I am a 21 year old female and I currently go to college and I am studying digital design. I also currently work at a retail store and have been working there since February 2024. After I quit my job before this one, I was without a job since November 2023. I was depressed and I would stay home often because I don’t really have any friends, I’m not in any clubs in my college(although I would to join one) and most times, I like to stay in my room and do my own thing. I thought that if I get a job, I would feel better in some way. It worked for a few months, the excitement of a new job and making sure I leave a good impression with everyone. But now, I just feel tired and empty and angry. I don’t know why and I can’t talk to anyone about it because I really don’t have anyone. If I say anything, it’ll come out as me being spoiled or ungrateful for everything I have. Money is not the problem, I just want to stop chasing after some sort of happiness. I also don’t want to be the lazy daughter or the bad example older sibling. I’m just so tired and I feel like I’m not allowed a break. This is just a rant from someone who wants to feel a little bit less lonely.

1. Simile: Her smile was as bright as the sun.
2. Metaphor: Time is a thief.
3. Hyperbole: I've told you a million times.
4. Personification: The wind whispered through the trees.
5. Alliteration: Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled peppers.
6. Assonance: The rain in Spain falls mainly on the plain.
7. Onomatopoeia: The bee buzzed around the garden.
8. Oxymoron: Deafening silence filled the room.
9. Irony: The fire station burned down.
10. Pun: I used to be a baker because I kneaded dough.
11. Euphemism: He passed away peacefully in his sleep.
12. Juxtaposition: The old house stood next to the modern skyscraper.
13. Anaphora: I have a dream...
14. Epiphora: Love, love, love – that's what it's all about.
15. Zeugma: He stole my heart and my wallet.
16. Chiasmus: You forget what you want to remember, and you remember what you want to forget.
17. Litotes: The test was not a total disaster.
18. Synecdoche: All hands on deck.
19. Antithesis: It was the best of times; it was the worst of times.
20. Paradox: Less is more.
21. Allegory: Animal Farm by George Orwell.
22. Metonymy: The White House issued a statement.
23. Sarcasm: Nice job on the presentation – if you were aiming for confusion.
24. Understatement: The hurricane disrupted some outdoor activities.
25. Cliché: Time heals all wounds.
26. Anthropomorphism: The clock seemed to mock him as it ticked away.
27. Symbolism: The dove is a symbol of peace.
28. Paronomasia: I used to be a baker because I kneaded dough.
29. Malapropism: I'm going to the store to buy some orangutans.
30. Homophone: They're going to their house over there.
31. Epanalepsis: Blood hath bought blood, and blows have answered blows.
32. Polyptoton: Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds.
33. Catachresis: I could feel the darkness wrapping its cold arms around me.
34. Epistrophe: See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil.
35. Hypophora: What is the meaning of life? It's a question we all ponder.
36. Anadiplosis: The strength of the team is the team.
37. Ellipsis: Some people prefer cats; others, dogs.
38. Asyndeton: I came, I saw, I conquered.
39. Polysyndeton: They laughed and talked and danced and sang.
40. Enjambment: The moon was high, casting a silver glow on the water, as I walked along the shore.
41. Caesura: To be or not to be, that is the question.
42. Meiosis: It's just a scratch; I don't need a bandage.
43. Epizeuxis: Never, never, never give up.
44. Antimetabole: I know what I like, and I like what I know.
45. Aposiopesis: If you don't stop that, I'll—
46. Paralipsis: I won't mention his previous mistakes, but...
47. Hendiadys: Let's go for a walk and a talk.
48. Apophasis: I won't even mention the rumors about his past.
49. Prosopopoeia: The storm howled as if it were an angry beast.
50. Acrostic: Friends are the flowers in the garden of life.

As the title suggests, life has squashed my belief in myself.
I spent 27 years of my life waiting for a person I fell in love with to finally love me back. I finally did. It exceeded all expectations. They felt like home. Then they left me after nearly two years together. I considered taking my life several times, but could not fathom hurting my mom like that. Life felt, and still feels, pointless after losing someone who inspired you in their very being, and to believe in more for yourself.
In my misery, I left the country for Berlin to spend time with an old friend (who I secretly have had feelings for 7 years). After a month of spending time together, she and I became romantic. Our little affair lasted only 1 week before she got scared and cut me out of her life. I would expand upon our story, but it would take me pages to explain, so I’ll leave it at this. She did not see my value. This ending of our friendship and the clandestine love I’ve held for her for years was nearly as traumatic as losing my previous partner.
Outside of romance, I’ve been pursuing a career in sustainability for 5 years and no one has given me a chance. I am now 30 and so sick of trying. In February someone finally saw my worth, so I thought; I met the ceo of one of the most prolific green tech VCs at a conference. He liked me. I relentlessly pursued an opportunity as their head of communications/pr that would allow me to move to Germany, and finally pivot into doing work I find valuable. I interviewed with two other higher ups and pursued the job for 4 months. Finally, he rejected me in a cold Whastapp message. Not even a phone call or email explaining why they went with another candidate.
I am so done. I do not believe in myself and my worth any longer, and really do not see the point in trying anymore if I am not capable of achieving the dreams I always thought were attainable, if I tried my best and wielded all my innate talents.
Please, anyone, can you offer any reason to hope? What is the point of existing on this planet if you realize your talents and soul will never be recognized?

I am a 16 year old pre-t ftm, and recently i found a way to obtain androgel or testosterone gel from a reliable source. How should i apply it? What are the precautions and such? Also, could it be harmful? Basically i am alone and i need someone to advise me on this. Especially if you have experience w androgel yourself.
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My situation is that i am in a college where ive managed to pass as a cis male and no one knows i am trans, but there are some transphobes that are way bigger and older than me and my safety feels threatened by them. A girl from thwir friend group told me i look feminine and i am scared she might be gossiping about me. This is why i need to get on T as fast as possible. I found androgel from a reliable source for $180 so i wanna try that, it seems safer and more accessible than T injections. So please warn me if i am doing something wrong

Little back story here but curious to see how others would proceed.
One of my friends got fired from our previous company (company X) right around the time I got laid off in February. We can call him Rob. I wasn’t at company x anymore for two years but we kept in touch.
For some context, he’s on a partnerships/sales overlay team. He was on a sub team organized by the verticals and he had a coworker who turned into an enemy. Let’s call her Malory. She was generally bad at her job and only got by by hanging on the coattails of the sales team in her vertical to feed her leads. The entire team is metriced by net new partnerships and my friend usually was at the top of that leaderboard quarterly globally. For two years he’s been in the position of consistently exceeded quota. He was up for promotion by his manager at the end of the fiscal year back in January.
Malory has one of those toxic feminist personalities where she thinks she deserves everything she wants because she’s a girl. Malory was livid that she was passed over for promotion despite not hitting her quota for 7 quarters in the past 2 years. Instead of looking at her self for her own shortcomings, she chose to play the blame game.
Turns out for the past 6 months prior to him getting fired, she had been plotting to get him fired. The perfect opportunity struck when a new hire on an adjacent team was hired who happened to be Asian (very few in our office). We can call her Yin. Our company has a zero tolerance policy against racism and so Malory reports overhearing Rob calling Yin an asian slur supposedly multiple times. Due to the policy, Yin isn’t even questioned directly but only Malory is because she filed the complaint. Rob is questioned but only asked vaguely if he has used racial slurs or if he can recall an “aggressive” encounter in the office. 2 days later he is fired with no explanation of what happened or exact reasons why he was fired, just that his employment is at will. Mind you the day before he got promoted :/
Yin resigns 1.5 months after Rob is fired. Reasons unknown.
Fast forward to now. He has been interviewing but being in this job market for the past 4 months has really taken a toll on him. He’s gotten 20+ rejections on well suited jobs in sales and partnerships.
He is currently interviewing for a consulting company that solely consults for company x. The role is a sales role selling professional services. A big part of this role is maintaining the relationship with the sales reps in the same office he was fired from. Rob is concerned that Malory might still be a threat to his job. He still doesn’t have concrete evidence that Malory is the reason why he got fired but all roads lead back to her.
Malory’s and Rob’s role were on an island in the org that collaborated with sales when needed. The sales teams don’t even know why Rob even left. They think it was a layoff due to the restructuring of the team as 4 others were fired/let go.
The risk that they will ever interact again is <10% but could very much be a possibility at in office meetings, happy hours, customer events, etc.
If you were Rob would you take this job or would you move to a different industry to avoid looming doubt that Malory is going to attack again?
He’s been calling me non stop for advice and I don’t really know how to help the poop guy.
Tl:dr - friend did great at his job, female coworker got jealous of his promotion, coworker suceeds in getting him fired, friend is now interviewing at a partner where he will work with old sales team, scared he’s gonna get made by coworker again.

Hi! I'm 23 years old female from South Korea. I'm studying at Yonsei University. I'm looking for a language exchange partner to improve my English skills.
I want to develop listening and speaking skills because I hope I can work abroad someday.
It would be nice to meet you through Zoom meeting or Google Meet once or twice a week! I can teach you Korean. For instance, I can teach you real expressions I use with my friends and we can also talk about difficult topics and so on.
I like traveling and lived in Sweden as an exchange student last semester. I am also interested in social welfare and human rights issues. After graduation, I want to work in marketing and e-commerce business. I also like K-pop🎶
Dm me if you are interested!

i have really bad avoidance tendencies, and sometimes deal with paranoia that a few times in my life became delusional thinking. my psychiatrist thinks it’s bipolar, i disagree, but that’s whatever. i graduated college last may, ended up getting a job that was not what i envisioned for myself at all (i’m a software engineer and the job market sucks right now). i had to move to a new city, its about 30 mins away from my old college and i know a small handful of people who still go there (although even while i was still in college, i was a loner and didn’t have many friends). i did have this one friend who i’ve known since high school, but in the past 3 ish years, my mental health and toxic behavior led her to have to set strict boundaries with our relationship. i don’t blame her at all, i would’ve done the same. i have really bad avoidant tendencies that, along with my paranoia and inability to trust people, lead me to blow up on people and pus them away in the process. at this point, our friendship will never go back to the way it was. she also moved go another state so even the meaningless surface level convos we do have are over text. i have completely socially isolated myself. my work is nearly fully remote and i work very independently so i dont even need to socialize at work. im supposed to go into the office 4 days a month, but even then i usually find an excuse to stay home for at least one of those. It’s mid may, and I’ve gone to exactly 3 irl social gatherings the entire year. Literally exactly 3. and two of them lasted 2 hours, the other was a concert. all were with people in not very close with but i would still consider friends. the only form of socialization i do have consistently is playing video games with some online friends i made in the past couple months, but i really question if they play with me because they enjoy or because im a girl and they like the idea of playing games with a girl. one of them asked me out which made me kind of sad because i thought i was finally making friends even if it’s just over a video game, but then i remembered people only want to be around me for some sort of gain. i said no and they stuck around, but i worry he’ll ask again and if i say no again i will go back to being socially isolated both online and in person. i’ve been in therapy since 2021 but i recently switched to a new therapist who focuses on trauma work. idk if its the trauma response or what, but i’ve been so emotional lately and i hate it. i hate crying, i hate thinking about stuff that makes me upset, and i feel guilty all the time. i have such a hard time connecting with people, im extremely arrogant and judgemental, today i tried going to bed and then i remembered that when i was in high school, my mom who didn’t get the chance to graduate high school because she was a teen mom, went back to get her her and enrolled in community college courses just for her own fulfillment. she was so excited to learn this stuff i was learning for free from her own sacrifice. and i was so impatient with her when she wouldn’t get it. and i would make her said when id be impatient with her. i hate myself for being like that. and i’m still so cold with her not just with her, but for some reason it’s impossible for me to be genuine with people, and with her 90% of the time, i am faking it. and she can tell. a few years ago she asked me to teach her python, and i did for one day cuz i wanted to make up for what i did when i was in high school, and after that’s when she asked again i would make excuses and say no until she just stopped asking. a year ago she went back to our country of origin (we’re immigrants) and i feel like ill never be able to make things right. now the only interactions we have are daily facetime calls where i try really hard not to be snappy with her or cold and i fail every single day. i feel like it fuels my depression and it’s a never ending feedback loop. if she wasn’t alive i would probably have killed myself by now, and i really worrry about the day she dies, ill be ridden with guilt and shame about how my moms whole life, i wasn’t ableto connect with her, or anyone. and my only friendship was also ruined. my mom was really strict growing up and has bpd tendencies, so i know why im like this, but she loves me a lot and i hate that i have this inability to forgive her or maybe some built up resentment that i haven’t been able to get rid of in my 23 years of existence. im so full of guilt it is literally eating me alive, every time we call i can tell she is sad because she can tell im distant and have literally nothing to talk about. i don’t want to talk about work, i don’t want to talk about what i ate, what i did, nothing. sometimes its because there’s nothing really to talk about, but mostly it’s because i just don’t want to. i don’t know why i don’t want to, i almost want to say i can’t. but when im talking with my sisters i usually have a much easier time. i just don’t understand why i love my mom so much but i have such a hard time talking to her and not losing my patience or becoming irritable at everything she does even when she’s not doing anything wrong. even if she hurt me at some point, she didn’t know better and she always tried her best. i was a difficult kid, and she parented the best way she knew how. my dad is dead and was never in my life (like at all, i didn’t really know him), and i am reasonably close to my sisters but i feel like my mom is all i have at this point and i disappoint her every single day and i can’t stop.

Note: deleted last post and posting it again because I had realized the title would possibly lead to problems like outright assumptions that it's not related.
So recently finished the anime and planning to read some of the manga to better understand the world. But I've also been a bit inspired to try and make some D&D like thing or perhaps a variant of my own like how a friend made "projects" which were quite lenient. Although it tended to be lead by the same person.
ANYWAYS! Enough of the needless jibber gabber from me. I was curious on what you guys would recommend on what to do! Because one of the reasons I feel like it could work out so greatly is because of how the world works and how it blends the age of magic and somewhat modern day technology!
Some ideas I already have an idea which could bring the lifespan of a character into mind. So like a human would have maybe like... 70 or 80 years as average lifespan. Depending on how the character is made though it could heavily fluctuate from curses or an obvious impact from being a sleigh beggy would knock it down to about 40. 30 if unlucky and 50 if lucky. But! Of course something like cartaphilus's curse would counteract this and grant immortality regardless (depends on effects, curses, etc). I suppose this would be like tipping the scales between life and death.
Speaking of tipping the scales. I suppose how power is gained would depict what happens to the player. Try to get power fast? Sure but it'll come with a heavy price. Taking it slow? You'll gain the power or skill you need at a steady rate. But will you be ready for what's coming up? This would essentially be a question of "are you willing to take the risks? Or will you take it slow and steady? Risk free?" Like how Chise had taken the risk to calm the dragon (I forgot the name T-T) and because she took the full power of the raging amounts of mana she got the dragons curse. Heavily impacting her and essentially dooming her. Until this was counter balanced.
Of course these two things are probably just the tip of the iceberg and even then I am sure they need refining. I would still need to consider things like "can they see fae" or "what if they weren't human?" And many more. Which is why I am curious on what you think could improve the way it works. (Also, considering the universe. This makes pacing the whole thing easier and makes shortcuts to power super risky without the proper steps. Would prevent a friend of mine from rushing to literal god levels while others are left in the dust)

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My wife and I are struggling to motivate our 12 year old to do chores of any type.
We have a vacation planned for July that has been planned for about six months. We've asked him to do some chores such as mowing the lawn, walking his 8 year old sister home from the bus stop, assisting in cleaning the kids bathroom etc in order to help earn some of the spending money for this trip. Every day we have to convince him to do this and we are met with excuses and sometimes tears.
He also wants to build a gaming computer and we have told him we would meet him halfway with cost of parts. We don't want to just buy parts with no work from him.
He does not want to do any outside chores and will ask for alternatives every time they are suggested.
Earlier today our 8 year old spilled something on the stairs and we asked him to help her make sure it was all the way cleaned up. He asked my wife how to do that and when pressed he started back peddling and saying the instructions for how to watch her clean just were not clear.
He won't pack his own lunch anymore so he has decided just not to eat at school because he doesn't like school lunch. He can't clean up after anything in the kitchen because it's a mad dash back to video games and friends or TV.
If we call him on these things he isn't disrespectful but he doesn't hear us, instead be starts profusely apologizing and sometimes will just shut down. We have him in therapy and I've suggested talking to his therapist about it but my wife is concerned we will come off as complaining about him.
Any advice would be very appreciated.

I’ve learned how to say “no thank you” in at least nine languages, and longer phrases in more (like “thank you, please let’s speak English now. I don’t really know the language but my mother in law is mean.”)
I’ve been with my partner for almost four years. He argues that she doesn’t like me because she only hears about me when things are on the rocks for us, which is fair, but none of those times have been that awful. Less than a year in, we broke up for about four weeks and he moved back in. No abuse or anything like that, we were just figuring ourselves and each other out.
I’d never met her before this past Thanksgiving. We’d been together for three years at that point and he told them we planned to get married. We were there for one day, just for Thanksgiving dinner, and she spent so much of her energy trying to keep me at arms length from everyone.
She knows I have food allergies and there was only food I couldn’t eat. She complained that I was being picky. We’d been up for a long time and I laid down in the guest room (with my bf’s permission and leading) only for her to complain that I was being a drama queen and withholding myself from the rest of the family. I was on it for the three little ones there, all under eight years old, for five hours before that happened or I was offered food. (And the food I was offered would have made me very sick.) When I didn’t eat much, I was accused of being picky and rude, and when I did get sick, she made a big deal of asking other people there to drive me and my bf back to where we were staying. She wouldn’t pay any of the traditional family board games until I left. It was humiliating and she did nothing to hide her disdain for me. She even excluded me from the gift giving part of the evening.
I’d been dating her son for three years, and she never asked me anything about me or what I did or what my interests are. She implied that I was using him for money (there is none) and that I’ve never accomplished anything (I have.)
Everything blew up this week when she asked my bf to forget moving into a new place with me (we’ve already been living together for two years) and to move in with his pregnant sister, forty miles away from where we are now to “take care of her” because “he’s the uncle” and she’s”worried.” (She has a guest room in her house and lives four minutes away from the sister. There are other options.)
It just crushed me. I truly want to go no contact, but I know my bf won’t/can’t with his family. I know he deeply dislikes his mom, but I don’t know if he’ll ever stand up to her on my account.
I hate arguments or confrontations, and have truly done my best to be a good guest, but it’s at a point that I can’t ignore it.
I already speak two languages other than my native language, and I’ve been learning sister languages, along with some foreign dialects that I can legitimately practice. (I have a few Russian friends, for example.)
I’m starting to feel too old for this kind of shit. I feel like using different languages would allow me to say what I need to say without there being a Jerry Springer type blow out, and without having to put my bf in an uncomfortable situation with his family (siblings included.)
I could say a lot of stuff in English, but it would be burning an entire bridge. I’m at the point where I feel like it’s this, or no contact with them, or my bf and I have to break up. We’re a really good match, we love each other, we’re working towards the same goals together. He incredibly aware that his familial situation is toxic, even more so since my nut job family has accepted him with open arms.
There’s times I feel like I should just shut up and take it, and times I feel like I should burn it to the ground (metaphorically) and times I feel like I should respect that he still wants a relationship with his family no matter how much they frustrate and hurt him.
AITAH for opting for the half measure?

It was late November 2015. I was 51 and one year past my divorce (which was not related to cheating) when I became so disgusted with myself that I knew I had to pick myself up. I was alone for the long holiday, and although I wasn't really sad or lonely, I felt empty. However, I had some extra time to consider how does one picks oneself up.
I made a list of potential New Year resolutions that were individually realistic. Some were really easy and stupid like “have your chipped front tooth fixed” and “take & post a selfie”. These smaller tasks fueled my confidence and provided the energy boosts needed to tackle the more challenging resolutions, like starting a weight loss challenge at work.
Skip ahead to March 4th 2016. I had a Friday lunch date with a married client that I met two weeks prior. Of course, it was not a real date, as I wouldn't impose myself on a married woman, nor would I risk my career or my ego, especially if the signals she seemed to be sending were just a product of my wishful thinking, stimulated by checking off some boxes on the list on the fridge dated 1/1/16.
The following is my thank you note to her for a great date as well as for helping me check a lot of boxes over the past few weeks. I sent her a link to it as it is in the form of my first ever online post (one more check box, YAY!).
************************************** We were only 1 minute in the hotel room; her jeans in a ball on the floor. She sat at the foot of the king sized bed and backed her way into the stack of oversized pillows lining the headboard. I followed as If attached by a leash. I landed somewhat awkwardly on my elbows between her legs finding myself squarely face to face with the tattoo. This tattoo, that she so shamelessly revealed just a week ago, the same tattoo that has been scorching my thoughts and the same tattoo that she promised me complete and unlimited access.
It’s been a long time since I have been here or anywhere near as nice as here, between the legs of a beautiful woman 20 years younger and far out of my league....even when I was her age. I took a second to drink in my fortunate situation. I admired her panties. All day I was so hoping she would wear those same panties as before. She didn’t. These were different but similar enough. The delicate lace and silk perfectly framed the tattoo on her hip. She did not disappoint. There is a fruity jasmine scent, intoxicatingly pleasant, and oh so subtle. It is not here. I’ll need to find its source. I want more of that. (I remember being thoroughly impressed and thinking to myself “This girl is good”.)
I briefly forgot that there was someone else here besides myself and the tattoo. How long have I been down here perving out on her? I wondered. I hesitated, and then apologetically looked up half expecting a well-deserved snarky glare. What I found instead was an ear to ear compassionate smile followed by a tilt of her head and an arch of her eyebrow that said “I like that you like that, carry on”.
With confidence restored that we were still in sync, I adjusted myself so that I was in a good position to thoroughly enjoy what I came to do. I kissed the tattoo hard and gave it a good lick. The challenge for today was “Taste the Tattoo” and I won. I did a small celebration gesture that she rolled her eyes to. I continued to kiss and taste all around until every freckle got some personal attention. As I got to the upper most reaches of her inner thighs, I looked up to check in as I was about to cross a new line. For the first time she was not looking back at me but had laid her head back deep into the pillows, her eyes closed. I took that as a yes!
I marveled at the softness of her inner thighs on my cheeks as I gently placed kisses up one and down the other. As I kissed her through her panties, her hips responded by arching her up in anticipation of each next kiss. Before long, those wonderful panties were just getting in the way. I stopped and pondered whether to just slide them aside or remove them or to risk interrupting the mood and attempt a complete wardrobe removal as we were both still fully dressed except for her jeans.
I didn’t have to ponder long as she knew what she wanted and it was not any of the options I was considering. Still lying back with her head semi submerged within the pillows, she held out her arms as if gesturing for a hug. I moved up her body and when I got close enough she pulled me in for a kiss.
Unbelievably, this was our first kiss. I found it odd that we had not kissed yet and was grateful she thought to stop for a moment to have a kiss. We kissed some and then I settled in to thoroughly enjoy it. However, the kiss to come was not the kiss I was expecting or a kiss I was ready for. It was a kiss that could ruin everything.
Technically, there was one kiss before. It was an awkward kiss 5-10 minutes earlier just after we entered the room. All in about the time it took for the hotel door to close behind us, she tossed her bag on the sofa, had her jewelry off and set on the nightstand while I emptied my pockets and silenced my phone.
We approached each other, and as we met I was looking at the place where the tattoo would be under her shirt and behind her jeans. They were higher cut and could not be pulled down that far to get to the tattoo. They would have to come off. To just reach in and do that would be an uncharacteristically bold move for me. But I did have unquestionable permission to have the tattoo in any way that I desired. I reached down with both hands and took hold of the waistband on each side of the button. I didn’t see her simultaneous move in at me at first. Just as I felt the metal of the button, I felt her reaching her arms around my neck and realized that she was tip toeing up for a kiss. It caught me unexpectedly and I think it showed on my face that it did. I tried to recover and moved back in to accept her lips on to mine but it turned into an awkward peck.
I scolded myself for the selfish moment and just as I was trying to formulate a recovery gesture, she, without missing a beat, gently dismissed my fumble and gracefully restored the momentum. “Oh” she said with surprise in her tone, while looking down at my fingers ready to release her button. Then, in a more playfully quizzical tone, she followed with “I guess you want to get right to THAT then” and she stepped back away from me where I lost grip of her jeans. She replaced my fingers on the button with hers, paused, maybe waiting for me to look up to her eyes, which I finally did, then flashed me a devilishly naughty smile and pulled her jeans down to the top of her boots. She then proudly announced, mostly to herself, “You really are going to let me have fun with you, aren’t you!” seemingly shedding any doubts in her mind that I would go through with this. She then sat at the foot of the all white linen king sized bed, removed her boots and jeans and backed her way into the stack of oversized pillows lining the headboard.
Back to our kiss. The kiss that from now on I will reflect on as our first kiss
Responding to her hug gesture, I moved up her body and when I got close enough she pulled me in for a kiss. I didn’t flub it this time, but again, I didn’t know it was coming, and prolly I should have. It took only ten seconds to adjust and synchronize to each other’s kissing form. It was warm and succulent and sweet and was wonderful. I really was surprised at how nice this felt. I don’t recall married kissing being this enjoyable. I remember saying to myself “Damn, this girl can kiss”.
I was on top, in a position that wasn’t going to be comfortable for as long as I wanted this to last, so I backed away to reposition but she held tight indicating she didn’t want me to move. I gestured at the space next to her and she relented. We then settled in facing one another side by side; her smile confirming that this was a nice place. We were hugging and kissing, pulling each other closer and looking into each other’s eyes. Our legs intertwined and our hands were roaming, but not really in a sexual way, more like trying to make as much body contact as possible. I couldn’t get over how I felt so much more familiarity than there was. What I did not recognize at the time was that this was the physical intimacy catching up to match the virtual intimacy we have been sharing online.
Soon the intensity escalated and it was getting very hot very quickly. The intensity and passion that was building was not something I ever expected or planned for. This was the rare kind of making out where accidental hickeys happen and inadvertent “Oh god I love you’s” slip out. Not that either of those was going to happen but my safe, non-committal no emotional strings encounter was getting too hot to not risk introducing emotions into the situation. And that could happen.
At some point I was no longer kissing her lips and mouth but was kissing her.
I broke contact to catch a breath and maybe get some control of the fire. We stopped for a moment to breathe and cool off. She slid herself on top and I rolled over on to my back to accommodate her. She looked at me with eyes that appeared to agree that it was a good time to slow it down. She closed her eyes and she seemed to enjoy that I was rubbing her back with both hands that I slipped up under her shirt. She presented her lips for me to kiss and then her cheek for the same, then neck and ear and lips again. Her long hair had fallen down around us, surrounding our faces like a vail creating a tiny private and even more intimate space. Inside here it was darker and the temperature and humidity rose quickly. We were breathing each other’s breath between kisses. All of a sudden I noticed that Jasmine was back. Not subtle this time, but deep and fulfilling. I loved it.
This fragrance stuff really works. The next morning just after waking up, I caught an unexpected subtle whiff on my skin under my watch and my heart jumped by 20 beats. Who’d a thunk it possible?
The passion was building again but since I was aware and cautious now, I wanted to enjoy and go with it. I thought I could keep it measured and I did for a while as it does take two. The kissing slowed to half and so did the passion. However, the rest of our bodies started to make up for it and the touching evolved into the sexual. She was still on top of me and my hands were exploring and squeezing on her panty covered butt, then under and in those panties. Her body contact became more targeted as she was now very deliberately mashing her fun stuff all over my fun stuff. The kissing subsided but replaced with the audible accompaniment of her squeaks, moans and quicker breathing timed with her mashing I was no longer in control. The passion was under control but being replaced with something intimately erotic.
I abruptly escaped by gently rolling her over on to her back then getting up and knelling between her legs. I took a moment to catch my breath and wanted to say “That is getting WAY too intimate. Can we get naked and have sex now?” However, I tugged at her panties and said something dorky like “can we take these off now?” Yes, we were still both fully dressed except for her jeans
Since I am the kind of guy who doesn’t kiss and tell, (well, only tells about the kisses) and this is not the forum for it, I am not going to talk about the sexy part over the next 30 minutes. I will tell you that we did finally each get ourselves unceremoniously naked and then the sexy part finishes where it started, with me finishing all over that beautiful tattoo. Of course I did a small celebration gesture that she rolled her eyes to.
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Cuddle time. Our snapchats leading up to this encounter were heavy on the anticipation and buildup but didn’t contain a lot of detail about or define what stuff would happen during our “fun” time together.
Me: “Ok then, tomorrow lunchtime, I’m in.”
Her: “OMG Are you saying that you are REALLY going to come here and let me have fun with you?
Me: “I’m REALLY going to come there. I am REALLY going to fully inspect that tattoo, as well as the neighborhood where the tattoo lives.
Her: “I so can’t wait to get my hands on you.”
Me: “WOW….Now that this is real and going to happen, my heart is beating so hard that I am afraid that people can see it through my shirt.”
Her: “You have to tell me, are you being SERIOUS right now? You can’t say this and not show up. It’s OK if you are teasing, but you have to say so that you are now….not tomorrow!!!”
Me: “I am SERIOUS and I PROMISE I will be there. You have gotten to me, BAD. All week with the way we have been talking..err..I mean snapchatting; I can’t get you out of my head. Then today with those tattoo snaps you sent; I can’t get up from my desk. LOL…..NOT kidding NOT teasing.”
Her: “I am BAD, and I like having FUN. I am going to have so much fun with you!!!”
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The only specific things I recall us acknowledging we would do with our “fun” was tattoo inspection and cuddle time. So as soon as cleanup from sexy time was done we both knew what time it was. For me, as good as the inspection was the cuddle was better. Just as during the sexy time we changed things up and we got to cuddle many ways. We started face to face full contact hugging just like our kissing time with some but less kissing and more being in the moment.
We were still hot (temperature hot now) and sweaty so that didn’t last long. She turned over and we spooned some. I was still craving full body contact but it was still so hot that we had to separate a bit. No contact spooning if you will, with just my one hand caressing her exposed shoulder and arm and hip with an occasional butt cheek squeeze.
It was about that time that we had our first ever personal conversation. On the project there were lots of flirty banter and some personal stories but almost always as part of a group. We had many phone calls and a few project meetings with just us two but never did the conversation get personal. Until now the only personal talks (Chats) we have had have been via Snapchat. I don’t recall who asked the first question of the other, but it was like a dam broke and we started filling in the details of our lives, our feelings and all the things we chatted about.
There was a lot to tell and we were giddy like children (child) best friends re-meeting on the first day of school catching each other up on our summer vacations. At one point she had something compelling to say and faster than a fish out of water she flipped back to facing me so she could gesture with her hand and punctuate through her expression. She landed close. Closer that I think she meant to at first and just a bit awkward I felt. But I was wrong. She didn’t back up an inch. I really couldn’t see her hand but I could feel that she was using it in the 2 to 4 inches of space between our chests. Her face was right into mine. She would lean back or up just an inch when she wanted me to see her eyes or smile or frown for emphasis, then settle back into the pillows with our foreheads or noses or cheeks touching. It was the farthest thing in the world from awkward.
If there was a recurring theme for the day it would be HOT; in every sense and synonym of the word. Again, it was getting too sweaty to remain that close. This time she broke contact to catch a breath and escape the heat. We stopped talking for a moment to breathe and cool off. She sat up, crawled to, and grabbed the (sexy time) clean-up towel that was at the far foot of the bed. She turned around so that she was kneeling facing me as she brought the towel up to her chest to absorb the beads and drips of sweat that had accumulated. As I watched, I again thought of my great fortune to be right here right now feeing what I feel and seeing the beauty before me. She pushed the towel down across her belly button and it fell into her lap.
I observed the soft sunlight reflecting off the white sheets, the white towel, and the white pillows bathed her in perfect light creating just a hint of subtle shadows in all of the right places on her angelic white skin. I started consciously taking photos with my mind. I wanted to capture every nuance and note every detail. I don’t know if I will ever be here again.
I don't recall if my next realization was comprehended in a split second, or if it took ten seconds to develop, but a terrible fear washed over me that for the first time in forever, she was beyond my touch and her next action might be to look for her panties or go jump in the shower. We were after all, deep into the second hour of her hour long lunch.
As I was preparing myself for the pain soon to come, I couldn't understand where it was coming from. I had the BEST DAY EVER, but I felt like an exhausted child who just watched the Disney fireworks finally and knows what that means.
What the hell? What is happening in my head? I don't even know this girl, let alone have feelings for her beyond she made my dick feel good at lunchtime.....and, I guess my ego is healthier since I met her. I have not cheated on my diet since she turned on the flattery the week before. I was sure it had to be somehow manipulative, but I hoped that if only a 5% chance it wasn't AND she liked me AND her mom was single, made it easy to keep my snacking to peas & carrots.
My self esteem has been skyrocketing too, as I have been checking a lot of boxes on my refrigerator. LOL, so many in fact, that I have been adding things to the list after they happened that I didn't dare put on it as they seemed pretty unobtainable just two months before. "Get sent a nude selfie, check. Have the confidence to send one back, check. Take a hottie 32 year old client out to lunch and fuck her brains out, check.
Did I just discover that I like girls who make my self esteem feel good more than I like girls who make my dick feel good?
Shit, that wasn't even on my top ten list. Smart, funny, pretty, Kind, whatever is the opposite of bitchy, fun in bed, boobs and/or an age appropriate figure is always nice, curious, someone you can trust to see you at your worst. Before today, "genuinely being a boost & support of my self esteem" was 10th.
Then BAM. I was hit in the face with the towel. Damn girl, I hope you can handle a spanking because I was just on the verge of making an interpersonal discovery of some importance over here, I thought to myself. I noticed the slightest or possibly mock look of concern on her face as she asks "you're not having any regrets or second thoughts over there are you?". I reflexively replied "Oh god no". Then with some emphasys, I continued "today was incredible. I REALLY needed this and you were PERFECT, thank you".
Again she did not disappoint. She crawled to the top of the bed on the far side and then to me over the pillows and laid down at a 90 angle to me on her stomach parallel to the headboard with her head nearly right on top of mine. She propped herself up a bit on her elbows and we kissed deeply. It was nice.
I made a few attempts to shake my internal drama, get out of my head and get back to my goal of picking my self up after my divorce. Oops, I mean back to pleasing a beautiful woman who clearly was not yet done having her fun with me. The emotional rollercoaster ride over the last hours, days & weeks completely blew out my brains ability to generate or absorb endorphins or whatever happens in a situation like this. Shortly after we had joked around while showering together, kissing goodbye (just like when I kissed my endorphin killing ex wife) and going on back to our separate lives.
I drove the hour or so home, brought my dog to the park and had healthiest and happiest cry I ever had. I don't know what I was feeling or why, but I was feeling again and it brought me much relief and contentedness.
We texted a bit that evening confirming that we each enjoyed our time together and agreeing that we should do that again sometime. The next day, Saturday, her husband took their 5 & 8 year old sons somewhere for the day. We checked in with each other again over text and chatted some about our lunch but the spark or excitement we usually had was not the same.
I reached out again that evening and asked if she was in a place that we could talk on the phone. She resisted but did call me (our first personal phone call). It took her 24 hours to let her cry bubble up. It turns out that our emotional experiences were remarkably similar, albeit from different perspectives.
She much later reveals that she felt emotionally dead for her hubby. She evolved to a bad place where she wanted fuck anyone but her hubby but still fucked him twice a week and had to appear happy to do it, killing her brain chemistry.
We rode the best and worst roller coaster in the world for 6 or 8 months....until the the Cocaine eventually wore off or the unobtainable became obtainable and it wasn't the the same rush for either of us any longer. She was the closest thing to a drug addiction that I ever felt. I never wanted anyone or anything like I wanted her.
My hope is that this story helps one person answer the question "Why the hell would he/she risk giving up their wonderful & loving family for an hour with a douchebag or a skank?"

Hi! I'm gonna try an simplify this as much as possible but it will be hard considering all the details and messages that have been thrown at me in recent months.
I had a friend of 7 years who tried to defame me to my friend group saying I was actively mistreating my boyfriend. She made a gc with everyone else in it except me and my bf. When my bf caught wind, he seen 6 paragraphs of what she was saying and doing.
Everything down to the bone was debunked by him and then my friend group came to me to ask mote details. We called her out, showed proof and blocked her on all social media platforms. Stating multiple times from each one of us to no longer contact us under any circumstances.
She proceeded to say that her "demons." Took over and so forth.
In the last 2 months she has CONTINUED to make accounts or use very old ones to contact everyone threatening us, and in some instances acting like a child having a tantrum trying to say all the threats she said and nasty harmful things about my family wasn't her and that she wanted to try again. This would not be the first time, but this is the actual first time in my adulthood she has done this and as severe because I had proof, and an unlimited amount.
Not to mention that my friend group and mnay people I graduated with seen who she really was and was utterly disgusted by her behavior.
May I digress. Each time we tell her how it is, not making threats or throwing around harmful words. At the end of the convo we tell her to stay out of our lives and to heed her own words and to leave us alone despite her thinking we started condos first. There's proof that she has started it all the time.
Today, around 9:30 she somehow got ahold of my new phone number which she has NEVER been given to my knowledge. At least through me.
She has pictures of me from high-school (14-15) with obvious edited captions on snapchat (which I don't use snapchat.) And the captions on them are like "yeah baby, I'm still racist."
"I ❤️ racism." And a bunch of supposed Discord messages from a gc I had never been involved in.
There were like 14 images.
She then said "don't worry. I have way more." I just blocked the number.
She then sent the "proof" to one of my friends who has a business acc with all the pictures. He didn't have her one acc blocked on that one quite yet.
She was calling us all sorts of nasty names, and claiming we're all racist. Btw we have a screenshot of her saying the N word a couple times in private chats between certain people of the group. But I'm not gonna stoop to her level.
The message that stood out to me ESPECIALLY was "don't worry, I'm talking to a buddy of mine who will take care of insert my name
She will not let up on any of it and keeps creating multiple accounts and thinks that posting these on her social media platform will do her good.
Now, that I have explained the circumstances.
What is the full process and do you think that anything can be done.
I cannot afford to change my number, and I have already created a new acc on some social platforms. We have blocked her an unknowingly amount of times and she will not let up on anything.
She has been known in the past to make different phone numbers to reach out.
I'm not very well educated on the laws down to the bone, and I do have a learning disability so a lot of my understanding is hard for me to grasp unless written in 4 year old crayon eating terms

2nd Half - Anka - 1. Years ago I believed all this Stuff. Now I am very skeptical about everything. He has no way of proving/substantiating what he claims. "Channeling" could very well be just Imagining/Hoping/Conjuring-Up/Believing/Wishful Thinking that he's in contact with this "Being" when in Reality it may be absolutely nothing more than a Child's "Made-Up" Friends etc. All these "Channelers" seem to have the same-old Story : these "Beings" came to them etc (they are more "special" than you & me, ya-see). I say "Baloney-Malarky-Poppycock-BS etc "But here - Buy my Book, it will explain everything !" "No here- "Channel THIS !" (I say) 2. Did he say "Enema" or was it "Anama" ?

Me (15F) and my boyfriend (16M), we just started dating recently and he wants me to drop my male friend of 2 years for him, all my female friends are telling me to break up with him for being controlling but I can see it from his point of view and i would too want him to drop a female friend regardless of how long they been friends for, he was mad I was playing a game with my male friend but I was also playing in a group with my other friends that includes girls, but i see why he is mad because i would be upset too what should i do? should i drop my friend of 2 years? We’ve been arguing again and again over ridiculous things and I’ve been crying everyday because of it, I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to lose him but he keeps distancing himself away whenever we fight and sometimes I feel as if he does not take me serious because sometimes he will act immature during our arguments. He tells me that I have free will to drop or don’t drop my male friend of 2 years but, I know deep down he is upset and will always be upset, I feel like it’s very insecure to isolate your s/o from their friends but this is the only way we can feel secure in this relationship at this point but I feel like nothing will change regardless of my decision and we will continue fighting over nothing and I will cry again and again. What should i do?

So I know I’m late to the party but I used my Amazon prime trial to the fullest and watched the movie for the first time last week. I don’t know what it is but I’ve been obsessed with this movie, something about it was just very fun to watch overall, shout out to my aroace friend that told me about it they were cooking.
As a 20 year old straight dude I don’t think I’m the target audience lol but I really enjoyed this, I haven’t even been a big movie watcher but this hooked me instantly, no clue why. And to my surprise they recently announced a sequel which I’m hyped for, so excited in fact I bought the book which is perfect timing since I’ll be going on a long trip soon with a 15 hour flight! It’s like 2:00am so excuse my random rambling or mobile formatting but just wanted to express my love for this movie/book and very nice community, definitely need more content like this in media!

I am Female (26) found out about my husband's affair. he cheated me with his classmate before our marriage when we were in 4 years of relationship. I need time to process the pain but deep down I had already forgive him and wanted to start fresh. Yesterday his ex send me their photos intentionally and I think she is doing this on purpose ruin our marriage. At the same time I also think my husband shoe where still have feelings for her. i don't know how to deal with this situation. I feels like my husband is also getting blackmailed for the same. I confronted him and he accepted everything about the affair and said "I was not sure about marriage but then I realize I was doing wrong and decided to marry you because I realized I love you".
TL;DR Should I trust him on this? the ex( classmate) is divorce with a 6 yr old kid.
To understand the situation better let me explain the whole timeline.

• Me and my husband (then BF) have a huge debt on us which will take IDK may be 5 years to be out of this situation. We take some wrong decisions in life were we were facing harassment due to debt. which created distance in our relationship. The major issue started 3 months before our engagement where he was secretly seeking counselling for his depression and i found some hospital bills in his pocket. I have seen him suffer mentally a lot during that phase and the cheating ( According to him) had happened in that time period around 2 to 3 months before engagement. He met her between 3-4 month before our engagement.
• We get married 6 months after our engagement and between this period he was still in self doubt and grief. he told me about his financial situation and how he might not able to provide a luxury life to me. He fairly explained to me about all the challenges and mental harassment we can face due to this debt. At the same time he explained everything to his and my parents too. He said he don't want to give me a bad life after marriage and i am still free to leave and no questions will be asked. He also said that he might me ruining my life because of his actions and that time i did not understand the depth of this matter.
• After marriage i never saw him doing less, ignoring, or other things. He use to and still making efforts for me and he is totally changed person as he use to be around 3-4 years ago. and may be this efforts and willingness to change is keeping me in this relationship.
• As he explained this cheating happened before our engagement. I have noticed that he use to give each and every detail of his ex to me whether he is meeting her or her brother. he helped her brother to get a job as they were also facing layoffs. As some event occurred he disconnect this connection before our marriage and even when we are returning from our honeymoon she tried to contact him and he ask her not to call him again.
• It's been 5 months in marriage and almost a year in engagement and i have a started noticing she is trying to contact me or his family members with texts. My husband has never shared a cheating thing but he indirectly told me that he had done things that might hurt me and he ask me before he blocked her on my phone. She emailed me some photos 1 week ago and he immediately accept his fault and explained everything to me. Over this time he is try his best to take care of me calmly accepting and answering all my questions he is ok with what every i decide for us.
• Now the thing is i have seen him change a lot and he has been putting lots of efforts in this marriage which is making me forgive him for everything. He was a chain smoker and drinker and it's been 2 months he is sober and haven't smoke. he is keeping all his promises to be better person. But i Definity need time to heal and forgive him for good.
• There are still questions in my mind that why she is still contacting and why is he not taking any legal action. I want to know that are practical questions i should ask him to kill the devils in my head. I want to ask him many questions but due to being too emotional i am failing to think straight and line up some straight forward questions which will give me clarity on this matter. What questions should i ask to know if he is still emotionally attracted to her and manipulating me? or he is speaking the truth.
• We both want to start fresh but before trusting him i want to clear all my doubts to start trusting him again. You as a reader not at all thinking emotionally so questions from your end definitely will help he to get more clearly.

Player Character

Basic Information

Reddit Account: u/a_dolf_in
Discord Tag: ArcElliott
Name and House: Olivia Redwyne
Age: 26
Cultural Group: Andal
Appearance: Olivia has a very confident aura around her at all times, the result of just being in charge and often being the only competent person for miles around for more than a decade. In typical Redwyne fashion, she has red hair and her eye colour sits somewhere between green and blue (depending on the light). Her hair is long, reaches down to her lower back, and is usually braided in some way to keep it tame. Other than that, she is of average height and has a very hourglass-figure.
Trait: Mariner
Skill(s): Admiral (e), Cunning, Tactician, Malicious
Talent(s): Sommelier, Drawing, Gymnastics
Negative Trait(s): -
Starting Title(s): Grand Admiral of the Arbor
Starting Location: opening feast
Alternate Characters: -

Biography

Olivia was born in the year before the conquest to Osric and Joanna Redwyne, as their second child. In the very next year, Osric would be fatally injured by dragonfire at the Field of Fire, and pass before he could even be brought to a maester. Therefore, the young Redwyne never really knew her father, but both her and her older brother would soon be adopted by their uncles Simon and Lucas, the latter of which their mother Joanna would then marry and have another child with.
It is usually said that every Redwyne is born with a natural inclination towards the sea. For Olivia that turned out to be much stronger than for most others, and was only further reinforced each time one of her uncles took her along on a journey across the Arbor Strait or on some journeys south. What started as jokingly giving her command during a trip once, quickly turned into a lot of surprise for the crew when the then 6-year-old began barking orders as if she had spent four decades at sea. With each journey she was progressively given more and more responsibilities until she eventually commanded her own ship. In that regard she was outpacing her brother Clovis massively.
She was 14 when her brother Clovis, then Lord of the Arbor, ran off to Essos. Within the week she was on board of her ship sailing east in order to find him and bring him home. Unfortunately for her that happened to be precisely when the fighting was going on in the Stepstones, and upon request by Queen Rhaenys she was forced to partake in the fighting first, giving her brother more than enough time to get lost somewhere in the eastern continent.
So, for about four years she sailed from town to town giving chase until she finally caught his trail and chased him down in Qarth, drunk out of his mind, in the courtyard of some local magister. She quickly put him on a ship and sailed back to the Arbor with him.
The following years proved rather uneventful. There was the occasional Ironborn party which came too close to the island for comfort and needed to be met with force. An occasional escort for some trade convoy. Most of the time, however, she spent tending to her family’s lands whenever Clovis again decided to sail to Essos on “business”. Whenever he overstayed, it was her duty to go and fetch him again.

Timeline

Family Tree

· Osric Redwyne, deceased, father
· Joanna Redwyne, 52, mother
o Clovis Redwyne, 31, brother - AC
o Olivia Redwyne, 26 - PC
o Lydia Redwyne, 21, cousin/half-sister
· Simon Redwyne, 55, uncle
· Lucas Redwyne, 52, uncle/step-father???

Supporting Characters

Samuel Bellamy – Master-at-Arms
Henry Avery – Ship Captain

Auxilary Character

Basic Information

Name and House: Clovis Redwyne
Age: 31
Cultural Group: Andal
Appearance: For lack of a better word, Clovis Redwyne looks very polite. He’s got the typical red Redwyne hair and blue eyes, along with soft curves to his face. He’s got a short beard which is just the result of him too often being too lazy to just shave properly. Along with that his cheeks also have a bit of a red tint to them as he is often at least a little inebriated. He is a bit taller than average and surprisingly fit considering his lifestyle, but that stems mostly from him just walking so damn much.
Trait: Numerate
Skill(s): Scrutinous, Broker, Apothecary
Talent(s): Sommelier, Merchant, dodging responsibilities
Negative Trait(s): -
Starting Title(s): Lord of the Arbor
Starting Location: opening feast
Alternate Characters: -

Biography

Clovis was born a few years before the conquest. He was the firstborn and heir of Osric Redwyne so, naturally, the man built up a very close bond with his son. Unfortunately, it did not take long for him to die. And while the young lordling still had a loving mother and two pretty cool uncles, he was still undeniably left with some deep-rooted emotional issues. Putting him in a castle with the largest wine reserves on the continent was never going to end well.
He was a bright kid, skilled with numbers writing, but while his younger sister was out sailing with her uncles, he was in the cellars getting absolutely steaming, shitfaced, three sheets to the wind, plastered, buckled, bollocksed, flutered, scuttered, rotten, tit-faced drunk. Many attempts were made to keep him sane and safe, but somehow, he always managed to get his hands on some wine to self-destruct with. Sometime during all this, someone in the family got the bright idea to arrange a marriage for him, hoping that a wife would somehow make him get his life back on track.
It backfired, and a week before the arranged wedding was to take place, Clovis and some of his friends got on board of a ship and fled Westeros. However, the journey did very soon become a big mess, as none of those present were skilled sailors and managed to get stranded somewhere near Volantis. Surprisingly, it was this event which put his life on A track, not the right track, but A track. He was still a Redwyne, and Wine was still in his blood, both figuratively and literally, so in Essos he found a use for his talents, by becoming a renowned wine merchant. He would travel from Free City to Free City, from vineyard to vineyard, tasting and trying and buying and selling some of the best and most interesting wines there were.
His renown even got him as far as the gates to the jade sea, where he was hired by a magister of Qarth to obtain wine for a feast the man planned to host. It is there that his younger sister eventually found him and brought him back to Westeros to actually be the Lord of the Arbor in more than just name.
With all being said, he was actually rather decent at the job too. Well, liked by his people, competent enough, and crucially, a very skilled wine merchant. A combination of these managed to bring a time of prosperity to the island province.
In the years which followed, he would still frequently travel to Essos but also to major wine-producing areas of Westeros to do the same thing he had done before: taste and try, buy and sell the best and most interesting wines out there.

So my demented father had to go to a rehab for 30 days. Hes had his parrots all his life. His male Eclectus passed away tonight suddenly. Dropped off his perch and was flapping on the ground. Im the time it took my husband to react he was gone. We have been meticulous with his feeding. Fresh/approved fruit and veggies, parrot seed, etc. Idk what to do. The male was 15 years old. The female is 20 she seems fine. And we have a blue macaw that is 70. Dad has had these birds his whole life. They have been in the livingroom with us for the social interaction. No space heaters. Far away from the kitchen. Does anyone have any ideas what would have happened? My dad is gonna be devastated.

City center apartments are frequently considered the greatest buy-to-lets, City center apartments are frequently considered the greatest buy-to-lets, but are they still a wise investment? Here, we’ll examine the benefits and drawbacks of this specific property type.

Why City Center Apartments (Can’t) Make Great Investments

Here are the primary factors that have contributed to new city center flats making excellent buy-to-let investments over time:
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• City center apartments are frequently affordable. Apartments in metropolitan areas are frequently less expensive per square foot than comparable homes in suburban areas.
  
• Apartments in the city center frequently have high letting yields. Even though city apartments frequently have higher rentals than suburban homes, the yields can still be higher.
  
• Those that prefer to live in urban areas and have easy access to public transportation, as opposed to commuting, frequently have a high demand for city-center apartments. People frequently rent rather than buy in city centers since they may want to stay there for a while.
  
• In city centers, there are many different renting options. Apartments in the city center can be rented to professionals, roommates, and students. They can also be used as short-term rentals or serviced lodging.
  
• Renting in the city center is a simple buy-to-let venture to own and manage. These may qualify as “hands-free” investments. A managing agent is responsible for the building’s upkeep, common areas, and grounds. (There are typically service fees to pay.)
  
• Investing in a city-center apartment development offers a variety of options. Compared to houses on the resale market, new flats are much simpler to find and purchase. Another scalable investment possibility is new construction. You can purchase one, a few, or several brand-new apartments.
  
• Newly constructed flats in city centers are frequently seen in areas undergoing regeneration and renovation. These neighborhoods frequently receive investments, which can raise property values as the area develops.
  
• More space to build new structures in some city centers, such as old ones. The potential for price growth is good, and any newly available properties may be in high demand. As implied by the name, new-build apartments are brand-new. They are frequently highly well-liked by tenants because they contain the newest amenities and cutting-edge designs. Also, new homes require little to no care in the future, saving investors money on ongoing expenses.
  
• The most energy-efficient properties are typically newly constructed. They are also well-liked by renters due to their cheap operating expenses. The minimal energy efficiency standards for buy-to-let properties should be readily met by investors purchasing brand-new apartments, both now and in the future.
  

Residing Outside of Burbs and Small Towns

Many people who have always wanted to live in a big city eventually give in to its pull and discover themselves in a much more populated and concentrated location than they did in the suburbs.
Although many people prefer to relocate to a city, only some are suited to city living. It goes considerably quicker and significantly differs from life in a small town or the suburbs. Before leaving the suburbs for the big city lights, you must weigh the benefits and drawbacks of living in a major metropolis, as with any place.
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benefits of residing in a city
Although city life has drawbacks, it makes up for them with all it offers. Large cities are important cultural hubs with thriving music and art scenes, a vast range of cuisine, additional attractions like museums, sporting events like ball games and concerts, and a diverse population sharing the urban lifestyle.

The Benefits of Living in a City

1. Meeting New Faces. Everywhere you go, you will meet new people. Nevertheless, in a metropolis, where a variety of people come from all over the world, the experience is different. A city also has a larger population. Thus you will frequently run into new people. It can be energizing and enlightening to meet and converse with new people who have had very diverse life experiences from your own.
2. Activities/ Night Life. You probably know your town very well and have done about everything there is to do if you have lived there for ten or more years. Even if you live in a major city for ten years, you won’t be able to take advantage of everything it has to offer. In a big city, there is always something to do to keep individuals from growing bored with their diverse interests. Most cities provide exciting nightlife, various cuisines to sample, shows of all kinds, museums, landmarks, parks, festivals, sporting events, and more. There are many options in big cities to join the scene if you are a musician, visual artist, or performer.
3. Public Transportation. The public transportation system is a decent alternative to driving your own vehicle and navigating big cities’ traffic and parking issues. You can go where you need to go using trains, subways, buses, taxis, and ride-sharing vehicles in cities. You can avoid the hassle of driving by using one of the many relatively reasonable public transit options, such as the bus or train. In most big cities, it’s possible to live without a car.
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4. Big Events. Major cities host the largest events, including sporting competitions, concerts, festivals, and art openings. You don’t need to make the long commutes to and from the suburbs to attend a concert or a baseball game.
5. Share Experience. The fact that everyone in a large metropolis with millions of residents comes from varied backgrounds and experiences city life similarly can be incredibly reassuring. Large cities are friendlier than most people think, and if you frequent the same spots and engage in the same pursuits, you’ll rapidly meet new individuals who share your interests and likely move there for similar reasons to yours.
7. Free Activities. There are numerous free things to do when planned effectively, even if many activities are normally more expensive due to the greater overhead costs. You can spend the entire day keeping occupied for free by going to the park, window shopping, touring museums on free days, and taking in the sights downtown. Even though you won’t be spending any money, you will undoubtedly spend time at these breathtaking locations and maximize your urban experience.
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8. Higher Salary. Employers are typically prepared to pay extra despite the high cost of living in the city. This is why many suburban residents commute into the city for a better wage while still taking advantage of the low cost of living.
9. More Jobs Available. Companies dominate city towers, so going without a job is difficult. However, locating one that pays your high rent could be challenging. But a city with many businesses also has many job prospects. You’re likely to find one you adore. According to statistics, those who live in major cities have access to more job prospects than those who live in the suburbs or smaller towns.
10. Close to Restaurants. In cities, there is always a need for fine dining. Within a mile or two, you can find a cuisine you appreciate, from fast food franchises to fine dining restos.
Although the city’s dining cost is typically greater due to increased rent, many restaurants offer lunch and supper deals and have food vendors available. You’ll need to research to take advantage of the best bargains.

The Disadvantages of Living in a City

Those who frequently travel to or work in a big city are aware of how troublesome they may be. Large cities might be more challenging to navigate because of the increased population, traffic, and neighborhood density. The biggest drawbacks of living in a big metropolis are as follows:
1. High Cost of Living. When people consider moving to a city, the increased cost of living is usually the first drawback they consider. Ordinary living costs like rent and utilities tend to be higher in big cities, and you can have additional costs like parking permits and laundry that you wouldn’t have in the suburbs. Major cities also have higher prices for gasoline, alcohol, food, and tobacco items.
2. Noise. Major cities typically have higher noise levels than the suburbs. Cities produce greater noise due to increased traffic, more people, trains, and neighboring airports with noisy jets flying in and out. A neighborhood may become noisier and more crowded due to special events like concerts and sporting events.
3. Limited Space. Downsizing your living area is nearly always required when moving from the suburbs to the city. Most people reside in flats in big cities; in some places, the apartments might be smaller. Having an outdoor area like a patio or yard is also uncommon. Homes with decent-sized yards are available in big cities but are significantly more expensive than homes in the suburbs. If you want to live in a city, you must be okay with your neighbors being on the other side of your walls in an apartment complex.
4. Limited Parking Space. Parking in a big city is an enormous nuisance compared to the suburbs. In the suburbs, parking is permitted in driveways and on residential streets, and most companies offer parking lots for patrons to utilize. Parking is only sometimes guaranteed in large cities. Streets with free parking quickly fill up because certain residential streets only allow permit parking, which requires you to purchase a permit. Some apartments have a designated parking place, albeit they are uncommon. Also, it is uncommon for businesses to have parking lots, so you will probably have to pay to park somewhere on the street, possibly even a few streets from where you need to go.
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5. Higher Auto-Vehicle Insurance Premiums. Congested city life will increase your chance of accidents if you must have a car and live in a city. As a result, city residents will pay a greater insurance premium than those who live in the suburbs.
6. Increasing Crime Rates. You can bet on urban locations to be riskier than smaller communities, even if some cities have higher crime rates than others. Crime increases with population.

The Current Situation of City Center Apartments

The majority of people concur that the real estate market has altered recently. Thus, it’s crucial to take into account a few factors when determining if new city center flats are still wise investments:

1. The real estate sector, notably the market for apartments in cities, has been impacted by Covid. People’s preferences for where to live (and rent) and what kinds of properties have been impacted. Nowadays, more people are working remotely. Some workers no longer require access to an office. Hence, renting or buying a home in the city center or living there is no longer necessary.
   
2. Some business offices in the city center have scaled back on their floor space. Less demand for city center flats may result from fewer individuals working in urban areas. The practice of hybrid working, where people work partially from home and partially from the office, is becoming more widespread. The same goes for flexible working, which allows employees to choose how much time they spend in the office each week. Often, newly constructed flats in city centers are small and need more space for working from home. In the so-called “race for space,” some city dwellers emigrated to the suburbs and the countryside to find more space.
   

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1. People became aware of the value of outdoor space for health and well-being because of Covid. Outdoor space is uncommon in newly constructed residences in city centers. Many people need easy access to public parks and other outdoor areas.
   
2. Currently, some things could be improved regarding the direction of the economy. There may be less demand for housing in city centers if businesses that employ people there cut their workforces. In certain cities, proposals exist to develop thousands of additional brand-new apartments in the city center. Apartments in these places may be harder to lease due to high levels of new supply and low projected demand. It could imply that their worth has not increased as much as it would have (or they might even fall in value).
   
3. Due to economic worries, apartment developers in the city center might opt to cut back their plans. Supplies could decrease. Future shortages of this kind of real estate may occur.
   
4. Renters and builders compete. In some cities, build-to-rent, or BTR, is growing in acceptance. Large developers and financial entities fund and construct flats to be rented out rather than sold. Build-to-rent apartment buildings give private landlords in the city center additional competition in the rental market.
   
5. Co-living projects, where investors construct towers of studio apartments with shared facilities, are starting to pop up in several city centers. They may increase the level of competition for apartment rentals.
   
6. but are they still a wise investment? Here, we’ll examine the benefits and drawbacks of this specific property type.
   

Why City Center Apartments (Can’t) Make Great Investments

Here are the primary factors that have contributed to new city center flats making excellent buy-to-let investments over time:

I 23(F) worked for an 80(M) Dentist for about 3 years, and what I observed and endured as an employee during that time traumatized me and made me quit dental assisting in general, not because I didn't like it but because I loved it just not the dentist and I'm going to just break it down the best I can.
Starting off this specific dentist is really well known in my city, he has been practicing for 50 years now. However not much has changed in that 50 years. His office is so old that patients will come in from 1989 and say how not a single thing has been updated or changed. The floor is carpeted with rotting wood underneath and he just doesn't care. He has like creepy dolls all around the office and creepy clowns. I almost feel like he won't change anything because he wants to still feel like he's in his prime like it's the 80's/90's still.
He denies the fact that he's getting older, he says he is 44 years old when physically and literally he is not. So maybe this is some type of symptoms of a disorder. This is just some background so you can understand the full picture.
So he only hires women of lighter complexions, also certain body size, small not to skinny but curvy but not too big. You have to have long blown out hair that's always fixed, his old rule used to be that you could not wear your hair up bc it's not appealing to him. Also you can't wear glasses for the same reason. If you were trying to get a girl to work there he would have to see a picture of her first and she couldn't have tattoos or "bad teeth" even though he would put braces on staff members for free and I witnessed that, if it was "too much" the person would be a no for him. Even having a simple nose ring was against his rules.
I started working for him when I was 19 turning 20. So I was pretty young and didn't really realize until later that all of this was just so toxic and it gets worse.And so when I found out my pregnancy was healthy I announced it and they decided to not train me on patients for pretty much my entire pregnancy because they thought i would just have my baby and leave
After being post partum and working while also being a first time mom to a baby, I begin to lose a lot of weight because I guess I was stressed. I went from being my normal weight 135 to 116 pounds.
The doctor would comment on my body and say things about my weight loss in front of patients. It made me very insecure and uncomfortable two things I have never felt in my life at a job. I started to have body dysmorphia from working for this man. When he looked at me it felt as if he was staring through me and picking me apart. And no one should I have to feel like that in the work place.
I fell into a deep depression because feeling like I can't go find a new job because as terrible as it sounds, I was attached to the toxic abuse cycle there. He would love bomb and compliment you so heavily that you almost felt bad for thinking of leaving cuz he was so old. He would say things like how much he loved your personality, you were the best employee, best with patients. It was definitely creepy. Also I felt as if I were to try to leave he would be upset or it felt like I was breaking a trusted bond. So I continued working and things...got worse
Enough about my personal experience but now for the patients.The doctor treated each patient nothing more than a dollar sign. Unless they were a known person in the community, a family friend, he would give them treatment but if they had questions or concerns about their teeth he would be very dismissive, and if they argued back he would pretty much belittle them and make them feel like they were stupid for asking a question. Saying what they wanted was "impossible" because that's "the way their teeth were". I watched him take braces off of patients and their teeth were still not aligned properly, I watched him accidentally set a patient on fire, I watched him give a girl bone loss, she lost her tooth because of something he did incorrectly.
Not to mention his entire staff has not been to any type of dental school, every single person hired basically with no experience. I was told because he couldn't "afford it", yet the man has multiple million dollar homes and luxury cars....
To even scam us further he sent us to take a super lax unsupervised "test" that he said would make us certified assistants. Came to find out that was nothing more than a piece of paper.
Not to mention probably more things he has done, like practicing half blind, also urinating on himself daily and it being reported and nothing done about it.The sterilization was absolutely horrifying. Their method is not to use an autoclave but to throw all dirty instruments in a basket and throw them in an old machine that had sterilization and water and put them through an oven baking them.
Also cold sterile which was not monitored properly, and did not soak for 24 hours. Sometimes 5-10 minutes. I just got so tired of not only him being misogynistic, but not caring for health and safety of patients, or even staff members.
And the rest of the current staff members, my heart does hurt for them for them to be in this kind of abusive cycle for so long and not want to remove themselves and realize they deserve better. This kind of environment should not be normalized. And I've watch him say god awful things about every single one of them behind their back and it's honestly sad. Why would you stand by this especially for the incredibly low amounts of pay.
Making yourself look weak to him while he sits back and laughs. It's really sad and I pray for them. And I'm telling the truth and stand by it on everything I say. No I did not get fired, I quit the job. Because I couldn't take the negativity any longer. But the more I think about it the more it angers me for people that give their money to this man.
Im currently enrolled in the Dental Hygiene program at a college. I'm really excited to become a an RDH but the thing is I'm scared working for him and just cold quitting will ruin my career. Also My question is should I report him to OSHA?