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Short, but sweet. My sister and I were driving home from the store, and we see an elderly woman dressed in old world Italian dress, cane and groceries on the bench next to her. As we drive by, she makes this gesture towards us, almost glaring. Nothing came of it, but the feeling was creepy imho.

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TL DR; I felt like worthless because my friend didnt attempt to spend time with me for over the years. I started a fight over this and said things that perceived as terrible by my friend. Dont know how to proceed please help.
I have a close friend that I know from first year of university (2015). We have been in the same friendship circle and were somewhat close during the university. After graduation in 2019-2020 we have become closer via talking on the phone literally everyday despite living in different cities. In the summer of 2021 I moved to another country that is really far away but we stayed close by nearly talking everyday.
First problem is that despite being that close and shes calling me her top two closest friend she didnt make any attempt to say goodbye to me. After a small fight she agreed to meet for a weekend. This made me real sad because her other non-close friends got weeks of vacations with her but I only got a weekend after having a fight. But I ignored about all these because of I cared about her.
I moved back to my homecountry in August 2023, we again had a fight because she had several vacations with other non-close friends through the summer but did not attempt to meet with me. Since there were no time slot left for me, I was the one who started the fight saying that there is no time slot left for me. But again I ignored everything and continued my friendship. In September 2023 she moved to another country that is 3 hours away by plane.
In November, she came for a vacation to meet her non-close friends but again did not attempt to meet with me. I didnt say anything. In March 15 she again came for vacation and met with her non-close friends but again did not attempt to meet with me except saying that what would happen if I came by suprise. I made fun of it saying that you never did that and would never do in the future.
Her vacation at March made me really sad and I started to question our friendship. I dont live far away, if she asks I can take bus for 3-4 hours just to see be able to see her. If she wishes to come my hometown I would treat her like a princess. But still over the years she didnt attempt to see or spend time with me. I really missed my friend and I wanted to make memories with her just as she did with her other friends. Her lack of attempts or even not communicating made me question that she probably doesnt want me and of course I concluded that we are not really friends except that shes using me for her bad moods.
I started silent treatment for 3 weeks which is ended last Tuesday. On tuesday she sent me a reels about forgeting friends and I simply replied with I didnt know that we were friends. This started a fight obviously. But it was not as bad as I expected. She calmly listened and I explained everything I wrote here. Basically her lack of attempts to spend time with me make me feel like I am being used and also a worthless piece of shit. I always felt that way in my friendships and she knew everything about it, the fact that shes also doing the same to me was a terrible feeling. Surprisingly the whole conversation was calm and at the end she was constructive. She said that she knew that we had problems and she were making effort and we can work on to solve problems. I said okay but we couldnt conclude because it was getting late and she had things to do.
There is also one important thing happened during the talk. When I say non-close friends I actually talk about a particular person. They were working together for 3 years and spend a lot of time. But their relationship was not perfect. At some point last year they stopped hanging out for months and this friend literally left my friend alone while mobbing her in the office. They spent months by passive aggresive movements. Since we literally talked with my close friend everyday she was telling me the things that friend did. Since I knew all of these things naturally during our fight I said that you prefer to spend time with this particular friend who made your life sufferable for months while I was supporting you whole time, when you received the acceptance from your new work you didnt have anyone except me. It makes me very sad that you don't want to spend time with me but want to spend it with these people. Apperantly my friend didnt take this well.
I thought that on Tuesday we would start working on our problems but on Thursday she called me. She basically said that she have been really stressed because of the things that I said. Especially she didnt like that I used the things that she told me in confidence against her. I was surprised, I thought we were on the positive side and we were going to talk about her disrespect towards me. But she basically blamed me for making her sad but we couldnt talk longer because she had things to do. I didnt understand what was happening since at first she was positive but now negative?
After waiting couple of days today I called her. I tried to be positive by starting a smile. At first we had an okayish talk where I tried to understand her point. I should also note that I started with apologizing that she felt that way but I had to mention these things since it was the reason why I feel that she doesnt love me anymore and feel disrespected. Then I continued with asking what was actually she was expecting for me as a friend so we can set boundaries or set of rules to address any problems so this whole situation won't happen ever again. She didnt take that well. She told me that she doesnt want to about these things, everything should be natural according to how you feel at that moment. Its excessive to put these kind of boundaries. Shes cold right now and she doesnt know what she will want to do with me. It might be our last talk she dont know.
I dont know what to do at this point. She definetely disrespected me over and over for many times that I cant even write here. But all of them were okay for me as long as we were friends. At first I was sure that our friendship was over since she doesnt want to spend time with me. But couple of things that she said melted my heart. Especially working on things part. She was also trying to make attempts before I was sometimes responding sometimes not responding because I felt that our friendship was over. But now I am not sure. I just feel like I should do something because we were really close for a long time and she was my princess for the whole time.
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Is there anyway to fix this on my behalf? Was I really wrong with mentioning things she told me in her daily life? Please help me to find a way out of this situation.
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I know that I should have communicated much earlier about my feelings, but I my assumption was if we are not going to meet ever what kind of friendship is this?
I should also say that before I put distance on March 15, everyting was perfect. We literally facetimed everyday for hours. March 16 was my birthday, since she decided to spend my birthday with other friends couple of hours away from me I decided to go silent.
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I have another question that is eating me alive. She also mentioned that I was the only person that she fully trusted and it was a huge mistake since I always use the things that she said to me against her. In my defence for the whole time of our friendship we had only 4 fights where I said these things. And all of them were to explain why I feel disrespected just as this one. Other than addressing how I feel, I always tried to make her feel safe, seen, and respected. I never said anything negative or implied anything as much as possible. This is why she started to came to me for everything. I feel like an awful person right now. I always tried to make people safe for my whole life. I feel like the opposite. At this point if I mention anything about this it will again be "using things against her". Am I really that awful. Should I completely lock away everything people say or do I have right to get emotional?
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Please excuse my grammar errors, English is my second language and right now I cant stop shaking and crying and definetely cannot think straight
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This is an old ones, it happened some years ago when I was in university. I lived far from college and it used to take me around 1 hour 30 to commute there by bus. College life was tiring and the worst part of the commute back was sharing the bus with a nasty woman and her two crotch goblins. I would find them a little too often waiting at my same bus stop, and share the whole trip with them because we got off the bus at the same time. The children were obnoxious, they would get in the bus running and pushing to get sits for the three of them, quicking your sit, making noise for the longest part of the ride until they all got tired and fell asleep. The mother was unapologetic and overall rude. One day I got my little petty revenge when I woke up from my own bus nap right before my stop and noticed that none of them was waking up (they were sitting facing me). I usually help sleepy people wake when we reach a destination, but this time I saw the opportunity of petty revenge and took it by moving ever so quietly, making almost no sound just not to wake them. I descended the bus successfully and they went ahead to the following stop. I can't describe the happy evil feeling I got when I saw the bus drive away with them inside. I hope they woke up far away. I wonder if they are still riding that bus.

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This happened a long time ago. I was 15 and my parents recently just moved to a new city. It was summer break so every once and a while I would take a bus to my old neighborhood to see my old friends.
One time I was there, just hanging with my friends, chilling, playing video games, whatever. Anyways another friend (also from the old neighborhood) is texting me. She had booked a baby sitting job that night but couldn't go. She was trying to get me to go in her place. I don't have any experience watching kids and didn't really want to anyways. But she's saying please, its going to be easy. Its overnight so the kid will be asleep. She seemed desperate and I was starting to feel bad. Then she tells me I could eat stuff from the fridge. That's what convinced me to agree. I was 15 and a dumbass.
Anyways I get to the house and my friend lets me in. She's like thanks, the baby is asleep already. She dips. Now I'm in this big house. I head over to the kitchen and start making a pb and j sandwich.
I dropped a knife or something. Baby hears the noise and starts freaking out.
Go to kids room. See crib. Wtf I'm watching an actual baby? Is that even legal? Smell shit. Aw man did he poo? I step closer. He did. The stench is overwhelming. What the fuck do I do. Now I'm freaking out. how do you even change a diaper.
Get little fuckers diaper off. Leaks shit everywhere. Probably shouldn't have done this in the crib. Oh well too late to turn back now.
Throw dirty diaper in garbage in room. Hope that's fine. Get fresh diaper. How the hell do I put this on? Baby kicking legs like a frog. Can't manage to get diaper on squirmy froggy guy. Manage to kind of get it on. Looks a little fucked up. Eh good enough. Baby still crying. Probably because a stranger just changed his clothes in the night. I'd feel pretty mad too, little guy.
Now i start freaking out. I'm in over my head here. Baby won't stop crying. What the fuck. I just put my shoes on and start running. It's like midnight and I'm just straight up sprinting down the street. I made it a block and then called a cab. I just rode the cab and told him I only had 20 bucks so to just take me as far as he could. He seemed kind of weirded out but was just like ok.
The meter hit $20 so I asked him to stop and he was saying it's ok he can just drive me home. I probably looked panicked or something plus I was running so I was all sweaty and breathing hard. But I refused and just got out.
I walk until I find a bus stop. I get home and just go to bed.
Woke up to like 50 angry voicemails on my cell from my friend. I just blocked her number. I figured she she doesnt have my new house number. Social media was in its infancy at the time too so they couldn't track me down that way. Summer holidays were almost over at that point and i started school and met new friends. I just never went back to my old neighborhood and never told anyone.

What has made you stop listening to an audiobook, even if you liked the story?
Some of my pettiest audiobook DNFs have been:
a.) A selective lisp (the narrator would pronounce words starting with an 's' differently - even if they were in succession. 'Thomething suspicious happened.')
b.) This might be common, but bad accents. An American narrator attempted an Irish accent and I could only cackle and go, "nope" and cancel the book. Rather than Irish, she sounded like a pirate who'd been smacked in the mouth with a shovel.
c.) Monotone male characters. My husband reads IKEA instructions to me with more passion than some of these narrators giving male POVs. I cannot stand some dude who sounds like the stoner in high school who got called on during popcorn reading hitting you with a drawn out, sleepy "......fuuuuuuuck..."
I will admit, I did deeply enjoy this one occasion where a British narrator (F) read the male POV of a sex scene and sounded exactly like Douglas Reynholm from the IT Crowd (link in comments for ref). I loved that one. Pictured the MMC as Matt Berry for the rest of the book.
That all being said, I still greatly appreciate the work these artists do to make books accessible and more enjoyable in some cases. These are just my silliest of qualms 🤡

I (16M) have a field trip coming up Friday. I didn't tell my dad because he's been volunteering to be a chaperone on every field trip I had this year. Which have been 2. I was already on edge when he started coming but the last time he chaperoned he over heard a conversation I had on the bus that he WASN'T supposed to hear as hes NOT even supposed to come. He put me in an uncomfortable situation because he forced me to talk about it. I cried so much that day.
That's when I knew he should NEVER be a chaperone again. However, my brother is stupid and let it slip about my field trip despite me literally telling him that I didn't want my dad to come. I'm positive he did that just to be to hateful because he started laughing about it. My dad was mad and accused me of lying to him which was not true I just didn't tell him. We got into an argument because I told him that I already told my teacher that he'll be busy that day and I already turned in my permission slip. This made him more upset because I forged his signature and he told me that he was gonna call the school and let them know he was available.
I told my dad that If he chaperones I won't go because I'm going to get AWAY from him not to stay close to him 24/7. He got madder and told me that I was going whether I like it or not and I should be grateful I'm not punished. I told my dad that forcing me to go is just as bad as a punishment because I'm tired of my friends making fun of me and making comments about him. He did not care and basically told me to ignore them.
I don't understand why he does this to me. Like I just want to be myself and I can't do that when I'm around him everyday. I told my dad that I'll go but it just proves to me how little he cares about my well-being. He got upset with me and started telling me that it wasn't true and he just wants to spend time with me.
I don't want to spend time with him. It's embarrassing. Like once a field trip okay. But every field trip is just no. Like I don't mind spending time with my dad. I love him. I just don't want him at my school. He embarrasses me. And my friends don't make it no better. He's too involved in my school life and I want him to stop. I asked my uncle to convince my dad to stop but he told me to be grateful that my dad wants to be involved in my life as many kids don't have that??!
That right there was confusing because I never said I didn't want him involved Just NOT AS A CHAPERONE. So he was wrong and was just making things up. So I went to my other uncle and he was also wrong and it genuinely made me sad because I felt like I was getting gaslighted.
I don't see how I'm being ungrateful?

Me and all my best guy and girl friends went out last night, for my best girlfriends 21st. It was so much fun for the start. We got a party bus and went to the bars and everyone left on the bus at 1am. Then we all went to the gas station and the guys got in some sort of serious fist fight in the bathroom (the nicest most harmless skinnier guy(jake) vs a bigger and meaner guy(Aaron ). The skinnier one(jake) of our friends came out the bathroom not wanting to make a big deal out of it but was he wanted to go home and he couldn’t be convinced otherwise (he also had marks from being “jokingly choked out” by the bigger guy). One of the other guys(cal) had stopped the fight which he is best friends with both of them but both of them felt as if cal had taken each others side and were mad. The bus took us back to my place and cal STORMED upstairs with ppl running after them and and jake sat on the curb really shaken up. So I sat with jake and confronted him trying to stop him from ubering 45 mins home but he was so upset that Aaron had taken a play fight way to far and it seemed like cal made it ok. We finally talk jake down enough down for him to come upstairs to my apartment. When we walk in it seems some of our other girlfriends had been trying to calm cal down for a while. Cal is historically a kinda mean drunk when he’s blacked (he just tries to fight other guys and be all macho). When jake walked in he said and I quote “fuck you cal” and cal shoots up from the couch and starts cussing and threatening jake (mind you these guys are best friends so he’s way out of line). So me and my best friend laci get in the middle (with laci getting in front of Jake and me getting in front of cal). And I’m trying to stop cal from yelling at jake and he shoved me and that’s when everybody’s eyes went wide and was like woah woah. He isn’t the type that would shove a girl and it was hard. I started tearing up and went into the other room bc he was being very aggressive. I sit in there for a second just to calm myself while he’s yelling at our other friend Macy to give him his keys to drive 45 mins drunk which is obviously a no. He was throwing things, cussing ppl out that didn’t do anything but try to help him, slamming doors, calling names and being so disrespectful to my apartment. Jake had came into my room and gave me a hug and said he was sorry and that cal didn’t mean that. I went back out to the living room to try and calm the situation and he’s still yelling and Macy. He throws his nicotine and storms out of my place and laci and jake go after him I go out there and he yells and me and laci to give him his keys and our response was that we don’t have his keys but if we did we wouldn’t give them to him either. Cal yells back that he never wants to talk to us or see us again (me laci and cal have been best friends for 5 years). We were obviously were upset, tearing up and sad also (he said that multiple times). he ended up leaving with 2 girls he just met that night and passing out on their couch. We also realized that night he blocked me, laci and Macy. Like the actual audacity. We are all really upset. What’s the opinions on the situation??? Comment pls (Code names used)

Hiii, I'm going to get straight to the point last year I began going to highschool. I was a really shy and quiet girl. Since everyone followed each other on Instagram I checked out their accounts and noticed this girl had some same interests as me. So on the first day of school I went up to her and started talking to her, that was a really big step for me, she and I became friends. And for the first year of highschool I would literally just mainly talk to her because I was anxious and I would go out with just her. But at the end of the first year I began talking to other girls to and got more comfortable, she didn't tho, she's also a shy girl in her past school she didn't have many friends. I feel really bad for this part but recently she's been annoying me, the conversation between me and her feel one sided from my side, almost every time I talk to her she opens up discord (sge has many online friends) and just scrolls through it, she doesn't respond to my messages and yes I know everybody has their life I fully understand that but every time I text her it just seems like she doesn't wanna keep up the conversation, or she just leaves me on seen, and than she just posts a story of her playing a game, she has a really weird laugh like its forced. So that's when I began talking to everybody and I genuinely felt better and happier unlike when I'm around her. Even tho it's been almost two years of us knowing each other it feels so awkward to be around her, yet it feels so natural around other people. Ive gotten closer to five girls, and she noticed I can tell she gets mad at me when I don't want to go with her somewhere. For example when we had P.E. we always walked around the school yard awkwardly because of the one sided conversation, so last time when she wanted us to do that, we were supposed to be playing volleyball. She didn't want to, and I said I wanted to so I stayed she just complained about the ball and how it could hit her, so i said go sit with the other girls if you don't want to do it, and she just stuck around. It was really nice tho I had so much fun. Last Friday we went on a field trip, I included her in everything because we couldn't leave out any person. But it was so awkward because she was literally just following us not saying anything even tho she is friends with two girls from our group. I had a blast and bearly talked to her, I sat with her in the bus because it was crowded I unfortunately got the seat next to the window. It was so boring I tried talking to her and once again nothing.. she just read a book in silence I couldn't really talk to the other girls cuz we couldn't hear eachother over the loud music. We switched seats when we stopped for a break because she wanted to sit next to the window too, and again I felt happier around others. Idk what to do, I don't want to be a bad friend but I just can't stand her. Please give me some advice and I'm sorry if this is long 😭.

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I don't remember the lyrics of the song at all. The song was mostly spoken word, one could argue that it was rap. The beat was pretty upbeat.
The video started with two drunk people a man and a woman, after a night out in front of the bus stop. They were eating chips and laughing with each other.
After that, they both get to her house. She accidentally calls him someone else's name while they're going at it. After the night, they start regularly going on dates, then he says "I think I'm in love with you " at a pier in front of the sea. She awkwardly stares at him.
They end up breaking up, she moves on very quickly and he feels left sad about it. He ends up complaining a lot about it to his roommate.
The roommate gives him a pep talk.
The video ends with him getting onto a dating app and him matching with a girl. The also go on a date and she says "I love you" at the same pier.
If anyone can hint at where I can find the video and song it would be so helpful, video has been stuck in my head for ages. I hope I'm not hallucinating it lol

I’ve spent 2/3 of my life trying to debunk this one or come up with a reasonable explanation.
When I was in 5th grade I rode the bus with a girl who was a grade or two below me. We lived on opposite sides of a rather large apartment complex but could still walk to each others’ homes. Let’s call her Mika. Mika was born in Romania and had moved here a few years prior to me meeting her. She had heterochromia. Mika had brown eyes, but half of one of her irises was blue. This is relevant later. Her family was…off. I went over to her apartment a few times to hang out with her and remembered seeing a lot of unusual decor in her home. Lots of candles, a few alters, and a lot of taxidermy. Her mother would get very upset anytime she brought friends over, so typically she would sneak myself and a few of our other friends in anytime her mom was out shopping. My mom was pregnant at the time and often felt sick so I never brought my friends over unless she was out shopping or at the doctor’s. She had never met Mika.
A lot of the other kids were scared of her or felt uneasy around her. None of our mutual friends could explain why. I did too at times for some unknown reason, but as a fellow outcast we stuck by each other’s sides.
After a few months of knowing each other she started telling me that her family followed a belief system similar to paganism. I forget exactly what she called their religion, but it wasn’t Wicca/Pagan or any other “common” (for lack of a better word) spiritual belief system. Mika started claiming she had special powers. I immediately called bull and told her to prove it. She responded by saying that she would shape-shift into a cat and visit me later that evening.
My family and I lived on the third floor of our apartment building. There were no fire escapes, balconies, or anything like that. We barely even had window ledges.
As a side note, I loved cute stuff. Hello kitty, Care Bears, My little pony, all that good stuff. My “best friend” at the time was very into fashion and loved to act like a high schooler. The few times she saw me in cartoon PJs she’d make jokes. So, I stopped wearing anything like that to school or sleepovers almost a full year prior to me meeting Mika.
I went to bed at my normal bedtime of 9:30 wearing some care bear pajamas that my mom had bought me a week prior. Nobody had seen me in them aside from my parents. Around 3am that night, I woke up to hear scratching at my window. I jumped out of bed, looked out my window, and saw a black cat staring directly at me. The cat was sitting on the very thin window ledge and raised its’ paw at me as if it was waving at me. Freaked out, I told myself it was a dream and went back to sleep.
That morning while my mom was cooking breakfast, she asked if I had heard anything weird outside the night before. I asked what she meant.
“I saw the weirdest thing last night. I heard scratching at my window. I got up to see what it was and saw a black cat on the window ledge! It looked like it was trying to open my window!”
I sat there in silence unsure of what to say. My mom continued.
“I was afraid it was going to fall, so I brought it inside, carried it downstairs and put it outside. You should have seen its eyes! It had one eye that was half blue. I’ve never seen a cat like that before…”
I felt so sick that I couldn’t speak or finish my breakfast. Not wanting to approach Mika after all this, I stood off to the side away from all the other kids until she walked up to me.
“Hey Gloomy Bear, why didn’t you let me in last night?”
I was stunned.
“I could have died! At least your mom was nice enough to take me downstairs.“
I stopped hanging around her as much after that. Our building caught on fire a few weeks after all this happened and we ended up moving a few towns away. I haven’t seen or heard from her since. To this day my mom still remembers the cat. She’ll mention it in passing every few years and make comments about how weird it was that a cat could have gotten up on that ledge.
For the last 20 years I’ve been racking my brain looking for an explanation. If anyone has one, I’d love to hear it.

The point of this post is for me to understand some of what I believe to be "common" behaviors, and to see if anyone has had similar experiences. Sorry if this is long, I typed it out and didn't realize it would be haha. I guess this turned into a bit of a vent.
Background: We are both 35, Me (m) her (F), we both have a child from previous relationships. We met in Oct of 2019, we had gone to HS together but never talked or hung out then. We met up through mutual friends, and began hanging out often right out of the gate. This were whirlwind, we slept together on the first date, which she told me "She never does". Told me she slept better in my presence than any other time in her life. I was the hero, and all was well. (Same old story lol) and by Jan we were talking about living together. The onset of Covid rushed this, as lockdowns began, we grabbed up a rental and moved in together. We wanted to at least be together as a family if Lockdowns were coming. Thigs were still good for months, and we both handwaved the speed at which thing moved, happily blaming it on covid. We went on an amazing vacation in June of that year (road trip, the roads were empty, again, because Covid.) We got a puppy on this trip and surprised our kids when we got back. By this time there had been a few arguments, but nothing I saw (at the time) as any red flags. She brought her ex up somewhat often in the beginning, and we laughed at some of his antics together. He isnt the brightest bulb, but I didnt see this as a red flag at the time. However, as the summer waned, the arguments kicked up in frequency and intensity. by September, she was telling me things like "you should find someone better" "Im not worth it" etc. I was heartbroken, but now I see this as a "soft exit" she was attempting. I didn't bite, I loved her and was devoted. The arguments got worse, and her "soft exit" turned hard, fast. By late Nov, she was a miserable, stressed angry person who was never happy with anything. Then she kicked me out (and my son, who was 7 at the time). I was on the lease, and didnt actually have to leave, but I did because I wanted to be amicable and I was still so in love with her. Kicked out last week of Nov. She had a new BF by Christmas, and spent the next few months in NC. Come Feb 2021, she started reaching out occasionally. Initially about something benign, like mail. then they just kept going. I was asking to see her, etc, she kept telling me "me talking to you makes NEWBF uncomfortable, we shouldn't" etc etc. I said I didnt care if he was uncomfortable, HER AND I were meant to be etc etc. This back and forth continued through that summer, and in Aug she broke up with him, and I moved back in that Sept. Whirlwind # 2, which as you all my have guessed, didn't last as long. By Jan-March of 2022, we were arguing a lot again, and things were starting to feel awful again between us. My SIL was helping her get a new much more lucrative job, and it "wasn't happening fast enough" and she was all kinds of touchy, angry all the time. Eventually she DID end up getting the job and working from home, and was much happier. Looking back however, I believe this changed effect her view of my "value", as she was now making more than I was. She started complaining a lot about me not pulling my weight, but our budget and exepenses hadnt changed, nor had the amount I was contributing to these things. Seasons effect her mood quite a lot, and by Spring we had gotten a 2nd puppy, and things were again pretty happy most of the time. We planned a 2nd vacation, for the same week in June as the first one, and this time we took our kids. Amazing vacation, best week of my life. During this vacation, i bought a ring at a local mom and pop jewler, and with the help of the kids, popped the question during the high point of our vacation. She was thrilled, kids were thrilled. We head home, 2 weeks of happy, excited wedding brainstorming. Then she went cold. The romance died off very quickly. She started going to a new Gym, and would talk to me about people (guys) she had met there, and brought them up often, talking about how cool they were. I eventually told her these felt like comparisons and I wasnt a big fan, but was glad she was enjoying a new sport. Then my annual "Summers end" camping trip with friends was a drama fest, where she drank too much, and was very flirty (just BARELY mild enough to be able to brush it off when asked about it) with one of my best friends. He was even offput by it, which he and I discussed after the fact. The last few weeks of summer were pretty awful. She caused a big scene at my brothers house, and cried, smearing her makeup, and came out looking a mess. My SIL told her to go back in, as to not worry the kids and she said "they should see this, they should see how me makes me FEEL!" So by late Sept. she was telling me to leave again, I was trying to fix things. One morining right after I put the kids on the bus, she blew up at me over my angry response to two weeks of passive agressive comments about a stupid water jug. She told me she wanted me gone then and there. My son got on the bus, and never got to come home. Never said goodbye to his step sister, his dogs, his house (which he LOVED), his classmates or anything else. I had to pull him from that school, a week into 2nd grade, so Myexwife and I could enroll him in the town she lives in. I had nowhere to go. I had stayed 9 months at a friends house the first breakup, but that wasnt an option this time. I ended up having to stay in a camper for 6 months, which STRONGLY jeopardized my 50/50 custody. Because kids shouldnt sleep in campers through the winter. OBVIOUSLY. 2 months after kicking me out, she told me she found out she had been pregnant since July, and hadn't known. She said she was scheduling a last min termination. We hadn't talked in weeks at that point. She went and did that, and we went back to NC. She stared dating a new guy, from the gym. That didn't last, and she was hitting me up for hookups by January (which had to be secret, I was blocked on SOcial Media). I lapped it up like the eager doormat I was. She went cold on me again in Feb, started dating another new guy, which lasted another few months. Recycle for a month in July, and was very upfront and cold about it being purely physical. I told her that was really hard as i obviously still loved her. She told me she was "figuring herself out, and was blissfully unattached". I missed her, our home, our dogs, our family. She knew it. She slow faded me through August, and I stopped reaching out. October of last year rolled around, and I shot her a message, I was curious, still hurt, and lonely. She told me she met someone new, he made her SO HAPPY, and that i shouldn't reach out anymore. I said Okay, and didn't. I sent a very business-like, typed, letter in early Nov, asking for the last of my belongings back. That was all that was in the letter. Her new BF texted me and was a vulgar, crass machismo tough guy. Couldn't articulate a full sentence, but was basically telling me to "leave them alone, give up, stop bothering them" I was confused and told him I hadn't reached out since Oct and Wasnt planning to, especially after that awful conversation. Months of peace and healing began. Then, as I was living my life, back in Jan, I got more angry texts from him, this time about some mail that had shown up with my name on it (i had no idea). Again i was accused of reaching out, being a stalker, all sorts of nonsense. I again told him I didn't care, and that if he reached out like this again I would take needed steps, blocked him, and went on with life. Then, it happened AGAIN about 2 weeks ago. I got a call from her number, which I didn't answer, then a stream of angry texts, inviting me to go fight him, him threatining me, accusing me of having been abusive of her (she said the same thing to me about her ex) him telling me how much of a "B***h and a P***Y, and a loser" he has be told I am. He bragged that he "put a ring on it". I had to laugh at that one, (good luck dude) again I said, last straw, if i hear from you again, Im calling the cops. I dont care, go away etc. I haven't heard anything since. However she did reach out to my SIL the day after, about something totally random, and they hadnt spoken in ages, but had been very close when we were together. So odd.
Here are the points I want to address. 1. Serial Monogamy. - Can they ever be alone? like, EVER?

1. Cognitive Dissonance - It took me SO LONG to realize that the person I fell in love with, and STAYED in love with way too long was simply a smokescreen. Then during the breakups, I feel sooooo "less than" to be replaced by obvious downgrades. However, only recently, I've truly come to understand that All of the "In love" versions of her are equally fake, and uniquely cultivated for each new man. The person I loved was never real, i think it just felt "realer" to me, because were together longer, and we were what felt like, a perfect match. The argumentative, manipulative, callous and unscrupulous person i knew at the end of relationships was the real her. I thought that was the broken, backside of her perfect shining coin all along. Nope. Other way around.
   
2. Serial Recycles - She doesn't do this with every guy, so why did she do it with me? (although, I think I've seen the last of the recycle attempts, and I wouldn't participate in them at this point either.
   
3. Patterns - Has anyone else had a partner that is very sensitive to things like changing seasons, seasonal depression, or even erratic behavior near the full moon? All of these things applied to her, and one could almost set a calendar to her flighty moods and outbursts.
   
4. Projection, Smear campaign, and re-writing history - All the awful things she told Newguy, (whom i dont know and have never met) to make him hate me so much, but I fell victim to the same mind games about her ex before me. I can't understand what they see as profit for triangulation though. That part has always confused me greatly. What is to be gained by doing this? What's more is that I think she actually ends up believing these smear lies she makes up to crap on her ex, in order to praise the newguy. Then there are all the arguments that were entirely my fault, despite being very conveniently timed for her, and very manufactured feeling.
   

So again, sorry for length. Have any of you had similar experiences? Are these like, default BPD behaviors? Everyday I look back, and am equally amazed that I remained blind for so long, that I let this be done to me, and scariest of all, the "boiling frog" circumstances under which it happened, and progressed without my noticing it.
I can even now, say, knowing all I do, that she is very smart, charismatic, and so convincing. I've heard her brag about how she can manipulate co-workers and subordinates, friends and family. The flags were there all along, but would'nt you know? red flags are hard to see while wearing rose colored glasses.
Thank you from coming to my TEDtalk haha.

Sooo this is kind of a vent kind of not do I still appreciate any advice given to me.
This happened a few days ago I had to dress up for a meeting and looked nice one of the women at the meeting complimented me for my clothes. Once the meeting was over I was coming back home and decided to catch a bus while i was walking towards the bus stop I saw a middle aged lady waving her hands at one of the buses to make then stop but they ignored her. She seemed a little weird but hey I live in london we get plenty of weird people. Then the lady rushed towards me and something along the lines of "aww look at you" and then grabbed me by my coat and wouldn't let go then she said something how "you have a beautiful coat and lovely high heels" then she grabbed my face and squeezed it really hard i ended up standing there (i have ptsd due to some sexual assualts that have happened in the past and i have trouble saying no or defending myself) i then laterr quickly walked away all the way home.
I spoke to someone of my friends about it and some said that maybe she was being sweet but lacked understanding boundaries. Another said that if she were a man that would be insanely creepy and what she did was creepy and assault. I kinda agree with her tbh and I feel like she did it to take the piss out of me? I forgot about it all until that day but I remember in high school the populat girls would give me compliments and I used to believe them only to here them gossiping secretly in the changing rooms about how ugly I actually am. Idk this feels so weird I feel like men and women both hate me because I'm ugly. I can't tell if this woman was being sweet, creepy or just rude due to being a faw lmao.

this is mainly to see if my idea has any merit, ive been sitting infront of white pages too long and dont know if its worth realy getting into writing these are my most finished parts because my ADHD has bounced back on them the most if you want more i can see about dropping what bits and pieces i have in the discussion
chapter 1: As Elise and Atlas navigated the dense forest, a sudden tearing noise sliced through the air, chilling them to the bone. Startled, Atlas grasped Elise's shoulder, his expression filled with curiosity. he suggested investigating the source of the disturbance. Pushing through the underbrush, they stumbled upon a peculiar tear in the fabric of space, revealing a group of otherworldly creatures.
One of the creatures emerged fully, its gaze fixating on the two children. With dread sinking in, Atlas acted swiftly, shoving Elise out of harm's way as the creature lunged towards them. The impact sent Atlas reeling, and he found himself being dragged towards the tear. Frozen in fear, Elise watched helplessly until a surge of determination coursed through her.
Ignoring her trembling hands, she seized her basket of berries, smashing it over the creature's back. In response, the creature turned its attention to her, striking her with a forceful blow. As Atlas regained his footing, he armed himself with a sickle, positioning himself defensively between Elise and the creature.
Their desperate struggle continued, with Atlas narrowly avoiding the creature's attacks. However, a moment of distraction proved costly as the creature struck Atlas, sending him crashing into a tree. Elise's cries pierced the chaos as she witnessed her brother's fall, her heart pounding with terror.
The creature, undeterred, focused its aggression on Elise, inflicting a devastating blow that fractured her leg. With a firm grip on her, it began dragging her towards the rift, leaving Atlas helpless to intervene. In his final moments of consciousness, Atlas glimpsed a glimmer of hope as an arrow pierced the creature's neck, and darkness descended upon him.
Saved by the hunters from their village, Elise and Atlas survived the harrowing encounter, the echoes of the tearing sound fading into the night, leaving behind a haunting reminder of the dangers lurking in the shadows.
chapter ?: As the fight against the mages raged on, Atlas could feel his body weakening. He had already taken down three of the giant ogre-like mages, but he could feel his magical reserves dwindling. Meanwhile, Elise was holding her own against her three opponents, but the mages were proving to be formidable adversaries.
Suddenly, one of the mages broke away from the fight and flew towards the party members, preparing a powerful magic artifact. Atlas knew that he had to act quickly, but he was blocked by the second mage, who used wind magic to throw him back towards Elise. But Elise was quick on her feet and used her own wind magic to redirect Atlas into the blind spot of the third mage.
Atlas took advantage of the situation and decapitated the third mage with his sword. But before he could make his way to the mage with the artifact, it had already activated. Atlas knew that he couldn't stop the attack, so he threw himself between the artifact and his party members.
As the attack hit, Atlas felt his body disintegrating. But he could hear a voice in the back of his head, urging him to get out of there. It was the voice of his sister, who had always been protective of him. But Atlas ignored her plea and instead imagined all of his strength flowing into her.
As he closed his eyes, he saw a dim golden aura surrounding him. The aura mixed with the red and black light from the attack, and Atlas's spirit absorbed the massive spell. He defied the laws of the universe and directed all of the power into one thought: "Elise better make it out of this alive."
In that moment, Atlas sacrificed himself for the sake of his party members and the world. But his spirit lived on, infused with all the love and compassion he had for his sister.
chapter ?: Elise walked slowly towards the pile of dust where her brother once stood. She kneeled down and reached out, picking up a small metal plate with an inscription from Atlas. "I saw death yesterday on my watch, I know I won't make it out of this fight," Elise read out loud, her voice breaking slightly. "I know you will hurt for a long time, but I don't want you to get lost. Become the pillar for the future, find a husband, and please carry on. I love you - Atlas."
Elise closed her eyes and held the metal plate close to her chest. Tears didn't come, but her heart felt shattered. She stood up in a daze and began walking with a blank expression, passing through the many battlefields that had taken the lives of her party members.
As she walked, a small gremlin monster suddenly jumped out and stabbed her in the shoulder, the point of the dagger poking out the Front, its tip glistening red. Elise turned slashed the creature's throat, still with the dagger lodged in her shoulder.
For three days and nights, Elise walked without stopping until she finally arrived at the capital, dagger still in her shoulder. The guards at the gate tried to stop her, but they froze up when they met her eyes and let her pass. Elise then made her way to the palace where the royal guards tried to stop her but also let her pass when they realized who she was.
Elise finally stood before the king and explained what had happened in the fight and how the others had fought honorably. Only after her audience with the king and when she returned to her and Atlas's room did she finally let her emotions out, falling to her knees and crying uncontrollably.
Days passed, and Elise didn't leave her room. She remained isolated, feeling the pain of losing her brother and the others. However, one day, she decided to leave the room and go for a walk around the city. As she walked, she heard someone calling her name.
its still a work in progress, my ADHD mind jumps from scene to scene without properly finishing any. the story focuses of Elise and Atlas as there world changes, the "main" world is like our medieval age knights kings and farmers and another world with the slight change that it has magic, and the creatures from that world studied magic instead of science and are now having issues with resources and land, instead of looking up to the stars and going to other planets they use magic to find another earth and are trying to invade it
all thats gets explained in 3 or so half finished chapters, but the main story is gona be Elise and Atlas learning to make use of the limited magic that seeps into their world when the rifts open and trying to stop the creatures from destroying their world, creating adventurer guilds and teaching magic/ how to fight these creatures, in a fight to defend the capital Atlas intercepts a massive spell, and through a way i have yet to properly explain grants his sister immortality,

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