Until next time !

I’ve been in the worst depressive episode I’ve ever had for the past 8 or 9 months. Lost my job and all my friends months ago. Could barely get out of bed for months. I had a really shitty childhood. My parents were very neglectful and abusive. They hit me all the time because I couldn’t behave. My mom disowned me when I was 12 and then I had to move with my dad who was arguably worse. He made my teenage years absolute hell. The worst part is cps and mental health professionals were involved in my life and every single one of them fell for my parents manipulation. In fact some therapist made things much worse. I wasn’t even a bad kid. I never snuck out or yelled or hit them back. I wanted to be good. I started working at 16 and never had motivation to go to college until recently. I became so burnt out working dead end jobs so I thought trying to get an education at least would help me feel like I had more purpose. I had/have dreams of becoming an epidemiologist. But I just can’t afford anything. I got into the university i want to go to but I can’t afford to move there. I also can’t afford my current home. I have a month to get out. I’m trying so fucking hard to prove my abusers wrong but I think I’m going to prove them right. My step mom used to love telling me I was going to end up dead in a ditch. Maybe it won’t be in a ditch but I’m probably as young as she thought I’d be. I just wanted to be good. That’s all I’ve ever wanted. I wanted to be good for the world and help and inspire people but it’s too hard. I can’t handle the stress. My poor traumatized mind and body can’t do anything good for the world no matter how bad I want it or how hard I try. I can’t afford it. I can’t navigate how difficult this is. Stupid investors bought all the apartments in the college town and now everyone is just fucked. It’s all so fucked I just want to rest forever now. I want to sink into nothingness. I can’t even help myself I was foolish to ever dream of helping the world. I want to be and school and try to get a job on campus and really start taking better care of myself but it’s so hard. I wish I could just get there. It feels so close, but just out of reach.

For context I (M30) is feeling sad about my childhood best and only friend (also M30) moving across the country the next month for his dream job. A part of me is happy for him he found his calling but I’m never gonna be able to chill him like I use to and that’s what’s keeping me up right now. My homie has been my day 1 since elementary school -had the same classes, neighborhood and school system we both grew up in until we both turned 30 recently. I’ve looked up ways to cope with this and all the answers on the internet are just generic “put yourself out there” “just find new friends” like it’s a walk in the park though unfortunately I’ll end up in this situation if I try https://youtu.be/Msxsu448JmE?si=jUYHmA0Wuem8faFu . I wouldn’t be surprised if I have crippling autism or social anxiety. So how do you people in your 30s stay connected with your friends or find new ones? Are there sites you use to find social gatherings and such? Is there anything I can do besides “put myself out there”?

I'm having really bad anxiety right now because I can't seem to stop googling, and it feels like I'm stuck in a loop. I also live in canada.
I'm asking because I might have a bump/lump on my muscle

Hello I’m not sure where to start we got together around the beginning of 2020, I’m pretty sure he love bombed me and I fell for it we spoke about what we wanted from a relationship early on and I probably should’ve taken it as a red flag when he said he wants to be a father and was pressuring me to remove my contraception, I refused as I wanted marriage then kids and we only just met but I was due to have my contraception removed afew months later, before having my contraception removed he proposed to me and I said yes after my contraception was removed he got me pregnant and we had a child together, he’s never been around much since I was pregnant I’ve done it all on my own and he used to accuse me of cheating when in reality I was tired from taking care of our child full time alone, he started working away while I was pregnant and working saturdays then sundays he would hang with mates and it just never stopped. I’ve caught this man crossing boundaries multiple times he then gets mad at me and he only gives me the truth if I come to him with proof. I’ve seen some things recently an email came through I saw and came to him about it and he’s trying to convince me that I didn’t see it and I’m accusing him of doing things he’s not when I 100% know he’s lying as I have proof of this email. Also I have seen he has been on gay hookup app since last year (we’re both apparently straight) also he’s been on at least 2 dating apps since early this year that I know of but don’t have proof but I know what I saw and he will try convince me otherwise. Obviously this mans never going to stop but I need to get out with child safely and legally how do I even process this I have no idea who I’m sleeping with help. This is just the beginning 6 months ago we split and there were court orders in place he convinced me to remove which now I regret because I realised he’s played me and I loved him. He’s being so nice right now I think he might know somethings is up but not exactly what it is, or maybe he’s guilty for lying and trying to make it up to me in other ways but I just want the truth my guys been telling me for months something is up and I wish I listened sooner. Feel free to ask any questions I’m sure I’ve missed some stuff as I’m struggling to comprehend everything I know. Thanks for reading :)

After 7 years together and 5 years married, I finally woke the fuck up and have officially filed to divorce my narcissistic, emotionally abusive, lazy father of a husband. I feel like I’ve already been through all the stages of grief, and I should be super scared and nervous to tell him tomorrow, but honestly all I feel right now is joy. He was 70 percent of our household income and the next year isn’t going to be easy, but man….I’m so proud of myself.

I'm 20 years old and my girlfriend is 19 years old we just went to a Hyundai dealership 1 week ago to look at a 2024 Elantra N. This is one of her dream cars a car I've been hearing about for over a year. And a car we both had our eye's on so we wanted to test drive it. The Salesman was practically chattering his teeth along with higher staff I assume because it was taking a while to get in the car. But after running my girlfriends credit and filling out a form of information they let's go on a test drive down the street and back. The Sales Manager comes into the dealer behind us ultimately trying to negotiate a sale without even introducing himself as a Sale Manager. I had to read this title on his name tag. This Sales Manager made my girlfriend extremely uncomfortable by saying comeback with "daddy so he can help you get this car." This Sales Manager went on saying this about 10 times repetitively leading with "daddy" in different phrases. Some examples that he said are "talk to daddy when you get home so you can get this" , "beg daddy for the car and he will help his girl", "daddy loves his girl and will spoil you". "I'll talk number with daddy bring him in here." "Give daddy a big hug when you see him" I was about to blow steam out my ears. This guy was a full on weirdo let me tell you. The Sales Manager also goes on to demonstrate how she should persuade her dad into getting her this car by giving a salesman a long hug infront of us.

 The Salesman In a uneasy kind of tone also asked the Sales Manager why is he hugging him. The Sales Manager goes on saying "well I didn't want to hug her in front of him" as in ( Me her boyfriend) and the result of that would of lead this guy to a very bad day. This Sales Manager is in his mid to late 50s I assume. A real oddball kind of guy we both had a serious bad feeling about him. The Sales Manager finally disappeares after this with a last comment saying "comeback with daddy so we can talk some numbers." Speaking to my girlfriend as he walks away. We then were lead to a desk with a salesman to get a ballpark number on the Elantra N and the car was marked up 3k over msrp + taxes as a market adjustment charge. I was ready to leave the dealer after what just happened screw the car at this point. The result of this happening caused us to leave the dealer. This situation has really bothered my girlfriend to the point were she was balling her eyes out that someone would speak to her this way and that she couldn't say anything about it because she was extremely uncomfortable. 

This Sales Manager didn't even acknowledge that we might be able to pay for this car out right if we really wanted to. He just assumed we couldn't because we are younger which is unacceptable. We never went back nor plan to but this has really effected my girlfriend and me to this day. Any suggestions if I should take some kind of action or just let it be at this point.? We haven't told anybody about this.
The Dealer is Healey Hyundai Fishkill/Beacon NY Eddie Rullo Is The Sales Managers Name

Postgame Thread 5/21/2024

Final Score: Giants 6, Pirates 7
Purpose of this thread

• Discuss developing baseball action LIVE
  
• Discuss the Giants game
  
• Post hilarious memes / images / gifs / information that may not deserve a front-page post of its own. If it's big news, feel free to do both! This, and the gameday thread, are good places to post your Dodger jokes and memes.
  
• Discuss ANYTHING as long as it follows the rules of conduct.
  

Highlights

Description	Length
Bullpen availability for Pittsburgh, May 21 vs Giants	0:07
Bullpen availability for San Francisco, May 21 vs Pirates	0:07
Bench availability for Pittsburgh, May 21 vs Giants	0:07
Fielding alignment for Pittsburgh, May 21 vs Giants	0:11
Breaking down Martín Pérez's pitches	0:04
Measuring the stats on Thairo Estrada's home run	0:13
A deep dive into Thairo Estrada's home run	0:11
Breaking down Matt Chapman's home run	0:11
Breaking down Logan Webb's pitches	0:04
Logan Webb's outing against the Pirates	0:23
Giants plate two runs on a fielding error in the 1st	0:29
Oneil Cruz's single is the hardest hit ball of 2024	0:23
[Jared Triolo plates Nick Gonzales with a sac fly]()	0:21
Oneil Cruz drills a 120.4 mph single	0:27
Thairo Estrada belts a two-run home run to left field	0:29
Martín Pérez gets Jorge Soler swinging	0:10
[Bryan Reynolds reaches, driving in Ji Hwan Bae]()	0:22
Martín Pérez strikes out four against the Giants	0:37
Matt Chapman hits a solo home run to center field	0:29
[Logan Webb fans Jack Suwinski]()	0:06
Logan Webb strikes out six across six innings	0:40
[Thairo Estrada drives in a run with an RBI groundout]()	0:21
[Ji Hwan Bae grounds an RBI single to right field]()	0:18
[Andrew McCutchen reaches on an error and a run scores]()	0:23
[Bryan Reynolds reaches, plating Jared Triolo]()	0:22
Oneil Cruz rips a game-tying double to right field	0:28
Nick Gonzales hits a walk-off single in the 10th	0:22

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Since basically most comments on every post in this subreddit are from smart ass atheists that know everything and they need 100% proof of the God and Jesus or they arent following it. My new solution I present to you is this.
Since you wont go to church and already feel the spiritual power of peace it brings you.
I challenge you to join your local satanic temple. Now, I am not supporting the enemy but, it would give you a chance to see the spiritual dark side.
Participate in their rituals where they sacrifice living organisms, draw pentagram and other freaky occult stuff.
You will then start summoning demons in the rooms where the ritual is going on. You will then see supernatural and paranormal events which will occur. You will feel the power the enemy has, you will feel evil.
You can then use your very intelligent brain to put two and two together and find that god must be real. Since you can’t have evil without good.
Now I actually don’t want anyone to do this as I am very much a Christian, since I have experienced the dark side and it is very real. This path will led a life of terror and pain if you are on the dark side.
If you go further in the occult, you’ll probably have demonic entities follow you home, torture you in sleep, manifest themselves to you, play with door and lights and move things, touch or scratch you, feel as if something is following you and about to strike you from behind, have more intense feelings of anger, fear, depression, anxiety.
Thus, I wouldn’t won’t anyone to do this but since people refuse to become a Christian and don’t understand the concept of ‘faith’. This challenge will crush all your ignorant atheists beliefs and open you into a new spiritual realm.

Hi everyone! I would love your advice on a situation. I work in a very small team of three people in a high-stakes department. Also full disclosure, I'm one of those hyper -achiever CPTSDer as it was the only time my parents showed any interest in me. Our team is very dynamic and is constantly having to juggling multiple projects at once. I have one team member, who is incredibly unreliable and non-communicative. I've tried to cover for them as much as possible, but it's getting to the point of no return. Also my boss totally notices and has provided feedback about how we really need them to help out, but anytime they get feedback they will breakdown in tears.
Things are really getting to the point, where I am asking their help as I am drowning and I won't hear back from them for days or an entire week (they are full-time remote and their workload is maybe 1/4 of mine). I've had other people reach out to me as they will send an email and not hear back for multiple weeks. Recently, they have been dropping balls left and right, not following through on projects, and will ghost work (days later they will let us know they were not feeling well, but never communicated anything to us or have a delayed communication bouceback on their email).
Now my boss is gone for 3 weeks and things are bad. I can feel my trauma getting activated in the sense of not being able to count/rely on them and going back into a state of hyper independence and survival mode. As such, I'm getting flashbacks from my childhood of when I could never count on my parents and had to find ways to survive. I'm trying my best to stay present and grounded in my body, but things are not working.
They are also on a contract that expires this year. Any advice with how to survive the next 3 weeks?

The title is a bit clickbaity i know. There is no end of marriage in this life, or failure of it as it is a covenant with God. Perhaps failed relationship is better suited
I debated whether or not to give the backstory, however I feel I will, but first where things are now.
6 months ago my wife asked to for seperation. She wanted "Freedom & Independence" and didnt want to live together anymore and felt that she had been pressured by her Catholic College and family into getting married in the first place (not me but the sacrament). She had been kicking around religious life, but that was more due to her lack of better options as she had struggled with SSA in her life.
We talked, alot and roughly came to the understanding that we would revisit this when our last child was out of the house (we have three all 8-11). She had also wanted to have her "own space" and wanted to build a small tiny house in the backyard where "everything would be how she liked it".
Background
She had relationships with girls in her teens, then a boyfriend who she described as having raped her. I am still struggling to understand what this means exactly as she has given different accounts that vary from consent but then regretted after to more of a consent after relentless asking.
This set her off into full SSA relationships. She then went to a very Orthodox Catholic college but was looking for female connection of that sort. She ended up pulling in her roomate and best friend who then at the end of the first year contacted her mother about the relationship and how sorry she was for being involved, but that she (my wife) needed help.
There was some intervention, praying over her (mother is very charismatic) and then she was ok for awhile. She then was on Catholic SSA support groups but then used that to find people to have emotional long distance relationships with. She had a bunch of SSA relationships during this time. Still struggling with this and her faith she leaned towards religious life, like i imagine alot of attempting to be faithful SSA Catholics do. If i cant be married then i guess its priesthood/sisters. While she was praying at one point she asked God for a sign of where shes supposed to go. she then saw a famous saint holding flowers, but not the same flowers they are normally depicted with. She realized this was her sign.
We met and during the course of the courtship I wasnt the best Catholic, I was just getting back on track in living my faith and realized i needed to seek out women who were going to help me on the path and not drag me off, or let me drag myself off (hold me to account). She always liked a purple so those were the flowers i always got. We had long discussions about the future and she was very honest in that she wasnt sure she was called to marriage. she was still figuring it out. Her mother asked if the sign was given yet, and it hadnt.
That same day of the call with her mom I ended up getting, for no reason in my mind, a different set of flowers. ones that matched perfectly the type and color her sign had been. After that she was convinced. We began to plan for marriage and did all the marriage prep. Talked alot about her past, was told it was in the past and not anything she struggled with anymore and that marriage is forever no matter what.
Throughout our marriage I readily admit i wasnt the best husband at times. I was always trying to find extra ways to make money and develop a business i could run so that, in my mind, I could set our lives up around what we wanted to do, have our own schedules, travel with the kids whenever, etc. I focused on that alot. I spent many if not most nights working on that. She was neglected. She did however all during that time say supportive things, saying i need to keep going, i believe in you, etc etc. The feelings of neglect were never brought up by her (now I can see it very clearly and feel terrible about it, wish i could change it)
At the same time i was dealing with things from the war and secretly drinking those nights as well. I didnt go out. I didnt cheat or anything i just drank to forget. About 5-6 years ago i realized i couldnt control it like i thought i could and stopped completely and then i realized that i had been taking her for granted and neglecting her. I stopped my projects and began to actually spend quality time together. Things were really good. She was also going through therapy to deal with her past and that had brought things up, she had started drinking as well, but we were both moving towards good things. She got pregnant and then things really got perfect.
We were close, spent nights out together, talked, she started to talk about wanting to be more feminine, grow her hair out longer than shoulder, wear dresses etc. I was amazed and thankful to God that he had helped her get in touch with her feminity in a deeply maternal way.
Then....we lost the baby.
We had miscarriages before, and its not to make it sound routine, but from our experiences in the past I knew she would want space, take up the slack, keep up with the housework, do things that made her feel appreciated etc. I did that. I think i gave her too much space. She began to spend more and more time with a friend (Female) go out late, drink, etc.
I very bluntly asked if anything weird was going on she denied it. I began to have more and more panic attacks as I was completely convinced my marriage was over. She continued to deny it, but never stopped spending more and more time with this person. Obsessing over everything in her life and her marriage, her problems. Husband is out of town she needs to stay there until late because other girl doesnt like being alone in the house, husband is back, she needs to go out because the friend is having marriage issues. They start smoking weed together and things get worse and worse. Finally she comes back from a "girls" weekend and breaks down admitting "you are right, i am attracted to her" and "I dont know if i can stay straight for you"
We talk alot, when it comes to me saying they cant hang out anymore she then quickly reverses course and its no longer repentance and needing to change, but "not wanting the devil to win....not wnating to lose another friendship" and wanting to bring her friend "into the church". I was told I was putting all the blame on the friend and that wasnt fair.
Looking back i realize i should have drawn a line in the sand. I should have done alot of things differently but i cant change that now.
The friendship and the obsession continued. The bringing the friend to church was BS as she told her about the rosary for one night and then after that just more weed smoking (its better than drinking and its natural....)
Then finally im heading to a retreat at a monastery and i get a call that they arent friends anymore, she sad. Im happy. Ok i think, we can finally put this behind us. By the time im heading to the airport after the weekend shes back as friends.
Fast forward some months and then she has to talk to me about how shes never been comfortable with physical intimacy (marital act) because of her past and she doesnt think she can handle being pregnant ever again (understandable to a degree) so shes not sure she can be physically intimate anymore. I say outwardly that If i need to do this for her I can manage whether its months or years, sure. inwardly im thinking this is just another step in the wrong direction, but im still praying. Im still trying to maintain hope
Then something happens i dont know what. Her friend is moving and is getting a divorce soon afterwards but they had a fight and got blocked on everything. My wife is distraught, basically shuts down for 2 months. I have been over those two years basically doing everything in the house. from laundry to meals to cleaning. She does some things, but i do the vast majority. I do it so she can see i care, but she doesnt care. We had been in counseling during this time, but she would say things, we would talk, she would say its working, but it wasnt she was lying and holding back.
After this friend left. she ended up finding a new one. Same MO. mentally wonky, isolated, no friends and then they became inseparable. within a year im completely zonked mentally and spiritually i cant handle it and it comes to a head. She breaks down about how her losing the old friend hurt her so bad because there wasnt "closure" which in my experience with her and other friendships just means long talks until they are friends again. She talks about how they were making all these plans and were going to raise the kids together because we werent working (hard to work on the marriage with that going on i would think?)
So thats a light outline of the background and now back to beginning. Asked for separation and now were just "co parenting" under the same roof.
My greatest fear and what advice im seeking is
i worry heavily about the souls of my children and what a divorce (civil i know theres no such thing in the eyes of God) would do them. I see it kids everywhere. Is it better to maintain a facade for them or will the realization down the road scandalize them out of their faith? Will a separation now scandalize them out of the faith?
Is allowing them to grow up in a home where Mom/Wife is gone constantly to "hang out with her friend" going to scandalize them in their future relationships, because for my daughters if they are with any man worthy he wont tolerate that (what does that say about me right?)
So im left with two options, which i dont know which to pick? I care about the faith and souls of my kids and wife, which is best?
1) Continue the facade and chance scandalizing them in the future where they lose trust in the faith i tried to pass along to them and about marriage in general? Give them the wrong example of how a marriage is supposed to be with her as an example of womanhood?
Will my steadfastness in trying to hold the marriage together in hope for reconciliation in the future be a good example of what marriage is for them or just a scandal to avoid? or God forbid repeat?
2) Allow the separation and the fantasy land of "independence" that she dreams of show its true face and that all that lies ahead is barely scrapping by because even in the best alimony imaginable she couldnt afford to keep the house and pay the bills, we barely do together now.
Will my "giving up" scandalize them in the same way
to answer any questions you may have

1. i have talked to a priest about this, i am in contact with a counselor at our diocese that is very orthodox about the situation
2. She says her current friendship isnt "like that" ie like before which infers even more so that I was right about the last friend. She doesnt acknowledge that emotional affairs exist or understand proper boundaries between say a friendship and the emotional nature of a romantic relationship. It seem she thinks as long as nothing physical happens its basically all Kosher. I think growing up with SSA makes it hard as you are attracted romantically to girls but also friends with them so those proper boundaries are never formed mentally as the perversion of SSA is deep.
3. I know marriage is forever. regardless of what the other person does. There are no grounds for annulment as there we both consented fully at the time of the sacrament. She is in the process of the rewriting history of our relationship to sound more like she didnt have full consent "i was pressured...." perhaps to make herself feel less culpable for the present or perhaps in misplaced compassion to give me an "out"

Thank you, Pax et Bonum

Hi,
I was hoping to get some advice from anyone who might have gone through this, or possibly to be pointed in the right direction for support.
I was dating a girl for 2 months and she got pregnant. We're about 5 months into the pregnancy, and she wants us to buy a place together so we have more room for the baby.
I don't know what I'm doing or if I even want to be with her, and I feel like I'm trapped in this situation with no way out.
Obviously there's more context and background to this story, and I'd be happy to expand on it if anybody was interested in knowing more. But this is the situation I'm in and the last 5 months have been the worst months of my life by far.
Any advice or help is much appreciated.
Thanks,

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…or, subtitled, “My belated review of the Pittsburgh show”. 😄 I haven’t had time to relate everything that I wanted to say about this outstanding show until now, and I wanted to do it before this leg of the tour ends in a few hours.
I didn’t have a ticket for this show originally. I just bought a resale ticket last Monday (the 13th) on the floor just behind the GA area. It was a great ticket too - it was dead center, and the cost was very reasonable (in fact, even with all of the ridiculous fees, it was still only $116 altogether - I’m convinced the seller sold it for the same price they payed originally. Thank you, original ticket holder! 🙏)
So, why did I choose to go to this show in particular? Several reasons (one of which being that I was unfairly denied a chance at buying a GA ticket for this show originally because of the limited advance notice of the Ether Pass presale - I found out about it less than an hour after it started, but of course all the GA was sold already. 🙄 Powers-that-be-in-the-GVF-universe, give more advance notice for Ether Pass presales! They aren’t infected with scalpers like the Electric Tomb and Peaceful Army ones are - TELL US THE NIGHT BEFORE, NOT THE SAME DAY! Rant over.), but the main reason really was the chance to see Mirador in addition to GVF. I was very intrigued by this unexpected new band, and, since I couldn’t be certain that they were going to play live again past May, I had to jump at this opportunity. My parents’ families are also originally from Western PA, so this was a homecoming show of sorts for me as well. So, I secured the ticket and prepared to make my trek from Eastern PA to Western PA, a.k.a., driving almost the full extent of the Pennsylvania Turnpike. 😄
I planned my trip really well. I got up in plenty of time to make the trip leisurely to Pittsburgh, go to my hotel and relax before the show, have a meal, and then be entertained by wonderful bands all night. Well, plans and reality, tragically, don’t always match. I was reminded of that fact very painfully this past Saturday.
I’m driving in town, right at the beginning of my trip…and my car just completely dies about 2 miles from my house! 😩 I had no warning that this was about to occur. However, there was a silver lining to breaking down this early: if I could get the car to the garage somewhat quickly, I could borrow a car and still make it to Pittsburgh before the show started. I called AAA, got the tow truck arranged, and he showed up 2 hours later. Not good - but not so late that I couldn’t make the trip still. He, after much research, figured out how to get my car onto the truck (this was tricky because the car had no power at all, so it couldn’t be started), and he used to work at the garage that I wanted my car towed to! This was the first bit of good fortune - a sign that the Universe was still looking out for me. We were still good to go! I got the car to the garage, got back home to borrow another car, and still had time to make the cross-state drive in time to see the show!
Since I lost 2 hours that I didn’t know I’d be losing, that made taking rest stops along the way rather interesting. 😄 I thought I’d have plenty of time to eat, use the restroom occasionally, etc. - no, that’s not how it went down. I did manage two stops on this 5-hour drive that, miraculously, only took 4 hours and 15 minutes. (I’ll have to research whether or not cars can perform time warps at high speeds, but, based on this trip, I think they might be able to! 😄) Eating was a bit funny too - to save time, I had to eat while driving. While eating, I discovered that Burger King added mayonnaise to my Impossible Whopper when I asked them not to (I’m allergic to mayonnaise). So, I had to dispose of the top bun and attempt to consume the rest while somehow keeping my hands clean from the other condiments. This also stretched the boundaries of physics, but I somehow managed to do it without too much trouble (while traveling at Warp Speed, mind you).
I got to the hotel 30 minutes before Mirador (one of the two reasons I made the trip) was hitting the stage. I was checked-in ASAP (the clerk could see my sense of urgency bordering on panic), and told me how to walk to the arena (I chose this specific hotel so that I could walk to the arena). If you haven’t been to Pittsburgh before, the streets are arranged like a 3-dimensional chess board, as most cities are that are built on river valleys. One wrong turn and I would find out why Christopher Nolan shot the third “Batman” film here - and, with my luck, probably run into Bane. However, the Universe was looking out for me again, and I got to the arena and to my seat about 3 minutes before Mirador took the stage. Phew! 😅
Well, I loved Mirador, and I was happy that I got to see them. They were worth all the trouble. And, as an added bonus, GVF put on a blindingly good show! 😃 They were in great spirits all night, the “Saturday night” vibe had everyone in a good mood. I had more stress than I thought I would ever have before this show, but, when it was all said and done, the effort was totally worth it! I would have given up on the trip if it had been any other band - but there was no way I was missing this show unless it had been literally impossible to get there in time. Fortunately, it was merely highly inconvenient to get there in time! 😄
Thank you, Mirador and GVF, for making my trip worth it! 🙏 See you again in Uncasville (and from GA this time too)! Namaste. 🙏

I had an mri and echo last week and the echo came back normal with 62% ejection fraction…2 days later the mri said 44% ejection fraction with mild left apical hypokinesis…I did feel worse and have more chest pain during mri but I have chest pain every day…what are the chances the mri was not accurate for some reason?

Since I was born, I have lived in a small town in the eastern bay area of California. It was a small but beautiful city. We were located within contra costa county which was home to many rolling hills and oak trees, I lived with my older brother who was 14 at the time and my parents. We resided in a large home with two stories on the top of a hill where we like often be greeted with the pleasant ocean breeze from the nearby San Francisco Bay. Sometimes, we were greeted with something else, something far less pleasant than ocean breeze. This is the story of the thing
When I was 12 years old, I’d always love to lay my eyes on the beautiful view from our home. I’d sometimes sit for hours just embracing everything I could see. Today was a beautiful day, the clouds were mild and soft, and the sky was bright and full of the signature breeze. As I woke up, I walked down to the kitchen to grab some breakfast where I was greeted by a wonderful sweet smell. “ Hi Matthew, “ my mother said sweetly as she’d always been,
“ come grab a waffle, they are delicious today. “
I was immediately excited as waffles were my favorite thing ever, so I dashed over to the large island to eat my breakfast.
“ Thanks mom! “ I said excitedly, immediately chowing down on my food.
“ Your brother is in the backyard mowing the lawn, sorry about the noise. “ I nodded my head and examined the room, suddenly my eyes were met with the calendar hanging on the wall. It was a pleasant day in May, however that’s not what caught my attention. What I saw was the date of the special day me and my friend would have. Every once in a while, we would ride our bikes to long distance to the Briones Regional Park, which was a beautiful expanse of rolling hills and trails. There we would hike all day long and play in the beautiful hills getting up to god knows what, and today was one of those days.
“ Mom, remember today? “
She looked confused for a moment until the calendar also caught her eyes.
“ Oh, I’ll have to call Lucas’s mother, “ she said, “ What time are you leaving? “
“ 1 o’clock. “
She grabbed her Nokia phone, which was the biggest new thing at the time, and dialed my best friends mothers phone number.
“ Hello, this is Alyssa, Matthew’s mom. “
As she talked on the phone, I saw my brother come in and head into his bedroom where he sneakily picked up my mother’s fashion magazine. I rolled my eyes as I knew what he was doing but ignored it, I went up to my room to text my buddy Lucas on my Nokia.
“ Hey bro, “ I texted awaiting a response. About 5 minutes later I got a response.
“ Hey, my mom says I’ll come to your house at 1 o’clock so we can ride to Briones. “ I told him that he was right and I’d see him at 1 o’clock.
When he arrived, he was all ready with his backpack and everything. “ Hey! “ I called out excitedly. Lucas was a 12 year old fair skinned boy on the cusp of puberty with medium length brown hair and green eyes. We got up to our usual shenanigans until we finally got ready to get on our bikes. Until we saw the thing upon leaving the house.
Every once in a while, flickering lights could be seen from the hills of Briones which were an odd blue color. They were clearly visible and had an off putting presence.
“ What’s that? “ Lucas asked me.
“ Oh, we just see those lights every now and then, we don’t really know what it is. “
This didn’t concern us at the time and after about an hour of riding we finally arrived at one of the trails. We got off of our bikes and started our hike.
“ It’s a nice day bro, “ I mentioned, “ not too hot or cold. “
“ Yeah, good thing we went today. “ Lucas added on.
We started our usual hike to one of our favorite spots in the park which had a big oak tree where we would eat all the usual snacks. However as we were hiking, a familiar voice shouted. “ Hey! “
It was my brother, what was he doing here? He got out of his Honda and ran to me.
“ You forgot your backpack, here. “ He handed it to me and drove off before I could say anything.
“ That was weird.. “ Lucas added.
“ At least we have my backpack now “
The hike was beautiful, we crossed a lot of unmarked trails as where we usually went was deep in the park.
After around 45 minutes of hiking and doing our usual banter, we made it to the oak tree and laid out a picnic blanket.
“ Okay, I brought some snacks and water. “ Lucas commented. As we took out all of our food from our backpacks, I noticed one more thing, my mother’s magazine.
“ What’s that? “ Lucas asked.
“ How did this get here? “ I asked myself puzzled.
“ What is it though? “ Lucas asked me.
“ It’s one of my mom’s women’s fashion magazines, I saw Dallas grab it and head into his room, he must have accidentally left it here. “
Lucas quickly grabbed the magazine and said “ damn “ under his breath. Now that I look back at it it was a pretty normal magazine, but we were 12 going on 13 on the cusp of puberty, how could we resist?
“ Should we take a look? “ Lucas suggested.
“ I-I don’t know bro, should we? “
“ Of course we should! “ Lucas exclaimed.
“ Aight then.. “
I hadn’t got my hands on any magazine as it was the late 1990s and they were hard to find. So obviously I was invested as we flipped through the page. Until I felt a presence, almost threatening.
“ I’ve got a stiffy now, bro. Your brother shouldn’t have put this in by accide- “
“ Do you feel that? “ I interrupted
“ Feel what? “ Lucas asked confused.
“ I don’t know, it just feels off. “
“ You’re just excited bro. “
“ No- well yes, but I feel something off. “
Before he could get a word out, I saw it. I saw the lights. They resembled a moth flying around a lamp. I felt like I was being punished almost, I had no idea why.
“ What the hell? “ Lucas said extremely shakily.
“ I think those were the lights! Let’s go come on! “
“ We are in the middle of this mag! Seriously Matthew? “
“ I don’t care about the hot chicks no more, come on! “
“ Fine! “
We got up and ran to the sight where the lights were seen. After about 10 minutes we saw a sign.
“ What the fuck? “
It was a tall sign that had the words “ Purificationem Statione praesmisit “ written on it. We had no idea what it meant.
“ What the hell does that mean? “ I said.
Before Lucas could say anything, I pointed out a weird industrial looking box building surrounded by electric fence.
“ What is that.. “
I started to feel uneasy again, I felt a terrible sense of dread. Right when we got to the small gate, I heard a whisper right by my ear.
“ You’ve brought something impure to the site, Matthew. “
I shut down in the moment and I felt the Magazine flying at me extremely fast. I blacked out, fading into unconsciousness.
TO BE CONTINUED

This was my 25th birthday. I have noticed there tends to be some sort of arguments happening within my family during our special events. I got diagnosed with a back pain last year and ever since this diagnosis I have been quite hyper aware of my emotions and the way I have been treated around by people. My sister is 30 F, mom and dad are in their mid 50s and early 60s.
So yesterday was my birthday. Everything was going fine until it came to cake cutting. I was already not feeling well due to the humidity and heat and my family while speaking normally were just yelling. I told them to speak a bit lower and to not shout so much as it is getting in my head. My mom didn’t like that and it seems she talked about me being weird about this to my sister or some bullshit I guess .
So coming back to preparing for my Birthday cakes, my sister was preparing herself to take my pictures and I had to push my dad too. Usually during their birthdays and anniversaries I am the person who takes the pictures and I have to decide the venue for them as well. I expect them to at least take DECENT looking pictures with no weird angles at least during my celebratory day.
Both my mom and dad were having some weird argument over in between, then dad also goes to other side of room and is taking a nap when he was suppose to click pictures. All three of us get more pissed .
We do the usual celebration thing. Then I noticed my sister took quite a bad picture with my dad where my dress was looking quite NSFW. It seems she got a cramp in her leg and she ends up sitting at the place where I was cutting the cake. She just starts yelling at me and she doesnt stop. Starts blaming me on how I should be looking at my own dress and it isn’t her fault or something.
I couldn’t take it as well and told her if this is the negativity she is planning to bring with her rage then she is not invited. I want this day to be at least memorable by being calm and peaceful.
She gets more enraged and created a scene by going to her room and my parents get upset and try to console her. They tell me why I said that to her and how it doesn’t feel good and how everyone should celebrate together yada yada. I told them her yelling at me continuously is not acceptable especially on this day. It is about me and not her and whenever her birthdays are there I have always taken awesome pictures of her which she uploads on her Instagram and other social media. I said this to her and she goes on her own babble.
She calls me selfish and other bunch of stuff earlier. I got pissed and said she is a narcissist here for purposely trying to ruin my day and start an argument making it all about her. She starts calling me back narcissist as a comeback and says how I am acting weird and talking to dad ( who kept making weird comments in between while I was cutting cake) and how mom also said something. My mom then decided to intervene and then asked her what are you talking about as she is getting involved and I ask mom what did you tell her and she goes she has no idea.
My day was ruined and all three of us went. I was not at all in the mood of celebrating with my parents as well due to their coddling behaviour to her and wanted to celebrate it alone. I kept telling them constantly in between the trip to the restaurant.Later I felt bad and let it go. However mom did mention I should celebrate it alone if I feel like this all the time.
Later in restaurant I gave a call to her. My dad told me to let it go as she needs to wake up early and we went to the place late and my mom kept forcing me to call her. I also asked them if I should get something for her as she did give me cash for birthday gift. My father was like apologise to her or don’t give anything if you don’t think it was your fault. I also noticed she didn’t post my birthday pic as status and claimed to have done it at night time. No one even my mom could see it on WhatsApp. She didn’t bother to post it again.
TLDR: sister created a ruckus during my birthday and I refused to let her join as a result Of it.