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2022.05.21 07:04 urdolor A subreddit for users of ddp who are online. Right here, right now.

Each day, there will be a new 'here' thread. If you're online, reply to that thread. Link your profile, your prompts, whatever you like. If you're online, people can (may) message you.
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2013.03.16 02:23 born_lever_puller Ancient and medieval coins from around the world

A place to show off and discuss ancient and medieval coins from around the world, as well as to post links to articles and other references about them. Need an ID? PLEASE HELP US HELP YOU BY POSTING PHOTOS OF BOTH SIDES OF EACH COIN & preferably photos of its edge as well. If you have trouble using reddit's own photo hosting please try the imgur app or go to https://imgur.com/upload. Memes, joke posts & other shitposts may only be posted here on the last day of each Gregorian calendar month.
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2012.01.16 14:40 Earl_Dabs Private Glass Sales Forum

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2024.05.22 00:09 ResearcherMassive480 Listen to this 5 min ramble! šŸ‘‹Dicole, strategically placing that comment over the side of ur mouth u talk out of when ur jaw jacking doesnt hide your heavy lids or ur black, empty eyes like we've seen in ur old active addiction pics, girl. Go to bed!

Listen to this 5 min ramble! šŸ‘‹Dicole, strategically placing that comment over the side of ur mouth u talk out of when ur jaw jacking doesnt hide your heavy lids or ur black, empty eyes like we've seen in ur old active addiction pics, girl. Go to bed!
Dear Nicole, go ahead & compare ur old active addiction pics, girl. That's what u look like today and why can't u catch ur breath? How long has it been since u slept? How dare u come online like this and insult everyone! WE CAN TELL SOMETHING ISN'T RIGHT WITH YOU! No matter what you say, you can't moderate your use & it shows. The last thing u should be doing is making videos for a bunch of ex addicts thinking we wouldn't notice. Omfg
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2024.05.22 00:02 Pinkgirlindeed I stopped pretending to be the bad guy if I don't immediately disclose my transgender identity.

What I've learned over the years is that there is no rule about when you should tell someone that you are transgender. I've experimented a lot with different ways and times to share this information, and I've become convinced that it really varies for everyone. Finally, I feel comfortable and just know when to bring it up with a guy. Here's how I approach it:
  1. When I'm going out: I don't always tell them. Sometimes I do, if the situation really allows for it. But often, the contact I have with men there is very superficial. They want one thing and show little interest in you. So how do you expect me to bring it up? Most people just want to have a good time there, and you won't speak to them the next day anyway. If I do exchange contact details with someone I click with, I'll tell them at a later stage. "But maybe it's not his preference." Okay? It's not my fault that he assumes I'm a cisgender woman. Let this just be a reality check. You were attracted to me at that moment and wanted my attentionā€”well, you got it.
  2. Online dating: On dating apps, I've also experimented a lot with when to tell a guy. With years of experience, Iā€™ve developed a sort of filterā€”I only swipe right on men who I think are open-minded. I tried putting it in my bio for a while. Result: You match with men who either objectify you or want to ridicule you. No, that didn't really work. I've also told men during the conversation after chatting for a while. Result: 50/50ā€”some are not open to it, and others respond quite positively. It's new and unknown, but they don't want to say no right away. I've also tried going on a first date and telling them afterward. This is quite tricky, as you might waste your time if they are not open to it. But this actually works best for me, because I've never experienced anyone rejecting me afterward. They've seen who I am as a person without having a prejudice about a label attached to me. Selfish? No, I don't think so. I also give the man the opportunity to get to know a transgender person. Often, due to ignorance, unfamiliarity, and novelty, they might not even dare to in the first place.
In the past, if a man didn't react positively, I always wanted to see him as a victim. And myself as the bad guy. "Sorry, I wanted to tell you much earlier!"ā€”Well, no. That's really not how I see it anymore. Especially with men who APPROACH ME. Who demand my attention at work, in the club, or on the street (and yes, that happens a lot!)ā€”Men need to realize that we trans women are also out here. And yeah we can be very good looking as well! :)
Recently, I had contact with a guy who also lives in the city. We made eye contact at a terrace, and he managed to find me later on Instagram. He started following me, and we got to know each other a bit. I quickly noticed that he wasn't serious and was sexualizing me. We kept some Snap contact and sometimes challenged each other intimately. He later heard about my past from a friend and said he didn't find it cool. He thought it was disrespectful that I didn't say anything. SORRY? Disrespectful? Did I ask you to follow me? Did I ask you to want me so much? AGAIN: Let this just be a reality check. Get to know me, and I would certainly tell you. But if you act so superficially, then you shouldn't expect me to disclose that.
How do you guys approach this? Do you have a tactic you apply? Do you feel 'guilty' if you don't say anything right away? What works best for you?
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2024.05.22 00:01 ikieneng My fanfiction - episode 4!

My fanfiction - episode 4!
The next part is here! This episode is so long that I had to split it, and today, you're finally getting part 3 of 3.
You can find the previous episodes in the side bar! (Community info page in the app)
DISCLAIMERS (the same ones as before)
The point of this fanfiction is not to be a straight-up continuation of events with the same themes, intensity, and tone. If you go into it with those expectations, you are probably not going to like it. Rather, itā€™s supposed to be how I wish things went if these events were real life. The resolution you want for a real-life situation isnā€™t often the right choice for a show, but it can be incredibly beautiful. Think of what youā€™re about to read to be a separate show then.
Episode 1 of this fanfiction begins after the episode ā€œ2:00ā€ (season 2 episode 4), so it replaces the episode ā€œCakeā€ and the ones that follow it. This fanfiction expects you to have seen the entirety of seasons 1 and 2, so you should watch those first.
I myself am bursting into the story here. The narrator and me are the same. While my character is like 95% real me, donā€™t take events about my life described here as facts. Some aspects of my life have been changed for the story. In my head, I started writing like an ā€œalternate meā€ character in 2016, fulfilling a lot of the things that I wish I had in life, adding that to my story. Iā€™m not really from Ukraine. I speak fluent Ukrainian as a foreign language, I started learning it in 2014, and Iā€™ve talked to tons of people from there, but Iā€™m not from Ukraine. I also donā€™t have as much money as I do in the story. I wish lmao.
If you want to post your own fanfiction, feel free to do so! To get your own post flair for your fanfic, and to appear in the side bar, please message me.

Part 3 (days 3 and 4)

Weā€™d wake up on day three, and still, nothing would be any different - weā€™re still locked up. Weā€™d both feel really worried not knowing if weā€™ll have to forfeit our whole plan because we might run out of food and water and take the risky route - calling the police and getting ourselves into a situation where weā€™d have to be freed by force, which would be so dangerous because the Turners have proven that thereā€™s nothing theyā€™re not prepared to do to us to ā€œget Jericho backā€. Leanne would ask me ā€œWhat do we do if we call the police, and Mrs. Turner comes up here and tries to hurt us?ā€ At first, Iā€™d insist that we start thinking about that when we do run out of food the next day, but sheā€™d insist we should come up with a plan. Iā€™d point at the corner on the edge of the attic facing Spruce Street, the corner thatā€™s to oneā€™s right when coming up into the attic,
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and say ā€œThen youā€™d curl up and hide over there, and Iā€™d take the radio, youā€™d take the metronome, and Iā€™d sit down in front of you, shielding you, and if she gets in here before the cops do, weā€™ll defend ourselves. And weā€™d record everything on my phone. And we should probably hide behind the sofa. Maybe then, she might not notice weā€™re still up here at first. Sheā€™d probably be in a state of panic.ā€ Sheā€™d look at me with sad, but touched eyes and just hug me and say thank you. Iā€™d reply ā€œOf courseā€. After some silence, Iā€™d tell her ā€œIf anything happens to meā€¦ Please bring me backā€.

Sheā€™d be touched by that, but say that if she reanimates me, the Church of Lesser Saints will come after ME as well because theyā€™ll believe that Iā€™ll be obligated to join. With a worried smile, Iā€™d say ā€œI know... But theyā€™re probably already gonna do that, right? Because I wonā€™t let them get to you!ā€ Weā€™d both nod with the same half-happy, half-worried expression. ā€œAnd if things go terribly wrong and you have to bring me back, we can try again!ā€

Iā€™d ask if Iā€™m getting it right that the ā€œgreat sinsā€ they think sheā€™s committing are not spending time with the Church and helping another family from the one that was assigned to her. Sheā€™d say yes and add that thereā€™s a lot more they hate her for, like her ā€œdisobedient and rebellious streakā€, disobeying their instructions, putting curses on people, and now, leaving the Marinos.
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After a few seconds of silence (out of shock that this is how the Church of Lesser Saints frames it), Iā€™d be like ā€œIf you disobey so many of their instructions, then...ā€, look her directly in the eyes, and go ā€œGood! Keep on disobeying them! Iā€™m actually kind of stunned that this is how they frame your actions, because that is so manipulative. Wanting to have a life where you donā€™t have to worry about your every step being watched and controlled, where you can actually freely explore what you believe ā€“ not what they tell you to believe, but what YOU believe, where you can do totally normal human things like listen to music, and where you can go wherever you want and make some basic decisions for yourself and work wherever you want, that doesnā€™t make you...ā€ (doing the ā€œquote-on-quoteā€ with my hands while I say it) ā€œquote-on-quote ā€˜disobedientā€™ or ā€˜rebelliousā€™, it makes you a normal human being. If they forbid every little thing that people do that makes you happy, if you then look for happiness elsewhere, thatā€™s on them. You canā€™t take every bit of joy away from people and then expect them to just deal with it. You wanting to run away, thatā€™s the logical result of their bullshit. And you didnā€™t ā€˜leaveā€™ the Marinos, you were taken. Donā€™t let them think youā€™re at fault in any way!ā€ She might have never heard any verbal confirmation before that her feelings about leaving are valid, and this would be so reassuring to her. Sheā€™d tell me that whenever she did things like not be there for meals at the Church, skip assemblies, or curse people without permission, she would be brought before May and the rest of the community, get questioned about her behavior, and sheā€™d have to self-flagellate to receive forgiveness.
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Iā€™d go really still and quiet when she mentions the self-flagellation, which sheā€™d then explain is a frequent punishment. That would freaking break my heart... Iā€™d ask her when was the last time she hurt herself, and it was a little less than two weeks ago, before she was forced to leave the Turners. Very carefully and quietly, Iā€™d ask her if it would be okay if she can show me her scars and add ā€œYou do NOT have to if youā€™re not comfortable, PLEASE donā€™t do it if youā€™re notā€, and after a second, sheā€™d nod and show me her back. My heart would break for her even more seeing her scars, Iā€™d just express how horrible it is that they made her do thatā€¦ Iā€™d show her some of my cut wounds from when I self-harmed, which I hadnā€™t done in like three and a half years at that point. Iā€™d want her to know that way that I get the urge, that I really do, but Iā€™d tell her that hurting oneself achieves nothing. All it does is make you feel horrible mentally and physically, and every time you do it, thereā€™s a risk of infection and even death. Iā€™d just tell her I understand while taking her in my arms. Iā€™d ask her to please look me in the eyes and tell me she wonā€™t hurt herself again, and that when she feels like doing it again, to please talk to me first. Sheā€™d quietly say ā€œI promiseā€ while looking me in the eyes, and after some longer embraces, weā€™d both smile a bit, that would make me really happy to hear! Iā€™d ask that when weā€™re out of here, if we can call a doctor sometime soon and get them to look at her scars to make sure none of them are infected, if sheā€™s comfortable enough, and sheā€™d nod and smile at me a little bit some more.

Weā€™d eat after that. Weā€™d run out of tomato soup that meal, and Iā€™d tell her that when weā€™re getting out of there, Iā€™d get her all the tomato soup in the world! ā€œWeā€™re gonna fill a whole hotel fridge with tomato soup!ā€ ā€œAnd with Ben & Jerryā€™s?ā€, sheā€™d ask, and Iā€™d say yes and say that weā€™re probably gonna need more than one fridge. Iā€™d say weā€™re gonna pick the nicest and most expensive hotel to stay at, an idea that sheā€™d love! ā€œYou still think Allentown is a good idea?ā€, Iā€™d ask her, and sheā€™d think my reasoning from the day before makes sense and say yes. Weā€™d look for the nicest hotel in Allentown online and see that there are ā€œonlyā€ three-star hotels in Allentown. Leanne would ask if getting such an expensive place to stay is really okay, and Iā€™d say ā€œMoney is not an issue, donā€™t worry about itā€ while reaching across her back and like caressing her right shoulder, looking her in the eyes, and smiling. ā€œAnd besides, letā€™s spoil you, you fucking deserve it after all this!ā€ We wouldnā€™t book anything yet because we wouldnā€™t know when we can get out of there yet, but looking at all those insanely nice hotels would lift our spirits a bit.

After eating the first half of that dayā€™s rations (only two half dayā€™s rations would be left after thatā€¦), weā€™d think that it would probably be a good idea if we started writing the document for the police right now. Writing it can take hours upon hours, and thereā€™s no point in delaying the rescue to write the document after I leave if we can do it right now, so weā€™d begin right that moment. It would begin something like ā€œMy name is Daria Horenko, born July 30, 1999 in Odesa, Ukraine, residing in 501 Pembroke Ave, Philadelphia 19050, Pennsylvania...ā€ (I donā€™t live there. I have no idea who does. Please leave them alone lmao) ā€œ...I sent this statement to my Facebook friend Liam [...] (residing in Tipperary, Ireland, using Facebook as Liam [...]) as a PDF file and told him to call the Philadelphia police and read this statement to them if I donā€™t come back online and confirm that Iā€™m okay by 10 PM Philadelphia time / 3 PM London, UK time on December 22, 2022. If he is reading this to you, it probably means that there was no sign of life from me by that time, and that Iā€™m not safe, probably kidnapped and locked up by Dorothy Turner, Sean Turner, Julian (Iā€™m not sure about his surname, but Iā€™m referring to Dorothy Turnerā€™s brother - redhead, not very tall, moderately overweight) in the attic of their residence at 9780 Spruce Street, Philadelphia 19139, Pennsylvaniaā€, and then document everything Iā€™ve seen in chronological order and everything that Leanne has told me, with a link to our video and photographic evidence, references to DNA evidence that can probably be found in the hole in the basement if they havenā€™t covered it up by now, and a statement at the end saying that Iā€™ve written it together with Leanne to make sure that everything is correct. That would take a really long time, hours for sure. But when itā€™s done, Iā€™d run spell- and grammar checks on it and send it to my printer at home, to be queued for printing when I get home and turn it on. Weā€™d also know that today (December 21) or tomorrow will be the day when we leave one way or another, so Iā€™d schedule a text message to 911 in 30 hours from that moment. The message would say ā€œThis is a scheduled message. If youā€™ve received it, then Leanne Grayson (born October 13, 2001)...ā€ (We only ever learn Leanneā€™s birth year from the gravestone. October 13 is Nell Tiger Freeā€™s birthday, so October 13, 2001 being Leanneā€™s birthday is kind of my headcanon)
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ā€œ...and me (Daria Horenko, born July 30, 1999) are probably not safe, abducted and locked up against our will by Dorothy Turner, her brother Julian, and Sean Turner in the attic of their house at 9780 Spruce Street, Philadelphia 19139, Pennsylvania or somewhere else on the property. We need help immediately. The Turners should be considered dangerous and very clearly willing to use violence and intimidation. We need help NOW. Details in our prepared statement: [the link]ā€. Because weā€™re holding out hope that we wonā€™t have to call the police from inside the attic, the document would include information on what our plan is to get Leanne (and me) out of there as safely as possible and call the police from the taxi, but that if we run out of rations, we wonā€™t have a choice but to call the police while weā€™re unarmed and while the Turners still have the upper hand.

We would debate whether we should include information about the Church of Lesser Saints right away or tell the police about them later because we know how that sounds, considering that this would hurt the credibility of our testimony,
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but weā€™d modify the document and include the most important information about them as well, with more believable explanations - how they forced Leanne and other members to self-harm (meaning that current members or those who recently left), where theyā€™re currently operating from in Lancaster,
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that they faked their deaths, that they forced Leanne to leave the Turners, and the necessary lie that they took the real baby, and that Leanne hasnā€™t seen it since that day and doesnā€™t know where theyā€™ve taken it. Weā€™d also include names and stuff, and most importantly, reference the baptism tape and say that it shows May and George watching us from the sidewalk outside the church less than three weeks ago, and that piece of evidence would change everything in regards to investigating the Church of Lesser Saints and make the police believe us. Weā€™d add that itā€™s probably among the other DVDs in the Turnersā€™ living room, and that Iā€™ll try to get it when leaving the building if our original plan is still going to be an option, rip the DVD at home, and add a link to the video file to the document. Weā€™d modify the scheduled text message as well, and weā€™d charge both phones, mine first because the scheduled message is so important, but itā€™s an iPhone, so we could charge it to 100% rather quickly and then charge hers. And weā€™d add that weā€™d want the police to get Leanneā€™s things from the Marino estate. All her stuff being there would be further evidence that she was taken suddenly and against her will. Weā€™d also add what number Leanne can be reached at for now with the Samsung Galaxy phone. And then, Iā€™d send the document to Liam on all platforms where I know how to reach him, followed by a message to alert the authorities if Iā€™m not back online confirming that weā€™re both okay in whatā€™s now probably more like 29 hours, the phone number of the Philadelphia police, and caps at the beginning saying that itā€™s an actual emergency.

Out of nowhere, Iā€™d ask her if sheā€™s seen ā€œTitanicā€ lmao, and with her near total isolation growing up, she wouldnā€™t have seen it. ā€œIā€™ve only seen movies on TVā€. Iā€™d be like ā€œI can show you lots of movies if you want! I got several subscriptions to streaming services, and also a bunch of stuff offline on an external drive at home.ā€
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Back on talking about ā€œTitanicā€, Iā€™d tell her itā€™s wonderful and so freaking romantic, albeit over-the-top at times for sure and a bit overrated. It has that glossy feeling and some superficial characters to it that all James Cameron movies have, but itā€™s still really wonderful. After explaining the plot to her (since sheā€™s grown up so isolated), Iā€™d tell her about one scene that Iā€™m thinking about a lot from time to time - near the end of the movie, when old Rose is done telling the researchers her story, she says that she doesnā€™t even have a picture of Jack, and that has hit me so hard from the first time Iā€™ve seen the movie.
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She has no physical memories of him, she can never see his face again, and she can never show people what he looked like. That just rips my heart. Iā€™d ask Leanne if we can take some pictures together. Weā€™d look pretty horrible because we havenā€™t been able to shower in days, but we wouldnā€™t care and take them anyway and really, genuinely smile so hard. Iā€™d send them to her email address (leanne_grayson@icloud.com, that email address is on her resume in the show),
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manually sync my gallery with iCloud, and Iā€™d send them to Liam. Iā€™d ask what phone she got back at the Marinosā€™ and if sheā€™s got any pictures of herself in her iCloud gallery, but sheā€™d tell me sheā€™s rarely ever taken pictures of herself, only for the resume she applied at the Turnersā€™ for, and Iā€™d be like ā€œWhaaaaat? But youā€™re so beautiful!ā€, and sheā€™d smile hard, a bit embarrassed. Iā€™d look her straight in the eyes and say it again and say that I mean it for real, she is so incredibly beautiful! Itā€™s probably so rare that anyoneā€™s ever said that to her in her entire life (her mother definitely didnā€™t, and given that the Church of Lesser Saints believes that anything that feels good is dangerous,
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itā€™s rather unlikely that they did), Tobe saying it in ā€œBalloonā€ might even have been the only time everā€¦
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Iā€™d then add ā€œInside AND out!ā€, and sheā€™d smile some more in a bit of embarrassment and then look me in the eyes and say ā€œYou, too, Daria!ā€, and as youā€™d expect, Iā€™d smile so hard and even with my eyes!

It would be rather late by then, so weā€™d eat and listen to some more music together from the Spotify playlist I created for her and talk so much about what weā€™re hearing.

After dinner, sheā€™d bring the topic up on her own (this is kind of making fun of these fan theories) - sheā€™d tell me that some in the Church of Lesser Saints think sheā€™s the Devil or Lilith because of her rebelliousness, and how sheā€™s inspired doubt in some people in the Church. Iā€™d make such a weirded-out face. After realizing sheā€™s serious, Iā€™d say ā€œIf you are the Devil, then hail Satan! Like, seriously, if YOU are what God is threatening will happen if we donā€™t follow him, then thatā€™s literally the weakest threat Iā€™ve ever heard of. Then God is the villain here. We need more people like you in the world!ā€ Shy as she still is, sheā€™d still be almost embarrassed to hear this (sheā€™s so not used to compliments), and Iā€™d make it clear Iā€™m serious, that I really think sheā€™s fricking wonderful and the sweetest, and that she clearly has a huge heart full of so much love, and that she deserves so much better than what sheā€™s ever experienced! Almost in denial, sheā€™d see in my eyes that I really mean it and just smile and hug me, and then, weā€™d both smile even more! Iā€™d rub her back a lot in that moment and promise her again that everything will be okay. ā€œIā€™ll make sure of that!ā€

After some more music together, knowing that tomorrow will be the day we leave, no matter which plan weā€™ll go with, weā€™d make sure we havenā€™t forgotten anything. Looking around, Iā€™d realize I have to give her my earphones with a cord because the internal mic of my Samsung Galaxy S5 Mini is essentially useless. Iā€™d tell her that when I call her the next day to tell her itā€™s safe to come downstairs now, she should answer the call, plug in the earphones, and then, it will take a few seconds until I can hear her, but then, it should be fine. Weā€™d set a code phrase that Iā€™ll mention to let her know if the Turners got me and itā€™s NOT safe to come down. Sheā€™d suggest ā€œtomato soupā€, and Iā€™d smile and say yes, thatā€™s gonna be our code phrase. ā€œAnd if it IS safe to come down?ā€, sheā€™d ask, and Iā€™d suggest ā€œice creamā€.

Iā€™d realize that we should probably find her fresh clothes in the attic and a coat right now, so as I said, itā€™s not too obvious that sheā€™s been locked up for a long time the second she walks out of the door, because if sheā€™s in dirty clothes or nightwear, with it being obvious that she hasnā€™t showered in days, and I get her out of there and into a taxi to drive off while I got a gun, it would look as if I was kidnapping her, so weā€™d find her a nice dress and coat up there, and Iā€™d turn around and close my eyes while she puts it on, and when sheā€™s done, Iā€™d tell her again that she looks amazing! šŸ˜Š
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And sheā€™d smile and thank me this time, sort of the way she says it to the makeup artist at the street fair in S3E5 ā€œTigerā€ in that typical way of hers thatā€™s so adorable for real,
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and sheā€™d look in my direction and say ā€œYou look really beautiful, too!ā€, really shy, before peeking me in the eyes for a moment, and weā€™d just look at each other for a moment. ā€œCan I have your pictures?ā€, sheā€™d ask me, and Iā€™d say yeah, open my iPhone, and select ALL pictures of myself in my gallery and send them to her email address, and send her those that are too large via a Google Drive link (iCloud isnā€™t great for sharing files lol), and then, Iā€™d take her Samsung Galaxy S5 Mini, download them all (which would take a while because that phone is ancient), and set one of the pictures weā€™ve taken together as her wallpaper, and then set it as my wallpaper on my iPhone as well! šŸ˜Š

Weā€™d consider if thereā€™s anything else weā€™ve missed. Sheā€™d mention that parts of the floor screech, especially one tile, so when I sneak out, I gotta be careful on the stairs, especially with that one tile.
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After a few seconds, sheā€™d ask me if we wanna book a hotel now, and Iā€™d smile and say sure! ā€œDid you like any hotels in particular, out of the ones we looked at?ā€ Sheā€™d say ā€œThe one with the big jacuzzi looks greatā€ with big eyes and enthusiasm in her voice, like she does during some of her conversations with Tobe in S3E5 ā€œTigerā€. ā€œYouā€™ve ever been in a jacuzzi?ā€, Iā€™d ask her, and sheā€™d go ā€œNooo, but I wanna try!ā€ in the same tone,
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and so, after lying down now, weā€™d look up which hotel she was talking about and book a two-room suite in that hotel in Allentown for three weeks. Iā€™d add ā€œSo we can easily look out for each other, and so youā€™ll also have some privacy.ā€, and sheā€™d smile and nod, that consideration would probably mean a lot to her.

Weā€™d then get ready for bed. For the next day, Iā€™d get some better clothes as well and put them on while sheā€™s turned around with her eyes closed. Iā€™d take the last ration of food out of my backpack, put the clothes I just took off at the bottom of it, above Leanneā€™s Bible (the porcelain baby and card are already in one of the other pockets), and put my phone and the chargers in another pocket. Iā€™d look around and ask her if thereā€™s anything else I should take with me to safeguard, and at first, sheā€™d also look around because she wouldnā€™t know how to answer right away, but sheā€™d then point at Mrs. Barrington with her face,
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and Iā€™d be like ā€œWell, I think sheā€™s a little too big for my backpack, but I can talk to the police when weā€™re out of here, maybe we can try to get her!ā€, and Leanne would nod with a big smile again.

Weā€™d lie down on the mattress and share the covers again. Just like the night before, Iā€™d lie down on the side of the mattress thatā€™s closer to the stairs, in case Dorothy changes her mind and tries to assault Leanne againā€¦ On the mattress, sheā€™d suddenly hug me really tight, break into tears, and thank me over and over again, and Iā€™d just hold her tight, say ā€œOf courseā€, and assure her that everythingā€™s gonna be okay, that weā€™ll get out of there tomorrow. Iā€™d wipe some of her tears off her face šŸ„ŗ On the mattress, weā€™d just look each other in the eyes and both just smile more and more, and after a minute or two, sheā€™d kiss me on the lips for a tiiiiny moment and then, weā€™d just smile at each other even harder! Sheā€™d say ā€œIā€™m not supposed to do thatā€ while still smiling just as hard and looking me directly in the eyes! ā€œSays who?ā€, Iā€™d reply. She goes ā€œMy aunts and unclesā€, and Iā€™d say ā€œI donā€™t think theyā€™re a reliable source!ā€, and weā€™d kiss each other some more and longer, and both feel each otherā€™s smile on our lips, and peek at each other a few times in between šŸ˜ŠšŸ„°ā¤ļø Weā€™d both put our arms around each other before telling each other good night and before I promise her one more time itā€™s all going to be okay!
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At some point during the night, sheā€™d wake me up, and when she does, Iā€™d realize I had a nightmare, like, not from my night terrors, and sheā€™d tell me I had a nightmare, that I was sniffling in my sleep, and that I told her two days earlier to wake me up if this happens. Still feeling terrible (the feeling of immediate dread always takes a while to subside for me), Iā€™d thank her. Iā€™d ask what I was saying, and sheā€™d say that I wasnā€™t speaking English. Iā€™d consider if I should tell her for a moment, but then, Iā€™d take a deep breath, look up for a second, and with a heavy voice, slowly say ā€œWhat if we try plan A tomorrow, and I fail? Iā€™m scaredā€¦ I donā€™t wanna mess this upā€¦ I donā€™t wanna fail youā€¦ā€ And sheā€™d slowly look at me and just say two words: ā€œYou havenā€™t!ā€ Iā€™d look at her and almost laugh a bit out of joy. Iā€™d smile and just cuddle up to her a bit, and sheā€™d do it back. Iā€™d say Iā€™ll try to listen to music for a while to calm down because doing something else makes it much easier for me to zone out of the feeling of dread again. ā€œWhy only you?ā€, sheā€™d ask. ā€œI donā€™t wanna keep you awakeā€, Iā€™d say, ā€œYou need the sleepā€, and sheā€™d say ā€œItā€™s okayā€ and just smile a bit, and so, weā€™d listen to some music together for about half an hour.

Iā€™d tell her that my sleep is so horrible (sheā€™d say she can tell) because I donā€™t have my meds, and Iā€™m really fricking looking forward to taking them again. Without them, the quality of my sleep is terrible, and it takes so long for me to fall asleep at all if I donā€™t take them. Sheā€™d ask if Iā€™ve taken them for a long time, and Iā€™d say that I havenā€™t taken these particular meds for long because whatever I take, my body builds up some resistance to them pretty quickly, so after a while, I always have to get new ones, but Iā€™ve taken sleeping meds for years now. ā€œIt sounds like theyā€™re really helping you, right?ā€, sheā€™d ask, and Iā€™d nod and say ā€œYeah, they really do. Iā€™m also taking antidepressants, and they were an absolute gamechanger for me. Itā€™s okay if I donā€™t take them for a few days because they donā€™t work in the moment, but they like rewire your brain over time, and theyā€™re the best thing thatā€™s ever happened to my mental health. Before I started taking them, it was so hard for me to avoid bad thoughts or resist them, like, it was hell, but ever since then, it got sooo much easier, and not letting things get to me or not letting bad things really take over me is just so much easier now.ā€ After a while, Iā€™d say ā€œI was at a psychiatric clinic voluntarily for six months, but I also had nowhere else to go, and the doctors and employees really abused their power. They only intervened when there was physical violence, they didnā€™t intervene in any other conflicts, so because of them, the patients constantly bullied each other. My doctor switched to another department while I was there, so I got a new one, and the new one wasnā€™t perfect, but at least, she cared. I got really lucky to get a place at a living group for mentally ill people, which was when I could finally leave. But honestly, all my experiences with mental health professionals since then have been better. I went to a different clinic for four or five days voluntarily in 2019, and even they were far better. ā€œThat sounds scaryā€¦ā€, sheā€™d say. Iā€™d reply ā€œIt was. But things got much better after that. I had lots of setbacks, like, you know, but if you get help, itā€™s always better.ā€

After the current songā€™s over, weā€™d lie down to try and sleep again. Weā€™d smile at each other again in bed, and Iā€™d give her a short-ish kiss before saying good night, and weā€™d both smile even harder after that šŸ˜ And we would fall asleep for good after a while (it would still take me longer than her).

In the morning, Leanne would wake me up again. Sheā€™d show me that the door is unlocked and open by a little bit now (theyā€™re ā€œlettingā€ her out for a few hoursā€¦),
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and weā€™d both just embrace and chuckle in huge joy, as we can go with plan A now, the less risky one! Weā€™d remember to quiet down after a few seconds and whisper from then on out. Iā€™d go to the toilet roll, take eight pieces, rip them into two bands of four pieces each, and roll each of them up into a little bunch. Iā€™d give them to her and tell her to put them into the wall pieces of the door when she gets out (so it looks like the door is closed while it canā€™t actually lock) and give me an audible signal when the third floor is clear, so Iā€™ll get out with my backpack, take out the toilet paper, and hide in her room.
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ā€œIs there anything you want me to get from there?ā€, Iā€™d ask. ā€œNo. Everything is here or at the Marinosā€™.ā€ Iā€™d go ā€œOkayā€ and move on - since Iā€™m almost definitely unable to come down to the second floor right away (Iā€™m using American English in all of these episodes. ā€œFirst floorā€ in American English = ā€œground floorā€ in British English; ā€œSecond floorā€ in American English = ā€œfirst floorā€ in British English; ā€œThird floorā€ in American English = ā€œsecond floorā€ in British English, etc.), sheā€™d give me a signal when coming back upstairs. Weā€™d agree that when she comes back upstairs, if itā€™s safe to go to the second floor, sheā€™d shout something, maybe in conversation, maybe some sort of cry, doesnā€™t matter, and if not, sheā€™d kick something. Sheā€™d be locked upstairs again after that, so Iā€™ll have to tell when to get further downstairs myself, which Iā€™d do as soon as Iā€™ve heard absolutely no sounds from inside the house for at least a few minutes. On the first floor, Iā€™d get the DVD from March 11, 2001, and if the baptism tape isnā€™t clearly labeled among the tapes, Iā€™d unplug the DVD player from the TV, turn on the player, open the DVD slot, and if the tape isnā€™t in there, Iā€™d take all unlabeled tapes. Iā€™d then listen in on the basement door for a few seconds, and if I hear no sounds from down there, Iā€™d quietly open the basement door and go downstairs, and if no oneā€™s there, Iā€™d get out through the side entrance down there, out through the back gate, walk back to Spruce Street, drive my bike home, take a shower, watch the tape from March 11, 2011 like she told me I could, hide it somewhere at home, print out the document for the police, take it with me in an envelope, print out a second version of it to give to the taxi driver, so I can say ā€œIf Iā€™m not back in an hour, please call the police for me and read this to themā€. Iā€™d then call a taxi (a taxi with a large trunk whose driver is allowed to drive to Allentown and back), load my gun, and leave for the Turnersā€™ and get Leanne.

Weā€™d see that Liam has replied by now. Of course, heā€™d be super worried, but heā€™s got our backs for the plan, and that would be really reassuring. Weā€™d look each other in the eyes, and then, Iā€™d hug her sooo tight for several seconds, and weā€™d have one loooong kiss (hoping itā€™s not the last time we see each otherā€¦) before she goes downstairs while looking back at me on the way before putting the toilet paper in the door. Iā€™d then put on my backpack. Once Leanne loudly shouts ā€œMister Turner?ā€, that would be my signal, and Iā€™d hide in her room for about 45 minutes before sheā€™s ā€œletā€ back upstairs and shouts ā€œYou can lock me in now, Mrs. Turnerā€,
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which is when Iā€™d sneak into the storage/guest room and wait. It would take like five hours until I hear nothing for a while, which is when Iā€™d sneak onto the first floor, look around to make extra sure no oneā€™s there, and go to the living room. Iā€™d get the tape from March 11, 2011, and the baptism tape would be among the labeled DVDs, and Iā€™d put it into the box of the March 11, 2011 tape (Iā€™d put the original DVD loose in there and use the spot inside the box for the baptism tape because itā€™s probably more important. I then wouldnā€™t hear anything from the basement, so Iā€™d slowly and quietly go down there. No one would be there, so Iā€™d leave as planned and go home and take a shower. Iā€™d watch the March 11, 2011 DVD. Iā€™d be surprised to see the interaction between Leanne and Dorothy for sure, but sort of knowing her, I wouldnā€™t think anything bad of it. Iā€™d actually get it because of my past celebrity crushes (which I know isnā€™t what she was feeling for Dorothy) and the desire to meet them, especially with Blanche. Iā€™d get why Leanne wouldnā€™t want the police to see it, it would look bad for her. Iā€™d wrap up the DVD in a thick piece of paper and tape it to the back of my closet, between the closet and the wall. Iā€™d burn the piece of paper in the DVD case in my bathtub with a bucket of water next to me just in case. Iā€™d test if the DVD of the baptism tape still works (it does), rip it, upload the video file to Google Drive, add it to the document for the police, cancel my printing queue, print the document (two versions of it. The one for the taxi driver would just have a short introduction at the beginning, like, that Iā€™m the person who ordered the taxi), order the taxi, pack my things for the next couple of weeks and anything that Leanne might need, so Iā€™d include any clothes that I think could fit her, and go to the taxi. Iā€™d tell the driver to get me one block away from 9780 Spruce Street (which isnā€™t actually a real address, by the way) and wait there for me. Before leaving for the Turner house, Iā€™d give him the envelope with his version of the letter for the police and tell him what I said I would tell him. Iā€™d then get my backpack with the gun in it from my luggage in the trunk, and walk to the Turnersā€™ house.

I have already "written" so much more in my head, but I've now reached the end of what I've actually written down, so it will take longer until the next episode is out now! Hope you've enjooooyed this one!
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2024.05.22 00:01 thesunisasupernova 24 [F4M] #USA/Online. In need of a friend or few for gaming, watching movies, chatting, general nerdiness, etc!

Heya! This is F4M because I'm a tomboy and I have always gotten along better with and always have had more in common with guys than with other girls. I'm not looking for dating, (although that could change in the future, no promises) just friends at the moment please!
So, I've been lonely and spending a lot of time by myself lately and I figured I should try and make some new friends (21+ please, I can't relate with teenagers, sorry)! I mostly communicate on Discord and/or Steam through texting and voice chat, being a gamer and all lol. I'm based in Ohio but I'm totally cool with online friendships from anywhere! If it matters, I'm pale, short, and average weight (5'2" and 115lbs.) I'm not a smoketoker and I occasionally will drink socially, but only if the other person/people are comfortable with it.
I have a fair amount of games, mostly singleplayer stuff like Bioshock, Dishonored, Far Cry, Assassin's Creed, Ghostrunner, Skyrim, SOMA, Metro, STALKER, that sort of thing, but I also do some multiplayer ones we can do together like Deep Rock Galactic, Baldur's Gate 3, Risk of Rain 2, Halo MCC, Project Zomboid, Ready or Not, Path of Titans, Golf With Your Friends, Left 4 Dead 2, Dying Light 1&2, No Man's Sky, Project Ascension WoW (a private server basically), and even Warcraft 3 (a childhood favorite of mine!) I also have some I haven't dabbled much in like Rainbow Six, Titanfall 2 MP, Hell Let Loose, Arma 3, Mortal Kombat X, Pavlov VR (yes I have a headset, I use it maybe once or twice a year though lol). I mostly like narrative/story, RTS, roguelike, horror, survival, and co-op games. Sometimes FPS too. I'm an ex-Riot fan and a ex-Blizzard fan (sad trumpets playing Taps, bweh bwehhh.) There's more games I have I'm probably forgetting about, those are just some big examples.
As for movies, I like pretty much everything! Western films, artsy fartsy foriegn films, detective noirs, action movies, horror, romance, historical fiction, documentaries, whatever. Anything from Life Of Brian to The Devil All The Time! I have a soft spot for classics and monster movies (Alien and Godzilla are some of my favorite franchises and I have posters in my room!) Currently I'm in season 2 of Vikings and am waiting for the next season of The Boys, and would love recommendations for other shows to try out, bonus points if you'd watch them with me!
For other interests, I like creative stuff like music, reading, writing, drawing, etc. but I also like dinosaurs/paleontology and history, especially ancient civilizations. Science in general fascinates me and I almost got into quantum physics but turned a different corner in life, lol. I love renaissance festivals and cosplay/LARP (though I haven't gotten into it myself yet, I just attend events as a normal modern person, but I'd love to go in character someday!) And yes, I'm a rootin' tootin' American that thinks guns are Pretty Awesome and I'd love to learn more about them and maybe someday start going to ranges or maybe even hunting one day! I'm also curious about Warhammer 40k and would love to get more into it. I don't know very much about it but I do know the fanspace is kinda imploding right now because of, erm, recent events. Smh they couldn't just let Henry Cavil do his thing, huh?
I did at one point like anime and manga but I've kind of grown out of it. I'm not opposed to dipping my toes back in every once in a while and I do still have my old manga collections, but it's not a big thing I'm into anymore.
I will say that while I'm mostly looking for friends to game together with and watch movies/shows with, I'd prefer if we weren't too different in morals/values since I've tried making friends with opposites all my life and it never went well and was always tense (I'm right-leaning with conservative/traditional values.) I don't generally like talking about politics very much but I would like to finally have a friend that I can relate to, relax around, and feel the same way about political/social issues with.
Lastly, I have a deeper voice because of my personal medical history (I'm fine now, don't worry!), so hopefully that doesn't bother you too much! You're welcome to ask about it, it's just that this post is way too long already lmao.
Send me a message if you dare and let's see if we mesh well! Thanks! :D
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Emoji Movie, The [2017] (MA + Sony points)
Ender's Game (iTunes 4K or Vudu/GP HD)
Epic [2013] (MA)
Equalizer, The [2014] (MA + Sony points)
Equalizer 2, The (MA + Sony points)
Escape From Planet Earth (Vudu)
Ex Machina (Vudu)
Exodus: Gods & Kings (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA)
Fate Of The Furious [F8] [Theatrical] (MA 4K)
Fences [2016] (iTunes 4K or Vudu HD)
Fifty Shades Darker [2017] [Unrated] (MA 4K)
Fifty Shades Of Grey (iTunes/ports 4K)
Finding Dory (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA + 150 points)
Flight [2012] (Vudu or iTunes)
Fortress [2021] (Vudu or Google Play)
Frozen [2013] (iTunes/ports 4K+ 150 points)
Fury [2014] (MA + Sony points)
Get Out [2017] (MA)
Ghost Team One [2013] (Vudu or iTunes)
Gifted [2017] (MA or Google Play/ports, iTunes option is expired)
God Bless The Broken Road (Vudu or Google Play)
Gods Not Dead 2 [2016] (MA or iTunes/ports)
Gods Of Egypt (Vudu/GP HD or iTunes 4K)
Grey, The [2012] (MA or iTunes/ports)
Guardians Of The Galaxy Vol.2 (MA + 150 points/no iTunes option)
Guilt Trip, The [2012] (Vudu)
Hacksaw Ridge (Vudu or Google Play/iTunes option expired)
Hail, Caesar [2016] (MA or iTunes/ports)
Halloween [2018] (MA)
Hansel & Gretel: Witch Hunters [Unrated] (iTunes)
Hateful Eight, The (Vudu or Google Play)
Heat, The [2013] [Theatrical] (MA or Google Play/ports)
Hell Or High Water (Vudu or Google Play)
Hercules [2014] (iTunes 4K or Vudu HD)
Hitman's Bodyguard, The (Vudu or Google Play/iTunes option is expired)
Home [2015] [DreamWorks] (MA)
Homefront [2013] (iTunes/ports)
Honey 2 [2011] (MA)
How To Train Your Dragon 2 (MA)
Hunger Games: Mockingjay Part 1, The (iTunes 4K or Google Play HD)
Hunger Games: Mockingjay Part 2, The (Vudu)
Instant Family (iTunes 4K)
Internship, The [2013] (MA or Google Play/ports)
Interstellar (Vudu or Google Play)
Invisible Man, The [1933] (MA)
It Follows [2015] (Vudu)
Jackass 3 [Theatrical] (Vudu or iTunes)
Jack Reacher (Vudu)
Jack Reacher: Never Go Back (Vudu)
Jack Ryan: Shadow Recruit (iTunes 4K)
Jason Bourne [2016] (iTunes/ports 4K)
John Henry [2020] (Vudu)
John Wick (iTunes 4K)
John Wick 1 & 2 (Vudu or Google Play)
John Wick: Chapter 2 (iTunes 4K)
John Wick Chapter 3: Parabellum (iTunes 4K) or all 3 for $5
Joy [2015] (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA)
Jumanji: Welcome To The Jungle (MA + Sony points)
Jurassic World (iTunes/ports 4K)
Jurassic World: Fallen Kingdom (MA)
Justice [2017] (MA or iTunes/ports)
Kick-Ass 2 [2013] (MA)
Kidnap [2017] (iTunes/ports)
Killer Elite (iTunes/ports)
Kingsman: The Secret Service (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA)
Last Knights [2015] (Vudu)
Last Vegas [2013] (MA + Sony points)
Last Witch Hunter, The [2015] (iTunes 4K or Google Play)
Let's Be Cops [2014] (iTunes/ports 4K)
Life Of Pi (iTunes/ports 4K)
Lockout [2012] [Unrated] (MA + Sony points)
Lone Survivor [2013] (iTunes/ports 4K)
Longest Ride, The (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA)
Lorax, The [2012] (MA or iTunes/ports)
Love, Simon [2018] (MA)
Lucy [2014] (iTunes/ports 4K)
Maleficent (iTunes/ports 4K + 150 points)
Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again [2018] (MA)
Marauders (Vudu)
Martian, The [2015] [Theatrical] (iTunes/ports 4K)
Mary Poppins [1964] (MA + 150 points)
Maze Runner, The [2014] (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA)
Mechanic: Resurrection (Vudu/GP HD or iTunes 4K)
Men In Black 3 (MA + Sony points)
MI-5 [2015] (Vudu)
Mindgamers [2017] (MA)
Miracles From Heaven (MA + Sony points)
Mission Impossible: Fallout (iTunes 4K)
Miss Peregrine's Home For Peculiar Children (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA)
Monuments Men, The [2014] (MA + Sony points)
Mortal Instruments: The City Of Bones, The [2014] (MA + Sony points)
Mother's Day [2016] (MA)
Mountain Between Us, The [2017] (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA) PENDING
Murder On The Orient Express [2017] (MA or Google Play/ports)
My Big Fat Greek Wedding 2 (iTunes/ports)
Neighbors [2014] (iTunes/ports)
Night At The Museum: Secret Of The Tomb (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA)
Noah [2014] (Vudu)
Non-Stop [2014] (MA or iTunes/ports)
Norm Of The North (Vudu or iTunes)
Now You See Me 2 (iTunes 4K)
Nut Job, The [2014] (MA or iTunes/ports)
Oblivion [2013] (iTunes/ports 4K)
Ouija [2014] (MA)
Overlord [2018] (Vudu)
Oz: The Great & Powerful (MA + 100 points)
Paddington (Vudu)
Paranormal Activity [2009] [Theatrical] (iTunes)
Paranormal Activity 2 [Unrated Director's Cut] (Vudu or iTunes)
Paranormal Activity 3 [Extended] (Vudu or iTunes)
Paranormal Activity 4 [Unrated] (iTunes)
Paranormal Activity: The Marked Ones [Theatrical] (iTunes)
Passengers [2016] (MA + Sony points)
Percy Jackson: Sea Of Monsters (MA or Google Play/ports)
Pet Sematary [2019] (iTunes 4K or Vudu HD)
Pitch Perfect (iTunes/ports 4K)
Playing With Fire (iTunes 4K or Vudu HD) PENDING
Predator, The [2018] (MA or Google Play/ports)
Prometheus (MA or Google Play/ports, no iTunes option)
Proud Mary [2018] (MA)
Quiet Place, A [2018] (iTunes 4K)
Ralph Breaks The Internet (MA + 150 points/no iTunes option)
Red Dawn [2012] (Vudu or Google Play)
Redemption [2013] (Vudu)
Replicas [2019] (iTunes 4K or Vudu/GP HD)
Riddick [Unrated] (MA)
Rings [2017] (Vudu)
R.I.P.D. Rest In Peace Department (iTunes/ports 4K)
Rise Of The Guardians [2011] (MA)
Risen [2016] (MA + Sony points)
Robin Hood [2018] (iTunes 4K or Vudu/GP HD)
Rock Dog (iTunes)
Rogue One: A Star Wars Story (iTunes/ports 4K + 150 points)
Roman J. Israel, Esq [2017] (MA + Sony points)
Rush [2013] (MA) PENDING
Saban's Power Rangers (iTunes 4K or Vudu/GP HD)
Savages [2012] [Theatrical] (iTunes/ports)
Scorpion King 3: Battle For Redemption (iTunes/ports)
Secret Life Of Pets, The (MA 4K or iTunes/ports 4K)
Seventh Son [2015] (iTunes/ports)
Sex Tape [2014] (MA + Sony points)
Show Dogs [2018] (MA)
Silver Linings Playbook (Vudu or Google Play)
Sing [2016] (iTunes/ports 4K)
Sinister (Vudu, iTunes or Google Play)
Sisters [2015] [Unrated] (MA or iTunes/ports)
Skyscraper [2018] (MA)
Sparkle [2012] (MA)
Spider-Man: Homecoming [2017] (MA + Sony points)
Spider-Man: No Way Home [2021] (MA + Sony points)
Split [2017] (MA)
Spy [2015] [Unrated] (MA, iTunes or Google Play/ports)
Star Trek [2009] (iTunes 4K)
Star Wars: The Force Awakens (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA + 150 points)
Step Up All In [2014] (Vudu)
Step Up Revolution (Vudu or Google Play)
Straight Outta Compton [Unrated] (iTunes/ports 4K)
Super 8 (Vudu)
Super Buddies (MA without points)
Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles [2014] (iTunes 4K or Vudu HD)
Terminator: Genisys (iTunes 4K)
Top Gun (Vudu)
Total Recall [2012] [Theatrical & Director's Cut] (MA + Sony points)
Tower Heist [Theatrical] (iTunes/ports)
Tremors: A Cold Day In Hell (MA)
True Blood season 4 (iTunes)
True Grit [2010] (Vudu or iTunes)
Tyler Perry's A Madea Family Funeral (Vudu, iTunes or Google Play)
Twilight: Breaking Dawn Part 1 (iTunes 4K)
Underworld: Blood Wars (MA + Sony points)
Vendetta [2016] (Vudu)
Venom [2018] (MA + Sony points)
Walk Among The Tombstones, A (iTunes/ports)
Walking With Dinosaurs: The Movie (MA, iTunes or Google Play/ports)
War Room [2015] (MA + Sony points)
Why Him? [2016] (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA)
Wolf Of Wall Street, The (Vudu)
Woman In Black, The [2012] (MA)
Wonder [2017] (Vudu/GP HD or iTunes 4K)
Wonder Park [2019] (iTunes 4K or Vudu HD)
Woodlawn [2015] (MA or iTunes/ports)
X-Men: Apocalypse (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA)
Your Highness [2011] [Unrated] (iTunes/ports)
Zootopia (MA without points)

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127 Hours (iTunes/ports)
12 Rounds [2009] [Extreme Cut] (iTunes/ports)
Aliens In The Attic (iTunes/ports)
Amelia (iTunes/ports)
Beasts Of The Southern Wild (iTunes/ports)
Black Swan (iTunes/ports)
Date Night [Unrated Extended Edition] (iTunes/ports)
Dr. Seussā€™ Horton Hears A Who! (ITunes/ports)
Jumper [2008] (iTunes/ports)
Percy Jackson double feature [Lightning Thief & Sea of Monsters] (MA)
Ramona & Beezus (iTunes/ports)
Street Kings (iTunes/ports)
Three Stooges: The Movie, The [2012] (iTunes/ports)

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$1 Codes

$1 HD

Alex Cross (Vudu)
Bad Grandpa [Theatrical] (Vudu or iTunes)
Bad Moms (iTunes/ports)
Battleship [2012] (MA)
Big Hero 6 (Google Play/ports)
Book Club (Vudu)
Bourne Legacy, The (MA)
Bring It On: Worldwide Cheersmack [2017] (iTunes/ports)
Deadpool (iTunes/ports 4K or HD MA/GP)
Divergent (iTunes 4K or Vudu/GP HD)
Divergent Series: Insurgent, The (iTunes 4K or Vudu/GP HD)
Duff, The [2015] (Vudu)
Everest [2015] (MA)
Expendables 2, The (iTunes 4K or Vudu/GP HD)
Expendables 3, The [Theatrical] (iTunes 4K or Google Play HD)
Fast & Furious 6, The [Extended] (iTunes/ports 4K)
Fast & The Furious, The [2001] (MA)
Fast & The Furious: Tokyo Drift, The (MA)
Fast Five [Extended] (MA)
Fate Of The Furious, The [8] [Theatrical or Extended] (MA)
Frozen: Sing Along Edition (MA without points)
Furious 7 [Extended] (iTunes/ports 4K)
Ghost In The Shell [2017] (Vudu)
G.I. Joe: Retaliation (Vudu)
Girls Trip [2017] (MA)
Hillsong: Let Hope Rise [2016] (MA or iTunes/ports)
Hunger Games, The [2012] (iTunes 4K)
Hunger Games: Mockingjay Part 1, The (Vudu)
Huntsman: Winter's War, The [2016] [Extended] (MA)
Identity Thief [2013] [Theatrical] (iTunes/ports)
I, Frankenstein (Vudu, iTunes or Google Play)
Jack Ryan: Shadow Recruit (Vudu)
Jason Bourne (MA)
Leprechaun: Origins (Vudu)
Les MisƩrables [2012] (MA)
Minions [2015] (MA)
Mission Impossible: Fallout (Vudu)
Mission Impossible: Ghost Protocol (Vudu)
Mission Impossible: Rogue Nation (Vudu) or both for $2.50
Mummy, The [2017] (MA)
Mummy: Tomb Of The Dragon Emperor (MA)
Now You See Me [Extended] (iTunes)
Oblivion [2013] (MA)
Parental Guidance [2012] (MA)
Perks Of Being A Wallflower, The (Vudu or Google Play)
Pitch Perfect (MA)
Quiet Place, A (Vudu)
Ride Along 2 (MA)
RIPD Rest In Peace Department (MA)
Safe [2012] (Vudu or Google Play)
Secret Life Of Pets, The (MA)
Selma (iTunes)
Shack, The [2017] (iTunes)
Skyfall (Vudu or Google Play)
Snitch (iTunes 4K or Vudu/Google Play HD)
Star Trek: Beyond (Vudu)
Ted [Unrated] (MA) or [Theatrical] (iTunes/ports)
Terminator: Genisys (Vudu)
Transformers: Age Of Extinction (iTunes 4K)
Transformers: Dark Of The Moon (Vudu)
Trolls [2017] (MA)
Twilight: Breaking Dawn Part 2 (iTunes 4K)
Tyler Perry's Madea's Witness Protection (iTunes)
Tyler Perry's Temptation: Confessions Of A Marriage Counselor (Vudu or Google Play)
Unbroken [2014] (MA)
Warm Bodies (Vudu)
What To Expect When You're Expecting (iTunes)
World War Z (Vudu)
Zootopia (Google Play/ports)

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21 Jump Street (MA + Sony points)
Act Of Valor (iTunes)
After Earth [2013] (MA + Sony points)
Alpha [2018] (MA + Sony points)
Amazing Spider-Man 2, The [2014] (MA + Sony points)
American Hustle [2013] (MA + Sony points)
Bad Boys For Life [2020] (MA + Sony points)
Big Mommas Like Father, Like Son (iTunes/ports)
Captain Phillips (MA + Sony points)
Charlie's Angels [2019] (MA + Sony points)
Concussion [2015] (MA + Sony points)
Dirty 30 (Vudu)
Dog's Way Home, A [2019] (MA + Sony points)
Evil Dead [2013] (MA + Sony points)
Forbidden Kingdom, The (iTunes)
Glee: The Concert (iTunes/ports)
Goosebumps 2 [2018] (MA + Sony points)
Grown Ups 2 (MA + Sony points)
Hangover, The [2009] [Theatrical] (iTunes/ports)
Haywire (iTunes)
Heat, The [2013] (iTunes/ports SD)
Here Comes The Boom [2012] (MA + Sony points)
Hotel Transylvania 3 (MA + Sony points)
Ice Age: Dawn Of The Dinosaurs (iTunes/ports)
Immortals [2011] (iTunes)
Insidious: Chapter 3 (MA + Sony points)
Insidious: The Last Key (MA + Sony points)
Insidious: The Red Door [2023] (MA + Sony points)
Journey To Bethlehem [2023] (MA + Sony points)
Jumanji: The Next Level (MA + Sony points)
Knight & Day (iTunes/ports)
Men In Black III [2012] (MA + Sony points)
Mirror Mirror [2012] (iTunes)
Mortal Instruments: The City Of Bones (MA + Sony points)
Night At The Museum: Battle Of The Smithsonian (iTunes/ports)
Once Upon A Time In Hollywood [2019] (MA + Sony points)
Overcomer [2019] (MA + Sony points)
Parker [2013] (MA + Sony points)
Percy Jackson & The Olympians: The Lightning Thief (iTunes/ports)
Perfect Guy, The [2015] (MA + Sony points)
Perks Of Being A Wallflower, The (iTunes SD only)
Peter Rabbit [2018] (MA + Sony points)
Predators [2010] (iTunes/ports)
Public Enemies [2009] (iTunes/ports)
Rise Of The Planet Of The Apes (iTunes/ports)
Robin Hood [2010] [Unrated] (iTunes/ports)
Safe Haven (iTunes)
Scoob [2020] (MA)
Shallows, The [2016] (MA + 150 points)
Sparkle [2012] (MA)
Spider-Man: Far From Home [2019] (MA + Sony points)
Spider-Man: Into The Spiderverse (MA + Sony points)
Spider-Man: No Way Home [2021] (MA + Sony points)
Star, The [2017] (MA + Sony points)
Taken [2009] [Extended Cut] (iTunes/ports)
Thousand Words, A [2012] (Vudu)
Twilight: Breaking Dawn Part 1 (Vudu SD only or iTunes SD only)
Tyler Perry's Madea's Tough Love (Vudu)
Underworld: Awakening (MA + Sony points)
Venom: Let There Be Carnage (MA + Sony points)
Vow, The [2012] (MA + Sony points)
Zombieland: Double Tap (MA + Sony points)

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Super Cheap SD & HD Codes

All movies are 3 for $1 each/must spend at least $1 on total order.
Cabin In The Woods, The (Vudu SD only)
Croods, The (iTunes/ports SD)
Diary Of A Wimpy Kid: Dog Days (iTunes/ports SD)
Expendables 2, The (Vudu SD only or iTunes SD only)
Expendables 3, The [Unrated] (iTunes HD only)
Fast Five [Extended] (iTunes/ports HD)
Hunger Games, The (Vudu SD or iTunes SD only)
Hunger Games: Catching Fire, The (Vudu HD only)
John Wick 3 (Google Play HD only)
Jurassic World (MA ports HD)
Life Of Pi (iTunes/ports SD)
Mechanic: Resurrection (Vudu SD only)
Now You See Me 2 (Vudu SD only)
Star Trek: Into Darkness (Vudu HD only)
Star Wars: The Force Awakens (Google Play/ports HD)
Transformers: Age Of Extinction (Vudu HD only)
Twilight: Breaking Dawn Part 1 (Vudu SD only)
Twilight: Breaking Dawn Part 2 (Vudu SD only)
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2024.05.21 23:26 Elizabethsbookcase Chaol hate- Beginning of QoS spoilers

From the beginning of the series I had known that slander for chaol is a huge thing online, I never recall had a problem with him and enjoyed him in CoM. I am now roughly 70 pages into QoS and understand the slander.. šŸ¤¦ā€ā™€ļø
How dare he be mad at Aelin for not bringing back an army when He sent her there for nothing like that and then say that what she went through was nothing compared to him. CHAOL HONEY AEDION AND DORION ARE IN THE KINGS POSESSION JUST SO YOU COULD GET AWAY?!
Iā€™m just so curious what he thinks he went through during the months celeana had to deal with so much. And then to add to it he calls her a monster and implies that he doesnā€™t trust her because she thinks shes gonna kill dorion if he tells her how to bring magic back??
So basically in chaol knowledge.. 1. Aelin is a monster because she has magic and a fae form when his ā€œbest friendā€ has magic as well. Then he yaps on about how she gutted archer like what.. 2. Aelin is bad for not bringing back an army to defeat adalan but when she says that the strong valg can only be defeated by fire he finds itā€™s outrageous that she wants magic to be released??.. 3. and he thinks that him forcing aelin to wendlyn was some heroic act
this is probably just the beginning from what iā€™ve heard. Wow CoM me would be shook šŸ¤¦ā€ā™€ļøšŸ¤¦ā€ā™€ļø
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2024.05.21 23:18 marthalovesgeorge Feline Non Recognition Aggression - are we doing this right?

Hello, sorry to be another post about this subject! Our girl cat was taken to the vet this morning at around 9am to get her teeth cleaned and some extracted, and we picked her up around 3pm and got home at around 3:30. Our boy cat, who is normally just a big oaf, started hissing at her when we laid her on the towel in the living room as she was still coming out of anesthesia. He hasn't really hissed at hein general since we adopted her 4 years ago and we did the slow introduction method. Immediately after he hissed, I'm a little stressed. I start googling while my partner lays on the floor with girl cat and creates a boundary with his body around her a little bit. He's not really hissing now, just acting a little off. Girl cat is zonked and giving no reaction.
I found out about feline non recognition aggression pretty quickly, I had no idea! The last time they went for vet visits was at a pop up clinic 5 min away from us to get their boosters. We took boy cat first (30 min ordeal) and then dropped him off and picked up girl cat (another 30 min.) There were no issues when we did this and things went right back to normal, but after reading online I'm guessing it's because they were both exposed to those same smells/experience so there wasn't really a staying cat/going cat dynamic. They have been good friends since the introduction 4 years ago, playing often and able to live in peace up to a up to a week while we take trips and have a neighbor check in on them daily in the afternoons for food/wateaffection.
Flash forward to now, as I'm writing this, its been around two hours since we got home. We've placed girl cat on our couch on top of a few layers of towels. After reading more posts on here, I've put a couple dirty socks and a towel I used this morning around her bc boy cat is a little weirdo and loves our used socks/underweatowels (he's an orange.). It's been a few hours, there hasn't been a ton of hissing or trying to initiate fighting on his behalf but the energy is definitely off. He was laying next to me on our other couch (they're still in the same room since she's come home and we haven't separated them) and he gets his claw stuck in the fabric and gets over stressed for a second and mini-hisses at me as I go to help him as I always do. Now, he's gone upstairs to nap on our bed while girl cat is still zonked on the couch. He's basically separated himself from the situation to take a sleep.
The point of this word vomit is essentially to ask you all if you feel this is okay or if I should be doing more. A lot of posts on here on this same subject included comments telling OP to separate them and do a slow scent introduction as if they are meeting for the first time again. I'm anxious because partner and I both work 8-6:30 and aren't able to leave our workplaces long for lunches, and we both work tomorrow. Any advice? Anyone whose cats had some aggression but it ended up not needing to be a full blown intervention? I'm just looking for some confirmation that these situations aren't always horror stories that take weeks to resolve and sometimes it's just weird vibes for a little bit. Thank you for reading, all comments welcome!
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2024.05.21 22:38 ThrowRAlovendrier "We live in an era of tolerance, empathy and freedom"

Because nothing screams "I hear you, brother," more than telling another person to kill themselves, based on their creed or political affiliation.
That you have your own worldview, and you want to share it with your neighbors? Man that's like, so edgy! You should settle for making stupid online posts, ridiculing anyone who dares to distance themselves even remotely from the majority opinion.
If you ever feel sad, or you feel that the world is not dancing around you, it is your duty to shut up and put up with it, because you could make the rest of the people next to you uncomfortable.
Remember that you have earned everything bad that has happened to you in life; social inequalities, mistreatment and censorship are justified.
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2024.05.21 22:22 Messy_Heart_97 AITAH because I blocked someone who started giving me the creeps?

A few days ago I met someone online and we connected in a very special way, I hadn't connected with someone in this way for years. At first, he told me he was from a specific place and I told him that I knew where it was because someone I know lives in those same parts... then he made a sexual joke out of nowhere but I've a dirty mind so I didn't care.
We started talking and he made me feel special but my alarms started to go off when he started asking me weird questions like ā€œdo I make you feel special?ā€ and ā€œdo you feel loved?ā€, it was extremely weird because at least where I'm from nobody asks you those questions and even less formulated in that way so I told him to stop with the interrogation although I didn't judge him because I thought ā€œmaybe in his culture it's normal and in mine it's notā€.
Although I liked him quickly everything turned into a flirtation and something s*xual... and when I say quickly I mean that everything was too fast to process. Then the second alarm went off and he told me out of the blue and in a rude way that I wasn't the only woman he chatted with that he didn't want jealousy shows, I didn't care because he wasn't my boyfriend but then he said something like ā€œyou are mine and I don't share what is mineā€.
I started to suspect that he only approached women virtually to manipulate them and use them s*xually for his pleasure, so I told him that I didn't want us to touch the s*xual topic anymore and even though he said he was ok with it... he started to ghosting me. Last night, after convincing him he finally send me an audio because I already had suspicions that he was just selling lies and maybe he wasn't even from where he had told me he was from in the first place, so when I heard the first audio I realized that he had indeed lied to me because his accent wasn't even remotely from where he had told me.
This morning when I confronted him, argued with him and asked him for explanations he told me to go to hell and start to accusing me of being a racist because according to him I was judging him by where he was from so I, fed up with all this, blocked him from all the social media I have. AITAH for doing this?
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2024.05.21 21:13 Diligent_Divide_4978 Itā€™s not your fault if youā€™re a lonely man

Intro:
I just saw a post here every day about a lonely guy and his struggles in dating.
When I read it, the frustration, sadness, and despair are palpable. But since 63% of young men are single, and half of male university students are virgins, I can understand why these posters arenā€™t happy.
The majority of men are lonely.
While I cannot solve this very real societal phenomenon, I will try to put things into perspective.
After all, trite as it may sound, life is truly about much more than dating. Weā€™ll talk about this later on.
Before we begin, I would like to sincerely dedicate this post to all of those people who carry a void in their hearts every day.
I truly hope that reading the following will bring you at least a little peace of mind.
This is something that you need to tell yourself every single day. Life coaches and toxic PUAs like Andrew Tate are telling you to run game on 5 women every day, but I'm telling you to tell yourself this 5 times a day:
It's not your fault.
This should be said and emphasized a lot more. I want you guys to completely digest this idea. It is important to keep reminding yourself of this truth. Once you truly understand this, you will have a much more peaceful mindset.
The situation you are in was forced upon you.
Genetic determinism is anathema to most people. You will always see the fortunate, the lucky people try to take credit for their living situations, but they won't acknowledge the opportunities they were given.
I want you to understand something: when people tell you "you can do it, you can do anything," they are not saying it for your benefit. They are saying it to gaslight you and feel better about themselves. It implies that if you fail, it was because of something you did wrong.
"You could've done it, but you didn't, so it's your fault."
Don't let people gaslight you.
You look at a guy like Jeremy Meeks, scum of the earth. This guy is the personification of luck. The guy made the wrong choices and decisions at every step of the way, and he still made it as a multimillionaire top model, all because of his looks.
He comes from a broken family, he's a criminal, robber, gangster, beat an underage kid to near death, drug dealer, weapons charges, you fucking name it. Yet, women are worshiping him, literally worshiping him.
I ask you this: how many mistakes is too many? 10? 20? 50?
When you are good-looking, no amount is too many. Anything is forgivable.

"Anything is possible. Never give up. God's got a plan for you." - Jeremy Meeks

Well, when you look like him, yeah, of course anything is gonna be possible.

You look at a guy like Hunter Biden, drug addict and porn actor. Still, he's a board member of a nine-figure international investment firm. All because of his dad. All because he was lucky enough to be born into the Biden family.
You look at Elon Musk, richest guy on earth. He in turn comes from a dirty rich family that makes bank with him off of the backs of literal child slaves. His 80-year-old father made a child with his 30-year-old stepdaughter. Think about it, this guy was fucking 50 years old when he adopted that child.
These are morally bankrupt people, and yet you see the lives they are living.
You look at a guy like Bill Gates, whose classmates' parents literally bought a computer room for his high school during a time when even top U.S. universities didn't have computer rooms. Bill got to spend unlimited time with the latest and greatest computers as a child in the 1960s.
I am not saying Bill is dumb. Of course, you also need brains, but even intelligence is luck.
It's brutal how lucky you have to be in life. Not only do you need the smarts, but you need to be born in the right time and location into the right family. You think a smart kid who was born in a war-torn third-world country stands any chance?
Never.
Fucking never.
You gotta be lucky in this life. The most important factor governing success in life is luck. Looks will directly influence how you are treated by others from the day you were born, before you could even remember. Your neurotypicality, face, race, and height are paramount when it comes to how society will treat you (I have mountains of data at the above link, read it to see just how important these genetic factors are). This in turn shapes your personality.
Your intelligence, the opportunities you were born into, your gender; they are all important.
Even in the job market, just your gender influences your chances majorly.
Everything in life comes down to luck.
"Anything is possible, you can do anything."
No, you cannot do anything you want to in life, and it's not your fault. Genetic determinism and luck rule every aspect of your life.
You did nothing wrong.
So don't let anybody gaslight you.
Instead, don't be a free agent in life. Let the blackpill guide you.
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2024.05.21 21:02 CyberRational1 Academic (mis)conduct in social media communities

Hey all!
I'd like to see what your thoughts are on a certain phenomenon I've noticed on social media groups for academic psychologists (mostly Facebook, but I'd be interested to know of any experiences from other apps).
Basically, I'm in a Facebook group for academic psychologists. The group is pretty active, and it sports more than 40.000 members. Most discussions are related to academic topics: mainly centered on recently published papers, commentary on them, and recent methodological advances. The discussions are mainly civil and insightful.
But over the past few months, I've noticed a particular trend among certain prominent members (I won't name them, but they're somewhat prominent names in their fields of research). These members are commonly scientific reformists, and they frequently post on topics concerned with the replication crisis. This by itself is a pretty good thing, and I believe that such topics should be much more mainstream, and should be widely talked about.
Now, what irks me is not the topic itself, but the conduct of certain prominent members. They post frequently, and their posts are rude to say the least. It seems that any time a certain replication attempt is unsuccesfull, they call out the authors of the original papers, publicly calling them frauds or charlatans. Whenever someone proposes or uses a method not favoured by those members, they get called out publicly, with frequent accusations of fraud. Pretty much anyone publishing any work deemed "wrong" by a few members gets blasted in a manner unseemly of any academic communication. Talking with some of my peers, some have even said that they're afraid of publishing in open science journals, believing that any error discovered would result in them being publicly humiliated in such conduct.
What troubles me the most is that recently I've seen attacks related to psychometric topics, and from those attacks it became quite clear that the attackers have a profound deficit when it comes to psychometric theory! Recently, I've seen some "reformators" call out that using factor analysis is a sign that an author is oldfashioned, and that everyone should just use SEM, which shows not only that the reformators don't understand the reasoning behind factor-analytic methods, but that they ignore the faults inherent in most SEM models that are not prominent in an exploratory FA! Just minutes ago, I've seen a prominent member call out Denny Borsboom as a "charlatan" and a "pseudometrist" because the author felt wronged that his article on emotion measurement didn't talk about positive affect, which makes no sense at all because the authors of the paper proposed a network model of measurement which by definition doesn't include any higher-order factors! Besides, anyone even remotely familiar with contemporary psychometric literature wouldn't dare call someone like Borsboom a "pseudometrist", even if they don't agree with his approaches.
All in all, it seems to me that social media discourse in academic psychology is becoming pretty toxic, and that it might be causing some negative effects on the scientific zeitgeist. I mean, if people are afraid that some wannabe witch-hunter will publicly proclaim them as frauds if their results are not replicated or if they used a network of a factor model, and if they associate that kind of behavior with open science reforms, then such reforms will probably not gain much popularity, which will just hurt scientific progress in the long run.
What are you thoughts on that kind of online academic behavior? Should (or can there) anything be done about it? Do you think it can have any effects on the grander scheme of things? Have you had any experiences with it yourself?
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2024.05.21 20:59 Ok_Arm420 How do I approach cleanliness and chore board to housemates?

A little long but could really use advice and help.. I live in a shared house with 2 males and 2 females (25m, ?m, 25f,27fme). We are all strangers found eachother online when past housemates moved out. I've lived with my female housemate for 2 yrs and the 2 male housemates just moved in a month and 2 ago, We'll call everyone A(25f) B(25m) C(?m). So last week A announced she will be leaving next month which leaves me with a whole set of complete strangers I just met, that's fine. My main point is the bathroom has always been a big deal even with the old housemates, no one want to clean the tub which get dirty and moldy fast since there's no window, A and i didnt get along due to different ideas of cleaning(she just wouldnt unless asked to). When B moved in I expressed to A and B that the bathroom has become an issue because there's alway poop splattered in the bowl and the tub isn't being cleaned. 1 month later C moved in, I got my own bathroom, problem solved,out of sight out of mind. Well the house was stinky today and I checked in and the bathroom is disgusting. 4x more poop is splattered in the bowl, hairs collected everywhere and tub is getting moldy again even tho I did a complimentary cleaning 3 weeks ago before leaving it to them, ( i have a feeling this is why A is leaving but we're not friends so idk really)... So what do I do?? Everyone has a private bedroom so not my problem, even tho the house is getting musty and stinky. My problem is I am currently looking for a Female housemate to move in and like wtf is that -_-... so how do I approach this with 2 stange men I just met? B is the culprit who's diet is take out and 7/11 food only and seems really immature and arrogant. C I just met and seems to have a healthy diet, keep to himself and is respectful, no complaints but also just met him. A is gone in a month so she really is just surviving here and doesn't really talk to me anyways so I really need advice from someone with a little experience in this. I used to be very passive up until a year ago when I found my voice, and I struggle with approaching things calmly without it sounds accusatory or a little aggressive. I am learning. This situation is making me feel very frustrated because I feel like adults should just adult. But how do I ask my 2 male housemates to clean the bathroom more often? And how do I assert house rules and a chore chart (that was talked about before when i interviewed them both for the room) This is really important to me because I just lived 2 years of stress and passive aggressiveness from my old housemates for these same issues that never got addressed unlit it was out of control and we couldn't take it and back then we were all females! I don't share the bathroom anymore so I shouldn't care but It smells sooo bad. Also they keep leaving dishes in the sink even though a 24 hr limit was discussed ... please help reddit šŸ™
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2024.05.21 20:56 bear_in_exile Over and Out, Indefinitely

Right below this post on my overview page, you'll see a serious, sober reply I gave to somebody's perhaps not altogether serious question about galaxies named "Snickers," bringing up a mildly interesting tidbit from the History of Astronomy. Read it there, because you'll never be able to see it anywhere else. It was deleted, almost instantly, with no reason given, a perfect example of what can happen on a site adults use to discuss serious matters, when the adolescents are so often in charge.
If you are new to Reddit, no, that was not a snarky joke. So-called "power mods" have, in the past, turned out to be minors, well under the age of 18, nothing more than dull-witted children with far too much time on their hands, and an overpowering desire to be in control. When governmental policy was being set in keeping with the consenses set by the social media mobs, a few years ago, these are the people who effectively had the power to decide who would be free to speak about what, and about how full grown adults would be forced to conduct their affairs - the sort of adolescents that, in the days before the Internet was invented, would have been shunned by their peers, and with good reason.
I went to mention this most recent moderator power flex on RedditCensors, and discovered that it had been banned by Reddit, which I understand has created a rule that prohibits public complaints about a moderator's abuse of power - literally, an anti-transparency rule. Those are inherently corrupt and on a platform where freedom of speech is effectively put to a vote through the downvoting process, corrupting.
If it ever was anything else, Reddit has become a place where neurotic teens and tweens have gone to live out their dreams of power, as they've been allowed to control the public consensus by being given the ability to quietly silence the voices of dissent with their mad reign of error. Some tried to excuse this inexcusable reality, a few years ago, by mentioning the stress so many people were under due to the "Pandemic," and arguing that free and open discussion of serious issues would be more than people could cope with during the drama, and perhaps they would again, but let us be serious. That was a nonsensical defense even then, and 2024 is not 2020. Sanity might not have returned, but the panic has passed, and at this point there can be no serious question about Reddit's role in that time of panic. The admins and mods eagerly got down and dirty to encourage that panic and haven't reformed, since.
Strictly speaking, this has cost Reddit its safe harbor protection, since it is in no way running a neutral platform, but we already know how much the law matters when a large Internet firm breaks it - not at all. By now, we all know that Sen. Ted Cruz (R-Texas) and those hearings of his are a joke. They are there to defuse anger, not to start any real sort of move toward justice.
One could respond to this ugly reality by jumping over to a supposedly uncensored platform - like Gab, to cite the best known example. But when one goes to that supposed alternative to the censorious lunacy of Reddit, Twitter, Facebook, Youtube, et al., what does one find? Literal neo-Nazis, flat earth conspiracy theories and endless death threats and targeted harassment, while the staff looks the other way and refuses to enforce its own rules, because the founder is, himself, not so far from being a Nazi, himself. To attempt to have a serious discussion there would be like breaking into a gathering of the Ku Klux Klan, and trying to have a town hall meeting during it.
At some point, one has to be willing to see that something has been tried and proven to be such a trainwreck, so consistently, that to put much more time and effort into it would seem like madness. That is how I've come to see the social web, and perhaps even the Internet in general. You can see the links to my other sites and you're welcome to follow me on them, but I'm not sure that I'm ever going to bother to post to them, because I'm at a loss when I try to think of a good reason for doing so. Certainly, I incur a massive opportunity cost by getting down in the trenches with the losers - compare what I was getting paid to answer student's questions about Mathematics in the real world ($120/ hour as an independent tutor before Covid) with what I get here, where I get repaid only in aggravation. In person, at an art fair, I can be (and have been) approached by the editor of a literary journal and asked to submit. Online, if I'm lucky, I'll see a fraction of the audience I'd get at an open mic night, run into censorship because somebody with well developed psychiatric problems though he sensed a hidden agenda behind my words, and then get to deal with scrapers afterwards.
The Internet has, for the most part, neither proved a pleasant, nor a profitable, nor a productive experience, so why get deeply invested in it, at all? I'll be shutting down my groups on this and other sites, as I reduce the role of the Internet in my life to being what it should always have been: a place for posting announcements, along maybe with a tiny amount of free content as a loss leader, in order to get other people to link to the page with my event announcements and other notices. I'm going to turn off the computer and get back outside, more, as I really should have back in 2020. As everybody should have, really.
The Internet, properly used, is a bulletin board, not a community. Life was better when people remembered it, and for me, it's going to be better, again. If other people want to go on being immersed in a miserable, futile effort to succeed where all others have failed before for structural reasons, they're free to do so, but I think they'll find that other serious people will be making the same choice I have, and for the same reasons. The power mods will still be there, and so will the trolls, but when they're nearly all that remains, when the Internet is firmly linked to the craziest members of society in the minds of the general public, just how much influence will it go on having?
Sometimes the best thing to do is nothing at all. Over and out, for now, and probably permanently. There's a nice, sunny day waiting for me, just outside my window and I'm going to go enjoy it.
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2024.05.21 20:54 Frosty-Paperclip Dichiarazione Criptovalute su Colf Wallet

Ciao a tutti,
nel 2022 ho dichiarato le Criptovalute detenute nel mio exchange con il commercialista. Successivamente ho spostato le Criptovalute nel mio cold wallet hardware. Sottolineo che dall'ultima dichiarazione dei redditi non ho effettuato nessuna operazione e di conseguenza non ho generato plusvalenze o minusvalenze.
Dato che le Criptovalute vanno dichiarate sempre come posso agire?
Dato che non ĆØ cambiato nulla vorrei evitare di far fare questo lavoro al commercialista.
ƈ possibile copiare il quadro RW del 2022?
In alternativa stavo pensando di spostare tutte le Cripto sull'exchange ed utilizzare i servizi online (ad esempio tatax) per la creazione del quadro rw (dato che si collegano direttamente al mio exchange) e dare quest'ultimo al mio commercialista.
Grazie a tutti in anticipo per l'aiuto.
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2024.05.21 20:49 p0ttim0uth I couldn't explain Darius Tehrani if I tried

Nothing, and I mean nothing, could've prepared me for the live performer that is Darius Tehrani. Iā€™ve been hooked on Spite since a few months after Dedication To Flesh was released and the album easily counts as one of my most streamed in the last couple of years (Iā€™m listening to Made To Please as I type this). While at it, I also ate up all of Spiteā€™s other discography, watched all their music videos and interviews online, cried inside a little when Baby J left the band and searched for them on Deathcore till my browser would predict ā€œspiteā€ every time I typed ā€œsā€¦ā€. Iā€™d made it my unpaid side hustle to know everything anyone had to say about Darius and the boys. So when I heard they were supporting Bodysnatcher in NYC, I believed I was ready.
But I wasnā€™t. I just wasnā€™t. No one can be. Last night, Darius came on and, from the zeroeth second, just decimated the room. My God, the man is an absolute behemoth. Iā€™d read so much about how exciting (insane?) his live performances are. Still, none of those descriptions came anywhere close to what that man pulls off on stage - from his vocals, his physical energy, or his banter to his wry, almost trolling sense of physical humor (keep an eye on him when heā€™s performing IED and Leeches). Iā€™m not even going to try describing any of it - Iā€™d come up short. Just take my advice and go and see Spite live - even if youā€™ve only heard them, or heard of them, peripherally. I dare say Spite will be a top answer on that post that asks, ā€œWhich band did you get into only after you saw them live?ā€.
Oh, and that Taker shirt truly does slap.
Hereā€™s their setlist from last night:
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2024.05.21 20:33 Oddlem I can't wrap my head around tilemaps!!

I've tried a few different ways but I just can't seem to wrap my head around what I'm doing. Here's the thing: I already have a function that can blit ONE tile over and over. And that's kind of where I'm struggling at, because pretty much all resources I can find online are for blitting just one tile. šŸ¤” So I've had to attempt it completely myself and I'm... not doing a good job LOL
I understand to make a map just in general, you take rows and columns and multiply them by a x number using for loops, then blit that onto the screen. But I can't figure out how to get my array/map into the equation. If I'm not explaining this well I'm sorry lol, so let me show you my code and hopefully that can clarify what I'm talking about
def draw_background(screen, image, rows, columns): for y in range(rows): for x in range(columns): screen.blit(image, (x * tile_size, y * tile_size)) def draw_tiles(screen, tilemap, rows, columns): # Searching for images in cave_textures for image in cave_textures: # Next, I use tilemap_cave as a blueprint to blit "image" over and over. But HOW do I use it that way? hmm screen.blit((image in tilemap) * rows, * columns) 
So draw_background is the one that blits one tile, draw_tiles is the new one I'm trying to make that blits from an array. Which is supposed to be take from a dictionary I made (which I also am struggling to fit into this whole thing).
cave_textures = { 0: pygame.image.load("tiles\\dirt.png"), 2: pygame.image.load("tiles\\dirty_grass.png"), 3: pygame.image.load("tiles\\dirt2.png"), } # Testing out different ways to make tilemaps tilemap_cave = [ [0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0], [0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2], [2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0], [0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0], [0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0] ] 
I know this probably makes 0 sense and I'm fully aware my function ALSO probably makes no sense, I just wanted to explain what I already know and give the code I already have so that it can show kind of where I'm at! I've just been at this for like a month and a half so I think it's time... I ASK people LOL
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2024.05.21 20:19 TechnologySpiritual6 Gripeo.com and RemoveReports.com Never Ending Extortion by "Martin Horan"

I want to warn everyone about a notorious scammer named Vikram Parmar who runs an extortion website called Gripeo and a reputation company called RemoveReports.com.
The NYTimes did a story on him when he was doing this with cheater type sites. Now he is doing it with slander sites, and his reputation company was changed from RepZe to RemoveReports. nytimes.com/interactive/2021/04/24/technology/online-slander-websites.html
You wonder how you got on Gripeo to begin with? RemoveReport's Martin Horan / Vikram Parmar (same person) posted you on there using AI. He gets his contacts from press outlets that reputation companies publish to or scrolls the internet looking for wealthy people who have a negative article online about them, then writes a story about you.
If you reach out to Gripeo to remove your post, you will suddenly get an email from Martin Horan at RemoveReports that he can remove it for a few thousand dollars. It is the same person who owns Gripeo under an alias. You will pay Martin Horan to remove Gripeo and it will be removed within a few days, but then it will pop up on a dozen other sites that he owns and he will want more money. He will go by fake names over and over. Other sites he controls that he will extort you with are Complaintsboard, Defaulters.com, Letmeexpose.is, Scamion, ScamPulse, DirtyScam, HolySmoke, LawTally, ProConsumer.com, CompaintBox.com, NameandShame.com, IsItaScam.com and many others.
His other aliases include Vikramsinh Parmar, Nathan Howard and Amit Tiwari. He claims Gripeo is under new ownership, but it is not. He pretends that so he can escape a lawsuit by Telf AG, currently in litigation in Los Angeles County. He lives in India, so he will probably escape it. But he has been in jail before in India for running another scam. Its only a matter of time before this all catches up to him, timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/ahmedabad/two-fake-cbi-recruiters-arrested/articleshow/31911462.cms
As the NYTimes story above said, he used to run a company called RepZe. Once he got busted, he started RemoveReports.com. He will probably start another reputation company again to hide.
Here is a lawsuit where Vikram Parmar and RemoveReports was sued.
plainsite.org/dockets/download.html?id=293698243&z=73ca6482
And more fun reads from other people who were also scammed:
repzescam.com/owne
medium.com/@sayingtruth19/scam-e5f12ad810a4

So, you wonder how to combat this extortionist? Hire a reputation management company to do suppression on his slander. They will create positive articles about you to outrank it, and make it nearly impossible to be found. Whatever you do, do not pay for a removal on any of his sites. You will be stuck like I was in a never endling loop of paying extortion fees.
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2024.05.21 20:18 ElectroCS8051 Just passed hereā€™s the best advice I can give

I just passed the driving test after failing the first time ; Here are the best pieces of advice I can give you.
The car
You should absolutely try your best to have your own car for the test and there are a couple of reasons for this. The first reason is because you can practice in it as much as you like and get used to all its quirks.
The second reason is that the added pressure and cost of hiring an instructors car creates more headache because you will be stressed about having to hire it and organise it and worry about if you fail having to hire it again.
The last reason is a bit technical but alot of instructors cars are 1-1.2l petrol cars, these are very small engines so they need a lot of torque to get going that means you have more work to do on the clutch and an increased risk of stalling. Most diesel cars will take off or accelerate just by going into gear and can handle clutch mistakes better without chugging.
The tester
Be prepared for your tester to be stern, and unfortunately for some of them to be rude. Their training and quality guidelines published online state they shouldnā€™t talk to you, offer you advice or assume the role of a ā€œdriving instructorā€.
A lot of people are put off by this because you expect them to be like your instructor.
The nice ones will be polite , the rude ones will be condescending but they will all be silent and stern for 90% of the test.
A lot of them are stressed, overworked by the RSA and some of them get abuse from students, parents etc...which we donā€™t see itā€™s why even if you fail they wait to give you your results.
Your driving instructor
Try to do as many lessons as possible ; there are a couple of red flags to watch out for. If your instructor
ā€¢ Ghosts you, takes days to reply.
ā€¢ Doesnā€™t contact you about upcoming tests.
ā€¢ Doesnā€™t offer alternative availabilities.
ā€¢ Isnā€™t upfront about your mistakes.
They are likely just trying to do and sign off peopleā€™s 12 EDTs and then move on to the next person. Shop around and donā€™t be afraid to google things your tester says or ask another tester to verifyā€¦.some testers say weird things that arenā€™t correct.
Back to point one a lot of instructors make money off car hire to cover their operating costs. Be conscious of this.
Common fail points
ā€¢ Not moving up into the middle on the green light for a right turn. (Progression)
ā€¢ Hitting a speed bump hard. (Reaction to hazards)
ā€¢ Not driving at the speed limit when safe to do so. (Progression)
ā€¢ Stopping at a roundabout when itā€™s clear. (Progression)
ā€¢ Checking your blind spot when the car is in motion. (Reaction to hazards or observation).
ā€¢ Signaling back in after overtaking (Misleading signals).
ā€¢ Signalling around a parked car in an estate (Misleading signals, reaction to hazards ).
ā€¢ Giving way to pedestrians without their feet on the road (Progression).
ā€¢ Excessive observation at junctions(Makes you look uncomfortable and lacking confidence likely a reaction to hazards or observation grade).
Presentation
Humans are judgmental beings, arriving to your test in dirty clothes, dirty hygiene , smoking or vaping, dirty car , things hanging off your car with a rude demeanour will subconsciously tell the tester you donā€™t care which makes you look a danger.
Alternatively turning up with your whole family, crying , shaking , rattling and mumbling makes you look dangerous also because you arenā€™t confident; fear and 60kmhr in a two tonne metal box donā€™t mix.
You are trying to demonstrate you arenā€™t a learner anymore.
They can already tell within 10 minutes if you will pass or fail based on your presentation.
Uncommon tips
ā€¢ Do not tell people you are sitting or resitting a test, you will have to explain a fail and it adds pressure.
ā€¢ Take the quickest available tests, do not take far out tests you will stir on it and build it up in your mind.
ā€¢ It is unsafe to drive too safely ; you will fail your test for being too cautious. A lot of instructors donā€™t explain this but if you are driving too cautiously others will take risks to overtake you or fill your gap and this is one of the number one causes of road accidents.
Thatā€™s what progress is.
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2024.05.21 19:33 Swaggy-G Switch the order and importance of two cases while keeping a similar premise

While doing my case rankings the other day I noted that 2-2 could probably work as a final case if it was rewritten and expanded a bit. So I thought it would be a fun exercise to take cases and keep their premise while reducing/expending their scope so they could work at different point in the game. Since I already mentioned it, I'll switch 2-2 and 2-4.
2-2: Turnabout Ceremony
Pretty much the same basic premise, except that Adrian is caught red-handed by Lotta while she's framing Matt, and she gets arrested instead, with no kidnapping plot as a result. De Killer is also replaced by another hitman who's more grounded and less of a Batman super villain. The hitman, actually a hotel bellboy for several years with some ties to the mafia, had his own grudge against Juan Corrida, and was paid by Matt to do the deed.
Adrian as a defendant is very uncooperative, and the first day of trial goes pretty badly. While there's no evidence directly tying her to Juan's murder, the mountain of evidence she tampered with the crime scene makes her very suspicious, and she almost gets given a guilty verdict before Phoenix manages to convince her to tell the truth. Adrian explains that she knew Matt must have done the murder and framed him. However, she refuses to explain why she was so sure it was Matt or why he would kill Juan. Franziska laughs at the notion, as Matt has a rock solid alibi, but nonetheless the trial is extended one more day.
Day two of investigations goes similarly to the game, with of course less stress due to no kidnapped Maya. Phoenix uncovers evidence of a hired hitman, as well as the cameras placed by Matt. Confronting Adrian with the new evidence, she reveals everything. At the trial, the hitman is called to testify (in person this time), and Phoenix proves that he was the one who killed Juan. He confesses, but like in the game, claims Adrian was his client, not Matt. Phoenix disproves that as well, and shows him the cameras placed by Matt, revealing he was intending to blackmail him. Outraged, the hitman turns on Matt and ominously claims that his mafia friends will pay him a visit soon. Scared for his life, Matt confesses and turns himself in to the police.
Oh and maybe there could be some contrivance so that Pearl is the assistant instead of Maya, both so my version of 2-4 makes sense timeline-wise and so Phoenix can use the magatama.
2-4: The Turnabout from Beyond
Same basic premise of Dr. Grey bringing Phoenix to Kurain village so Maya will do a seance. However, instead of saying he wants to make Mimi write a confession, he claims he only wants to talk to her. Additionally, Maya seems noticeably reluctant when interacting with Grey, and it's clear she's only doing this as an excuse to see Phoenix again. He gets murdered, and Morgan chases them out, but when Phoenix and Lotta come back, they find Morgan unconscious and severely wounded, with Maya unconscious next to her. After that there are several notable differences. First, Mimi was the one that brought the gun, not Grey, and she deliberately used it, going against the plan she and Morgan devised. While the two were alone after chasing Phoenix and Lotta out, Morgan begins berating Mimi for not going with the plan. Mimi, not saying a word, hits Morgan hard on the side of the head, giving her brain damage and fleeing the scene. She sticks around the rest of the case like usual, but actually disguises herself as a random tourist college student instead of Ini, and is generally better at concealing her true persona. There's also one or two original residents of Kurain village, including Ruby, a disabled woman and distant cousin of Maya that used to babysit her, and who she has a close relationship with.
The first day of trial goes similarly to the game, however without the evidence of Dr. Grey firing the shot from the ground, Phoenix has a lot harder time casting doubt on Maya being the person in the photo. Towards the end of the trial, the prosecution (could be Miles or Franziska) drops a bombshell: Dr. Grey actually had ties to Kurain, being raised in the village and being the doctor of choice when Kurain natives needed surgery. After an accident, he is the one that operated on Ruby, however a botched operation led to long term complications. Grey, being a huge asshole, never apologized for this or appear remorseful in the slightest. The prosecution argues that Maya developed a grudge against Grey after this incident, and that while she was possessed by Mimi when the shooting happened, Maya was the one that brought the gun, knowing the possibility of such a shooting happening, and giving her a convenient opportunity to take revenge on Grey without technically dirtying her own hands. Phoenix is able to prove by the skin of his teeth that Maya could not have brought the gun with her, buying another day of trial. On the second day of investigations, Phoenix starts suspecting that the college student is Ini in disguise. When confronting her, her true colors briefly slip, insulting Phoenix and smugly stating he doesn't understand anything. Talking with Ruby, Maya, and the Miney parents, we get a big plot twist ; Ini and Mimi are also Kurain natives, and were childhood friends with Maya. Ini was a channelling prodigy from a very young age. One day, while the three were playing in the cemetery, Maya dared Ini to channel a spirit from one of the graves at random. Against Mimi's protests, Ini complied, but the channelled spirit was from a violent and delusional man. He was thankfully exorcised before any of the girls could be hurt, but it left Maya and Mimi traumatized, with Ini swearing off channelling forever. Shortly after, DL-6 happened, and Misty Fey got exiled. The Miney parents, who were in Misty's camp and feared Morgan's newfound influence, left the village as well. Phoenix suspects that this incident is related to "Ini's" motive, but isn't sure how, as both Maya, Ruby, and the parents claim that Ini held no hard feelings towards Maya before and after she left.
In day 2 of the trial, Morgan is unable to testify, still being in the hospital and barely coherent from the blow Mimi gave her. The first half of the trial is spent "proving" the mystery college student is Ini, with testimony from Ruby providing evidence. Mimi "admits" it, but scoffs, saying that she has no grudge against either Maya or Grey, and thus no possible motive. The second half happens much the same, with Phoenix proving that she is actually Mimi. Still denying it, Mimi claims that while this would give her a motive for killing Grey, it still doesn't explain her wanting to frame Maya. Recalling the conversation with her parents, Phoenix presents a theory. Initially, the Miney mom, despite having no spiritual talent, was still second in line for title of Master of Kurain due to her close friendship with Misty and Ini's channelling talents. However, when Ini swore of channelling, that title went to Morgan. Thus Mimi blames Maya for her family's exile from Kurain. Their exile only became more cemented when Morgan gave birth to Pearl, who was also a prodigy from a young age. While Ini took the move well, Mimi hated living in the big city, and had trouble making friends and focusing on her studies. Depressed and unable to find a job after finishing her studies, her parents begged Dr. Grey to hire her, which he did reluctantly. Mimi hated her job, but still put effort into it to not disappoint her parents... and then the malpractice happened, and then the car accident. Mimi, whose resentment of Maya had been simmerring for years, now hated her. Seeing her appear in the news several times as the assistant of a high profile lawyer didn't help matters. When Dr. Grey approached "Ini" with the intent to channel Mimi, she saw the perfect opportunity to get revenge on him, Maya, and Morgan in one fell swoop.
Maya, horrified, calls out Mimi on her toxic attitude, saying that she never stopped missing her and Ini, and that they could have simply talked out their differences, with Mimi having had plenty of opportunities to visit her at the Wright and Co. law offices. At this, Mimi begins breaking down and tearfully confessing everything, both cursing Maya and apologizing to her in equal measure, before turning herself in. Morgan is also arrested. After the trial, Phoenix, Maya, and Mia muse about how none of this would have happened were it not for Kurain's traditions. Mia also drops a cryptic comment that this wasn't the first time something like that happened in Kurain, setting up Trials and Tribulations.
Wew, well that was longer than expected, while writing 2-4 I got really into it and ended up adding a lot of extra details. What do you think? I would love to see you own take on case swaps.
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2024.05.21 19:18 TheGoombler Oh hey, I'm not dead, and neither is GME. (A Refresher on COINTELPRO.)

GOOOOOOOOOOD MORNING SUPERSTONKERS! HAHA. It's me again. Yeah, i slipped past the defenses again to drop this off so you can all refresh yourselves on the state of FUD and disinformation in this protracted fight against the legal larcenists doing their best to try and get you to sell. Please spread this amongst the holders, the more people know the less power they have over us holders. We don't sell until we get a call from marge, and that's always been the play.
TLDR: This is a set of tactics used by the Alphabet Boys(CIA, FBI, DEA) to control and manipulate us into drama to collapse our communities and movements. And should be read in full by anyone willing and wanting to learn how these things work.
I've come to notice recently, people keep asking me to repost this for the sake of keeping the new people abreast on what needs to be done to protect the holders of GME. Beneath here will be a detailed account on what you need to be aware of in your online interactions, to avoid being taken for a fool!
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  1. COINTELPRO Techniques for dilution, misdirection and control of a internet forum
  2. Twenty-Five Rules of Disinformation
  3. Eight Traits of the Disinformationalist
  4. How to Spot a Spy (Cointelpro Agent)
  5. Seventeen Techniques for Truth Suppression
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COINTELPRO Techniques for dilution, misdirection and control of a internet forum..
There are several techniques for the control and manipulation of a internet forum no matter what, or who is on it. We will go over each technique and demonstrate that only a minimal number of operatives can be used to eventually and effectively gain a control of a 'uncontrolled forum.'
Technique #1 - 'FORUM SLIDING'
If a very sensitive posting of a critical nature has been posted on a forum - it can be quickly removed from public view by 'forum sliding.' In this technique a number of unrelated posts are quietly prepositioned on the forum and allowed to 'age.' Each of these misdirectional forum postings can then be called upon at will to trigger a 'forum slide.' The second requirement is that several fake accounts exist, which can be called upon, to ensure that this technique is not exposed to the public. To trigger a 'forum slide' and 'flush' the critical post out of public view it is simply a matter of logging into each account both real and fake and then 'replying' to prepositioned postings with a simple 1 or 2 line comment. This brings the unrelated postings to the top of the forum list, and the critical posting 'slides' down the front page, and quickly out of public view. Although it is difficult or impossible to censor the posting it is now lost in a sea of unrelated and unuseful postings. By this means it becomes effective to keep the readers of the forum reading unrelated and non-issue items.
Technique #2 - 'CONSENSUS CRACKING'
A second highly effective technique (which you can see in operation all the time at www.abovetopsecret.com
) is 'consensus cracking.' To develop a consensus crack, the following technique is used. Under the guise of a fake account a posting is made which looks legitimate and is towards the truth is made - but the critical point is that it has a VERY WEAK PREMISE without substantive proof to back the posting. Once this is done then under alternative fake accounts a very strong position in your favor is slowly introduced over the life of the posting. It is IMPERATIVE that both sides are initially presented, so the uninformed reader cannot determine which side is the truth. As postings and replies are made the stronger 'evidence' or disinformation in your favor is slowly 'seeded in.' Thus the uninformed reader will most like develop the same position as you, and if their position is against you their opposition to your posting will be most likely dropped. However in some cases where the forum members are highly educated and can counter your disinformation with real facts and linked postings, you can then 'abort' the consensus cracking by initiating a 'forum slide.'
Technique #3 - 'TOPIC DILUTION'
Topic dilution is not only effective in forum sliding it is also very useful in keeping the forum readers on unrelated and non-productive issues. This is a critical and useful technique to cause a 'RESOURCE BURN.' By implementing continual and non-related postings that distract and disrupt (trolling ) the forum readers they are more effectively stopped from anything of any real productivity. If the intensity of gradual dilution is intense enough, the readers will effectively stop researching and simply slip into a 'gossip mode.' In this state they can be more easily misdirected away from facts towards uninformed conjecture and opinion. The less informed they are the more effective and easy it becomes to control the entire group in the direction that you would desire the group to go in. It must be stressed that a proper assessment of the psychological capabilities and levels of education is first determined of the group to determine at what level to 'drive in the wedge.' By being too far off topic too quickly it may trigger censorship by a forum moderator.
Technique #4 - 'INFORMATION COLLECTION'
Information collection is also a very effective method to determine the psychological level of the forum members, and to gather intelligence that can be used against them. In this technique in a light and positive environment a 'show you mine so me yours' posting is initiated. From the number of replies and the answers that are provided much statistical information can be gathered. An example is to post your 'favorite weapon' and then encourage other members of the forum to showcase what they have. In this matter it can be determined by reverse proration what percentage of the forum community owns a firearm, and or a illegal weapon. This same method can be used by posing as one of the form members and posting your favorite 'technique of operation.' From the replies various methods that the group utilizes can be studied and effective methods developed to stop them from their activities.
Technique #5 - 'ANGER TROLLING'
Statistically, there is always a percentage of the forum posters who are more inclined to violence. In order to determine who these individuals are, it is a requirement to present a image to the forum to deliberately incite a strong psychological reaction. From this the most violent in the group can be effectively singled out for reverse IP location and possibly local enforcement tracking. To accomplish this only requires posting a link to a video depicting a local police officer massively abusing his power against a very innocent individual. Statistically of the million or so police officers in America there is always one or two being caught abusing there powers and the taping of the activity can be then used for intelligence gathering purposes - without the requirement to 'stage' a fake abuse video. This method is extremely effective, and the more so the more abusive the video can be made to look. Sometimes it is useful to 'lead' the forum by replying to your own posting with your own statement of violent intent, and that you 'do not care what the authorities think!!' inflammation. By doing this and showing no fear it may be more effective in getting the more silent and self-disciplined violent intent members of the forum to slip and post their real intentions. This can be used later in a court of law during prosecution.
Technique #6 - 'GAINING FULL CONTROL'
It is important to also be harvesting and continually maneuvering for a forum moderator position. Once this position is obtained, the forum can then be effectively and quietly controlled by deleting unfavourable postings - and one can eventually steer the forum into complete failure and lack of interest by the general public. This is the 'ultimate victory' as the forum is no longer participated with by the general public and no longer useful in maintaining their freedoms. Depending on the level of control you can obtain, you can deliberately steer a forum into defeat by censoring postings, deleting memberships, flooding, and or accidentally taking the forum offline. By this method the forum can be quickly killed. However it is not always in the interest to kill a forum as it can be converted into a 'honey pot' gathering center to collect and misdirect newcomers and from this point be completely used for your control for your agenda purposes.
CONCLUSION
Remember these techniques are only effective if the forum participants DO NOT KNOW ABOUT THEM. Once they are aware of these techniques the operation can completely fail, and the forum can become uncontrolled. At this point other avenues must be considered such as initiating a false legal precidence to simply have the forum shut down and taken offline. This is not desirable as it then leaves the enforcement agencies unable to track the percentage of those in the population who always resist attempts for control against them. Many other techniques can be utilized and developed by the individual and as you develop further techniques of infiltration and control it is imperative to share then with HQ.
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Twenty-Five Rules of Disinformation
Note: The first rule and last five (or six, depending on situation) rules are generally not directly within the ability of the traditional disinfo artist to apply. These rules are generally used more directly by those at the leadership, key players, or planning level of the criminal conspiracy or conspiracy to cover up.
1. Hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil. Regardless of what you know, don't discuss it -- especially if you are a public figure, news anchor, etc. If it's not reported, it didn't happen, and you never have to deal with the issues.
2. Become incredulous and indignant. Avoid discussing key issues and instead focus on side issues which can be used show the topic as being critical of some otherwise sacrosanct group or theme. This is also known as the 'How dare you!' gambit.
3. Create rumor mongers. Avoid discussing issues by describing all charges, regardless of venue or evidence, as mere rumors and wild accusations. Other derogatory terms mutually exclusive of truth may work as well. This method which works especially well with a silent press, because the only way the public can learn of the facts are through such 'arguable rumors'. If you can associate the material with the Internet, use this fact to certify it a 'wild rumor' from a 'bunch of kids on the Internet' which can have no basis in fact.
4. Use a straw man. Find or create a seeming element of your opponent's argument which you can easily knock down to make yourself look good and the opponent to look bad. Either make up an issue you may safely imply exists based on your interpretation of the opponent/opponent arguments/situation, or select the weakest aspect of the weakest charges. Amplify their significance and destroy them in a way which appears to debunk all the charges, real and fabricated alike, while actually avoiding discussion of the real issues.
5. Sidetrack opponents with name calling and ridicule. This is also known as the primary 'attack the messenger' ploy, though other methods qualify as variants of that approach. Associate opponents with unpopular titles such as 'kooks', 'right-wing', 'liberal', 'left-wing', 'terrorists', 'conspiracy buffs', 'radicals', 'militia', 'racists', 'religious fanatics', 'sexual deviates', and so forth. This makes others shrink from support out of fear of gaining the same label, and you avoid dealing with issues.
6. Hit and Run. In any public forum, make a brief attack of your opponent or the opponent position and then scamper off before an answer can be fielded, or simply ignore any answer. This works extremely well in Internet and letters-to-the-editor environments where a steady stream of new identities can be called upon without having to explain criticism, reasoning -- simply make an accusation or other attack, never discussing issues, and never answering any subsequent response, for that would dignify the opponent's viewpoint.
7. Question motives. Twist or amplify any fact which could be taken to imply that the opponent operates out of a hidden personal agenda or other bias. This avoids discussing issues and forces the accuser on the defensive.
8. Invoke authority. Claim for yourself or associate yourself with authority and present your argument with enough 'jargon' and 'minutia' to illustrate you are 'one who knows', and simply say it isn't so without discussing issues or demonstrating concretely why or citing sources.
9. Play Dumb. No matter what evidence or logical argument is offered, avoid discussing issues except with denials they have any credibility, make any sense, provide any proof, contain or make a point, have logic, or support a conclusion. Mix well for maximum effect.
10. Associate opponent charges with old news. A derivative of the straw man -- usually, in any large-scale matter of high visibility, someone will make charges early on which can be or were already easily dealt with - a kind of investment for the future should the matter not be so easily contained.) Where it can be foreseen, have your own side raise a straw man issue and have it dealt with early on as part of the initial contingency plans. Subsequent charges, regardless of validity or new ground uncovered, can usually then be associated with the original charge and dismissed as simply being a rehash without need to address current issues -- so much the better where the opponent is or was involved with the original source.
11. Establish and rely upon fall-back positions. Using a minor matter or element of the facts, take the 'high road' and 'confess' with candor that some innocent mistake, in hindsight, was made -- but that opponents have seized on the opportunity to blow it all out of proportion and imply greater criminalities which, 'just isn't so.' Others can reinforce this on your behalf, later, and even publicly 'call for an end to the nonsense' because you have already 'done the right thing.' Done properly, this can garner sympathy and respect for 'coming clean' and 'owning up' to your mistakes without addressing more serious issues.
12. Enigmas have no solution. Drawing upon the overall umbrella of events surrounding the crime and the multitude of players and events, paint the entire affair as too complex to solve. This causes those otherwise following the matter to begin to lose interest more quickly without having to address the actual issues.
13. Alice in Wonderland Logic. Avoid discussion of the issues by reasoning backwards or with an apparent deductive logic which forbears any actual material fact.
14. Demand complete solutions. Avoid the issues by requiring opponents to solve the crime at hand completely, a ploy which works best with issues qualifying for rule 10.
15. Fit the facts to alternate conclusions. This requires creative thinking unless the crime was planned with contingency conclusions in place.
16. Vanish evidence and witnesses. If it does not exist, it is not fact, and you won't have to address the issue.
17. Change the subject. Usually in connection with one of the other ploys listed here, find a way to side-track the discussion with abrasive or controversial comments in hopes of turning attention to a new, more manageable topic. This works especially well with companions who can 'argue' with you over the new topic and polarize the discussion arena in order to avoid discussing more key issues.
18. Emotionalize, Antagonize, and Goad Opponents. If you can't do anything else, chide and taunt your opponents and draw them into emotional responses which will tend to make them look foolish and overly motivated, and generally render their material somewhat less coherent. Not only will you avoid discussing the issues in the first instance, but even if their emotional response addresses the issue, you can further avoid the issues by then focusing on how 'sensitive they are to criticism.'
19. Ignore proof presented, demand impossible proofs. This is perhaps a variant of the 'play dumb' rule. Regardless of what material may be presented by an opponent in public forums, claim the material irrelevant and demand proof that is impossible for the opponent to come by (it may exist, but not be at his disposal, or it may be something which is known to be safely destroyed or withheld, such as a murder weapon.) In order to completely avoid discussing issues, it may be required that you to categorically deny and be critical of media or books as valid sources, deny that witnesses are acceptable, or even deny that statements made by government or other authorities have any meaning or relevance.
20. False evidence. Whenever possible, introduce new facts or clues designed and manufactured to conflict with opponent presentations -- as useful tools to neutralize sensitive issues or impede resolution. This works best when the crime was designed with contingencies for the purpose, and the facts cannot be easily separated from the fabrications.
21. Call a Grand Jury, Special Prosecutor, or other empowered investigative body. Subvert the (process) to your benefit and effectively neutralize all sensitive issues without open discussion. Once convened, the evidence and testimony are required to be secret when properly handled. For instance, if you own the prosecuting attorney, it can insure a Grand Jury hears no useful evidence and that the evidence is sealed and unavailable to subsequent investigators. Once a favorable verdict is achieved, the matter can be considered officially closed. Usually, this technique is applied to find the guilty innocent, but it can also be used to obtain charges when seeking to frame a victim.
22. Manufacture a new truth. Create your own expert(s), group(s), author(s), leader(s) or influence existing ones willing to forge new ground via scientific, investigative, or social research or testimony which concludes favorably. In this way, if you must actually address issues, you can do so authoritatively.
23. Create bigger distractions. If the above does not seem to be working to distract from sensitive issues, or to prevent unwanted media coverage of unstoppable events such as trials, create bigger news stories (or treat them as such) to distract the multitudes.
24. Silence critics. If the above methods do not prevail, consider removing opponents from circulation by some definitive solution so that the need to address issues is removed entirely. This can be by their death, arrest and detention, blackmail or destruction of their character by release of blackmail information, or merely by destroying them financially, emotionally, or severely damaging their health.
25. Vanish. If you are a key holder of secrets or otherwise overly illuminated and you think the heat is getting too hot, to avoid the issues, vacate the kitchen.
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Eight Traits of the Disinformationalist
1) Avoidance. They never actually discuss issues head-on or provide constructive input, generally avoiding citation of references or credentials. Rather, they merely imply this, that, and the other. Virtually everything about their presentation implies their authority and expert knowledge in the matter without any further justification for credibility.
2) Selectivity. They tend to pick and choose opponents carefully, either applying the hit-and-run approach against mere commentators supportive of opponents, or focusing heavier attacks on key opponents who are known to directly address issues. Should a commentator become argumentative with any success, the focus will shift to include the commentator as well.
3) Coincidental. They tend to surface suddenly and somewhat coincidentally with a new controversial topic with no clear prior record of participation in general discussions in the particular public arena involved. They likewise tend to vanish once the topic is no longer of general concern. They were likely directed or elected to be there for a reason, and vanish with the reason.
4) Teamwork. They tend to operate in self-congratulatory and complementary packs or teams. Of course, this can happen naturally in any public forum, but there will likely be an ongoing pattern of frequent exchanges of this sort where professionals are involved. Sometimes one of the players will infiltrate the opponent camp to become a source for straw man or other tactics designed to dilute opponent presentation strength.
5) Anti-conspiratorial. They almost always have disdain for 'conspiracy theorists' and, usually, for those who in any way believe JFK was not killed by LHO. Ask yourself why, if they hold such disdain for conspiracy theorists, do they focus on defending a single topic discussed in a NG focusing on conspiracies? One might think they would either be trying to make fools of everyone on every topic, or simply ignore the group they hold in such disdain. Or, one might more rightly conclude they have an ulterior motive for their actions in going out of their way to focus as they do.
6) Artificial Emotions. An odd kind of 'artificial' emotionalism and an unusually thick skin -- an ability to persevere and persist even in the face of overwhelming criticism and unacceptance. This likely stems from intelligence community training that, no matter how condemning the evidence, deny everything, and never become emotionally involved or reactive. The net result for a disinfo artist is that emotions can seem artificial.
Most people, if responding in anger, for instance, will express their animosity throughout their rebuttal. But disinfo types usually have trouble maintaining the 'image' and are hot and cold with respect to pretended emotions and their usually more calm or unemotional communications style. It's just a job, and they often seem unable to 'act their role in character' as well in a communications medium as they might be able in a real face-to-face conversation/confrontation. You might have outright rage and indignation one moment, ho-hum the next, and more anger later -- an emotional yo-yo.
With respect to being thick-skinned, no amount of criticism will deter them from doing their job, and they will generally continue their old disinfo patterns without any adjustments to criticisms of how obvious it is that they play that game -- where a more rational individual who truly cares what others think might seek to improve their communications style, substance, and so forth, or simply give up.
7) Inconsistent. There is also a tendency to make mistakes which betray their true self/motives. This may stem from not really knowing their topic, or it may be somewhat 'freudian', so to speak, in that perhaps they really root for the side of truth deep within.
I have noted that often, they will simply cite contradictory information which neutralizes itself and the author. For instance, one such player claimed to be a Navy pilot, but blamed his poor communicating skills (spelling, grammar, incoherent style) on having only a grade-school education. I'm not aware of too many Navy pilots who don't have a college degree. Another claimed no knowledge of a particular topic/situation but later claimed first-hand knowledge of it.
8) Time Constant. Recently discovered, with respect to News Groups, is the response time factor. There are three ways this can be seen to work, especially when the government or other empowered player is involved in a cover up operation:
a) ANY NG posting by a targeted proponent for truth can result in an IMMEDIATE response. The government and other empowered players can afford to pay people to sit there and watch for an opportunity to do some damage. SINCE DISINFO IN A NG ONLY WORKS IF THE READER SEES IT - FAST RESPONSE IS CALLED FOR, or the visitor may be swayed towards truth.
b) When dealing in more direct ways with a disinformationalist, such as email, DELAY IS CALLED FOR - there will usually be a minimum of a 48-72 hour delay. This allows a sit-down team discussion on response strategy for best effect, and even enough time to 'get permission' or instruction from a formal chain of command.
c) In the NG example 1) above, it will often ALSO be seen that bigger guns are drawn and fired after the same 48-72 hours delay - the team approach in play. This is especially true when the targeted truth seeker or their comments are considered more important with respect to potential to reveal truth. Thus, a serious truth sayer will be attacked twice for the same sin.
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How to Spot a Spy (Cointelpro Agent)
One way to neutralize a potential activist is to get them to be in a group that does all the wrong things. Why?
1) The message doesn't get out.
2) A lot of time is wasted
3) The activist is frustrated and discouraged
4) Nothing good is accomplished.
FBI and Police Informers and Infiltrators will infest any group and they have phoney activist organizations established.
Their purpose is to prevent any real movement for justice or eco-peace from developing in this country.
Agents come in small, medium or large. They can be of any ethnic background. They can be male or female.
The actual size of the group or movement being infiltrated is irrelevant. It is the potential the movement has for becoming large which brings on the spies and saboteurs.
This booklet lists tactics agents use to slow things down, foul things up, destroy the movement and keep tabs on activists.
It is the agent's job to keep the activist from quitting such a group, thus keeping him/her under control.
In some situations, to get control, the agent will tell the activist:
[Here, I have added the psychological reasons as to WHY this maneuver works to control people]
This invites guilty feelings. Many people can be controlled by guilt. The agents begin relationships with activists behind a well-developed mask of "dedication to the cause." Because of their often declared dedication, (and actions designed to prove this), when they criticize the activist, he or she - being truly dedicated to the movement - becomes convinced that somehow, any issues are THEIR fault. This is because a truly dedicated person tends to believe that everyone has a conscience and that nobody would dissimulate and lie like that "on purpose." It's amazing how far agents can go in manipulating an activist because the activist will constantly make excuses for the agent who regularly declares their dedication to the cause. Even if they do, occasionally, suspect the agent, they will pull the wool over their own eyes by rationalizing: "they did that unconsciously... they didn't really mean it... I can help them by being forgiving and accepting " and so on and so forth.
The agent will tell the activist:
This is designed to enhance the activist's self-esteem. His or her narcissistic admiration of his/her own activist/altruistic intentions increase as he or she identifies with and consciously admires the altruistic declarations of the agent which are deliberately set up to mirror those of the activist.
This is "malignant pseudo identification." It is the process by which the agent consciously imitates or simulates a certain behavior to foster the activist's identification with him/her, thus increasing the activist's vulnerability to exploitation. The agent will simulate the more subtle self-concepts of the activist.
Activists and those who have altruistic self-concepts are most vulnerable to malignant pseudo identification especially during work with the agent when the interaction includes matter relating to their competency, autonomy, or knowledge.
The goal of the agent is to increase the activist's general empathy for the agent through pseudo-identification with the activist's self-concepts.
The most common example of this is the agent who will compliment the activist for his competency or knowledge or value to the movement. On a more subtle level, the agent will simulate affects and mannerisms of the activist which promotes identification via mirroring and feelings of "twinship". It is not unheard of for activists, enamored by the perceived helpfulness and competence of a good agent, to find themselves considering ethical violations and perhaps, even illegal behavior, in the service of their agent/handler.
The activist's "felt quality of perfection" [self-concept] is enhanced, and a strong empathic bond is developed with the agent through his/her imitation and simulation of the victim's own narcissistic investments. [self-concepts] That is, if the activist knows, deep inside, their own dedication to the cause, they will project that onto the agent who is "mirroring" them.
The activist will be deluded into thinking that the agent shares this feeling of identification and bonding. In an activist/social movement setting, the adversarial roles that activists naturally play vis a vis the establishment/government, fosters ongoing processes of intrapsychic splitting so that "twinship alliances" between activist and agent may render whole sectors or reality testing unavailable to the activist. They literally "lose touch with reality."
Activists who deny their own narcissistic investments [do not have a good idea of their own self-concepts and that they ARE concepts] and consciously perceive themselves (accurately, as it were) to be "helpers" endowed with a special amount of altruism are exceedingly vulnerable to the affective (emotional) simulation of the accomplished agent.
Empathy is fostered in the activist through the expression of quite visible affects. The presentation of tearfulness, sadness, longing, fear, remorse, and guilt, may induce in the helper-oriented activist a strong sense of compassion, while unconsciously enhancing the activist's narcissistic investment in self as the embodiment of goodness.
The agent's expresssion of such simulated affects may be quite compelling to the observer and difficult to distinguish from deep emotion.
It can usually be identified by two events, however:
First, the activist who has analyzed his/her own narcissistic roots and is aware of his/her own potential for being "emotionally hooked," will be able to remain cool and unaffected by such emotional outpourings by the agent.
As a result of this unaffected, cool, attitude, the Second event will occur: The agent will recompensate much too quickly following such an affective expression leaving the activist with the impression that "the play has ended, the curtain has fallen," and the imposture, for the moment, has finished. The agent will then move quickly to another activist/victim.
The fact is, the movement doesn't need leaders, it needs MOVERS. "Follow the leader" is a waste of time.
A good agent will want to meet as often as possible. He or she will talk a lot and say little. One can expect an onslaught of long, unresolved discussions.
Some agents take on a pushy, arrogant, or defensive manner:
1) To disrupt the agenda
2) To side-track the discussion
3) To interrupt repeatedly
4) To feign ignorance
5) To make an unfounded accusation against a person.
Calling someone a racist, for example. This tactic is used to discredit a person in the eyes of all other group members.
Saboteurs
Some saboteurs pretend to be activists. She or he will ....
1) Write encyclopedic flyers (in the present day, websites)
2) Print flyers in English only.
3) Have demonstrations in places where no one cares.
4) Solicit funding from rich people instead of grass roots support
5) Display banners with too many words that are confusing.
6) Confuse issues.
7) Make the wrong demands.
8) Compromise the goal.
9) Have endless discussions that waste everyone's time. The agent may accompany the endless discussions with drinking, pot smoking or other amusement to slow down the activist's work.
Provocateurs
1) Want to establish "leaders" to set them up for a fall in order to stop the movement.
2) Suggest doing foolish, illegal things to get the activists in trouble.
3) Encourage militancy.
4) Want to taunt the authorities.
5) Attempt to make the activist compromise their values.
6) Attempt to instigate violence. Activism ought to always be non-violent.
7) Attempt to provoke revolt among people who are ill-prepared to deal with the reaction of the authorities to such violence.
Informants
1) Want everyone to sign up and sing in and sign everything.
2) Ask a lot of questions (gathering data).
3) Want to know what events the activist is planning to attend.
4) Attempt to make the activist defend him or herself to identify his or her beliefs, goals, and level of commitment.
Recruiting
Legitimate activists do not subject people to hours of persuasive dialog. Their actions, beliefs, and goals speak for themselves.
Groups that DO recruit are missionaries, military, and fake political parties or movements set up by agents.
Surveillance
ALWAYS assume that you are under surveillance.
At this point, if you are NOT under surveillance, you are not a very good activist!
Scare Tactics
They use them.
Such tactics include slander, defamation, threats, getting close to disaffected or minimally committed fellow activists to persuade them (via psychological tactics described above) to turn against the movement and give false testimony against their former compatriots. They will plant illegal substances on the activist and set up an arrest; they will plant false information and set up "exposure," they will send incriminating letters [emails] in the name of the activist; and more; they will do whatever society will allow.
This booklet in no way covers all the ways agents use to sabotage the lives of sincere an dedicated activists.
If an agent is "exposed," he or she will be transferred or replaced.
COINTELPRO is still in operation today under a different code name. It is no longer placed on paper where it can be discovered through the freedom of information act.
The FBI counterintelligence program's stated purpose: To expose, disrupt, misdirect, discredit, and otherwise neutralize individuals who the FBI categorize as opposed to the National Interests. "National Security" means the FBI's security from the people ever finding out the vicious things it does in violation of people's civil liberties.
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Seventeen Techniques for Truth Suppression
Strong, credible allegations of high-level criminal activity can bring down a government. When the government lacks an effective, fact-based defense, other techniques must be employed. The success of these techniques depends heavily upon a cooperative, compliant press and a mere token opposition party.
1. Dummy up. If it's not reported, if it's not news, it didn't happen.
2. Wax indignant. This is also known as the "How dare you?" gambit.
3. Characterize the charges as "rumors" or, better yet, "wild rumors." If, in spite of the news blackout, the public is still able to learn about the suspicious facts, it can only be through "rumors." (If they tend to believe the "rumors" it must be because they are simply "paranoid" or "hysterical.")
4. Knock down straw men. Deal only with the weakest aspects of the weakest charges. Even better, create your own straw men. Make up wild rumors (or plant false stories) and give them lead play when you appear to debunk all the charges, real and fanciful alike.
5. Call the skeptics names like "conspiracy theorist," "nutcase," "ranter," "kook," "crackpot," and, of course, "rumor monger." Be sure, too, to use heavily loaded verbs and adjectives when characterizing their charges and defending the "more reasonable" government and its defenders. You must then carefully avoid fair and open debate with any of the people you have thus maligned. For insurance, set up your own "skeptics" to shoot down.
6. Impugn motives. Attempt to marginalize the critics by suggesting strongly that they are not really interested in the truth but are simply pursuing a partisan political agenda or are out to make money (compared to over-compensated adherents to the government line who, presumably, are not).
7. Invoke authority. Here the controlled press and the sham opposition can be very useful.
8. Dismiss the charges as "old news."
9. Come half-clean. This is also known as "confession and avoidance" or "taking the limited hangout route." This way, you create the impression of candor and honesty while you admit only to relatively harmless, less-than-criminal "mistakes." This stratagem often requires the embrace of a fall-back position quite different from the one originally taken. With effective damage control, the fall-back position need only be peddled by stooge skeptics to carefully limited markets.
10. Characterize the crimes as impossibly complex and the truth as ultimately unknowable.
11. Reason backward, using the deductive method with a vengeance. With thoroughly rigorous deduction, troublesome evidence is irrelevant. E.g. We have a completely free press. If evidence exists that the Vince Foster "suicide" note was forged, they would have reported it. They haven't reported it so there is no such evidence. Another variation on this theme involves the likelihood of a conspiracy leaker and a press who would report the leak.
12. Require the skeptics to solve the crime completely. E.g. If Foster was murdered, who did it and why?
13. Change the subject. This technique includes creating and/or publicizing distractions.
14. Lightly report incriminating facts, and then make nothing of them. This is sometimes referred to as "bump and run" reporting.
15. Baldly and brazenly lie. A favorite way of doing this is to attribute the "facts" furnished the public to a plausible-sounding, but anonymous, source.
16. Expanding further on numbers 4 and 5, have your own stooges "expose" scandals and champion popular causes. Their job is to pre-empt real opponents and to play 99-yard football. A variation is to pay rich people for the job who will pretend to spend their own money.
17. Flood the Internet with agents. This is the answer to the question, "What could possibly motivate a person to spend hour upon hour on Internet news groups defending the government and/or the press and harassing genuine critics?" Don t the authorities have defenders enough in all the newspapers, magazines, radio, and television? One would think refusing to print critical letters and screening out serious callers or dumping them from radio talk shows would be control enough, but, obviously, it is not.
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2024.05.21 19:09 Significant-Bank6941 I need some outside opinions and advice on what I should do about my relationship? I am 36F my bf is 26M and he has zero motivation.

My bf was a virgin when we met. We worked together and we fell in love and he moved in with me. I have 3 children from my past relationship. When covid hit, I had to stay at home taking care of the kids and basically homeschool them for 3 years. And now they continue to do online school. I found a work from home job. He does doordash and Uber. He used to work non-stop and made decent money doing it. But for the past year, he has completely slowed down. He will work just a few hours here and there, not even making enough for the month to cover his share of bills he pays. His share is $800. I cover everything else, literally everything. He also uses my car while his truck sits parked with barely 50k miles. He says he's sick of doing doordash. I told him to find a part-time job since the minimum wage is nearly $20. My father has offered him a career where he works, which is the equivalent to Boeing. No exp is needed, and he will just give him whatever type of work he wants to try and whatever shift or schedule. He says he doesn't want to work. He thinks it's not fair that he has to work his ass off all day and be broke. And that he can't just make passive income.
I'm tired of taking care of the entire house and work and being busy with the kids and coaching, etc, but I do it. He stays up all night playing on his PC. He will go to bed when I'm getting up in the morning. Our bedroom is so messy that I refuse to go sleep in there at night. He says he won't work because I won't do what he expects of me. Come to bed at night and have sex. I told him I would if he kept the room clean and if he would go to work and came out of the room to spend time with me and as a family. He said I could just as easily come into the room during the day if I want to see him.
He used to love going and doing things together. But now he just doesn't ever feel like going and doing anything. His attitude is negative he has excuses for everything, and on the rare occasion he comes out, he seems miserable. I don't know what went wrong or how to fix this. Every time I try to work this out and we talk and agree to do this or that, he still continues to do what he does. He says he has zero motivation to work or do things if we are upset or if I don't come to the bedroom at night. We talk, and I'll hold up my word while he never holds up his..this is the first time i haven't just gone along with it. I dont want to sleep in my room when theres dirty dishes and trash, im done taking care of him like a mother. I'm not sure if he's unhappy and wants to break up but doesn't want to do that bc of the relationship he has with the kids or the relationship I have with his mother, we are very close and she sees my kids as her grand children. I don't know if he's just in a rut or depressed what do I do?
TL;DR My bf 26M (Im 37F) is super unmotivated and just seems extremely u happy. What do you think I should do? Do we need counseling?
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2024.05.21 18:31 astrohoe11 Am I wrong for ghosting one of my ā€œfriendsā€?

Am I wrong for soft ghosting one of my ā€œfriendsā€?
Wow, this one might me a long one.
So I moved to (undisclosed location) sometime in the beginning of last year. When I moved here I really had no friends but became heavily involved in this yoga studio I went to and slowly but surely started to make friends/acquaintances with the teacher that instructed me.
From afar she seemed super cool and I became pretty enthralled with her and her life. I would look forward so heavily to going to her classes every week and was quite intrigued by her. I thought she was funny, bubbly, spunky, cool, and always made jokes during class that made me laugh. As months went by I found myself wanting to get closer and closer to her, and she even invited me out one time to one of her ā€œeventsā€ she was hosting. Hereā€™s the thing;
It seemed like we had a lot in common and was just generally craving camaraderie and connection. I felt a sense of belonging with her and wanted to expand that energy in my life, and wanted to do anything I could to get closer to her for those reasons. But I guess this is where we have the first red flag;
One day after class, she extended an invitation to me to a meet up of sorts, (Iā€™m being sparing with details just out of fear she might read this) and when she invited me it seemed like it was gonna be this big thing with lots of people invited, and just in general in talking to her it seemed as if she was very well connected and respected within her community, had lots of friends and connects, and I thought this was gonna be a huge thing that I was even lucky to be invited to. I was super stoked and exited about it.
However when the day of the event came, I was super tired and slow to getting up that morning. I figured I would just make my way over whenever I could since it seemed causal and like you could drop in whenever. I also figured there would be more than enough people that no one would really even notice my arrival or departure. (Plus, sometimes itā€™s chic to be fashionably late ;) ). Wellā€¦. I was most definitely wrong.
When I showed up I heard someone excitedly shout my name, which was her, and she waved me down to the ā€œmeet upā€ā€¦. There was literally only one person there and it had been going on for 2+ hours. I was definitely a bit unnerved, but also didnā€™t want to be rude, and like I said I was just kind of happy to be there and be getting invited to things. But it was kinda like, damnā€¦. Are these all the friends you have?
I had dressed up and looked cute but they were just kind of wearing whatever and I felt awkward and overdressed and also embarrassed now that I was even this late because it was clearly much more intimate than I expected and my arrival/absence was DEFINITELY felt. We had chatted a bit and that was cool but then I remember her confessing me that she had cried to her husband earlier that morning that she was scared nobody was going to show up and how thrilled she was that not only one, but TWO people had showed up and that it felt like she had friends. I wasnā€™t really sure what to say or make of that.
She alsoā€¦. The whole time (and mind you, this is our first legitimate interaction out of yoga class) just kind of kept talking maniacally AT me, not to me, and was coming off almost even manic, and she had formed a white crust of spit around her mouth probably from talking so much that I couldnā€™t look away from. To say the least, I was a bit disturbed coming away from this interaction but I just kept telling myself that I was being too judgmental of her and to give it a chance and that maybe she was just hyper that day and that I had probably had unintentional embarrassing hygiene moments as well. So I keep going to class and thatā€™s that.
There were several other red flag moments between this first interaction and the next one, mostly just her incredibly cringey social media presence that I genuinely almost couldnā€™t stand to see without feeling like I was withering away inside, but maybe Iā€™ll save that for later. Itā€™s almost like I couldnā€™t just see that the person I thought was so cool in class and the person I was seeing her be online and outside of class were the same people. But I digress.
She had actually ended up inviting me to go with her on one of her international yoga retreats, and I was actually very excited about this. I had very little time with her in between classes, and my attraction (but also repulsion) with her was growing stronger and I wanted to figure her out and see what she was really about and what the pull I was feeling towards her was about. Plus, I love travelling and just thought it would be fun.
I had a pretty good time, but we didnā€™t get to talk much, HOWEVER, I do remember this distinct point during the trip where it was myself, 2-3 other fiends I had made, her brother, and her ā€œbest friendā€ who had happened to be her brotherā€™s Gf in a room together, talking. the brother, the best friend, and the other friend I made just all completely started talking shit about her and I was so confused.
I felt super hurt by this actually, bc I felt like I had a inexplicable bond with the teacher who had invited me, she was the reason we were all there in that beautiful place, and I just couldnā€™t understand why they were choosing to be so negative about someone I thought they had claimed (at least by title) to love. They would say things like ā€œI canā€™t fucking stand your sisterā€ (one of the friends I made to the brother) and everyone would just sigh and put their hands in their head and be like ā€œI knowā€¦. I know. Itā€™s a lot. Sheā€™s a lotā€. And I didnā€™t have anything to add to the conversation because I was just so confused and I knew the girl would just be so upset if she heard them saying this. Anywayā€¦ that confusion stuck with me for a while after.
Fast forward maybe a month or two, I started hanging out with her more regularly myself outside of class. I would say this is when we became more ā€œfriendsā€. She would invite me to other teachers classes and we would talk a lot about our lives.
I learned how she felt about her close friend and family connections, and how she often felt hurt and betrayed by people close to her and how some of her friends were actually really shady. I just got a general sense of her feeling scapegoated and libeled against by ppl that got close to her and how she had walls up for that reason.
She also shared to me that most of her family was cut off, with the exception of her brother who she had recently rekindled a connection with, hence why he was on that trip. I felt very bad for her and wanted to be a source of comfort and support, and she would often comment on how she felt a sense of camaraderie with me since I also (LITERALLY) had no family and how we have to make our chosen family. This was a sweet sentiment, for sure, but I was still sussing out how I felt about her.
So one day, a mutual friend that had been on the trip with us was having a birthday party and I guess that she was invited to it, too. She sat down next to me and I was SUPER excited to see her as I was craving her energy and hadnā€™t seen her in some time. But thenā€¦ idk. She had had a lot to drink. Iā€™m fully aware that sheā€™s kind of a quirky individual, and has a way of socializing which I can sometimes find a bit uncomfortable or even intense, (like the first meetup I spoke of) but this time it was even more and seemed to be heightened by the drinking.
Her husband was sitting on her other side and kept trying to interject and insinuate that maybe she was doing a bit much, but I think she was drunk enough to the point that she just found it funny and had no awareness of how she was coming off. Thereā€™s not even a way I can describe it really, but she just seemed a bit obsessive over me and kept making jokes that were literally not funny and seemed to have lost all ability to read the room. I also had noticed that she had only had TWO beers and was acting like this already which I foundā€¦ really strange.
So at some point she goes to the bathroom, and I also get in line for the bathroom about 5 mins later. When I get up to the bathroom, sheā€™s still in there, and thereā€™s a line of about 2 or 3 people ahead of me. When she exits the bathroom she immediately spots me and rushes up to me and just startsā€¦ drunkenly spewing.
I canā€™t even remember what she was saying, but we were in a pretty high class establishment and I remember her gushing over me and was saying ā€œI just want to let you know that I donā€™t really have friends or let people close to me in my circle but I just want to let you know that YOU are officially in my circle and you have earned friend status to me and Iā€™ve let you in my circleā€¦ā€ or something like that. And I just kept thinking, who tf even says that??? Iā€™m pretty sure the last time I checked that friendship is a two way street and itā€™s not just a title we bestow onto some ā€œluckyā€ person and thatā€™s that. Like girlā€¦ let ME decide if I want to be friends too first.
It was partially that, and also the way she was drunkenly spewing was so awkward and embarrassing bc I could tell all the other women in line were like who tf is this bitch and why is she saying all this weird stuff and like, does she even know you?? Lol. Just a very odd interaction which again, I kind of wrote off, but the unsettling feeling kind of just kept growing after that point.
Then, the time that I REALLY knew something was up came up about a month later, but there are still some key details of this story that are missing. Perhaps I will discuss them later.
SO. About a month later, she invited me last minute to this concert of sorts. When I got there, I was super excited to be there, the vibes were amazing and we were having so much fun. But she had definitely had a lot, A LOT to drink. I didnā€™t mind at first, because everyone there seemed severely under the influence, but she would just start randomly kind of lashing out at people in the crowd and she thought it was funny? She first loudly and audibly started making fun of some guys shoes in front of us, and was trying to laugh with me as if I would join in, but when his girl friend turned around and shot her a dirty look, she had the nerve to be self conscious and mad about it. She would loudly poke fun at other people in the crowd too, but not in a ha-ha way, just in a straight up mean and asshole way and I could not understand why she would even do that or why she thought that was funny.
Again, I kind of just awkwardly laughed and brushed it off. But when all was said and done and the concert was closing, she enthusiastically invited me back to go to her house and soak in her hot tub. I kept saying are you sure?? But she was like please, PLEASE come, we have weed, weā€™ll smoke you out and other things and I wanted to continue the vibes because it sounded fun. And thenā€¦.. completely downhill.
I had arrived back at their place before she did, but as soon as I saw them go in I knocked. When I walked in, she was pale faced up on the floor, non verbal, pretty much motionless, and staring at the ceiling. I was like oh noā€¦ it seemed like she got a bit too much to drink. I waited patiently there for a few mins, unsure of what to do as I had just drove for 45 mins and I was still 25 mins in the opposite direction away from home.
I kind of just sat around, and hoped that she would sober up. I asked if she was drunkā€¦ she said no. She ran to her bathroom multiple times while her husband (a complete socially awkward case himself) tried to take care of her while she threw up. I asked her if she puked and she also said no. So I didnā€™t really know what to do. I was trying to offer support/ empathy but she just kept denying any claims of anything being amiss. Her husband left to pick up a pizza and I probably just shouldā€™ve left but Iā€™m telling you I had no idea how to exit their house without making it weird or awkward. And I also was hungry. So I just stayedā€¦ and waited for the pizza.
What happened in those 20-30 mins, I donā€™t even know if I can fully explain. She just becameā€¦ so FUCKING WEIRD. she clearly was embarrassed that I was seeing her drunk, and I think was trying to over compensate. But she just turned into an absolute freak show and Iā€™ve never been more uncomfortable in my life.
She started hoola hooping in my face, and making these weird gremlin faces and noises at me, fell to the floor, rolled round on the floor while continuing to make the noises, convulsed on the floor, but tried to do it in a funny way, tried to make an interpretive dance for meā€¦ Iā€™ve truly never experienced something so uncomfortable in my life. I probably do sound like an asshole, but I swear you would just have to be there to see how a) gross and b) weird and actually scary it was. I was genuinely frightened.
Iā€™ve never seen anyone act like that and I didnā€™t want to make her more uncomfortable or weird by showing her how clearly uncomfortable I actually was. so I just sat there and tried to laugh. But it probably came off as more of a grimace. And for the record, this woman is 33. I am 26. It was just. Obscene.
And sheā€™s tried to act like and say multiple times that sheā€™s like my ā€œbig sisterā€. Now Iā€™ve seen a lot of drunk behavior, but not this. I wolfed down my pizza, and so did she, and she started to get even more philosophical and weird on me, showing me songs and art which were quite frankly some of the worst things Iā€™ve ever heard in my life, and I left as soon as I could.
I was so shaken and disturbed coming away from this, because like I said earlier, I thought she was a cool girl, but honestly her behavior and lack of control over herself completely terrified me. And itā€™s not like she was drinking liquor, it was just damn IPAs. And I just did not know what to do.
Some details I will try to add to this story, even though I know itā€™s monolithic at this point , is that 2 months prior to this she had gotten fired from the studio she worked at.
She had a mental breakdown during class because the manager was being mean to her, and he fired her on the spot. I remember being so angry with the owner, (honestly he IS a piece of shit human being) but I thought he was being sexist by calling her mentally unstable and I thought the way he handled things was unfair.
I went so far as to boycott the studio and completely remove myself from it in support of her and followed her to her new one. After the drunk #2 incident, I didnā€™t hang out with her very much, and only saw her during her class as I was locked into a certain number of classes I had paid for.
I remember her telling me that she had just started at ANOTHER studio, and got fired 3 days after on her birthday and she was talking about how unfair it was and how much of an asshole that new girl was for firing herā€¦ and I believed her. AGAIN.
I went so far as to block that girl on Instagram too, but deep down I kind of knew that she had probably just been fired bc letā€™s face itā€¦ as I was starting to discover, she WAS a lot. and the studio was in an upper class area , catered towards more upper echelon people, and I just donā€™t think she was fitting that image. I lent her an empathetic ear, because thatā€™s all I would want in that situation.
But where she fucked up was sending me screenshot proof of the text exchange between her and that girl, thinking I would take her side, and later sending me screenshots of another conversation she had with the OTHER manager. She told me that this new girl fired her for bringing her husband to class. In my mind I was like, oh no, is she racist!?! Because her husband was black. But no, thatā€™s not what I read at all.
It was the most reasonable, level headed response to someone ever, and laid out multiple offenses and reasons she didnā€™t want her at the studio. The reasons were honestly so embarrassing that I donā€™t know why she would send it to me and think I would side with her. She recently also sent me messages with the other boss and the last thing he says to her is ā€œI hope you get help for your mental illness because whatever you have is serious and will impact all your relationships and business and things that you doā€. And honestly I can now say in retrospect that those were the truest words ever spoken.
When I read these texts, I had a look back at my whole relationship with and how she would always paint everyone else to be the villain and how everyone is so mean to HERā€¦ and the whole time the common denominator was her. It was always her. And it made me rethink everything.
Iā€™ve even had extensive conversations with some of the other people on her trip that were talking shit and couldnā€™t stand her and they all told me the same things. How it seemed like she was the coolest person ever and had her shit together and seemed like she was going placesā€¦ but deep down she was just an absolute mess and pushed everyone away from her. And I no longer felt like I was going crazy.
But like I said, she formed a really close bond with me (I think from her perspective) and said she felt like my big sister and family, and shared all these stories about her feeling isolated and shut out by people, but now here I am, doing the exact same thing to her. Icing her out of my life. And I just wanna ask you guysā€¦
Am the asshole?
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