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Update AITAH for waking out on my “adoptive daughter” and telling her everything is her fault

2024.05.14 04:08 No_Card9780 Update AITAH for waking out on my “adoptive daughter” and telling her everything is her fault

So yes the divorce is going forward even tho my husband has begged me to stay because he can’t handle the consequences of his actions and yes he is aitata8482828 he did change a few details and yes this isn’t our first follow out with me blowing up kelly isn’t my daughter and I wanted her out due to THEIR mistreated of Sarah we nearly got divorced last year but he used therapy and my emotional abuse as a tool to manipulate me to stay
Sarah hasn’t spoken much to her father since the first fall out because as people mentioned even on his post leaving a lot out about Kelly and just putting down Sarah it was clear who he only cares about. Sarah said she wants nothing to do with him and has warned family to but out. I’m sick of his emotional and mental abuse towards us for his niece and his threats of divorce to get his way so I hope he makes this easy on everyone
Yes Kelly has had a bad childhood and has suffered but she isn’t my problem anymore I want zero contact with her and will make sure she won’t have contact with my son. I’ve plenty of evidence and witnesses to make it happen I can sound cruel but she can fuck right off she isn’t my kid so I don’t owe her a relationship and regardless of how bad her trauma is she has no right to traumatise others. She could of had a life in america with her grandparents but she refused to learn English
As for my husband being her real dad that’s irrelevant to me because I won’t get the truth and would only cause more issues for my kids who’ve been through enough
Thanks to everyone for the adivce I won’t be logging in after tonight and as I’ve said in the comments English isn’t my first language
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1. Skrimor - Boogie Woogie / Club Girl [Evolution Chamber]

Recommended if you like: Gydra, Punchman, Absu_NTQL
You know what we should talk more about on here? Neurofunk. Not even joking, the last proper Neuro spotlight here has been months ago, and frankly I cannot stand for this injustice anymore. So let's talk about Neuro's biggest shooting star of recent times: Skrimor!
Dzmitry Vilchytski, the Warsaw-based man behind the incredible project, is one of those people whose music isn't just well-produced and hard-hitting, he is also able to effortlessly tap into that fun, cheeky Eastern European energy that makes you want to get up from your deep slav squat and get movin'. This combo of technical prowess and musical diversity with a healthy chunk of Neuropunk attitude immediately convinced a ton of established artists across the subgenre, leading to one release after the other on Neuropunk (of course), Eatbrain and Korsakov, shortly after Garud from Teddy Killerz started working as their label A&R, plus remixes for Jade, Gydra and, well, Teddy Killerz.
That kinda omnipresence, plus all the support across the scene, almost makes you forget that his journey as Skrimor only started a little bit more than a year ago somehow?! Sure, his artist bio expands on his background a bit more and talks about how he's been involved with music since 2005, when he played in a Nu-Metal band, saw the dubstep/dnb/bass music light in 2007 while in Vilnius, graduated in 2012 and explored electronic music some more in Poland. But then, 11 years of nothing later and bam, a sick debut release on NickBee's Axon Records kicking off an avalanche that the Neuro scene hasn't seen in a while, and apparently isn't gonna stop anytime soon. Case in point: Now, after debuting on the label's wonderful Transmissions compilation series just a couple weeks back, Dzmitry is once again returning to Magnetude's, Task Horizon's and Receptor's one and only Evolution Chamber to deliver two slices of his infamously, undeniably, certifiedly raw material to the masses: Boogie Woogie / Club Girl.
We kick this one-two-punch off with a mantra to conquer any of your everyday problems: Boogie Woogie. Train delayed? Boogie woogie. Waiter brought you the wrong food? Boogie woogie. Wife divorcing you? Boogie that damn woogie already! To help us all achieve this serene state of boogie-woogie-ing, Skrimor brings us only the crunchiest of chugger basslines, propelled forward by some heavy drums, with an incredibly funky combination of cheekily distorted neuro stabs and the titular vocal mantra adding that extra bit of spice on top. Not yet enough for you to get your butt movin'? Alright, then let's go straight to the Club, Girl! To get even the laziest mofo up from their seats, Skrimor brings out the big guns: only the dirtiest of 8th note chuggy basses that even briefly turns into 4x4 later on, only the largest of neuro whomp melodies and, most importantly, only the catchiest, earwormiest vocal of the year, if not the decade! Might sound simple, but trust me, this one is a bop. Sometimes less is (Skri)more, after all.
I'm genuinely obsessed with the raw energy Skrimor is bringing to the scene lately. Even after a ton of sick output in the past year, I'm still skriming for more.
Other neuro from this week: - Redpill - The Chase EP - PAIN - Push The Pusher (Zardonic Remix) - Teddy Killerz - Do U L Me - Mean Teeth - Bring Back The Funk Remixed Part 1 - Perplex - The Basilisk - JIROBASS - Izolite / Carbon 💎

2. Aegis - Pressure & Existential 💎 [DIVIDID]

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Now for a debut release that's putting all sorts of established artists to shame: Aegis, with his double single Pressure & Existential.
While this actually is the first officially released Aegis production that I am aware of, which automatically makes this our Hidden Gem Of The Week™️, the rabbit hole does of course go way deeper than that. Residing in the North Brabantian metropolis Tilburg, Nederlander Joppe Damstra has been involved in music-related endeavours since he was in the Dutch equivalent of high school. Whether it was playing in bands like Young Spirit, Locked Out or Rabble, organising events of his own, most notably the band battle tournament Fame Game in 2018 and the Save The Night events, or interning at Korsakov from 2019 to 2020, Joppe undeniably has always had an unstoppable drive to become an integral part of the music scene at large, in every possible corner. As you can maybe already tell, over time, the love for all things electronic outgrew everything else. Not only was he laying down some crazy DnBeats at some of those events, either under his real name or as BMBRMN (bomberman?), he also kept himself busy working all sorts of label operations jobs at Dimensional Music.
For our purposes though, the really interesting part begins just slightly after all that, in 2022. On the one hand, because he became part of the team at ABIS' incredible DIVIDID label as both their Event Manager and resident DJ, on the other, because that's when Aegis was finally born! Across a proper onslaught of insanely sick DIVIDID label nights, Joppe jumped on the decks in places like Vienna, Bristol, Lyon, Maribor and all over Germany and the Netherlands, converting one city after another to Aegisism, with a slew of DIVIDID dubs and, eventually, even his own creations. I remember one day last year I was supposed to go to their takeover in Berlin's VOID club, something I had been hyped about for ages (or should I say aeges), but because my body simply said no, my friend ended up going alone. When they came back the next morning, there was one thing they couldn't stop raving about: that Aegis dude. After finally experiencing his selections myself a couple months later, I can now see what they were on about - dude is a wizard. Now, with his debut release finally released, we can see if his wizardry also extends to production!
I'm happy to report that it absolutely does! Pressure opens up pandoraegis' box of destruction rather beautifully, with ominous synths constantly ringing in your ears, a delightfully eery vocal haunting you in your dreams, explosive basses going off in your face and incredibly intricate, fierce drumwork working up an actual wildfire of a storm - what a crazy introduction into the scene! As if that wasn't already huge enough, we've also got Existential on the flipside doing serious damage. Whereas the opener was still strangely lovely, this one is just downright evil. Especially that otherworldly lead synth is filled to the brim with menacing energy, but the back and forth we're getting on the drop, where the unrelenting ratatatat is interrupted by a somehow even more sinister, proper all-encompassing bassline - that shit is just ridiculous man.
I'm having problems finding puns stupid enough to fully articulate my love for this insane debut release. I'm having Aegissues, one might even say. Genuinely though: This is a crazy-good first release and I cannot wait to see what else Aegis will accomplish in the future!
Other techy things from this week: - Various Artists - Antimatter:2 EP 💎 - Misanthrop - Open World EP - Onetral - Flow 💎 - VENAL - Metamorphosis 💎 (only found these two recently)
 

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2 yrs later she surprised me with divorce papers and I left court owing her 75k in arrears for child support which was so bogus as my daughter lived with me 5 days a week and her mother on weekends. And in that time I had been giving her mother 800 a month, bought all my daughter's school and sports supplies every year, and as I mentioned - she spent most of her time with me as well. I'm not petty enough to do the math but surely spent more than her. So after court with the arrears and continuing cs I was paying 1400 a month ( I make good money but the more I make, the more she received. Raises and promotions seemed meaningless ). I could have went to court, dragged my daughter in to testify on her own behalf ( courts thought we had 50/50 custody and she was with me 5 days a week and in my state at 50/50 the parent that makes more must compensate the other. She quit a job making 80k a yr to answer phones for $11hr just to spite me.
So I suffered financially for years but did it gladly so my daughter would have no distractions to her academic prowess. She's about to graduate with her bachelor's and is going on to grad school next year. I'm so proud and she's a great kid with great values.
I finished paying off the ex wife this past December and was excited to leave my friend's basement apartment and start my own life after 6 yrs of paying my ex because....she cheated on me? I didn't have a lawyer so wasn't prepared at all. Anyway, as I start looking at apartments it seems that I can only afford studios in the most dangerous parts of Baltimore. I'm not rich but I make 35hr am a biomedical engineer and just feel like I should be able to afford a decent place in a decent neighborhood and have a decent life. I won't be able to. A reasonable apartment, 1 bedroom goes for like 1800 to 2400 here. Studios in crime ridden neighborhoods are like 1200 to 1500 so that's where I'm headed.
Even then, I won't be able to afford anything but rent and food. No vacations. No weekend outings.
I'm old enough that the only women my age who are single usually come with problems that I can't handle. Always dated a bit older, went younger all 2023 ( too young prolly, 29 ) and she was an alcoholic/addict/depressed person with a horribly sad past. I tried my best to work with her but felt like she hated feeling emotions and I just made her even more uncomfortable and she started treating me terribly so I moved on for my own mental health preservation.
I only see a future where I go to work, go to my shitty studio apartment, be alone, repeat for life.
I don't want this life. I'm already dangerously depressed. I'm thinking about unaliving myself every day all day because I thought these changes would change things, make me happy, but the realization that nothing gets better, just lonlier and more pathetic has me all fucked up. If it wasn't for my daughter I'd already be gone.
Not to mention the general state of humanity isn't helping. I struggle to see beauty in the world. I don't remember what joy feels like. I'm just going through the motions hoping for a surprise quick death. I got hit by a speeding car over a month ago and would have been killed if my skating instincts didn't place my hand in front of my forehead minimizing the damage - would have been dead by all accounts had I not put my hand there. I keep thinking about that and wish my hand was not in the right place at the right time.
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2024.05.13 04:04 Cool-Pop-5420 Blue & Sarah

I’m a little sad that Blue did not post anything about Sarah. I understand they are going through a divorce but Sarah did do a LOT for her and stepped up to take on the role as her mother for many many years. I feel she might is being told not to speak to her or speak of her and if that’s the case, that is heartbreaking.
Anyway, fuck evilly
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2024.05.13 02:15 nomorelandfills No, You Beg - 2021 article from The Cut about the difficulty in adopting in the COVID era

No, You Beg - 2021 article from The Cut about the difficulty in adopting in the COVID era
Another copied article to keep in reserve. It's an odd article from the pandemic, recounting the boom in rescue adoptions. It is a fairly pointless article in that it uses some really shifty rescuers, including Pixies and Paws, as sources, brightly highlights a bioethicist who uses her own foolish adoption of two pit bull mixes as evidence that most people shouldn't own dogs, and chronicles but fails to understand the loathing rescuers have for adopters. It does, however, wonderfully illustrate how rapidly the good times ended in rescue. Anyone reading the the current "we've never been so overwhelmed with dogs" rescue laments should know that there's a link between today's problems and yesterday's reckless opportunism.
The "bioethicist"
“I think it’s probably true that the majority of people who want to adopt a dog should not,” Jessica Pierce, a bioethicist who studies human-animal relationships, tells me. “They don’t have the wherewithal and don’t have what they need to give the animal a good life.” She herself ended up with two pets that didn’t get along at all — a herding mix and a pointer mix whose constant fighting made the idea of hosting a dinner party both perhaps “bloody” and definitely “scary and miserable.” She says shelters shouldn’t “drive away potentially loving and appropriate adopters because they don’t meet predetermined criteria,” but she also sees the importance of a thorough application process that prepares humans for the pitfalls of pet parenthood. “You need to be ready to have a dog who doesn’t like people very much,” says Pierce. When Bella, the 11-year-old she got from the Humane Society, dies, she’s not sure she will get a replacement, noting that the pandemic puppy boom is “driven by a reflection of human narcissism and neurosis.”
However, this is a fantastic truth long overdue for the telling.
“I started to talk to shelter leaders across the country,” Cushing says. “And one by one, they said any adoptable dog without a medical issue is gone by noon on Saturday. But the public didn’t know that. Only the dog seekers and the experts did.”
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Jack, adopted by Tori and Paris through In Our Hands Rescue.
It was a rainy Sunday in June, and Danielle had fallen in love.
The 23-year-old paralegal spent the first part of her afternoon in McCarren Park, envying the happy dog owners with their furry companions. Then she stumbled upon an adoption event in a North Brooklyn beer garden, where a beagle mix being paraded out of the rescue van reminded her of the dog she grew up with, Snickers. It all felt like fate, so she filled out an application on the spot. She was then joined by her best friend and roommate, Alexa, in sitting across from a serious-looking young woman with a ponytail who was searching for a reason to break her heart.
Danielle and Alexa were confident they would be leaving with Millie that day: After all, they had a 1,000-square-foot apartment within blocks of McCarren and full-time employment with the ability to work from home for the foreseeable future. But the volunteer kept posing questions that they hadn’t prepared for. What if they stopped living together? What if Danielle’s girlfriend’s collie mix didn’t get along with her new family member? What would be the solution if the dog needed expensive training for behavioral issues? Which vet were they planning to use?
All of which, upon reflection, were reasonable questions. But when it came to the diet they planned for the dog, they realized they were out of their depth. Danielle recalled that Snickers had lived to 16 and a half on a diet of Blue Buffalo Wilderness, the most expensive stuff that was available at her parents’ Bay Area pet store. “Would you want to live on the best version of Lean Cuisine for the rest of your life?” sniffed the volunteer with a frown. She would instead recommend a small-batch, raw-food brand that cost, when they looked it up later, up to $240 a bag. “If you were approved, you’d need to get the necessary supplies and take time off from work starting now,” the dog gatekeeper said. “And the first 120 days would be considered a trial period, meaning we would reserve the right to take your dog back at any time.” The would-be adopters nodded solemnly.
The friends rose from the bench and thanked the volunteer for her time. Believing they were out of earshot, the volunteer summed up the interview to a colleague: “You just walked by, and you’re fixated on this one dog, and it’s because you had a beagle growing up, but you want to make your roommate the legal adopter?”
When Danielle and Alexa were young, one could still show up at a shelter, pick out an unhoused dog that just wanted to have someone to love, and take it home that same day. Today, much of the process has moved online — to Petfinder, a.k.a. Tinder for dogs, and various animal-shelter Instagram accounts that send cute puppy pics with heartrending stories of need into your feed and compel you to fill out an adoption application as you sit on the toilet. Posts describing the dogs drip with euphemisms: A dog that might freak out and tear your house up if left alone is a “Velcro dog”; one that might knock down your children is “overly exuberant”; a skittish, neglected dog with trust issues is just a “shy party girl.” Certain shelters have become influencers in their own right, like the L.A.-based Labelle Foundation, which has almost 250,000 Instagram followers and counts Dua Lipa and Cara Delevingne among its A-list clients. Rescue agencies abound, many with missions so specific that you could theoretically find one that deals in any niche breed you desire, from affenpinschers to Yorkshire terriers.
This deluge of rescue-puppy content has arrived, not coincidentally, during a time of growing awareness of puppy mills as so morally indefensible that even Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez could draw fire for seemingly buying a purebred French bulldog in early 2020. Then came the pandemic puppy boom, a lonely, claustrophobic year in which thousands of white-collar workers, sitting at home scrolling through their phones, seemed simultaneously to decide they were finally ready to adopt a dog. The corresponding demand spike in certain markets has simply overwhelmed the agencies: New York shelters that were used to receiving 20 applications a week were now receiving hundreds, with as many as 50 people vying for a single pup.
The rescue dog is now, indisputably, a luxury good, without a market pricing system at work to manage demand. A better analogy might be an Ivy League admissions office. But even Harvard isn’t forced to be as picky as, say, Korean K9 Rescue, whose average monthly applications tripled in 2020.
And yet someone has to pick the winners — often an unpaid millennial Miss Hannigan doling out a precious number of wet-nosed Orphan Annies to wannabe Daddy Warbuckses and thus empowered to judge the intentions and poop-scooping abilities of otherwise accomplished urban professionals, some of whom actually did go to Harvard.
This has led to some hard feelings. Every once in a while, someone will complain on Twitter about being rejected by a rescue agency, and it will reliably set off a cascade of attacks on “entitled rich white millennials assuming they can have whatever they want,” followed by counter-attacks on those who “appoint themselves the holy sainted guardian of all animals.” Danielle was ultimately deemed unworthy, not even receiving a generic rejection letter over email. After all, there isn’t really that much incentive for the rescue agencies to be polite these days.
The modern animal-rescue movement grew alongside the child-welfare movement in the mid-19th century. It got another boost in the years following World War II, when Americans were moving out to the suburbs in droves, according to Stephen Zawistowski, a professor of animal behavior at Hunter College. Suddenly, there were highways, yards, and space. Walt Disney was making movies about children and dogs that promoted the idea that no new home was complete without a loyal animal companion. (Zawistowski said that one might call this the Old Yeller Effect, but there were various riffs on the same theme over the ensuing decades. Essentially, Flipper was “Let’s put Lassie in the water.”)
In the early ’80s, University of Pennsylvania researchers confirmed the effects that animal companionship has on everything from blood pressure to heart conditions to anxiety. Pets were no longer just how you taught Junior to be responsible; they might be critical to maintaining adults’ physical and mental health. The way people spoke about animals started changing. The idea that “homeless” dogs were sent to the “pound” because they were “bad” went out of fashion. “Suddenly, you had ‘rescue’ dogs brightly lit in the mall,” says Ed Sayres, a former president of the ASPCA who now works as a pet-industry consultant. “Basically, we gave animals a promotion.” Meanwhile, in the late ’80s, spay and neuter procedures had been streamlined and were being recommended by vets as well as by Bob Barker on The Price Is Right.
Then came The Ad. Released in 2007, it featured close-ups of three-legged dogs and one-eyed cats rescued by the ASPCA over a wrenching rendition of Sarah McLachlan’s “Angel.” The commercial warned that “for hundreds of others, help came too late.” In just a year, the ad raised 60 percent of the ASPCA’s annual $50 million budget. The organization was reportedly able to increase the grant money it gave to other animal-welfare organizations by 900 percent in ten years. It is difficult to overstate the emotional hangover The Ad inflicted on millennials and members of Gen Z. Janet M. Davis is a historian at the University of Texas at Austin, where she lectures on animal rights to a demographically diverse body of students — everyone from cattle ranchers to vegan punks — most of whom cry when she shows The Ad in class. “It absolutely brings down the house,” she says. “Every time.”
Theoretically, the point of dog adoption is that there are more dogs born into the world than there are humans lined up to care for them. But as interest grew, the supply problem became less acute. Thanks to widespread spay and neuter policies, there are simply too few unwanted litters for what the adoption market wants.
National chains like PetSmart partnered with local shelters to supply its animals for sale. Savvy rescues in dog deserts like New York hooked up with shelters in the Deep South, where cultural attitudes toward spaying and neutering pets are much more lax. While there is no official registry of how many shelter dogs are available in the U.S., in 2017, researchers at the College of Veterinary Medicine for Mississippi State University published a study reporting that the availability of dogs in animal shelters was at an all-time low. “That is,” says Sayres, “an environment that leads to a kind of irrational, competitive behavior.” The rescue mutt had become not just a virtue signal but a virtue test. Who was a good enough human being to deserve a dog in need of rescuing?
Heather remembers the old easy days. “I went on Craigslist and an hour later, I had a puggle,” she says of her first dog-getting experience with her boyfriend in college. George the puggle humped everything in sight, shed everywhere, and chewed through furniture until the end of his life, but she loved him all the same.
Flash-forward 16 years: She and that boyfriend are married, have two kids, and can’t seem to get a new dog no matter what they try. Yes, she could find a breeder easily online (currently for sale on Craigslist: a Yorkie-poo puppy from a breeder asking $350 and just a few screening questions). But instead, in the middle of the pandemic, “I was sending ten to 12 emails a night and willing to travel anywhere, and no one would give us any sort of animal,” she remembers. Shelters would send snappy emails about how her family wasn’t suited for a puppy, even though they made good money and had clearly cared for their dearly departed George — they once drove three hours to get the dog a specially made knee brace. “I was trying to be really up front with people and would say that my daughter has autism and that I have a 3-year-old, and they would say no. It felt like they were saying, ‘We don’t give dogs to people who have disabilities.’ ”
It didn’t matter what kind of dog she applied for — older, younger, bigger, smaller — there was always an official-sounding excuse as to why her family wasn’t suitable. (“Pups this age bite and jump and scratch and while they are cute to look at, they are worse than a bratty ADHD toddler, without diapers,” one rescue wrote. “Sorry.”) She considered looking at emotional-support animals that work specifically with autistic youth but found out they could cost 18 grand and require a two-year waiting period. She couldn’t stomach the idea of setting up a GoFundMe, as other people in the community had. “It got to the point of me wondering, Okay, so what dogs do children get?” she recalls. “I always thought that dogs and children go together.” By the fall of 2020, Heather had turned back to breeders. “People get a little spicy when you say you paid for a dog. You want to scream that you tried your hardest, but it wasn’t possible,” she says.
Others, like Zainab, figured out ways to work the system. She blanketed agencies with applications in the early months of the pandemic, applying for 60 dogs. (The ease of applying online might also explain the statistics.) She thought the fact that she had a leadership role in public education would demonstrate that she was both successful and nurturing. “I’m a professional, I make good money, and I have a master’s degree,” she tells me. She was rejected all the same. Finally, a co-worker suggested Zainab make a résumé in order to stand out. The multipage document — which features testimonials from high-powered friends, including local elected officials — is what got her an exclusive meeting with Penny the pug in a parking lot. She was handed over with a leash tied around her neck and vomited in the front seat of Zainab’s car about three blocks later. Success!
Or take Lauren, who’d had dogs all her life and found living solo during COVID lonely. “You can’t be without an animal at this particular time,” she told herself. So she started applying for dogs on Petfinder and boutique-rescue websites. “I would look up at my clock, and it would be two in the morning,” she says. Her hopes were high when she got a meeting with a Chihuahua mix in the suburbs named Mary Shelley. Lauren thought the meeting went well, but it ultimately didn’t result in the interviewer granting the adoption. “Then I was in conspiracy-theory mode, thinking she doesn’t like gay people, or single people, or people who live in the city,” she says. “It was a crazy-making experience. It’s a pandemic, so your world is already turned upside down, but I became psychotic.
“The people who run rescue organizations — this was their moment to shine,” she adds. “Even though they were totally bogged down with requests, they got to feel the power. They got to make someone’s dreams come true or smash them to the ground.”
The inquiries can get extremely personal. “I found the questions very offensive,” says Joanna, a Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center nurse who tried to adopt last year with her architect husband. “I was like, ‘What does this have to do with getting a dog?’ ” Her husband didn’t even want to put the thought out into the universe, but he was forced to admit that he’d probably be the one to take a shared pet in the event of a divorce. The two also had to grapple with what would happen if one or both of them died of COVID during the pandemic. And would both of them be able to take three days off at a moment’s notice to help the dog acclimate to its new home? “I was frank with her and said, ‘I take care of cancer patients,’ ” says Joanna. “She was very unsatisfied with our answer.”
“The more popular the rescue is on the internet, the more clout they have,” says Molly, a writer in New York. “If you have a really good social-media presence, you can throw your weight around.” (The clout goes both ways: Posting about your rescue dog on Instagram is an indirect way of broadcasting that someone out there deemed you morally worthy enough to be chosen.) She inquired about eight dogs in six weeks from about five different rescues, only to be continually rejected. She finally got an interview with a rescue agency whose cute dogs she had seen on social media. They asked to tour her apartment over Zoom. Fine. They asked for her references. Great. But then they asked if she would pay for an expensive trainer. She asked if she could wait — not only was it during the height of COVID, but the cost of the sessions with the trainer could be close to $1,000. The person she was dealing with said over email that dogs were investments and suggested she look elsewhere. “I was like, This is so Brooklyn,” she says.
Still, others wished the warning about trainers had been more explicit. At the height of the pandemic, Steven remembers scrolling through social-media post after social-media post saying things like “URGENT: NEED TO FIND THIS GUY A HOME” while “picturing this dog on a conveyor belt going toward this whirring saw. And meanwhile I am screaming at my phone, ‘I applied and you turned me down!’ ”
But after securing a dog, he came to believe the process, while tough on the human applicants, wasn’t tough enough when it came to the dog’s needs. Right off the bat, Cooper was very hyper and mouthy when playing. “We were doing the thing that everyone does, like, posting pics: ‘We’re at the park, isn’t this fun, hahaha,’ ” he says. But the reality was much less Instagram-worthy. Cooper became difficult to handle, especially in a small New York apartment; mouthiness escalated to gnashing his teeth and guarding food. “It’s embarrassing, and I hate having to tell people we had to give the dog back,” he says. (So much so that Steven requested a pseudonym for himself and for Cooper.) “To be frank, the experience we had with the dog was pretty traumatic. If this volunteer had felt so powerful, I wish that they had said we wouldn’t be able to handle this dog.” Although Steven’sInstagram is replete with photos of other friends’ dogs, evidence of Cooper’s existence has disappeared from the account.
The rescue-dog demand has also been stressful for the overwhelmed (and overwhelmingly volunteer) workforce that keeps the supply chain running. On a recent Saturday, Jason was speeding toward JFK airport in a windowless white van covered in graffiti. Though he was on his way to help rescue dogs, he is the first to admit he’s not the biggest fan of the animals. “I just need something to do,” he says. “I was going crazy sitting around the house.” His friend, who was employed at a rescue, recommended him for an unpaid gig. Prior to the pandemic, he managed an Off Broadway play in the city. The 34-year-old, who is athletically built with a shaved head, has a compulsive need to be coordinating a production, and getting dogs to New York City from a different continent is definitely that.
Many of the city’s rescue dogs come from other parts of the world these days, brought over by volunteers who take them through a complicated Customs process. This is part of what Pet Nation author Mark Cushing calls the “canine freedom train.” A former corporate trial attorney, Cushing had thought that American shelters were filled with dogs with a figurative hatchet outside their kennel; that was until his daughter, a shelter volunteer, said that, in fact, scores of people were lined up around the block every weekend in hopes of adopting a handful of dogs. “I started to talk to shelter leaders across the country,” Cushing says. “And one by one, they said any adoptable dog without a medical issue is gone by noon on Saturday. But the public didn’t know that. Only the dog seekers and the experts did.”
Jason waited in arrivals, ready to stop anyone who walked by with dog crates. When he saw some, he swooped in. It turned out that he had ended up with an extra animal — one that was yowling like it needed to get out and pee. He couldn’t figure out to whom it belonged, and after about 40 minutes of drama in the pickup area, two large men jumped out of a truck with out-of-state plates. They handed Jason $20 before he knew what was happening, loaded the dog into their Silverado, and sped off toward North Carolina. It was unclear if they were adopters themselves or worked for a shelter.
With that out of the way, Jason tried to carefully maneuver a luggage cart full of the remaining dog crates to the lot where he was parked. When one fell, the animal inside didn’t make a sound, presumably zonked from its long journey across the ocean. More volunteers were waiting at the shelter with food, water, and an enormous number of puppy pads when he arrived. After the animals decompressed from their long flight, they would be taken to an adoption event, where they would hopefully meet their new humans.
Emily Wells hasn’t taken a vacation in years. She works full time on Wall Street but is also the coordinator for Pixies & Paws Rescue — a job that she does in between calls and meetings and emails. That means responding to DMs on Instagram about available dogs, attending adoption events on weekends, and getting on the phone with a vet at 10 p.m. because one of her fosters got sick. That also means screening applications, which more than doubled during the height of the pandemic. Typically, she denies about one-third. This part of her job might not be the most physically demanding, but it does take a psychic toll.
“What I’ve found is a lot of people are very entitled,” she says. “They send nasty emails. I’ve been called every name in the book. But there are reasons we deny. We are entrusted with placing a living, breathing thing in someone’s home for the rest of its life.” She wishes people would understand that the rescue is just her and one other person trying their best to deal with off-the-charts levels of demand. “I know rescues that don’t even reply,” she says. “So the fact that we do and still get shit for that is annoying.” And explaining why someone was rejected can create its own problems: What if they use that information to fib on their next application?
Rescues like Wells’s are largely dependent on foster parents to house the dogs they import. Foster-to-adopt is one way that people adopt pets, a means of testing out compatibility and increasing one’s chances of adopting in a hypercompetitive city. But demand for dogs was so high last year that even proven volunteers couldn’t get their hands on a foster. Take Suchita, an animal lover who moved from India to New Jersey for her husband’s VP job with a big bank in 2019. Unable to work owing to visa issues, she became a prolific dog fosterer for a rescue in Queens. She also worked with a program that pairs volunteers with elderly animal owners who need help taking their pets out on walks. That program was suspended during COVID, which left Suchita desperate for more dog time.
Figuring that online volunteer work might fill the void, she started helping another organization wade through its massive backlog of applications by calling references. She offered to foster more dogs but didn’t hear back, nor did her attempts to adopt pan out. When she went ahead and adopted Sasha, a Pomeranian, through another rescue agency, the first organization was not happy. “After I posted Sasha on Instagram, they called me saying it was a conflict of interest to have worked with another agency,” Suchita says. “I was not at all prepared for that. Then they unfollowed me. It really hurt, but no hard feelings.” She is humbly aware of the fact that in New York, there is always someone who has a nicer apartment, a better job, and more experience than you. If everything else is equal, why shouldn’t a shelter try to give a dog to someone who can afford to give it the best life possible?
“They don’t treat humans nicely, but at least they treat dogs nicely,” she says.
In some corners of the rescue world, a reckoning is taking place. Rachael Ziering, the executive director of Muddy Paws Rescue, which found homes for around 1,000 dogs last year, got her start volunteering at other nonprofits whose adoption processes she found abhorrent. She saw, for instance, people look at adoption applications and say, “Oh, that’s a terrible Zip Code. I’m not adopting to them.” Or they would judge people based on their appearance. “I know a lot of groups that will ask for your firstborn along with your application,” she says. “I think it’s well intentioned, but I think it just took a turn at some point. It’s morphed into sort of an unhealthy view that no one’s ever gonna be good enough. Nobody’s ever perfect — the dog or the person.” Muddy Paws is instead embracing what is known as “open adoption,” a philosophy that allows for rescue volunteers to be more open-minded about what a good dog home might look like. It has started gaining traction among groups like the ASPCA in recent years, in part because the organization’s current president was denied a dog — twice. Instead of rejecting applicants outright based on their giving the “wrong” answers, Ziering’s team speaks with hopeful dog owners at length, learning about their lifestyles and histories to match them with the pet best for their family. Still, even a more inclusive philosophy toward profiling adoption applicants comes up against the intractable math: There are only so many dogs that need homes. Though Muddy Paws rejects less than one percent of applicants, some decide to adopt elsewhere if it means getting a dog faster.
Is any of this good for the dogs? Depends on whom you ask. If the intense questions involved in securing the dog cause someone to reflect before making a decision they’ll regret — sure. Others note that the average dog’s life span has hovered around 11 years for decades. “I think it’s probably true that the majority of people who want to adopt a dog should not,” Jessica Pierce, a bioethicist who studies human-animal relationships, tells me. “They don’t have the wherewithal and don’t have what they need to give the animal a good life.” She herself ended up with two pets that didn’t get along at all — a herding mix and a pointer mix whose constant fighting made the idea of hosting a dinner party both perhaps “bloody” and definitely “scary and miserable.” She says shelters shouldn’t “drive away potentially loving and appropriate adopters because they don’t meet predetermined criteria,” but she also sees the importance of a thorough application process that prepares humans for the pitfalls of pet parenthood. “You need to be ready to have a dog who doesn’t like people very much,” says Pierce. When Bella, the 11-year-old she got from the Humane Society, dies, she’s not sure she will get a replacement, noting that the pandemic puppy boom is “driven by a reflection of human narcissism and neurosis.”
“A lot of this is driven by Instagram,” she says. “We have this expectation that dogs are not really dogs; they’re toys or fashion accessories.”
I’m not pushing you, but it seems like you want to bring him home,” the Badass Animal Rescue volunteer said with the controlled energy of a used-car salesperson. Bill and Sherrie, a middle-aged couple who had lost their English bulldog three years ago, were looking for a replacement. The dog with a bright-red boner jumped on Bill, and everyone pretended not to notice. “He definitely has energy,” Bill said brightly. The couple were on the fence, and the volunteer could sense the close slipping away.
Although this organization saw applications rise 200 percent during the pandemic, things are now recalibrating back to normalcy. We are, it seems, witnessing the cooling of the puppy boom. The unbearable loneliness of the pandemic has abated, replaced with anxiety about how to possibly do all the things all of us used to do every day. New Yorkers are being summoned back to the office or planning vacations. Many young professionals are finding that, when given the option between scrolling through rescue websites until 2 a.m. or doing drunken karaoke in a room full of friends, Dog Tinder is losing its appeal. Local shelters are seeing application numbers slip — many say they have returned to pre-COVID levels — which, in turn, has made it slightly more of an adopter’s market.
Bill and Sherrie went to the hallway to talk it over. He was definitely a puller like their old dog, Xena. And he was also a hell of a shedder. The volunteer kept talking about something called a “love match,” but was this really one? “We’re just gonna need a little more time,” Sherrie confessed when they came back inside. No one was making eye contact. As they prepared to leave, the dog jumped up on Bill again, his tongue flopping sideways and his wagging tail spraying white fur. He was clearly not aware that the tenor of the room had shifted. “We might be back,” Bill said with an obvious twinge of guilt. “Don’t worry!”
We will probably look back on the class of pandemic dogs adopted in 2020 as the most desirable unwanted dogs of all time — the ultimate market-scarcity score for a slice of virtuous, privileged New York City. People like Danielle will see them paraded around places like McCarren Park, the living, breathing trophies for self-satisfied owners who made it through the gauntlet. At least for the next 11 years or so.
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2024.05.12 20:38 disjointed_chameleon Venue recommendations?

There is light and hope at the end of the tunnel: my divorce from my abusive, deadbeat husband is soon to be complete. With that in mind, I'm slowly starting to come around to the idea of throwing some sort of 'divorce party' celebration or bash. To that end, I come to you, my fellow Marylanders, seeking guidance and advice.
I'm targeting sometime in the late summer, maybe early fall. I'm based in Baltimore, but willing to consider almost anywhere across the state, so long as there's proximity to an airport, since I will likely have friends coming in from various areas of the United States.
I'm big into learning about other cultures (I hail from a very multinational background), even if it's domestic culture within the United States. I'd love to find a way to blend some Maryland flair into the event somehow. Whaddya think? Old Bay containers in a goodie bag? Bushel of crabs for every guest (RIP my wallet)? Can of Natty Boh for each guest? Maryland-themed face-painting booth? 🤣😂
Thanks in advance for any feedback, any and all ideas welcome! 🦀
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2024.05.12 15:00 av-law Brigham Young and John D. Lee, The Executor of the Mountain Meadows Massacre, Were Joined At the Hip: They Were "Birds of a Feather" - Part IIIB

BRIGHAM YOUNG AND JOHN D. LEE, THE EXECUTOR OF THE MOUNTAIN MEADOWS MASSACRE, WERE JOINED AT THE HIP
THEY WERE “BIRDS OF A FEATHER”
Part III - B
Disposal of Property:
Brigham Young gave cattle stolen from the emigrants during the Massacre to John D. Lee. What to do with cattle in the possession of Brigham Young’s militia (for whatever reason) was a decision Brigham Young was asked to make and made. The Indians were supposed to have ambushed the emigrants all by themselves, yet Brigham’s soldiers ended up in charge of the spoils. Those rewards included seventeen children of tender age later recovered from southern Utah Mormon homes, where they were placed after their parents were murdered. Initially, John D. Lee had charge of Charley Fancher. “I told the Indian to let the boy alone. I took the child up in my arms, and put him back in the wagon, and saved his life. This little boy said his name was Charley Fancher, and that his father was Captain of the train. He was a bright boy. I afterwards adopted him, and gave him to Caroline. She kept him until Dr. Forney took all the children East.” (John D. Lee, “Last Confession and Statement of John D. Lee,” p. 16-17). The possessions of the Arkansas Company were a literal treasure trove of the kinds of things urgently needed on any frontier. Much of what had belonged to those unfortunate emigrants, who were beautifully equipped, was placed in the hands of Phillip Klingensmith, a Mormon Bishop in Cedar City, Utah. Bishop Klingensmith had been a prominent participant in the multi-day attacks against the Fancher party at Mountain Meadows. He would later ignore his dreadful oath and put his life at risk to publicly reveal the disgraceful details of that great American crime.
The cattle assigned by Brigham Young to John D. Lee, after the massacre, were clearly those taken from the murdered emigrants at Mountain Meadows. “At Lee’s first trial [he was saved by a hung jury], Klingensmith testified, and reaffirmed his story under cross-examination, that he and Charles Hopkins had accompanied Lee to the home of Brigham Young while they were in Salt Lake City to attend the October Conference [in 1857], and that President Young told him [Bishop Klingensmith] to give the cattle to Lee to use for the benefit of the Indians and the mission. Klingensmith added that Young also cautioned them, ‘What you know about this, say nothing about it.’” (Cleland and Brooks, Diaries of John D. Lee, Vol. 1, 319 n 18). “Charles Hopkins, a former member of the Mormon Battalion,” settled in southern Utah. “Present at the Mountain Meadows Massacre [and one of the speakers at the council held at the scene of the crime], he was also with Lee and Klingensmith when they discussed the disposal of the emigrants’ cattle with Brigham Young.” (Cleland and Brooks, Diaries of John D. Lee, Vol. 1, 320 n 22).
“If there isn’t a hell, there ought to be.” (Baskin, Reminiscences of Early Utah, 149). Young was a recipient of a carriage stolen from the Mountain Meadows emigrants. It was used by the Mormon leader in Salt Lake City as late as ten years after the crime. R.N. Baskin: “One day in 1867, when I was walking up Main street in Salt Lake city with John Chislet, one of the persons who crossed the plains with one of the celebrated hand-cart trains, but who afterwards apostatized from the church, he pointed to a carriage which was approaching at a few yards distance, and said: ‘That man in the carriage with Brigham Young is John D. Lee, the leader of the Mountain Meadows massacre, and the carriage in which they are riding is one which the emigrants had owned.’ That was the first time I had seen Lee. The carriage was accompanied by Brigham’s mounted, sacred guard. The next time I saw Lee was at his first trial, and I recognized him as the man whom I had before seen in the carriage with Brigham Young.” (R.N. Baskin, Reminiscences of Early Utah, 138-39).
Young lied again, under oath in an affidavit, when he “denied any knowledge of the disposition of the emigrants’ property.” (Baskin, Reminiscences, 116). Brigham Young Affidavit, under oath, July 30, 1875: “Eleventh: Did you ever give any directions concerning the property taken from the emigrants at the Mountain Meadows massacre, or know anything as to its disposition? Answer: No; I never gave any directions concerning the property taken from the company of emigrants at the Mountain Meadows massacre, nor did I know anything of that property or its disposal, and I do not to this day, except from public rumor.”
It was claimed that “Young as Utah’s Governor failed to have Lee arrested . . . oversaw the church appropriation of the spoils, and allowed Lee and Haight to act in the legislature despite his knowledge of their guilt.” (Turner, Brigham Young: Pioneer Prophet, 393). “Lee claimed Brigham Young told a Cedar City congregation that members of the Fancher party had persecuted the Saints and ‘killed our prophets in Carthage Jail.’” (Bagley, Blood of the Prophets, 249). With hundreds of head of cattle and stolen spoils, the Church’s acquisition, all by itself, puts lie to the claim that the Indians, and not John D. Lee and his minions, did the dirty work. “ . . . ‘Young had the benefit of the property of the murdered Emigrants and defrauded the United States’ by claiming it as his gift to the Indians.” (Prosecutor Sumner Howard informed the U.S. Attorney General “of his belief,” cited at Turner, Brigham Young: Pioneer Prophet, 396).
The First Trial – Joined at the Hip:
George Hicks, a brave dissenter in a sea of Saints, was excommunicated for “sending a letter to the Salt Lake Tribune noting that Lee rode his horse ‘by the side of Brigham’s carriage.’” Hicks implied that Young shared in Lee’s well-known guilt. (Turner, Brigham Young: Pioneer Prophet, 391). An 1874 meeting, after Lee’s excommunication, was the last time the old warriors met. For all of his life – John D. Lee’s life, at least into the 1870s – Brigham Young protected him from apprehension. Lee knew secrets which, if once exposed, threatened the life of Brigham Young, and the future of the Church he ruled from about 1844 to 1877, the date of his death.
Marshall William Stokes captured Lee, found hiding in an animal pen near his house in Panguitch. “Young was clearly worried about his own legal jeopardy.” He “asked Daniel Wells to find the copybook containing his September 10, 1857, letter to Isaac Haight ‘and put it into a safe where it will be secure and at hand if called for.’” (Turner, Brigham Young: Pioneer Prophet, 391). It is not noted that he requested the same disposition for Haight’s September 7, 1857, Letter to him. He would later deny, under oath, that he could produce his letter to Haight, even after a diligent search, probably because it tacitly encouraged the Indians to do as they liked. The letter to Haight, which was never produced during Young’s lifetime – though he clearly knew exactly where it was – was produced in 1884, after his death. Isaac Haight’s September 7, 1857, Express to Brigham Young, the Mountain Meadows equivalent of the eighteen-and-a-half-minute gap on the Watergate tapes, has never been produced. That letter, perhaps the most important letter the prophet ever received, has been destroyed, concealed or suppressed (like the 1832 first and only Holographic Account of Joseph Smith’s First Vision of the Son without the Father “brought to light” from Joseph Fielding Smith’s office safe in 1965). The loss of Haight’s Letter bespeaks the absurdity of the claim, made by the authors of Vengeance Is Mine, the long-awaited apologetic Church-aided publication of the history of the cover-up, who say that they have received, unlike anyone else ever on earth, one hundred percent of the documents, many held from public view for more than a century by the less-than-transparent Church. Documents seen to pertain to the cover-up of that great American crime. When the Government tried to ascertain in the nineteenth century where the bear hid the honey, pages were removed from dozens of histories and documents, including some from the diaries of John D. Lee. And most particularly Haight’s Express to Young prepared and sent before the final solution at Mountain Meadows ever occurred.
The Second Trial – Brigham Young Betrays His Most Obedient Servant:
“Brigham Young gives unsuccessful order to prevent massacre but becomes accessory after the fact. He later tells participants that he approves of the massacre and lets them know he expects them to exonerate each other in [a] court of law. He publicly intimidates anyone who is inclined to give evidence against Mormon participants. He refuses to give federal authorities information that would implicate nearly all [of the] adults of [a] small Mormon community in [the] massacre and division of victims’ property. Then, when total denial becomes impossible, Young scapegoats three men through excommunication and arranges for participants to testify against (and jurymen to convict) only John D. Lee, Brigham Young’s adopted son and Council of Fifty member.” (Quinn, Extensions of Power, 755-56). Lee challenged the excommunication and asked for a hearing. Young promised him relief. In a letter from Apostle Erastus Snow delivered by one of Snow’s sons, that Lee “knew” had been “written by orders of Brigham Young,” Lee learned that Brigham Young didn’t mean what he had said about the excommunication. He had told his colleague, “I am your friend and not your enemy. You shall have a rehearing.” (Lee, Confessions, 265). The letter, however, told Lee, “You will not press an investigation at this time . . . . Our advice is to make yourself scarce, and keep out of the way.” (Ibid., 266). “When I read the letter, I knew I had nothing to hope for from the Church, and my grief was as great as I could bear. To add to my troubles, Brigham Young sent word to my wives that they were all divorced from me and could leave me if they wished to do so. This was the greatest trouble that I had ever had in my life, for I loved all my wives.” In consequence of Brigham’s advice, “eleven of my wives deserted me . . . .”
A verdict in a second trial, following a hung jury in a first trial, convinced Lee that Church leaders had selected him to be the “scapegoat.” “In Lee’s mind, Young had decided to offer his blood [Lee’s blood] as an atonement for the sins of all those complicit in the massacre.” “The verdict dissolved the fidelity Lee had long maintained toward his surrogate father.” (Turner, Brigham Young: Pioneer Prophet, 394). Daniel H. Wells, a weasel, close to the prophet and the militia, traveled south to superintend the cynical process, reporting the facts back to his boss. The deceitful plan was intended to direct criticism (and punishment) elsewhere.
Lee insinuated Brigham Young’s guilt for the Mountain Meadows Massacre in a brief but fiery speech delivered to the crowd assembled to view his execution in 1877. Two weeks later, at the dedication of the St. George temple, Brigham Young worried that he too might be arrested “after Lee’s insinuation of his guilt.” (Turner, Brigham Young: Pioneer Prophet, 404). Lee’s intransigence surfaced at the execution, and in his end-of-life account, Mormonism Unveiled. Brigham Young noticed, and was shaken by, his adopted son’s criticism. Approximately six months after the execution of his previously trusted servant, Brigham also passed the torch. Perhaps, in the halls of a Mormon heaven, a disentangled John D. Lee, who dismissed his previously precious Master on the day of his death with an embittered reprisal, may have something further to say.
As evidence of the final break between the two old warriors, as reflected in Lee’s end-of-life concerns, Young and Daniel H. Wells gave an interview to a New York Herald correspondent. Lee is dead, and Young and Wells can say whatever they like without fear of rebuttal. “Lee,” they said, “and a few other sinners took advantage of the emigrants’ boorish behavior and the unsettled state of the territory to gratify their desire for plunder.” (Turner, Brigham Young: Pioneer Prophet, 397). It was an ultimate insult, the unkindest cut of all. A cruel and thoughtless postmortem. Young’s biographer, John G. Turner, noted, by way of response that, “No amount of friendly journalism or further statements by church leaders would have removed the dark stain the Mountain Meadows Massacre had left on Young’s reputation.” (Ibid., 397). There had been no punishment for two decades, and when the reckoning came, one fanatic paid with his life for the deaths of one hundred and twenty emigrants, men, women and children. Every other offender skated, avoiding responsibility for that great American crime. There was no impartial investigation. There was no ecclesiastical punishment for more than a hundred people implicated one way or another in the atrocity at Mountain Meadows. And until, and even until some time after 1870, Brigham Young protected his subordinate from efforts to bring even him, one man, to justice.
A Final Analysis:
John D. Lee, because of his privileged access to Brigham Young, was not just a local leader. He was Young’s southern Utah alter ego. As the southern Utah emissary of the supreme leader, his jurisdiction, like that of Porter Rockwell (another notorious enforcer with notches on his belt), may be seen as that of a deputy at large, as an agent without boundaries. No southern Utah leader – not Haight, Higbee, Dame, Klingensmith, or any of very many others – had John D. Lee’s “cojones,” or equal access to the prophet’s ear. The bonds between the violent leader, and his most obedient servant, were eternal. The thought that these two men were ambivalent about their shared objectives, at odds with each other and dishonest in their personal communications, one with another, is farcical. As is the notion that the sly fox was deaf and dumb and blind for more than a decade. Lee was Brigham Young’s strong southern Utah competence, the man among men who knew what his master required. Young’s harsh rhetoric, violent to extreme, George Albert Smith’s harsh rhetoric, equally ugly, Young’s incitement of the southern leaders and chiefs, his invitations to Indian allies on the northern and southern routes to steal the emigrants’ cattle, martial law, the Prophet’s restrictions on overland travel, and his indifference to his militia’s murders and beheadings of Indians and dissidents hardly bespoke tender feelings capable of ever being “harrowed” up.
After it became apparent to everyone that the old story (the Indians did it, the Mormons did not) had no legs, that longstanding “official lie,” told to everyone everywhere many thousands of times until 1869 was abruptly abandoned. “The Salt Lake Tribune later noted the policy change. For twelve years [1857 to 1869] their voice [the voice of the Church] was one of indignant denial that any Mormons were engaged in the affair.” By 1869, any person who believed that tall tale was deaf, dumb, blind or devious. “[After a few hesitating admissions in 1871], ‘the whole Mormon people [turning on a dime] changed front as suddenly as a well-drilled regimine,’ the paper noted caustically. LDS newspapers had furiously denounced the Tribune for accusing Mormons, but the denunciations were now aimed at Haight, Higbee and Lee. ‘The defense they then had for all the Mormons they now reserve for Brigham Young and the heads of the Church,’ the Tribune noted.” (Bagley, Blood of the Prophets, 270-71). To understand that ignominious policy change is to understand the central theme of the new book on the cover-up, Vengeance Is Mine. Blame anyone else for whatever you will, but protect the tyrant Brigham Young. The book, by faithful Mormon authors, with the assistance of the Church, is just the latest effort to put that burr on someone else’s saddle. The Tribune spoke the truth to the Saints in 1873. “If they were so badly mistaken in the former case, is it not just possible that they are mistaken as to Brigham’s innocence?” (Salt Lake Tribune, cited at Bagley, Blood of the Prophets, 271).
“Called to be the presiding elder of the branch at Harmony on December 22, 1861 [four years after the massacre], he [Lee] was sustained with the typical unanimous vote and invited everyone in the settlement to a great Christmas feast. Before the celebration ended, it began to rain. It would not stop for forty days . . . . The upper story of Sarah Caroline’s house collapsed and crushed two of Lee’s sleeping children, killing them.” “Lee, who saw the hand of God in everything, blamed himself for the catastrophe.” (Bagley, Blood of the Prophets, 299). “Great torrents ripped through the fields of Mountain Meadows and cut the trace of Magotsu Creek into a deep arroyo. The resulting disruption of the water table changed the valley from a luxuriant oasis into a sagebrush plain, a transformation that helped to inspire the local belief that God had cursed the place.” (Ibid., 250). “[Juanita] Brooks reported that 857 families had lived in Cedar City in 1857, but two years later only 386 were left. Official church records indicate the depopulation was even more dramatic, that only about twenty families remained in Cedar City in April 1859.” (Ibid., 242).
In the final analysis, this buck stopped with Brigham Young, and with the right-hand man attached to his hip in a Mormon temple. And to the shared history and experiences of two fanatical rascals. To those a disappointed George Hicks, a man who had weathered many storms, was heard to call, for the best of all good reasons, “Birds of a feather.”
Website: MormonismUnderTheMicroscope.com
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2024.05.12 01:40 Henri_Le_Rennet I'm almost done with the "High Price to Pay" mission and I am livid. (Major story spoiler in post. Proceed at your own risk.)

So Sarah just died. I felt a little bad because I had just divorced her for Andreja. I forgot to take my gear back from her though. That bitch had some of my best gear stored on her and the game won't let me loot her corpse.
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2024.05.12 00:42 Revolutionary_Key325 Why I think Amy is Worse than Sarah.

Ok. So, Amy has the glib charm normally associated with psycopaths. So, when she first appeared in the series, I was quite taken with her. But, when she revealed who she truly was, I instantly felt that she was actually one of most evil characters in the series. And Rene actually did her a favor, seeings how he deprived Eric of the opportunity of killing her in a much worse way once he found out who took Eddie. In fact, considering her motives, and the way she was willing to use anyone to do anything all for herself and her own selfish desires, I can't help but feel she was more evil than Sarah and she was the one who actually deserved Sarah's fate.
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  1. Amy did everything for herself.
Both Sarah and Amy agreed that vampires were not people and deserved to be treated as animals. But, Amy used a thinking, feeling creature as a blood bag just for herself to get high off of. She even had to be persuaded by Jason not to starve Eddie even though he was of more use to her "alive". She didn't care how much pain she was causing an obviously feeling creature. Even most of the vampires nowadays only use willing humans who are taken care of or allowed to live their lives most of the time. At least Sarah, in her own selfish and narcassitic way, was trying to use the vampires as a way to figure out how to get rid of them in order to protect her own species. And even though I'm sure she wanted to be a "hero" and live the rest of her life being glorified and having her ego stroked, you can't fault someone for trying to save their own species, as technically vampires do seem to kill with impunity in this series. And at least most of the time in her facility, the vampires were technically fed and taken care of. Of course, on the flip side of that coin, you can't blame the vampires for what they ended up doing to her.
  1. Amy made people think she loved them to use them.
Sarah was mostly loyal to her loved ones (except her sister, but you could argue she wasn't one of Sarah's "loved ones") she tried to defend them and help them. She stood behind her husband's mission, even though she did cheat on him due to his neglect of her, and she was genuinely distraught at the Mayor's death. Amy, on the other hand, did not seem capable of love. She wooed Jason because he was attractive and because she saw he was a V addict and a dummy she could use. And then she proceeded to use him to betray Lafayette by following him to Eddie's house, (a vampire Lafayette genuinely liked) and kidnapping one of Lafayette's best customers. This made Jason essentially almost get Lafayette killed when Eric was looking for who took Eddie, and it could have gotten Jason killed if it were not for the fact that Eric was so infatuated with Sookie. Did Amy think of any of this? Of course not. At least Sarah tried to sneak to see her parents hoping no one would know she was there, instead of outright going to them and trying to hide behind them like a shield.
  1. Amy was willing to keep Jason hooked on V forever
When Jason decided he wanted to stop using V, Amy underhandedly saved some and convinced him to go on one last 'trip' with her. I am convinced that she would have kept Jason addicted forever had Rene not killed her, simply because she liked it and she wanted to keep using, so it was more convenient for her for Jason to keep using as well.
  1. Using a poor fool
Amy was going to use Jason to keep getting vampires for them, she was originally going to let Eddie starve, so you know she was going to have to look for another one. This could have gotten Jason in trouble with the law, the vampires, his family and friends, and for what? So as soon as he wasn't useful anymore, Amy would flee town and find some other fool to use? At least Sarah was going to use Jason in such a way that maybe he would have gotten some fame too. Sure, she was going to get him potentially killed too, but she genuinely liked Jason and was probably going to divorce Steve and marry him. Or maybe at least give him some of the spotlight.
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  1. Sarah was primed
Sarah Newlin was raised in a rather close-minded household from the time she was a child. When vampires came out of the coffin, her family was staunchly anti-vampire due to their beliefs. What's more, Sarah's sister was rejected and hated by their parents as a vampire-loving disgrace to the family. So, you could say that Sarah was just trying to live up the the expectations of her family, her husband, and her community. She was kind of set on her path. She had choices, of course, but sometimes we choose what we think will impress the people we look up to, or care about instead of what is "right", or what is best for us. Amy, however, just decided to do what she did because she didn't think vampires were people. It did not matter that they had protection from the law, did not matter that they were trying to live in peace for the most part, did not matter that they didn't do anything to her, she just wanted to use them as juice bags. Which, you could say they did too, but technically vampires needed to until True Blood was invented and then most of them used willing human donors. You could argue that Sarah was worse in the pure number of vampires she killed and was going to kill with hep v-infected True Blood, but she didn't capture and use them like prey. As I said, she at least had some good intention of protecting humans. We don't know how Amy’s family felt about vampires, but Amy didn't care what they thought anyway so she wouldn't have been doing anything for them. So, if Amy had had the resources Sarah did, or the connections and money Sarah did, then I am sure Amy would have done the same things Sarah did (including having Jessica assaulted), only worse, and she would have kept some of the vampires as blood slaves. Not to mention, Amy probably wouldn't have made an antidote.
So, in conclusion, neither of these very human ladies were angels, although they both looked like it at the beginning. But, I firmly believe that the only differences between them was personality and opportunity. I can't help but think that Amy would have been worse than Sarah if she were head of the Fellowship of the Sun. Amy probably would have outright murdered any human that got in her way, including Steve, Jason, and the Japanese woman, without a thought. Whereas Sarah only killed a human when she felt pressured to because she couldn't let her secret get out, because she wanted to elevate herself but also because she did, technically, want to do what she thought was best for the human race. Neither of these ladies has my sympathy, but I always felt that Sarah get the roughest end of the stick when Amy got off so easy if you think about it. So, what do you think? Who was more evil?
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2024.05.11 20:26 Revolutionary_Key325 Why I think Lizzy is Worse than Sarah.

Ok. So, Amy has the glib charm normally associated with psycopaths. So, when she first appeared in the series, I was quite taken with her. But, when she revealed who she truly was, I instantly felt that she was actually one of most evil characters in the series. And Rene actually did her a favor, seeings how he deprived Eric of the opportunity of killing her in a much worse way once he found out who took Eddie. In fact, considering her motives, and the way she was willing to use anyone to do anything all for herself and her own selfish desires, I can't help but feel she was more evil than Sarah and she was the one who actually deserved Sarah's fate.
https://preview.redd.it/c343ob9rauzc1.jpg?width=984&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=69cc7d9755b8ef7bdae83cf5bf7bdc029715a81e
  1. Amy did everything for herself.
Both Sarah and Amy agreed that vampires were not people and deserved to be treated as animals. But, Amy used a thinking, feeling creature as a blood bag just for herself to get high off of. She even had to be persuaded by Jason not to starve Eddie even though he was of more use to her "alive". She didn't care how much pain she was causing an obviously feeling creature. Even most of the vampires nowadays only use willing humans who are taken care of or allowed to live their lives most of the time. At least Sarah, in her own selfish and narcassitic way, was trying to use the vampires as a way to figure out how to get rid of them in order to protect her own species. And even though I'm sure she wanted to be a "hero" and live the rest of her life being glorified and having her ego stroked, you can't fault someone for trying to save their own species, as technically vampires do seem to kill with impunity in this series. And at least most of the time in her facility, the vampires were technically fed and taken care of. Of course, on the flip side of that coin, you can't blame the vampires for what they ended up doing to her.
  1. Amy made people think she loved them to use them.
Sarah was mostly loyal to her loved ones (except her sister, but you could argue she wasn't one of Sarah's "loved ones") she tried to defend them and help them. She stood behind her husband's mission, even though she did cheat on him due to his neglect of her, and she was genuinely distraught at the Mayor's death. Amy, on the other hand, did not seem capable of love. She wooed Jason because he was attractive and because she saw he was a V addict and a dummy she could use. And then she proceeded to use him to betray Lafayette by following him to Eddie's house, (a vampire Lafayette genuinely liked) and kidnapping one of Lafayette's best customers. This made Jason essentially almost get Lafayette killed when Eric was looking for who took Eddie, and it could have gotten Jason killed if it were not for the fact that Eric was so infatuated with Sookie. Did Amy think of any of this? Of course not. At least Sarah tried to sneak to see her parents hoping no one would know she was there, instead of outright going to them and trying to hide behind them like a shield.
  1. Amy was willing to keep Jason hooked on V forever
When Jason decided he wanted to stop using V, Amy underhandedly saved some and convinced him to go on one last 'trip' with her. I am convinced that she would have kept Jason addicted forever had Rene not killed her, simply because she liked it and she wanted to keep using, so it was more convenient for her for Jason to keep using as well.
  1. Using a poor fool
Amy was going to use Jason to keep getting vampires for them, she was originally going to let Eddie starve, so you know she was going to have to look for another one. This could have gotten Jason in trouble with the law, the vampires, his family and friends, and for what? So as soon as he wasn't useful anymore, Amy would flee town and find some other fool to use? At least Sarah was going to use Jason in such a way that maybe he would have gotten some fame too. Sure, she was going to get him potentially killed too, but she genuinely liked Jason and was probably going to divorce Steve and marry him. Or maybe at least give him some of the spotlight.
https://preview.redd.it/r012bxesauzc1.jpg?width=2500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=07472cd0ec25284719001f75d2005006c5828035
  1. Sarah was primed
Sarah Newlin was raised in a rather close-minded household from the time she was a child. When vampires came out of the coffin, her family was staunchly anti-vampire due to their beliefs. What's more, Sarah's sister was rejected and hated by their parents as a vampire-loving disgrace to the family. So, you could say that Sarah was just trying to live up the the expectations of her family, her husband, and her community. She was kind of set on her path. She had choices, of course, but sometimes we choose what we think will impress the people we look up to, or care about instead of what is "right", or what is best for us. Amy, however, just decided to do what she did because she didn't think vampires were people. It did not matter that they had protection from the law, did not matter that they were trying to live in peace for the most part, did not matter that they didn't do anything to her, she just wanted to use them as juice bags. Which, you could say they did too, but technically vampires needed to until True Blood was invented and then most of them used willing human donors. You could argue that Sarah was worse in the pure number of vampires she killed and was going to kill with hep v-infected True Blood, but she didn't capture and use them like prey. As I said, she at least had some good intention of protecting humans. We don't know how Amy’s family felt about vampires, but Amy didn't care what they thought anyway so she wouldn't have been doing anything for them. So, if Amy had had the resources Sarah did, or the connections and money Sarah did, then I am sure Amy would have done the same things Sarah did (including having Jessica assaulted), only worse, and she would have kept some of the vampires as blood slaves. Not to mention, Amy probably wouldn't have made an antidote.
So, in conclusion, neither of these very human ladies were angels, although they both looked like it at the beginning. But, I firmly believe that the only differences between them was personality and opportunity. I can't help but think that Amy would have been worse than Sarah if she were head of the Fellowship of the Sun. Amy probably would have outright murdered any human that got in her way, including Steve, Jason, and the Japanese woman, without a thought. Whereas Sarah only killed a human when she felt pressured to because she couldn't let her secret get out, because she wanted to elevate herself but also because she did, technically, want to do what she thought was best for the human race. Neither of these ladies has my sympathy, but I always felt that Sarah get the roughest end of the stick when Amy got off so easy if you think about it. So, what do you think? Who was more evil? SORRY ABOUT THE TITLE! I hate the character so much I was calling her by the actress’s name! Whoops! 😅
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2024.05.11 19:52 SharkEva AITAH for resenting my wife for not believing my side of story

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/Happy-Personality528 posting in AITAH and DivorceMen
Ongoing as per OOP
2 updates - Medium
Original - 8th May 2024
Update 1 - 9th May 2024
Update 2 - 10th May 2024

AITAH for resenting my wife for not believing my side of story

I (M, 46) have been married to my wife, Heather (F, 45), for 18 years. We have two kids (16F and 14M). We work for the same company but in different departments. She works on a different floor of our building. We recently hired a new employee, Sarah (F, 30). I helped her a lot with her training and even prepared a guide for her so she could catch up on the new role quickly. I told her she could drop by anytime if she had a question. She kept coming to my desk to chitchat.
Even my coworker, Chris, who shares an office with me, noticed. I thought she was new and lonely, so not a big deal. She asked me to go out for lunch with her. I laughed and joked, asking if Chris wanted to join us for lunch. Then Sarah looked at me and said no, she meant just us to talk, plus she wanted to buy me lunch because I had been so nice to her. Chris gave me a look. I told her she didn’t have to and that I was just doing my job. She insisted, and I agreed.
During lunch, she started rubbing my hand. I moved my hand and changed the topic to my wife, bringing her up repeatedly. She eventually said she found me attractive and wanted to be more than friends, suggesting we start with friends with benefits and see where it goes.
She said she thought I wasn't happy in my marriage because I was having lunch with her and laughing, while she never saw me having lunch with my wife. I told her I was married and wanted to keep our friendship professional. She didn’t like my reply and became quiet. I apologized, but she said it was all good. I paid the bill for both of us since it was so awkward, and we went back to work.
I received a letter from HR telling me they needed to talk to me because Sarah filed a complaint. She said I had asked her out for lunch, been inappropriate and handsy, and even pressured her to have sex with me, but she left. I was floored. Luckily, my coworker Chris can confirm my side of the story. I immediately told my wife the whole thing, and she got furious at me.
She said she believed Sarah's side because she stands by the victim. I told her Sarah was lying! Chris can confirm she invited me! Also, I wasn’t inappropriate; I didn’t touch her and turned her down. My wife rolled her eyes and said Sarah is a gorgeous woman much younger than me, implying I took advantage of her. I was so annoyed! I have always been faithful to her. How could she possibly think of me like this?
Luckily, the HR issue was resolved, and I just have to do some training. I asked to move to another team so I won’t be working with Sarah anymore. Am I the asshole for resenting my wife for not believing my side? For taking her side without any proof? I basically barely talked to my wife since the incident.

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MatataKakiba
This will get lost in the sea of comments, but I'm wondering if the restaurant has a video recording of the dining area. You could prove you're telling the truth really quickly with a recording of she getting handsy and you pulling away.
OOP: I’m gonna check with the restaurant. It’s a small cafe/restaurant within walking distance of our office

KatersHaters
Speaking of intel, I wonder what her behavioperformance was like at her previous job(s). The fact she perused you and then reported false accusations to HR this quickly into a new job suggests a level of “diabolical confidence” imo. Or reckless immaturity I guess. Regardless, something ain’t right and I wouldn’t be surprised if this was some kind of MO for her. I don’t know how you could (safely) investigate her past but something to think about.

Certain-Thought531
NTA she was attracted to you, made her move and failed.
Then she retaliated and made the 1st move to cover herself before you can do anything.
Also i'd question my marriage if I were you, if your own spouse cant trust you then she's not a partner.

narfle_the_garthak
This.
You weren't exactly smart about accepting lunch.
Yes there is a double standard and it sucks.
It also sucks that now your reputation will suffer at work because there are people who won't believe the truth just because.
It sucks that your wife sees you as a possible predator
You should definitely question your marriage and maybe do some counseling to see if this can be fixed or if the marriage needs to end.
You should also file a complaint with HR and see about getting this woman moved to a different depth or let go. You might not be the only person she tries this with.

**Judgement - NTA*\*

Update - 1 day later

Quick update : I talked to my wife last night and she said “ I really don’t buy it that a younger good looking employee come on to you “. I asked her have I ever been inappropriate with any woman ? Have I ever been handsy ?
She said “no but you jokes around a lot so you probably made some dumb jokes or something and offended her . I swear you are autistic ! You can’t even get basic social cues. As for being handsy? Who knows ? “. I lost it ! I said WHO KNOWS ? you should know! I expected more from you .
She rolled her eyes and went to sleep. As for HR: it was my request to change team . I can’t work with Sarah or see her everyday . I’m so tempted to yell at her and say WTF is wrong with you ! Neither of us got fired since there was no evidence so HR just gave me the talk ( I have no idea if Sarah has to do the training or what happened to her ).
I went to the restaurant to see if there is a footage but owner wasn’t there . I’ll try again today . My mental health is a mess. My coworker, Chris , suggested to take time off to talk to a therapist and a lawyer . I might do that

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mak_zaddy
Wow. Your wife sucks. I really hope the restaurant has video footage they can share with you.
OOP: My life does suck ! I went from happily married with a good job to office creep and who Is this person I’m married to ? If she thinks I’m too stupid , too ugly and don’t respect women why are we still married

Firecracker048
I'd bring the hammer to HR. They were willing to take action against you for words but when you have witnesses they sre trying to sweep it under the rug. Threaten to sue and demand a written, public apology from sarah. Honestly with you wife, that's different. Good luck with that.

PhilosopherRoyal4882
Take Chris’s advice : talk to a lawyer to sue Sarah and file for divorce . Your wife has zero respect for you

ManufacturerNo6126
Yep i Seconds that. only one who is on your Side is Chris and you neither sleep or live with him ;) Cheers Up Mate and listen to the only one on your Side
OOP: He is a middle aged ( like me ) divorced guy and was joking that we should move in together and make a male version of golden girls ( divorced dads ) and raise the kids together

KatersHaters
The Golden Guys Boys… I like it. Pool, old school arcade room, entertainment room. Sounds streets ahead of living with your disrespectful and cruel wife. Find your inner “Blanche” and live it up.

Need support - How did you know it’s time to end the marriage - 1 day later

Hello friends , I posted in another thread but I’m going through horrible times . I can’t live with a woman who constantly belittles me . Part of me feels guilty for leaving because I have two kids. How do you it’s time to end it? I’m just wondering if my marriage is salvageable? Thanks

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tragicaddiction
it's time to leave when you have exhausted all other possibilities.
That means you have read some good relationship books together
you have tried to use a marriage councilor to fix the issues you have (not a vent session, cut that shit off if all it becomes is her venting)
you have tried approaching things in different ways and nothing changes.
then you can leave without having that nagging doubt in the back of your head that you should have done more and when your kids ask you why you can actually tell them you tried everything to make it work.
you could even do a lie detector if she agrees that you pass she apologizes and moves on from this.
OOP: My wife thinks marriage counselling is for “p***” men. So hard no on that . I have tried being more understanding but she never even acknowledged. I don’t even know what to do anymore . I gave up on sex because she every single time turned me down .
I planned date nights , or even date nights at home ( I’m a pretty decent cook and do all the cooking anyways so not a big deal ), and still didn’t even get a thank you. I gave up lol I stopped trying and now she yells that I’m so stupid and never do anything for her .

tragicaddiction
then it's sitting down and talking about what you both want out of a relationship and what isn't being met right now, in a calm, non blaming way.
if she doesn't want marriage counselling, what does she want? if she doesn't trust you, what will make her do that?
ask what she needs in specific ways and if she doesn't want to work on it, ask if she wants to divorce then because you are both obviously miserable.
OOP: She thinks things are fine the way it is . She thinks I need to work on myself to be more professional and less Of “ autistic goofball “ I am

I am not the OOP. Please do not harass the OOP.
Please remember the No Brigading Rule and to be civil in the comments
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2024.05.11 18:52 santanapoptarts AITA for cutting my mother outta my life

Please forgive the length this will be. I would like your opinion on what’s transpired as to why I’ve not talked to my own mother in 27 years. Grab your tea and potatoes petty people 💕
Context: some of the things as to why I’ve put my own mother in time out of my life.
When I was 2 she ( Sarah we will say her name is ) told me she dident love me she hated me but had to take care of me cuz I was her kid. (Mother of the year). She reminded me numerous times that she don’t like me because I take all of my dads attention, asking me why does he pay attention to me when he comes home from work and not her(he was a cop).(what??? I was a child). Sarah did have another child my brother ( Bill) 5 years later and as an infant he was ill and she went into a profession of medical field. Well mom fell in love with her son.
As a tween: parents get divorced.
I remember her saying that she can take me out any time I misbehave. I brought you into this world I will take you out. Seriously MOM???
At one point my grade 8 graduation Sarah and my fathers new girlfriend (whom I liked ~ named Roxanne, and she was really nice to me) I adored Roxanne (she came to the relationship with 2 daughters and I got along with them so all copacetic) well at my grad Sarah decided it was the place to have a conflict with Roxanne well hence to say it was a knock down drag out fight in the hallway with all the parents and kids watching. Me in tears with “mom and daddy’s new lady” rolling on the floor punching and ripping dresses. I run to the bathroom as the cops as called and hide there. I ended up going to a different high school that’s no one knew who I was when all the kids I went to school with went to the local high school.
As a teenager I had to live with Sarah and her new man(due to schooling) . (My former “uncle” Robert). Yep the man that had his own wife and kids ended up leaving his family to be with Sarah. Well as a teen Sarah would read my diary and use the private thoughts against me. (End of diary days) She would keep heavy on me all the time. I was such a disappointment. I started dating a nice guy. Yet Sarah found fault with him, (he had no faults he was perfect and treated me like gold). Yet she dident like that I was getting his attention. Whenever he came over to my house she would sit right in the room with us talking the whole time. So i ended up at his place much more. Eventually things ended. I still wish him well to this day he’s a good man. My grades got me Into college but I left after my first year.
Fast forward I got a job, had my own place. And met a guy from work (Frank). We dated I got pregnant and had a wonderful son. We got married and it did NOT work out he was very mean and controlling and I was not going to tolerate that crap, he was gone. The wedding was over quicker then a Kardashian marriage (5 months), we tried again after a wee touch and ended up having another son., yet the relationship dident work. So lo and behold Sarah says to Frank “come live with ME” what the F**K your letting him live with you?? Frank took her up on the offer with open arms and moved in with her so now Sarah, Frank and Robert are all living together. (Note: Robert works minimum of 80 hours a week between two jobs he said to get away from her). So he’s barely home.
I stopped talking to her.
Well I finally met another man( Steve) and was about to be married again. This time Sarah had nothing to say as my husband is only a few years younger than her ( I like older men) she hates that she’s got zero control over him . Well all the wedding plans were going along and she’s had nothing to do as I’m still not talking to her. My step father Robert calls me and begged me to let her come to my wedding as she’s driving him crazy pleasssssseeeee well Only for him I gave in. MISTAKE !!!!
Not getting into the details. Too much more. End result within a bit of time Sarah is suing Steve and I and some of her claim is I’m having an affair with Robert ( MY STEPFATHER) !! (GROSS 🤢) ! Ewe I’ve got the heebie-jeebies just typing it. Never ever would that happen he was my dad the man that help me when boys would break my heart, he was my dad the man that would have a good food fight with me against Sarah. So it was not happening. She hated the time he spend with me as he had two boys I was the only daughter. So court came along and during the procedure the Judge yelled at her for her conduct in the court and she lost the case.
So let’s fast forward I’ve now got two children and Steve is a great step father to my children. Whew. So eventually Frank moved out of Sarah’s house. And in with a woman that resembles me lol. Whatever floats his boat. Wish him well. Don’t care.
Now back to my brother Bill he’s grown up with Sarah in his back pocket. She loves him and he’s got his nose so far up her butt it funny he’s got a perma smear. So him a I usta get along and then I found out that he’s telling her everything about my life still behind my back. So I don’t talk to him either. I even seen a current picture in Sarah’s house of myself and brother. ( another family member sent me the picture to tell me what was going on ) and the only way she got it is from my bro. Not cool.
So I have been told by the other family member that she’s been begging for me on all holidays that’s all She wants is her daughter back. I don’t trust her. And I refuse to talk to her still and this is been going on for the last 26 years. Of not talking to her but it’s been my whole life she’s been toxic to me( I’m 55) and people say it’s your mom how can you do that. ?
Am I wrong for stil keeping her outta my life Sorry this is long… thanks for still reading.
ps; my mother in law is the most amazing woman ever on this planet.
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2024.05.11 02:15 Sithlordbelichick Great great grandfathers death cert. can’t figure out COD looks like chronic hepatitis but no clue about the other 2

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2024.05.11 01:31 No_Card9780 AITAH for waking out on my “adoptive daughter” and telling her everything is her fault

So I (36f) have two kids a boy Tom (5) and a Sarah daughter (18) plus my husbands late brothers kid (16f) Kelly who lives with us
14 months ago my husband came home with Kelly and said she would be staying with us for a while, I barely knew kelly because since her father passed away 10 years ago her mom has been struggling with mental health and addiction. Apparently Kelly was in a bad situation at home due to her mother’s new boyfriend being a let’s say not so nice person. He told me it was only for 3 months while his parents who recently moved aboard got settled than it went to 5 till his sister had her baby just excuse after excuse till I stopped asking. as time went on my husband just acted like she was our daughter even bringing up adoption a few times which I refused even when he threatened divorce. I know I sound like a monster but you have to realise Kelly isn’t easy to deal with and my husband doesn’t allow her to face any kind of consequences
Kelly acts like she is the golden child and my daughter is the black sheep, she has violent meltdowns, she’s threatened our son that my husband will leave us if she tells him because he loves her more which traumatised Tom. she has tried and failed her mind games with me pretending to be a saint, her main target is my daughter she is extremely cruel towards her verbally like she’ll slut shame her for everything little thing like wearing make up or tell her she’s lazy/good for nothing for stupid reasons like sleeping late at the weekends
She’ll take her things ether will loss them or destroy them than cry to my husband who will excuse her behaviour even tho he spends 70% of his time at work. We are all in therapy which isn’t working like group sessions when someone points out Kelly’s behaviour or adoption usually end up with everyone fighting
It all came to a head last month Kelly was in a mood all week because Sarah had a big 18th party with all the attention on Sarah especially from my family which Kelly said mentioned in therapy. myself and Sarah were having a stupid “fight” over a non issue because Sarah used all my shampoo which she didn’t replace or let me know I was out of. Kelly came out of nowhere screaming at Sarah calling her a moocher,lazy,trash and spoiled she than said Sarah was an adult now and she didn’t pull her weight she’d get kicked out
I lost it I told her Sarah was my daughter and If she didn’t change her attitude she’d be the one kicked out, Kelly didn’t say anything just went into her room about an hour later my husband came back than started screaming literally i my face calling me names telling me he wants a divorce so he can protect Kelly. so I said ok I want a divorce and 50/50 custody I get my son he gets his niece now get the fuck out of my house with his niece
They left and have been staying with his brother since, husband now has to deal with Kelly all the time he wants more therapy to fix our issues so we can get back together and be a family again. They both came over yesterday to collect the last of their stuff and Kelly asked me was it her fault I said yes it was just as much her fault as her uncles (husband)
Husband told me I’m being a monster and Kelly is my daughter whether I admit it or not and I’ve abandoned her when she finally had a stable home that she doesn’t mean to lash out due it’s just due to her trauma and if we work together we can help her work through it
Honestly now I don’t know what to do and feel like an asshole
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2024.05.10 19:33 Forward-Ad-3397 AITA for planning half of mother's day with my step-mom and half with my Mom?

This coming Sunday in the US is Mother's Day. My parents divorced when I (now 23) was young and my dad got remarried to his wife "Sarah" when I was in 2nd grade. My parents always had split custody so Sarah is very much a parent to me. She's always been there for me as support when I needed, as well as always showing up for events like little league games, graduations, and what not. In some ways she's even been more supportive than my "real mother". My mother has never liked Sarah, not because of anything she's done, but more because my Dad remarried relatively soon and she's younger than her and objectively very pretty. Im sure people will wonder, but she was not his AP, they met a year after the divorce.
Im one year out of college and I now live in a different city than any of my parents. I was able to find a cheap flight to visit this weekend, it will get me in late Saturday night, with a return flight early afternoon Monday. I wanted to make sure I was able to celebrate with both of them so I planned a Brunch with Sarah (since we both love bruch), and a dinner with my mom. I told both about my plans with them and they were both excited for my visit. That was a couple weeks ago. Just yesterday, Im on the phone with my mom and were confirming everything and she asks me about my schedule in the morning. I tell her Im staying at my dads late Saturday night since he's closer to the airport, and I hav brunch plans but I can meet up with her anytime after around 2-3.
Long story short, my mom freaks out, asking why Im seeing Sarah first, when Sarah has "her own kids" (my dad and her had my 2 siblings after) and saying I should just be spending the day with her. idk honestly I consider Sarah just as much of a mom and just wanted to celebrate both. Its the first year I dont live in the same state as both so its harder than usual to accommodate everyone and I thought I was doing the mature thing here. I talked to my friend about it and she said she gets where my mom is coming from, that friend has a bad relationship with her step family though so I think her opinion may be a little biased. Wanted to get some neutral feedback here.
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2024.05.10 18:31 DetectiveAnitaKlew Fell in love with this trench coat, Sarah Jessica Parker in Divorce, the show is a few years old so I’m just looking for the brand so I can find it secondhand :) can’t even fully tell if it’s gingham or houndstooth

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2024.05.10 18:16 SnooMemesjellies3388 I (18M) can't bear my wife's (18F) menstrual emotions

So just to clarify for future questions.. in my country and faith its encouraged to marry young and I was on board with that idea so around last year I met my now wife (fake name) Sarah
Around august and at first I saw Sarah on a friend making app kinda like tinder but for younger people and at that time I was just a horny immature kid
There I saw a girl whom I seem to really like from the pictures and also her wearing a hijab meant she's from my faith so I shot her a text on instagram which was linked to that app and we started talking there and she added me to a groupchat where she was being flirty and talking dirty with people so I was like she's acting like a wh**e so I'll treat her like one and just texted her to get nud-s from her but.. slowly got serious with her and we were in a full blown relationship.
After being in the 3rd month of the relationship she cheated on me virtually by sending nud*s to many guys and I almost broke up with her but she convinced me to stay by gaslighting me and I fell for it (ik I'm dumb and weak) and we stayed and after a month she proposed me to marry her (religiously relationships frowned upon and just marry) and I accepted even after ignoring a ton of red flags but I made a few rules for the marriage which were basically not to talk to guys and that I'll not trust her and be controlling and no guy friends allowed (i really stood out that point).. I said only marry if she accepts that and she agreed.
So after we did our marriage she slowly started changing like her menstrual emotions "made her" talk to her exes whom she also cheated on me before marriage and when I asked her to not talk to him she always used to say Im insecure and she started talking about dirty stuff around other men which made me furious and whenever I address it she always said "shut up" which she fixed after 2-3 days
So on the second month's menstrual she was like "I want to be a model" which i refused because its not allowed in my faith for women to show off their body and be covered wearing a clothing called abaya (please don't judge) and she got mad and blocked me and started talking to all her exes after unblocking them (whom i made her block) and she changed her instagram password so I cant see what or with whom shes talking to.
After about 2 days she wore off her menstrual emotions and apologized to me and we went back to normal until her next cycle .. She said she's not capable of loving me and that she cant just stay with 1 guy since she have ADHD and it has something to do with her commitment and also that she's bi but prefers women and that she's only with me because in our faith homosexuality is strictly forbidden and later mentioned divorce, But i talked her out of it and just like last time she got normal after 2 days and we were a normal happy couple.
Now a few days ago she had her cycle again and downloaded a few live streaming apps like 'Bigo' and started talking to random guys who were talking dirty with her which I didnt appeciate but at that time didnt say anything but secrectly hated inside and yestaday she was saying that she cant commit to a person and want to have flings and live her life like that not commiting to anyone and suggesting divorce again. And she still was on those streaming apps again talking to guys which I really didn't like and she made "friends" there.
When I checked her instagram she was talking to a guy who was clearly hitting on her whom she was letting him do so and this isnt the first time she did this.. I made her delete the apps and blocked some people off of her phone and today she seem to be returning back to normal but I don't know how to feel about this monthly subscribtion of drama. What sould I do?
Tldr: wife who cheated on me before marriage who keeps talking about divorce each month after marrying and saying that she prefers women still talks to guys and leading them on even after I strictly forbade her from doing it pre-marriage
EDIT: whenever I talk about her not wanting this marriage she always says "I dont care" and shows she dont care about us and shes also said that her not talking to me for just a few days will make her forget me which shatters me from inside
(plus I'm on mobile so excuse me if formatting is off)
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2024.05.09 22:30 CatPooedInMyShoe A suicide. I always wonder why.

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2024.05.09 14:29 ExperiencedRN Hospital Nurse Case Managers: FL, NC, CA, Baltimore

RN Case Manager here and due to an impending divorce, I need to move. i’m thinking about Florida because i have a family member there. Also looking at NC, CA, and Baltimore areas (I don’t know anyone but I’m casting a wide net!)
In the Tampa area, I’m looking at Tampa General and JH All Children’s. Has anyone worked at either hospital? Are nurses happy there? My biggest fear: I’m feeling a lot of grief over the divorce and I can’t bear to have a hateful job where i cry every night after work. I won’t go near any of the HCAs or Tenets or other for-profits, but I welcome your ideas on hospitals where nurses are happy, friendly and welcoming. I need a safe place to “start my life over.”
Any Hospital Case Managers in Florida, CA, NC, or Baltimore hospitals with recommendations for good places to work?
Thanks in advance.
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2024.05.09 03:53 Jlx_27 MTG fires District Director after finding out he had an afair.

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2024.05.08 12:09 CT_Phipps Ten Recommended New Cthulhu Mythos novels II

https://beforewegoblog.com/ten-recommended-new-cthulhu-mythos-novels-ii/
Howard Phillips Lovecraft remains one of the more controversial yet influential genre writers of the early 20th century. A man like his friend and contemporary, Robert E. Howard, who has stood the test of time. His creations in the Great Old Ones, Necronomicon, Nyarlathotep, and Deep Ones have resonated with generations of readers.
Perhaps his most admirable quality as a writer was the fact that he was never afraid to let anyone play with his toys. An early advocate of what we’d now call “open source” writing, he happily shared concepts and ideas with his fellow writers. Howard Phillips would be delighted at the longevity of his creations and the fact that he has entertained thousands of people through things like Call of Cthulhu and Arkham Horror tabletop games or the Re-Animator movies.
Speaking as the author of the Cthulhu Armageddon books as well as participant in such anthologies as Tales of the Al-Azif and Tales of Yog-Sothoth, I thought I would share some of my favorite post-Lovecraftian fiction created by writers willing to play around with HPL’s concepts. Many of these examine the alienation and xenophobia themes while keeping the cool monsters as others address them head on from new perspectives.
I admit my tastes have influenced me to choose the pulpier works over the scarier but it’s not like the former didn’t have plenty of HPL stories (The Dreamquest of Unknown Kadath, The Dunwich Horror, and The Case of Charles Dexter Ward) nor is the latter lacking for advocates. For the earlier Cthulhu novel recommendations, check out this.
10] The War of the God Queen by David Hambling
Blurb: Jessica: a modern woman, thrown back into the bronze age, alone among a strange and violent people.
Amir: a nomad warlord, leading a hopeless battle against monstrous invaders, looking for a miracle.
To Amir, the beautiful stranger is a sign from heaven. And Jessica, though no warrior, has hidden talents even she does not appreciate. When Jessica recruits other women abducted through time, they band together to fight back against the seemingly invulnerable Spawn
The future of humanity is at stake, and Jessica’s supposed friends may be more dangerous than her enemies..
You’ll love this epic fantasy driven by characters facing the challenge of becoming what they could only dream.
Review: David Hambling is a master of fantastic and weird fiction. I am very fond of his Harry Stubbs series and writings in the Books of Cthulhu series. However, this is probably my favorite weird fiction work by him. A feminist tale of a number of time-lost women that have been transported back to the Bronze Age where cthulhoid creatures intend to use them as breeding stock. Well, they have objections. A bit of A Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur’s Court mixed with Conan the Barbarian, mixed with plucky heroine stories.
9] The Statement of Andrew Doran by Matthew Davenport
Blurb: Dr. Andrew Doran has been out of touch with the major civilizations for quite a while. When an emissary from his Alma Mater demands his assistance, Andrew is in such a state that he has no choice but to help. The Nazis have taken the Necronomicon from Miskatonic University’s library. With it they could call upon every form of darkness and use the powers of the void to destroy all who stand in their way of unlimited power.
For years Doran has been at odds with Miskatonic University.
Putting his negative feelings aside, Andrew takes charge and heads straight into the Nazi-controlled territories of Europe. Along his journey from America and into the heart of Berlin, the dark Traum Kult, or Dream Cult, has sent beasts from the void between worlds to slow his progress.
This is adventure and monsters unlike anything the anthropologist has ever experienced, and only with the assistance of the trigger-happy Leo and the beautiful Olivia, both members of the French Resistance, does Dr. Doran have any chance of success. A sane man would flinch. Dr. Andrew Doran charges in.
Review: Sometimes you want a transparent Indiana Jones versus Cthulhu story. I’m a big fan of the Andrew Doran books. Our protagonist is an occult professor at Miskatonic University who is more interested in hunting down cultists, Nazis, and Nazi cultists than he is about teaching class. They’re very much in the Pulp mold of storytelling and perhaps a bit too episodic but our hero runs into every supernatural monster HPL created on his journey to recover the Necronomicon from Nazi Berlin.
8] Cthulhu Reloaded by David Croyden
Blurb: The Stars are Right. Humans… prepare for extinction.
Eldritch gods, cosmic horrors, and weird physics are the enemy, striking from nameless dimensions we can’t perceive, destroying us with strangeness beyond human comprehension. Major Harrison Peel understands these Great Old Ones better than anyone. He wishes he didn’t.
Forced into his latest assignment, Peel must confront an alien Outer God known only as the Impossible Object. Held in a secret facility deep in the Australian desert, no two people perceive it the same way, and it conforms to no known properties of the universe. Then the Impossible Object promises to reveal the secrets of everything, or cause all space and time to blink from existence… forever.
Are humans supposed to choose? And if so, can Peel guess the Impossible Object’s intensions? For the fate of everything could rest entirely in his hands…
For fans of weird science fiction, Delta Green and Charles Stross’s The Laundry, the Harrison Peel series is a collection of interconnected cosmic horror stories that explore the world, and the entire universe, of H. P. Lovecraft’s Cthulhu Mythos, stretched across all space and time.
Review: The Harrison Peel stories are a perfect counter for the Lovecraftian ethos that humans should be helpless victims before unknowable horrors. Major Peel is a soldier for the Australian government who is continually roped into supernatural encounters. The stories work because the horror is still alien and unknowable but he reacts as intelligently as possible to dealing with them. He can’t punch or shoot them away like, say, Captain Booth in my books can. You know, except for running away and never thinking about the Mythos again.
7] Ashes of Onyx by Seth Skorkowsky
Blurb: They stole her magic.
They killed her friends.
Nothing in the multiverse will stop her quest for revenge.
Kate Rossdale once held all the promise of becoming Baltimore’s greatest sorceress. But promise is a hard thing to hold when your coven is murdered, your magic is stripped away, and the only solace left to you comes one powdered line at a time.
When she’s offered the restoration of her power by a man she doesn’t know or trust, Kate sets in motion the retribution of her enemies.
Soon she finds herself racing across the globe, and across worlds, venturing into exotic realms of forbidden dreams, to the spires of Lost Carcosa, hunting for the magic-thief who robbed her of everything she held dear, including the most dangerous magic any sorceress can possess—hope.
If you like Clive Barker, Joshua Bader, Shayne Silvers, Jim Butcher, M.D. Massey, and Brad Magnarella, you’ll love this unique urban fantasy adventure!
“Skorkowsky channels heavy themes of guilt, grief, and addiction into a bloody quest for revenge in this explosive, world-spanning urban fantasy. Gruesome fight scenes and wildly imaginative, richly described alternate worlds lend an epic feel to their adventure. Dark fantasy fans will relish this magical thrill ride.” – Publisher’s Weekly
Review: Seth Skorkowsky, one of the best Youtube commentators on Call of Cthulhu adventures, is a good friend of mine. He’s also a very talented writer. This book deals with a substance abusing mage, Kate Rossdale, as she finds herself on a quest that will take her to Lost Carcosa in the Dreamlands. If you like the more mystical and surreal elements of the Cthulhu Mythos then this is the book for you.
6] The Last Ritual by SA Sidor
Blurb: A mad surrealist’s art threatens to rip open the fabric of reality, in this twisted tale of eldritch horror and conspiracy, from the wildly popular world of Arkham Horror.
Aspiring painter Alden Oakes is invited to join a mysterious art commune in Arkham: the New Colony. When celebrated Spanish surrealist Juan Hugo Balthazarr visits the colony, Alden and the other artists quickly fall under his charismatic spell. Balthazarr throws a string of decadent parties for Arkham’s social elite, conjuring arcane illusions which blur the boundaries between nightmare and reality. Only slowly does Alden come to suspect that Balthazarr’s mock rituals are intended to break through those walls and free what lies beyond. Alden must act, but it might already be too late to save himself, let alone Arkham.
Review: While so many of these books go in different directions than HP Lovecraft, it’s nice to do something more traditional. In this case, a wealthy young dilettante has a strange encounter in Spain with a local festival before discovering that a famous artist has taken up residence in Arkham. The link between art and the supernatural is explored as well as the fact that the protagonist is woefully unqualified to deal with any of this. I think the graphic audio version of this book is the best way to enjoy it personally but the book itself is fun by itself.
5] Let Sleeping Gods Lie by David J. West
Blurb: Louis L’Amour Meets Lovecraft
Porter Rockwell, wanted for a murder he did not commit, is hiding out in Old California selling whiskey to thirsty forty-niners. When his friends dig up some monstrous bones and a peculiar book and offer to sell it for a helluva price, Porter can’t resist the mystery.
But when both his night bartender and the sellers are murdered at his saloon Porter has to find out what the mysterious artifacts are all about. With some Native American legends, Sasquatch, Lovecraftian horror, and murderous bandits thrown in, not even bullets and blades can stop Rockwell from leaving a swath of righteous carnage in his wake.
Let Sleeping Gods Lie is a weird western fantasy in the vein of classic pulp fiction and Louis L’Amour books. If you like frontier justice, larger-than-life characters, and witty humor, then you will LOVE the first installment of the Cowboys and Cthulhu series.
~Buy Let Sleeping Gods Lie to get lost in a horrific weird western adventure today!~
Review: I’m admittedly biased into loving the combination of Cthulhu and Westerns. There’s just something about the American frontier and its unique history that seems perfect for ghost stories. In the Porter Rockwell series, the real life figure has his adventures fictionalized as he deals with various supernatural horrors and baddies that contradict his American Christian background.
4] The Dream-Quest of Vellitt Boe by Kij Johnson
Blurb: World Fantasy Award winner, Hugo, Nebula, John W. Campbell, and Locus Award finalist for Best Novella, and one of NPR‘s Best Books of 2016
Professor Vellitt Boe teaches at the prestigious Ulthar Women’s College. When one of her most gifted students elopes with a dreamer from the waking world, Vellitt must retrieve her.
Kij Johnson’s haunting novella The Dream-Quest of Vellitt Boe is both a commentary on a classic H.P. Lovecraft tale and a profound reflection on a woman’s life. Vellitt’s quest to find a former student who may be the only person who can save her community takes her through a world governed by a seemingly arbitrary dream logic in which she occasionally glimpses an underlying but mysterious order, a world ruled by capricious gods and populated by the creatures of dreams and nightmares. Those familiar with Lovecraft’s work will travel through a fantasy landscape infused with Lovecraftian images viewed from another perspective, but even readers unfamiliar with his work will be enthralled by Vellitt’s quest.
“A remarkable accomplishment that repays rereading.” ―Pamela Sargent, winner of the Nebula Award
Review: This is an unusual example even for Lovecraftian fiction. Basically, in a women’s college in the fantasy world of the Dreamlands, specifically Ulthar the City of Cats, there’s a young woman who has gone missing. This young woman being the daughter of a god. Vellitt Boe, a teacher there, decides to cross the Dreamlands in hopes of finding them in order to prevent Ulthar from facing the god’s wrath.
3] Miskatonic by Mark Sable
Blurb: Miskatonic Valley holds many mysteries – cultists worshipping old gods, a doctor deadset on resurrecting the recently deceased, a house overrun by rats in the walls – but none more recent than a series of bombings targeting the Valley’s elite.
To Bureau of Investigation (the predecessor of the FBI) chief J. Edgar Hoover, there can be no other explanation than those responsible for similar actions during the Red Scare of the 1920s. But when the brilliant, hard-nosed investigator Miranda Keller is sent to stop the bombings, she uncovers an unimaginable occult conspiracy, one that may cost her both her job and her sanity.
From writer Mark Sable (WAR ON TERROR: GODKILLERS, Graveyard of Empires) and artist Giorgio Pontrelli (Dylan Dog), MISKATONIC is a mix of historical crime fiction and Lovecraftian-horror that dives deep into the American nightmare.
Review: Independent comics are a different breed from independent books. They require a lot more effort in production than your typical ebook or even print on demand work. Still, this is definitely an indie production and a fantastic one at that. Following the adventures of one of the last female detectives of the Bureau of Investigation before J Edgar Hoover fires them, they find themselves neck deep in the Cthulhu Mythos as well as the reactionary politics of the day.
2] New Cthulhu: The Recent Weird by Various
Blurb: For more than eighty years H.P. Lovecraft has inspired writers of supernatural fiction, artists, musicians, filmmakers, and gaming. His themes of cosmic indifference, the utter insignificance of humankind, minds invaded by the alien, and the horrors of history — written with a pervasive atmosphere of unexplainable dread — remain not only viable motifs, but are more relevant than ever as we explore the mysteries of a universe in which our planet is infinitesimal and climatic change is overwhelming it.
In the first decade of the twenty-first century the best supernatural writers no longer imitate Lovecraft, but they are profoundly influenced by the genre and the mythos he created. New Cthulhu: The Recent Weird presents some of the best of this new Lovecraftian fiction — bizarre, subtle, atmospheric, metaphysical, psychological, filled with strange creatures and stranger characters — eldritch, unsettling, evocative, and darkly appealing.
Review: A well-chosen and smartly edited anthology of such luminaries as Kim Newman, Neil Gaiman, Cherie Priest, Charles Stross, Sarah Monette, and China Mieville among others. There’s some truly great stories throughout this work like “Pickman’s Other Model” which is about a sexualized ghoul in the turbulent 1920s, “A Study in Emerald” which has been rightfully reprinted many times, and “Shoggoths in Bloom” which asks the question whether the shoggoths could ever have been as horrifying as the people who enslaved them.
1] The Brotherhood of the Beast by the Hp Lovecraft Historical Society
Blurb: A hardened archaeologist and a wealthy adventurer join forces to look into inexplicable murders in Boston. Before long, their investigation reveals a nefarious conspiracy, with tentacles reaching from their own past to the furthest corners of the globe. Will the duo and a team of trusted comrades be able to thwart an unholy alliance of dark forces, or does our very world stand upon the precipice of a terrifying doom?
Review: This is a radio play and doesn’t quite qualify as a novel but it’s got all of the enjoyment I got out of the Masks of Nyarlathotep one produced by Dark Adventure Theater. Here, a group of adventurers are caught up in plot to install a reincarnation of the Black Pharoah in as the Anti-Christ-esque ruler of the world. It’s based on the classic Chaosium adventure, The Fungi from Yuggoth and goes in different directions from HPL’s classic tales but I have to admit some of the stories like the opening one with a child murderer in an old lady’s house are just fantastic. I hope they make a sequel someday.
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