I dont speak to my kids. One of them even disowned the whole family name legally.
As soon as we divorced you had your other kids dad up in there swiftly and got rid of the last name quickly too.. . He was abusive yet you protected him, kept my non abusive ass at bay with the law, and then made an attempt to COMPLETELY TAKE THE KIDS FROM ME AND KEEP THEM INTEGRATED IN YOUR TOXIC ABUSIVE SITUATION....While ridding them of me because of my toxic ways. It failed because I researched and document enough of your rachet behaviors to keep them in my life. But for some stupid reason I always took your fake well wishes, and word soup at face value. But you were never supportive at all. You just showboated it. Even letting me use the car as when I was working on shit for you...and as soon as someTHING else came along you desired, and feared I might hinder by being a part OF THEIR LIVES you forced me out of their lives... OVER TOTAL FABRICATED LIES, refused to tell me what was my charges against me, and kept me stonewalled for over three years over the lies, AND ALLOWED THE KIDS TO THINK I ABANDONED THEM THE WHOLE TIME we were no contact.
I almost died over that shit. That literally almost killed me. And you dont GAF. Your kids relationship with their father...WAS DEEMED DISPOSABLE BY YOU. It came in last behind your trips, vacays, abusers, feinds that were "part of your friend family", even your style of "open parenting" (aka let them raise themselves while i party, and tour the ether with toxic bunny besties, blasting away the liquid allowances of men with one foot in the grave that had desires of not being lonely and were willing to sponsor "fun lifestyles") (although you did keep them well clothed, well fed, and gave them a great work ethic) was deemed. You decided that their boyfriends moving in with them at your house while they were young teens while you "did your thang girl" retreating, resorting, concerting, and discovering...WAS MORE OF THE SOLID THING TO DO THAN LET THIER DAD COME IN AND PARTAKE IN SOME OF THAT "RAISING".
Am I saying I could have done it better? No. NOT AT ALL.
Im saying you could have been more understanding and more including, and more accepting. You crucified me for the same shit you allowed...REGUARLY CONSISTENTLY FOR YEARS IN THE KIDS LIVES AND PROXIMITY.
Once again Im not saying I could have done it better...but I always trusted you..and figured you would include me with honest intentions. But it was always lip service to have plausible deniability that you held ill will when you came time to discard.
FOR FUCKS SAKE THE FIRST TIME YOU TRIED TO TAKE THE KIDS FROM ME TOTALLY, AND LAYED ALL THE DAMNING EVIDENCE IN FRONT OF YOU WITH "MY OWN HAND WRITTEN CUSTODY AGREEMENT" AND YOU WALKED IN THAT COURT ROOM BARELY EVEN KNOWING WHAT WAS IN THAT LONG AGREEMENT. AND YOU TOLD THE JUDGE "WEVE DECIDED TO COME UP WITH OUR OWN AGREEMENT, AND HAVE IT NOTARIZED" WHEN 30 MINS PRIOR YOU THOUGHT YOU HAD THE KIDS OUT OF MY LIFE "IN THE BAG"
wHAT DID MY AGREEMENT SAY?
i COULD HAVE DESTROYED YOU AND MADE IT TAKE MONTHS OR YEARS TO PROVE YOURSELF FIT..BUT I CHOSE A 50/50 EVERYTHING BECAUSE THATS HOW PPL ARE SUPPOSED TO BE. EVEN IF ONES DOWN AND ONES UP. CO PARTENTS AT LEAST
And you always claimed "the high ground" while doing THIS SHIT. You were all deception and projection...What am I guilty of?.FINANCIAL IMPOTENCY AT THE WORST..Neglect in our together years...and after that lady..you were a liar through and through. Years of fakery. Every kinds word ended up with you trashing me with the refuse. And you always blamed me...Even knowing you were chasing selfish motives and had the discard already set up.
You did me the favor of forgiving a massive amount of child support. Im grateful..but honestly id do time over the forgiving of debt to be with my kids as real family dad and kids...not with "you" I dont even research your life or inquire about it to others. I no longer care. but Id do years to be able to communicate with them, and having a real shot at them knowing me without your long term influence. Id trade just about anything but my soul for a shOT at their open hearts and open minds about me without your "love and care" influencing how they see me.
I have been told by several of your once friends, now ops..that my youngest might not even be mine. But I havent a clue if theres any truth to it, although it makes sense and little dick S ties into that perfectly.
Ive lost you all, youve helped that. I used to long for a you I coulkd trust. Not a you romantically but a you I could love as family and work with in life. I believed in a true you and was in love with you, making you a gold standard of what a good woman is for damn near two decades after we split...through all your lies, deception, projection, discarding, and cutting down...WHILE YOU INFLUENCED THE KIDS THAT I WAS SHIT.
THEY DONT KNOW HALF OF THE MALICOUS TRUTH ABOUT "ME NOT BEING THERE"
YOUR HALF...A BIG HALF
I keep saying I forgive and hold no ill will. but i am deeply firey inferno type angry. I want to take my aquarius air sign capabilities...and stoke and bellow fires to carbonized you landscapes earth sign. I want to blow waters upon your scorched earth and turn it to dark brown mud. I want to starve your barren mud pits of oxygen so green grass or plant of life wont inhabit it. And in the sorrows that come with stripping you down with my furious wrath of air..at your darkest..I want to send tornadoes, hurricanes, dust storms, and ravaging wind storms to keep you uncomfortable and in chaos...not even allowed to enjoy the "calm and peace in the depression of the mudscape"
But my fury will stay composed. you arent worth the exertion of my energy anymore. because you are not a person i know...and you are not someone who i have known since our divorce, and you havent allowed me to know the real you, or tried to know the real me.
I speak to the void, and leave you be..
but if these winds start to blow into a tempest they would rip apart all of your beauty..and decimate EVERYTHING YOU APPRECIATE, LOVE, OR WANT TO KEEP WITH YOU INTO PIECES...
the wind has nothing to lose..you cant take away from it..you cant add to it...you can just influence it and pressure it in your earthen vessels. It can starve fire of O2, Starve your green growths and florals of life, steer and stoke flames to carbonize your whole surface level facade, it can catalyze and thunderstorms, tornadoes, and hurricanes to pelt your surface...and wash you down to tho the levels of molecular sediment in the seas... and what you take from air displaces and when it comes back around..it is still air..whole and intact..even if its polluted...blowing in anger fires, floods, and storms upon you...driving frozen seas ashore on your beaches puncturing your picturesque places of dreams with daggers by the millions, slowly forcing the way inward...multiplying in number
So let me say since my kid changed the name legally, you changed yours too, and the other may or may not be mine but hates and has disowned me anyway...that if there are past lives, next lives, soul bonds or eternal connections...they end here and now. like YOU wanted, but used your motherly influence over time spanning times to make them feel that its exactly what they wanted too.
the complete opposite of what i want, or have ever wanted.
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UNLESS there is some major major changes that happen on this 3d plain FROM YOU, AND YOUR BULLSHIT, ACCOUNTABILITY AND TOXICITY, COMMUNICATION, COMPASSION AND REMORSE....

Then spiritually , In front of The Lord as I believe. I release any and all connections to you. Asking that it ends here and my knowledge of you, and ties to you be broken... in heaven, in earth, and any and all realms and plains of existence, embodiment, life, and after life.
And I write this should I suddenly meet my demise and we never "got equal in spirit" on this plain...so it can be effective if God is willing at the point of my ending.
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Stuck in a really nasty bind right now, and I'm hoping someone in town can help me. Looking for any advice you've got that could help me figure this all out.
A few months ago I signed up for a Humana Dental Value HI215 (DHMO) dental plan. I'm 23, self-employed, and don't make a ton of money, so it made sense for me. Flashforward to now, I have a wisdom tooth coming in and it's causing me intense pain. Humana has a list of providers on their site that they say accepts my plan, but I've called over 20 and they all say they don't take it. One woman informed me she had no clue what the "HI215" was, but knew for a fact that her oral surgery office did not accept an HMO. Humana shows me on the list that all these people take the HI215 part of my plan, but there's no filter for me to search who takes HMO.
I am pretty distraught. I am in so much pain, I pay monthly for this insurance plan, and I can't do anything with it. Has anyone had luck taking an HMO plan to an oral surgeon anywhere in Ohio? I'm desperate and can't afford to spend the $3,000+ out of pocket to get my wisdom teeth removed. Thank you in advance.

My stepdad runs a transmission shop, and this woman that got his number became homeless several months ago and is currently living in her car. He fixed it for her. She's called around a few places (he wasn't told which ones), but all the shelters' rooms require stair access, and this woman is paralyzed to the point where she wouldnt be able to take a few steps even with assistance. Right now, he's pulling her car into his shop at night so she can have a safe place to sleep.
Does anyone know of any shelters here that have wheelchair accessible living quarters? Or who we could contact to help this woman find accessible housing?

I replaced the ball bearings in my bicycle's freehub recently and decided to take a spontaneous ride through the eastern German countryside to see if my repair had been worth the time. As I set out, the sun was shining, the birds were singing, and the flowers were blooming. It was a Sunday, so everyone and their grandmother was out cruising on their cumbersome E-bikes, their knees jutting out to both sides due to saddle heights optimized for pulling on the throttle instead of pedaling. This had the added benefit of taking up as much space as possible on the roadway. After self-righteously overtaking a group of beer-gutted mountain bikers, I was humbled by the sound of a wrench falling out of my saddlebag onto the cobbles that had shaken it loose. The group passed me by as I paced, head hung low, looking for the wrench. Another E-biker traveling in the other direction kindly stopped to help. After a short while, my wrench now found and firmly fastened, we went our separate ways.
Villages are often compact in Germany - you will breeze through wide-open fields and sparsely-developed forests before jarringly entering a 9ft-wide gauntlet with nothing but gapless concrete-colored house walls and wooden entrance gates on either side of you until you have made it through. That, and light-blue AfD (Alternative for Germany) election posters hung about 6-10ft up on lightposts. Going through these villages, you get the impression that the AfD is the established party and the others are the newcomers. I saw a single Die Linke (The Left) poster ("Those who must flee should find refuge!") on the ride; 70% were from the AfD and most of the rest were single-issue parties (animal rights, antisenescence research) or the glowie WerteUnion (Values Union). The AfD's slogans seemed to stick to a three-concept guideline: "Make construction easier!", "Agriculture instead of solar parks!". Another stuck out to me: "Re-imagine Europe!". I am a voteless immigrant along for the ride.
I did some reimagining of my route as my legs began to cramp, and I headed for the nearest city with a train station. I got on the Deutsche Bahn going home with two minutes to spare. By chance, a friend returning from a camping trip was also on the train, so I sat with him. I used to take the same train multiple times per month to visit my girlfriend years ago. Some things had changed: now an autistic German man will mutter something about coffee as he walks by - if you are quick, you can buy some. His son, sitting beside of the mobile coffee stand across from us, gave excited commentary to my friend's camping stories between playing something on his phone and secretly downing packets of sugar from the stand. A burly German woman checked our tickets - now, an even burlier, Central Asian bearded man with a security vest stood close behind her and watched for sudden moves. The Indian students and leopard-printed Eastern European women we shared the car with didn't make any trouble.
After another connection, I made it to my stop, got some American-style fried chicken from a Syrian restaurant and got a beer from a kiosk. The friendly tattooed German guy who used to work here has been replaced part-time by a disinterested Arab who can't be arsed to tell me the price out loud. Finally, I sat down to eat at home, but my enjoyment was interrupted by the angry buzzing of a Japanese hornet flying into the kitchen.

I don’t have a flat ass but men’s sweatpants literally make everyone’s ass look flat unless u have a nicki Minaj ass. Does anyone have any brand recommendations for sweats that make your butt look good? I can’t wear woman’s either bc I don’t like not having room in the crotch and I’m 6ft tall with long legs

For each of us, this moment is one for the ages. We were both in long-term abusive marriages, 30 years, where in her case (55F) she was married to a sexually and emotionally abusive narcissist, and in my case I (65M) was married to the more or less assexual preachers kid who was also an abusive narcissist. We met about 4 years after my separation and about 6 months before hers. Once she separated, we started dating and about a month later, she moved in with me. We lived together working on healing our hearts for the next almost 5 years. Then, one day, we tried MDMA and I could not unsee her the way she showed up for me that day. I asked her if we could consider getting married. We had both come into the relationship with no intention to remarry at all. On the Winter Solstice, we proposed to teach other. First her, then me. We both said "YES!". We planned to marry on the Summer Solstice. She has gone into overdrive. As a Native American woman, she has made a Love Quilt to wrap us in and a Wedding Jug for us to drink wine from together. She has incorporated the aspects of her heritage that have meaning to her and I have done the same. In 30 days, once again, enhanced on MDMA, we plan to marry each other in a private ceremony where we will present to each other naked. Standing there in the more vulnerable way we can to be with each other. We have had the most loving Fiance time. Making love every day, eating delicious foods, and making yummy cocktails. Its been a party every day with her for over 5 years. Now she is going to be my wife and we are going to redefine marriage to be something that we want it to be. I could not be more excited. Even though its our second marriage, we both really feel like its our first! Why? Because we are deeply in love for the first time ever.
TL/DR Our hearts are healed and we are getting married for the first time even though we were both married before

ALL CHARACTERS ARE 18+
"Healing comes in waves, and I'm allowed to feel every rise and fall of my tide." -Alex Elle
'After a long and stressful day, I yearn to be held. To be cherished. To be lovingly tucked into bed by someone nearly old enough to be my mother. Well, maybe not THAT far but enough of an age difference to give us a certain motherly dynamic.
You've always been there for me. I love the way you smell as you hold me close in bed at the end of every night. I love the way your silky, sexy robes hug your curves as you climb into bed.'
Hi! I have an idea for a gentle, wholesome, cuddly, DETAILED RP between a younger man and a much older woman. Something about an older woman taking control without being too cold or mean about it just sends shivers down my spine in the best way possible.
I'd love for this to mainly be a slice of life kinda deal, heart to heart talks, all that stuff. Maybe we could include snippets of their day-to-day lives in it i.e. doctor's appointments, therapy appointments (for him), clothes shopping, etc.
I'd put his age around 19/20/21. She's MUCH older. We can go over her exact age in chat. But the age gap is a VERY essential detail in regards to their dynamic, how she treats him, and how she approaches him. I also have backstories in mind for both of our characters. I will have to warn you, his backstory is quite dark. If that's an issue for you then I'll try to be as flexible as I can but I feel like it's essential for his character.
I would love to discuss the details further in detail with all you fine people ❤️.

29F cheated on 26F. Do I forgive or forget?
So I found out earlier today that my girlfriend of almost 6 years slept with another woman when she was blacked out drunk last night. We have been having some issues with communication recently and are actively seeing a couples therapist to improve our communication. I know she has a problem when she drinks with a certain group of friends. She isn’t able to stop once she starts and has made other bad decisions while drunk with them (ie: getting arrested and breaking her hand) she also struggles with trauma from childhood and adhd which further complicates the alcohol relationship. I thought we were doing better since beginning independent counseling as well as couples counseling. When I found out about the cheating, I was more shocked than angry. I felt blindsided because this is completely out of her character. During the entirety of our relationship I never once thought this would happen. Many of my friends and family are telling me that I shouldn’t forgive her so easily, but my heart still loves her. I still care about her. I feel like this is her hitting her rock bottom and will help her get into treatment and put on medication to deal with old wounds. Am I crazy to think she can change or that the relationship can be repaired? Am I forgiving her too quickly? Like we all make mistakes and both of us have said hurtful things to each other but is cheating a completely different thing?? Please help me, I’m begging 🙏🏻

I have a friend with whom I have had an affair over the course of two years. We are both religious and out of guilt or anger he has a history that he would block me, then unblock me, to get out of having difficult conversations. He was supposed to be a father figure from my church when my dad died but he craved the sexual and I gave it to him to ensure his attention. Blocking me, and me going around him blocking me, is a normal part of our conversations and at times he has complimented me for having the persistence to work around him blocking me.
We told his spouse (I always had kept my spouse informed in an attempt to mitigate the risk of the affair occurring) in February and she asked that he block me. She told me not to talk to him, but he never told me what he wanted. Over the course of a month and a half our friendship resumed with no physical contact although there were inappropriate overtones to the conversation. In the past two months we have occasionally discussed what’s going on with his facebook account and his wife’s Facebook account and he never seemed bothered that I asked about it.
This past week he admitted to having a different three year affair besides me, and was confiding in me about that relationship. He claimed it was before me after admitting it was three years , and also claims it was with his third wife (his current wife is the 4th but he claims the 3rd wife is the only woman he ever loved). He said it was during his fourth marriage . After admitting or claiming these things, I asked if he’d confided in his wife as well. He got very angry and said never to ask him about his past again. He told me I was too consoling. Then he claimed that there was no three year relationship and I was just so paranoid that I think everything is a CIA conspiracy. (I enjoy spy stuff in measure)
We texted cordially the following day, and after he worked I went to see him, we got ina fight where he claimed I am making up that he has all these women and asked me to tell him where they were. I was angry at this standard because of COURSE he doesn’t let me see his phone to see his phone to know who he texts. I’ve only seen him deleting texts from one other woman so his wife wouldn’t see. And I doubt highly that she is the reason he disappears from texting at 8 every morning at work.
I decided to avoid him for a while and was going to go a few weeks without texting him. I was missing the contact though and went on Facebook because sometimes he’ll have his wife posting things to make me jealous or he’ll leave a hint he misses me. So I looked his profile up as usual- and then his wife’s, per usual, except her page didn’t come up automatically like it usually does. So I searched her name on all Facebook and was scrolling through the hottest hits of all her posts. I figured they were just memories that I had processed with him before until I ran across a post she’d made about a baby he’d given up for adoption, or a girlfriend had, that was born when I was 5.
I wrote to him very angry that he never followed through on being a dad to me like I asked him to. How I felt devalued and why couldn’t he imagine her in me so to speak.
He sent me a google screenshot of the indiana rules for cyberstalking and I got frightened. I said I wasn’t stalking. His wife has asked that we not contact her, but I didn’t do that. I can imagine her being unhappy if she knew I saw her page, but if she blocked me I wouldn’t go around it. He claims that I couldn’t have known that without looking intentionally for it, but it literally came up at the top of the hits. Am I in legal danger? I asked if he wanted me to cease communication and he said please stop communicating so I did. I blocked her Facebook but what if I access her public poasts again? I am afraid of legal action and don’t know if it’s a high risk.
He may claim to his wife that I contacted him out of the blue. She doesn’t know we’ve been in contact consistently for two months. I’m sad to lose my friend. I’m also scared.

I've read almost all the other posts on here about this specific topic and I still can't seem to change how I feel about it.
I do agree that if you are with someone you truly love, that noticing another attractive woman doesn't really mean anything. Sometimes there's not even a thought behind the action and it was more of an impulse. I can wrap my mind around that. But, I always find myself relating to/agreeing with the simple fact that it's just as easy to be aware of your surroundings and move respectfully based on that. I have been in three long/serious relationships in my life and I was a different person in each relationship. I was an insecure high school girl who spiraled, I was the 'cool' girl who didn't care at all and even went along with checking the hot people out, and now I'm in a relationship that I know could without a doubt be it for me. They are the one. Since being in this relationship I've developed the mindset that I find it more romantic, more respectful and just as easy not acknowledging or checking out the hot people when we are together than to give in and check them out. A part of me believed my SO would notice that overtime, I do this and they would appreciate it and want to reciprocate. I "go out of my way" to not give into checking hot people out wherever we are together. And, I truly find myself uncomfortable and not wanting to give in to that when I'm away from them. Treat people the way you want to be treated kind of thing. But, they don't actually care. His actions are very much in the mindset a look is a look and not a big deal and shouldnt be. But, I've shared politely multiple times that it makes me uncomfortable and I think it's more about respect for me. His response is always "I totally agree. I don't check people out and it would totally bother me if I noticed you doing that." But his actions say otherwise. As a woman, personally, it's very apparent and obvious when a man is checking someone out because I get it all the time. It personally makes me uncomfortable and on edge. I already have to keep my head on a swivel going out into the world as a woman and being aware of the men that are checking me out keeps me safe. You never know. So, I know when my SO is checking someone out and they repeatedly deny and get defensive. I'm aware there are men out that that agree with me. Sometimes I feel like...maybe we just aren't as compatible as I originally thought and maybe this isn't it like I believed and wanted it to be. Or honestly, just being single and filling my life with lots of good friendships. Help.

One issue that i have trouble with is the seeming contradiction in the idea that all the past Karen's are sometimes unjustified if all the women who answer Bear are truly being treated as an honest view of their level of fear.
If you are truly and sincerely that scared all the time of men any recent Karen (white woman calling the police on minority men most of the time) should be applauded then for breaking out of societal expectations that women will be too conciliatory.
Yet we see these two views, that men are so incredibly scary, while also saying white women can be mocked for having fear or minorities. Would their actions be justified had it been two same race opposite gender individuals? If its justified in one and not the other that would seem to point to one or the other being wrong in some manner or both being wrong in some other manner.
I dont know which is what but its something right? Thats the discussion i want to have. I am not making any claim is right but there is an intersection here we can look at to gain better understanding of these issues.
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A chatgp translation as ive seen some people better understand that over my personal style of writing.
One challenge I struggle with is the notion that past instances of "Karen" behavior might be justified if they stem from genuine fear. If a woman genuinely feels threatened by men, her actions, even if they resemble recent incidents where white women call the police on minority men, could be seen as breaking free from the societal expectation of women being too accommodating. However, this view contrasts with the idea that men are inherently terrifying, while also suggesting that white women's fears or those of minorities can be mocked. Would similar actions be considered justified if they involved individuals of the same race but different genders? If justification varies based on the identities involved, it raises questions about underlying biases and societal norms. It's a complex issue with no easy answers, but it's important to examine these dynamics and their implications.

My wife and I got our mortgage pre-approval today and I am so excited because it means we are one step closer to leaving my nparent behind FOR GOOD. She won't be getting the new address (we're going to get a PO Box to give out to people instead so that no minions can come swooping in on our doorstep). She's not going to get anything from me. I see an actual light at the end of the tunnel for the first time in months.
At first I thought I would never be able to get out of here, that I was going to have to either live (or die) underneath this woman's thumb, being completely miserable and unsatisfied with my life, being forced to put my wife on the backburner for this ungrateful person... But now I am one step closer to getting out and getting both my life and my married life on track for the first time in...ever.
The worst thing I did to my nmother was get married because it meant that another woman was more important than her and she had no idea how to cope. She was very covert at first but then completely lost her mind and is now very overt and almost proud of the abuse she doles out. She always told me that I would never make it out there in the big wide world on my own.
Except I absolutely can and I'm gonna prove to her that she doesn't know a goddamn thing about me.
I am going to live my best life without her and that's going to be the ultimate revenge in my book. Knowing that I can do everything she told me I couldn't. I can do more than survive out there without her, I can thrive.

Hi ,
I’m a 52M who has started dating a wonderful woman (40F) 2 years ago. We see each other on weekends as more than a sexfriend and live separately. I’m separated from my wife (52F) since 4 years now, and we have an 18-year-old daughter (18F) who is now living with her boyfriend. Both my ex-wife and daughter are quite fashion-conscious, often described as “fashion victims.”
Here’s my dilemma: my new girlfriend, while incredibly kind and supportive, is obese and doesn’t fit the conventional standards of beauty. I haven’t introduced her to my daughter yet because I’m worried about being judged. My daughter’s opinion matters to me, and I fear she might look down on my relationship because of superficial reasons.
I don’t have plans to marry or live with my girlfriend, but she is an important part of my life right now, and I want to handle this situation thoughtfully.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you handle introducing a new partner to your child who might have different expectations or standards? What strategies can I use to ensure a positive introduction and foster acceptance?
Thanks in advance for your help!

Before going into this I want to state that trans men can definitely have a feminine side without 'faking' it and the same obviously goes for trans women. I'm male and I have long ish hair- it doesn't make me less of a man obviously but;
I feel like a lot of trans people, especially on social media, don't seem to want to pass at all. I've seen men with no top surgery wear clothes with cleavage, people constantly announcing that they're trans and to me the strangest of all; people not taking the usual amount of hormones. I don't want to accuse these people of anything but it really really confuses me.
I used to know this guy who at the time told me he was a trans woman (he no longer thinks so). He used to never really try to be perceived as a woman and when I corrected people misgendering him, he'd get mad. He also didn't like us calling him a female name. Yet somehow he constantly felt the need to bring up that he was a trans woman. I found out that he suffers from severe mental illness which probably is what caused this.
Some people seem to me as if they are purposely trying to be seen as trans while at the same time wanting to be perceived as a trans person. Some signs of it seem to be: 1. Constantly bringing it up they are trans without it being necessary for activism or avoidance of misgendering 2. Wearing trans pins, flags, shirts absolutely EVERYWHERE 3. Purposely trying to 'look stereotypically trans'
They are trying to still be seen as for example female although claiming they are a trans man. It seems like a very strange fetish to me and it honestly scares me.
I tend to overthink a lot so this is maybe just me making things up in my head but I really need to hear other people's opinion. I'm only 15 and I don't know a lot so people excuse my lack of English knowledge and terminology.

Let’s say I have a video of inside a home; of a woman assaulting their roommate. Punching him in the face; throwing things and striking him. The video was showed to the police with the intent the person wanted her prosecuted. The police said they would “need to investigate” but then do nothing. It’s a clear high resolution video from feet away that shows someone struck multiple times. It’s bias because the complainant is a man? The police made comments that there was no serious injury as the person was weak for reporting the assault. What are the options? Can the police ignore crime because for example they maybe don’t want to arrest someone because it’s a woman. Or they have some other bias against the person??

Was talking with some friends about some videogames they would like to see replicated into table top RPGs and two that stuck out was Persona and Final Fantasy VIII.

The main draw to these games is that you can collect monsters and then "connect" them to your character to gain power.

So, I was looking over Cypher and realized that if you re-flavored Foci and give options for swapping them out, you could have a monster collecting system where these monsters power up your character and give additional abilities. You could connect a Foci to a monster from Cypher System and run with it like that.

Each Foci would be a creature that you must find and convince to join you. This could be by paying them, smooth talking them, doing a small job for them, or beating them in a fight. You can only have so many at a time in total but each character can only attach a specific number of Foci to themselves based on tier.

THUNDERS * You emit destructive sound and manipulate soundscapes.
QUEZACOTL, Elemental of Thunder

• Quezacotl is a pale green winged creature with darker yellow wing-tips and darker green patterns around its body. It has no legs, but has an elaborate tail. Though bird-like, its body appears smooth rather than feathery.
• Tier 1: Thunder Beam (191)
• Tier 2: Sound Conversion Barrier (184)
• Tier 3: Nullify Sound (166) or Echolocation (133)
• Tier 4: Shattering Shout (182)
• Tier 5: Subsonic Rumble (187)
• Tier 5: Amplify Sounds (109)
• Tier 6: Earthquake (133) or Lethal Vibration (158)
• GM Intrusions: Loud noises attract attention.

WEARS A SHEEN OF ICE * You command the wintery power of cold and ice.
Shiva, Elemental of Ice

• Shiva is a blue-skinned woman with golden hairlike appendages flowing from her head. Spikes like icicles protrude from her hips, elbows and behind her knees. She is barefoot, and her hands, feet, hips and intimate regions are covered in dark blue patterns. She has a human-like face and sharp elf-like ears.
• Tier 1: Ice Armor (150)
• Tier 2: Frost Touch (144)
• Tier 3: Freezing Touch (143) or Ice Creation (150)
• Tier 4: Resilient Ice Armor (176)
• Tier 5: Cold Burst (119)
• Tier 6: Ice Storm (150) or Winter Gauntlets (199)
• GM Intrusions: Ice makes surfaces slippery. Extreme cold causes objects to crack and break.

BEARS A HALO OF FIRE * You can sheath your body in flames, which protects you and harms your foes.
Ifrit, Elemental of Fire

• Searing flame in a vaguely humanoid shape, a fire elemental exists only to burn that which is not already ash. They sometimes spin into being where great conflagrations burn.
• Tier 1: Shroud of Flame (183)
• Tier 2: Hurl Flame (149)
• Tier 3: Wings of Fire (199) or Fiery Hand of Doom (139)
• Tier 4: Flameblade (140)
• Tier 5: Fire Tendrils (140)
• Tier 6: Fire Servant (140) or Inferno Trail (153)
• GM Intrusions: Fire burns flammable material. Fire spreads out of control. Primitive creatures fear fire and often attack what they fear.

Has anyone found some home brew like this already?

I'm looking for tips/ products that can make my hair grow longer. I'm about a year postpartum with my second kid and my hair doesn't grow longer the way it used to.
I'm a 36 yo Caucasian woman with hair that is ringlet curly from about halfway down the strand when I step out of the shower, but once I brush it it will lose the curl and get frizzy. My hair has been described as thin but I have a lot of it, with a coarse texture. Right now it's a little past my shoulders but I would love it if I could grow it to my mid-back. Thanks!

i have been meaning to dwell down into this topic since a long time, and i really have thoughts and critic of my own regarding this and want to type down
rape as a crime in India has always been quoted in such a gendered manner like it's always been said that it's a crime against women or has always centred to the topic of women, which I think doesn't represent the main reason or more logical approach to why India has such heinous problem of rape
I do think that gender cannot be a dominant lens when it comes to rape, there is a lot of factor that can explain more of a reason why it is done more as a hate crime against certain communities, minorities, religion, or class, then just a person belonging to a female sex
Feminist in India are trying to dwell the attention towards the fact that rape is only crime done because of hatred against females. Women or perhaps anyone who comes off as feminine in such regard but I think its shallow, there are cases where a person is raped because of a certain community they belong, it's not a dominant factor that being a woman was the only reason they were raped. it was also because they were belonging to a community that is already hated widely in India. For example, Muslim and dalit women are more prone to such crime.
It doesn't throw the fact that females are surely more prone overall together of such crime despite of belonging to certain communities, but I think it is not done because of hatred, particularly of misogyny that most people tend to say it
I think misogyny as a culture is still an upper class thing specially in India
when we roam around the streets, see men who are such perverts or being creep towards women, I don't think so that they are doing it out of hate or misogyny. Apparently, they are not aware of such thing because they don't see women as a thing that should be hated or perhaps could be considered to such regard because they dont simply see women of any emotions or i could just say, they see women as nothing and emptiness. and it is very different from hatred because misogyny culture is more of a phenomena that is not done widely by poor men, you can see example of andrew tate and his whole influence, and whether you agree or not, his influence has targeted me from a particularly privilege class
India problem is perhaps in my senses are not just misogyny, and I think that seeing it as a gender crime only towards women cut down the fact that they are men who have been victims and perhaps women who have been predator
What I am trying to acknowledge, ensure directly is that the problem of rape is more linked with transgression, sexual trauma, taboo, poverty, Classism, communal hatred and perhaps lack of moral ethic
And while talking about this, one of the major issue is that that most rape or many rape are done by a family member and here I don't believe that this is done because misogyny, it is more dwell in a power Dynamic way it just that female is so sexualised despite that both male and female are sexual objects, but females are considered as sexually perverse
calling rape misogynistic crime against women and not misandry against men when its done to men is just a hypocritical approach
I think feminist scholar in India are not very good at presenting the issue of rape because they are fixated on the Idea that it is just a direct crime towards a person that comes out to be a female because it is simply hatred.
There is not a single type of rape in India. A rape done to a lower caste woman is different to rape done to an upper class woman, rape to men is different from rape to women and rape done by women is different from rape Done by men, Rape done by a family member is different from rape done by someone Strange, rape done by someone who has more power dynamic is different than rape done by someone who appears to be powerless. and of course, all of them are dramatic at the same level, despite being different when we sociologically think of it
There is a very need of a proper structural study that needs to be done on rape held in India that is focused on more psychological approaches like I mentioned before, but also keeping the political tension and economical roles rather than just gender roles

The verses are copied below for reference. But if the Bible is the truth and if these verses are the truth , how did King David live happily after committing adultery with Bathsheba ? Not only this but he KILLED her husband and framed it as a war strategy then wed her and gave her a son.
King David is someone covered with Honor in the Bible and it seems he hardly took any blame for this sin he committed with Bathsheba (other than her first born son dying , but that barely compares to the harm he did by strategically killing a man ? )
It just seems like God is a liar .
I have loved God deeply for all of my life and have usually turned a blind eye to this stuff, but lately with adultery happening around me in my own life, I see those who commit this sin living a similar blessed life like King David who completely trampled all over a man , killed him , and stole his wife
How can anyone excuse this ?
Where is God with his iron fist ?
IT’S NOT FAIR
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND
27 Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?
28 Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned?
29 So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.
30 Men do not despise a thief, if he steal to satisfy his soul when he is hungry;
31 But if he be found, he shall restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of his house.
32 But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
33 A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.

I'm a very patient woman. I know this because I've been so supportive of him for the last 3 years while he's lied to me. More recently, I've been vocalizing my discomfort and unease with the lies. He doesn't know how to fully open up to me because he takes responsibility for my emotions and he feels even worse when we talk about how his actions make me feel. He's in therapy, I'm in therapy, and we both just started couples therapy. He struggles with Instagram and Reddit. From what I'm aware of, he hasn't had any conversations with anyone. He says he's addicted to the lust. He's never spent money on girls online, never chatted them up, or really interacted with them.
I'm getting really fucking tired of the same "this action made me feel this way" conversations.
4 days ago, I went digging for my bra in the laundry basket and felt something cold and wet. I found his used up sock. The night before, we were intimate. I got out of bed early to prepare for our guests that stayed the weekend. I thought I'd be nice and let him sleep in. He wasn't sleeping.
He came into the room and I was holding his sock. He immediately lowered his head and started crying. I asked him if he was planning on telling me and his response was "I was planning on bringing it up to (therapist) at my next session." But why weren't you going to tell me? After I told you how the lies make me feel, why can't you be honest and disclose this stuff to me? I feel like I'm going crazy because I can't tell what's real and what's anxiety and what's going on in his head.
I squashed the feelings down because I didn't want our guests to feel the tension. But now that they're gone, I'm processing yet another discovery that I didn't fucking need or want right now.
I plan on setting yet another rule about phones being in the bedroom. I had it enforced before, but I ignorantly stopped caring.
I'm looking for more ways to bunker down on this. I refuse to be stepped on more. I have enough shit to deal with as a SAHM of two kids who was just diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Sometimes I believe the bipolar was brought on because of the constant lies.
What do you guys do when they relapse? I need to create a concrete plan, but I'm a bit lost at where to start. I know people say their PA is a great man, and I do believe mine is with my entire heart, but struggles with this addiction. How can I protect myself further? There's only so much of this I can take before I start going down the deep end.

I’m gonna try to make this as simple as possible. Basically I’ve been dealing with this woman since 2019 and at first I thought she was sweet, spiritual, and innocent, boyyyy was I wrong.. as time went on I started to see the real her. She’s very manipulative, a pathological liar, narcissist, and she has cluster B border line personality disorder. The night we met she fed me a bunch of lies which I uncovered overtime for example she told me the first night we met that she had been raped the year prior while she was in school(which I later found out was not true whatsoever. Months down the line she would even talk about exs that were “abusive” towards her which I later also found out wasn’t true. Fast forward to February of 2020 she ended up pregnant with our first child and a couple months into the pregnancy she just decided she’s not gonna deal with me anymore, so I ended up dating a woman I’ve known since middle school. She found out about this and next thing I know the sheriffs are serving me a restraining order accusing me of rape!!! When we showed up for court she immediately dropped the order before we even could talk to the judge. Fast forward to when my child was born in December of 2020 she texts me that she just had the baby and I asked if I could come up there and she said “no” and as time goes on she start’s blatantly keeping my child from me I didn’t meet my first born until February of 2021, and that’s when she tried to reconcile whatever situationship we had and would go on to apologize for the accusations saying her family foster her to do that so that I won’t be able to be in my child’s life which of course was a lie that was her decision. As time goes on the girl I was dating passed away and I was distraught so my baby mother comes around and I ended up coming up on money and decided to get us an apartment with our child two months into staying there I had a seizure while sleeping and instead of staying there to help she takes my child and leaves and proceeded to text my mom a picture of me in bed having the seizure and even tells my mom I was hitting her while having a seizure …. She blocked me again after that and a month later comes back around againnnn I guess basically to just have sex with me and then blocks me again and keeps me from my child, and at that point she was pregnant with my second child. I didn’t see my oldest for 6-7 months I had moved on to a nice relationship with a wonderful woman by that time and my second child was born, and that’s when I decided to take this stuff to court and the judge reprimanded her for isolating my kids from me and a custody order was placed for them to be with me every other weekend. During the custody court date she tried telling the judge I was abusive and all that nonsense and the judge seen right through it and didn’t pay it any attention, so two months after that she starts reaching out more and trying to have normal conversations and I would go along with it like a idiot and she wanted to hook up again and we did a few times, in which my girlfriend found out and we broke up and then weeks after that my baby moms ghost me again, still following the order tho. A month later my girlfriend and I got back on good terms and she notices and tries to get me to sabotage my relationship again! It doesn’t really work and I came to find out she would tell her family I was abusing her and a bunch of other ridiculous lies. This time CPS gets involved and investigates me for DV, which didn’t work. Now let’s fast forward to two years later, my babymom keeps coming in and out of my life(I don’t know why I let her honestly) she thinks about leaving to the military and I took the kids while she tries to go to the recruiting camp or whatever to see if she can enlist which she can’t because apparently she’s been committed by her mother a few times.. I stopped dealing with her for a while until some months back, she calls herself apologizing for everything she’s done to me and we start hanging out again but at this point I no longer am in love with her I wanted to go be with the woman I was still in love with that she thought she Sabotaged, and when I confessed this to her and that I can’t deal with how much she lies and plays these mental games and before I try to go home she tells me she’s gonna kill herself when I go home and I had her committed at her own request, she stayed for about a week and a half. Gets out and was put on meds and therapy which she stopped using after a couple of months. Me and the girl I’m in love with are still seeing each other and me and my babymoms stopped dealing with each other yet again. I get a knock on the door about a month or two later with getting served another restraining order falsely accusing me of abuse yet again I didn’t fight it cuz I’m really tired of her at this point. We started hanging out just taking the boys to the park and stuff like that just to try to bond with our kids as a family despite everything… she starts wanting to get intimate and I actually didn’t want to this time and then she starts telling me a bunch of lies about how she hasn’t been with anybody and a whole bunch of non sense that I know is false, and I snapped on her and called her out on all of it, I went wrong in the conversation and threw her phone back at her but it wasn’t in a aggressive way it hits her on the eye and I apologized and everything and I still say I don’t wanna be intimate with her and wanna be with the same woman that I’m in love with still, and then she begins to start that “I wanna kill myself” bullshit again except this time I don’t commit her cuz I realize she just tries to get pity from me and everybody else however she can. The next day she texts and asks for a bag she left at my house I told her I’d leave it on the porch for her. When she pulls up me and my girlfriend and her son are outside playing, out of nowhere her uncles jumps out her car and attacks me while my kids are watching from her car and my girlfriend’s son was right there in front of all this he then runs back to her car and they pull off quickly. The phone left her eye a lil black when I threw it at her and she even admitted that to my brother through text and to me in text that it was the phone, but typical crazy girl fashion she even texts my girlfriend after her and her uncle left a picture of her eye and says “you better leave him alone before this happens to you” she reported the incident to police weeks later but no charges were filed, CPS reached out to me yet again and I explain to them what happened over the phone and they didn’t seem to adamant about opening up a case. After the attack from her uncle I go to the courts and filed for motion of contempt for not following the custody arrangement on a few occasions, one of being that she had her u cake attack me with my kids present and one of the requirements on the order is to not let the other parent be harmed in any way in front of the children which the judge signed off on and we have court later today for. So yesterday she reaches out after it’s been almost two months since that whole attack from her uncle saying how she misses me and she wants to get the restraining order dropped, and she wants to sleep with me, and see me, and all that. And I actually let her come meet up with me at the mall just to kind of see where her headspace is. Long story short came to find out she was dating some guy and I told him all about her in which he agreed that she lies about every single thing and it’s almost impossible to believe a word out her mouth. this girl has some serious issues and I really want full custody of my boys because I’m scared for their safety being with her as she’s really unstable and flat out crazy, I know hiring an attorney would be the easiest route and me and my family are willing to go in on one but it’s so expensive that if I can do it without an attorney I would like that, would the judge wnat to hear about any of this at this custody violation hearing? Or should I open another case for that separately? I did mention to CPS when they asked me if I had any concerns about my kids being with her I didn’t really want to say too much because I was going to court anyway but I did tell them she smokes marijuana often and drinks very often. I know I should’ve just told them about her mental health problems right then and there but I was still kinda in shock they called me in the first place. Now most of this stuff is documented in texts and pictures, what would you do in this situation? Like what’s the best way of going about fighting her for full custody? This is in North Carolina btw.