Recently my nmother decided to kick me out because I held a boundary with her. I refused to pick her up from work because an issue I wanted addressed was not addressed, so I allowed myself to say no and not have to explain myself.
My nmom's response was to have my enabler dad come upstairs and say that they think it's best I find somewhere else to live.
Next day I throw away half of my possessions because where I'm going I won't be able to take them, and pack what little I had left into my suitcases and left. Thankfully I had somewhere to go, and I am wanted and safe there.
My parents watched me do this. Watched me throw away items that I deemed "non-essential" because they would have nowhere to go.
Next day I get a long message from my nmom saying it was her decision to kick me out (no duh) and that it wasn't an easy one. She spewed off about her abusive past and how I don't have it half as bad as she did and blah blah blah. The problem is she ended the message the way I knew she would "we are proud of you and we love you and we want you to come home."
They watched me pack up my life in an instant, and leave. I called that this was going to happen. Why do they do it? I just cannot understand. One second I'm being kicked out, I actually go and they instantly want me to come back.
They deployed my flying monkey brother when I didn't reply to the message. I've realised now after all this time I have to be careful what I tell him. So I kept shtum. I knew if I told him I don't plan on going back it would get worse, so I just said I don't know what I'm doing yet. I have no intentions of going back, though.
Anyone else experienced this? Anything else I should expect? I never thought my parents would do this to me, but I'm beginning to realise I don't know what they're capable of.

So I've seen a lot of people saying that due to the lack of buffs/positive changes to Mercy and the Mirrowat h kit for Mercy that she's likely going to get a rework.
And as much as I would love that idea I think it's very unlikely, firstly yes she got a completely different kit in Mirrorwatch but I really don't see any of those elements working for her. One of the reason why reworks have rarely been super dramatic changes is because the dev team cares a lot about heroes having distinct identities, and as fun as it was mercy not having a res and being able to shoot during beam feels like it strays way too far from that. So I don't think personally that they were "testing the grounds" with her Mirrorwatch changes.
An other argument I've seen a lot is that Mercy hasn't received an actual buff since like season 3, (I would consider the removal of beam breakage during ult a quality of life change more than a buff). And while it's true I don't think it's enough to say that we'll be getting a rework for Mercy, she had her stats tweaked pretty much every other season to "shake the meta" and make DB interactions less frustrating to play against. But generally speaking she's been underperforming compared to supports like Kiriko, Zen or Bap.
I really think that at this point Mercy's current state isn't just a byproduct of the recent changes (health, dps passive) but that it's a conscious decision to let Mercy be this pretty underwhelming hero overall, who's just easy to pick up and fun to move arround with. Mercy still has some pretty niche usages like Hanzo getting his one shot back and res being really strong in some modes/maps, and I feel like that's just what they want to do with Mercy for the time being, a low risk/low impact hero.
I hope I'm wrong or that we'll at least get some buffs in season 11 but I wouldn't count on it so much

Hiya! I (15M) would like to share with you a situation and what im doing about it. In my all male school there are many idiots that make me more than a little worried for the future of humanity (just think of a male sleepover and general stupidity and multiply it by an entire highschools worth) but when the worst happens is in english class, the teacher of whitch we will call Mr R.
Sooo, Mr R is very strict and REQURES to be on time, no eating or drinking in class and of cource, no talking. SO HOW THE FUCK ARE THESE IDIOTS ARE FAILING ALL OF THEM?? They straigt up dont listen at all. So you know what Mr R does? Well he gives out punishments. Sounds fine right?? Well my sweet summer child THE ENTIRE CLASS GETS PUNISHED!!! So I, a student that is consistently near the top of the class ( i follow his rules, its a low bar i know) has to stay behind DURING LUNCH BREAKS AND THEN EAT LATER (we bring our own food to school so im not activley starving but ITS STILL 20 MORE MINUTES OF LEARNING WHERE I DID NOTHING WRONG) and even worse, Mr R contradicts himself!
THE COCONUT INCIDENT
to make this short: we are learning lord of the flies. Mr R brings a coconut for us to taste. Idiot 1 is eating in class after Mr R warned him not to, gets his cornflakes taken away and is sent out with Idiot 2 who just never shuts up. The remaining students including me gets to taste the coconut milk and im thinking "wow this is a cool way to connect with the story and im having fun!" BUT! Idiots 1 and 2 begin a protest outside, shouting and screaming so they can GET THEIR FUCKING CORNFLAKES BACK. WHAT??? WHAT THE FUCK??? WHY??? YOU ARE JUST RUINING IT FOR EVERYONE!! Mr R brings them back in and makes us sit in silence for the remaining 30 minuites and says we wont get to taste the coconut flesh. BUT HERES THE THING BATMAN! AT THE END HE LETS US TRY IT ANYWAY! THE PEOPLE WHO BEHAVED BADLY HAVE NO CONSEQUENCES AND OTHER PEOPLE GO " huh guess i can do any thing i want"
WE NOW RETURN TO YOUR SCEDULED RANT
so now we are way behind and with about 2 and a half weeks of school left i have to 1: finish reading lord of the flies with the entire class. 2. work with my partner (who relies on me a lot more than id like) to write a log on EVERY CHAPTER about our subject. 3. eventually watch the movie and 4. do a final test.
The thing is i cant do 1 and 2 unless im in english class and progress is slow af, 3 and 4 cant be done untill everyone of these dumbasses finishes 1 and 2. AND NOW MR R GETS ANGRY AT HOW SLOW WE ARE AND IS TALKING ABOUT STAYING AFTER SCHOOL!!! I FUCKING CANT WITH THESE IDIOTS!
what im doing about it
1.moving schools. yeah. next school year im going somewhere else. me, my parents, and the school agree that they dont have the resources to help me (i have autism and ADHD but they are both pretty mild compared to others) at this school and we want to move. still gotta drag myself through exam season tho.

1. work on myself. for the past two years (AKA when i started going to Mr R's class) ive been talking more to my supportive family and even got my introverted ass some freinds outside of school. and i found that vaporwave helps me calm down a lot so I listen to that and i feel a lot better.
   
2. just, y'know, talk about it. like right now.
   

CONCLUSION
im sorry for my messy writing style but thanks for reading! it really means a lot to me and you, yes you, are a awesome person. i dont know who you are (yet) but i know that whatever you are doing is someway making someone feel better (example: reading this) and every minuite you are living is great! Look at you! bad things happen to you and me but look at us! we are still here along with every other person on this planet and despite everything you and i are alive! we are strong together! (i got a litte carried away here i know but this thought makes me happy, and i hope it does the same for you)
alright, i think im done. stay safe and keep thriving!

"The Mighty One, God the Lord, Has spoken and called the earth From the rising of the sun to its going down. Out of Zion, the perfection of beauty, God will shine forth. Our God shall come, and shall not keep silent; A fire shall devour before Him, And it shall be very tempestuous all around Him. He shall call to the heavens from above, And to the earth, that He may judge His people: “Gather My saints together to Me, Those who have made a covenant with Me by sacrifice.” Let the heavens declare His righteousness, For God Himself is Judge. Selah
“Hear, O My people, and I will speak, O Israel, and I will testify against you; I am God, your God! I will not rebuke you for your sacrifices Or your burnt offerings, Which are continually before Me. I will not take a bull from your house, Nor goats out of your folds. For every beast of the forest is Mine, And the cattle on a thousand hills. I know all the birds of the mountains, And the wild beasts of the field are Mine. “If I were hungry, I would not tell you; For the world is Mine, and all its fullness. Will I eat the flesh of bulls, Or drink the blood of goats? Offer to God thanksgiving, And pay your vows to the Most High. Call upon Me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify Me.” But to the wicked God says: “What right have you to declare My statutes, Or take My covenant in your mouth, Seeing you hate instruction And cast My words behind you? When you saw a thief, you consented with him, And have been a partaker with adulterers. You give your mouth to evil, And your tongue frames deceit. You sit and speak against your brother; You slander your own mother’s son. These things you have done, and I kept silent; You thought that I was altogether like you; But I will rebuke you, And set them in order before your eyes. “Now consider this, you who forget God, Lest I tear you in pieces, And there be none to deliver: Whoever offers praise glorifies Me; And to him who orders his conduct aright I will show the salvation of God.”

So this happened 2-3 years ago. And I remember it was Eid Mubarak, which is a holiday for muslims. And in my country (Indonesia), there's a tradition that you can go to your hometown with your family.
I live in a city called "Bogor" and my hometown is in a city called "Cirebon". So me and my family is going to Cirebon this year. And we planned that we will also meet our extended family in my grand grandparent's house.
I thought it was going to be fun, not horror. But things started to get weird. When we arrived in our grand grandparents house at about 4pm, we see a bunch of people, we eat, we meet, and we play.
And in 5pm, Me and my cousins let's say their names are Josh, Daud, Randy, and Melody, decides to go to our grandfather's cemetery.
Not all of our cousins wanted to visit the cemetery, but we are the only ones that dares to visit the cemetery.
We have to take a route to a very small road and walk to the woods. So we arrived and we see some of our family in there praying in our grandpa's grave.
Josh, Daud, and Melody is joining our family to pray, but because besides the cemetery is a dark forest, and me and Randy got a little bit naughty and decides to explore the forest a little bit.
But I think we go to far, and we heard a terrifying scream like "Curse him!". Then, Randy saw a black shadow with red eyes behind a tree.
We were not moving and we almost had a heart attack, because the shadow just we saw is super tall. Like maybe 6 meters. Also, I think that the shadow was a mythology monster from Indonesia called "Genderuwo"...
And lately, people said there was a child that was kidnapped by a ghost there. But In January 2024, In our grand grandparents house, I got an information that there was a Voodoo doll in the house's backyard.
And I think the scream "Curse him" is related to the Voodoo doll
So what do you think?

Everyone, A channel that I manage is about to hit 100k Subs (99,701 right now) which is a humbling moment I have been at this for over 7 years on other channels (only on thos channel for 6 months).
But I wanted to post this and say IF YOU REALLY HONESTLY WANT TO DO IT THEN DONT QUIT. You may just be barking up the wrong tree keep and open mind. I went from a tech channel gaining 1 or 2 subscribers a video to now working in the firearms industry making hundreds and thousands of subs per video.
I work with a team now, I have a fantastic editor, thumbnail guy, and people to help manage the channel with me.
I am the lead on the channel which feels great, but can't take all the credit... either way I will leave my story below so you can read through it if you want. The skills I learned on my own and got good at in my free time as a hobby are now what I do for a living.
I suppose after a few years of being here on NewTubers, I may not be so new anymore. Regardless if anyone needs help with anything let me know (dm me or comment) and I wil respond .
If anyone wants proof the channel is called CF Clips. Feel free to stop by and say hello.
" 7 years ago I started a small channel called BAD Tech & Gaming (now BAD Tech Unlimited).
I gained 2k subscribers in nearly 3-4 years posting 400+ videos and learning from each and every one. I made Tech reviews and gaming content in overly crowded spaces so I saw moderate success. Meaning I really was once a small NewTuber, still am in some areas. (You can literally see my progression)
NOW I work with a Company called Classic Firearms (they have a yt channel w/ 1.4 million subs) and am the person running a channel called CF Clips at 78k Subs. I gained over 3-6 months 51k subs and wow does it feel great. All my hard work put in on my own channel paid off as I now have a great job working for a great company.
I say this to give you guys hope, if being a YouTuber is really something that you want to do then stick with it and learn EVERY CHANCE YOU GET!
I'm still not a massive channel or the best youtuber out there but I feel as though I can give some advice to those who are struggling. Really look at your Content Category, is that the best place for you? I took what I was doing with Tech Reviews and applied them to Firearms proving a business model to a already established company who would then support me as I continue to grow as a creator and a Youtuber.
Sometimes the path you think you need to be on is not quite right. Something needs to change and that change can feel impossible to know. I still have a long way to go to become one of the greats in my category BUT I will leave you with a quote that got me through all those 5am live streams many years ago.
"The heart of a champion is a light switch that's always on, it doesn't go on and off when someone is watching IT'S CONSTANT." "

About me
Hello there, my name is Coach Chesster(Yes, an obvious Chess reference, which is, by far, my favorite game). I've been playing League of Legends since season one, I've experienced everything from full AP Yi one-shotting my entire team to Tryndamere mains spinning around with a needlessly large rod instead of a sword. You could say I've been there during all the important historical moments of the game. I've been at the top of the ladder in Season 6 (Going between high Diamond and Challenger, based on how much time I've had to invest). I've competed in various tournaments, even being able to win a number of them, before I decided to get myself into coaching.
Coaching
I started the entire coaching thing during season 7 when one of my friends asked if I wanted to help him get out of that Diamond 4 hell. Ever since then, I was having a consistent number of sessions on a weekly basis, with my network of people slowly increasing(One of them actually gave me the idea to advertise on Reddit, which I did eventually accept!) I've coached more than 700 individuals ever since I started and I can proudly say I've had more than 500 sessions this year alone! So, if you are looking for someone who is around for more than 5 days actually add me.
Some of my personal coaching achievements include
Getting a player from Silver 1 to Platinum in just 5 weeks
Getting D2 to Masters in 2 weeks
Bronze 1 to Diamond, yes, this one happened as well, though it took slightly more time
Helping Duo players on NA reach Gold(They were actually stuck in Bronze 2 prior!)
Creating a coach from hard-stuck D2 after he got GM
Community
In addition to my services, I am proud to present to you our Educational community, which is steadily growing on a daily basis. Aside from Coaching, it is an amazing place to connect with other people, find friends and talk about the game all of us love and enjoy. Various events are held on a weekly basis, from 1v1 tournaments to Team Contests, with nice rewards being given out! Hint, you might win a free session!
All of our coaches have been vetted and verified, being certain all of you guys get the best service available! Every single one has peaked at least Grandmaster, with a minimum of 250 Coaching Hours to their name.
Discord Community: CLICK HERE

• Upon joining, message me in order to have a Role assigned!

Prices?
Prices for my sessions are negotiable and I can guarantee, they fall onto the affordable part of the specter!
My coaching sessions are oriented and tailored to each student's specific needs, and they do cover everything from theory to live coaching, in-game mentality, etc.

About me
Hello there, my name is Coach Chesster(Yes, an obvious Chess reference, which is, by far, my favorite game). I've been playing League of Legends since season one, I've experienced everything from full AP Yi one-shotting my entire team to Tryndamere mains spinning around with a needlessly large rod instead of a sword. You could say I've been there during all the important historical moments of the game. I've been at the top of the ladder in Season 6 (Going between high Diamond and Challenger, based on how much time I've had to invest). I've competed in various tournaments, even being able to win a number of them, before I decided to get myself into coaching.
Coaching
I started the entire coaching thing during season 7 when one of my friends asked if I wanted to help him get out of that Diamond 4 hell. Ever since then, I was having a consistent number of sessions on a weekly basis, with my network of people slowly increasing(One of them actually gave me the idea to advertise on Reddit, which I did eventually accept!) I've coached more than 700 individuals ever since I started and I can proudly say I've had more than 500 sessions this year alone! So, if you are looking for someone who is around for more than 5 days actually add me.
Some of my personal coaching achievements include
Getting a player from Silver 1 to Platinum in just 5 weeks
Getting D2 to Masters in 2 weeks
Bronze 1 to Diamond, yes, this one happened as well, though it took slightly more time
Helping Duo players on NA reach Gold(They were actually stuck in Bronze 2 prior!)
Creating a coach from hard-stuck D2 after he got GM
Community
In addition to my services, I am proud to present to you our Educational community, which is steadily growing on a daily basis. Aside from Coaching, it is an amazing place to connect with other people, find friends and talk about the game all of us love and enjoy. Various events are held on a weekly basis, from 1v1 tournaments to Team Contests, with nice rewards being given out! Hint, you might win a free session!
All of our coaches have been vetted and verified, being certain all of you guys get the best service available! Every single one has peaked at least Grandmaster, with a minimum of 250 Coaching Hours to their name.
Discord Community: CLICK HERE

• Upon joining, message me in order to have a Role assigned!

Prices?
Prices for my sessions are negotiable and I can guarantee, they fall onto the affordable part of the specter!
My coaching sessions are oriented and tailored to each student's specific needs, and they do cover everything from theory to live coaching, in-game mentality, etc.

I am sick and tired of not progressing. I turned 25 last week. For the last 2-3 years I’ve been trying (very inconsistently) to achieve financial freedom.
I want to be able to quit my day job, that’d mean having an income of around 1300€/month on my own. (Right now my extra income is of around 200€/month)
Most of the time I loose time scrolling, just to finish the day with a 100 tasks sitting on my mind (and notebooks) that I know could help me progress or develop my health.
The truth is that I currently suck big time at being responsible for myself. I am EXHAUSTED.
However every day I show up at work, and at every job I’ve had I’ve been really good at.
I feel like I need: a) a super clear to do / path b) something to own it to to be responsible and do the work.
I am also so good at helping people plan, organize, brainstorm and at seeing the bigger picture for a project. So here again comes my question.
Can we help each other progress?
• I am looking for someone to partner with, & act as personal managers for each other.
Something like: • Weekly call to do our schedules and assess progress. • Helping each other creating clear to do lists. • Keeping each other on top of what’s real, what’s happening, and how much we can do the work each week.
Not only with business development but overall goals. I have interest in learning Swedish & Breathing theory, and just recently started going to the gym (this month I’ve slip so much).
If you think we can help each other out, comment here to connect :) also general advice on how to start or whatever you want to say here is welcomed. This is my first time posting ahhh.
For some context: I’m a certified/trauma informed breathwork coach and tarot reader. I have experience instructing and guiding since almost 6 years now, but in the outdoor industry. Anywho. I decided to focus on this because it changed my life: I haven’t had asthma in 3 years, cured my acne, can now run without dying, sleep great, lost weight, experience presence more often than not, and got out of sleeping 18h / day to avoid being here. I have now guided more than 200 people, I practice every day, people around me are interested in what I do, I teach at a very nice and unique studio in the city.
I work 35h a week as a barista, half of my pay goes to renting a room in Barcelona. I don’t want to end the year this way. I’m Venezuelan, I want to have the freedom to help my parents & friends progress. Can we help each other progress?

• What happened:
I, Being a daily commuter from Vasant vihar bus depot to Goenka public school ( bus stop), i was traveling today by the dtc bus 604 ( DL51GD 3295). As i got on the bus at the VV depot (around 8.20 AM), and the bus started moving, i thought of taking the bus ticket using the one delhi app (as i did not have any cash at the moment). But when i scanned the qr code, the app was showing some error (screenshot attached). I then tried scanning the qr code a few times and then manually entering the code a few times, all in vain. By now, the bus was at the second bus stop. Then i thought of buying the ticket using the dtc whatsapp no. (Screenshot attached) . As i had entered the details and was about to pay, the bus stopped at the third bus stop(Hill area/ mall) and a ticket checker (standing at the bus stop) entered the bus. When the ticket checker asked me for ticket, i told him that i did not have it due to the issues in the app and i was about to buy it by the whatsapp no. But he blamed me and said that i was only buying the ticket now, after seeing him. I told him that thats no true and i was actually trying to buy it since i boarded the bus. Even the uncle sitting in front of me defended me and told him the same thing. But he didn't listen to anything and made me get down from the bus. Next he and the other two checkers start telling me to pay the fine of Rs 200 and go. They say to me, while smirking, '200 rupay dede fir din bhar bus me ghumte rhiyo'. I plead my case to them, told them that i take the ticket everyday and even today i was continuously trying to buy it. They said that all they know is that i don't have a ticket, which means i must pay the fine. I said to them, app kam nahi kr rha tha to isme meri kya galti hai. They replied, to hamari galti hai jo hamne bina ticket ke pakad liya. In the end, i had no choice but to pay them 200 rupees (I had tears in my eyes). I still do not understand why am i wrong. The fine is to teach people to always buy ticket but i was never intending to not buy a ticket. I never tried to cheat the system. I never tried to travel for free.
• About me:
My name is Shubham kumar (17Y M). Currently in class 12th, studying in a coaching institute here at delhi.
Why does the 200rs matter so much to me? First of all, if i actually intended to never buy a ticket and travel for free, and then i was caught and fined, i wouldn't have any problem. But what angers me is that i never did anything wrong and was wrongfully blamed.
Second, I don't earn. Infact, even my father doesn't earn (he had a cyber cafe which closed in covid). All the expenses are borne by my grandfather ( He gets pension. He was an engineer). Here in delhi, we get very limited amount of money each month. That 200 was for groceries of this week. We'll somehow get through but now we'll have to stop buying milk for the rest of the week ig. [ I am NOT asking anyone for money.]
Ps- if anyone has one Delhi app, you can try the code (DL51GD 3295), its still not working.
Tldr: was buying bus ticket online but the app had some issue. Later the ticket checker fined me 200rs even though i told him it was the app's issue.
Thank you for giving me your time.

Hi folks, I do a bit of writing on the side but nobody fancied picking this up and it's going out of date fast. So I thought I'd share with the sub instead.
Why Unai Emery is the Manager of the Season. And it's not only for his results on the pitch.
On the opening day of the 2023/24 Premier League season, Aston Villa were battered 5-1 away to Newcastle in a match that saw defensive talisman Tyrone Mings suffer a similar season-ending injury to that of his teammate Emi Buendia, who had damaged his knee ligaments in training a few days earlier. Villa’s shiny new centre-back, Pau Torres, looked lightweight and twitchy as a replacement for Mings, with his dreamy blue eyes and expansive, continental passing range only serving to confirm pre-existing fears that he wasn’t cut out for the #PaceOfThePremierLeague. Buendia’s replacement, Philippe Coutinho, gave the least convincing cameo performance since Donald Trump turned up in Home Alone 2.
Sir Alex Ferguson praised the Villa performance regardless, saying they’d played fantastic football and had simply lost bad goals. The natural assumption was that he’d indulged in one too many complimentary sherries, perhaps having gotten lost in the excitement of a new Premier League season after a summer of watching steroid-ridden horses running around and around in a circle. I scoffed. Hell, we all did.
But it turns out there is life in the big red-nosed dog yet - because nine months and 38 matches later, Pau Torres is well en-route to becoming an Aston Villa cult hero and Lil’ Phil Coutinho has been all but forgotten, having spent the season out on loan to… some club, somewhere, presumably in the Middle East.
Back on English soil, Aston Villa have qualified for the Champions League - and we all owe Alex Ferguson an apology. Game, as the kids might still say, do indeed recognise game.
And nobody plays the game like Unai Emery. Not in this past season, at least.
Who else could remain so stoic in the face of not two, but three first-team ACL injuries and a seemingly endless succession of unshakeable niggles to the likes of Jacob Ramsey, Alex Moreno and Youri Tielemans? Not Mauricio Pochettino, who cried it was not fair to judge his Chelsea team in the midst of an injury crisis; nor even Erik Ten Hag, who likened his attempts to improve an injury-stricken team to swimming with your hands behind your back - not easily done, by the looks of things, despite being blessed with a natural, ready-made swimming cap.
Excuses are not my mentality, said Emery back in March. I am usually not speaking about ‘if’. We just have to play. We have to accept each result and enjoy each moment. My objective is to send the same message to players and supporters — enjoy.
And us supporters certainly did enjoy it. We enjoyed reducing Manchester City to just two shots across ninety minutes, enjoyed doing the double over Arsenal without conceding a goal, enjoyed the curing of Ollie Watkins’ goalscoring yips and the long overdue presence of Ezri Konsa in the England squad, the rapid ascension of a team that Steven Gerrard had ambling towards the relegation zone, onwards and upwards not only into the Champions League, but also into our first European semi-final in a generation.
So what if it was only the Conference League? And if a 6-2 defeat on aggregate against Olympiakos was a little embarrassing? If the player who scored a hat-trick in the first leg had only recently returned from a stint in Qatar?
Emery’s squad were running on fumes by then. They’d just seen their goalkeeper receive two yellow cards and not get sent off - they were hallucinating, exhausted. In the words of their captain John McGinn, they were half men. And somehow that’s not even a reference to the ever-changing array of regens, schoolboys and teenagers who filled out the matchday squads towards the season’s end, stinking out the Aston Villa bench like they were passing around a joint at the bus stop.
Of the ten players to have played the most matches across elite European football this season, five of them wore claret and blue (and not a single one of them played for Burnley, although Jarrod Bowen did put in a shift for West Ham). Even the players who were fit were often unavailable through suspension: John McGinn got himself sent off for a shoulder barge against Spurs, only to be outdone a few matches later by the ever-competitive Douglas Luiz, who successfully tallied up ten progressively avoidable yellow cards in time to miss a crucial match against Arsenal at The Emirates.
Of course, supporters of every club will feel that they have attracted the worst luck, endured the most adversity. But I want to highlight Villa’s woes here because neither the likes of Sky Sports or even Emery himself can be relied upon to do so. Out of context, his achievements at Aston Villa are commendable. In context, they become almost astonishing.
It is the sensible decision that he will be named as the Premier League’s Manager of the Season. Arteta’s Arsenal have improved, put up a good fight; Pep Guardiola’s Manchester City have managed to turn the record-breaking into the mundane. And yes, Gary O’Neil is English. But nobody has upset the odds as comprehensively, with as much class, as much commitment as Emery has. He has developed a “no excuse” culture amongst the squad at Aston Villa and in return they have delivered a season for which no excuses are necessary.
I’d hope that he’d sit back now and enjoy the surely-inevitable plaudits. For those of us who’ve been watching closely though, we know that’s not quite his style.
If you enjoyed my writing there's a whole book of it available here! Winner Stays On: England with The FA Cup for a Compass
Cheers.

Hi folks,
Longtime lurker and first-time poster here. I need a (relatively) unbiased perspective on something that happened last night with my girlfriend.
For context, things between us have been touch and go for the past two months. A combination of issues we had when we first started dating resurfacing and long-distance (she's been working out of the country since March but will be back in about ten days) has made it hard to soothe each other during such times.
Things yesterday were more than okay. Actually, they were great. The warmth that we had at the start of the year when she was still here was back. She was affectionate, loving, cracking jokes, smiling, laughing, etc. I felt great. We decided to prepare dinner together that night on FaceTime, and things were going stellar.
Until she was jokingly telling me to stop singing this one song that she hated and I told her "to relax" in a non-serious tone. I instantly went, "Oh shit haha I'm so sorry, don't take my head off," because I remembered how she hates it when someone tells her to "relax." She clapped back, saying, "Haha don't tell me to relax, I'll fucking punch you in the face." And that is when I got pissed.
I'm a sensitive guy. I always have been. It is something that has caused me a lot of anguish in my previous relationship because I can very quickly get upset about small things. For some reason, I've always had an issue with this kind of language in relationships. Violence. Do I think my girlfriend would actually punch me in the face? Of course not. But for whatever reason, I've always been hyper-sensitive to this kind of talk. I also despise it when anyone goes for my face in a joking manner, whether it's some rough housing with my dad or my friends, or my significant other jokingly giving me a couple of taps on the face.
I've never been physically abused in my life. My parents never laid a hand on me. I've never been physically bullied, either. So I really don't know where this aversion to physical or verbal jokes of this kind comes from.
I got a little pissed. I didn't shout, scream, or throw a tantrum. But I was visibly upset. She asked me why I was so pissed since she was clearly joking and said she would never actually punch me. I said I don't like that kind of language being thrown around even as a joke, to which she said, "Who hurt you?"
She went on to say that if this triggered a soft spot because of something that happened to me, I should communicate that to her. But I can't expect her to understand that if I've never told her. I said nothing happened to me. I've never been physically abused, so there's no "trauma" underlying it. It's just something I don't enjoy. No need to overanalyze it.
That sentence kicked my anger up a few notches. I guess reflecting on it, it felt invalidating. It frustrated me. I said, "Who hurt me? Do you really want to take it there? Is that how you want to handle this?"
I was pretty sure I knew why that sentence hurt me. I was in an emotionally abusive, toxic relationship for five years with a borderline narcississt. My girlfriend knows this. She knows how bad it was. And I guess the crass nature of the 'who hurt you?' comment reminded me of a time earlier in my relationship with my current girlfriend where we were having an argument and she said, "Do I have to treat you like shit to have you?" Which was a clear reference to my previous relationship. She has since apologized for that comment, after I told her how profoundly invalidating and wrong it is to say something like that.
The thing is. My girlfriend has a tendency to say things that come off as rude, hurtful, or invalidating when she's upset. And I think this whole situation triggered that fight or flight response after the 'Who hurt you?' debacle.
Back to the current issue....
I was flooded, so I told her I'd call her back after I've cooled off. I took five minutes to relax and then called her back. I apologized for my "overreaction" to her joke and explained to her that generally, I don't enjoy these kinds of jokes.
She went on to say that she finds me getting upset at something like this, to the degree that I did get upset, "kind of ridiculous."
I told her I understand. I said it was unfair to get roused up like that. I told her it's all water under the bridge now and I know she didn't mean anything she said seriously. I reiterated that I don't appreciate these kinds of jokes and that I don't think it's a big ask not to make them in our relationship. She agreed.
After we spoke about it, I couldn't shake the feeling that her telling me my reaction was "ridiculous" and me doubling down by saying it was "unfair" to her was, in reality, unfair to me, and invalidating for me.
Either way, it seemed like the damage was done, though. She was cold for the rest of the night while we watched something on Netflix. The jokey, smiling, sensual person that was there a few minutes ago was replaced by a cold, frustrated, avoidant person. Things were just lukewarm for the rest of the night. She was back to feeling super anxious about all the things we were going through and I was back to feeling like garbage. My anxiety was through the roof. My heart was beating like I was running away from a tiger. I felt sick to my stomach.
I wanted to beat myself up to a pulp. My internal monologue went straight into self-hatred mode. "Why are you like this? This is all your fault. Things were fine, but your sensitive, fragile ass just had to have a moment, right? You couldn't just enjoy the present moment. You couldn't take two seconds to calm your nervous system down before overreacting. Now she probably feels like she has to walk on eggshells around you. She probably thinks you're a baby. You're not a real man. A real man wouldn't throw a childish tantrum like this over a silly fucking joke. You just gave her the ick. You triggered her, and now she's anxious and feeling like crap, and so are you. You just can't have nice things, can you? You have to self-sabotage, don't you?"
I didn't give into the monologue. I took ten minutes to record a voice note to myself, speaking to myself as though I was a friend. I told myself that while I may have overreacted, I did the right thing by taking accountability and apologizing. I also reminded myself that what I had done was far from a "tantrum." I didn't scream, shout, break stuff, or name-call. I didn't blame her, hold it against her for the rest of the night, or stonewall.
The issue that I am dealing with and have always dealt with in these situations is the intense feelings of shame and guilt that come about after these moments. In addition, I feel like I can never truly validate my feelings. Sure, I recorded that voice note as an exercise to try to rewire that awful, abusive self-talk in my head, but I still felt like the whole situation was entirely my fault. I still sort of blame myself for how she is feeling now. I blame myself for disrupting a moment of peace and well-being in our relationship. And I also know that I am prone to self-sabotage, so that makes it even more difficult to find the middle ground between taking responsibility for my actions and validating my feelings.
Was I being extra? Was I really overreacting? Is my insecure attachment causing me to overanalyze or interpret my girlfriend's actions after the initial episode I had? Did she really invalidate how I was feeling by asking the "who hurt you?" question in a somewhat sarcastic way as well as telling me that it was ridiculous of me to get angry at such a thing? Was I really being unfair to her by reacting how I did? Is my nervous system just picking up on a pattern of invalidating behaviour and the anger after the 'who hurt you?' comment is a natural reaction to that? It is the morning after that situation, and I am feeling rather distant towards her. I feel almost sick in my stomach. As though I'm seeing a side to her that I shouldn't ignore. But again, I think as people with insecure attachments we have this tendency to either put people on an insane pedestal to which they will inevitably fall short of or label any behaviour as a 'red flag'.
I'm not looking for a pity party. I want honest opinions, please. If I was really in the wrong, I want to hear that perspective.
TL;DR:
Things have been touch and go with my girlfriend due to resurfacing issues and long-distance challenges. Last night on FaceTime, she joked about punching me in the face, which upset me as I'm sensitive to violent language. I expressed my discomfort, and she responded with a sarcastic "who hurt you?" This reminded me of a past abusive relationship. I took a break to calm down and apologized, but she called my reaction "ridiculous." She became cold afterward, making me anxious and self-critical. Now, I feel conflicted, wondering if my reaction was an overreaction or if her responses were invalidating. Am I overanalyzing due to my insecure attachment style, or is this a red flag? Seeking honest opinions.

This is from a text message shown at the last hearing :
//forgot to tell you that i spoke with Shanna yesterday and she doesn't know what the charges are but was told they were unrelated to the truck or any of the Issues surrounding Jared but at the same time we know that generally the charges are unrelated initially so we'll have to Wait and see. //
This is so crazy to me like they even say Jared's name like do these people not have kids or like ? ..... I kinda wish I hadn't done a rewatch and zoomed into the text messages because I'm in such disbelief and just feel sick to my stomache.

So for most of our relationship (four years), my partner has been switching jobs and had some bouts of being unemployed. While he did keep his last job for about a year, it was a job with no benefits (like vacation and sick leave or any yearly extras).
In the meanwhile, I've been grinding my way through with a difficult three shift job with the same company, doing overtimes and ultimately climbing my way in the corporate ladder to a somewhat comfortable position with normal working times and acceptable paycheck.
The financial burden has mostly been on me for all this time. I've always been covering the rent alone and I got the best place I could afford for us, but it's far from good. I've been paying for all trips (he does not ask to go on any, but I personally can't stand not having a vacation at least once a year, because I don't know what I'm even working for then). Granted, he helps with groceries and his family often invites us for meals, but I also often provide food for both of us.
He also struggles with depression, and during his last bout of unemployement, he had a particularly dark period. At some point after that, he said he realized he needs to provide as well and we need to have a constant income, and he got serious about finding a job with normal contract and solid paycheck. When he finally did land one, I was over the moon and we also started planning moving into a bigger place.
But, when he started working and signed the contract, he immediatelly started saying how much he hates the job and started applying to different ones. His reasons for hating it are that they're using shitty software and he doesn't like the work environment. So he got an offer from a different company for a different job with minimum wage. He thinks he would ultimately be able to progress there and make more than he does on current one and he does have long-term plans to specialize in something else. He also thinks he could still cover half of the rent if we get a bigger place.
However, based on my work experience, I'm very sceptical of this new job providing any kind of stability and I don't think it's financially viable, nor that the people in charge really care about people working under them (I think they just want to get away with paying them as little as possible). The current one might have it's flaws, but it provides substantially more money that would increase our quality of life.
I love my partner to death and he is the most important person in my life. We click on many other levels and I can't see myself spending my life with anyone else. Ultimately, I want him to be happy. But, I'd be lying if I said my needs were being met for years now and I have a crippling fear that life will pass me by without being able to travel and explore the world. At the same time, I hold back from speaking my concerns most of the time because I don't want to affect his mental health negatively.
Right now, I don't know if I should give the new job the benefit of doubt and let him do his own thing or insist that it's not a good idea. I don't want him to be unhappy at his current job, but I don't know want to put my life on hold anymore either. I also have no idea what we would do if I lost my job, which can happen in this hectic world.
TL;DR - Partner is leaving a well paid job he just got for a minimum wage one; the financial burden has been on me througout the whole relationship and I'm worried this act means it will be on me for years to come. I don't want him to be unhappy at his current job (that would provide financial stability), but I don't know if I can continue putting my life on hold either. What do?

1. I am not diagnosed with “Synesthesia”.
2. I am diagnosed with Autism-Spectrum-Disorder.
3. Sometimes I see colors that fade again.
4. I put this into google and “Synesthesia”.
5. I went to Reddit “Synesthesia”.

My experience history: 1. Sometimes, apparently “randomly” I will see a color pop up. This is getting more common after 3 months of regular zen meditation. 2. When I look at the walls, sometimes I look at the “patterns”. And when I focus on a particular one for a while, it gradually seems to gain a little color. It’s weak and usually a type of red. 3. In most cases I have ever experienced those it was ONCE blue, a FEW times green and MOST of the time a kind of red or light purple or pink-red. 4. I often go over chess games blindfolded and I always remember them after going over them once. 5. Right now the clock says 12:36. When I look at the numbers, I always think of the patterns like 123 and 6 is all of those multiplied together. Or 2304 is 48 squared. It’s very natural for me.
Problems: 1. I thought that most people experience Synesthesia since near-birth. 2. Synesthesia tends to have specific/clear and consistent associations, like number-color, that I can not see for myself, or don’t have. 3. I am confused now.

I should start with saying this is my first relationship/girlfriend. I finally stopped being super picky about my "requirements" and gave OLD another go.
I met her approx 1 year ago. She's super cute and we initially got on really well because of our similar culture/upbringing. It's also both of ours' first relationship.
Early on, I never really felt the butterflies/rush you get when you crush on someone. However people told me this was "healthy". We usually see each other once a week - I don't really feel the desire to see her much more to be honest. It's not bad when we hangout more, it's just kind of boring. We barely text, just a reel every now and again. I feel like we don't have much to talk about as our interests are so different. When I think about weekend plans, I sometimes rather hang out with my guy friends instead.
She's super lovely, not superficial, great looks and because of our similar culture my parents would love her (lol)
We don't share any hobbies and the only thing we really do together is watch tv, or go out for food. I like the outdoors and fitness and she likes to stay home.
I don't know why, but I just can't seem to commit myself to her. I'm not sure if I love her. They say you know when you know, but I don't know... She told me for the first time she loves me. I said it back but it almost felt weird. It's like I'm afraid of it or something.
Since I've never really dated before this, I have nothing to compare it to. I honestly don't know what I want in a relationship, and what I'm supposed to be feeling. I feel like if I end things, I'll probably break her heart and I might look back and wonder if she really was the "one". I'll probably go back to OLD and regret everything lol. If I stay, I keep thinking "what if" there's someone I click with better.
Can it be normal to be 1 year in and not be sure about the future? I keep questioning if she's the one over the last few weeks and I'm feeling lost.

• What happened:
I, Being a daily commuter from Vasant vihar bus depot to Goenka public school ( bus stop), i was traveling today by the dtc bus 604 ( DL51GD 3295). As i got on the bus at the VV depot (around 8.20 AM), and the bus started moving, i thought of taking the bus ticket using the one delhi app (as i did not have any cash at the moment). But when i scanned the qr code, the app was showing some error (screenshot attached). I then tried scanning the qr code a few times and then manually entering the code a few times, all in vain. By now, the bus was at the second bus stop. Then i thought of buying the ticket using the dtc whatsapp no. (Screenshot attached) . As i had entered the details and was about to pay, the bus stopped at the third bus stop(Hill area/ mall) and a ticket checker (standing at the bus stop) entered the bus. When the ticket checker asked me for ticket, i told him that i did not have it due to the issues in the app and i was about to buy it by the whatsapp no. But he blamed me and said that i was only buying the ticket now, after seeing him. I told him that thats no true and i was actually trying to buy it since i boarded the bus. Even the uncle sitting in front of me defended me and told him the same thing. But he didn't listen to anything and made me get down from the bus. Next he and the other two checkers start telling me to pay the fine of Rs 200 and go. They say to me, while smirking, '200 rupay dede fir din bhar bus me ghumte rhiyo'. I plead my case to them, told them that i take the ticket everyday and even today i was continuously trying to buy it. They said that all they know is that i don't have a ticket, which means i must pay the fine. I said to them, app kam nahi kr rha tha to isme meri kya galti hai. They replied, to hamari galti hai jo hamne bina ticket ke pakad liya. In the end, i had no choice but to pay them 200 rupees (I had tears in my eyes). I still do not understand why am i wrong. The fine is to teach people to always buy ticket but i was never intending to not buy a ticket. I never tried to cheat the system. I never tried to travel for free.
• About me:
My name is Shubham kumar (17Y M). Currently in class 12th, studying in a coaching institute here at delhi.
Why does the 200rs matter so much to me? First of all, if i actually intended to never buy a ticket and travel for free, and then i was caught and fined, i wouldn't have any problem. But what angers me is that i never did anything wrong and was wrongfully blamed.
Second, I don't earn. Infact, even my father doesn't earn (he had a cyber cafe which closed in covid). All the expenses are borne by my grandfather ( He gets pension. He was an engineer). Here in delhi, we get very limited amount of money each month. That 200 was for groceries of this week. We'll somehow get through but now we'll have to stop buying milk for the rest of the week ig. [ I am NOT asking anyone for money.]
Ps- if anyone has one Delhi app, you can try the code (DL51GD 3295), its still not working.
Tldr: was buying bus ticket online but the app had some issue. Later the ticket checker fined me 200rs even though i told him it was the app's issue.
Thank you for giving me your time.

Hi everyone, sorry in advance for the long post! As the title says I’m looking for some input/advice about choosing undergrad majodouble majors/minors and the CPA designation. Wanting input from people of ALL backgrounds but especially looking to hear from current CPA card holders.
Info about me + different options I’m considering and hoping to get opinions on:
I am a 31 y/o male from Alberta, Canada (wanting to move—preferably outside Canada—sometime after graduation/attaining CPA), currently in my second year of a Bachelor of Computer Information Systems (BCIS) degree but possibly switching programs. My goal is to attain my CPA designation and I have a few different paths I am looking at to get there, but I am not sure what would be the best path forward, taking into account my age as well.
I am at the point now where I have to make a decision in order to avoid potentially taking additional classes during undergrad; although a couple of the potential options will still require 1-2 additional on top of the usual 40 courses for bachelors degree. I have been accepted into the two programs (BBA & BS in Data Science) that I applied to that are within my same university and have until May 30 to accept/decline the offer(s) and transfer programs.
Below is the full list of options I am considering along with the remaining # of courses/time it will take for me to complete everything needed. Currently I have 18 courses completed after two years and 22 minimum remaining for a degree. Atm I am signed up for 2 courses this summer to get me up to 20/40 courses done before yr 3 starts. One, potentially both summer classes are not needed though depending on what direction I go, so if I drop one or both that will add small amount of time as it will add to my remaining # of classes needed since no other offered summer courses to make it up are useful to me. If I could get some advice from the people out there on which option you would recommend, that would be greatly appreciated! Any additional info and insights are welcomed and appreciated!
(1)———Stay in BCIS——— — 22 courses left to complete degree(40 total). — 6 CPA core courses left to complete on top. • 18+22+6 = 46 courses needed for BCIS degree & all CPA prerequisite courses completed to start CPA PEP (+30 months to get CPA designation). • Graduate with BCIS degree then finish 6 remaining CPA core classes at same university to receive Advanced Accounting Post Bachelor’s Certificate before CPA PEP. (2)**Only 3 classes short of just getting full Accounting BBA degree as well instead of certificate. 49 total courses(with business department sign off) needed to graduate with both bachelor degrees. 50 total courses without department sign off.** — BCIS degree has a mandatory co-op. One non-credit 4 month work-term required to graduate. Non-credit co-op class has a normal course tuition fee you have to pay and also need to pay a half course tuition fee for the non-credit co-op work term. **Would drop one of two summer classes
(2)———BBA in Accounting w/ BCIS Minor——— — 22 courses left to complete degree(40 total, no extra courses needed). — Least amount of time. — All CPA core prerequisite courses completed within the degree and can go right into CPA PEP(+30 months to get CPA designation). (3)*** Take 3 missing classes needed to get Data Science minor as well. 43 courses total to complete degree with both minors.*** Would not drop any of the two summer classes
(4)—BBA Acct/Fnce double major w/BCIS minor— — 24 courses left to complete double major degree(42 total courses) to obtain BBA Accounting/Finance double major. — Would be missing 2 CPA cores. So, 44 total courses are needed to graduate with double major, BCIS minor and all CPA cores complete. ***** +4 courses(48 tot.) to add Data Science minor. Would not drop any of the two summer classes
(5)———Bach. of Science in Data Science——— -——w/ Finance concentration & BCIS minor——- — 24 courses left to complete degree. It takes 2 extra courses(42 total courses) to switch and obtain BSDS with finance concentration and BCIS minor. + 2 courses(44) for concentration in comp sci & big data instead. — 18+24 + 5 classes to add accounting minor = 47 completed courses to graduate. — 18+24 + 8 classes to receive Advanced Accounting Post Bachelor’s Certificate = 50 total completed courses needed. • 2 additional CPA cores needed also. So, in order to receive a BSDS w/ Finance concentration and have all prerequisites completed to enrol in CPA PEP it will be 52 courses total I would need to complete(34 more courses left). • Would only need 4 more courses to get BBA accounting degree instead of certificate (56 courses). — Data Science degree has one mandatory 4 month work-term as a graduation requirement just as BCIS does. Unlike the BCIS program though, this is a for credit work-term, which means there is actually one less class to take then I numbers above show for this option.— **Would drop one of two summer classes.
(6)Either BBA accounting(40 courses tot.) or BBA accounting/finance double major & CPA cores complete(44 total) — both still with BCIS minor — followed by either some kind of data science/analytics/AI related ((a.))Post Bachelorette diploma/certificate, ((b.))Masters program, or ((c.))self learning and creating a portfolio along with doing online certifications through IBM, Google, and Microsoft.
Thank you so much in advance to anyone taking time to read this super long post and especially to anyone who takes the time to also reply and offer some thoughts! Simple poll posted as well for an easier response option. A written response with some detail would be extra appreciated!
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Hey all, here is my scenario and current plan would love people to question my thought process.
Goal = Get off the treadmill, although still happy to work / consult but slow the pace down a bit enjoy more family time, Get a meaningful positive cashflow from investments.
38, Married with 1 kid (no more incoming).
PPOR = $1.8M (owe $0.69 cents (just cos) on $700k mortgage which can be redrawn. )
Shares = $1.4-1.5M after CGT in my company (way too high risk for me).
HHI = $200-220k pre tax (lower than alot of you, but partner has started new business which is starting to grow)
Yearly Expenses = $70k (can save around 50k per year after expenses). Potential for private school in 4 years, maybe..........
Plan
Sell $750k'ish of shares (after CGT) invest in commercial property ($2-$2.5M range, a good long lease,) with a net yield estimate 6%. Net cashflow around $30k-38k per year (not included capital growth). This will be purchased in a Discr. Trust with Corporate trustee to divy out the income.
Take $500k-600k of the last of the shares and sell down over the next 6 months place into some ETF's. Then add the extra 50k per year into the ETFs. Lets say $24k per year at a 4% withdrawal rate.
Leave 100k in High interest for commercial property issues and life things.
Whilst I'm working, the net income from the commercial property pays off it's mortgage.
Worst case, the above would provide me with $55k per year in income, with $70k expenses. Meaning I have the flexibility to take a lower paying role, and still save and still have growth in my investments.
I'm not really touching the equity in my house at all as it's a safety net, but I could potentially look at using against another investment down the road and debt recycle. I could potentially leverage more tbh.
The above plan spreads my NW risk across, my house, commercial property, and the Market (ETFs), and gives me flexibility and cashflow over the coming years to find a job that aligns more, figure out my next steps and reduce any major stresses.
What are people's thoughts?

I had a relationship where the person seemed all into me from the start with regular communication and inquisitiveness about me. We met at the park originally and had really great spark. I had never had anything like that before. Usually i was used to people who were inconsistent and don’t care really. This person met my family and friends and a little bit later they said they thought we were so well matched that actually they were ready to propose and get married. we shared the same values the same future outlook in life. everything was just matched. we could talk for the whole day at a time and we did activities together.
i started taking part in their hobbies because I enjoyed doing things together. soon i realised that i was the one doing their hobbies more than they were caring or asking about mine. i noticed the stuff i was proud of like a few of my hobbies and activities they said were silly. they called me dumb and stupid as a joke on several occasions. they even called me a swear word as a joke also. when i expressed i didnt like it they carried on saying it about someone else. apparently they said this stuff to people they care about/it’s their friendship groups humor. they made a joke about my ears as a joke my clothes too there was always something to say about them. i felt that i was changing myself for them - the way i look and the way i dressed. even though they weren’t controlling or forceful their sarcastic comments got to me and made me change. i had an intrinsic feeling a few times that they were rushing things and didn’t really care who i was as a person but they kept reassuring me that we were right. we talked about the proposal rings honeymoon future moving in everything. the proposal was meant to happen soon after
we met again after a little bit of time of being LDR different states and all of a sudden they had completely changed and were cold with me. they just didn’t care and my jokes were annoying and they seemed happier with everyone else but me. they walked ahead of me and let a door close in my face because they were so unbothered where i was. i asked the issue and they said they don’t feel anything for me romantically and we’re nothing more than a checklist. i couldn’t believe this. i was shocked and although i accepted things amicably i’m really distraught. i don’t understand the change overnight from one night saying nothing would change their feelings about me to nothing. it’s been a month and has had a significant impact on me. i just don’t know how i’m ever going to get the consistency they gave me again. they wanted to talk all the time even from the start and I’ve only ever talked to people before who were very low effort with me. We matched on everything and I was so excited about the future and I just don’t know how I can move on after we had planned so much. i don’t think i can find someone who communicates like that again or is this consistent. what should i do?