Online ruler actual sizep
Just frustrating when people can’t take no as an answer
2024.05.21 19:19 DraconianPaladin Just frustrating when people can’t take no as an answer
So I’ve been trying to make more friends online and I thought I made a friend with an artist. We message each other on discord and it was cool and I commissioned some art to you know to support my friend and get some art of my character for dnd and that’s all cool and all (note I don’t commission a lot due to irl bills and actually be smart with my money) so they offered to invite their friend into our chat which I was fine with it and they’re also an artist so we talk and it was cool to talk to them so eventually they started talking to me via dm and they also asked if I would commission art from them too and I said I would love to commission but I couldn’t since I have less money atm due to me getting sick and losing a week and half of time at work so my check was small and the money I have needed to pay the bills so I told them no I couldn’t right now but I’ll let them know if I want something drawn so literally everyday they asked me to commission and to send them money constantly and I tried to be nice to them but I got tired of them the moment they tried to guilt trip me so I blocked them and I’m feeling extremely frustrated atm
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2024.05.21 19:16 Dookie12345679 What if Imu isn't evil?
This theory will be pretty simple. In the new leaks, Vegapunk says that he couldn't conclude which idea in the Void Century battle was right or wrong. We know that Joyboy lost this battle and that the WG was formed after, so this battle was likely Joyboy's ideology Vs. Imu's
Joyboy stood for freedom, so Imu probably stood for control. So Joyboy must be the good one here, right? Well, since Vegapunk couldn't decide, it can't be that simple
Here comes the main theory. What if Joyboy represented freedom, but this freedom lead to people like Blackbeard existing and innocent civilians getting harmed? Imu could've decided that a world without freedom Is safer for its people. And to make sure that happened, he made himself the secret ruler of the world. This would mean that Imu isn't actually evil, just someone who would do anything for the safety and order of the world
The reason he wants the void century to remain a secret is so Joyboy's idea doesn't spread and the WG remains in control
This other theory is more so speculation, but what if Imu was once a part of Joyboy's crew and they had a fall out due to their different ideas, similar to Luffy and Usopp?
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Joyboy stood for freedom, so Imu probably stood for control. So Joyboy must be the good one here, right? Well, since Vegapunk couldn't decide, it can't be that simple
Here comes the main theory. What if Joyboy represented freedom, but this freedom lead to people like Blackbeard existing and innocent civilians getting harmed? Imu could've decided that a world without freedom Is safer for its people. And to make sure that happened, he made himself the secret ruler of the world. This would mean that Imu isn't actually evil, just someone who would do anything for the safety and order of the world
The reason he wants the void century to remain a secret is so Joyboy's idea doesn't spread and the WG remains in control
This other theory is more so speculation, but what if Imu was once a part of Joyboy's crew and they had a fall out due to their different ideas, similar to Luffy and Usopp?
2024.05.21 19:15 Educational-Let-1027 [Discussion] Why is my crush so worried about my mental health when he hurt me and cut contact with me years ago?
I made a post a few weeks ago about Eddie. Three years ago, I befriended “Eddie” on vacation. I liked him, and he liked me. He confided in the wrong people about his crush on me, and I found out. However, Eddie actually had a girlfriend, and cut contact with me. He was friends with mostly everyone else on social media except me. I never really got any closure or resolution around this situation. Eddie and I never spoke after the trip. So for years, I’ve always wondered about how he really felt about me.
Eddie and his girlfriend broke up two months later, but he never tried contacting me. I kind of suspected that he looked at my TikTok videos, but I also know that for months after, he wasn’t over his ex. This situation happened during the height of the pandemic, so while I knew it would be best to move on, I couldn’t. If this situation happened at any other time, I likely would’ve forgotten Eddie within a couple of weeks or months. But classes were online. I couldn’t meet anyone. For a good year, I had feelings for Eddie, but again, nothing ever came of it.
This past summer, I was heartbroken over another failed crush. I was just going through a lot in general, and I spent most of my days high on drugs. I posted TikTok videos about heartbreak and depression. Sometimes I’d post five TikToks in a night. Sometimes, I’d reupload these videos. I don’t know why. I guess I was bored. And while I still wondered about Eddie, I didn’t think he ever looked my social media.
Little did I know, Eddie saw me posting these videos online, and contacted our friends. He asked them to see if I was posting anything else on my Instagram, which is private. Nothing’s happened since then, but I’m wondering why Eddie cares. I don’t think Eddie is this evil sociopath or anything, but it’s not like he showed me any care or consideration back then when he actually hurt me. So why? Is this some misguided way of absolving himself of guilt?
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Eddie and his girlfriend broke up two months later, but he never tried contacting me. I kind of suspected that he looked at my TikTok videos, but I also know that for months after, he wasn’t over his ex. This situation happened during the height of the pandemic, so while I knew it would be best to move on, I couldn’t. If this situation happened at any other time, I likely would’ve forgotten Eddie within a couple of weeks or months. But classes were online. I couldn’t meet anyone. For a good year, I had feelings for Eddie, but again, nothing ever came of it.
This past summer, I was heartbroken over another failed crush. I was just going through a lot in general, and I spent most of my days high on drugs. I posted TikTok videos about heartbreak and depression. Sometimes I’d post five TikToks in a night. Sometimes, I’d reupload these videos. I don’t know why. I guess I was bored. And while I still wondered about Eddie, I didn’t think he ever looked my social media.
Little did I know, Eddie saw me posting these videos online, and contacted our friends. He asked them to see if I was posting anything else on my Instagram, which is private. Nothing’s happened since then, but I’m wondering why Eddie cares. I don’t think Eddie is this evil sociopath or anything, but it’s not like he showed me any care or consideration back then when he actually hurt me. So why? Is this some misguided way of absolving himself of guilt?
2024.05.21 19:13 Slow_Balance270 Starting to collect the TMNT classics figures, would like some advice.
(Originally posted over in toys, was told I may have better luck here)
Last Monday I walked in to my local Walmart and they had a selection of the Playmates reproduction line of the classic Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles action figures from the late 80s and early 90s. I picked up the ones I wanted and was thrilled with my find. These toys were a huge part of my childhood.
Since then I have went back twice during my lunch break to see if they restocked any and so far they have not.
My Sister used to work as a toys department manager and I asked her about it, she said there was no specific day that they restocked toys but if I called I could talk to someone and they would be able to tell me when their next restock was and even what they'd be getting.
She told me there used to be a website you could go to and look it up yourself, that she had a customer who collected hot wheels who knew what was coming on the truck before she did but she couldn't remember the web address.
I called Walmart but I couldn't get anyone who worked in toys, I talked to the operator, who claims they are only sold online even though I literally bought some last week in store. I have a feeling they were just using the regular Walmart website to check their inventory instead of what my Sister described, which sounds like a slightly deeper dive in their actual inventory system and not the website.
I really don't wanna encourage scalpers, these figures retail for roughly $10 USD each and the online prices are insane. Does anyone have any tricks or tips for collecting? Maybe someone here knows what website my Sister is talking about?
Also, Walmart is my only retailer close enough for me to visit or I'd check out other stores. The closest Target is over 3 hours away.
I appreciate it.
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Last Monday I walked in to my local Walmart and they had a selection of the Playmates reproduction line of the classic Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles action figures from the late 80s and early 90s. I picked up the ones I wanted and was thrilled with my find. These toys were a huge part of my childhood.
Since then I have went back twice during my lunch break to see if they restocked any and so far they have not.
My Sister used to work as a toys department manager and I asked her about it, she said there was no specific day that they restocked toys but if I called I could talk to someone and they would be able to tell me when their next restock was and even what they'd be getting.
She told me there used to be a website you could go to and look it up yourself, that she had a customer who collected hot wheels who knew what was coming on the truck before she did but she couldn't remember the web address.
I called Walmart but I couldn't get anyone who worked in toys, I talked to the operator, who claims they are only sold online even though I literally bought some last week in store. I have a feeling they were just using the regular Walmart website to check their inventory instead of what my Sister described, which sounds like a slightly deeper dive in their actual inventory system and not the website.
I really don't wanna encourage scalpers, these figures retail for roughly $10 USD each and the online prices are insane. Does anyone have any tricks or tips for collecting? Maybe someone here knows what website my Sister is talking about?
Also, Walmart is my only retailer close enough for me to visit or I'd check out other stores. The closest Target is over 3 hours away.
I appreciate it.
2024.05.21 19:11 NewLexican Engineering gameplay doesn't make me feel like an engineer
Since backing SC in 2013, I've advocated that profession-based gameplay should be the cornerstone of building the player experience.
After playing the 3.23 experimental mode and watching (for the first time) the CitCon 2023 segment, I can say engineering gameplay doesn't do a thing to make me feel like an engineer.
Returning to the first point, with repairing ship components - Resource Management would be a topic for another discussion - CIG has delivered Barotrauma's gameplay in a spaceship. Instead of using a magic wrench to fight flooding and repair equipment in a submarine, we have a magic pistol to fight fires and repair equipment in a spaceship.
Back in 2021, I authored a post on the importance of authentic-feeling profession-based gameplay in which I deconstructed and rebuilt mining as an example. If the mining gameplay mechanic had instead been introduced as part of hacking gameplay - siphoning data off a network while keeping the data flow rate high enough to finish in time but low enough to not alert intrusion detection systems - nobody would have questioned it. Nothing about mining gameplay makes it feel specific to working on large rocks.
Now, like rocks, ship components are non-descript containers filled with numbers, and repairing them entails no more than pointing a magic beam that improves the health number. Where's the engineering?
Instead, imagine if ship components had two, three, or four printed circuit boards (like your computer's motherboard) in them. Conductive lines, called traces, connect bobs and doodads that combine to fulfill some function.
The repair process would entail using the cutting tool to remove the damaged area of a board. The board is scanned, and a mobile 3D printer - maybe a couple of levitating dinner plate-sized discs - prints a replacement patch and inserts the bobs and doodads. The engineer affixes the patch, which fuses into place. They then use an extruder attachment on the multitool - think a plumber's caulking gun - to fill conductive RMC in groves that indicate the trace locations.
Simple enough that doing routine maintenance doesn't become drudgery while being involved enough that performing it in a stressful situation is non-trivial.
Simple additions like a curing time for the 3D-printed patch material could add more engineering flavor to a mission's story.
"Captain, engines are functional again, but I'll need to refurbish the whole thing when we get back to port if we put too much stress on them now."
Imagine now if each quadrant of a board fulfilled some function. This cluster of bobs and doodads together perform power regulation. Another cluster does signal focusing, etc. With this design, an engineer could restore partial functionality in time-sensitive situations.
"Captain, the shields are back online, but someone will have to babysit the power triangle if we run them at more than 50%."
Further, imagine if the actual layout of traces, bobs, and doodads on the board mattered in the context of simple principles: coherence and interference.
Coherence - E.g., to perform the function of power regulation, these seven bobs and doodads must be physically located near enough to one another.
Interference - Bobs, doodads, and traces all generate fields of "interference" in both electrical (current) and thermal domains. Too close proximity impacts wear and tear and can result in failures.
So, we have a tug-of-war between competing objectives on a surface with limited real estate. Factors like total trace length could impact performance, power efficiency, or whatever.
How does this design impact the player experience?
While mining a lucrative field of rocks in the upper atmosphere of a gas giant, an Orion's sensors go down. The engineer finds two traces showing overcurrent damage in adjacent locations on board #3. Repairs are made, but forty minutes later, another failure. More precisely, the same failure. The engineer suspects something about the environment is causing an electrical arc between the two traces.
Knowing there's a lot more wealth to be mined at the planet, the captain contracts a Reliant Sen to survey the upper atmosphere of the giant. The Sen captain delivers a computer simulation of the atmosphere to the Orion's engineer who plugs it into their workbench. Testing reveals that, in this environment, the interference in the "current domain" for traces is exaggerated. So, the board layout needs to be adjusted to move the closest traces further apart; time to play tug-of-war.
Engineering gameplay that makes you feel like an engineer...
For me, too much of too many profession-based systems is being abstracted at too high a level to deliver engaging gameplay. Moreover, abstraction at a high level means the universe lacks fundamental structures that can tie different professions, and players, together.
Imagine in our gas giant example, if the failure wasn't caused by forty minutes of accumulated electrical damage, but by waves of high-energy particles arriving in 40-minute intervals. The Sen pilot may want to investigate the source of the particles, but she'll need an engineer's solution for her ship first. Furthermore, an Orion crew member may think to ask, "If these particles are wrecking our equipment, what are they doing to our bodies?"
Miners, engineers, scientists, and doctors all writing their personal chapters in a larger, authentic, and connected story.
Crossposted to Spectrum.
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After playing the 3.23 experimental mode and watching (for the first time) the CitCon 2023 segment, I can say engineering gameplay doesn't do a thing to make me feel like an engineer.
- Engineering gameplay is mostly devoid of engineering principles.
- What seems to be the intended source of "fun" won't work at all scales.
Returning to the first point, with repairing ship components - Resource Management would be a topic for another discussion - CIG has delivered Barotrauma's gameplay in a spaceship. Instead of using a magic wrench to fight flooding and repair equipment in a submarine, we have a magic pistol to fight fires and repair equipment in a spaceship.
Back in 2021, I authored a post on the importance of authentic-feeling profession-based gameplay in which I deconstructed and rebuilt mining as an example. If the mining gameplay mechanic had instead been introduced as part of hacking gameplay - siphoning data off a network while keeping the data flow rate high enough to finish in time but low enough to not alert intrusion detection systems - nobody would have questioned it. Nothing about mining gameplay makes it feel specific to working on large rocks.
Now, like rocks, ship components are non-descript containers filled with numbers, and repairing them entails no more than pointing a magic beam that improves the health number. Where's the engineering?
Instead, imagine if ship components had two, three, or four printed circuit boards (like your computer's motherboard) in them. Conductive lines, called traces, connect bobs and doodads that combine to fulfill some function.
The repair process would entail using the cutting tool to remove the damaged area of a board. The board is scanned, and a mobile 3D printer - maybe a couple of levitating dinner plate-sized discs - prints a replacement patch and inserts the bobs and doodads. The engineer affixes the patch, which fuses into place. They then use an extruder attachment on the multitool - think a plumber's caulking gun - to fill conductive RMC in groves that indicate the trace locations.
Simple enough that doing routine maintenance doesn't become drudgery while being involved enough that performing it in a stressful situation is non-trivial.
Simple additions like a curing time for the 3D-printed patch material could add more engineering flavor to a mission's story.
"Captain, engines are functional again, but I'll need to refurbish the whole thing when we get back to port if we put too much stress on them now."
Imagine now if each quadrant of a board fulfilled some function. This cluster of bobs and doodads together perform power regulation. Another cluster does signal focusing, etc. With this design, an engineer could restore partial functionality in time-sensitive situations.
"Captain, the shields are back online, but someone will have to babysit the power triangle if we run them at more than 50%."
Further, imagine if the actual layout of traces, bobs, and doodads on the board mattered in the context of simple principles: coherence and interference.
Coherence - E.g., to perform the function of power regulation, these seven bobs and doodads must be physically located near enough to one another.
Interference - Bobs, doodads, and traces all generate fields of "interference" in both electrical (current) and thermal domains. Too close proximity impacts wear and tear and can result in failures.
So, we have a tug-of-war between competing objectives on a surface with limited real estate. Factors like total trace length could impact performance, power efficiency, or whatever.
How does this design impact the player experience?
While mining a lucrative field of rocks in the upper atmosphere of a gas giant, an Orion's sensors go down. The engineer finds two traces showing overcurrent damage in adjacent locations on board #3. Repairs are made, but forty minutes later, another failure. More precisely, the same failure. The engineer suspects something about the environment is causing an electrical arc between the two traces.
Knowing there's a lot more wealth to be mined at the planet, the captain contracts a Reliant Sen to survey the upper atmosphere of the giant. The Sen captain delivers a computer simulation of the atmosphere to the Orion's engineer who plugs it into their workbench. Testing reveals that, in this environment, the interference in the "current domain" for traces is exaggerated. So, the board layout needs to be adjusted to move the closest traces further apart; time to play tug-of-war.
Engineering gameplay that makes you feel like an engineer...
For me, too much of too many profession-based systems is being abstracted at too high a level to deliver engaging gameplay. Moreover, abstraction at a high level means the universe lacks fundamental structures that can tie different professions, and players, together.
Imagine in our gas giant example, if the failure wasn't caused by forty minutes of accumulated electrical damage, but by waves of high-energy particles arriving in 40-minute intervals. The Sen pilot may want to investigate the source of the particles, but she'll need an engineer's solution for her ship first. Furthermore, an Orion crew member may think to ask, "If these particles are wrecking our equipment, what are they doing to our bodies?"
Miners, engineers, scientists, and doctors all writing their personal chapters in a larger, authentic, and connected story.
Crossposted to Spectrum.
2024.05.21 19:05 Molalla Just finished all of SG-1 for the first time. [long diatribe]
Including the movies, I also watched Atlantis before SG-1 because the practical effects for the symbiotes freaked me out too much in ep1 so my bf had to gradually get me into it lol. Also apologies for the points being all over the place series-wise I'm going from freshest memories to weakest and I apologise if a lot of my complaints are dumb I do genuinely love the series.
The biggest point I wanted to make is searching through this sub I found a post from liek 4 years ago that resonated so hard with me, shoutout to the person wh osaid they wanted to climb Daniel like a tree, based.
Speaking of: the whole glasses on-glasses off Daniel was jarring, does his eyesight just get magically better and then not or are the glasses just to make scenes hotter? Also how many times does this man need to ascend? Jesus.
I gotta admit, it REALLY weirded me out, the whole symbiote thing at first, especially calling Teal'c symbiote at first "Junior" like.. maybe I'm a bit terminally online but the amount of horrific MPreg art I've had to see of other fandoms it really weirded me out. I'm glad Tretonin became a thing.
Also another thing that seemed to occur a lot was peoples wives getting stolen by other men, like probably the hardest thing for someone to go through, very rude, none of those good boys deserved to be cuckolded like that.
Mitchell grew on me, at first I think his writing was really weak but he became one of my favorites (i'd climb him like a tree too), I liked his demeanor and I wish he got to show more of him flying jets around. Vala was fun but I really don't know how they could just accept the apology of a woman who tried to steal a US space battleship and grope all over Daniel when he clearly wasn't into it. Little weird to write him into being into her later on but I guess I'm just happy he got to heal and have closure about his (ex?)-wife.
Tok'ra sucked. Hated them. All they ever did was screw over SG-1 and use them and they kept claiming they were homies. Nah they basically said 'fuck you you're untrustworthy even though you let us slurp up Carters dad and saved our asses including one of our queens' and the big fuck you of being completely absent during the Ori season.
I actually liked the Ori as a villain, I hated Adrea though she was just.. weird, why hot mommy leading a bunch of old magic dudes? Why didn't we use the anti-prior devices more? Why did SG-1 just actively get fucked at every turn? WHY DIDNT WE SHOOT ADREA WHEN THE BIG OLD DRAGON WAS COMING SHE WAS POWERLESS HELLO?
Also during the movies I got really excited about the Achilles being the boat even if it's... a boat. He's just my favorite mythology guy. I also cried every time Daniel got hurt or sad in the movies and wanted to give up, Michael Shanks is a awesome actor. Also I'm in the camp of liking Ark of Truth (dumb weapon but still) more than Continuum, maybe because Continuum ending meant no more fun space friends :(
Also shoutout to the naked space flower planet episode it was so good I loved how weird it was.
Extra Bonus thoughts: Rodney McKay is incredible and funny as hell in Atlantis and I hated how the kept being racist / fucking over the one Wraith literally giving their "we're gonna make you un-suckables now" treatment a try, and how the ending was just driving off in a convertible to some rad music? Okay that was kinda based
Extra Extra bonus, I just watched Universe first episode last night. A few takeaways other than how sad this shit is trying to be.
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The biggest point I wanted to make is searching through this sub I found a post from liek 4 years ago that resonated so hard with me, shoutout to the person wh osaid they wanted to climb Daniel like a tree, based.
Speaking of: the whole glasses on-glasses off Daniel was jarring, does his eyesight just get magically better and then not or are the glasses just to make scenes hotter? Also how many times does this man need to ascend? Jesus.
I gotta admit, it REALLY weirded me out, the whole symbiote thing at first, especially calling Teal'c symbiote at first "Junior" like.. maybe I'm a bit terminally online but the amount of horrific MPreg art I've had to see of other fandoms it really weirded me out. I'm glad Tretonin became a thing.
Also another thing that seemed to occur a lot was peoples wives getting stolen by other men, like probably the hardest thing for someone to go through, very rude, none of those good boys deserved to be cuckolded like that.
Mitchell grew on me, at first I think his writing was really weak but he became one of my favorites (i'd climb him like a tree too), I liked his demeanor and I wish he got to show more of him flying jets around. Vala was fun but I really don't know how they could just accept the apology of a woman who tried to steal a US space battleship and grope all over Daniel when he clearly wasn't into it. Little weird to write him into being into her later on but I guess I'm just happy he got to heal and have closure about his (ex?)-wife.
Tok'ra sucked. Hated them. All they ever did was screw over SG-1 and use them and they kept claiming they were homies. Nah they basically said 'fuck you you're untrustworthy even though you let us slurp up Carters dad and saved our asses including one of our queens' and the big fuck you of being completely absent during the Ori season.
I actually liked the Ori as a villain, I hated Adrea though she was just.. weird, why hot mommy leading a bunch of old magic dudes? Why didn't we use the anti-prior devices more? Why did SG-1 just actively get fucked at every turn? WHY DIDNT WE SHOOT ADREA WHEN THE BIG OLD DRAGON WAS COMING SHE WAS POWERLESS HELLO?
Also during the movies I got really excited about the Achilles being the boat even if it's... a boat. He's just my favorite mythology guy. I also cried every time Daniel got hurt or sad in the movies and wanted to give up, Michael Shanks is a awesome actor. Also I'm in the camp of liking Ark of Truth (dumb weapon but still) more than Continuum, maybe because Continuum ending meant no more fun space friends :(
Also shoutout to the naked space flower planet episode it was so good I loved how weird it was.
Extra Bonus thoughts: Rodney McKay is incredible and funny as hell in Atlantis and I hated how the kept being racist / fucking over the one Wraith literally giving their "we're gonna make you un-suckables now" treatment a try, and how the ending was just driving off in a convertible to some rad music? Okay that was kinda based
Extra Extra bonus, I just watched Universe first episode last night. A few takeaways other than how sad this shit is trying to be.
- I don't even remember his name but are you seriously going to put the supposed (I think) self-insert protag in a fucking "YOU ARE HERE" shirt to really drive the point home? CAN I REALLY JUST PLAY VIDEOGAMES TO BECOME PART OF THE STARGATE TEAM? WHAT
- That sex scene jumpscared me I literally covered my face until it was over
- no eye candy so far character wise 0/10 except for our old homies showing up
- i'm not gonna cry over a politician dying no matter how sad you try to paint it lol
2024.05.21 19:04 Dazzling_Material340 How do I (35M) get my life back after caring for my father (75M)?
Where to even start with this one. I promise you it’s not even what you think.
My Dad has been ill for many years with a condition that is now finally stable. He’s had a couple of horrible other conditions running alongside the original, one of which was pretty damn gruesome and still gives me PTSD dreams. There were a fair few surprise trips to the emergency room to get that one under wraps but we managed to get it settled down with the correct medication.
He was generally fine day-to-day, but anything serious that needed to be dealt with he struggled with which left me managing all his medical correspondence and financial affairs went through me for the past 5 or 6 years since he couldn’t mentally cope with any of it and there was me who could step in for him other than the nurses who still attend his house once a day even now since he can’t manage his own medication.
We had quite a good relationship, he’d come over for coffee and chats and would watch silly TV with me, show interest in my life and included me in his hobbies. We spoke a lot on the phone and things generally ticked along quite nicely in between medical problems.
Enter: The girlfriend.
I’ll start by saying I’m not in any way opposed to him having a girlfriend or partner at all. I even helped him do online dating for a little bit since he felt he wanted to get back on the scene after recovering. He met his now girlfriend through friends and ever since she’s been around him things have been off between us. She was living with her long term ex partner and was seeing my Dad at the same time, before leaving him and moving in “unofficially” with my Dad.
I expressed concerns about this situation and have been branded the bad guy, and am being seen as “attacking” him and having a problem with her. I’ve never met this woman. How could I dislike someone I’ve never met? I’m morally opposed to cheating and felt it was my right to say I didn’t agree but I have never once said I had anything against his actual girlfriend, only the decisions she’s made. I tried to be tactical and gentle in my approach as well but this was met with defensiveness and aggression.
I’ve spent the last few years trying my best to help him and sometimes making myself ill with stress because I love and care about him. He’s my Dad.
But now he doesn’t call, only tells me selective information about what he’s doing and has basically moved his girlfriend in full time after about 2 months, they’ve also booked various vacations together and he seems to be spending far more money than he has.
I feel like he has explicitly made it clear he no longer wants my help with anything and is no longer interested in my life. He no longer welcomes me into his life.
How do I get my own life back after I’ve spent so many years tending to his? I’ve had to abandon my hobbies since I had to be on call for him and make room in my life to help in his medical emergencies. I live nearby in case he needs my help, but I now find myself in a place where I’ve gone from being “on call” to no longer needed in less than a couple of months.
How do I adjust to this and rediscover who I am outside of all this mess, so so can start living for myself again?
TL;DR: I spent many years caring for my ill father who struggled with medication and treatment. I did my best and we became close and talked a lot. Now he has a new girlfriend who he has moved in after 2 months and he’s pretty much stopped talking to me. How do I adjust to this jarring change in my life?
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My Dad has been ill for many years with a condition that is now finally stable. He’s had a couple of horrible other conditions running alongside the original, one of which was pretty damn gruesome and still gives me PTSD dreams. There were a fair few surprise trips to the emergency room to get that one under wraps but we managed to get it settled down with the correct medication.
He was generally fine day-to-day, but anything serious that needed to be dealt with he struggled with which left me managing all his medical correspondence and financial affairs went through me for the past 5 or 6 years since he couldn’t mentally cope with any of it and there was me who could step in for him other than the nurses who still attend his house once a day even now since he can’t manage his own medication.
We had quite a good relationship, he’d come over for coffee and chats and would watch silly TV with me, show interest in my life and included me in his hobbies. We spoke a lot on the phone and things generally ticked along quite nicely in between medical problems.
Enter: The girlfriend.
I’ll start by saying I’m not in any way opposed to him having a girlfriend or partner at all. I even helped him do online dating for a little bit since he felt he wanted to get back on the scene after recovering. He met his now girlfriend through friends and ever since she’s been around him things have been off between us. She was living with her long term ex partner and was seeing my Dad at the same time, before leaving him and moving in “unofficially” with my Dad.
I expressed concerns about this situation and have been branded the bad guy, and am being seen as “attacking” him and having a problem with her. I’ve never met this woman. How could I dislike someone I’ve never met? I’m morally opposed to cheating and felt it was my right to say I didn’t agree but I have never once said I had anything against his actual girlfriend, only the decisions she’s made. I tried to be tactical and gentle in my approach as well but this was met with defensiveness and aggression.
I’ve spent the last few years trying my best to help him and sometimes making myself ill with stress because I love and care about him. He’s my Dad.
But now he doesn’t call, only tells me selective information about what he’s doing and has basically moved his girlfriend in full time after about 2 months, they’ve also booked various vacations together and he seems to be spending far more money than he has.
I feel like he has explicitly made it clear he no longer wants my help with anything and is no longer interested in my life. He no longer welcomes me into his life.
How do I get my own life back after I’ve spent so many years tending to his? I’ve had to abandon my hobbies since I had to be on call for him and make room in my life to help in his medical emergencies. I live nearby in case he needs my help, but I now find myself in a place where I’ve gone from being “on call” to no longer needed in less than a couple of months.
How do I adjust to this and rediscover who I am outside of all this mess, so so can start living for myself again?
TL;DR: I spent many years caring for my ill father who struggled with medication and treatment. I did my best and we became close and talked a lot. Now he has a new girlfriend who he has moved in after 2 months and he’s pretty much stopped talking to me. How do I adjust to this jarring change in my life?
2024.05.21 19:04 MAMcIntosh Cancel Culture: Can Public Shaming Actually Be Healthy for Online Communities?
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2024.05.21 18:57 CholaPeroBonita Seeking Career Guidance and Support: 3+ Years on This SWE Journey
Hi, all! 👋
Now, I guess I’ll get right into my reason for posting this: I’d love some advice/insight/thoughts from y’all on recommendations for my next steps in this career transition towards software development because I’ve been struggling for awhile with finding a FT or even PT role.
Throughout this time, my mental health has also declined greatly (while on this journey, I’ve actually started antidepressant medication for the first time ever because my mental health has exponentially decreased, and have also seen a few different therapists in the same span of time).
Undergrad Education (2015 - 2019): I am a first-gen college grad and earned a bachelors in biochem & environmental science summer 2019. I discovered computer science during my junior year of college (by then, it was too late to take more courses in CS let alone attempt to make a switch without staying an extra year, which my scholarships would not cover). After graduating college, I was still interested in learning more about CS, so I took an Introduction to Programming in C course at my local community college, and not only earned an A, but also thoroughly enjoyed the content.
Grad School (Spring 2022): Enrolled in an online Masters in CS at Case Western Reserve University for those without CS degrees with a $30,000 grant from the dept. Took Discrete Mathematics and Algorithms & Data Structures in Java (those of us w/o a CS degree had to pass these before being able to move into the rest of the program where we’d be merged with those who DID have CS degrees), but paused due to my younger brother's unexpected passing.
Bootcamp (Fall 2022): Received a full-ride scholarship to a bootcamp (1/15 out of 1200 applicants accepted) where I learned full-stack development with Python, JavaScript, SQL, Flask, AJAX, and React, among other technologies. Graduated December 2022.
Further Learning (Spring/Summer 2023): Accepted into Code the Dream’s React course, dedicating over 20 hours per week to mastering React all while volunteering to work on open-source projects.
Internship (Fall 2023 - Present): I was interning at an early-stage Ed Tech startup up until the end of April, contributing to building an app from the ground up. I Gained experience in code writing/reviewing, CI/CD methodology, technical communication, and working on a software development team along with other teams like the content team and design team.
With regards to the startup, they’ve informed me that they do not have sufficient funding to bring me on. Furthermore, about a month after the internship contract officially ended, the other female intern (graduated from the same bootcamp, although different cohorts) at the startup also let me know that she was being brought on again for an extended contract, and asked if I was offered the same—to which I replied that no, I wasn’t. I guess she also has an associates in CS, which also helps and I am not mad at her for anything and support her and uplift her, but as you can imagine, I am a little disappointed (more in myself than anything, I guess). It just makes me feel a bit crushed. I made myself always available (even after hours), replied quickly, got along super well with everyone, got my tasks all done for the most part. ==> Towards the end, I was tasked with a particularly difficult task, and was able to get through a good chunk of a new game, but was not able to fully finish. During this period, I was also struggling to get ahold of my ADHD meds, but they seemed to be out of stock everywhere, so that also didn't help.
I know that my math skills probably aren’t on par with those of others in the field, and I know that I need to work on those as well, so if you have any suggestions for free resources for that/what I should focus on with regards to teaching myself these concepts I’d also really appreciate it. I'm currently taking the Harvard CS50 course for credit as well as a Mathematics for Machine Learning course on Coursera (they state that this is for people of all math levels).
I’ve learned a lot and am passionate about continuing to grow as a software engineedeveloper. Any advice on next steps, opportunities, etc. that you feel may be relevant would be greatly appreciated. Thank you SO much if you read this far! 🫶
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Intro/Question:
Let me just start out by saying that I’ve been on here for a little while and have admired not only the persistence, dedication, and grit of the women on here, but also the kindness and support in comparison to other groups. I wish I could give/get hugs from you all because a lot of you seem like such wonderful people, and I could really use some of that kindness in my life at the moment.Now, I guess I’ll get right into my reason for posting this: I’d love some advice/insight/thoughts from y’all on recommendations for my next steps in this career transition towards software development because I’ve been struggling for awhile with finding a FT or even PT role.
Throughout this time, my mental health has also declined greatly (while on this journey, I’ve actually started antidepressant medication for the first time ever because my mental health has exponentially decreased, and have also seen a few different therapists in the same span of time).
VERY brief overview of my journey thus far:
Early Education: Growing up in a predominantly white community outside the main city, I was put into ESL classes despite being born in the U.S. I'm Latina, and my parents--who knew little English at the time--agreed with everything the educators suggested. This meant I was often taken out of critical science and math classes to make time for ESL work. Despite being a straight-A student, I had to work harder than others, and I believe this was one reason why.About a year and a half ago, I was diagnosed with combined ADD/ADHD. As a kid, it often took me longer to complete my work. My parents noticed but assumed it was just the way I functioned. My mom often recounted how I needed a "million" breaks while doing homework, which often led to late nights. Despite these struggles, I managed to stay on top of my studies.Undergrad Education (2015 - 2019): I am a first-gen college grad and earned a bachelors in biochem & environmental science summer 2019. I discovered computer science during my junior year of college (by then, it was too late to take more courses in CS let alone attempt to make a switch without staying an extra year, which my scholarships would not cover). After graduating college, I was still interested in learning more about CS, so I took an Introduction to Programming in C course at my local community college, and not only earned an A, but also thoroughly enjoyed the content.
Grad School (Spring 2022): Enrolled in an online Masters in CS at Case Western Reserve University for those without CS degrees with a $30,000 grant from the dept. Took Discrete Mathematics and Algorithms & Data Structures in Java (those of us w/o a CS degree had to pass these before being able to move into the rest of the program where we’d be merged with those who DID have CS degrees), but paused due to my younger brother's unexpected passing.
Bootcamp (Fall 2022): Received a full-ride scholarship to a bootcamp (1/15 out of 1200 applicants accepted) where I learned full-stack development with Python, JavaScript, SQL, Flask, AJAX, and React, among other technologies. Graduated December 2022.
Further Learning (Spring/Summer 2023): Accepted into Code the Dream’s React course, dedicating over 20 hours per week to mastering React all while volunteering to work on open-source projects.
Internship (Fall 2023 - Present): I was interning at an early-stage Ed Tech startup up until the end of April, contributing to building an app from the ground up. I Gained experience in code writing/reviewing, CI/CD methodology, technical communication, and working on a software development team along with other teams like the content team and design team.
Struggles/Thoughts:
I have been consistently applying for FT/PT roles, internships, etc. with nothing but maybe 4 interviews since graduating from my bootcamp. In addition, I’ve been tweaking my resume for jobs that I feel I could be a particularly good candidate for using Jobscan with no luck.With regards to the startup, they’ve informed me that they do not have sufficient funding to bring me on. Furthermore, about a month after the internship contract officially ended, the other female intern (graduated from the same bootcamp, although different cohorts) at the startup also let me know that she was being brought on again for an extended contract, and asked if I was offered the same—to which I replied that no, I wasn’t. I guess she also has an associates in CS, which also helps and I am not mad at her for anything and support her and uplift her, but as you can imagine, I am a little disappointed (more in myself than anything, I guess). It just makes me feel a bit crushed. I made myself always available (even after hours), replied quickly, got along super well with everyone, got my tasks all done for the most part. ==> Towards the end, I was tasked with a particularly difficult task, and was able to get through a good chunk of a new game, but was not able to fully finish. During this period, I was also struggling to get ahold of my ADHD meds, but they seemed to be out of stock everywhere, so that also didn't help.
Next steps:
I’m debating whether I should just keep applying, find some other program (AS/BS/MS), or just stop this trajectory altogether (although, I REALLY hope that I won’t have to because it would probably break me 😔).I know that my math skills probably aren’t on par with those of others in the field, and I know that I need to work on those as well, so if you have any suggestions for free resources for that/what I should focus on with regards to teaching myself these concepts I’d also really appreciate it. I'm currently taking the Harvard CS50 course for credit as well as a Mathematics for Machine Learning course on Coursera (they state that this is for people of all math levels).
I’ve learned a lot and am passionate about continuing to grow as a software engineedeveloper. Any advice on next steps, opportunities, etc. that you feel may be relevant would be greatly appreciated. Thank you SO much if you read this far! 🫶
2024.05.21 18:55 Yelbeghen Difference with conversion masters/post-baccs
In terms of job prospects, how would this degree differ from online conversion masters and post-baccalaureate degrees? Great institutions also offer these programs too, such as Liverpool, Bath, York, and Oregon State. They are basically 1 to 2.5 year programs that condense the 3-4 year computer science bachelor curriculum. There are probably differences in terms of universities for further study because they have way fewer credits than traditional bachelor's degrees. But how would companies actually perceive this degree and the mentioned conversion masters/post-baccs differently when it comes to hiring?
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2024.05.21 18:54 Local_Vermicelli3817 Looking for honest opinions on living near a chicken farm
Does anyone have any first hand knowledge or insight into living next to a free range egg farm, and could tell us what it is actually like? My husband and I have just moved into a house with land mid last year, which is in a rural location in Scotland. There are farms etc around but mainly sheep, agriculture, outdoor cattle. We’ve just found out that the farmer who works the fields surrounding our house is submitting a planning application for a 35,000 hen free range egg facility about 350m from our house. There is nothing like this in the area and we are worried that it might devalue our house, smell bad, encourage flies and rats, be very noisy, produce dust and ammonia that will impact our health and pollute the watercourse that our dogs play in that runs across our land, which also runs past the proposed egg farm. I’ve read lots online and it’s a bit of a minefield.
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2024.05.21 18:54 TheGuardianFox I get a ton of anxiety over my health as it is, and this has all come on me suddenly. Am I gonna be okay?
A little over a week ago I had an ER visit for unrelated things, and happened to mention my recent worries of potential diabetes to my nurse. I haven't really had symptoms that were overtly clear to me, though if I look back and be honest with myself, I think it's moreso that I was scared of finding out. I know I'm overweight and eat like crap since my mom died(really bad, lots of sweets), I don't really exercise, and that my father and grandfather on one side were both type 2 diabetic. So they checked my blood glucose in addition to whatever else they were looking for and... actual shocker... my blood glucose was nearly 400.
I didn't have any real reference point for that number, but I knew it was bad because everyone I told made a scrunchy face and said that's not good... I was prescribed 500 mg metformin and told to visit a local doctor a week later about it, presumably because I'd also just come off of some meds for something else unrelated, and they were giving me more, and I assume they thought that might be effecting it. Kinda made me feel hopeful that maybe I was just pre-diabetic. Regardless, I dramatically changed my eating habits in that week. Sweets have been tough to give up, but I haven't had them. I've been keeping most my meals around 12 carbs or under. Unfortunately I assume I'm definitely diabetic, by what I saw today.
Bloodwork from my local doctor came in, not yet reviewed by my doctor, but I couldn't wait to look online. My A1C is nearly 9. This number I do have some reference to, because my dad talks about his all the time. It's way worse than his, and he's had diabetes for a long time. Now I'm kind of panicking. My blood sugar was just below 200, which seems bad for afternoon on a day when I haven't eaten anything yet...
I don't know how long it's been this bad, but if I think about potentially ignored small signs it could have started many many years ago. I don't know what damage it's already done to my body. None of my other levels were flagged except my creatinine, which was a low 7 range. (Which google actually suggests is normal, but it was still flagged on my results, so I imagine there's a reason...) I don't understand the process well enough to know if this A1C is a normal number when your first diagnosed, but knowing what my dads is and that they want his lower it seems very high to me. And I don't know if that creatinin level is a terrible sign of anything.
I've googled a bit to try and see for myself, but it's hard for me to do because all my brain sees is the worse case scenario information and everything that can go wrong and just makes me panic more and feel even worse. I'm scared that I've taken years off my life, completely unaware of it, and that the rest of my life is going to be an even worse struggle than my dad's has.
I'm not asking anyone to lie, I don't want lies... but is there anything you can say to make me feel better about all this? Like I haven't just been handed a sentence of years of suffering and an early grave? I'm sorry if this seems dramatic to anyone who has been dealing with this for years, I don't mean to be insensitive, but like I said I don't handle stuff like this well, and I'm having a tough time staying calm...
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I didn't have any real reference point for that number, but I knew it was bad because everyone I told made a scrunchy face and said that's not good... I was prescribed 500 mg metformin and told to visit a local doctor a week later about it, presumably because I'd also just come off of some meds for something else unrelated, and they were giving me more, and I assume they thought that might be effecting it. Kinda made me feel hopeful that maybe I was just pre-diabetic. Regardless, I dramatically changed my eating habits in that week. Sweets have been tough to give up, but I haven't had them. I've been keeping most my meals around 12 carbs or under. Unfortunately I assume I'm definitely diabetic, by what I saw today.
Bloodwork from my local doctor came in, not yet reviewed by my doctor, but I couldn't wait to look online. My A1C is nearly 9. This number I do have some reference to, because my dad talks about his all the time. It's way worse than his, and he's had diabetes for a long time. Now I'm kind of panicking. My blood sugar was just below 200, which seems bad for afternoon on a day when I haven't eaten anything yet...
I don't know how long it's been this bad, but if I think about potentially ignored small signs it could have started many many years ago. I don't know what damage it's already done to my body. None of my other levels were flagged except my creatinine, which was a low 7 range. (Which google actually suggests is normal, but it was still flagged on my results, so I imagine there's a reason...) I don't understand the process well enough to know if this A1C is a normal number when your first diagnosed, but knowing what my dads is and that they want his lower it seems very high to me. And I don't know if that creatinin level is a terrible sign of anything.
I've googled a bit to try and see for myself, but it's hard for me to do because all my brain sees is the worse case scenario information and everything that can go wrong and just makes me panic more and feel even worse. I'm scared that I've taken years off my life, completely unaware of it, and that the rest of my life is going to be an even worse struggle than my dad's has.
I'm not asking anyone to lie, I don't want lies... but is there anything you can say to make me feel better about all this? Like I haven't just been handed a sentence of years of suffering and an early grave? I'm sorry if this seems dramatic to anyone who has been dealing with this for years, I don't mean to be insensitive, but like I said I don't handle stuff like this well, and I'm having a tough time staying calm...
2024.05.21 18:53 StandardCat9973 Payed Red Light Ticket But Still Recieved Citation
Hello, I recently received a citation stating I have not payed a ticket I payed back in January. I even checked my bank records for this. I have tried calling every customer service line I can but I either get an automated voice message with options that don't apply for this or a message stating no one is there to help me. I have called 10 different times for that one still no one answers. I went to the county clerk and they gave me numbers for red light customer service which was just automated voice messages again. Can anyone help me out here? I tried to submit proof online but their site crashes everytime I try and I don't have the option to submit proof from the actual legal site.
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2024.05.21 18:51 Business-Pie-8419 Can the auto-refractor results be the best?
I've had about 5 eye tests in the past few months. Each time, the prescription has been different. I've had differences in sphere, cylinder and axis on both left and right eyes. I have worn the glasses that were prescribed for the recommended duration, and each time I've had headaches and eye strain, and that general feeling of "I know these aren't right".
My most recent pair have been the best so far, but I still notice some things that aren't right - like when I flick my eyes between my phone and tv, it takes a second for my eyes to focus.
Anyway, at my last eye test, I asked them to use the auto-refractor and see what that said. It gave the same left eye prescription as the glasses I'm currently wearing, but a slight difference on the right eye. I.e from -1.50s / -2.50c to -1.75s / -2.75c. I had a cheap pair made online to this new prescription and I feel that while my vision is as clear as the current lenses for things like reading up close, I can focus quicker when moving between neafar sight. And they generally just feel "better".
Could it be that after all this time, the auto-refractor results were actually the best prescription for me?
I've asked my current opticians to make up my spare pair to this prescription, but they're a little hesitant to do this, since the results are from a machine and not from an actual human...
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My most recent pair have been the best so far, but I still notice some things that aren't right - like when I flick my eyes between my phone and tv, it takes a second for my eyes to focus.
Anyway, at my last eye test, I asked them to use the auto-refractor and see what that said. It gave the same left eye prescription as the glasses I'm currently wearing, but a slight difference on the right eye. I.e from -1.50s / -2.50c to -1.75s / -2.75c. I had a cheap pair made online to this new prescription and I feel that while my vision is as clear as the current lenses for things like reading up close, I can focus quicker when moving between neafar sight. And they generally just feel "better".
Could it be that after all this time, the auto-refractor results were actually the best prescription for me?
I've asked my current opticians to make up my spare pair to this prescription, but they're a little hesitant to do this, since the results are from a machine and not from an actual human...
2024.05.21 18:49 Speedi77 Innova's Disc Golf Africa?
Hey guys!
Saw Innova's "Disc Golf Africa" promo discs in the shop the other day and thought it was a super cool idea to (I assume) raise money to build courses/grow the sport in Africa.
However, I can't seem to find anything at all online with info on what the group is doing and/or what the actual proceeds from the sale of the disc is going to outside of an old article from 2018. I can only guess that a few dollars at most will be given to the cause with the sale of each disc, but I'd like to know more about it before purchasing. It seems like any new release images I have from the discs simply labels it as the "Disc Golf Africa" discs with no additional info about any projects.
Anyone have any links or info on what the group is doing there? Thanks for reading!
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Saw Innova's "Disc Golf Africa" promo discs in the shop the other day and thought it was a super cool idea to (I assume) raise money to build courses/grow the sport in Africa.
However, I can't seem to find anything at all online with info on what the group is doing and/or what the actual proceeds from the sale of the disc is going to outside of an old article from 2018. I can only guess that a few dollars at most will be given to the cause with the sale of each disc, but I'd like to know more about it before purchasing. It seems like any new release images I have from the discs simply labels it as the "Disc Golf Africa" discs with no additional info about any projects.
Anyone have any links or info on what the group is doing there? Thanks for reading!
2024.05.21 18:49 Local_Vermicelli3817 Looking for honest opinions on chicken (egg) farm Scotland
Does anyone have any first hand knowledge or insight into living next to a free range egg farm, and could tell us what it is actually like? My husband and I have just moved into a new house with land mid last year, which is in a rural location in Scotland. There are farms etc around but mainly sheep, agriculture, outdoor cattle. We’ve just found out that the tenant farmer who works the fields surrounding our house is submitting a planning application for a 35,000 hen free range egg facility about 350m from our house. There is nothing like this in the area and we are worried that it might devalue our house, smell bad, encourage flies and rats, be very noisy, produce dust and ammonia that will impact our health and pollute the watercourse that our dogs play in that runs across our land, which also runs past the proposed egg farm. I’ve read lots online and it’s a bit of a minefield.
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2024.05.21 18:45 PoroKingBraum A Question on Druids
I’m a very experienced TTRPG vet for some amount of time, 10+ years now, played 3.5e, 4e, Dungeon World, Call of Cthulu, and now PF1e and PF2e for around 2 years. This is just background to explain I understand the game and am well versed in it for my question.
How does Untamed Form feel? I’ve never played a druid and love the idea of wildshape-type abilities but it’s always an intimidating barrier realizing how many steps and not intuitive parts there are too it. Just looking up online you get stuff like;
“Despite this ability encouraging strength, don’t actually do that, it only works at like 3 levels” “This ability that lets you stay in older forms for longer is really bad except for brief out of combat utility” “This form is just bad”
Blah blah blah
Then I look at the numbers and go ‘why am I spending 2 actions to become a dogwater martial and lose all my spellcasting when I can just cast spells’, spells are good and spells are useful, and if someone gets into melee with me it almost feels like I am better trying to get out of the fray than use a Untamed Form?
However obviously, that comes from no play experience, which is why I ask you lovely people of reddit.
How did it feel? What times felt best to use it? What times did it hamper you? What’s the good and the bad of a Wild Druid focusing on its signature ability
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How does Untamed Form feel? I’ve never played a druid and love the idea of wildshape-type abilities but it’s always an intimidating barrier realizing how many steps and not intuitive parts there are too it. Just looking up online you get stuff like;
“Despite this ability encouraging strength, don’t actually do that, it only works at like 3 levels” “This ability that lets you stay in older forms for longer is really bad except for brief out of combat utility” “This form is just bad”
Blah blah blah
Then I look at the numbers and go ‘why am I spending 2 actions to become a dogwater martial and lose all my spellcasting when I can just cast spells’, spells are good and spells are useful, and if someone gets into melee with me it almost feels like I am better trying to get out of the fray than use a Untamed Form?
However obviously, that comes from no play experience, which is why I ask you lovely people of reddit.
How did it feel? What times felt best to use it? What times did it hamper you? What’s the good and the bad of a Wild Druid focusing on its signature ability
2024.05.21 18:44 knutfuta No luck with Bratz
Hey guys. I was wondering if any of you had any luck purchasing Bratz from Amazon: do they restock often? Is it possible to get a doll from there if I live in another country?
Context: I was trying to purchase my first Bratz doll ever (it’s a big deal for me to finally get one! I have been obsessed with them recently) in December, and I really wanted her to be 20th Anniversary Yasmin. But Amazon had none of them in stock, and even a stock in a nearby country ran out of them after I placed my order. Next I tried to purchase the new Fianna from Amazon and waited for a month for them to process the order, but they ran out of her recently, too! After half a year of waiting, no Bratz for me.
Is there any chance that Amazon will restock any of these soon? Unfortunately there is no way to purchase any Bratz in the country where I live (Georgia) directly, so I only can rely on foreign online markets. 🥲 Resellers are not an option, too: the prices are weird, and I actually like my dolls to be brand new.
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Context: I was trying to purchase my first Bratz doll ever (it’s a big deal for me to finally get one! I have been obsessed with them recently) in December, and I really wanted her to be 20th Anniversary Yasmin. But Amazon had none of them in stock, and even a stock in a nearby country ran out of them after I placed my order. Next I tried to purchase the new Fianna from Amazon and waited for a month for them to process the order, but they ran out of her recently, too! After half a year of waiting, no Bratz for me.
Is there any chance that Amazon will restock any of these soon? Unfortunately there is no way to purchase any Bratz in the country where I live (Georgia) directly, so I only can rely on foreign online markets. 🥲 Resellers are not an option, too: the prices are weird, and I actually like my dolls to be brand new.
2024.05.21 18:32 Espanggfgzb ULPT Request: Where do I find someone really desperate?
Basically, I run multiple social media accounts that focus on financial domination. While I do make quite some money online, the big cash is in real life meetups, where you go to an ATM together and basically empty it (all willingly of course and legal but not ethical).
The problem is, that I‘m not a woman, so while I can fake it online, I would need an actual woman to go to the meetups. I need to find someone who is willing to do this and split 50/50 with me. The problem is that I have no clue where I could approach someone with this and find someone desperate enough to do it.
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The problem is, that I‘m not a woman, so while I can fake it online, I would need an actual woman to go to the meetups. I need to find someone who is willing to do this and split 50/50 with me. The problem is that I have no clue where I could approach someone with this and find someone desperate enough to do it.
2024.05.21 18:32 lostandlosingmyself 24 [M4F] Midwest/Anywhere - Incoming Medical Student Looking to Find the One and Settle Down
Firstly, excuse the username. I made this account when I was premed and was tweaking about not getting into med school 🤣.
I got accepted this year and will be starting this fall.
Quick info about me: 24 M, did my undergrad in a subfield of physics and am an absolute fucking nerd about it. I love language learning too and is one of my hobbies, so if you speak a language that I don't know, I am probably in love with you already.
I'm a South Asian man (and I know this is a deal breaker for many people, so if this bothers you please continue scrolling away). I got long and thick wavy hair, beard, and wear glasses. I'm 5'11, and currently 230 lbs, but have been losing weight and made a good progress. I'm built like Hagrid lmao, but I'd be happy to exchange photos.
To continue the south Asian stereotype, I'm a virigin who's never been in a relationship simply cause I was too busy tweaking about getting into med school and studying.
I decided now that if I ever want to find love, the present is the perfect time, and not focus on studying for the rest of my life.
What I'm looking for: Please be 21 years old at least. Younger than that is a little weird for me ngl. I'd prefer if you're not above 30, however, I am not strict about this. I've never talked to older women before, so I'd consider it for sure if we vibe and are a good fit for each other.
I am also looking for someone who is passionate about succeeding in life, whatever your goals are! And you are actively putting in work! Whether it's owning your own business, or being a published author, please tell me all about it!! There is nothing more sexier to me than seeing a woman dedicated to her goals and actually working towards.
Physically, I don't really have a type. I love women of all sizes and colors, so please hmu if I am what you're looking for and you fit what I am looking for!
I prefer women in the Midwest, or at least in the US, but I am willing to consider an online LDR and hopefully be in person one day.
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I got accepted this year and will be starting this fall.
Quick info about me: 24 M, did my undergrad in a subfield of physics and am an absolute fucking nerd about it. I love language learning too and is one of my hobbies, so if you speak a language that I don't know, I am probably in love with you already.
I'm a South Asian man (and I know this is a deal breaker for many people, so if this bothers you please continue scrolling away). I got long and thick wavy hair, beard, and wear glasses. I'm 5'11, and currently 230 lbs, but have been losing weight and made a good progress. I'm built like Hagrid lmao, but I'd be happy to exchange photos.
To continue the south Asian stereotype, I'm a virigin who's never been in a relationship simply cause I was too busy tweaking about getting into med school and studying.
I decided now that if I ever want to find love, the present is the perfect time, and not focus on studying for the rest of my life.
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2024.05.21 18:31 astrohoe11 Am I wrong for ghosting one of my “friends”?
Am I wrong for soft ghosting one of my “friends”?
Wow, this one might me a long one.
So I moved to (undisclosed location) sometime in the beginning of last year. When I moved here I really had no friends but became heavily involved in this yoga studio I went to and slowly but surely started to make friends/acquaintances with the teacher that instructed me.
From afar she seemed super cool and I became pretty enthralled with her and her life. I would look forward so heavily to going to her classes every week and was quite intrigued by her. I thought she was funny, bubbly, spunky, cool, and always made jokes during class that made me laugh. As months went by I found myself wanting to get closer and closer to her, and she even invited me out one time to one of her “events” she was hosting. Here’s the thing;
It seemed like we had a lot in common and was just generally craving camaraderie and connection. I felt a sense of belonging with her and wanted to expand that energy in my life, and wanted to do anything I could to get closer to her for those reasons. But I guess this is where we have the first red flag;
One day after class, she extended an invitation to me to a meet up of sorts, (I’m being sparing with details just out of fear she might read this) and when she invited me it seemed like it was gonna be this big thing with lots of people invited, and just in general in talking to her it seemed as if she was very well connected and respected within her community, had lots of friends and connects, and I thought this was gonna be a huge thing that I was even lucky to be invited to. I was super stoked and exited about it.
However when the day of the event came, I was super tired and slow to getting up that morning. I figured I would just make my way over whenever I could since it seemed causal and like you could drop in whenever. I also figured there would be more than enough people that no one would really even notice my arrival or departure. (Plus, sometimes it’s chic to be fashionably late ;) ). Well…. I was most definitely wrong.
When I showed up I heard someone excitedly shout my name, which was her, and she waved me down to the “meet up”…. There was literally only one person there and it had been going on for 2+ hours. I was definitely a bit unnerved, but also didn’t want to be rude, and like I said I was just kind of happy to be there and be getting invited to things. But it was kinda like, damn…. Are these all the friends you have?
I had dressed up and looked cute but they were just kind of wearing whatever and I felt awkward and overdressed and also embarrassed now that I was even this late because it was clearly much more intimate than I expected and my arrival/absence was DEFINITELY felt. We had chatted a bit and that was cool but then I remember her confessing me that she had cried to her husband earlier that morning that she was scared nobody was going to show up and how thrilled she was that not only one, but TWO people had showed up and that it felt like she had friends. I wasn’t really sure what to say or make of that.
She also…. The whole time (and mind you, this is our first legitimate interaction out of yoga class) just kind of kept talking maniacally AT me, not to me, and was coming off almost even manic, and she had formed a white crust of spit around her mouth probably from talking so much that I couldn’t look away from. To say the least, I was a bit disturbed coming away from this interaction but I just kept telling myself that I was being too judgmental of her and to give it a chance and that maybe she was just hyper that day and that I had probably had unintentional embarrassing hygiene moments as well. So I keep going to class and that’s that.
There were several other red flag moments between this first interaction and the next one, mostly just her incredibly cringey social media presence that I genuinely almost couldn’t stand to see without feeling like I was withering away inside, but maybe I’ll save that for later. It’s almost like I couldn’t just see that the person I thought was so cool in class and the person I was seeing her be online and outside of class were the same people. But I digress.
She had actually ended up inviting me to go with her on one of her international yoga retreats, and I was actually very excited about this. I had very little time with her in between classes, and my attraction (but also repulsion) with her was growing stronger and I wanted to figure her out and see what she was really about and what the pull I was feeling towards her was about. Plus, I love travelling and just thought it would be fun.
I had a pretty good time, but we didn’t get to talk much, HOWEVER, I do remember this distinct point during the trip where it was myself, 2-3 other fiends I had made, her brother, and her “best friend” who had happened to be her brother’s Gf in a room together, talking. the brother, the best friend, and the other friend I made just all completely started talking shit about her and I was so confused.
I felt super hurt by this actually, bc I felt like I had a inexplicable bond with the teacher who had invited me, she was the reason we were all there in that beautiful place, and I just couldn’t understand why they were choosing to be so negative about someone I thought they had claimed (at least by title) to love. They would say things like “I can’t fucking stand your sister” (one of the friends I made to the brother) and everyone would just sigh and put their hands in their head and be like “I know…. I know. It’s a lot. She’s a lot”. And I didn’t have anything to add to the conversation because I was just so confused and I knew the girl would just be so upset if she heard them saying this. Anyway… that confusion stuck with me for a while after.
Fast forward maybe a month or two, I started hanging out with her more regularly myself outside of class. I would say this is when we became more “friends”. She would invite me to other teachers classes and we would talk a lot about our lives.
I learned how she felt about her close friend and family connections, and how she often felt hurt and betrayed by people close to her and how some of her friends were actually really shady. I just got a general sense of her feeling scapegoated and libeled against by ppl that got close to her and how she had walls up for that reason.
She also shared to me that most of her family was cut off, with the exception of her brother who she had recently rekindled a connection with, hence why he was on that trip. I felt very bad for her and wanted to be a source of comfort and support, and she would often comment on how she felt a sense of camaraderie with me since I also (LITERALLY) had no family and how we have to make our chosen family. This was a sweet sentiment, for sure, but I was still sussing out how I felt about her.
So one day, a mutual friend that had been on the trip with us was having a birthday party and I guess that she was invited to it, too. She sat down next to me and I was SUPER excited to see her as I was craving her energy and hadn’t seen her in some time. But then… idk. She had had a lot to drink. I’m fully aware that she’s kind of a quirky individual, and has a way of socializing which I can sometimes find a bit uncomfortable or even intense, (like the first meetup I spoke of) but this time it was even more and seemed to be heightened by the drinking.
Her husband was sitting on her other side and kept trying to interject and insinuate that maybe she was doing a bit much, but I think she was drunk enough to the point that she just found it funny and had no awareness of how she was coming off. There’s not even a way I can describe it really, but she just seemed a bit obsessive over me and kept making jokes that were literally not funny and seemed to have lost all ability to read the room. I also had noticed that she had only had TWO beers and was acting like this already which I found… really strange.
So at some point she goes to the bathroom, and I also get in line for the bathroom about 5 mins later. When I get up to the bathroom, she’s still in there, and there’s a line of about 2 or 3 people ahead of me. When she exits the bathroom she immediately spots me and rushes up to me and just starts… drunkenly spewing.
I can’t even remember what she was saying, but we were in a pretty high class establishment and I remember her gushing over me and was saying “I just want to let you know that I don’t really have friends or let people close to me in my circle but I just want to let you know that YOU are officially in my circle and you have earned friend status to me and I’ve let you in my circle…” or something like that. And I just kept thinking, who tf even says that??? I’m pretty sure the last time I checked that friendship is a two way street and it’s not just a title we bestow onto some “lucky” person and that’s that. Like girl… let ME decide if I want to be friends too first.
It was partially that, and also the way she was drunkenly spewing was so awkward and embarrassing bc I could tell all the other women in line were like who tf is this bitch and why is she saying all this weird stuff and like, does she even know you?? Lol. Just a very odd interaction which again, I kind of wrote off, but the unsettling feeling kind of just kept growing after that point.
Then, the time that I REALLY knew something was up came up about a month later, but there are still some key details of this story that are missing. Perhaps I will discuss them later.
SO. About a month later, she invited me last minute to this concert of sorts. When I got there, I was super excited to be there, the vibes were amazing and we were having so much fun. But she had definitely had a lot, A LOT to drink. I didn’t mind at first, because everyone there seemed severely under the influence, but she would just start randomly kind of lashing out at people in the crowd and she thought it was funny? She first loudly and audibly started making fun of some guys shoes in front of us, and was trying to laugh with me as if I would join in, but when his girl friend turned around and shot her a dirty look, she had the nerve to be self conscious and mad about it. She would loudly poke fun at other people in the crowd too, but not in a ha-ha way, just in a straight up mean and asshole way and I could not understand why she would even do that or why she thought that was funny.
Again, I kind of just awkwardly laughed and brushed it off. But when all was said and done and the concert was closing, she enthusiastically invited me back to go to her house and soak in her hot tub. I kept saying are you sure?? But she was like please, PLEASE come, we have weed, we’ll smoke you out and other things and I wanted to continue the vibes because it sounded fun. And then….. completely downhill.
I had arrived back at their place before she did, but as soon as I saw them go in I knocked. When I walked in, she was pale faced up on the floor, non verbal, pretty much motionless, and staring at the ceiling. I was like oh no… it seemed like she got a bit too much to drink. I waited patiently there for a few mins, unsure of what to do as I had just drove for 45 mins and I was still 25 mins in the opposite direction away from home.
I kind of just sat around, and hoped that she would sober up. I asked if she was drunk… she said no. She ran to her bathroom multiple times while her husband (a complete socially awkward case himself) tried to take care of her while she threw up. I asked her if she puked and she also said no. So I didn’t really know what to do. I was trying to offer support/ empathy but she just kept denying any claims of anything being amiss. Her husband left to pick up a pizza and I probably just should’ve left but I’m telling you I had no idea how to exit their house without making it weird or awkward. And I also was hungry. So I just stayed… and waited for the pizza.
What happened in those 20-30 mins, I don’t even know if I can fully explain. She just became… so FUCKING WEIRD. she clearly was embarrassed that I was seeing her drunk, and I think was trying to over compensate. But she just turned into an absolute freak show and I’ve never been more uncomfortable in my life.
She started hoola hooping in my face, and making these weird gremlin faces and noises at me, fell to the floor, rolled round on the floor while continuing to make the noises, convulsed on the floor, but tried to do it in a funny way, tried to make an interpretive dance for me… I’ve truly never experienced something so uncomfortable in my life. I probably do sound like an asshole, but I swear you would just have to be there to see how a) gross and b) weird and actually scary it was. I was genuinely frightened.
I’ve never seen anyone act like that and I didn’t want to make her more uncomfortable or weird by showing her how clearly uncomfortable I actually was. so I just sat there and tried to laugh. But it probably came off as more of a grimace. And for the record, this woman is 33. I am 26. It was just. Obscene.
And she’s tried to act like and say multiple times that she’s like my “big sister”. Now I’ve seen a lot of drunk behavior, but not this. I wolfed down my pizza, and so did she, and she started to get even more philosophical and weird on me, showing me songs and art which were quite frankly some of the worst things I’ve ever heard in my life, and I left as soon as I could.
I was so shaken and disturbed coming away from this, because like I said earlier, I thought she was a cool girl, but honestly her behavior and lack of control over herself completely terrified me. And it’s not like she was drinking liquor, it was just damn IPAs. And I just did not know what to do.
Some details I will try to add to this story, even though I know it’s monolithic at this point , is that 2 months prior to this she had gotten fired from the studio she worked at.
She had a mental breakdown during class because the manager was being mean to her, and he fired her on the spot. I remember being so angry with the owner, (honestly he IS a piece of shit human being) but I thought he was being sexist by calling her mentally unstable and I thought the way he handled things was unfair.
I went so far as to boycott the studio and completely remove myself from it in support of her and followed her to her new one. After the drunk #2 incident, I didn’t hang out with her very much, and only saw her during her class as I was locked into a certain number of classes I had paid for.
I remember her telling me that she had just started at ANOTHER studio, and got fired 3 days after on her birthday and she was talking about how unfair it was and how much of an asshole that new girl was for firing her… and I believed her. AGAIN.
I went so far as to block that girl on Instagram too, but deep down I kind of knew that she had probably just been fired bc let’s face it… as I was starting to discover, she WAS a lot. and the studio was in an upper class area , catered towards more upper echelon people, and I just don’t think she was fitting that image. I lent her an empathetic ear, because that’s all I would want in that situation.
But where she fucked up was sending me screenshot proof of the text exchange between her and that girl, thinking I would take her side, and later sending me screenshots of another conversation she had with the OTHER manager. She told me that this new girl fired her for bringing her husband to class. In my mind I was like, oh no, is she racist!?! Because her husband was black. But no, that’s not what I read at all.
It was the most reasonable, level headed response to someone ever, and laid out multiple offenses and reasons she didn’t want her at the studio. The reasons were honestly so embarrassing that I don’t know why she would send it to me and think I would side with her. She recently also sent me messages with the other boss and the last thing he says to her is “I hope you get help for your mental illness because whatever you have is serious and will impact all your relationships and business and things that you do”. And honestly I can now say in retrospect that those were the truest words ever spoken.
When I read these texts, I had a look back at my whole relationship with and how she would always paint everyone else to be the villain and how everyone is so mean to HER… and the whole time the common denominator was her. It was always her. And it made me rethink everything.
I’ve even had extensive conversations with some of the other people on her trip that were talking shit and couldn’t stand her and they all told me the same things. How it seemed like she was the coolest person ever and had her shit together and seemed like she was going places… but deep down she was just an absolute mess and pushed everyone away from her. And I no longer felt like I was going crazy.
But like I said, she formed a really close bond with me (I think from her perspective) and said she felt like my big sister and family, and shared all these stories about her feeling isolated and shut out by people, but now here I am, doing the exact same thing to her. Icing her out of my life. And I just wanna ask you guys…
Am the asshole?
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Wow, this one might me a long one.
So I moved to (undisclosed location) sometime in the beginning of last year. When I moved here I really had no friends but became heavily involved in this yoga studio I went to and slowly but surely started to make friends/acquaintances with the teacher that instructed me.
From afar she seemed super cool and I became pretty enthralled with her and her life. I would look forward so heavily to going to her classes every week and was quite intrigued by her. I thought she was funny, bubbly, spunky, cool, and always made jokes during class that made me laugh. As months went by I found myself wanting to get closer and closer to her, and she even invited me out one time to one of her “events” she was hosting. Here’s the thing;
It seemed like we had a lot in common and was just generally craving camaraderie and connection. I felt a sense of belonging with her and wanted to expand that energy in my life, and wanted to do anything I could to get closer to her for those reasons. But I guess this is where we have the first red flag;
One day after class, she extended an invitation to me to a meet up of sorts, (I’m being sparing with details just out of fear she might read this) and when she invited me it seemed like it was gonna be this big thing with lots of people invited, and just in general in talking to her it seemed as if she was very well connected and respected within her community, had lots of friends and connects, and I thought this was gonna be a huge thing that I was even lucky to be invited to. I was super stoked and exited about it.
However when the day of the event came, I was super tired and slow to getting up that morning. I figured I would just make my way over whenever I could since it seemed causal and like you could drop in whenever. I also figured there would be more than enough people that no one would really even notice my arrival or departure. (Plus, sometimes it’s chic to be fashionably late ;) ). Well…. I was most definitely wrong.
When I showed up I heard someone excitedly shout my name, which was her, and she waved me down to the “meet up”…. There was literally only one person there and it had been going on for 2+ hours. I was definitely a bit unnerved, but also didn’t want to be rude, and like I said I was just kind of happy to be there and be getting invited to things. But it was kinda like, damn…. Are these all the friends you have?
I had dressed up and looked cute but they were just kind of wearing whatever and I felt awkward and overdressed and also embarrassed now that I was even this late because it was clearly much more intimate than I expected and my arrival/absence was DEFINITELY felt. We had chatted a bit and that was cool but then I remember her confessing me that she had cried to her husband earlier that morning that she was scared nobody was going to show up and how thrilled she was that not only one, but TWO people had showed up and that it felt like she had friends. I wasn’t really sure what to say or make of that.
She also…. The whole time (and mind you, this is our first legitimate interaction out of yoga class) just kind of kept talking maniacally AT me, not to me, and was coming off almost even manic, and she had formed a white crust of spit around her mouth probably from talking so much that I couldn’t look away from. To say the least, I was a bit disturbed coming away from this interaction but I just kept telling myself that I was being too judgmental of her and to give it a chance and that maybe she was just hyper that day and that I had probably had unintentional embarrassing hygiene moments as well. So I keep going to class and that’s that.
There were several other red flag moments between this first interaction and the next one, mostly just her incredibly cringey social media presence that I genuinely almost couldn’t stand to see without feeling like I was withering away inside, but maybe I’ll save that for later. It’s almost like I couldn’t just see that the person I thought was so cool in class and the person I was seeing her be online and outside of class were the same people. But I digress.
She had actually ended up inviting me to go with her on one of her international yoga retreats, and I was actually very excited about this. I had very little time with her in between classes, and my attraction (but also repulsion) with her was growing stronger and I wanted to figure her out and see what she was really about and what the pull I was feeling towards her was about. Plus, I love travelling and just thought it would be fun.
I had a pretty good time, but we didn’t get to talk much, HOWEVER, I do remember this distinct point during the trip where it was myself, 2-3 other fiends I had made, her brother, and her “best friend” who had happened to be her brother’s Gf in a room together, talking. the brother, the best friend, and the other friend I made just all completely started talking shit about her and I was so confused.
I felt super hurt by this actually, bc I felt like I had a inexplicable bond with the teacher who had invited me, she was the reason we were all there in that beautiful place, and I just couldn’t understand why they were choosing to be so negative about someone I thought they had claimed (at least by title) to love. They would say things like “I can’t fucking stand your sister” (one of the friends I made to the brother) and everyone would just sigh and put their hands in their head and be like “I know…. I know. It’s a lot. She’s a lot”. And I didn’t have anything to add to the conversation because I was just so confused and I knew the girl would just be so upset if she heard them saying this. Anyway… that confusion stuck with me for a while after.
Fast forward maybe a month or two, I started hanging out with her more regularly myself outside of class. I would say this is when we became more “friends”. She would invite me to other teachers classes and we would talk a lot about our lives.
I learned how she felt about her close friend and family connections, and how she often felt hurt and betrayed by people close to her and how some of her friends were actually really shady. I just got a general sense of her feeling scapegoated and libeled against by ppl that got close to her and how she had walls up for that reason.
She also shared to me that most of her family was cut off, with the exception of her brother who she had recently rekindled a connection with, hence why he was on that trip. I felt very bad for her and wanted to be a source of comfort and support, and she would often comment on how she felt a sense of camaraderie with me since I also (LITERALLY) had no family and how we have to make our chosen family. This was a sweet sentiment, for sure, but I was still sussing out how I felt about her.
So one day, a mutual friend that had been on the trip with us was having a birthday party and I guess that she was invited to it, too. She sat down next to me and I was SUPER excited to see her as I was craving her energy and hadn’t seen her in some time. But then… idk. She had had a lot to drink. I’m fully aware that she’s kind of a quirky individual, and has a way of socializing which I can sometimes find a bit uncomfortable or even intense, (like the first meetup I spoke of) but this time it was even more and seemed to be heightened by the drinking.
Her husband was sitting on her other side and kept trying to interject and insinuate that maybe she was doing a bit much, but I think she was drunk enough to the point that she just found it funny and had no awareness of how she was coming off. There’s not even a way I can describe it really, but she just seemed a bit obsessive over me and kept making jokes that were literally not funny and seemed to have lost all ability to read the room. I also had noticed that she had only had TWO beers and was acting like this already which I found… really strange.
So at some point she goes to the bathroom, and I also get in line for the bathroom about 5 mins later. When I get up to the bathroom, she’s still in there, and there’s a line of about 2 or 3 people ahead of me. When she exits the bathroom she immediately spots me and rushes up to me and just starts… drunkenly spewing.
I can’t even remember what she was saying, but we were in a pretty high class establishment and I remember her gushing over me and was saying “I just want to let you know that I don’t really have friends or let people close to me in my circle but I just want to let you know that YOU are officially in my circle and you have earned friend status to me and I’ve let you in my circle…” or something like that. And I just kept thinking, who tf even says that??? I’m pretty sure the last time I checked that friendship is a two way street and it’s not just a title we bestow onto some “lucky” person and that’s that. Like girl… let ME decide if I want to be friends too first.
It was partially that, and also the way she was drunkenly spewing was so awkward and embarrassing bc I could tell all the other women in line were like who tf is this bitch and why is she saying all this weird stuff and like, does she even know you?? Lol. Just a very odd interaction which again, I kind of wrote off, but the unsettling feeling kind of just kept growing after that point.
Then, the time that I REALLY knew something was up came up about a month later, but there are still some key details of this story that are missing. Perhaps I will discuss them later.
SO. About a month later, she invited me last minute to this concert of sorts. When I got there, I was super excited to be there, the vibes were amazing and we were having so much fun. But she had definitely had a lot, A LOT to drink. I didn’t mind at first, because everyone there seemed severely under the influence, but she would just start randomly kind of lashing out at people in the crowd and she thought it was funny? She first loudly and audibly started making fun of some guys shoes in front of us, and was trying to laugh with me as if I would join in, but when his girl friend turned around and shot her a dirty look, she had the nerve to be self conscious and mad about it. She would loudly poke fun at other people in the crowd too, but not in a ha-ha way, just in a straight up mean and asshole way and I could not understand why she would even do that or why she thought that was funny.
Again, I kind of just awkwardly laughed and brushed it off. But when all was said and done and the concert was closing, she enthusiastically invited me back to go to her house and soak in her hot tub. I kept saying are you sure?? But she was like please, PLEASE come, we have weed, we’ll smoke you out and other things and I wanted to continue the vibes because it sounded fun. And then….. completely downhill.
I had arrived back at their place before she did, but as soon as I saw them go in I knocked. When I walked in, she was pale faced up on the floor, non verbal, pretty much motionless, and staring at the ceiling. I was like oh no… it seemed like she got a bit too much to drink. I waited patiently there for a few mins, unsure of what to do as I had just drove for 45 mins and I was still 25 mins in the opposite direction away from home.
I kind of just sat around, and hoped that she would sober up. I asked if she was drunk… she said no. She ran to her bathroom multiple times while her husband (a complete socially awkward case himself) tried to take care of her while she threw up. I asked her if she puked and she also said no. So I didn’t really know what to do. I was trying to offer support/ empathy but she just kept denying any claims of anything being amiss. Her husband left to pick up a pizza and I probably just should’ve left but I’m telling you I had no idea how to exit their house without making it weird or awkward. And I also was hungry. So I just stayed… and waited for the pizza.
What happened in those 20-30 mins, I don’t even know if I can fully explain. She just became… so FUCKING WEIRD. she clearly was embarrassed that I was seeing her drunk, and I think was trying to over compensate. But she just turned into an absolute freak show and I’ve never been more uncomfortable in my life.
She started hoola hooping in my face, and making these weird gremlin faces and noises at me, fell to the floor, rolled round on the floor while continuing to make the noises, convulsed on the floor, but tried to do it in a funny way, tried to make an interpretive dance for me… I’ve truly never experienced something so uncomfortable in my life. I probably do sound like an asshole, but I swear you would just have to be there to see how a) gross and b) weird and actually scary it was. I was genuinely frightened.
I’ve never seen anyone act like that and I didn’t want to make her more uncomfortable or weird by showing her how clearly uncomfortable I actually was. so I just sat there and tried to laugh. But it probably came off as more of a grimace. And for the record, this woman is 33. I am 26. It was just. Obscene.
And she’s tried to act like and say multiple times that she’s like my “big sister”. Now I’ve seen a lot of drunk behavior, but not this. I wolfed down my pizza, and so did she, and she started to get even more philosophical and weird on me, showing me songs and art which were quite frankly some of the worst things I’ve ever heard in my life, and I left as soon as I could.
I was so shaken and disturbed coming away from this, because like I said earlier, I thought she was a cool girl, but honestly her behavior and lack of control over herself completely terrified me. And it’s not like she was drinking liquor, it was just damn IPAs. And I just did not know what to do.
Some details I will try to add to this story, even though I know it’s monolithic at this point , is that 2 months prior to this she had gotten fired from the studio she worked at.
She had a mental breakdown during class because the manager was being mean to her, and he fired her on the spot. I remember being so angry with the owner, (honestly he IS a piece of shit human being) but I thought he was being sexist by calling her mentally unstable and I thought the way he handled things was unfair.
I went so far as to boycott the studio and completely remove myself from it in support of her and followed her to her new one. After the drunk #2 incident, I didn’t hang out with her very much, and only saw her during her class as I was locked into a certain number of classes I had paid for.
I remember her telling me that she had just started at ANOTHER studio, and got fired 3 days after on her birthday and she was talking about how unfair it was and how much of an asshole that new girl was for firing her… and I believed her. AGAIN.
I went so far as to block that girl on Instagram too, but deep down I kind of knew that she had probably just been fired bc let’s face it… as I was starting to discover, she WAS a lot. and the studio was in an upper class area , catered towards more upper echelon people, and I just don’t think she was fitting that image. I lent her an empathetic ear, because that’s all I would want in that situation.
But where she fucked up was sending me screenshot proof of the text exchange between her and that girl, thinking I would take her side, and later sending me screenshots of another conversation she had with the OTHER manager. She told me that this new girl fired her for bringing her husband to class. In my mind I was like, oh no, is she racist!?! Because her husband was black. But no, that’s not what I read at all.
It was the most reasonable, level headed response to someone ever, and laid out multiple offenses and reasons she didn’t want her at the studio. The reasons were honestly so embarrassing that I don’t know why she would send it to me and think I would side with her. She recently also sent me messages with the other boss and the last thing he says to her is “I hope you get help for your mental illness because whatever you have is serious and will impact all your relationships and business and things that you do”. And honestly I can now say in retrospect that those were the truest words ever spoken.
When I read these texts, I had a look back at my whole relationship with and how she would always paint everyone else to be the villain and how everyone is so mean to HER… and the whole time the common denominator was her. It was always her. And it made me rethink everything.
I’ve even had extensive conversations with some of the other people on her trip that were talking shit and couldn’t stand her and they all told me the same things. How it seemed like she was the coolest person ever and had her shit together and seemed like she was going places… but deep down she was just an absolute mess and pushed everyone away from her. And I no longer felt like I was going crazy.
But like I said, she formed a really close bond with me (I think from her perspective) and said she felt like my big sister and family, and shared all these stories about her feeling isolated and shut out by people, but now here I am, doing the exact same thing to her. Icing her out of my life. And I just wanna ask you guys…
Am the asshole?
2024.05.21 18:30 Scottusername Where can I bring post this to bring the most shame
 | I myself am not lgbtq+ and was not personally offended by this, but these are clearly genuinely hateful feelings this person has that go well beyond attempting to offend someone submitted by Scottusername to LostRedditor [link] [comments] |